**Get Dr. John Gray's Free Relationship Course HERE: www.marsvenus.com/gift & **FREE 10 Secrets Every Woman Needs To Know (About Men)! eBook and audio HERE: whatrealmenwant.com/
"Part of masculinity, part of testosterone, is all about success. It's not about what do I get. It's not about me. It's about me being successful doing something for you."
Eh, usually when a guy has to say "I'm doing this for both of us", he's saying it because you have noticed something is considerably wrong and are bringing it up. Now, if you can follow that up with some specific details as to how you will both benefit and what the specific plan is. Specific specific. Then okay, maybe that can go somewhere. Also, women are even more success focused than dudes. So the testosterone thing doesn't check out. A lot of this misgiving comes from not really understanding what success looks like. What it is comprised of. It doesn't mean six figures or being an obedient little slave to some corporate master. It means something totally different. Something much deeper.
It is so delightful to hear Dr. John Gray tell and emote the frustrations of men who Really Want a Happy Woman by giving her what She Wants....which earns them Man Cave -testosterone-generating strength and fulfillment. Great Presentation 👏
Dr. John Gray changed my life and my relationships with ALL of the men in my life including parents, siblings, cousins, boyfriend, EVERYONE who is a male I now am able to speak in a way that means something to them! These videos are absolutely life changing and I encourage anybody reading the comments to watch many more until the concepts come to you like second nature!!!! It is truly life changing and the results were shocking to me. I was able to get what I want from every relationship. Love it!!!
@@BrooklynBaby100 there are so many I probably can’t list all but you can learn them if you watch many of these videos- I used to listen to them while I’m washing my face, in the kitchen, etc just while I’m doing other things and that’s when I started to notice myself doing the things he advises. One practical example is getting the men in your life to give more to you, to listen more to you, to be more kind and loving, and just to have a better relationship with them, by saying words and doing specific actions that are like a “reward” to a man. For example, saying “that’s a good idea” or giving him a smile, saying thank you when he does something good and appreciating it, making him feel like he made a difference - all of these things will encourage him to be kinder and nicer to you and more willing to give you what you want because he will want that appreciation again and again. So it becomes a cycle : he does something good, you appreciate, and then he will either do something similar next time in order to get the appreciation, or you can ask him to do something for you and he will do it in order to get the response/appreciation/“reward”. One of the things that made a big difference for me was that I thought that I was showing appreciation before, but I didn’t realize that I wasn’t actually smiling while showing appreciation. Just giving the person a smile makes a HUGE difference I know it seems like common sense or something so simple but when I consciously thought about it and strategically used my smile it made the world of a difference :P Also another big one for me was I noticed that I don’t ask my brothers for anything- I’m a self sufficient person and I don’t rely on family members to help me with anything.. but after watching these videos I learned that we are supposed to ask men to do something for us, and most likely he will do it, because men have an internal / biological system that makes them want to do something for women and this increases their male hormones. This was another simple thing - sounds like common sense to ask for something, but personally I would’ve never been the type of person to ask my brothers to do anything for me in the past.. my brother was making chicken wraps one day and I texted him and asked him if he can bring one to my room for me because I’m not feeling well. I only did this because I wanted to test out what I learned from the videos. I really didn’t think it would work- I was shockeddd when he actually came to my room with a plate of chicken wrap! Basically men WANT us women to ask them to do things for us, because they want to feel like they made a difference. We have to appreciate and they will continue to do things that we ASK them to do and even things that we don’t ask for just so they can get the appreciation and reward! It increases their male hormones and it’s actually good for womens hormones too as our hormones normalize when we feel cared for and taken care of. So overall it leads to healthier and happier relationships. Also a big theme that Dr. John Gray emphasizes is for us women to be more loving and kind- to open our hearts and act with love, to put our frustrations, negative emotions etc. aside. ALSO a very important practical application is that you must be very specific with your request for it to work - as I mentioned in the chicken wrap example I asked for something super specific and that’s why it worked. I hope this was helpful and not too long hahaha
Whoa @sarrehman that was an awesome ‘short’ reply and clarified a lot! When he talks he covers soooo many things they swim around in my head but what you wrote made it easy to go “Oh I can do that! “ Thanks a heap.
Dude is condescending toward women. Patronizing. It's really sad how many people buy this. I know I did when I was a teenager. The fact is that men and women are ultimately the same. We need respect and love and understanding. Dudes just need to think we're so different so then they can tell themselves their superior. Because if we're the same? Well there's nothing worse you can be than like a woman. Lol.
