Gwyneth Paltrow is the Final Boss of ALL Almond Moms...
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- Gwyneth Paltrow is the Final Boss of ALL Almond Moms...
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As someone from a Mediterranean country, it’s so bizarre to hear about almond moms when all my life my mother, grandmother and aunts wanted to fill their kids like we were stuffed turkeys.
Girl lol same for me too being east African. I literally hated visiting relatives . because that would mean having eating marathon. 😂
@@kayanurshiya3778 I feel you! Especially annoying to have people insist over and over for you to eat what you don’t want 😂
My grandma was terrible about that! She would make you eat until you regretted having a stomach, then keep asking if you want more. I'm naturally skinny, I'm not starving!
I feel like that also has its issues. Can we get something in the middle? Lol
Same 😂😂but I'm from a Slavic country
It’s just so sad that so many middle aged women suffer from Ed’s and then negatively affect their children from it. Its also kinda sad that it’s a “joke” when it comes to older women even though it’s obviously a way for the children to cope.
Gwyneth Paltrow is, in the least, a 2nd generation possible ED sufferer. As someone in her mid 40s, I remember a young 20-something Gwyneth stating in an interview that her fellow actress mother, Blythe Danner (known for Meet the Parents) "taught" her how to eat only 1/2 a sandwich at lunch, a few nuts during the day, etc., to maintain her figure. Being raised in Hollywood culture doesn't help.
@ihartman484 That’s wild. It’s probably so hard to realize that your moms behavior isn’t normal or healthy (even though your constantly told by her that her behavior is healthier than yours). Even then, to unlearn all of that behavior you grew up with and do things differently takes a lot of work. Growing up in Hollywood probably further normalized and rewarded that behavior for her as an adult. I hope she breaks free someday.
@@kat1827bm well, she was also rewarded for it. This was her peak time career-wise: top roles, dated Brad Pitt, won an Oscar. Besides her talent, much of this was due to her maintaining that "slim figure." I'm sure as she got older, and her metabolism probably being shot, is how we got to today and even more extreme measures.
This is from many generations back. She drank the vitamin water, he mom and granny did too.
Almond dads are unfortunately a thing too. I had one ☹️. He has always talked about people who are overweight as though they’re bad. He’s super healthy and exercises daily and eats steamed vegetables for dinner most days of the week and looks down on people who eat junk. It’s toxic
Ty for calling out the. ”gwyneth looks aged” comments bc the way we treat aged women is literally the reason people like her act the way they do
but she does look older and less healthy than she would have looked without her living on coffee and bone broth. if you compare her to her mother when she was around 50, it’s clear who looks better and healthier (spoiler: the mom)
@@slonmishwe can’t possibly know that
exactly!!
@@ladyrainicorn007 what kind of argument is this? you just said ‘nah’ with no explanation
@@slonmish not an argument I just said we can’t possibly know that
As a recovered anorexic, bone broth is a very COMMON meal for the those with anorexia. It’s an age old trick. I used to also be “paleo”. There’s also a tendency to have “rigid” schedules. As someone with anorexia, I see right through this bullshit. I masked my ED as “being healthy” for years. The rigidity….it’s so typical, so textbook.
Headline from 2008: Gwyneth Paltrow Hospitalized While on Fast
Why bone broth, tho?
@@issecret1 Many health benefits... when people say to have chicken soup when you’re sick, they mean bone broth. Boosts the immune system, good for gut health, etc. But it’s not a whole meal.
@@issecret1It's good when you're sick and you can't stomach anything else. It's also high in electrolytes which helps with getting better faster. It's also high in collagen and some people use it as a supplement. But as a MEAL? Get out of here!
Exactly!
I had an almond dad. It isn't just moms that can be like this. When my brother was diagnosed with ADHD, my dad cut out all sugar, preservatives, and processed foods. He had us taking tons of supplements, spoonfuls of cinnamon and ginger, drinking apple cider vinegar, using crystals to see if something was good for our bodies. My brother and I got super skinny, and we were hungry all the time. My friends used to give me their leftovers at lunch, and I grew to get sick of the taste of turkey slices on wheat bread (no sauce or toppings added because corn syrup and preservatives). On top of that he was also physically and emotionally abusive. It took me forever to start being okay with eating healthy again, and I do take supplements now, but only at a doctor's recommendation. My dad is still confused why I don't talk to him until this day 6 years after moving out.
Wow, I'm so glad you're doing better now!
The point with parents is they sometimes think they doing the best for their kids. I promiss you it wasn't easy for your father too. He took responsibility for your brothers health, not in a healthy way as I understand it but overall he took it and tryid he's best. His methods wasn't that good for both of you but I think it was the best way in his opinion. Not me trying to educate you or anything but I think you should forgive him for his mistakes. There are lots of horrible parents and I get that I don't know the whole picture but I think forgiving him would be better for you and for his wellbeing. God bless you! And I wish the best for you and your family
I grew up like this aswell and my mom literally destroyed my teenage years and our relationship to each other. Took her years to realize this but after all she apologized crying, she said that she really thought she was doing the best and only wanted to make the right decisions regarding my health.
