Many thanks, been searching for "dealing with emotions after an affair" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qenamilla Strayer Magnet - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my mate got great success with it.
I like this. No one ever really addresses the real problem in these situations, and they just think it's because of the act of cheating that causes all of it, but most of the time, it's an effect. There is a root, and not enough people know about it, or they brush over it. I like that this video has addressed that.
Most of the comments are missing the point of the what the woman JUST SAID. infidelity is a traumatic event and not a black and white subject. If you approach that way then be prepared to divorce and carry that pain to your next relationship. Your partner will continue to lie to you for as long as possible. Lastly, as many have, stay in a relationship that continues to get worse because the underline issue is never addressed. I say that experience and as a counselor.
Infidelity is being unfaithful. It really doesn't matter what the subject is. When there is a problem the person has a responsibility to solve the problem with their partner, not going out and fixing it on their own with out the consent of that partner.
This is BS. The ISSUE isn’t the marriage! The issue is the person who cheats is broken and never addresses HOW they are broken. They bring it to the marriage and then devastate their family!
Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means walk away. That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it. See its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it, ridiculous. As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk.
@@imprint8232 ... Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means walk away. That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it. See its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it, ridiculous. As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk.
The problem with us is he's on dating sites all the time, saying he's single, and flirting with multiple women on a daily basis. I recently found out it's been going on since we met.
I define"cheating" as: Saying or Doing something with the intent to deceive. When we got married, my wife agreed 100%, now she somehow has redefined her ideas about cheating so much that she's now a subscriber. It's sad that when she altered her ideas of it, she somehow felt she has to also change the definition of it. Maybe because she doesn't want to be one? People change, their ideas can change, but not the definition! Right? Or can she change that too when she doesn't want that trait to be a characteristic of her behavior? Then, YEP, go ahead and change the meaning so long as they're omitted from it defining them!
There are so many videos about limerence and what to do when they leave and how to work towards getting them back but there is nothing about what to do once they are back. My husband is back, he says he loves me says he is sorry and regrets leaving and feels guilt for it. But I still hurt and I’m trying to forgive and move on but it’s hard, we are falling apart again and I need help, I need to know how to keep your marriage once you get it back.
Rya Deckard I feel for you....I hope you both get the help you need..... my husband is in limerance as well (with a narcissist). I see how twisted this situation is and do want him back but I do think it will be easier said than done. Hang in there and keep up he good fight!
I'm not a counselor, but I would suggest allowing yourself to grieve if you haven't. You ought to forgive and move on as you mentioned but there is also a grieving process that should happen.
When a spouse is unable to satisfy emotional needs - the partner is vulnerable to temptations. Instead of focusing on your hurt, ask yourself what are you holding back ? Maybe you have an avoidant personality and rather burry your head in the sand like an Ostritch. If the spouse is happy and satisfied, there will be no need to go seek it out elsewhere - but some are just philanderers and there is no cure for that.
You are precious , try to pray to God for strength , healing, and guidance and don't jump to a decision pray about it and give it to God and rest in Him.
"The affair is never the issue. It IS an issue, but it is not THE issue. The issue is what CAUSED the affair." (Paraphrased) She's absolutely right....The main cause of an affair is being married.
Exactly they are spreading pieces of themselves around with other people which is why they can't connect with their spouse. It's not because of how she lost herself physically or any other conditional restraints she may have been subjected to.
No marriage, I can see how leaving would be less complicated. Yet how about children, medical, life insurance, taxes, homeownership and other similar obligations?
I have a problem of forgiving my spouse because of how deeply he hurts me ,I drift myself away but each time I'm healing from this pain he always came back wanting me to accepted him but I can't accepted him fully because the things he did keep revealing back to him also I picture the two of them together at times ,I wanted to get along with my life but I don't know how because he keeps showing up using other things as excuse just to see me but I read him ,knows his plan of what he has in mind,I tired of this hurt and pain I want to know how to recover from it completely and forgive,any advice will be necessary inappropriate conversation is not acceptable
I wish I could afford your therapy course. I’ve been on both sides of this coin, but in my marriage of 24 years I really crossed the line after my partner was unfaithful but not physically. It’s really affecting our marriage. Taking day by day!
spinnerchic fuck that it’s been 24 years, move on lol jk I say just remember the man / women you choose to be with has a HUGE impact on how your life turns on and continues so yeah ima just say that !