Ive learned this from experience. If im attracted to a man, i run. Cause i kno he has some healing to do and my lil codependent self wants to just go to work to heal him lol. So yah, i kno from damage
Dr Gray, you are the most amazingly personal authority and such a wise, wise man. I am so greatful to you for helping me in so many ways. Thank you so much. Wishing you many healthy, happy wonderful years ahead. ❤
Michelle, I love your beautiful new flower background… it is so beautiful! Thanx also for bringing John on all the time … and thank you soooooo much, John, for this absolutely incredible insight, especially the ending now was adding a component soooo valuable! I appreciate what you’re doing soooo much! Thank you!
When my husband asked me what are we going to do today if I said what I want him to do he wants me to pay for everything 😭 which sometimes I let him decide because he's selfish I don't know what can I said for him to behave like a gentle man to me he's very greedy 😢😢😢
My second husband is gorgous!! if i mention something now, its done, he loves doing things for me. i get self consions because i lived with a physical domestic violent Husband for 20 years before hand, I dont mean to sabotage 😢 sometimes. how can I stop this.?
@brooklyn3299 hi! It's actually pretty easy...first you identify them (via muscle testing or with an Inner-Voice Scan (I can do these remotely), then release trapped emotions/energy that contributed to this, then reprogram with new beliefs. I offer free clarity calls if you want to chat more!
I want to know what are the things that a woman can do for a man and the man doesn't forget.i mean the man will remember and appreciate for the rest of his life.
So he proposed to Bonnie b4 Barbara, and then married Bonnie after he divorced Barbara. That means he already he wanted to marry Bonnie probably from the very beginning!!
Men Feel Motivation (To Give More) WHEN....Their master gave them "give and receive" as Go and De will return to give what you receive. This is all merchants and kings hiding what they trade and use because Receive is wed to deceive and Give is wed to thanks for true love.
**Get Dr. John Gray's Free Relationship Course HERE: www.marsvenus.com/gift &
**FREE 10 Secrets Every Woman Needs To Know (About Men)! eBook and audio HERE: whatrealmenwant.com/
"Part of masculinity, part of testosterone, is all about success. It's not about what do I get. It's not about me. It's about me being successful doing something for you."
That was beautiful & made so much sense.
💖
@@lke4907😊
Eh, usually when a guy has to say "I'm doing this for both of us", he's saying it because you have noticed something is considerably wrong and are bringing it up. Now, if you can follow that up with some specific details as to how you will both benefit and what the specific plan is. Specific specific. Then okay, maybe that can go somewhere.
Also, women are even more success focused than dudes. So the testosterone thing doesn't check out. A lot of this misgiving comes from not really understanding what success looks like. What it is comprised of. It doesn't mean six figures or being an obedient little slave to some corporate master. It means something totally different. Something much deeper.
Yes. Men need to earn our love. We are interviewing them.
It is so delightful to hear Dr. John Gray tell and emote the frustrations of men who Really Want a Happy Woman by giving her what She Wants....which earns them Man Cave -testosterone-generating strength and fulfillment. Great Presentation 👏
Dr. John Gray changed my life and my relationships with ALL of the men in my life including parents, siblings, cousins, boyfriend, EVERYONE who is a male I now am able to speak in a way that means something to them! These videos are absolutely life changing and I encourage anybody reading the comments to watch many more until the concepts come to you like second nature!!!! It is truly life changing and the results were shocking to me. I was able to get what I want from every relationship. Love it!!!
This comment is not really about this video specifically I just had to pause as soon as the video started to share this comment 😝🤩❤
@@sarrehm what were the practical applications
@@BrooklynBaby100 there are so many I probably can’t list all but you can learn them if you watch many of these videos- I used to listen to them while I’m washing my face, in the kitchen, etc just while I’m doing other things and that’s when I started to notice myself doing the things he advises.
One practical example is getting the men in your life to give more to you, to listen more to you, to be more kind and loving, and just to have a better relationship with them, by saying words and doing specific actions that are like a “reward” to a man. For example, saying “that’s a good idea” or giving him a smile, saying thank you when he does something good and appreciating it, making him feel like he made a difference - all of these things will encourage him to be kinder and nicer to you and more willing to give you what you want because he will want that appreciation again and again. So it becomes a cycle : he does something good, you appreciate, and then he will either do something similar next time in order to get the appreciation, or you can ask him to do something for you and he will do it in order to get the response/appreciation/“reward”.
One of the things that made a big difference for me was that I thought that I was showing appreciation before, but I didn’t realize that I wasn’t actually smiling while showing appreciation. Just giving the person a smile makes a HUGE difference I know it seems like common sense or something so simple but when I consciously thought about it and strategically used my smile it made the world of a difference :P
Also another big one for me was I noticed that I don’t ask my brothers for anything- I’m a self sufficient person and I don’t rely on family members to help me with anything.. but after watching these videos I learned that we are supposed to ask men to do something for us, and most likely he will do it, because men have an internal / biological system that makes them want to do something for women and this increases their male hormones. This was another simple thing - sounds like common sense to ask for something, but personally I would’ve never been the type of person to ask my brothers to do anything for me in the past.. my brother was making chicken wraps one day and I texted him and asked him if he can bring one to my room for me because I’m not feeling well. I only did this because I wanted to test out what I learned from the videos. I really didn’t think it would work- I was shockeddd when he actually came to my room with a plate of chicken wrap!
