How to Overcome Social Anxiety: 3 Quick Tips
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Have you ever been talking to someone you really like, I mean you've got a FAT crush on this person and for some reason when you're around them you're the most awkward, uncomfortable, nervous person on the planet -____-
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But then, when it comes to someone you're not necessarily interested in, your incredibly sexy, funny, smooth, suave side comes out and everything you say suddenly sounds awesome?
Or better yet, maybe you're totally cool talking to people you know but when it comes to talking to a stranger or meeting someone new your brain decides now would be a good time to shut down and you start stuttering and you turn red and they notice and you're thinking in your head "this is my nightmare!".
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I don't know about you (but I'm feelin' 22 t-swift lolz) but I've been there way too many times.
And for the longest time I didn't get it.
Why is it with some people we can easily have chill conversations and with other people we freeze up and can't even put real words together?
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But I finally got it, I figured this one out and I'm passing on the holy grail of overcoming social anxiety to you. Just make sure you replace it with something of about the same weight or the entire temple will crumble and a giant boulder will chase after us. AH! Haha
Anyway, in today's episode I'm giving you 3 quick tips that helped me overcome my own social anxiety and nervousness in talking to new people and I bet they'll help you too.
Something I'd also like to add is that I'm in no way belittling this issue I’m simply offering solutions in a condensed format but what’s interesting is that many of us are taught or conditioned to think we have this huge issue and lifelong struggle and then we’re prescribed tons of medications as a first resort solution as opposed to practicing simpler, more natural, cognitive and proven methods to resolve this within ourselves.
There’s plenty of evidence that shows chemical imbalances can be influenced and changed through our own beliefs and physiology. This can be seen in the work of Amy Cuddy and how she discovered an increase in testosterone production and decrease in the secretion of cortisol when we apply certain physiological patterns and body language. It’s also seen in Kelly McGonigal work on stress and how simply believing that stress is bad for you can induce ailments and take years off your life as opposed to experiencing stress and believing it to be a normal state of being. The mind-body connection is massive and highly-explored through a number of different studies over the years. I know you mean well and I can see that you know my intentions are good While it’s difficult to explain an in-depth, universal solution to an issue like this, I want to share with people that there are ways in which we can take back control of our physiology, biochemistry and emotional states. And while modern medicine can be helpful in some circumstances, there are a number of other really powerful solutions when we go in-depth on how the mind and body actually work.
Here's a couple other resources for learning more about how our minds can influence how biochemistry and physiology.
How to Make Stress Your Friend - Kelly McGonigal
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Amy Cuddy Power Postures: How Body Language Shapes Who You Are
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I have A LOT social anxiety!:( I can't order food, I can't pay for my own clothes at the mall, and I can't even raise my hand in class. It's the worst thing in the world. When I talk to people I can't keep conversation and my mind spins and I don't know what to say!! It sucks but it happens on a daily basis so you've really helped me Martin:) So thankyou
Omg this is so ME
+GCmac Dwll Then you 2 should start by being friends, you can't overcome social anxiety alone you need other people. I guarantee if you start by simple chating slowly move to calling later even video chating it would help a lot. But who am I to give advices I have social anxiety too...
+Emma Powers im also like you
Every day i try to understand why is it happening me and how was it comming my life :( .
+Emma Powers I feel you girl. i have very low self confidence and low self esteem. Because of the fear of talking to other ppl i avoid talking to my classmates. sometimes i think that they might think that i am arrogant and rude and very proudy because i don't talk to them and when i do talk to them i just don't know how to keep the conversation going and i end up saying something completely stupid and they think i'm weird. i think that is why no guy approaches me to talk. i am not native english speaker and in my country(india) ppl keep judging you on the basis of the level of your english so when i talk to ppl in english i get very nervous and start sweating i keep critisizing my self for every mistake i make..ugg it sucks :(
+Dhwani Mehta Being judged for your foreign language skills, sounds pretty harsh
1. Breathe through your belly
2. dont reject yourself
3. expect people to like you
got it.
