Why The NoFap Movement Is Harmful To Men’s Health
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Idk man im like 5 or 6 weeks in and I feel fine. It makes you less of a pervert.
Speak your truth brother
Of course these people are big advocate of nofap but it’s not about like « oh I’m 5days in, oh I’m 3months in »
It’s about just not doing the thing and don’t even think about doing it anymore
I randomly do it a couple times a month and I feel perfectly healthy and normal. Other than that I never think about it or even care. I don’t think you need to be as drastic as completely cutting it out. But you do whatever feels best for you bro.
yes, the key is finding meaning in your life, a genuine joy that replaces any guilt, nihilistic boredom or shallow lust. The act itself is pretty basic in comparison. There are just better things to be doing.
@@mistermanyayo “your truth” is a hilarious phrase. Truth is just truth. It is not subjective.
I disagree. If you view nofap more from the lense of breaking porn addiction, then it can be quite helpful. The real problem is the addiction to porn, not the actual fapping
I think they are talking about the extreme cases, watch the video
@@rafresendenrafresenden.1644 sure. The click-baity title insinuates that it’s generally bad though.
Unfortunately there's misinformation spread online saying it will boost your testosterone, make you more attractive, and young gullible people believe that, then feel awful when they 'relapse'.
Yeah quitting porn is the ultimate goal but the whole idea of needing to hold in your nut and being concerned with streaks is the problem.
@@impudentdomain because it’s true. My urologist told me to stop watching and it helped me tremendously. The fapping itself isn’t harmful, but watching porn is.
If you relapse, don't beat yourself off about it!
Why
Ba dum tss
Pun intended?
If u don't hate your safe for it then your gonna cupe doing it
Why?
At 23 I decided to do it. It was necessary for me. It motivated me to actually go and talk to women and finally get a girlfriend. Fapping made me have a much weaker sexual desire towards the women around me and so... I just let the fear of asking them out win and I never grew the balls to ask them out, even when I saw signs of attraction
the problem with sexual starvation it opens the door to vvagina manipulation.
Like you said , it lowered your desire and you didn't want to interact with them.
lot of men gets to with undesirable vvomen due to lack of intimacy and sexual release.
@@ytcensorship8180 the woman I ended up with, even then she's my ex now, is one of my best friend for life. I'm really happy I did nofap, which caused me to grow the balls to talk to her.
Oath brother
@@ytcensorship8180 Touch grass bro.
Well that sounds like a you problem i never had any issues😂
I counted days in the beginning of my nofap journey and would only focus on getting to a high streak in hopes of „unlocking“ new benefits at whatever day count. Until I realized that its about changing your lifestyle. The perceived „superpowers“ that many speak of come from taking responsibility for other things that you were before too undisciplined to pursue before due to fapping daily
I don’t think I could have phrased it any better myself to be honest with you. Your absolutely right on how its more about lifestyle changes than simply not doing it. I guess it comes down to having discipline at first and eventually focusing on bigger things especially if your serious about self improvement
For real. In my case it was with training, I don’t particularly have any issue with porn use or fapping. But one analogy I like a lot is how in martial arts as the new guy you ask so much questions or admit you’re confused and humbled once you train a couple times, and many peoples advice is “just keep showing up”. It sounds like a horrible advice and unhelpful but it’s because when you keep trying to get some ability or concept (like winning against someone etc) the only way to actually do it is if you end up becoming the type of person who always shows up, because that’s the only person that will follow through and acheive the goal. And that is the actual superpower ability, not the goal you thought you wanted, because then you can use that discipline you learned, that focus that Carries on along your life and apply it to whatever you decide to do.
I am not convinced that nofap has any benefits for me more than maybe testing my attachment to pleasure and building character and discipline, so I have not tried because I would be lying to myself if I do it and not take it seriously and therefore wouldn’t follow through. But maybe one day when I’m open to dating again and feel stable in life I will try to do it for spiritual and mental growth. I probably would at least learn something from the experience
This is high level logic. The guilt of not being able to quit, can outweigh the benefits of quitting altogether -- which doesn't mean people shouldn't try it simply means people should be realistic and self forgiving. Goals should be small, achievable, renewable, and possess clear indicators of success -- the next five hours, the entire day, etc.
I disagree, goals should be big
@@ThatGuy-yb8xt Why?
@@TheDionysianFields why not
@@ThatGuy-yb8xt Why not have small, achievable, renewable goals?
