Paris Paloma - labour [Official Video] Reaction
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- Paris Paloma - labour [Official Video] Reaction
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It still happens, with many wanting a "traditional wife" who does everything in the house, has babies but at the same time she's not a "gold digger" and works on top of taking care of husband and kids. The labour is excruciating, and expectations are higher and higher, so this song reminds many women that in fact it is not an act of love if someone MAKES you do all of it. Feminism is about choice. You have to have the power to choose if you want to stay at home or go to work, if you want babies or not. Amazing portrayal of society and how even though we think we are advanced, some things seem to remain the same.
"baby machine" generally means popping out kids back to back. so popping out kids so he can live out his "picket fence dreams"
lols, what a bunch of horse poo
I did exactly that. Took my daughter and fled. She lists exactly why. Two jobs, all the cleaning, cooking, shopping, repair, childcare......He is still there saying "I don't know WHY she just....abandoned me....everything was fine." (i.e; everything was the way he wanted it and had NO INTENTION of changing it) Listen up, girls. He says he has "no idea" why his wife left. He was not emotionally connected enough to reality to have any idea. Everything was "fine". YES I will speak to your ex wife briefly before dating you. Girls gotta look out for each other.
"If we had a daughter, I'd watch and could not save her" always kills me
it breaks my heart everytime i listen when the last part plays again but with a choir of young girls behind it, showing how women are set to this life since childhood
give me a break...Western Women are the most spoiled Humans in history, yet they have been brainwashed into thinking they are victims....pathetic.
Something I've never seen anyone mention is the fact that she doesn't even eat until he permits her to. The chicken is facing only him, he eats first, he eats everything, and she's left to feed off the scraps. She does all of the work, and he reaps the benefits. She prepared the entire meal, and yet she's not even allowed to eat it until he's done. And even then, she eats fruit. The man ate an entire chicken, meat, bread, potatoes, she got fruit. Just fruit.
I don't think he's even allowing her to. I think she stood up to bring him a new plate, then changed her mind and decided to eat out of turn. And a pomegranate, at that. Very symbolic fruit.
And he was horrified by the idea of a woman consuming. It's a viscerally powerful moment.
@@16poetisa Yes, that's why he taps the cup as a signal to bring him a clean plate so he can continue eating. That's why she decides to say F'''''it and starts eating anyway.
The 24/7 baby machine, is probably alluded to how much she need to stand by to...please him... A baby machine MAKES babies...
You "give it to him" when he "asks". There was some rule....had nothing to do with whether you were in the MOOD or not. He hardly seemed to care. After, all, it had nothing to do with HER pleasure at all.....
@@valkyrie1066 Of course not. "Obey your husband". I don't get the trad wives...but I guess they don't expect their husbands to turn on them...
This song is chock full of double and triple meanings starting with the title.
Labor refers to both hard physical work (tending the orcherds, fetching the water ect.) But it also refers to childbirth, remember "it's not an act of love if you make her."
The island is on the album cover if you want a visual representation of where the characters in this song are living and Paris talks about it in interviews but it's also a metaphor for being trapped and isolated.
The rope is also on the album cover it is hanging over the edge of a cliff and there is a boat at the bottom of the cliff but without that context it could also reffer to hanging (ending ones own life) which can feel like the only way out for people in abusive relationships.
Capillaries are tiny veins which can rupture due to stress, physical exertion or labor.
And yes, even that unusual interpretation of baby machine. as several other people have pointed out, the phrase "baby machine" typically refers to having baby after baby after baby, but the interpretation of having to constantly monitor and care for her husband is also accurate.
If anyone has noticed any other double meanings please comment them, i always enjoyed multiple meanings.
"so that he never lifts a finger" can mean that he does none of the work, or that he does not become violent
@@mcanta2898 thank you!
@@mcanta2898 or that he doesn’t lift a finger to blame her for something
@@FreyaMeows I missed your comment. Thank you for adding!
