MOST IMPORTANT Thing Your Husband NEEDS From You! - Marriage Advice
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MOST IMPORTANT Thing Your Husband NEEDS From You! - Marriage Advice
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Speaker: Sheikh Dr. Yasir Qadhi
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How ro make a husband understand that u want some of his quality time where u can talk n sit not just the time when husband is sleepy n comes to the room.how to make him feel that ur needs r also of importance especially when living in joint-family😢😢😢 it breaks the wifes heart n self confidence n nearly everything to be treated like that after all this when the wife asks for it..how do u expect to keep the nice femine tone.?????things go chaos n a fight takes place.plz help
Please make reminders like husband and wife
The Daily Reminder I would totally follow this, thank you so much
I just wanted to ask for it but alhamdoullilah for the good idea
The Daily Reminder ujjjoo
My husband was late today. Before i listemed to this lecture i texted him sarcastically that whether he was planning to come to home or not (he usually is always on time) he did not reply. Luckily i came across this video while surfing, after listning to it i texted him i havent taken dinner yet. I am still waiting for you. Will u come or u will get late . He replied me right away that he is done with his work he is about to leave for home.
Thanks for highlighting this issue. I never realised i do this mistake so frequently untill i watched this video. Jazak Allah o khairan
anashia aftab haha clever wife
I respect you so much may Allah bless you always
Hahahahha good
anashia aftab
wooooow what a huuuuuge deal, ur husband is weak af, like what’s so wrong with asking that first question?
I love my husband. I always interfere and he never tells me off he listens and mutually respects me for having an opinion. If I’m wrong he will explain why I’m wrong and why I should drop that thought. I’m so happy I don’t have to tip toe around him Alhumdholillah. Allah swt give my husband a long healthy happy life and may he always find success and may our love for each other grow even more as we get older, ameen.
"I always interfere"
You shouldn't. It's going to drain his patience one day and may result in something worse. please be more thoughtful
@@shadowstorm5261 ur right
This is how it should be, but muslim men are brainwashed into thinking that keep ur wives equivalent to slaves simply because of this hadith.
Ameen
You are very very lucky to have husband understanding you alhamdulillah alhamdulillah alhamdulillah allah ka shukr for blessings you have. Many girls don't have so caring life partner in life .
Every one is looking to marry a good person but no one is trying to be a good person
True
So true
not no one but very few people yes.
True
👍
What husband's need from their wives
1. Respect your husband's knowledge and judgement.
2. Let the husband make his mistake, and make him learn from his mistake.
3. Trust his capabilities.
4. Never make fun of him but praise him.
A person with more knowledge, he will have less ego.
The lesser the knowledge, the more the ego.
Mutual respect is the answer to a long lasting marriage, inshaAllah.
rozita haroun knowledge is power lol
True
Knowledge and ego can go hand in hand. You mean wisdom. Wise men don't have fragile egos.
rozita ha
Beautiful teaching. Mashallah very good teaching
I am Christian, and engaged to a Muslim man. We are both Lebanese, and so in-love. I’ve been wanting to get to know more about his religion, by all respect. I am so happy and proud for those teachings... it brings tears to my eyes. The love and faith is so powerful mashallah. Thank you so much for those teachings of the truth. May God keep it coming inshallah. This needs to be shared.
Please.. If you see my message..
Try to reply mi..
Why don't you convert.. Please???
The message is clear you just need to open your eyes and heart to absorb the truth
@@Gaza_256. you shouldn't beg people to convert they'll do it on their own
Thank you Stephanie for your note. You will be a blessing to your fiancee and future husband. Your husband will be lucky to have you in his life.
@@madisondavis8906 Very True My Sister, We Only Convey the Message.
I will respect my husband inshallah ❤
May he give you the love and caring and the respect you deserve in return
Mashallah
May Allah bless sisters like you and guide our sisters who have sadly became like those kaafir feminists, hating men and not wanting to compromise with them at all.
“You took a knife and you stabbed him in his heart!” 😭😭😭😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 men are sure babies
I agree that phrasing and tones are important. But there should be an equal love and respect in ANY relationship, not just romantic. I should not be scared to tell my husband if we are going the wrong way. That is not a marriage, that is a dictatorship. I have to pretend weakness to build his ego, when I can do something myself. I am not looking for a savior, I can provide for myself. I want a partner that removes the burdens of being alone, not add stress because I have to suppress who I am. If we don't communicate effectively then he is not the man Allah selected for me.
Halima B alhamdulilah for you. Wish you the best in yo life.
Smart reply cause I was thinking the same thing...
Halima B I agree
I was thinking the same thing!
I totally agree
Some men need guidance and are in fact not very wise. I've been married 10 years, it works because we respect and value each others opinions and counsel.
Dont argue with your husband, he is the head of the house and you should listen to him as long as whatever he is doing is from the teachings of islam and is halal.
@@muhammad.zeeshanuddin1935 Not arguing, but rather come to terms. Both need to express their opinion but out of respect and love.
@@muhammad.zeeshanuddin1935 the husband can't go against the wife also.
@@muhammad.zeeshanuddin1935
It's their choice and their life, it's none of your concern besides, most men nowadays have gone corrupt :)
The video is not saying put duct tape on your mouth and never express yourself. It is just saying that you should respect your husbands choice and have confidence in them. You should let him learn from his mistakes more than simply telling him what to do like his mother would. I don’t know about you, but sometimes making mistakes can be fun (I’m talking about little ones like the wrong turn during driving lol). We’re human after all. But Alhamdulillah congratulations on 10 years of marriage.
