Ya Allah Alhamdulillah, I have a very good Indonesian Muslim husband. He supports me until I can continue my PhD. A very gentle man never raise his voice to me, loves Quran and never leaves his tahajud prays, always help with the house choirs and taking care of the children, and take the responsibility of providing us for all this years. May Allah gives him the the highest Jannah and happiness in this world, make me a better wife, and our children pious among the best generation .. Aamiiin.. Ramadan Mubarak to all of you.
@@smhashimnasser5619 Insha Allah. May Allah gives all of us a paradise in this world too, which mean a peaceful family and a marriage that makes our heart content. Alhamdulillah It's been 15 years now, I hope it'll last to Jannah. Aamiiin.
Asallamu Alaikum Congratulations on becoming a muslim. All praise is due to ALLAH the almighty. Alhamdulilah you have found the truth, May Allah strengthen your Faith and bless you with all the good things in life.
Thank you for feeling happy for me. Yes Allah showed me the way and without questions I followed because I know it is God's will for me. I feel humble and thankful to Allah (fake).
@Gray Kin very good advice.this is for all those who came back to Allah.it will be very hard but its worth it.shaytan lures those who are on the right path not those who are in the wrong.reminds me of sheikh Yusuf Estes story when he reverted to Islam.
I have a problem with that. it's really difficult for women to break out of abusive situations. I'm sure it's difficult for men too. I won't go into details here, but victim blaming is just wrong in so many ways.
@@Ladycooks I agree with you. It takes self esteem and confidence to leave a relationship. But abusers generally take this away slowly and progressively, and it's usually not recognized until the self esteem is gone. There are so many psychological games played. The abuser is guilty and responsible. The victim needs help. May Allah give us guidance.🙏
@@Ladycooks I don't think he was victim blaming. To me it seemed more like he's trying to warn/advise you of the sufferings you and your children will keep facing and so that is why it's really important to find help somehow. Yes it's hard for victims of abuse to find help but it just seemed like a friend telling you that you need to get out for your own sake and your kids' sake.
This is so so so serious. When the husband doesn't do what he must, the only result of that is an angry response from the wife. It is hard for the wife to be a source of peace and calm when the husband is not giving her her rights, and the opposite is true as well.
We are about to get divorced because my husband doesn't want to be responsible as a man of the house.he is pushing me to go to work and pay for everything and insults me and my parents and when I told him for the sake of Allah and the two kids we have together be a real man and treat me with respect and share responsibilities with me ,he just grabbed his own stuff and left so that he doesn't do his duty to care for his wife and kids.there is a saying :happy wife happy life.of the man takes care of his wife she will eventually be his Janna and happiness.
Yeah... And how you show your anger has to be well thought... Like talking to him first for like a week... And if he keeps repeating it, the wife has the right to talk to her family about it and let them talk to him... And even if he doesn't give her her rights, she can go to the court ... And if he has no intention of giving her rights she can even ask for divorce but if she wants to live with him despite all that, thats her choice and all she can do as long as she is married to him is to give him advice..
As you can see it is not that important to shout at or argue with the husband ... Islam gives all woman the right to get what they deserve... But in the right way ... And with patience...it's not wrong to get angry., But getting angry and not having any control or having arguments with the husband and even when an unexpected argument occur not stopping when you realise that it's going too far, that's what should not be done...
This khutbah really changed me from inside.Now I am more patient with my husband.. Alhamdulillah I appreciate him for whatever he does for me.May Allah guide us and may he give jazaa to bro nouman for changing people from inside by the will of Allah..
I wished there's more muslimahs like you sis, who look in themselves within first before pointing fingers May Allah Ar Rahman bless you with your doas, Ameen ya Rabb'al alameen
I’m not married, I pray to Allah that may Allah make my future wife a source of peace for me and make me a provider and protecter for her, in sha Allah. Please pray for me :)
What a beautiful balance Allah has made between men and women. Jazakallah Ustadh for putting it so simply and honestly. Everything is very clear to understand for men and women.
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I’m a Pakistani born Christian. Somewhere back with my great grand parents they were converted. I feel like I am discovering my stolen heritage listening to videos on Islam. It’s like opening Pandora’s box. This was a beautiful video, I am married and this helps my mindset a lot.
Unfortunately i doubt there are any men in our “desi culture” who live by these explained principles. I happen to be married to one myself who inspite of being highly educated couldnt care less about being the provider, expecting me to work and pay for all my expenses. Naturally, who wants to stay in such marriages. And then the elders say that the institution of marriage is crumbling with our generation. I wish the mothers of the previous generation had taught their sons how to be real men, rather than concentrating on the daughters and raising them only to be ideal daughter in laws
I understand that sis Tell him ok I will work and provide for the family but he has to take ur place and take care of the children and cook and clean That is when he will understand ur feelings
it's not just Desi, or Muslims, or a nationality... there is a breakdown of society and much of it comes from the psychology of marketing and brainwashing of what is success here in the duniya.
Sister...all men are not the same.I belong to a well off family married to a middle class man.But my husband never considered meas a burden.He bear all my expenses.And Alhamdulillah I have a teenage son who says that we won't take any dowry from his future wife as he believes he will earn by himself and bear all the expenses of his future wife...This really makes me happy.