"lapping from flowing cup and jab ing with your fork" can mean mindlessly consuming her labor (she made the food, serves it, and cleans it) but it also reminds me of toxic relationships in that the first half reminds me of the way some people siphon off their partner's positive energy, and the second half makes me think of verbal jabs- when an abusive partner constantly digs at the others self esteem to either break them down or set them off- like sticking a fork in a turkey.
“So that he never lifts a finger” also could implicate both never having to fend for himself because she does all the labour. But also so that he could never “lift” a finger to hurt her if she ever disobeyed
8:40 it’s basically saying that certain men expect the women that they’re with to just give birth back to back just for the sake of it and not taking the wife into consideration. Basically treating women as baby making machines with no other value.
“It’s not an act of love if you make her” 👏👏👏
She was already trying to escape from being worked by her parents! She says that he was supposed to be her savior, and it looks like she went out of the frying pan and into the fire.
Hit the nail on the head with her doing all the physical and emotional labour!! Great reaction!
Also isolation is one of the first steps in an abusive relationship
I think this song is about the everyday life of most women around the globe: they have to do everything around the house, give birth and have to deal with so many expectations. They carry most of the emotional baggage, too. Just as mentions in the last part that she is a maid, nurse, therapist and so on. In so many cases, they will never hear a thank you, they might even be mistreated.
When a man does things around the house, he "helps". When he spends time with his own children, he "babysits". And yeah, girls are raised in the exact same way: you give them baby dolls so they can train being a mommy, you tell them they have to look nice, and they have to do chores around the house.
While it is more and more normalized that men do their fair share around the house and be an actual father to their kids, many still have these antiquated gender norms in their mind. A father spending an evening with his friends? Yeah! Time for him! Great!
A mother spending an evening with her friends? What a bad mother! How can she leave her children alone (or even worse! With their dad?! - yeah actually heard something like this)
Sorry in advanced, but this is gonna be a really long comment. And I'm not talking about every person in the world in these following scenarios, but they're not unheard of. These are the types of scenarios Paris Paloma is talking about, and I do think you caught most of the meaning there.
there are 168 hours in a week. and in the families with stay at home mothers, those mothers are on the job all 168 hours. and their husbands, even if they're doing a lot of overtime, they're working 60-80 hours a week. And having a wife at home is what enables the dad to go and work all that overtime, because he's not paying a maid. He's not paying for childcare. He's not paying for a personal chef. And yet he still has all those things taken care of. So when he works 80 hours a week, and comes home and says "I just worked all day, let me relax," She's also been working all day. And then he complains about work and she has to listen and if she tries to complain about her headache because the five year old wouldn't take a nap and the toddler is sick and crying all day, and her feet and back are sore and she's nauseated because she's pregnant, it gets dismissed because she doesn't have a "real job." And then he kicks off his nasty socks and shoes on the living room floor, eats the dinner she made, leaves his dirty plate for her, goes to take a shower and leaves his dirty clothes on the bathroom floor so she has to literally follow him around cleaning up after him the same way she does for their kids all day, and then he still wants her to sleep with him at the end of the day. And at two AM when their kid comes knocking at their bedroom door because they had a nightmare and wet the bed, that man will say "I have work in the morning, you deal with it."
When she leaves he'll call her a leech and a gold digger for taking half of his assets when she didn't do the work for them(in his opinion). When daycare for 1 child is $150-200 a week ($15,600-$20,800 per year for 2 kids), weekly cleaning services are $80-$250 a week ($4,160-$12,500 a year), a personal chef can cost $150-$400 per service day ($7,800-$20,800 annual assuming weekly service where they're prepping meals for the week, and 20k-151k if you employ a dedicated personal chef) plus groceries. So she's saving him $27,560-$54,100 or more per year, and he sees that as absolutely nothing. It is worthless to him.
