Dr. K talks Meaning, Purpose, and Motivation | BASED Stream
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I love how many cameo appearances we had in this stream. Dr. Indian, Dr. Chad, Dr. Red Pill Coach...I look forward to Dr. K living up to his full potential as an actor in this season.
You mean his Dharma
I was collapsing in on myself with cringe, maybe it was just me
@@heythatsacoolsn Maybe you need to introspect and look into yourself and ask why his behaviour affects your internal state. Meditate and you will transcend above such discomfort.
@@The_Reductionist I have past traumas from being mocked by close ones for doing silly impressions and being culturally insensitive, so maybe that's why I cringe so hard seeing others doing it.
@@heythatsacoolsn Happiness comes from within. Same as Cringyness.
We're going to get through this bros.
We’re all gonna make it.
Just the bros?😕
I'm already halfway through the video, we're gonna make it!!
@@keirablack9600bros and sis, but “bros” is probably inclusive to all kinds of people
@@keirablack9600 Yes. It's a based stream
20 years ago I was asking my Dad what I should do for a life decision. He gave me an answer that has stuck with me, "Why are you asking me, you're the one that is going to have to live with it?"
:)
Good advice
because human is a social animal.
On the one hand, we would like to make our own decision, but on the other, we wish to live a life that either also benefits the people around us; or atleast avoid violating some kind of laws/morals.
But sometimes these cannot be figured out by our own, it has to go through some kind of communication with other human beings. That's why we have professional consultants.
Therefore, it isn't wrong for your father to give such reply, but neither are you wrong for asking such questions.
I know I'm two months late, but I had the exact opposite experience so I'm quite jealous. In middle and high school, my parents chose my school subjects for me, and when I told my classmates everyone told me "aren't you going to be the one that has to study those subjects? Shouldn't you study what you want to know?" I didn't know what to say. I thought my parents knew best but I'm finding out just how wrong they really were. I know that no one asked but I wanted to get this off my chest lol
@@czechmeoutbabe1997 It's ok dude. Honestly, it's good that you at least got that feedback from somebody and that you reflected on it. But yeah that feeling that it should have been your parents who had to teach you -- that feeling sucks. I hope you got over it
Bit of non-advice really
“Big dreams sabotage our ability to work” 🤯 That explains a lot of my motivation issues.
Explanation starts at 24:07
I thought it started at 21:13
@@atillatekin7030 yeah. With a big ol barf from the depths of hell.
@@ifinditinteresting.8709 made me laugh so hard
Thank you Saver of Time 🙏
Bless
out of all the healthy gamer videos ive watched this is by far my favorite one.
I agree
Dr. K gotta give it raw
I agree 😊
Did you catch the easter eggs? I think one of them is:
- it's important to willingly choose doing the hard thing in life (like eating a salad instead of pizza)
I watched every Dk video, Every single one. And look at my ego go, writing about it. 🎉
I'm completely in awe. Doc actually revealed his power level wtf
wdym
He said the gamer word?
Over 9000!!
@@hgcvghvgh-ok5kvwdym: wdym? :D
this vid is amazin on many levels
Settle down nappa
No exaggeration, this is the most helpful channel I've found on RUclips. And this may be the best video/stream I've seen here.
Personal notes:
1:05:50 - Does your life feel fluid
1:09:54 - Dharma is small (your body is a temple and should be treated as such)
1:12:50 - Humerous impression
1:33:24 - You know what your Dharma is you just don't wanna do it (funny impression again)
We should never take Dr. K for granted. Thank you man.
Absolutely
As a person who has sturggled with finding purpose. I realize you dont find it. You create it. Everything starts from you creating opportunties for yourself to succeed
Exactly. There is no purpose. All we do is create motives for our actions.
Yes!!❤
My purpose in life is to stay alive.
That can be quite dangerous for some of us. Sometimes it's better to be purposeless, than to be driven by an all consuming divine purpose, to accept the now rather than be a slave to a possible future (whether that future is even "real" or not)
I've never seen this level of analytical spirituality on RUclips anywhere else. This is super interesting. Please keep making videos like this.
agreed! ❤
'analytical spirituality' - cool term and very aptly put!
Exploration without Expectation, I'm trying to cultivate that in my mediation. I've started to meditate a lot more regularly thanks to you, I appreciate what you do.
Just love how Dr.K's always blunt, and gives actual information rather than vague advices......he tells the HARSH truth into our face, no babysitting like the others, and actually blatantly tells us what works are actually NEEDED ..
"Your dharma is waiting for you but you're not ready for it" - holy fuck the realest shit u ever said Dr.K
Thank you for your sacrifice here, Dr. Alok. Just know that you didn't waste your energy by disclosing one of your experiences to us. You did that to help bring some level of understanding about something usually very private. May your Karma return that energy for giving up something for the greater good of us less-spiritual folk!
I almost skipped watching this video and boy would I have regretted it. What you have done during the stream was incredibly helpful. I don't think I have ever seen you nor anybody else describe spirituality/meditation in such a clear, scientific way without any new age bullshit. Thank you for all your work.