@@stephenhughes5156 set big goals and achieve bigger things
Stopping fapping is like working out, don’t do it for a certain outcome, do it just to be healthier physically and mentally. People put too many expectations around things
Yea but working out is way better. What most people need to realise is that there are loads of habits that are better than no fap. For example working out like mentioned but also getting outside, lowering screen time, getting a good friend group, good sleep and eating healthy will change your life way more and should be prioritized over nofap
Thank you.
I think some people missed the point. Nofap itself is not bad, but it’s some people’s behavior about it that is the problem. And as someone who has followed r/Nofap for some time, I agree. People will relapse after a 200+ streak and they’ll have a conniption about it, like that 200+ streak meant nothing and they are just as big as losers as they were on day 1. People will freak out and ask if ‘blank’ is a relapse over the littlest things. Like if you go to the gym for 100 days, and you miss 1 day, you’re not gonna lose all of your strengths and muscles. But that’s how some people view nofap. Nofap is very beneficial but you have to be casual about and you shouldn’t view every good thing that happens to you as a result of your nofap journey.
No we do because everything good happened to me was due to no fap. I relapsed just now and this unanticipated feeling that kicked in is yelling the same thing to me.
everything good happened to you because you are breathing & it was your season. your efforts bring you good harvest. yet sometimes all the effort in the world sometimes will not bring you the harvest you are working for. yet you still try. basically i am saying just because you make it rain semen. does not mean you don't appreciate the sunshine in your life. fap or no fap. don't give up.
@@yourstrulychaos947
@@yourstrulychaos947but a setback doesn’t mean you didn’t accomplish anything and that you can’t get back on track and do even better.
Regardless of the science, you shouldn't be addicted to anything. You should be in control of yourself and not feel powerless in your own skin. You should be indifferent to it as with anything else in life.
Wait, it's definitely good to forgive yourself for failing, but you should not be indifferent with pornography. It isn't just about motivation or being happier, it is about not supporting that industry too
‘Relapse’ is the most toxic word for doing something natural. Out of PMO, that first letter is the only one you should be cutting off permanently.
Losing all interest won’t do you good when it comes time you’re with a real woman.
Releasing every 10-14 days is the sweet spot. Is dependent on age, lifestyle etc.
It seems so straightforward. Don't do it five times a day, but don't worry about never ever ever doing it.
That might be leaving a little too much...wiggle room.
Guilt is a good thing. Why does everyone frame it as a bad thing? If you dont feel guilty or feel regret then why would you change?
Exactly
The problem isn't guilt, it's shame.
@@TheProtagonist37 Shame is realizing you did something wrong. It can be a bad thing if you dwell on it too long, but it is your conscience speaking to you.
@@ihiohoh2708 No, that's guilt that you're referring to.
Guilt says "I did something bad."
Shame says "I *am* bad."
It gives a reason to feel change is necessary
So people should just do NoFap but not be too hard on themselves.
Yea essentially, people are too hard on themselves and focus on not doing something so much and that's why some people fail so quickly, its kind of like reverse psychology, they're trying so hard not to do something they do it anyways
All this talking about being hard is making me hard Ngl
took me about 5 relapses over the span of a month to get me to fully quit, it’s something i feel incredible about, porn exposure at a young age is god awful and i’m thankful that my journey was significantly easier compared to others. stay strong and strive to be the best person you can be ❤
I don't really masturbate or watch porn at all anymore. I don't make a big deal out of it. I don't count the days. I've just come to a logical decision that it's just not worth doing.
So many of these nofap guys make it into this huge ordeal, and they obsess about how many days they've been on it (some guys even continue counting years later). No wonder that if and when they 'relapse' they feel absolutely devastated because they've failed their most important goal in life (that's certainly how they treat it), and now it's going to take another 256 days to get back to where they were (which is extremely discouraging).
Besides, I've noticed from my many 'relapses', that while I might feel shit for a few days, I'm back to 100% after about 7 days, if not earlier. And yet guys think they need to get back to day 257 to get their 'superpowers' back.
Underrated comment
@@siddhantkamat8513 Thank you brother.
