@@FPT84 imagine living the rest of your life this way as it gets worse. The person obviously isn’t the right person for you. Stress is the #1 killer today. Find your place/level of being at peace, then find someone who at the least will maintain it and at best will enhance it. That it the best person for you.
Agreed. If the partner does not bring you peace of mind most of the time, you are with the wrong person for you. How they treat you is how they feel about you.
As a female in law enforcement, if something feels off ladies don’t hesitate or feel guilty about blocking these men. And thanks for the part about blocking the men who waste your time, I’ve got one of those in the early stage and it’s time to cut my losses.
@@christineribone9351 Professional intuition. They’re trained to spot subtle things that most people would be oblivious to, plus they’ve dealt and seen certain things many many times so they know what to look for
@@aliciaj1727 Then have him prove that at a relationship counselor ~ because once fear enters, peace makes a quick exit...a counselor can ID & can help see how deep that wound really is. You have no idea, and he obviously has little knowledge of what happened somewhere/sometime, to cause him to be this way. (Accept his offer, and hold him to it, for the sake of his future And Yours.)
Don't let you niceness be your downfall. Most women are natural nurturers... Don't nurture someone who wants to humble you, put you under his submission, and break your bubbly spirit🦋
I totally agree. I have no problem with blocking someone. The signs are there. The younger me used to overlook issues, which caused me so much pain. Now, I have no tolerance for issues that causes me pain. I don't have a problem with being single if it brings me Peace.
I've been on silent treatment for 3mth out of 6. I told him I don't want him last wk. He's called..he's been angry cause I mailed his belongings. Careful they do rage. I answered the call ..he said, "you said you're the one to walk away but how far did u reach??😮 he's right block block block with spam so it doesn't show n tempt u! Be strong everyone male and female. Narcissicist ppl are REAL!!
I bounced to not only protect MY PEACE but to protect my PHYSICAL HEALTH from stress related illnesses caused by the stresses HE caused No! Thank! You!
That's me, if I had just walked away right in the beginning, I would not have wasted 10 good years of my life. Hard lesson learnt, thanks for your videos Derrick
He crossed the line where he has no regard for my time or my efforts towards him... But doesn't walk away... I had to block him alot sooner... Itbwas onky me that could put his treatment towards me to a stop because he was just going to continue
I definitely admit I should have never dealt with my ex from day one……17 years later I’m out! Lessons learned along the way but damn that’s a lot of wasted time!! I raised him for real, I am just now realizing I can’t fix him! So now I work on myself and acknowledge my part, what I allowed and be better at my block game and really seeing the red flags and shutting it down asap!!!!
There’s an avoidant and I know he still has feelings but I felt he was really breadcrumbing and playing head games. It was affecting me. I blocked him last night and then sobbed
Nah. I don't block him. My lick back is completely ignoring him. Like, COMPLETELY. I leave his bullshit babbling on "read" He got pissed enough to block ME. A**hole will return and he'll find the same result. No access to my thoughts (good bad or indifferent)
Same here, I don't want him to have the satisfaction that he hurt me that bad to even block him. I think it would show that I checked his FB. I ain't blocking him but he will never hear from me again. 😊
I can totally admit it. Been there done that TOO many times. Took me decades to let go of the negative curse of hanging on to dead weight and collateral damage.
My priority is God Almighty (Allah SWT) and Myself. I got NO time for anything or anyone else. I am growing so I refuse to have BS distraction. Lesson learned so thank you!!
It's so hard...but staying tells him you're OK with it...especially when you are friends first, but friends talk...ends the whole thing, but you will be so heartbroken when he takes it to someone else. Don't let yourself feel unworthy more than once...speaks of desperation to him no matter your intent. Been there. Someone will be a lucky woman. 😢
I have blocked my partner and unblocked him . I just thought I was so done … he would be outside my home sitting in the cold waiting for me for hours . I felt so bad and I’d let him talk me into working on our relationship and I’d give him another try.
I like how this speaker gets attention for the right reasons and not the wrong ones. I listen to this for reminders on how I should be treated, even though I’m in a happy relationship.
You hit “the nail on the head”! It does not matter the age, nor the occupational endeavor, as an older professional women, the five issues mentioned regarding men applies to young and very old too!
Unfortunately a lot of women are raising someone's child. Which isn't our burden to deal with especially when God has called them to lead, protect, & cultivate.
