How I Left My Abusive (ex) Boyfriend

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  • Опубликовано: 23 янв 2025

Комментарии • 47 тыс.

  • @sophia.aquino.
    @sophia.aquino. 5 лет назад +4312

    "You better be buffer than Mr. Clean with that attitude."
    -Illyssa, 2018

  • @Lucid_The_Hellhound
    @Lucid_The_Hellhound 3 года назад +4732

    Let this be a warning children- in a relationship you are supposed to feel safe, you need to feel like the person really cares about you and they respect you.

    • @Lucid_The_Hellhound
      @Lucid_The_Hellhound 3 года назад +12

      @Sparer Yahya Yes.

    • @kito1156
      @kito1156 3 года назад +32

      This should go for any relationship with anyone you know

    • @spamton1996
      @spamton1996 3 года назад +5

      Too bad I’m a virgin

    • @1ts0nly4stro
      @1ts0nly4stro 3 года назад +4

      Ill ask a phone and call 911
      Or be a police myself-

    • @tammiestait5465
      @tammiestait5465 3 года назад +5

      You shouldn't limit to just children.
      I'm giving you the award of "Thinking 69420% of children are dumb".

  • @evijakoltone7883
    @evijakoltone7883 6 лет назад +1697

    "i don't like that section of the mall anymore" hearing you say that made me feel so sick inside.

    • @Jiwon420
      @Jiwon420 6 лет назад +4

      Why?

    • @maja524
      @maja524 6 лет назад +138

      Hanin Mony Because it implies that
      she got sexually assaulted in that
      parking garage, and now that’s all she
      can think of in any parking garage.
      It’s heartbreaking.

    • @humancircuitry
      @humancircuitry 6 лет назад +22

      same. tears immediately welled up in my eyes.

    • @madeleinebillie2494
      @madeleinebillie2494 6 лет назад +30

      It’s not okay that she was put in that position in the first place but the fact that she was put in THAT position at THAT age is honestly so sickening and so disgusting I can’t even comprehend it. What’s even worse is how the POLICE the people who are meant to PROTECT us didn’t do a damn thing about it. That is the most the disappointing part of this video.

    • @daysleeper7209
      @daysleeper7209 6 лет назад +3

      Me too

  • @sangria-margarita
    @sangria-margarita Год назад +955

    6:12 "You don't owe anyone anything." Thank you. I want to give you a hug. I just got out of such a terrible uncomfortable relationship like this and needed to hear that. I've just recently began healing from it.

    • @MSMFurcorn22
      @MSMFurcorn22 8 месяцев назад +11

      So sorry you had to experience that,hope ur doing ok ❤

    • @SurrealEdifice
      @SurrealEdifice День назад

      I just started talking to someone who was tormented like that, and if she takes more than 2 minutes to respond to a text, she starts by apologizing. I tell her she doesn't owe me, or anyone jack shit, every time. You're somebodies perfect person, never forget that.

  • @auburnhippie3052
    @auburnhippie3052 6 лет назад +9132

    "sweetie, stalking is a big word." That's what the police said to me when I was in a similar situation. Illy, thank you for telling this story. It's good to know we're not alone in the word. All the love, darling.

    • @olliojenarter
      @olliojenarter 6 лет назад +283

      I wish I could line up all these good for nothing, dismissive law "enforcement" officers and pepper canon them until they apologize!

    • @totallycrazystudios1801
      @totallycrazystudios1801 5 лет назад +163

      Those cops belittled you like that? Messed up. I'm so sorry anybody has to go through anything like this.

    • @remig0ld_641
      @remig0ld_641 5 лет назад +45

      "Load the cannon!"

    • @frostandfire7164
      @frostandfire7164 3 года назад +3

      Aw this is so cute :3

    • @whor3sies
      @whor3sies 3 года назад +24

      @@frostandfire7164 wtf the cops said to them stalking is a big word when they were in a similar situation And you just said “this is cute” wtf is wrong with you

  • @gddiggy3828
    @gddiggy3828 4 года назад +3169

    "I don't like that section of the mall anymore."
    I have never heard a sentence with so many raw emotions put behind it. I CAN NOT imagine being in a situation like this.

    • @asahi7627
      @asahi7627 4 года назад +96

      @Logan Roof Wtf dude, not funny

    • @saskiamoller8629
      @saskiamoller8629 4 года назад +66

      @Logan Roof damn u can jump off a roof W Haris and also do a backflip

    • @furiousstudios4438
      @furiousstudios4438 4 года назад +35

      @Logan Roof
      ......

    • @annareeves2027
      @annareeves2027 4 года назад +47

      @Logan Roof um wtf that’s not good or nice this HAPPENED to someone and it’s really not funny imagine if it happened to YOU

    • @miki5152
      @miki5152 4 года назад +32

      @Logan Roof backflip off a roof

  • @mehganlee3618
    @mehganlee3618 5 лет назад +7875

    *"I don't like that section of the mall anymore...."*
    I- God, bless your soul.

    • @acbghost4411
      @acbghost4411 5 лет назад +87

      mehgan lee was she raped or is that just me

    • @abcc7382
      @abcc7382 5 лет назад +236

      ACB Ghost
      I think she was raped

    • @spencervirens
      @spencervirens 5 лет назад +108

      @@abcc7382 I would say raped, but probably sexually harassed. It's a possibility though.

    • @hello_people5283
      @hello_people5283 5 лет назад +178

      @@acbghost4411 Yes, she didn't give consent.

    • @Nicole-id5ey
      @Nicole-id5ey 5 лет назад +116

      500 years in prison for him

  • @Ranii_77
    @Ranii_77 7 месяцев назад +130

    When he drove you to the parking lot and when you said you had nightmares about it, that just broke my heart. Illy, I am so glad you are safe from Harris and I hope he never contacts you again or anyone else who is like that. Stay safe and I love your videos!

  • @Aura097
    @Aura097 6 лет назад +3056

    "I don't like that section of the mall anymore".
    This just broke me.
    It's so messed up.

    • @_artly_art3622
      @_artly_art3622 6 лет назад +5

      Wait. I don't get it. What did they do?

    • @Aura097
      @Aura097 6 лет назад +61

      @@_artly_art3622 He r*ped her I think.

    • @mejustme479
      @mejustme479 6 лет назад +23

      And that is why I totally believe her story, I can relate. 💔

    • @Aura097
      @Aura097 6 лет назад +136

      @@stacymolchanova9832 what?! No she wasn't!! What are you even saying?

    • @xendra333
      @xendra333 6 лет назад +87

      @@stacymolchanova9832 Statutory rape exist and even so, she didn't give her consent.

  • @zachmatthewpogi9639
    @zachmatthewpogi9639 4 года назад +9352

    “You are not responsible for the joy of others”
    -Jaiden Animation

  • @kyliebuddy4652
    @kyliebuddy4652 4 года назад +626

    When she said she did not like that part of the mall anymore.... I felt my gut contort like a spider in a death curl....

    • @corcor2366
      @corcor2366 4 года назад +6

      ikr..

