How To Fix Your Self-Esteem - Dr K HealthyGamer (4K)

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  • Опубликовано: 2 ноя 2024

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  • @ChrisWillx
    @ChrisWillx  6 месяцев назад +186

    Hello you savages. Get a free list of my 100 favourite books - chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps:
    00:00 What is Technology Doing To Our Brains?
    07:28 How to Deal With Shame
    14:56 The Terrifying Survival Feature of Trauma
    18:40 Why Anxiety is So Prevalent Today
    27:27 How to Deal Better With Emotions
    33:40 Opening Up About Your Feelings
    37:38 Can You Have Too Much Self-Awareness?
    45:28 The Antidote to a Distracted Mind
    50:57 Learning About Your Own Thoughts
    55:28 How to Do Well in Therapy
    1:02:41 Why Therapy Sucks for Men
    1:15:42 How Important is Talking for Men?
    1:20:32 A Better Movement for Masculinity
    1:25:56 Why RUclipsrs Are Quitting
    1:41:31 Stop Moving the Goalposts
    1:54:54 What Does it Mean to Dissolve Ego?
    2:05:38 Where to Find Dr K

    • @MC-ze8wj
      @MC-ze8wj 6 месяцев назад +2

      Could you interview Abigail Shrier about her new book "Bad Therapy" Love the podcast, thanks!

    • @cbpostservice
      @cbpostservice 6 месяцев назад +2

      11:00 You are stating completely that emotions are not valid. That is a dangerous and wrong statement. How does someone know LOVE if they ignore their emotions? It's not about turning off emotions. It's not about devaluing emotions. It's about learning with your emotions, and each person is different and so is their spectrum of emotions and you will never be able to write a book that "fixes" everyone's problems for them, nor will you ever be able to make a prescription medicine to "fix" their problems.
      I wish psychiatrists would understand this more. You're all looking creepy when you're trying to teach people to basically be mentally UNHEALTHY.

    • @danielangelmelgarejosolis6356
      @danielangelmelgarejosolis6356 6 месяцев назад +1

      should have Buyng Chul han, his book "Tired society" it's just mindblowing on the efect of technology. This is not an era of viral diseases but Neurological ones, he says.

    • @HalfJapMarine
      @HalfJapMarine 6 месяцев назад +1

      The idea is not to kick someone when they are down. Benzos are fucked up and Jordan should have massive amounts of empathy for addicts because their struggles mirror his but he doesn't. He still exists in his shame bound persona. He is shameless because he is shameful. He needs to feel his shame in order to recognize his ego/false persona. Call it a moral grey area but humanity needs to awaken to its shame in a big way so they can be human. Where does war come from?

    • @kevinkurgansky4479
      @kevinkurgansky4479 6 месяцев назад

      @@HalfJapMarineare you implying and/or making the assertion that war comes as a result of (unrecognized / disowned) shame? Might be a gross simplification of multiple overlapping reasons as some are largely rooted in money and resources or control of ideology but yes if it’s ultimately a fragile ego state that’s running the show and captaining the ship, so to speak, then yes, I guess you can say that it’s ones shame that drives us to act out and/or kill / conquer. For some, there’s also a motivator for a “will to power” as Adlers psychology talks about. Whereas Freuds philosophy was a will to pleasure. And viktor frankls was a will to meaning. And they’re all right in their own way.

  • @HealthyGamerGG
    @HealthyGamerGG 6 месяцев назад +3128

    Thank you for having us and for the incredible conversation 💚 Truly unforgettable!

    • @jc-jg9pp
      @jc-jg9pp 6 месяцев назад +38

      absolutely love you guys, so glad we get a second episode

    • @bakedpotatoes5545
      @bakedpotatoes5545 6 месяцев назад +32

      This was an amazing podcast!

    • @ErikT2002
      @ErikT2002 6 месяцев назад +21

      We need more pls.❤

    • @user-me9vk8df6p
      @user-me9vk8df6p 6 месяцев назад +7

      I literally just watched this just to make sure that im doing 'it' properly, and im really glad it's confirmed. Thanks man

    • @F3ND1MUS
      @F3ND1MUS 6 месяцев назад +2

  • @ronjohnson557
    @ronjohnson557 6 месяцев назад +1008

    Dr. K is the best thing to come to RUclips in the last 10 years. So much free education. Thanks Doc!!!

    • @tonegoober
      @tonegoober 6 месяцев назад +23

      Agreed, he rocks

    • @jimgarcia2468
      @jimgarcia2468 6 месяцев назад +7

      came to comment that but you already did.

    • @juniperstardust5549
      @juniperstardust5549 6 месяцев назад +15

      He's the Yogananda of our century

    • @simonebenitozzi2892
      @simonebenitozzi2892 6 месяцев назад

      Advising kids to take pills?
      I'm not sure about that

    • @jocen3
      @jocen3 6 месяцев назад

      @@simonebenitozzi2892 When did he do that? Please give one concrete example. I challenge you to find one.

