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  • @christinaferreira8594
    @christinaferreira8594 Год назад +2989

    I think it’s so cool that a lot of the lyrics have a dual meaning. Many women’s capillaries break during labor also lift a finger could be lazy or physical abuse. They don’t show their faces but we know who is the woman bc she’s serving him. So many layers!

    • @care59801
      @care59801 Год назад +104

      Yes, I looked like I got into a fight after the birth of my son. My eyes and face broke capillaries and blood vessels.

    • @Dougiewoof
      @Dougiewoof Год назад +154

      There is also , "it's not an act of love if you make her" could be about her severeing him not being love because she is focused but also about r*pe. Also labor means both work but is also associated with pregnancy

    • @jinx8749
      @jinx8749 Год назад +53

      there's even a third meaning, so that he doesn't point a finger and put the blame on her

    • @shadia000
      @shadia000 10 месяцев назад +48

      And also the line "If our love died, would that be a bad thing?" could not only mean the abusive and toxic relationship between the two, but also like some sort of abortion plan, like if she had a daughter it wouldn't really be a bad thing if she had an abortion so the child wouldn't have to go through the same thing as her
      it's such a fucking great song

    • @NotASnaccImAMel
      @NotASnaccImAMel 9 месяцев назад +24

      And the double standards women face, too... the "Therapist, mother, maid," part gutted me.

  • @Fates1Embrace
    @Fates1Embrace 7 месяцев назад +838

    Not enough people talk about the candle, which is really clever & subtle. She lights her candle, every day from how short it’s getting, symbolising that she is tending her marriage, to keep the flame alive, even if it means she burns out. His candle is never lit. It sits by his right hand, unburned. Showing he’s put no care into the relationship, that there’s no duality to this marriage.

    • @nyxskids
      @nyxskids 5 месяцев назад +29

      Also it going out and her disappearing can have multiple meanings, perhaps she finally got to escape, maybe she died, and if so did she unalive herself or did he unalive her?

    • @Fates1Embrace
      @Fates1Embrace 2 месяца назад +11

      @@nyxskidsI hadn’t even thought of that! I only saw her self/her relationship burning out not the idea of her possibly dying-this video sparks so many ideas!

    • @nyxskids
      @nyxskids 2 месяца назад +6

      @@Fates1Embrace my mum was a cps/social/mental health worker her entire career and she fostered a bunch of kids, including me. It's hard for me to not see the darkest possibilities. I'm glad that there are people that can remind me that there are positive or at least less dark conclusions to draw. I appreciate the wide variety of comments this song/video have inspired us fans to add to the already deep meaning of the song/video

    • @Fates1Embrace
      @Fates1Embrace 2 месяца назад +4

      @@nyxskids I’m sorry that your world was filled with so much dark, I really wish that nobody had to endure it. This video & song has brought so much creativity, so many perspectives & so much to discuss, & it’s things that are definitely needed to discuss so we can learn & hopefully make the world a better place, even if it’s just a bit & just for a moment.

    • @kaleidoscopingwe
      @kaleidoscopingwe 14 дней назад

      Good observations.

  • @cairothetiefling_
    @cairothetiefling_ Год назад +1848

    The thing about this song is that women today feel this too. We're expected to have children and bend to impossible lengths to fit what society demands of us.
    Labor breaks out bodies and we barely get leave from work- we're the first parent who is expected to juggle everything and care for the kids, but as soon as that child misbehaves, they ask where the father is. Men argue over who holds the rights to our bodies and some simply take what they want without regard for our wishes.
    This song brings out such a deep anger at the way our ancestors were treated, our great great great grandmothers and aunts, how their stories and their inventions, achievements and lives are credited to men. Sadly the fight for women's rights is far from over and will never be. Paris Paloma has given us an anthem to scream at the top of our lungs about the injustice of being named the weaker gender throughout history, despite being given most of the labor. So many lines have double or triple meanings- "So that he never lifts a finger" So he doesn't do any work- but also, so he never raises a hand to hurt her.

    • @crown9413
      @crown9413 11 месяцев назад

      Ridiculous song, who built the roads, the houses, who built power grid and the plumbing? Who gets drafted in wars? Objectively men work longer hours on more physically draining work to the point where they die much younger. You pretend you have no say in your relationships like you have some prehistoric slaver beating you if you step out of line. "Juggle everything and care for the kids" What kids? the birth rate is through the floor. We are richer than our grandparents, you have more ability to can choose not to work if you want or find a husband who will cut his hours, you just will have to sacrifice some luxuries.
      Women make up the majority of the electorate thus politicians push through the things they want even if most of the representatives are men.
      Western women are the most pampered in history yet feel like they are the most oppressed.

    • @16poetisa
      @16poetisa 8 месяцев назад +14

      Or to cast blame

    • @cbhjsrmommy
      @cbhjsrmommy 5 месяцев назад +11

      Yes sing it loud ladies this song hits me so deep and love the way he talks about this song proof some men are not just dogs and some really understand our struggles❤❤to u!!

    • @datadiva9353
      @datadiva9353 2 месяца назад +12

      Some of it is specific to modern times. 'picket fence dreams' is very much a mid-20th century image.

    • @faethe000
      @faethe000 Месяц назад +3

      Yah the song isn't about medieval times. It's about today.

  • @AnonymossBoo
    @AnonymossBoo Год назад +810

    One element I'd like to add is the tap against the goblet. He's not signaling that it's her time to eat, he's *summoning* her. His plate is full of his scraps and he needs it taken away (and probably a new plate). She stands up instantly, her plate in hand (presumably in the regular dynamic she would hand him her plate, take his dirty one, retreat to the kitchen and get a new one of her own), and that's our breaking point. That's the point she sits back down and starts eating for herself and ignoring him.

    • @tschaytschay4555
      @tschaytschay4555 Год назад +37

      Oh my gosh, thanks for pointing it out!

    • @nyxskids
      @nyxskids 5 месяцев назад +23

      YES! THIS! I was going to comment the same thing but this is way better put than I would've managed

  • @leahsrichards
    @leahsrichards 10 месяцев назад +204

    The thing I love most about the hook at the end is that the choral voices are children. This bullshit starts for women when they're little girls and follows them their whole lives.

