How Porn Addiction Destroys Your Dating Life
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2024
- We understand the struggle and pain that come with porn addiction, and we're here to reduce the stigma and offer support and guidance on how to stop porn addiction and rebuild a healthy, loving connection with yourself and others. Discover the hidden addiction problems that may be affecting your dating life and learn practical steps on how to stop watching porn. We hope this video not only provides more information, but also encouragement to overcome porn addiction problems, better your mental health and foster more meaningful relationships.
If you're struggling with how to stop watching porn or want to stop porn addiction for a healthier dating life, this video provides essential insights and guidance. We have more videos about this on our channel as well!
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Trust me: my dating life is already destroyed.
Right there with you
My whole meaning for life is destroyed.
Right, I don't even genuinely enjoy porn but I just want to be close to someone so bad its the closes I can get to intimacy. Its not even about the sex.
You guys have dating lives??? Can’t relate
Sometimes it's better been single love hurts to much
Important thing here in nowdays, as this is one of the most used coping methods
trueee
Well, women are too braindead to approach guys and would call 911 for a Cold Approach from a guy, who's less than a 9/10
It's an addiction and while it can make you feel better, it's like a drug. Nothing about an addiction can fix anything, and it generally makes your feelings worse.
Its only gonna increase, women rate 80% of men as undesirable, most of us are completely unwanted so there is no reason to engage in actual relationships as an average man.
Well, for the average man there isn't alot of reason to try to get into a relationship nowdays. Most of us are unwanted. Women rate most men as below average. Its only gonna get worse.
4/5 men are considered below avarage.
I was just about to... Then my cat showed up and laid on my lap, then this video popped up. Perfect timing. Thank you!!
Glad I could help!
me too lmao this came in like a police officer breaking down my door for a wellness check
@@idekaaaIC👮: STOP! DON'T CLICK THAT LINK!
🧑💻: ... what?
👮: We got a tip from Psych2Go.
🧑💻: AGAIN!? HOW?!?!
deadass thought u meant u were about to stop watching porn then suddenly your cat laid on your lap making you feel something ☠️
Mine almost lol
Seeing the words phych2Go and “porn” in the same notification threw me off😅
I’ve seen it before lol but the first time yeah it threw me off
Its not the first time... but is the first time i am watching one of this videos.
Omg same lol
@@newmoonmood9111 lol
New topic please.
Porn has literally ruined me. It made me feel like such a dirty pervert. I hate it. But honestly even without porn my dating life would still be nonexistent anyway lol
If your off of it, you feel much better
I'm sorry religion has so polluted your view of yourself. Repression breeds perversion. Nothing wrong with acting like a mammal
Maybe the point is, the more you go out and socialise, the more eye contact. Really important for bonding, when hiding our eyes due to fear, shyness, means we don't connect.
What lies behind the hiding might be one way of looking at it, but just reminding yourself to look might help.
There's gotta be a compatible friend out there, maybe closer than you think.
Loved your big comeback in No Way Home, but I think everyone’s dating life is kinda buggered theses days far as I can tell so you’re not alone
agree
I am someone with a little porn addiction and this has affected my mental health. This makes me feel very weird and different. Not natural. I feel uncomfortable with porn but theres still a side of me liking it. Which i do not like that side. This side of me leaves me ashamed. I hope this video helps me. Thanks for making this video.
Edit: why did this comment blow up
Do not worry girl, your not alone, I also have a lil addiction still, and I wish for you to get better and find help, no shame about it, so keep in mind someone over the internet with one of the most religious family relates to you! ❤️🫶
Keep trying you'll get there and know that you're not alone God is with you
demonizing the addiction is what keeps you addicted, the brain is attracted to what is ''bad'' or ''forbidden'' as soon as you stop being ashamed of that side and stop thinking its a ''bad'' side the sooner you will make progress, think of porn as something neutral instead of something bad
@@botmax98.28I agree about the demonizing talk. Also don't forget to love who you are and what makes you special! Replace that shame and fear with truth: you are amazing, you are unique, your feelings matter, you are not alone!
Us Psych2Go'ers can be a community here to help one another. Even if you don't believe it yet, know that you are special
You probably might just have a high sex drive 🤷🏿♂️
This is something that i'm currently fighting, these videos you make have been very helpful to combat my addiction.
that would make two of us man.
Im watching right now HealthyGamerGG, and he knows what he is talking about.
@@retkvi im watching 'Prince Vegeta Motivation' ik its cringe but it really does help sometimes
@@SpryzenStarsHey, whatever helps helps, man.
its normal actually, keep finding new ways to change that and ever give up trying bro, you will make it eventually
Timestamp! (imma be on vacation for a month or so)
-1:15 Unrealistic fantasies
-1:49 Sexual shame
-2:55 Fear of being stigmatized
-3:43 Exacerbates negative body image issues
-4:58 Lack of motivation
See you on august!😊
Have fun !🫶
Smash!
next
@@Iamatyourfrontdoors you too! (Even if you don't have vacation,or if you do)
@@Steve-gz3sy smash👍
Wait, what? What do those have to do with dating?