Yesssss :)
This is how i overcame well over 80% (estimate) of my fear of talking to people. I went form talking low and looking down to practically screaming in people's faces, with confidence and clear mind. I got a hair cut (fade), i got some new cloths, i got really skinny/muscular, and i jus't put myself in the middle of a packed gym, daily, for 1 year. Now i have way less anxiety. Fuck it, life is too short. Who cars who people think of you. I laugh at myself when I'm on the stair master (elevated so that the entire gym can see me laughing at myself), and i don' care. Why? Fuck it, life is too short.
another tip: instead of thinking they will judge you,judge them
I would rather please myself and have my own party, than try to please people who don't want to be pleased.
"Fear is an illusion."
Try to change your mindset and keep it that way. Helps a lot.
"Looking into your fear and dancing with it" the best thing I've ever heard. Amazing video dude.. This helps a lot!
Awesome! You're welcome Nimmy :)
I was horribly bullied when I was young to the point of attempted/contemplated suicide. Those that did this to me were 'untouchable' in our small town and adults would turn a blind eye. Granted I wasn't the most fit or athletic of the bunch. Even some of the adults would poke fun. It's caused a crippling sense of isolationism and I've become such a heavy introvert I find it hard to leave the house when not at work or doing a task such as eating or shopping.
I do my best just to become a shadow in public, I don't draw attention, nor do I want it. I don't want people around me but I'm horribly lonesome. I've shaped my body through better diet, have done vigorous martial arts to strengthen. I'm going back to school to become a youth psychologist. I've got a good job that pays enough for me to pursue these goals.
How do I stop the lonely? I don't understand interactions but feel more like I study them just to copy certain behaviors. It hurts and I can't find my opiate to numb the wound. I end up starting off well in social interactions, and then it goes horribly south when I miss a cue (happens often) or state something that is precarious to the situation. Then I just try and turn it into "quirky" humor which seems to do fine but all I can hear is the kids back then laughing at me.
I'm honestly not trying to sound like a Marvel/DC super villain at this point.
My brother life is very hard and i can relate to you dont give up i wish u the best!
+draconic33 You sound more like a Marvel/DC super hero to me...a lot of fictional and real heroes started out being bullied or neglected...and now some are fighting bullying
www.geekwire.com/2015/the-fight-against-bullying-pop-culture-hero-coalition-encourages-real-life-heroism-at-comic-con/
My son was also bullied in middle school but has found himself in music and has good friends who appreciate his humor. You are clearly intelligent, articulate, and accomplished...and deserve to feel how worthy you are. It's hard to unhear and unfeel the meanness from the past but the fact that you can identify it as coming from outside of you, from the past (rather than being your own self-criticism), means that you will be able to make those voices fainter and fainter.
And you're having some social success...with quirky humor even. Good for you. Being in social situations as a young adult is really hard; I'm a LOT older and still feel like I'm making it all up (conversations and the rest are total improv, really, We make it up.) I, and everyone I know, has gotten more comfortable with themselves, with hanging out and talking, as they got older. You realize that all those people you thought were judging you were too busy with their own self-judgments. Or else they weren't worth it. And a lot of the "in-crowd" untouchables from senior year lead humdrum adulthoods. And most bullies regret their bullying.
I hope you get to travel and meet different kinds of people in different settings...and get to define yourself on your own terms. I hope you realize your dream of being a youth psychologist...or find similar work to give youth the understanding and support you deserved.
And I hope you find love that heals some of the sting and lets you be the most amazing person in the world to someone.
Take a look at Superbetter.com It's a way of gamifying going after your goals, bit by bit, and supported by others in fighting the demons.
I hope you two connect! All the best to you too, Frank. It's so easy to feel like the only one suffering, but out there somewhere are others with similar burdens who really, really understand. I'm glad you both commented.
+Frankwillis01 feel free to do so. as long as it goes to a good cause I'm willing to pitch some info.
+RR Greenwood I didn't see this comment until just now. thank you so much for your kindness, a little goes a long way and you've sent out enough to last me a year if kindness were food. as a current update I have left the insurance industry to tutor young kids in science and math. so far they're doing at least 10-20% better and I just started with them. I do hope your son is doing much better now.
These are some really good tips. And you're very cute especially your smile. I appreciate you making this video.
+dakotadarko18 Glad they were helpful! :) You're welcome!