    • @joisagirlsname
      @joisagirlsname 2 месяца назад +12

      Considering the whole song can be read as the final words of a woman han*ing herself to avoid potentially giving birth to another girl, it makes a lot of sense to do that.

    • @shannonmiller2018
      @shannonmiller2018 Месяц назад +2

      Such a powerful song wow

  • @DreamieQueen
    @DreamieQueen Год назад +1103

    I appreciate you reacting to this song with an open mind. I've found that many men who listened to this song found it rather insulting and they couldn't relate or whatever, or didn't try to understand the lyrics with their double meaning. But the song isn't to talk bad about men, but rather to bring light onto all the emotional labor women went through back then and even now in today's society. In equal households, with two parents working, OFTEN, the woman would be the one doing all the chores and taking care of the kids, prepping them for school, go grocery shopping, cook food, help the kids with homeworks, etc. Never having a break is exhausting, and all women ask, is for a little bit of appreciation and someone to help lift some weight from her shoulders.

    • @pinklov4447
      @pinklov4447 Год назад +115

      ugh any man offended by this song needs to grow up and wake up to the reality of a women's world.

    • @raenia3655
      @raenia3655 Год назад +51

      FR, in my family, both my parents are working and my mother works from 9 to 6 yet she has to wake up at 5 am in the morning to cook for the WHOLE family, drive me to school and when she comes back from a tiring day at work, she still has to cook, clean and do the laundry whereas my father sits back and watches TV. However, my dad has noticed her efforts and is offering more help to her now, but she kind of refuses for some things because he's not as efficient as her.

    • @ChoiReim
      @ChoiReim 10 месяцев назад +37

      Anyone offended is exactly what this song is talking about.

    • @vibingllamas
      @vibingllamas 9 месяцев назад +22

      as a man i literally love this song and the message and how powerful it is, any man who gets insulted by it can go f off

    • @vibingllamas
      @vibingllamas 9 месяцев назад +10

      @@raenia3655 your mother is so strong tell her you are proud!!!!

  • @anyaay7389
    @anyaay7389 Год назад +704

    i also think that the part "its not an act of love if you make her" refers to like, sexual assault and forcing himself on his wife ykwim?

    • @k.sedits8056
      @k.sedits8056 Год назад +154

      Definitely but Also think like cooking, cleaning, caring for your husband can be seen as an act of love but it’s not if she’s forced to do those things

    • @amykruse6887
      @amykruse6887 Год назад +60

      Fact check it, but I read that in some states there's legal rape if you're married. Also: 43 states have marriage age at 12 or other aged minors, but no divorce filings until 18. How is this a thing?!

    • @greenpiersystem
      @greenpiersystem Год назад

      No, there's this backwards idea that if a woman is following your directions, that's love and what's best for them.
      Like "Women love working in the kitchen! That's why they belong there!" 🙄
      Like yeah, if I beat your ass every time you came out of the kitchen if you didn't make me a hot pocket, you'd love the kitchen too, you dipshit.
      Also, yeah, sexual assault. Definitely a thing.
      Just because it's your spouse doesn't mean they have the right to forgo consent. And for the guy asking about child divorces and child marriage, it does get worse; in many of those same states, you can get married to a child underage, (usually this happens in church/cults or something like that) r%pe that child underage, and then basically hand the police your marriage certificate as a "no pedo" pass for being a pedophile. Because it can't be CM, CR, or statutory r%pe if you are married, apparently. And let me circle y'all back to your own findings of how divorce may not be possible until 18.
      ...Yup. We live in hell and call it life instead of admitting we're dead every year.

    • @tst.v2926
      @tst.v2926 Год назад +39

      @@amykruse6887 plus a 12 year old wife can’t go to a shelter. She’s trapped.

    • @francesca5571
      @francesca5571 Год назад +9

      I thought that too...

  • @mythaeology
    @mythaeology Год назад +295

    also!! the first time she sings the hook, it's just her, but the second time, you can hear young women or even girls singing in the background, much louder and with more audible anger.

  • @goldenlore488
    @goldenlore488 2 месяца назад +72

    This song reminds me of my grandmother.
    She gave my grandfather six children and took care of the home while holding down a job and trying to keep their marriage together and going and in the end he left her for his secretary.

  • @ladybella6590
    @ladybella6590 Год назад +549

    She gave us the anthem to feed us, to sustain us. To carry us to the release. And then she gave us the build up, the back story, OUR back story, our culture back story, to hype us up, to help us feel heard, and to fulfill us. This is our mother's mother muted cry that we can scream to the high table, just so we can flip it.

  • @j4513
    @j4513 Год назад +650

    Young man, you are a perfect example of how Gen-z is the generation with the heart and compassion to, for the first time in history, have the chance to change the world. (Shame on all of the people I have seen who put down gen-z and call them things like “lazy“ or “soft“ or saying that the young men are not “masculine” enough. The heart and compassion I see in this generation brings me to tears and it’s not something I do almost ever.) I’m a millennial and my husband is Gen X and although each generation gets a little bit better than the last when it comes to things like racism, misogyny, body shaming, homophobia, transphobia… Gen-Z is like a light at the end of the tunnel that gives me the first hope I’ve had in so long for this world. Thank you for this video.

    • @tschaytschay4555
      @tschaytschay4555 Год назад +32

    • @raenia3655
      @raenia3655 Год назад +54

      Right! I'm Gen Z and so many boys in my class help their mothers and do domestic chores that would not have been doen by sons in the previous generations.

    • @vanillapod1
      @vanillapod1 3 месяца назад +8

      I’m also millennial and completely agree

  • @vanilla6326
    @vanilla6326 Год назад +256

    So many of the lyrics double up in meaning it’s insane
    “So that he never lifts a finger” so that he can be lazy but also so he doesn’t hit you.
    “It’s not an act of love if you make her” she’s not doing the things she does out of her love for you but also it’s not lovemaking if she didn’t consent.
    “Weaponize false incompetence” claiming that he didn’t know his treatment of her hurt her and how could he know if she never spoke up as if empathy is some alien concept but also that she has to do all the work that she does because he doesn’t know how, as if it can’t be learned.
    And of course labor, childbirth being the obvious one but also when men were out working women would have to do menial labor like making everything in the house function and tending to fields which provided most of the food present, without grain, fruits and vegetables that meal would’ve consisted of very meager meat.