I realized moments when i disrespect my husband, im glad i saw this video and make me understand my husband clearly, im gonna be watching most of your videos for my self growth and making my family stronger
Sisters like you are really helpful for tennage boys like me. I'm only 15 and I'm always excited and motivated to learn things which will make me a good husband and I rarely watch any videos regarding husband's rights. I mostly watch about the rights of a wife because I want to make sure that when I'm about to be married, I know my responsibilities but when I see sisters who are so toxic and not wanting to compromise at all in the comment section of videos like these, I just feel like what's the point of my efforts If my wife will also be like this. May Allah protect me from such Muslim feminists. But then sisters like you remind me that good and sincere sisters also exist.
Respect is everyone needs.
Even Hitler?
@@razer0072073 😂
No
@@umar9174 right
@@razer0072073 seriously you know she meant women. And of course Hitler we we know was very arrogant and full of ego I am sure it was his need too not sure if he got the true respect but here we are talking about men and women 😊
If I see he’s doing something wrong it’s better to point it out casually than to make his waste his time or energy. Smart men learn from both mistakes AND advice
exactly
exactly
Exactly. I was thinking the same thing. I'm sure women are capable of pointing out wrong exits without emasculating her husband. Surely, men were not such delicate little flowers! I'm sure they'd appreciate the time saved. Especially if there's traffic, etc.
@@maryahkee3402 Are you stupid? Comparing Jihad against Roman and what not to civil war? Give me an example of a single successful revolution? Besides maybe America which only got away with it because they were all the way around the world.
sis unsubs this channel.... south asian ppl think like tht...thy degrading islam n quran....we only bow down to allah
as a wife I do behave the same with my husband trust me my life is colourful with the god grace and my husband cares me a lot.I advice every couple to have understanding between them
most of the comments are talkin about expectations than one‘s responsibilities. if you wanna be loved, you have to love first, wanna be respected, respect first. wanna have the best husband, be the best wife. same goes for the man. people should focus on our responsibilities than focus on expectations such as i hope my partner is like this and that. we rather should think like „i should be good like this and that to my partner so she/he would do the same to me“. better dont have any expectations at all. cause you will be disappointed, but you will never be disappointed if you put your expectations to Allah since he‘s the best Planer. may Allah makes it easier for us to be a better person day by day
Very good advice. May Allah bless you.
I'm a teenage and unmarried girl and very surprised with this lecture .keep posting this kind of lectures. Goodwork😊
unsubs this channel...sis its wrng hadith...
Please don’t listen to those biased advise. Be a strong independent woman and increase your knowledge of the deen through authentic means before marriage
@@SoAS26 why is this biased .seems logically correct
@@SoAS26 the constant nagging will break marriage
@@SoAS26 fool
The problem is that men take advantage and now think the wife is not even worth listening to.
Us woman also want a sense of respect. We also are intelligent humans.
I understand this video. Unfortunately it is hard when a man does the exact opposite in return
hajer haha no no, women in todays world have too much western crap in their head and behave un-islamically.
Lujaris Malsi
Men too.
• a l i m a • you married?
Lujaris Malsi
Are you?
• a l i m a • lol no🙁 got too much western crap in my head 😖 but in the process of correction
In videos like this, they forget to mention that the Prophets and their companions were men who were WORTHY of respect! They were men who behaved in a respectful manner! Men who want to be respected, have to demonstrate their worth first. And giving them respect means that the wife in turn expects respect, if she is respectful as well! Islam doesn't promote respect for one gender only. First try to be good decent human beings, then focus on being good wives and husbands. People can't even get the basics right. And Muslims in patriarchal societies, don't raise their sons according to Islam to begin with.
Good Muslim men aren't abusive, controlling or condescending.
Aisha I love this comment. So true
Read on life of asma bint abi bakr daughter of abu bakr and her marriage... She was married with one of the 10th who were promised jannah from the blessed mouth of rasool Allah Sal Allaho aleyhi wsallam
Seek knowledge before opening your mouths. There is a reason why rasool Allah sal Allaho aleyhi wsallam said close to meaning there will be more women in hellfire than men
Aisha said nothing but true but truth hurts...most muslims men are nothing this days thats why the ummah is disgraced!
So truee
Well said.
I love traditional masculinity, BUT: when i told him i was translating a book of Bengali poetry from English, he started laughing at me. "U cant be capable of that, u need a poetry mind for that". It hurt me so deeply, i will never forget. I finished the book and one of my friends, who is an editor, helped me publish it. He never read it. I always write short stories and collect them in a new book: he never asked what i am writing about, not a single time. I thought a man would love to know the deep thoughts of his wife, what her concerns about the world r, what is having such impacts on her...that she needs to write about. Its a way of discovering ur partner, right? He never bothered with one question. I am calling him myself "baba", like our daughters, i am like his little girl, he is melting then. He needs be babied when he is sick, i do it. He is engineer and manager, has stress at work, i always comfort him, always calming him down so that he could deal properly with his superior. About his work, yes, he always talks to me. He WANTS me to be like a wife, mother, sister, FRIEND... and i am all that, he says it himself. But when it comes to MY needs, everything becomes just so...formal. For long years i have told myself he is just too stressed, a lot of responsibilities, as many members of the family hang on him as well. But i KNOW that the man who loves his wife can fix her back with only one word, its not what u say, its HOW u say. He has 6 sisters, two of them love me crazily, i think this is why i am still a part of this family, plus my daughters, obviously, but my daughters r my own family. I am caring, i am funny, i am peaceful, he feels like the man of the men when he goes for two hours with his friends for a coffee in weekend and his wife doesnt freak him out with phone calls, its him who calls:"I am coming, need anything from outside?", while the friends's wives had called ten times to complain they were left alone for too long. He is happy because i am convenient. But he doesnt love me. So, its a two ways Street, people! Remember that!