    • @aksisarchonprime2335
      @aksisarchonprime2335 4 года назад +2

      I felt the same thing.

    • @chickeneater34
      @chickeneater34 4 года назад +4

      I didn't get that line. Does it mean, she got deflowered at the parking garage?

    • @kbye2321
      @kbye2321 4 года назад +1

      N-Word Killer Prolly.

    • @XYZZZZZZZ-l1n
      @XYZZZZZZZ-l1n 8 дней назад

      @@chickeneater34 late, but yes

  • @QuillerHart
    @QuillerHart 10 месяцев назад +153

    People like that man make me loose my faith in humanity.
    Then people like you go and restore it.
    You keep doing what you're doing, Illy.

  • @cosmos_gguk
    @cosmos_gguk 5 лет назад +2159

    "I don't like that section of the mall anymore".
    Damn, that hit me hard.
    Im really sorry for what you had to go through

  • @jellosquid8096
    @jellosquid8096 5 лет назад +3446

    my heart shattered when she said that about the parking garage.

    • @lawlietyagami9857
      @lawlietyagami9857 5 лет назад +187

      Same, it’s so sad when you realize there’s people out there who would prey on younger kids or do these types of horrible things.

    • @camerontraer3136
      @camerontraer3136 5 лет назад +61

      Same. I feel terrible for her. I would NEVER do that to someone who I truly love.

    • @trictok4418
      @trictok4418 5 лет назад +67

      And my heart became a little more whole when you gave us validation. Thank you! I was a harassment victim but everyone dismissed it as just my imagination. I'm grateful that you believe illymation's testimony was real.

    • @aetuts4773
      @aetuts4773 5 лет назад +10

      this is irrelevant but heads up jd i’m a dead gay walking

    • @Kai-zz3no
      @Kai-zz3no 5 лет назад +2

      uwu. And here’s your final bell
      It’s one last dance and then farewell

  • @katecrumrine171
    @katecrumrine171 4 года назад +1248

    “Stick and stones will break your bones, but words won’t hurt you. Right?” Verbal and mental abuse is still abuse. Everyone should remember that. Please.

    • @ignoremelol2576
      @ignoremelol2576 4 года назад +8

      Yeah

    • @mercurymoon2369
      @mercurymoon2369 4 года назад +6

      Thank you!

    • @wadabreab
      @wadabreab 4 года назад +13

      Injuries heal, words dont

    • @mahendrakandpal7514
      @mahendrakandpal7514 4 года назад +2

      Nope.

    • @katerinasuprunchik9121
      @katerinasuprunchik9121 4 года назад +12

      My older cousin is putting me through mental abuse calling me “fatass” “ugly” “stupid” “untalented” “worthless” and it’s only me. No. One. Else. His parents don’t do anything at all. I believed him. I keep putting myself down. Calling myself the things that he has said. My sisters probably noticed that something is wrong. I try to get better. But I can’t. I’m scared to eat in front of his family. I always have the feeling that I’m being judged. I spend all my time alone not wanting to talk to anyone. Isolating myself. Whatever you say will effect someone forever.

  • @amadude8174
    @amadude8174 Год назад +194

    Thanks for making this, I was talking with a 20 year old woman over discord and she always seemed super nice but recently she kept talking about coming to my country for college and I’m only a 16 year old lad, this video helped me realise what she was trying to do and luckily I never shared any personal info

  • @ameIiacox
    @ameIiacox 4 года назад +1783

    this is why we don’t use the term “toxic” lightly.

    • @yngjng7732
      @yngjng7732 4 года назад +4

      @Logan Roof wtf

    • @lidiaamorim9342
      @lidiaamorim9342 4 года назад +15

      @@yngjng7732 Don't mind him. He was being a *d word* back there talking about this video like it was a comedy.
      Breaking news *insert @ of that guy* its not *b word*

    • @prinppa
      @prinppa 4 года назад +2

      @@lidiaamorim9342 brasil?

    • @blimasolash2551
      @blimasolash2551 4 года назад +9

      When you live in my world that term is thrown around WAY to much

    • @amymeadows9834
      @amymeadows9834 3 года назад

      Well we are very Toxic human beings when we're hungry. And I'm very crazy when I'm need fed a nice pound of lead

  • @SpindleHorse
    @SpindleHorse 6 лет назад +26609

    You have no idea how amazing it is to see someone brave enough to put a monster like this on blast! MAD props to you!

  • @dove_annarchie6787
    @dove_annarchie6787 3 года назад +4487

    I'm still so fucking infuriated that Illy never got justice, not even her having a better life, friends and support system in the present can quench that anger. It's so unfair...

    • @alias4795
      @alias4795 3 года назад +13

      Same.

    • @oreocrumbs4598
      @oreocrumbs4598 3 года назад +113

      @Rafa Enzo Natividad Dude, there is literally sexual abuse in the video and you're worried about someone swearing in the comments? 😭/nm

    • @krek2031
      @krek2031 3 года назад +7

      @@oreocrumbs4598 I agree

    • @personwithinternet
      @personwithinternet 3 года назад +2

      Same

    • @krek2031
      @krek2031 3 года назад +1

      STILL THIS GUYS SCARED TO FUCKING RESPOND 😂😂😂

  • @LindseyMontgomery-d6u
    @LindseyMontgomery-d6u 10 месяцев назад +110

    I was unknowingly SA’d by my parents and groomed, I didn’t know that it was happening. But it did. Not including the manipulation, and other types of abuse. I am proud of you for leaving.

    • @cashthecurator666
      @cashthecurator666 7 месяцев назад +9

      I’m so sorry about that, kiddo. You deserved better parents. How are you doing today?

    • @ShyloTheFox
      @ShyloTheFox 7 месяцев назад +8

      Damn.. thats so messed up.. are you doing better now. . ?

    • @brittanymele6049
      @brittanymele6049 5 месяцев назад +3

      The fact that it was ur own parents was very sad:(

  • @keianucharlize
    @keianucharlize 6 лет назад +566

    When you said “and he drove to a parking lot...............I don’t like that part of the mall anymore”it made me so sad I could here the pain in your voice

    • @seleenam-ali4762
      @seleenam-ali4762 6 лет назад +18

      Yes same dude my heart dropped i feel soo bad

    • @PUNKTACTIXX
      @PUNKTACTIXX 5 лет назад +5

      She should of just killed him right there right then

    • @sophieliz5027
      @sophieliz5027 5 лет назад +3

      my heart BROKE

    • @theinternetpolice2078
      @theinternetpolice2078 5 лет назад +2

      I could hear the utter defeat in that voice.

    • @moony4412
      @moony4412 5 лет назад +2

      songs to listen to when I'm bored she couldn’t. She was helpless, and couldn’t stop him.

  • @jimmy62989
    @jimmy62989 6 лет назад +549

    What's disgusting is that there are people out there at this very moment who are suffering from this exact kind of situation and our world puts so little stock into addressing emotional abuse and what it can do to a person now and even years in the future. The statement about you being one of the lucky ones to escape is such an understatment.