@@imaginethatcake4791 you don't know what they went through. You completely ignored phrase "physically and emotionally abusive".
@@imaginethatcake4791found the dads burner account lmao
"You can't hate your way into a better body." That was powerful. I've had severe body dysmorphia for years. Your statement is so true. Thank you for that reminder. 🦆
Seconded. Needed this today.
No seriously, not to sound dramatic but that little quote was so life changing.
Oof, shoulda heard that a couple years ago.
"girlypop...coffee isn't a meal"
I literally was told that coffee wasn't a snack by my dietician while I was trying to recover from my ED, concerning that she says it nonchalantly
caffeine is a hunger inhibitor, so no wonder she uses it as a meal
Im surprised that she’s having coffee for breakfast and not green tea lol
For me it was my therapist but yeah! I was told the same thing in recovery, coffee can really do a number on normal eating patterns if not monitored to some extent
not me having coffee for breakfast
@@fatherpleasereturn2088straight up. Explains why when I have coffee instead of breakfast I’m not hungry till 2
Almond moms are a danger to our society. As a child, my mom would police everything I ate and wore. I had a terrible relationship with food and my body. As a mom now, I have to fight twice as hard to unlearn everything so that I can be a positive role model for my little girl. Thank you for this video. ❤
you're an amazing mom and i hope to do the same as you if i ever have kids 🤍
I have such a terrible relationship with My Mother, that I never dared to have a child myself. I'm sure I cannot be a good role model to nobody and too scare to do somebody else what she did to me. The madness stop with me.
I admire You for overcoming your demons, I'm sure your child loves You very much. ❤
Best wishes to You both.
Sending u love and prayers 💓💓
As someone also living with a chronic illness, thank you so so much for your recognition. It's easy to feel alone when living with something like this, thanks for brightening my day
❤️ chronic illnesses & invisible illnesses are so under looked in our society unfortunately. But we're here and we exist :)
@_salemtovar_ yes we do!!
It also really sucks when you can get hit by a transport truck and another car going 60mph and all of your injuries are internal. But you by some miracle were able to get out of the wreckage. So they don’t take you seriously. For over 15 years. Until one of them get an invisible illness. Life is much better, but I wasn’t a liar, had a career I loved and had to stop. I’ve been to therapy. But it still hurts.
Crps type 1 in the house 🧡
Can’t tell u how many Gwyneth types told me to get reiki and drink dirt water
Well said - I wanted to express my thanks to you as well, Salem. I started crying when you said your heart goes out to everyone who deals with a chronic illness. Definitely needed to hear it today 🥺❤️
"You cannot PUNISH your body into being better" I wish I could have this tattooed into my brain. As someone with multiple chronic illnesses- Thank you. I needed to hear this hard truth.
Finding how to be good to yourself can be really hard with chronic illnesses. I've got a whole bunch of them and I hate seeing goop take my fellow disabled humans hard earned money for stuff that is worthless.
I'm a pharmacy technician and the whole ozempic shortage has been a nightmare. my mom is diabetic and takes a similar medication that's also been having issues with supply. its because of people scrambling to find a replacement for something that they need to help maintain a very serious illness. and it's also infuriating to have to tell patients that we don't have any of their medicine that they need. not to mention that the retail price for meds like ozempic is around $2k. so rich people are definitely paying full price like it's nothing while everyone else has to struggle with their insurance. overall just a horrible situation
edit - grammar
It’s also hard for us with ADD not having Adderall because of the nationwide adderall shortage 😢
Here in PH the shortage of ozempic has reached the news. It’s sad that people who need medications can’t access it just because of these fads
@@thehapagirl92 it's crazy! I have ADHD as well and thankfully focalin hasn't had many issues but that's not the same for many other medications used for ADHD. I understand how stressful it is, but we're trying our hardest to get it in but since it's a controlled substance we can only get in so much at a time, if it even comes in at all! but again I can't imagine how stressed you and many others are, I know without mine id 100% lose my job.
@@cosmicrows SAME. I have adhd too and my medicine has not been in shortage but I feel terrible for everyone else
i was just about to say something about the Ozempic thing- it actually makes me want to set myself on fire istg- rich, famous people are taking literal life saving medication for their vain desires when diabetic individuals NEED THIS TO LIVE
I’m turning 50 this year and I’ve been through the worst of toxic body shaming culture. In the 90’s when Kate Moss was doing heroine it felt like we were being told “you’d better get on heroine if you want to get anywhere in life”. I’m still recovering. Thanks for this video and it’s positive message. Feel better. 💖You’re the best.
Coffee, cocaine and cigarretes were the way to go in the 90s. I get what You mean. It's horrible to see this trend coming back. I thought we knew better by now. 😔
And then theres those of us who naturally were petite like Kate Moss, happy to see someone whose figure we could identify with, having always been shamed for being skinny. 🙄🙄
Sending love and prayers 💓💓
@@susiex6669Being naturally petite is one thing, having an eating disorder is another.
The fact that Sloan and Salem Tovar posted the same topic at the same time is iconic
I love Sloan!!!