You gotta change your mindset. Basically whenever you feel nervous/anxious, try to control it and "slow it down." To go into the science of it, you're basically reducing your brain's "beta" waves and turning them into "alpha" waves. Beta waves are what we experience during alert states and it kinda matches the fight or flight response (the state we experience with social anxiety). Alpha waves are what we experience when we are calm and controlled, which is the key to feeling comfortable instead of anxious. I essentially eliminated social anxiety over the course of a year by using this "control" technique every time I was in an "anxious" situation, whether social or not. The technique basically eliminates the physical reactions that are associated with anxiety, like fast heart rate, blushing, quick nervous movements, stuttering, etc... Once those symptoms are gone what's left is all in your mind. Just remember, "control it."
+ShadowQuik But how do you change your beta waves into alpha waves?
Jαsminεღ The way I put it may sound more complicated than it is. All you need to do is control yourself and try to remain calm in situations that make you anxious. Just keep forcing yourself to remain calm and collected and eventually, with time, you will eliminate the anxiety altogether.
ShadowQuik
that is very hard to do for me personally. maybe meditation and yoga will help.
I really liked this video. I have a couple of friends that would benefit from watching it. Plus it helps that you're not some boring ass dude that can't have a sense of humor while filming. Good job Mr.Sosa.
Hahahaha thanks Marisol! I'm really glad you enjoyed it! :)
As somebody who doesn't considered herself close to her father, that has definitely affected me in my relationships with other people, especially boys. But all these points are great, I will definitely try them the next time I'm in a social setting! Thank you so much for making this video! :)
***** Great! Thanks for watching, stoked you enjoyed it :))
i don't know why but everytime i watch ur videos i get calm..and you give me hope..thank you
Your videos are great, I was a social person and then I moved and that was a long time ago but that's where I got my social anxiety and I hate it so much =/ . Thanks for this !
i did a video about how to overcome social anxiety and i really hope it helps you mind if you check it out? And if it helps maybe subscribe?? Thankyou and if you need anything tell me!!
Same , I moved and everything went bad
Thanks Peak your mind,I have basically been in a typhoon of anxiety and nervousness ever since I moved in yr 2 and it had been progressively getting worse up until I just watched your video in year 9 now. I will reply to my own message to tell how it has gone in a week of two from now. This video gave me a new way to talk to people so thanks a lot.
Dalton C. The nervous one
Thank you for your video!!! I go to an international boarding school so when I come home all my friends are scattered around the world. I'm helping out with this camp at my church and it just seems like everyone is comfortable with everyone but me. At school I'm so used to people coming up to me to talk or even greeting me first so it's so hard. Some people might not get it but hopefully you do...(this is long sorry) I'm going to try that believe that everyone will like you thing. Thank you for the tips and I'm glad that I stumbled onto your channel 😄.
Thank you for being open! I'm tracking, I know what you mean. Hahaha no worries, I love long stories! Yeah give that a shot and on top of that, be willing to go approach people instead just waiting for them to come up to you. Being proactive in approaching people will help! I'm stoked you did too and that it's helpful! :)
I don't think this is really usefull for people with social anxiety disorder, cuz social anxiety - at least in my case - is really overhelming, hard and not easy to overcome by just three steps. These tips are good, but it's more for really shy people, since social anxiety is a mental illness, that makes you feel anxious just thinking about going out with a dog, or to a shop for food, or talking to a person in some office (such as health insurence office and stuff like this..)
People often don't know the real difference, because physical "symptoms" are very similiar, but the mental ones are not. Social anxiety is often going hand in hand with depressions, because you feel like useless sh't when you are not able to force yourself to live as other people, and that leads to isolation even more.
Yeah I really know what you're saying, some of my classes this semester have participation grades and I haven't been able to ever really contribute anything, which just leads to you downing on yourself..my family's had a history of depression but it's really just hit me this year. Then being depressed just makes it all the harder to connect to people cause you lose the motivation and it just keeps spiralling and becoming worse..
+SushiClipsCR I understand and I agree. it's worse when you get older because people notice it more, and can tell by different behavior. I Isolate myself because I cannot deal with the real world. I can also relate to people on the High functioning Autism spectrum which has me thinking I may have that too.