I need some advice. I am from a culture where divorce is seen as a taboo. I feel trapped but I can't do anything nor say something to anyone. My husband has been cheating on me and currently I know two of the women. I found out through conversations on his phone because he forgot it at home one day and left for work. I have been suspecting him for long but I can't say anything. His phone always has a password and I knew. I feel like taking my life the day I found out. He has funded private trips for them and lodging in hotels. One day I gathered the courage and confronted him about one of them and he denied it and said he is sorry. Then I asked him what is he sorry for, he won't say a word and acuse me of sneaking on him. I want to safe my marriage and this is eating me up. Advice please and don't judge me
People see these matters differently because they don't admit it themselves that is the reason. Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means likely walk away. I know you said you found evidence so you are right about him cheating and I'm so sorry about that. That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it. Its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it. Its As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk. Most of all please pray and rely in God no matter the outcome try to give it to Him and pray rest in God, He loves you, also please don't hurt yourself because you are precious and are important and precious to God and many people here too. Don't jump to a decision but please pray on it.
Do you have any respected elders. Or safe people in your religion. That you, or both of you, can talk to? As long as they don’t put it all on you. Some faiths are terrible, at not holding the men to account.
Hey Jane Clermont! It sounds like something that could be very helpful to you would be our SMART Contact Toolkit. This will teach you exactly what to do to start rebuilding healthy communication with your spouse! Highly recommend you consider checking it out here: bit.ly/3BkXVpW You are 100% allowed to feel the way you feel. Sometimes, when we share those feelings though with our spouse, it isn't always accepted with a loving response. This will teach you how to have those conversations! We truly hope it helps you.
Ethical non monogamy is not cheating. Cheating is really a betrayal of trust. They clearly are not therapists at this Chanel. Porn is not cheating unless the person made a commitment not to look at porn. This could be very damaging for some people who listen to this.
Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means walk away. That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it. See its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it, ridiculous. As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk.
This woman states she is not a therapist or counselor. She may be very bright, but beware. I am a therapist with 30 years of experience. This woman is selling a product. She is making a living off the misery of others.
My husband had a one night stand two years after we wed. Ten years later, he had a sixteen year emotional affair with a coworker. She had moved out of state after three years, but they communicated all those years. This would have become sexual had she stayed here. He visited once and wants me to believe there was only a kiss.
That's awful I'm sorry. People see these matters differently because they don't admit it themselves that is the reason. Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means walk away. That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it. See its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it, ridiculous. As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk. You are precious , try to pray to God for strength , healing, and guidance and don't jump to a decision pray about it and give it to God and rest in Him.
People see these matters differently because they don't admit it themselves that is the reason. Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means walk away. That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it. See its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it, ridiculous. As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk.
nowadays whats important is being happy than making someone happy so get someone whos happy the way u are:) but this is true marriage needs to be give and take
We will add that to the list Anto! Are you just meaning you want us to talk about when someone spends money secretly without you knowing? We will add it to our list! Thanks!
Bullshitting. I bet this woman wouldn't even stay in the relationship had her partner ever cheated on her. So take your bullshit advice somewhere else. People, if your partner CHOSE to cheat on you, leave!!
My wife had an affair we are Christians and I can’t believe she says she doesn’t feel bad - we have a daughter.:: I have forgiven her and tryin to save our marriage... I provided and gave her a good life but she was insecure and we argued a lot, I had brought up dovorve to make her stop arguing but she said that fussed her to have affair. Now she seems to have fallen for the affair partner. It’s awful.
Bro you had to leave her first to think it over. Forgiveness only occurs when the person feels bad or remorseful. She is not saved by the way, If you have Spirit of God you will always come back and reconcile because you cannot make it to heaven unless you forgive those who trespass against you, Or neither your Heavenly Father forgive you for your Trespasses, its in the red in the book of Matthew. Praying for you buddy it must hurt.
You provided her money and good life. Now my question is: Did you provide her love, attention, sex, friendship, intimacy, respect, partnership? Why all man think that providing good life financially is enough?
