"I like myself better when I don't pay attention to anyone else". I don't know who said it but I have codependent issues and this saying always helps me pull out of unhealthy thinking. Thanks Vera.
Two little sayings that hit home for me.... 1. Not sure where this one came from.. "Mainstream is not the only stream." 2. This one surprisingly (at least for me) is from David Bowie.. "Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been."
A good friend told me long ago that if you don't look after yourself, nobody else will. That's one of the best pieces of advice I ever got. I also have a saying for myself when I'm overwhelmed with too many things to do, "First things first, next things next." which is a simple way of reminding myself to focus on one task only and then giving full attention to the next instead of trying to do too many things at once. Your videos make my day! I always learn something.
"There are days, when it is a immense task enough, just to survive to the next day." (Quoted from memory, read in Luise Rinser's novel *Mitte des Lebens* in the late 1970's) This has helped me through difficult times, as in dark days, you don't have to survive with grace, not with pride of yourself, not to impress - just to survive, so that you can take a baby-step tomorrow. I believe other people whom I told this wisdom, also have felt comforted by this humble and doable step, because sometimes it is enough to just hold out until tomorrow. Nothing more is demanded. I loved everyone of the good thoughts today from you, Vera! All the best!
Dear Vera, I just want to thank you once again for all your videos, but especially this one with the messages that it IS OK to do what we need to do for ourselves. Some of us get this reminder very little in our own lives - or not at all. I realized years back that if I'm not hearing these kind reminders from others, then I have to start telling them to myself, or seek them out from comforting sources, like your beautiful channel. I love your soothing voice, your positivity, your understanding, and the way you stand up for all of us HSPs! xo
"Give yourself a year" really resonated with me. I was part-time and not permanent at my job. A month ago, I got a permanent and full-time position. I am really happy about it but I'm struggling to adjust and keep my life balanced. Going from almost unemployed to full-time in a week is really hard for me. I don't understand how everyone can work full-time and still take care of the house, the kids, the errands and not lose their head. It just seems so easy for everyone and I feel like I could never make it. BUT, it's been a month. I will take the advice, and give myself a year. 😊 Thank you very much.
All great advice Vera, my favourite is not having to be the same as you were yesterday. I've recently began wearing men's suits (shirt, tie, jacket & pants) to work & when I go out, which is a huge change as a female who always wore jeans & t-shirt, but I watch many older films & can't help but admire how well dressed the men were, I wanted to look as stylish as them. Change can be scary at first, especially not knowing how other people will react, but ultimately if it makes you happy you should go for it.
Someone once told me, “Ann, don’t worry about the pebbles. Watch out for the rocks!” HSP’s will notice the specks in the pebbles but I’m still learning to not let them trip me up so much. I love your mantra, “not now “.
Regarding switching from tai chi to yoga/fitness, ah yes, the good ol' "sunk-cost fallacy." That one's trapped me, in the past. I was a musician for a couple decades, but one day I realized that I was no longer that person. Leaving it behind was still depressing and made me reconsider, based on how much time and money I had spent. However, at the end of the day, I was forcing myself to "be" someone I no longer recognized. Life evolves. 💙
The really difficult changes to manage take at least two years or more - like surviving a divorce, starting a totally new career or life-style, or recovering from/adjusting to a life-changing illness - and then one has to really do one's best, it doesn't happen from itself. Time doesn't heal everything - you yourself make the positive shift, and you can do it, one step at the time. Be open to any help from even random sources. It might show up at any time, in any form.
Going through a divorce and being separated for 2 years …I still don’t feel like I’ve recovered. It almost feels like I went a few steps back recently with another chapter closing in my life. Hoping for better days.
Don't know if I qualify as a highly sensitive person but I am going through a very difficult time and I found your advice very helpful anyway. I recently found the channel, subscribed, already started adapting and using in my life some of the tips I learnt here. I am forever grateful.
Thank you so much and welcome to the channel! So happy to hear you already found some helpful tips here :) Take good care and have a wonderful weekend!!!
A great piece of advice from my therapist: you cannot change what other do... but you can control the way you react to that. Excellent video, thank you Vera!!
Your Dad's saying is similar to one we use in the UK and maybe other countries, but I'm not sure. It's "If you don't ask, you don't get." I'm having a bit of a rubbish time with a fibromyalgia flare-up and exhaustion, and I really needed a quiet, warm voice and relaxed video, and right away I thought of you. Thank you, Vera, for everything you do for all of us❤ 🙏 Yes you're right. Grave of the fireflies is so very sad. I watched it years ago and it still stays with me. 😢 It is amazing though ❤
"we'll cross that bridge when we come to it" said in passing by my mum, I have been a future planner/worrier for so long, over thinking and planning things out way too early/in advance, When I was rambling to her one day about my plans she said this it immediately quieted my mind and allowed me to relax. Now whenever I start worrying about something in the future I remind myself of this and I calm down, and a majority of the time, when it does come time to cross the bridge everything is fine and there was never any reason to worry.
