I'm a cognitive behavior therapist and I can confirm not just you, it is science that worrying increases worrying. The worrying behavior gets reinforced by the feeling of "doing something about it", even it's only in our heads. So it gives a feeling of being in control when you don't actually accept the uncertainty. It is like giving a treat to a dog, a very simple behavior pattern. BUT worrying is actually very difficult to be conscious about and difficult to stop, just like any reinforced behavior, as it might have been going on uninterrupted for years, decades even. After stopping worrying you might feel a little empty or like you "forgot something". Anxiety may also go up for a while or it may be more physical, experienced through the body. But these things will pass. Good advice, great video 😊
Such a great explanation, and that totally makes sense! It definitely matches what I've read about anxiety and worrying. Thanks so much for sharing 💕 Have a wonderful day!
Worrying abt things u can't control is futile. It takes up time, and energy. My advice that works for me is, if u have a problem think, is the outcome something I can change or do something abt. Then look at it from an outsider point of view and think right how can I solve this. Always prepare with plan A, if fails have plan B etc then it will be sorted. But worrying isn't productive it just stops u fixing the problem & worrying abt what others do, ie friends and family problems is futile because u can offer advice but they might reject it so, give advice then leave it to them. Stop taking on other people's baggage of troubles. I learned this trying to help others & worrying about them when they didn't care abt u. Think logically abt every problem & u will overcome them. X
CBT has been so helpful for me in dealing with worrying leading to anxiety. I have a list of reframing questions I can refer to on my phone to stop the spiraling. It's wonderful.
When I'm afraid or nervous or anxious. I read psalm 91 and really focus on exactly what each verse promises. And I immediately feel better because I know those promises come from God and he never lies. So Psalm 91 has been a huge blessing to me for several years. And I read it every single night and have full confidence that he will take care of me.
I think one quote that helps me whenever I get in the spiral of worry and anxiety is “If there is a solution to a problem, there is no need to worry. And if there is no solution, there is no need to worry” -Dalai Lama
Here in the USA, we take productivity to equal your worth as a human. As I struggle with chronic illness, I’m “not productive” in any way. A shower is a day long event and then it’s back to bed. Getting my HSP head wrapped around the truth that I’m worthwhile simply because I am alive is very counterintuitive. Your lovely videos align with many biblical beliefs and long term therapy that joy comes in those small spaces, like sitting in a sunny window, a surprise text from a friend, feeling the wind on my face, a cup of tea etc. Seeing your beautiful face and hearing you is truly a great joy in my life! Be well dear Vera. You inspire and bring such healing to the weary heart ❤️🩹 ❤
Agreed! I to am in the US and the productivity mindset and “boot straps” beliefs are so detrimental to us who live with chronic illness, or as I sometimes say “enjoy chronic illness.” It makes me slow down and prioritize what I value most. 🐝 bee well 😊
It was a few years ago that a therapist first told me I have value simply for being a human living on this planet, and it was like she was speaking a foreign language at first. I was raised by truly horrible people who frequently told me they’d immediately kick me out of their house if I didn’t bring in money once I finished school. I really feel for everyone who’s still living under the nasty false belief that they only have value if they are productive
I totally understand. Watching and helping parents and an adult child after surgeries, car wreck, health issues, and as I age with health issues, simple things like bathing, toileting, dressing, cooking and eating can take so much time and energy that it's all you can do in a day. Going to a Dr. appointment or shopping can leave you without energy for a couple days. Sometimes I wonder what's the point. I just have to trust that God has a plan. You're not the only one going through this. We all matter!
Spot on. Somehow that gets right into our psyche but even when we realise it, it's so hard to change that self belief. It takes work but you can make progress. I used to be in a similar position but when I recovered I did not stop trying to somehow make up for the lost years. The mindset was stuck and I'm still working on it.
Self care changes with your season of life. When I had tiny kids, just watching tv with them was self care. As I got older, it was spending time on fitness. Now in my 60s it's focusing on my business and having my day's schedule totally under my control.
Vera, I did something out of the box today and did yoga in my backyard on the grass. I have neighbors all around me and I chose not to care. And then- because of you - I did the STAR pose and oh my goodness… I got chocked up. Not sure why but it was a neat moment and even a little bit of a shift. Here’s to good health and us being ok with taking up space and feeling worthy! ⭐️🌟✨💫
The biggest help I have with my anxiety is by remembering my mantra…. “Feelings aren’t facts.” it doesn’t always work but it helps . I also like to remember “act as if.” I have tremendous anxiety about my daughters, safety and health, and I try to remind myself to continually to act as if everything is fine and it probably will be.
Hi Vera, What has helped me to stop overthinking and worrying about a situation is I've recently started telling myself, "I'm going to do an experiment! Let's see what will happen if I don't worry about it. Let's see what happens!" And each time nothing happens! And then I see that I haven't wasted my time and emotions and nervous energy turning the situation into a big problem and I avoid a big tension headache as well! Have a good week! Thanks for another meangful vlog. ❤ Sue
Awesome, so helpful! I do something similar, I try to remember all the previous times I've worried about this in the past, and remind myself that nothing ever ended up happening, so it's very likely not going to happen now too :)
Thank you. I embraced my fear this morning and asked for more time at work today. I love your channel. I've been hiding behind overspending to avoid understanding I don't earn enough money to cover basic things like the dentist. I am getting better at limiting my spending and paying my debts first. Just accepting this is where I am at without distress is a great start. My eating habits and home stability is much better than it's been in years now. I should be clear of immediate debt by my birthday and then I can look at booking a teeth clean. I have no family to talk with and next to 0 friends so thanks You Tube and channelers for providing some kind of environment where I can share my own experience and witness others too. Thanks again Simple Happy Zen!
Great video as usual Vera!! As a Christian, I have developed the habit of "casting my care" to God in prayer. Then after doing so, I make sure I replace that care with something positive or a scripture I have memorized or read in the Bible, that is relevant to the situation. I can't say I get this right every time, but I am trying to make it a habit, especially when I wake up in the morning, I make sure I either tune into a Bible study teaching while I am having breakfast or read a devotion. Well, that's my two cents about worry and anxiety. Thanks for sharing all these tips on mental self-care. Be blessed!🙂
I do the same. i have put some scriptures on my wall and when I clean my teeth I look at them, they have helped me at the most hardest time of my life.
#4!!! My needs are not a burden. Boy did I need to hear that. I have set a few boundaries recently and had people blow right past them and I was the one who ended up feeling bad...like I was the burden and not good enough
So sorry to hear that Margaret. I think sometimes when we start setting boundaries, some people might take some time getting used to it, as they are used to you just always putting their needs first. Definitely don't feel bad about it!
Yes! I'm a stay at home mom of 4, the youngest are 2 year old twins. I stretched myself every day to cater and care for my family. I spend very little time for myself - if ever. It really hurts when my loved ones (family, esp. Spouse) make me feel like my needs for self care are a burden.
I absolutely love the way you incorporate ducks and swans into your videos. One of my favourite things is to go to my local parks to watch them swimming. So therapeutic and soothing 😊
I know of artists that put imperfections in their work so that it is not perfect. Reason-Only God is perfect. Keeps us real, human, kind, and humble. 💕
It's a process :) If you keep trying gently, you can definitely get better at it with time :) And of course you can always get some help too, if you feel like that could be helpful
Vera, thank you for your faithful contribution to us to live our best lives. I live in South Carolina, USA and wish I could share a cup of tea with you 😊. I am more empowered to be myself because of your influence. This video is one of your best.
