I loved your NIKSEN video first and that's where I started listening to you. Today was the squirrel day for me when I was constantly working to avoid talking to my real self and mask it with multi- tasking. Your videos are a treat to soul.
I do and I find that is usually my nervous system being overstimulated. I even knock into things as I’m physically out of balance as well as mentally. Breathing is something I would appreciate a video on, and how it can bring you calmness. ❤
OMG, yes! Those are the day I might notice my tongue, lol. I laughed so hard when you mentioned that at the end of the video; it was totally a laugh of recognition.
YES, definitely. I have days where there's just so much to do and I end up running around in a disorganised, stressed out mess. Love the squirrel image! Sometimes I feel like I'm being like a squirrel moving the nut from tree to tree, instead of slowing down and getting the nut to the right tree and into the right stash in the first place. Exhausting.
Vera, not only is your content deep, meaningful, and inspiring, but your scenes with water, breeze blowing through the leaves, and swans, birds and squirrels,(plus not forgetting that sleeping cat!) is like a mini vacation and brings me so much peace. Thank you. ❤️
I just noticed how relaxing your videos are. No crazy camera movements, no flashy lights, no epic text effects. Just good chill content and relaxing nature scenery. Truly unique. Thank you!
Thanks for the reminders - I don't need to keep / wear holey clothes!! I just paused the video to go and sort through a drawer and remove damaged items. I can afford and am worthy of clothes without holes in them! It sounds so simple, but there are such deep messages about self worth in there. Thank you :)
And at the same time, don't chastise yourself for having kept them. It may be a frugality urge from a childhood experience that gives you the instinct to preserve. Instead, I hope you congratulate yourself for overcoming the instinct and letting go of the item that has served you and is past due to be discarded.
I’d like to see a video discussing feeling my feelings because I have always suppressed my emotions and it’s been a very unhealthy habit that I don’t know how to break
For me was journaling. Putting everything on the paper. I am also a Christian. So I started talking to God on a paper, writing deep prayers and sharing my thoughts. Best to you dear!
Number 6: breaking the habit of talking more than listening is such a great point! There's a brilliant book called: "You're Not Listening" by Kate Murphy which explores this idea perfectly. I highly recommend it!
Bad habits I'm working on: 1) binge watching series (house declutterring journeys haha) after dinner until it is very late. 2) mindlessly doomscrolling through real estate listings when I'm not planning to buy anytime soon (although I want to). 3) procastinating projects when working from home. Thank you for this video, I'll be working on them this month.
Thank you so much for putting together such an informative & thought-provoking video. I especially liked your own "ah-ha" moment when you realized it's okay if not everyone likes you because you personally don't like everyone you come in contact with either, such an eye-opener for me as I find my balance...
I would love a video exploring the topic of feeling your feelings! I often have thoughts like "I shouldn't feel this way" or "I'm just so sensitive" and I think part of it is that I push away justified feelings that later pop up again and again because I have't given them the room they need to be properly processed.
Same here. I often feel like I'm a bad person for having any feeling that is less than positive or thankful. Especially since I'm known as a "positive person."
The bad habit I am working on right now is to stop getting involved into gossiping about others.. it just happens sometimes with colleauges or neighbors, but I want to work on it and dont get drawn into it anymore.. just keeps myself happier as well.
Totally agreed! And a lot of times im Like whoaa how did I get drawn into this? I dont want to be this kind of person anymore ... and the hardest realization for me was that if im not gossiping with some people, we háve nothing to talk about anymore 😢
"Enjoy the silence." Yes!!! I love early in the morning, opening the windows and just listening to the birds, the breeze in the trees or the silence if that's what is there. My husband is someone who has to have the noise, so he turns the TV on and doesn't watch it, drives me bananas.
A lot of Americans seem to do that, at least I know quite a few… a bad habit and especially difficult if the spouse or partner doesn’t like it! Why not switch on some relaxing music instead…😂
I'm learning to respect my "peaceful time" and saying no to people, this semester in college I wouldn't catch a break, even on my weekends, so my anxiety got worse (I even had to go back to my psychologist). But I'm grateful that I catch the signs and improve my life! Everyone please remember to always have a healing time for yourself 😊
Thank you 💜 You brought up some really good points here that resonate with me deeply. About having difficulty feeling gratitude when you are going through the process of grief or any other overwhelming negative feeling - I struggle with this so much, because I habitually stubbornly fight to keep gratitude in my life no matter what. But what normally helps me to calm down is one of my favorite quotes: "The work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and to be stretched large by them." Francis Ward Weller
I totally agree withyou about the gratitude, you wouldnt thank anyone for diarrhoea, but you could be grateful for the sink to wash your hands in, the bed to sleep in, thats how i see things, thank you for sharing Vera have a lovely week
You always tell me what the most important thing is for me. It’s very difficult not to do multiple tasks because I feel that I’m wasting my time. There’s a good Chinese phrase, “ to be satisfied with what you have “. I intend to forget that. I’d like to understand that I’m always have a lot and I’m happy, I don’t need to be a rush. Thanks always, Vera.
Thanks for the wonderful video, Vera. ❤ Yes, I absolutely have squirrel days! It kind of feels like I’m getting nowhere fast. And I also experience squirrel moments where I just randomly get distracted. As a HSP it is so difficult to try to multitask or hurry because doing so really feels overwhelming/stressful.