Hearing about real, actionable advice that has transformed someone else’s life can be so inspiring, especially when you’re feeling lost or overwhelmed. Sometimes, it’s small shifts in mindset or approach that can make the biggest difference, and this video likely provides the kind of wisdom that can help people navigate their challenges and find clarity and strength
What a wonderful way to begin the weekend! You always give the most helpful tips and info. I think I’m going to order “The Highly Sensitive Person” book you mentioned. I love how you give us all reminders to be advocates for ourselves and to do what’s in our best interests. Thank you so much😊
Aw thank you, so happy you enjoyed the video! And yes, the book is definitely a recommendation :) I added a direct link to the book to my description box, but no pressure to use my link of course if you can get it somewhere else :) Have a lovely weekend!!
Thank you so MUCH, Vera! I am a lot older than you, but I am just making my first steps on the road to self care...so, I am very grateful to you for the wisdom you share with us! Everything you said in this and other videos resonates with me and helps to be on track.P. S. One very intelligent woman said, "Ask yourself if you are really happy, and depending on your positive or negative answer, start taking corresponding actions with a smile".
This might have been mentioned, but one of my favorites that my Mom says is: "Where there is a will there is a way." In times of struggle or worry I simply sprinkle on a little relaxing and let go of any struggle and a way is found! Yep, magic.❤
I had a burnout too when I moved from a small company to a very big company. It was 5 years ago. The role was Product Manager. After I quit, I am never convinced to go back to a corporate job. I started freelancing as a social media manager. I feel so reassured to know I'm not alone. I also feel a sense of calm while watching your videos, Vera.
I could listen to you talk all day ❤ I love all these life lessons! A big lesson for me was learning to worry less about what other people think of me, and instead be the person I want to be
Yesterday I watched a random video about habits from someone who has a channel about living alone in her 50s, and one thing she does is curate her social media to keep the negativity to a minimum. She included some youtube channels she watches and one of them was yours. :)
I've prided myself on my tenacity, but I'm so tired of being a "human doing" in stead of a "human being." I like that you pointed out taking care of yourself and making your life a little easier and more comfortable is worth the investment and not something to be ashamed of. Big changes taking a whole year to acclimate to sounds wild to me. My life has been lived in such a whirlwind, taking a year to get used to something sounds like a luxury. Kiki's Delivery Service is one of my favourite childhood movies. Ursula's advice is the best advice. I've doled it out to friends on many occasions. It's what I'm trying to do right now. To just let myself be and stop trying so very hard. I look forward to your videos as a reminder to take a moment to remember to slow down and appreciate a hot cup of tea or similar. Thank you for the lovely thoughts, as usual.
'LOVE YOURSELF' This advice of BTS change my life. I was always told to put others first and not be selfish. For 30 yrs I applied this and was used by others shamlessly. At the end I lost my joy of living and was suffering from low selfesteem and emotional burnout. Now I understand that caring for yourself and protecting yourself is selfpreservation and not being selfish. If you are feeling happy only then you can give happiness to others.❤
“You gave me the best of you, so you give you the best of you” really spoke to me too from them! If you can try your hardest for others, you should try your hardest for yourself
Not sure if it counts as advice, but I once came across a phrase that changed my life: "Low self-esteem is, by definition, a false perception of oneself". For anyone out there struggling with their self-esteem, you are not alone and it can get better. Give yourself permission to see yourself differently 💚 Couldn't agree more about Grave of the Fireflies. Watched it years ago without knowing what I was getting myself into, never again 😅
Grave of the Fireflies! 😭 I haven’t been able to watch that film since I first saw it over a decade ago… truly the most heart-wrenching, utterly depressing film out there, but indeed a masterpiece. Once piece of advice my husband gave me was “If something’s worth doing, it’s worth doing badly.” This phrase usually ends with the word “well”, meaning that you should always take your time over a task and do it to the best of your ability. But when it is changed to “badly”, it is designed to make you realise that not everything needs to be done perfectly… usually, a half decent job is better than no job at all. I struggle with procrastination and overthinking, so this saying helps, and it also confuses people and makes them laugh. 😅 Some people also say “Done is better than perfect.”
For me the quote for Jim Carrey "Hope Walks Through the fire. Faith Leaps over it" as simple as it may sound. Completely changed my life from the ground up. I subconsciously lived through hope "hoping I get the job I want, hope I can pass whatever I'm doing, hope I get a good relationship" but that hope was doing nothing but holding me down, and I didn't even realise it until even after I stopped believe in hope.. I heard that quote Sat on it for a week, thinking about it a lot, and one day 2 hours into my shift, I quit my job and restarted my life, and have achieved so many things that i had "hoped" for for years... hope is a chain, Faith in yourself (not god) is freedom ♥
I'm so grateful for your advice and your existence, I used to write some of what you are saying and try to apply. I'm sixty, mostly double of your age 😊, but I learned a lot from you. Greetings from an Iraqi woman living in Virginia ❤
Thank you for another wonderful video Vera! I have been at my job for 11 years now and for the past 2 years it's been really rough because of staff changes and times of being short staffed which made me be responsible for not only my job but another one as well. It has been really stressful and I've definitely been feeling burnt out. Your videos really helped me to remember to take the time to relax and leave work at work instead of taking it home. They are so comforting and eye opening to me in realizing that self care is very important and I have been trying to take the time for that!