  • @jesuscultureDB
    @jesuscultureDB 6 месяцев назад +1546

    modern wisdom is playing chess while other podcast productions are playing checkers. I appericate how much Chris cares about the viewers experience.

    • @AlmightyScorchy
      @AlmightyScorchy 6 месяцев назад +20

      Checkers is pretty fun too ngl

    • @mumblaff
      @mumblaff 6 месяцев назад +33

      @@AlmightyScorchyno, that’s just an escape from the true game of life, which is chess. If you’re not scheming on how to win from every angle at every moment can you say you’re really striving to evolve into a mega Chad like me? (All sarcasm) pls can we all just enjoy what we enjoy and not stand on watching videos like these as some kind of superior experience

    • @7ShadowMaiden7
      @7ShadowMaiden7 6 месяцев назад +6

      Mind of a CEO podcast also plays chess, both great podcasts!

    • @harrycampbell7594
      @harrycampbell7594 6 месяцев назад

      then youre watching the wrong podcasters , alex o'connor , CosmicSkeptic is his channel is a good recommendation , diary of a ceo podcast , everyone knows huberman the man himself , tetragrammaton by rick rubin and startalk by neil degrasse tyson , all objectively great podcasts and interviewers with the best and most interesting guests

    • @Dave_of_Mordor
      @Dave_of_Mordor 6 месяцев назад +13

      ​​@@mumblaff the true game of life is poker. You do the best you can with the hand you're dealt with

  • @StrayVistaStudios
    @StrayVistaStudios 6 месяцев назад +592

    This is the way. Was an honor hosting this production!

    • @adamwall7852
      @adamwall7852 6 месяцев назад +10

      Congrats on having them! That’s awesome!

    • @Pytliczello
      @Pytliczello 6 месяцев назад +8

      Amazing work. I am usually not a person who pays attention to the details, but it looked amazing even on Smartfon screen.

    • @jukkariikonen5757
      @jukkariikonen5757 6 месяцев назад +1

      I watched behind the scenes video. Absolutely spectacular studio environment! The crew was also so admirable 🙂

    • @jorgetinoco3574
      @jorgetinoco3574 6 месяцев назад +1

      I love the background, you guys are awesome!

    • @florincfx
      @florincfx 6 месяцев назад

      Amazing production! Love the cinematic feel! 🎥

  • @rossjbolla
    @rossjbolla 6 месяцев назад +508

    Chris and Dr. K laughing at the Indian accent and about getting cancelled was the most wholesome moment I've seen on a podcast in a long time hahaha

    • @Beingthankful
      @Beingthankful 6 месяцев назад +10

      Hahaha me too i laughed so hard

    • @kimchimasala
      @kimchimasala 6 месяцев назад +29

      As a fellow ethnic Indian and a doctor, I promise you I found it equally if not even more hilarious

    • @bushi7952
      @bushi7952 6 месяцев назад +22

      40:00

    • @loveinthevalley
      @loveinthevalley 6 месяцев назад +2

      So good

    • @KylarLp
      @KylarLp 6 месяцев назад +10

      breath through the cancellation had me dying . it was so perfect

  • @ceydayesilay5479
    @ceydayesilay5479 6 месяцев назад +244

    '' Whatever you want to cultivate within you, keep within yourself '' Dr. K, Amazing !

    • @drmedwuast
      @drmedwuast 6 месяцев назад

      If there was only one takeaway, this is the one

    • @Ven-zg3fj
      @Ven-zg3fj 6 месяцев назад +3

      I frankly dont get it. So like, dont share? Dont talk about yourself or what you want to do? I feel like this is casting too broad of a net.

    • @LearningKaizen
      @LearningKaizen 6 месяцев назад +20

      Talking about doing something can sometimes feel like you've actually done it, but to truly cultivate that sense of accomplishment, just take action!

    • @LearningKaizen
      @LearningKaizen 6 месяцев назад

      @@Ven-zg3fj here

    • @drmedwuast
      @drmedwuast 6 месяцев назад +5

      @@Ven-zg3fj That's what he says the research is saying. I find it difficult to imagine in practice, although I have indeed experienced the losing sight of a goal from talking about it

  • @JoystickConductor
    @JoystickConductor 6 месяцев назад +98

    This has been a great eye opener of a podcast. My wife passed away at the height of the pandemic and seeking any help was really difficult. We were both 32 at the time and I had never really experienced loss or trauma before. I tried grief shares, therapy, and in the end the only thing that seemed to help was exercise. Grief is a very difficult reality. I wish I understood just how much It pulls mental, emotional, and physical resources from you. The term “Grief Brain” is a very real side effect. The tiredness you experience from the emotional rollercoaster. The constant effort to be present and not miles away in grief laden thoughts. The immediate burnout that sets in from the whirlwind of life events just experienced. Just hearing or reading this small paragraph would of helped me SO MUCH in understanding the monster that grief really is and the fallout it creates. I know men don't like to share or open up, trust me, as a young widower, its really really difficult to find anyone to relate too. If your going through something, people do care, your not alone, and love is really the only way out of your circumstances. Love for yourself, gratitude, and patience. Great work Chris and Healthy Gamer!