First one is SO relatable. I’ve bern working on undoing this mindset - I really don’t need to track how many books I read in a year or how much I meditated this week. The point is, do I feel good after? Not being such an overachiever has been key for my recovery (ME/CFS and Fibromyalgia).
So true that we're taught that self-care should be in service of productivity. That is a mindset shift I've been tackling lately. I would even venture to say that it should be the other way around. The best kind of productivity is one that grows and hones our skills and talents, which are aspects of self-care.
I am so uplifted that I found lots of people shared with their situations in comments. I am sure that overthinking is a recipe for disaster, but I did it all the time and I even can not imagine that I have strength to work on it.
Vera, I really identify with the mindset that it does not help to worry. So unless there is a real reason, I don´t, and even if there is, I don´t. I do what I can and trust that others will help, like doctors for example. I started thinking like that when I was taking exams. Worrying doesn´t help, on the contrary. I studied as much as I could and then just did my exams as calmly as possible. That always worked, same with the dentist. I´m not scared any more, even if he has to do something unpleasant, I trust in his expertise and being as gentle as possible. It makes life so much easier. Thanks as always for a wonderful video. You are doing such a great work encouraging people, bringing sunshine and joy into our lives. I hope you never stop being part of our lives.
As a worrier too that constantly has to work at not allowing myself to worry about things until something goes wrong, I can tell you that even when things do go wrong, I have to remind myself to stop worrying even then because the fix always seems to end up being much less serious, much easier, and/or much less expensive than I anticipated.
I have struggled with anxiety for some years. It makes me so exhausted for “anything” because nothing has actually happened… I try to slowdown by taking a deep breath, and put myself, my mental health in first place, it helps sometimes
This came with good timing for me, because recently I decided that I need to make a big mindset shift. Three activities that have helped me so far are: 1. Have an image in my head of what it’s gonna be like when I’m ”done”, and that’s what I meditate on daily while on walks or whenever I have the mental space/time for it. 2. Make a vision board that I put on my wall, acting as a reminder of why I’m doing this and how I’m gonna get there. 3. Journaling about my mindshift journey in the mornings. This makes it easy for me to look back and see progress. It’s a lot of work but also a fun process. Especially since it gets easier with practice, just like you said.
i have learnt over the years that keeping thankful has helped me more than any positive mindest, it might not have changes my circumstances but its helped me be grateful and that stops alot of feeling sorry for myself or made me realise that there is always some good, even in the most painful times of my life. I was told by several people this year to start looking after myself, and i am getting there with setting some healthy boundaries, worry and anxiety is still hard for me I had a traumatic situation last year and still dealing with the shock only God will heal that for sure. Just love your channel Vera so grounded and fun and lots of love and peace, thank you for sharing with us.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts about practicing gratitude Jacqueline. I agree that gratitude is one of the best sources of happiness. So sorry to hear about your traumatic experience last year, sending some good vibes your way. Take care!
I am such a big worrier and can imagine the wildest thing ever if i don't stop myself!!😅 But once I heard someone say "If you are creative enough to imagine it, you are creative enough to solve it/deal with it". And this has helped me ever since🥰😄
Great video, Vera! Thank you. And your hair looks especially beautiful - very fluffy and wavy. I read this recently and thought you might like it. Self-love has four components - each one builds on the previous. Self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, self-confidence, and self-care. A good mantra to help move into more self-love is: I accept myself unconditionally exactly as I am. I forgive myself for everything that I am not. I grant myself unlimited confiodence to achieve all my hopes and dreams. I promise to take care of myself along the way. I love your videos - thank you for sharing!
These are such sensible and inspirational thoughts. I have become very interested in how the body works, right down to cellular and mitochondrial function, etc., And as I have delved into this area, I have found that I am in awe of what our bodies do on a moment-to-moment basis! We are truly miracles, each one of us, in that regard. And we are here because our ancestors persevered, worked hard, we’re brave, and all of that included all the human foibles, And yet, here we are! When it comes to “body image,”, I like to bear this in mind. As you said, it really should be about gratitude. - and, I think, awe. It seems impossible for me now not to think of life itself as being truly awesome (even with all of its many inherent struggles, pain, and difficulties on occasion).
Yes, that's so true! I learned about those things in my college education and it's truly incredible how our bodies work and all the little processes that are running at the same time :)
That bit about even if no one sees me brought something to mind. Looking your best doesn't have to involve uncomfortable polyester work or event clothes which may not even be most flattering to you or wearing a face of full coverage all out make up. You absolutely can fix up in a cozy, comfy, more natural leaning way.
Hi Vera Those are great tips you gave today about self Care. It has always been hard for me to think of myself as I am a people pleaser person. I too have been a worrying person and am trying to overcome it. So thank you so much for your great advice. Hope you feel better too.
Thank you SO much for this video! I am recovering from severe work burnout that has left me questioning everything about myself, and I needed to hear EVERY SINGLE POINT you made. I'm saving it to watch again in case I need the reminders again in a few days.
Number 1 hit so deep, I'm much better with it now, but I used to think just like that - any new hobby I start I think how can I monetize it? Should I post it online? It's such a sick mindset and I so glad that I am getting out of it. Sending love and relaxation to everyone.
I do sit in an infrared sauna every other day for self care. I’ve been doing this for a year now and it helps. Lately I have been feeling like I need praise for all the hard work I’m doing at my job. Things are changing and making things more difficult, and these are a lot of changes which is making it more difficult. I know change is good but this is a little too much. I also have a personal issue I have to deal with now and have been doing it for two years now and that on top of work makes things stressful! I know I’m doing my best and I don’t need the praise but it’s hard to change that mindset. I need to get back into meditation and doing some exercises to feel better and make things more manageable but it is hard to reset myself. I’m working on it and now hope 2025 will bring in a more balanced life.
I am so glad you addressed the dental care stress. I did exactly what you described, did not go to the dentist for periodic cleaning & check up. I almost lost hope & willing to accept the worst. Slowly after listening to many podcasts & motivational insights I convinced myself what is the worst thing that can happen & made the decision to go. I was a wreck walking in the clinic. Thank god the hygienist was kind & I told her how scared I was. she assured me that she will stop if I needed to breathe. That gave me the confidence, now I look forward to go to the dentist. It is a few years now, my dental health has improved beyond my belief & is getting better. Only take appointment with the kindhearted hygienist. Thank you Vera. ❤
Love your videos. I like to thank my heart, lungs and legs for ing me be able to walk daily. My body isn’t perfect but it works great. Thanks for your content
thanks Vera for another wonderful video with some great reminders. as usual, I identify and relate to so much of what you talk about. Re the worry habit. it has been such a lifetime if that for me too. I know it's my ego trying to give me a false sense of control. I am also practising letting go and trusting that all is in order, and remembering that excess worry doesn't help us and really does drain the energy as you said . When I find myself worrying, I try say something positive to myself - eg All is well/ you have what you need etc and not beat myself up, and purposefully bring myself back to the present moment. thanks again, I love your videos and look forward to them!