I hear you dear sister. The world at large need to raise better men. Most men just want slaves and are doing it in a little bit better way by marrying; but still with that marriage, they become so controlling, and demand the women to take care of them, bear children, raise the kids, clean the home, cook and on top of that be there for them whenever they need you! Who have time for that??? I have done most of the work I mentioned for my dear parents and I owed it to them and a whole lot more fpr I can never ever repay my parents! To conclude, I must say that there are some few good men out there but hard to find
Subhan Allah. If only men these days took this advice seriously. (Most men don’t) just because their wives are financially independent they leave the woman to take care of responsibilities both inside and outside the house. Financial abuse is rampant these days. May Allah guide us all
And about the mahr? Mahr is being neglected in Brazil by so manu muslim brothers, specially when they end up marrying women who are not muslimahs. It is a real shame!
Ninevah Barreiros alot of people from the sub-continent are either not islamically educated enough or purposely do not give mahr right after. Like Ustadh says here they might talk about giving it 20 years down the line. It so important for people to first educate themselves about marriage within the islamic realm before getting married.
@Gray Kin You can make it work if you're responsible, not wanting to marry just because the mahr is too expensive just means that you don't want the responsibility.
first of all islam never asked women to work. Some women want to get into workplaces then complain their husband don't help at home. like wait, who said you should work and still depending on the husband to finance you? normally most women who work has in mind to balance the financial situation of the family. you get yourself into something islam never asked you to do, then complain about husbands lol!!!
I am not married yet, but inshaallah when I will, I hope my husband and me can both live up to the expectations of Allah. And honestly though, you always hit the nail on the head with each of your words. I instantly recognized so many things you mentioned in my parents. Its just so typical to blame each other, to quote and shove ahadith and kuthbas into each other's faces. And everyone is so insistent on proclaiming their rights.
always duas and love for bro NAK , i wish if in our country(Bangladesh) , there will be such a person like him who will make the religion easy for people and make people feel what la ilaha illallah really means!!!!!!
I believe that real love is as our God clarified to us ...tranquillity,affection and mercy .that how we can find peace...you have to feel secure with your partner The best gift to give to some one is making him feel contentment , helping him to love himself which will eventually come back to you as a lot of love and appreciation. May Allah give tranquillity to those who asking him for.
Broken things should not be just left around, same goes for relationships. They should either be fixed, or gotten rid of, otherwise people get hurt, especially the children :(
Me too, it has gotten to the stage now, I would be happy if he ask for a divorce. When a woman is fed up that's it. Mines is emotionally and financially abuse and to top it off his got an anger problem. I hope it get better for both you ladies.
Please people pray for my mother she was single mother raised 4 daughters alone she passed away May Allah forgive her and bless her soul in Jannah Ameen
Mashahallah!!! What a talent of delivering speech the right way. Every word you talk holds a lot of meaning, tons of doubts or questions wat ppl think they must question post your speech gets answered during the speech itself. May Allah guide all the men and women.
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@@chummychimchim walaikum assalam, I wonder y your comment is soo negetive I understand am not wearing scarf in the pic, but since you could sense something bad I may happen to change inshahallah. But I do not understand other than my face wat else is posted n seen. M being told as something is too revealing.
I'm still unmarried so this is one of the best useful kutbah that helps me understand what I should look forward in marriage and finding a good husband. Jazakallah khair sir. May Allah bless you. Aameen.
Beautiful Khutbah. Always, always first look at the person in the mirror before lifting a finger towards the other party, whether in a marriage or any other form of interpersonal relationship. May Allah make us among those who always turn to HIM for guidance to correct ourselves first before others and may HE help us to be the coolness of the eyes of our spouses. Ameen.
There is not enough appreciation to all his advices all his videos are a jewel of knowledge may Allah grant you long life and health to continue teaching us Islam there is so much to learn.
What a barakah ummah has these kind of reminders of deen of Allah. Thank you Nouman Ali Khan, brother Omar Suleiman, Dr Yaseer Qadhi and all the others.. may Allah increase your status and keep you safe for us...
There must be fights in any family...but Don't fight in front of your children this will affect them badly.. i happen to come from a totally non stable family ...🌷🌷
Take care of your family especially your wife, if you make her happy she will make your life happy, I am talking as a woman and from the way we usually think. Only treat her the right Islamic way, no magic, but not the way most of our generation brought by. May Allah bless your family
Allah has placed a huge responsibility on a man and if a man is following the command of Allah and fulfilling his dudies towards his wife then such a man deserves the highest of respect. He deserves to be taken well care of by a loving and supportive wife who knows his value Great lecture Br Nouman Ali Khan. May Allah continuously bless you in the great work you are doing. Ameen
Benefited from it really.May Allah (sw) make us of those who pay heed and act accordingly .May Allah (sw) help all those having difficulties in their marriages.Fiamanillah 👋
Alhamdullilah, may Allah protect you and cause you to grow in this Ummah, but Allah has given you a beautiful way to give the message. It’s given with ease and love. We need this brother.
