Depression, lack of sexual partner, inability to love opposite sex, desocialisation, anxiety based introversy, General lack of empathy and will, to do anything toward contact with opposite sex, General distain for mentally unstable women protected by society and being looked down upon by women and society just for being normal man. Woman choose to bully men in to submission, men decides to boycot entire female species and ability to have kids and family, stupid bitches will realise men can live without them far to late to made any changes. Men choose sex-robots and artificial wombs. Females no longer would have ANY roles in men life and would be abandoned to the extiction, they no longer would be mothers majority would delete womb just so they could no longer have discomfort of periods. And this would become norm, males and females be two entirety diffirent species, family will no longer exist in modern society. Men would eventualy throw useless emotionless females out of society they create. And would have to work as whores in less advanced countries. This is our future. And women destroyed it
1 Loneliness & escapism 2 Chasing the dopamine high 3 Developing tolerance 4 Too much dopamine 5 Mental health conditions 6 Hypofrontality 7 Traumatic brain injury in an early life stage
Considere this: Watching p*rn 2 hours a week ≠ addiction. When people talk about this, they assume it to already represent an addiction. It is the only thing on earth people consume so little and still considere themselves addicted. I ain't telling u to watch more tho. The main factor for the rising of it is 1. Human/male nature; 2. Loneliness.
Congrats! But how are you dealing with the feelings now I’m trying to start too but I’m feeling so lonely some times and I crave the highness after the orgasm … how do u spent your time now that you’re not doing it any advice ?
@seanblohm8767 I'm also trying to stop. The things I've been doing are talking to my friends, hanging out with my family, painting, writing, and going for a walk. I also work or work out to keep my mind off it.
Self hate can be used to your favour! It's (VERY) painful tough. My example: every time I feel like I hate myself, I choose to retribute my actions by exercising literally twice as hard and twice as much. (I don't do it to strengthen my body, but to strengthen my willpower and resilience, and it works out for me)
I went off my antidepressants and my sex drive exploded. I didn't have a partner and didn't want to do it with just anyone so I got addicted to porn, was watching at least 4 times a day and it was awful. Extremely depressing and it messed up the way I thought and communicated with people. It's very rare that I've heard anyone talk about this side effect of going off of antidepressants. It took 3 years to lower my sex drive and porn use and it was very difficult. Distraction with other healthier hobbies is very helpful, remembering that you want to change and can't change unless you deny yourself helps a lot too. I'm feeling much better now, I felt like I was turning into a monster and I didn't like myself. Your brain and body will require it less often if you see how long you can make it without it. You can lessen the extremity of what you watch as well, working down to vanilla stuff. It's difficult but not impossible. It's like any addiction where you have to really want to change and always remember that it isn't what you really want for yourself.
It's equally unhealthy, if not more damaging to go out and hook up with randoms just because of your sex drive. You just trade porn addiction for sex addiction. Hope you're doin better
@Drikkerbadevand not really as theres a chance you can find a connection with someone and want to stay with them whereas porn will just forever be a one sided street
@@xxxthwagdrakexxx4672 I stuck to porn to avoid STIs and STDs and also because anyone looking to jump into bed quickly is just looking to jump into bed quickly. People give way too much of themselves that way. Mentally, it hurts a lot sometimes to be rejected when you want more and people get used. When you're female, you are also seen as a slut if you do this. Also, the amount of sex my brain and body were telling me I wanted was an unreasonable amount. I would have exhausted anyone even if I had multiple partners.
One that is not mentioned enough- lack of physical contact from the opposite sex. The intense hunger for touch and longing for intimacy manifests itself in addiction to porn, as the person tries to imagine for themselves what they are watching. It's not even sex the person often craves... it's just human intimacy (ie kissing, cuddling in bed, etc). And to settle it straight, this affects men exponentially more than women.
Man there are a lot of women who watch porn for the same reasons that you stated. And that number might be more than men. People don't talk about it because they don't want to see the bad side of women and hold them accountable for some reason.
@@kingdon7795i doubt it. for my women friends a "long time" without sex for them is a couple weeks/ months without it. im almost 25 and male and have had sex just one time. im at least happy that most people especially the opposite gender arent like me at least. the only people ik who are like me are other men
Guys I quit today. Not just a regular promise. I was really drown deep down to soul by it. I am today really becoming to be fresh. I'm becoming the person I want to be.Please pray for me ❤
u will probably fail. because if you want to get rid of an addiction instantly, it will be pretty hard and u will probably give up. and u try again. and again. and again. until you lose your all hope and become completely addicted to it. if you want to be fresh, clean yourself slowly. i mean watch pron whenever u want. but try to decrease the rate of it. for example if you look at it 3h everyday, make it 3 hours every 2 day. or make it 1.5 h everyday. depends on you. so when u feel ready, decrease it more , more and more. until you got rid of it. i hope u will read this and beat it. i suffered same thing too.
Words are cheap. Just do it or don't. But nobody here hives an honest shit. If you say you quit you probably didn't, if you did you shouldn't feel the need to be here.
I haven't had a date in 5+ years. I haven't had a girl-friend in 10+. I'm just desperate for emotional intimacy and pr0n seemed like the only substitute. I'm lonely, and I just want to feel touched, and cared about, desired, and loved.
The fact that you want that means that you alredy love yourself. You might still need emotional support, but as long as you belive that you are valuable, you can fight your way out of addiction. If you value yourself simply for loving yourself, you will have a positive attitude that can be quiet attractive, but only for the right people. You are not yearning for s*x, but for a shoulder to lay your head on, wich in itself makes you deserve that shoulder (please, read this sentence again for it is something I want you to understand and belive) P*rn is a temporary way out, but you can't leave until you achived whatever you are up to. Stay strong!
i was exposed to porn when i was really young, it scared me so much im still dealing with anxiety that sexual stuff brings me. i wish porn would be made way more inaccessible because i know im not the only one with this issue. children should not be so easily exposed to stuff like that since it can and in most cases will cause long term problems, whether developing an addiction to it at a very young age, or dev. anxiety over that stuff.
I don't believe that watching or enjoying porn is inherently bad. It's only bad if it's overdone and/or used to supplement for something else that you want that would be better for you.
That was helpful ! Porn addiction destroyed me. Literally. Mentally and physically. I m 46 and still struggling. I m fighting alone. I cant speak to anyone else about that. First i m ashamed a bit. To reveal the size of the problem. Secondly i dont think that many people around me are capable of helping me . But everything in this vid are so true ! And i felt a little...hope ! Thanks !
If you can't quit, but are seriously trying, you're ambitious. If you can quit with some external help (friends, family, maybe a psychologist), you are strong (by strong, I mean STRONG) If you can quit all alone, you, my friend, are a legend.
There are people out there, whose literal job is to listen to your worries/concerns/difficulties, and to take you/them seriously. They're often known as therapists/counsellors. Not intended to be patronising in any way. There is support out there, if you don't currently have it, and I'm not saying you will have the best support available for you, in your area, but there are options. You don't have to suffer by yourself, in silence. I think you've probably done enough of that already. Of course, there are bad therapists/counsellors out there too, let's not pretend there aren't. However, wouldn't it be worthwhile in looking for one of the good/better ones to help improve your quality of life and help you through this? I'm massively biased, of course, but my intention is to reach out and just spark a consideration that there is a way out of this, and I don't mean abstinence (although, if that's what you personally need/find beneficial, then that's your path forward. The path doesn't have to be a rigid, uniform line either, but it's YOUR path, for your life, and no one else can walk it).
1. Loneliness and escapism (0:22) 2. Chasing the Dopamine High (1:22) 3. Developing Tolerance (2:09) 4. Too much Dopamine (2:49) 5. Mental Health Conditions (3:30) 6. Hypofrontality (4:22) 7. Traumatic Brain Injury in an early Life Stage (5:03)
Porn addiction is a tough battle, but it's one that you can overcome. It's important to remember that seeking help and support is a brave step forward, and you should be proud of yourself for acknowledging the issue. Many people turn to porn as a coping mechanism for various underlying reasons. Some common roots of this coping mechanism include stress, loneliness, boredom, low self-esteem, and past trauma. Understanding these triggers can be a crucial part of breaking free from the cycle of addiction. But remember, recovery is possible. It's about finding healthier ways to cope with difficult emotions and situations, building a support system, and practicing self-compassion along the way. Take it one step at a time, and be gentle with yourself throughout the process.
addition to the list: 1. Stress relief 2. Mending/Filling a void left by someone you love, never to return again 3. A surrogate/substitute for a romantic, intimate relationship we may never have due to circumstances
Well at least you know the problem now And you can fix it over time There are many ways and books that talk about such topics and I'm pretty sure it can help you too (sorry if it sounds a little weird and out of nowhere)
u can use internet to solve loneliness. may not work suddenly but u will find some friends here. just patience. and always remember that its not your fault to feel seek of escape from stress and loneliness. this and these wrong things are indicators that u are a human, not a robot.
