When I first discovered porn, my brother walked in on me. I was obviously really embarrassed and the expression on his face didn’t make it easier, but he told me “it’s ok to watch this, but just remember that this isn’t how people should be treated.” Ever since then I could never view someone as just a body no matter how much I try.
What a great response from your brother, these things are normal, alcohol, porn (and sexual activity in general), even worse stuff like violence. It's great he approached it in a mature way and simply told you that it's normal to watch porn, just as long as you remember that it is not how sex *actually* is
@naudiaingram4495 I mean, I’m not really bothered about getting out of it. I’ll be the exact same person with these likings than without them. But Ty anyway :)
Sams i suffer from the affects of it, it also sucks seeing people expressing their sexuality and love for others but i can't see myself relating to them because all i know about attraction and sex came from porngraphy, i don't know how to be normal again.
im a female and ive had this problem. even during my current relationship. i would find myself feeling very sad and guilty after finishing doing what i was doing. i found it wasn't the want of watching other people specifically. it was watching the act just because. me and my partner started making videos we keep in our gallery and I watch those and i feel zero need of going on certain sites for it. the biggest plus is feeling actually happy after finishing. no more guilt or sadness. i feel happier. find your person no matter how you feel about relationships right now because that person can save you
@@DefinitelyNotAFerret The struggle is worth it, there are much more effective ways to cope with depression, ones that don't feed into the depression and isolation.
As someone who was in a relationship with a man who was addicted to porn, I must say it’s really really hard. He saw me as an object, it was more of an adventure to him than love making, unrealistic expectations, never complimented me and always had thousands of pictures of solo naked girls on his phone. Even when I communicated with him about this he dismissed me. Porn is very, very unhealthy, imo.
He should bring to professional help. Serious talk, it's dangerous. If he has bad past and cope it with bad addiction especially with this type of addictions, it is necessary reach for help.
@@PearlRose0405 Only if he did listen to me honestly, he had/has family problems. We ended up breaking up after he slapped me for wearing regular street clothes. Trust me, it all goes back to porn, he was so consumed with it that he thought everyone looks at women as an object.
Sounds like he's the type to not be in real relationships anyway, and agreed that's unhealthy. Seek someone out that appreciates you for your mind body and soul, best of luck.
As a guy, It's been seven years since I last watched porn. I first became interested in it when I was 11 and continued to do so until I was 16. The problem with porn is that it never made me feel good; instead, it increased my disdain and sense of absurdity. I discovered finer things in life, such as art, music, and other things that give me a genuine feeling of pleasure and delight. So yes, it is true that not everyone like porn since it is so unrealistic.
Before I even watch this I have to comment to say thank you, Addiction to porn is so harrowing, especially being in a relationship with somebody who struggles with this. There are upsides to this generation but this certainly isn’t one. It’s terrifying that children have access to sights like this too.
First off, pathetic boomer. You're probably one of those people who think kids should be treated like slaves/prisoners in the house, with zero privacy and opinions. Second off, porn has ZERO effect on relationships, its rather the terrible thoughts you accept that ruin the relationship. It's the equivalent of saying video games cause violence. Thirdly, porn is net highly positive, the negatives are minimal. Do you seriously say mobile phones, or TV shows, or Netflix is harrowing? Cause porn is literally the same thing in terms of effect.
What is not an upside: me sawing 1000x times more boobs & vajina & penetration than my granddaddy in his all life-time? Be serious and rational. I don't shoot a porno but I value it.
Shrödinger's "is it irony?" (not to be confused with Shrödinger's irony): Did the person commenting not word it as well as they could've, or have *you* been around irony so much, you almost *can't* see some positive comments any other way?
Man.. i feel you I know it's super hard, but you really can just not do it. It's possible. Look up some videos of batter but stuff.That would mean to pass or just being so busy that I.Didn't have time for it i just want to sleep And try to sleep well because it's Good for you.One also, if you're sleep early.Probably have less of a chance to do anything like that And if on any , I don't absolutely use you to tiktok , whatever it's like videos with Girls dancing a beating suits Or whatever.Just don't watch that Cause that's bad stuff.You shouldn't watch it just leads you to pornography
As a girl who watched porn almost every day or every, I felt sad. I said to myself, “I don’t want my future husband to watch porn”, so I stopped watching porn because a soulmate is a reflection of your self
I am a woman and I was addicted to porn. It was so hard to get out of it and overcome. I was addicted since I was 10 years old and just overcame it when I was 25.... Many years of struggle. Not many people I could relate to or feel comfortable talking about this to.
Wow it was an amazing achivement mam..i hope i can do that to im starting to hate myself for watching those stuff .i've never tell to anyone about this side of me
I'm glad I'm not the only woman who if going/went through this... I'm 14 turning 15 soon and I'm trying to get over it. It's like in watching it almost everyday and it's hard to get over it. The longest I have been without it for a month. I don't know what to do to help get over this 😔
I'm 23 and was exposed to porn at 13, although i didger frequently watch it like most teens it was still enough to warp my mind and filled me with do much shame for how i started to view sex. I am proud to say that i have broken this habit for 6 months now and I can feel how much I've healed, I am more confident talking to people and I feel more of a feeling of love rather than lust. I can thank prayer and focusing more on physical fitness for helping me on this journey so I heavily encourage people to try these things when they feel the "urge". I'm praying for all of you that are still stuck in the dark because it is never to late to come back to the light, trust me I didn't think it was possible but I've becone proof that it is stay strong kings and queens. "we're all gonna make it brahs" -Zyzz
Dapper same with me last year I took physical fitness as routine I became so strong than ever but in my head I feel so empty.. I did it again and I develop varicocele in my strotum.. Such a regret well not maintain my body
Much like drugs (especially stimulants) the comedown effects from a heavy porn binge (over a period of an evening or days) are: irritability, impatience, loss of interest in more simple pleasures, lack of focus and attention, loss of motivation and drive, lethargic mood, depressed and/or anxious mood, lower self-esteem, more sensitive to criticism, seeing women (as a man) as sex objects, and lastly, the possibility of physical pain sensations as a result of less prefrontal cortex activity and more amygdala activity. These are some of the key symptoms I have noticed. To get past porn addiction we must reduce stress, address our triggers/traumas and build self-worth within our community. Reducing isolation and finding meaningful hobbies and pursuits is very important. I am working at all of this and as I write this I am leaving the door to go to the gym and sauna. I came to this video because I wanted to watch porn but instead chose to remind myself of why I should not. Since watching this video, reading others comments, and now writing this comment the stressful trigger has passed and I don't feel any urge to engage in the porn now. Thank you for making this video. I'll tune in each time I am triggered and read the comments from others who are also on the path of recovery. Best wishes to you all!
You don't know how bad an addiction is until you're deep in the thick of it. I've been addicted for a better part of decade and I've realized how much damage this has done to mental stability, my self-esteem, and any relationships that could've been. The worse part is that I didn't search for Porn it was thrown right in my face at 12 years old and in 20's I'm now doing the work to find something tangible.
I guess finding a purpose or meaning such as dating a girl with moral values might be a theraphy for you in a way to escape from porn. Cuz the real reason me and other men we watch porn is because we're always lonely with no female interaction cuz of the rise of social media which we cannot find a real woman with moral values of the family to raise a family and have a healthy relationship.
@@jarryj1995 it gets easier to fight after each time you backslide. Best you can do is try your best to make your streaks as long as you possibly can, and each following streak will get easier and easier. I had a similar story as you, but I'm just now trying to get completely off the stuff in my 30s, and I'm getting there.
As a teenage girl desperately trying to get over a porn addiction this helps sm. It’s a very hard thing to overcome but I see how it effects me. I’ve been addicted since I was about 8 years old and over the years the porn I watch has gotten more and more aggressive and unrealistic and I don’t want this for myself. It’s great that you’re bringing something that most wouldn’t even think about but a lot of others struggle with
@@X1ness If you don't mind me asking, why were you interested in porn at the age of 8? Were you exposed to it at that age? I'm sorry for that, if that is the case.
@@trendgames6023 Yes,you are right.But sometimes when I try to talk about stuff like this people will get uncomfortable.I am glad that it is becoming more normal though!
I've quit watching it, and it has really made my life better. I am now doing so much better, my mental health has gotten 10x better! And I'm so happy they made a video on this topic. I wish the bestest of luck to those trying to quit!
Timestamps 1). Effects of availability 0:29 2). Porn became much more available 0:56 3). Effects on the brain 1:56 4). Effects of addiction 2:51 5). It's not all bad 3:48 Hope this helps you out. 💙💙💙💙
Would you consider doing a video on the psychology behind what people would call "daddy issues"? I think it would be nice to see it from Psych2Go's perspective in a video.
I’m honestly so happy that there is more talk about this subject. Porn destroys people and relationships. I’ve been with a man that watched it regularly and constantly compared me to those woman. At some point he would send extremely graphic video’s, and assault me without consent. It was traumatizing and dehumanizing. NEVER am i dating some boy that watched shit like that. I wish more people would educate themselves, and find the courage to go see a therapist or learn how to control this impulsive / coping behavior of watching this crap. It doesn’t only ruin YOU but also your relationships and the people that love you.
You stayed in an abusive relationship. I hope you are getting help so that you don’t go into another relationship with an abusive person and stay in that relationship. We make choices, whether we know it consciously or not. Make sure you break the cycle.
To anyone who is trying to quit their addiction, We believe in you :) It's hard, but keep up the good work and you'll find that porn is a want instead of a need If you fall back and find yourself in that cycle again, you aren't a bad person and theres always room to try again
@@theonlyMoancore Best thing to do here is get rid of it in your life. As hard as it is, it's worth it in the long run. That 1 to 2 times a week you're talking about can lead to an addiction quick. Trust me, I been through it. I'm 18 now and much better.
Thank you so much for this comment at the moment I have started to quit but ended up failing and eventually just gave up but not thanks to you I think I’m going to be able to do this, thanks🙂🙂
Remember folks, 21 days for a habit and 90 days for a lifestyle, you can literally quit porn by not watching it for at least a month. I know this may not be effective for all because some people would take even longer than a month, that is okay! Treating it like a challenge is a perfect idea, like you do it for a month then be like "that was way easier lemme continue for another month!" then challenge yourself again for another month, then again and repeat this process. Yes I still am an addict and this is how i'll be helping myself get over it.
I've never seen a place in which we could talk about this kind of addiction without the constant feelings of shame and angst, thank you so much guys, I'm trying to get out of it too and it really made my day to see that I'm not the only one, and that my struggles are valid
This is why I love these videos. When I was a teenager, I used porn to relieve myself of negative emotions. I had a terrible stepmom, so I constantly felt anger, depression, but most of all, I felt worthless. After I graduated high school, I was left with alone with my grandparents as they came down with dimentia and Alzheimer's. My pornography addiction hit an all-time high during this time. My grandma tried to keep control of her life and instead, she was making mine miserable, so I watched porn to supplement the love I was lacking. I can't say I view people as objects without value. I grew up viewing myself as an object without value and trying to fill the void with pornography. "Other people have value I can never obtain." Sometimes, I've heard stories and thought to myself "I have no right to complain. I haven't reached a bottom as low as this person has." Another reason to turn to pornography. I can't speak for everyone, but these are the struggles that led me to pornography addiction. It's an endless cycle of "I feel worthless, but it could be worse so I can't just speak up, so here's a dose of porn."
so so so relatable, all your quotations are exactly what I feel, except I have developed these in the last 3,4 years. I've had a loving childhood but then I failed 1 exam and ever since I have the feeling of "Other people have value I can never obtain.", "I have no right to complain. I feel like everyone has a purpose in life except for me. I can only get rid of this feeling when I am near my mom. only place where I feel Ihave some worth.
Oh... that's heartbreaking... I feel for you. I hope you find and get the support you need because you should feel like you're worth something. You deserve to feel like you have a place in the world; worth so much so as to be invaluable. The world is not the best by any means but there are good things. There are people that are more qualified to give advice than me, some stranger on the internet, but you must try to find it. Unfortunately, things don't come on a platter like they do in much of the media. It's a battle you have to give it your all to fight, but I believe in you. I hope that means something. You may yet find the love you need, just around the corner. I hope you do. The world needs more love and compassion, empathy and understanding. Best wishes!