Basically men WANT us women to ask them to do things for us, because they want to feel like they made a difference. We have to appreciate and they will continue to do things that we ASK them to do and even things that we don’t ask for just so they can get the appreciation and reward! It increases their male hormones and it’s actually good for womens hormones too as our hormones normalize when we feel cared for and taken care of.
So overall it leads to healthier and happier relationships. Also a big theme that Dr. John Gray emphasizes is for us women to be more loving and kind- to open our hearts and act with love, to put our frustrations, negative emotions etc. aside.
ALSO a very important practical application is that you must be very specific with your request for it to work - as I mentioned in the chicken wrap example I asked for something super specific and that’s why it worked.
I hope this was helpful and not too long hahaha
Whoa @sarrehman that was an awesome ‘short’ reply and clarified a lot! When he talks he covers soooo many things they swim around in my head but what you wrote made it easy to go “Oh I can do that! “ Thanks a heap.
Dude is condescending toward women. Patronizing. It's really sad how many people buy this. I know I did when I was a teenager.
The fact is that men and women are ultimately the same. We need respect and love and understanding. Dudes just need to think we're so different so then they can tell themselves their superior. Because if we're the same? Well there's nothing worse you can be than like a woman. Lol.
Ive learned this from experience. If im attracted to a man, i run. Cause i kno he has some healing to do and my lil codependent self wants to just go to work to heal him lol. So yah, i kno from damage
Wow, you have a point, that's so true damn.
THAT is why I LOVE MEN 😍
I agree ❤
Right? They are amazing in their strength
Yeah, hearing this makes me have a different appreciation and love for men. ❤❤
Dr Gray, you are the most amazingly personal authority and such a wise, wise man. I am so greatful to you for helping me in so many ways. Thank you so much. Wishing you many healthy, happy wonderful years ahead. ❤
Wow! Now I can see how a great teacher and a muse Bonnie was for John, so he could bright so much. They were a great team.
The last part is so precious...I'm going through this right now because I'm dealing with my masculine/feminine sides.
Michelle, I love your beautiful new flower background… it is so beautiful! Thanx also for bringing John on all the time … and thank you soooooo much, John, for this absolutely incredible insight, especially the ending now was adding a component soooo valuable! I appreciate what you’re doing soooo much! Thank you!
I am so thankful to this man :)
One of the Best John Gray videos!
The perfect talk! Thank you! ❤❤❤
THIS MAN IS INCREDIBLE!
Really awesome video 👍🏻
When my husband asked me what are we going to do today if I said what I want him to do he wants me to pay for everything 😭 which sometimes I let him decide because he's selfish I don't know what can I said for him to behave like a gentle man to me he's very greedy 😢😢😢
I know I want the feeling of stability
Don’t even! I’m addicted, I can’t stop listening💋
Mill Valley represent!
My second husband is gorgous!! if i mention something now, its done, he loves doing things for me. i get self consions because i lived with a physical domestic violent Husband for 20 years before hand, I dont mean to sabotage 😢 sometimes. how can I stop this.?
You have to change your subconscious beliefs! I can help you with this 🙂
@@MandyDavenport how do you do this??!
@@MandyDavenport Enlighten me, please!!
@brooklyn3299 hi! It's actually pretty easy...first you identify them (via muscle testing or with an Inner-Voice Scan (I can do these remotely), then release trapped emotions/energy that contributed to this, then reprogram with new beliefs. I offer free clarity calls if you want to chat more!
@@Tezzysgirl hi! I just replied to Brooklyn below 🙂
I need to hear more
I want to know what are the things that a woman can do for a man and the man doesn't forget.i mean the man will remember and appreciate for the rest of his life.
Appreciate him and forgive him for his mistakes
17:23 find where you can trust him…
21:46 run the other way if you are sexually turned on by guys.
If you're looking for someone that's just like you all the time... then you're looking for YOU and you should just stay single.
Woooow
I thought Dr. Gray was in his 70's or maybe I miss heard him say he was 65 yrs old
So he proposed to Bonnie b4 Barbara, and then married Bonnie after he divorced Barbara.
That means he already he wanted to marry Bonnie probably from the very beginning!!
❤
Men Feel Motivation (To Give More) WHEN....Their master gave them "give and receive" as Go and De will return to give what you receive. This is all merchants and kings hiding what they trade and use because Receive is wed to deceive and Give is wed to thanks for true love.
I like this man’s dating advice but not when he starts to yell with high pitch tones 😅😅😅😅.
It's the passion! 😂