The Real Way To Build Confidence
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
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Hey Chris/his team, this link is not taking us straight through. Much love from the UK
I have to see this! This is by far 1 of the best shorts I've ever seen!
So straight to the point ✨️
Stay hard 💪
"You can't feel your way into acting better; but you CAN act your way into feeling better"
no you cant :) some ppl with depression or no sense of purpose cant do that.
@elise I believe it was Confucius who said "He who says he Can and He who says he Can Not are both usually correct"
Bang on!
But when the desired result doesn't come even after taking action...then action means nothing
@vaishakh6635
You still feel better knowing you tried and gave it your best shot.
"Action breeds confidence & courage. Inaction breeds doubt and fear" - Dale Carnagie
Like many others in this comment section, it's like he's addressing me exactly. That's me. I sabotage myself and break promises to myself all of the time.
Self disciple will breed self respect
I agree if you had to pick between affirmation & action, action is the more crucial of the two however some people are crippled by fear & need affirmation to get going & keep going.
I think this kind of advice is great for people who aren’t already very high achieving. In college I was extremely high strung and high achieving, stressed as fuck, as had an intense hatred of myself. In that circumstance it wasn’t about proving to myself I’m a good person by doing more. I was already doing too much. In that instance it really was a slow and brutal process of consciously recognizing my negative self talk and deliberately correcting it. Over and over and over. For years. Now I’m in a lot better place.
And break things into smaller pieces and do it piecemeal. Chris is right about what he’s saying
True! Facing fears and taking action!
It would never cross my mind that you've dealt with this feeling.😢
It's all about having unwavering self respect and self love. You need to do whatever is required for you to esteem yourself. Whatever will make you feel absolutely 100% self assured, happy, at total peace, and totally comfortable in your own mind without anyone else.
JUST DO IT
Competence builds Confidence
I have found the best way for me to deal with insecurities is to get stacks of cash. The more stacks, the better I feel about myself. No relationships, no happiness, just stacks of cash to throw at every problem. So far it's been working, but to each their own 😆.
In therapy if someone has overwhelming negative beliefs then you don't bother with thoughts and start with actions.
Exactly! 👍🔥❤️⭐
Where do you start??? Im so lost on routine.... I used to be such an organized and productive individual. Im not sure what is happening but life is seeming so overwhelming and different.
Agreed!
Yes, but the next step is to acknowledge achievements. Talking about imposter-syndrome. If you don't acknowledge your successes, you can win all day, everyday and still feel like you're not good enough.
Some old skool advice......MAN UP. Get on with it.
Don't talk....or over think ..just do it.
If you carry on like this guy you waste yer days thinking them away.....So MAN UP.
Oof that hit hard
😂Thanks.
He said quit his job just to write one paragraph a week
🙏
Can I follow you twice?
“It’s more effective use actions to improve your thinking than to try and use thinking to improve your actions.”
well I use both :)
What I'm having a hard time considering, is how does the body move without instructions from the brain?
Yeah afterall emotions have nothing to do with what needs to be done
@@vaishakhsz actually men have emotions too and all the decisions we make are emotions and hormones based... depends on how we feel in that time line and if we are mentally balanced. yes we need to make a list on what needs to be done and how when we are feeling well rested and try not to derail from it when tired and angry but its still emotions based... if you are well you take better decisions.
@@elise9537 yeah,we control our emotions better when we know what needs to be done
“Stop breaking promises to yourself” YESSS
It's easier said than done 😢 I struggle with this
@@scotthearts9634 well maybe stop it see what the problem focus you got this
actually real advice do some meditation or sommething take care of yourself have a purpose or say fif I break promises .im being the same. The pain of doing something is nothing compared to the pain of doing nothing meaning if you dont do nothing is way worse than the pain of doing something.
@@scotthearts9634 True, but it doesn't mean that it can't be done.
"Action breeds confidence & courage. Inaction breeds doubt and fear" - Dale Carnagie
There's a line in the film "The Equaliser". Denzil's character is training his colleague to be a security guard, and he tells that guy:
"Progress, not perfection."
Perfection is very difficult to reach, but progress can be made easily.
There are days i dont wanna go to the gym but i force myself to go. Havent regretted that, not even once.
The same with me with running
isn't interesting that we never regret going to the gym, even if it was a shitty work out. But we always regret and feel bad if we miss 1 work out?
Same, not sure what hormones are being released, but the feeling after a workout you didn't look foward to, is amazing.
Self discipline breeds self respect.
So simple, but such good advice. Learning to trust yourself and proving that you’re someone that you can count on is invaluable. I’m working on it.
It's a simple advice and it "makes sense" yet it's extremely hard to put into practice. It's the same as giving someone overweight an advise on how to lose weight - "eat less, eat whole foods, move". So simple. So true. So hard to do.
There's a reason why so many people follow countless number of productivity, motivation, life, resilience, whatever else, coaches, creators, scientist. If knowledge was what helps create change this wouldn't be a multi billion dollar industry. It is, because people keep consuming the same content repackaged in different ways, because they think they need to learn just one more thing and things will "just click".