Yep no remorse means complete selfishness and zero respect for you, your daughter and commitment. You either commit and lift the senses up to a higher level or be single and an animal. Sorry to hear this, trust your soul
walky1 sound like that but I did , we argued about insane things she would get mad if I helped cleaning house , says wasn’t manly but I did it to help her And other weird things. I loved have sex with her but when she insulted me I threatened divorce to Make her stop/ it’s reason why she went and had affair she said. Right now I’m just trying to hang on and hope she changes he’s her mind and doesn’t break up our fsmily But to your question- only vile garbage people have affairs - They don’t care about their kids or of course spouse - it’s atrocity
I would say no your wife messaging someone isn’t infidelity UNLESS she is messaging someone and they are speaking on a sexual level or something in that manner then yeah it could be but also remember it isn’t a crime unless a acted is committed lol so allow her to be free and enjoy life !
Where does this one fall? My husband and a friend of his from work had cybersex via Facebook. He told me about it the next day but not because he felt guilty. He doesn't see it as cheating but I do. He tells me that they are just friends and aren't flirting or having those types of conversations any more but they are still talking. He says there wasn't anything emotional or physical. It was all for mental stimulation since I had been sick and he didn't feel like he was getting that from me
Quite revealing, I recently filed for divorce when I could break my wife's strong emotional connection with another married guy. It took over 9 years to reach that conclusion. Never heard of the word Limerence.
Porn is just as bad as actually cheating LOL...... Be careful of whose advise you accept. You can share your heart. And even promise to always be faithful. But you can never totally have control or have part ownership of a person's mind. Because that is off limits.
I am widowed, have met a gentleman who is still married, but his wife is severely ill with altzheimers, I am at at loss as I really like this man and hope for a future. Help
2Driver pls Really! what ever happened to in sickness and health. That mans wife needs him just as much with Dementia, not to be abandoned because he decides to start a life with another woman because his wife has that awful illness. What terrible advice to be giving out.
@@2driverpls652 he is abandoning his wife and vows to her if just because she becomes ill he starts to date another woman who has said she wants a future with him. His wife will be eventually treated like an afterthought, or thoughts that her death would be welcomed. Why doesn't the woman look for a single man, and not one who should continue to be loyal and committed to his wife for whatever time she has left. If the man has a void in his life, it can be filled in many other ways. people just want to find reasons to want their cake an eat it.
It's all sin in the bible people will be judged big TIME in the lake of fire... its the worst sin of betrayal. And God will not let it pass. Just wait and see.
Slavery these days is classified as a sin yet you can find passages in the Bible justifying slavery as well as a multitude of other sins so who can justify using the Bible as a reference book for ethical living is beyond reasonable thought. Those who reference the Bible in this way betray their inability for independent thought and their desire to force all other people to follow their way of life irrespective of the harm it does to people because they appear to be unable to look at issues from all angles and are usually so set in their ways that they are unable to change no matter how many facts are put before them. I am not going to condemn them outright because there are no blanket black and white answers to the many quandaries that life throws at us but many, many shades of grey and many people are unable to deal with this through no fault of their own so they cling to hard and fast rules that were often drummed into them in their upbringing, often often of a strait laced religious nature. There is no concrete proof of the existence of any of the multitude of gods that have worshipped over the aeons and likewise their is no concrete proof that they don’t exist so it is left to us mere mortals to try and work our way through this maze but I would rather armed with an inquiring mind that never tires of learning than a mind that early in life puts itself into lockdown.
Moi en personne je vous préviens que moi n'est pas le temps de jouer à l'infidélité avec vous je veut vous souhaitez et soyez naturel a vous même sans rien mais avec l'amour que j'ai pour vous tous récemment envers vous je n'ai aucun regret oui merci
Surtout je cherche pas de sexe non non qu'est ce que veut dire sexe ou de me tester à ce point non je vous préviens pour ce point de vue je me respect dont la manière je respect tout le monde je vous donne encore plus de respect de vous que tous merci
Those men have always existed. Nothing new. They just don't get their way anymore and therefore group together in the sandbox to play with each other, lol.
I'm grateful to God that I am single and not stuck in a dead marriage🙏
Many thanks, been searching for "dealing with emotions after an affair" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qenamilla Strayer Magnet - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my mate got great success with it.
I like this. No one ever really addresses the real problem in these situations, and they just think it's because of the act of cheating that causes all of it, but most of the time, it's an effect. There is a root, and not enough people know about it, or they brush over it. I like that this video has addressed that.
The more sex you have with the affair partner, the more emotional attachment will happen between the unfaithful and the affair partner.