This is probably the best RUclips video out there. I have anxiety major depression and then i had a stroke at 49 after 3 weeks i was at home. A lot has changed in these 5 years. What you really helped me. Thank you
Hi, Vera! It's the first time I'm commenting your video, and I just could not avoid it. Worrying about my health got such a power over me over the last year that there is almost no day I don't think I might develop cancer any time soon, or loose my hair or teeth etc. And there is actually no fact that could prove my worrying is justified! I'm also super scared of dentists and ultimately found a great solution - sedation dentistry. Now I'm working on restoring my dental and gum health. Also last year, when I became 35 yo, I did my first integral medical check up and it showed good results. I'm also trying to be active and keep my weight stable, take vitamins and enjoy some downtime each day. I like what you said about worrying - "I will not worry until something really feels wrong" That will be my mantra now. Thank you so much for your videos, I feel so related to you in many ways (even the fear of spiders). :) I would like to see more welness and health tips from you in future. Greetings from Mexico!
Thank you so much for leaving a comment and sharing your thoughts Natalia. I can definitely relate to what you shared, including the fears for losing your hair and teeth and stuff. I learned that these particular fears are about control. So I try to practice letting go when I can :) We can only do our best to take good care of our body, and then we can just have faith that things will work out :) Take good care, wishing you a wonderful week!
I definitely make my downtime productive. Like I can't do anything just for the sake of enjoying it. If I'm doing craft, I'm making a gift then it becomes a burden as it is something I haven't finished and feel guilty about. I tend to only justify downtime because it increases my productivity later. Even then, single tasking is extremely hard. It's a fight with my mind. I feel tense when I try to relax and more relaxed when I'm doing something. Sitting with the discomfort of doing less, is something I need to 'work on' but I've just turned it into another task!!
Oh goodness, this is EXACTLY me. Now I know there are at least 2 of us in the fight, which in itself is another added task! Awful, isn't it? I have no idea how to break the cycle at this point. TY for your comment. You definitely spoke to me . Hugs Kate 😊
@@madhattersoriginal6258 I think awareness is a good first step. Then for me, practicing sitting with the discomfort of doing less. Recognising that just because I feel stressed doesn't mean I should stop! Like when someone took me to a spa and I was drumming my fingers....what next, how long do I have to sit here?!!
I can totally empathize with you completely! I have managed to decrease the required time-span for taking a shower to an hour and a half now but for many years I have been basically been where you are now. An huge part of the process has actually really been to accept who I am and step by step(many many baby-steps) I started to let go. -And yes, you are worthy just because you are here, even without doing anything productive! Think about it this way: the thought that you have to function in order to be someone is a product of the human mind, right? There's a much higher intelligence out there, though and it's unlimited and doesn't make mistakes. The fact that you are alive can neither be a mistake nor a coincidence by the higher power. How could human intelligence ever question your worthiness, since you have divinity within yourself?? - just let that sink for a moment - and there's definitely nothing to be washed off your skin, you know... Lots of love and best wishes from a friend 🙏❤️
Yay, another video content from you, Vera! ❤ Such applicable content everyday...thanks. May you recover soon from flu...ugh. Sickness is stressful just within itself. ❤️ P.S. I haven't looked so lovely when I have had the flu. 😉
This video gave me plenty of food for thought. Self care is so important but our society tends to push us toward constant productivity, as you say. Let's slow down and be good to ourselves - we need to enjoy our lives, just for ourselves. ❤❤
Listening to you always calms my mind :D. That is one of my tricks for when I'm anxious or overwhelmed ;). You have such a beautiful aura and a calming voice. I too worry immensly about my health. For 5 years I have been passed over from one doctor to the other because there are some strange markers in my blood and I am always in pain and fatigued. But nobody ever found anything conclusive. Last year I stopped seeing any kind of fancy doctor and it was the best I could do. Now I'm not constantly thinking about the gruesome diseases I may have or haven't. I still see my regular doctor and make a blood test every half year to not overlock something. But still I struggle to appreaciate my body. Though I am very much better than the last 10 years, I'm still in mild pain, I'm not strong or enduring and am easily fatigued. I want to treat my body as a friend, but sometimes it is still my enemy ^^. Many greetings from Germany :D!
Try listening to Louise Hay on RUclips or even her book “ heal your body “ is excellent. It has helped many people and you may find it helpful. Take care
I really needed this video today. I was feeling overwhelmed by thoughts alone. My mindset was a negative spiral and it kept going. Very happy I clicked on this video. I am also calmer listening to you speak.😊
This video really applies to me with regard to my anxiety, especially health. I felt very comforted listening to you discussing your anxiety. Thank you ❤❤❤
I'm currently in the Netherlands and I yesterday I was "Vera lives here, that's so cool" 😅 Anyway, another great video ❤️ I always feel calmer after watching your content 🙂
Vera, what a gem you are. Tky for sharing your wisdom. I am facing a big health struggle and want to be positive,you’re three videos give me strength to let go of the fear and face it with small doable things. Thy you really helped today.
I love watching your videos for so many reasons. Now I feel I am not alone. I bit myself all the time about everything. I always felt the need to be super busy and productive all the time. Now I am in my 50 I realize I need to stop to enjoy the moment. Not to worry about everything and try to be perfect at all times. I like that you said it’s ok to make mistakes. You are brilliant lady. Thank you for your videos.
Ahh I have many similarities to you, including being a HSP, a worry wart, a perfectionist and having a fear of spiders 🙀 It comforts me to hear you talk about this stuff, and I too am trying to get out the habit of needlessly worrying or trying to be perfect. Saying/writing comforting mantras, meditating, nature walks, chatting to close friends, and listening to mellow jazz music 🎶 are all in my toolbox when anxiety hits 🤓 Thank you Vera for your powerful reflections and gentle advice!
Aside from the great thoughts and ideas presented in this video, I must commend you on the beautiful video footage that is included - the colouration and images of water and birds are beautiful! Bravo!
Aw thanks!! I loved the clips in this video, editing it made me feel relaxed hahaha. Though I always add that most of my nature b-roll clips are not clips I filmed myself, but they're from a stock footage library I have a license for. :)
Such profound wisdom in such a young little gem 💎 amazing and congratulations! ❤ I agree with everything you've stated in today's video and I've already drawned some inspiration from your past ones so thank you 🙏 What i personally find most difficult is to forgive myself for those mistakes that have seriously impacted my life and that seems so easy to avoid in hindsight, so I really need to befriend myself with that past version of myself who acted uncounsciosly, if you will, and accept that part as well, because it makes the whole of who I am. I'm not sure it makes sense what I've just said to others as well, but thank you for giving me the opportunity of self inquiry. Have a wonderful weekend 🌞 🌹
Aw thank you Anna :) Thanks also for what you shared, I think that makes total sense and I think it's great you're working on making friends with the past version of yourself. We can't change the past, but how we feel about the past is something that's still 'in the now' :) Take care!!
I totally relate ...I do a similar technique...I say to myself do your best and hope and pray for the rest. No matter the situation its really all you can do.