When you're so alone that unfortunately porn is the closet you'll ever get to intimacy
Yep true,more of negative engagement of mental state.
Well you feel like you know "her", you have seen "her" picture a hundred times. Fortunately you never had to listen to 'her' talk. Silver lining, count your blessings.
the whole point of this video flew over your head?
Goon? No.
Go on outside and talk to people so you can grow as a person and be someone worth dating
Exactlyyyyyyy 100% i didn't always have this problem but before i did no girl wanted to be with me. I had plenty girl friends but 0 girlfriend. So i dont know the point is for the video because its no like it will give me the girl of my dreams if i stopped it didn't give me the girl of my dreams before my issue. I just will be alone forever its gods plan i guess💔💔💔💔💔
When she said imagine someone and you realise you don’t have to imagine 😭
Maybe soon after the effectiveness of this video comes in?
I’ve already solved my addiction. I’m living the best life.
welcome to the club, fellow quitter!
How did you do that?
@@altaccount-jq9kj Determination, willpower and a cause. Repeat these 3 words every time you feel like relapsing. You've got this!
It's hard to do. You gotta be patient with yourself as you are quitting
Mine im in the procces of solving it lol
Me at 3am, with no porn addiction and no dating life: "Damn I should watch this"
I'm in recovery from porn, hookup, and sex addiction. It has destroyed my dating life. Been single two years and before that short lived relationship, I was single five years.
I'm 17 months sober and taking my recovery one day at a time with therapy. I'm not going to let my past be the end of my story.
Good luck bro
Hooking up doesn't make you a sigma giga chad?
How did you begin?
i’m so so proud of you !! 🤍
I couldn't get any bitches so I sucked my own dick
I swear the person comforting the porn addict with a box of tissues at 0:56 is the most ironically funny things I have ever seen
Yay, someone mentioned that! Haha yeah, I immediately thought the same lol 🤣. What a helpful friend 💀
Friend in need
I always rush to these videos but not because im the one with the addiction. I'm hurting because of someone elses addiction and these videos help me feel less crazy/sensitive.
Hi, I don't feel like I have an addiction to porn but I relied to masturbation for some emotional regulations, it is indeed one of the reasons why my last relationship ended.
You're not crazy, you're not sensitive, what you're feeling is completely understandable.
It's hard for both of you guys, I'm sure of it, just remember to don't create too much pressure around the topic itself since it can be overwhelming if your partner is already feeling a lot of shame from his actions.
This said, if this is not already happening, I would suggest your partner to take a couple of sessions with a therapist, it might be interesting to see why there's the use of pornography/masturbation, understanding the root can help and destroy the tree itself, reducing drastically the porn use.
I seriously wish you the best, remember that if there's patience, love and a peaceful bond there's nothing that you two can't deal with.
You are not responsible for someone else's healing. Please don't forget this. You cant save them if they are not willing to change. They need to do the main and the biggest part of healing. So please stay mindful and dont waste yourself during the process. Be loyal to yourself first❤
Same, in a world where porn is glorified and spouses are viewed as crazy or toxic. They don't see their partners feelings as valid. Only weakening their bond. You don't have to bend over backwards for your partner like some youtubers try to show, but just considering their feelings and how your actions made them feel. There's a point in relationships where the problems never get addressed and they can't be fixed. How are we supposed to have healthy relationships when you enter them with one foot hanging out the door?
this.
Any addiction is natural in the modern world. Our brains crave the input, whatever the source (drugs, alcohol, gambling, porn, gaming, etc.) so we pursue it. The problem is instant gratification being widespread in the modern world. It's unnatural for our bodies to receive these rewards on such short timescales without any effort. That's what needs to be addressed.
The only way it can be addressed is through having parents who are there for you and know how to parent and teach you life lessons and how to be an adult. Parents don't do that anymore. No one wants to watch porn in front of their parents. (Well some probably do, not going to kink shame)
I think people with porn addiction don't address the problems in their relationship. Instead of addressing problems that hinder intimacy they make it worse by avoiding it. For non porn watchers it's very frustrating and their partners actions come off cold.
i dont think games are one of them. games make me more fustrated and motivated to win, but thats from practising. not like all the other negative things u mentioned.
@@siddathossain5781it is.. cc said about everything you crave for instant dopamine.. the fact is gaming can release instant dopamin after you acchieved your goal, or even after you learn some pattern, getting the collectible or that item you longing, you happy, ofcourse you need more of that happy feeling and that is addiction.. you can access to game without any hard effort (instant gratification, unless you game afterwork or limit your gaming time).. i do gaming, i realise this also.. but our brains work just like that.. i agree 100% to what comment creator was said.. gaming is not bad as long as you know how to manage your time
The worst part is that for some people, it seems like it’s the only thing we have.