3 years late, but, have you tried telling him this? In cases such as these, the husband isn't even aware that there is an issue. It's like having a mother/wife/friend who does it all without complaining. You begin to take it for granted. Doesn't mean you don't love the person. You just don't feel the need to do anything extra. You're perfectly content with the status quo. That's probably how it is for your husband! But men can be taught how to treat you! Respectfully, kindly, and without backtracking, teach him how you want to be treated!
This is soo painful to read and May Allah ease your affair... I wish you speak to him about it and see if any changes for good... Sure as someone here already said, he may not be aware of what he's doing and may be open to fix this... Have a good life sister... May Allahh Bless You..
I knew the comment section was going to be trash. If you're Muslim and you don't agree with the way Allah created both male and female then something is clearly wrong with you. You think there's fault in Allah's wisdom. Husbands have SO MANY rights over their wives, that's just an Islamic ruling that you have to abide by. And in return, wives have their rights over men so STOP COMPLAINING. Stop comparing yourself to a man. He's a whole different gender. He thinks differently, acts differently, and has a completely different mindset. Stop thinking you're oppressed and stop thinking like a feminist. That's a western, non Muslim mentality that shouldn't be mixed up with the teachings of Islam. Women complain way too much and find fault in everything a guy does. Look at your faults first and fix them.
MASHA Allah.... I love to hear this... as a newbie wifey here, I will keep this in mind to take care and respect my husband.. Alhamdulillah
well said!
Some of you critizes these methods but I have to say that it works. A few years ago I was acting like his mother constantly telling him stuff to do showing no respect allthough he wasnt showing respect to me also to begin with, but thats not how you win!! Then I studied the Islam more and it gave me sooomuch peace in my heart and dua and somehow ryour husband can feel when you are calm. I did these things You cantalk calm about problems but not constantly talking about the negative. You first have to respect and be confident, eaven if hes not treating you right, it can change. But you have to use your mind if somebody is abusing you hitting you and youre in danger offcourse it may be the best option for you to leave and in that case these methods wont work! But Allah gave you brains so start using them.
Alhamdulilah deep sister
That's neeed alot of courage and you have to believe in yourself that you are not less then anyonr neither grater. We all are equal but few girls become trouble for their own self they damage the relation by keep saying and repeating the same thing just to seek their importance, well if one is important then you can never be replaced so don't worry, you can't tie anyone, you will have the relation as you treat the relation .
My husbands a bloody idiot. Makes the same mistakes repeatedly. The first few times i let him. After a long time i was over it. I set him straight. Im not a damsel. I dont need a husband to rescue me. I rescue myself from bad situations. I rescue my husband from everything. Hes a ridiculous man but he has the biggest heart in the world. I didnt marry him for his rescuing abilities or because of his intelligence. I married him because he is everything i am not. He is kind. He is gentle. He is caring and loving. I am practical. I am assertive. I am smarter than him. I am everything he is not. Together it feels like we are one whole person. People used him, walked all over him. Took his kindness for weakness. He could never stand up for himself. I was always ready to fight, ready to stand up for my rights and i never let anyone walk over me. When we got together I fought for him. Showed him he was worthy of being respected and that he was worth fighting for. He put a gentle arm on my shoulder whenever i got into situations that i believed required me to fight back. He let me know that i didnt have to fight all the time. That it was ok to let smaller things pass because i wasnt alone anymore. Because he would be right there with me throughout it all. If i held back when i became his wife and trusted his judgement and stroked his ego we would be raising a family in the spare room of someone elses home. We would not be able to enjoy the life we are blessed to have today. As he says, i am the fire that drives him to be the best version of himself. I never let him fall. I never let him break. Thats how i respect my husband. I help him acknowledge his weaknesses and then i help him strengthen them. That to me is how you let a man be a man. That is how he became a strong man. Thats the kind of man i need. Playing to his ego will only give him a false sense of masculinity. Id rather my man have a huge ego with the proof to back it up
Ann-marie Meurs Thank god somebody said this! You are spot on sis! Boys become men with a strong wife by their side as equals. Not a whimsical, damsel in distress strolling behind him on a leash!
Ann-marie Meurs i would rather sum it up than pass your comment: if this is what happened between you and your husband, Thank GOD fo it you just accomplished a successful marriage and thank GOD for that you know it when things have changed in each one of you and may GOD keep on this state and give you even more better, when it comes to a man ego take note that it is been said a man ego not a boy ego this is what i wanted to tell you and you can tell by experience a man is always a boy until he grow up at any age and you've witnessed
Ann-marie Meurs well done woman 👍🏼
This is really powerful
Ann-marie Meurs well said Ann. You wrote the points that arise in my mind.
I’m one who accepts others if they are right or if have better decisions. I will be only proud of my wife if she had better abilities that me. :)
All men are not same.
Every woman wants to give respect n love to thier husbands. The thing is, it's a tow way process!
Being a partner one will left behind if it's not coming from both sides.
May Allah protect every marriage and give Fazal n barakah to it! Ameen
Respect should be earned. Most men are child like, they don't behave like a responsible adult . Now women are the care taker by nature. What would you do when a child does something wrong, you would correct them. If men are mentioned to be the qawaam then they should behave like one. No offense
Naz Kash don’t say most men, you’ve never meet most men of responsibilities, you just meet few and unfortunately you’ve meet those you think are irresponsible men.
Naz Kash I think ur a girl, makes sense why you are doing this. It’s true, men just want respect. Source: I have penis.