Are You Looking For A Affair Partner?
Most of the comments are missing the point of the what the woman JUST SAID. infidelity is a traumatic event and not a black and white subject. If you approach that way then be prepared to divorce and carry that pain to your next relationship. Your partner will continue to lie to you for as long as possible. Lastly, as many have, stay in a relationship that continues to get worse because the underline issue is never addressed. I say that experience and as a counselor.
Infidelity is being unfaithful. It really doesn't matter what the subject is. When there is a problem the person has a responsibility to solve the problem with their partner, not going out and fixing it on their own with out the consent of that partner.
Totally agree!
If not happy just leave or talk to spouse first to see what each other is feeling before some gets hurts if you really do love each other
This is BS. The ISSUE isn’t the marriage! The issue is the person who cheats is broken and never addresses HOW they are broken. They bring it to the marriage and then devastate their family!
Yes!
Exactly
Who hurt you?
Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means walk away.
That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it.
See its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it, ridiculous. As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk.
@@imprint8232 ... Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means walk away.
That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it.
See its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it, ridiculous. As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk.
The problem with us is he's on dating sites all the time, saying he's single, and flirting with multiple women on a daily basis. I recently found out it's been going on since we met.
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I harassed the hell out of my ex for cheating. And I'm a calm guy, always was, THIS made me make her feel like shit and I hope she does.
Sounds like me , I give you two thumbs up,well deserved
two thumbs up and two toes up mate!
I define"cheating" as: Saying or Doing something with the intent to deceive. When we got married, my wife agreed 100%, now she somehow has redefined her ideas about cheating so much that she's now a subscriber. It's sad that when she altered her ideas of it, she somehow felt she has to also change the definition of it. Maybe because she doesn't want to be one? People change, their ideas can change, but not the definition! Right? Or can she change that too when she doesn't want that trait to be a characteristic of her behavior? Then, YEP, go ahead and change the meaning so long as they're omitted from it defining them!
Some people are very lucky to have a loyal partners!
There are so many videos about limerence and what to do when they leave and how to work towards getting them back but there is nothing about what to do once they are back. My husband is back, he says he loves me says he is sorry and regrets leaving and feels guilt for it. But I still hurt and I’m trying to forgive and move on but it’s hard, we are falling apart again and I need help, I need to know how to keep your marriage once you get it back.
Rya Deckard I feel for you....I hope you both get the help you need..... my husband is in limerance as well (with a narcissist). I see how twisted this situation is and do want him back but I do think it will be easier said than done. Hang in there and keep up he good fight!
Kim Dykman thank you same goes for you! It’s a long hard fight but just stick in there!
I'm not a counselor, but I would suggest allowing yourself to grieve if you haven't. You ought to forgive and move on as you mentioned but there is also a grieving process that should happen.
When a spouse is unable to satisfy emotional needs - the partner is vulnerable to temptations. Instead of focusing on your hurt, ask yourself what are you holding back ? Maybe you have an avoidant personality and rather burry your head in the sand like an Ostritch. If the spouse is happy and satisfied, there will be no need to go seek it out elsewhere - but some are just philanderers and there is no cure for that.
We aren't born relationship experts so seek professional help to get it back to a healthy point.
You are precious , try to pray to God for strength , healing, and guidance and don't jump to a decision pray about it and give it to God and rest in Him.
"The affair is never the issue. It IS an issue, but it is not THE issue. The issue is what CAUSED the affair." (Paraphrased)
She's absolutely right....The main cause of an affair is being married.
Very true.
If you cannot be a truthfull and trustworthy person please leave the opposite sex alone completely !!
Yep tragic
What about financially cheating in the relationship? That’s actually more in today’s generation.
I’m sorry to tell you: their is no such thing as a solely sexual affair. You’ve United physically, and you can’t do that devoid of emotions.
Nope. I can go to a bar, hook up for one night and not even know her name. - or - buy a hooker or stripper - all of those are sexual infidelity.
Exactly they are spreading pieces of themselves around with other people which is why they can't connect with their spouse. It's not because of how she lost herself physically or any other conditional restraints she may have been subjected to.
Golden rule - Once a cheater always a cheater
False.
@@akosfellner5061 your right. That's why I'll give her a second chance after I've tried the rest of the women.
So true.. there are also “power” with a marriage which leads to neglect or sexless marriage by one party.