Did you want to elaborate on your experience?
In my case, I've tried to pursue real life connections and it didn't work out. I seem to be too estranged from society to be accepted. The only place I found welcoming and had a sense of belonging was online communities comprised of other societal recluses.
The vast majority will say "Just put yourself out there!".
The vast minority say "join us!".
There are communities for gambling, drinking, smoking and other addictions.
The community for pawn is loneliness.
@@Psych2go sure thing. My experience was one of loneliness. I tried to find another person so I could love them and they love me back, but it never happened. This is when I changed from casually perusing pornography to being actively addicted to it. It was to fill the void left by the lack of meaningful relationships.
@VitoMusic88 if you don't mind me asking, how extreme was your case? I believe I have porn addiction, but maybe it's not as bad as I think
I had porn addiction at 7 YEARS OLD, surprisingly it’s pretty common to get it young but REALLY DAMAGING the brain is just developing and that is one of the info I got VERY YOUNG. I tried to quit at 9 and then I didn’t care. I remember the temptations I got "One more time" "it can’t be that bad!" It got worst at 10 when I saw the toothbrush scene in Ginny & Georgia…. Im still fighting those temptations and I don’t know how to break it to friends. At puberty, i didn’t know if I was really Omnisexual or if it was the effect of my porn addiction affecting my sexual orientation. This was why I discovered it 4:59 …. I don’t know what will happen when I get in a relationship but i will tell it my friends, future partner… i want you guys to know that porn addiction is completely normal as it runs into many people, it doesn’t mean you should lower yourself and your expectations for the futur. I know it’s hard, i really do. But soon you’ll be grateful you pushed through this.
I feel you, it’s hard when my parents were not that kept up with technology and they didn’t observe what I when I was a child can be seeing online. Even more so on this day and age where almost everything is vulgar like game ads and the like :( I hope things are going well for you ^^
@@fibriantira thank you VERY MUCH you don’t know how much i wanted to see this. Im doing well and i am crying since im watching the final episodes of Young Sheldon. You should watch it it’s amazing don’t skip ahead nor search it (spoilers) this is pretty out subject but yeah. I hope to be a singer and maybe sing about this addiction like Melanie Martinez kinda artist. Have a great day !!
The worst thing to happen to me was unfiltered internet access
I on the other hand didn't know what masturbation was until I was 19, and I truly wish I never discovered it.
People forget that mainstream porn is literally like a tv show or acting. They pick people with perfect physiques and shoot it from certain angles. I feel that’s the biggest issue with pornography. Overconsumption will train ur mind into only being turned on to unrealistic situations.
Really? I thought most people watch short 0-10min clips of saggy weird people trying to do freaky things. The actual movies cost money. Nobody actually pays for it anymore, so they????
@@KWifler nah all that shits free. I wish there were strict paywalls, itd be a good deterent
😊😂o😅@@KWifler😅
Beautifully said. This is real.
Should have mentioned the effects of literacy pr0n being pretty much as bad as visual.
You don't know how many people you've saved with this video.
God bless you guys
No, were still here.
This vid only encourage us to stop for a few days. Than we will be back to our normal habit again...
@aqilaiman9739 That's why we have to work hard to break the habit. I believe you can do it just as I can.
@@zayn6699 hope for me.
Unfortunately this video spreads awareness yes but the people who needs saving cannot be simply saved by a video without action themselves thus only by themselves can they have control in regulating porn usage away from addiction . .
It didn't save anyone, as it is out of touch. The issues that they claim have their roots in porn addictions, were actually the reasons for why we turn to it. Self esteem, negative self image, etc. was there before anything, which resulted in a shitty dating life, which resulted in a disinterest in dating whatsoever and instead just watching porn to satisfy the need. As you may have noticed, it's the last step, not the first.
I agree. But I feel kind of worse without. touch and love starved. Lonely. Not even having hugs or much good social interaction. With porn, I can distract myself for a short time and this is so addicting. Distract myself from my worries.
I have no love life and I don’t feel comfortable enough to search for real friends or partner’s actively. I don’t want anything to be ‘forced’ into. I want it more naturally. But I’m not even doing smth for it, like going out, interact with people outside of work, be more sociable. My comfortzone became so small lately.
I also distract myself with playing games, watching shows/movies/videos etc, quite loud enough, so my feelings/my mind/my overthinking won’t take over.
This is so frustrating.