Man my parents say that not m@sturbating will lead to me damaging my mental health in a way and that ill start "r@p3ing" women if i dont m@sturbate. I honestly dont know what to think anymore cause i feel like they're right because nofap has changed the way i act towards women (not that im aggressive towards them but i feel like i care less about what they think about me). Yk what i mean? Im scared to think that not m@sturbating (which is not the same as not watching p@rn) can actually damage me and the way i treat and act around other people
@@MMG149 Is not caring as much about what women think of you such a bad thing? But by all means, if you really think you need to masturbate in order to live a happy productive life- then go for it. Though maybe try to limit it to a once a week. I'd also advise avoiding ejaculation too if you can. Then again, why masturbate at all when you can meet real women and have sex- which is generally way more fun and meaningful.
@@stephenhughes5156 I don't watch porn at all so I don't understand this no fap 💩
The benefit of nofap is not in getting a streak. The benefit is discipline and self control which creates confidence
No fap brings you
,power,dominace,agression,excellence,
productivity,harmony,intelligence, clearer mind, strength,speed, beauty, better life overall 😁
Look at you
Where is your power ?
Where is your dominance ?
Where is your excellence ?
Where is your productivity ?
Where is your intelligence ?
Where is your beauty ?
Why aren't you a millionaire 🤨
Why your IQ isn't bigger than 120 🤡
@@Yoyo_Glitchcan you even go 10 days?
@@user-yg7kb1mt9z Yes, i'm actually doing it right now, and you ?
But why should i do it ?
Why do some guys think that if they take a hundred steps forward and then one single step back ......that they're way back at step one..... rather than step 99?
Damn, this is powerful
that's hamza s point, it's long journey to break from fap/porn or any kind of addiction, you'll take little step back along the way and it's normal, most this nofap followers feels like failure if they're relapse and that's bad
For some people, when they relapse they go right back into the old pattern, full-on.
Because they obsess about the days. And they mistakenly believe that it is the nofap that is the sole source of their 'superpowers' and that the more days you do the more superpowers you will get. So when they 'relapse' at 300 days, they now have to wait 300 days to get back to where they were.
Plus, a lot of these nofap guys don't have much else going on in their life. That is their primary source of achievement.
Disagree with this. I've come across people whose lives have been changed. It's worth the journey. Obviously it ebbs and flows but the overall trend is upward. Which requires you have to fight the good fight. I do agree the story you tell yourself throughout is paramount
You missed the point… They’re still pro-No Fap, Hamza’s philosophy is just to do it less and less over the course of months as opposed to trying to do “streaks” which can ruin your mental health. I know RUclips shorts can sometimes make it hard to understand the point (shorter videos, more cuts, etc.)
I don’t understand why jacking off is considered a problem. Why would life be changed without it ?
@@AV4Life But you still need commitment, discipline and consistency. You need a solid strategy, can't just wing it.
@@TheDionysianFields I don't masturbate or watch porn at all really anymore. I've just come to a point in my life where I've realised it's never worth it. No discipline or commitment needed, just logic.
@The Sight of Sound Nofap doesn't change your life, self-discipline does. That said...
It's bad when taken to the extreme....Complete abstinence, meaning not pursuing or appreciating women as well
women dont deserve appreciation. we do this to unfry our brains
TBH, I have been enjoying nofap benefits as it make one wayyy more confident while talking tao opposite sex. Further it boosts up your mentality,personal attention
No fap is just a stupid internet dilemma. I think addiction is bad but no fap is equally bad. You become over confident, ignorant and frustrated than ever before. Men since ages masturbate. There is no problem if done in a healthy amount. And you see so many people in internet talking how nofap is effective is just their mind idolizing themselves as a better person. And most influencers support it to gain audience's support
hes completely correct. i spent 3 years trying to quit porn until i succeeded and those 3 years were far worse than the years i spent consuming it without knowing about nofap. i just couldnt help but despise myself whenever i failed and the self loathing cranked my anxiety and depression to 11 and just made me want to watch porn more. once i realized i wasnt a spineless weak willed loser for watching it and began to love myself regardless it became far easier and i ended up quitting. keep in mind guys fixing your addiction isnt like building a tower that collapses on relapse but rather like paving a road.
So true. "Pedestalizing" porn like that and feeling worthless when doing it just makes the journey harder.
He hit it on the nail. I started when I was 13, I am 19 now. At 13 I was doing it multiple times a day. At 19 I do it once every 1-2 weeks but I beat myself up more now then before. Everything starts in the mind.
Say no when the temptation first arises. Be strong then and then you won’t get it again.
Get a girlfriend, so that she can replace your right hand, with hers.
Yesssssssir
Yes or replace my right hand with her mouth lol
That is kinda objectifying women.
its still masturbation
I wouldn't want a person that takes away my time and money.