I have been taking care of our responsibilities for 8 years of marriage with 5 children. Subhanallah. I make 6 figures but it’s still a struggle, very little time at home. I want my wife to work as well so we can have double. I now see that I I’m wrong for that and it should be voluntary on her part. Inshallah I continue to pray 5 times a day and love my lord, I will make 200k and increase my good deeds.
kingofthe hill 123 this is satan try to make conflicts between spouses subhanallah im glad you realized it ... keep reading surat albaqarah or run it at the house or car ( we do me and husband always to keep the house and ourselves out of shyateen) alhamdulilah... may allah bless you
JazakAllah khair brother Nouman Ali Khan.. can't thank you enough but will only pray for you.. may Allah taala reward u immensely in this world and the hereafter.. I just loveeeeed this.. and esp the part where u mention how a wife should be. Please do more lectures for what wives should do. Allah gave me very good reminders through your lectures alhamdolillah summa alhamdolillah.. may Allah taala give you happiness in this world and even more in the hereafter Ameen summa Ameen
Masha Allah... A very informative video... May Allah bless us all in our marriages and help us sort out our differences and start afresh forgiving all the past mistakes. Insha Allah
With every single khutbah Ustadh becomes an even bigger spiritual mountain or giant that Allah subhana wa ta'ala has blessed us with to stand upon in our reach for Him.. In our worship, subservience and absolute submission to Him through the gift of Islam that keeps on giving!!!!! Alhamdoulillahhhhhhh.. Ustadh Nouman may the Lord of the Throne who sees in secret reward you openly in abundance for the GOODNESS you Impart. Allahuma'meen
Assalamualaikum Believers of Allah and His Messenger, I've been going through a difficult time in my marriage, I want to blame my wife, but being a struggling Muslim I know that I need to seek Allah's help and guidance to save my marriage, or to move on. It's not hard not is it easy, can you please make Dua for me to get better as a believer. May The Creator raise our prophet to the Most highest level of jannah and increase his entire ummah in faith and belief, ameen
Aameen ya Rabb, and may Allah ya kareem bless your marriage, keep it safe and guide us all in the right path and help you make the right decisions, akh. Verily with every hardship, Allah ya Rahman will bless us with ease. Stay strong, akh.. wasalam..
Assalam aleikum, brother Nouman, This is a khutbah that would transform my life forever. Being a human being, I have weaknesses, yet with Allah's mercy and wisdom that Quran endows on us, we can easily carry out our life with ease and happiness. I will definitely implement these valuable suggestions right from today onward. Alhamdulliah! In fact, the catchy title of the video got me hooked a few weeks ago, but as I had to depart for office, I saved the video in Nouman Ali Khan folder; today after watching this video, peace & harmony overwhelmed me entirely. May peace, blessing and mercy on Nouman Ali bhai.
Ameen...man is a head woman-neck in one word.)Nouman ....dear Ustad....i sincerely ask Allah Subhana to give u health...that is the best wealth...we need u💚
Allah aap ki baseerat main mazeed izafa kre.very use ful 4 me thx 4 clear my confliction. please also give ur khutba in urdu.or also copy ur eng khutba in urdu. this will help millions of people. jzak Allah
Alhamdulillah good to hear a brother feeling this way and benefiting from this reminder. May Allah bless you with a good wife and bless your marriage ameen
This lecture is so important. I've been traumatized by the way my father treated (and sometimes still treats) my mother for such a long time. He was working as a tradesman and doing very well, he gave a lot of money to his side of the family eventhough they really didn't need it, was abusive to us but really nice with his family, never bought a home or flat for us, never got us out of the joint household with his family even when he had the means to do it, threatened my mother when she suggested we move out and then he quit working and went back to an office job with a lousy pay and gambled it all, got in debt until his retirement. He didn't pay for any of our schooling (4 kids), nor elementary needs, my mother has been working a similar office job for decades and she has a really low salary and eventually had to go into debt as well, all the while he demanded her to obey him and keep her duties as a wife. I'm almost thirty, still struggling to put myself through a university education and sometimes I feel so hopeless, no matter what wage I'm getting (they're not enough in my country) I'm still not able to pay for Uni when you have rent and bills to pay and eat too. It affects so much of your life that even if I ever get married, I may bring some of my trauma with me and that's just the way it is.
May The most high bless you in.a ways.you never imagine...ustadh I just want to say this ...you are treasure for ummah.you are my inspiration,my mentor.....thank you sooo mcuh
Same here!! I m praying since years now!! May Allah accept our duas and grant us spouse that will be coolness of eyes!! Aameen! May Allah make it easy for us!! Aameen
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I knew i was telling my spouse this stuff and i was write I finally got approval from Quran. I can only be a good woman if he does what he is supposed to do
The wife is not obliged to fulfil her duties if the husband is not fulfilling his She can if she wants to but she doesn't owe her husband anything This goes both ways
Alhamdulillah this is an amazing relevant and absolutely necessary advice for spouses. May Allah bless Br Nouman Ali Khan with success in this world and in the hereafter Ameen
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Salam aleykoum. J’ai beaucoup de respect pour le prof qui m’a beaucoup apporté dans mon cheminement. Malheureusement, les traductions ne suivent pas et le public francophone ne profite pas des tafsirs et divers prédications. Qu’Allah vous fasse Miséricorde, pensez à nous traduire le plus de contenu possible sur NAK en français ou Bayyinah. Djazakou Allah khayran
Plz pray for my mother , she passed away recently....may Allah make her grave a garden of Jannah....Aameen
May Allah give her the highest Jannah.