I completely understand where you are coming from and I feel this so much. I turned towards porn after being sexually assaulted because it made me feel in control . A lot of times when I was low and had low self esteem I would just turn to porn to distract myself from the feeling, but as soon as it ended I just felt worse, guilty that I did it. It’s weird because I don’t want to, and I won’t say I’m addicted but every time I’m lonely or feel negative emotions or feel worthless I turn to this and it’s not healthy. I have a strong faith in God and that’s why it makes me feel so much more guilty, I keep trying to break out of the loop but somehow something happens and I get dragged back in. Sometimes I’m just weak enough to give in. It’s weird and hard but I hope I break out of this one day. I don’t like it. :(
Honestly, for the past month, after my first panic attacks, I've been having kind of depressive and emotionally numb episodes and it literally cured my porn addiction for a while. It's weird but I find myself not having that urge anymore, most of the time..
Cured it, or just destroyed your ability to 'draw reward' from engagement with it? Personally, I've been through similar and it wasn't a cure, it was merely an extended disruption. Mind you, the disruption might help with breaking the pattern but it's not a guarantee in the long run.
@@skaldlouiscyphre2453 Actually, it depends on people. I have addiction with sexual desires because of I read books (I knew porn since I was a kid tho) and I engage myself to it (not with the partner). Do you know sex also can ruin people? For example, unprotected sex also lead to pregnancy? What will be happen when people didn't have unstable life (and young) but got tested with it (or worse-diseases)? Based on my experience, sex also is not good because it became bad habits. Porn addiction will make you neglect your partner, friends, family due to busy to make yourself please. And you will totally know the result when that's happen. It also make you avoid responsibility and make your health decrease tho. I am student and everytime I tried to break addiction since I was a teen, it calls me to distract myself from getting into normal life. I can't deny we will get rewards for make ourselves please but it's just fleeting tho. I didn't say sex is a forbid thing. It's depend on people's choice but don't forget the consequences afterward.
It happened a few times for me too. And two things to tell you about that : - It's not a "cure", when your libido come back...your porn addiction (may) come back - It's actually more terrifying not to feel any sexual desire for weeks than having the addiction, imo. Losing yourself into the digital world of pleasure is something, losing all your sexual desire and addiction like that, it's even more concerning. As you made the link, your mental health is the cause...losing all capacity to feel pleasure isn't a good news. Take care of your mental health and addiction my friend
I’m a teenage guy and when I see porn, I’m like “Eugh, not really my thing” and then moved on outside of that. I’m not addicted to porn but to everyone who wants to break out of that, good luck, I believe in ya
I'm one of those addicts. Sometimes it becomes my "quick getaway" in a stressful situation and the effect it did on my brain makes me feel very - very unworthy near my friends, especially my female friends. I'm currently trying to stop and recover from it so if you guys never watch or read porn, my advise is a simple DON'T. If you guys recovering from it like me then i wish you a good luck!
Were you ever one of these guys that actively enjoyed the idea that most of the women in porns lifes are kind of destroyed by the porn industry? Or that sometimes real rape gets posted, or stuff without her permission, or sex trafficking is involved?
@@minze1198 i used to cz when I'm horny so much i didnt think that far ahead. But after times goes on and post nut clarity hits i think about that and it makes me feel so bad
Porn addiction made me quite promiscuous and made me objectify attractive guys. I kicked the habit years ago and though I'm still "healing" so to speak from my promiscuity, I'm definitely in a better place since quitting. But as mentioned in the video, too much of ANYTHING can be bad. If you indulge, I just recommend doing so in moderation, and not getting too far removed from reality, ACTUAL SEX, etc.
I didn't realize that there were so many women who tried to cope with this issue. So many of you in the comment section. I thought it was only a male issue. It's great if you successfully overcame your porn addiction, good luck in your life.
@@terrortalks3037 I'm not a woman and not the one you asked but if I may reply to your question : Sex is a natural desire and "need" for most humans, watching porn/masturbating cheat your brain into believing that you satisfied this urge while in reality you didn't have sex with a partner. You are way less incentivized to look for a partner both consciously and inconsciously. AND it also deforms your vision of sex/the opposite sex. With that in mind, you can imagine that it may be detrimental to successfully find a partner, have a sane and lasting relationship with them. From the other side of the barrier, I can tell you that reducing porn made me change my relationship with women. I'm strangely more "sus" but see them in a saner way in the same time. They aren't distant creatures that you only desire through porn but people you can build links with. I have made some female friends now* ! Idk your relation with men, but quitting porn will most likely make you have "saner" relations with them. When I say "sane", it basically means that you would see them less as sexual objects but it doesn't mean that your libido will fall lol. If you don't approach men it will likely make you go more toward them to find a partner and contrary if porn twisted your mind to collect men after men, it will likely moderate this "lifestyle". Driving more toward monogamous and lasting relationships rather than being single or sleeping around.
@@teslaasmr9375 male and hetero haha, I was just interested in a new perspective with this issue. I think what you said in the last paragraph still applies, just with women.
@@terrortalks3037 Oopsies, I thought you were a woman/homosexual trying to overcome your porn addiction so my comment isn't 100% pertinent for you X) Hope it was still kinda useful for your questions.
It’s been killing my relationship. If he won’t get help/ accept support .. this addiction will be the last straw for my relationship. If you love someone and your struggling, know it can be a killer in a relationship and it’s best to remember your not alone, there is help. Don’t let addiction consume you or push away someone you love.
I feel you, I had to ask him to unfollow old accounts he followed and it hurts that I even had to ask. He admits he struggled with it for years but it worries me that it will destroy us if he ever relapses. Thinking of them getting aroused for other women is what bothers me a lot. But with the internet it's almost impossible
Pornography and masterbation are one of the most horrible addictions and habits a person can develop. It has really destroyed the ability for both men and woman to relate to and with each other in a normal and healthy way.
This may be the most basic answer, but i was a teenager who would constantly watch porn thinking "man this cant be THAT bad right?" and boy was i wrong. This video completely explains how bad it truly can be for you to watch porn and the mental affects it can have on yourself. Porn is a lot like vaping or smoking, it is hard to get rid of that addiction and that DESIRE to want to have more. I believe in every one of you who wants to stop and the struggle, while it can be extremely hard, is worth it in the end. Thank you Psych2Go, amazing video as always!! :) ♥♥♥
Yeah, it's called the lack of sex. And for certain, we can attribute that to feminism. Guaranteed, our parents had more sex 40 years ago, than we do today. Why? NO PORN and NO FEMINISM.
I’ve been addicted to porn starting at 12. I only recently started being able to have large success breaking it, been clean for over a month, I’m 21 now. It’s a real and painful addiction and the improvement to my mental health improvement since getting away from it is palpable.
Glad to see a mostly measured response on this topic! I'll throw my two cents in by saying that porn isn't all bad. The addictive properties are clear, but it is an inherent mechanism of our brains to react to stimulus that is sexually stimulating, and said stimulus can be a wide range of things. Biggest problem will always be the frequency of consumption, not simply the fact that it exists. Porn has always existed to an extent. The written word itself can make for a really good substitute for example. If anything, porn addiction is likely to be more of a symptom of other problems rather than an originating problem by itself. Of course a vicious cycle can begin from it, so best to seek professional help.
The whole making it see someone as an object rather than a person with values point is exactly why I stopped consuming it. I really hated how it completely distorted my view of women for a long time. I hated pretty much everything about it, and I'm so glad I stopped watching it. Started working out, prioritizing my health, working on life goals, and creating a healthier mindset. It's honestly not worth it. For the X amount of time you get pleasure from watching it will cost you quadruple the amount of time later obsessing and looking forward to the next time you watch it rather than doing something more productive or actually pursuing a romantic/sexual partner because you can''t even feel anything without relying on it all the time.
One big point I seriously forgot to make, and something that 100% needs to be said is the lack of a proper sex education at school. I live in Canada, and not sure about others, but I didn't have a sex education at all. My family or father never spoke to me about sex or anything about it either. We were shown the condom over the banana routine once at school and that was pretty much it. I think a huge contributor is this factor which causes mass confusion amongst young people and makes them (like it made me) turn to pornography for their sex education.
You've stated everything here perfectly. I've seen that it can also strain mental energy to view it constantly. And when it comes to a lack of education on the subject, this effect only becomes worse.
You really hit the nail on the head! I wish my parents had had conversations with me about sexual intimacy growing up, it would have made things a lot easier. But that's in the past, gotta move forward and replace bad habits with good ones.
@@chipi4179 Thanks for being open with me about this with me. THAT is a powerful step. I am beating it back, slowly. I think one of the first things that helped was listing my triggers, like boredom, frustration, and loneliness. I have been recognizing more when I get the urge and do something different before it hits me full force and becomes harder to resist. It helps me to just go on a walk, or do some pushups when it's only a small 'itch'. Sometimes deep breaths help. It depends on what triggers it. Restless-->walk or change my environment; boredom-->do something challenging; lonely-->text a friend. That kinda thing. Hopefully that is a good starting point for you. Getting good friends and family connections help, this monster thrives on isolation and shame. So don't give it any. Develop connections and self-acceptance/self-efficacy. Focus on small steps, and praise yourself on your progress, no matter how small. Large victories are made of dozens or hundreds of little personal victories. :) Connect to others who are struggling, whether it be the NoFap community on Reddit, an addiction recovery group, or otherwise. You can do hard things. You are not alone.
It's crazy how stuff like this has such a strong effect on relationships, expectations and lives. I didn't know what s*x was until I was in third grade... THIRD GRADE! That was all my friends would talk about, all because they saw it in movies. Then comes along middle school and the topic REALLY picks up and kids are excited to try it. When we hit high school it was still the main topic it seemed. Guys and girls literally talking about it out loud in class; who they did it with, who was next, how many people they had lined up around the block. It was insane. Porn really messes with relationships I believe. It think it leads to these expectations that the partner might not be comfortable with, or it can even damage/replace the sexual aspect of the relationship. I did used to watch it myself, but I wasn't addicted. The older I got, the more silly it became and I don't find it necessary. I've even become uncomfortable with it and can't even stand the thought of watching it. I know others watch it and I understand the pleasure it can bring, but sometimes I honestly forget that because I avoid it and don't see the need in it.
Same here. In third grade I had a friend who introduced me to stuff, but I quickly forgot about it until middle school where I picked up that people were talking about inappropriate stuff but thankfully I was innocent enough to not understand. But not for long. Slowly I learned more and more (mostly from looking up words people were saying that I didn't know the meaning of) until my head was/is so full of stuff I wish I never knew I at least have a though... Just realized a SUPER easy way to explain this. Unfortunately, I am now "Dirty Minded" and it sucks
I started at 9. Since I knew about sex I started imagining it often. In 3rd grade my friends and me would write a sexual query in the google bar, erase it without pressing enter, and laugh. No one ever caught us. When I moved to another state, I did it once more, by myself, for old times sake, but this time I did press enter. I had wanted to stop since I was 12, but I couldn't find it in me. And how? I was a child. It wasn't until 2021 that I really freaked out after I realized my reward systems were all fried. I've been clean for a good while now, and it feels great to have all of those sleepless nights behind. But, the voices that say "Are you stressed? I know something that will clear your head a bit, but you need to shut your thoughts and be in the moment" can get very persuasive. So I don't know about tomorrow. But I know about right now.
I would say that it is about as easy to be moderate with porn as with hard drugs. In my experience, it's a honest-to-goodness slippery slope. Can't get addicted if you never take a puff.