I just noticed that too lol
Collab ASAP ❤
I just came to say this 😂😂
Who's Sloan
Dealing with chronic illnesses as a young person, especially a teen, is so hard. People constantly overlook your struggles because you are young and they expect you to be at the "peak" of your health. Especially in a society that praises youth as much as ours does.
They are hard on women in their late 30s and early 40s diagnosed with a rare illness and many horrible health problems and hospitalizations plus life long struggle with depression despite trying ever med and therapy for literally a quarter of century and it not helping and people, even some family to blame and shame you and invalidate serious illnesses! Women are demoted and blamed and shamed over nothing while males rarely get blamed for committing violent hate crimes to women over nothing!
Ugh, I feel this! "You're young and healthy!" No, I'm not, gosh dang it...
Especially as the "heroin chic" body type is coming back, I'm so glad that the "almond mom" trend is getting big on TikTok. I hope they speak to people of all ages and let them see how screwed up these ideals are so when they encounter them, they'll resist.
Is it? Says who?
This is a weird comment.
And heroin chic isn't coming back
I've struggled with anorexia since I was 12. What she's doing is further encouraging the epidemic of eating disorders especially among young people. Very dangerous mindset
SHES BEEN DOING THIS FOR DECADES. I’m 47 and she’s always been praised for her size. I’m so glad people see the real her finally. Unrealistic goals🙄😖
I hope Gweneth isn’t actually doing any of these “lifestyle” routines and it’s just to elicit attention because it’s honestly scary as hell. Like living off bone-broth and coffee isn’t different from when I’d fall into the depressive habit of only eating instant noodles and eat one and a half meals a day because that’s all the energy I could muster. I got so dizzy and tired and weak.
I really think she does live like this. I don't think she's trying to scam people. I think she's just not that smart and really believes the ridiculous stuff coming out of her mouth.
I'm surprised she drinks coffee as a heath guru, that is so drying and bad for the intestines.
I hope it ends up being a rawvana situation honestly
Yeah, I think given how ill she looks in the video that she might actually be depriving herself that much. She looks so weak and tired...
I just googled it and she is fifty but she somehow looks sickly and like she is 70. My grandma is 78 and her skin looks very similar but grandma has more lively (if that makes sense) skin, you know?
so not unlikely is she actually lives like this
I almost broke down in tears listening to you speak on invisible illness. I was diagnosed with PCOS a few years ago and it has been so hard to navigate and get help for. I hope everyone (especially folks in countries with bad healthcare) finds answers and good practitioners. Sending love and health to all ❤️🩹🌈
That's awful, I also got diagnosed recently but I having really been receiving that much medical support in terms of the way it effects my daily life. I hope things turn out well for you!
what is PCOS?
@@KittyTrackzpolycystic ovarian syndrome
That wasn't even the worst thing on the show Yolanda Hadid did. There was an episode where they celebrated Gigi's birthday and she wouldn't let her even eat her own cake 😭 I think maybe she got to have half a bite it was so depressing
also as someone with chronic migraines this video made me feel very seen
Half expect Gewn to just add “Anyways, so around halfway through the day I have my nap. It always surprises me when it happens, because I just drop to the ground and go unconscious! My body does the work for me 😊”
I'm literally crying rn Salem, I identify so much with what you're saying. I also have a chronic illness and I went through some super scary flareups at a young age before I even knew what was wrong. it's really easy to hate your body, but loving it despite its flaws is hard.
It's so easy to go into a spiral of feeling hopeless when your days are filled with lab tests, unheard answers, unheard suffering...i understand the feeling. But you got this 🙏 stay strong
@@_salemtovar_ ❤❤❤
Chronic invisible illness is SO DAMN HARD and I’m so glad you’re able to manage it better and thrive in a healthy way 🖤
I grew up with an almond mum before the term was coined.
It took 12 years after my mum died to have a good relationship with my appearance, and I still struggle with food. The affects can be lifelong and it’s so dangerous.
Sending love and prayers 💓💓
I’m glad ur doing better, and I hope u continue to heal💜
Remembering how Zach from the Try Guys actually has a series where he tries out various crazy contraptions/methods to cure his own chronic pain, along with other employees who also struggle with it. Love how he said "this weirdly helped" and with others said "this is stupid and bogus"
Whatever Gwyneth Paltrow has been doing to maintain, she has been doing it too long. Routines, no matter how well tailored to a person and how beneficial they can be to your looks, need to be tweaked periodically. She looks like Daisy Skeletor in that interview. I give that old lady credit, she's really invasive & pervasive, in a way few ppl notice. Also..... *cult vibes*
Wow 👏👏 Very good point! Our diets and routines always need to be tweaked and editing and grow as we grow along aside them! Hopeful she realizes that.
@@_salemtovar_ yes! She genuinely looks terrible there. And omg, thank you for answering 👽
Is she unwell? I'm not understanding
@@sheisaMachine She has an eating disorder.
@@sheisaMachine My guess is that she might be malnourished. Her hair and skin look dull and dry. She has the kind of lines you’d expect to see on someone her age, but she just doesn’t look terribly healthy.