You are such a wise young woman Vera. The more of your work I watch, the more I love it. People laugh at me about decluttering as they don't get my need for a simple life. I would rather downsize than keep our current house which is a largish house (my husband won't move yet unfortunately!!) but I love being non-materialistic as I feel you are only trying to impress others with this mindset. I measure success by happiness in that of my children (adults) and myself, not how much money we have or how successful and high we are in our jobs. I love love watching your videos. Love Jo in Australia xxxxx
KJV (1) 1 Peter 5 v 7-10 casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. (2) Philippians 4 v 6 Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be make known unto God. (3) Proverbs 9 v 10 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. (4) 1 Samuel 12 v 24 Only fear the Lord, and serve him in truth with all your heart: for consider how great things he hath done for you. (5) John 3 v 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. (6) 1 John 4 v 16 God is love. Have a wonderful day. May the Lord Bless you all. x
So much to say here Vera, body image is really hard because of what this current world thinks is normal, back in the 1800’s it was fashionable for women to be chubby, now you have to be a “barbie doll” , what you said is just be healthy with exercise, diet & mentallly healthy. Good advice on doing something fun after doing something scary that you are terrified doing, I also am terrified of the dentist, I almost rather have an operation 😬😳😱….I just might make an appointment and think of you when I’m sitting in the chair 🤔….love the chirping, you’re so cute Vera!!! Love you bunches 💐💐💐
Thank you, Vera. Your channel always encourages me. Fear of the dentist is real. As a redhead, it takes more medicine to stop the pain. I told my dentist I was a big baby and scared and he totally understood. He always gives me enough novacain or whatever, to avoid pain. I so appreciate that.
That exempel about making a fancy tee for others is been me in many years but now i make the best cup of tee both for me myself and also for my guests 💚
About the 2nd mindset: Many people assume I don't exercise my body - both online and in person - because I never talk about it and I'm overweight. The reason I'm overweight is due to genetics but more importantly because I live with Rheumatoid Arthritis. That means I have chronic pain in pretty much all joints in my body since it's an autoimmune disorder, and also fatigue so it's a really hard task to exercise. But nevertheless, I have started to exercise! But I won't announce it on my RUclips channel or to my friends and family (although I'm writing a comment about it to prove my point here lol) because I don't see it as something the world needs to know. I was thinking about how often we do things to get praise. I often get comments on my channel about my weight. Still not going to explain though.
Vera, thank you so much, this is just what I needed to hear right now. There used to be a time in years gone by that I would say 'Worrying is a waste of time and energy' yet recently I find myself not listening to those words. It is not much point me worrying some things in life I can not change but I can adapt to new ways. 🇭🇲
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Deb 🤗🍵 Certain things we just need to remind ourselves of sometimes :) Take care and have a lovely rest of your day!
Your words completely made me happy. Thank you for these positive words. Although I had bad morning today but it’s completely changed after hearing you. I supposed to meet my neighbor toad at the lobby however she didn’t come and never text me back I felt I am ignored , and she ruin my morning day but now I feel much better with your wording. Thank you beautiful 😇
@@SimpleHappyZen relatively so but I can definitely feel it in my abs whenever I do them. They used to be much more challenging for me but, remember, I’ve been practicing a ton for over a decade now. 😊 It’s more about how we feel than the actual poses but it also can be exciting when we start being able to do more poses.
I especially appreciate these types of videos that you make. Thank you so very much. For whatever reason, I need the reminders over and over and you are so sweet and kind and compassionate with your reminders. 💞
Ive worried since Ive been 8 years old. Diagnosed with GAD in my mid 30s. It’s a daily struggle. I am going to try and implement the self care habits you suggest. Thank you 🙏
Self care is so important- when I buy things for myself, the big thing in mind is 'foes it spark joy'. When I buy teas, I'll sometimes switch to one or another, but they are ones sparking joy. I love blueberry and blackcurrant. Another is camomile ❤❤
Hi Vera, thank you for this video! I relate to all of your points, but especially the one about worrying. I've always been a worrier! Like you, my partner and I recently bought a home and I can relate SO MUCH to your experience! Now that we're responsible for a lot of the maintenance (except for the exterior of the building), I find myself worrying about what could go wrong. I always think about the worst case scenario! Your tips are very helpful. 😊💕 Thank you from Canada! 🇨🇦
This is the first time I watched your channel I joined right away everything you talked about I felt like you were talking to me thank you so much I look forward to watching your other videos
Hi Vera, thank you so much for this video! It very much resonates with me, as I know many of these fears myself like not being able to stand up enough for myself or often times being quite indecisive about things as I want to take everything into consideration and not hurt anybody...And I am also very sensitive to my own and other people's feelings which can hold me back. So thank you very much for these helpful tips and reminders about mindset habits.
I'm a cognitive behavior therapist and I can confirm not just you, it is science that worrying increases worrying. The worrying behavior gets reinforced by the feeling of "doing something about it", even it's only in our heads. So it gives a feeling of being in control when you don't actually accept the uncertainty. It is like giving a treat to a dog, a very simple behavior pattern. BUT worrying is actually very difficult to be conscious about and difficult to stop, just like any reinforced behavior, as it might have been going on uninterrupted for years, decades even. After stopping worrying you might feel a little empty or like you "forgot something". Anxiety may also go up for a while or it may be more physical, experienced through the body. But these things will pass. Good advice, great video 😊
Such a great explanation, and that totally makes sense! It definitely matches what I've read about anxiety and worrying. Thanks so much for sharing 💕 Have a wonderful day!
I really enjoy your site. You are very interesting with your thoughts for someone so young, keep it up.❤
Worrying abt things u can't control is futile. It takes up time, and energy. My advice that works for me is, if u have a problem think, is the outcome something I can change or do something abt. Then look at it from an outsider point of view and think right how can I solve this. Always prepare with plan A, if fails have plan B etc then it will be sorted. But worrying isn't productive it just stops u fixing the problem & worrying abt what others do, ie friends and family problems is futile because u can offer advice but they might reject it so, give advice then leave it to them. Stop taking on other people's baggage of troubles. I learned this trying to help others & worrying about them when they didn't care abt u. Think logically abt every problem & u will overcome them. X
CBT has been so helpful for me in dealing with worrying leading to anxiety. I have a list of reframing questions I can refer to on my phone to stop the spiraling. It's wonderful.
What are your reframing questions, if you care to share here?@@antiquesrestoration3874
When I'm afraid or nervous or anxious. I read psalm 91 and really focus on exactly what each verse promises. And I immediately feel better because I know those promises come from God and he never lies. So Psalm 91 has been a huge blessing to me for several years. And I read it every single night and have full confidence that he will take care of me.
My mom recommended me to read it whenever I have difficulties in life. It works. ❤️
My favourite Psalm to read when afraid.
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I think one quote that helps me whenever I get in the spiral of worry and anxiety is
“If there is a solution to a problem, there is no need to worry. And if there is no solution, there is no need to worry”
-Dalai Lama
Yes! So helpful, I often use that too :) Thanks for sharing!
Here in the USA, we take productivity to equal your worth as a human. As I struggle with chronic illness, I’m “not productive” in any way. A shower is a day long event and then it’s back to bed. Getting my HSP head wrapped around the truth that I’m worthwhile simply because I am alive is very counterintuitive. Your lovely videos align with many biblical beliefs and long term therapy that joy comes in those small spaces, like sitting in a sunny window, a surprise text from a friend, feeling the wind on my face, a cup of tea etc. Seeing your beautiful face and hearing you is truly a great joy in my life! Be well dear Vera. You inspire and bring such healing to the weary heart ❤️🩹 ❤
Thank you for your kind words and for your continuing support my friend 💕 Bless your heart
Agreed! I to am in the US and the productivity mindset and “boot straps” beliefs are so detrimental to us who live with chronic illness, or as I sometimes say “enjoy chronic illness.” It makes me slow down and prioritize what I value most. 🐝 bee well 😊
It was a few years ago that a therapist first told me I have value simply for being a human living on this planet, and it was like she was speaking a foreign language at first. I was raised by truly horrible people who frequently told me they’d immediately kick me out of their house if I didn’t bring in money once I finished school. I really feel for everyone who’s still living under the nasty false belief that they only have value if they are productive
I totally understand. Watching and helping parents and an adult child after surgeries, car wreck, health issues, and as I age with health issues, simple things like bathing, toileting, dressing, cooking and eating can take so much time and energy that it's all you can do in a day. Going to a Dr. appointment or shopping can leave you without energy for a couple days. Sometimes I wonder what's the point. I just have to trust that God has a plan. You're not the only one going through this. We all matter!
