When He Pulls Away & Then Comes Back Keep This In Mind!
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If someone pulls away instead of communicating, it's done for me.
Me, too. I have things to do. Smh.
Gotcha
men with fish haha
Absolutely I'm not into dealing with a child
Same here!!
When he pulls away, he can stay away. I don't want to be bothered after that. Keep it moving, Buddy!
Right✌🏽😎
Agreed 100%❤
If someone pulls away instead of communicating, they have no interest in you.
That's not always the case...
@@JonathonAslay you are not a priority to them
I have been ghosted many times or men pulling away in the process. My lesson learned, don't cry about spoiled milk. Move on, if he comes back, I am not home
You can't expect everything to be perfect. We are all changing and growing and we all have flaws. Get to know each other on a deep level. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and be the safe place for them to be vulnerable with you. And have fun along the way. No expectations. No overthinking everything. Give each other space.
I tried thst in the "relationship" I was in and it backfired but I feel he will come back but I'm not chasing.
The balding comment made me laugh. In my 40's my friend said to me, "You really like those bald guys." I replied, " It's not that, it's that if you reject guys in our age group that are bald, you are greatly reducing your options just based on his lack of hair which has nothing to do with who he is". Later she married a bald guy. Lol.
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Some of the most sensual Men have lost their hair. 😉
@@kimgordon3695 right, ! most bald men have high testosterone and they do try harder, and ive dated a few, and nothing wrong w a good man just for being bald, do You think youre the sexiest thing on earth cos chances are youre no marilynn munroe either, hahaha or overweight etc,,, hahahah really? hair is just so over rated,,, ps bald men have extra testosterone usually have higher sex drives and thats sexy !
😂😂🥰Sweet enough☝🏾💕
This should be taught in school. I can't believe how immature I was and sheltered when I started dating. I'm not sure if it was actually dating. More like hanging out.
Omg same
Absolutely nailed it. It’s incredible how much entitlement people think they deserve perfection and yet are not stepping up to their own expectations.
Ghosting is hurtful...I did it and a month and a half later went back to the man who played me for three years and ten months ago ghosted me...I took a back seat when I went to him and became a door mat...the saving grace was I started to emotionally disconnect before he handed me the big bang!...although it hurts like hell I am not cripple and have moved on in my life with my life...this does not include escaping heartache, heartbreak or disappointment...it does include getting my emotional and mental house in order and not allowing another man disrespect me or my self worth...
If someone pulls away and yes, he has a hundred times, it's time to let go. I don't care if they are fearful or not. They can get off their but and communicate . It just shows his immaturity. Done, done, done. I'm not pulling anything out of him or begging for his thoughts.
I truly appreciate you. You make total sense and I am asking better questions; speaking my truth; you can't say the wrong thing to the right person
Exactly 👍🏼
Yes! Exactly... Better to do the inner work and wait as long as it takes than to spend time with others for the sakes of it.
Single & available 🚫
Single & busy ✔
I am committed to the Most High. I am no longer interested in having relationships with men for anything I can't give myself with Gods help...Happy to be finally liberated and free.❤
Its just that nobody teaches you about relationships we just go through life finding out through dating. But now we have you 😊
Thankyou
This is so very true . Compatibility is important.
Exactly
After 1 week of ghosting, that’s enough for me and I’m cured from him. NEXT!
Ok third comment, so Month I commented on one of your videos that I was having a bit of fun after my ex discarded me after years together. It hurt like hell and I had a breakdown and was hospitalized for two weeks. It was bad. Sooo it’s a month now, no contact with other men as I’m tired of the games and I made a promise not to sleep with anyone anymore until I find the right person. So I pulled away from them and last night one guy returned. He wanted to come over and I said NO. I’m very glad I’ve been listening to you. It really helped me the past month. Love love love your advice
Happy to help... 🙏
I think you're the best relationship person on You Tube personally!!