    • @niftybaker5967
      @niftybaker5967 6 месяцев назад +5

      I think his trauma guide would be an amazing resource once it’s out!!

    • @amampathak
      @amampathak 6 месяцев назад +4

      Hugs dude!

    • @purelife8559
      @purelife8559 6 месяцев назад +2

      Wow I'm so sorry. Wish I could help ease your pain

    • @thestoebz
      @thestoebz 6 месяцев назад +2

      Sorry for your loss young man

    • @user-sw2tt9nl8y
      @user-sw2tt9nl8y 6 месяцев назад +2

      Sorry for your lost dude

  • @RedRiveR97
    @RedRiveR97 6 месяцев назад +109

    I’m so glad I deleted social media after high school, can’t even imagine how stuck some people are. Life so much simpler when you just live life and just do your best with what you got. No one can take that away from you

    • @BenLillegard
      @BenLillegard 6 месяцев назад

      Real question: what do you do for your news? I won’t watch any MSM because they all have agendas and put crazy spin on everything, I just want facts. I have found independent journalists in the past that were decent sources for the most part, but it requires staying connected to social media and I really want to break away completely.

    • @Zoned0ut123
      @Zoned0ut123 6 месяцев назад

      Exactly

    • @drewnelson8692
      @drewnelson8692 6 месяцев назад +1

      I'm right there with you brother

    • @Cyberpunk_Radio_PBS
      @Cyberpunk_Radio_PBS 5 месяцев назад +7

      RUclips is social media, look at us right now, being social, together online.. lol just FYI

    • @jane-noelabraimah9371
      @jane-noelabraimah9371 Месяц назад

      @@Cyberpunk_Radio_PBSit’s long form content

  • @Ω3103ζ
    @Ω3103ζ 6 месяцев назад +530

    you know they speak the truth when listening becomes uncomfortable

    • @skadi6750
      @skadi6750 6 месяцев назад +16

      I dunno man, Nazi recordings are pretty fricking uncomfortable:-D

    • @Gm-ce5kg
      @Gm-ce5kg 6 месяцев назад +15

      @@skadi6750 nay it just sounds stupid

    • @abdelilhmanflores
      @abdelilhmanflores 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@skadi6750the nazis arent truthful though? What are you trying to insinuate?

    • @shlosher
      @shlosher 6 месяцев назад +41

      ​@@skadi6750apples and oranges. There's a difference between feeling embarrassment for your own behavior being called out, and feeling disgust and hatred for evil rhetoric.

    • @Snuni93
      @Snuni93 6 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@shlosher we shouldn't support mass factory farms because animals are getting tortured

  • @carolinam9762
    @carolinam9762 4 месяца назад +15

    “just because you’re not aware of the emotion doesn’t mean that the emotion doesn’t act”

    • @Tate525
      @Tate525 4 месяца назад +1

      Yes that was eye opening.

  • @Piscesofyess
    @Piscesofyess 6 месяцев назад +30

    This is one of the best mental health podcast I’ve ever listened to. Gonna have to listen again and again because there’s just so much gold I need to let sink in and apply

  • @karanbisht7236
    @karanbisht7236 6 месяцев назад +154

    As an Indian I feel proud and sad at the same time , why sad ?
    Because our heritage has so much practical knowledge and despite of that our education system is so colonised that we don't even hear of these things let alone studing about then
    And obviously i feel proud they my country has such rich heritage to solve modern issues.
    This is one of the best content pieces I have seen on RUclips .

    • @berthibert
      @berthibert 6 месяцев назад +7

      I scrolled through the comment section for such a comment. Thank you for sharing! Even though I’m from Europe, I felt the same mixed feelings you are describing. So much conscious living has been lost due to the ego revolution in the west.

    • @prateek752
      @prateek752 6 месяцев назад +12

      As an Indian, I want to say it is not just Indian culture that is being eroded(Frankly speaking Hindutva has helped retain some culture in India).
      But it is traditionalism throughout the world that is in decline. Be it Europe, US, even the middle East and of course ASEAN and East Asia.
      Nietzsche was right.

    • @DekuMav
      @DekuMav 5 месяцев назад +2

      I think it's best to feel proud because there's someone now teaching about it, we can learn as well and apply to our lives and help out others as much we can

    • @ndlsumr
      @ndlsumr 4 месяца назад +2

      Plenty of sage advice in the Vedic sutras and Ayruveda.

    • @sumithraarul3321
      @sumithraarul3321 Месяц назад +1

      This is something I feel sad about and definitely try to spend a small time every day to educate myself on my ancient roots

  • @leadgenjay
    @leadgenjay 6 месяцев назад +279

    Dr. K's insights on the impact of technology on our brains are spot on. A lesser-known tactic to combat the negative effects is to schedule "tech-free zones" in your day, where you intentionally avoid screens and stimulate your mind with activities like reading or engaging in face-to-face conversations. This can significantly improve focus and mental well-being.