Spot on. Somehow that gets right into our psyche but even when we realise it, it's so hard to change that self belief. It takes work but you can make progress. I used to be in a similar position but when I recovered I did not stop trying to somehow make up for the lost years. The mindset was stuck and I'm still working on it.
Self care changes with your season of life. When I had tiny kids, just watching tv with them was self care. As I got older, it was spending time on fitness. Now in my 60s it's focusing on my business and having my day's schedule totally under my control.
Agree self care can change with the season of life :)
Vera, I did something out of the box today and did yoga in my backyard on the grass. I have neighbors all around me and I chose not to care.
And then- because of you - I did the STAR pose and oh my goodness… I got chocked up. Not sure why but it was a neat moment and even a little bit of a shift.
Here’s to good health and us being ok with taking up space and feeling worthy! ⭐️🌟✨💫
Oh that's awesome, way to go!!! 🤗💕
The biggest help I have with my anxiety is by remembering my mantra…. “Feelings aren’t facts.” it doesn’t always work but it helps . I also like to remember “act as if.” I have tremendous anxiety about my daughters, safety and health, and I try to remind myself to continually to act as if everything is fine and it probably will be.
Very helpful, thank you for sharing! Take care and have a lovely day
Hi Vera, What has helped me to stop overthinking and worrying about a situation is I've recently started telling myself, "I'm going to do an experiment! Let's see what will happen if I don't worry about it. Let's see what happens!" And each time nothing happens! And then I see that I haven't wasted my time and emotions and nervous energy turning the situation into a big problem and I avoid a big tension headache as well! Have a good week! Thanks for another meangful vlog. ❤ Sue
Awesome, so helpful! I do something similar, I try to remember all the previous times I've worried about this in the past, and remind myself that nothing ever ended up happening, so it's very likely not going to happen now too :)
Thanks Vera. That's a very helpful idea too! ☺
Thank you. I embraced my fear this morning and asked for more time at work today. I love your channel. I've been hiding behind overspending to avoid understanding I don't earn enough money to cover basic things like the dentist. I am getting better at limiting my spending and paying my debts first. Just accepting this is where I am at without distress is a great start. My eating habits and home stability is much better than it's been in years now. I should be clear of immediate debt by my birthday and then I can look at booking a teeth clean. I have no family to talk with and next to 0 friends so thanks You Tube and channelers for providing some kind of environment where I can share my own experience and witness others too. Thanks again Simple Happy Zen!
Great video as usual Vera!! As a Christian, I have developed the habit of "casting my care" to God in prayer. Then after doing so, I make sure I replace that care with something positive or a scripture I have memorized or read in the Bible, that is relevant to the situation. I can't say I get this right every time, but I am trying to make it a habit, especially when I wake up in the morning, I make sure I either tune into a Bible study teaching while I am having breakfast or read a devotion. Well, that's my two cents about worry and anxiety. Thanks for sharing all these tips on mental self-care. Be blessed!🙂
I do the same. i have put some scriptures on my wall and when I clean my teeth I look at them, they have helped me at the most hardest time of my life.
#4!!! My needs are not a burden. Boy did I need to hear that. I have set a few boundaries recently and had people blow right past them and I was the one who ended up feeling bad...like I was the burden and not good enough
So sorry to hear that Margaret. I think sometimes when we start setting boundaries, some people might take some time getting used to it, as they are used to you just always putting their needs first. Definitely don't feel bad about it!
Yes! I'm a stay at home mom of 4, the youngest are 2 year old twins. I stretched myself every day to cater and care for my family. I spend very little time for myself - if ever. It really hurts when my loved ones (family, esp. Spouse) make me feel like my needs for self care are a burden.
I absolutely love the way you incorporate ducks and swans into your videos. One of my favourite things is to go to my local parks to watch them swimming. So therapeutic and soothing 😊
I know of artists that put imperfections in their work so that it is not perfect. Reason-Only God is perfect. Keeps us real, human, kind, and humble. 💕
I too must talk myself out of worrying. We shall keep at it.
It's a process :) If you keep trying gently, you can definitely get better at it with time :) And of course you can always get some help too, if you feel like that could be helpful
Vera, thank you for your faithful contribution to us to live our best lives. I live in South Carolina, USA and wish I could share a cup of tea with you 😊. I am more empowered to be myself because of your influence. This video is one of your best.
Aw thank you so much Leah 🥹 I really appreciate that. Have a wonderful day!
First one is SO relatable. I’ve bern working on undoing this mindset - I really don’t need to track how many books I read in a year or how much I meditated this week. The point is, do I feel good after? Not being such an overachiever has been key for my recovery (ME/CFS and Fibromyalgia).
agree!💕
So true that we're taught that self-care should be in service of productivity. That is a mindset shift I've been tackling lately. I would even venture to say that it should be the other way around. The best kind of productivity is one that grows and hones our skills and talents, which are aspects of self-care.
Well said!! 💕👍👍
Very beautiful footage of swans and ducks. We are very similar, you and I. You’re helping me a lot, my little faraway friend. Thank you from Canada.
Aw that's so sweet 🥰💕 Thank you! Also I love watching ducks, swans and birds, it instantly calms me down :) Especially when they're in the water.
The Bible has a lot of advice on how to deal with worry. Cured my worrying problem. God is good. Xo❤
I am so uplifted that I found lots of people shared with their situations in comments. I am sure that overthinking is a recipe for disaster, but I did it all the time and I even can not imagine that I have strength to work on it.
Vera, I really identify with the mindset that it does not help to worry. So unless there is a real reason, I don´t, and even if there is, I don´t. I do what I can and trust that others will help, like doctors for example. I started thinking like that when I was taking exams. Worrying doesn´t help, on the contrary. I studied as much as I could and then just did my exams as calmly as possible. That always worked, same with the dentist. I´m not scared any more, even if he has to do something unpleasant, I trust in his expertise and being as gentle as possible. It makes life so much easier. Thanks as always for a wonderful video. You are doing such a great work encouraging people, bringing sunshine and joy into our lives. I hope you never stop being part of our lives.
As a worrier too that constantly has to work at not allowing myself to worry about things until something goes wrong, I can tell you that even when things do go wrong, I have to remind myself to stop worrying even then because the fix always seems to end up being much less serious, much easier, and/or much less expensive than I anticipated.
So true! Everything is figureoutable :)
I have struggled with anxiety for some years. It makes me so exhausted for “anything” because nothing has actually happened… I try to slowdown by taking a deep breath, and put myself, my mental health in first place, it helps sometimes
Oh that sounds like it can be rough at times... sending you a hug, take good care!
This came with good timing for me, because recently I decided that I need to make a big mindset shift. Three activities that have helped me so far are:
1. Have an image in my head of what it’s gonna be like when I’m ”done”, and that’s what I meditate on daily while on walks or whenever I have the mental space/time for it.