اللهم آمين
Ameen Ya Rabbal'alamin
Ina lillah wa ina illah raji'oun May Allah according her the Firdaws And gives you sabr amine
AMEEN
Ya Allah Alhamdulillah,
I have a very good Indonesian Muslim husband. He supports me until I can continue my PhD. A very gentle man never raise his voice to me, loves Quran and never leaves his tahajud prays, always help with the house choirs and taking care of the children, and take the responsibility of providing us for all this years. May Allah gives him the the highest Jannah and happiness in this world, make me a better wife, and our children pious among the best generation .. Aamiiin.. Ramadan Mubarak to all of you.
mashallah sister
Mashallah I pray Insha'Allah I can be like your husband to my wife
@@smhashimnasser5619 Insha Allah.
May Allah gives all of us a paradise in this world too, which mean a peaceful family and a marriage that makes our heart content. Alhamdulillah It's been 15 years now, I hope it'll last to Jannah. Aamiiin.
ameen
MashaAllah TabarakAllah May Allah Bless You Both With The Best Of Duniya & Akhirah Aameen Ya Rabb ❤
A man is the head of the household, a woman is the heart of it.
@@shabanayasmin3075 I mean women are the leaders of the household not women
Thank you, I am new Muslim. I appreciate your videos a lot!!
Good graduation may Allah keep guiding u and many others
Thank you and (shukran). :)
Asallamu Alaikum
Congratulations on becoming a muslim. All praise is due to ALLAH the almighty. Alhamdulilah you have found the truth, May Allah strengthen your Faith and bless you with all the good things in life.
Thank you for feeling happy for me. Yes Allah showed me the way and without questions I followed because I know it is God's will for me. I feel humble and thankful to Allah (fake).
@Gray Kin very good advice.this is for all those who came back to Allah.it will be very hard but its worth it.shaytan lures those who are on the right path not those who are in the wrong.reminds me of sheikh Yusuf Estes story when he reverted to Islam.
" if you are accepting abuse, you are partly responsible". NOUMAN ALI KHAN.
Subhannallah, this stuck with me.
I have a problem with that. it's really difficult for women to break out of abusive situations. I'm sure it's difficult for men too. I won't go into details here, but victim blaming is just wrong in so many ways.
@@Ladycooks I agree with you. It takes self esteem and confidence to leave a relationship. But abusers generally take this away slowly and progressively, and it's usually not recognized until the self esteem is gone. There are so many psychological games played. The abuser is guilty and responsible. The victim needs help. May Allah give us guidance.🙏
So true! May Allah give those victims strength to stand up for themselves and guide them to make the right decisions
But most women in Desi culture accept abuse as they are misguided by telling that tolerating abuse is normal thing what a good women should do.
@@Ladycooks I don't think he was victim blaming. To me it seemed more like he's trying to warn/advise you of the sufferings you and your children will keep facing and so that is why it's really important to find help somehow. Yes it's hard for victims of abuse to find help but it just seemed like a friend telling you that you need to get out for your own sake and your kids' sake.
I’m single but still will listen for sake of knowledge. May Allah grant us hidaayah to follow his words.
Aameen
Ameen
Had to say, that cap fits great on your head brother
M4T jazak Allah.
Thank you brother 💖
@@rjabdul3551 ❤ wa iyyakum
Ameen
Anyone else get happy when you just see the notification of another khutbah😀
Yes
Alhamdulillah. Same here.
Yes
Me....always! Salaams and duas from Pretoria, South Africa❤
Me
This is so so so serious. When the husband doesn't do what he must, the only result of that is an angry response from the wife. It is hard for the wife to be a source of peace and calm when the husband is not giving her her rights, and the opposite is true as well.
Maybe that is why husband's obligations are mentioned first, because if a husband brings enough money no wife should be angry. 😉
We are about to get divorced because my husband doesn't want to be responsible as a man of the house.he is pushing me to go to work and pay for everything and insults me and my parents and when I told him for the sake of Allah and the two kids we have together be a real man and treat me with respect and share responsibilities with me ,he just grabbed his own stuff and left so that he doesn't do his duty to care for his wife and kids.there is a saying :happy wife happy life.of the man takes care of his wife she will eventually be his Janna and happiness.
Yeah... And how you show your anger has to be well thought... Like talking to him first for like a week... And if he keeps repeating it, the wife has the right to talk to her family about it and let them talk to him... And even if he doesn't give her her rights, she can go to the court ... And if he has no intention of giving her rights she can even ask for divorce but if she wants to live with him despite all that, thats her choice and all she can do as long as she is married to him is to give him advice..
As you can see it is not that important to shout at or argue with the husband ... Islam gives all woman the right to get what they deserve... But in the right way ... And with patience...it's not wrong to get angry., But getting angry and not having any control or having arguments with the husband and even when an unexpected argument occur not stopping when you realise that it's going too far, that's what should not be done...