    • @grayace4556
      @grayace4556 Месяц назад

      Or doing something so badly he's never asked to do it again is also weaponized incompetence. Men conciously do this shit all the time.

  • @jinx8749
    @jinx8749 Год назад +99

    the backing vocals in the part that went viral on tik tok is mostly kids too, showing how this is a reality we've known since childhood

  • @sageseeker9197
    @sageseeker9197 Год назад +217

    This song can represent ALL women in EVERY NATION of EVERY RACE or CULTURE in EVERY ERA, even today is both powerful, and also shows how sick it is.
    Every race, every era, every nation collectively decided to treat women as lesser, as subhuman.
    It's so bad, when we find instances of women not being treated like literal breeding stock, or with slightly better rights we actually label it as "feminist".
    Oh, the Mongols let women be fighters they must be feminist.
    Oh, the Spartans didn't treat their women like slaves, they must be feminist.
    Oh, look, a scarce amount of things a woman can do without a man's permission, that must mean they are better off there!
    Then today: Oh, women can vote so misogyny must not exist anymore. (Like women aren't being killed for trying to leave, raped, sex trafficked, forced into marriages, acid attacks, honor killings, and ignored by doctors.)

    • @pinklov4447
      @pinklov4447 Год назад +6

      u said it perfectly

    • @crown9413
      @crown9413 11 месяцев назад

      That's not true in the slightest, all societies treat women as different, respecting their different abilities and role. Women have always been spared combat because men love women.
      "breeding stock" does that make men a "ATM machine"? I don't see how childless spinters are happier than grandmothers surrounded by a loving family.

    • @pinklov4447
      @pinklov4447 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@crown9413 So you're going to look at how women have been spared from combat and ignore everything else we have had to go through? Your going to forget the huge systematic and global issues of r*pe and s*xual harassment; women being notoriously used for their bodies does NOT sound like respect to me.
      She referred to women as "breeding stock" bcs that just is how some men treat women; in a dehumanising way, where how they feel is rarely accounted for, whilst they're expected to on top of all that carry a child and be primarily responsible for it.
      And studies have absolutely shown that unmarried women are the happiest, so I'm going to believe the facts above your speculation. Stay mad about it; it will still remain true. 😁

    • @onethatdoesart5650
      @onethatdoesart5650 10 месяцев назад +31

      ​@@crown9413you fit the shoe of the problem. You ignored everything in favor of spinning it to a man's problems which is one of the problems, you only bring up mens problems to shut down women talking about theirs. Every culture has had a problem of being controlling, high expectations, cruelty, and more towards their women. It's evident everywhere and not being able to see it is a choice and not a good one. Period.

    • @crown9413
      @crown9413 10 месяцев назад

      @@onethatdoesart5650 What expectations? What cruelty? You'll have to enlighten me to this invisible oppression, what responsibility does a woman bare that a man does not? You can't make baseless claims and then say I should just believe you.
      If you see every single culture as controlling, what dodgy thing do you want to do, that every culture has evolved to have an interest in stopping?
      I would disagree, society has extremely low standards for women, too low. And so feckless women take advantage. Women and society crumbles around us.

  • @lol_why_am_i_here
    @lol_why_am_i_here Год назад +210

    I think the pomegranate symbolism is really interesting because like of course it represents femininity and the fruits of her labor like you said, but, it kind of reminded me of Persephone and the pomegranate seeds. That probably has nothing to do with this music video but, when she cracks the pomegranate open it reminds me of how Persephone ate the pomegranate and was stuck with a man that she didn’t necessarily want to be with, and it could also tie into the first bit of the song “why are you hanging on so tight to that rope that I’m hanging from” and “this was an escape plan, carefully timed it, so let go and dive into the waves below.”
    I’m probably over analyzing but I thought I’d share it because I think it’s cool.
    Edit- it’s so cool to see everyone else’s ideas for the whole pomegranate symbolism, I think they’re so cool and also, Paris Paloma recently released “labour the cacophony” and the cover is a pomegranate that has been split open, so I feel like we’ve been proved right.

    • @princess20-sideddie95
      @princess20-sideddie95 Год назад +29

      Pomegranate is also one of the leading contenders for what fruit Eve ate in the Garden of Eden, kicking off original sin and the misogyny that comes of men blaming women for all of their problems.

    • @ruesparks
      @ruesparks Год назад +10

      I thought the same thing with Persephone, she ate 6 Pomegranate seeds (depending on which translation) and that's what makes her stuck returning to Hades every year-when Hades kidnapped her in the first place. The symbolism is spot on.

    • @HannahsWife
      @HannahsWife 6 месяцев назад +6

      I’m a bit late but wanted to add that the pomegranate was a reference to the fruits of a woman’s labor like you said but Paris actually has a song called “The fruits” that displays that same message so it’s almost like a bit of lore or tribute to her song as well.

    • @ethernetangel1133
      @ethernetangel1133 3 месяца назад +6

      Oh that was absolutely intentional on her part, the parallels and symbolism and power of persephone’s story is just too strong to be a coincidence

    • @kimcramp995
      @kimcramp995 2 месяца назад +2

      That's really cool. I didn't know that story about persephone. It fits in so well so I wouldn't be surprised if that was also related to the pomegranate symbolism.

  • @1awkwardAlien
    @1awkwardAlien 2 месяца назад +53

    I cant sing this without fucking crying. Too many women/people can relate to this. Especially with the line where shes speaking of being held over a cliff edge by her neck. Another thing that causes capillaries to break...and that lift a finger means more than just not doing anything. This completely encompasses the 6 year abusive relationship I was in.
    Adding the pomegranate for Persephone was an amazing symbol

    • @corinneconverse6070
      @corinneconverse6070 2 месяца назад +1

      I used to cry about it but now I just scream the lyrics to the universe

    • @OsuSakuraame
      @OsuSakuraame 2 месяца назад +3

      There is something in this song... something that invokes something deep inside of me, like the rage of all my female ancestors piling up. This song seems to invoke the weight of our collective history as women, that is still not over. We've fought so hard, but much is still the same.

  • @tyrellesmith9265
    @tyrellesmith9265 Год назад +162

    I've listened to a lot of music from tiktok and at least 95% of the time the full song never lives up to the short clip on tiktok. This is probably the biggest exception to this. Labour sounds like a real song with a beginning, middle, and end instead of 2 minutes of preamble before whatever part blew up on tiktok comes in.