I am trying to break my nail biting habit by reminding myself that a self-destructive response to anxiety is not helpful. I'm also working on my tendency to apologize for things that aren't my fault or responsibility, that one's challenging.
No joke, gel nail polish will help that. I used to bite nails all the time then I got gel nails done for a wedding and haven't bitten since. The gel polish will last like 4 weeks and you can get short neutral nails if that's more you're style
Thanks for this nice video! Many things to think about and small changes should be done easily. And yes, most of my days feel like squirrel days, it starts in the morning, then at work and back at home again.
Buying things I really dont need is my bad habit. It is getting better I have a feel good app on my phone and I have it as one of my goals for each day. It has really helped so far so if I am tempted I also think to myself buy this thing or go on my dream vacation/trip. I always choose my dream vacation/trip. I have only messed up/ bought something I dont need once. Pretty proud of myself. Hope this helps others.
Work is becoming very stressful because of a new manager making many changes that are not as great as they think. It is adding more work for me and is taking a toll on me. I am now looking for praise about how much I am doing and I am noticing I seem to loom for praise or a pat on the back for everything I feel overwhelmed about. I know I do a good job and I need to not let praise be what I need to solve my stressful situation. I guess this is the first step in solving my issue. Thank you for the videos they are really helpful to me, especially now! 😊
A bad habit, or rather, something that I should never give up, is meditation. I've been trough a somewhat lazy period and stopped meditating daily. I noticed that during that time, I couldn't manage negative emtions anymore and, alltogether, just became a less pleasant person. So: I must mediate every day! Thank you for your amazing videos! They really are like a fresh breath of air! :D
I must say that I used to have all these bad habits, but getting older made me a lot more conscious of my life and so I changed most of them. I still can’t sit and stare at the wall but I just love to play some music at those times and completely get into the music. The main bad habits that I have are smoking cigarettes, postponing chores and not taking good care of myself where it concerns meals. So those are the things I would like to change this year and I’m working on it already for months by now without real change 😅
Actually, this is the only thing I've ever disagreed with Vera on! I find it hard to believe that as many as a third would dislike her! In my experience, and from my perspective some people are loved by most because they radiate love and acceptance. I see the opposite as well from folks who struggle with acceptance and love (which usually also means they find it hard to accept themselves). Unfortunately, they tend to repel many people.
Item 4 is really good. I think we can get so caught up with trying to be like someone else that we forget to be who we are. Just because someone we know (or follow) embarks on an area of self-improvement does not mean we have to do the same. We all have things we need to improve, and those are the areas we should focus on (as necessary or as we desire), not the area that someone else is doing. As you said, we all have our strengths and our weaknesses and focusing on someone else's weakness serves no purpose.
Hey Vera! Great video as usual. I have to say the habit of gratitude is what I find most helpful and your tip on doing something to express gratitude is also very practical and something I will try do more often! Thanks for this one and have a great rest of the week! Many blessings!😊
Hi Vera, I watch your videos but usually don't comment. I just wanted you to know how much peace your video brought me today. Thank you very much! Susanne ❤
I really liked this topic. Great use of examples. I am frying to break scrolling on RUclips so I set a timer before I start and this helps me watch my favorite subscribers and not sit there for a long time.
How I wish more people would smile the way Vera smiles. That natural, warm, spontaneous, kind of smile from the eyes that makes others feel safe and welcome and good to be around. We all have our troubles and our setbacks but let's not take it out on the world or treat other people with coldness because you feel bad. A smile costs nothing but is worth a million dollars. What you give, you get back and I truly believe that we all have an absolute duty to make this world a better place by simply being kinder to the people we meet along the way, no matter how fleeting. Maya Angelou said that it's not what you said that others remember about you but how you made them feel. And it is true.
I can tell your words are helping me because they tend to rub me the wrong way at first and then I feel a bit of release and allow in the good energy and thoughts. I live in the northeast where people are workaholics and not super kind. I’m learning to separate my ideas from the group think of where I live. It’s really difficult, but I think I might have finally found a company that supports employees in a meaningful way :)
I just discovered you and your wonderful channel a few days ago and I’m happily binge watching your previous videos. Your authenticity and kind soul jump right through the screen, Vera. Sending you summer greetings from San Francisco!
Thank you! I am grateful for your putting this important step-by-step insight into the world for all of us to use to find more peace in our increasingly chaotic world. You give me a reason to express GRATITUDE! ❤
I used to try to understand what is causing the feeling and if it's possible to do something to make it stop. When it isn't possible, I try to accept what is happening and write my thoughts, this helps me to let it go when it's time. When none of this works, I mention on therapy what is going on and ask for help :)
Hi Vera 😊 thank you so much for your courage, kindness, and effort to bring this information to us 🩷 I have been making a lot of habit changes this year and my peace and calm has increased so much! I don't always succeed, but I keep trying, and try not to feel guilty when I fall back into old habits. The biggest thing has been decreasing my need for constant mental stimulation (videos, audio books, phone scrolling). Just doing one thing, like washing dishes without watching a RUclips video at the same time, which is still a temptation. When I do one thing at a time, I feel such a sense of calm. I think my constant need for "noise" was a form of distraction from life stress. I am working on acknowledging the toll stress in my life takes, and making time to "recover" and rest my body and mind. So much more I could say, but all of your tips can create serious life changes! Thank you!