Sept - Dec best part of the year. Post-holidays, bare, droopy trees, rain, dark days and gray skies sort of suck. Would love an episode on how Netherlands handle that late winter pre spring stretch.
Dear Vera, thank you so much for this video, especially for advice #6. Your talking about Kiki losing her magic due to trying too hard really made me cry, because I thought for a very long time this year that I lost my ability to write my novels while I was trying so hard to get something written. I finally took a break from writing (not being told by a friend like Ursula, but my husband), and just now I have the feeling that it slowly comes back to me - but I still need my beraks and I still need to take it slowly. I need to watch that movie.
I would like to take a moment of my Sunday and appreciate how amazing your video is. It is well thought out and very on point. As someone who has many big changes in life within less than two years I really appreciate this. 😊
❤ Tea & talk w Vera make every day better! Totally resonate with all. As a fellow HSP w more “life experience” I’ve learned to hold dreams lightly as they may not come true, but to follow your life goals with the perseverance of a marathon runner. For me, that is following Jesus in his will, joy, love, patience, forgiveness, gentleness, kindness, peace, faithfulness, and self control. These things will make me a better human, and although the journey may be a “scenic tour” instead of a straight line, ultimately my life will be a rich legacy and I won’t be crushed by the broken pieces of dreams, fears, anxieties, and disillusionments along the way. God bless you Vera for the light of your soul ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and I'm happy you enjoyed the video and that the points resonated with you! 🤗🍵 Love what you said about life not being a straight line but rather taking the 'scenic route' 🌳 I think that's the way it often goes, and these unexpected surprises and detours can make it even more worthwhile
Someone had done something that hurt me badly and I was trying to understand why they had done it. A friend told me, “Don’t try to understand it. Your mind doesn’t work the way theirs does.” Another one I read somewhere was “If a snake bites you you don’t try to convince the snake you didn’t deserve to be bitten…You focus on healing. My final one is “Quit complaining about being a doormat and get off the damn floor!”
Thank you so much for your genuineness. Your videos specially those about HSPs honestly has changed my self view and I am forever changed. you've opened my eyes and my heart. Deeply appreciate all your effort and videos. Much Love to you
Vera your videos are warm hug.. love you so much.. I must say I love comments section if ur videos equally.. so beautiful and amazing like minded kind hearted souls.. Thanks for this extraordinary community and superlative content❤️
(Work advice) Treat each job like a stepping stone to where you want to be. I like this because it reminds me that there is value in where I am right now, rather than just thinking of the future.
Thank you for this video, Vera 🥰 "Be more self-accommodating" is one thing you mentioned that has been changing my life this year in big ways. Today, for instance, I know I need to limit my physical activity before the workweek begins, or I will start it off without energy. So, I will be stopping some activities midday and sitting and resting while other family members continue their activities, which I already told them about yesterday. I have to plan to preserve my well-being. I can't live exhausted anymore.
Someone told me once that no one can use you as a doormat unless you allow yourself to be used as one. Self advocacy is important. Also there are 3 Chinese proverbs I love. 1-the strongest tree in the forest is the one that bends in the wind . 2- the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. 3- the strongest steel is forged by the hottest fire. I try to remember these when undergoing change.
It’s an abusive statement to a lot of people. Anyone abused as a child can easily get tricked into being a doormat again and they certainly don’t give permission
I was given the same advice as you regarding it taking time to adjust to a new job. There were layoffs that were starting at the company I had worked at for years and years so I had to go to a new department - it took me a long time to adjust to a new role that I had zero experience in. I really need to watch Kiki's Delivery Service!! Your advice in this video is wonderful.
Glad I checked in with you today, Vera (I've fallen a bit behind on your videos). Your wisdom and compassion for yourself and others that you share with us is heartwarming and I just love it. Thank you ❤🙏🥰
I was 15 when my grandfather died. At the funeral I only shed a few tears when I saw my granny crying, because I felt so sorry for her. But I didn't cry about the death of my grandpa. Afterwards several people, family and acquaintances, approached and scolded me, telling I was so heartless and cold, just because I didn't cry. A few days later I asked my mum about that. I remember us standing in the kitchen, she with her back towards me, cutting some vegetables. What she said was, "Many people cry at the death of a person, because deep down they realise that there were still things they wanted to tell them." Almost 30 years later it is still my habit to tell people when they show a trait I like about them, that I am proud of them or simply that I am happy that they're with me right now. Not in a compliment kind of way. More like sitting together, a short moment of silence and I say something like, "you're awesome". No special reason. Just what I felt in that moment.
“If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.” A great reminder for me to trust my critical thinking before jumping into something that someone else recommends because “not everyone has my best interests in mind.”
Once, when I was 18 years old, I was complaining a lot about my life situation to my dad and he just said "well you chose it yourself". First I was so offended😅 Then i realised that it was so true, all the things I was complaining about was consequences of my own choises. I remind myself of this advice everytime I find myself frustrated - I take responsibility and remember I always have a choise to make changes for the better!😊
Thanks for your video. One of my beliefs.. ‘it will work itself out!’ It allows me not to worry about it.. I will do what I can etc.. but not worry overly.. because it will work itself out.. one way or another.. and then I move onto the next thing I want to do… ❤
A wonderful comment that has made a big difference in my life - if someone makes an unkind comment about you or someone else, it says more about them than the person they are commenting about. Worth thinking about.