This has more accents than I’ve ever heard dr. K use before
If being a doctor and Harvard professor doesn’t work out you should be a voice over actor. I’m digging the country accent lol
"I'm 34 and I still can't find motivation or purpose." Wow... it's like -I- wrote that! Actually, over this last year, I've found more purpose in just serving others... I don't have a regular job or career, but by volunteering at my local spiritual center and at drum circles and other similar events I've been attending, I have found enjoyment and I receive a lot of appreciation. That turned into odd jobs helping people with heavy things, yard work, installing hardware, and most recently, even running errands and helping with research projects (which I'm enjoying more than the manual labor, haha). I still don't feel like I have a well-defined purpose, but at least it is -something-.
Thank you for this ❤
I feel you're on the right way. Greetz from Germany
As a Christian doing things to help others is our purpose. Keep going man.
I appreciate that Dr. K was so open and in depth about meditations. I know recently said that there are reasons why we shouldn't go around talking about meditation experiences, so I was surprised to hear him go in depth about his own. I also want to sit with this video again. There's a lot here.
I found out about this no talking rule after the fact 😅. Got a result I did not expect to happen and excitedly I shared the whole experience the very next day with my husband. That was the first and last time it happened. The anticipation truly is a killer, and after this talk I actually believe it was not even a result, but one of the early stage distractions. On the other hand I have not been meditating for very long and I had a non-spiritual goal in mind anyways, so it still feels like an easy come easy go type situation. But to have 20 years of practice and to be aware of the consequences and still share it... Guess we truly are his annoying mob of dharma, that demands sacrifice in order to grow. This is a long video to listen to repeatedly, but I'm absolutely going to.
@@Sievet
"his annoying mob of dharma" :D
@@Sievet yeah when you put it like that at the end I agree with you. He is choosing the painful way. Very insightful of you. You are great. Good job noticing. Hahaha :)
@@Sievet When you shared something with your husband or someone you're close to, was it something you felt internally? Or was it their reaction/lack thereof to your experience?
@@dayoldeggplant I do not think his reaction matters to be honest. I guess the act of sharing my experience before I was even able to digest it or understand it was the mistake. I have a tendency to hype myself up for stuff and dissect it, this does not seem to be an advantage for meditation or any other spiritual practice 😅.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
07:28 🚀 *Dr. K plans to have an open and honest discussion about purpose, motivation, and meaning in this stream, without sugarcoating the realities.*
08:39 🥚 *Dr. K announces the inclusion of Easter eggs in the stream, providing hidden lessons about how the mind functions and warning against incorrect conclusions.*
12:41 📚 *Dr. K introduces his book, "How to Raise a Healthy Gamer," emphasizing its focus on helping parents understand and navigate technology's impact on their children.*
14:39 💰 *For the next 48 hours, there is a 25% discount for members at Barnes & Noble for Dr. K's book.*
25:26 🕊️ *Dr. K discusses his disagreement with arguments around spiritual practices like prayer and the belief that intensifying efforts will solve problems.*
26:47 🤔 *Dr. K expresses a lack of motivation to work for Dharma and questions the value of suffering for altruistic causes, indicating a sense of disillusionment.*
27:42 🔄 *Dr. K aligns with Eastern Buddhist thoughts on suffering and attachment but criticizes their reluctance to embrace rational conclusions.*
30:15 🌐 *Dr. K discusses perspectives on Dharma, exploring its role in addressing dukka, and highlights the need to understand spirituality beyond intellectual concepts.*
32:48 📚 *Dr. K explains the contemporary challenge in understanding spiritual concepts like Dharma due to the separation of intellectual understanding and experiential knowledge.*
34:24 🔄 *The significance of Dharma lies in its original teaching alongside practices, emphasizing experiential knowledge to complement intellectual understanding.*
40:41 🔄 *Dharma is clarified as constant support or living in harmony with the world's changing circumstances, aiming to fulfill one's purpose virtuously.*
41:27 🔄 *Dr. K acknowledges the interconnectedness of Dharma, ARA, GMA, and Moka in alleviating dukka, debunking the notion that Dharma alone is a coping mechanism.*
45:42 🍕 *Understanding suffering involves addressing Dukkha (D), Artha (A), Kama (K), and Dharma (D), collectively contributing to alleviating suffering.*
46:50 💰 *Modern society overly emphasizes Artha (wealth) and Kama (pleasure) while neglecting Dharma (duty/righteousness), leading to unfulfilling lives despite material success.*
49:06 🚶 *Dharma doesn't necessarily eliminate suffering but makes it tolerable or even chosen, allowing individuals to opt for the path of pain with a compelling reason.*
51:39 🌟 *Dharma is efficient in moving towards a life of reduced suffering, creating a sense of purpose and harmony by choosing the hard but meaningful path.*
01:05:57 🌅 *Life's harmony: Reflect on whether your life feels fluid, harmonious, and refreshing, or if it's filled with friction. Identify areas causing friction, even small ones like skipping meals.*
01:07:54 🧠 *Motivation mechanism: Understand the interplay between the prefrontal cortex (PFC) for value generation and the nucleus accumbens for motivation. Big dreams may diminish the perceived value of daily tasks.*
01:11:38 🚶♂️ *Self-care: Prioritize taking care of your body. Start with a daily one-hour walk, ensuring self-discipline in maintaining physical health and well-being.*