@@lovelumity cuz u dont speak enough. if you agree, that means u were lonely too, just like me. i recommend u to speak with ur friends more and dont overthink about the things you say. if you say smt bad, u can always say sorry. and if they are real friends, they will always forgive you. also remember that everyone is imagining each other like a perfect person. which leads to a problem. like thinking that everyone is better tthan you, or everyone should be perfect. the first one is sometimes a symptom of social anxiety and related stuff. but remember, everyone is just showing their golden side to each other to not get critisized. but it is wrong. because no one is perfect and if you struggle with talking to people, that means u give too much love to them. that means u are too good, which is bad. because u will be a target for manupilations. so dont be too kind and sometimes be rude. but also learn forgiving and ignoring. they are one of the most important thins in social relationships. and the second one is leading to calling everyone "bad". because if they have failed to be the one you imagined, you will be disappointed and angry. so if you want to see the golden side, taste the rusty iron side first. so u will never get disappointed. by that sentence, i mean looking at everyone like they are evil. so u will be surprised by the good in them and wont get disappointment from their bad side. because u will be expecting that. anyway, if u need more help just tell me. i suffered those stuff sm that i learned how to break them. and remember, bad people never walk to you with a dagger, and good people never disagree the dagger they are holding.
Please, don't be so hard on yourself. Porn is free and it works to achieve an orgasm. Times are difficult. I'm totally sure the majority of the population in the world are going through this same coping mechanism. Not everyone has a partner. Specially millennials & gen z. Take this video as a resource of education in the subject and to be aware of porn addiction but if you just masturbate once a day, everyday with porn, i'm sure that's totally normal. Since you're single and need to release stress.
For me, it's a combination of depression, anxiety, loneliness, unfulfilled sexual needs, and touch starvation. I've been addicted to porn for over 11 years now as a negative coping mechanism following my mom passing away from ironically enough, breast cancer. I just don't see myself being able to break free until I can find a romantic and sexual partner, which seems unlikely given my piss poor social skills given I'm on the Autism Spectrum and more importantly I'm afraid to put myself out there out of fear of rejection since I assume everyone is out to expose me since everyone feels the need to put others down to feel better about themselves given how miserable everyone is in this world. Most days I wish I didn't feel anything. But whatever, this is just my lot in life. Working hard for pennies so everyone else can live happy, pain-free lives. I envy everyone who is happy and in a relationship. I wish I could be committed to a psych ward, but unfortunately, I can't where I live unless you're actively homicidal or suicidal. There just aren't beds for everyone who needs one
I feel immensely for your struggles… I also suffer greatly from the burden of both anxiety and depression. As well, I’ve been battling addiction for many years with limited success. Daily I question if I shall ever be freed from the grasp of these things of affliction. If you’re interested, I would be willing to help hold you accountable with your addiction through messages. I sincerely care for you, and I will be keeping you in my prayers daily.
Reaching out as a person who also lost their mom at a young age from breast cancer, shit sucks. sending healing vibes to you. That combined with always being the breadwinner or person taking care of my partner when I was in relationships, I gravitated towards MILF content because I just want to be taken care of sweetly by an endearing mature woman. Crazy how sociology and trauma effects something as distant as what fetishes we develop.
After a few years getting a hit every 3 days or so. Went to a counselor and am making progress. Sadly as someone with ADHD it makes it even harder. I definitely fall into that 1st category. Escapism and loneliness. Hope everyone else here that is dealing with this gets help as well.
Thank you so much for educating us on stuff like this!! It’s really important for information like this to be spread and I’m super happy that this channel is doing just that!!!
The timing of this was perfect, this I think is the first time I'm watching a video about Mast / porn addiction, but I know I have an addiction but the reasons had my jaw drop.. its a tough battle to overcome
No, you nailed the causes really well. You haven't missed anything as far as I'm aware of. I have observed these causes within in myself, and now I can confidently say that I have established behavioral patterns that balance things out in life. From my own experience, the pride I feel from resisting the urge to cave-in what feels like an unhealthy form of consumption has had a profound effect that shouldn't go unnoticed. It's a motivating factor in of itself.
Agreed, once you actually take a look at your thoughts in the moment, you realise that the reason you do it is quite simple. In my case, I haven't entirely solved it yet, but I'm getting closer.
Just thought I'd give a bit of input because I've struggled with porn addiction for most of my life. I started watching porn because I couldn't get a girlfriend when I was in high school and really it just followed on from there. Even to this day at 34 I've still never had a girlfriend or wife, I don't really have any family and I was diagnosed with a chronic mental health condition at a young age, people around me have often treated me cruelly which caused emotional damage, so now I pretty much just want to shut myself off from the world and not deal with it anymore. I live a very lonely life and I live in an apartment I have through social housing and I don't work or anything because of the mental health condition. One thing I've definitely realized in life is no one cares about people like me, which basically perpetuates the negative cycle of porn addiction and many other things and I can't see my life ever getting any better. The only reason I'm still alive is because I derive pleasure from the temporary thrill I get out of the things I do on a daily basis which I won't go into detail on. I'm not suicidal but I know one day I will die and it will all be over and I won't have to deal with my shit life anymore.
I suppress/ignore my libido all the time. It works for me, tough, I still fall back to the pit sometimes (meaning like once in a month, but it really works in most cases)
I'm curious - probably why I've been to SAA once or twice 😅; What do you mean by "it works" for you? As in, what form does suppressing your libido take/in what way has it helped? I'm also curious about the choice of phrasing, but that's another point altogether.
Thank you for finally posting a video like this. Nobody ever talks about what really drives men to porn use. And in the end us men get labeled as “pigs.” We deal with it worse than women
I use it because I need to feel good and it works. I've never experienced tolerance and the need to escalate. Same intensity of things does it for me every time. And I stop craving it when I actually have somebody in my life. I'm just lonely, sad, and want to feel good for a bit.
Same here, I used to harshly criticize myself over being "addicted" to porn but later realized I was just really bored and wanted to make the time pass somehow It's weird though I have ADHD and for whatever reason I have never struggled with any addictions whatsoever, which is usually a very common thing within ADHD people
Exactly. Don't be so hard on yourself. Porn is free and it works to achieve an orgasm. Times are difficult. I'm totally sure the majority of the population in the world are going through this same coping mechanism. Not everyone has a partner. Specially millennials & gen z. Take this video as a resource of education in the subject and to be aware of porn addiction but if you just masturbate once a day, everyday with porn, i'm sure that's totally normal. Since you're single and need to release stress.
I don't really try to find any content more intense and I've been in a relationship for nearly 20 years. She's fine with my porn usage because she can have a break if she's not in the mood. Nobody feels shame about it and no one has ruined their lives or our relationship because of it. Also, we're swingers. I feel like these exceptions are difficult for some people to accept.
I think there's something about porn addiction that almost no one talks about, which is that the more you consume, the more common content becomes boring, and then we look for hardcore and even illegal stuff. I've been through this, and when we're in this dopamine trance, our brain doesn't register what's right and wrong, and after it passes we're like "Why did I watch this?!?!?" But we must remember that this is a mental problem, an addiction, and it does not mean that you are a pedophile or a criminal, especially since people like this seek out this stuff of their own free will and do not feel bad after watching it.
It'd the dopamine receptors basically being fried up and so your brain is less receptive to dopamine so it seeks sexual novelty, and the shame and taboo hooks you onto it. Porn basically desensitises your brain and makes you crave huge dopamine hits from messed up stuff because you need more and more stimulation for a high. Really damaging honestly, there's no positives to it
Timestamps 1). Loneliness and escapism 0:22 2). Chasing the dopamine high 1:23 3). Developing tolerance 2:07 4). Too much dopamine 2:48 5). Mental health conditions 3:29 6). Hypofrontality 4:21 7). Traumatic brain injury in an early life stage 5:01 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Once I started to go to the gym, my mind was too tired to be anxious, in that way, I had enough mental strong to stop consuming porn when an empty feeling came. I started to eat a proper anti-inflammatory diet, and I'm feeling in control of my body and my mind. I'm not the best guy in the gym, but I'm 20 days of no-fap and I see the real difference after 3 years of experimenting hard depression symptoms.
The greatest thing I have ever achived is to make sleeping the same refuge that p*rn used to be once. Even tough I still fall back like once in a month, I feel powerful after not watching it for a while. I'm 16 now and I fight it all alone, but it only makes me more determined. Lots of love to all my brothers (and sisters, if there are girls also struggling with that), you harden my resolve and give me power!
I have never heard of any counselor suggesting porn as you said and illustrated in the beginning. And if they did, they are wrong for doing that because the majority of people who watch porn get addicted to it. At the end of the day, it makes life worse, not better.
The addiction aspect is a problem but honestly I don't think watching porn itself is actually that bad if it is used appropriately and is within the individuals control. You can't ignore the fact that our bodies simply have a sex drive biologically. Love and companionship is the driving force of dopamine into our heads and sometimes it just takes longer for people to find a partner.
Woah super interesting. 🎉 i would've never thought a brain injury could mess with how you deal with sexual desires. Thats so informative and brings more understanding to those dealing with this kind of addiction. I feel bad for those who do it so often and hurt themselves. Getting muscle spasms, leaving cuts and bruising or even further damage to their very sensitive parts.😢
Sadly, it’s not so much an addiction… rather a moral struggle… I know it’s wrong, I get that feeling of satisfaction… but then I hate myself afterwards… as a Christian, this has proven quite a challenge for me… as well as the fact that I’m constantly wanting a relationship… I need someone to love. People tell me that I need to ask God to help me through things… and that when I accept that Jesus is who I need to be seeking a spiritual relationship with, then that person will come into my life……. But it’s SO damn difficult!!! I’m 22 years old, and I’ve never been in a serious relationship before, never had sex, never had a first kiss, never gone on a date (I was in an online relationship for less than 2 months, so I don’t really count that), and all I want is someone to be with. Someone to love and care for. Someone who I can embrace… it’s not fun….. 😔
I’ve struggled with this myself for the longest time, mainly because of loneliness/sexual repression. Recently it got really bad, I would watch content several times a day to the point where it would interfere with my social life with friends. I decided that’s not what I wanted with my life so I installed a porn/content blocker and it’s been a month without watching any content. I still struggle with the feelings of loneliness nowadays but don’t have access or the means of digging my hole any deeper.