I blame society for all of this anxiety bullshit...back then people weren't so closed off from the world and each other with technology, they didn't have the luxury to give a shit what people thought..I used to be really shy and nervous (still do sometimes..it's how society conditions you) but one day I honestly decided that I was sick and tired of being afraid all the time and started fixing my mind...stop caring...i guess it's an illness because it's a self fulfilling prophecy...don't tell yourself that there's something wrong with you, because truth is that it's completely curable and controllable...just gotta break the social conditioning and start getting value from within yourself...exercise, accomplish daily tasks, have little daily goals and habits that build self esteem...you can cure anxiety...DONT TAKE MEDS that will f**k you up lol.....but honestly just get a little fire under your ass and decide that your sick of being this way and grow into a damn butterfly already.
SushiClipsCR I agree with him with the breathing techniques when you feel social anxiety. I suffered with it I've read books and put myself in awkward situations to overcome it
SushiClipsCR true, this content does not apply to real social anxiety.
Love it love it love it! Especially the part about positive expectations! I use it all the time(for everything) though without a 100% success rate, I'm very encouraged by the 80% success rate I have already! Keep the love coming, Martin!
Hafidz! That's great! You got it man! Hope you're doing well! :)
Hi, thank you for the video! I suffer from social anxiety and I find it hard to communicate with people, It can be the simplest things like going to the grocery store and buying food or just to stare into people's eyes, it's really hard... At any case keep up with those great videos! you seem like a really nice person, I wish I had a friend like you :)
+מאור חזון (mh294m) You're welcome! The elevator trick is just one idea from cognitive therapy but it can be overwhelming. I'd suggest baby steps! Awww, we can be friends!!
+PeakYourMind Thanks, I really think that the way I see the world is quite different than most people, it's hard to describe, it's like every normal situation and things that people take for granted are stressful, I really need to find a way to handle it and take control... And thank you friend :) even though I live far away in a different country.. :)
agree.
This video is so helpful! Legit. I have watched so many of these videos where people have been like 'go counselling' etc but these steps help so much!! Thanks SOOO much!! You're amazing! :)
Neve H Thanks!! Yeah I know what you mean, stoked it's helpful! :)
I have very very bad social Anxiety and I'm about to meet my boyfriends family for the second time the first time I was really terrified but tried to keep it together I thought I did ok but apparently they said I didn't talk much and looked like I was about to cry now I'm even more terrified so thanks for posting your video I hope it works. Wish me luck....😣😰
You're gonna do great! Good luck :)
myjessiesgirl I feel kind of bad for laughing at this
I wish it was as easy as saying it. I have tried to overcome my social anxiety multiple times and ended up making it worse. So far, it's ruining my life. I'm only 14 and I have no friends because I grew apart from them because I became afraid to talk to them. I will probably end up moving far away after my parents pass and be alone for the rest of my life, never leaving my home. My mom keeps telling me, "Just stop being so shy, go make some friends," but it's not that easy. Unfortunately.
hey man! i just wanted to say thank you so much! everything you said too do to help out i did the opposite, i would automatically think negative thoughts or expect negative things, instead of just expecting that they will like me. me personally you can tell my mood but my body language, i work in the fast food industry so i see alot of different faces everyday.As soon as i get in that negative state ill be like that through the full day. i never really thought bout my actions until this video, but the times im positive and dont expect negative things are the times i have my bad days at work. Example, i customer would come in and i will just expect that they wont like me and the customer can tell by my body language. its crazy how much your mind plays apart on how you present yourself/act/expect.
I think only handsome ppl can overcome social anxiety. They can laugh freely , talk freely and just be out going. If ugly ppl like me getting too loud or giving a big action , ppl come to you and say you're weird or stare at you with a strange facial expression. Just like if I ask 9 ppl out of 10 a question on common daily life thing, they always give me an attitude. Ppl only like you if you at least look presentable or at least average.
Not true i dont think i am good looking but i am not ugly atleast some girls say and i still have anixety.....i feel so bad... I know i am waisting best time of my life (i am turning 16 in month)
consider yourself lucky, you're not ugly!
+Jon Tek i dont know how you look but to someone you're atleast cute i a 200% sure you see yourself uglier than other people do because you are looking at your body/face everyday and you know all the ugly thing about that people may never see or realise...
+Jon Tek anxiety goes beyond appearance. everyone says im good looking but I'm still self conscious of my flaws ranging from my appearance to my voice to the way I walk.
confidence is key my friend.
you are so wonderful thank you for making this video 😊😊
No problem :)
awesome! thank you so much for sharing that. When I'm dealing with anxiety, it seems so stressful and complicated inside my head. It then makes it hard to fathom a solution is so simple considering how complex it feels in the mind.
your a beautiful person and thanks for sharing! kind regards.