@@hoshie5788 well... Not it my case ... So I suppose there must be in laws who aren't as nosy and doesn't want to ruin marriages
I took a deep breath after listening to this khutba 🥰Alhamdulillah. I'll try my best to be good wife to my husband In shaa Allah
Rahmatullaah Alqaasim I pray you succeed to be the best wife for your husband. Aameen
This khutbah really changed me from inside.Now I am more patient with my husband.. Alhamdulillah I appreciate him for whatever he does for me.May Allah guide us and may he give jazaa to bro nouman for changing people from inside by the will of Allah..
I wished there's more muslimahs like you sis, who look in themselves within first before pointing fingers May Allah Ar Rahman bless you with your doas, Ameen ya Rabb'al alameen
I'm addicted to nouman ali Khan's Khutbah 😍
Same here
@@nadeemanaz9572 assalam alaikum and I'm from India🇮🇳
Me toooo
But that's not his wish. I think Nouman wants us to practice what he preaches!
Me too
Sheikh Nouman Ali Khan has made me fall in love with the Quran and Islam again and again
I’m not married, I pray to Allah that may Allah make my future wife a source of peace for me and make me a provider and protecter for her, in sha Allah. Please pray for me :)
Straight path Dawah tv Ameeen
insha'Allah...pray for us unmarried girls too💞 my Allah get away the fítnah from us
Provider and protector is only Allah subhanawatala.
@@Maryama_zeeko may Allah reward you with a husband that will give you a lambo as mahr.
Ameen
GOD bless this man! I love him so much! May he live a long, healthy and righteous life, amin.
Ameen 🙏🏼❤️
Ameen
Ameen
Noman ali khan. A gift from Allah to this ummah. Take advantage ❤💗💓🧡💛💞💕💚💙💟💜❣🤎💔💔💝💘💝💝💖
What a beautiful balance Allah has made between men and women. Jazakallah Ustadh for putting it so simply and honestly. Everything is very clear to understand for men and women.
Just the notification of a new khutbah brings a smile to my face 😊
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I know right !!!
I’m a Pakistani born Christian. Somewhere back with my great grand parents they were converted. I feel like I am discovering my stolen heritage listening to videos on Islam. It’s like opening Pandora’s box. This was a beautiful video, I am married and this helps my mindset a lot.
Jazakallahu khayran Shaykh, every word you say is gold, Allah grant you Ferdaus Paradise EnshAllah
❤️love from Afghanistan 🇦🇫
Ahmad Ziaye Ameen
Unfortunately i doubt there are any men in our “desi culture” who live by these explained principles. I happen to be married to one myself who inspite of being highly educated couldnt care less about being the provider, expecting me to work and pay for all my expenses. Naturally, who wants to stay in such marriages. And then the elders say that the institution of marriage is crumbling with our generation. I wish the mothers of the previous generation had taught their sons how to be real men, rather than concentrating on the daughters and raising them only to be ideal daughter in laws
I feel your pain
I understand that sis
Tell him ok I will work and provide for the family but he has to take ur place and take care of the children and cook and clean
That is when he will understand ur feelings
it's not just Desi, or Muslims, or a nationality... there is a breakdown of society and much of it comes from the psychology of marketing and brainwashing of what is success here in the duniya.
Sister...all men are not the same.I belong to a well off family married to a middle class man.But my husband never considered meas a burden.He bear all my expenses.And Alhamdulillah I have a teenage son who says that we won't take any dowry from his future wife as he believes he will earn by himself and bear all the expenses of his future wife...This really makes me happy.
I hear you dear sister. The world at large need to raise better men. Most men just want slaves and are doing it in a little bit better way by marrying; but still with that marriage, they become so controlling, and demand the women to take care of them, bear children, raise the kids, clean the home, cook and on top of that be there for them whenever they need you! Who have time for that??? I have done most of the work I mentioned for my dear parents and I owed it to them and a whole lot more fpr I can never ever repay my parents! To conclude, I must say that there are some few good men out there but hard to find
Subhan Allah. If only men these days took this advice seriously. (Most men don’t) just because their wives are financially independent they leave the woman to take care of responsibilities both inside and outside the house. Financial abuse is rampant these days. May Allah guide us all
And about the mahr? Mahr is being neglected in Brazil by so manu muslim brothers, specially when they end up marrying women who are not muslimahs. It is a real shame!
Ninevah Barreiros alot of people from the sub-continent are either not islamically educated enough or purposely do not give mahr right after. Like Ustadh says here they might talk about giving it 20 years down the line.
It so important for people to first educate themselves about marriage within the islamic realm before getting married.
Same is my family's case. My mother does inside and the outside. While my father does not even cooperate in the house chores.
@Gray Kin You can make it work if you're responsible, not wanting to marry just because the mahr is too expensive just means that you don't want the responsibility.
first of all islam never asked women to work. Some women want to get into workplaces then complain their husband don't help at home. like wait, who said you should work and still depending on the husband to finance you? normally most women who work has in mind to balance the financial situation of the family. you get yourself into something islam never asked you to do, then complain about husbands lol!!!