Funny thing is, delyed gratification would probably at least help with the diminishing returns on dopamine. Everything truely is better in moderation than excess. ... And I don't mean edging. Like days off from it entirely, or a week even.
I learned early on that people will mock you for liking someone. This was idk, 5th grade? I didn’t go to my parents cuz i didn’t trust them to help me with this since they seemed more concerned with my younger siblings. Now i don’t know how to approach girls romantically or how to open up slowly to people. I’m afraid i’ll just trauma dump, and no woman deserves that, especially if i’m supposed to like them.
You don't have friends you can talk to about your feelings? Just talk to a girl like you'd normally would a guy, without using vulgar words though. Girls are different just like guys are different. Some won't care if you say the wrong thing and some will. Like look, i'm a girl. Talking to guys is way easier for me, but when I say the wrong thing without even realizing, some guys get mad, don't explain and some even leave me. And even, as a girl, the same happens with girls. Is just how life is. So just talk normal to girls and if they don't wanna invest in the friendship or even relationship, then don't think anything is wrong with you, they just aren't your people. If you listen and care to correct your behavior, and talk about your feelings and expect others to correct their behavior too, just because people have a problem not wanting to be told what to do while loving to tell others what to do, doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. They are in the wrong for being so hypocritical and entitled. The right people will show up, just be patient. And remember, not all friendships, people, are meant to last forever. That's also a reminder for me because I've lost friends that I could have swore I'd have forever, but they're gone. We aren't on bad terms, we just stop investing in the friendship i guess. Is strange. But it really shows that as much as it may not seem like it, some people just aren't meant to be in your life for much. And I guess, that's okay.
I was a addict because for me I was using it to escapism as I was very tired and lonely from school and I thought that my life was ruined. Until I turned my life to God and ever since then I’ve lived a lovely life so remember God is always with you and even if you relapse he still loves you and you can overcome this.
I want to break free i feel terrible i end up hating my life after but i cant break free it just helps with my mental and emotional health but i just brings it down even more
I don’t think I’ll ever be the same again. And because I don’t think I’ll ever be the same I will be alone and nobody will love me. And because nobody will love me I’ll sink further until it gets me into trouble. My life feels on track to being forfeit. And I do feel… hopeless.
Hopeless? Such thing does not exist. I know what you feel, and this golden rule helped me out of it. Give quitting a try, and wait. Just wait. Spring will come and will wash all the filth, guilt, self hatred and yearning away.
Nah man, don’t think that. Quit RIGHT NOW. At least try to. You’re going to feel strong knowing that you can resist the urge to do it. As for someone loving you, finding the right person can take time. Doesn’t have to be right away. Hopeless? No. Feel hopeful about yourself.
I tip my hat off to @Psych2go, for making these recent videos on porn addiction(or addiction to adult-related content). It's not the easiest topic to discuss openly, but still important nonetheless. Like they've discussed, watching too much porn can be a way of escaping from reality or to give yourself a temporary "high"(or good feeling). With porn addiction it may feel like you're going down this dark rabbit hole with no chance of climbing out. However with enough time and effort we ALL can climb out and emerge stronger than before. Remember everyone, WE GOT THIS! As @Psych2go has stated in the past, "You are not alone" in the battle against porn addiction. And remember, there's so much more life has to offer! Fantastic video @Psych2go! And thank you for helping so many of us.
I've always basically understood how someone who's alone could get addicted to porn. But I never understood how someone could get addicted if theyre already in a relationship with someone. Why wouldn't they just ask their partner? Communication is the most important factor in any relationship.
Main causes are Anxiety and Stress. Porn addiction is a coping mechanism to fight anxiety and stress. you could switch to cigarettes, alcohol, eating disorders, video games, exercise, driving fast or any hobbies. If you don't have coping mechanism Anxiety and Stress will kill your body. Sadly if you introduce to porn addiction at early age that would be your coping mechanism against stress and anxiety.
Please remember that daily masturbation is normal and porn consumption is as well. If it makes you feel bad or interferes in your life, its an addiction.
I feel as though ive been struggling with a porn addiction for about a year now, but i keep denying it because i dont wanna say that i have an issue i might not have, but its been really hard to stop. This video lists almost every reason why and its mindblowing. I've tried to stop, and I went for a whole month when i started dating my current gf, but i relapsed and its gotten worse.
I remember being an only child raised by a hardworking mom who wasn’t home most of the time I felt alone that is when I found porn and I hid myself and my loneliness with porn little did younger me know how bad it was
Actually what makes Porn addictive is 1 thing, and that is it ruins your brain Dopamine receptors making them less sensitive, hence rendering regulars life activities dull and boring and only strong stimulants like Porn ends up being effective.
I noticed that after I was more accepted by surrounding and be more often invited to meet friends or just chat with someone, I completely stopped watching explicit content…
I think if you're generally prone to addiction, porn addiction is always near. When I was like 12 I started watching porn. When I was 13 I started smoking weed and when I was 14 I started doing hard drugs. Was addicted to hard drugs for 10 years(am sober for more than a year now). I binged on uppers for days, especially speed and meth, mixed with many other drugs. My porn addiction really kicked off then... I literally watched porn for like 4 days and nights, before going to sleep for 1 night and then starting over again. I also developed some very fucked up fetishes along the way. Getting deep in to porn mixed with the drugs and alcohol made me very depraved in my tastes. I'm off the drugs now, but my fixation with porn still remains. Luckily it's not nearly as bad, as before. Going to rehab and talking about it in detail with my therapist helped me a lot. I think there are multiple causes for my porn addiction though.. Anyway.. if you feel it controls your life, seek help. Therapy helped me a lot to accept myself and love myself more, cause I hated myself and wanted to kill myself before. I would definetly recommend Therapy to eyeryone, it really works. Anyway much love from germany. Peace😊
i once thought to myself "when will i let go of porn? its bad for me. i need to get off it. but how can i ever let go of it? its the only thing that gives me temporary high and escape from my lonliness"
As long as its not controlling your life why is it so bad? I see so many posts about people trying to quit or bashing it. If you cancel plans with friends to watch it or you have to watch it a certain amount each day/week you have a problem but if its just a background activity in your life I don't see much negative to it, especially if single. To me I see a lot of positives from it too. Too much of anything is bad, if its not controlling your life or altering your view of reality than I don't see much of an issue. I think it depends what kind you watch too, if its super unrealistic fantasy stuff, it may effect you differently than watching more traditional kinds.
@@GarrotWire imo discipline comes from the ability of self-control. Personal gratification impulses (sexual urges) are very potent & often trounce one's ability to control oneself. Hence inindating their discipline. But ey that's just me you do you son.
I spent a lot of time by myself scrolling. I also kept looking up two girls I kind of liked (not a lot for one of them). I felt bad about it because it felt like stalking but i did it anyways. Therefore, I basically was already in a mindset of looking up whatever I wanted. I then at some point looked up porn solely out of curiosity, wanting to know what stuff looked like. I felt grossed out and figured I didn’t want to look it up again. But it just needed time to “kick in”, and I eventually realized I genuinely wanted to go back, not out of curiosity. A couple months later I did, and looked up porn a couple days after that as well. This was a little over a year ago. I feel part of the problem with me escaping is I’ve been trying to quit this whole time. People will say they’ve gotten better since trying to quit, but I’ve only gotten worse. I cannot have gotten better as I tried quitting from the start, and yet here I am. If I got better, it would mean I’d have stopped. Trying a few strategies I think will help, but we’ll see.
Best solution is to not talk about it. Go outside, talk to someone, take a picture, go aesthetic, do whatever you please that could improve your ability like reading books in the bench, bike or jog for stamina, or pretty much don't use a phone or music, just think and do, have sweat and muscles, cook some delicious food, brag it go make a kite and fly it around, Live a little, make yourself a good person by bearing everything and not complain abouf life, be forgetful and forgiving, be understanding, be sorry, have a compassion ITS NOT HARD! and after all this is done will you realize... How stupid you are to spend the rest of your life in a room with nothing but technology.
Educating myself on addiction, especially more recently, I’ve learned that sex (or porn) is an addiction. Not my thing but I can relate it to my own addictions. In fact, I’ve got a new tactic that I’m almost certain will stop me from buying another pack of cigs. Wish me luck 🥴
- watching porn as a way to cope with own lack of sex life - realising what you watch will never happen to you (and not just some weird fetishes, I mean sex at all) rinse and repeat
no wonder i have had several concussions in my life, i suffer from a couple of the mental health issues listed, and i tend to be less social than others
Who has the thing when you watch or play something new and then you are like "hm is there a porn about this?" You search it and everytime you dont do anything just watch it? I have it
Solution to this problem: a place where the community meets each other and where you can meet new people, form new friendships, and remove fantasy and build relationships.
As a black man who was molested at age 9. I struggled with the porn addiction for the majority of my life. This was before it was ever on your phone. This addiction was true struggle and it effected my relationships. but with thru therapy and the grace of GOD I’ve been Porn free for 7 years and counting. Anyone who struggles in this area you can break free.