Zain Khan By care taker she means that women are nurturing, that's why we are the ones to give birth and look after children and nurture them. She is not being unthankful to her father so don't make assumptions like that. Women don't think all men are evil and that is not what she is saying either. She is saying if a man makes a mistake then you should correct them which is true. Correcting someone is not disrespecting them, it is helping them learn which they should appreciate. Women also expect respect, love, loyalty and honesty from men and that is what they deserve as the Prophet pbuh always said to respect your wives. Your wife is not your slave, you need to treat her as you would expect to be treated otherwise she will not be happy and you will not have a happy marriage. And many women also work, it is not just men that earn and reding your comment it doesn't sound like you will be making you wife's life better because that can only be done if you respect her. And also having a big ego is disliked in Islam so don't be too proud of it.
Zain Khan
Don't paint all women as the same. We have muslim men that are not righteous either and muslim women that aren't righteous. Respect are earned not given when they don't deserve it, same goes for both men and women. Marriage is an honest relationship not some sugar-coated relationship when you aren't comfortable with something.
Naz Kash
He explained it totally different
For this question I would suggest please Listen Zakir Naik about this ...qawaam
I'm a Christian married to a Christian man .. this was really encouraging 👏 thank you
Accept islam so you attain peace in this world and the next
this is the first long term realtionships I am in in my life, and started to feel like I need to change my attitude toward him. he's my man, not my friend. I started to know that and came here, he said everything I thought would be true. Ma sha alla brother, thanks for your words
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everyone is different. im a woman and want respect more than love and emotions. respect is also a 2 way street
When paying bills, is it also a 2 way street?
Toor Khan of course it is. usually l as a woman pay more than my share and thats the common female experience these days
Als yes lm a woman and my man respecting me is much much more important to me than him loving me. l can live without love. l will not live without respect which l am due
@@ashsqx3246 90% its men who pay, there are exceptions.
Toor Khan bullshit. lol dont make up imaginary stats.
Totally agreed. I learnt not to control my husband n from then on he never does anything to hurt me even unintentionally, when i stopped nagging my married life underwent a pleasant change. 1st point is the most important, trust the ability n decision of ur husband, he can't progress without it in life n he will love u more.
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Honestly guys with fragile ego get mad at those things mentioned in the video. My husband and I joke around each other. He wont get mad if he took a wrong turn that I said not to after deciphering the GPS. In fact I as a woman have more ego than him. Its not fair to categorize all men and women in 1 category
Als sister the speaker stressed on respect. .Ma sha allah It's good to hear about your mutual understanding but I am sure that the respect given to each other is vice versa. . This video is basically for relationships in trouble mostly due to a lady's ill behaviour with her husband.
everyone has an ego and egos are fragile.
Lol if I wouldn’t correct my husband when he drives we would never reach our destinations. I guess it depends on each person, you can’t generalize like that. My husband expects me to correct him if he’s wrong and that’s normal? As a married couple we are equals and you don’t just let your other half do something stupid so you don’t hurt their ego? I mean, if his ego is that big, that is HIS problem and it doesn’t mean you have to just sit silent and accept. That’s just my opinion.
Exactly, that is how it is supposed to be. the video is bs and jsut seems like the speaker's own opinions and desires.
I tell my husband where to go and which way would be easier and he doesn’t mind. One time i said im sorry i m use to telling u which way to go . And he said he doesnt mind at all
@@aqsazeeshan795 - He said that to shut you up.
@@enniswhalen2428 dont assume things u dont know.
I wish I could get this lecture before then many of my marital problems wouldn't arrive. Now I could find out my faults. And belive me this lecture made me cry. I'll try my best to improve myself and to bring him back in my life in full. Thanks a lot sheikh for this eye opening lecture.Please pray for my success.
How did it go?
I think it's my 6th or 7th time I am listening to this talk throughout these two years.I forget about this after a few months pass. To remind myself how men are like I listen to it again n again .It truly helps .As a woman you don't know how men feel so it's good to have such reminders . JazakAllah
same thing bro. wives dont want a father. so dont boss us around
Als sister someone has to be in charge. Either it's the male or female. We must go back to the history and understand who is better in charge or must refer to the quran.
Gaurav Bhatia its not a damn army. Its a relationship. In practical life, men will be charge of some things and women will be charge of other things. Its how life works. No one person holds or should hold ALL the power. Its a balance
Als it's good if it's a mutual balance ☺
Ok then go earn for yourselg if you dont want a "father", lol you only want rights and dont care about your responsibilities and restrictions.
Abdul Raffay sure as long as you cook and clean after yourself Lol. Just FYI I do hv my own money and investment outside my husbands income.
Despite not being married, i found this advice to be pretty valuable... So to keep respecting the husband to have your husband keep taking care of you......
I am 17
I don't like to tell my country, but i can tell it's a Muslim dominated country
Wa alaikumassalam
Molly Sandera hii molly u r very right..
I also got from this that Respecting the husband he will respect u as well also makes for a respectful environment and tranquility in ur marriage and women can have rights and opinions but we dont have to handle things like we are in competition to wear the pants ur suppose to be a team anyway I'm getting wordy
Men and women both want love, cherishment, and respect all together. This video is a means of describing those that deflate the male ego. And do not think the male ego is thinking he is better than everyone. The male ego in this instance is the pride he has for knowing he is capable for giving his wife and family everything they need.
Been looking for this comment. THANK YOU!