It is what it is. Those of us who have really tried it know it has absolutely massive benefits and the challenge and discipline that's built from it affects all areas of your life. It's just the perception needs to shift to that any abstinence is better than to give in and drain your vital essence.
It’s very true. I’ve noticed it’s the same with dieting / trying to cut out certain foods. I personally went from binging out on pizza and sugary snacks multiple times a week, to only indulging once a week. And now I only eat stuff like that around ever 2-3 weeks as a treat.
I still feel super bad afterwards though in a similar way to how you feel losing a streak on no fap. Takes a lot of self reflection and thinking to realise how far you’ve actually come.
@@impudentdomain ofc no fap and diet are not the same. I mean the principle of beating yourself up after a ‘relapse’
@@impudentdomain it is
Don’t downplay the benefit’s though. I was HIGHLY skeptical until I tried it for a month. My energy levels, confidence, concentration, motivation etc was through the roof. Jerking it once a week after that seems to keep me in a good place. No shame fellas
Well there is no proof of the things you claim here i did no fap for 3 months and had no improvement whatsoever
@@AsherTheFemboybecause you have a very low spirit/vibration
@@AsherTheFemboymeans you should have already in that lifestyle...
No! porn is so bad for those that have it as their “drug of choice”, all rational for continuing is bad. How do you know if it’s you? Try 30 days without, if you can’t then you might have a problem, if you don’t notice any improvement, then it’s probably not a problem.
Fuck that. Do you think that married couples try the nofap bullshit? The marriages would fall apart over night! Just because men are single they should stop fapping and drop that idea when they get married? You gotta be joking.
Same!
Of course it's hard, sometimes painful but that's why it's worth it!
Your brain rewires and your thoughts become less and less revolved around these things.
But there's a valid point: don't beat yourself to death if you've failed. Get up again, learn from it and continue.
Your brain literally grows stronger in these times, it's like muscle growth from gym, that's why it's not easy
If you are beating yourself to death you’ve definitely failed no fap ;)
It took freaking TWO YEARS to get out of porn for me. Sometimes I would do it every day, other times I would do once a week, and sometimes I would even watch several times a day.
Although the addiction led me to watch it, I never let myself accept this terrible habit. I would fall again and again. But if it was needed, I would try it for my whole life, I wouldn't accept it.
Finally, after those 2 years, now I can enjoy the pleasure of not watching it, having a peaceful mind and I can persue any other goal that I want!
I have been watching P*rn for several years and it doesn't help my mental health. It makes me want more and it became a huge distraction from my responsibilities and goals. It ultimately became my worst enemy because of how bad I allowed it to take control of my life. I fight everyday to resist. After doing it for years, I've noticed that I have been doing it less because of how repetitive and boring it got. It's to the point where it's no longer fun and feels like more of a chore. I've become obese and lazy because I've almost given up on life thinking masterbation is all I have left. I'm going to improve and hopefully stop until married. That's if I truly want a family in a terrible world.
Hey, read through your story. When there is life there is hope. Make No fap your new year resolution and stick with for at least 3 months. Sometimes we just need a shift. Please try it and don't give up
I'm 3 weeks in and i feel and think much better there is no going back. Life is about relationships
I went 90 days and my brain function is much more clear, i have more energy during the day Also my dick sensitivity is much better too i can get off just by touching it.
Update? I am at 60 days and feel terrible some days and good on others.
@@SolidGeddoeI did 3 months once and cant say much changed. The guilt I felt for watching porn after was a bitch though
@@Giant_GG Maybe the shame and guilt was the real problem all along and not the porn itself?
@@AmberAbyss-nh4lcNo. Its the porn always. Our reward system is fcked. It has us reasoning and justifying its use.
No. Self control is the only thing guys need to learn.
Cause it’s a addiction, I had this addiction since I was 10 and now I’m turning 40 I’ve been clean for 10years.
Porn caused 2 things for me, I for filled fantasies and variety in women to an extreme
It’s also was the answer to my pain
@Rational Mind thanks bro
how did you break the habit?
@@magikarp1666 awareness, attraction, achievable, applaud
A formula that I created
Sissy.
@@mickethegoblin7167 its a hell of a story how its started
If you can't get through the day w/o masturbating, you have a problem. And it WILL lead to character issues if it hasn't already.
Having said this, self-acceptance and the ability to cut yourself some slack are key, no doubt.