Masha allah. Nouman Ali is BLESSING for the Umah of Islam.
I am not married yet, but inshaallah when I will, I hope my husband and me can both live up to the expectations of Allah.
And honestly though, you always hit the nail on the head with each of your words. I instantly recognized so many things you mentioned in my parents. Its just so typical to blame each other, to quote and shove ahadith and kuthbas into each other's faces. And everyone is so insistent on proclaiming their rights.
Inshallah Allah shall accept your duas. May you find peace
I wish to be a good husband insallah
Inshallah
always duas and love for bro NAK , i wish if in our country(Bangladesh) , there will be such a person like him who will make the religion easy for people and make people feel what la ilaha illallah really means!!!!!!
We have them offcourse but maybe they are not so well known
Well said bro.i'm also from Bangladesh
Uuy
InshAllah in near future someone will come by the grace of Almighty Allah
I believe that real love is as our God clarified to us ...tranquillity,affection and mercy .that how we can find peace...you have to feel secure with your partner
The best gift to give to some one is making him feel contentment , helping him to love himself which will eventually come back to you as a lot of love and appreciation.
May Allah give tranquillity to those who asking him for.
Broken things should not be just left around, same goes for relationships. They should either be fixed, or gotten rid of, otherwise people get hurt, especially the children :(
Alhamdulillah,i cried when i watch this video,bec im suffering emotionally from my husband,and i love him somuch i love our family my daughter...
May Allah make it easy for you
Sharing your exact situation sister. I also have a 5 month old daughter. And a husband 😂
Me too, it has gotten to the stage now, I would be happy if he ask for a divorce. When a woman is fed up that's it. Mines is emotionally and financially abuse and to top it off his got an anger problem.
I hope it get better for both you ladies.
Same.I am expecting and he haas hot me thrice in 3 months because of his mother.His mother is so so controlling.I am not allowed to sit with him
So sorry it will be fine Insha Allah
everyone talks about their rights but no one wants to take responsibility
Such powerfull words
*100%*
That would make us children. Just children in big bodies. This is sad.
And That needs to change
When ever i watch him i feel peace in my ♥
May Almighty Allan bless him with jannah and a lot of happiness.
Amen.🤲🕋
I'm smiling and blushing so much because I feel so valued. This makes me so excited to get married
Don't be so.. excited... not all the males fear Allah in regard to women
Please people pray for my mother she was single mother raised 4 daughters alone she passed away May Allah forgive her and bless her soul in Jannah Ameen
Mashahallah!!! What a talent of delivering speech the right way. Every word you talk holds a lot of meaning, tons of doubts or questions wat ppl think they must question post your speech gets answered during the speech itself. May Allah guide all the men and women.
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salaam where are you located
Your profile picture makes some of men temptations higher
Assalamu Alaikum Sister, plz change your profile picture to something halal .
@@chummychimchim walaikum assalam, I wonder y your comment is soo negetive I understand am not wearing scarf in the pic, but since you could sense something bad I may happen to change inshahallah. But I do not understand other than my face wat else is posted n seen. M being told as something is too revealing.
I'm still unmarried so this is one of the best useful kutbah that helps me understand what I should look forward in marriage and finding a good husband. Jazakallah khair sir. May Allah bless you. Aameen.
Beautiful Khutbah.
Always, always first look at the person in the mirror before lifting a finger towards the other party, whether in a marriage or any other form of interpersonal relationship. May Allah make us among those who always turn to HIM for guidance to correct ourselves first before others and may HE help us to be the coolness of the eyes of our spouses. Ameen.
Ameen. What a beautiful dua
ما شاء اللہ !! The way you deliver the message is very effective!
I really love him, may Allah reward him with jannah, Amen
& u too, sis.. may Allah ya Rahman ya Rahim bless u with the highest of jannah, Ameen
AMEEN
May Allah grant all of us to learn & understand the meaning of Quran to make our life easier..
There is not enough appreciation to all his advices all his videos are a jewel of knowledge may Allah grant you long life and health to continue teaching us Islam there is so much to learn.
What a barakah ummah has these kind of reminders of deen of Allah. Thank you Nouman Ali Khan, brother Omar Suleiman, Dr Yaseer Qadhi and all the others.. may Allah increase your status and keep you safe for us...
M expecting my first baby its a boy n i will make sure my boy will become a best husbnd knowing all these responsibilities 😊
InshaAllah
Gray Kin she looks like a feminazi modernist thing. What are you expecting.
Alhamdulilah at the right moment I got this khutba when I had fight with my spouse ....
May Allah make it easy for you guys.