@terrortalks3037 Alright, idk what it is about the porn addict folks, but yall talk about porn the way the hyper religious talk about hand holding or women wearing dresses that expose ankles. I get it, everyone is different. I have an uncle that can't drink because if he takes a sip he can't control himself. But most folks aren't like that. The same is true for porn. We had a dude in another comment blame porn for their boyfriend sexually assaulting them. This is wild. Porn addiction is bad like any other addiction, but too many people are blaming porn for all their problems. It genuinely is like a religion. It reminds me of folks of that go to church, get into a rhythm, see their life turn around, and become the most insufferable people about it. You didn't become a more fulfilled person only because you went to church. You became that way because ya got into a rhythm. I suspect the porn addicts are the same way. Stop watching porn, do something more productive, become more aware of your mental health etc. Not watching porn alone didn't fix you. What fixed you was adopting a holistic health plan for your kind and body
Also forgot to mention, that usually, "aside from adiction", it also have stuff with depresion, anxiety and other problems, they just scratched the surface with the stuff about mental health issues, cause it can also be provocated by traumas and stuff and usually people use it as a "mean" to escape from other stuff and it actually can make you even more depress, its a really big area to study.
Watching this type of content as a kid with adhd, you quickly reach your limits and learn how to extend them. P*rn accessibility has majorly affected my life
I have had addiction to porn and luckily I was able to get over it. Yes, it was VERY hard, but it got very boring to me. It wasted my time and I knew it wasn't the right thing to do. I had realised that watching and looking at that kind of content wasn't for me. It wasn't good for me period. trust me it gets so much better when you stop. If you are having trouble with porn addiction I am here for you. Stay strong❤
@@Yung_Cash_Money_Billionaires I was able to focus on things much better. I felt as if I was more of a clean person when I stopped. Watching porn really affected me when making it hard for me to focus, it made it hard for me to do homework and lowered my grades, but when I stopped I noticed how they went up.
@@Yung_Cash_Money_Billionaires AND the more you watch porn the more it's harder to stop. Because I know what that feels like and it's upsetting. I'm so glad I stopped. I want to be myself again. Not watching inapropriate videos.
I'm still currently struggling with this addiction and it is hard to break free. It's very hard to communicate to others about this without being looked down Upon.
It’s nothing to be ashamed about we all have done it once in our lives like any addiction we must break it down slowly for example if you watch it say once per day 7 days per week try cutting back to 6 than 5 and than so on Hope this helps 🥰💜🙏✨
@@mizzariez8363 thank you, this stuff is like a drug and sometimes I consider if this is the reason why I struggle socially irl. Especially when it is introduced to you at a young age it is as if it wires your brain in an unnatural way.
You can try make dopamine detox and distract yourself with replace that addiction with something such as cooking, cleaning and etc. You can also make fasting gadgets (similar with dopamine detox) but one of the benefits of fasting gadgets is you can break a few addictions such as entertainment addiction, porn addiction, phone addiction and etc.
I’m currently 19 years old and I’ve been trapped by the grip of my porn addiction since I was 16. Ive attempted to quit numerous times but I would always find myself getting sucked back into a wormhole. I feel like the boy who I once was is squirming and kicking desperately trying to get out and I want to get help and support but I can’t stand the thought of my family, relatives, and the people I love looking at me in a light of a shell of my former self. I genuinely hate it. I’ve lost half of my friends because of it and when I look in the mirror all I see is a nobody. I don’t even feel like the boy who I once was anymore. I don’t even react to events anymore because I’ve made myself so numb. I hate it. Right now is my 27th day of not doing it but I know I’m just gonna go back to doing the same thing again.
honestly, i feel the addictions growing, and i can feel it slowly affect the way i think and destroying my mind, its even affecting my relationship, i swear god got to be sending signals, porn does nothing yall
so glad you made a video about this. feels almost too ironic, as pornography is something ive been trying to really cut out of my life for a lot of time now. it's so easy for children to stumble upon, then we look up in our late teens really seeing the effects it has. a quote i saw recently stated: "When something is free, that means you're the product". your attention and presence should always be properly compensated. protect your energy kings & queens.
I considered it an addiction and felt so guilty about it for years and years. A situation came up that was close enough to make me stop almost completely. It was difficult at first but now i'm a lot better at controlling myself.
@@toiletpapereater2964 try and use your Imagination instead of watching porn. You’ll find yourself doing it less if you only allow yourself to do it with imagination as well
Lmao uh i vowed to myself a few years ago that i'd stop completely if someone close to me died. I didn't want them watching over me and seeing me doing that. A couple months ago my coworker died. I had only known her for 6 months but she was one of the sweetest ladies i had ever known, and i took a look at what i was doing and said her passing is close enough. I only went 19 days before breaking, and said okay, that's the only day of the month i'm going to do that. I did break a little more frequently, but i don't do it nearly as much as i used to. Ive only allowed myself to do it on about 3 days of the month, conveniently spaced out. Now it's not on my mind as much as it used to be, and when i think about it it's not as enticing to go and be in that mood anymore.
@@toiletpapereater2964 i guess take a look at your faith or religion and try your best to avoid doing it by being invested in something else. If you have a partner you can only allow yourself to do things with them if yall are at that level. It's about enforcing boundaries and sticking to those boundaries. It may result in an hour of frustration each time you want to be in that mood but eventually it'll get easier.
For me, porn has had a negative effect on my life. Since I discovered it at a young age and when I first 🥜 it felt so amazing like eating a delicious piece of cake. Afterwards, I started Iooking up some lewd and extreme content and never saw it as a problem, not until I started college were my social anxiety became worse. I couldn't even make conversation with someone. I would always tell myself that I'm stupid or failure, basically being too hard on myself. I wanted to stop but when I had the urge, I couldn't hold back and I would even do it almost anytime when I felt that urge. It really messed me up and my sauce of that pleasure was on social media. Right now, I'm 20 years old currently on nofap. My goal is to make it 90 days without 🥜 or for me personally, 7 days. Maybe there is some befits to porn but for me it was a shackle that held me back from making new everlasting connections.
lmao never watched porn, just bored and stumbled across this video on my recommended somehow but to anyone trying to break an addiction, you can do it! stay strong!
This is also something that I'm thankful I learned about back in high school. Pornography is no enemy, but it can be very detrimental if you don't know about it's effects. Regardless, sexuality is a topic that should be brought up more, and sadly with what is going on in the U.S, it is being brought up more, but not in a good way unfortunately.
@@anshveerbhan3812 The huge amount of anti transgender legislation being either proposed or enacted, and hate crimes against the LGBT, thereby affecting efforts to teach sexuality as a whole.
@@anshveerbhan3812republicans want to prevent classroom grooming by limiting when sensitive topics (i.e. the sexuality spectrum) can be taught to kids. Liberals have since branded this the “don’t say gay” bill. Strangely, when I ask people in isolation, not a single person right or left actually disagrees with the bill’s contents.
Even knowing the effects it is detrimental, but once you're hooked it's hard to care about those costs. That's good you were able to learn the dangers so young.
I'm glad this channel talked about this, I feel like most girls are part of the audience and finally can share their experience without feeling shame, that's the case for me.
Been trying to quit porn addiction for years now and it’s so hard but I know how damaging it is to your brain and I’m glad more and more people are also trying to overcome this.
As someone who watched all times for YEARS, ive always viewed it as fantasy. Like watching an action movie or show. I know it isnt real. This helped me keep a proper view towards the opposite sex and not view them as objects, and also respect sex and not tey all the crazy stuff done in videos.
For myself i think how pornography affects your life will ever be depending on your social situation. I'm 29 years old and have never ever had a real relationship in my life. I like ASMR-porn, but also ASMR-Videos which are not porn and just helps me to relaxing. The dark side on this is i'm very scared to meet someone new, because i also have severe depression and am constantly confused by people in reallife. Also i didn't know how to meet new people in a romantic or relationship way, because i don't think very good of myself, more like i don't deserve to be loved in my life. So i consume more ASMR because of my depressions, because the women say "Sssshhh, it's okay" and "Don't be sad" - but i am always sad and hating myself... It's a vicious circle.
I’m sorry to hear how the vicious circle is getting to you. I want to help you feel like you’re not alone & that there are others here to help. I personally struggle a lot with depression & anxiety, & occasionally still have difficulty with pornography myself, so I know it can be extremely difficult. I feel for you, even though I don’t know exactly what your experience is like. Over the years I’ve been gradually changing for the better despite relapses & am so thankful for who I am today/who I’m striving to be! Progress isn’t linear, & remember to be grateful for every victory (even minimal) & grateful for your continued effort. I love how (non-erotic) ASMR helps soothe me as well, particularly positive affirmations, & it’s helped me believe more in the good in myself. There is always hope. Healing is possible & is a process. And you are & always will be worthy of loving/love! 🤗❤
i have a tip for you, but it's gonna be hard, eat healthy, reduce alcohol to some extend, i'm sure that you are drinking :D , social activities is the key and start a fitnes program, in your case 4-5 days a week. try to ignore other feelings (not your loved ones) and what they think of you food supply for fitness (creatine monohydrate for the go) 4 months nonstop you will feel the confidence, trust me. BTW main problem is that you want to be loved from people that don't give a damn. Be loved from people that care about you and appriciate it!
@@mariopopov3430 I guess i must disappoint you, but i'm not drinking. Personally i hate the effects of alcohol to the body, because that's how i lost one of my friends. To be clear in that: I don't drink, smoke or take any other drugs, legal or not. If you don't know me, please don't judge that fast..
I was exposed to porn at a young age, 12 to be exact. It’s been 8 years and I’ve yet been able to break the cycle, it’s just that life is stressful and I need to cope somehow. I can’t find a way to replace it. It’s ruined me and helped me. I haven’t been able to get a girlfriend because my confidence is destroyed and my perception of everything is skewed.
I think Moderation is key. It can definitely make you desensitized if you watch too much. Personally, I don't want to forget to leave much to the imagination.
4:18 psych2go is not promoting porn nor saying watching porn is bad. this video is solely focusing and reporting on the scientific findings to thebrain when porn is observed
I’m suffering from watching porn, probably way too much of it in my opinion. I just feel like a horrible person when watching it and it has affected my mental health drastically. Ever since I first saw it, I can’t stop it. No matter what I do it always finds a way to come back. I hope if some people are suffering the same way, that you can break out of the cycle. I’m still trying after a long time, wish you luck.
I am in the same boat as you. really think porn needs to be age-restricted, there is LITERALLY NO BARRIER that prevents you from going on it, and starting the addiction in the first place! I and a bunch of others first saw it at such a young age and once we saw it, we were DOOMED. It messed with our brains. I'm 20 right now and still struggling. My biggest fear is growing up to be 40+ years old and still having to watch it. I dislike it so much, it ruined my life. We really need more strict rules against porn, it's just WAY too accessible. I also believe that it's the literal reason why humanity (especially men) are on a downward trend right now.
@@Dezlite I feel you brother. I share my story with porn on my channel if you feel called to check it out. I hope it provides you some value and to know your not alone.
This is really helpful, bc at a young female at age 10 I grew curious about the body and sex. So I ended searching for actual people making love bc I was curious. I remember being fascinated and as I grew older I felt disgusted with myself but also got more invested with the different types of porn I was finding. I was very embarrassed and have told no about my addiction except for my sisters. I really hope to get out of this because it’s hard, and I feel like I have to watch it. Wish me luck on getting out of my addiction!
I respect Psych2Go not just saying “Porn Bad” and instead leaning into an “in moderation” view, doing that prevents a complex discussion being made into flat one.
I'm actually happy this is able to be talked about. I encountered a friend who is married to a man whonis addicted to porn and weirdly i thought i had possibly the same routine but she made me realize it is 10x worse on his end. I could see the disappointment in her body language from it and questioned if my partner felt the same way but she has her own routine as well and we come together with it. I feel bad that it gets to the level of an addiction, the fantasy aspect gets so far gone, there's almost a scenario for anything and it can go the distance. be safe out there
All of this is so alien to me. Sex (and as an extension porn) is just part of the human experience. Partaking in porn isn't a negative thing. I suppose my opinion is in a similar vein as people drinking alcohol. If you blame bad behavior on alcahol/[porn], it's not the alcohol/[porn] being the problem, it's you. It's just wild to me that people are talking about this video like it did an extensive take on porn addiction when it just talked about porn in general. Maybe I'm reading too much into some of these comments but dang, porn isn't the problem y'all. If you're using porn as an escape, then fix the things you're trying to escape from or just accept it as an escape and approach it as healthy as you can. Anyway, good luck y'all. Brains are weird.