Wow Vera - in your first point you always hit the nail on the head for me. Yesterday I didn't make time to feel sadness, scrolled RUclips vids long past it feeling fun. This morning I'm feeling the emotions simmering & bubbling. I'll definitely make time to watch a show that always releases my emotions. Thank you for the reminder, it's so easy to forget when life is stressful- moving house!
Your content has really been matching up with where I am in my life. RE: self-acceptance, I actually am a little bit obsessed with self-improvement. I've always been very driven in this way. I've been stressed at work because of a coworker who has been missing deadlines which I'm technically responsible for. Today I had this insight that all of my anxiety and stress is coming from this idea that I must do everything perfectly in order to be acceptable, and in my mind, she has been standing in the way of my perfection! I realized I don't have to be perfect, and you know what? She doesn't either. It was such a liberating insight. Your video fits perfectly with that.
10:48 My old counselor who helped me through a lot used to say: There is a reason we have two ears and one mouth. (So we can listen more than we speak.) So true. She has since passed away, may she rest in peace
Your country's govt's move hard right is as scary as the one here in the U.S. It's difficult not to "feel your feelings" with this kind of &hit going on all around you. Your videos are a nice distraction from the day's events. Thank you for them.
Thank you for these tips! I had to allow for my feelings on my own. I am not feeling celebrative and not in the mood of fun especially in times of grief. I like being in my own company for inner peace. I am embracing the slow life and adjusting to a fully retired life. This journey of finding myself is much healthier for me. I am getting into a regular routine of household cleaning and gardening. I am also focusing on frugal living and planning healthier meal plans. I have been working on it progressively over the years. Of course mistakes are made but one learn from it. I am no longer active on social media. I think I have becoming more patient with myself and with others. I have managed to have less distractions in my life. This is most definitely a big transformation for me who used to be a go getter and rushing to move forward asap. I live in the present now. Grateful and appreciative of today and each day. Alhamdulillah.
Thank you for this video, as always I appreciate your words and your voice always manages to soothe me :) The 9th point made me laugh simply because I'm right in it: my socks full of holes that I continue to wear while pushing my partner to buy new things for him by telling him "you deserve to wear new things, treat yourself" XD You know what, I deserve it too so my goal for the week will be to go buy socks and not the first ones that come along, not the ones that I like and that I will enjoy wearing ^^ Have a good day Vera :)
Thank you for these wonderful tips on living a more balanced and peaceful life. Wonderful reminders. Especially like the reminder of feeling your feelings..and taking time to sit back and not try to cover it up or numb it. So enjoying your videos.
My mother recently passed away and your channel is a great comfort. Simply feeling and sitting with my emotions without defining them or analyzing is such lovely advice. I also love your reminder about finding more time for silence. I've been doing that when driving in th car and can feel my system relax. I'll be finding more quiet throughout my day. ✨❇✨
15:27 I will just add that there is a great guy named Julien Blanc (he’s doing public seminars and also posting a lot of videos here as JulienHimself). He’s really helped many people feel okay with not being liked. He embarrased himself in front of the world and everyone somehow forgot about it and nobody cares anymore and I think that is what really fuels his teaching journey. And I think that thanks to what he’s been through, there is really nobody more enlightened than him for teaching us about confidence.
About the self improvement thing that you said made sooo much sense and I realized that i am like that because this is what i see on social media all the time and made me like that in a way but today I heard something different from you and it is just sooo right❤thank you
Yes! I do! It's like I've noticed my tongue in my life and all of a sudden, I can't stop feeling it! I thought I was the only one! Thanks for sharing x
My bad habit is thinking I have to give to others more than myself. Thinking I need to balance their needs over my own. I'm starting to believe more that i am worth the effort to eat what I want and need for my body not just what everyone else is eating in my home.
You have inspired me in another video to leave out the drama in my life. So gossiping, complaining or trying to convince other people of my opinion are bad habits that I am actively trying to break. Thank you for your many inspirations!
I could connect so well with all the habits you talked about, currently I am focusing on listening more than talking more because I talk a lot too! Also, try to be more present and focus on one thing than multi-tasking ✨
Thank you Vera for your wisdom and guidance. 🙏 Your aura and your apartment are so lovely and soothing I think we all would want to come and have some nice tea with you. ❤️
LOVE your list. The points I relate to the most at this time are feeling feelings and more listening. I'm working on being more honest with myself and with others about my feelings. The second, I'm working on listening more and not necessarily sharing my own experience, trying to relate to the other person. Also interesting to observe others with these two, express feelings and how well they listen.
Vera I agree with you 💯 thank you for verbally voicing everything I need to hear I have had a really terrible 5 weeks but my situation has been for years I’ve decided to delete most social media sites a long with many people I’m going to concentrate on what’s important to me for once in my entire life I’m busy decluttering my kitchen I’m feeling overwhelmed but every item I bin is making me feel better I’m not in a good place mentally because of narcissistic abuse but I say no more enough is enough and I intend to get my life and my house in order as much as possible I do it with a heavy heart but I’m doing it thank you for this video 🌿🌵
Ahh, what a way to take a much- needed break with another peaceful, insightful video from the lovely Vera. Thank you & may you have a wonderful weekend. ❤
Hi Vera, thank you for this video. I liked what you said about how not everyone will like you the same way you don't like everyone you come across. It's something I struggle with for sure but still working on it 😌 one bad habit I am trying to break at the moment is mindlessly scrolling as it has become really bad lately, so social media has now been deleted. Thank you 🙏
I honestly think that quitting social media is one of the best things we HSPs can do. Overstimulation, sad stories, and people arguing all the time (a big trigger for me) is everything that we should stay away from.