Hello from Massachusetts, USA. Many thanks for this video. Funny, but when I was first watching, it seemed that the advice was really more suitable for young3r viewers. But, as I thought about it, a great deal of this inspired me, now age 82. (Not the period underwear, thank goodness! 😀). Even words about job-related issues are equally applicable to just everyday life -- which is just another type of job. In the past few years, how many times I've felt I have lost that spark. Thankfully, it seems to be coming back, and I feel that your video came through at the perfect time. We all need the kind of encouragement you are offering, Vera. Keep on with your wonderful work --- and take as many breaks as you need to. I've been watching your videos since COVID. It is a joy to watch you learn and change. You have become a wise woman, and we are all the beneficiaries of that! ❤️😊
❤ Happy SENSATIONAL SATURDAY! Good to see you beautiful VERA in the NETHERLANDS! You are a breath of fresh air. I pray for you 🙏 to be blessed and safe. KATIE ❣️ KENTUCKY😊!
My Dad always said, “You always get paid more for your talent than your time.” It helped me really focus on the things I am good at and the ways I stand out in the world. I used these talents and skills to expect/demand a specialized salary or fee rather than just clocking in hours doing something anybody could do/ that required no special skills. Believe me, I have humbly done many hourly jobs because they needed to be done or because that was the work available to me at the time, but keeping my eye on opportunities to use my talents to garner better wages has helped greatly in the long run.
I wish I saw this video when I was in my 20 when I was pushing myself to work non stop exercise every day and have a perfect home. Now I am in my 50 I understand that I need to respect my needs for taking a break, having a quiet day or it’s ok to have less productive day .
I moved last October and also retuned back to work Oct 10th of last year to a new role after being on disability for 7.5 years. It definitely taken me a year to get settled into my new apartment, but if I’m being honest (only being able to work 1ish day a week) after a year at my new job I’m still figuring it out. 😒
A 'life lessons from Studio Ghibli films' video makes me super happy just thinking about it, so I'd certainly love it if you made it! 🙂 The 'right now, the only thing you have to think about is which tea you want to drink' lesson is one that I got from your videos which has been very transformational for me. I'm still working on it, but I'm getting better at making time to just let go and to let myself have some proper 'time off' for myself, to rest and recover. It is absolutely wonderful and has been key to helping me develop more self-compassion too.
Thank you for all this advice. I'm having a tough time and could use all of these. I also wanted to ask.. I have a "highly sensitive" nose.😂 Do the period panties have an odor as you wear them through the day?
You're welcome, hope things will soon get easier for you! 🍵🌷 About your question, it's never been very noticeable for me personally, but I think you can compare it to the odor that you would have with single use pads. Blood has a slight odor of course. What I do is just put on a new one when it doesn't feel very fresh anymore. 😊
"I like myself better when I don't pay attention to anyone else". I don't know who said it but I have codependent issues and this saying always helps me pull out of unhealthy thinking. Thanks Vera.
Oh that's actually so good, thanks for sharing that one! I'm going to practice with it :) Have a great weekend!
@@cantocant2346 Wow! That’s a really great quote! And so true!
Wonderful quote! I will try to remember it; this is what I REALLY need...Thanks!
Two little sayings that hit home for me....
1. Not sure where this one came from..
"Mainstream is not the only stream."
2. This one surprisingly (at least for me) is from David Bowie..
"Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been."
"Romanticize your life" is a piece of advice that has made so much sense to me. Noticing how full of small pleasures our lives are feels so good!
"I would make a entire video about the lessons I learned from Studio Ghibli" YES please!!! ❤
A good friend told me long ago that if you don't look after yourself, nobody else will. That's one of the best pieces of advice I ever got. I also have a saying for myself when I'm overwhelmed with too many things to do, "First things first, next things next." which is a simple way of reminding myself to focus on one task only and then giving full attention to the next instead of trying to do too many things at once. Your videos make my day! I always learn something.
"There are days, when it is a immense task enough, just to survive to the next day." (Quoted from memory, read in Luise Rinser's novel *Mitte des Lebens* in the late 1970's) This has helped me through difficult times, as in dark days, you don't have to survive with grace, not with pride of yourself, not to impress - just to survive, so that you can take a baby-step tomorrow. I believe other people whom I told this wisdom, also have felt comforted by this humble and doable step, because sometimes it is enough to just hold out until tomorrow. Nothing more is demanded.
I loved everyone of the good thoughts today from you, Vera! All the best!
Dear Vera, I just want to thank you once again for all your videos, but especially this one with the messages that it IS OK to do what we need to do for ourselves. Some of us get this reminder very little in our own lives - or not at all. I realized years back that if I'm not hearing these kind reminders from others, then I have to start telling them to myself, or seek them out from comforting sources, like your beautiful channel. I love your soothing voice, your positivity, your understanding, and the way you stand up for all of us HSPs! xo
"Give yourself a year" really resonated with me.
I was part-time and not permanent at my job. A month ago, I got a permanent and full-time position. I am really happy about it but I'm struggling to adjust and keep my life balanced. Going from almost unemployed to full-time in a week is really hard for me.