01:14:33 🔄 *Attention externalization challenge: As attention is externalized through constant activities and distractions, internal connection weakens. The more externalized, the harder to find one's Dharma.*
01:16:17 🌐 *External vs. Internal guidance: Seeking answers externally creates friction. Understand your uniqueness, and introspect to reconnect with internal guidance, avoiding the influence of external pressures.*
01:24:32 🤔 *Introspection for Dharma: Spend more time introspecting, away from external influences. Recognize that the world may try to convince you of desires, but true self-discovery requires disconnecting from external pressures.*
01:25:43 🧘♂️ *Embrace introspection, spend time with yourself, go for a walk, and take care of your body as starting steps in discovering your Dharma.*
01:27:51 🎮 *Life is like a video game; you don't get your Dharma (life purpose) until you complete the tutorial (smaller life tasks). Your readiness determines when your purpose unfolds.*
01:29:00 🌱 *Overcoming challenges in life, even as you level up, doesn't make life easier. Your responsibilities and challenges grow, but facing them is part of your evolving Dharma.*
01:31:48 💪 *Your Dharma is about taking care of yourself and doing what needs to be done, even if it's not glamorous or grand. It involves embracing responsibilities and lifting the weight of life.*
01:33:27 🔄 *Dharma is not about waiting for a grand purpose; it's about doing what needs to be done, even if you don't want to. It's about increasing the harmony of your life.*
01:41:57 🚶♂️ *Start with simple actions like taking a walk, eating healthier, exercising, and socializing. Dharma begins with small steps, and as you progress, the world supports you in unexpected ways.*
01:44:13 🧠 *Be rigorous in controlling your mind; recognize that external influences, like advertising, aim to shape your behavior by conditioning your thoughts. Conditioning often serves the world's interests, not necessarily yours.*
01:46:45 🔄 *Motivation and inclination: Motivation is sought because it represents a natural inclination within individuals to move in a particular direction. Lack of motivation implies a struggle to control one's desires.*
01:50:29 🧘♂️ *Controlling the mind through meditation: Meditation is emphasized as a crucial practice to gain control over the mind, making actions independent of one's desires.*
01:53:05 🤹♂️ *Importance of learning to be bored: Learning to be bored is a powerful tool to gain control over desires. Boredom helps break free from impulsive behaviors driven by wants.*
02:05:39 🤔 *Yogi approach: Despite meeting physical and mental needs, happiness may still elude; the quest for Liberation arises.*
02:06:38 🧠 *Beyond senses: Consciousness can exist beyond the sensations of body and mind; meditation helps transcend these limitations.*
02:07:49 🌐 *Uniformity of consciousness: Consciousness is a uniformity among all human beings; meditation helps discover and experience this universal consciousness.*
02:08:03 👁️ *Pure consciousness: Closing eyes shifts attention from visual awareness to other senses, eventually leading to a state of pure attention without any object.*
02:09:11 🧘♂️ *Steps to meditation: The journey to pure consciousness involves progressing from pratyahara to dharana and then dhyana, culminating in a state of thought cessation.*
02:11:00 😌 *Blissful state: Meditation leads to a state where suffering disappears, and one experiences a blissful state beyond ordinary pleasures.*
02:14:44 🤯 *Beyond mind: To transcend the mind, one must operate on a scale where actions are done without any expected gain; spiritual progress takes time and discipline.*
02:15:58 🧘♂️ *Om chanting practice: Advanced meditation involves a decade-long practice of om chanting, twice a day for 20 minutes, with attention to details like vibration and silence.*
02:17:46 🕉️ *Om chanting phases: Om chanting progresses through phases, including focusing on vibration, localizing vibration, achieving a perfect vibration, and reducing volume and vibration.*
02:28:17 🧘 *The discussion links meditation stages and Kundalini discovery, emphasizing the transformative impact on life.*
02:32:06 🌌 *The meaning of life is discussed, asserting that life just is, and meaning is a construct of the human mind.*
02:32:58 🔄 *Operating beyond the mind involves exploring pure consciousness and attention, leading to contentment and Suk Anand MOA.*
02:34:22 🤔 *Meditation's benefits are not just spiritual but also evidenced in improved quality of life, even when external circumstances remain unchanged.*
02:36:30 🍲 *Rigorous lifestyles of meditators, including specific diets, play a crucial role in achieving desired meditative states.*
02:38:34 💪 *Meditation is a commitment, requiring dedication and focus, with benefits arising not just from meditation but also from adhering to associated lifestyles.*
02:43:35 🤐 *Experienced meditators often refrain from sharing specific spiritual experiences to avoid creating false expectations and feeding the ego.*
02:44:40 🤝 *Karma may support those committed to meditation, leading to unexpected opportunities and assistance on their spiritual journey.*
02:47:39 😓 *Facing anxiety during meditation or chanting is a personal choice, and individuals must decide whether to proceed despite discomfort.*
02:48:29 🧘 *Meditation retreats' effectiveness depends on the quality of the teacher and their spiritual attainment.*
02:49:53 🎓 *Certification does not guarantee spiritual competence in meditation teaching; the current system lacks indicators of quality and competence.*
02:54:18 📚 *Dr. K promotes his book "How to Raise a Healthy Gamer" for insights into technology addiction, neuroscience, and communication.*
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Jeez man, you deserve a gold star for this! 🌟
thanks to ai ahahha so helpfull for sure 😂@@davebertaud
@@davebertaud thanks for the ai ahhaah
Tysm ❤
Most likely this is the most important video he has put out so far.