From all of this causes..... disconnect!!!!!!!
This is good but it's 70% promotional, can be summarized in 2 minutes.
Dont get attached to anyone anything
I am about to that point
Every couple needs to explicitly define what fidelity is to mean in their relationship. Without such a definition you can’t say what infidelity is.
My advice is to not get married, period. If you want to live together, great. But then you can be free to leave when it’s time.
No marriage, I can see how leaving would be less complicated. Yet how about children, medical, life insurance, taxes, homeownership and other similar obligations?
I have a problem of forgiving my spouse because of how deeply he hurts me ,I drift myself away but each time I'm healing from this pain he always came back wanting me to accepted him but I can't accepted him fully because the things he did keep revealing back to him also I picture the two of them together at times ,I wanted to get along with my life but I don't know how because he keeps showing up using other things as excuse just to see me but I read him ,knows his plan of what he has in mind,I tired of this hurt and pain I want to know how to recover from it completely and forgive,any advice will be necessary inappropriate conversation is not acceptable
I wish I could afford your therapy course. I’ve been on both sides of this coin, but in my marriage of 24 years I really crossed the line after my partner was unfaithful but not physically. It’s really affecting our marriage. Taking day by day!
spinnerchic fuck that it’s been 24 years, move on lol jk I say just remember the man / women you choose to be with has a HUGE impact on how your life turns on and continues so yeah ima just say that !
I need some advice. I am from a culture where divorce is seen as a taboo. I feel trapped but I can't do anything nor say something to anyone. My husband has been cheating on me and currently I know two of the women. I found out through conversations on his phone because he forgot it at home one day and left for work. I have been suspecting him for long but I can't say anything. His phone always has a password and I knew. I feel like taking my life the day I found out. He has funded private trips for them and lodging in hotels. One day I gathered the courage and confronted him about one of them and he denied it and said he is sorry. Then I asked him what is he sorry for, he won't say a word and acuse me of sneaking on him. I want to safe my marriage and this is eating me up.
Advice please and don't judge me
People see these matters differently because they don't admit it themselves that is the reason. Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means likely walk away. I know you said you found evidence so you are right about him cheating and I'm so sorry about that.
That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it.
Its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it. Its As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk.
Most of all please pray and rely in God no matter the outcome try to give it to Him and pray rest in God, He loves you, also please don't hurt yourself because you are precious and are important and precious to God and many people here too. Don't jump to a decision but please pray on it.
This is gaslighting! Making you feel like it is your fault
Do you have any respected elders. Or safe people in your religion. That you, or both of you, can talk to?
As long as they don’t put it all on you. Some faiths are terrible, at not holding the men to account.
My ex hates that talk about anything about me and when I say something like that I'm mad at him he rejects me instead of forgiving me
Hey Jane Clermont! It sounds like something that could be very helpful to you would be our SMART Contact Toolkit. This will teach you exactly what to do to start rebuilding healthy communication with your spouse! Highly recommend you consider checking it out here: bit.ly/3BkXVpW
You are 100% allowed to feel the way you feel. Sometimes, when we share those feelings though with our spouse, it isn't always accepted with a loving response. This will teach you how to have those conversations!
We truly hope it helps you.
Ethical non monogamy is not cheating. Cheating is really a betrayal of trust. They clearly are not therapists at this Chanel. Porn is not cheating unless the person made a commitment not to look at porn. This could be very damaging for some people who listen to this.
Sweetey..there are people who has had sexual affairs..left thieir partner and married the person
I am separate and my husband creates a fake Facebook what does it mean?
You forgot constant refusal. In other words if spouse is always in the dog house. Don’t be surprised that you find them in the cat house.
What if my husband didn’t admit of having affair both sexual and emotional he only saying I don’t need to explain it
Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means walk away.
That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it.
See its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it, ridiculous. As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk.
Sounds like he had an affair or two. He's hiding. Leave him.
Could I also recommend Leslie Vernick for you. Marriage Helper has helped me a ton and there is lots of help out there. God bless you
Maybe you forgot to service him in the bedroom?
Well... It would be the end of marriage for me because I would make it the end if there was any kind of unfaithfulness.
This instruction is incredibly helpful. Thank you so much!
This woman states she is not a therapist or counselor. She may be very bright, but beware. I am a therapist with 30 years of experience. This woman is selling a product. She is making a living off the misery of others.