I don't understand how everyone can work full-time and still take care of the house, the kids, the errands and not lose their head. It just seems so easy for everyone and I feel like I could never make it.
BUT, it's been a month. I will take the advice, and give myself a year. 😊
Thank you very much.
All great advice Vera, my favourite is not having to be the same as you were yesterday. I've recently began wearing men's suits (shirt, tie, jacket & pants) to work & when I go out, which is a huge change as a female who always wore jeans & t-shirt, but I watch many older films & can't help but admire how well dressed the men were, I wanted to look as stylish as them. Change can be scary at first, especially not knowing how other people will react, but ultimately if it makes you happy you should go for it.
That sounds very stylish indeed
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Hi Vera. My friend told me: Those who matter don't mind; those who mind don't matter.
Someone once told me, “Ann, don’t worry about the pebbles. Watch out for the rocks!” HSP’s will notice the specks in the pebbles but I’m still learning to not let them trip me up so much.
I love your mantra, “not now “.
Regarding switching from tai chi to yoga/fitness, ah yes, the good ol' "sunk-cost fallacy." That one's trapped me, in the past. I was a musician for a couple decades, but one day I realized that I was no longer that person. Leaving it behind was still depressing and made me reconsider, based on how much time and money I had spent. However, at the end of the day, I was forcing myself to "be" someone I no longer recognized. Life evolves. 💙
YES well said 🤗😁 This is exactly it.
@@SimpleHappyZen And btw, speaking of Ghibli, I totally missed "The Red Turtle" and just got around to it. Highly recommended! 😎
Oh I haven't seen that one yet! Weird hahaha. I'll see if I can find it
Give yourself a year, this is a very useful advice. Thank you very much!
Happy to hear it! I've also found it so helpful 🤗🍵
@@SimpleHappyZen And your video is very useful. I think that I will watch it again 🍂🤎💡
The really difficult changes to manage take at least two years or more - like surviving a divorce, starting a totally new career or life-style, or recovering from/adjusting to a life-changing illness - and then one has to really do one's best, it doesn't happen from itself. Time doesn't heal everything - you yourself make the positive shift, and you can do it, one step at the time. Be open to any help from even random sources. It might show up at any time, in any form.
Going through a divorce and being separated for 2 years …I still don’t feel like I’ve recovered. It almost feels like I went a few steps back recently with another chapter closing in my life. Hoping for better days.
Don't know if I qualify as a highly sensitive person but I am going through a very difficult time and I found your advice very helpful anyway. I recently found the channel, subscribed, already started adapting and using in my life some of the tips I learnt here. I am forever grateful.
Thank you so much and welcome to the channel! So happy to hear you already found some helpful tips here :) Take good care and have a wonderful weekend!!!
A great piece of advice from my therapist: you cannot change what other do... but you can control the way you react to that.
Excellent video, thank you Vera!!
Your Dad's saying is similar to one we use in the UK and maybe other countries, but I'm not sure. It's "If you don't ask, you don't get." I'm having a bit of a rubbish time with a fibromyalgia flare-up and exhaustion, and I really needed a quiet, warm voice and relaxed video, and right away I thought of you. Thank you, Vera, for everything you do for all of us❤ 🙏
Yes you're right. Grave of the fireflies is so very sad. I watched it years ago and it still stays with me. 😢 It is amazing though ❤
"we'll cross that bridge when we come to it" said in passing by my mum, I have been a future planner/worrier for so long, over thinking and planning things out way too early/in advance, When I was rambling to her one day about my plans she said this it immediately quieted my mind and allowed me to relax. Now whenever I start worrying about something in the future I remind myself of this and I calm down, and a majority of the time, when it does come time to cross the bridge everything is fine and there was never any reason to worry.
Hearing about real, actionable advice that has transformed someone else’s life can be so inspiring, especially when you’re feeling lost or overwhelmed. Sometimes, it’s small shifts in mindset or approach that can make the biggest difference, and this video likely provides the kind of wisdom that can help people navigate their challenges and find clarity and strength
This too shall pass - everything changes
What a wonderful way to begin the weekend! You always give the most helpful tips and info. I think I’m going to order “The Highly Sensitive Person” book you mentioned. I love how you give us all reminders to be advocates for ourselves and to do what’s in our best interests. Thank you so much😊
Aw thank you, so happy you enjoyed the video! And yes, the book is definitely a recommendation :) I added a direct link to the book to my description box, but no pressure to use my link of course if you can get it somewhere else :) Have a lovely weekend!!
@@SimpleHappyZen Thank you so much. Hope you have a lovely weekend as well😊
Thank you so MUCH, Vera! I am a lot older than you, but I am just making my first steps on the road to self care...so, I am very grateful to you for the wisdom you share with us! Everything you said in this and other videos resonates with me and helps to be on track.P. S. One very intelligent woman said, "Ask yourself if you are really happy, and depending on your positive or negative answer, start taking corresponding actions with a smile".