Thank you for this. It was kinda hard to watch because it felt too real. Thanks for giving a clear guide to try out, and finally get started.
I love this video and how you also accidentally gave the best singing/vocal lesson whilst explaining chanting. to become a good singer, is to learn to be completely present with your voice and in time you gain awareness of all of the muscles in the throat that are so quick to run in and "protect" your voice from breaking. but you need to relax into your voice breaking in order to strengthen the correct muscle. I have noticed since relaxing into my voice, this same concept is applicable to every area of my life. when I'm playing piano, I have to *actively* relax my fingers, then I improve much more quickly. In relationships, I have to relax into vulnerability. When doing work/school, I have to relax into boredom.
wow, I love how much sense this "relaxing into it" concept makes! Thank you for that
Underrated comment right here.
I desperately needed this lecture. It’s like feeling around for the light switch in a dark room and then suddenly there it is. Thank you Dr. K. I love you.
These 3 hours are GOLD. Thank you Dr. K, I've seen you before but today I have become a true fan. I shared snippets of this stream in my daily video and linked this full episode telling people to check it out. More people have to see this, and more of you in general.
This is the kind of motivational speech that actually has an effect on me rather than the "You're doing great!" lies. Thanks for making things real. As for the spiritual stuff, I respect it even if I don’t believe in it. Maybe if I follow the practice I'll be in for a surprise.
If you liked this, I'd definitely recommend the channel's interviews too. There's a ton of this kind of stuff in the interviews, especially the old ones. Basically start at the oldest interview, and work your way backwards.
You don't have to be """""""""""""""""""""""""""""spiritual"""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" to begin meditating
To add onto this, I found the interview with Joro to be very inspiring, as well as the three with Sky Williams
What I really like about buddhism that I don't find in other religions is that it acknowledges boredom. And meditation really helped me with that. I can just close my eyes and focus on my breath and the present moment, and time passes so quickly. Sometimes I can just turn a switch in my mind to go from feeling bored to not feeling bored and I feel content.
I started watching this video yesterday and this morning I woke up early to meditate. And now I'm up hours before I have to leave for work and I'm just, like, Damn, I guess I'll roast some veggies and pack a healthy lunch for work later? Study some Japanese kanji? I have so much time!
What I mean to say is: thank you for the motivation. You speaking the truth alone is what helped me.
Use that motivation to transforming it into your own system of duscipline
Notes thus far
Create harmony over friction. Not just feeling good but what seems most intuned with yourself, which requires introspection or time with yourself. Regardless of the task, there are steps to get to that point which means being okay with doing the "tutorial" parts without self hate. If there is self hate that's part of the introspection to ask "why" and "where" this is.
I am not you and you are not me. We all have our own tasks that we may be the only person to do that thing. Everyone's paths and true "purpose" is different not set in stone, not just based on status quo. Social media and ads are one in the same trying to persuade and control you to go down another path.
Hard things are hard, thus is life, so make it easier by breaking it down and asking what is the contrary to if you do it versus not doing it.
GOODNESS FOR YA
Take walks, eat healthier, exercise, meditate, socialize with others, engage in pleasure (with focus on that one thing), security and wealth = dharma.
Personal comments :
"I think without a good enough why, the action has no reason compared to your instinct to compulsively indulge in other pleasurable things. Finding that why probably requires more introspection versus looking for external pleasure, which includes creating harmony with the smaller and larger aspects of life. Though at the end of the day, all of this coping is hurting having that time with looking inward which would help me to just do the thing and feel at peace or in harmony with my effort and pains from the action compared to the result."
Learn to be bored and meditate. Avoid wants all the time. Try hard things. Just because you feel like you don't want to do something doesn't mean you control those wants. Doesn't mean you will be satisfied after. Most of the time you control doing that thing you will be content with that. Control what you can control and let the rest be. You do not need wants.
Just like creating and eating food to satisfy hunger could take time to do, so does treating the mind with meditation. It takes time so trust the process and keep that reason up there. -"I am doing the Brahteaahbrahbrah and dukthala thingy to help me with my long term lack of purpose and disregulation with myself, by first I assume feeling all this that is within me, and then focusing on a point in front of me to focus on the nothing, being content and intuned with myself rather than unfocused and just wandering through life."