2. Make a vision board that I put on my wall, acting as a reminder of why I’m doing this and how I’m gonna get there.
3. Journaling about my mindshift journey in the mornings. This makes it easy for me to look back and see progress.
It’s a lot of work but also a fun process. Especially since it gets easier with practice, just like you said.
Awesome, great job!! 🤗🍵🌱
i have learnt over the years that keeping thankful has helped me more than any positive mindest, it might not have changes my circumstances but its helped me be grateful and that stops alot of feeling sorry for myself or made me realise that there is always some good, even in the most painful times of my life. I was told by several people this year to start looking after myself, and i am getting there with setting some healthy boundaries, worry and anxiety is still hard for me I had a traumatic situation last year and still dealing with the shock only God will heal that for sure. Just love your channel Vera so grounded and fun and lots of love and peace, thank you for sharing with us.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts about practicing gratitude Jacqueline. I agree that gratitude is one of the best sources of happiness. So sorry to hear about your traumatic experience last year, sending some good vibes your way. Take care!
I am such a big worrier and can imagine the wildest thing ever if i don't stop myself!!😅 But once I heard someone say "If you are creative enough to imagine it, you are creative enough to solve it/deal with it". And this has helped me ever since🥰😄
Yes, very true! :) Thanks for sharing!
Love this ❤
Great video, Vera! Thank you. And your hair looks especially beautiful - very fluffy and wavy. I read this recently and thought you might like it. Self-love has four components - each one builds on the previous. Self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, self-confidence, and self-care. A good mantra to help move into more self-love is: I accept myself unconditionally exactly as I am. I forgive myself for everything that I am not. I grant myself unlimited confiodence to achieve all my hopes and dreams. I promise to take care of myself along the way. I love your videos - thank you for sharing!
Wow, beautiful! I love that :) Do you remember where you read it?
These are such sensible and inspirational thoughts.
I have become very interested in how the body works, right down to cellular and mitochondrial function, etc., And as I have delved into this area, I have found that I am in awe of what our bodies do on a moment-to-moment basis! We are truly miracles, each one of us, in that regard. And we are here because our ancestors persevered, worked hard, we’re brave, and all of that included all the human foibles, And yet, here we are! When it comes to “body image,”, I like to bear this in mind. As you said, it really should be about gratitude. - and, I think, awe. It seems impossible for me now not to think of life itself as being truly awesome (even with all of its many inherent struggles, pain, and difficulties on occasion).
Yes, that's so true! I learned about those things in my college education and it's truly incredible how our bodies work and all the little processes that are running at the same time :)
That bit about even if no one sees me brought something to mind. Looking your best doesn't have to involve uncomfortable polyester work or event clothes which may not even be most flattering to you or wearing a face of full coverage all out make up. You absolutely can fix up in a cozy, comfy, more natural leaning way.
I always tell myself, relax, the universe will give you you need. Everything always works out. Meditation really helps! ❤❤❤
Love that :)
Hi Vera
Those are great tips you gave today about self
Care. It has always been hard for me to think of myself as I am a people pleaser person. I too have been a worrying person and am trying to overcome it. So thank you so much for your great advice. Hope you feel better too.
You're so welcome, glad you enjoyed the video! :) Take care and wishing you a happy Monday
Love the soothing imagery! “My needs are not a burden “ was really powerful for me ❤
Really good video.
My favorite?
I’m allowed to make mistakes.
Thank you, so happy you enjoyed it! :) Have a happy Monday!
Mistakes are great learning opportunities!
Thank you SO much for this video! I am recovering from severe work burnout that has left me questioning everything about myself, and I needed to hear EVERY SINGLE POINT you made. I'm saving it to watch again in case I need the reminders again in a few days.
Take good care 🤗🌷
Number 1 hit so deep, I'm much better with it now, but I used to think just like that - any new hobby I start I think how can I monetize it? Should I post it online? It's such a sick mindset and I so glad that I am getting out of it. Sending love and relaxation to everyone.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and I'm glad the video resonated with you! Take care and have a happy Monday 🤗🌱
Thanks for the Wild code! The bee case is adorable & the Elderflower scent sounds lush 💙
Yay, enjoy!!! ❤️😊🐝
I do sit in an infrared sauna every other day for self care. I’ve been doing this for a year now and it helps. Lately I have been feeling like I need praise for all the hard work I’m doing at my job. Things are changing and making things more difficult, and these are a lot of changes which is making it more difficult. I know change is good but this is a little too much. I also have a personal issue I have to deal with now and have been doing it for two years now and that on top of work makes things stressful! I know I’m doing my best and I don’t need the praise but it’s hard to change that mindset. I need to get back into meditation and doing some exercises to feel better and make things more manageable but it is hard to reset myself. I’m working on it and now hope 2025 will bring in a more balanced life.
Thank you for doing this…I have been stepping out of my “box” these last few weeks. Your words are encouraging and I’m most grateful to you for them.
Totally agree.
Understanding that you matter and being kind to yourself is important.
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So true! :)
I am so glad you addressed the dental care stress. I did exactly what you described, did not go to the dentist for periodic cleaning & check up. I almost lost hope & willing to accept the worst. Slowly after listening to many podcasts & motivational insights I convinced myself what is the worst thing that can happen & made the decision to go. I was a wreck walking in the clinic. Thank god the hygienist was kind & I told her how scared I was. she assured me that she will stop if I needed to breathe. That gave me the confidence, now I look forward to go to the dentist. It is a few years now, my dental health has improved beyond my belief & is getting better. Only take appointment with the kindhearted hygienist.
Thank you Vera. ❤
Love your videos. I like to thank my heart, lungs and legs for ing me be able to walk daily. My body isn’t perfect but it works great. Thanks for your content
Love that, thanks for sharing Connie :)
thanks Vera for another wonderful video with some great reminders. as usual, I identify and relate to so much of what you talk about. Re the worry habit. it has been such a lifetime if that for me too. I know it's my ego trying to give me a false sense of control. I am also practising letting go and trusting that all is in order, and remembering that excess worry doesn't help us and really does drain the energy as you said . When I find myself worrying, I try say something positive to myself - eg All is well/ you have what you need etc and not beat myself up, and purposefully bring myself back to the present moment. thanks again, I love your videos and look forward to them!
You have grown into someone who would protect you as a child. And that's the most powerful decision you made.
I love the sound of her English
Me too 😊
Great insights from someone with real life experiences!
Thank you so much :)
This is probably the best RUclips video out there. I have anxiety major depression and then i had a stroke at 49 after 3 weeks i was at home. A lot has changed in these 5 years. What you really helped me. Thank you
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Mary and I'm so happy to hear you found my video helpful. Take good care, sending some good vibes your way 💕🍵
Hi, Vera! It's the first time I'm commenting your video, and I just could not avoid it. Worrying about my health got such a power over me over the last year that there is almost no day I don't think I might develop cancer any time soon, or loose my hair or teeth etc. And there is actually no fact that could prove my worrying is justified! I'm also super scared of dentists and ultimately found a great solution - sedation dentistry. Now I'm working on restoring my dental and gum health. Also last year, when I became 35 yo, I did my first integral medical check up and it showed good results. I'm also trying to be active and keep my weight stable, take vitamins and enjoy some downtime each day. I like what you said about worrying - "I will not worry until something really feels wrong" That will be my mantra now. Thank you so much for your videos, I feel so related to you in many ways (even the fear of spiders). :) I would like to see more welness and health tips from you in future. Greetings from Mexico!