Thanks! Your video is a much needed break for me - and great reminders. I've been pulled in a direction lately that has given me a lot of squirrel days. I'm working on trying to get closer to more balance in my life again. take care
Another excellent video. There's elements of all these points I could incorporate into my life and I know it would make it better. I believe in gratitude too. I've also learned to to stop running around like a squirrel and rushing around. I might rush around a little bit if I'd like to get some practical things done but not so much. I'm much more patient and I do things gradually. I could also be a better listener. Ps there are so many videos about what 'to do' to have a calmer life and they all very good. This video is really great and very important because it details really well about what 'not to do'.
Thank you Vera for a well curated list 🤍Currently I am writing the comment from my July staycation, reffering to point 9. A great decision I made for myself after a long career transitioning process. Sending best wishes!
I am working on not criticising myself.. I keep telling myself how amazing I am doing now and also have done so far.. still have a long way to go to break this habit.. Loved the video btw❤️
Thank you so much, Dear Vera, you made me think about self-talk, it seems easier to say good things about other people rather than saying beautiful things to ourselves. Greetings from Mexico City :)
One thing I am really working hard on giving up to be more calm (although not sure if it's really a habit😅) is getting upset about people talking nonsense, hurtful things and this constant need to change their mind by explaining. And what I mean by that is mostly politics/society oriented. As a member of LGBT community in Poland it is really frequent to hear people talk really nasty things, show no respect. And it made me really upset and mad. Now I try to not engage in those negative patterns and chose compassion over anger. It helps to keep my calm and I feel better as a human being ❤
I feel the same. I deleted Facebook to avoid being drawn in. I realize I can't be the defender of every social issue, through social media. In real life, I will engage, but online there's no point.
Haha I just had to laugh out loud when you said "...they can like other people"!😂 The whole passage about people not needing to like you is very eye-opening and you put it in such funny words. Have a great day😊
Thanks for this inspiring video. I don’t mean to seem superficial, but your hair looks so beautiful. 😀 I’m glad you are leaning in to your natural curl and that you found great products. 😊
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Do you ever have squirrel days? 😁🐿
I loved your NIKSEN video first and that's where I started listening to you. Today was the squirrel day for me when I was constantly working to avoid talking to my real self and mask it with multi- tasking. Your videos are a treat to soul.
I do and I find that is usually my nervous system being overstimulated. I even knock into things as I’m physically out of balance as well as mentally. Breathing is something I would appreciate a video on, and how it can bring you calmness. ❤
OMG, yes! Those are the day I might notice my tongue, lol. I laughed so hard when you mentioned that at the end of the video; it was totally a laugh of recognition.
YES, definitely. I have days where there's just so much to do and I end up running around in a disorganised, stressed out mess. Love the squirrel image! Sometimes I feel like I'm being like a squirrel moving the nut from tree to tree, instead of slowing down and getting the nut to the right tree and into the right stash in the first place. Exhausting.
No but I’ll start
Vera, not only is your content deep, meaningful, and inspiring, but your scenes with water, breeze blowing through the leaves, and swans, birds and squirrels,(plus not forgetting that sleeping cat!) is like a mini vacation and brings me so much peace. Thank you. ❤️
I was also going to comment on this! Vera always includes such beautiful footage.
Aw thank you both!! Those images are both for my viewers to be able to relax, as well as for myself to relax while I'm editing hahaha.
I just noticed how relaxing your videos are. No crazy camera movements, no flashy lights, no epic text effects. Just good chill content and relaxing nature scenery. Truly unique. Thank you!
Yes, they help me relax so much. I really appreciate them
Totally agree!
Sometimes when I’m driving, I just leave the music off, roll the windows down and be. It actually feels really good to have no distractions.
I fight my bad feelings all the time and it just makes everything worse. I would appreciate a whole video on this.
It s ok to have bad feelings, if it doesn t work it doesn t work.
Me, too, please❤
Therapy helps
@@Brightstar765 I haven’t found a good therapist and it’s expensive to keep shopping around.
Thanks for the reminders - I don't need to keep / wear holey clothes!! I just paused the video to go and sort through a drawer and remove damaged items. I can afford and am worthy of clothes without holes in them! It sounds so simple, but there are such deep messages about self worth in there. Thank you :)
And at the same time, don't chastise yourself for having kept them. It may be a frugality urge from a childhood experience that gives you the instinct to preserve. Instead, I hope you congratulate yourself for overcoming the instinct and letting go of the item that has served you and is past due to be discarded.
I’d like to see a video discussing feeling my feelings because I have always suppressed my emotions and it’s been a very unhealthy habit that I don’t know how to break
Writing them and doing what’s called “The Work “ by Byron Katie I have found it’s totally changed my world
For me was journaling. Putting everything on the paper.