AHHHH OOHHHHH MMMMMMMM = the brah tea
fasé uno = just do the thing
Second fasé = do the thing but loud to make your neighbors hear but you don't care because you don't notice the body screw them but also they don't exist- focus on the noticing the sensation in the navel - throat and chest - chin to top of head body
Focus on movement of vibration. Steps a lot.
step... next : tune you body and voice by making it flow together and getting the exact timing correct. All the body is moving and being focused and tuned. Like you're chanting something to summon somethin' and putting in the work to get that dragonball fusion technique absolutely perfect y'know find that perfect vibration brah man. What else you feel - notice non physical structures and lower voice to get there.
Write down after what you noticed with all these in sensations and thoughts naturally.
Surya Namaskar = 5 min
Nadi shudhi = 5 min
Ohm chanting = 10 min
20 minutes twice a year every day for a decade.
a lot with diet and dedication. I personally don't need to get to that point. Just meditation in itself is a lot already. If I get to that point where I am meditating then I will decide then if I want to go to the next phase. But right now its that first step. In order to feel in unison with myself. To be okay with living and death. To be okay with love and pain.
OOH I love and hate that one. "I am afraid of heights, so I'm not gonna climb anything." Versus "I am afraid of height, and I went rock climbing today." I am an anxious person and I like to talk to others. Just because I am afflicted with something doesn't mean I am that thing. I can still do things despite the affliction.
Okay Imma try. Despite how hard it gets. There's some level of control over myself.
Ohm-Chanting meditation steps. (A-u-m)
Range: few months to literally decades.
20minutes, 2 times per day.
Going from open mouth to closed mouth while making sound/vibration.
Phases:
1. Do the practice 20min. Just do sound/vibration.
Sit upright, close eyes, deep breath, a-u-m, repeat.
2. Pay attention to the vibration, maximize the vibration, feel the vibration in your body
3. Notice the localization of vibration.
Where do you feel the vibration?
A: starts in naval/stomach. U: chest/throat. M: chin, head.
4. Focusing on the movement of the vibration. The vibration is ascending through your body (going up through your body)
5. Notice that the vibration is lurchy/not smooth. It may feel off.
6. Making the perfect vibration. Smooth out the Ohm.
-Avoid locking the jaw = relaxation of the jaw.
-Avoid moving from one movement to another movement. Smooth out the movement. One continuous movement.
-Even seconds of the A U M sounds.
-Find the right level of silence between rounds (You will know).
When you perfect the vibration you may start to feel "something else" (weird experiences, eyes looking back at you example).
7. Slowly decrease the volume / vibration.
As you decrease the chanting you may feel a non-physical structure - a column []. This is Sushumna.
The chanting interferes with the ability to detect Sushumna, which is why you slowly decrease volume/vibration.
As you learn/practice ohm-chanting you start by feeling the vibrations in the frontside of your body but Sushumna is posterior(backside/behind you).
You may notice within Sushumna a non-physical-upward/ascending-energy (Not vibration).
(p.s changed the numbering of the last phases abit compared to video)
I really like this idea of going back to previous topics like dharma and cleaning up missunderstandings.
I missed these kinds of streams so much. where Dr. k explains a some things very deeply and teaches a meditation technique, these are the videos which helped me the most in past and even now too, I really appreciate it.
Just turned 34, 2 weeks ago, and I do feel like I have no purpose...gonna take a lot of notes for this one!thank you doctor K!!
2:33:21 This is really the only piece I needed to hear. Thank you so, so much. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate hearing that.
After 20 years of stumbling into the deepest depths of depression and out through this silence and space, without any real guidance, I came to the same conclusion and contentment. And no one else around me gets it, but sees that I’m content. I try to explain why, and they tell me I did it wrong. They say that since I didn’t do the perfect diet, perfect exercise, perfect relationships, I skipped all the “meaningful” stuff. But I didn’t do it wrong. I knew that. But you just confirmed it. Thank you.
It is so absurdly and delightfully ironic that the emotional emptiness that caused mental anguish… was the path to contentment. I am aware of this truth, but all the worldly social bits, all the reasoning and academics of it, made me hesitate to accept it at the mental level. It for it to be acknowledged by a worldly, social, reasonable, academic? I bet this will help that mental acceptance fall into place a little easier.
And I absolutely get the not sharing more about spiritual practice! I feel the same with my young employees. I love them, but I can’t lead them to the right conclusions directly. I guess it’s ok to be ok with that. Thanks for validating the ok-ness.
There are three paths, and not everyone can be a teacher. Congrats to you for being on the rarest one.
Dharma is satisfying your needs. This is the most helpful guide/frame I've come to know by Manfred Max Neef:
1. Identity and dignity
2. Health and safety
3. Freedom, responsibility and confidence
4. Understanding and learning
5. Effort and creativity
6. Rest and recreation
7. Self-esteem and compassion
8. Connection and participation
There are branches in each of these like in health you have exercise, hydration, nutrition, sleep, hygiene, emotional regulation, etc.