Completely agree! Thank you! Anytime! :)
WHY DO YOU GET FUCKING UINTO IT SO MUCH WHY DO YOU GET INTO THIS WORLD OF SOCIAL ANXIETY DONT YOU REALIZE IT IMPACTS YOUR BRAIN IN THE MOST NEGATIVE WAY POSSIBLE? WHERE FUCKING HUMANS YOU HAVE TO BE SOCIAL TO EVEN SURVIVEE ION THIS ORLD
Thank You for doing this video! I, personally suffer from anxiety and panic attacks and also social anxiety,like all my friends make fun of me cuz I don't talk and apparently im
stuff but I hope this helps as in my school we've recently started to do more presentations to different years and whatever ( I'm from uk btw haha) anyways keep making videos ily bye thanks for reading this ! x
Sophir Carlerrr Hey! yeah let me know how it goes for you. And if you can, get around people who won't make fun of you for it. Nothing to be ashamed of, just something to work through. Glad you enjoyed it :)
aww thank you !! :)
if i were you, if i met those ppl while filming i'd be ashamed somewhy. is it normal like im so insecure all the time and i think im 2nd choice to every single person i know
Really good advice! I have social anxiety and I notice a big difference when I change my attitude from negativ to positiv when i´m situations I don´t feel comfortable in because for me the problem is almost always in my head. When I expect it to go bad, it does!
You have a cool personality, and it´s nice to listen to you;) I´m gonna subscribe:)
Dang dude, you're really funny! Had me laughing. And I really like and agree with what you said about fear being an illusion. I read a lot of Joyce Meyer books, and she has this motto, "do it afraid", that goes hand in hand with what you're talking about. No matter how scared or intimidated you are, have confidence in yourself and just do whatever it is you need or want to do.
Hahaha thanks! Wow I love that!! "Do it afraid" Exactly :)
That's a great advice!! And your smile made the message flow very easily
Thanks Jeanica, glad you liked it!
The best thing about your video's is I can relate to exact same scenarios happened to me and then you got solution to them.Watching your video's is like win win situation
Nice video! I think the biggest problem with my SA is when I have to engage in conversation with someone, I just don't know what to say. I always just nod my head or just smile because i just don't know how to reply. It's so awkard. But your advice was very helpful! I'll have to apply it to my own life once I gain some confidence. : )
For sure man, I see where you're coming from. What's the specific context? Like what does the other person say when you don't know how to reply?
Well, a lot of the time, the other person can sense that I'm shy and may say something like " You 're very quiet" or " You don't talk very much" I always feel alittle embarrassed inside.
I think i we can connect social anxiety with public presentations. I recently gave a speech in one of my classes and i could feel the hotness taking over my face. I knew i was turning red. All while my top lip was TWITCHING! I dont know why. It had never done that before. I was sooooo embarrassed. I stuttered and stuttered and finally i was done. I just wish i could be like the talkative kids in my class.
you just brighten my day!! i really appreciate the time you put in to these video and your sincere heart!! thanks
Victoria Han Yessss thanks Victoria
Martin, you are an amazing individual. You are so inspirational. This year I will be studying abroad in Italy and I was very worried about being my normal introverted self, but you have gave me a major confidence booster to just be myself. Thank you so much! Stay awesome :)
Amanda Wygant Hey Amanda! Thank you :) Ah that's so exciting!!! Where in Italy are you gonna be studying?! That's beautiful, love it!
PeakYourMind Yes I will be living in Aosta in Northwestern Italy. It's about 2 hours from Milan and 1 hour from Turin.