You can dry brush until the cows come home, but if you aren’t getting enough nutrients through your food, it won’t matter.
I don't usually comment on videos but when you spoke about chronic invisible illness, I felt so seen. So many people don't understand or have empathy to people like us suffering because it doesn't "look like" we are. My heart goes out to you and your sister. You're both such amazing and strong individuals. We can make it through this fight :)
“You cannot punish your body into becoming better.” This is so beautiful. I’m literally going to make art from this quote. That is so true and inspirational. As always, love your videos, Salem ❤️
🦆The chronic illness part made me cry no one has ever verbalized what I have felt for years in such a beautiful and articulate way thank you so much for saying what you did you don't know how much it helped🦆
I’m 42 and just got my correct diagnosis this year (hypermobile Ehlers Danlos Syndrome), which I’ve been trying to figure out since I was 14. I have all tried all of the crazy Goop-y things out of desperation and from a place of hating my body, and I feel so lucky I didn’t do more damage than I did. Thanks Salem for speaking up for us invisibly ill folks. We are strong, we are enough, and our bodies & minds deserve real nourishment 🦆♥️
If you don’t mind could you please tell me your diagnosis? I have a chronic illness and my doctor is trying to figure out what it is… I’m just curious what yours was?
@@prettyllady don’t mind at all! It’s hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome.
@@prettyllady edited to add that in the OG comment because my reply to you keeps getting yeeted
What is Ehlers Danlos Syndrome?
I love how Salem always says in her video that she's not the sharpest tool in the shed, but she literally is such an amazing critical thinker and the QUEEN analyzer when it comes to making these commentary videos. we stan a humble queen 👑
I didn’t have an almond mom, but I did have a “holistic” mom who took me to get allergy tested when I was 10 at a naturopath instead of an actual doctor. I was told I had tons of allergies and had to cut out a huge amount of foods and take a bunch of vitamins to “cure” them. This warped my relationship with food and to this day I’m still working on unlearning my ED behaviors and fully recovering.
Did they do the muscle allergy testing? I’ve never seen an actual doctor, that’s how we used to get tested for allergies
@@rowanoke4944 yes it was that! Which is a pseudoscience allergy testing method that FARE (food allergy research and education) warns against as Applied kinesiology (muscle testing) has been largely proven to be baseless.
@@rowanoke4944 Omg my friend is taking her kid to do this too. And when I warned her its not scientificially sound to make a medical diagnosis she got upset at me. When you google it the first thing is that it is pseudoscience pushed by chiropractors (NOT doctors).
Oh. My. God. Don’t even get me started on naturopaths.. my mum did the same to me, about a year ago. For a while I was on 20 pills a day and not allowed to eat sugar among other things (including chocolate, one of my favourite foods) and I was so angry and miserable until I went on strike and refused to take anything because I had a period that went for 30 days because of what I was being given.
I’m so sorry that happened to you, just know you’re not alone and I hope you feel better!
Oh no your mom was trying to take care of you and thought she was doing something good for you. What a horrible mother.
Your entire vibe, the hair, the earrings, the makeup, the outfit!!!! You’re glowing Salem
I was born in 1990 and was teeny tiny naturally. I was a size 0 until my 20s. I ate well, I was just small. I still distiinctly remember thinking it wasn't skinny enough, and everyone always commented on it. "Oh my gosh you're so tiny!" I was obsessed with it. I'm lucky though and it didn't turn into anything serious, but now that I'm 33 and 150 pounds, unlearning what I grew up around and accepting that I'm a grown woman so I'm just going to be fuller has been so SO hard and it's so exhausting. Especially because all the "positive" comments on my body stopped.Thanks for talking about this!
I get that, I grew up naturally small and my mom would always say "so skinnyyyy" everytime she could see my stomach. I felt on one level like it was my responsibility to never change and stay that small cause so many adult women in my life would tell me they wanted my waist. And then on the other hand, I had guys telling me to "eat a burger" even though I did regularly and felt like I was too skinny and needed to gain. It's been a very confusing experience 😅
As someone dealing with elders danalose witch is a pretty much unknown invisible illness and this video made me cry because it shows how hard it really is to wake up every day with your body feeling like it's working against you . I'm on my own health jerney and I'm starting to realize one of the biggest parts is my mental health I need to love myself before I can change .
Jameela Jamil talks about EDS a lot on her social media because she has it, it's educated me a lot. I wish you the best xx
Tw eating disorder: I've had an ED for about a decade and I've spent a lot of time on the ED side of the internet. Her skin reminds me a lot of anorexics skin. I really think she's using all this wellness BS to cover for her ED
I'm surprised more people aren't pointing this out tbh. I don't see what about her skin condition points towards that, but her avoidance most of foods and obsession with eating only pure foods while also detoxing...presumably from these same pure foods, is concerning.