Even Maslow said needs are simultaneous not like the infamous pyramid. It's more like juggling.
Dr K you're just another human like the rest of us, but goddamnit am I glad to have shared the same time period as you. Thank you for your hard work. You've impacted me countless times over the years whenever I was convinced there was just nowhere else to go for me.
I also thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your stories. I can feel the emotion from you and the subsequent humor is mutually beneficial. Thank you for being consistent when so many of us cannot. I hope you find inner peace and can be content at some point in the future to retire. Or whatever it is that will be your choosing. I just hope your calling doesn't forever keep calling for you.
1:52:08 actually funny story about this, I did this by accident one time as a teen travelling alone to see my grandparents and it was the day I learned patience. The flight I was on got delayed for four hours with us sitting on it, there was literally nothing to do so I had to be alone with myself without stimulus for the first time in my life. I vividly remember it because it felt like I actually reprogrammed my brain to not need constant input
1:36:00 Indian Jim Carrey isn’t real he can’t hurt you.
Indian Jim Carrey:
The "xy isn’t real he can’t hurt you." meme is pretty bad and always have been, please don't try to keep it alive. Thank you!
@@emiki6 bro stop....
This stream was so incredibly helpful and encouraging. I have been on the path for about 8 years now, and this really motivates me to take my practice and lifestyle to the next level. Thanks so much Dr. K.
I dont tend to comment on RUclips videos but i just wanted to state that i really liked this video. Its probably my favorite members only stream so far.
I feel as though the explanations were very thorough and easy enough to understand, at least for me. I also like that Dr. K was a bit more blunt about some of the issues being self created or self enabled. He states these moments in regular every day youtube videos but he really hit the nail of firm but honest here.
I think the voices also added a nice draw into drawing my attention back in and giving me a bit of comic relief in a video with a lot of information to grasp. Very digestable as someone with inattebtive ADHD who generally kind of floats in and out of youtube videos while doing chores.
I know this is a single comment in a sea... but keep up the great work Dr. K. You are the only youtube content creator ive monetarily supported and ive been watching tons of content since youtubes inception
15:41 I finally told my parents that I did have a drug problem and them NOT rubbing it in my face with an I told you so probably helped me get sober years ahead of schedule. With severe drug addiction, every year is crucial as it could be the last. I wonder how many people can also have a huge boost to their odds with the help of this book. It's great to think about
This has been the most important video I watched by you. Starting from 1:14:42, with the idea of externalization of our attention, it's pure gold. You gave so many perspectives and just blew me away there. I have started to meditate everyday starting this week, because what you said hit so hard. Thank you!
You are hilarious. 34 year old non-gamer here but love the ancient Vedic wisdom you incorporate and am grateful for the learnings. When you do the indian accent it reminds me of me doing the Texas hick accent. Close to home so comes naturally
Really appreciate the perspective, and needed to hear this. Thanks for being firm with us Dr K
I understand the need to make the well edited and concise videos, but something about the raw live discussions of Dr K are the best
Wow! What a video! I just came across this channel yesterday. I was watching a different video of his and I accidentally clicked on something and came to this video. The title was interesting and was exactly what I was looking for, but I definitely got more than what I bargained for! This is information I have longed for, but obviously was looking in the wrong place. Thank you @HealthyGamerGG for what and how you are teaching. I’m gonna have to rewatch this and take some notes! You’re awesome!!! ❤
The right answers are usually the ones you know deep down but don’t want to acknowledge because they’re difficult. The process of getting back on track often includes trying every potential short cut, failing, then finally coming around to consciously acknowledge the harder path and finally jumping on it.
I am so so so excited for this! As a 35 year old I feel out of the loop when most videos are aimed at young students. While our experiences overlap, I started work straight out of highschool. I am driven but not towards anything but surviving. I would give anything to talk with Dr K or find a therapist as intelligent and caring as him. Ok time to watch!
Absolutely loved this sarcastic, unfiltered and "mean" Dr. K. The empathy gets tiring sometimes, so it's nice to have based streams like these! Please do this more often
Dr. K ❤ I just love the music in the beginning. Also thanks for sticking to your Indian and ancient Hindu roots.
i love the point about "your karma will support you", as i've made similar experiences.
when i started my spiritual journey with norse paganism, i learned a similar thing about signs and i quickly noticed that i had become more observant of the world around me, in a way. i wasn't looking for things, but i was noticing more, i simply became more aware.
and over the last few years, i've made many experiences that showed me that the universe just flows in a certain way, for lack of a better expression. and it's been my experience that once you notice this flow, things just kinda go better for you. i guess it's a feeling of being on the right path, so even if it takes an unexpected turn or is a little rocky, there's a lot of peace in the fact that it'll get you where you're supposed to be. and that is usually a good place to be.
Broccoli enemas were not something I anticipated would live rent free in my brain after this stream.