I am also a Christian. So I started talking to God on a paper, writing deep prayers and sharing my thoughts. Best to you dear!
@@RavynAli I just let it be ok i'm feeling that way. I just acknowledge it and don't fight it as you get more distressed if you fight it.
I have been struggling all my life to realize that i deserve good things too. Thank you for telling me this!!
Number 6: breaking the habit of talking more than listening is such a great point! There's a brilliant book called: "You're Not Listening" by Kate Murphy which explores this idea perfectly. I highly recommend it!
Bad habits I'm working on: 1) binge watching series (house declutterring journeys haha) after dinner until it is very late. 2) mindlessly doomscrolling through real estate listings when I'm not planning to buy anytime soon (although I want to). 3) procastinating projects when working from home. Thank you for this video, I'll be working on them this month.
Thank you so much for putting together such an informative & thought-provoking video. I especially liked your own "ah-ha" moment when you realized it's okay if not everyone likes you because you personally don't like everyone you come in contact with either, such an eye-opener for me as I find my balance...
The top you are wearing is one I have not seen before. It is extremely flattering, as is your hair style today. You look relaxed and peaceful.
I would love a video exploring the topic of feeling your feelings! I often have thoughts like "I shouldn't feel this way" or "I'm just so sensitive" and I think part of it is that I push away justified feelings that later pop up again and again because I have't given them the room they need to be properly processed.
Same here. I often feel like I'm a bad person for having any feeling that is less than positive or thankful. Especially since I'm known as a "positive person."
The bad habit I am working on right now is to stop getting involved into gossiping about others.. it just happens sometimes with colleauges or neighbors, but I want to work on it and dont get drawn into it anymore.. just keeps myself happier as well.
Me2! Even when I don't want to gossip, it seems I'm sucked in😢
Totally agreed! And a lot of times im Like whoaa how did I get drawn into this? I dont want to be this kind of person anymore ... and the hardest realization for me was that if im not gossiping with some people, we háve nothing to talk about anymore 😢
Good point !
"Enjoy the silence." Yes!!! I love early in the morning, opening the windows and just listening to the birds, the breeze in the trees or the silence if that's what is there. My husband is someone who has to have the noise, so he turns the TV on and doesn't watch it, drives me bananas.
Hahaha that's funny :) Also love the idea for enjoying silence in the mornings especially...
A lot of Americans seem to do that, at least I know quite a few… a bad habit and especially difficult if the spouse or partner doesn’t like it! Why not switch on some relaxing music instead…😂
Mam you are so beautiful ❤️
The longer I watch your channel, the more confident I become that you’re an angel.🙂😇
Thanks for being here Vera ❤️
I'm learning to respect my "peaceful time" and saying no to people, this semester in college I wouldn't catch a break, even on my weekends, so my anxiety got worse (I even had to go back to my psychologist). But I'm grateful that I catch the signs and improve my life! Everyone please remember to always have a healing time for yourself 😊
Thank you 💜 You brought up some really good points here that resonate with me deeply.
About having difficulty feeling gratitude when you are going through the process of grief or any other overwhelming negative feeling - I struggle with this so much, because I habitually stubbornly fight to keep gratitude in my life no matter what. But what normally helps me to calm down is one of my favorite quotes:
"The work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and to be stretched large by them."
Francis Ward Weller
I totally agree withyou about the gratitude, you wouldnt thank anyone for diarrhoea, but you could be grateful for the sink to wash your hands in, the bed to sleep in, thats how i see things, thank you for sharing Vera have a lovely week
You always tell me what the most important thing is for me. It’s very difficult not to do multiple tasks because I feel that I’m wasting my time. There’s a good Chinese phrase, “ to be satisfied with what you have “. I intend to forget that. I’d like to understand that I’m always have a lot and I’m happy, I don’t need to be a rush. Thanks always, Vera.
Love your hair absolutely beautiful💖. And the floral dress looks gorgeous on you. Very soft and feminine. Also very informative video. Thank you!
Aw thank you! 🤗🌷 Also happy to hear you enjoyed the information. 😊 Have a great day!
Thanks for the wonderful video, Vera. ❤ Yes, I absolutely have squirrel days! It kind of feels like I’m getting nowhere fast. And I also experience squirrel moments where I just randomly get distracted. As a HSP it is so difficult to try to multitask or hurry because doing so really feels overwhelming/stressful.
Exactly! :) Time to slow down then :) Thanks for sharing, have a lovely day!
Squirrel days are for taking some deep breaths and drinking some water ! More usual after a not so good night's sleep !
Dear Vera. I recognized myself in some of these habits. Thank you for talking about it, it will help me fight them.❤
I am trying to break my nail biting habit by reminding myself that a self-destructive response to anxiety is not helpful. I'm also working on my tendency to apologize for things that aren't my fault or responsibility, that one's challenging.
No joke, gel nail polish will help that. I used to bite nails all the time then I got gel nails done for a wedding and haven't bitten since. The gel polish will last like 4 weeks and you can get short neutral nails if that's more you're style
@@calilnalan I will try that, thank you!
A video about feeling your feelings would be so so helpful!!
“ I don’t like everybody ….. and everybody don’t have to like me ….. “
# 9 “ I’m worth it ! “
Excellent
Thanks for this nice video!