I have left so many first date’s behind. I have yet allowed a second date in years 🤪 my last date he talked crap about his ex’s so I was like NOPE 👎 he’s toxic. I have my own stories of horrible ex’s however I would not bring that up, like hello that’s insane to me
BIG UP! YESSSS… I love ur passion and REAL TALK. I shoulda blocked from day 1!!! …I was put thru hell while I allowed him access to my heart. Thank you for sharing ur wisdom and helping to protect us from the BS and massive potential pain. ❤ sending love to everyone here…. We deserve to love someone that we’d never need to block 🙏 ☮️ CHOOSE PEACE
God bless you more and more my brother, Mr. Jaxn. May you continue to go from glory to glory and have a good life. May suffering and pain be far far far away from you in Jesus name. Amen
10:21 worse… if he gets an attitude (which men like that are more likely to do) after you’ve set a boundary, then you need to go to the bathroom and never return OR decline another date.
4 years later he didn't call or text fro 3 days before Christmas. He didn't need to have access to me after that. I Blocked him in the 27th of Dec. I am done allowing him back in.
I'm not here to waist my time with anykind of relationship , if it ain't helping me evolve going go to the next as focusing on myself and want and do better for me
The downshift happened to me recently and I did cut him off quick but it still was disappointing. Your reaction and explanation is just giving me life right now haha
We need more men out there with your knowledge (and women ) If my ex thought I did wrong, He would wait and ignore me all day till the next day. And then act like nothing was wrong. And I wasnt supposed to be mad, when in reality what he was doing, was trying to punish me because I did something or said something that he didn't like. which honestly was pretty much, everything. Lord, what a mistake he was!
I told him today that I am looking forward to seeing him again. ( Long distance) and he doesn't say anything back. To which I tell him that I would like to know if he is looking forward to seeing me again also, not being clingy or demanding as I am not staying where I am not wanted. I didn't receive a response. Oh no he didn't! Total disrespect!!
Letting go of people who show that you only matter where it is abiut them, or they hear a concern of yours, and instead of acknowledging how that must feel for you, they say "oh id never do that" like your feelings about the world are an insult to them and they have to discount you on it? Let em go. That lets the universe know that youre ready for the real ❤
Hey there @JElven-hk3vl, I can hear how tough things are for you right now. It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed and lost in a relationship, especially when there's uncertainty and doubt. Remember, it's okay to feel the way you're feeling and it's important to take care of yourself during this time. I want you to know that you're not alone in this journey. As a relationship coach, I've seen many couples go through similar struggles and come out stronger on the other side. It's all about communication, understanding, and making time for each other. I'd encourage you to keep an open mind and try to have an honest conversation with your partner about how you're feeling. And if you ever need guidance or support, I'm here to help. Make sure to also check out my new master class that delves deeper into improving relationships - you can find the link in the description below. Take care, and remember, there's always hope for a brighter future.
Question: I have high values. The person has been using foul language and being crude. I told him a number of times that I don't want it around me. I don't like it and I want it around me. He says he's used the language all his life but will try to censor his mouth. I noticed a few conversations afterwards he would say the words but immediately saying ...oops etc...but the last conversation last night the words were flying as he was describing things. Do I block? We haven't met in person yet...only spoke on the phone and text. I've reminded him twice. That's when he did the oops...
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When you realize you are stressing instead of at peace, DONE!
I'm at this stage today!
@@FPT84 imagine living the rest of your life this way as it gets worse. The person obviously isn’t the right person for you. Stress is the #1 killer today.
Find your place/level of being at peace, then find someone who at the least will maintain it and at best will enhance it.
That it the best person for you.
@@lindagiles9883 PEACE totally comes on top!
Agreed. If the partner does not bring you peace of mind most of the time, you are with the wrong person for you. How they treat you is how they feel about you.
As a female in law enforcement, if something feels off ladies don’t hesitate or feel guilty about blocking these men. And thanks for the part about blocking the men who waste your time, I’ve got one of those in the early stage and it’s time to cut my losses.
Amen!! Definitely listening to my gut this time it's never been wrong
what does that have to do about law enforcement?
@@christineribone9351 Professional intuition. They’re trained to spot subtle things that most people would be oblivious to, plus they’ve dealt and seen certain things many many times so they know what to look for
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What a crock of 💩.
I had that same training.
That myth is a bunch of nonsense.
Winnie is right.
Intuition is 💯.