Awe... thank you 😊
Thank you for this video Jonathan! I so appreciate you telling the hard truths, and this one particularly hit some things home for me. I have a hard time using the dating apps/trusting people on them, and you perfectly explained why. And the reasons men pull away… *sigh*. Your content is so down to earth and no bullshit and I love that (even though I’m just outside your demographic). There’s something so… manipulative about some of the dating advice out there. I refuse to play those games. Thank you for being real
Same here. As a man, sick of woman that pull away instead of communicating, I don't have time to play games. Either you communicate what's bothering you, take at least the bare minimum amount of effort, or I'm out.
Also alot of people are narsicists, nobody should have this kind of person in their life! Period! Friens or boyfriend...
Your honesty is what us women need/want from a man, so Thank you!
My pleasure 🙏
Your videos brought me back to earth. Thank you for sharing this with us. And somehow I feel relieved and at ease with “you can’t say the wrong thing to the right person”, thank you for this
You are so welcome!
You know I'm a widow you know I was married 27 years .I keep attracting users. .I'm mistaken as being 10 yrs younger not boasting but sometimes I wish I wouldn't be looked as this sex object by men I trusted these guys because I had a happy marriage I am losing trust and its sad I really came into this scene hopeful as a widow..I feel so out of touch being a widow.I miss being married..I miss my husband. I KNOW I am a good woman..But I'm being punished for these men's past relationships.
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He sent me an emoji 👉🏼 😕 and I was just like wow. Wtf is this supposed to mean?!
If a man can't communicate its done for me.
I just jettisoned a man who was into emoji’s. I don’t do emoji-speak. End of story.
@@31Alden Exactly. Super annoying.
"Yes I'm single and it's you who will have to be amazing to change that"...
Can I not just do this instead! " Yes I'm single and it's me who will have to be amazing to change that"...
Don't stay single too long Johnathan. These are your best years.
Thank you for all your videos. I am single again and you are teaching me to be ok with that as I work on myself. Loving myself is becoming a priority since listening to you. My summer reading is coming from your recommendations. Keep up your support videos!!!
WOW!! You have an amazing gift of putting the truth on the line!! Thank you for doing what you do!! I appreciate you!!😊
Awe... thank you
You always have such informative and entertaining videos...I learn something every time...this time I have learned that the older I get the more I understand...I have come to the conclusion that if he ain't here by now he is not coming and those that do come are not what I desire or wish for...sometimes being alone is the best choice...relationships are hard work and in many instances does not bring happiness or contentment....if you are not Intune with you then you will get slaughtered...be open ladies but watchful for game comes in many forms and at many stages...
I truly appreciate when you say this is your thoughts, perceptions, opinions by no means you are proclaiming it is the truth. However, you are saying many truth, so eloquently, thanks for talking on this topic, I agree with many things you have express🌞☀✨
It is important to love and respect yourself,find the Heaven Family, so you can find yourself, then find what is yours🌞🌝🌠
It's theraputic to just listen to your summary of the mentality today in your videos :) I myself stick to the ideals presented in the Bible and the knowledge that we are sinful and fall short of these goals. You have a good grasp about the standards both sexes should have, so good job :)
Thank you again !! Compatibility!!! Your so far always right and brutally honest which I want no matter how hard or painful disappointing!! The truth always comes out always so for me better sooner than later !! Ty
You are so welcome
No I'm not having sex with him just because he says he wants that. He could be just saying that. I can take care of myself and I can be alone and be fine. Irs scary after 37 years of marriage and now single. Irs really changed. It's really scary.
It is really scary... all men who have pursued me seem to want to start by sex, cuz they’re starved... yet are incapable of making themselves available for building a connection that will lead to sex. Men don’t seem to understand female sexual desire or if they know how it works, ignore it
Watching you from South Africa on a really beautiful day.
TY 🙏
hi. what you say is so so true. about three months ago i told a guy, stay with what you already know. he s settled down, to be honest i realised he s interested only in what i can give and do for him. i realise after years, i don t even like him... i think i cannot trust, in this day and age...thanky. also you do not use a male or female.