Imagine how people are treated during filming porn: girls vagina is bleeding painfully, because continuing penetrations by strangers, men hit her with fists, 200 men are throwing sperm to her face, to symbolizing spoiling her cuteness, always severe danger from illnesses, wounds and trying to survive all scenes through with cocaine and so on. With poor wage! Next: she may be your cousin or sister, or schoolmate, or even your aunt and so on. Do you really want them to experience dark side of porn world? Really?
I'm a 17 yr old girl and addicted to porn. It somehow makes me feel very bad about myself I've tried to stop on several occasions but every time I fall back to it, the urge gets worse. I need help but can't really talk about it, I'm finally glad I get to vent somewhere, and perhaps this is a sign I'm going to try again this time. I hope I can come back soon to this video with a better me
@Rand0m-ka1j7_pa4ad1seyou can, just don’t watch it. I did it too, it’s hard, but you can do it. When you feel the urge, just think about your goal. You can do it
As a former addict, I have to say the few methods I did to quit if you're struggling with this addiction. First, remove all triggers (This means anything that makes you want to look at porn) If it doesn't work, take a long break of social media. (That's if you don't do anything important on it. But you got to be serious on yourself, whether you actually do important stuff or just use it as an excuse to scroll on social media) I personally took a month break, but because I didn't use much social media to begin with. You will feel the urge to look at porn. Let that urge flow in you. Do something that leaves your body in a uncomfortable state when you feel that urge. (like quick walk outside or mediating) If you still relapse, it's not a big deal. Don't say it doesn't work, you just got to try harder. You aren't going to quit the addiction easily. Avoid doing the same mistake again. I really hate pornography and it's consequences on people's mental state. It's a terrible thing and its a plague. It affected me alot. Once I quitted, my mental health improved quite a bit. I became more energetic and productive as well. I would definitely recommend quitting it. I just wanted to give my two cents on this subject. I love that this channel covered this subject.
The 2 things that helped me the most were: 1. Being in a relationship, I didn't even have sex during that relationship and I still didn't watch porn, I just didn't feel aroused by it anymore 2. Accountability. Just offer someone a certain amount of money or some product if you relapse, this works especially well if you (just like me) are not really a liar. If you never lie, this will trick your brain into thinking that watching porn instantly means losing money. If you think it would be useful, try to rotate friends/accountability partners every few weeks so your brain actually thinks "just 4 days until I can watch porn again, I won't relapse now", and as soon as your rotation ends, offer a different person to be your accountability partner for some weeks. I really recommend the second method if you can't get or don't wanna get into a relationship. I did that through No Nut November and it worked, the only problem was that I promised "not to fap", so I still watched porn, big mistake. Now I'm making it through december without watching porn because if I do, I'll have to gift Discord Nitro (10 dollars) to a friend.
Also something important to note, you see a lot youtubers posting something like: "no fap benefits after 30 days". I think a lot of people misunderstand this, they think that when you relapse after let's say 9 days that your progress is gone. You need to stop counting the days for those who do so because it's just weird. Imagine saying to your friend: "I didn't fap for 7 days".
Battling my porn addiction currently after watching it for a decade. In both of my previous relationships, it was definitely a problem that would come up sometimes and now being single I've been trying to be better about it. It's truly one of the hardest things to battle and I seen the affects it has on my brain and how I view some women. Thanks for sharing
I joined a discord server with porn in it and got addicted, i was 10, i continued for about a month until my mom came in and hated me for about 2 weeks, never going to do it again in my life
That video notification got me staring at my phone screen flabbergasted. I’m struggling with porn addiction currently (I even developed sexual disfuction because of that). I feel ashamed to share it with close people or in therapy. It looks like you uploaded it to me
Its great idea if you get in therapy , its ok if u dont want to talk about it all at once, in therapy with a good therapist u can start small and it gets better it u have a listening ear. hope u get better, i myself im struggling with it but started talking about it in therapy i used to afraid to open up like u, but in therapy i feel safe
Tbh it's kinda the same for me Except I do have some form of resistance within me that wants to stop, but I never get enough confidence to do so due to living in boring and very slow changing conditions Only new and improved environment can fully guarantee cure from this curse 😔
@@d3nny_s3mpai I’m actually in the same situation as you. I don’t feel nothing special watching pornography. I use it as a distraction - just to have a empty and superfluous dose of endorphin I guess. I’m also in a stagnant lifestyle. I don’t have a routine, a future, a goal, a dream to pursue. I’m just existing, and I think porn is what I use to get out of my boring reality
@@bro8627 same. It helps to do something, to be active, to push yourself. I often go on a walk or do pushups because at least those will help me look better.
I’m extremely disappointed Psych 2 Go isn’t taking a *hard* stance against porn. The entire industry is not only malicious to women, but specifically targets and exploits lonely men.
@@The-terraria-boí it doesn’t have to be done EVER. It’s perversion and gross. Sexual activity should only be between your special someone, not consumed like junk.
This is an excellent and educational video, while it explains the negative effects of a porn addiction, it also makes sure to clarify that it is not wrong to watch porn, as long as you are able to make a distinction to reality, keep it healthy and in moderation. If someone here has an addiction they are trying to overcome, keep it up! You'll make it! And as well if someone just enjoys watching that type of content, don't let anyone shame you for it. Just remember to be aware that it's all fictional, keep track of how often you watch it but most importantly notice if the need for watching it interferes with your daily activities or changes your perception of reality, you know, that kind of stuff. If you can keep it balanced and healthy, then go ahead and do not feel embarrassed!
honestly, ill be upfront i dont know if ive gotten over mine yet yeah i only "do it" like once every 3 days now (rarely once every 2 days) and back then i practically did it everyday but the thoughts keep coming back to my head everytime did i fix my addiction or nah?
@@exursix Absolutely, it is okay to "do it" as long as you keep it moderated, heck even once or twice per day has nothing wrong with it as long as it does not interfere with your daily activities or your perception of reality, it's not the same to be outside or working and feeling "DAMN I NEED TO BUST A NUT" (That would be considered an addiction because it has become a necessity) But for example if you are home alone or in your room, just chilling, and suddenly you feel like it, It is perfectly fine, It is not interfering with your day or your routine.
yall i swear god is sending me signs rn
LMFAOOAAOOAAO
I have that feeling too
We just gotta keep trying brother
Fr 💀
Damn, time to ph and cry
When I first discovered porn, my brother walked in on me. I was obviously really embarrassed and the expression on his face didn’t make it easier, but he told me “it’s ok to watch this, but just remember that this isn’t how people should be treated.” Ever since then I could never view someone as just a body no matter how much I try.
W bro
@@friedcheese3421 fr
Your bro was amazing and it's nice to hear that you can't see ppl as an object. No one ever should. Keep up the good work 🕊
What a great response from your brother, these things are normal, alcohol, porn (and sexual activity in general), even worse stuff like violence. It's great he approached it in a mature way and simply told you that it's normal to watch porn, just as long as you remember that it is not how sex *actually* is
Wholesome
I feel this video is a message. To anyone out there who has a porn addiction, I know that you will eventually break that habit. Stay strong, everyone.
no
@@L0veKarmait's okay
Lol what if I don’t *want* to bother breaking it?
My life is fine as it is, and it’s less of an addiction or habit, than it is an interest.
@naudiaingram4495 I mean, I’m not really bothered about getting out of it. I’ll be the exact same person with these likings than without them.
But Ty anyway :)
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Edit: I'm over -three- six months clean
Sams i suffer from the affects of it, it also sucks seeing people expressing their sexuality and love for others but i can't see myself relating to them because all i know about attraction and sex came from porngraphy, i don't know how to be normal again.
Every night just for funsies? That sounds boring asf
@@Neuvillete4.6 yeah it got p boring real quick at times and felt more like a chore at times. Currently trying to break this habit 💪💪
Omg same bit worse..I saw it when i was 10 I didn't like how they enjoyed it but I trying to quit
im a female and ive had this problem. even during my current relationship. i would find myself feeling very sad and guilty after finishing doing what i was doing. i found it wasn't the want of watching other people specifically. it was watching the act just because. me and my partner started making videos we keep in our gallery and I watch those and i feel zero need of going on certain sites for it. the biggest plus is feeling actually happy after finishing. no more guilt or sadness. i feel happier. find your person no matter how you feel about relationships right now because that person can save you
Wow. Didn’t realize so many people were opposed to it and trying to get out of porn. Stay strong guys, you can break it. ❤
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Be strong, brothers. Be strong, sisters. You're not alone.
@@andiflores4638 You can do hard things :)
Without it I’ll be much more depressed so…. Can’t quit anytime soon 😂
@@DefinitelyNotAFerret The struggle is worth it, there are much more effective ways to cope with depression, ones that don't feed into the depression and isolation.
As someone who was in a relationship with a man who was addicted to porn, I must say it’s really really hard. He saw me as an object, it was more of an adventure to him than love making, unrealistic expectations, never complimented me and always had thousands of pictures of solo naked girls on his phone. Even when I communicated with him about this he dismissed me. Porn is very, very unhealthy, imo.
I agree
He should bring to professional help. Serious talk, it's dangerous. If he has bad past and cope it with bad addiction especially with this type of addictions, it is necessary reach for help.
@@PearlRose0405 Only if he did listen to me honestly, he had/has family problems. We ended up breaking up after he slapped me for wearing regular street clothes. Trust me, it all goes back to porn, he was so consumed with it that he thought everyone looks at women as an object.
im sorry
Sounds like he's the type to not be in real relationships anyway, and agreed that's unhealthy. Seek someone out that appreciates you for your mind body and soul, best of luck.
74th day without porn 💪🏾
Stay strong man! Unfortunately I didn't make it...
Respect!
Lucky
76 days
Make sure not to count the days
As a guy, It's been seven years since I last watched porn. I first became interested in it when I was 11 and continued to do so until I was 16. The problem with porn is that it never made me feel good; instead, it increased my disdain and sense of absurdity. I discovered finer things in life, such as art, music, and other things that give me a genuine feeling of pleasure and delight. So yes, it is true that not everyone like porn since it is so unrealistic.
This is nice to read. I sometimes wonder if it’s possible there are men that don’t want to watch porn.
Before I even watch this I have to comment to say thank you,
Addiction to porn is so harrowing, especially being in a relationship with somebody who struggles with this.
There are upsides to this generation but this certainly isn’t one.
It’s terrifying that children have access to sights like this too.
Ok coomer
@@-Chrome- HAHAHAHAHA thats just a fucking lazy joke at this point but damn it got me off guard
First off, pathetic boomer. You're probably one of those people who think kids should be treated like slaves/prisoners in the house, with zero privacy and opinions. Second off, porn has ZERO effect on relationships, its rather the terrible thoughts you accept that ruin the relationship. It's the equivalent of saying video games cause violence. Thirdly, porn is net highly positive, the negatives are minimal. Do you seriously say mobile phones, or TV shows, or Netflix is harrowing? Cause porn is literally the same thing in terms of effect.
@@-Chrome- This is quite funny 😭
What is not an upside: me sawing 1000x times more boobs & vajina & penetration than my granddaddy in his all life-time? Be serious and rational. I don't shoot a porno but I value it.
Fascinating. I love how this channel can shamelessly start discussions on sensitive topics in such an innocent and educational way.
lmao ur comment is so funny
Maybe phrase your sentence better so that we know you are in favor or against it 😂😂
Ikr it makes me feel not alone and comforted.
It’s awesome.
Shrödinger's "is it irony?" (not to be confused with Shrödinger's irony):
Did the person commenting not word it as well as they could've, or have *you* been around irony so much, you almost *can't* see some positive comments any other way?