  • @ShilohSmith
    @ShilohSmith Год назад +274

    This song makes me cry, this was my last relationship. End to end. It’s been cathartic as hell listening to it everyday, learning and singing along like it’s a prayer that I need to survive 😭

    • @lol_why_am_i_here
      @lol_why_am_i_here Год назад +20

      This song makes me angry because so many women in my family have husbands that never pull their own weight, and when the women in my family call them out, or buckle under the pressure, or lash out because they’re being stretched thin like a rubber band, the men in my family say they’re “overreacting” or they say that “it’s just house work” or “it’s not that hard”. It DISGUSTS me I have seen my mother simply ask one of the men in my family to put a jar back in the cupboard one they’ve used it. He starts being mean to her acting like it’s the hardest thing ever to put a jar away. He literally said “anything else” as if she’s just asked him to wash the dishes, to the laundry, broom and mop the floors and cook food for a whole family.

    • @ethernetangel1133
      @ethernetangel1133 3 месяца назад +4

      I left my ex husband 2 years ago, and the moment she ripped into the pomegranate i started crying because THAT conveyed the exact feeling of seeing our apartment in my rearview mirror. The strength needed to leave these situations is immeasurable, i only wish with all of my being that the women who came before us had been able to feel the surge of power and freedom and relief that came with leaving their abusers.

  • @YourTrulyJuliet
    @YourTrulyJuliet Год назад +76

    And the fact when the therapist, mother line comes up gradually small children voices also large up

  • @porterhw
    @porterhw 6 месяцев назад +35

    Really appreciating seeing younger male reactors vibing to this song and so easily saying "oh yeah, what a poetic take on the historic oppression of women." I'm an elder millennial woman with young nieces and this is my 100% my Rage Song, but seeing younger guys than me online hearing it and openly GETTING IT on "live" video makes me think....hey, I think the kids are gonna be alright.

  • @lexa2747
    @lexa2747 Год назад +68

    not to mention the pomegranate was was hades used to trap persephone in the underworld

    • @Qu3ntra
      @Qu3ntra Год назад +1

      This tho!

    • @eausland9996
      @eausland9996 3 месяца назад +4

      As well as what people believe the real forbidden fruit of Eden was. Not the apple.

    • @-chenlanying5818
      @-chenlanying5818 2 месяца назад

      That's why i hate Lore Olympus and how people romanticized Hades and Persphone story

  • @jeng9927
    @jeng9927 2 месяца назад +23

    I would have loved to have seen the final shot go from a historical period to modern. Just him sitting at an empty table. Such a great song. ❤

    • @felixhenson9926
      @felixhenson9926 2 месяца назад +2

      Yeah I'm a bit disappointed in how historical the video was in that it kind of implies this is a thing of the past now. That said i do get that for a lot of people this awakened a whole shitstorm of generational trauma and it's kind of ancestral too but i do wish that had been made clear that it's not all in the past.

    • @wander_woman2084
      @wander_woman2084 Месяц назад

      That would've be brilliant.

  • @skh4ppy
    @skh4ppy 10 месяцев назад +46

    it’s not politics, it’s reality.

  • @TrashcanReba
    @TrashcanReba 2 месяца назад +15

    The style of the video is Momento Mori-An art style that depicts death through still life paintings. Art Appreciation class really came through for me.

  • @aprettygothichick
    @aprettygothichick Год назад +33

    For me this song is representative of my relationship with my ex. He went to work and made the money, but that was all he did. He expected me to do everything else. Cleaning, cooking, running errands, making his appointments for him, waking him up every day for work, laying out his clothes, packing his lunch, and so much more. He never thanked me for anything. And if I dared to be anything but happy to be essentially his maid, he would say I was ungrateful and that he could find someone else that would deserve him. He also wanted me to be pregnant so we did that too. Multiple miscarriages. He was obsessed with having a child. I never managed to carry one to term. It got very bad and very dark for me. Eventually I decided that it was either I leave and try to make a better life for myself or I was going to die.

    • @happyface4720
      @happyface4720 10 месяцев назад +1

      I was in a relationship with a man who took me for granted

    • @peach23786
      @peach23786 9 месяцев назад +2

      I hope everything went well for you❤ Big hugs ❤

  • @michellesimmons3150
    @michellesimmons3150 2 месяца назад +14

    The setting is renaissance, the lyrics can EASILY fit most marriages today… only clothing and setting changed.

  • @LucyAmelia2000
    @LucyAmelia2000 3 месяца назад +14

    No one talks about the title. LABOR. As in giving birth, giving labor. How deeply a woman is tied to suffering

    • @savannahs8914
      @savannahs8914 Месяц назад +1

      I also love how, in the song, she's listing forms of women's labor that's overlooked and unpaid: household labor, emotional labor, domestic labor, water-collection, childrearing

  • @bambieyes_
    @bambieyes_ Год назад +115

    You should also listen to 'the fruits' by Paris , it is quite similar and also brings more of a religious tone to the story

  • @KristinaLopezWrites
    @KristinaLopezWrites Год назад +106

    This song isn’t about politics. That was the biggest lie that men bout into that somehow women’s rage and plight is part of some political point.
    THIS song is how we all-not just women in relationships-feel about men. Emotional labor is there to have to protect ourselves even when we’re single. It’s freaking exhausting and I hope you and every man was listening and comprehending the lyrics as more than some medieval plight. This is our reality.

    • @16poetisa
      @16poetisa 8 месяцев назад +5

      Mm, but as the saying goes, the personal is political.

    • @nyxskids
      @nyxskids 5 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@16poetisathat's the lie. Because when we make the personal political it becomes debatable. It would never be debatable on whether or not treating women as more than what the hook lists. Debates are also rarely about actual right and wrong. It's wrong to treat other people as worth less than oneself.
      Making it "political" makes the oppression and abuse abstract rather than a daily reality that persists. Rooting misogyny, and honestly bigotry in general, out is made more and more difficult when we just shrug and say things like the personal is political

    • @16poetisa
      @16poetisa 5 месяцев назад +5

      @@nyxskids The phrase "the personal is political" means very much the opposite of making personal struggles abstract and divided from people's lived reality.
      To quote the Wikipedia article on the slogan: "It underscored the connections between personal experience and larger social and political structures."