I was engaged to a pilot in the Navy and found out he played me the whole time cheated on me lied to me and then when he got out of the Navy and we were supposed to start our life together he dumped me it was all his big plan I was told by one of his pilot friends
I feel your pain and understand heartbreak and ache ...so sorry that he did this to you
What a narcissist that guy was! Sounds textbook to me.
Hi Jonathan, I started watching your videos couple of months ago. I have to say that what you explain has changed my mind on many things. By the way, I am from Türkiye :))) and also lived in the States for a bit and experienced a different dating mindset which made things a bit different for me to adjust myself when I got back here :)) I am going to read the books you suggest.
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Thank you for your words of wisdom.
Thanks for listening
I have found most of the fwb is usually just more benes than friends! Lol
I could listen to your talks all day. So on point but you are sooo hilarious too. Would highly recommend to all my friends to listen in. 🙏
Great vlog. It brought to mind a song from 1968 (I am a boomer) by the group "Spanky and Our Gang" called "Like to Get to Know You (if I could)". It is on RUclips, original version and the lyrics can be found on Google. It sounds promising, doesn't it? However later in the song the female member of the group sings "Now I can't promise that I'll spend a day with you..can't promise that I'll love you..." then it goes back to the chorus. Talk about promises they can't keep! :)
Emotional maturity!! Wow huge eye opener for me. Very interesting! Ty ty ty you are helping me so much and do quickly I’m in awe!
Thank you Jonathon. Hug and love back to you.
Oh! No sex for 7 years now and it's helping me to become a healthier individual by not allowing a man to consume the sexual energy in my body.
Will I ever 'mate' again, who knows, but choosing to stay true to my body and filtering the masses out without much consideration at this moment in time...
I was much better off when I was 100 percent single and not dating for 2 years. Sucked before that, and sucks now after that !!!!
Thanks for sharing 🙏
This is what should be taught in or before the 5th and 6th grade instead wasting time with Algebra - this is knowledge that should have been shared before puberty embarks on any male or female.
You Definitely remind me of Jason Bateman...
Who's very Real
& chooses such good roles/movies to express his Hollywood talent...
I appreciate that !
Set a reminder!!! This gonna be good😌
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Love This Content So Much Jonathon~💖
Love how real you are, and Love the Relationship Vow You Shared! 💖💖💖
This hit home amazing information Jonathan... Your mic perfectly sounds superb
TY 🙏
I love your wise words as always thanks Johnathon 🙏ha that’s too cute with the Teddy waving at the end 😅
TY 🙏
I like how you keep it real Jonathan. I watch you, Leo keeping it real to remind me why I never date!
He pulled away and then I couldnt trust him
Awesome Johnathan 👍😜
I totally agree with the dating steps, there are good men out there but that does not mean that deep connection is going to be there, I did the work and do not have any past relationship baggage, I read people well and I want a healthy relationship and I am capable but that does not make it any easier
Yay. You are the best. Thank you for making me smile and reflect. It is a gift to listen to you. Bella in new me xico.
I like your sarcasm Jonathan!
Thanks Mr. Jonathan again well SEAD, I really appreciate you Margaret
Great video as always Jonathan! Btw I was trying to catch what your T-shirt said?? ❤️ you have great shirts
Ok this is the second video i have watched of I am subscribing you hit on alot of what i say and think about.
Honored you found value in my work... 🙏
Dang I have to set a reminder
It's prerecorded... watch anytime after it premieres. 😀💫👍
Thank you for your advice but that's exactly have my friend is
Lol.... I just stumbled upon this and decided to watch, but I have to comment, when I first read the T-shirt I was reading "...can I interest you in a narcissistic moment?".
I thought, that's..... a.... very .....interesting sentiment......🤣🤣..... Honestly, that prompted me to listen; I wanted to hear this perspective.
PS: I love the 'dating oath'. I am definitely going to be recommending it to some friends of mine who are definitely 'hyper-cautious dreamers'; they end up sabotaging a relationship because of doubt and fear. I believe that 'dating oath' could def help.