A workplace mentor said, “slow down, and do one thing at a time.” It’s a gift you give yourself. ❤️
This might have been mentioned, but one of my favorites that my Mom says is: "Where there is a will there is a way." In times of struggle or worry I simply sprinkle on a little relaxing and let go of any struggle and a way is found! Yep, magic.❤
I had a burnout too when I moved from a small company to a very big company. It was 5 years ago. The role was Product Manager. After I quit, I am never convinced to go back to a corporate job. I started freelancing as a social media manager. I feel so reassured to know I'm not alone.
I also feel a sense of calm while watching your videos, Vera.
I could listen to you talk all day ❤ I love all these life lessons! A big lesson for me was learning to worry less about what other people think of me, and instead be the person I want to be
Yesterday I watched a random video about habits from someone who has a channel about living alone in her 50s, and one thing she does is curate her social media to keep the negativity to a minimum. She included some youtube channels she watches and one of them was yours. :)
I've prided myself on my tenacity, but I'm so tired of being a "human doing" in stead of a "human being." I like that you pointed out taking care of yourself and making your life a little easier and more comfortable is worth the investment and not something to be ashamed of. Big changes taking a whole year to acclimate to sounds wild to me. My life has been lived in such a whirlwind, taking a year to get used to something sounds like a luxury.
Kiki's Delivery Service is one of my favourite childhood movies. Ursula's advice is the best advice. I've doled it out to friends on many occasions. It's what I'm trying to do right now. To just let myself be and stop trying so very hard.
I look forward to your videos as a reminder to take a moment to remember to slow down and appreciate a hot cup of tea or similar. Thank you for the lovely thoughts, as usual.
'LOVE YOURSELF' This advice of BTS change my life. I was always told to put others first and not be selfish. For 30 yrs I applied this and was used by others shamlessly. At the end I lost my joy of living and was suffering from low selfesteem and emotional burnout. Now I understand that caring for yourself and protecting yourself is selfpreservation and not being selfish. If you are feeling happy only then you can give happiness to others.❤
“You gave me the best of you, so you give you the best of you” really spoke to me too from them! If you can try your hardest for others, you should try your hardest for yourself
Not sure if it counts as advice, but I once came across a phrase that changed my life: "Low self-esteem is, by definition, a false perception of oneself". For anyone out there struggling with their self-esteem, you are not alone and it can get better. Give yourself permission to see yourself differently 💚
Couldn't agree more about Grave of the Fireflies. Watched it years ago without knowing what I was getting myself into, never again 😅
Grave of the Fireflies! 😭 I haven’t been able to watch that film since I first saw it over a decade ago… truly the most heart-wrenching, utterly depressing film out there, but indeed a masterpiece.
Once piece of advice my husband gave me was “If something’s worth doing, it’s worth doing badly.” This phrase usually ends with the word “well”, meaning that you should always take your time over a task and do it to the best of your ability. But when it is changed to “badly”, it is designed to make you realise that not everything needs to be done perfectly… usually, a half decent job is better than no job at all. I struggle with procrastination and overthinking, so this saying helps, and it also confuses people and makes them laugh. 😅 Some people also say “Done is better than perfect.”
For me the quote for Jim Carrey "Hope Walks Through the fire. Faith Leaps over it" as simple as it may sound. Completely changed my life from the ground up. I subconsciously lived through hope "hoping I get the job I want, hope I can pass whatever I'm doing, hope I get a good relationship" but that hope was doing nothing but holding me down, and I didn't even realise it until even after I stopped believe in hope..
I heard that quote Sat on it for a week, thinking about it a lot, and one day 2 hours into my shift, I quit my job and restarted my life, and have achieved so many things that i had "hoped" for for years... hope is a chain, Faith in yourself (not god) is freedom ♥
I'm so grateful for your advice and your existence, I used to write some of what you are saying and try to apply. I'm sixty, mostly double of your age 😊, but I learned a lot from you. Greetings from an Iraqi woman living in Virginia ❤
Thank you for another wonderful video Vera! I have been at my job for 11 years now and for the past 2 years it's been really rough because of staff changes and times of being short staffed which made me be responsible for not only my job but another one as well. It has been really stressful and I've definitely been feeling burnt out. Your videos really helped me to remember to take the time to relax and leave work at work instead of taking it home. They are so comforting and eye opening to me in realizing that self care is very important and I have been trying to take the time for that!
Great advice as always 😊
Grave of the Fireflies is one of those movies you watch once and never again
Sept - Dec best part of the year. Post-holidays, bare, droopy trees, rain, dark days and gray skies sort of suck. Would love an episode on how Netherlands handle that late winter pre spring stretch.
I love it. You can change any time. I have needed this reminder. Thank you for a wonderful video. ❤
Dear Vera, thank you so much for this video, especially for advice #6. Your talking about Kiki losing her magic due to trying too hard really made me cry, because I thought for a very long time this year that I lost my ability to write my novels while I was trying so hard to get something written. I finally took a break from writing (not being told by a friend like Ursula, but my husband), and just now I have the feeling that it slowly comes back to me - but I still need my beraks and I still need to take it slowly. I need to watch that movie.