This addiction is very difficult to break, because I always come back to it
Man.. i feel you I know it's super hard, but you really can just not do it. It's possible. Look up some videos of batter but stuff.That would mean to pass or just being so busy that I.Didn't have time for it i just want to sleep And try to sleep well because it's Good for you.One also, if you're sleep early.Probably have less of a chance to do anything like that And if on any , I don't absolutely use you to tiktok , whatever it's like videos with Girls dancing a beating suits Or whatever.Just don't watch that Cause that's bad stuff.You shouldn't watch it just leads you to pornography
poor choice of words
Find a real woman you can love.
@@onetokatman7293 bruh I'm only 18
This was really well done. Amanda killed it with the voiceover too. Informative and non-judgmental. Thank you for this content. 😊
Thanks for the kind words! We also did more new videos on this topic as well. Did you get a chance to watch them?
As a girl who watched porn almost every day or every, I felt sad. I said to myself, “I don’t want my future husband to watch porn”, so I stopped watching porn because a soulmate is a reflection of your self
yk what, that concept of your soulmate is basically a reflection of yourself is actually very smart and true
Good on you
"soulmate is a reflection of your self"
Wait, so I'm not egotistic narcist if I like people who are just like me?
@@KupiecKorzenny_EmhyrVarEmreis no
@@KupiecKorzenny_EmhyrVarEmreis 🤡
I am a woman and I was addicted to porn. It was so hard to get out of it and overcome. I was addicted since I was 10 years old and just overcame it when I was 25.... Many years of struggle. Not many people I could relate to or feel comfortable talking about this to.
Wow it was an amazing achivement mam..i hope i can do that to im starting to hate myself for watching those stuff .i've never tell to anyone about this side of me
Wow you're such a strong women. All those years you suffered alone and finally overcame it I'm proud you're amazing🌸
i started liking it when i found about it (at 8) these days im getting less the urge to see it thanksfully, i just suddenly got sensitive about it
@user-us8ik1mb7ome too but we will gradually get through it 💪
I'm glad I'm not the only woman who if going/went through this...
I'm 14 turning 15 soon and I'm trying to get over it. It's like in watching it almost everyday and it's hard to get over it. The longest I have been without it for a month. I don't know what to do to help get over this 😔
I'm 23 and was exposed to porn at 13, although i didger frequently watch it like most teens it was still enough to warp my mind and filled me with do much shame for how i started to view sex. I am proud to say that i have broken this habit for 6 months now and I can feel how much I've healed, I am more confident talking to people and I feel more of a feeling of love rather than lust. I can thank prayer and focusing more on physical fitness for helping me on this journey so I heavily encourage people to try these things when they feel the "urge". I'm praying for all of you that are still stuck in the dark because it is never to late to come back to the light, trust me I didn't think it was possible but I've becone proof that it is stay strong kings and queens.
"we're all gonna make it brahs"
-Zyzz
naw till 23 is crazy i lost ma shit at 15
I broke mine months ago but then the habit came back days ago..
Dapper same with me last year I took physical fitness as routine I became so strong than ever but in my head I feel so empty.. I did it again and I develop varicocele in my strotum.. Such a regret well not maintain my body
@@fwxmannga been struggling with that addiction for 20 years bro.
Much like drugs (especially stimulants) the comedown effects from a heavy porn binge (over a period of an evening or days) are: irritability, impatience, loss of interest in more simple pleasures, lack of focus and attention, loss of motivation and drive, lethargic mood, depressed and/or anxious mood, lower self-esteem, more sensitive to criticism, seeing women (as a man) as sex objects, and lastly, the possibility of physical pain sensations as a result of less prefrontal cortex activity and more amygdala activity. These are some of the key symptoms I have noticed. To get past porn addiction we must reduce stress, address our triggers/traumas and build self-worth within our community. Reducing isolation and finding meaningful hobbies and pursuits is very important. I am working at all of this and as I write this I am leaving the door to go to the gym and sauna. I came to this video because I wanted to watch porn but instead chose to remind myself of why I should not. Since watching this video, reading others comments, and now writing this comment the stressful trigger has passed and I don't feel any urge to engage in the porn now. Thank you for making this video. I'll tune in each time I am triggered and read the comments from others who are also on the path of recovery. Best wishes to you all!
Those are definitely many of the down sides of consuming too much porn and acting on it.
You don't know how bad an addiction is until you're deep in the thick of it. I've been addicted for a better part of decade and I've realized how much damage this has done to mental stability, my self-esteem, and any relationships that could've been. The worse part is that I didn't search for Porn it was thrown right in my face at 12 years old and in 20's I'm now doing the work to find something tangible.
Keep fighting. You're on the right path.
@@terrortalks3037 TY!! I've tried and failed Nonut & Nofap many times but I feel different this time! 😤
I guess finding a purpose or meaning such as dating a girl with moral values might be a theraphy for you in a way to escape from porn. Cuz the real reason me and other men we watch porn is because we're always lonely with no female interaction cuz of the rise of social media which we cannot find a real woman with moral values of the family to raise a family and have a healthy relationship.
@@jarryj1995 Your power is rising, my friend.
@@jarryj1995 it gets easier to fight after each time you backslide. Best you can do is try your best to make your streaks as long as you possibly can, and each following streak will get easier and easier. I had a similar story as you, but I'm just now trying to get completely off the stuff in my 30s, and I'm getting there.
As a teenage girl desperately trying to get over a porn addiction this helps sm. It’s a very hard thing to overcome but I see how it effects me. I’ve been addicted since I was about 8 years old and over the years the porn I watch has gotten more and more aggressive and unrealistic and I don’t want this for myself. It’s great that you’re bringing something that most wouldn’t even think about but a lot of others struggle with
8 years old? Damn that's rough.
@@somber087 can’t tell if your being sarcastic or not😭
I actually relate to this i got curious about what porn is when i was also 8 or 10 and its already 8 or 6 years and im trying to get over it too.
@@X1ness If you don't mind me asking, why were you interested in porn at the age of 8? Were you exposed to it at that age? I'm sorry for that, if that is the case.
@@chi.yen25 same I saw my first erotic movies when I was 9 on tv. Since I was 12 forward I learnt to search it on pc.
The beginning of Pornhub became the downfall of humanity.
Porn doesn't have to grow to an addiction though :/ it's perfectly normal to watch it in normal amounts
This channel explains things so well.
True I agree
relatable.
So true
Better than any therapist
@@slavicmalchik anything is better than therapy
I love how these videos make even uncomfortable subjects seem so safe to talk about and educational!
its totally normal not uncomfortable at all maybe to others but yeah depends ig
@@trendgames6023 Yes,you are right.But sometimes when I try to talk about stuff like this people will get uncomfortable.I am glad that it is becoming more normal though!
@@larkbird6899 yesh i completely understand its getting more normal cuz it happens everywhere
@@trendgames6023 im very uncomfortable when talking abt this topic yet i dont even watch it tho
Don't addict to the porn don't be simp
Pornography is the Devil's photography
🙏✝️ indeed
Devil? Fiction?
I've quit watching it, and it has really made my life better. I am now doing so much better, my mental health has gotten 10x better!
And I'm so happy they made a video on this topic.
I wish the bestest of luck to those trying to quit!
Still?
Can’t quite. It’s hard asf. On it everyday. found it at 12.
@@Fckboyme yeahhh, I know its hard, but yk, one step at a time
Timestamps
1). Effects of availability 0:29
2). Porn became much more available 0:56
3). Effects on the brain 1:56
4). Effects of addiction 2:51
5). It's not all bad 3:48
Hope this helps you out. 💙💙💙💙
I think we’re watching the video at the same time 😂 i keep refreshing and each edit is adding the section of the video I’m currently watching
@@unnamedperson2679 🌝🐛🤣
@@unnamedperson2679 same here
It helped me a lot. I feared this was gonna be yet another Porn is Bad video. But is acknowledges that the research may not have the best data.
You forgot patrick
Would you consider doing a video on the psychology behind what people would call "daddy issues"? I think it would be nice to see it from Psych2Go's perspective in a video.
Its when the girl didnt get the attention she needed from her dad when she was growing up.
Sugar daddy and mommy too~
Act like men don't have daddy issues.
@@jayneb6053 Can confirm, I'm a male with daddy issues.
@@jayneb6053 Kendrick Lamar - Father Time
I’m honestly so happy that there is more talk about this subject. Porn destroys people and relationships. I’ve been with a man that watched it regularly and constantly compared me to those woman. At some point he would send extremely graphic video’s, and assault me without consent. It was traumatizing and dehumanizing. NEVER am i dating some boy that watched shit like that. I wish more people would educate themselves, and find the courage to go see a therapist or learn how to control this impulsive / coping behavior of watching this crap. It doesn’t only ruin YOU but also your relationships and the people that love you.
Don’t blame the porn blame him because that’s who he actually is. Even if he wasn’t addicted to porn he would still be an asshole
@@0rgaSMM I disagree.
So explain this to sub 5 males who you would reject instantaneously? Now what? Why give a shit when you're told by women you don't qualify?
You stayed in an abusive relationship. I hope you are getting help so that you don’t go into another relationship with an abusive person and stay in that relationship.
We make choices, whether we know it consciously or not. Make sure you break the cycle.
To anyone who is trying to quit their addiction, We believe in you :) It's hard, but keep up the good work and you'll find that porn is a want instead of a need
If you fall back and find yourself in that cycle again, you aren't a bad person and theres always room to try again
Wow thats an actually good and motivating comment thx bro😃
Would once or at most twice a week be an addiction?
Thx bro, im tryin my hardest
@@theonlyMoancore Best thing to do here is get rid of it in your life. As hard as it is, it's worth it in the long run. That 1 to 2 times a week you're talking about can lead to an addiction quick. Trust me, I been through it. I'm 18 now and much better.
Thank you so much for this comment at the moment I have started to quit but ended up failing and eventually just gave up but not thanks to you I think I’m going to be able to do this, thanks🙂🙂
Remember folks, 21 days for a habit and 90 days for a lifestyle, you can literally quit porn by not watching it for at least a month. I know this may not be effective for all because some people would take even longer than a month, that is okay! Treating it like a challenge is a perfect idea, like you do it for a month then be like "that was way easier lemme continue for another month!" then challenge yourself again for another month, then again and repeat this process. Yes I still am an addict and this is how i'll be helping myself get over it.
The good part about it is that I win every wrestling competition.
...take my like
I've never seen a place in which we could talk about this kind of addiction without the constant feelings of shame and angst, thank you so much guys, I'm trying to get out of it too and it really made my day to see that I'm not the only one, and that my struggles are valid
334 likes? NO REPLIES? THIS IS ILLEGAL. GOOD LUCK PAL, HOPE IT’S BETTER NOW
Amen.
As someone who doesnt watch porn, i can confirm that it has no effects on my brain
Ha
Lucky
lol same
Ah yes.
You are a GIGA CHAD bro
The most dangerous addiction ever !!! Stay strong brothers and sisters and don't let a quick pleasure ruin your life
Cocaine is more dangerous.
Its funny how this channel takes very sensitive topics and makes it so calm
Thanks to our animations and Amanda, the voice artist?
This is why I love these videos. When I was a teenager, I used porn to relieve myself of negative emotions. I had a terrible stepmom, so I constantly felt anger, depression, but most of all, I felt worthless. After I graduated high school, I was left with alone with my grandparents as they came down with dimentia and Alzheimer's. My pornography addiction hit an all-time high during this time. My grandma tried to keep control of her life and instead, she was making mine miserable, so I watched porn to supplement the love I was lacking. I can't say I view people as objects without value. I grew up viewing myself as an object without value and trying to fill the void with pornography. "Other people have value I can never obtain." Sometimes, I've heard stories and thought to myself "I have no right to complain. I haven't reached a bottom as low as this person has." Another reason to turn to pornography. I can't speak for everyone, but these are the struggles that led me to pornography addiction. It's an endless cycle of "I feel worthless, but it could be worse so I can't just speak up, so here's a dose of porn."
so so so relatable, all your quotations are exactly what I feel, except I have developed these in the last 3,4 years. I've had a loving childhood but then I failed 1 exam and ever since I have the feeling of "Other people have value I can never obtain.", "I have no right to complain. I feel like everyone has a purpose in life except for me. I can only get rid of this feeling when I am near my mom. only place where I feel Ihave some worth.