Orthorexic vibe 100%
I’m 47. I’ve grown up watching her get praised for her hidden ED for decades. Speak honestly Gwen or not at all it’s 2023 now🙄
Thank you for speaking on chronic illness. I had to break up with someone last weekend partially due to their ableism. No matter how much I explained chronic illness, they refused to understand. They demanded I give them more attention even when I physically couldn’t and said I was a bad, selfish partner for not being able to do so.
I'm so glad you dumped them, they sound ridiculous 🙄 hope you're doing well now! 💗
God yes I have POTS and the way this whole industry screws with chronically ill people drives me batshit. The part where you mentioned how just draining it is was 👌
Yeah i can’t imagine being chronically ill and on top of everything out of my control being told ‘do x y z and eat once a day to cure chronic illness!’ And the sad thing is stuff like diabulimia (diabetes and bulimia) is becoming so prominent, trends like this are teaching people how to kill themselves just to be thinner
What is POTS?
@@KittyTrackzPostural Othrostatic tachycardia. Have you ever stood up too fast and the world bent around you? That's our struggle with POTS. Sometimes we can faint just from standing too fast
THANK YOU for speaking about medication shortage for chronically ill people. I live with ulcerative colitis, which is an inflammatory bowel disease. Luckily I haven't been there yet but in some cases this disease and its flares can get so severe that many people who have it depend on IV's for proper nutrition, since our colon/immune system literally will not allow us to absorb the nutrients from food properly. Or sometimes eating and the indigestion that comes with it because of the inflammation can just be too uncomfortable or painful.
Thank you for speaking about chronic and invisible illness. It's so hard for people to understand what they can't see, but you feel.
I actually just finished up a chapter in my molecular bio class on cellular signaling molecules like Glutathione and Phosphatidylcoline, and I can promise you that unless you're actively deficient in these molecules you're not doing much by adding more of them. If anything you're probably disregulating your bodies cellular signaling pathways by introducing an unnatural concentration of these signaling molecules
OKAY BUT SALEM ACTUALLY LOOKS DROP DEAD GORGEOUS AND NO ONE IS TALKING ABT IT
IKR Like maam im listening but also maam--your highlight?? Your lip color?? Help???
she is stunning ✨
In the late 90's I was living in L.A. One day I was in my car with the radio on and an ad for gum came on. The voiceover described the gum as a "snack". I literally yelled at the radio that "Gum is NOT a SNACK!!!!!!"
My mom has a chronic illness that we still don’t know what it is. We’ve been to several specialists and sent in tons of lab work with no results. She gets flare ups once in awhile and it’s hard to watch. Thank you for mentioning it ❤️
Wow.. Reminds me exactly of my mother, after a ton of visits it turned out she had Parkinson’s. Hope you guys are alright!!
@@LordOfElysium thank you ❤️
I’m not sure what type of pain she is dealing with , but perhaps look into CRPS type 2. It’s a disease of the nervous system and is quite rare . I know it’s a shot in the dark , but google it and see if it resonates because I have it , was lucky to get diagnosed early on , but many others do not , and it’s not something that comes up in a blood test . Best of luck to finding out more information or anything that can ease her suffering ❤ sending love
Edit : I have type 1 , symptoms are identical though, mine was present months after an injury , but it sounds like your situation may not have had a catalyst injury like that , and that’s what type 2 is . Hope it can help
, feel free to ask me any questions, sending love to you both
My best friend has PUD and depending on what she eats she gets really bad flare ups, also from stress. She can't eat diary anymore. It took her years to get a diagnosis but now that she has one, she can help maintain it. Hope your mom finds some answers! 🙏
Thank you all so much for your kind responses 🥹❤️
I’ve been diagnosed with Crohn’s disease since 2016. Over time it’s gotten worse, especially with anorexia being mixed in.
I cannot tell you how frustrating it is when people hear that, and they think it’s just bad bathroom times for me. It’s so much much more than that. They’ll think/say “oh I’ve had food poisoning or whatever, I relate!”
Like no sir you do not.
28:38 that's so great! My mom is chronically ill and it really affects her life so so much, but you really wouldn't see it from the outside, especially not when she's having a good day. It's so nice to hear people share their own experiences, just makes it feel seen
as a woman with PCOS, i cannot thank you enough for your kindness and tact 💗 i’m going into public health and advocacy for the reasons you’ve so eloquently explained 💕chronic illness is rough af but we are making the changes we want to see 🦆
Oh bless you for your commentary, Salem. I recently underwent a mental health revolution and the biggest thing I learned is that you gain absolutely nothing from hating yourself. It’s such a vital thing to learn, especially in a society that teaches us we’re never good enough.
18:46 another issue with IVs (that I learned from my mom who’s a nurse and used to work in ERs) and really any injectable is scarring. If you need to take a medication with an injection on a regular basis, or have a long-term IV like a central line, it WILL eventually leave scars in your veins. You can’t get a needle through a scar. It just does not work, at least not in a safe way.
So if you do unnecessary injections of any kind on a regular basis, and then have a medical problem that AXTUALLY needs an IV or something, your screwed and getting IVs in weird spots that hurt really, really bad.
Today I’m eating fluffy cinnamon pancakes with zero guilt despite growing up with an almond mom. It’s possible and you can break the cycle!