    • @francestaylor9156
      @francestaylor9156 6 месяцев назад +9

      We did no tech Sunday for the whole family yesterday. It was tough but good for everyone. Going to continue it. I think it helps to figure out when you default to tech/screens and why.

    • @francestaylor9156
      @francestaylor9156 6 месяцев назад +5

      It got so bad for my husband that he started watching Ring videos bc he so needed to watch TV/youtube at night to wind down lol.

    • @kieran368
      @kieran368 6 месяцев назад

      @@francestaylor9156 That sounds so good

    • @JoeARedHawk275
      @JoeARedHawk275 6 месяцев назад +3

      @@renelovemetalYour comment is poorly written

    • @breakfastclosed
      @breakfastclosed 6 месяцев назад

      @@francestaylor9156my dad does this too 😭😭

  • @Dacrada
    @Dacrada 6 месяцев назад +66

    "Now I am dissolved Ego, the Taker of Shits."
    In all seriousness, it pleases both heart and mind to see two Chads of improvement and aiming upward, join together to have a sublime conversation.
    Looking forward to more collaboration and overlap in the future.

    • @StudlyStudmuffin
      @StudlyStudmuffin 4 месяца назад +1

      Will someone please tell me who the hell Chad is!!?

  • @theyetti90
    @theyetti90 6 месяцев назад +69

    This has actually been the most impactful episode I've seen.

    • @Seekingtruth63
      @Seekingtruth63 Месяц назад

      Glad for u bro but how?

    • @theyetti90
      @theyetti90 Месяц назад +1

      @@Seekingtruth63 a 2 hour episode from 5 months ago? Couldn't tell ya. Pay close attention.

  • @Thisisausername556
    @Thisisausername556 6 месяцев назад +90

    Love the BTS of the screen and the room and everything! And love Dr. K back on!! Amazing work, Chris. Amazing.

  • @Njmoreno22
    @Njmoreno22 6 месяцев назад +40

    Such a good episode! That part about hypotheticals activating negative emotions but not the dopaminergic system…🤯

  • @badabing7529
    @badabing7529 6 месяцев назад +18

    YES! I could listen to you talk to Dr K for weeks. Please have him on as many times as you can think of questions to ask him. This is wonderful.

  • @JayTalksinjury
    @JayTalksinjury 6 месяцев назад +21

    Litterally, just today, I had a conversation about children being taught meditation. As a 53 yr old with A.d.h.d. that has never had a quiet moment of thought. Both breathwork and meditation are giving me some peace .
    The sad part of a lot of keeping yourself healthy is free, and we have a healthcare system meant to keep you sick for profit..
    I've told so many people about the show.. Thx Chris .

  • @donna-marie9100
    @donna-marie9100 6 месяцев назад +52

    I really needed to hear this. I went back to using Twitter in 2020 when the UK 🇬🇧 was in lockdown. It self-soothed me as I was also caring for my Mother who had Alzheimers. I realised I was getting addicted to my phone by 2021. It wasn't until Jan 2022 when I deleted my Twitter account, a month after my mother had died. I only watch certain RUclips channels nowadays that I consider informative like Chris's channel, Jordan Peterson and some Christian channels. You guys are great. Thank you.

    • @Fressica_Rabbit
      @Fressica_Rabbit 6 месяцев назад +3

      I know you know this, but aren't missing anything, I was on Twitter yesterday and it's so depressing, people complaining, nothing's changed. You're so much better off. I need to find the courage to delete it.

    • @GorzFCD
      @GorzFCD 6 месяцев назад

      @@renelovemetalGet help asap, copy pasting the same non-sense everywhere .

  • @minty000
    @minty000 6 месяцев назад +8

    So happy you had Dr. K on. He is not only amazingly insightful and smart, but one can tell he has thought deeply about these subjects. I love how he brings ancient wisdom in. One of your best guests ever!

  • @steven99191
    @steven99191 6 месяцев назад +15

    I've loved Dr. K for years and this is one of the best podcasts I can remember. Keep killing it Chris, Modern Wisdom is truly becoming one of the premiere podcasts on Earth.

  • @MPKKAAS
    @MPKKAAS 6 месяцев назад +7

    What a great episode! As someone who has had my first therapy session being a couples therapy session, with a female therapist, I can call myself lucky that she was extremely empathetic about how both my wife and I would be communicating and always making sure our points were mutually understood without giving any sort of judgement. What I especially liked was her ability to "translate" what we said and how we said it into what the other person needed to hear or even see. But to Dr K's point, we had spoken to 2 other couples therapists before that we had to pass on as it just didn't feel right. I only wish we had done it sooner (we are all good, but as Dr. K said, I was first against it as I thought we could handle it without the help of a therapist)... Fascinating stuff and I can only encourage more people to go into couples therapy!