Oh... that's heartbreaking... I feel for you. I hope you find and get the support you need because you should feel like you're worth something. You deserve to feel like you have a place in the world; worth so much so as to be invaluable. The world is not the best by any means but there are good things. There are people that are more qualified to give advice than me, some stranger on the internet, but you must try to find it. Unfortunately, things don't come on a platter like they do in much of the media. It's a battle you have to give it your all to fight, but I believe in you. I hope that means something. You may yet find the love you need, just around the corner. I hope you do. The world needs more love and compassion, empathy and understanding. Best wishes!
@@quietcontraire I wish there were more good people like you in this world
I completely understand where you are coming from and I feel this so much. I turned towards porn after being sexually assaulted because it made me feel in control . A lot of times when I was low and had low self esteem I would just turn to porn to distract myself from the feeling, but as soon as it ended I just felt worse, guilty that I did it. It’s weird because I don’t want to, and I won’t say I’m addicted but every time I’m lonely or feel negative emotions or feel worthless I turn to this and it’s not healthy. I have a strong faith in God and that’s why it makes me feel so much more guilty, I keep trying to break out of the loop but somehow something happens and I get dragged back in. Sometimes I’m just weak enough to give in. It’s weird and hard but I hope I break out of this one day. I don’t like it. :(
You are gonna hate motivational influencers
Honestly, for the past month, after my first panic attacks, I've been having kind of depressive and emotionally numb episodes and it literally cured my porn addiction for a while. It's weird but I find myself not having that urge anymore, most of the time..
Cured it, or just destroyed your ability to 'draw reward' from engagement with it?
Personally, I've been through similar and it wasn't a cure, it was merely an extended disruption. Mind you, the disruption might help with breaking the pattern but it's not a guarantee in the long run.
@@skaldlouiscyphre2453 Actually, it depends on people. I have addiction with sexual desires because of I read books (I knew porn since I was a kid tho) and I engage myself to it (not with the partner).
Do you know sex also can ruin people? For example, unprotected sex also lead to pregnancy? What will be happen when people didn't have unstable life (and young) but got tested with it (or worse-diseases)?
Based on my experience, sex also is not good because it became bad habits. Porn addiction will make you neglect your partner, friends, family due to busy to make yourself please. And you will totally know the result when that's happen. It also make you avoid responsibility and make your health decrease tho.
I am student and everytime I tried to break addiction since I was a teen, it calls me to distract myself from getting into normal life. I can't deny we will get rewards for make ourselves please but it's just fleeting tho.
I didn't say sex is a forbid thing. It's depend on people's choice but don't forget the consequences afterward.
You'll come back again if you didn't address the core issues, gl
It happened a few times for me too. And two things to tell you about that :
- It's not a "cure", when your libido come back...your porn addiction (may) come back
- It's actually more terrifying not to feel any sexual desire for weeks than having the addiction, imo. Losing yourself into the digital world of pleasure is something, losing all your sexual desire and addiction like that, it's even more concerning. As you made the link, your mental health is the cause...losing all capacity to feel pleasure isn't a good news. Take care of your mental health and addiction my friend
@@PearlRose0405 that's so hard to read
I’m a teenage guy and when I see porn, I’m like “Eugh, not really my thing” and then moved on outside of that. I’m not addicted to porn but to everyone who wants to break out of that, good luck, I believe in ya
There is absolutely nothing wrong with porn or being aroused. People need to stop shaming sexuality. It's healthy.
No one cares coomer
Not when it becomes sexual immorality
I'm one of those addicts. Sometimes it becomes my "quick getaway" in a stressful situation and the effect it did on my brain makes me feel very - very unworthy near my friends, especially my female friends. I'm currently trying to stop and recover from it so if you guys never watch or read porn, my advise is a simple DON'T. If you guys recovering from it like me then i wish you a good luck!
Were you ever one of these guys that actively enjoyed the idea that most of the women in porns lifes are kind of destroyed by the porn industry? Or that sometimes real rape gets posted, or stuff without her permission, or sex trafficking is involved?
@@minze1198 i used to cz when I'm horny so much i didnt think that far ahead. But after times goes on and post nut clarity hits i think about that and it makes me feel so bad
Porn addiction made me quite promiscuous and made me objectify attractive guys. I kicked the habit years ago and though I'm still "healing" so to speak from my promiscuity, I'm definitely in a better place since quitting. But as mentioned in the video, too much of ANYTHING can be bad. If you indulge, I just recommend doing so in moderation, and not getting too far removed from reality, ACTUAL SEX, etc.
I'm glad to hear you are healing. Do you find it easier to connect to guys as a result of quitting and working on your mindset & lifestyle?
I didn't realize that there were so many women who tried to cope with this issue. So many of you in the comment section. I thought it was only a male issue. It's great if you successfully overcame your porn addiction, good luck in your life.
@@terrortalks3037 I'm not a woman and not the one you asked but if I may reply to your question :
Sex is a natural desire and "need" for most humans, watching porn/masturbating cheat your brain into believing that you satisfied this urge while in reality you didn't have sex with a partner. You are way less incentivized to look for a partner both consciously and inconsciously. AND it also deforms your vision of sex/the opposite sex.
With that in mind, you can imagine that it may be detrimental to successfully find a partner, have a sane and lasting relationship with them.
From the other side of the barrier, I can tell you that reducing porn made me change my relationship with women. I'm strangely more "sus" but see them in a saner way in the same time. They aren't distant creatures that you only desire through porn but people you can build links with. I have made some female friends now* !
Idk your relation with men, but quitting porn will most likely make you have "saner" relations with them. When I say "sane", it basically means that you would see them less as sexual objects but it doesn't mean that your libido will fall lol. If you don't approach men it will likely make you go more toward them to find a partner and contrary if porn twisted your mind to collect men after men, it will likely moderate this "lifestyle". Driving more toward monogamous and lasting relationships rather than being single or sleeping around.
@@teslaasmr9375 male and hetero haha, I was just interested in a new perspective with this issue. I think what you said in the last paragraph still applies, just with women.
@@terrortalks3037 Oopsies, I thought you were a woman/homosexual trying to overcome your porn addiction so my comment isn't 100% pertinent for you X) Hope it was still kinda useful for your questions.
It’s been killing my relationship. If he won’t get help/ accept support .. this addiction will be the last straw for my relationship. If you love someone and your struggling, know it can be a killer in a relationship and it’s best to remember your not alone, there is help. Don’t let addiction consume you or push away someone you love.
I feel you, I had to ask him to unfollow old accounts he followed and it hurts that I even had to ask. He admits he struggled with it for years but it worries me that it will destroy us if he ever relapses. Thinking of them getting aroused for other women is what bothers me a lot. But with the internet it's almost impossible
Pornography and masterbation are one of the most horrible addictions and habits a person can develop. It has really destroyed the ability for both men and woman to relate to and with each other in a normal and healthy way.
I swear, the timing of this video could not be any more on point
Hahaha ikr
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Just got done J'ing off 😂
Really, i was just watching ted bundys interview where he talks about porn
Forget the porn addiction, he voice is so fuckin calming
Ong
Im edging to it
This may be the most basic answer, but i was a teenager who would constantly watch porn thinking "man this cant be THAT bad right?" and boy was i wrong. This video completely explains how bad it truly can be for you to watch porn and the mental affects it can have on yourself. Porn is a lot like vaping or smoking, it is hard to get rid of that addiction and that DESIRE to want to have more. I believe in every one of you who wants to stop and the struggle, while it can be extremely hard, is worth it in the end. Thank you Psych2Go, amazing video as always!! :) ♥♥♥
i was in the same boat. turns out it is THAT bad. wish i never started.
I had a therapist who explained that watching porn is indulged to fill a void.
DAMN , SOUNDS LIKE MINE
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Yeah, for sure. A lot of people find that it digs the void a little deeper each time they indulge.
@@terrortalks3037 i think it’s worse than that. But the idea is sound.
Yeah, it's called the lack of sex. And for certain, we can attribute that to feminism. Guaranteed, our parents had more sex 40 years ago, than we do today. Why? NO PORN and NO FEMINISM.
I’ve been addicted to porn starting at 12. I only recently started being able to have large success breaking it, been clean for over a month, I’m 21 now. It’s a real and painful addiction and the improvement to my mental health improvement since getting away from it is palpable.
Glad to see a mostly measured response on this topic! I'll throw my two cents in by saying that porn isn't all bad. The addictive properties are clear, but it is an inherent mechanism of our brains to react to stimulus that is sexually stimulating, and said stimulus can be a wide range of things.
Biggest problem will always be the frequency of consumption, not simply the fact that it exists. Porn has always existed to an extent. The written word itself can make for a really good substitute for example.
If anything, porn addiction is likely to be more of a symptom of other problems rather than an originating problem by itself. Of course a vicious cycle can begin from it, so best to seek professional help.
This was very centered towards one of the biggest problems in modern society being widespread accepted. May the Heavenly Father pull satan from you
shit up
Skydaddy doesn't exist
The whole making it see someone as an object rather than a person with values point is exactly why I stopped consuming it. I really hated how it completely distorted my view of women for a long time. I hated pretty much everything about it, and I'm so glad I stopped watching it. Started working out, prioritizing my health, working on life goals, and creating a healthier mindset. It's honestly not worth it. For the X amount of time you get pleasure from watching it will cost you quadruple the amount of time later obsessing and looking forward to the next time you watch it rather than doing something more productive or actually pursuing a romantic/sexual partner because you can''t even feel anything without relying on it all the time.
One big point I seriously forgot to make, and something that 100% needs to be said is the lack of a proper sex education at school. I live in Canada, and not sure about others, but I didn't have a sex education at all. My family or father never spoke to me about sex or anything about it either. We were shown the condom over the banana routine once at school and that was pretty much it. I think a huge contributor is this factor which causes mass confusion amongst young people and makes them (like it made me) turn to pornography for their sex education.
You've stated everything here perfectly. I've seen that it can also strain mental energy to view it constantly. And when it comes to a lack of education on the subject, this effect only becomes worse.
You really hit the nail on the head! I wish my parents had had conversations with me about sexual intimacy growing up, it would have made things a lot easier. But that's in the past, gotta move forward and replace bad habits with good ones.
I'm struggling with the adiction right now, is so hard to stay away from it, how did you beat porn? I don't want to see girls as sex dolls
@@chipi4179 Thanks for being open with me about this with me. THAT is a powerful step. I am beating it back, slowly. I think one of the first things that helped was listing my triggers, like boredom, frustration, and loneliness. I have been recognizing more when I get the urge and do something different before it hits me full force and becomes harder to resist. It helps me to just go on a walk, or do some pushups when it's only a small 'itch'. Sometimes deep breaths help. It depends on what triggers it. Restless-->walk or change my environment; boredom-->do something challenging; lonely-->text a friend. That kinda thing. Hopefully that is a good starting point for you. Getting good friends and family connections help, this monster thrives on isolation and shame. So don't give it any. Develop connections and self-acceptance/self-efficacy.
Focus on small steps, and praise yourself on your progress, no matter how small. Large victories are made of dozens or hundreds of little personal victories. :) Connect to others who are struggling, whether it be the NoFap community on Reddit, an addiction recovery group, or otherwise. You can do hard things. You are not alone.
It's crazy how stuff like this has such a strong effect on relationships, expectations and lives.
I didn't know what s*x was until I was in third grade... THIRD GRADE! That was all my friends would talk about, all because they saw it in movies.
Then comes along middle school and the topic REALLY picks up and kids are excited to try it.
When we hit high school it was still the main topic it seemed. Guys and girls literally talking about it out loud in class; who they did it with, who was next, how many people they had lined up around the block. It was insane.
Porn really messes with relationships I believe. It think it leads to these expectations that the partner might not be comfortable with, or it can even damage/replace the sexual aspect of the relationship.
I did used to watch it myself, but I wasn't addicted. The older I got, the more silly it became and I don't find it necessary. I've even become uncomfortable with it and can't even stand the thought of watching it. I know others watch it and I understand the pleasure it can bring, but sometimes I honestly forget that because I avoid it and don't see the need in it.