    • @corinneconverse6070
      @corinneconverse6070 2 месяца назад

      ​@16poetisa except that a lot of these problems (emotional manipulation, or unequal division of labor for example) aren't anything that are existing laws for, nor would there be any practical way to enforce it by any government. That's why this isn't necessarily political. It goes down deeper, down to the moral fabric of culture itself.

    • @16poetisa
      @16poetisa 2 месяца назад +2

      @@corinneconverse6070 "Political" doesn't mean exclusively having to do with politics. It means having to do with power, which is of course reflected in the entire fabric of society, including government.

  • @kaylaryals8227
    @kaylaryals8227 Год назад +72

    Honestly I think “its not an act of love if you make her” is a subtle hint to the overturn of roe vs wade and sa because babies are a product of love but if these women don’t truly have a choice is it then truly love?

    • @sarahriddle499
      @sarahriddle499 9 месяцев назад +11

      She’s British, I don’t think it was a direct reference specifically to roe v wade. But the general idea is there.

    • @nyxskids
      @nyxskids 5 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@sarahriddle499that makes sense but given the anthemic nature of the song and how the politics of the US can spread even when it's horrifying like the Dobbs decision... I can't imagine it wasn't a major factor in her process somewhere

    • @corinneconverse6070
      @corinneconverse6070 2 месяца назад +1

      It's an allusion to sexual coercion.

    • @felixhenson9926
      @felixhenson9926 2 месяца назад

      Agreed, the timing lines up too

  • @alynne84
    @alynne84 Год назад +25

    i love that they added the candles, hers is burning all the way down and his isn't even lit.

  • @sarahlewisphoenix4951
    @sarahlewisphoenix4951 7 месяцев назад +14

    The pomegranate was also more than likely the fruit that Eve and then Adam ate in the Garden of Eden, it got changed to an apple in later translations. So yeah, multiple levels of symbolism.
    As a mid-40s woman who saved myself from a few abusive relationships since my youth, this song has become my new anthem, I'm utterly obsessed. I don't have Tiktok so I actually heard it on Pandora recently for the first time. I love how you are just grinning and jamming towards the end, I do the exact same thing watching this video, lol.
    If anyone hasn't seen the RAK studios live session of this song, with cellos/violins and a chorus, look it up, it's stunning.
    Enjoyed this reaction, came across it today because I've been listening to this song, will check out more of your videos!

  • @anyaay7389
    @anyaay7389 Год назад +77

    love this reaction, you choose really appropriate words to describe the situation

  • @Rainwhisperz
    @Rainwhisperz 10 месяцев назад +17

    This song always makes me think of King Henry the 8th wives, knowing how they were only used to give him sons

    • @lunar-1340
      @lunar-1340 3 месяца назад +1

      ... six wives.
      Henry VIII had six wives.

    • @Teajay21
      @Teajay21 Месяц назад +1

      ​@lunar-1340 They didn't say 8 wives they said Henry the 8th's wives I think they just missed an apostrophe

    • @archervine8064
      @archervine8064 Месяц назад +1

      Catherine of Aragon’s badge was the pomegranate. Another association is with fertility - she was ‘promising’ to give him heirs.

  • @kellymoffat3670
    @kellymoffat3670 2 месяца назад +4

    "So that he never lifts a finger" I see that as not only about housework ect, but also a Domestic violence reference.

  • @vanilla6326
    @vanilla6326 Год назад +37

    This covering history and generational trauma and coming out around the same time as Eat Your Young by Hozier which also covers history and generational trauma meant I got fed real well.

  • @libbystevenson551
    @libbystevenson551 Год назад +50

    A pomegranate was Captain America on the sigil for everything like when she would write letters she would stamp on the back in wax up pomegranate so it does represent femininity in a way but it's also kind of representing blood because it's red and how the way she eats it is representing the blood of everyone of all the women that's gone through this terrible terrible system and that it might not be happening as much now but it's still is in a sense

    • @libbystevenson551
      @libbystevenson551 Год назад +7

      Catherine of Aragon instead it camewhat it came with us Captain America

  • @thatashgirl83
    @thatashgirl83 Месяц назад +2

    I love that when she finally eats she cracks into a pomegranate. It looks like blood but pomegranate is typically a symbol of femininity, fertility and female sexuality so her digging into it almost is like a reclaiming of those things. So good.

  • @audiarcher2714
    @audiarcher2714 10 месяцев назад +15

    This is the best reaction video I’ve ever seen. Not that I’ve seen a lot. One of my pet peeves is when they stop the video at a good part and don’t back it up and re-watch it to get the whole effect. So 🙏
    The two things that got me from this video/song was the lyric “at least I’ve got to try” [to leave him]. And then she’s reclaiming her autonomy when she starts eating. BUT with the pomegranate it made me think of the Hades and Persephone myth where she’s trapped BY eating pomegranate. And then the “try” part of the lyrics. I just know how abusive relationships can be and getting out is a lot harder than it should be. She’s not able to do it for herself but she gets the motivation to leave when she thinks about it happening to someone else. The problem is that her daughter is hypothetical and it might not be enough. I just think the lyrics and the pomegranate might be a little hint that it’s not always so easy to leave. And they don’t always get out

    • @Laiba.k
      @Laiba.k 10 месяцев назад +1

      U got liked by the creator and me congrats 👏

    • @audiarcher2714
      @audiarcher2714 10 месяцев назад

      @@Laiba.k AND I got a comment from you too! 💃💃💃
      Lol I actually feel like you somehow ~knew~ that I’m not used to engaging social media

  • @WonderLady
    @WonderLady 2 месяца назад +3

    This is an anthem - not about politics. About how we are tired.

  • @savannahs8914
    @savannahs8914 Месяц назад +3

    It's also really powerful to notice that a lot of the work she's talking about isn't just work that women did in history. These are the tasks girls and women are doing *now*. "Who fetches the water" is a *big* thing that women (and girls) spend hours and hours doing.

  • @Cees91
    @Cees91 11 месяцев назад +8

    Pomegranate is also the fruit Hades fed Persephone that would keep her for three months every year in Tartarus which is why Demeter curses the earth in winter where nothing grows.