Thank you so much for leaving a comment and sharing your thoughts Natalia. I can definitely relate to what you shared, including the fears for losing your hair and teeth and stuff. I learned that these particular fears are about control. So I try to practice letting go when I can :) We can only do our best to take good care of our body, and then we can just have faith that things will work out :) Take good care, wishing you a wonderful week!
I have struggled with worry and anxiety my whole life. This has been helping. Thank you.😊❤️
I definitely make my downtime productive. Like I can't do anything just for the sake of enjoying it. If I'm doing craft, I'm making a gift then it becomes a burden as it is something I haven't finished and feel guilty about. I tend to only justify downtime because it increases my productivity later. Even then, single tasking is extremely hard. It's a fight with my mind. I feel tense when I try to relax and more relaxed when I'm doing something. Sitting with the discomfort of doing less, is something I need to 'work on' but I've just turned it into another task!!
Oh goodness, this is EXACTLY me. Now I know there are at least 2 of us in the fight, which in itself is another added task! Awful, isn't it? I have no idea how to break the cycle at this point. TY for your comment. You definitely spoke to me . Hugs Kate 😊
@@madhattersoriginal6258 I think awareness is a good first step. Then for me, practicing sitting with the discomfort of doing less. Recognising that just because I feel stressed doesn't mean I should stop! Like when someone took me to a spa and I was drumming my fingers....what next, how long do I have to sit here?!!
@@madhattersoriginal6258 I also think that starting with forcing myself to single task is a good place to start.
@louisehorsfall9400 yep! That's me. Same at hairdressers, pedicure, etc
I think the relax gene passed me by 🤣
I can totally empathize with you completely!
I have managed to decrease the required time-span for taking a shower to an hour and a half now but for many years I have been basically been where you are now.
An huge part of the process has actually really been to
accept who I am and step by step(many many baby-steps)
I started to let go.
-And yes, you are worthy just because you are here, even without doing anything productive! Think about it this way: the thought that you have to function in order to
be someone is a product of the human mind, right?
There's a much higher intelligence out there, though
and it's unlimited and doesn't
make mistakes. The fact that you are alive can neither be a mistake nor a coincidence by the higher power.
How could human intelligence
ever question your worthiness, since you have divinity within
yourself?? - just let that sink for a moment - and there's definitely nothing to be washed off your skin, you know...
Lots of love and best wishes
from a friend 🙏❤️
Yay, another video content from you, Vera! ❤ Such applicable content everyday...thanks.
May you recover soon from flu...ugh. Sickness is stressful just within itself. ❤️ P.S. I haven't looked so lovely when I have had the flu. 😉
Haha aw thank you Heather 🤗🌱 Well I didn't look like this a few days before filming, haha. I also had to cut out a lot of coughing this time hihi
Thanks for what you do, Vera! Hope you are feeling better!
Thanks Pamela :) Yes I'm feeling much better, my voice just needs some more time haha. Have a lovely weekend!
@@SimpleHappyZen that’s great to hear! You have a lovely weekend as well!
This video gave me plenty of food for thought. Self care is so important but our society tends to push us toward constant productivity, as you say. Let's slow down and be good to ourselves - we need to enjoy our lives, just for ourselves. ❤❤
So true! :)
Listening to you always calms my mind :D. That is one of my tricks for when I'm anxious or overwhelmed ;). You have such a beautiful aura and a calming voice.
I too worry immensly about my health. For 5 years I have been passed over from one doctor to the other because there are some strange markers in my blood and I am always in pain and fatigued. But nobody ever found anything conclusive. Last year I stopped seeing any kind of fancy doctor and it was the best I could do. Now I'm not constantly thinking about the gruesome diseases I may have or haven't. I still see my regular doctor and make a blood test every half year to not overlock something. But still I struggle to appreaciate my body. Though I am very much better than the last 10 years, I'm still in mild pain, I'm not strong or enduring and am easily fatigued. I want to treat my body as a friend, but sometimes it is still my enemy ^^.
Many greetings from Germany :D!
Try listening to Louise Hay on RUclips or even her book “ heal your body “ is excellent. It has helped many people and you may find it helpful. Take care
I really needed this video today. I was feeling overwhelmed by thoughts alone. My mindset was a negative spiral and it kept going. Very happy I clicked on this video. I am also calmer listening to you speak.😊
Glad to hear the video helped calm you down a bit :) Take care and have a happy Monday!
This video really applies to me with regard to my anxiety, especially health. I felt very comforted listening to you discussing your anxiety. Thank you ❤❤❤
You're so welcome and you're definitely not alone in experiencing anxiety :) Take care and have a happy Monday!
Thank you, Vera, all of these habits are so important and helpful 😊
Glad to hear it :) Wishing you a happy Monday!
I'm currently in the Netherlands and I yesterday I was "Vera lives here, that's so cool" 😅 Anyway, another great video ❤️ I always feel calmer after watching your content 🙂
This channel is my safe place🥺
Aw 🥹💕
Vera, what a gem you are. Tky for sharing your wisdom. I am facing a big health struggle and want to be positive,you’re three videos give me strength to let go of the fear and face it with small doable things. Thy you really helped today.
I love watching your videos for so many reasons. Now I feel I am not alone. I bit myself all the time about everything. I always felt the need to be super busy and productive all the time. Now I am in my 50 I realize I need to stop to enjoy the moment. Not to worry about everything and try to be perfect at all times. I like that you said it’s ok to make mistakes. You are brilliant lady. Thank you for your videos.
Ahh I have many similarities to you, including being a HSP, a worry wart, a perfectionist and having a fear of spiders 🙀 It comforts me to hear you talk about this stuff, and I too am trying to get out the habit of needlessly worrying or trying to be perfect. Saying/writing comforting mantras, meditating, nature walks, chatting to close friends, and listening to mellow jazz music 🎶 are all in my toolbox when anxiety hits 🤓 Thank you Vera for your powerful reflections and gentle advice!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, so nice that you have a toolbox with coping skills like that! :)
Amazing video.. mindset of not worrying and instead saying all will be fine is so cool
Vera , I always enjoy and appreciate your content. You're a gentle and beautiful presence.
Gracias y te envio amor ,Luz y paz. 🌟
Aw thank you so much!! Wishing you a lovely weekend
This was beautiful. God made u perfectly in his imagine. ❤
Aside from the great thoughts and ideas presented in this video, I must commend you on the beautiful video footage that is included - the colouration and images of water and birds are beautiful! Bravo!
Aw thanks!! I loved the clips in this video, editing it made me feel relaxed hahaha. Though I always add that most of my nature b-roll clips are not clips I filmed myself, but they're from a stock footage library I have a license for. :)
Such profound wisdom in such a young little gem 💎 amazing and congratulations! ❤ I agree with everything you've stated in today's video and I've already drawned some inspiration from your past ones so thank you 🙏 What i personally find most difficult is to forgive myself for those mistakes that have seriously impacted my life and that seems so easy to avoid in hindsight, so I really need to befriend myself with that past version of myself who acted uncounsciosly, if you will, and accept that part as well, because it makes the whole of who I am. I'm not sure it makes sense what I've just said to others as well, but thank you for giving me the opportunity of self inquiry. Have a wonderful weekend 🌞 🌹
Aw thank you Anna :) Thanks also for what you shared, I think that makes total sense and I think it's great you're working on making friends with the past version of yourself. We can't change the past, but how we feel about the past is something that's still 'in the now' :) Take care!!