    • @droopless
      @droopless 6 лет назад

      Boner

    • @lovetrain188
      @lovetrain188 6 лет назад +1

      My head hurts right now I’m in a relationship I’m not abusive but I realized I do a lot of the things this guy does (minus the sexual things and such) but seriously I’m crying right now I’ve been too obsessive I’m exactly like this guy.... I need to apologize to her now I’ve made some shit choices...

  • @perlajurado8953
    @perlajurado8953 6 лет назад +848

    "YOU BETTER BE BUFFER THAN MISTER CLEAN WITH THAT ATTITUDE"

    • @brilubread
      @brilubread 6 лет назад +2

      My fav part 😂😂😂

  • @MinisDunyasi5
    @MinisDunyasi5 Год назад +25

    Illy, thank you for sharing your story and raising awareness. I watched this series when I was 11. I’m 15 now, and by no exaggeration, you have saved me.
    I’ve made many friends online and had multiple encounters where my “new friends” told me never to tell my parents. I immediately blocked and reported them because you taught me to. I didn’t learn this in school. I learned it by watching this series.
    Thank you.

  • @catharticreverie
    @catharticreverie 6 лет назад +967

    I feel like I'm more disappointed and angry at the cop because it was his job to protect you. It was his responsibility to take this seriously, but he didn't. He refused to listen and condescended a very serious issue that could have turned much much worse. When people in power like him don't believe survivors of abuse, they have blood on their hands. He doesn't deserve to be a cop.

    • @corncosplayer7941
      @corncosplayer7941 6 лет назад +42

      I'm scared of cops literally because of this reason, something similar happened to me

    • @diligentone-six2688
      @diligentone-six2688 6 лет назад +9

      In my Country: Once a Cop, always a Cop. Your Job is to Serve an Protect the Country. Any Lawmen is not Safe in our recent Administration. Commit a Crime, you get Humiliated by the Superintendents. And either they'll take you some place dangerous or they'll arrest you.

    • @SteenatheCatrobat
      @SteenatheCatrobat 6 лет назад +18

      I hope he got fired.

    • @gamerharpy205
      @gamerharpy205 2 года назад

      He should be fired

    • @HiSkyHigh
      @HiSkyHigh 2 года назад

      I hope the the cop and her ex dies in a hole with no one to remember them

  • @bigcahoonah5318
    @bigcahoonah5318 4 года назад +506

    The best revenge is that you're still alive and living a wonderful, healing life now. Love you, Illy.

    • @ivansuman867
      @ivansuman867 4 года назад +1

      It's not illy it's alasha

    • @mateom8223
      @mateom8223 4 года назад +3

      Ivan Šuman it’s Illysa

    • @kimberboucher4680
      @kimberboucher4680 4 года назад +2

      Ivan Šuman lol if your going to correct somebody make sure you know it, yourself.

    • @meowmeowdefnotafurry
      @meowmeowdefnotafurry 4 года назад +1

      Ivan Šuman XD No it isn’t that’s not even close to the correction, plus her name is Ilyssa, and her NICKNAME is ILLY! Next time you correct someone make sure you know it yourself

    • @lazulidrawzalot
      @lazulidrawzalot 4 года назад

      @Kat the Plebby potato Pretty sure that was a reference to one of her other videos.

  • @ailinsno
    @ailinsno 6 лет назад +560

    “Better be buffer then mr.clean with that attitude ” love that

  • @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor
    @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor Год назад +396

    Reminder: people who sexually abuse others usally aren't very developed emotionally
    so remember you are a lot more developed then this person is, they probably just spent his teenage years doing nothing to develop his brain
    You are FAR more powerful both physically and mentally

    • @overlord3481
      @overlord3481 10 месяцев назад +2

      You're saying that based on nothing. What does "developed" even mean? You saying that smart men can't be creeps lol

    • @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor
      @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor 10 месяцев назад +10

      @@overlord3481 being mentally developed doesnt equal smartness.
      it's just the ability to handle things

    • @overlord3481
      @overlord3481 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor define mentally developed

    • @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor
      @PixelsPolygonsNPetrichor 10 месяцев назад

      @@overlord3481 being able to handle stuff that a younger/traumatised person cant

    • @iamtheloraxandispeakforthe8496
      @iamtheloraxandispeakforthe8496 10 месяцев назад +13

      By emotionally underdeveloped, they mean that the person does not understand how their actions affect others (to some extent)
      They don't understand that someone deserves the right to say no, they only act on what THEY want.

  • @itsme_hi13
    @itsme_hi13 2 года назад +5419

    “It’s okay, you just made a mistake.” That’s what my mom told me after I told her that I had been a victim of abuse and pedophilia.
    Illy, thank you for helping me not feel so alone.

    • @Vixieaudios
      @Vixieaudios 2 года назад +44

      @@justaturky2890 same!

    • @nicolesvariouswares
      @nicolesvariouswares 2 года назад +307

      You didn’t make any mistake. Someone took advantage of you and hurt you when you were vulnerable. I’m sorry your mom wouldn’t see that, and I hope you’re doing well now

    • @galaxytaco2873
      @galaxytaco2873 2 года назад +55

      The way I went “that’s not normal?” When you said that. Wow. Uh. I am so unbelievably sorry about that for you. :(

    • @SereneQueennn
      @SereneQueennn 2 года назад +17

      I am so so soooooo sorry that happened that’s heartbreaking 💔

    • @itsme_hi13
      @itsme_hi13 2 года назад +51

      @@yd_gacha4307 i sobbed when i read this. it’s not funny or welcome at all. do you know how long it’s taken me in therapy just to try to recognize that it wasn’t all my fault? and do you know that i still struggle with that? my own mother told me that it was my fault, and the one friend i trusted told me that i should have seen the signs. and they’re right! i should have! i should have left so much earlier! thanks for reminding me that the moral of my story is that i was dumb enough to listen to a 40-something-year-old man (even though he originally told me he was 17) when i should have just ignored the idea of love. you really need to get off the internet. seriously. what is wrong with you

  • @luv2saturn260
    @luv2saturn260 3 года назад +2670

    The worst part of this is it happened for so long and ruined her entire middle school and high school experience. This happened since she was 13. Until she was 18 how is that okay. This story hurts me worse every time I watch this

    • @Vixieaudios
      @Vixieaudios 2 года назад +19

      @@tacopower3578 fr fr thats sad she cant get that precious time back

    • @SilentCrimsonOx
      @SilentCrimsonOx 2 года назад +20

      Yea and she can’t just go back in time back to her childhood ig that’s what you can call it :/

    • @ronaldoalberto3510
      @ronaldoalberto3510 2 года назад +30

      Not to mention the added trauma she may carry with her to the future, all because of him

    • @leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259
      @leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 2 года назад +8

      yeah thats the worst part

    • @fxdedflxwers907
      @fxdedflxwers907 2 года назад +14

      Coupled with the fact that, in another video, she said that she was being bullied at school

  • @Alex-dm8vf
    @Alex-dm8vf 6 лет назад +3195

    *She was in RUclips rewind* I’m so proud

    • @yeetyeet8840
      @yeetyeet8840 6 лет назад +43

      Animators were included again thankfully

    • @that_echo1887
      @that_echo1887 6 лет назад +1

      Alex Milne yes! I was like illy!!!!!!!!