My exact situation rn
i feel you, i relate really strongly to this. and i am very sorry. i am going through exact same thing. i dont have friends in real life. and my love life is non existent. actually i confessed to someone but got rejected and i cant stop feeling for them... because they changed my life.
loneliness makes me think of death and ending it all every day. i feel exhausted, touch depraved and feel sucker for some social interactions. there are some illnesses i got because of the way i lived till this day, because of the creeping depression, so many unrequited feelings and dreams and longings. but you know what? i decided to accept that i am lonely, miserable, isolated, with no friends, love, human touch, warmth and affection... i am accepting my circumstances and problems in order to move towards fixing them, step by step, slowly but surely, reassuring myself, lying to myself in order to not give up. its ridiculous but what hurts me the most also pushes me forward. i have still hope left, it hurts but it also makes me feel cornered and desperate, with no escape. but exactly because i have nothing to loose, i let it burn me away, this pain makes me so much more courageous and convicted to do something, to make things better, even if i loose some battles, and sometimes there are smaller victories and bigger defeats. nonetheless, you will never loose unless you give up. so use all the pain you have as a fuel, an energy and channel it into changes. small changes at first, don't be too harsh on yourself, treat yourself better, notice even the smallest wins and achievements and pat yourself on the shoulder. give yourself that hug, dont wait until someone does it. everything will come when you focus on living your life first, doing what you like, being where and when you should and need to be. dont look for people, dont cling to people, don't expect anything from anyone, they wont and they cant even if they wanted to, to fix your problems and change your life *for you*. the right people will appear in your life, dear. just keep your heart open, and don't be afraid of pain, the fear keeps you from taking risks that are sometimes necessary. enduring pain and risking for the greater good is what makes us the warriors, fighters. either way think about it. you *are* already in pain and agony. and you are still here, that's something i would say worth admiring. more pain, less pain, what's the difference? don't drown in it, dont feed it. use it as it's worth being used to make you stronger
I feel you. Socialising is so hard for me to the point that porn is just easier. I once tried very hard to use Tinder (as a gay man) to finally start looking for what I need while also trying to eliminate the usage of porn during masturbation. It didn’t work and I haven’t got any closer since. I did however, had both my worst “dating” experience and my best dating experience in my life during that time.
Hey. I know I don't deserve to say or decide anything.
But I just want to admit that yes you are right. I know that you and I are nothing alike. You are far better than me. You are the best.
See I don't believe there is anything wrong to try and do something except for the stereotypes of the world. But it's about you right? It's about the way you feel, how you enjoy your life and and how you cope or counter with your problems.
But it's the excess. It's about the abuse. Which is a slow poison which not only destroys you physically but mentally too.
See I care about you. No matter what they think I am here for you. You can talk to me if you like or you can report me if you don't.
All I know is I've been there and it's the worse.
And I don't want any of you guys suffer the same. So I don't care what you think I will always try to stop you before you fall.
Love and hugs❤
@@andreimircea2254 that is something i aspire to as a gay man as well... to look for something that i need... but can't reach out for it because i feel unworthy and unattractive to anyone. i admire your perseverance and courage
What dating life? I never had one to begin with. I am not what anybody wants and it's one of those things I am powerless to fix; I cannot fix opinions nor the people behind them. Porn itself is literally a coping mechanism for being rejected over and over because nobody found them attractive enough to even give them an milligram of opportunity. Porn exists for those who are unfortunate to only have fantasies of even a single touch from another human being because it's enigmatic and beyond elusive to those suffering from chronic and crippling loneliness. Porn is a symptom, not the cause.
(Real) we may look good that Doesn’t mean we get girls
It doesnt matter how you look sweetheart, YOU have to believe that you are worth being with. No one else can do that for you, you gotta believe in yourself. Wish you all the best!
@@isa7584 I never said anything about my looks; been told that I'm "nice" in conversation and that's all they give me. Afterwards they ghost the hell out of me.
I also did not say anything about me having any self-esteem issues about my beliefs of worthiness. I haven't had much issue with myself. It's the portions of the equation that I DO NOT have any input into the interdiction of others decisions; this is what we all are up against. I KNOW I AM WORTHY, you need to understand that it takes two people to proceed with a relationship and not one. If the any party to the situation does not want to proceed then that's it, it falls apart.
Their opinions of me are their own and once they are made, that's it, it's done, move on. The rejection is just showing that I am not in demand; think logically in terms of economics. If a guy is sought after by many women, his image to them is highly valued, if he's just waiting patiently being thoughtful and respectful but not one woman wants him then the only thing he can do is go on sale with the others whom have been viewed as not valuable just like we do in the $5 DVD bargin bin at Walmart. Is this making any sense now? Think. Men are being passed left and right by all kinds of women because they want the fanciest eye candy.
If some of us men improve our image (for some of us biology might like to have a word) can be difficult and by the time we are actually valued as human beings is when we dead and being put into the ground.
Tell me again that I need to view myself as worthy. TELL. ME. ONCE. MORE. I need you to take a step back and think.