I must confess sometimes we do the wrong thing and never admit to it...have been having issues in my relationship for a while now I complained I don't love him anymore because he has changed from the person he used to be but after watching this video I realised I'm the one who has changed...i don't expect a love from a man I have disrespected so much..so this is it?thank you for the message now I'm going to fix my home
But men do not acknowledge those wives that respect them. I've seen living and dead examples. They flirt with other women because they know their wives would trust and respect them no matter what or they keep making other mistakes because she is so pious that she will have to respect him in any case. Men do not give back. There are some men that make huge life changing mistakes and you expect the wife to support his stupidity. These men do not learn from their mistakes. No man wants a motherly figure? Hahaha I know men who married women stating the only reason being characteristically similar to their mothers. It's extremely difficult to trust a fool who can't decide anything right for himself let alone for others. And a person can be successful only when he gains a control over his ego. How can a sane woman encourage him to nurture one? Love and admiration are not the things women want. Wow, to talk to your husband now we need to prepare a speech. What's wrong with you? Is he going to do the same? Shouldn't both be comfortable with each other? He is a husband not a master! THE ONLY WAY TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS RELIGION APART IS TO APPRECIATE EVERY LITTLE GOOD OR KIND ACT AND BE THANKFUL TO EACH OTHER.
fathima nihal my god you nailed it awesome love you dear thanks a lot reading this I feel better till then I was feeling like I am a slave.
I used to respect and admire my husband's knowledge and wisdom. However, as I am far less educated than him and younger too so he always less valued my comments. So the reality stands now I don't respect his opinion anymore. I never heard his encouragement! However, I agree some points of this video not all of them. Both wife and husband need MUTUAL RESPECT for each other. Be like our Prophet Muhammad and his wives.
Ns Poly most men take their wives for granted. A pious wife is Allah's gift but they don't see her that way. I understood this at a younger age that's why since the day I got married I maintained my respect and Alhamdulillah it has worked well for me.
There is a phrase that states action speaks louder then words your comments clearly states your personality human beings do make mistakes but that doesnt mean you tell them fool or something there is a time that you should sit togather like mature adults and remind each other about their mistakes in a respectfull manner.
fathima nihal
You're totally right
“If you want a man be feminine.act feminine” this quote alone if practiced by a wife will return a lot of love from husband
with due respect. men were supposed to look after women they were supposed to provide for them but nowadays we have to go out to work and provide for ourselves. buy our own clothes we pay the bills we pay the mortgages. we look after the children. we cook . we clean . we go out to earn money . and then we've to worship them as well . while they only care about their family back home.
This is beautiful. He said that you can point out wrong doings of your husband and its not what you say but how you say it. I dont feel as thou damsels are weak but a women being variable (open to show thous sensitive emotions) moment.
Masha allah the best,amazing,super dooper lecture i have ever heard.... I didn't know about all of these about a man .... Insha allah when I'll get marry i will be that women whom my husband wants...
onisha khan_Art masha allah. May allah guide us..
Gaurav Bhatia Ameen :D
Alien_Dreams Art are you single?
Guys please pray for me to have a husband too I really want to get married and complete half of my deen I don't want to date and be in a haram relationship anymore I just want a husband 😢
I will never forget this advice. Thank you so much
Mashallah, a wonderful lecture.Useful for all the married and wives-to-be.Can be heard numerous times just as a reminder.
Thanks for putting up this stuff, so much of learning. Hope to become the best wife to my husband.. Ameen!
The fact that when women are being adviced, instead of accepting it and relfecting upon it, they have the "WELL WHAT ABOUT MEN!" mentality. Subehanallah...
Ik it is stupid
Respect works both ways
Yeah but the video is talking about the guys, when he did say it is not both ways.
In sha allah When i become a wife I will take notes from this video and try to act like this❤️ alhamdullih thx for this video brother!!
Ameen
Man you're a knock out wife material
MashaAllah, I'm going to watch this everytime.. for my future husband inshaAllah 😊
Amaima Mamaluba are you still single 😊?
I wish my wife would have listen such like this Khudba
Nuridin Omar watch it together with her akhi insAllah. May Allah guide us all to the right path. Allahumma Amin
Send he she will listen
Shamsa Mohamed good idea thank you sis. Please kindly pray for her
Star00Maker thanks God bless you
I love how the women hate this video but love the one for what the husband has to do.
Excellent advice if you listen to this with a open heart and fear Allah.
I cried.
Because of the calmness and comfort i found.
Everything this Muslim Scholar said is Right and Correct......women have to Respect Man, there is no other way.....btw i am NOT a Muslim but i know a lot about Islam. I will follow this advise.
Sophia Anderson ahhh so you can freeload, I see
May Allah fill your relationship with happiness ❤️
really lolzzz i wish u be my wife then if u understood this
y don,t u marry me then m single
Sophia Anderson You are a smart girl. Some of us women want a good man but don’t want to give .
Ego is such a small thing compared to love...honestly. If someone gets offended by the slightest constructive criticism then that kind of person gradually becomes toxic to be around. Trust on judgement should be mutual. Both partners should know to respect each others judgements and not let ego get in the way. Respect doesn't mean following someone blindly or agreeing to every stupid decision.
Admittedly, I am terrible about this and have been struggling to correct it. I wasn’t like this at all for the first little bit. But I have grown more and more impatient and angry over the years due to the harshness of his speech sometimes (not towards me but others) and him never taking responsibility for his mistakes.
Whoever is reading this, please kindly make dua for me that my anger goes away and my patience is increased abundantly. I want to please Allah. 🥺
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@@peanutbutter-bananashake.. Thank you! Will be watching those videos. ❤️
Ma shaa Allah beautiful advice .. when the time comes that i’ll get married i’ll do this to my husband ❤️ in shaa Allah
In Shaa Allah! May Allah give you a pious husband.
In sha Allah ...me too
Mhaafra Khaira until then, I suggest you try self-defence on that pink Teddy 🐻 one day you may also need to put your future spouse in check 😁
Mhaafra Khaira o8a4bzd
I tried and learnt that not every husband appreciates a humble wife who wants to enter jannah through him.
this lesson has opened my mind so much a I will follow this advice
And what a woman needs from a Man who become beast
+Mohsin Ali
Divorce
Dont, this video is wrong u r your only leader and u dont need anyone to control u. we live in the 21 century women are independent and have jobs and can offer for themselves. DONT EVEN STAY QUIET IF A MAN OR ANYONE DOES A MISTAKE. Islam advises us to help others if they do mistakes. WOMEN are much more valuable than that and me and u as women should educate sexist men like these^^ and prove to them how capable we are. we shouldnt be mislead by society's views we should follow islam and this isnt what islam asks us to do.