Those sound delicious!
I love how Salem was so happy about spring and then literally her mood drops after learning about the house being sold 😂
Wow I've always admired you as a person and now I feel connected with you in some way because of this video. My invisible chronic illness is Endometriosis. I want to thank you for your beautiful kind words. I live in the Netherlands, pay a lot of money to have health insurance, but get barely anthing for it. In the Netherlands it takes about 8 years to finally even get the diagnose. And then no one will help you. I will travel abroad next month to a specialist, in hopes he can do something to make my live more livable. But even if he can, it will cost thousends of pounds and insurance for that is also not definite and you have to pay upfront eitherway. Unless you are rich, options are few in this world. Thank you for speaking up and wish you the best. Look forward to the podcast with your sister. Be well.
Dont do it in the US, it is 7 years AFTER you find a doctor that doesnt just hand you psych pills that permanently scramble your brain because: Congratulations, your labs say you are perfectly healthy! (expletives removed) They will also not test you for anything off their checklist, even if you are willing to pay the fees. Costs up, results Down.
Hi I think I might have endo. Can u describe your symptoms?
I have it too, it’s the worst. It is exhausting to have to be constantly begging for the doctors to just get the pain to manageable. I feel you, I hope you’re doing well 💜
It can (almost) be manageable by timing my ibuprofen or naproxen doses just right. But if I miss it, I'm close to fainting just from the pain. Epsom salt baths can help a lot too. Other than that, I was advised there isn't much to do long-term besides going on birth control.
So I know how you feel and I hope you find a good specialist ❤
I gave my cousin cannabis for hers and it’s saving her from all the painkillers. Says it works even better.
My mother suffers from a chronic illness and it's just been a fact life that I've never put that much thought into but hearing you talking about your experience made me realize how much she truly goes through on a daily basis. Being chronically ill by itself is difficult for anyone but when you add the intersection of being black or brown it's so hard to fight the idea that we don't feel pain the same way. My heart goes out to everyone with invisible illnesses especially those who are further marginalized by other factors.
Not me at 32 crying because the speech at the end got me! Growing up in the 90s, with a Mum who had an unhealthy relationship with overreating/emotional eating, would also take out her own self loathing on us and our diets. We both still suffer with ED but are getting help (slowly) as we're in the UK. We both have invisible illnesses too, surrounding chronic pain in general and this was also a point of contention in our house as it couldn't be seen, like my mum's obvious illness. Thank you! You might have saved my therapist a session hahaha
Constantly not eating enough can also lead to physical illnesses. I developed an autoimmune disorder because I didn't realize that I was not eating enough and therefore putting my body through a lot of stress for years. Now enjoying food for me means enjoying life. I'm still struggling with my eating disorder and it is so sad to see how many are effected by this, thank you for this video!
thank you for your words at the end
@ quinnmorgendorffer5 .
.I'm so sad all you've been through. Bless your❤.I want to tell you this is how I as a person would see U. Psalm 139. Bless your day
@@laurareed2614 thank you 💛💛💛
As someone who struggles with fibromyalgia, I felt so seen by your words 🥹🦆
It's crazy how the two extremes of eat as much as you want if you love yourself and the wellness culture are thriving... Im intrigued to see how it will affect the next generation
The way you speak, your mannerisms, how you can hear emotion in your voice at key moments and the absolute snatched outfit, it makes learning about these important issues so easy to watch and enjoy
My parents were weird. My mom was the opposite of an almond mom, we had tovtell her not to give us her leftovers and she loved cooking for us kids. She had anxiety about us eating enough. My dad, though, was an...almond dad?
I'm so glad I wasn't raised by an almond mom, some of my friends grew up with almond moms and they are soooo skinny and literally dont eat now or became very overweight after moving out... It shocked my friend when I told her she needed to eat at LEAST 1500 calories (she's 5'0) to fulfil her energy requirements, and probably more around 1800-2000 since she stands up all day at work. She was genuinely perplexed and didnt even believe me.... Then she complains she is cold all the time, always bloated after eating and struggles to open doors, but blames it on a chronic illness that she was not diagnosed with because thats what her mom made her believe she has.... even tho all of those are obvious symptoms of under eating too
Oh gosh the mental gymnastics here
As a sufferer of chronic illness myself, I really want to thank you for talking about this! 🦆
I’m anemic due to malabsorption and I have to get iron infusions… they’re so short on IV bags (like the empty bags, regardless of what’s going into them) that they have to do a weird slow bag less push right into my veins and it feels disgusting. Thanks, Gwenyth.
You rock Salem. I’m an older viewer (52) but I swear it’s just a number. But you’re videos are so well researched, great sense of humour, compassion, intelligence and of course you’re gorgeous voice and you’re amazing cosmetic artistic skills. I know that (makeup channel) didn’t take off, but so many girls and women instead get this content that will help them on the inside.
I don’t wish this at all but I wonder what would happen if Gwenyth just passed away suddenly at a young age. She’s supposedly so healthy and I just wonder if people would wake up. There are illnesses that don’t matter if your healthy. You can have an aneurysm. You know Goop would still grow because…rich people.