@@isa7584 And how is that supposed to be done when it's shown again and again that you are not? Believing the exact opposite of what is being shown to you is just straight up insane
@@isa7584 What a stupid thing to say when it's incredibly important that other people value being with you.
Man I'm dealing with this now. I cut off the pron now that I'm with a new girl, but my general doesn't want to stand at attention for long because it's been so long, and I'm so used to just good ol' lefty. Things like oral that I used to even prefer over sex itself I can't feel a thing. The death grip is real. Then I get in my head about it happening again and it's an endless cycle. Thankfully she's patient but I hope the symptoms of death grip and pron addiction go away before she does.
Keep hoping it will go away? You've got to be kidding.
It just gets more brutal
Im asssuming after no fapping or pron for a while, the sensitivity and build up of not busting in a while will make the general ready to stand at attention until the end without pron lol. @lynnfisher3037
@lynnfisher3037 to add this happened with my last ex years ago, eventually it worked when I just relaxed and stopped being in my head about it. After the first successful bedroom Olympics I was good then. Sadly after a few years it devolved into a dead bedroom (on her. Her libido died due to drugs) I resorted back to porn. Broke up once I grew a pair, and yeah. Back at square one but in my experience going cold turkey and becoming more comfortable with someone eventually does the trick. Problem is most women don't want to wait that long lol
Relax and trust yourself and her. I've been in similar stituation, couldn't finish. After the third encounter or so I became more relaxed and confident and everything magically started to work properly. I think I had quit porn for about a month or so for that, and as I said it took a while to get confident and relaxed during sex but I got there. Sadly after breakup I started watching porn again regularly, but this video reminded me how bad the damage it does to me is.
Please the same video about romantic comedies and romantic movies which promote the healthiness of toxic relationships. These hurt me way more than porn
We will look into it. I will pass your comment to the team.
I used to think that a man needs to work hard to win the attention of a woman. The Disney movies were wrong! If she doesn't like you back, then you need to put that energy elsewhere.
The timing of this video is insane. I’ve been struggling for a long time and even though my girlfriend is supportive of me and helps, damn does the guilt eat away at you!
Same man same. 🫂
There’s a video from an interview with Terry Crews on Diary of a CEO about porn addiction and his overcoming it only recently, even while being married for decades. I would also check it out. There are many videos that COULD help. Unfortunately, I’m in the same boat of still being addicted… Accepting there is a problem apparently is the first step to recovering.
I somehow discovered a solution at least for myself. I used to play a Japanese adult game with a character creation option and put tons of mods to make it close to realistic design. After having a relationship, I put my gf in it. It slowly negates/overcomes all the points mentioned in this video, particularly the unrealistic fantasy and motivation problem.
I think that anti-porn people don't realize that guilt is an exciting feeling that heightens the feeling of doing the thing we are guilty of doing. They give people guilt which actually feeds the addiction.
@@KWifler If remorse excites you then you're doomed. There's a point of remorse you can't climb out of and you have to get help to move on.
0:14 aint no way someone drew that 😂
😂😂😂😂
The thing that looks like a ketchup bottle?
pfff that aint nothin
glad you posted this, everyone need to watch this!!
Thanks for being here early!
Maybe not *Everyone* cuz some people don't actually care about porn, but somewhat 60% do, so the vid is still pretty useful! 🤝
yepp truly usefull
@@Psych2gothank you very much
@@Psych2go btw just asking what are the effects of having a porn addiction for nearly a decade
This video is very accurate. I also want to add that studies show that pron makes you less satisfied with your partner. It also makes you focus more on the physical than their character as a person.
Thanks for adding!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porassss.
Off topic but I love how she posts on midnight in the Philippines :D
Same here but almost at midnight in Indonesia
Same in Aus
Bro why are you people wake still
Pre
Too relatable, thanks a lot for talking about it and pointing out the harmful effects, it helps in quitting as it gives good reasons to quit, as well as providing some great opertuneties for introspection in ones own life. Great video
I’m trying to stop my addiction…as time went on I started going to those websites more, up to 5 times during the day and many during the night. But as time went on I also learned how bad it was…I still watch it but now it’s at most 2 times a day, I try not to but the addiction is strong, so I do it at least once a day…compared to a year ago, I’ve made much progress. What makes it hard is how easy you can find things that show intriguing content on the internet, repeating the cycle once again
That's true. Just like RUclips, porn sites keep coming up with new content.. making you curious what's there.
As someone who keeps trying to heal and then falls into it again, this video makes me feel less loney. Even if I dont know how to help myself since im an hikikomori...Beautiful video, I see myself in 100% of it ❤
Or the more widespread issue I think is rather that, people TRY to find relationships, but no one wants to actually date anymore. So all we're left with is porn to feel literally ANYTHING.
I've had long term great relationships, and still watched porn. My last relationship ended for unrelated reasons last year, and its just so impossible to date now. It seems like everyone is emotionally unavailable, even if they're literally on a dating site. I can't meet anyone IRL, single people my age just dont exist in my area.