I'm only 14 and I suffer horribly, it hurts because it feels like I'm trapped and I will never be able to speak to anybody or make new friends. I wish I could just throw it away :( but this video makes me feel hope that maybe one day I can finally get this over with!! thank you for making it :]
This is the first video I've seen by you, and you've already helped me :) My boyfriend want me to meet his grandma (who means the world to him), and I'm soo nervous that she won't like me, or that I'm gonna be awkward and make her uncomfortable! But I believe and hope I can be more chill now haha.. You've gained a new subber :D
actuakky kold hard
i just found your channel and i can't believe i hadn't found it sooner! you give out such great advice and bring good vibes, which is exactly what i need. i subscribed!:D
Thanks Carolina, I'm stoked you enjoy it :)
You're amazing! I love your advice! I suffer with pretty bad social anxiety and am forcing myself to go to something tonight that is massively out of my comfort zone and will force me to meet some new people. I am terrified to go but I know I finally need to face my fears!! I really hope it goes okay :S I will be using many of your tips and tricks so thank you! Xx
If I stand at the base of an elevator asking people out, what am I supposed to do with all the guys that accept my offer?
Flaunt that shit on facebook. You just rekt social interactions.
Or just wear a hockey mask while you do it; makes things a little more difficult but that way they don't know who you are and can't track you down while you can do it to them.
Emily Lager right! i was thinking the same thing
Omg you have such a warm and friendly personality :).
Thanks Brianna! :)
Thanks! This video helped out a lot. Definitely subscribed:D
Love the "Fear is an illusion" part cause it's so true. Gotta look at it straight in the eye.
Awesome! Yessss exactly! :)
I have problems with calming myself diwn before going to a new place, like I'm starting college and I got everything ready but theres these constant butterflies on my stomach telling me how scared I am and that makes me want to back away and hide. When I do that it hinders me from making friends and talking to people, I can't even order food face to face, but watching this helped I'm not sure to what extent but I feel more calm and relaxed in a way so thank you btw this is the first video I watched. My brain is doing flip flops right now.
Your right! :) Not everyone is going to like you, but those are the people who really don't want to get the time to know who you are as a person and the acceptance. We all have our differences and that's what makes us human and FUN! otherwise if we were robots we would all be the same and BORING! thanks for sharing this! :)
Thanks for the tips, I really appreciate it! I'll admit I heard this all before, but hearing you say the same thing reinforces the whole concept and gives me hope. So yeah, think I'll sub ya, and stay awesome!
SuperEffectivePoni TOTALLY. It's the same with me, whenever friends remind me of nuggets of wisdom I'm so grateful because it really does reinforce it. The other day my friend was talking about how we've got one life to live, you don't get 2 or 3 you get this one, IF that. If you make it count. So why not go big?! It totally remind/reinforced that concept for me! Thanks for the subscribe! Welcome to the PYM fam!!
brother tq so much for your video.I have so much of nervous,shy when ever i go out of my house.I feel like I am looking so weird to other person and feel like all are laughing ,joking at me at the way I behave.but after watching your video I think I can over came this problem.tq again for making this video .
+Nur Amy Stoked I could help! :)
You are so wise and inspiring. Thank you so so so much for your guidance and passion for self love and love in general
Wish I had someone like you to talk to in real life...God Bless
+alissa anderson God bless you! Feel free to reach out to talk anytime!
Ya I will
I have been going through exactly the se thing as Evie it seriously sucks. But this video really helped thanks Martin Sosa!❤️
Salina D. Wooo glad it helped! :)
Thanks for posting this! It's a lot more common than I thought. It's really hard for me at times to even start a conversation let alone continue one.
Actually some of the best tips I've heard thank you!! Also you seem like a really friendly great guy :) Keep that up haha
You are awesome! This is the first time I watch one of your videos and I like you already. You're advice is great! 🙌🏻 I just
subscribed
I used to get so nervous doing speeches. Then I realized I can't control other people so worrying about what they think is pointless. Now I just worry about whether I'm excited about my speech because if I'm not excited how can I expect others to be and why am I giving a speech I'm not excited about? Even if it's a work speech. If you can't find something interesting about the information being delivered you need to think about how it's important to the job and project you're doing. If nothing in your job excites you you're probably in the wrong career.
littleripper312 SOOOO true. If you're excited about it people can feel that energy from you. Completely agree, I'm really big on finding a career you love!
Thank you
For sure :)
Who are you and why aren't you in my life?
WOW this was great advice thank you so much!
Stoked you enjoyed it!
dude you're awesome! i wish i was cool like that and not embarrassed all the time. But your tips are very helpful, thank you.
You'll get there! Stoked they're helpful! :)
You are amazing! Exactly what you said is everything that I really needed to hear. Im showing this to my bff to help her to. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to share such wise advice:) god bless you
So glad to hear that! Awesome :) God bless you!