I totally relate ...I do a similar technique...I say to myself do your best and hope and pray for the rest.
No matter the situation its really all you can do.
Your video are like a ray of sunshine ❤. Love your content!
Aw thank you so much! :)
You are such a wise young woman Vera. The more of your work I watch, the more I love it. People laugh at me about decluttering as they don't get my need for a simple life. I would rather downsize than keep our current house which is a largish house (my husband won't move yet unfortunately!!) but I love being non-materialistic as I feel you are only trying to impress others with this mindset. I measure success by happiness in that of my children (adults) and myself, not how much money we have or how successful and high we are in our jobs. I love love watching your videos. Love Jo in Australia xxxxx
Your hair looks amazing! So full and healthy! Love your content! 🙏🏼🩷🩷
Aw thanks! :)
Vera, this is your best video for me so far! I love every point of it. And also edition is great❤❤❤
True worrying absolutely does nothing except negative
Yes it gives us a false sense of 'control' when in fact, it changes nothing haha :)
KJV (1) 1 Peter 5 v 7-10 casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. (2) Philippians 4 v 6 Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be make known unto God. (3) Proverbs 9 v 10 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. (4) 1 Samuel 12 v 24 Only fear the Lord, and serve him in truth with all your heart: for consider how great things he hath done for you. (5) John 3 v 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. (6) 1 John 4 v 16 God is love. Have a wonderful day. May the Lord Bless you all. x
So much to say here Vera, body image is really hard because of what this current world thinks is normal, back in the 1800’s it was fashionable for women to be chubby, now you have to be a “barbie doll” , what you said is just be healthy with exercise, diet & mentallly healthy. Good advice on doing something fun after doing something scary that you are terrified doing, I also am terrified of the dentist, I almost rather have an operation 😬😳😱….I just might make an appointment and think of you when I’m sitting in the chair 🤔….love the chirping, you’re so cute Vera!!! Love you bunches 💐💐💐
Thank you, Vera. Your channel always encourages me. Fear of the dentist is real. As a redhead, it takes more medicine to stop the pain. I told my dentist I was a big baby and scared and he totally understood. He always gives me enough novacain or whatever, to avoid pain. I so appreciate that.
Thank you so much , love your videos so much , hope you feel better soon ❤
Aw thanks Jackie 🤗🌱 Definitely feeling a lot better, my voice is the last thing that needs a bit more healing haha
So helpful and positive. I use to worry a lot. I have overcome it most of time. I need to work more on self care.
Glad you enjoyed the video, take care and have a happy Monday!
That exempel about making a fancy tee for others is been me in many years but now i make the best cup of tee both for me myself and also for my guests 💚
About the 2nd mindset: Many people assume I don't exercise my body - both online and in person - because I never talk about it and I'm overweight. The reason I'm overweight is due to genetics but more importantly because I live with Rheumatoid Arthritis. That means I have chronic pain in pretty much all joints in my body since it's an autoimmune disorder, and also fatigue so it's a really hard task to exercise. But nevertheless, I have started to exercise! But I won't announce it on my RUclips channel or to my friends and family (although I'm writing a comment about it to prove my point here lol) because I don't see it as something the world needs to know. I was thinking about how often we do things to get praise. I often get comments on my channel about my weight. Still not going to explain though.
About worrying - I am using mantra “let it go, let it be”. And that also helps.
Vera, thank you so much, this is just what I needed to hear right now. There used to be a time in years gone by that I would say 'Worrying is a waste of time and energy' yet recently I find myself not listening to those words. It is not much point me worrying some things in life I can not change but I can adapt to new ways. 🇭🇲
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Deb 🤗🍵 Certain things we just need to remind ourselves of sometimes :) Take care and have a lovely rest of your day!
Love your videos- I always look forward to another one!
Aw thank you Marilyn! :) Have a lovely weekend!
Your words completely made me happy. Thank you for these positive words. Although I had bad morning today but it’s completely changed after hearing you. I supposed to meet my neighbor toad at the lobby however she didn’t come and never text me back I felt I am ignored , and she ruin my morning day but now I feel much better with your wording. Thank you beautiful 😇
Listened to this sage advice while experiencing my tubby time self care but will need to listen again when I am able to take notes....
Your videos are always so calming and uplifting. 💖☮️ Also, way to go on the side planks! 💪
Aw thanks!! 😊❤ Are side arm planks relatively easy for you to do?
@@SimpleHappyZen relatively so but I can definitely feel it in my abs whenever I do them. They used to be much more challenging for me but, remember, I’ve been practicing a ton for over a decade now. 😊 It’s more about how we feel than the actual poses but it also can be exciting when we start being able to do more poses.
I find a lot of value in your videos. Thank you for being open, and sharing your fears and also your good advice 😁
Aw thank you so much! :)
Vera, thank you for such a helpful video 💛 My mindset definitely needs an improvement 🌼
You're very welcome, take care and have a happy Monday!
@@SimpleHappyZen Happy Monday 🌼
You are a fantastic and very calm and logical woman, i beleive you would be very happy and calm with your family at a house by the sea at Greece !
I love this so much
Thank you Vera ❤great reminders of mindsets. As a caregiver I needed to hear this today Appreciate you 😊
I'm always never want to be a burden. Your tip on this is so encouraging and a great reminder I can remember ❤❤
Glad to hear it :) Take care and have a happy Monday!
I especially appreciate these types of videos that you make. Thank you so very much. For whatever reason, I need the reminders over and over and you are so sweet and kind and compassionate with your reminders. 💞
Ive worried since Ive been 8 years old. Diagnosed with GAD in my mid 30s. It’s a daily struggle. I am going to try and implement the self care habits you suggest. Thank you 🙏
Self care is so important- when I buy things for myself, the big thing in mind is 'foes it spark joy'. When I buy teas, I'll sometimes switch to one or another, but they are ones sparking joy. I love blueberry and blackcurrant. Another is camomile ❤❤
Tea can be magic :)
Hi Vera, thank you for this video! I relate to all of your points, but especially the one about worrying. I've always been a worrier! Like you, my partner and I recently bought a home and I can relate SO MUCH to your experience! Now that we're responsible for a lot of the maintenance (except for the exterior of the building), I find myself worrying about what could go wrong. I always think about the worst case scenario! Your tips are very helpful. 😊💕 Thank you from Canada! 🇨🇦
I am grateful for your wisdom and that you share. You are real.
Aw thank you! :) Take care and have a happy Monday!
This is the first time I watched your channel I joined right away everything you talked about I felt like you were talking to me thank you so much I look forward to watching your other videos
Thank you so much and welcome to the channel! :)
Hi Vera, thank you so much for this video! It very much resonates with me, as I know many of these fears myself like not being able to stand up enough for myself or often times being quite indecisive about things as I want to take everything into consideration and not hurt anybody...And I am also very sensitive to my own and other people's feelings which can hold me back. So thank you very much for these helpful tips and reminders about mindset habits.
Love all your videos. Especially on Self Care.. You bring such Great wisdom and Inspiration. GOD BLESS YOU.P
Thank you so much 🤗🍵 Have a lovely day!