Not how it works, unfortunately.
This is what I needed to hear. Watching endless videos in the name of 'improvement' won't help, but doing what you have promised to yourself will. Thanks mate.
Action is the first step, no matter how small.
I started this by making sure I went to sleep on time and woke up early 3 times in the week. Now it's every day, and it feels amazing
Insufficiency of what?
Thanks Chris, i think i needed this. Amidst alot of turmoil and fickle life circumstances one needs words that kick you in the ass from time to time...the way you word it also makes it easier to accept, thanks for that man and your awesome work :)
hugs! hope life gets better for you
Action conquers fear…
...and breeds self respect
ACTION HAS TO COME FIRST HELL YEAH
I have an inferiority complex...
But it's not a very good one.
Don't make up the positive talk. Start with what is true. I suck at keeping my house clean. But I'm smart. I have a good job. I'm successful. I'm kind. Then, the things you don't like, work to change those. Become someone you can be proud of. And keep the true positive self talk coming. Don't bullshit yourself. But notice your strengths.
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I think there's a saying that goes actions speak louder than words and a good night's rest comes from a hard Day's work.
I don't understand why so many successful people are talking surface level things like this, maybe they haven't explored themselves enough.
Lack of confidence is a problem of lack of power, not lack of motivation. You have motivation, but don't have power to act upon your desires.
You feel like loser not because you hit the snooze button. You feel like loser because your feel you are doing something wrong for hitting the snooze button and you have to explain it to others.
To gain confidence you need to stop explaining your actions to others. For that you need to be independent with money first. The sense of autonomy is what you need.
I feel what has always worked for me is changing the way I say certain things to myself. What many people do is that they plan to make changes or improvements in their life by saying the phrase "I am going to do this" or "I have to do this". As human beings what happens when we do that is we subconsciously feel like we are forcing ourselves to do something we don't want or need. And as creatures of free will we can never give our best when we feel like we are being forced. So we have already made the act to improve a lot more difficult than it has to be before we even start.
What I think is a better approach is to change the phrase from "I am going to do this" to "I want to do this". "I want to wake up at 7 am tomorrow", "I want to go the gym today", etc. And it might be difficult initially because our words are not really matching the way we feel. But after repeating this a few times what this ends up doing is gradually programming our minds into thinking that these are not things that we have to do but are things that we want to do, hence making it a lot easier.
Winning action have to come first
This gets tricky when you're a scapegoat raised by a narcissist. Their very survival was dependent upon taking on the role of being a failure. Feeling anything good about themselves will feel like a mortal threat. Feeling pride, or confidence, or accomplished is too dangerous, and will be crushed which will further reinforce the tragically necessary feeling of worthlessness. Gotta take it slow, be aware this will happen every time you start feeling good about yourself, and slowly retrain your nervous system that these feelings are safe. Internal Family Systems is an excellent model to help with this.
Deliberate doing nothing is deliberate doing something
He would make a great Andorian. He already had the antennae. Weird.
Yo this is actually really good insight and advice. Thanks dude.
Who cut together this completely incoherent mess?
This is some good advice. Here's the best advice I can offer to someone who suffers from procrastination due to depression: make a written list of all your tasks that you need to complete, even if it's as simple as cleaning out your room. Make sure you complete at least ONE task a day. Problem you face by leaving tasks to compile is that the list gets bigger and you're overwhelmed. If you do a few of these tasks, starting with the most basic, you'll end up having an empty list. This will relive so much pressure off your shoulder and reduce your anxiety.
Don't try to think positively, just act.
Facts don’t think just do. consistent actions will tuffin yo mind make yo thoughts more confident positive long term discipline 🧠💪💪💯
Chris, you are a godsend. Watching your podcast and clips that are posted by you or your team are just a breath of fresh air and motivate me to thrive to be my better self.
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). The key is not to bee silent so az to avoid hurting someone's Confidence the key is also not to shower a person in only positive feedback that wud build their Confidence r worse to lie to a person so that their Confidence increases the key is to communicate the tRUTH to them in a way that considers r caretakes their Confidence
^the thinking man no one but himself thought we needed
Affirmations, not actions, come first.
And that is because the repetition of daily positive affirmations causes them to sink down from your conscious mind (where they begin) into your subconscious mind (where they end).
And that is how and when those affirmations will produce change at the core level.
This is what the Son of God was alluding to when He said,
"Let these saying sink down into your ears" (Luke 9:44).
High wisdom!
I have to say, im totally socially insecure and awkward to the point it's a phobia. I feel loke running out of groups etc. How I overcame this was went into sales. I did not sell well, but learned how to manage my fear by opposite action. If I didn't like it...I did it.. one caveat, I ALWAYS still feel uncomfortable, but I know it's a feeling that you just manage. As has been said, felling butterflies is normal, my job is to make them fly in formation.
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Have the condidence of being yourself.
So I'm doing this thing where I'm just trying to look at various sources that tell me about confidence. And I'm starting here.