***** Thanks! I'm stoked it's been helpful :) You're welcome love
PeakYourMind I\'m not sure but ,if anyone else needs to find out about tips for dealing with anxiety try *Enlarbo Panic Puzzle Wizard* (search on google ) ? Ive heard some great things about it and my friend got amazing success with it.
I'm going to my boyfriends house tommorow and I'm really nervous because I think I will be meeting his mum while we are at his, I don't want to be quiet and shy because I might give myself a bad impression, I have anxiety and its not very easy meeting new people, especially your boyfriends mum ! helllppp!!!!
+PeakYourMind Great video, but I don't get the part on escalator. So what should I do on escalator?
+PeakYourMind Hello the best results that I have had was by using the Seans Shy Program (just google it) - definately the most helpful idea that I've seen.
have spent months researching top cure for shyness and discovered an awesome resource at Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested)
I recently found out that I have Social anxiety disorder. And today I went to home school day at my local skating rink, and I was nearly in tears because the amount of people there (considering I was literally the only teen who came alone, didn't help.) And I've watched this video before, and I tried using your tips, but I just couldn't talk to anyone. :( I'm really self conscious (and getting braces next week is definitely gonna make that worse) and always afraid I'm gonna look stupid. Any chance you have advice for self conscious/social anxiety effected people?
Love this book since my search of it on google! It has helped me immensely and covers so many different areas of anxiety. It is really great information that *Amazing Anxiety Perfecta Solution* is written so easy to understand. It is a great help.
PyroPisces Hey, first you're definitely not alone in this. There are so many people who deal with this struggle and many who learn to overcome it. It's not some permanent issues that's going to stop from living the kind of life that you truly want. For starters though, it might be easier to take some baby steps before you go out and approach strangers because that can be pretty scary. I would start by building up your own self-image and self-esteem. And I don't mean externally, I mean start appreciating and loving yourself. I've got a vid on that, that can help! You can also start telling yourself the truth, that you are more than enough and beyond worthy of love. Sometimes we get a skewed image of ourselves and the world makes us think we're not enough because we have braces or don't look like "the coolest kid in school" none of that matters. You are much more than that. But begin with baby steps!
Zahari Iliev Zahari thanks for showing some love and sharing what helped you :)
Very helpful thanks a lot.
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This video honestly helped me a lot !! Thank you sooo much I'm honestly so excited to start my first day of work tomorrow 😁 these tips were very useful thank you mucho
Thank you so much I was actually watching this when I was having a anxiety attack and it helped a lot thanks again ( I have nausea anxiety more than social anxiety but it still helped ) :D
OMG!! I can relate sooo much...now I know whats wrong :p thank you!!
Ps it's Maria No problem!!! :)
You are so awesome thanks for the advice I'm trying to get through my fear of social anxiety.
THANK YOU
I just found your videos and I really like them! I'm starting college in the fall so a lot of them are really helpful, lol. Much love from your new subbie (:
+In Between The Lines Hey! Thank you, ahhh that's so exciting!! Much love to you
Hi there! Thanks for the tips! I am sure now I can give public speech without having a fear of people laughing at me. First video I seen on your channel and it was awesome! Subscribed! Please upload more videos! Really appreciate thank you
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First video I've seen off yours,, just subscribed!!
saskiathesinger Thanks! Btw, I watched your group acapella vid of hide and seek! I thought it was pretty cool!
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Thankk you for the video! I started college and it's not going too well socially because im so anxious and nervous and i will try some of these tips to see if they will work for me.
Hi It's Ty hows it going ?
OueenE 77 Im fine thank you. I'm just in a really confusing time right now. You know tyring to figure out what to do with my life and who i am.
Hi It's Ty . I can relate . did these tips help alittle ?
having social anxiety made me miss out so much...
so excited to find these videos! Thanks so much for making these, so helpful! btw not trying to be a stalker or desperate but your smile is so bright! your a very attractive person! like wow! Lol ok sorry don't want to sound creepy ☺
Yeah for sure! Haha thank you
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Hi, Martin. Thanks for the help. I'm sure this can help me. I thought I "just" suffered for aproach anxiety to cute girls but what I realized yesrday night was that I also suffer from group anxiety. I was at a party, in a group and subconciously I guess I was thinking that they wouldn't like me (which is kinda wierd because I knew most of them, only 2/3 strangers, but I didn't see them for a while). I talked, of course, but not so much as I'm confortable with. I was like with a knot in my throat.