2,5 years no sex.. 12 years without a decent relationship.. so what shall I do? Waiting to have sex till Mr. Right comes along?
I have a FWB and justify myself with at least his the devil I know .....and while I think we are friends too ... I end up not happy when ever he pulls away ..... I'm getting those books you just recommend starting with yours!
Thank you Jonathan for another great lesson on relationships with men l am a queen and l have no patience with a man who doesn't know what he expects from good relationship with a woman.
You are very welcome
I did what you recommended and read Eight Dates and we discussed it all. After dating 3 months we had sex ( or tried to). Two weeks later - last night to be exact - he dumped me because he thinks that if our relationship was solid, he would not need a pill to have sex!!! Really??? What did I do wrong?
I hope you had a good time at the wedding you spoke about
Awesome time and flying home soon 😀
This just happened to me. I’m like wtf
That shirt is nice. The color looks good on you just like the red does also!
TY 🙏
Urghh I hate the dating scene rn. Trust and feeling safe are definitely high on my non negotiables list. Omg yesss, if the women stopped having casual sex and started valuing themselves, it would change the entire dating landscape.
I reckon the reason men pull away or ghost and come back is cos they usually just want to establish your level of interest & if you'll allow them access. They want to ascertain whether you're a potential fall back option. The motivation is often self centred, thinking only of themselves and what they can get for little or no investment. 🙄
Yesssss, let's all heal from within and exterminate those false limiting beliefs. 🙌💕
P. S Got that book on why men love bitches 😁. 8 dates sounds interesting..
Great down to earth advice , from a gorgeous chap 😊👌xx
Awe... thank you 😊
@@JonathonAslay, we need to to visit the brits 🇬🇧😁, you’d be very very busy! The Four Agreements is certainly a powerful read! Cheers Johnathon 😊x
Emotional maturity that's like traditional courting. I just still don't believe in sex out of Marriage. Let them run away that don't measure up, because they are not Godly men, low value, players or narcissists or all of the above 🤣😂
Godly men can be all those things too...
Also word of advice the fwb gets old! I really like this one ty Jonathan
I appreciate all you said. ❤
My pleasure 🙏
This guy is emotonally itiinally
Good stuff! Thank you!
YW 🙏
Happened to me in May
Happening right now two weeks …
Where were you 40 years ago when I needed you
Maybe in cavemen days the men were just dependant on woman as women on men. We actually can not relate to how it was. Because we don't know. Even nowadays many people can not relate to the needs and thoughts of foreign people who live in the Jungle for example. They don't have always the same relationship problems as we do.
Life is easier when You have a bigger family (tribe) around You. If it's only one person or so, it's difficult...
Friends can be a good substitute for a family as well🐛🌺👍
Best luck to everybody 🍀🌺
Well said
Thank you for your insight
You are so onto something. WOW
Thanks ☺️
Spender isn’t such a bad thing in my opinion. I’m 68, widowed for many years, never remarried, not expecting to get married again. Looking for companionship at this point.
I agree! Me & my boyfriend have been "spenders" for many years together! If he ever got "serious", I would run for the hills!
Sara, I agree I was married 33 yrs and now widowed. Been in a 3 yr committed relationship and also probably will never remarry as well. It works out great and we have our own space when we need a break. We fully trust each and it's working out fine.
Sure, it depends on what you need!
I have 2 stuffed bunnies that give me love and no back talk LOL🐰🐰
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I am not fearful of a relationship. I only believe in Marriage and I don't believe in sex outside of marriage. Yes, I have been divorced. I didn't put God in my past relationships. I am traditional and I am not going to deviate from my values.
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Thank you .. much appreciated .. as women you are correct ..we do not have the real mechanics... I think we spend our whole lives trying to figure it all out
I am not upset with the reminder ....LOL!!!!
Where does one find the dating vows????
You are so welcome
When he pulls away and come back , not only that he cheated on you but he is a SOCIOPATH!