Many things to think about and small changes should be done easily.
And yes, most of my days feel like squirrel days, it starts in the morning, then at work and back at home again.
Working on replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts thru listening to inner wisdom, meditation, gratitude journal. Its a working progress.
Buying things I really dont need is my bad habit. It is getting better I have a feel good app on my phone and I have it as one of my goals for each day. It has really helped so far so if I am tempted I also think to myself buy this thing or go on my dream vacation/trip. I always choose my dream vacation/trip. I have only messed up/ bought something I dont need once. Pretty proud of myself. Hope this helps others.
Work is becoming very stressful because of a new manager making many changes that are not as great as they think. It is adding more work for me and is taking a toll on me. I am now looking for praise about how much I am doing and I am noticing I seem to loom for praise or a pat on the back for everything I feel overwhelmed about. I know I do a good job and I need to not let praise be what I need to solve my stressful situation. I guess this is the first step in solving my issue. Thank you for the videos they are really helpful to me, especially now! 😊
A bad habit, or rather, something that I should never give up, is meditation. I've been trough a somewhat lazy period and stopped meditating daily. I noticed that during that time, I couldn't manage negative emtions anymore and, alltogether, just became a less pleasant person. So: I must mediate every day!
Thank you for your amazing videos! They really are like a fresh breath of air! :D
I must say that I used to have all these bad habits, but getting older made me a lot more conscious of my life and so I changed most of them. I still can’t sit and stare at the wall but I just love to play some music at those times and completely get into the music. The main bad habits that I have are smoking cigarettes, postponing chores and not taking good care of myself where it concerns meals. So those are the things I would like to change this year and I’m working on it already for months by now without real change 😅
I love the discussion about one third, one third, and one third. So true! ❤️
Actually, this is the only thing I've ever disagreed with Vera on! I find it hard to believe that as many as a third would dislike her! In my experience, and from my perspective some people are loved by most because they radiate love and acceptance. I see the opposite as well from folks who struggle with acceptance and love (which usually also means they find it hard to accept themselves). Unfortunately, they tend to repel many people.
Item 4 is really good. I think we can get so caught up with trying to be like someone else that we forget to be who we are. Just because someone we know (or follow) embarks on an area of self-improvement does not mean we have to do the same. We all have things we need to improve, and those are the areas we should focus on (as necessary or as we desire), not the area that someone else is doing. As you said, we all have our strengths and our weaknesses and focusing on someone else's weakness serves no purpose.
Hey Vera! Great video as usual. I have to say the habit of gratitude is what I find most helpful and your tip on doing something to express gratitude is also very practical and something I will try do more often! Thanks for this one and have a great rest of the week! Many blessings!😊
19:55 YESSS! Practicing gratitude is so important yet so easy to put off sometimes... the day is always better when there is gratitude involved.
Hi Vera, I watch your videos but usually don't comment. I just wanted you to know how much peace your video brought me today. Thank you very much! Susanne ❤
I really liked this topic. Great use of examples. I am frying to break scrolling on RUclips so I set a timer before I start and this helps me watch my favorite subscribers and not sit there for a long time.
How I wish more people would smile the way Vera smiles. That natural, warm, spontaneous, kind of smile from the eyes that makes others feel safe and welcome and good to be around.
We all have our troubles and our setbacks but let's not take it out on the world or treat other people with coldness because you feel bad.
A smile costs nothing but is worth a million dollars. What you give, you get back and I truly believe that we all have an absolute duty to make this world a better place by simply being kinder to the people we meet along the way, no matter how fleeting.
Maya Angelou said that it's not what you said that others remember about you but how you made them feel. And it is true.
@@arthurlincoln9093 Oh wow, thank you for your kind words, loved what you said about how we treat others 🤗❤️🍵
I can tell your words are helping me because they tend to rub me the wrong way at first and then I feel a bit of release and allow in the good energy and thoughts.
I live in the northeast where people are workaholics and not super kind. I’m learning to separate my ideas from the group think of where I live. It’s really difficult, but I think I might have finally found a company that supports employees in a meaningful way :)
I just discovered you and your wonderful channel a few days ago and I’m happily binge watching your previous videos. Your authenticity and kind soul jump right through the screen, Vera. Sending you summer greetings from San Francisco!
Thank you! I am grateful for your putting this important step-by-step insight into the world for all of us to use to find more peace in our increasingly chaotic world. You give me a reason to express GRATITUDE! ❤
I used to try to understand what is causing the feeling and if it's possible to do something to make it stop. When it isn't possible, I try to accept what is happening and write my thoughts, this helps me to let it go when it's time. When none of this works, I mention on therapy what is going on and ask for help :)
Hi Vera 😊 thank you so much for your courage, kindness, and effort to bring this information to us 🩷 I have been making a lot of habit changes this year and my peace and calm has increased so much! I don't always succeed, but I keep trying, and try not to feel guilty when I fall back into old habits.
The biggest thing has been decreasing my need for constant mental stimulation (videos, audio books, phone scrolling). Just doing one thing, like washing dishes without watching a RUclips video at the same time, which is still a temptation. When I do one thing at a time, I feel such a sense of calm. I think my constant need for "noise" was a form of distraction from life stress. I am working on acknowledging the toll stress in my life takes, and making time to "recover" and rest my body and mind. So much more I could say, but all of your tips can create serious life changes! Thank you!