I would like to take a moment of my Sunday and appreciate how amazing your video is. It is well thought out and very on point. As someone who has many big changes in life within less than two years I really appreciate this. 😊
❤ Tea & talk w Vera make every day better! Totally resonate with all. As a fellow HSP w more “life experience” I’ve learned to hold dreams lightly as they may not come true, but to follow your life goals with the perseverance of a marathon runner. For me, that is following Jesus in his will, joy, love, patience, forgiveness, gentleness, kindness, peace, faithfulness, and self control. These things will make me a better human, and although the journey may be a “scenic tour” instead of a straight line, ultimately my life will be a rich legacy and I won’t be crushed by the broken pieces of dreams, fears, anxieties, and disillusionments along the way. God bless you Vera for the light of your soul ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and I'm happy you enjoyed the video and that the points resonated with you! 🤗🍵 Love what you said about life not being a straight line but rather taking the 'scenic route' 🌳 I think that's the way it often goes, and these unexpected surprises and detours can make it even more worthwhile
Whether to the right or to the left, you will hear God's voice behind you say, This is the way, walk in it.
Someone had done something that hurt me badly and I was trying to understand why they had done it. A friend told me, “Don’t try to understand it. Your mind doesn’t work the way theirs does.”
Another one I read somewhere was “If a snake bites you you don’t try to convince the snake you didn’t deserve to be bitten…You focus on healing.
My final one is “Quit complaining about being a doormat and get off the damn floor!”
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Thank you so much for your genuineness. Your videos specially those about HSPs honestly has changed my self view and I am forever changed. you've opened my eyes and my heart. Deeply appreciate all your effort and videos. Much Love to you
Great advice as usual and yes some people see it as not sticking with things but i call it experiencing new things and views 🙂
Each point is such wise advice⭐️. Loved seeing your pictures; you are always beautiful (then & now). Thanks for all you do 🌸
Thank you so much, so happy you enjoyed the video! 🤗🍵 Take care!
Missed you! Your vids are what I use to relax❤😂
Aw thanks Ashley 🤗🍵❤️ Relax and have a lovely weekend!
Such useful advice. I will definitely implement these into my life. X
So happy to hear it! 🤗🍵🌳
Vera your videos are warm hug.. love you so much.. I must say I love comments section if ur videos equally.. so beautiful and amazing like minded kind hearted souls.. Thanks for this extraordinary community and superlative content❤️
(Work advice) Treat each job like a stepping stone to where you want to be. I like this because it reminds me that there is value in where I am right now, rather than just thinking of the future.
Thank you for this video, Vera 🥰 "Be more self-accommodating" is one thing you mentioned that has been changing my life this year in big ways. Today, for instance, I know I need to limit my physical activity before the workweek begins, or I will start it off without energy. So, I will be stopping some activities midday and sitting and resting while other family members continue their activities, which I already told them about yesterday. I have to plan to preserve my well-being. I can't live exhausted anymore.
Someone told me once that no one can use you as a doormat unless you allow yourself to be used as one. Self advocacy is important. Also there are 3 Chinese proverbs I love. 1-the strongest tree in the forest is the one that bends in the wind . 2- the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. 3- the strongest steel is forged by the hottest fire. I try to remember these when undergoing change.
It’s an abusive statement to a lot of people. Anyone abused as a child can easily get tricked into being a doormat again and they certainly don’t give permission
@@M_SC I was of those people when I was younger.
Hey Vera, wat je zegt zet me weer even terug naar wat belangrijk is. Erg waardevol, bedankt 🙏☀️
I was given the same advice as you regarding it taking time to adjust to a new job. There were layoffs that were starting at the company I had worked at for years and years so I had to go to a new department - it took me a long time to adjust to a new role that I had zero experience in. I really need to watch Kiki's Delivery Service!! Your advice in this video is wonderful.
Really like what your coworker said to you. Give yourself a year. Thank you so much, Vera ❤❤.
Glad I checked in with you today, Vera (I've fallen a bit behind on your videos). Your wisdom and compassion for yourself and others that you share with us is heartwarming and I just love it. Thank you ❤🙏🥰
I want to thank you for creating Simple Happy Zen ❤ I burned out in march, and this channel has been so helpful in my recovery ❤
What a lovely and very inspiring video! Just what i needed. Thank you!!
Excellent advice. Wishing you the best. Always.
You are becoming more beautiful and healthier than previous.. love you ❤ you are so lovable..
First yay! I LOVE Saturdays because of your videos! Thank you, Vera
Aw that's so nice to hear, thank you!! 🤗💕💕💕 Enjoy your weekend!
I was 15 when my grandfather died. At the funeral I only shed a few tears when I saw my granny crying, because I felt so sorry for her. But I didn't cry about the death of my grandpa. Afterwards several people, family and acquaintances, approached and scolded me, telling I was so heartless and cold, just because I didn't cry. A few days later I asked my mum about that. I remember us standing in the kitchen, she with her back towards me, cutting some vegetables. What she said was, "Many people cry at the death of a person, because deep down they realise that there were still things they wanted to tell them."
Almost 30 years later it is still my habit to tell people when they show a trait I like about them, that I am proud of them or simply that I am happy that they're with me right now. Not in a compliment kind of way. More like sitting together, a short moment of silence and I say something like, "you're awesome". No special reason. Just what I felt in that moment.
“If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.” A great reminder for me to trust my critical thinking before jumping into something that someone else recommends because “not everyone has my best interests in mind.”