It was a hilarious shock to me too 😅
Same, Dr. K seems to have had enough of hustle bro's like Jordan Peterson, Gary Vee and David Goggins wannabes. I don't blame him honestly. Also, Tate becoming popular as an "alpha male"... 🤦♂
I haven't watched the stream yet
WHAT
@@hibilbo4755 you're in for a treat 🤣 it's actually an amazing one
@@hibilbo4755 SAME like whaaat
Will confirm taking walks is magical for clearing your head.
The thoughts don’t start flowing for me until I walk. 95% of growth and revelation I’ve had in my life came about from duking it out with my brain on a long walk
24:15 beginning
I didn't start healing and actually taking steps towards that "harmony" until I told myself "I'ma just not date for a year, get to know myself, and sit in this discomfort."
things I used to not be able to do, I'm slowly taking steps towards.
I thought I was just a glutton before... then I learned about food noise. this led me to finding a supplement that tackled that that I can just get at Target each month.
it's taken a year +, but I'm now at the step of "just show up for 31 days" with walking, & missing a day isn't the end of the world. I'm at the early stages still.
this convo about Dharma was super helpful & I know it'll be something I use with my own life journey.
This is the kinda stream I've been waiting for for so long! Super informative, also very reassuring to know I'm seemingly on a good track in terms of my own practices and understanding of some of the concepts. Looking forward to more of this!
Man, this was a wild lecture.
2:15:00
yea this idea is pretty broad in buddhism too. A tebetian slogan for lay meditators is "have no hope of fruition". For me, what happens is, every few weeks or so I'm blessed with an experience of pure presence. All I need to do is be walking in the neighborhood in the morning and randomly I'll experience pure bliss. It dissapears as soon as I start trying to analyze where it came from and how I can get it back. Or start getting desperate to hold onto it. Because in that moment desire enters the picture.
The task of meditation is very specific. Focus on the breath. No matter what your mind wants to do, what thoughts or emotions are coming up, focus on the breath. If you focus on trying to recreate the experience of bliss, you're distracted from the causes of bliss. the cause of bliss is concentration on an object. If you deviate from this cause by focusing instead on trying to get bliss through the mind's desires, you fail. (Or at least, i've failed every time so far). Bliss for me, has come on days when i'm relatively relaxed and expectationless before starting my meditation session. I may have only experienced flashes of it 2 or 3 times in the first 6 months of meditating, and honestly its possible that what i experienced was only a precursor state to true bliss.
I found rather the opposite: my mind's desires prevent me from getting insight/presence. It's the problem of attachment, basically.
Thank you for this video. I love when you talk more deeply about meditation and your spiritual experiences. It is helping me get better at getting into that specific state of mind quicker to experience more spiritual experiences. Your a good teacher and have come the closest to explaining what I've experienced. It's a hard state of mind to teach till a person actually experiences it for the first time, finally understanding, then excited, attempts to recreate it to experience it again. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Dr. K is really taking his accents game to the next level here!
Frrrr. Country one was the best- Doc is a true Texan at heart
I actually don't mind Dr.K telling us the same thing all over again because I forget most of them all the time and its good to be reminded
When you were prefacing that you were going to share your personal experience re meditation, I somehow did feel that it was not going to be good for you, although I cannot explain why. At the same time, I noticed that my mind wanted to take what you were going to give us, even at a cost.
I have grieved and have forgiven the part of my self that was selfish. I accept your gift and see its value. Thank you for this, and thank you for taking care of You. Even my ability to acknowledge and accept the unpleasant parts of me also has largely come from the things I have learned from you. Thank you for distilling the practically inaccessible lifetimes of wisdom, and sharing them with us thoughtfully, at our level of competence, so that We may benefit for our own selves. Thank you for your labor of love.
might have been my favorite HG stream so far! thanks for the openness and all the information!
This is your best video/livestream I have ever watched. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom.
Starts at 6:36
you are the Pm game and watch lol
Tysm
I've been following Dr. K content for almost 2 years and this stream is easily the best one yet
This is one of my fav videos that Dr.K ever made. I keep on coming back to this video everytime I feel lost.
I loooove those big long lectures so much!! It feels like I can take away so much more from those than from those shorter videos. Pls do more of this stuff in future ❤
Dr. K knows his stuff about Palworld.. amazing view,
BASED right from the get go
ill be that guy
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Purpose, dharma, is something that no one else can do but us, that makes it duty.
Duty to our own wellbeing, the wellbeing of a pet.
That's my biggest takeaway.
I cannot tell you how much I needed this right at this moment in my life. THANK YOU!
I feel like this lecture unearthed an entire new level of understanding for me that I didn’t know was there. Kind of makes every other video about e.g. anxiety or productivity feel like scratching the surface. As if I had tried to understand atoms all along and now someone shows me they’re actually waves.