What do you need to build confidence:
1) Action: Eat the biggest frog first. Before showing anyone else, show yourself that you're in control.
"Action Builds Confidence and self-esteem, Regardless of any Outcome" the late ARC
Example: I say hello to an attractive woman I pass in the street and she snubs me, it takes nothing away from how I feel good about myself having overcome any anxiety to act.
Doing something im supposed to doesnt give me pride/confidence. Not doiing it destroys it though. Its like losing weight. Even if I lost 10kg my mind would say " but why are you happy? You are not supposed to be fat to begin with... pathetic to be happy"...
So im forever stuck in worthless human being mode and at best im finally a little bit normal for a change, what took so long?
I'm always glass is half empty kind of guy, I have to fake being positive till I make it. But we can't change who we are at core, we can only manipulate it daily.😅
You can change your unconscious thoughts. You can. ❤
Exposure and evidence. You’ll never gain strength through avoidance, and it’s easy to overcome future challenges when you have comparable experience to draw from.
Thank you so much. I’m starting a new job today and truly appreciate your advice.
or just realize how harsh life is and how truly fragile the human condition is and adapt your body and mind to live in acceptance of that reality, confidence is such a shallow problem, "A scholar who seeks the love of comfort is not fit to be deemed a scholar", and confidence is some of the most braindead comfort you can find.
I know you probably won't ever see this comment Chris, but I hope one day you do see one of them. You are my favourite content creator above anybody else, because when I watch you I see myself in many of the things you describe that used to be you. This video has made me write on my whiteboard above my computer 'what is one thing I can do this week so that next week I can look back and have pride in myself'. That is going to be my motto for the next 90 days, and I'm going to blog/vlog this journey too
This is so true it comes down to self betrayal, you have a soul and it wants things use your brain to figure them out and your body to go do and experience
finally! someone understands
Move a muscle, change a thought!
It's more about having a fuck u mentality and putting yourself first
A lot of comments have the sentiment that you can't improve your thinking/internal state, without external action first, and I disagree.
Both feed into one another, and sometimes you need to to internal work(can still consider it action) before you can effectively do external work! ❤
Honestly the best way is to take your health and achieve goals(no matter how small). That way you begin to feel better about yourself physically and that you can accomplish things.
I’m that person as well. Thanks for this. Very informative
I’m not sure people know what the word confidence means anymore. I think they think it means delusion thinking. You have to know you can do something - that is what the word confidence means. I am not confident doing brain surgery because I’m not trained to do it. Everyone stop trying to be confident in things you have no ability in. It’s ok to be a beginner. You’re not an imposter you’re just a beginner !
Just needed confirmation I was doing the right thing. Thanks bro. Back to the studio I go lol.
Sounds like just taking small steps starting with simple little things and then working towards the bigger things you should focus on. That’s a great philosophy. I’m gonna set my alarm tomorrow morning and get right up and not hit the snooze button. Hold me accountable see if I do it thanks 😂
It is true, that working on yourself is important and that you shouldnt be too lazy to do the things that are good for you. But I think this guy needs deep self reflection why he is so unconfident and hard to himself. He has already accomplished so much. If he still feels this way, there is very likely to be a deeper conflict that still makes him feel not enough.
Am i just amazed at how he looks that whatever he says is not processed by my brain? (Ha ha i can look babe, love u!)
Maybe certain people prefer doing it that way, but I'd just point out that concrete proof of action is used as a measurement metric for symbolic reassurance here, as in you don't have to feel insufficient if you didn't write a blog per day, and that absence of action is not in itself proof to the contrary that you have nothing to show for.
You can do action to achieve results, but you can also feel assured with or without meeting an action quota.
Lol and what do you do when you're a trilingual double university graduate earning minimum wage 6 years after graduating?
What do you do when others get rewarded for doing the bare minimum and you get nothing for going above and beyond?
Setting alarms cleaning a room doing the dishes are not sufficient enough to believe in success out side of the home. I measurably do well but its just not good enough.
7am, ha, try 530 bro
Forcing yourself to do things isn't how you build confidence.
Absolutely right who is watching this in 2024😊
What if you've been doing that already for a decade, and you're still not as confident as you'd like to be?
I used to be confident in myself, but i dont know what happened to me growing up
I am doing what Chris suggested and still feel like a loser.
Actions speaks louder than words
I suspect a female advice would not be action-oriented.
I dont know who you are, but you seems very smart! Love your Videos
the problem is i have nothing to look forward to, nothing to work towards and i have no drive left in life
The guy is speaking of complete experience
Attention deficit and the procrastination thing has stopped me. Again and again.
Doing what you say you're gonna do is key
Damn, youtube knew exactly what I needed to hear today.
That’s the whole point of mind training
Yea... that's me for like 50 years
Start with stating intentions for the day and reviewing if you meet those intentions.
.a fucking men this is top notch advice
Yes, thats what i have learned the hard way over the last few years
I hate how much this resonates
This man loves himself