Same here. In third grade I had a friend who introduced me to stuff, but I quickly forgot about it until middle school where I picked up that people were talking about inappropriate stuff but thankfully I was innocent enough to not understand. But not for long. Slowly I learned more and more (mostly from looking up words people were saying that I didn't know the meaning of) until my head was/is so full of stuff I wish I never knew I at least have a though... Just realized a SUPER easy way to explain this.
Unfortunately, I am now "Dirty Minded" and it sucks
@@legoz2194 that deadass succs
I learned about it in the 6th Grade...
Dang, I'm slow...
Meanwhile I never learned about sex untill I was 13.
I started at 9. Since I knew about sex I started imagining it often. In 3rd grade my friends and me would write a sexual query in the google bar, erase it without pressing enter, and laugh. No one ever caught us. When I moved to another state, I did it once more, by myself, for old times sake, but this time I did press enter.
I had wanted to stop since I was 12, but I couldn't find it in me. And how? I was a child. It wasn't until 2021 that I really freaked out after I realized my reward systems were all fried. I've been clean for a good while now, and it feels great to have all of those sleepless nights behind.
But, the voices that say "Are you stressed? I know something that will clear your head a bit, but you need to shut your thoughts and be in the moment" can get very persuasive. So I don't know about tomorrow. But I know about right now.
I was starting in 10 and ended at 10 as soon i realized your a loser if you do it and its just bad and im watching this so i can warn others
Porn has a detrimental effect on WILLPOWER, you forget that
"moderation is key" this is so true. people can watch it but as long as they only do it every once in a while, it won't cause any damage or addiction.
I would say that it is about as easy to be moderate with porn as with hard drugs. In my experience, it's a honest-to-goodness slippery slope.
Can't get addicted if you never take a puff.
@terrortalks3037 Alright, idk what it is about the porn addict folks, but yall talk about porn the way the hyper religious talk about hand holding or women wearing dresses that expose ankles. I get it, everyone is different. I have an uncle that can't drink because if he takes a sip he can't control himself. But most folks aren't like that. The same is true for porn. We had a dude in another comment blame porn for their boyfriend sexually assaulting them. This is wild. Porn addiction is bad like any other addiction, but too many people are blaming porn for all their problems. It genuinely is like a religion. It reminds me of folks of that go to church, get into a rhythm, see their life turn around, and become the most insufferable people about it. You didn't become a more fulfilled person only because you went to church. You became that way because ya got into a rhythm. I suspect the porn addicts are the same way. Stop watching porn, do something more productive, become more aware of your mental health etc. Not watching porn alone didn't fix you. What fixed you was adopting a holistic health plan for your kind and body
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Also forgot to mention, that usually, "aside from adiction", it also have stuff with depresion, anxiety and other problems, they just scratched the surface with the stuff about mental health issues, cause it can also be provocated by traumas and stuff and usually people use it as a "mean" to escape from other stuff and it actually can make you even more depress, its a really big area to study.
Watching this type of content as a kid with adhd, you quickly reach your limits and learn how to extend them.
P*rn accessibility has majorly affected my life
I regret watching it sometimes because of my religion so i repent later
I have had addiction to porn and luckily I was able to get over it. Yes, it was VERY hard, but it got very boring to me. It wasted my time and I knew it wasn't the right thing to do. I had realised that watching and looking at that kind of content wasn't for me. It wasn't good for me period. trust me it gets so much better when you stop. If you are having trouble with porn addiction I am here for you. Stay strong❤
Had this addiction ever since I was in 5th grade (graduated highschool in 2021)
What changes did you see in yourself when it stopped?
@@Yung_Cash_Money_Billionaires I was able to focus on things much better. I felt as if I was more of a clean person when I stopped. Watching porn really affected me when making it hard for me to focus, it made it hard for me to do homework and lowered my grades, but when I stopped I noticed how they went up.
@@Yung_Cash_Money_Billionaires AND the more you watch porn the more it's harder to stop. Because I know what that feels like and it's upsetting. I'm so glad I stopped. I want to be myself again. Not watching inapropriate videos.
i have been struggling with this too, do you have any tips to help myself quit?
I'm still currently struggling with this addiction and it is hard to break free. It's very hard to communicate to others about this without being looked down Upon.
It’s nothing to be ashamed about we all have done it once in our lives like any addiction we must break it down slowly for example if you watch it say once per day 7 days per week try cutting back to 6 than 5 and than so on
Hope this helps
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@@mizzariez8363 thank you, this stuff is like a drug and sometimes I consider if this is the reason why I struggle socially irl. Especially when it is introduced to you at a young age it is as if it wires your brain in an unnatural way.
I agree with Mizzarie in this comment section. If you want to stop watching it, then try to ease off of it instead of just cutting the thread short.
What's wrong with actually watching it from time to time Lol
You can try make dopamine detox and distract yourself with replace that addiction with something such as cooking, cleaning and etc.
You can also make fasting gadgets (similar with dopamine detox) but one of the benefits of fasting gadgets is you can break a few addictions such as entertainment addiction, porn addiction, phone addiction and etc.
I’m currently 19 years old and I’ve been trapped by the grip of my porn addiction since I was 16. Ive attempted to quit numerous times but I would always find myself getting sucked back into a wormhole. I feel like the boy who I once was is squirming and kicking desperately trying to get out and I want to get help and support but I can’t stand the thought of my family, relatives, and the people I love looking at me in a light of a shell of my former self. I genuinely hate it. I’ve lost half of my friends because of it and when I look in the mirror all I see is a nobody. I don’t even feel like the boy who I once was anymore. I don’t even react to events anymore because I’ve made myself so numb. I hate it. Right now is my 27th day of not doing it but I know I’m just gonna go back to doing the same thing again.
honestly, i feel the addictions growing, and i can feel it slowly affect the way i think and destroying my mind, its even affecting my relationship, i swear god got to be sending signals, porn does nothing yall
I am working from to stop myself from watching this. Self-improvement grind.
A general lack of privacy in life can be pretty helpful with that
Keep it going, wish I had your motivation
so glad you made a video about this. feels almost too ironic, as pornography is something ive been trying to really cut out of my life for a lot of time now. it's so easy for children to stumble upon, then we look up in our late teens really seeing the effects it has. a quote i saw recently stated: "When something is free, that means you're the product". your attention and presence should always be properly compensated. protect your energy kings & queens.
Porn has had little if any effect on me or my lifestyle.
No one cares
I considered it an addiction and felt so guilty about it for years and years. A situation came up that was close enough to make me stop almost completely. It was difficult at first but now i'm a lot better at controlling myself.
Do you have any tips?
@@toiletpapereater2964 try and use your Imagination instead of watching porn. You’ll find yourself doing it less if you only allow yourself to do it with imagination as well
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I want to quit altogether like stop "doing the deed".
Lmao uh i vowed to myself a few years ago that i'd stop completely if someone close to me died. I didn't want them watching over me and seeing me doing that.
A couple months ago my coworker died. I had only known her for 6 months but she was one of the sweetest ladies i had ever known, and i took a look at what i was doing and said her passing is close enough. I only went 19 days before breaking, and said okay, that's the only day of the month i'm going to do that. I did break a little more frequently, but i don't do it nearly as much as i used to. Ive only allowed myself to do it on about 3 days of the month, conveniently spaced out. Now it's not on my mind as much as it used to be, and when i think about it it's not as enticing to go and be in that mood anymore.
@@toiletpapereater2964 i guess take a look at your faith or religion and try your best to avoid doing it by being invested in something else. If you have a partner you can only allow yourself to do things with them if yall are at that level. It's about enforcing boundaries and sticking to those boundaries. It may result in an hour of frustration each time you want to be in that mood but eventually it'll get easier.
For me, porn has had a negative effect on my life. Since I discovered it at a young age and when I first 🥜 it felt so amazing like eating a delicious piece of cake.
Afterwards, I started Iooking up some lewd and extreme content and never saw it as a problem, not until I started college were my social anxiety became worse. I couldn't even make conversation with someone.
I would always tell myself that I'm stupid or failure, basically being too hard on myself.
I wanted to stop but when I had the urge, I couldn't hold back and I would even do it almost anytime when I felt that urge. It really messed me up and my sauce of that pleasure was on social media.
Right now, I'm 20 years old currently on nofap. My goal is to make it 90 days without 🥜 or for me personally, 7 days.
Maybe there is some befits to porn but for me it was a shackle that held me back from making new everlasting connections.
Don’t buy the world’s lies. Porn has ALWAYS been evil, both by the producers and the viewers. Objective truth > relative truth.
I think that's a lot of people's experience here, mine included. Keep up the good work. You're not alone.
@@terrortalks3037 thanks
You can 🥔 without porn.
@@disposablealienbrains7010 You can live without 🥔
Today is the first day for the rest of my life where I no longer watch a porn video. Pray for me. I will update in a year’s time.
lmao never watched porn, just bored and stumbled across this video on my recommended somehow
but to anyone trying to break an addiction, you can do it! stay strong!
0:14 was simply pure gold.
This is also something that I'm thankful I learned about back in high school. Pornography is no enemy, but it can be very detrimental if you don't know about it's effects. Regardless, sexuality is a topic that should be brought up more, and sadly with what is going on in the U.S, it is being brought up more, but not in a good way unfortunately.
What's going in the US?
@@anshveerbhan3812 The huge amount of anti transgender legislation being either proposed or enacted, and hate crimes against the LGBT, thereby affecting efforts to teach sexuality as a whole.
@@anshveerbhan3812republicans want to prevent classroom grooming by limiting when sensitive topics (i.e. the sexuality spectrum) can be taught to kids.
Liberals have since branded this the “don’t say gay” bill. Strangely, when I ask people in isolation, not a single person right or left actually disagrees with the bill’s contents.
@@sevilliane YT shadow-realm’d your comment, jsyk.
Even knowing the effects it is detrimental, but once you're hooked it's hard to care about those costs. That's good you were able to learn the dangers so young.
I'm glad this channel talked about this, I feel like most girls are part of the audience and finally can share their experience without feeling shame, that's the case for me.
If you're a guy and you're feeling down, don't watch porn. That is unless you want to stay down..
Been trying to quit porn addiction for years now and it’s so hard but I know how damaging it is to your brain and I’m glad more and more people are also trying to overcome this.
at least your putting some effort on it! ^^ I'm also glad, that more people are fighting this!
Never give up. A cool tip that worked for me is chew gum. I don't know why, but when i do, all my urges go away.
@@shipsability oooooooooo, alrighty!
I still remember a saying like "Trying to quit porn is like trying to quit smoking, but you always have a pack in your pocket."
Emotional damage not physical
As someone who watched all times for YEARS, ive always viewed it as fantasy. Like watching an action movie or show. I know it isnt real. This helped me keep a proper view towards the opposite sex and not view them as objects, and also respect sex and not tey all the crazy stuff done in videos.
@@Bluzian74 Dude please be joking
For myself i think how pornography affects your life will ever be depending on your social situation. I'm 29 years old and have never ever had a real relationship in my life. I like ASMR-porn, but also ASMR-Videos which are not porn and just helps me to relaxing. The dark side on this is i'm very scared to meet someone new, because i also have severe depression and am constantly confused by people in reallife. Also i didn't know how to meet new people in a romantic or relationship way, because i don't think very good of myself, more like i don't deserve to be loved in my life. So i consume more ASMR because of my depressions, because the women say "Sssshhh, it's okay" and "Don't be sad" - but i am always sad and hating myself... It's a vicious circle.
:(
Bro are you me??!??!?
I’m sorry to hear how the vicious circle is getting to you. I want to help you feel like you’re not alone & that there are others here to help. I personally struggle a lot with depression & anxiety, & occasionally still have difficulty with pornography myself, so I know it can be extremely difficult. I feel for you, even though I don’t know exactly what your experience is like.