Treat it like any other addiction, and realize that addictions aren't about morality...they're about your f-ing life!
These guys are trying too hard to make content.
No fap is great, and it's part of a bigger project of being equal to the technologies around us and not being so easily controlled by them.
It's not about "being controlled". As far as I am concerned, how I pleasure myself is my birthright.
@@movement2contact They are saying that the nofap movement is problematic because it results in a sort of toxic expectation of oneself for not keeping to strict no fap, and that the real benefits are in the psychological framing or mindset more than the actual content being abused in the case of porn addiction.
I am saying that they are trying too hard to make content by underestimating the damage of the sexual imagery and the technology itself, by suggesting this nofap movement is just a psychological re-framing issue.
Clearly they aren't looking into the data and the science around the addiction, nor the ethics of pornography itself.
They are intelligent enough to know the difference, so they just kind of slapped some ideas together and chalked it up to "its just your mindset bro"
No. This is a technological relationship that hits you at your amygdala and other brainstem related neurological ques.
It's more than just mindset, and they should dedicate a little more thought to the subject considering they have a strong following.
@@CobraFlows Maybe, but you still need to have the right attitude and relationship with yourself. Otherwise, it's just like dieting...all the weight goes right back on.
NoFap is definitely a net positive but the point hamza makes here is valid
If you’re interested in delving deeper into the topic stop by and let’s evolve together ⚡️🧬
When you are too afraid of failure you will never get anywhere
If you fail one day, just dont do it the next days
The warning given in this video still seems to rest on the premise that less masturbation is still the ideal.
Having done nofap myself i can assure you it was one of the best things i ever did. It made me feel like a teenager again.
What i will say is though, its not for everyone, not everybody needs to do it.
A big part of the pain is knowing it's wrong. The moment you realise you can't stop and that's a real problem, it gets tough. But, knowing and trying to change is the way to heal and get better, if you stay ignorant about this, you may not feel all the guilty, but the consequences across time are far way worse.
A big part of the healing is learning that it's not "wrong." Not in any moral sense.
@@TheDionysianFields Yeh its not morally wrong. Its just wrong in a practical sense if it holds you back from living a better life. I mean, at the very least, nofap is a good way to encourage you to get out there and meet real women (or whatever you're in to), which is likely gunna be way more fulfilling- especially if you're meeting women that you connect to on a level that is more than just physical.
@@stephenhughes5156 For me it was just about realizing that sexual release isn't a need. It's a coping mechanism. Address your inner anxieties and you won't feel the need to fap regularly OR chase women.
@@TheDionysianFields I mean I agree that sexual release isn't a need like many people think. I've gone on super long streaks without sex and masturbation many times, and it's not even that hard once you get used to it, and life you can still be beautiful, and you can still be very happy.
Having said that, I don't think that having sex is neccesarily a coping mechanism. Sex can be one of those beautiful and fulfilling experiences in life. I don't think it's fair to look at it in such a binary way. To each their own I suppose.
@@stephenhughes5156 It CAN be, sure. But my experience and observations of the current landscape point to the conclusion that it's being used as a coping mechanism, almost exclusively.
When's the last time you had truly healthy sex and felt a deep spiritual connection?
For me, only thing that confused me was like "You've been doing it for 6 months. How does one fap immediately wipe away the benefits??" Sometimes I swear it's 25% actual benefits 75% placebo
Its unnatural to try to get people to not do something that comes naturally. Normal masturbation isnt that same as spending 6 hours a day on pornhub. I wish these religious people would stop trying to guilt trip everyone about doing something thats totally normal
Fapping is worse than porn, but porn is still very bad as it will basically fry out your dopamine receptors. Fapping causes a very significant spike in prolactin levels for days (takes roughly three weeks to recover back to optimal levels based on numerous human studies using blood tests performed both before and after ejaculation, then during the abstinence period). Fapping also causes a deregulation of other hormones such as dheas, SHGB, DHT, FSH, LH, cortisol, estradiol, and free testosterone (as these hormones play a role in regulation to testosterone), etc. Dopamine receptor signaling is also affected from fapping, including growth hormone, as well as IGF levels, etc. Also, sexual fantasy in the mind (daydreaming) and porn are both lustful habits that negativity affects the brain. One may be worse than the other, but both have the same negative effects on dopamine responses, just at different elevations. God created anatomy, science, etc.