  • @zamrasul2628
    @zamrasul2628 6 месяцев назад +56

    Bro i normally watch or listen to your podcast on my phone, but for this i literally went and open my laptop and put headphones on just to appreciate your hard work Keep it up brother!!!!!!!!!!

    • @davidwilliama.7296
      @davidwilliama.7296 6 месяцев назад

      I was listening to this at work, but I want to relisten to take notes. This was a good discussion/interview.

  • @kailtis
    @kailtis 6 месяцев назад +8

    Never before have I felt so seen while at the same time given the knowledge and tools to free myself. Thank you for this infinitely valuable episode

  • @JohnVandivier
    @JohnVandivier 6 месяцев назад +193

    "Just because you don't feel it doesn't mean it doesn't exist"
    Dr K incredibly based

    • @The_Rubber_Duck
      @The_Rubber_Duck 6 месяцев назад +16

      That's what he said
      Sorry

    • @prointernetuser
      @prointernetuser 6 месяцев назад +2

      the sun shines in the morning, the sky is blue, rain is wet, Dr.K is based

    • @cwg9238
      @cwg9238 6 месяцев назад

      why doesnt he give his full real name? his supposed credentials are unverifiable.

    • @whale4191
      @whale4191 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@cwg9238 Google is SO HARD

    • @user-ex5pg3oy9c
      @user-ex5pg3oy9c 6 месяцев назад

      @@cwg9238 lol what? He's simply searchable by this name. Real name is Alok Kanojia, if that helps you, and his RUclips channel is @HealthyGamerGG, with the official licensed doctor thang under every video

  • @MarcCaladoFitness
    @MarcCaladoFitness 6 месяцев назад +7

    What an outstanding podcast. Every time I see Dr.K I learn so much about myself and I'm provided with new tools to better my life. Chris, thank you for being an excellent speaker and interviewer. Your conversational skills and honesty during the podcast makes it that much better.

  • @SANEnurse
    @SANEnurse 6 месяцев назад +93

    Dr K and Chris Williamson and next world cinematography is certified gold

  • @robyn4427
    @robyn4427 6 месяцев назад +4

    What a great conversation. Can’t wait to read the book- I have a 15 year old gaming son and am thrilled to have something aimed for parenting young men with Dr K’s insights.

  • @jrxarrie
    @jrxarrie 6 месяцев назад +4

    Wow this is the best podcast I have ever watched about Psychology, Mental health and technology. Absolute master piece. Please do more collabs in the future like these!

  • @KurtCuramen
    @KurtCuramen 6 месяцев назад +15

    Dissolving the ego is a herculean task. Start with knowing that the ego is your tether to this world/reality. You need it in order to continue existing. It is a symbiotic relationship that sometimes gets out of balance af.

  • @AsuraTheBass
    @AsuraTheBass 6 месяцев назад +40

    Shut off my emotions for years as a coping mechanism, and honestly it makes life so much worse later on. Early on its so useful and amazing, no more emotional pain? No more sadness? Sign me up!
    Problem is eventually they come back, and its not like flipping a switch on; its like the emotional Dam you built exploded and had a catastrophic failure. As a result the city of "good" emotions and things you enjoy or dont feel bothered by gets destroyed. Suddenly youre an adult now and the lack of shame and guilt has led you to a place where its very hard to get out, and now you ARE feeling the shame and guilt and things that make you feel that way are all around you.

  • @SashAlagh
    @SashAlagh 6 месяцев назад +40

    Just 10 minutes in and I had to pause the video to say this: Chris, this is a WORLD-CLASS production. Thank you for continually investing in mastering your craft. Your viewers appreciate it far beyond words can explain

  • @michaelbovee6808
    @michaelbovee6808 6 месяцев назад +4

    Spirituality-framed- approaches blended with straightforward, empirically-driven, common-sensibilities aimed at objective truthfulness offers a strong foundation to build upon.

  • @miriamlenihan
    @miriamlenihan 5 месяцев назад +6

    Congrats for getting in early to interview Dr K. He's a rare diamond on social media. 100% valuable content from this legend

  • @ender674
    @ender674 6 месяцев назад +10

    This might be my favorite episode you’ve ever done. And not because of the dope screen. Great conversation dude, thank you.

  • @dmarie2231
    @dmarie2231 6 месяцев назад +57

    Ignoring your emotions leads to chronic illness. I'm digging myself out of that right now.

    • @budoshi-f2l
      @budoshi-f2l 6 месяцев назад +6

      You got this

    • @dmarie2231
      @dmarie2231 6 месяцев назад +8

      @@myself2noone I'm not going to get into my personal stuff, but I know it's true. I'm in a program specifically for fixing it and I've recovered 90%. I'm not talking about ignoring my emotions a little bit. I'm talking about half my life.