My husband had a one night stand two years after we wed. Ten years later, he had a sixteen year emotional affair with a coworker. She had moved out of state after three years, but they communicated all those years. This would have become sexual had she stayed here. He visited once and wants me to believe there was only a kiss.
That's awful I'm sorry. People see these matters differently because they don't admit it themselves that is the reason. Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means walk away.
That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it.
See its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it, ridiculous. As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk.
You are precious , try to pray to God for strength , healing, and guidance and don't jump to a decision pray about it and give it to God and rest in Him.
People see these matters differently because they don't admit it themselves that is the reason. Generally we can percieve this because it manifests. Either check and talk with them and try to work on the distancing that comes from long pains together or if he's cheating then by all means walk away.
That's what generally is proven true and likely it'd be impossible to feel "comfortable" secure with them you might always worry for you'd know that they likely still have a propensity for it.
See its the same with porn because you are going to someone else even if you do not know them. Its identical to texting to talking to someone else without knowing them and getting sent a pornographic video sexual / emotional favors and then reciprocating. Its not just matters of the heart which is real but also its literally cheating in action. Shows the heart, mind , spirit and relationship is not in the right place. People need to just start admitting it, ridiculous. As bonkers as saying the sun does not exist because its only visible during the day?.. You know what I mean its ridiculous how people talk.
INFIDELITY IS JUST OUTSOURCING!
nowadays whats important is being happy than making someone happy so get someone whos happy the way u are:) but this is true marriage needs to be give and take
A marriage that has been negatively affected by infidelity does not deserve help. They made their bed they should have to lie in it!
Well that means 90 percent of marriage don't deserve help since the husband and wife have watched porn which is in fact cheating.
Talk about financial infidelity
We will add that to the list Anto! Are you just meaning you want us to talk about when someone spends money secretly without you knowing? We will add it to our list! Thanks!
Bullshitting. I bet this woman wouldn't even stay in the relationship had her partner ever cheated on her. So take your bullshit advice somewhere else. People, if your partner CHOSE to cheat on you, leave!!
+1, but hay she can get free MC and she can forgive. Once a cheater always a cheater, this is a rule for me.
I’ll tell you how to handle either type. Dialtone…next.
My wife had an affair we are Christians and I can’t believe she says she doesn’t feel bad - we have a daughter.:: I have forgiven her and tryin to save our marriage... I provided and gave her a good life but she was insecure and we argued a lot, I had brought up dovorve to make her stop arguing but she said that fussed her to have affair.
Now she seems to have fallen for the affair partner.
It’s awful.
Bro you had to leave her first to think it over. Forgiveness only occurs when the person feels bad or remorseful. She is not saved by the way, If you have Spirit of God you will always come back and reconcile because you cannot make it to heaven unless you forgive those who trespass against you, Or neither your Heavenly Father forgive you for your Trespasses, its in the red in the book of Matthew. Praying for you buddy it must hurt.
Garry Cosey your right i never made her feel that except the 24 hours or so after I caught her
You provided her money and good life. Now my question is: Did you provide her love, attention, sex, friendship, intimacy, respect, partnership? Why all man think that providing good life financially is enough?
Yep no remorse means complete selfishness and zero respect for you, your daughter and commitment. You either commit and lift the senses up to a higher level or be single and an animal. Sorry to hear this, trust your soul
walky1 sound like that but I did , we argued about insane things she would get mad if I helped cleaning house , says wasn’t manly but I did it to help her
And other weird things. I loved have sex with her but when she insulted me I threatened divorce to
Make her stop/ it’s reason why she went and had affair she said.
Right now I’m just trying to hang on and hope she changes he’s her mind and doesn’t break up our fsmily
But to your question- only vile garbage people have affairs -
They don’t care about their kids or of course spouse - it’s atrocity
What about when my wife is messaging someone is that infidelity
Are you privy to the conversations? I hope so meaning you are being,respected.
I would say no your wife messaging someone isn’t infidelity UNLESS she is messaging someone and they are speaking on a sexual level or something in that manner then yeah it could be but also remember it isn’t a crime unless a acted is committed lol so allow her to be free and enjoy life !
If she does it in secret then it's infidelity.
@@cameramanfrank lol are you straight? Seems like you're lacking manly instict 😂😂
Uh yes if its emotional/ physical then yes. If its out of the ordinary depending on the context then yes.