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Safe People by Henry Cloud
Whenever your in a abusive relationship an they refuse to take accountability it's time to block 🚫 him 💯 💯
I going though that now
Well what if he is accepting accountability and has apologized profusely and said he is willing to do anything? What do you do then?
@@aliciaj1727 Then have him prove that at a relationship counselor ~ because once fear enters, peace makes a quick exit...a counselor can ID & can help see how deep that wound really is. You have no idea, and he obviously has little knowledge of what happened somewhere/sometime, to cause him to be this way. (Accept his offer, and hold him to it, for the sake of his future And Yours.)
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Don't let you niceness be your downfall. Most women are natural nurturers... Don't nurture someone who wants to humble you, put you under his submission, and break your bubbly spirit🦋
I totally agree. I have no problem with blocking someone. The signs are there. The younger me used to overlook issues, which caused me so much pain. Now, I have no tolerance for issues that causes me pain. I don't have a problem with being single if it brings me Peace.
100%
How is it since you blocked him? As I’m in the same
Blocked 🚫 Permanently
Instantly ❤
You just spoke to me. Guilty of having a Big heart, Graceful by nature. I have to stop giving it to the wrong individuals
People always take us for fools when we have a good heart! Keep on keeping on God bless you 🙏🏾
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So do I my sister
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@@julietcampbell681 thank you for that confirmation my sister.
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Same. It’s like I’m a magnet smh. Finally stepped into my power and turned off by it all.
It's been 2wks since I blocked him, Im in the process of trying to heal it's not easy.
Stay strong! I’m just starting my journey too, we deserve nothing less than peace in our life. ❤
Stay the course, my dear. You. Are. Worth. It.
I just done my blocking and it hurts 😔 💔
I don't even block, I just ignore 🤷♀️
It gets greater later my love
I've been on silent treatment for 3mth out of 6. I told him I don't want him last wk. He's called..he's been angry cause I mailed his belongings. Careful they do rage. I answered the call ..he said, "you said you're the one to walk away but how far did u reach??😮 he's right block block block with spam so it doesn't show n tempt u! Be strong everyone male and female. Narcissicist ppl are REAL!!
I bounced to not only protect MY PEACE but to protect my PHYSICAL HEALTH from stress related illnesses caused by the stresses HE caused No! Thank! You!
@@2people5710block him
You are absolutely right, block him and cut off all access.
Gaslighting was a deal breaker for me..then disrespect followed..block
I don’t care what anyone says about u, u always makes sense to me and I will forever listen to your content
People who don’t have healthy relationships growing up will not understand your morals ..they can’t
If its not peace it's not worth it praying 🙏 to be better and do better in Jesus name ❤❤❤❤
Amen 🙏
That's me, if I had just walked away right in the beginning, I would not have wasted 10 good years of my life. Hard lesson learnt, thanks for your videos Derrick
Yeah I wasted 9 and he needs to go to therapy ......he has so much childhood trauma. I really thought I could help him.
Not being mean but didn't your family and friends tell you to leave.
Thank you for such great info. I wish men would realize how much women need emotional safety and support no matter how strong we are.
yes 😮
We aren't strong all the time. Total nonsense.
No children. Blocked done already.
Awesome me to
He crossed the line where he has no regard for my time or my efforts towards him... But doesn't walk away... I had to block him alot sooner... Itbwas onky me that could put his treatment towards me to a stop because he was just going to continue
I have been there..BLOCK him and you will not REGRET him!
Disrespect = Goodbye
I definitely admit I should have never dealt with my ex from day one……17 years later I’m out! Lessons learned along the way but damn that’s a lot of wasted time!! I raised him for real, I am just now realizing I can’t fix him! So now I work on myself and acknowledge my part, what I allowed and be better at my block game and really seeing the red flags and shutting it down asap!!!!
There’s an avoidant and I know he still has feelings but I felt he was really breadcrumbing and playing head games. It was affecting me. I blocked him last night and then sobbed
Instead of him adding to me he kept taking from me. I'm no Sugar Momma. I had to get out of that immediately and did. 💯
Nah.
I don't block him.
My lick back is completely ignoring him.
Like, COMPLETELY.
I leave his bullshit babbling on "read"
He got pissed enough to block ME.
A**hole will return and he'll find the same result.
No access to my thoughts (good bad or indifferent)
Same here, I don't want him to have the satisfaction that he hurt me that bad to even block him. I think it would show that I checked his FB. I ain't blocking him but he will never hear from me again. 😊
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Yeah, he blocked me too when for the first time I ignored him instead of being used by giving into to his conversation.
