I call my wife's parents "ba" and "mẹ" even though she calls her mom "má". The hardest part for me is remembering all the different pronouns for aunts and uncles. Some of it changes depending on what side of the family they are on and if they are older or younger than your parents.
Sometimes when we meet our largely extended family, I have to ask my mum what pronouns I have to use to address this and that relative. It’s madness really.
I like the idea of calling in-law parents Dad and Mom. I am American and my wife is Vietnamese. My wife has always called my Mom, "Mom." and I never thought it strange. I didn't think about it at all. As for other titles and pronouns - Vietnamese is pretty crazy.
Love this video Annie, you are a great teacher! I try to improve my Vietnamese everyday (UK born Viet parents) and I also want my partner to learn - your videos help me so much!
I also want to second this! Am watching your videos since I started learning Vietnamese, because you have pronounced the tones like my teacher does - great for me to practice and make my Dad hopefully proud 🙂
Hehe I had a similar potential situation; my Vietnamese teacher's aunt moved to my city. She is a older than me, so she is chị. So far, so good. She has a son who is 40, younger than me. If I'd met him independently I would've called him "em" but since I met his mother first and she calls him "con," then I would have to call him that also. The problem got solved in a similar way - we never ended up meeting and we probably never will. :) Funny that calling your in-laws "mom" and "dad" seems odd to your husband. From his accent I guess he's Irish? I don't know at all how it works there, but in the US, calling your mother- or father-in-law "mom" or "dad" is fairly common if you have a good relationship with them. Not universal though. Also because people in the US often have families with different national origins, they tend to work it out in many different ways. So yeah, sometimes first names (probably the most common these days), sometimes "mom" and "dad," and sometimes even "Mr./Mrs [Last Name] if things are not really cordial. When I was a kid in the midwest, some more traditional people might have said "Mother" or "Father" + their last name. Nowadays that sounds quite stilted and formal. For our grandparents, we called one set "Grandma and Grandpa," and the other by the Greek terms, "Yiayia and Papou," because my mother's family were Greek. No confusion there!
Don't know where your husband comes from, but in my culture it's very common to call your in-laws 'mum' and 'dad'. It's a matter of choice though, and not everyone does. I have also come across this in Australia, New Zealand, England and Canada.
yep! as a vietnamese person, that makes it so uncomfortable for me! i have to call my cousin who's like 6 years younger than me, ANH because his mom is my mom's older sister! XD;;;
Ok so I'm a viết kiểu who is not fluent. I went back to vietnam to meet a girl my family introduced me to. Thing is that, I was confused what to call her parents. I asked my older sister, and she said to call them, Bác gái and bác trai. BUT, when I told my Gf this, she said no. Call them Cô and chú, because my parents are older than her parents. So it doesn't make sense to call them Bác. The parents call me "con", since I'm still quite younger than them. Also another case similar to Anne. I have cousin, but she is older than me but still calls me Anh. My mom is older than my cousins dad or my uncle. So my cousin and her husband calls me anh and they call themselves em. Even though they are both older than me. Which is weird, I still refer to the as chị and anh, and myself as em. It's like no one wants to be older one in this situation 😂. Their son calls me cậu.
My wife has been calling my father in the UK dad since we met. We’ve been married for 6 years. I must admit I found it a bit weird in the beginning especially in a public place lol 😂
Hi Annie, the trouble im having is that I’m not sure of the best way to say ‘we’ to my parents in vietnamese (referring to me and my wife). I think chúng con sounds too formal so should I said bọn con instead?
In the southern US it is disrespectful to call older people by their first names. So we call them Ms. Or Mr. (First name) so my in laws are Mr. Ben and Ms. Amy. Not their last names cuz thats weird and formal
How about if you aren't married. I call my gfs dad 'bac' but always forget what to call her mum. "Co" doesn't seem right. I'm embarrassed to ask them again because they've told me so many times but my brain is like a sieve
I call my wife's parents "ba" and "mẹ" even though she calls her mom "má". The hardest part for me is remembering all the different pronouns for aunts and uncles. Some of it changes depending on what side of the family they are on and if they are older or younger than your parents.
Sometimes when we meet our largely extended family, I have to ask my mum what pronouns I have to use to address this and that relative. It’s madness really.
I like the idea of calling in-law parents Dad and Mom. I am American and my wife is Vietnamese. My wife has always called my Mom, "Mom." and I never thought it strange. I didn't think about it at all.
As for other titles and pronouns - Vietnamese is pretty crazy.