One should never ignore ones God-given intelligent in order to make a man feel good about himself. We are suppose to correct each other when in error, and respect goes both ways. We are equals, we all have egos and prides and we are all valuable.
Subhanallaah, this is the WORST comment I have ever seen on the Internet in my entire life. The young lady didn't disclose anything about her husband or her relationship, he got something useful out of this lecture that she felt would improve her relationship. Yet, here you are assuming stuff, if she was being abused she wouldn't have made this comment, besides by saying you are your only leader is PURE SHIRK, return to Allaah.
Respect should work both ways
Inshah Allah I will try to adopt this in My Married life with My husband. Thank you so much for this advice
It is so simple , A Man's ego is delicate when he makes a mistake try to correct him in a manner that doesn't hurt his ego however u see fit. Just dont hurt his ego. It is like a game really "try and get what u want without hurting his ego" bonus points if u can boost his ego (he will love u even more for it ).
There is a saying in my country : a smart women can control a man without him even knowing. Act vulnerable so he can protect. Both u and ur husband know u can open that jar of pickles but asked for his help just to boost that ego . U can call a Plummer to fix the sink but ask ur husband to fix it instead again boost the ego .say the shopping bags r heavy. He will carry them Now u become his source for happiness he feels appreciated valued in ur eyes and that all he wanted . JUST LET HIM.
Be his queen not his partener. Let him be ur knight not ur friend
Ur appreciation is what he looks for. Give him that and he will come back for more.( it is not a drug or anything lol it ia very healthy)
I don’t need to be his mom to tell if he’s wrong lol I’ll tell him the truth no matter what😏
Gewoon [Gabadhaas] Toch being his cousin is fine too.
I think that's the problem nowadays with us women. We want to get our authority and we have got this westernized mindset😔unfortunately
Sana you are genuinely genius!
It’s Somali Not Somalian
Are you single
@@s-e1901 It's the western feminist propaganda that dripped drip by drip trough movies and other media in the minds of the muslims, this is more effective than wars in the middle-east.
To be honest i think this only works with men who are on the straight path of the deen and know their duty and privilege as a husband. Cause unfortunatly there are alot of men who think they are the king of the house yet they act like a irresponsible child. They want the respect but dont act upon a leader of the house. But for the man who do, this is a great video💕
This is such a wonderful straightforward lesson... it is opening my eyes to understand your faith...🙏
Thank God my Dad's thinking is not as egotistical as this man! Ma sha Allah dad knows he's just as human as a female not above or below. He is so humble, he knows his directions are bad so he makes either me (his daughter) or mum sit next to him to guide him especially for new trips. He always accepts his mistakes and we help him with directions with no trouble. I get what the sheikh was trying to say, but I'm sorry, he took it too far. I am disgusted by the wrong he preached here, even my dad said; males are already more aggressive, angry, less remorseful, egotistical than women (look at jails) and to preach on large scale to turn a blind eye to mistakes of male is non-Islamic. Telling women to stroke the male ego when he's wrong!? Allah will serve the same punishment regardless of male or female, no concessions Thank you! So who are you to do such a bias?
The sheikh should really not give in to his personal agenda and be careful when preaching.
The Husband is In More Power over the wife over certain issues such as where to buy a house or where the kids are going to school or what devices and gadgets will be allowed in the house and so on. His decision will be taken into consideration over these such big issues. And the remaining less important things such as what to cook or so will be discussed as by the family. You cannot dent that the man is Qawwaam over the women, Allah says it. No matter what anyone’s father thinks(pls don’t take that the wrong way, I respect your father)Allah said it.
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Shumus Ali Raja lmao rightfully said. Honestly what happened to the sisters nowadays?
@@masrurazmal8235 western feminism in work
In this video only the first example was a bit too dumb. But the message of this video was to choose words wisely. Its the same in exchange, men have to talk to their wives in a respectful way without making them look dumb. Or their wives will just feel sad about the marriage. No woman on earth wants to be treated like an ignorant one who doesnt understand things. If the man gives her that feeling she will be hurt. Maybe you didnt watch the full video, its more about choosing the right words. Dont make fun of your husband or wife, treat them with respect and its all good.
Sad to see various women are putting negative comments...
May Allah give them hidayat
Subhanullah so many women in the comments complaining. This is the first time I’ve see a video talking about a woman’s duty to her husband. Just learn from it and do your best for the sake of Allah. Not all men are great but we do what we do for Allah not for our spouse’s sake.
For all those ladies who say this video is dumb, please don't because there are ahadith in it, i watched this video 2 days ago but long before i have read all these points from psycological point of view. Believe it or not they work, it's my personal experience because I literally try to make my marriage happier every passing moment. Don't take men ego as pride here, ego means self esteem here obviously. Men are qawwam, ALLAH says. No argument. It's so easy for a woman to enter jannah if she offers obligations n her husband is happy with her. This video is meant to make ur life happy, not to make u feel inferior or something. It tells the solution to many problems n of course every pious wife wants to make her husband happy n make him love her.. don't compare urself with men. U r made different n u can do everything a men can't do. Dont underestimate ur worth n make ur husband feel like a king if u want to be her queen.
he should just have fixed the damn faucet or at least inform the wife of when he’ll get it fixed so she’ll be assured that he’ll get around to fixing it. don’t make a mistake and expect to be cradled because of it
Zie IsTheBomb oh I love this reply. When the speaker was talking of why the husband hasn't fixed the faucet, his "other priorities" in my head I was just thinking: or he just forgot and he constantly needs reminding or it will never get done.