    • @michaelql3754
      @michaelql3754 6 лет назад +17

      Alex Milne everything was still thrash tho

    • @trinavegaga5808
      @trinavegaga5808 6 лет назад +6

      But then the rest of the rewind sucked

    • @mintomento8003
      @mintomento8003 6 лет назад +5

      I’m more disappointed considering how awful it was

  • @TheFurryFurby
    @TheFurryFurby 2 месяца назад +47

    Oh my God… I am so glad you left that a**hole.

  • @fartgoblin3007
    @fartgoblin3007 5 лет назад +812

    Like Jaiden said: NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONES HAPPINESS!

  • @memelord2136
    @memelord2136 4 года назад +3090

    "Age is just a number"
    And Hell is just a giant oven

  • @zachboss2378
    @zachboss2378 4 года назад +6265

    I can’t believe I breath the same oxygen of him

  • @ratdoodles4370
    @ratdoodles4370 Год назад +48

    i got very lucky.. my cousin sexually assaulted me and my parents found out. i didn’t tell them then his parents found out he got in trouble and thankfully no one else did. here i am, today, suffering through ptsd, haven’t dated a man ever again lol. i met a really nice police officer and he honestly helped much more than anyone has. i thank you for sharing this. and hope that no man ever bothers you like that again. stay strong, we love you

    • @tamimsiddique1420
      @tamimsiddique1420 Год назад +4

      I'm sorry for what your cousin did, you did not deserve that.

  • @jellyquijano4191
    @jellyquijano4191 5 лет назад +1792

    “YOU BETTA BE BUFFER THAN MR CLEAN WITH THAT ATTITUDE”

    • @nethascotx24
      @nethascotx24 5 лет назад +15

      Ngl best line ever

    • @cer7892
      @cer7892 5 лет назад +11

      I love that line lol

    • @annaluuuvv
      @annaluuuvv 4 года назад +4

      Nice plagiarizing

    • @MuffinDogg
      @MuffinDogg 4 года назад +2

      Yes

    • @MuffinDogg
      @MuffinDogg 4 года назад +3

      YOU BETTER BE BUFFER THAN A... wait he's a noodle

  • @ActuallyRea
    @ActuallyRea 6 лет назад +7504

    THAT ENDING AS ME MORE ON EDGE THAN INFINITY WAR

  • @jennifergrissom5878
    @jennifergrissom5878 4 года назад +910

    He ruined this girl's freaking life not just childhood he gave her these memories no one should suffer like that

    • @sarahjforpresident
      @sarahjforpresident 4 года назад +8

      @Logan Roof no❤️ noone else reply please this 9 year old "logan" is looking for attention

    • @shrimpygutz
      @shrimpygutz 3 года назад +2

      ABSOLUTELY NO ONE SHOULD BE TREATED LIKE THIS

    • @alexandriadiamante4286
      @alexandriadiamante4286 3 года назад +2

      Yea I feel so sorry for her

  • @corpsemu..x
    @corpsemu..x 2 месяца назад +45

    SHE PREDICTED THE FUTURE 0:50

  • @InfamousSwoosh
    @InfamousSwoosh 6 лет назад +3852

    Again... that dude sucks. Great video illy. Can’t wait for 2.5

    • @marielavega335
      @marielavega335 6 лет назад +3

      Ikr

    • @internationaltroller8242
      @internationaltroller8242 6 лет назад +6

      Same my dude
      (pssssst) hey hey I quite like your vids

    • @emmanuelramirezmontoya6646
      @emmanuelramirezmontoya6646 6 лет назад

      Nani?

    • @florence.florence.f.florence
      @florence.florence.f.florence 6 лет назад

      lel

    • @mkzhero
      @mkzhero 6 лет назад +1

      Everywhere i look.. VACUUM. There things don't come out of nowhere people, being susceptible to abuse and turning out abusive starts home. They guy deserves all the shit he can get, sure, but his, and her parents need to get some heat too.. A lot of heat actually.

  • @glittergal0701
    @glittergal0701 5 лет назад +830

    Whoa. After the "I don't like that section of the mall anymore" part, I started crying. The parallels between that and what I've experienced shook me. I have/had all the thoughts and feelings she did. Still blame myself. I dont know how to stop blaming myself for not putting up a fight when I was assaulted. Like her, I always thought I could protect myself, but when you let your guard down, it's a whole other thing. Aaaaaa this made me cry BUT IN A GOOD WAY. Meaning knowing others are struggling with the same issues helps

    • @reliablenarrator4281
      @reliablenarrator4281 5 лет назад +6

      @Jude Boon oh shut up 🙄

    • @reliablenarrator4281
      @reliablenarrator4281 5 лет назад +16

      @Rachel Hartman Don't blame yourself! It's easy to slip into a mentality that you were the one who put yourself in the situation and LET something happen to you, but that's not true. You don't deserve to be mistreated by anyone. You are above what they've done to you. Shame the person who did things to you, not yourself. It's easier said than done but with practice, you can train yourself to believe it.

    • @dirkstrider657
      @dirkstrider657 4 года назад +12

      I hope your mental health gets better in the future and that trauma doesn't affect you as much. I'd also reccomend therapy if you can afford it. :,)

    • @Barillaboon
      @Barillaboon 4 года назад +2

      Too lazy to read but what I'm getting at have a good ... Life?

    • @JIF-ob9nz
      @JIF-ob9nz 4 года назад +2

      Rachel Hartman I’m so sarry

  • @leofont6026
    @leofont6026 5 лет назад +16117

    The 6.6k dislikes are all of Haris' fake accounts...

  • @TempoTronica
    @TempoTronica Год назад +45

    That story about the cop just made me mad. Like you said after telling the story, you deserved and needed help. I'm glad you got out of that. And I hope this video has helped other victims.

  • @TheTatlTael36
    @TheTatlTael36 6 лет назад +254

    The entire time I was watching this my heart was pounding, and memories of my own trauma came flooding back. I went through a very similar scenario with a guy that I thought I loved, and who I thought had my best interests at heart. When I finally broke things off, he stalked me, threatened suicide, the whole nine yards. To this day I go back and forth between feeling sorry for him, and wanting to tear him into screaming, bloody pieces. Thankfully he hasn’t spoken to me in a few years, but if he ever threatened me with suicide again, I’d tell him with no remorse; “Your life is your responsibility. I don’t care whether you decide to cut it short, or live until you die alone at the age of 100.”

  • @HaveanIcedaymx
    @HaveanIcedaymx 6 лет назад +300

    I once had 50 missed calls from an abusive ex boyfriend, I was lucky, because I moved far away and never looked back.

    • @Thatbeanbagchair
      @Thatbeanbagchair 6 лет назад +3

      Don't know you but proud of ya

    • @amagicalunicorn6839
      @amagicalunicorn6839 6 лет назад +1

      You go. You deserve so much better. Hope this never happens to you again

  • @gigithegigli1431
    @gigithegigli1431 5 лет назад +420

    That’s terrifying. I’m so sorry you had to go through that.