Best part that even this just scratches the surface
Best part is from 24:07 to 2:15:52
Meditation is from 2:15:52 forward
Focus on basics first
1. Eat Healthy
2. Exercise
3. Take a walk
4. Socialize
5. Engage in pleasure little bit
6. Attain wealth and security
7. Meditate
8. BE BORED
I've been watching Dr K for a looooooong time, and this feels like some culmination of a long built up journey. This video takes all the interviews and discussions, shorts, videos and distills it into a 3 hour blast of reality to finding YOUR purpose, and why you might not be "finding it". Thank you x10000
I wanted to express my gratitude for your videos. Your clarity of thought and precision in communication are truly admirable. What particularly stands out is your ability to distinguish between established knowledge and speculative ideas, as well as between scientific findings and unsupported claims.
Your insights, not only in this video but across your content, have significantly assisted me in structuring my own thoughts. Thank you for your invaluable contribution.
I love how Dr. K pokes fun at the gym bro for most of the lesson but eventually arrives at ‘no one else is going to do this, so you have to” which is sort of like David Goggins saying “who’s going to carry the boats and the logs?”
STAY HARD
@@gabratte9858 THEY DONT KNOW ME SON
The talk about Dharma's and not being ready hit so hard for me. I got so many things that if i could handle properly i would have lived a much much better lives. Only to lose it all in a span of a year. recently have i realized this, it hurts really really hurts... But i guess i need to slowly put my dharma in a more harmonious way, on every single things that surrounds me, slowly, I will make it, we will make it folks
i REALLY liked the emphasis on a more advanced/in depth focus on the meditative and spiritual side of things i've been hoping for this for awhile and would like seeing more
1:07:20 Big dreams make the grind unworthy.
1:14:10 Finding dharma.
1:39:37 - 1:46:10 Moving in the right path (it's simple but not always easy)
1:46:30 - 1:56:05 You being in control of mind vs mind being in control of you (meditation, boredom)
1:58:41 - 2:01:10 Chasing your wants never ends.
2:01:24 Moksha (liberation) ,purpose of life, awareness, meditation, thoughts
3 hours of Dr.K, I cannot be happier
Dr K needs to make some videos that are only guided meditations.
He has
Thanks! Was waiting for such meditation breakdowns for a while ❤
Coming back to this video to kickstart my battery of dr k content following the april q&a. Every time i watch a video i learn about new things in reference to my meditation. Thank you dr k.
Awesome video and conversation..
I may have joined late but I started it from the beginning to end.
I love the meditation strategies..
Exercising for a half an hour every day isn't that bad so what's throwing another 20 minutes to sit down and meditate?
I think this is the best video you've put out. Insanely helpful. Common W
The part about the difficulty of the second transcendental expirience is so true. Once I did "The listener" meditation from Dr. K before bed and it was just something else. I felt like in my head I went to the outer space, it was so powerful I needed some time to go back to my normal plane of existence. And I never was able to repeate this experience
Thank you for this. It came exactly at the right time when I needed to hear this in my life.
I subbed to the channel. Keep up the good work. It is helpful and appreciated.
Thank you DR. K, I appreciate your help.😊
man was hiding this one in his back pocket for a while
I am 32 and remain really anxious. I don't have the ability to face challenges head on and get nervous very easily. Since the last 2 years I have been living in constant fear (due to anything and everything). I am disturbing my parents also at this age as I am their only child. I haven't felt more helpless in my entire life.
I am narried to a gamer and just had a baby boy... so a future gamer. Can't wait to read the book. Thanks for everything ❤.
If I was to share only one video from Dr. K it would be this one
Parent here!! I’m here to learn for my 7, 4, and 1yo! I’m 36 f ❤ you are the opposite to what I usually here. Really like to hear both sides.
It took me a very long time but I see my purpose. I see it now at 52. Take care of your loved ones. Simple.
Thank you! I always felt like there were chunks missing when you talked about meditation. Now I can see a hint of what was missing and understand why you did not tell more. It is very cool
I think this is the video I’ve been waiting for for over a decade
I think this is pretty much one of the most important streams Dr K has ever done, it will probably fly under the radar too, pretty weird 😄
Thank you so much for this video. I felt more validated than I expected when you spoke about what society wants us to want and how advertising and apps are designed to make you feel less than.
A couple years ago I decided to cut down social media apps on my cell phone and I find I don’t seek it out on other devices. RUclips is technically the only “social media” I use on a regular basis and I am SO much happier for it.
I suppose one way to I unconsciously practice being bored or being with myself is sitting in waiting rooms without looking at my phone or magazines. Sitting with myself in those moments is easier now. Thanks for a boost on my journey to wholeness 💕 Off to meditate (actually!) and be awesome at being bored.
1:37:29 might just have been the single best thing I've ever heard, when it comes to purpose and goals. I struggle with Pure OCD so badly that I have thought myself into a loop for the last 7 months of my life non stop everyday. But knowing my purpose doesn't have to be some extravagant job or mission and can simply be to be more compassionate or helping pick up the community is actually so good to hear. A lot of my friends struggle with knowing what their purpose is to and I think it's because they too expect that they need to do something big.
The moment I started unhook I felt much better. This helped cultivating my focus
What’s unhook
@@beilultesfom4929 A browser extension that lets you manually disable/remove distracting aspects of RUclips (sidebar recommendations, front page recommendations, comments etc.)