Over the years I’ve been gradually changing for the better despite relapses & am so thankful for who I am today/who I’m striving to be! Progress isn’t linear, & remember to be grateful for every victory (even minimal) & grateful for your continued effort. I love how (non-erotic) ASMR helps soothe me as well, particularly positive affirmations, & it’s helped me believe more in the good in myself.
There is always hope. Healing is possible & is a process. And you are & always will be worthy of loving/love! 🤗❤
i have a tip for you, but it's gonna be hard, eat healthy, reduce alcohol to some extend, i'm sure that you are drinking :D , social activities is the key and start a fitnes program, in your case 4-5 days a week. try to ignore other feelings (not your loved ones) and what they think of you food supply for fitness (creatine monohydrate for the go) 4 months nonstop you will feel the confidence, trust me. BTW main problem is that you want to be loved from people that don't give a damn. Be loved from people that care about you and appriciate it!
@@mariopopov3430 I guess i must disappoint you, but i'm not drinking. Personally i hate the effects of alcohol to the body, because that's how i lost one of my friends. To be clear in that: I don't drink, smoke or take any other drugs, legal or not. If you don't know me, please don't judge that fast..
I was exposed to porn at a young age, 12 to be exact.
It’s been 8 years and I’ve yet been able to break the cycle, it’s just that life is stressful and I need to cope somehow. I can’t find a way to replace it. It’s ruined me and helped me. I haven’t been able to get a girlfriend because my confidence is destroyed and my perception of everything is skewed.
I think Moderation is key. It can definitely make you desensitized if you watch too much. Personally, I don't want to forget to leave much to the imagination.
Same bruh
4:18 psych2go is not promoting porn nor saying watching porn is bad. this video is solely focusing and reporting on the scientific findings to thebrain when porn is observed
I’m suffering from watching porn, probably way too much of it in my opinion. I just feel like a horrible person when watching it and it has affected my mental health drastically. Ever since I first saw it, I can’t stop it. No matter what I do it always finds a way to come back. I hope if some people are suffering the same way, that you can break out of the cycle. I’m still trying after a long time, wish you luck.
I am in the same boat as you. really think porn needs to be age-restricted, there is LITERALLY NO BARRIER that prevents you from going on it, and starting the addiction in the first place! I and a bunch of others first saw it at such a young age and once we saw it, we were DOOMED. It messed with our brains. I'm 20 right now and still struggling. My biggest fear is growing up to be 40+ years old and still having to watch it. I dislike it so much, it ruined my life. We really need more strict rules against porn, it's just WAY too accessible. I also believe that it's the literal reason why humanity (especially men) are on a downward trend right now.
@@Dezlite I feel you brother. I share my story with porn on my channel if you feel called to check it out. I hope it provides you some value and to know your not alone.
I feel you brother. I share my story with porn on my channel if you feel called to check it out.
This is really helpful, bc at a young female at age 10 I grew curious about the body and sex. So I ended searching for actual people making love bc I was curious. I remember being fascinated and as I grew older I felt disgusted with myself but also got more invested with the different types of porn I was finding. I was very embarrassed and have told no about my addiction except for my sisters. I really hope to get out of this because it’s hard, and I feel like I have to watch it. Wish me luck on getting out of my addiction!
I thank you really to make videos on topics on which no one in real world helps us but help comes virtually by you🙏
I respect Psych2Go not just saying “Porn Bad” and instead leaning into an “in moderation” view, doing that prevents a complex discussion being made into flat one.
I'm actually happy this is able to be talked about.
I encountered a friend who is married to a man whonis addicted to porn and weirdly i thought i had possibly the same routine but she made me realize it is 10x worse on his end.
I could see the disappointment in her body language from it and questioned if my partner felt the same way but she has her own routine as well and we come together with it.
I feel bad that it gets to the level of an addiction, the fantasy aspect gets so far gone, there's almost a scenario for anything and it can go the distance.
be safe out there
All of this is so alien to me. Sex (and as an extension porn) is just part of the human experience. Partaking in porn isn't a negative thing. I suppose my opinion is in a similar vein as people drinking alcohol. If you blame bad behavior on alcahol/[porn], it's not the alcohol/[porn] being the problem, it's you. It's just wild to me that people are talking about this video like it did an extensive take on porn addiction when it just talked about porn in general. Maybe I'm reading too much into some of these comments but dang, porn isn't the problem y'all. If you're using porn as an escape, then fix the things you're trying to escape from or just accept it as an escape and approach it as healthy as you can.
Anyway, good luck y'all. Brains are weird.
*When I'm trying to stay away from Porn:* 😨😨😨😰😰
*When I'm watching Porn:* 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Ok man. I hope this addiction of yours slowly goes away. If you carry on this path it will lead to bad things. Please try
Imagine how people are treated during filming porn: girls vagina is bleeding painfully, because continuing penetrations by strangers, men hit her with fists, 200 men are throwing sperm to her face, to symbolizing spoiling her cuteness, always severe danger from illnesses, wounds and trying to survive all scenes through with cocaine and so on. With poor wage!
Next: she may be your cousin or sister, or schoolmate, or even your aunt and so on. Do you really want them to experience dark side of porn world? Really?
It's a good thing that such a delicate topic was chosen this time for an episode. Also good that it was shown in a neutral way. Good work psych2go. :)
I'm a 17 yr old girl and addicted to porn. It somehow makes me feel very bad about myself
I've tried to stop on several occasions but every time I fall back to it, the urge gets worse. I need help but can't really talk about it, I'm finally glad I get to vent somewhere, and perhaps this is a sign
I'm going to try again this time. I hope I can come back soon to this video with a better me
@Rand0m-ka1j7_pa4ad1seyou can, just don’t watch it. I did it too, it’s hard, but you can do it. When you feel the urge, just think about your goal. You can do it
After i saw one particular video when i was 13 my view of the world has completely changed
As a former addict, I have to say the few methods I did to quit if you're struggling with this addiction.
First, remove all triggers (This means anything that makes you want to look at porn)
If it doesn't work, take a long break of social media. (That's if you don't do anything important on it. But you got to be serious on yourself, whether you actually do important stuff or just use it as an excuse to scroll on social media) I personally took a month break, but because I didn't use much social media to begin with.
You will feel the urge to look at porn. Let that urge flow in you. Do something that leaves your body in a uncomfortable state when you feel that urge. (like quick walk outside or mediating)
If you still relapse, it's not a big deal. Don't say it doesn't work, you just got to try harder. You aren't going to quit the addiction easily. Avoid doing the same mistake again.
I really hate pornography and it's consequences on people's mental state. It's a terrible thing and its a plague. It affected me alot. Once I quitted, my mental health improved quite a bit. I became more energetic and productive as well. I would definitely recommend quitting it.
I just wanted to give my two cents on this subject. I love that this channel covered this subject.
The 2 things that helped me the most were:
1. Being in a relationship, I didn't even have sex during that relationship and I still didn't watch porn, I just didn't feel aroused by it anymore
2. Accountability. Just offer someone a certain amount of money or some product if you relapse, this works especially well if you (just like me) are not really a liar. If you never lie, this will trick your brain into thinking that watching porn instantly means losing money. If you think it would be useful, try to rotate friends/accountability partners every few weeks so your brain actually thinks "just 4 days until I can watch porn again, I won't relapse now", and as soon as your rotation ends, offer a different person to be your accountability partner for some weeks.
I really recommend the second method if you can't get or don't wanna get into a relationship. I did that through No Nut November and it worked, the only problem was that I promised "not to fap", so I still watched porn, big mistake. Now I'm making it through december without watching porn because if I do, I'll have to gift Discord Nitro (10 dollars) to a friend.
Also something important to note, you see a lot youtubers posting something like: "no fap benefits after 30 days". I think a lot of people misunderstand this, they think that when you relapse after let's say 9 days that your progress is gone. You need to stop counting the days for those who do so because it's just weird. Imagine saying to your friend: "I didn't fap for 7 days".
It's absurd that gambling is so restricted by the laws, while porn is more accessible than decent online shopping -.-
Battling my porn addiction currently after watching it for a decade. In both of my previous relationships, it was definitely a problem that would come up sometimes and now being single I've been trying to be better about it. It's truly one of the hardest things to battle and I seen the affects it has on my brain and how I view some women. Thanks for sharing
Keep fighting, brother. You're not alone.
Keep pushing. You’re not alone , I took as well struggle with porn addiction and thankfully have been 4 months clean now. Much love 💕
Good luck :)
wishing you the best
So sad to hear 😢
Thank god i dont have that addition or any for that matter. Stay strong brother
Never thought I’d see a title like this in my life. Glad to know it now exists. 😂
I was 8 when I first came across porn I’ve been struggling for 17 years please pray for me my life is such a mess.
I joined a discord server with porn in it and got addicted, i was 10, i continued for about a month until my mom came in and hated me for about 2 weeks, never going to do it again in my life
That video notification got me staring at my phone screen flabbergasted. I’m struggling with porn addiction currently (I even developed sexual disfuction because of that). I feel ashamed to share it with close people or in therapy. It looks like you uploaded it to me
Its great idea if you get in therapy , its ok if u dont want to talk about it all at once, in therapy with a good therapist u can start small and it gets better it u have a listening ear. hope u get better, i myself im struggling with it but started talking about it in therapy i used to afraid to open up like u, but in therapy i feel safe
Tbh it's kinda the same for me
Except I do have some form of resistance within me that wants to stop, but I never get enough confidence to do so due to living in boring and very slow changing conditions
Only new and improved environment can fully guarantee cure from this curse 😔
@@d3nny_s3mpai I’m actually in the same situation as you. I don’t feel nothing special watching pornography. I use it as a distraction - just to have a empty and superfluous dose of endorphin I guess.
I’m also in a stagnant lifestyle. I don’t have a routine, a future, a goal, a dream to pursue. I’m just existing, and I think porn is what I use to get out of my boring reality
@@bro8627 same. It helps to do something, to be active, to push yourself. I often go on a walk or do pushups because at least those will help me look better.
@@bro8627 I'm so sorry to hear that... I pray for you to get better.
I’m extremely disappointed Psych 2 Go isn’t taking a *hard* stance against porn. The entire industry is not only malicious to women, but specifically targets and exploits lonely men.
Not to mention how much it preys on literal children in the hopes they get hooked early and never leave.
@@HoodedSpideythat's why it has to be done in moderation
@@The-terraria-boí it doesn’t have to be done EVER. It’s perversion and gross. Sexual activity should only be between your special someone, not consumed like junk.
@@HoodedSpidey louder for the people in the back!
@@The-terraria-boí it's a slippery slope, not a nutrient.
You can't go to a bedroom to sit and watch two adults have sex, but it is ok if it's just recorded and edited.
I mostly only use Pornogrophy for stress relief whenever I'm bored.
This is an excellent and educational video, while it explains the negative effects of a porn addiction, it also makes sure to clarify that it is not wrong to watch porn, as long as you are able to make a distinction to reality, keep it healthy and in moderation.
If someone here has an addiction they are trying to overcome, keep it up! You'll make it!
And as well if someone just enjoys watching that type of content, don't let anyone shame you for it. Just remember to be aware that it's all fictional, keep track of how often you watch it but most importantly notice if the need for watching it interferes with your daily activities or changes your perception of reality, you know, that kind of stuff. If you can keep it balanced and healthy, then go ahead and do not feel embarrassed!
honestly, ill be upfront
i dont know if ive gotten over mine yet
yeah i only "do it" like once every 3 days now (rarely once every 2 days) and back then i practically did it everyday
but the thoughts keep coming back to my head everytime
did i fix my addiction or nah?
@@exursix Absolutely, it is okay to "do it" as long as you keep it moderated, heck even once or twice per day has nothing wrong with it as long as it does not interfere with your daily activities or your perception of reality, it's not the same to be outside or working and feeling "DAMN I NEED TO BUST A NUT" (That would be considered an addiction because it has become a necessity) But for example if you are home alone or in your room, just chilling, and suddenly you feel like it, It is perfectly fine, It is not interfering with your day or your routine.
@@exursixNo you didn’t. It doesn’t matter how long do you watch porn as long as you watch it you are an addict.