Parents help shape the values of their children. My question is, why does porn watchers (not necessarily addicts) keep their activity secret from their parents if it is indeed a pleasurable experience?
Because some parents may be so strict about porn and masturbation that there will be severe problems if they find out, there were situations when the parents disown their kids without a second thought for watching porn or masturbate, this kind of stuff usually happens in very religious families
Quit watching porn 4 years ago. The best decision the universe helped me make led to spirituality and celibacy. I think alcohol and porn addiction lead to poor choices. The next man I give my body to will be the forever one and looking forward to it 🧘🏽♀️😊🐈⬛
This video has made me think, I was sh’ed and even since then I’ve been horrified to have been sexual about anything in my real life, this has caused me to only been able to look at things online, I’m not self diagnosing, but if the ptsd could be my issue I don’t know if I’d ever have a support system to ever go to either way to fix it properly, but I’ll start directing my need for dopamine and serotonin to my other interests to try and make myself feel better
the best thing that I can do to avoid thinking about it, doing anything or anything to that effect is to distract myself, writing- drawing- exercise- talking to someone- or just leaving my room and staying in the living room for a while helps too, since I associate the action with that room specifically..
Maybe. But in today's fast moving world with hustle culture and inflation and whatnot, lots people are working themselves to death just to afford the basics. Point being, that many young folk dont always have tons of free time. Or at least time we can actually relax----hustle culture. I'd argue that porm addiction would be used as a coping mechanism for all the stresses of evetyday life.
Yeah but my main point is, if a person spends a lot of time outdoors (to make money, to have a certificate, skills, talking to friends etc etc) then he comes home tired and still does the dishes, cleaning etc etc. He'll never have time to think of watching porn, surely that person will prefer to sleep than to use the phone. That is the reason why the majority of porn addiction is young.
@@LilJoshua99Having actually attended SAA, I can tell you for a fact, that it's not exclusively a young persons thing. I was the youngest (in that group of attendees) member when I attended, and I was 25/26 at the time. Can we stop pretending that there isn't large scale job insecurity going on right now, and people can't always "just go work the land" or whatever. We live in the here and now, not yesteryear.
@@LilJoshua99Not everyone lives in places where they can spend a lot of time outdoors reliably/safely. And before you suggest they move, how are they supposed to afford it? Especially if they are already looking for work/in-between jobs or a student etc. Not to mention the working poor.
when someone refers to it as addiction that is a proper description of it but another descriptor that i personally gravitate towards is "compulsion", something that controlls your impulses ratehr than you having the control. and a general concensious that ends up typically being more accurate than not- is that it comes about from abstinance, or lack of Indulgance in something else. the turning to vices that gone unregulated make one forget about their core problem. when it comes to lust its simple to say having sex, or attaining a partner that equates with your enthusiasm or impulses would cure yourself of being reliant on vices that probably do not instill as much pride or self-reassurance. of course even without a partner immedietly there are still ceremonialized and imaginative means someone can do to get a different fuffilment, even if its still of a quantitativly fictitional nature. what i have to say wont be relayed or understood by most People, sure but its merely 1 practice that I myself continue to learn of its application and emotional direction, that being every now and then inserting yourself in a story of success (with whatever it may be you desire- a real person, or a sort of demonic counterpart thats equally enticing) build that enviroment in which you can see just how you actually do behave in the bedroom even if its within a vacume of your imagination. It still serves to build a portfolio than really the next thing you *really* need is just hte privacy to go about it, and a big enough social pool to have many people to choose from, which yes may seem hard with infrastructure thats barely accomidating for social gatherings, but thats what modern communication is for. it can be as easy as that! impulsivly meet up with equally impulsive astranged people on say grindr or tinder if you have to and just keep in mind to keep your personal enthusiasm for "the real thing" as equally in line with what really is obtainable.
Our brain and body will require it less often if you see how long you can make it without it. Make the choice for the day and then set a date weekly, after that every other week and then monthly. See how long you can tolerate and make it a challenge. You'll be surprised at how long you'll last without it.
There are a few ways to address this issue, one of which is to spend time with your friends or family. I'm not sure if women can also be addicted to porn, but the idea of spending time with loved ones is to take your mind off of it. If that doesn't work, then seeking help from a psychologist may be necessary. While it may seem impossible to forget, focusing on activities with others can help. Another option is for parents to take action by grounding the individual. This not only involves taking away their phone but also requires them to spend time outdoors. If those solutions don't work, the fourth and most important way to address the issue is through education. Whether it's school or college, learning is the best distraction. Just like spending time with loved ones, learning can help take your mind off of everything, including porn. It's important to note that porn addiction not only affects behavior but also damages memories in the brain. If Psych2Go already made a video about how to avoid watching porn then what is this for. Look, I'm not a psychologist, I'm just a 14-year-old kid.
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Depression, lack of sexual partner, inability to love opposite sex, desocialisation, anxiety based introversy, General lack of empathy and will, to do anything toward contact with opposite sex, General distain for mentally unstable women protected by society and being looked down upon by women and society just for being normal man. Woman choose to bully men in to submission, men decides to boycot entire female species and ability to have kids and family, stupid bitches will realise men can live without them far to late to made any changes. Men choose sex-robots and artificial wombs. Females no longer would have ANY roles in men life and would be abandoned to the extiction, they no longer would be mothers majority would delete womb just so they could no longer have discomfort of periods. And this would become norm, males and females be two entirety diffirent species, family will no longer exist in modern society. Men would eventualy throw useless emotionless females out of society they create. And would have to work as whores in less advanced countries. This is our future. And women destroyed it
Timestamps. At work can't watch whole 5 minutes video 🤦♂️
The Animation is too fast.
Your next video should be titled:
"Common Root Causes of Rapists Raping And Murderers Murdering That Nobody Talks About"
I didn’t know-
1 Loneliness & escapism
2 Chasing the dopamine high
3 Developing tolerance
4 Too much dopamine
5 Mental health conditions
6 Hypofrontality
7 Traumatic brain injury in an early life stage
Thank you ❤
Dammn
People be horny
Considere this: Watching p*rn 2 hours a week ≠ addiction. When people talk about this, they assume it to already represent an addiction. It is the only thing on earth people consume so little and still considere themselves addicted. I ain't telling u to watch more tho. The main factor for the rising of it is 1. Human/male nature; 2. Loneliness.
For me it’s all of them. Why can’t I be fixed??? Please God just fix me
I'm more than 1 month into not watching it....... I feel like an absolute champion..... 🌸😌🎖️🌸
Congratulations! I bet you can make it to 6 months! And then a year and so on! You've got this!
Congrats! But how are you dealing with the feelings now I’m trying to start too but I’m feeling so lonely some times and I crave the highness after the orgasm … how do u spent your time now that you’re not doing it any advice ?
@seanblohm8767 I'm also trying to stop. The things I've been doing are talking to my friends, hanging out with my family, painting, writing, and going for a walk. I also work or work out to keep my mind off it.
@@seanblohm8767 refer to the reply above. Goodluck ❤️
I’m going to try for 2 months as a goal, and if I do then no more forever, currently gone 2 days clean
I bet the biggest cause for porn addiction is loneliness
It is
Childhood traumas too,or lack of love from parents etc,low self-esteem,selfworth
Fr
@@melilinda7302 yup that checks a lot of boxes for me
Sexual repression mainly
The cycle is unbearable, makes you want to hate yourself...
Fr
I feel you on that
Yeah
Self hate can be used to your favour!
It's (VERY) painful tough.
My example: every time I feel like I hate myself, I choose to retribute my actions by exercising literally twice as hard and twice as much. (I don't do it to strengthen my body, but to strengthen my willpower and resilience, and it works out for me)
Try slaa
I went off my antidepressants and my sex drive exploded. I didn't have a partner and didn't want to do it with just anyone so I got addicted to porn, was watching at least 4 times a day and it was awful. Extremely depressing and it messed up the way I thought and communicated with people. It's very rare that I've heard anyone talk about this side effect of going off of antidepressants. It took 3 years to lower my sex drive and porn use and it was very difficult. Distraction with other healthier hobbies is very helpful, remembering that you want to change and can't change unless you deny yourself helps a lot too. I'm feeling much better now, I felt like I was turning into a monster and I didn't like myself. Your brain and body will require it less often if you see how long you can make it without it. You can lessen the extremity of what you watch as well, working down to vanilla stuff. It's difficult but not impossible. It's like any addiction where you have to really want to change and always remember that it isn't what you really want for yourself.
Going off antidepressants will cause mood swings. The key is to not relapse the antidepressant. That’s what I did.
It's equally unhealthy, if not more damaging to go out and hook up with randoms just because of your sex drive. You just trade porn addiction for sex addiction.
Hope you're doin better
@@Drikkerbadevand Agreed, and yeah thank you, I'm doing much better.
@Drikkerbadevand not really as theres a chance you can find a connection with someone and want to stay with them whereas porn will just forever be a one sided street
@@xxxthwagdrakexxx4672 I stuck to porn to avoid STIs and STDs and also because anyone looking to jump into bed quickly is just looking to jump into bed quickly. People give way too much of themselves that way. Mentally, it hurts a lot sometimes to be rejected when you want more and people get used. When you're female, you are also seen as a slut if you do this. Also, the amount of sex my brain and body were telling me I wanted was an unreasonable amount. I would have exhausted anyone even if I had multiple partners.