Wow Vera - in your first point you always hit the nail on the head for me. Yesterday I didn't make time to feel sadness, scrolled RUclips vids long past it feeling fun. This morning I'm feeling the emotions simmering & bubbling. I'll definitely make time to watch a show that always releases my emotions. Thank you for the reminder, it's so easy to forget when life is stressful- moving house!
Your content has really been matching up with where I am in my life. RE: self-acceptance, I actually am a little bit obsessed with self-improvement. I've always been very driven in this way. I've been stressed at work because of a coworker who has been missing deadlines which I'm technically responsible for. Today I had this insight that all of my anxiety and stress is coming from this idea that I must do everything perfectly in order to be acceptable, and in my mind, she has been standing in the way of my perfection! I realized I don't have to be perfect, and you know what? She doesn't either. It was such a liberating insight. Your video fits perfectly with that.
10:48 My old counselor who helped me through a lot used to say: There is a reason we have two ears and one mouth. (So we can listen more than we speak.) So true. She has since passed away, may she rest in peace
Your country's govt's move hard right is as scary as the one here in the U.S. It's difficult not to "feel your feelings" with this kind of &hit going on all around you. Your videos are a nice distraction from the day's events. Thank you for them.
I'd love the deeper video about feeling your feelings
Not wanting the best for myself really resonated with me and doim scrolling ..2 very bad habits i struggle with.
Great video! I am getting into the habit of doing one thing at a time. It was so much better to give my full attention to the video.
Wonderful, good for you!! 🤗 Have a lovely rest of your day 🌷
Thank you for these tips! I had to allow for my feelings on my own. I am not feeling celebrative and not in the mood of fun especially in times of grief. I like being in my own company for inner peace. I am embracing the slow life and adjusting to a fully retired life. This journey of finding myself is much healthier for me. I am getting into a regular routine of household cleaning and gardening. I am also focusing on frugal living and planning healthier meal plans. I have been working on it progressively over the years. Of course mistakes are made but one learn from it. I am no longer active on social media. I think I have becoming more patient with myself and with others. I have managed to have less distractions in my life. This is most definitely a big transformation for me who used to be a go getter and rushing to move forward asap. I live in the present now. Grateful and appreciative of today and each day. Alhamdulillah.
Thank you for this video, as always I appreciate your words and your voice always manages to soothe me :) The 9th point made me laugh simply because I'm right in it: my socks full of holes that I continue to wear while pushing my partner to buy new things for him by telling him "you deserve to wear new things, treat yourself" XD You know what, I deserve it too so my goal for the week will be to go buy socks and not the first ones that come along, not the ones that I like and that I will enjoy wearing ^^ Have a good day Vera :)
Thank you for these wonderful tips on living a more balanced and peaceful life. Wonderful reminders. Especially like the reminder of feeling your feelings..and taking time to sit back and not try to cover it up or numb it. So enjoying your videos.
My mother recently passed away and your channel is a great comfort. Simply feeling and sitting with my emotions without defining them or analyzing is such lovely advice. I also love your reminder about finding more time for silence. I've been doing that when driving in th car and can feel my system relax. I'll be finding more quiet throughout my day. ✨❇✨
Yes! You can he pitiful or powerful but not both. Joyce Meyer said that. Love her book battlefield of the mind and great video!
15:27 I will just add that there is a great guy named Julien Blanc (he’s doing public seminars and also posting a lot of videos here as JulienHimself). He’s really helped many people feel okay with not being liked. He embarrased himself in front of the world and everyone somehow forgot about it and nobody cares anymore and I think that is what really fuels his teaching journey. And I think that thanks to what he’s been through, there is really nobody more enlightened than him for teaching us about confidence.
Me watching (listening in fact) this video while searching on my laptop and texting my sisters, and realizing I have to stop and prioritize. 😊
About the self improvement thing that you said made sooo much sense and I realized that i am like that because this is what i see on social media all the time and made me like that in a way but today I heard something different from you and it is just sooo right❤thank you
I found you and my feelings were of relief and I felt like crying because I felt seen or I recognized myself. (?).
Hi Vera, I would love a video on feeling your feelings!
Yes! I do! It's like I've noticed my tongue in my life and all of a sudden, I can't stop feeling it! I thought I was the only one! Thanks for sharing x
Loved this Vera. Can relate to every single point. Thanks 🙏 x
My bad habit is thinking I have to give to others more than myself. Thinking I need to balance their needs over my own. I'm starting to believe more that i am worth the effort to eat what I want and need for my body not just what everyone else is eating in my home.
You have inspired me in another video to leave out the drama in my life. So gossiping, complaining or trying to convince other people of my opinion are bad habits that I am actively trying to break.
Thank you for your many inspirations!
인생의 삶에 도움되는 팁 정말 감사합니다.
2:49 A video about how to deal with and sort through feelings would be great! I would definitely benefit from watching a video like that from ya! :)
Gratitude changes everything!
Number 2 is on the button. But ADHD can play a huge part in squirrel days - every day! Great content nicely delivered. Thank you! 💚
I could connect so well with all the habits you talked about, currently I am focusing on listening more than talking more because I talk a lot too!
