How To Destroy Social Anxiety
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
- This is how I destroyed social anxiety and how you can too.
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If you ever feel stressed in a public space about everyone staring at you just remember that you are only like a random NPC for them - they don't even care about your existence. Even if they notice you, they won't remember you after 5 seconds.
You’re a legend EarthBat
@@MattSpear99 I can't believe I'm hearing that from a legend🥲
Man, i am so happy that I found your channel like 2-3 months ago. This video is really powerful and helpful for a huge amount of boys and also for me. I started improving myself 8-9 months ago, constantly hitting the gym, reading, a month ago stop watching porn, studying whats really interested me, forgot about what people think of me, but i was feeling like i miss something. And now i just watch your video and realise what i miss. I am really addicted to the social apps, which is a real problem with social anxiety. Literally delete most of the apps and giving myself a challenge for at least a month without social media, i khow that this will be improve for myself. Thank you for such a great video Matt, you are a real legend💪💪👏
Keep it up bro, brotherhood 💪
Brotherhood 💪
This is called the Spotlight Effect- when we think everyone is looking at us. In reality, they're busy doing their own thing!
What really helped my social anxiety was learning mindfulness meditation and learning to let go. Too a lot of time, and studying things like the Tao Te Ching, but when you realize that most people are in their heads and you have no control of any situation, it's easier to let go of caring of others' expectations and opinions. I also used a nice mindfulness workbook called 30 Days to Reduce Anxiety by Harper Daniels off amz. It helps to train the brain to calm down and let go.
4:17 “They like staring at dudes’ meat sticks…” Well that definitely puts shit into perspective 😂
I have a tip for people with a lot of anxiety in public. The tip is actually to think about the consequences of doing something weird in public or so. And what you then realise is that the worst thing that could happen( if you’re not being documented lol) is that a stranger probably will say(in mostly rare cases)to his friend or relative: oh I saw a dude stumble on the train today. And the other person will think like: hmm why did he even mention that but ok? And kinda think he’s weird right.
So what I’m trying to say here is that no stranger really cares what you do. It’s in our biology to keep control of ourselves and not care what other people do because in the end of the day it’s not important for ourself ( except psychopaths who hasn’t seen anything funnier than a man stumble on the train ) and psychopaths are psychopaths, there’s a problem with them not you.
But the hard part which I know about, is that people that have anxiety can’t think this way because of many reasons.
But too get thoughts clearly you need to control your breathing so that’s another tip.
You can have a low oxygen intake type breathing were you breath as SLOW as you can and breathing as little oxygen as possible (try to have a tempo that doesn’t make you catch ur breath that’s not good) or high oxygen intake where you breath slowly in much oxygen but keep in mind for this type of breathing it’s important to breath out longer than inhaling. If not then your anxiety is going to probably increase.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:01 🌟 Childhood Innocence and Anxiety Shift
03:02 🧠 Factors Contributing to Social Anxiety
06:09 💡 Coping Strategies for Social Anxiety
10:17 🌱 Self-Improvement and Social Anxiety
15:06 🔄 Long-Term Solutions and Consistency
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been binging your videos. loving them. thankyou.
I'm not afraid of what other people think, necessarily. I project myself onto others, thinking that they believe x,y, and z about me when it's probably not true. I take my insecurities and use them against myself. It's really just me I'm afraid of.
You help me a lot. Everything you mention is so recognizable. Thanks for the tools you share
bro you’ve helped me so much. I never realized how many bad habits I’ve picked up over the years. Change is something I need and I appreciate u opening my eyes. Great video
Thank you Blue 🤝 glad I helped
I’m now at day 45 of no fap. This vid inspired me to try meditation, i generally overthink a lot of situations so i’ll try it to see if it helps. I’m also going to chill with social media, see if i can replace it with something more usefull.
Keep up the great work man love your vids!
Instead of meditation i just pray to God ❤
I clicked just to say that I love you bro, your stuff is so genuinely inspiring, it’s in the eyes! Keep it up!
Man i just came across your channel and i've gotta say that i'm more motivated than ever to try and fix my fucking life, thanks my man.
Its seems today world is full of sins and temptations. Don’t give up my friends. We can do this❤.
I like that these video's are just the raw truth, not any editing, just you speaking your mind and helping other people. Keep it up!
Another dope video, greetings from the brotherhood.