  • @wildwomanofwonga
    @wildwomanofwonga 8 месяцев назад +6

    Great review of this wonderful video...I know Paris & her band and so pleased she & her videos are being recognised from RUclips reviewers...your review is spot on.

    • @wildwomanofwonga
      @wildwomanofwonga 8 месяцев назад

      I will share your review of Paris and watch more of yours..you are obviously very wise!

  • @nonono965
    @nonono965 Год назад +12

    To make my ladies in here feel a bit better, im watching this in a bubble bath and my hubby brought me a bowl of veggies, dip and a huge glass of ice water on a tray for me to snack on whilst i relax. So i love this song but its not relatable in my home thank god

  • @karmasauce6288
    @karmasauce6288 Год назад +12

    I was getting Persephone vibes from the scene where’s she’s eating the pomegranate.

  • @16poetisa
    @16poetisa 8 месяцев назад +6

    It doesn't "feel" as political because she's connecting her personal experiences to the generations of women before her. There's a heavy burden in all the historical and intergenerational trauma we've inherited as women.
    Also, finally, a reactor who uses captions for the lyrics!

  • @Cat-sm7gq
    @Cat-sm7gq Год назад +11

    My mom deals with this everyday. My dad just sits around and does nothing. He may have work and all but our mom works endless shifts every night and day. She works two jobs. She used to have one place to work at but now there’s two, but she works mostly at her second job since it’s like a hotel and she does housekeeping or something like that. My dad he works one. Sure I don’t know what goes on at his work but hell, mom is working two jobs, does all the chores in the house when she’s off. And you don’t even move your damn butt of the f*cking couch. Me and my siblings help her sometimes though. One thing I know is that if my dad were to complain about something my mom was doing, I will be sure to speak some facts about his lazy ass on couch and not doing anything. Funny thing is, that he doesn’t feed us! Our mom cooks dinner and makes sure we eat. Him? He just cares about himself.

  • @ninah1903
    @ninah1903 Месяц назад +1

    The ending is so amazing to me.
    The way the pommegranate juice looks like blood and she is stuffing it into her mouth almost violently all while singing about how everything is too much to handle. She's working herself to death, visibly bleeding..and her husband smiles at her.
    The symbolism is breathtaking.
    For the first time in this video he's shown appreciation / satisfaction, and it's only when she's working herself to death.
    Then he averts his eyes, looking at the table in a displeased manner as if she's supposed to clean it. He doesn't care for her, he cares for her work. For what she's doing for him.
    And once he is about to speak up and ask why the table is still set, she's gone.
    She worked herself to death and he didn't even care. No, he was mad that there's nobody there to do the work for him anymore.

  • @Abigail-qz5yq
    @Abigail-qz5yq 8 месяцев назад +5

    I love this song because, even if you've never been in a relationship like this, every woman can still relate to it because we've still experienced the mindset and had to deal with the stereotypes

  • @TimeLady128
    @TimeLady128 Год назад +49

    She is pregnant, isn't she? "If our love died" might be an abortion plan, so the child does not share her fate if it was a girl. She is a 24/7 baby machine except for when she is pregnant. During that time there is silence in the bedchamber. And she told us from the start, this is an escape plan. She wants to escape to either have an abortion or have the child somewhere else.

    • @tschaytschay4555
      @tschaytschay4555 Год назад +1

      Good point.

    • @nyxskids
      @nyxskids 5 месяцев назад +5

      So many meanings throughout the song and the video
      Kinda like how the video has a strong medieval visual but the lyrics themselves are very modern making it feel like even today women are still treated in this antiquated cruelty.

    • @corinneconverse6070
      @corinneconverse6070 2 месяца назад +1

      ​@@nyxskids because we as a society haven't fully shedded that cruelty yet

    • @nyxskids
      @nyxskids 2 месяца назад

      @@corinneconverse6070 I'm sadly all too aware. Sorry my comment came off so naive

  • @clairepeterson5674
    @clairepeterson5674 Год назад +4

    I like the fact that every time he loves it he's like "I fucking love it!"

  • @karly.asshhh
    @karly.asshhh 2 месяца назад +2

    This is such a powerful song, Paloma Paris really writes poetry. For me, the lyrics are not only a historical representation of women's role in the family, the lyrics are also telling the reality of many women's in the present.
    I live in a conservative country, very religious, in church and at school I was taught that women are below men since men are the "head of the household" because god said so. I've seen all the women in my family serve their husbands and sons while teaching girls that some day we'll have to serve our husbands. Women serve the plates of the men, men start to eat first, women do the household labour even when they also have regular jobs, men make the decisions in the family... Not only the video is fantastic but also the lyrics are so liberating for so many that are or have been in this situation. I love being able to sing this out loud since my parents don't know english.

  • @cinemacodey
    @cinemacodey Год назад +12

    This is my new fave song I love it so much!

  • @deniceking8496
    @deniceking8496 Месяц назад +3

    This is not history or politics. This is reality for way too many women

  • @Xenia.x.666
    @Xenia.x.666 Год назад +28

    Hi, finally a reaction to such a good song. I loved it thank you so much and have a nice day or night.
    Greetings from Germany from me (Xenia)😊

    • @xeniageorgi4956
      @xeniageorgi4956 11 месяцев назад +2

      Oh mein got, I h bin gerade über dein Kommentar gestolpert, güse aus Dresden von Xenia:)

    • @Xenia.x.666
      @Xenia.x.666 11 месяцев назад

      ⁠@@xeniageorgi4956nice 😂dir auch Grüße 😊

  • @StaceyGray-mj3mj
    @StaceyGray-mj3mj 9 месяцев назад +2

    I’ve just discovered this song and it’s laid me out. It’s perfection in lyrics and visuals and hits for just about every woman’s experience through time. Great reaction.

  • @MissShinyLemon
    @MissShinyLemon 5 месяцев назад +4

    You can actually see the candle burn out over the course of the video. Halfway through the video, the candle is close to running out of wax (I don't know what it's called exactly, sorry) and the symbolism is so powerful.

  • @amberhoward7807
    @amberhoward7807 11 месяцев назад +8

    It works bc it is deep in our historical roots of this type of behavior... So it isn't pushy bc it is bringing an ancient feel to a very real issue over our history and even to now... Though I feel things are way far from those times, we still have work to do... But it definitely isn't pushy, but does bring the facts up for sure! And the rapid listing of the things women are expected to be is just too powerful! I know men have the same things, but one is usually held at a higher status and it still shows today.