    • @notusing9434
      @notusing9434 4 года назад

      Yes. I can’t believe people do this

    • @IHateVoids
      @IHateVoids 4 года назад +1

      Im still 11 so i have no girlfreind

    • @poopvideo
      @poopvideo 4 года назад

      Davyan gaming valkerie 999 well then good

    • @shutired
      @shutired 4 года назад

      People send me creepy messages everyday and they scare me

  • @LolaHomosexual
    @LolaHomosexual 10 месяцев назад +8

    I'm so glad you feel comfortable sharing this story, I hope you get your justice girl

  • @arandomwanderer7976
    @arandomwanderer7976 4 года назад +433

    “I don’t like that section of the mall anymore“ that sentence hit way to hard

  • @jobyawful1121
    @jobyawful1121 3 года назад +3103

    Just noticed Haris's hair is drawn to look like devil horns
    Clever

    • @derp9440
      @derp9440 3 года назад +81

      He deserves to go to down to the under world.

    • @yasminlima2272
      @yasminlima2272 3 года назад +107

      Not even satan would want him

    • @derp9440
      @derp9440 3 года назад +23

      @@yasminlima2272 then where the frick we’re gonna put him!

    • @yasminlima2272
      @yasminlima2272 3 года назад +32

      @@derp9440 Infinity death and suffering lol

    • @wyzran
      @wyzran 3 года назад +9

      @@yasminlima2272 send him to the PURGATORY

  • @Versaucey
    @Versaucey 6 лет назад +4143

    As messed up as it sounds, I've been waiting for this sequel.

  • @zaraandrews600
    @zaraandrews600 Год назад +40

    I was sexually assaulted by my cousin when I was younger and I remember thinking that it must mean he loved me. My sister used to laugh at the idea of me loving my cousin. My cousin's sister who saw it all happen would laugh at me and make me feel bad for letting it happen. My dad had no idea that it was happening, but he happened to get into an argument with their mum (his sister) so we stopped seeing them. The next time we saw them was at my grandad's wedding, about ten years later. By that time I had realised what my cousin had done to me, but I had never told any of my family. My female cousin made a joke about it and I just remember having to try so hard to keep it together.
    A couple of years later me and my dad had met up my aunt and uncle for a quick hi. My uncle went on about me as a baby naked in the bath, it was disgusting. The way he talked about it, it felt very paedophilic. I just wanted to leave that conversation as quickly as possible. After that talk, me and my dad got into the car and I told him how uncomfortable my uncle had made me and my dad just blamed me, as I was the one who had wanted to catch up with my aunt. A little later on the car journey my dad spoke about my cousin, saying how great he is, and I told him what he had done to me when I was younger. All my dad said was that I should have told him when it happened, which I retorted, saying I didn't understand what had happened then. It was extremely frustrating.
    Since then I have told my sister too and she just got all awkward when I told her. The same happened with the guys I have dated. It made me feel like I was blowing the whole thing out of proportion, but I also couldn't get rid of this feeling of violation. Eventually I told my best friend about it and she was really great. She made me feel validated, and helped me try to get help for it. I am so grateful to her for making me feel valid. I still haven't told most of my family about what happened. But I feel like most of them wouldn't care and would just see it as me trying to cause issues. Sometimes I want to talk to my cousin and tell how violated and betrayed he made me feel, but I also think he wouldn't care.
    I also worry that he might have done this to other people, but I don't want to ruin his life if it was just me. He is 6 months older than me so I have been told it could have just been because he was a child himself. At the time of the assault I was dealing with going through puberty very early so I had developed breasts a lot younger than other kids. I also have autism and have always been more trusting of people older than me. I had really adored my older cousin because I felt safe with him. My parents had just divorced and I was always being told to take a side. Normally when I visited family too I would end up having to look after my younger cousins as the oldest, so having one cousin older than me on my dad's side had always given me some relief. Now I am worried when he is in the same room as my cousins as I don't trust him (thankfully this happens very rarely).

    • @tamimsiddique1420
      @tamimsiddique1420 Год назад +5

      I'm sorry for what you had through, even having your father blaming you. It's not your fault, and it really sucks that your father would victim blame. It really sucks that the people you have told do not care, but great, your best friend does.

    • @nevaehlynch3399
      @nevaehlynch3399 Год назад +1

      That's so sad, I hope you get the justice you deserve and uh..., Don't be shy, Tell us his name....

    • @alrgx145alrgx14
      @alrgx145alrgx14 Год назад +2

      What the heck is wrong with your family …….( atleast most )

  • @scotthorror2519
    @scotthorror2519 6 лет назад +337

    "you better be buffer than mr clean with that attitude" facts

    • @fezrtuest
      @fezrtuest 6 лет назад +2

      I audibly wheezed

  • @pacocarosa8385
    @pacocarosa8385 6 лет назад +633

    "I don't like this section of mall anymore" i'm really crying inside.

    • @_artly_art3622
      @_artly_art3622 6 лет назад

      Wait I don't get it.. what happened there????

    • @pacocarosa8385
      @pacocarosa8385 6 лет назад +4

      @@_artly_art3622 she probally was raped or they made sex, but without with her permission, i don't know very well but i think it's this

    • @_artly_art3622
      @_artly_art3622 6 лет назад

      @@pacocarosa8385 oh

    • @hisDreamingDevil
      @hisDreamingDevil 6 лет назад +18

      @@pacocarosa8385 yes, it is safe to use the term "rape" in this case. She said "no" repeatedly and was crying and he still went through with it. This lead to her, thinking that Maybe she should have been louder or put up more of a fight and therefore blaming herself. Sadly this is really common in these kind of cases 😔

    • @agereartist3763
      @agereartist3763 6 лет назад +1

      Me to I'm heart broken

  • @izzythegamer1434
    @izzythegamer1434 4 года назад +738

    Favorite part: “YOU BETTER BE BUFFER THAN MISTER CLEAN WITH THAT ATTiTUDE!!”

  • @UncoookedPasta
    @UncoookedPasta 10 месяцев назад +12

    this happened to me in 2021, luckily his friend reached out and got me away from the situation, i’m so glad it didn’t get worse. ‘relationships’ like this rlly fuck you up as a person

  • @ouroborosjormungandr5615
    @ouroborosjormungandr5615 5 лет назад +689

    Y'now...if he's still got those pictures, he's a criminal.

    • @cryptic-lemon9755
      @cryptic-lemon9755 5 лет назад +46

      Yeah, couldn't the police get a warrant on his computer and see that 'personal collection' of his?