So no, I'm not missing dating opportunities due to porn. There just are significantly few dating opportunities anymore.
You don’t get it. What happens to society happens to us. What happens to your neighbor indirectly affects you. Once society becomes addicted or shifts mindsets, it affects you whether you partook in the shift or not.
Suggestion: Date someone from a foreign country
Pretty optimistic of you to think I had a dating life
I've been struggling with this since I was 8, and now I have been wondering why I have been acting the way I have been in social circles. This really helps with thinking about it and realizing what is going on when I am at that moment. Thank you.
It's something that has hurt me a lot in the past. Always had a hard time connecting with people... and a lack of friends just makes this all the more easy to fall into.
I didn't realize it ruined my life until it was too late. Please... whoever you are. You'll be okay... just please get away from this addiction.
I've been able to break it, and it's better for my health. The consequenceare still tolling. I just need some help navigating healing trauma from this stuff...
i think for many, it's not p0rn thats the problem but rather it's the lonelyness that they can't do( or they feel like they cant) anything about.
so, some just drown themselves in their pleasure untill they can't feel anything
and others take the path of chastity( no fap) to erase that desire altogether.
Thanks so much, I’ve had a porn addiction for a while and quit recently, this video brought so much awareness to what was happening to me! And I’m happy I quit!
>unrealistic fantasies
I just want to feel loved
Well, many assume that everyone sets unrealistic expectations, just for the reality to burst their bubbles. This reminds me of a video that says that many people are alone because they expect individuals without flaws.
As you said, many times you just want someone to engage with, many times without sex or other things in mind.
I can confirm by my experiences and how much I drilled down everything that the only thing that the vast majority of people want it's to be in good companion, not past that, although there are some that are a little kinky but that's another thing.
That's so unrealistic 🗿
With how crappy dating is nowadays, that is unrealistic.
Yea, this video is very relevant to me cuz I’m currently in high school and I’ve been struggling with this addiction for a long time and I’m trying to get out of it so far I’ve gone almost almost a whole week and I’m not gonna lie I’ve had some of these affects such as lack of physical interaction with other people thank you so much for this
Man with how life is at this point, I think I’d rather clock myself out than to continue with this. The addiction sucks, the lack of love makes it even worse, I feel like Sisyphus pushing a boulder up a mountain, always close yet nowhere near.
I use porn to actively avoid romantic relationships.
so sad
@@susshikiss5551 It's a sacrifice I am willing to pay
@@philswiftreligioussect9619 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
algorithm actually helped me today. This just explained a ton of issues I have. Thank you.
Thank you, you helped me with this video. Ive struggled with this for a long time, but im working on fixing the issue. This video related to alot of thoughts I have such as not actively pursuing daring activities. Its because of a variety of gactors, but the main thought is that fixing this problem is a priority before I seek a relationship. I have to do that in time. Thank you again.
Not how I wanted to realize I'm addicted but thank you, the video makes me feel less gross abt it
I’ve realized this now. I’ve been off of porn for more than a month now, and I do it for my current girlfriend. I need to be the best version of myself that can give her the partner she deserves. I realized all it did was cloud me, shape me into a person that was unhappy with his life deep down. Quitting it is gonna allow me to really work on myself and be better, and root out a lot of my problems.
My boyfriend needs to read this comment. He thinks his addiction or him watching porn Is a "personality" thing.
You should do it for yourself, not for girlfriend brother she's just a good motivation.
@@BerezniukMykhailo Oh of course I do it for myself, but she was just one more thing that made me realize why I need to quit. I’m still going strong 💪
@@jaidenvera5371 i know what you mean... it took until i caught my boyfriend trying to setup cheating on a fetish dating site while he was away ( didn't go through with it, actually found out almost a year after ) for him to stop looking at porn, after looking at it behind my back for years knowing i have ptsd tied to it, and catching him several times through the years. but now i'm so broken i can't trust if he's really stopped or not and i feel like i'm losing my mind with distrust. he didn't stop after seeing how hurt i was the times i caught him, so why would he stop now.. it's not a personality thing, its a choice. porn is not " who you are " that's such a crummy and frankly lazy excuse : i
@@jaidenvera5371I’ve suffered two partners who refused to attempt to cut back. Please leave ❤
Thank you for talking about this. These side effects are sometimes that most people overlook, or don't care to understand. I have been struggling with this addiction for more than 25 years. I have tried many times to stop. But every time I have tried talking to people about it. I get nothing but beratement, harassment, and criticism. Witch just aster bats the problem. And yes, this is coming from professionals that are supposed to help. I hate my addiction, and there for I hate myself for somewhat enjoying it. Only because I find it to be my only comfort. I try dating. But I can't tell you how many people just get up and leave when you try and bring it up. I can't tell you how many times I have been treated like a disgusting thing. Witch in the long run make the addiction even worse. And on the other side. I find porn completely revolting, discussing at points, and completely disrespectful to everyone involved that be those watching or the ones making it. There have been times where I considered castrating myself to just remove the problem all together. People that have only had this addiction for a short time, have no idea of the psychological destruction it will do to you over decades. And at this point I have been dealing with it for so long, I have pretty much given up on trying to stop. And now I just live in my own discomfort and lack of self-worth.