@@jazib8589 Ameen
There must be fights in any family...but Don't fight in front of your children this will affect them badly.. i happen to come from a totally non stable family ...🌷🌷
Take care of your family especially your wife, if you make her happy she will make your life happy, I am talking as a woman and from the way we usually think. Only treat her the right Islamic way, no magic, but not the way most of our generation brought by. May Allah bless your family
Allah has placed a huge responsibility on a man and if a man is following the command of Allah and fulfilling his dudies towards his wife then such a man deserves the highest of respect. He deserves to be taken well care of by a loving and supportive wife who knows his value
Great lecture Br Nouman Ali Khan. May Allah continuously bless you in the great work you are doing. Ameen
Benefited from it really.May Allah (sw) make us of those who pay heed and act accordingly .May Allah (sw) help all those having difficulties in their marriages.Fiamanillah 👋
Aameen
Alhamdullilah, may Allah protect you and cause you to grow in this Ummah, but Allah has given you a beautiful way to give the message. It’s given with ease and love. We need this brother.
I have been taking care of our responsibilities for 8 years of marriage with 5 children. Subhanallah. I make 6 figures but it’s still a struggle, very little time at home. I want my wife to work as well so we can have double. I now see that I I’m wrong for that and it should be voluntary on her part. Inshallah I continue to pray 5 times a day and love my lord, I will make 200k and increase my good deeds.
May Allah put barakah in your wealth :)
Give in charity, I promise you you'll be amazed insha'Allah. Another thing is make istigfar as it says in the Quran that your wealth will increase.
kingofthe hill 123 this is satan try to make conflicts between spouses subhanallah im glad you realized it ... keep reading surat albaqarah or run it at the house or car ( we do me and husband always to keep the house and ourselves out of shyateen) alhamdulilah... may allah bless you
Hahahahaha, gd one bro
As a woman who has struggled with husbands who did not pull their duty, may I say lots of respect to you!!
Aap mujhe bahot achche lagte hain.ap se inspiration milti hai ke deen ki raah par chalne ke liye kisi b umr m pehele karni chahiye
May Allah guide all Muslim all over the world coze no one fulfill the responsibilities thanks for the wonderful lecture
May Allah give her the highest Jannah.
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May Allah gives us the kindness we need to be better spouses. Ameen
Subhan Allah,, YOU just spoke the reality happening in this world now
JazakAllah khair brother Nouman Ali Khan.. can't thank you enough but will only pray for you.. may Allah taala reward u immensely in this world and the hereafter.. I just loveeeeed this.. and esp the part where u mention how a wife should be. Please do more lectures for what wives should do. Allah gave me very good reminders through your lectures alhamdolillah summa alhamdolillah.. may Allah taala give you happiness in this world and even more in the hereafter Ameen summa Ameen
Masha Allah... A very informative video... May Allah bless us all in our marriages and help us sort out our differences and start afresh forgiving all the past mistakes. Insha Allah
With every single khutbah Ustadh becomes an even bigger spiritual mountain or giant that Allah subhana wa ta'ala has blessed us with to stand upon in our reach for Him.. In our worship, subservience and absolute submission to Him through the gift of Islam that keeps on giving!!!!! Alhamdoulillahhhhhhh.. Ustadh Nouman may the Lord of the Throne who sees in secret reward you openly in abundance for the GOODNESS you Impart. Allahuma'meen
Alhamdulillah fantastic brother the POWER of quran
People who say women don't have rights in Islam this video is for them. Subhanallah islam is beautiful.
Every young boy and girl should watch this before a marriage
I love his Khutbah! May Allah bless him.
Ameen
Assalamualaikum Believers of Allah and His Messenger, I've been going through a difficult time in my marriage, I want to blame my wife, but being a struggling Muslim I know that I need to seek Allah's help and guidance to save my marriage, or to move on. It's not hard not is it easy, can you please make Dua for me to get better as a believer. May The Creator raise our prophet to the Most highest level of jannah and increase his entire ummah in faith and belief, ameen
Aameen ya Rabb, and may Allah ya kareem bless your marriage, keep it safe and guide us all in the right path and help you make the right decisions, akh. Verily with every hardship, Allah ya Rahman will bless us with ease. Stay strong, akh.. wasalam..
Mashaallah what a beautiful khutba, may Allah bless you & your family,
thanks sheikh for explaining the Quaran in the most amazing way
May Allah Subhanahutaala Bless you brother Nouman! You make fall in love with ISLAM over and over again!
Mashaallah brother Ali, Allah may protect you and your family. Thank so very much for your excellent speech. 🤲
Assalam aleikum, brother Nouman,
This is a khutbah that would transform my life forever. Being a human being, I have weaknesses, yet with Allah's mercy and wisdom that Quran endows on us, we can easily carry out our life with ease and happiness.
I will definitely implement these valuable suggestions right from today onward. Alhamdulliah!
In fact, the catchy title of the video got me hooked a few weeks ago, but as I had to depart for office, I saved the video in Nouman Ali Khan folder; today after watching this video, peace & harmony overwhelmed me entirely.
May peace, blessing and mercy on Nouman Ali bhai.
Ameen...man is a head woman-neck in one word.)Nouman ....dear Ustad....i sincerely ask Allah Subhana to give u health...that is the best wealth...we need u💚
Interesting, never heard that analogy before.. Man is the head, and woman is the neck. Thanks for sharing..
I will keep this in mind even though i do not have a spouse.
May Allaah make it easy for us
MashaAllah brother you look very good with the beard. May Allah grant you Jannah im always inspired by your speeches . Very knowlegeable.
