TRAUMA BOND SIGNS: IN LOVE OR IN TRAUMA?
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- Опубликовано: 9 июл 2024
- Trauma bonds (addictive, rollercoaster relationships- often reminiscent of our childhood caregiver relationships) are very common in those of us with complex childhoods and/or CPTSD.
Trauma bonds can occur with anyone, even our mothers (as in my last video!), but the classic trauma bond we think of often describes romantic relationships.❤️
This video examines the most common signs that you may be in a trauma bonded adult romantic relationship, which often feels like crazy, intense love or toxic love, but may really be a trauma bond.
"Love that feels like home" for those in trauma bonds, are often the last place we need to be if we want to be healed and whole, especially if we have more complicated or complex childhood stories.
Are you in love or in a trauma bond?
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34 years. Trauma bonds are so difficult too break.
Hi Dr Kim...this was an excellent video, I got so much out of it. Your descriptions of all the wrong relationships is exactly all the relationships I had...I cheated on a ten year relationship bc it was so exciting and the chemistry was crazy, but in the end, I found out this man lied to me about everything from the start. Then as our relationship continued, I forgave these lies, and we got married and I found out he cheated on me with every skirt he found. I think he was a sex addict. I couldn't tell anyone bc I was so embarrassed and ashamed. I left him and found what I thought was a real relationship with an alcoholic who I had a child with...and so the strings of all my relationships is everything you described. I'm older and wiser now, but I have chosen for the past 7 years to have no more men in my life, because it doesnt work, and it's too much effort only to have it not work out. Only now through my therapy I am finding out why...thanks for your great work...
Hey! Can you please talk about projective identification in relationships, where one or both partners have childhood trauma, and inflict, sometimes unconsciously, in the other the same feelings that traumatized them in the past?
I just watch the short film Mark's about emotional abuse, it is so true to life, my ex life.
Hi all!:). Any thoughts on what you think the hardest part of getting out of trauma bond relationships might be?
Please feel free to share any thoughts or ideas - if you feel safe to do so!💕💕
For me it was recognizing it was essentially an addiction to a fantasy. Radical acceptance of what was really going on was HARD!
Losing the mutual love bombing and having to go back to reality cold turkey. And feeling like I blew it again!
Feels somehow familiar so hard to let go of even when you need to ? I got a lot of insite out of this one.
Im aware that I've been isolated and Alienated and loaded with trauma without anyone who understands. And im aware that its locked and loaded the trauma bond with the first person to show kindness and support and understanding, likely itll be a fascade and ploy for manipulating molecular bonding. So i refuse to entertain company because im not stupid. I'm saving myself for the director 😮🤔🧐
These videos are helping me tremendously. Thank you
Very good video, I can relate to almost all these red flag symptoms of trauma bonding.
For me it was leaving my husband 3 months ago, the first two months of flooding, and ruminating. It's finally getting better.
Ruminating is the absolute worst.
Great video!
You are awesome! So glad I found you Dr. Sage! I’ve been diagnosed BPD at age 58. I have searched and the big childhood trauma for me was being diagnosed type 1 diabetic at age 11. I do feel flawed, I felt I was a disappointment to my parents. Could a medical thing like this be the cause??? My 38 yo daughter and I have such a tumultuous relationship….she def has cptsd. We love each other, but omg we both need years of therapy. I’m going to send her the last video and end the cycle!
Dear Doctor Kim Safe, please do some videos on causes for suicides and the prevention therapy
That's the trouble is the fact of safety your two scared because of the trauma neglect that we suffered as kids it makes you so paranoid the older you get and then it's like your mad
Trauma
But how do people in healthy relationship get drawn to each other, seen and attracted?
They are not attracted to drama They know from experience what healthy relationships look like So they avoid something that feels unhealthy
@@pibkaveronica7622 ok, but what does attract them and make drawn if not something they're familiar with from childhood? How do they click, why do they like each other so much they want to date?
Mark'd
还老想玩恋爱，自己玩吧！这是迫害！