  • @Sklliez
    @Sklliez 7 месяцев назад +2

    I'm obsessed with this song I can't stop listening to it

  • @sonodarling8798
    @sonodarling8798 3 месяца назад +2

    I love that you acknowledge the lyricism in the song. I also like how you went about pointing out all the symbolism in the video. It says a lot about your knowledge on the subject as you never over-explain it. But I need you to be aware that my favorite part was you being already done with the guy halfway through the song and just going "I hope she shoots him or something"😂😭😂

  • @user-xr8cq5pn4o
    @user-xr8cq5pn4o Год назад +15

    An amazing reaction!

  • @shannonmiller2018
    @shannonmiller2018 Месяц назад

    I have chills when I hear this song. Her voice sounds like the mother inside of me that suffered so much emotional abuse, yet still tended to 5 step children, 2 of my own children and the abuse of a drowning alcoholic/addict. Let's just say I am reminded of the time when I was pregnant and barefoot, carrying in wood because he never made his older kids do it.

  • @CallMeKes
    @CallMeKes Год назад +8

    Does...he not realize that the song came BEFORE the tik tok clips? The way he talks about it makes it sound like he thinks it was the other way around.
    You got most of the symbolism well though which is nice to see from a young man your age. But when he taps his cup it means she is to clear the table, whether she's eaten or not.

    • @hydeandseek8428
      @hydeandseek8428 11 месяцев назад +7

      Cause she released a clip of the song before the full thing was released

  • @Moonbeamchild8
    @Moonbeamchild8 Месяц назад +1

    Such an excellent analysis of this one. Well done!

  • @Nakhash
    @Nakhash 2 месяца назад +4

    Some believe the pomegranate was the forbidden fruit in Eden.

  • @StrwberryAsh
    @StrwberryAsh Месяц назад

    Absolutely love your commentary!!❤

  • @Gemmaster9090
    @Gemmaster9090 2 месяца назад +2

    The pomegranate is such a great piece of symbolism, not only symbolizing the fruits of her labour and femininity, but could also be a reference to the Ancient Greek myth if Hades and Persephone when Hades is forcing Persephone to stay in the underworld just like how the man in the sense of the song (why are you hanging in so tight, so let me go, dominance under a guise) is forcing the woman to stay in the abusive relationship

  • @tinyloveartwork2031
    @tinyloveartwork2031 Месяц назад

    Shout out to you for shouting out the director, thank you and hell yeah!!!!

  • @solnyshkovdrame
    @solnyshkovdrame 3 месяца назад

    nailed perfectly, youFELT it. thank you

  • @jusaimee
    @jusaimee 2 месяца назад

    So many meanings and so many dual meanings and it’s lovely, I could go on for hours about them and the meanings and all of it.

  • @theindigopapillon3495
    @theindigopapillon3495 2 месяца назад +1

    Also the pomegranate is a nod to Eve in the Garden of Eden. Some think Apple, but Pomegranates Latin name means forbidden.

  • @Panteracide
    @Panteracide 7 месяцев назад +5

    I love how open you came into this and how you cheered for her and for women's representation. It means a lot to hear, because there's so many who'll throw stones instead.

  • @ForgottenMan2009
    @ForgottenMan2009 10 месяцев назад +3

    I havent listened to anything else, so far, she has done because I fear that she hasnt or will never do anything this perfect again.....

  • @susiednl
    @susiednl Месяц назад

    Another thing to add, pomegranate was actually thought to be the original fruit of temptation in the garden of Eden. Really interesting that she is tearing it apart and that was the first thing she ate- she’s given into the temptation to make the move to save herself.

  • @paytonroark
    @paytonroark 9 месяцев назад +1

    DUDE PARIS PALOMA IS BOMBBBB

  • @user-ll4jx2gt4o
    @user-ll4jx2gt4o 2 месяца назад +10

    It's not politics and history it's reallity for so so much women. It's not as drastic as it is in the music video but still seeing my entire childhood how my mom always got to eat last while my dad got his food first and she was the one who made food, i can count on one hand how many times my dad came to my school if needed, how he never helped with cleaning how husbands "joke" about hating their wifes how men get to decide on women bodys how it's still a debate who's fault it was when woman is asaulted how only women get shamed over their body count and so much more.

  • @Asenueh
    @Asenueh Месяц назад

    Paris Paloma has another arrangement of "Labour" called "LABOUR (the cacophony) which includes a chorus of other female creators who added videos of their singing or lip synching and it was POWERFUL!

  • @AidaBM30
    @AidaBM30 9 месяцев назад

    It´s a beautiful song 😍

  • @s.m.gonyea1453
    @s.m.gonyea1453 Год назад +9

    I think that making the music video have a historical feel to it can be misleading, especially when you emphasize women's history and how this commentary perfectly illustrates what has happened to women throughout history, but not following up with the fact that the subject matter of this song continues to this day. Otherwise I really enjoyed the commentary you gave on this video.

  • @brokenwing2005
    @brokenwing2005 Месяц назад

    EPIC song! So powerful.

  • @faethe000
    @faethe000 Месяц назад +1

    Every woman who listens to this song can hear the rage in it, while most men only hear cutesy girl voice.

  • @shannamathias4176
    @shannamathias4176 Месяц назад +1

    The pomegranate is also in Christian tradition the fruit that Eve ate from the tree, and has been used as a reason why women need to submit to men in Christianity, because she ate the fruit…

    • @shannamathias4176
      @shannamathias4176 Месяц назад +1

      AND I didn’t even think about the Greek tragedy involving Persephone being enslaved via pomegranate by Hades.

  • @solus8685
    @solus8685 5 месяцев назад +1

    The pomegranate is also representing Eve eating the forbidden apple in paradise

  • @sunnyquinn3888
    @sunnyquinn3888 6 месяцев назад

    4:45 My parents have those exact blue and white dishes.

  • @jaxblaine9616
    @jaxblaine9616 9 месяцев назад +1

    Oh I just thought that maybe ‘if our love died, would that be the worst thing’ might also be in reference to a child that died during birth essentially protecting it from a life of pain

  • @sallyfrazier5843
    @sallyfrazier5843 Год назад +10

    If this is all over your girlfriends FYP....