Also, try to be more present and focus on one thing than multi-tasking ✨
"do you ever become suddenly aware of your tongue?" 😂 YES. Usually when it's a really bad time to get distracted. This made my day
I’m grateful I found your channel.
Success doesn’t manifest by itself, you have to chase it.
Thank you Vera for your wisdom and guidance. 🙏 Your aura and your apartment are so lovely and soothing I think we all would want to come and have some nice tea with you. ❤️
Aw thank you that's so sweet 🤗🍵
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LOVE your list. The points I relate to the most at this time are feeling feelings and more listening. I'm working on being more honest with myself and with others about my feelings. The second, I'm working on listening more and not necessarily sharing my own experience, trying to relate to the other person. Also interesting to observe others with these two, express feelings and how well they listen.
Yes please! Could you share a video on how to process our feelings? Thank you!
Thank you so much for this video! Love your calm personality. :-)
Thank you so much Vera. I never heard of Squirrels day but I guess I'm guilty of that. Doing different things at the same time. ❤❤
Vera I agree with you 💯 thank you for verbally voicing everything I need to hear I have had a really terrible 5 weeks but my situation has been for years I’ve decided to delete most social media sites a long with many people I’m going to concentrate on what’s important to me for once in my entire life I’m busy decluttering my kitchen I’m feeling overwhelmed but every item I bin is making me feel better I’m not in a good place mentally because of narcissistic abuse but I say no more enough is enough and I intend to get my life and my house in order as much as possible I do it with a heavy heart but I’m doing it thank you for this video 🌿🌵
@@margarettownsley9500 That's amazing Margaret 👏 Way to go! Sending you a high five 🤗❤️
Ahh, what a way to take a much- needed break with another peaceful, insightful video from the lovely Vera. Thank you & may you have a wonderful weekend. ❤
Hi Vera, thank you for this video. I liked what you said about how not everyone will like you the same way you don't like everyone you come across. It's something I struggle with for sure but still working on it 😌 one bad habit I am trying to break at the moment is mindlessly scrolling as it has become really bad lately, so social media has now been deleted. Thank you 🙏
You are astonishingly helpful!!
Hello,
I am grateful for the videos you make. Thank you !
Vera, ALL of these topics were good and your perspective was refreshing, particularly #7; said with love and wisdom.
Yay, happy to hear it!! Thanks Viki 🤗🌷🌱 Hope you're doing well and having a nice day so far!
I honestly think that quitting social media is one of the best things we HSPs can do. Overstimulation, sad stories, and people arguing all the time (a big trigger for me) is everything that we should stay away from.
All about gratitude!
I am greatful for you Vera! 💜
Aw thank you 🤗💕
i love kyra ann she is my best youtuber, Thank you for mention her.
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Thanks! Your video is a much needed break for me - and great reminders. I've been pulled in a direction lately that has given me a lot of squirrel days. I'm working on trying to get closer to more balance in my life again. take care
Another excellent video. There's elements of all these points I could incorporate into my life and I know it would make it better. I believe in gratitude too. I've also learned to to stop running around like a squirrel and rushing around. I might rush around a little bit if I'd like to get some practical things done but not so much. I'm much more patient and I do things gradually. I could also be a better listener. Ps there are so many videos about what 'to do' to have a calmer life and they all very good. This video is really great and very important because it details really well about what 'not to do'.
Great video ! Listened to it twice and really enjoyed it. Yes i totally get what you mean at the end of your video so funny i have that too sometimes.
Thank you Vera for a well curated list 🤍Currently I am writing the comment from my July staycation, reffering to point 9. A great decision I made for myself after a long career transitioning process. Sending best wishes!
I am working on not criticising myself.. I keep telling myself how amazing I am doing now and also have done so far.. still have a long way to go to break this habit..
Loved the video btw❤️
Thank you so much, Dear Vera, you made me think about self-talk, it seems easier to say good things about other people rather than saying beautiful things to ourselves. Greetings from Mexico City :)
One thing I am really working hard on giving up to be more calm (although not sure if it's really a habit😅) is getting upset about people talking nonsense, hurtful things and this constant need to change their mind by explaining. And what I mean by that is mostly politics/society oriented. As a member of LGBT community in Poland it is really frequent to hear people talk really nasty things, show no respect. And it made me really upset and mad. Now I try to not engage in those negative patterns and chose compassion over anger. It helps to keep my calm and I feel better as a human being ❤
I can relate. I stopped getting into it with people over that same topic.
I feel the same. I deleted Facebook to avoid being drawn in. I realize I can't be the defender of every social issue, through social media. In real life, I will engage, but online there's no point.
The reminders are deep and on point! I'm starting to look at life a bit different now. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Vera!😊
Haha I just had to laugh out loud when you said "...they can like other people"!😂 The whole passage about people not needing to like you is very eye-opening and you put it in such funny words. Have a great day😊
Vera, you are beautiful! Your videos and sage advice brighten my day. 🤗
This video is right on time. Just what I needed. Thanks for sharing! 💚
Thanks for this inspiring video. I don’t mean to seem superficial, but your hair looks so beautiful. 😀 I’m glad you are leaning in to your natural curl and that you found great products. 😊
Wonderful videos of the nature! Beautiful ❤ The tips soooo useful, as always!