Love your sincerely...🥰
TY 🙏
Your dating vow doesn't work. He committed and exclusive but when i told him no more intimacy because he said he will spend 3 days alone time with his female friend on vacation. I told him I'm not happy, and he said he realized he isn't ready for r"ship. He found out in the process.
I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL.....I GOT 1 MORE CHANCE,,,,,AFTER ....2 MARRIAGES....DIVORCEE...NOW WIDOWED......NOT GONNA BLOW IT.....NO WAY......I'M LISTENING HERE.....LEARNING SO MUCH FROM YOU.....NEWBIE HERE......SO MANY MISTAKES MADE.....HURTS.....AMEN.
Awe... thank you 😊
Again, Johnathon, what YOU are saying is the absolute truth!
I will say this, though!
The reason why so many High-Value Men, like myself, walk away / pull away, from most girl's, then come back, is because...
He wants to be sure he can "trust" this person!!
If there's is any indication that, she shows, or gives off some type of vibe, that he cannot "trust" this person, he will walk away, or be hesitant to go towards her!
Period!!
If, on the other hand, she comes across as Honest, Open, Trustworthy / Transparent = HOT
in the beginning of the relationship / friendship, he won't THINK twice about opening up to her / going towards her!
Maybe, even letting her into his World, a bit!
Bottom Line:
It ALL comes down to "TRUST" people!! ALWAYS!!
Whether YOU guys / girl's like to admit it or not!
Sad, but... TRUE, people! 😥
Yes, trust is the foundational piece and when one can trust themselves... they tend to sense those who are not in a place to fully commit. Not being able to commit or emotional trauma is why these folks seem untrustworthy. 🙏
@@JonathonAslay Again, Johnathon, what YOU are saying might be "true" for some people, but... NOT ME!
The "truth" of the matter is, and ALWAYS will be...
If she comes off as a player, or someone who is just looking to
"hook up" for a one night stand, or her main purpose in the relationship is sex / money, then...
I'm done with her, and the relationship!
I have NO PROBLEM being friends with her, though! 😎
Its not sad,I agree with wholeheartedly, trust,it takes time and maturity
Thanks!
awe... thanks
WOOOOOOWWWWWWW!!!💯👍🏼
Sincerely
You're a funny man
The players are put in different arena
How so?
@@JonathonAslay they like to control when seeing many women and they put others on a shelf
Sometimes in the.process the player chooses the wrong woman or women
That can also apply to a woman
Yeah. This guy. I met him 13 years ago. And we were all over each other. It was really bad right from the start. He would have me over, we'd hang out. Even with his friends. I'd stay the night and go home in the morning. So, of course I was crazy about him, but I knew what it was. One day I saw online he has a girlfriend now and that was that. That was 2009. 2014 he messaged me, but I was living with someone else and I said so. Flash to 2016. Short message HI! Hi back. Flash to 2020. Sporadic messaging that year. Hook up stuff, but I wouldn't do it. Because I know better! This goes on from then until now. So. I did meet him again in June. I'm 57, he's 47. So, that was kind of a thing I was concerned about, but he's no kid, right! Hahaha To give him credit, he is straightforward about not being ready for a relationship. Gone through some shit. Anyway, he knew I really care about him. So, we messed around in a parking lot! We didn't sleep together. 3x. Every weekend. My roommate put the kibosh to that because her husband sleeps on the couch and I was coming home in the middle of the night. Anyway, I watch your stuff. I honestly told him I am out. Don't wanna get fried. Told him I love him dearly, good luck. Didn't mean goodbye! He deleted me and blocked me! So, yeah this sucks! Hahaha ( laugh, want to cry )
This guy sou ds emotiionally geerally intelligent highly Intuitive surely need aloto f you now than before
I cuddle myself most nights now
Based on your percentages, only a maximum of 20% of the population can be a builder and find a builder. It goes downhill from there. The majority of us have to be alone or...make the best of what's available. Hmm 🤔