So my husband is accused of trying it on with his stepdaughter when she was 16..
Where does this one fall?
My husband and a friend of his from work had cybersex via Facebook. He told me about it the next day but not because he felt guilty. He doesn't see it as cheating but I do. He tells me that they are just friends and aren't flirting or having those types of conversations any more but they are still talking. He says there wasn't anything emotional or physical. It was all for mental stimulation since I had been sick and he didn't feel like he was getting that from me
cheating, not friends
Quite revealing, I recently filed for divorce when I could break my wife's strong emotional connection with another married guy.
It took over 9 years to reach that conclusion. Never heard of the word Limerence.
Never trust their words... Once they cheated.. Will constantly cheat on you.. They are not worth it to be with.. Esp my husband
Where is the different of word infidelity vs cheating? , i dont get word infidelity meaning
Porn is just as bad as actually cheating LOL...... Be careful of whose advise you accept. You can share your heart. And even promise to always be faithful. But you can never totally have control or have part ownership of a person's mind. Because that is off limits.
I am widowed, have met a gentleman who is still married, but his wife is severely ill with altzheimers, I am at at loss as I really like this man and hope for a future. Help
2Driver pls Really! what ever happened to in sickness and health. That mans wife needs him just as much with Dementia, not to be abandoned because he decides to start a life with another woman because his wife has that awful illness. What terrible advice to be giving out.
@@2driverpls652 he is abandoning his wife and vows to her if just because she becomes ill he starts to date another woman who has said she wants a future with him. His wife will be eventually treated like an afterthought, or thoughts that her death would be welcomed. Why doesn't the woman look for a single man, and not one who should continue to be loyal and committed to his wife for whatever time she has left. If the man has a void in his life, it can be filled in many other ways. people just want to find reasons to want their cake an eat it.
He is lonely. If he wants attention tell him to hire someone. He's being nice so you pity him. Dreadful.
That's disgusting
Maybe wait tbh that's heart breaking and i can't imagine it for them tbh.
It's all sin in the bible people will be judged big TIME in the lake of fire... its the worst sin of betrayal.
And God will not let it pass. Just wait and see.
After my wife who is a Christian has done this I know itnfam happen to anyone it’s the worst thing you can do to a spouse
Slavery these days is classified as a sin yet you can find passages in the Bible justifying slavery as well as a multitude of other sins so who can justify using the Bible as a reference book for ethical living is beyond reasonable thought. Those who reference the Bible in this way betray their inability for independent thought and their desire to force all other people to follow their way of life irrespective of the harm it does to people because they appear to be unable to look at issues from all angles and are usually so set in their ways that they are unable to change no matter how many facts are put before them. I am not going to condemn them outright because there are no blanket black and white answers to the many quandaries that life throws at us but many, many shades of grey and many people are unable to deal with this through no fault of their own so they cling to hard and fast rules that were often drummed into them in their upbringing, often often of a strait laced religious nature. There is no concrete proof of the existence of any of the multitude of gods that have worshipped over the aeons and likewise their is no concrete proof that they don’t exist so it is left to us mere mortals to try and work our way through this maze but I would rather armed with an inquiring mind that never tires of learning than a mind that early in life puts itself into lockdown.
No, the betrayed one is burned. That's the reality.
How do you know which one your partner had??
Does it matter, cheating is cheating?
Moi en personne je vous préviens que moi n'est pas le temps de jouer à l'infidélité avec vous je veut vous souhaitez et soyez naturel a vous même sans rien mais avec l'amour que j'ai pour vous tous récemment envers vous je n'ai aucun regret oui merci
Ahab and Jezables
How do I know if . He is skpe or chatting on the computer. I am not savy about it. I have seen him on it. And he closes it. :(
Financial infidelity
Surtout je cherche pas de sexe non non qu'est ce que veut dire sexe ou de me tester à ce point non je vous préviens pour ce point de vue je me respect dont la manière je respect tout le monde je vous donne encore plus de respect de vous que tous merci
What the hell
Marriage blows
MGTOW is gaining more followers for a reason
Those men have always existed. Nothing new. They just don't get their way anymore and therefore group together in the sandbox to play with each other, lol.
What if a spouse was raped and began to have feelings for the rapist?
Thsts life
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Fidelity is inhuman
..? No...