Takes a long time to overcome but in the end nofap has positive effects
"It's not your sin - it's your self-satisfaction that crieth unto heaven; your very sparingness in sin crieth unto heaven!" Frederich Nietzsche.
Thats like saying loosing weight is unhealthy because people feel bad when they arent disciplined enough to mantain a diet and end up getting fatter lol
Ya its almost like these influencers are all liars and dont really have all the wisdom they pretend to have.
Do your buisness every 2 weeks but that sunday you better damn well be ready to push through that workout.
The balance is to fap every now and again, but if you do don't use porn. If you are not able to fap without porn you don't need to fap... Just your imagination should be enough...
You can actually get more satisfaction from using your imagination than using porn
I strongly disagree. Porn addiction destroyed me. I'm very visual so I can't really satisfy myself without an object/subject.
It led to porn induced ED which greatly diminished when I started abstaining. The reason I abstained was because I am already being satisfied with another woman.
Porn easily makes men passive. One of the worst sins to man
I did... over around 6 months. Don't count gentlemen. Be focused on the benefits of nofap, not the days. Why count the days? Just to say ohh I've not done it in 32 days. Nah just stop doing it
The only thing nofap does is build mental strenght if you already have that there is legit 0 need to stop
I think purely looking at the negatives of nofap through the filter of your failures to be consistent with it, diminishes the positives that are so obvious with it.
I was addicted to nofap in a year of high school and I can confidently say it worsened my mental health
Really? How so? For how long? Am genuinely curious, I rarely hear of negative impacts
then it has nothing to do with nofap and everything to do with a mindset. Simply put, don't be hard on yourself whether you do nofap or not.
300+ days here but I didn't see problems 😕
300 days? Holy fuck
I am on day 19, Im telling the honest truth when I say, that I have way more energy than before, I have quicker thinking and I feel noticibly more confident
Its a coping mechanism. The answer is mindfulness, meditation, and therapy. Then theres nothing to cope with. Its gone. Eventually.
Like all matters of personal development, the only thing you should be comparing yourself to is who you were yesterday. Nofap has many benefits and it's great to get some support from others on the path, but don't buy into boasting about streak length, gains, success with girls etc. etc. Just focus on how much better things are for you when you make a choice to do better for yourself out of self-love, rather than giving up your personal agency for short term pleasure.
What they are trying to say is that, people who do nofap usually would get mad at themselves if they relapse. This is not a good thing to do because you keep getting more and more mad. The key is to not get angry at yourself when you relapse. Tell yourself that it is ok and it happens to everyone. Yes, once you relapse you feel very empty inside. STOP BLAMING YOURSELF. Even if you fap every day they effort is all that matters. Don't make such a big deal after one relapse or 10000. You don't lose all benefits after one.
Honestly, I've gone weeks without it and felt no difference.
You just werent no fapping hard enough. Did you go to the gym? Push a homeless man down? Brag about your no fap gains? I didnt think so
Me too
Clears your brain go with the flow, dont think about it, no numbers, no remembering your rule, YOU jst have to pass 4 days you will feel the tiny hole in a fog go with the flow like a airflow, you remember your number and rule your breaking that flow by stressing
Keep your mind fixed on the summit, and you won't become distracted by the inevitable stumbles.
Trust in Jesus Christ's sacrifice on the cross, you can go be forgiven and go to Heaven by accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour, today is the day of salvation❤️ give your life to Jesus Christ 🙏🏾❤️
Tons of problems come from MEANING MAKING, this applies not only to this no fap, but everything in life. If you are operating in this way you need to rethink the mechanisms in your mind of meaning making, you need to recontextualize this!
What does meaning making mean?
That’s all fine and good advice for teenagers. But for us selfaware people that knows exactly what we tell ourselves and how that effects us, is NoFap good? On a scientific level i mean. Does it have any effect? If so how? I think that’s more in line with what most people actually would like to know.
So to have self control is unhealthy?
Its cause most men try and turn it into a challenge which its not It's a lifestyle. Best advice i can give anyone is to not count the days. And always remember It's a lifestyle not challenge
Hamza starts from a false premise: Guys aren't more pained by failing no-fap VS. porn + masturbation
"Nofap" doesn't matter for some men. Whether I do it or not I feel exactly the same.
I can see that. In a way, young men would most likely feel pressure to do it otherwise what would be the point of doing it if keep failing again and again and again.
At that point you might as well do 10 days instead of 30 just to start.