That waa both informative and hilarious. Well done Annie
Love this video Annie, you are a great teacher! I try to improve my Vietnamese everyday (UK born Viet parents) and I also want my partner to learn - your videos help me so much!
I also want to second this! Am watching your videos since I started learning Vietnamese, because you have pronounced the tones like my teacher does - great for me to practice and make my Dad hopefully proud 🙂
Great video Annie! I've been a subscriber, watching and learning from you, for years. The personal example brings the lesson to life. Thank you!
Super helpful! Thanks for this
Hehe I had a similar potential situation; my Vietnamese teacher's aunt moved to my city. She is a older than me, so she is chị. So far, so good. She has a son who is 40, younger than me. If I'd met him independently I would've called him "em" but since I met his mother first and she calls him "con," then I would have to call him that also. The problem got solved in a similar way - we never ended up meeting and we probably never will. :)
Funny that calling your in-laws "mom" and "dad" seems odd to your husband. From his accent I guess he's Irish? I don't know at all how it works there, but in the US, calling your mother- or father-in-law "mom" or "dad" is fairly common if you have a good relationship with them. Not universal though. Also because people in the US often have families with different national origins, they tend to work it out in many different ways. So yeah, sometimes first names (probably the most common these days), sometimes "mom" and "dad," and sometimes even "Mr./Mrs [Last Name] if things are not really cordial. When I was a kid in the midwest, some more traditional people might have said "Mother" or "Father" + their last name. Nowadays that sounds quite stilted and formal. For our grandparents, we called one set "Grandma and Grandpa," and the other by the Greek terms, "Yiayia and Papou," because my mother's family were Greek. No confusion there!
Don't know where your husband comes from, but in my culture it's very common to call your in-laws 'mum' and 'dad'. It's a matter of choice though, and not everyone does. I have also come across this in Australia, New Zealand, England and Canada.
My husband is from Scotland!
yep! as a vietnamese person, that makes it so uncomfortable for me! i have to call my cousin who's like 6 years younger than me, ANH because his mom is my mom's older sister! XD;;;
Ok so I'm a viết kiểu who is not fluent. I went back to vietnam to meet a girl my family introduced me to. Thing is that, I was confused what to call her parents. I asked my older sister, and she said to call them, Bác gái and bác trai. BUT, when I told my Gf this, she said no. Call them Cô and chú, because my parents are older than her parents. So it doesn't make sense to call them Bác. The parents call me "con", since I'm still quite younger than them.
Also another case similar to Anne. I have cousin, but she is older than me but still calls me Anh. My mom is older than my cousins dad or my uncle. So my cousin and her husband calls me anh and they call themselves em. Even though they are both older than me. Which is weird, I still refer to the as chị and anh, and myself as em. It's like no one wants to be older one in this situation 😂. Their son calls me cậu.
Austrian learning Vietnamese here
That makes sense, especially the bác/cô/chú part.
My wife calls my parents mom and dad. I don’t her parents, it’s weird to me. We are American (Hispanic).
My wife has been calling my father in the UK dad since we met. We’ve been married for 6 years. I must admit I found it a bit weird in the beginning especially in a public place lol 😂
If we visit friend 's house and meet his family, how to say?
Hi Annie, the trouble im having is that I’m not sure of the best way to say ‘we’ to my parents in vietnamese (referring to me and my wife). I think chúng con sounds too formal so should I said bọn con instead?
Bọn con is perfect for your situation!
Call "tụi con" is better.
@@thichtrongcayvietnam what's the difference between bọn con and tụi con? Is one saying from north and one from south?
@@harry.nguyen17 the same but I think tụi con is more common.
When do you use "mình" to say we?
In the southern US it is disrespectful to call older people by their first names. So we call them Ms. Or Mr. (First name) so my in laws are Mr. Ben and Ms. Amy. Not their last names cuz thats weird and formal
How about if you aren't married. I call my gfs dad 'bac' but always forget what to call her mum. "Co" doesn't seem right. I'm embarrassed to ask them again because they've told me so many times but my brain is like a sieve
I love the solution haha
me too 😆
Khi mình bắt đầu học tiếng Việt, mình đã gọi ba vợ là chú 😂 đó làm ba vợ rất là giận
It is the same in india. Nothing weird in calling your in laws as mum and dad.
Calling in-laws BY THEIR GIVEN NAMES????!?! Now THAT is WEIRD.
Your husband should call your brother brother.
Don’t stop rockin’ it Ms. Annie Sandy..🇻🇳❤️🇻🇳