I absolutely detest nagging but I will have to so it if the husband cannot do what he says he will do, or at least tell me when to expect it to be done by. You can't just leave issues on the hands of a man indefinitely just because he said he will do it when his track record shows that he may forget.
@@ittybawa hahaha I see myself in this comment plus I'm too lazy if I don't forget it hahaha
Thanks for this video...bcoz of this listen I changed my behaviour towards my husband
no no dont do tht...thy misguide u...u can teach ur husband if thy do wrng...if ur hubby do robb,rape,extra marital affair...will u trying to say let tht happen tht...?? sis unsubs this channel... dr. zakir naik also said tht....thy r much conservative ..thts y thy r talking like tht...our god nt like tht....thy degrading islam n alllah...
Ladies it’s not you fault you married a shaytan. Some men don’t value women at all. Physical abuse and mental disorder is a thing which you witness from some men after marriage. Stay strong and Be patient. Allah is with everyone of you always.
And the 1.5k dislike from the ladies who doesn’t like to wash the dishes
I totally agree with you sir. Absolutely true. No harm in letting your EGO aside. Total benefit. 100 % turns back to women in form of love.
But the tragedy is that very few of us understand this point in early stages of marriage.
"The ink of the scholar is more sacred than the blood of the martyr."
This video makes me realize how wrong I was many times I treat my husband. Astagfirullahaladzim. May Allah forgive me and show me His guidance
I think he is right. How you would feel if someone is treating you this way like in the examples? Everyone got an ego. And if your loved one is criticising you it hurts. Smart women know how to treat their husbands. There are husbands who you can tell: darling you missed the exit, and he'll say oh thank you I didn't realize. And their are men who try to fix the damn facet, and it works for 2 minutes and a few minutes later it's broken again BUT he is already gone and you can fix it yourself but won't tell him cause he deserves a successfull experience 😊 He is teaching some great simple psychological tricks. Heard and read them before at university.
I always get my mom to calm down and be mad at her for treating my dad with no respect even though its my dad dad did wrong. Thank you for this. Its all about respect. If I have the opportunity again I will say all this to them both.
idk but hearing this the husband seems like a man child u constantly have to be super cautious around, this one sided relationship narrative seems doomed already.
theyve made a video 'what women want from men' if that helps? and I agree he does make the husband sound like a man child! But generally people should be super cautious around others because human beings tend to have feelings and unfortunately in my experience we often forget most about the feelings of those that we live with.
shafaq riaz , the thing is that this actual video is about woman’s responsibilities and I’m 100% sure you can find zillions of the Islamic lectures that teach men about their responsibilities. For example when you attend lessons on biology you can’t be angry because you are not taught astrophysics. Peace to you :)
Shut up, he made a video of what a woman wnats from her husband.
Muhammad.zeeshan Uddin watch ur mouth and just cuz he made a video about women dose not mean hes right in this video
@@e.k874 What do you mean? Why isn't he right. He is teaching the sunnah Islamic way of a relationship so he can't be wrong, unless you're a toxic non muslim femenist.
I thought men arnt allowed to have pride? Or ego? pride is a sin....?
Gulshan Khan 👀☕️🐸
Pride with arrogance is sin. Which means rejecting the truth and looking down on others. Islam encourages to be positive, for example wearing beautiful clothes. The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “No one who has an atom’s-weight of Pride in his heart will enter Paradise.” A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what if a man likes his clothes and his shoes to look good?” He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Allah is Beautiful and loves beauty, Pride means rejecting the truth and looking down on people.” [Sahih Muslim]
Gulshan Khan Yes exactly. This dumb video only teaches how to nurture men's egos which will not be good in the long run because the men will look down on their women and not respect them.
Gulshan Khan
Pride is not a sin. Excessive pride is a sin. Having little bit of pride is normal for every human. But what the speaker said is totally wrong about nurturing men's pride.
Lyszt ok thanks i never ever make comments on youtube this is one of my first comments i just felt i had to say something we have clearly been told the sins to stay away from. I like to live simple and follow the rules if only it was easy for others to do the same
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I am not Muslim however this is good advice. I agree with about 90÷ of the message. There has to be respect,understanding,and compromise on both sides. lots of women are not being brought up to let the husband lead the household.
The exit case happened to us and he didn't listen to me and we end up taking long creepy road like the road of the horror film AXE MASSACRE and he was just laughing at me blaming me by watching horror movie. The point is, I didn't argue with him and yes Everytime we go out my duty is to watch out the radar and the exit
Men have its ego!
Let him make it grow!
Absurd! !
Both men and women must fight it's own ego
Niebla Gp You're right. Men must also be deserving of this respect. Just because he is man doesnt automatic mean he is responsible and intelligent, sorry!
@@slashmary Nope, just shut up
Shut up, you don't understand everything.
@@muhammad.zeeshanuddin1935
Nor do you dumbass, lower your ego.
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All the advice here matched with all the modern day relationship gurus' words
If the husband is of high value and high quality, this video is applies very well for the wives.
The hypocrisy and unfairness is so disgusting. Glad I managed to escape this life.
please all of you write MA SHAA ALLAH SUBHAN ALLAH ALHAMDULILLAH LIKE THIS
this video made me cringe. its nice advice for BOTH MEN AND WOMEN. respecting and having compassion goes both ways.
Als sister, I understand your a little more stronger in your character and may have more man like qualities etc as an individual that is and therefore you demand a little more equality. Your views however are not inline with majority women and even if they are. The fact that majority of men biologically in physical terms are dominant species and mentally have different psychological traits as scientifically proven such as the competitiveness, power desire, jealousy or desire for respect.