I gave the 30 day a good old college tryout and well,it was rough.
And what if you flop before you pass the finish line. Do you have to start over next month?
Bad take... in this case it's overwhelmingly the majority of the problem... also it's not about masturb8shon it's about p0rn addiction
The only real problem i think is if you have fruedian psychology and aren't bettering yourself in other parts of your life especially physical health
LOVE YOU Chris 🙌😍 Sooo perfectly articulated my lovely 🙏🥰 xxx 😘💜
Holy shit! Hamza and Chris! Where's the full video??
I don't think they are arguing about nofap being bad, but rather the obsessiveness about it, which is especially a problem in its community
Seems backwards. It’s hard to do and it hurts to fail. So just don’t even bother? You just need to realize that it’s not helpful to hate yourself when you fail. And you can always dust yourself off and try again. Nothing wrong with having a difficult goal.
Don't think of leaving PMO/MO as a "Sacrifice", you will leave your online harem, your only enjoyment.
Think of it as "YIIIIIPPPEEEEE I'M FREE FRIM THIS MONSTROSITY!" "I am free"
"I am no longer hurting myself"
Better to work towards stopping all together. But you don't stop overnight.
It should be overnight there is no other way don't lie to yourself
@@DeejayRach0 No I mean it's near impossible not to slip up when first trying to stop. Regardless the goal always is to stop all together.
Don't worry, nobody was really doing nofap anyway
Excuse my ignorance but is “no fap” gendered or just popular amongst men? If the latter, why is that?
NoFap is primarily but not exclusively masculine. The most obvious explanation for this is testosterone and the male sex drive, but it goes deeper than that. Ultimately, it's a modern revival of ancient spiritual knowledge. The danger here is when the practice is disconnected from spirituality.
@@T_Fizzle interesting 🎯
Hey Palesa it’s not gendered persay women and girls watch porn and masturbate as well but the nuance is mens standard to rise decreases more due to lack of support systems and perception and so with society telling young men “hey your a loser because your not 6ft and have no money the last thing they had was porn and now there being told by “Alpha males” hey even that is making you a loser so it is about reframing the narrative
I think men more are more likely to be addicted to masturbation. I don’t know about any research to back this, but from personal experience it seems that way
Men have a way stronger sex drive than women. On the contrary, women have way more easier and frequent access to sex, so they are less likely to develop a problem from frequent masturbation...
I speak for the community saying we want longer videos, unless It’s draining you it’s better
Can someone explain with this is? I've never heard of nofap. What's the recommendation or advice behind it?
I don't think it's healthy to tell yourself ''never make that mistake''
Half these comments didn't listen to the video lol. Saying they disagree yet arguing on points that were never made
No fap is for people that deal with porn addiction, it saved my damn life
Yeah this is garbage. Fapping is considered sinful for a reason. Flee from it. Don’t judge yourself for doing it but certainly don’t be nonchalant about living in darkness. Repent and seek spiritual guidance so you can live your life unshackled by sin
It seems to help me, and get my shit done
For addicted people no fap is best, but for people who don't have addiction it doesnt matter.
Use no fap as a self improvement tool to learn how to focus and when you do fail don’t train the mind to regret after the nut bcuz you have to start over but instead use it as a tool to improve on how not to nut next time if you want to stop, what led you to temptation and why were you tempted and and how to avoid the temptation next time or how to use the temptation as a focus and so on
perfectly said
I was 10 when I first "accidentally" fapped.
And now I am 15 and quitting my habit. I actually feel so much better
It's more than physical, it's spiritual
Spread the time out so if you do it once every day then one week do it every other day then next week add a day inbetween and slowly start phasing it out
Actually the more you think about quitting, the harder it will become for you, that's juste how the mind works. Instead, you should juste observe your sexual thought and embrace them for what they are. You may not be fapping, but you still can use that raw energy to your avantage if you just learn to use it instead of repressing it.
This is like saying don’t quit drinking or smoking because you’ll feel bad if you fail. Pathetic backwards logic. Just don’t beat yourself up if you do fail and get straight back to it.
Thank God these comments are calling this out as the L take that it is
Ive been doing hard drugs and abusing alcohol for some years now... If only it was about what I tell myself. Lol.
Edit:I get that it might be a step forward to learn not to get stuck in a cycle of shame towards certain behavior but that alone is far from fixing anything.
The reactions to the stuff he says is golden
Be a movement of one. Like me.