This video opened my eyes i thought i was good enough but i wasn't even close and it showed me what aspect i need to improve. Thank you for this video ❤❤❤
Spitting fact's, Thanks matt 💯💢💯💢💯💢💥(It will change my life💯💯💯💢💢💢)
Thanks for this. Keep striving, and so will I
Your videos are always helpful Matt, thank you
Hey Matt. I wonder why you're never mentioning school in your videos. Many people would be more greatful for themselves and get less social anxiety if they work constantly at the gym, meditates and gets control over their own mind, yes I agree. But school and grades are alot into it aswell. If you work hard at school and get good grades, you'll feel self diciplined. Self dicipline is a big factor in the way of fixing your mindset. Thank you for reading, and excuse me if it's bad english; I'm from Norway. By the way, your videos are helpful and I respect your work very much. Have a great day Matt
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Great video matt, keep the good work bro
12:47 Gold
I have social anxiety but I feel that I no longer have fear to talk in public. Yes, I'm still nervous, but not scared.
This channel is underrated🔥
brotherhood🫡
I've worked on my confidence for almost 2 years now and its improved greatly. I was really insecure. Large crowds had me stumbling my words, not walking straight, eye contact was a mess, talking to girls was like going to hell and back. But with my grown confidence I no longer stumble my words, I can definitely walk straight 😂. My eye contact has improved greatly (just look at them in the eye for around 3 seconds then move on to the next person or look at the wall for a second or 2 and look back at them) and I can somewhat talk to girls without being a nervous wreck. Presentations were the worst but I've outgrown them so much. When your all alone in front of the class make sure that your presentation has something funny to it or a little idiotic then when you get to that part make a little chuckle or laugh and you'll instantly feel as if their laughing with you instead of at you. I have no problem doing a presentation Infront of my class now which is great. The main point is to love your body and currently I don't love it. Im not fat and im not skinny im literally in the middle but i compare myself to people that are my age with abs, massive muscles and stuff which makes me feel insecure. I used to work out for a good few months because I had motivation. For example last Christmas I tried doing press ups and could barley do 1. Press ups have always been hard for me but i practiced and practiced every week for a good 4 months (with bad form doing about 30) Which is really good. I did in turn correct my form and now I could probably do about 15-20 in good form which im really happy about though my next goal is to be able to do 20 pull ups since i can barley do 5 atm. It's really hard to stay motivated but set a plan and give yourself a week or so to mentally prepare. when that day comes. workout 4 or 5 times a week and dont stop. every time you feel like stopping (whats the point?) tell yourself not to break that cycle otherwise you'll get lost again. I've been working out on and off lately though starting next week ill give it another try and hopefully ill stick to it. I dont take any protein shakes and i dont monitor my calory intake which may be why im not seeing much results. plus i workout at home instead of going to the gym. If your still reading this then I thank you for your time. Remember, "love yourself to be yourself".
Aint Reading al that
Great content. I would appreciate if the videos are less than 10 minutes.
Brotherhood🤝
My brother 🤝
thank you
Your Indian brother here ... love you bro , you pulled me up from lot of bad habits. Bhaichara(Brotherhood)💪
I'm pleased to say after leaving secondry school, I've gotten over this anxiety
To live life to the fullest, you have to stop being so stressed about talking to people.
Through all this were you journaling ?
Giving IcecoldJT and hamza vibes I love it!!!
Thank you for making this video Matt,your a good speaker 💯
I don't have social anxiety but I just don't want to look weird and being more confident and realizing that people are too busy with their own shit to think about you helps.
Good video as always Matt!
As a male. Your girl is lucky
you still look like a goody two shoes
Another great video thx for that! Brotherhood❤
Thank you so much bro
Be tall and attractive
Let’s get it boys 🤟🤟🤟
Thank you
hype
Nice bro good vid.
very good video
tysm lol
I don’t feel social anxiety, but I’m disappointed with women. They pretend to be interested in me but when I ask them out turns out they just wanted my attention and where not really interested
@CScarb25 I have been going to the gym 2 hours per day 6 days per week for 7 months. Believe me, I´m not disappointed at myself
@CScarb25your stupid personality will get you girls not looks
If you're not getting girls you're doing something wrong. They aren't all attention seekers. And the gym isn't really the best place to meet them.
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anxiety only exists for people who are not good looking and are short
This is a destructive mindset. You never know what someone is going through. Keeping up this victim attitude is not gonna get you anywhere
bro thx for the help keep grinding man all my respect 🫡