  • @mTaR36S
    @mTaR36S 6 месяцев назад +4

    Dr K is a brilliant person ! So loved that he recognized your brilliance as well, Chris ! I will listen to this again. The amount of information was huge ! Thankyou

  • @KuhokeeDas
    @KuhokeeDas 26 дней назад +2

    For the first time in a long time, I felt that a podcast episode was truly insightful and helpful. Deepest gratitude to Dr. K for synthesizing his clinical experience with Indian philosophy. And sincere thanks to Modern Wisdom for hosting him!

  • @day_tiger7981
    @day_tiger7981 6 месяцев назад +10

    I have a challenge for everyone reading this: Try a kind of trataka but the thing you are staring at is your turned of phone lying before you and hold it as long as you can. Watch your impulses go wild. (At least for me it was pretty crazy)

  • @sebastiaanstok
    @sebastiaanstok 6 месяцев назад +9

    This episode was wild. Properly one of the best ever, the ego death part that hit hard.

  • @Fressica_Rabbit
    @Fressica_Rabbit 6 месяцев назад +79

    Yesterday I was at the store and I got sad and pissed all in one because some POS put a rotisserie chicken on a regular shelf, letting it go bad. It upset me that a whole chicken was killed and some turd thought it ok to just waste this good food. I took it to the front and then later was mad at myself that I didn't just buy it and feed it to my dogs. I realize my emotions are too much, because they linger, at the same time, I don't want to be so detached that I don't give a damn about consideration and human kindnesses and most importantly GRATEFULNESS. I definitely needed this episode 😅😅

    • @tonygicz8
      @tonygicz8 6 месяцев назад +22

      Would be a good idea to not feed that to your dogs those rotisserie chickens have a bunch of salt and other added ingredients that aren't good for dogs.
      If you do give your dogs chicken or meat it's best to cook it without any seasoning just trying to be helpful 👍

    • @andreaspapakanellou3804
      @andreaspapakanellou3804 6 месяцев назад +15

      Conscientiousness is a blessing and a curse. You seem like a kind soul, hope you find a balance between caring enough to do something and being wise enough to know your own limitations

    • @MylezNevison
      @MylezNevison 6 месяцев назад +17

      "It is never *THE ISSUE(the chicken)* that is your issue, *YOUR ISSUE(the anger)* is how you react and respond to the issue." - A course in Miracles
      Your issue is your anger, case in point; your usage of words like "some POS" , "some turd", "mad at myself" in the present tense illustrate that the anger is still with you and l bet it always has been before the chicken issue. I believe it was Jung who said our subconscious mind holds all our unresolved baggage which it tries to bring into our conscious mind to be resolved; and that one way it does this is through conflict (internal & external). The chicken scenario could very well be the conflict your subconscious self used to bring your anger issues to the surface of your conscious mind so that you could address them with a smaller conflict before/instead of a bigger conflict.
      Objectively nothing really gets wasted in this world because energy is never lost, it merely changes form. Thus, the chicken wasn't objectively a waste of "good food" because as biological organisms decompose, they become "good food" to other organisms and useful manure to the earth... When you look at the idea of "waste" in this way, you begin to see that your anger wasn't even rational in the grand scheme of reality/nature. If you address & resolve the internal anger directly, external situations won't trigger what is not there(in you). If you don't address it, it will colour ALL your experiences, big and small... Food for thought

    • @MylezNevison
      @MylezNevison 6 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@andreaspapakanellou3804 Bare in mind that conscientiousness could very well be a dressed up form of Control. The human ego often dresses up its need for/coping mechanism of control in positive & palatable terminology... What's the litmus test for this? It's fear, for wherever the ego seeks to control, there is always fear (which can manifest/be expressed in the form of anger).

    • @Ttyumbra
      @Ttyumbra 6 месяцев назад +2

      @@MylezNevisonsheesh,so how do you directly face those emotions, those problems?. Do you go in a room, try to remember , what exactly do you do?

  • @Texzy21
    @Texzy21 6 месяцев назад +240

    “No no .. don’t feel the cancellations just breeaaath” Dr k always makes me ball out laughing man 😂

  • @megafreshlemons
    @megafreshlemons 6 месяцев назад +6

    Could have effortlessly listened to another 2 hours. Great conversations and questions. Thanks for having on one of my favorite people!

  • @jacksoncrapuchettes
    @jacksoncrapuchettes 6 месяцев назад +67

    Love that the "slow down on the screens" guy is on the first episode with a giant screen as the background. 💪

    • @tonegoober
      @tonegoober 6 месяцев назад +25

      Lol, but in seriousness I think it’s more about what’s on the screens 🧐

    • @aberamat3461
      @aberamat3461 11 дней назад

      @@tonegooberno i don’t think so, if you pay close attention to the point he is making, the issue is the fact that your mind is drifted externally , towards a screen is the number 1 case nowadays , we have to actually get rid out of distractions from time to time to allow our mind to drift and evolve freely, even music is a distraction that prevent us from thinking

  • @DailyWisdom-fw7xc
    @DailyWisdom-fw7xc 6 месяцев назад +4

    Dr. K and the Platform of Chris ist just the perfekt match . the high lvl of his knowlege matches perfectly with chris high lvl of leading an conversation and asking the right stuff.. completing the thoughts.