Well, you wanted to know what people thought. Well, this is what I deal with almost on a daily basis. Weekly if I'm lucky.
"You deserve to be happy and remember, you matter" just throw me in my siphon of misery and make me emotional, because of the topic from video and many other things, im uncapable of thinking in that way these days, i said that before but ill say it again, thank you for your work, thanks to you, im (and propably more ppl like me) trying my best to start existing, and videos like this, help me feel for a lil bit that i really matters, i cant seek help, and im too broken inside, but still, ur videos helpng me in my babysteps
Thank You P2G
Why did this guy 0:51 bring a box of tissues? 🤣🤣
In my case, my lack of social interaction stems from years of being used and unappreciated by others. Being around others literally makes me want to blow my brains out. So I use off-brand to help get my pent-up frustration & aggression out so I don't act up in public. It's not the healthiest of coping mechanisms but I make do with what I've been dealt with.
This feels very insightful there are lots of details I didn’t recognize were part of this dangerous addiction I feel more equipped to handle the problem.
Ive been addicted for 6 years now. I was only 13 when i discovered the horrible world the internet can be. And now im 19, and I struggle with it everyday. Ive reached out to my friends, and they wont help me. Im just glad that this video exist, that way i can remind myself on why its important for the pain to be there, and for the future of my life
This helped so much thank you.
Hold on few videos ago there is "How dating today sucks" or something like that.
This honestly helped me a lot. It helped me sort my life in order and actually made me socialize more than only being at home watching p@rn and i want to say thank you 😊
The point made in this video is ABSOLUTELY right with how the feelings of guilt and shame can contribute to a lack of motivation to pursue dating opportunities. There are many points made here that I can relate to and understand. Fantastic video @Psych2go!😁
I mean, p0rn is definetly bad, but I think a lot of people go, because they don't have another way to fullfil their love life, I'm one of them
I gave up on dating around 2 years ago and kept with my waifus, it kinda helped me to feel less sad, the problem is that my adiction with p0rn increased. So now I have this adiction plus the sadness of the person that I love not existing...
Step one of quitting any addiction is admitting there's a problem.
“It’s not an addiction it’s dedication”
practice practice practice///cheech and chong.
Praying and wishing luck to anyone who's in recovery.
Went a day today without looking at porn after several days of relapse. It is legitimately a daily battle and it takes a lot of effort and concious energy to avoid it. For me I noticed that it was making me isolated and unproductive, so any time the thought crosses my mind I try to go and meet up with friends and do smth I want to do but have been putting off.
thank you so much, it was not until i saw this video did i know that i have a real porn addiction, i mean at first i don't consider those thoughts like love is temporary, unworthy of love, lack of motivation but ye all of these are porn addiction consequences. u already point out all of it, and its so true that i all of this felt relatable to me. at this point, quitting is a must to me. thank you!
Trust me. My married life is already destroyed.
Timestamps
1). Unrealistic fantasies 1:14
2). Sexual shame 1:49
3). Fear of being stigmatized 2:54
4). How do you address the topic of porn addiction 3:06
5). Exacerbates negative body image issues 3:42
6). Lack of motivation 4:57
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
this is huge. thank you for making this video
This has helped me a lot thank you so much ❤❤ keep up the great work
I'm still working on quitting my addiction and balancing my life out
I'm still fighting this habit and I'm already dating someone. I hope to get better over the years
Story of my life. Everything in it is accurate and I have felt it deeply. Thanks for this!
I can relate, sadly very much. Getting rid of this addiction is so difficult
Thank you for this
i think for many, it's not p0rn thats the problem but rather it's the lonelyness that they can't ( or they feel like they cant) do anything about.
so, some just drown themselves in their pleasure untill they can't feel anything
and others try to take the path of chastity (no fap), as far as possible to erase that desire altogether.
...fasting helps, but loneliness doesn't go away unless you invite people in.
And, strangely enough? Most aren't worth befriending.
All too busy or self-absorbed.
Even my own _parents_ are like this, and they didn't use to be.
This video is very relate to me, and If I have to speak boldly and honetly, I still find struggle for help because of I keep it secret to everyone around me and I don't know who to seek and where to find the help that I need.