May Allah bless you My Ustadh I just truely love your khutbahs
Very beautiful speech and explanation of Islam as a religion of peace ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Jaza kallahu khair may Allah give Nauman Ali khan rewards here and here after aameen. I love all his lectures and eager to wait for him
Allah aap ki baseerat main mazeed izafa kre.very use ful 4 me thx 4 clear my confliction. please also give ur khutba in urdu.or also copy ur eng khutba in urdu. this will help millions of people. jzak Allah
I got engaged right after Eid. This means a lot moving forward
Nouman Ali Khan is my favorite Speaker...
Whew chile!! You be saying all the things!! May Allah bless you! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾💞
Subhan Allah...May Allah guide us and accept our efforts towards pleasing him....May there be ease in our struggles..Ameen jazakallah khair
Jazakallahu khayran for this video... it makes my heart enlightened😇
I can't thank you enough for this khutbah @Nouman bhai. Many things were eye opener for me ❤
Alhamdulillah good to hear a brother feeling this way and benefiting from this reminder. May Allah bless you with a good wife and bless your marriage ameen
Thank you for this lecture. It was much needed and the conclusion has so much truth and wisdom. May Allah bless you always
This lecture is so important. I've been traumatized by the way my father treated (and sometimes still treats) my mother for such a long time. He was working as a tradesman and doing very well, he gave a lot of money to his side of the family eventhough they really didn't need it, was abusive to us but really nice with his family, never bought a home or flat for us, never got us out of the joint household with his family even when he had the means to do it, threatened my mother when she suggested we move out and then he quit working and went back to an office job with a lousy pay and gambled it all, got in debt until his retirement. He didn't pay for any of our schooling (4 kids), nor elementary needs, my mother has been working a similar office job for decades and she has a really low salary and eventually had to go into debt as well, all the while he demanded her to obey him and keep her duties as a wife. I'm almost thirty, still struggling to put myself through a university education and sometimes I feel so hopeless, no matter what wage I'm getting (they're not enough in my country) I'm still not able to pay for Uni when you have rent and bills to pay and eat too. It affects so much of your life that even if I ever get married, I may bring some of my trauma with me and that's just the way it is.
@Saba Shaikh Thank you sister💗💗
Sister u need to go for counselling...may Allah make it easy upon you
Always waiting for his lectures
Masha Allah laquwata ila bila
May Allah swt give us the understanding to implement the Qur'an in our daily lives. Very good speech
May The most high bless you in.a ways.you never imagine...ustadh I just want to say this ...you are treasure for ummah.you are my inspiration,my mentor.....thank you sooo mcuh
U are amazing sir
May Allah SWT bless you immensely
I love listening his lectures☺
MashaAllah very good bayan !
Glad to see you back uncle
Jazakumullah Khair exactly what I was looking for Mufti you’re one in a million 👍🏼
Just Love his lectures hes an inspiration
May Allah bless you May Allah bless you May Allah bless you May Allah bless you and your parents and family 🤲❤️ Aaamiiiin
I don't have spouse, but sure will keep this in mind. 😃
To the future spouse: if you are reading this, then know i watch the khutbah. 🤣
Keke i was thinking the same. Ill keep in my mind
Same here!! I m praying since years now!! May Allah accept our duas and grant us spouse that will be coolness of eyes!! Aameen! May Allah make it easy for us!! Aameen
OK best future student husband, lol
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I won't agree
To think that there comes a day I am this excited about a new khutbah... MasyaAllah...
I knew i was telling my spouse this stuff and i was write I finally got approval from Quran. I can only be a good woman if he does what he is supposed to do
Lol no you still do what you are suppose to do even tho he is not. Alhamdulliah 🥰 sister 🤣
@@Kedda486 But how long can that last? It will a matter of time before the wife just bursts.
The wife is not obliged to fulfil her duties if the husband is not fulfilling his She can if she wants to but she doesn't owe her husband anything This goes both ways
I guess that's one way of not being accountable for one's shortcomings.
Alhamdulillah this is an amazing relevant and absolutely necessary advice for spouses. May Allah bless Br Nouman Ali Khan with success in this world and in the hereafter Ameen
Mashallah, good lecture. Allah help all married couples
My man Nouman be looking like a Tank 💪💪
mashaAllah .... superb lecture, describes a clear balance between men's and women's rights/responsibilities
Masha Allah
Beautiful khutbah
Jazak Allah khair
May Allah bless you ustadz Nourman Ali Khan
Subhanallah this is exactly for me 😁 May Allah make me good wife,I'll try my best,in sha Allah 🤲🏻🌹
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Alhamdulilah & Ameen to your wonderful niyaats, sister..
Mashaa Allah !!
Another wonderful Khutbah !! Sheikh Nouman Ali Khan never fail to impress me !!
Salam aleykoum. J’ai beaucoup de respect pour le prof qui m’a beaucoup apporté dans mon cheminement. Malheureusement, les traductions ne suivent pas et le public francophone ne profite pas des tafsirs et divers prédications. Qu’Allah vous fasse Miséricorde, pensez à nous traduire le plus de contenu possible sur NAK en français ou Bayyinah. Djazakou Allah khayran
He makes so much sense.