  • @Monkaii
    @Monkaii 6 месяцев назад +1

    Two of my favourite role models having a conversation. Thank you for making this happen!

  • @Arden7one
    @Arden7one 3 месяца назад +4

    40:08 Dr. K in Indian accent: "you can't focus? Don't worry, I'll teach you practice. Laugh, I teach you to focus. Don't feel the cancellation" 😂 a mind blowingly down to earth authentic bullseye conversation. So happy to see and hear this collision as of my favourite 2 channels on RUclips! Especially resonating with the "trauma" & "manta" analogy Dr. K alluded to on secrecy - keep what feels good inside, & speak on what does not feel good on the inside. Love you two to bits ever so much ❤

  • @gabudaichamuda2545
    @gabudaichamuda2545 5 месяцев назад +4

    55:00 This is fantastic. I have been through at least two therapists, and the work was always circular. I never got any kind of *solution*. No understanding of WHAT I was dealing with.
    I watched ONE Dr. K seminar on C-PTSD: *"This is your Brain on Trauma."* IT CLICKED. ALL OF IT. I've started digging into the depths of it. I'm still working on dealing with some things, but this is the farthest I have gotten in the last two years.

  • @dgs299
    @dgs299 6 месяцев назад +5

    Straight into the deep end with this episode. Loved the "No intro".

  • @notbrad4873
    @notbrad4873 6 месяцев назад +23

    Glad you got Dr K on. Dude's doing important work. Really insightful.

  • @andrewcarlson5254
    @andrewcarlson5254 6 месяцев назад +2

    Dr K absolutely has one of the best perspectives & approaches when it comes to mental health & habits. He’s one of the best!

  • @dend1
    @dend1 6 месяцев назад +3

    13:40 trauma fix 14:30 schema automatic thoughts, narcissistic ego defensive mechanisms, influence behavior
    17:05 Reality vs survival
    1:14:15 Shame towards your wins > turning them into losses = drinking poison towards your life
    1:47:10 Comparisons are a fallacy, The Wonder of U
    1:49:08 Self worth vs Accomplishment: Judge yourself by your actions, not your outcomes
    1:56:00 A judgement by someone elses mind is not reality
    A judgement by your own mind is not reality
    Thoughts are not reality
    1:57:00
    How people treat you is not what you are, it's how people treat you.
    What and who you are is separate from how people treat you. Two different things..trauma needs to understand this...conclusion
    1:57:40
    Whatever comparison or thoughts or negative ego you endure, dissolve it by acknowledging that we all take shits
    1:59:00 ,The nature of pleasure vs accomplishment and ego damage from attaching oneself to outcomes rather than actions is one of the main paths of pain in life
    2:01:00 Dr K goes full David Goggins. Once your ego is dissolved, acknowledge what you could have done better, and the next day go get after it

  • @HitenPatel
    @HitenPatel 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks both, probably one of the best Podcasts I’ve ever watched.
    I love how CW talks about the blend of “East” and “Western” philosophies on the matter, since Dr K can resonate with both it’s a great position to be able to share from.

  • @retyifourthree6929
    @retyifourthree6929 6 месяцев назад +10

    the part about men being socialized to not be very “emotional” (except for anger) is so true. i assume that is because anger is seen as an emotion that portrays (on a surface level) strength, power, and aggressiveness, unlike the “female” emotions that many of us associate with vulnerability, weakness, and dependence. this made me realize that perhaps a lot of men turn their sadness, shame, insecurity, etc. into anger since it’s the only emotion that has been accepted and expected for men to express for so long. the other emotions get suppressed, but they have to be released somehow, so they’re released as anger.

    • @BrofUJu
      @BrofUJu 6 месяцев назад

      100%. The part on the red pill stuff was so spot on. To me it's men with serious, unresolved trauma. Men need to be told it's okay to feel things and process them.

    • @charliemilroy6497
      @charliemilroy6497 6 месяцев назад

      We can also let I out as aggression in a healthy way such as exercise.

  • @christiankale7817
    @christiankale7817 6 месяцев назад +1

    This conversation acted as 6 months of therapy. It came out at such a perfect time in my and I’m sure so many people’s lives. The Solar eclipse day. We’re bringing in more light 🫶 and mental fortitude

  • @dr.nandanpavithran3660
    @dr.nandanpavithran3660 6 месяцев назад +9

    “All you can do is action, you cannot achieve any result”
    That comes from the bhagavad gita -
    “You have the right to work only but never to its fruits. Let not the fruits of action be your motive, nor let your attachment be to inaction.”