    • @rynemcgriffin1752
      @rynemcgriffin1752 5 лет назад +16

      Ms Crazy He most likely has deleted these and would make stuff up

    • @ceinwennn
      @ceinwennn 5 лет назад +3

      They were snaps though

    • @Scarlettt343
      @Scarlettt343 5 лет назад +4

      @@rynemcgriffin1752 there would still be evidence that's already out. Like Cristali. He denied it, but we all know the truth and now he's in the slammer where he belongs

    • @liltube8092
      @liltube8092 5 лет назад +5

      Ryne Mcgriffin nothing is ever fully deleted and for a idiot and creep like him I don’t think he would delete them so the police could find them

  • @bananabreab2222
    @bananabreab2222 6 лет назад +569

    *yOU BETTER BE BUFFER THAN MR. CLEAN WITH THAT ATTITUDE*

  • @selahmeyers2643
    @selahmeyers2643 6 лет назад +1009

    I’m sorry but- “YOU MUST BE BUFFER THAN MISTA CLEAN WITH THAT ATTITUDE”

    • @briannguy4481
      @briannguy4481 6 лет назад +3

      It's not okay to body shame.

    • @agereartist3763
      @agereartist3763 6 лет назад +4

      True but lets nuke his house anyway

    • @Sweetestdiva14
      @Sweetestdiva14 6 лет назад +3

      I actually died

    • @peeberton
      @peeberton 6 лет назад +3

      Omg 😂😂😂

    • @hntr038
      @hntr038 6 лет назад +2

      @@agereartist3763 did you know nuking a house is worse than this dude Harris? Just thought I'd let you know.

  • @lisahogue6310
    @lisahogue6310 Год назад +17

    I hate the phrase sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt me

    • @unripelemon1142
      @unripelemon1142 Год назад +2

      Freaking exactly. Like, as if verbal abuse doesn't exist

  • @jaydenxforever7665
    @jaydenxforever7665 4 года назад +390

    "Touching is just touching"
    And being touched by handcuffs is just touching

    • @icyfoxi2755
      @icyfoxi2755 4 года назад +7

      Try a flaming hot knife

    • @emmanoel9045
      @emmanoel9045 4 года назад +2

      @Logan Roof DID YOU JUST SAY FABRICATED!!! DUDE! YOU DO NOT ¨FABRICATE¨ STUFF LIKE THIS!

    • @witchybubbles26pandalover17
      @witchybubbles26pandalover17 4 года назад +3

      @Logan Roof, dude, literally no one on this planet deserves that.

    • @bomblazetheknight3086
      @bomblazetheknight3086 4 года назад +2

      @@witchybubbles26pandalover17 this guy literally has a nazi flag behind his pfp

    • @carat_light
      @carat_light 4 года назад

      @Logan Roof "she deserves it" Sure hun, go back to playing fortnite 🗿🗿

  • @achehead
    @achehead 3 года назад +1418

    all jokes aside, I actually cried. I felt so bad, that I felt like going back through time and find you and just help you in that situation. I watched this when I was 14 and I couldn't understand. Re-watching this right now, as a 15 yr old, I feel bad, and honestly I really wanted to help you and sacrifice everything just so you can be safe. I love you and I hope you're doing well.

    • @kuroneko9167
      @kuroneko9167 3 года назад +2

      Same

    • @juliaivanova2959
      @juliaivanova2959 3 года назад +11

      Its so disturbing that they are people like that

    • @justaloser4178
      @justaloser4178 3 года назад +6

      Haris is lucky that illy is a great person and didn't give enough information about him.
      Or else that skinny string would have met god by now

    • @jazhughes2095
      @jazhughes2095 3 года назад +1

      Lol I’m like 12 and I understand this fully

    • @donquavioussquintillioncor2261
      @donquavioussquintillioncor2261 2 года назад +1

      when this happened i was playing monster truck racing games on my pc

  • @karah7086
    @karah7086 6 лет назад +666

    I got chills when you said "I don't like the part of the mall anymore..."😨

    • @foooofboi
      @foooofboi 6 лет назад +9

      What does that mean. Oh wait WHAT

    • @loverglow13
      @loverglow13 5 лет назад +5

      Feffinator she was raped in that part of the mall

  • @CUTECORE3-ul9cp
    @CUTECORE3-ul9cp 10 месяцев назад +47

    “I no longer like that part of the mall” I’m so sorry:((

  • @ShinyPrimarina
    @ShinyPrimarina 6 лет назад +534

    It's still crazy how people choose to blame the person who suffered rather than the person who committed the crime

    • @mariellenoliveira1913
      @mariellenoliveira1913 6 лет назад +2

      Ikr?! How can people be so stupid?

    • @enviisyk
      @enviisyk 6 лет назад +12

      Say it louder for the people in the back

    • @harrythehamster72
      @harrythehamster72 6 лет назад +1

      but like y is a 13 year old on the internet talking to strangers smh

    • @ShinyPrimarina
      @ShinyPrimarina 6 лет назад +26

      @@harrythehamster72 we ain't doing this today, satan

    • @EDMYuki
      @EDMYuki 6 лет назад +16

      @@harrythehamster72 And how old were you when you first used social media?

  • @bug9997
    @bug9997 6 лет назад +828

    Dude. You explained consent way better than any of my teachers.

    • @sobausopp436
      @sobausopp436 6 лет назад +1

      Yeeting Birtch tree hmmm

    • @sobausopp436
      @sobausopp436 6 лет назад +1

      Yeeting Birtch tree probably because your teachers where summering the definition

    • @sobausopp436
      @sobausopp436 6 лет назад +2

      Yeeting Birtch tree but she did get something wrong like when she said if you ask someone to say yes it isn’t consent but what if you are asking your parents to say yes to buying a game they still gave you permission Consensually

    • @user-pe8uk4mi8y
      @user-pe8uk4mi8y 6 лет назад +1

      WhAT IS YOUR PFP I'M SO SCARED

  • @kiwilynn43
    @kiwilynn43 4 года назад +280

    When Illy says “And now I don’t like that section of the mall anymore...”
    It always makes me want to cry for her

  • @1ADHD._.
    @1ADHD._. 10 месяцев назад +10

    I'm so sorry Alyssa no one should go through something like this. :(

  • @wadew.1869
    @wadew.1869 5 лет назад +3827

    “So he drove us to a parking garage.. “
    *I dont like that section of the mall anymore*
    Don’t tell me that didn’t make your heart drop to your stomach. Because it did for me, and Jesus Christ I hate the feeling

  • @Ashrustic
    @Ashrustic 4 года назад +1225

    "Age is just a number."
    Execution is just a time limit.

    • @you-jq7xe
      @you-jq7xe 4 года назад +18

      911 is a number too :)

    • @fnafgirl8874
      @fnafgirl8874 4 года назад +23

      And the FBI is just a group of friends!

    • @dragon-jz2pv
      @dragon-jz2pv 3 года назад +4

      @@fnafgirl8874 and co-workers

    • @dragon-jz2pv
      @dragon-jz2pv 3 года назад +3

      And the time limit is done

    • @imweird4648
      @imweird4648 3 года назад

      OH HO! THAT GONE FROM ZERO TO A MILLON REAL QUICK!

  • @Drywalleaterr
    @Drywalleaterr 4 года назад +1424

    "That's toxic as shiiiiiiiiiiiiii-"
    -JaidenAnimations

    • @quackityhasagun4405
      @quackityhasagun4405 4 года назад +23

      tom gedison, you are now my favorite RUclips commenter.