Anyway, I will try this positive thinking stuff next time. lol
+Fábio Albuquerque Hey man, no problem! Just remember this is your mind and body and you own it. Breathe deeeeeep and focus on them instead of how you're coming off, Good look bro
Thanks, ;)
Great vids! Keep killing it!!
Dude, your awesome! Nice personality :)
PLEASE! can you one on High School partys, especially about wether or not they are fun or worth it.
You make me laugh with your humor :D
PS: your videos are awesome!
Gracias 😊
Hey, awesome video!!! Thanks for the advice again, I'll be sure to put them in practice:)
Evie!! Yeah for sure! Let me know how it goes! :)
I will:) thanks!
YOU'RE AWESOME! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THESE VIDEOS THEY REALLY HELP! YOU'RE THE BEST
really like your videos :)
great advice :D
Thank you so much😌
rachel v Of course :)
i just started 7th grade and i go to new school so i dont know anybody from there and i'm not social human AT ALL. In elemetary school i had no friends and i was always alone but now i'm tired with this and i want to start from the bottom. im gonna use this as much as i can WISH ME LUCK!
*i'm gonna use this tip as much as i can*
It's always great time to start fresh. Good luck! :)
Thank You!
You're welcome!
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Very Good advice,,
thanx for the tips, it actually helped me a lot ;)
Ingrid Strand So great to hear :)
I like your video so much, you are so confident with your words, you talk amazingly , you are cool and funny, you dun' care if people are watchin' you making a video outside... Very nice.. Wish I was like you 😢
Thank you! If you can recognize those qualities, you have them, they're just dormant. You can be like me and better than me because you're you.
PeakYourMind I'm trying little by little to overcome my shyness , i'm really making progress to open up to people and talk freely and be more confident, and i'd like to thank you for helping me and helping many people who suffer from anxiety and shyness. God bless you ❤
I have social anxiety but I also don't know what to say in social settings , so I just stay quiet , which makes me antisocial
thanks man, I'll try this out.
Great tips, im gonna try to apply it 👍
This.... It's an okay advice, I force my self to do things I don't want to do because I don't want to disappoint anyone else... It doesn't fix it.. I feel like it gets worse a few days after I do these things.... It's really scary, I face some of these social fears but it never turns out great. I end up thinking about worse things which keep me from doing it again.. It makes me want to cry sometimes but I am too scared to cry ;-; because then I have to talk about this issue which is also scary.
Nick Uchiha First man, if you're going to do anything it's gotta be because YOU want to, especially when it comes to personal change in your life. The intention behind your action has to be because you want to make a change. And hell yeah it's scary, but the problem could be in your approach. If you're going to push your comfort zone it's a good idea to make it fun and disconnect yourself from the worry of what the other person is going to think of you or rejection. Because rejection doesn't exist. Someone's reaction is just a reaction, that's it. We interpret whether or not it's "good" or "bad" or "rejection" or whatever and then what most people do is they process that as their self worth. Your self worth is dependent completely on you and how you see yourself. Take back your power and begin to see yourself as a badass dude, command your inner dialogue as someone who completely owns himself and you'll start to strengthen and build that part of your personality then what you used to think was scary will be cake.
This is some good advice... like expecting people to like you, then you walk in more warm and friendly.. :)
WontB Quiet Totally. It's not a guarantee but it affects your approach for sure
Amazing dude, thank you. This "was" me, the red face, short-out of breath dude. Now, ha. Your words are magic and are making my life this. Cheers mate!
Dude that's amazing!! Stoked for you Sam! Cheers!
PeakYourMind Thanks my good-looking man. :)
I'm in new classes and I was made to sit next to two people who I don't know. I can't even say hi to them, I can't speak. I worry that I will be judged. I just can't start a ordinary conversation! Please help.
My worst is my face turns red in social situation and I think that's a good point how you pretty much compromise yourself before you even get into the situation.
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oh dear, if i could only remember 2 times in my life that i felt social anxiety and socially awkward, i'd b THANK.ful. :)
but great tipps!
Hahaha thanks!
Thank you, kind sir!