No judgment. God bless anyone struggling with this ❤🙏🏾 No shame
Pray for me
@@VIP-r8o Will do ❤️
How does the story did exactly go again?..”And thus the man and wife are both naked,and they felt no shame.”
@@Lemuel928Without that special dance you can't make babies
@@TheSilverShadow17 sure but what does that really have to do with porn addictions?
One that is not mentioned enough- lack of physical contact from the opposite sex. The intense hunger for touch and longing for intimacy manifests itself in addiction to porn, as the person tries to imagine for themselves what they are watching. It's not even sex the person often craves... it's just human intimacy (ie kissing, cuddling in bed, etc).
And to settle it straight, this affects men exponentially more than women.
One hundred percent, men tend to be more touch starved that's why I hug my bros as much as possible
Damn😮
i'm a lesbian, but that's so true
Man there are a lot of women who watch porn for the same reasons that you stated. And that number might be more than men. People don't talk about it because they don't want to see the bad side of women and hold them accountable for some reason.
@@kingdon7795i doubt it. for my women friends a "long time" without sex for them is a couple weeks/ months without it. im almost 25 and male and have had sex just one time. im at least happy that most people especially the opposite gender arent like me at least. the only people ik who are like me are other men
Guys I quit today. Not just a regular promise.
I was really drown deep down to soul by it.
I am today really becoming to be fresh. I'm becoming the person I want to be.Please pray for me ❤
Thats amazing! ❤
I think you can do it! 😊
I totally support you! 🎉🎉🎉
u will probably fail. because if you want to get rid of an addiction instantly, it will be pretty hard and u will probably give up. and u try again. and again. and again. until you lose your all hope and become completely addicted to it. if you want to be fresh, clean yourself slowly. i mean watch pron whenever u want. but try to decrease the rate of it. for example if you look at it 3h everyday, make it 3 hours every 2 day. or make it 1.5 h everyday. depends on you. so when u feel ready, decrease it more , more and more. until you got rid of it. i hope u will read this and beat it. i suffered same thing too.
Day 1we got this
Words are cheap. Just do it or don't. But nobody here hives an honest shit. If you say you quit you probably didn't, if you did you shouldn't feel the need to be here.
@@Dusk_Wolf you suck
I haven't had a date in 5+ years. I haven't had a girl-friend in 10+. I'm just desperate for emotional intimacy and pr0n seemed like the only substitute. I'm lonely, and I just want to feel touched, and cared about, desired, and loved.
The fact that you want that means that you alredy love yourself. You might still need emotional support, but as long as you belive that you are valuable, you can fight your way out of addiction.
If you value yourself simply for loving yourself, you will have a positive attitude that can be quiet attractive, but only for the right people.
You are not yearning for s*x, but for a shoulder to lay your head on, wich in itself makes you deserve that shoulder (please, read this sentence again for it is something I want you to understand and belive)
P*rn is a temporary way out, but you can't leave until you achived whatever you are up to. Stay strong!
Same. Nothing in 27 years for me. I feel numb every second.
@@nomad1517 "If you have very few friends, you have a lot of life experience"
-Albert Einstein
Wait for it bro, spring will come. It always comes.
Once again, this notification was perfectly timed.
Idk how, but it popped up for me as I was viewing porn.
@almond6520 we need help for sure 🤣
ikr...wait what
I was busy finding porn artists an hour before this popped up, so I’m in the same boat as you. We need help.
I literally saw the nofication when I was searching through adult website. I need to be tied up on this boat.
i was exposed to porn when i was really young, it scared me so much im still dealing with anxiety that sexual stuff brings me. i wish porn would be made way more inaccessible because i know im not the only one with this issue. children should not be so easily exposed to stuff like that since it can and in most cases will cause long term problems, whether developing an addiction to it at a very young age, or dev. anxiety over that stuff.
I’ve watched things I shouldn’t have. But thanks for this video regardless.
there is no erasing your memory but there is still hope
I don't believe that watching or enjoying porn is inherently bad. It's only bad if it's overdone and/or used to supplement for something else that you want that would be better for you.
Aw, hell no…
Whatchu you “things you shouldn’t have”?. Watching porn is one thing, but I feel like you just spoke about something that’s crossing the line.
@msxd1280 That's interesting. That never crossed my mind, but it's a good question. I seriously doubt it was anything too outlandish.
That was helpful ! Porn addiction destroyed me. Literally. Mentally and physically. I m 46 and still struggling. I m fighting alone. I cant speak to anyone else about that. First i m ashamed a bit. To reveal the size of the problem. Secondly i dont think that many people around me are capable of helping me . But everything in this vid are so true ! And i felt a little...hope ! Thanks !
If you can't quit, but are seriously trying, you're ambitious.
If you can quit with some external help (friends, family, maybe a psychologist), you are strong (by strong, I mean STRONG)
If you can quit all alone, you, my friend, are a legend.
There are people out there, whose literal job is to listen to your worries/concerns/difficulties, and to take you/them seriously.
They're often known as therapists/counsellors. Not intended to be patronising in any way.
There is support out there, if you don't currently have it, and I'm not saying you will have the best support available for you, in your area, but there are options.
You don't have to suffer by yourself, in silence. I think you've probably done enough of that already.
Of course, there are bad therapists/counsellors out there too, let's not pretend there aren't.
However, wouldn't it be worthwhile in looking for one of the good/better ones to help improve your quality of life and help you through this?
I'm massively biased, of course, but my intention is to reach out and just spark a consideration that there is a way out of this, and I don't mean abstinence
(although, if that's what you personally need/find beneficial, then that's your path forward. The path doesn't have to be a rigid, uniform line either, but it's YOUR path, for your life, and no one else can walk it).
@@alpachinko9154 A Therapist can be a lot of money though.
1. Loneliness and escapism (0:22)
2. Chasing the Dopamine High (1:22)
3. Developing Tolerance (2:09)
4. Too much Dopamine (2:49)
5. Mental Health Conditions (3:30)
6. Hypofrontality (4:22)
7. Traumatic Brain Injury in an early Life Stage (5:03)
Porn addiction is a tough battle, but it's one that you can overcome. It's important to remember that seeking help and support is a brave step forward, and you should be proud of yourself for acknowledging the issue.
Many people turn to porn as a coping mechanism for various underlying reasons. Some common roots of this coping mechanism include stress, loneliness, boredom, low self-esteem, and past trauma. Understanding these triggers can be a crucial part of breaking free from the cycle of addiction.
But remember, recovery is possible. It's about finding healthier ways to cope with difficult emotions and situations, building a support system, and practicing self-compassion along the way. Take it one step at a time, and be gentle with yourself throughout the process.
❤ thanks for the message ;3 motivates me to kick this bad habit of mine
addition to the list:
1. Stress relief
2. Mending/Filling a void left by someone you love, never to return again
3. A surrogate/substitute for a romantic, intimate relationship we may never have due to circumstances
I feel sad knowing that I'm using P as my Coping Mechanism for my Stress and Loneliness 😢
Well at least you know the problem now
And you can fix it over time
There are many ways and books that talk about such topics and I'm pretty sure it can help you too (sorry if it sounds a little weird and out of nowhere)
u can use internet to solve loneliness. may not work suddenly but u will find some friends here. just patience. and always remember that its not your fault to feel seek of escape from stress and loneliness. this and these wrong things are indicators that u are a human, not a robot.
@@Dusk_Wolf I can agree with that
It worked for me (why does everything I type sound weird and unrelated)
@@lovelumity cuz u dont speak enough. if you agree, that means u were lonely too, just like me. i recommend u to speak with ur friends more and dont overthink about the things you say. if you say smt bad, u can always say sorry. and if they are real friends, they will always forgive you. also remember that everyone is imagining each other like a perfect person. which leads to a problem. like thinking that everyone is better tthan you, or everyone should be perfect. the first one is sometimes a symptom of social anxiety and related stuff. but remember, everyone is just showing their golden side to each other to not get critisized. but it is wrong. because no one is perfect and if you struggle with talking to people, that means u give too much love to them. that means u are too good, which is bad. because u will be a target for manupilations. so dont be too kind and sometimes be rude. but also learn forgiving and ignoring. they are one of the most important thins in social relationships. and the second one is leading to calling everyone "bad". because if they have failed to be the one you imagined, you will be disappointed and angry. so if you want to see the golden side, taste the rusty iron side first. so u will never get disappointed. by that sentence, i mean looking at everyone like they are evil. so u will be surprised by the good in them and wont get disappointment from their bad side. because u will be expecting that. anyway, if u need more help just tell me. i suffered those stuff sm that i learned how to break them. and remember, bad people never walk to you with a dagger, and good people never disagree the dagger they are holding.
Please, don't be so hard on yourself. Porn is free and it works to achieve an orgasm. Times are difficult. I'm totally sure the majority of the population in the world are going through this same coping mechanism. Not everyone has a partner. Specially millennials & gen z. Take this video as a resource of education in the subject and to be aware of porn addiction but if you just masturbate once a day, everyday with porn, i'm sure that's totally normal. Since you're single and need to release stress.
For me, it's a combination of depression, anxiety, loneliness, unfulfilled sexual needs, and touch starvation. I've been addicted to porn for over 11 years now as a negative coping mechanism following my mom passing away from ironically enough, breast cancer.