    • @Kr4mpus_
      @Kr4mpus_ 4 года назад +3

      this
      this is really fucking good

    • @nubbskull
      @nubbskull 4 года назад +2

      Oo another comment from jaidens toxic thingy..????? I think????
      (sorry if I sound sarcastic and stuff)

    • @Dewey_01
      @Dewey_01 4 года назад

      That actually what i thaught

    • @littleshook5360
      @littleshook5360 4 года назад

      No😠😠😠😠 it's "UNLOCK THE DOORS FIND THE KEYSSS😭😭" 🤣🤣😂😂😂

  • @Animegirlie-lucy
    @Animegirlie-lucy 8 месяцев назад +6

    No matter the scar, if it's metal emotional or physical, you are so strong for surviving that I'm so happy you are safe. Scars mean you went through something tough in the past, survived it, and came back stronger, and I am so proud of you, Ily ❤

  • @HeavyWingz
    @HeavyWingz 6 лет назад +2112

    He don't protecc
    He only attack
    But most improtantly he needs to jail real quick no cap

    • @dooperwooperdmt1900
      @dooperwooperdmt1900 6 лет назад +51

      He don't protecc he only atacc if he ever meets me he's losing his fucking cocc

    • @Mmonmon343
      @Mmonmon343 6 лет назад +6

      This is why need a REAL batman

    • @henryraptor1545
      @henryraptor1545 6 лет назад +2

      If you can get a strong enough case and have evidence, I agree!

    • @smokyking6680
      @smokyking6680 6 лет назад

      Protected

    • @QueenSpade8
      @QueenSpade8 6 лет назад

      XD

  • @sharonmott2888
    @sharonmott2888 4 года назад +649

    “Age is a number”
    And Batman is just a overconfident man.

  • @nomadsstuff1770
    @nomadsstuff1770 6 лет назад +638

    "back for the chaos" >implying i ever left

    • @illymation
      @illymation  6 лет назад +43

      That made me laugh out loud, omg

    • @nomadsstuff1770
      @nomadsstuff1770 6 лет назад +6

      illymation glad to be of service

  • @Omori_kel_is_real
    @Omori_kel_is_real 10 месяцев назад +14

    “And I don’t go to that part of the mall anymore”😕

  • @hathal-wr6yb
    @hathal-wr6yb 4 года назад +2305

    H-hate him
    A-an evil guy
    R-really disgusting
    I-ILLEGAL DOOD
    S-supposed to be in jail
    I would like justice☺

    • @giggus_arrow509
      @giggus_arrow509 4 года назад +55

      His name is haris mahjoob. I’ve referenced social media, linked in, everything. He looks like illys drawing of him.

    • @bicuber8399
      @bicuber8399 4 года назад +7

      Giggus_ Arrow Does he have any other socials?

    • @ObiWanKenobi212
      @ObiWanKenobi212 4 года назад +3

      Giggus_ Arrow is he on face book?

    • @ObiWanKenobi212
      @ObiWanKenobi212 4 года назад +2

      Giggus_ Arrow does he look fancy?

    • @iregertnothing28
      @iregertnothing28 4 года назад +4

      @@giggus_arrow509 You found him?! What's he doing now?

  • @freezingblade7258
    @freezingblade7258 4 года назад +708

    Even if the cop didn’t trust illy, he shouldn’t ignore the chance to help someone. So that cop is mean and really dumb.

    • @Stabilisersforbigboys
      @Stabilisersforbigboys 4 года назад +25

      I want to hit that cop.

    • @lostnumbr
      @lostnumbr 4 года назад +32

      uttering death threats is a serious thing. that cop needs to be fired for not even taking a report on it.

    • @amy9048
      @amy9048 4 года назад +25

      cops are trained to trust people and help them. if a cop can’t do their job then they could be fired and arrested at worst

    • @josteinulnes3985
      @josteinulnes3985 4 года назад +3

      Cops shood be safe and help u!!!!

    • @hovanng6317
      @hovanng6317 4 года назад +6

      That. Damn. Cop.

  • @InsertOutstandingUser
    @InsertOutstandingUser 3 года назад +927

    Wondering why im smiling? Cause the parents tried to help instead of shaming the cause. People need to help like this more.

    • @kelismaincharacter4925
      @kelismaincharacter4925 3 года назад +36

      Underrated comment. Hits different when your parents dont give a shit

    • @ihasdiarrheapro5788
      @ihasdiarrheapro5788 3 года назад +1

      E

    • @ihasdiarrheapro5788
      @ihasdiarrheapro5788 3 года назад +12

      My parents would shame me and then ground me if i got into shit like this

    • @ItsSebunGG
      @ItsSebunGG 3 года назад +1

      I was smiling cuz dispite anything what's happening to her or what was she's always funny and making it into a funny situatuon

    • @ihasdiarrheapro5788
      @ihasdiarrheapro5788 3 года назад

      @@ItsSebunGG lol what the fuck this is funny to you?

  • @GOHSYN-YEEStudent
    @GOHSYN-YEEStudent 2 месяца назад +4

    everything she says just makes me want to hug her so bad. The fact she remembers all the little details shows how traumatising it was. I really hope this video reaches the people it should, that people learn from what has happened to her, to know that they deserve better

  • @annabananabones08
    @annabananabones08 6 лет назад +332

    The response from the police officer is not surprising but still elicits rage that is hotter than the earth's mantle. THIS IS WHY PEOPLE DON'T REPORT

    • @alexsiemers7898
      @alexsiemers7898 6 лет назад +7

      The mantle is ice cold compared to the fury we feel.

    • @clips769
      @clips769 5 лет назад +4

      Cops say that people need to report people but they don't take it serious when they are under 18

  • @thingsnstuff2934
    @thingsnstuff2934 4 года назад +335

    "I don't like that section of the mall anymore." That broke my heart. I am truly sorry. Also sorry for the doxxing.

    • @blimasolash2551
      @blimasolash2551 4 года назад +3

      I lost you at doxxing...no dictionary would tell me what it means😂

    • @cyberj1nx
      @cyberj1nx 3 года назад +22

      @@blimasolash2551 Its basically publicly revealing private information about someone

    • @redeyes805
      @redeyes805 3 года назад +2

      same man, I can never find parking. I'm sorry but I had to. That quote also shot my heart.

  • @NateIsLame
    @NateIsLame 6 лет назад +4615

    thank you for making this. what you're doing is so important and you're making such a big difference in so many kids' lives. these videos are amazingly important and what you're doing is gonna save lives.

  • @Kaylaw9
    @Kaylaw9 10 месяцев назад +8

    I was in a relationship somewhat similar to this when I started high school. The guy constantly asked me for pictures and threatened to kill himself if i tried to break up with him.
    I'm lucky that someone I trust found out about it and the relationship didn't go any farther.

    • @daisy.lvsssss
      @daisy.lvsssss 10 месяцев назад +1

      oh my god that’s so terrible I hope you’re okay now ❤❤

    • @Kaylaw9
      @Kaylaw9 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@daisy.lvsssss I'm a lot better now. Thanks. ❤️

  • @liamdabrowski9643
    @liamdabrowski9643 6 лет назад +258

    haris makes me sick, its clear hes an insecure person that needs to put people down to make himself feel better.