I remove his negativity from my life and being!
AMEN
"How far away do you want to be from a person that's poisoning you." That part
100 percent agree on the shifting down in effort and no reaching out for 24 hours - smile and wave and block
I can totally admit it. Been there done that TOO many times. Took me decades to let go of the negative curse of hanging on to dead weight and collateral damage.
This should be a mandatory course for all our young women
My priority is God Almighty (Allah SWT) and Myself. I got NO time for anything or anyone else. I am growing so I refuse to have BS distraction. Lesson learned so thank you!!
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It's so hard...but staying tells him you're OK with it...especially when you are friends first, but friends talk...ends the whole thing, but you will be so heartbroken when he takes it to someone else. Don't let yourself feel unworthy more than once...speaks of desperation to him no matter your intent. Been there. Someone will be a lucky woman. 😢
You right Derrick! Not everyone is ready to be healthy. Your just encouraging self love, thank you my internet bro!
15 yearsin a marriage,only to end up wishing I BLOCKED HIM!!!!
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Sssooooo, he MUST HAVE 13"👌👌👌👌👌👌👌
You’re speaking to my spirit right now
I’m done, done I choose my peace from Most High God, God Bless you my dear brother 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I have blocked my partner and unblocked him . I just thought I was so done … he would be outside my home sitting in the cold waiting for me for hours . I felt so bad and I’d let him talk me into working on our relationship and I’d give him another try.
I like how this speaker gets attention for the right reasons and not the wrong ones. I listen to this for reminders on how I should be treated, even though I’m in a happy relationship.
You hit “the nail on the head”! It does not matter the age, nor the occupational endeavor, as an older professional women, the five issues mentioned regarding men applies to young and very old too!
True.. I... He took my number and started msging me... I wish I didn't cross his path because it was all for nothing... Just pain... For what...
Exactly what happened I was raising him
So tiring 😫
Unfortunately a lot of women are raising someone's child. Which isn't our burden to deal with especially when God has called them to lead, protect, & cultivate.
You are 1000 percent correct!! Keep telling the truth❤
He speaks truth ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I have left so many first date’s behind. I have yet allowed a second date in years 🤪 my last date he talked crap about his ex’s so I was like NOPE 👎 he’s toxic. I have my own stories of horrible ex’s however I would not bring that up, like hello that’s insane to me
You're not trippin~Peace is everything. Protect it at all costs❤😊
BIG UP! YESSSS… I love ur passion and REAL TALK. I shoulda blocked from day 1!!! …I was put thru hell while I allowed him access to my heart. Thank you for sharing ur wisdom and helping to protect us from the BS and massive potential pain. ❤ sending love to everyone here…. We deserve to love someone that we’d never need to block 🙏 ☮️ CHOOSE PEACE
Yes indeed my peace matters to me
God bless you more and more my brother, Mr. Jaxn. May you continue to go from glory to glory and have a good life. May suffering and pain be far far far away from you in Jesus name. Amen
amen
I agree I keep giving chances and expressing my boundaries but for some reason it keep getting turn back on me how I’m damaged goods.
Please BLOCK HIM.
Yes I had to block go days without checking on me and he didn't care
10:21 worse… if he gets an attitude (which men like that are more likely to do) after you’ve set a boundary, then you need to go to the bathroom and never return OR decline another date.
So true. Thank you for this video. I learned a lot the hard way.
The whole truth and nothing but the truth 💯
This one was very necessary! 💯 percent facts! I’ve been here and I’m so grateful to be done!!
Amen. Don't play about me. Be upfront.
He just dont care about you
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UNDERSTOOD MY BROTHER!! 💯💯💯. THANK YOU FOR YOUR CONFIRMATION!!!
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I felt like he was speaking directly to me for my exact situation; needed this !
youree right, taking away my peace is the best reason to block him..
22 years of marriage only wish I should of blocked him, yes I’m keeping it real with myself💯❗️
4 years later he didn't call or text fro 3 days before Christmas. He didn't need to have access to me after that. I Blocked him in the 27th of Dec. I am done allowing him back in.