Men have been also proven to show more logic, more reasoning and less emotion under pressure. It can be reasonable and logical for men to want to be in charge. That is how men have been Built.
Truth is you can argue this all day everyday with intellect and touches of feminism. But you cannot change the true nature of man nor of the women. I think it’s high time women settled back down to reality of their position in ‘nature’ and nurture and live to accomplish this.
The Quran and sunnah has made it very clear around how men are and how women are. How men should lead and how women should be at home etc.
Ofcourse in today’s society it’s slightly different but the principles and nature side of life has not changed. This is a major reason why divorce rates are up. Women have built strong perceptions and different sociological standings built up from the education and work system that just do not fit with the mans natural position. This applies to the non Muslims too. Men want to be in charge it’s in the nature of most aspects with women being the nurturers and lovers. It’s time to go back to that or face a world of failure.
The examples in the video fail to demonstrate the findings of Quran and sunnah. The examples used were egotistic examples however I believe the sheikh did not want to use true examples in the video which would ignite fury amongst feminists.
Kalel Krypton LOL please do refer me to where the Quran and sunnah say a man should lead and women should be at home.
Kalel Krypton Men and women are different yes. Im not contesting that but each one of us is an individual. We all have different needs . Trust me I tell my husband I want respect and care from him more than lovely words and flowers. Point is this advice is good for both men and women. Respect, compassion are all qualities every human being should have for another.
And yes Im *stronger* in character so to speak. You'll find my ego and pride more hurt than my soft spoken and sensitive husband. I admire his qualities even though they are not hailed in the society as *manly*. We need to get rid of stereotypes and treat everyone as individuals is all Im saying. Everyone has different love languages and needs that are fulfilled in different ways.
As far as emotions and logic goes, Im far more logical than the men in my family. Besides, men get carried away by ego and anger- what the sheikh said. Anger is an emotion too remember that. As well as pride. Emotion that fueled many wars through out history carried out by MEN. Lets just treat people as individuals. screw stereotypes. Get to know your spouse and treat them accordingly.
@@roadtothebeloved4830 Are you actually blind ? Lmao. You think men were not made to lead ? You think women were made to lead ? Lmao.
Even from a biological perspective, women are made to be submissive. Lol, A women is pleasured through penetration !!!!
what? so i cant lead only because of my gender? i love west, so much freedom, too much for islam to take
Sisters he said all the truth but, you should not say ' my husband washed the dishes last year IN PUBLIC if you do that he'll feel embarrassed and Will NEVER DO THE DISHES if he had too much taunting family Trust me
Because whenever someone asked him ' will you come and hang out? On a holiday and he says I am bust today can't come
That someone will make fun of him like "he must be doing the dishes"
* وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ *
The wife has duties and responsibilities the same way a husband has his duties snd responsibilities, if we're going to be looking at our rights as spouses and not our duties as someone's spouse we will only have a miserable marriage life.
I don't understand it when a man or women starts ranting about how the other gender saying this and that and are all the same, when we're all humans and go throught different experiences, the men have experiences that make them more man-like, and women have experiences that make them more woman-like. Find yourself before marriage and don't explode on your spouse everytime they do something wrong but instead praise them when they do something right/good. If you had a single experience with an ex-husband that doesn't mean all men are like him. And if you had a single experience with a ex-wife it also doesn't mean that all women are like her.
We as spouses are there to support each other and not to ridicule them, please understand that even though your spouse may be doing some things wrong, you might as well be doing things in a wrong way. Please choose your spouse correctly and may you have a wonderful life!
Nice video with very useful tips. Jazakumullahukhairan
masha allah..!!
a best lecture
which have taught me a lot..
alhamdhullilah...!!!
may allah give us this all qualities...❤❤❤
Azhar Love alhumduallah
I see so many women acting like they couldn't do ANYTHING to improve in their relationship, but on the videos where it's about what men should do for women, most of them are saying "yes! All men need to see this! May all men learn from this on how to treat women." While that may be true, more women need to admit their faults in relationships and become better. Most women will be the first to say their husbands dont deserve respect and that THEY could be better, when instead, we could just humble ourselves and understand we CAN be better for our husbands. What we put in, we will get out. and if not, it's not the right relationship for you. There is ALWAYS room for improvement. May we ALL humble ourselves, because if we cant stand hearing how women can be better for their husbands, our situations will never improve, and we will never be the best versions of ourselves for Allah swt. Because the moment we fail to accept responsibility for anything while simultaneously generalizing all men into not deserving respect and criticizing them to the max, is the day we go down the path of hypocrisy and falling away from the path of Allah swt. Relationships are equal, and while women do go through abuse with men, there are men who also undergo emotional and mental abuse by a woman which often goes unnoticed. We must see both sides, and understand we ALL have improvement to make. we aren't dead yet, so we have no right to judge others in a way we aren't even judging our own character.
Sad! some women are still arguing with the narrator on comments section 🤦🏽♀️
Thanks so much for this teachings, personally, I can’t wait to get married and apply this advices inshallah 🙏🏽
A/a..
Although I am not married yet ..but after watching and listening to this , I feel like wow it's so easy to become a wife ...simple ways simple things and your life will be prosperous.....may Allah guide us all....
Jazakallah khair...
Omg this guy just told every weekness of man..😁
thank u for reminding this..as a wife i realize about my wrongdoings for my husband insha Allah i will not do this again..
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It's not just mens who have ego, and deserves respect the husband and wife both needs to respect eachother it should be equality in everything both should do the same at the same level to eachother that's how there will b no issues n it will b a happy life that's how me n my husband doing Allhamdulillah. And the more knowledge you have there will b less ego!!