    • @katiethomas3947
      @katiethomas3947 Год назад +2

      I am his girlfriend can confirm he’s a true misogynist (he’s literally the best thing that’s ever happened to me)

    • @chiara1347
      @chiara1347 Год назад +1

      @@katiethomas3947 a true anti-misogynistic? Right lol

    • @chiara1347
      @chiara1347 Год назад +1

      * anti-misogynist

    • @sophialeejhonson
      @sophialeejhonson 11 месяцев назад +1

      What about it?

  • @momonga5821
    @momonga5821 Месяц назад

    I used this song for a Victorianism presentation in college, it was actually pretty useful and made the presentation less boring since 19th period is kinda boring. It is a really good song, even my college teacher praised my team for the idea, and said she would use the song to also use it durong my teacher’s classes hahaha

  • @clashofclaws1332
    @clashofclaws1332 Год назад +4

    Good video

  • @ellieskirdneh2524
    @ellieskirdneh2524 4 месяца назад +1

    Love that you got the message spot on. It's such a good song. I've got a few suggestions if you want: Morgan st Jean - not all men, Austin giorgio - She's an actor and for fun The Sidh - shake that bagpipe.

  • @justinaacuriouswanderer1496
    @justinaacuriouswanderer1496 Год назад +2

    Troy! Hi! I want to share my experience! And hope you read it (of course I subscribed to you🥰)
    I didn't really see this song as words directed to a man, but because I was traumatized by Christianity, I felt as though I was directing it towards it, much like the song "take me to church", (I spent the 20 years of my life believing in Christianity in form or another. It was something I was ready to die for. Something I suffered greatly for. Later on, during my cultural research of the ancient world in the middle east and Greece, I started realizing the anonymous authors of the bible were simply trying to deify their bigoted culture and that the story of Adam and Eve was unfortunately copied from earlier creation myths circulating in Greece and the ancient middle east. All those earlier creation myths had three things in common: humans were made out of clay, self-knowledge is a narrational pivot, and woman was the cause of the fall and suffering of the world. Coincidence? Because why would all those stories have those things in common? And they're unfortunately all written by men💔. There was no such thing as copyright infringement back then, and it was the habit of authors to reform earlier myths to kind of valorize their culture.
    As the church father Chrysostom interprets Paul's teachings on women keeping silent in church, he says: "Again, it is not said of the man, that he saw the tree was good for food, but of the woman, and that she did eat, and gave it to her husband: so that he transgressed, not captivated by appetite, but merely from the persuasion of his wife. The woman taught once, and ruined all. On this account therefore he says, ‘let her not teach.’ But what is it to other women, that she suffered this? It certainly concerns them; for the sex is weak and fickle, and he is speaking of the sex collectively." So here he's saying that the man wasn't captivated by appetite, but actually did a GOOD thing by trusting his wife. There are endless church fathers saying extremely hurtful things about women, creating stories that represent women as horrible deceptive Eves that therefore should never participate in courts. Women are either Madonnas or Eves, a very dualistic primitive black-and-white view. This song touches on this a bit when it says: "nymph then a virgin", meaning the woman is supposed to be sexually experienced and extremely seductive, while also a virgin simultaneously, which is a little impossible practically. Also, the bible condemns so so many detailed sexual acts, including homosexuality, but for some reason, leaves out pedophilia, as it was a prerogative right for men to marry a child in the middle east. Is this seriously a message of love? Or is it just prejudice? Or is the author simply trying to leave out what he likes and condemn what he and his culture didn't like? Was he simply trying to deify his own culture? His own self? Imagine the sheer power you could harbor if you could successfully convince people that your words aren't yours, but those of an unquestionable omnipotent god. Strangely enough, God doesn't cover up, but angels, who are his servants, cover up, and Paul says women should cover up, but men shouldn't. rings a bell?💔 If covering up was ever about modesty in front of God, everyone would've normally covered up, but I feel it was more symbolic of something sinister.)
    Christianity was something I was ready to give my life for. I felt like I was lied to all those years. And it hurt like hell. One of the most traumatic realizations in my life. Because of the story of Adam and Eve and its implications, at some point I wanted to commit suicide because I fully believed I was a curse, that I was why everyone is suffering, much like Jonah jumping off a ship to stop the storm, I wanted to walk on the plank and jump and destroy myself because I felt guilty 💔 that maybe I'm the curse.
    @Paul, @conservatives, @church father quotes, @God "For someone I thought was my saviour, you sure make me do so much labor"💔
    "If our love died, would that be the worst thing?" 💔

    • @jessicaelecta
      @jessicaelecta 2 месяца назад

      This is how I felt as well, growing up being told I didn't deserve to exist. I've found a lot of peace in spirituality and untying the works of man from their interpretation of God.

  • @jaimeeking8584
    @jaimeeking8584 2 месяца назад

    Two songs from her to listen too is Notre Dame, and The Fruits!

  • @felixhenson9926
    @felixhenson9926 2 месяца назад +1

    The pomegranate represents femininity yes but it's also the fruit Hades uses to trap Persephone in the underworld so she could become his bride.

  • @lella3rose
    @lella3rose Год назад +1

    History and still today

  • @vina6767
    @vina6767 Год назад +2

    I’ve never watched a single one of your videos and verse consistently please throughout the whole thing more so when I didn’t think he would catch the pomegranate but you did.

  • @NotASnaccImAMel
    @NotASnaccImAMel 2 месяца назад

    "It's not an act of love if you make her" Marital r*pe is the most common type of r*pe. That line is so powerful.

  • @casey4290
    @casey4290 Год назад +7

    I thought the pomegranate was an onion this whole time 😅
    EDIT: spelt onion wrong 😂

  • @WonderLady
    @WonderLady 2 месяца назад

    The tap on the cup was for her to refill it -- not her permission to eat

  • @misslovelyo3761
    @misslovelyo3761 8 месяцев назад +2

    The candle is called a marriage candle notice he never lit his but her burned alone until she was finally gone.

  • @amykruse6887
    @amykruse6887 7 месяцев назад +1

    I thought he was tapping the glass for her to refill his cup before she even had food.

  • @bollocks42o
    @bollocks42o 3 месяца назад +3

    “historical” oppression 😢