I also have a hidden illness since I was 28. Spinal cord injury from car accident. And now, I’m dealing with my brain matter dying. It affects my moods, my memory, speech, and I’m in a study because doctors don’t know enough about it. Yes, I really lucked out! So thanks for bringing attention to hidden illnesses.
Lol 😂 love the Gwyneth “asmr video intro” clips added. So funny~!
20:14 - This has been an insanely relevant issue throughout my life. I grew up poor -- I was never homeless but I lived in Section 8 housing and relied on food stamps, both of my parents made less than 30k a year and my dad was often unemployed. Despite that, many of my friends and acquaintances were wealthy. The things that they saw as necessities were privileges, or completely out of the picture for my family. They were completely unaware of the wealth gap in my city, which is absolutely insane and they felt so comfortable flaunting their wealth, intentionally or not.
Therapist in training here: I found the part where you talked about your chronic illness incredibly honest and inspiring. I would agree with everything you say. Unfortunately, what you said can be applied to the mental health field as well. People with high levels of distress who simply need (and deserve!) good, sound, evidence-based help from highly trained, professional psychotherapists cannot afford therapy in many places. Lifestyle coaches profit from this and sell online programs, etc. to desperate people whose judgment may be impaired at that moment. This whole industry should not be legal, in my opinion. Who I don't blame: the consumers who just want to feel better. ❤
Never heard the phrase almond mom, but very familiar with the idea. You'd think all of us who were teens (or preteens) who went through that in the 90s would avoid doing it to the next generation 🙄
(Full disclosure, I will never have a child because I'm too afraid I'd be anything like my mother, and frankly too many years not having a good relationship with food or my body makes pregnancy way too high risk as well)
OMG. I just wrote the same in another reply, about not having kids because too afraid of putting them into what My mum did to me. I know exactly what You mean.
🦆 as someone who has struggled with binge eating disorder in the past and wasn't able to voice my need for help because I had never heard of binge eating disorder and it was never talked about, thank you Salem. Your encouragement means so much to me.😊
Salem, whenever you post my day feels so much better and when you started singing, I lost it. BTW, I'm also a proud Sonic fanatic by heart and you're informative while also soothing at the same time and I actually stumbled across your channel through Penny and boyyy did I not regret subscribing 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃
Aww thank you! I absolutely love sonic lol. And I'm glad my sister sent you my way ❤️
@@_salemtovar_ ☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️ Sonic is definitely the little bro that I sometimes wished I never had but I'd love him regardless. In fact, I got some Sonic stuff for my birthday as well as my #1 favorite gift, my Natalia mannequin from Pivot Point. I feel like Sonic can be a bad influence but he sure does know how to hype someone up 😅 BTW, you're among the peeps who give me hope in humanity 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I also deal with many invisible chronic illnesses, as well as eating issues. Thank you for bringing it more awareness, especially because we can look healthy, but be extremely sick.
Another chronic illness bestie here 👋
Thank you so much for talking about this, because my mom was an almond mom and doesn't believe that I have it that bad, and I've been really going thru it lately cause I just got my 4th diagnosis and most days I feel like I'm going backwards; and this has the reminder I needed to show my body wholistic kindness even if that's not what one doctor or the other thinks is best for their particular organ 🙃😅
thank you for that quote saying that you can’t hate your way into a better body. my partner has been struggling with an ed for such a long time and i can tell they have severe body dysmorphia. im so glad i’m slowly making a difference for them and i’m sure that these words will help them slowly grow out of that self hating mindset. i just want to see them bloom
30:00 You've got me crying with this section because that's just... I feel that so hard. I don't have a chronic illness, but I've lived with chronic pain and several mental issues for as long as I can remember. I've never subscribed to religion the way my parents wanted me to, but back in elementary school, I would still end up praying to God and asking why I had to hurt all the time, just in case he was there after all. This video hit me right where it needed to right now (one of my conditions has recently become a lot worse), and it made me feel heard. Thanks Salem- great video as always, and lots of love to you ❤️
Thank you so much for creating this video. I was recently diagnosed with lupus, adhd and severe depression that is only exacerbated by my health problems. No one in my life seems to realize or care that I’m drowning every single day. My body is in constant pain, the adhd impacts every facet of my life and I’m unmedicated right now due to the adhd meds shortage that has been going on for months.
I ignored my health problems for years because the people around me just kept saying “I need to try harder” and didn’t believe anything was wrong for me. I know you’re a stranger but it made me cry just to hear someone say the words I have needed to hear for years. It’s so difficult handling this stuff all on my own.
Sorry for the rambling/TMI. I love this channel and your videos have been such a comfort to me. You look amazing. I hope that I can get to where you are one day or at least improve my situation the best I can. 💕
What you said at the end hit me hard, thank you soo much for your words. I needed to hear that as a chronic ill person ^^
Your makeup and outfit looks so pretty!!! Lipstick shade looks so good on you! 🤩
i also suffer from a chronic pain disorder (reflex neurovascular dystrophy) and the struggle to "cure" yourself is so incredibly real, you get so sick of feeling in pain and you get so sick of being sick that you become so incredibly desperate to feel "normal" again
You and penny talking about invisible chronic illness?? I already know i’m gonna be crying the whole time from the validation of it all. Thank you. I can’t wait.