Once, when I was 18 years old, I was complaining a lot about my life situation to my dad and he just said "well you chose it yourself". First I was so offended😅 Then i realised that it was so true, all the things I was complaining about was consequences of my own choises. I remind myself of this advice everytime I find myself frustrated - I take responsibility and remember I always have a choise to make changes for the better!😊
Vera, love the rings you’re wearing.
These are some good nuggets I'll keep in mind ❤
Second yay!! 👋 Thank you Vera, I love your videos, thank you. Have a superb weekend xx ❤
Yay, thank you so much! 🤗🌱🍵 You have a great weekend too!
Thanks for your video. One of my beliefs.. ‘it will work itself out!’ It allows me not to worry about it.. I will do what I can etc.. but not worry overly.. because it will work itself out.. one way or another.. and then I move onto the next thing I want to do… ❤
A wonderful comment that has made a big difference in my life - if someone makes an unkind comment about you or someone else, it says more about them than the person they are commenting about. Worth thinking about.
Hello from Massachusetts, USA. Many thanks for this video. Funny, but when I was first watching, it seemed that the advice was really more suitable for young3r viewers. But, as I thought about it, a great deal of this inspired me, now age 82. (Not the period underwear, thank goodness! 😀).
Even words about job-related issues are equally applicable to just everyday life -- which is just another type of job. In the past few years, how many times I've felt I have lost that spark. Thankfully, it seems to be coming back, and I feel that your video came through at the perfect time. We all need the kind of encouragement you are offering, Vera. Keep on with your wonderful work --- and take as many breaks as you need to. I've been watching your videos since COVID. It is a joy to watch you learn and change. You have become a wise woman, and we are all the beneficiaries of that! ❤️😊
❤ Happy SENSATIONAL SATURDAY! Good to see you beautiful VERA in the NETHERLANDS! You are a breath of fresh air. I pray for you 🙏 to be blessed and safe. KATIE ❣️ KENTUCKY😊!
Sooooooo goooood and much needed advice❤😊
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My Dad always said, “You always get paid more for your talent than your time.” It helped me really focus on the things I am good at and the ways I stand out in the world. I used these talents and skills to expect/demand a specialized salary or fee rather than just clocking in hours doing something anybody could do/ that required no special skills. Believe me, I have humbly done many hourly jobs because they needed to be done or because that was the work available to me at the time, but keeping my eye on opportunities to use my talents to garner better wages has helped greatly in the long run.
I wish I saw this video when I was in my 20 when I was pushing myself to work non stop exercise every day and have a perfect home. Now I am in my 50 I understand that I need to respect my needs for taking a break, having a quiet day or it’s ok to have less productive day .
The first one! I love that!!
I moved last October and also retuned back to work Oct 10th of last year to a new role after being on disability for 7.5 years. It definitely taken me a year to get settled into my new apartment, but if I’m being honest (only being able to work 1ish day a week) after a year at my new job I’m still figuring it out. 😒
Thank you Vera! Very helpful
Thank you, Vera, for your insightful & compassionate content. ❤
Thank you Vera 😊❤ hugs😊
I made a cup of peppermint cocoa on a grey Sunday, and relaxed and thooroughly enjoyed your video. Thank You Vera!
I really needed this video cz I'm going through a very hard phase in my life. Infact it's been a while since its been rough. Thank you very much
Thank you for the first advice, it comes really in time, because i've almost decided to completely change my profesіion!))
Great video! I love listening to you and your wisdom. Your words always encourage me. Thank you 😊
i use and love the mantra, "not now dear" ;->
A 'life lessons from Studio Ghibli films' video makes me super happy just thinking about it, so I'd certainly love it if you made it! 🙂
The 'right now, the only thing you have to think about is which tea you want to drink' lesson is one that I got from your videos which has been very transformational for me. I'm still working on it, but I'm getting better at making time to just let go and to let myself have some proper 'time off' for myself, to rest and recover. It is absolutely wonderful and has been key to helping me develop more self-compassion too.
DO make a video about life lessons from Studio Ghibli!
Love this channel so much thank u❤
These are all very loving and apropos; thank you 😊
this was such a comfortable video to listen, i'd love to watch the studio ghibli one!
Dankjewel voor deze prachtige video! 🧡
Thank you Vera valuable advice x
Thank you very much for this video! ...they are very good advice. I loved it!..❤
thank you. you are so sweet.
❤👍thank you Vera!
Thank you ❤
Words I needed to hear
me doing the "not now" right now for a whole weekend hahah
Great tips.
"No one is more hated than he who speaks the truth."
- Plato
I really liked your video!
❤ Dear Vera 🎉
Very nice 😎
Thank you for all this advice. I'm having a tough time and could use all of these. I also wanted to ask..
I have a "highly sensitive" nose.😂 Do the period panties have an odor as you wear them through the day?
You're welcome, hope things will soon get easier for you! 🍵🌷 About your question, it's never been very noticeable for me personally, but I think you can compare it to the odor that you would have with single use pads. Blood has a slight odor of course. What I do is just put on a new one when it doesn't feel very fresh anymore. 😊
@@SimpleHappyZen thank you!