I've never seen a video that I would relate so much to and would describe my situation so precisely. It is spot on, especially the bits about not feeling worthy of love or able to form a relationship. For a long time I didn't know what caused those feelings but now I do and it turns out that almost all of my mental and social problems are caused by porn consumption. The funny thing is that I was well aware that the periods my mental health was in the toilet coincided exactly with the periods of porn consumption but I was living in denial and didn't want to admit it. I had one of these periods just recently and I was majorly depressed. Then I didn't watch any porn for two days and now I'm good as new, happy and super motivated. It's time I stop lying to myself and stop listening to those defending porn and saying that it's no so bad or even beneficial for you.
Thank you, Psych2Go. You have no idea how much you helped me with this video.
I got over my addiction like a year ago but it is still ruining my life. also I am Aromantic but not asexual because of it witch makes me feel like a bad person.
As someone with a porn addiction and in a relationship, from my experience, it makes me feel insatiable around my partner. Its not that i campare them to people i see in porn, but it makes me lust for them more than i feel like is normal. I dont invade their boundaries, but i don't want that to be an issue later on. Another thing is the "null state" i get into after PMO. It sorta makes me feel as if i dont love them, even when i do. It makes all of my emotions kinda dull. I've noticed that when i dont PMO, my emotions become very, very intense, and i feel kinda disingenuous for only having such strong feelings when im technically "in the mood." I'm going to try to stop PMOing so that i can get to a baseline on my emotional state, and be a better lover. This video helped me clarify my thoughts a lot, thank you Psych2Go.
Thanks for sharing the story. I hope you find a right baseline with your emotions. You're already strong for being so reflective and able to share your experience.
What would you recommend someone to do when their partner is possiblg going through it? What would you like your partner to do? Looking for advice.
Thank you for this video I felt down today and almost related with everything that was said in this video
thank for opening up on this topic. it really destroys the relationship u want with someone else. there is too much fantasies and expectation. u have low self esteem bcz of porn. its not only porn were u can get that thres is movies, books, webtoon were u ca get them from. u might think that those unrealistic thigs u watch and read , u want them to be in the relationship and leaving ur real self behind.
Picking the fight to not engage with any kinds of pornography content every single now and it has been 4 months straight, and IT IS resulting in a different perspective of romantic relationships especially how i view women.
Bless you for making this video. A lot of people like me were deeply affected by pornography at a young age, and we don’t learn the ramifications of these actions until it’s already too late. Luckily these effects are 100 percent reversible and videos like this remove the stigmatization of talking about the effects of relying on porn as a crutch. 8 days free of porn!
IDK about anything else but your voice is so soothing that now i feel sleepy
Thank you for sharing this.
Amazing topic I agree
You didn't even watch the video fully!
Its a 7 min video
@@redchris4568 good point but I watch a lot of other videos like this .
My dating life was destroyed long before i knew what sex was.
Your soft voice is sometimes the only thing that heals me.
I’m not addicted but it’s all I’ve got.
As an introvert im kinda hosed anyway. I want people connection but im so conditioned to being alone uts painful to try.
What about online dating?
I really needed this today.
As a person with zero dating life, this was extremely useful
This is one of the best videos I've seen on the subject. The characters do not indicate gender and they actually used the "M" word... masturbation. I would recommend this video to anyone who wants to end their dependence on pornography or hopes to begin a dialogue with someone they care about. Well done!!
The more I live without porn and masturbation, the more terrified I become of wisepread use
The silent drive killer.
I really like this girl. Her company and love is what keeps me from watching everyday
your voice is sooooo calming i almost cry
Is it the same as making up scenarios 😭😭 sounds the same. Unrealistic expectations, adrenaline, escaping reality, like.....
Can be, and that's called 'catastrophizing.'
Women have it so easy
What dating life?
But about the video :
The most useful advice someone told me “if dani devito got pu$$¥ while not being famous I think you also can” 😅
this really made me think of my insecurities as not important and started to look about my outlook in life and to start quitting my bad habits like porn or drinking I don’t know if this is useful to someone else but it was for me.
Danny Devito still had a funny personality and amazing charisma to override his shortcomings. He wasn't a genuine weirdo with zero social skills
@@carnagerulez312 that was my point, everyone has a little something than makes people like them, even when you have problems with that part of yourself , i don’t think them as shortcomings but as a part of what make you, you. Yeah i agree with the point about devitto having charisma but it is also it as important to improve the parts that you want to change in you life.
Thanks for this great video!
I have seen a lot of more of these videos of recent, idk why my algorithm is doing this. I watched one video on relationships and porn addiction was mention on a list of 5 things that negatively effect your relationship, now I just keeping seeing this.
im cooked😭😭😭😭😭
Same☠️☠️☠️☠️
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Me as well
See I don't have this problem, because all I get are scams.
The shame and stigma are so real. It prevents people from seeking help even.
And don't let me get started on PIED. Furthering the feelings of inadequacy and shame and negative self image.
I think you should do a video about when single parents trauma dump on their children because this topic needs more recognition!