    • @matilde_5
      @matilde_5 6 лет назад +3

      Liam dabrowski I think he’s really worse than that. He’s insane.

    • @mcprol2467
      @mcprol2467 6 лет назад

      I could of ended up like him since my parents kept insulting me, thank God.

    • @electrofonickitty823
      @electrofonickitty823 6 лет назад

      He reminds me of my sister's exhusband....dang

    • @alexiskuwata
      @alexiskuwata 6 лет назад

      I’m insecure but I put myself down

  • @Fa11enAngell
    @Fa11enAngell 6 лет назад +434

    I’m so grateful you mentioned the fact that freezing is one of the things a victim can do when someone attacks her. I’ve felt shame and guilt ever since I was raped because I feel like I didn’t do more. When I saw a cop she told me that “next time I should try saying no harder” this video made me cry but I’m so grateful you’re making this series

    • @DT-yw4ob
      @DT-yw4ob 6 лет назад +16

      It's certainly one of the options your brain has to "survive", it's a completely natural response and nothing to be ashamed of, you did survive, and, if you at that exact moment felt like freezing was your only chance , i commend you for being able to put up with whatever that MONSTER forced upon you at that time and come out of it as unscathed as possible. There is no right way to know what would have been the perfect course of action and what would have instead lead to disaster, best of luck with your recovery.

    • @Fa11enAngell
      @Fa11enAngell 6 лет назад +6

      Davide Tramontana thank you so very much! Luckily I have a lot of support surrounding me. I am very grateful

    • @magdarose4657
      @magdarose4657 6 лет назад +9

      That feeling of freeze in an assault is the worst because you know you should be fighting it but you’re so scared and all you can physically do is take it and cry

    • @kamrynharleenivy8111
      @kamrynharleenivy8111 6 лет назад +4

      no means no sending love your way stay strong

    • @agnijabistrovaite1082
      @agnijabistrovaite1082 6 лет назад +3

      Stay strong girl, it's not your fault! You are a STAR for surviving

  • @xBlackWolfBlueEyesx
    @xBlackWolfBlueEyesx 6 лет назад +212

    Mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse, and both really need to be handled better than they are. You're a strong person, I admire you.

    • @KRANKYS100
      @KRANKYS100 6 лет назад

      It was both though, but I guess.

    • @MrWhat-ni3ff
      @MrWhat-ni3ff 6 лет назад +1

      the human brain cant tell the difference between a mental attack and a physical attack

    • @KRANKYS100
      @KRANKYS100 6 лет назад

      Mr. What Doesn’t have to sound so professional, also it’s wrong. It’s easy to tell mental abuse and physical abuse. It also wasn’t an attack sooo I can’t see what you’re talking about.

    • @MrWhat-ni3ff
      @MrWhat-ni3ff 6 лет назад

      @@KRANKYS100 whoops

  • @OpenBiolabsGuy
    @OpenBiolabsGuy 6 месяцев назад +3

    I’m going to share your videos with my teenage daughters. I want them to know what to look out for, and to learn from someone else’s experience rather than having to go through it themselves.

  • @lotsoflogos
    @lotsoflogos 6 лет назад +920

    You and Jaiden are the only reasons I gave a crap about RUclips Rewind.
    Edit: Aw, crap! How could I forget the rest of the animation squad that was in it! X3

  • @CrisisCrow
    @CrisisCrow 3 года назад +1908

    Illy? Listen, I know it’s been three years since this was uploaded, but I seriously can’t watch this without saying something. I’m not the therapist friend, and you’re probably okay. I just needed to say that my heart goes out to you.
    Words really can’t express how sorry I am that this happened to you.

  • @CypherDen
    @CypherDen 6 лет назад +2447

    Thank you for sharing your story and Harris... ughhh Harris. >_>
    Illy, you are the bravest soul.

  • @KatzeMelli
    @KatzeMelli 10 месяцев назад +3

    Girl, from one abuse victim to another … here is a big long internet hug. This was a ride and took me right back to the memories of my ex… hope you’re well these days ❤

  • @tianasfilm9114
    @tianasfilm9114 6 лет назад +703

    imagine Harris comments under one of these videos and your whole fan base just drags him.

    • @emmrttb8516
      @emmrttb8516 6 лет назад +2

      Yup

    • @_coolman_8941
      @_coolman_8941 6 лет назад +5

      He probably did comment

    • @EpicGamer-ii7yn
      @EpicGamer-ii7yn 6 лет назад +9

      • T i a n a’ s F i l m • he would be just torn down by her fan base

    • @yjh034
      @yjh034 6 лет назад +1

      True

    • @Hostilecrustacean
      @Hostilecrustacean 6 лет назад +13

      And now I actually hope he does just so we can all have a shot at him

  • @aaniad367
    @aaniad367 2 года назад +1157

    IIyssia saying “ I don’t like that section of the mall anymore” genuinely made me tear up it is so heartbreaking that she had to go through this haris is a disgusting piece of garbage and IIyssia deserves better in every way

  • @kitaallen966
    @kitaallen966 6 лет назад +521

    When my daughter is of reasonable age, I'm going to show her this series...please keep it up. I need her too understand .

    • @erniegumbo6288
      @erniegumbo6288 6 лет назад +1

      Kita Allen no one should ever deal with this.

  • @nyaluvsherbf
    @nyaluvsherbf 9 месяцев назад +1

    I am late but I am so sorry that happened to you.. no one should have to go through that. And the fact they didn’t even listen to you at the start says it all. This isn’t talked about enough. I hope your doing so much better❤️

  • @kaitlynmaschhoff344
    @kaitlynmaschhoff344 5 лет назад +769

    I know this is a serious video but when she said “You better be buffer than mr. clean with that attitude” that got me😂

  • @trillaabree8617
    @trillaabree8617 6 лет назад +595

    “You better be buffer than mr.clean with that attitude”

  • @nonamedbird5750
    @nonamedbird5750 4 года назад +419

    illy: maybe its my fault.....
    the comment section: ok, sit down. here is a 3 hour presentation on how awful harris is, and 39,600 comments supporting you and wishing you never went through that

    • @brozieg
      @brozieg 4 года назад +9

      Some of these animators gave been through so much, and it is horrible because they are amazing people. I'm glad they know we love them.

    • @joeythecat6334
      @joeythecat6334 4 года назад

      @AlextheRobloxian Make that 41K

    • @mr.randomperson9900
      @mr.randomperson9900 4 года назад +1

      Subscribers: See Harris.
      Subscribers: Honey, you got a big storm coming

    • @rainbowangel5264
      @rainbowangel5264 4 года назад

      @@mr.randomperson9900 **pointing** I know where that came from

    • @mr.randomperson9900
      @mr.randomperson9900 4 года назад +1

      Don’t we all ama right

  • @AuriaMosier
    @AuriaMosier 5 месяцев назад +4

    I’m so sorry for what happened. I hope you’re doing better now ❤