I just don't see myself being able to break free until I can find a romantic and sexual partner, which seems unlikely given my piss poor social skills given I'm on the Autism Spectrum and more importantly I'm afraid to put myself out there out of fear of rejection since I assume everyone is out to expose me since everyone feels the need to put others down to feel better about themselves given how miserable everyone is in this world. Most days I wish I didn't feel anything. But whatever, this is just my lot in life. Working hard for pennies so everyone else can live happy, pain-free lives. I envy everyone who is happy and in a relationship. I wish I could be committed to a psych ward, but unfortunately, I can't where I live unless you're actively homicidal or suicidal. There just aren't beds for everyone who needs one
I feel immensely for your struggles… I also suffer greatly from the burden of both anxiety and depression. As well, I’ve been battling addiction for many years with limited success. Daily I question if I shall ever be freed from the grasp of these things of affliction. If you’re interested, I would be willing to help hold you accountable with your addiction through messages.
I sincerely care for you, and I will be keeping you in my prayers daily.
Reaching out as a person who also lost their mom at a young age from breast cancer, shit sucks. sending healing vibes to you.
That combined with always being the breadwinner or person taking care of my partner when I was in relationships, I gravitated towards MILF content because I just want to be taken care of sweetly by an endearing mature woman.
Crazy how sociology and trauma effects something as distant as what fetishes we develop.
Every like this comment gets, I will think think one more person is supporting me to break this addiction..........
Starting with me.
One up.
One down.
One up....
I'm with you dude
Same here brother
Thanks everyone
This time i will do it ...
I'm gonna get rid of all my addictions forever for good
After a few years getting a hit every 3 days or so. Went to a counselor and am making progress. Sadly as someone with ADHD it makes it even harder. I definitely fall into that 1st category. Escapism and loneliness. Hope everyone else here that is dealing with this gets help as well.
Unfulfilled desires and loneliness is the biggest reason
I do feel lonely, unattractive and have a few issues I'm trying to deal with.
@@Gazing-09 You’re not alone on that ❤️
Real
Thats because we deal with being ugly, nobodys first or even last choice, and we began to adapt to the loneliness.
@@anderstermansen130 Yeah I feel you on that ❤️
Thank you so much for educating us on stuff like this!! It’s really important for information like this to be spread and I’m super happy that this channel is doing just that!!!
Thank you so much!
The timing of this was perfect, this I think is the first time I'm watching a video about
Mast / porn addiction, but I know I have an addiction but the reasons had my jaw drop.. its a tough battle to overcome
No, you nailed the causes really well. You haven't missed anything as far as I'm aware of. I have observed these causes within in myself, and now I can confidently say that I have established behavioral patterns that balance things out in life.
From my own experience, the pride I feel from resisting the urge to cave-in what feels like an unhealthy form of consumption has had a profound effect that shouldn't go unnoticed. It's a motivating factor in of itself.
Agreed, once you actually take a look at your thoughts in the moment, you realise that the reason you do it is quite simple. In my case, I haven't entirely solved it yet, but I'm getting closer.
@@steelymanfan7276 How can I help?
@@nickthepick8043 Thank you for asking, but dont worry its fine. I just need to build up my will power a bit.
@@steelymanfan7276 Well, you'll go far with that mindset. Good on you!
Just thought I'd give a bit of input because I've struggled with porn addiction for most of my life. I started watching porn because I couldn't get a girlfriend when I was in high school and really it just followed on from there. Even to this day at 34 I've still never had a girlfriend or wife, I don't really have any family and I was diagnosed with a chronic mental health condition at a young age, people around me have often treated me cruelly which caused emotional damage, so now I pretty much just want to shut myself off from the world and not deal with it anymore. I live a very lonely life and I live in an apartment I have through social housing and I don't work or anything because of the mental health condition. One thing I've definitely realized in life is no one cares about people like me, which basically perpetuates the negative cycle of porn addiction and many other things and I can't see my life ever getting any better. The only reason I'm still alive is because I derive pleasure from the temporary thrill I get out of the things I do on a daily basis which I won't go into detail on. I'm not suicidal but I know one day I will die and it will all be over and I won't have to deal with my shit life anymore.
your'e not alone. take courage brother
We have the same scenario
Go on a rampage.
The timing is insane
It’s the algorithm. Google knows everything you do even in incognito.
again, were you dick in hand while you got the notification?
I searched for that comment 😂
Oversuppressing sexual urge might be the cause too, I guess, given that some consider it a sin.
I suppress/ignore my libido all the time. It works for me, tough, I still fall back to the pit sometimes (meaning like once in a month, but it really works in most cases)
I'm curious - probably why I've been to SAA once or twice 😅;
What do you mean by "it works" for you?
As in, what form does suppressing your libido take/in what way has it helped?
I'm also curious about the choice of phrasing, but that's another point altogether.
@@alpachinko9154what do you mean by SAA
@@Melvin-14 Sex Addicts Anonymous
@@Melvin-14 Re: SAA - I believe their hearts are in the right place, but the dogma isn't compatible with everyone.
Which is why I no longer attend.
Thank you for finally posting a video like this. Nobody ever talks about what really drives men to porn use. And in the end us men get labeled as “pigs.” We deal with it worse than women
I use it because I need to feel good and it works. I've never experienced tolerance and the need to escalate. Same intensity of things does it for me every time. And I stop craving it when I actually have somebody in my life. I'm just lonely, sad, and want to feel good for a bit.
I get you. When I have someone I don't think about it at all.
Same here, I used to harshly criticize myself over being "addicted" to porn but later realized I was just really bored and wanted to make the time pass somehow
It's weird though I have ADHD and for whatever reason I have never struggled with any addictions whatsoever, which is usually a very common thing within ADHD people
Exactly. Don't be so hard on yourself. Porn is free and it works to achieve an orgasm. Times are difficult. I'm totally sure the majority of the population in the world are going through this same coping mechanism. Not everyone has a partner. Specially millennials & gen z. Take this video as a resource of education in the subject and to be aware of porn addiction but if you just masturbate once a day, everyday with porn, i'm sure that's totally normal. Since you're single and need to release stress.
I don't really try to find any content more intense and I've been in a relationship for nearly 20 years. She's fine with my porn usage because she can have a break if she's not in the mood. Nobody feels shame about it and no one has ruined their lives or our relationship because of it. Also, we're swingers. I feel like these exceptions are difficult for some people to accept.
I think there's something about porn addiction that almost no one talks about, which is that the more you consume, the more common content becomes boring, and then we look for hardcore and even illegal stuff. I've been through this, and when we're in this dopamine trance, our brain doesn't register what's right and wrong, and after it passes we're like "Why did I watch this?!?!?" But we must remember that this is a mental problem, an addiction, and it does not mean that you are a pedophile or a criminal, especially since people like this seek out this stuff of their own free will and do not feel bad after watching it.
It'd the dopamine receptors basically being fried up and so your brain is less receptive to dopamine so it seeks sexual novelty, and the shame and taboo hooks you onto it. Porn basically desensitises your brain and makes you crave huge dopamine hits from messed up stuff because you need more and more stimulation for a high. Really damaging honestly, there's no positives to it
if you watch illegal things that involve minors you are DEFINITELY a criminal
that moment when post-nut clarity hits is horrible, but it's not enough tl dtop us unfortunately
Timestamps
1). Loneliness and escapism 0:22
2). Chasing the dopamine high 1:23
3). Developing tolerance 2:07
4). Too much dopamine 2:48
5). Mental health conditions 3:29
6). Hypofrontality 4:21
7). Traumatic brain injury in an early life stage 5:01
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Once I started to go to the gym, my mind was too tired to be anxious, in that way, I had enough mental strong to stop consuming porn when an empty feeling came. I started to eat a proper anti-inflammatory diet, and I'm feeling in control of my body and my mind. I'm not the best guy in the gym, but I'm 20 days of no-fap and I see the real difference after 3 years of experimenting hard depression symptoms.
The greatest thing I have ever achived is to make sleeping the same refuge that p*rn used to be once. Even tough I still fall back like once in a month, I feel powerful after not watching it for a while. I'm 16 now and I fight it all alone, but it only makes me more determined.
Lots of love to all my brothers (and sisters, if there are girls also struggling with that), you harden my resolve and give me power!
Make it happen ! All the best
You're on the right path. More power to you!
I have never heard of any counselor suggesting porn as you said and illustrated in the beginning. And if they did, they are wrong for doing that because the majority of people who watch porn get addicted to it. At the end of the day, it makes life worse, not better.
The addiction aspect is a problem but honestly I don't think watching porn itself is actually that bad if it is used appropriately and is within the individuals control. You can't ignore the fact that our bodies simply have a sex drive biologically. Love and companionship is the driving force of dopamine into our heads and sometimes it just takes longer for people to find a partner.
Again with the amazing commentary and well spread awareness as well as giving representation as always, thank you for this video
Woah super interesting. 🎉 i would've never thought a brain injury could mess with how you deal with sexual desires. Thats so informative and brings more understanding to those dealing with this kind of addiction. I feel bad for those who do it so often and hurt themselves. Getting muscle spasms, leaving cuts and bruising or even further damage to their very sensitive parts.😢
Sadly, it’s not so much an addiction… rather a moral struggle… I know it’s wrong, I get that feeling of satisfaction… but then I hate myself afterwards… as a Christian, this has proven quite a challenge for me… as well as the fact that I’m constantly wanting a relationship… I need someone to love. People tell me that I need to ask God to help me through things… and that when I accept that Jesus is who I need to be seeking a spiritual relationship with, then that person will come into my life……. But it’s SO damn difficult!!! I’m 22 years old, and I’ve never been in a serious relationship before, never had sex, never had a first kiss, never gone on a date (I was in an online relationship for less than 2 months, so I don’t really count that), and all I want is someone to be with. Someone to love and care for. Someone who I can embrace… it’s not fun….. 😔
Sometimes, it's hard to get a grip, really.