In a lot of families where both parents work, say they're both working 40-60 hours a week, who's doing all the work when they get home? do they split the work at home or is one person doing more of the day to day? There are a lot of families out there where both parents are working full time jobs and the mothers are still having to do all the child care, all the laundry, all the cleaning, and then the dad mows the lawn every other week. If she tries to ask him to make a meal or do the laundry, the dishes, clean the living room, does he do it? Or does he say "but you do it so much better, honey" "I don't know how to do it" "I don't know where you keep the supplies" Like, dude, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to make boxed mac and cheese. You don't need a chemistry degree to use soap and water. Grown men claiming they don't have basic skills every adult should have is called weaponized incompetence. Men who use this tactic will purposefully do bad jobs at household tasks so that their wives will never ask them to do it again.
LOVED how quickly you picked up on everything! Its really refreshing and worth a subscribe.
If you want to dive into a couple similar songs, you should watch "Same old Energy" and "Burn Your Village" by KiKi Rockwell. I would recommend you watch them in that order because the videos are linked, even if the songs don't have that specific of a link, the videos do.
24/7 baby machine = we have to have all these babies. We don't get a choice anymore even if it's to save our own life. We're just baby machines and servants. I don't want that for my daughter. I won't always be here to fight for her. Vote BLUE. 💙
As someone who doesn’t suffer this lifestyle, I can still relate. The line “nymph then a virgin”. I feel like most women have experienced this. We get called a sl*t for sleeping with someone and for NOT sleeping with someone. We get pressured into sleeping with someone under threats of them leaving, and then told we are loose and not marriage material. It’s just such a sad experience.
It really does feel like Paris Paloma was haunted by multiple generations of women from tough situations and created a perfect distillation of what women go through. This song would be just as relevant in the Great depression, pioneer era, and back. And its great musically!
Has anyone notice the reference to the story of Hades and Persephone? At the end of the music video, she's eats pomegranate which references of when Persephone eats anything at hades table, she is doomed to live with him in the underworld for eternity.
It´s not an act of love if you make her!
every. man. alive. should. be. forced. to. watch. and. understand. this. video. and. SONG.! ASAP
Unfortunately this is the reality of a whole lot of women in the USA
Reality of women all over the world*
@@gemini2119Thank you
@@gemini2119particularly (although not exclusively) in the global south.
A big part of this song is really more symbolic for the suffering women were facing for so long as domestic slaves. And I think the personal part of it is this frustration that even with our freedom, so many of us still become trapped by this aweful system to this day. You are socially expected role wise for domestic servitude of a man as a young girl and I think especially the part she talks about her hypothetical daughter is noting how she struggles with the idea of having a daughter being forced into the same situation if not by her then by the system and it's indoctrination of what a woman is and should be. Not to mention as well being so attracted to men while all of the experiences that she had with them were causing her this terrible pain. Like a dog that loves to have a human be their companion but keeps having every single human abuse them instead of loving them back.
Especially the part with the kids joining the chorus too seems particularily important since women were back in the day considered stuck in perpetual childhood and often equated to be as intelligent as children to justify the lack of freedom women were forced into. Not to mention also the implication of girl after girl being set up for the same fate over and over. Making children sing is so powerful cause it shows the innate cruelty of such a forced subordination of all female human beings. Of forcing every individual female child in this song into the same slavery that degrades, torments and destroys them over time. But that is not a fantasy that has been our reality for most of our known history. Wich is what makes it so incredibly emotionally taxxing to listen to.
I think the song couldn't be more relevant especially now where women's rights are also being attacked again by the laws. The song is essentially saying "I am tired of expecting love and getting nothing but torture. and that is a feeling so many women experience even now. because of what the patriarchy has done to men and women. making them hurt each other over and over under the guise of "love".
This is the best reaction to this song that I've seen 🙌
I don’t think you’re reaching with that last point. It’s an incomplete sentence for a reason… I think you were spot on
You should react to burn your village by kiki rockwell. It's a really good song