Just what I needed to hear 🙏🏻 after three years, I’m choosing me 🕊️🌱✨
You are absolutely right, block him 👍🏾🙏🏽
EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED TO ME. Never again 🙏
I'm not here to waist my time with anykind of relationship , if it ain't helping me evolve going go to the next as focusing on myself and want and do better for me
I 👋. I wish we had never crossed paths, i wish i had never said yes and my life would have had peace
Real talk 💯 I appreciate you I don't have men in my life to give me truth thanks bro 🙏❤️❤️
The downshift happened to me recently and I did cut him off quick but it still was disappointing. Your reaction and explanation is just giving me life right now haha
We need more men out there with your knowledge (and women ) If my ex thought I did wrong, He would wait and ignore me all day till the next day. And then act like nothing was wrong. And I wasnt supposed to be mad, when in reality what he was doing, was trying to punish me because I did something or said something that he didn't like. which honestly was pretty much, everything. Lord, what a mistake he was!
Totally agree with all you’ve said.. and that I’m not being harsh blocking when I see the red flags 😅..
I agree 💯 my life would have most certainly been different I had not given them the chance.
I told him today that I am looking forward to seeing him again. ( Long distance) and he doesn't say anything back. To which I tell him that I would like to know if he is looking forward to seeing me again also, not being clingy or demanding as I am not staying where I am not wanted. I didn't receive a response. Oh no he didn't!
Total disrespect!!
🙋🏾♀️I….now have him blocked. I been sleeping well too.💅🏾💯
Keep preaching and teaching,I love this.I have been listening to you,for a few years now. AND I use what you have been teaching us.
You do help us! I don’t care you fucked up in the past, we all do. You are hella helpful, thank you 🙏
This entire video is a gift ladies.
I’ve been watchin your videos for a few days now and u honestly helped give me the strength I needed to leave. Everything u say makes 110% sense!
Already done, I communicate in a state of energy, vibration, frequency, sound and flow
You are funny, but so accurate. WOW!!
Was just down-shifted and completely blocked him. Best thing I ever did.
Damn I wished I did that from the beginning. Actually I wished I never reply! 😊. Working on moving on and never looking back.
This video helped me get my life back on track. It was really hard to block him, i accept, but now I feel so light. Thank you ❤️😊
All the points were spot on👌 , and non negotiable for me. I don't hesitate to block.
Agree.
I'm queen blocker!!!! And queen unsubscribe!!!!!!
No peace! No connection! period!
Wish I was like that 🥲
God has blessed you with such wisdom Sir
Yep ldr lived this gave all You're points I should walked first signs red flags
Amen brother!
block him!!! thank you for your content... wish you good luck with growth of your Chanel ❤
Letting go of people who show that you only matter where it is abiut them, or they hear a concern of yours, and instead of acknowledging how that must feel for you, they say "oh id never do that" like your feelings about the world are an insult to them and they have to discount you on it? Let em go. That lets the universe know that youre ready for the real ❤
Hey there @JElven-hk3vl, I can hear how tough things are for you right now. It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed and lost in a relationship, especially when there's uncertainty and doubt. Remember, it's okay to feel the way you're feeling and it's important to take care of yourself during this time.
I want you to know that you're not alone in this journey. As a relationship coach, I've seen many couples go through similar struggles and come out stronger on the other side. It's all about communication, understanding, and making time for each other.
I'd encourage you to keep an open mind and try to have an honest conversation with your partner about how you're feeling. And if you ever need guidance or support, I'm here to help. Make sure to also check out my new master class that delves deeper into improving relationships - you can find the link in the description below. Take care, and remember, there's always hope for a brighter future.
Powerful.Big Bro
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No.6 I wish I did hear it 1 year ago..it would save me a trauma ..but thank you. It might save some other beautiful soul❤
Amen, block him when hes taking away from your peace
Love this thank you 💕👍💯😇
My husband of 37 years finally left!😢
I wish I had blocked three years ago!
Thank you for helping me decide to block him!
💯 💯💯 yes . He don't know you at all until he know how you seriously feel about you as a seriously woman ...
Question: I have high values. The person has been using foul language and being crude. I told him a number of times that I don't want it around me. I don't like it and I want it around me. He says he's used the language all his life but will try to censor his mouth. I noticed a few conversations afterwards he would say the words but immediately saying ...oops etc...but the last conversation last night the words were flying as he was describing things. Do I block? We haven't met in person yet...only spoke on the phone and text. I've reminded him twice. That's when he did the oops...
Block
Block
Block 'm block'm block'm on ma mind 🔥
You're absolutely 💯 right