Pun intended.
Stay strong brothers and sisters.
Get a grip of a your slippery nuts?😂😂
Right after i did my thing
HELP NO 😭
(Not what you're doing is wrong if it's a way to cope, but the fact that it's timed-)
Congratulations 🥳
If it makes you feel better it actually good for you prevents Prostate Cancer
What thing? Changed the brakes on your car🧐
@@DJ-iu5bbbro said porn is good 💀
I used to use it as an escape my loneliness for 16-17years, but eventually it left me feeling even more alone than before.
I’ve struggled with this myself for the longest time, mainly because of loneliness/sexual repression. Recently it got really bad, I would watch content several times a day to the point where it would interfere with my social life with friends. I decided that’s not what I wanted with my life so I installed a porn/content blocker and it’s been a month without watching any content. I still struggle with the feelings of loneliness nowadays but don’t have access or the means of digging my hole any deeper.
Funny thing is, delyed gratification would probably at least help with the diminishing returns on dopamine.
Everything truely is better in moderation than excess.
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And I don't mean edging. Like days off from it entirely, or a week even.
I learned early on that people will mock you for liking someone. This was idk, 5th grade? I didn’t go to my parents cuz i didn’t trust them to help me with this since they seemed more concerned with my younger siblings.
Now i don’t know how to approach girls romantically or how to open up slowly to people. I’m afraid i’ll just trauma dump, and no woman deserves that, especially if i’m supposed to like them.
You don't have friends you can talk to about your feelings? Just talk to a girl like you'd normally would a guy, without using vulgar words though. Girls are different just like guys are different.
Some won't care if you say the wrong thing and some will. Like look, i'm a girl. Talking to guys is way easier for me, but when I say the wrong thing without even realizing, some guys get mad, don't explain and some even leave me. And even, as a girl, the same happens with girls. Is just how life is.
So just talk normal to girls and if they don't wanna invest in the friendship or even relationship, then don't think anything is wrong with you, they just aren't your people.
If you listen and care to correct your behavior, and talk about your feelings and expect others to correct their behavior too, just because people have a problem not wanting to be told what to do while loving to tell others what to do, doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. They are in the wrong for being so hypocritical and entitled.
The right people will show up, just be patient. And remember, not all friendships, people, are meant to last forever. That's also a reminder for me because I've lost friends that I could have swore I'd have forever, but they're gone. We aren't on bad terms, we just stop investing in the friendship i guess. Is strange. But it really shows that as much as it may not seem like it, some people just aren't meant to be in your life for much. And I guess, that's okay.
I was a addict because for me I was using it to escapism as I was very tired and lonely from school and I thought that my life was ruined. Until I turned my life to God and ever since then I’ve lived a lovely life so remember God is always with you and even if you relapse he still loves you and you can overcome this.
Being trapped in a constant state of loneliness is the worst
I want to break free i feel terrible i end up hating my life after but i cant break free it just helps with my mental and emotional health but i just brings it down even more
Did you try getting help and support ? All the best.
I don’t think I’ll ever be the same again. And because I don’t think I’ll ever be the same I will be alone and nobody will love me. And because nobody will love me I’ll sink further until it gets me into trouble. My life feels on track to being forfeit.
And I do feel… hopeless.
Hopeless? Such thing does not exist.
I know what you feel, and this golden rule helped me out of it.
Give quitting a try, and wait. Just wait. Spring will come and will wash all the filth, guilt, self hatred and yearning away.
Nah man, don’t think that. Quit RIGHT NOW. At least try to. You’re going to feel strong knowing that you can resist the urge to do it. As for someone loving you, finding the right person can take time. Doesn’t have to be right away. Hopeless? No. Feel hopeful about yourself.
1. to love and wanting to be love
2 hopeless romantic
3. exposed as at the age of 4
4!?
I tip my hat off to @Psych2go, for making these recent videos on porn addiction(or addiction to adult-related content). It's not the easiest topic to discuss openly, but still important nonetheless. Like they've discussed, watching too much porn can be a way of escaping from reality or to give yourself a temporary "high"(or good feeling). With porn addiction it may feel like you're going down this dark rabbit hole with no chance of climbing out. However with enough time and effort we ALL can climb out and emerge stronger than before. Remember everyone, WE GOT THIS!
As @Psych2go has stated in the past, "You are not alone" in the battle against porn addiction. And remember, there's so much more life has to offer! Fantastic video @Psych2go! And thank you for helping so many of us.
Yeah, loneliness can play a factor into it. That person may think that she or he might not be worthy of a relationship.
I really need to stop it, and I am fed up as well with this bad habit
Any addiction is a lack of love in life.
Edit: I was extremely addicted and science leads you in all directions but love.
Wtf?
I don't think people realize how important habits are
But I'm not going to yell at people and fight with them because of their choices
I've always basically understood how someone who's alone could get addicted to porn. But I never understood how someone could get addicted if theyre already in a relationship with someone. Why wouldn't they just ask their partner? Communication is the most important factor in any relationship.
you really dont understand how a porn addiction works.
@@albertgithinji4074 You gonna explain how it works then Alberto?
Main causes are Anxiety and Stress. Porn addiction is a coping mechanism to fight anxiety and stress. you could switch to cigarettes, alcohol, eating disorders, video games, exercise, driving fast or any hobbies. If you don't have coping mechanism Anxiety and Stress will kill your body. Sadly if you introduce to porn addiction at early age that would be your coping mechanism against stress and anxiety.
Please remember that daily masturbation is normal and porn consumption is as well. If it makes you feel bad or interferes in your life, its an addiction.
Exactly, not all porn is bad. Just like a sword isnt a weapon unless its used as one.
Don't tell an addict something that they are addicted to is normal
Its not normal. No man or woman in the past has ever seen the amount of sexual content a teen can see these days
@@Abroath999 yo. I never said that an addicted person is not addicted lol.
@@Abroath999 but this is no problem of porn but of media consuming. 🙅🏻
I feel as though ive been struggling with a porn addiction for about a year now, but i keep denying it because i dont wanna say that i have an issue i might not have, but its been really hard to stop. This video lists almost every reason why and its mindblowing. I've tried to stop, and I went for a whole month when i started dating my current gf, but i relapsed and its gotten worse.
To be honest I used to have one (a p addiction)… and now I’m Hypersexual :c
That's better
Is it not possible that you were always hypersexual, but now you've channelled it into (hopefully) a better/healthier (for you) medium?
@@sonias9722 is it? Not really, it’s really annoying for me to deal with on a daily basis
@@LunarEclipes696 heyyy how u doin bud
in moderation, everything is good, its only when it takes time out of important things is when its an addiction.
Untreated ADHD won't help
I remember being an only child raised by a hardworking mom who wasn’t home most of the time I felt alone that is when I found porn and I hid myself and my loneliness with porn little did younger me know how bad it was
Actually what makes Porn addictive is 1 thing, and that is it ruins your brain Dopamine receptors making them less sensitive, hence rendering regulars life activities dull and boring and only strong stimulants like Porn ends up being effective.
I noticed that after I was more accepted by surrounding and be more often invited to meet friends or just chat with someone, I completely stopped watching explicit content…
I sometimes feel like not wanna live anymore and donate my body and die if it could be a thing
Please be strong. You have the strength to overcome any obstacle. Please get some help. 🙏🏽
I think if you're generally prone to addiction, porn addiction is always near. When I was like 12 I started watching porn. When I was 13 I started smoking weed and when I was 14 I started doing hard drugs. Was addicted to hard drugs for 10 years(am sober for more than a year now). I binged on uppers for days, especially speed and meth, mixed with many other drugs. My porn addiction really kicked off then... I literally watched porn for like 4 days and nights, before going to sleep for 1 night and then starting over again. I also developed some very fucked up fetishes along the way.
Getting deep in to porn mixed with the drugs and alcohol made me very depraved in my tastes.
I'm off the drugs now, but my fixation with porn still remains. Luckily it's not nearly as bad, as before.
Going to rehab and talking about it in detail with my therapist helped me a lot.
I think there are multiple causes for my porn addiction though..
Anyway.. if you feel it controls your life, seek help. Therapy helped me a lot to accept myself and love myself more, cause I hated myself and wanted to kill myself before. I would definetly recommend Therapy to eyeryone, it really works.
Anyway much love from germany.
Peace😊
i once thought to myself "when will i let go of porn? its bad for me. i need to get off it. but how can i ever let go of it? its the only thing that gives me temporary high and escape from my lonliness"
As long as its not controlling your life why is it so bad? I see so many posts about people trying to quit or bashing it. If you cancel plans with friends to watch it or you have to watch it a certain amount each day/week you have a problem but if its just a background activity in your life I don't see much negative to it, especially if single. To me I see a lot of positives from it too. Too much of anything is bad, if its not controlling your life or altering your view of reality than I don't see much of an issue. I think it depends what kind you watch too, if its super unrealistic fantasy stuff, it may effect you differently than watching more traditional kinds.
@@govholocaustal4432if u aint addicted to something, don't act like u know how the other person feels bro
Many people are addicted to it
Addressing the root causes of p addiction is the first step towards healing.
Being ugly, feeling unlovable, but nobody will really get the truth. It’ll just keep on happening.