My mom thankfully wasn't an almond mom, (but I don't talk to her for other reasons lol) but I got like secondhand harm from her because of her mother. My mom fed us if we were hungry, we weren't shamed for what we ate, she never, not even once that I can remember commented on our bodies besides calling us beautiful, but she constantly complained about her own insecurities,and she talked about how she had an eating disorder as a teenager, and how her mother constantly had her on diets when she was younger because she was always "overweight" and seeing that caused insecurities in me because she would complain about her own shape, which is my exact body shape as well. It's just sad to see how people who were raised in the 70s-90s especially cause SO much damage, whether accidentally or on purpose to their children. And it is super interesting in a horrible way to see how much that pain lingers even in the most body positive era.
Love you and your content Salem thank you for this and for your support and clarity in these kind of topics
Thank you for your words of validación about invisible illness. Ive missed years of school because of chronic migraines and severe mental health issues and its the first time ive heard someone outside of my family say that these are Real issues even when you cant see them. Thank you♡
Validación jajajaja
🦆My biggest issues with food are that I would almost always overeat because I felt like I shouldn't leave food on my plate and because I love food so muchhh. I would also eat so much dessert due to stress eating and sugar cravings. It was really bad, I would always feel bad about myself afterwards, depressed, and physically uncomfortable with how full my stomach was.
However, the past month, I've been feeling a lot less pressure from myself to finish all the food on my plate and only eat healthy. Idk why, but the diminished pressure has helped me make way more healthy food choices. I feel better physically and mentally, and when I do get a sugar craving, I eat sweets without guilt because I know I'm listening to my body and its limits and nourishing it well the rest of the time. I'm so happy you made a video about wellness and the dangers of schemes like goop ❤🦆
That’s good! I have gestational problems and I too feel compelled to finish every ounce of food on my plate lol but my doctor told me it’s better to have frequent small portion meals than 3 big meals and it does make a difference. God bless you on you’re healthy journey♥️
I just discovered your channel, couldn't be happier 🤩
What the 🦆? Thanks for making this video, Salem! Such an important topic. And to all the babies suffering from invisible illness, I LOVE YOU! You're not alone.
Thanks hunny ☺️♥️
🧡 thank you for shedding light on how mentally and emotionally debilitating it is to have a chronic invisible illness.
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Thank you for teaching me wtf an almond mom is
🦆 love you so much !! Your videos inspire me so much to learn with my past without resentment, to work on myself and let go the anger, blame or guilt i once felt… Hearing your words feels like taking great steps on to my own journey and i’m so grateful for that!
🦆Thank you for sharing a little bit about your life with chronic illness. As someone with a disability (though not chronic illness) I understand the challenges of not having enough spoons everyday.
And I’m really happy to hear you’re so healthy nowadays!! 💜
The only thing, that that interview made me do, was craving bone broth....mhmmm salty water full of umami❤
Also in winter instead of tea a nice broth keeps me much warmer
I suffer from invisible illnesses and hearing you share your perspective made me feel so seen. Thank you ♡
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I found your RUclips channel yesterday, I'm bINNNNging your content. #blessed keep shining love😇 xoxo
Are we just gonna ignore the supplement called "BALLS IN THE AIR"?! 💀
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Your words towards the end of the video almost made me cry 🥹 you’re so strong and I’m proud of you for working so hard to be at the point where you are right now🙏🧡 that’s very inspiring 🌸
I just got my wisdom teeth removed and I’m in bed in excruciating pain, so thank you for the video, Salem! 💖 you look gorgeous!
Literally same! Swollen jaw gang! 😂😭
@@JustAmy2420 hope you and myriam feel better soon
Just commenting to support you girl. Thank you for speaking on this topic so authentically❤
I love youuuu!!! Me and my chronic migraines are so grateful for this video
I have multiple chronic illnesses, and I totally agree. Just trying to control symptoms is expensive af
Wow. Did not expect to cry from one of your videos… but the end of this was exactly what I needed to hear. 💜 I have lupus and it’s still a very new idea to me even though I lived with it undiagnosed for years. I struggle to love a body that feels like it hates me. But thank you for this encouragement! You have no idea..
I know it’s not your usual content but maybe one day you can make a video about your experience with chronic illness. I’d watch! 💜
Rested up when you talked about growing up in the tumble era and then you mentioned invisible chronic illness and I fucking broke down. I’m currently dealing with a flare up/new symptoms and it’s hard. You speak with so much empathy, care and intelligence. Thank you for being a great presence on the internet.
Girl that zillow pain is so real
and the Zillow delusion is real 💀 i really do be saving million dollar houses
Invisible illnesses can be so rough. I have given up on my body because it doesn’t want to work for me. But I’m trying to get better. It made me so happy that you’re doing well! It gives me hope