Unlovable?.... I'm presuming intimate love.
You look outwards for personal gratification. & That is perilous. Beware.
@@xanderxxvblaze Intimately and platonically. There’s nothing wrong with personal gratification, sustaining discipline is a big deal.
@@GarrotWire imo discipline comes from the ability of self-control. Personal gratification impulses (sexual urges) are very potent & often trounce one's ability to control oneself. Hence inindating their discipline.
But ey that's just me you do you son.
I spent a lot of time by myself scrolling. I also kept looking up two girls I kind of liked (not a lot for one of them). I felt bad about it because it felt like stalking but i did it anyways. Therefore, I basically was already in a mindset of looking up whatever I wanted.
I then at some point looked up porn solely out of curiosity, wanting to know what stuff looked like. I felt grossed out and figured I didn’t want to look it up again. But it just needed time to “kick in”, and I eventually realized I genuinely wanted to go back, not out of curiosity. A couple months later I did, and looked up porn a couple days after that as well.
This was a little over a year ago. I feel part of the problem with me escaping is I’ve been trying to quit this whole time. People will say they’ve gotten better since trying to quit, but I’ve only gotten worse. I cannot have gotten better as I tried quitting from the start, and yet here I am. If I got better, it would mean I’d have stopped. Trying a few strategies I think will help, but we’ll see.
Best solution is to not talk about it. Go outside, talk to someone, take a picture, go aesthetic, do whatever you please that could improve your ability like reading books in the bench, bike or jog for stamina, or pretty much don't use a phone or music, just think and do, have sweat and muscles, cook some delicious food, brag it go make a kite and fly it around, Live a little, make yourself a good person by bearing everything and not complain abouf life, be forgetful and forgiving, be understanding, be sorry, have a compassion ITS NOT HARD! and after all this is done will you realize... How stupid you are to spend the rest of your life in a room with nothing but technology.
good point bro
Meditation aswell
And if religious, prayer aswell
Hey if you are reading this,
If you are having difficulties,
Be gentle with yourself,
I love you ! Sending hugs ❤
Free time if not filled with good activities it'll be filled with garbage
Educating myself on addiction, especially more recently, I’ve learned that sex (or porn) is an addiction. Not my thing but I can relate it to my own addictions. In fact, I’ve got a new tactic that I’m almost certain will stop me from buying another pack of cigs. Wish me luck 🥴
I find it funny that I had a sex toy ad before this video started 😂
Yt give such ads
As someone who is in recovery from porn addiction. I can say this video is quite accurate.
Will comeback after timestamp guy😂👍
Idk I feel like the major cause is boredom, the second my life gets busy I go months without it
- watching porn as a way to cope with own lack of sex life
- realising what you watch will never happen to you (and not just some weird fetishes, I mean sex at all)
rinse and repeat
no wonder i have had several concussions in my life, i suffer from a couple of the mental health issues listed, and i tend to be less social than others
depression, lonelyliness, maybe autism, numbness, hypersensibility, stress.
How do I come to those results? i have all of these right now☠️😔
you THINK you do, unless you have proof
I have been ACTUALLY sober this time for at least 5 months. (: so happy
Who has the thing when you watch or play something new and then you are like "hm is there a porn about this?" You search it and everytime you dont do anything just watch it? I have it
That's very specific but I feel like it's not uncommon.
Yes, yes I have.
Pretty sure it has something to do with craving more good content from an IP even if said content is porn.
Engineer Gaming🔨
Oh, I took your comment too literally. I thought you meant when you just happen to witness things in general..... silly brain
Yeah, it must be fairly common.. Spoof porn exists for a reason.
Solution to this problem: a place where the community meets each other and where you can meet new people, form new friendships, and remove fantasy and build relationships.
Lack of partner.
By that addiction does it count reading “those” novels etc? Just asking
As a black man who was molested at age 9. I struggled with the porn addiction for the majority of my life. This was before it was ever on your phone. This addiction was true struggle and it effected my relationships. but with thru therapy and the grace of GOD I’ve been Porn free for 7 years and counting. Anyone who struggles in this area you can break free.
Parents help shape the values of their children. My question is, why does porn watchers (not necessarily addicts) keep their activity secret from their parents if it is indeed a pleasurable experience?
why would they want their parents to know what degenerate content they watch
Because some parents may be so strict about porn and masturbation that there will be severe problems if they find out, there were situations when the parents disown their kids without a second thought for watching porn or masturbate, this kind of stuff usually happens in very religious families
Did you seriously just insinuate the idea that you would watch porn with your parents
Quit watching porn 4 years ago. The best decision the universe helped me make led to spirituality and celibacy.
I think alcohol and porn addiction lead to poor choices.
The next man I give my body to will be the forever one and looking forward to it 🧘🏽♀️😊🐈⬛
This video has made me think, I was sh’ed and even since then I’ve been horrified to have been sexual about anything in my real life, this has caused me to only been able to look at things online, I’m not self diagnosing, but if the ptsd could be my issue I don’t know if I’d ever have a support system to ever go to either way to fix it properly, but I’ll start directing my need for dopamine and serotonin to my other interests to try and make myself feel better
Does gaming fall under the concept of addiction? or even being on tiktok?
Yeah
Its compulsive
You scroll on tiktok for hours without realising
Gaming aswell if u spend so much time
the best thing that I can do to avoid thinking about it, doing anything or anything to that effect is to distract myself, writing- drawing- exercise- talking to someone- or just leaving my room and staying in the living room for a while helps too, since I associate the action with that room specifically..
I think the main reason why people get addicted to porn is because of too much free time
Maybe. But in today's fast moving world with hustle culture and inflation and whatnot, lots people are working themselves to death just to afford the basics. Point being, that many young folk dont always have tons of free time. Or at least time we can actually relax----hustle culture. I'd argue that porm addiction would be used as a coping mechanism for all the stresses of evetyday life.
Yeah but my main point is, if a person spends a lot of time outdoors (to make money, to have a certificate, skills, talking to friends etc etc) then he comes home tired and still does the dishes, cleaning etc etc. He'll never have time to think of watching porn, surely that person will prefer to sleep than to use the phone. That is the reason why the majority of porn addiction is young.
@@LilJoshua99 Oh, I see. Good point.
@@LilJoshua99Having actually attended SAA, I can tell you for a fact, that it's not exclusively a young persons thing.
I was the youngest (in that group of attendees) member when I attended, and I was 25/26 at the time.
Can we stop pretending that there isn't large scale job insecurity going on right now, and people can't always "just go work the land" or whatever.
We live in the here and now, not yesteryear.
@@LilJoshua99Not everyone lives in places where they can spend a lot of time outdoors reliably/safely.
And before you suggest they move, how are they supposed to afford it?
Especially if they are already looking for work/in-between jobs or a student etc. Not to mention the working poor.
ADHD, DEPRESSION, LONELINESS i dont now where to start, btw its feels good seeing this comments nowing that im not alone.....
when someone refers to it as addiction that is a proper description of it
but another descriptor that i personally gravitate towards is "compulsion", something that controlls your impulses ratehr than you having the control.
and a general concensious that ends up typically being more accurate than not- is that it comes about from abstinance, or lack of Indulgance in something else. the turning to vices that gone unregulated make one forget about their core problem.
when it comes to lust its simple to say having sex, or attaining a partner that equates with your enthusiasm or impulses would cure yourself of being reliant on vices that probably do not instill as much pride or self-reassurance.
of course even without a partner immedietly there are still ceremonialized and imaginative means someone can do to get a different fuffilment, even if its still of a quantitativly fictitional nature.
what i have to say wont be relayed or understood by most People, sure but its merely 1 practice that I myself continue to learn of its application and emotional direction, that being every now and then inserting yourself in a story of success (with whatever it may be you desire- a real person, or a sort of demonic counterpart thats equally enticing)
build that enviroment in which you can see just how you actually do behave in the bedroom even if its within a vacume of your imagination. It still serves to build a portfolio
than really the next thing you *really* need is just hte privacy to go about it, and a big enough social pool to have many people to choose from, which yes may seem hard with infrastructure thats barely accomidating for social gatherings, but thats what modern communication is for.
it can be as easy as that! impulsivly meet up with equally impulsive astranged people on say grindr or tinder if you have to and just keep in mind to keep your personal enthusiasm for "the real thing" as equally in line with what really is obtainable.
Our brain and body will require it less often if you see how long you can make it without it. Make the choice for the day and then set a date weekly, after that every other week and then monthly. See how long you can tolerate and make it a challenge. You'll be surprised at how long you'll last without it.
Yes, but most people who think they're addicted are not because society at large is against sexual escapism.
What's your definition of "sexual escapism"?
There are a few ways to address this issue, one of which is to spend time with your friends or family. I'm not sure if women can also be addicted to porn, but the idea of spending time with loved ones is to take your mind off of it. If that doesn't work, then seeking help from a psychologist may be necessary. While it may seem impossible to forget, focusing on activities with others can help. Another option is for parents to take action by grounding the individual. This not only involves taking away their phone but also requires them to spend time outdoors. If those solutions don't work, the fourth and most important way to address the issue is through education. Whether it's school or college, learning is the best distraction. Just like spending time with loved ones, learning can help take your mind off of everything, including porn. It's important to note that porn addiction not only affects behavior but also damages memories in the brain.
If Psych2Go already made a video about how to avoid watching porn then what is this for. Look, I'm not a psychologist, I'm just a 14-year-old kid.