  • @WhateverWasLeft
    @WhateverWasLeft 6 месяцев назад +2

    The production value on this podcast is on another level. Love the background visuals, lighting, audio quality and obviously the content itself - all AAA+ stuff. Keep it up, Chris!

  • @gabudaichamuda2545
    @gabudaichamuda2545 5 месяцев назад +8

    40:00 ABSOLUTE GOLD. Dr. K is both serious AND knows when to be comedic

    • @morganseppy5180
      @morganseppy5180 3 месяца назад

      He is a master communicator. He has thousands of hours on his channel, check it out

    • @gabudaichamuda2545
      @gabudaichamuda2545 3 месяца назад

      @@morganseppy5180 I have already.

  • @nickpalko9334
    @nickpalko9334 6 месяцев назад +2

    This was by far the best interview you’ve done, Chris. Thank you so much for this. 🙏

  • @bluesyjazzcat31
    @bluesyjazzcat31 6 месяцев назад +3

    This was a great podcast. I know we’re not all doctors, but one time I read a Reddit post about a doctors being asked about how he handles the death of patients and he said “there are people who will live no matter what and there are people who will die no matter what and there’s nothing you can do to change that” so it was nice to see Dr. K break that downs in a way that we all can apply that to ourselves.

  • @ntcarver
    @ntcarver 6 месяцев назад +1

    The production quality on this is incredible. The aspect ratio on my phone, the lighting, the LED wall. Stunning. Not to mention one of my favourite educators Dr. K. Great episode guys!

  • @shardieb
    @shardieb 6 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you for this nuanced and thoughtful interview. We need more people to think at this level, who have these platforms.

  • @evilmoffintop6081
    @evilmoffintop6081 6 месяцев назад +1

    This is amazingly timely for me; I had a bad interaction, where I was at a pub, trying to talk to a group of new people who were talking to my friends who had just left. They weren’t clear at first, but eventually after buying a drink and trying to stay with them to make new friends, one of them told me to leave them alone. It sounds kinda dumb spelling it out, but it definitely hurt me. Putting myself into a hypothetical the way that Dr K describes makes me evaluate the emotions that I am feeling. Thank you.

  • @TheStarrySky-sb9df
    @TheStarrySky-sb9df 6 месяцев назад +3

    This is gold. Thank you both for such a wonderful, insightful conversation.

  • @jinxedking
    @jinxedking 6 месяцев назад +1

    I've listened to hundreds of podcasts rarely do I smile as big as I was when Dr. K kept going with the accent. Loved so much in this, thank you both.

  • @elizabethwilliams6651
    @elizabethwilliams6651 3 месяца назад +65

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

    • @patriaciasmith3499
      @patriaciasmith3499 3 месяца назад

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @steceymorgan814
      @steceymorgan814 3 месяца назад

      Yes, dr.larks I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @AnjeloValeriano
      @AnjeloValeriano 3 месяца назад +3

      Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once.
      Breathe. You're strong. You got this Take it day by
      day.

    • @patriaciasmith3499
      @patriaciasmith3499 3 месяца назад

      Is he on instagram?

    • @steceymorgan814
      @steceymorgan814 3 месяца назад

      Yes he is. dr.larks

  • @myloxylotoify
    @myloxylotoify 6 месяцев назад +2

    This is one of my favorite podcasts because of critical conversations like this.

  • @catherinesalacuse3284
    @catherinesalacuse3284 6 месяцев назад +4

    Bravo, what a great conversation and so needed in this day & age . Thank you Chris Williamson for bringing this guest. 🇫🇷🇺🇸

  • @elibright767
    @elibright767 6 месяцев назад +2

    Two of my favorite intellectual influencers sitting down and dropping wisdom. What a treat.

  • @rylando_bing_boom
    @rylando_bing_boom 6 месяцев назад +6

    “The biggest ego trip is getting rid of your ego”
    -Alan Watts
    Great conversation.
    Bravo.

  • @joshuaacevedo8231
    @joshuaacevedo8231 6 месяцев назад +1

    This podcast has actually changed my perspective on life. It’s very easy to say such things without visual and physical evidence of said change. But I cannot be anymore honest in my opinion. What Doc was saying about change in regards to technology cannot be anymore true to my experience in life. I have used RUclips as an outlet to express emotional trauma without the human experience of digesting these emotions. This past year I have recognized this and began to take steps to resolve some of these issues. I have stopped smoking cannabis (weed) and began to start to notice the clarity in my mind. I no longer act out irrationally but I have been quiet and understanding. I feel MORE human than I have before, now, I am still struggling to put down my phone. But it safe to say that in the midst of company I no longer care for outside attention or distractions. I have been more present, pleasant and understanding than I have been in the past 3 years. And as I write this I’m crying because I never thought I could write or speak so fluently because of my constant self medication. If there is anything to remember about us as a species, we are self healing and love vacillating beings with no boundaries or barriers.
    Que Dios te bendiga mi gente❤

  • @Ceeps1212
    @Ceeps1212 6 месяцев назад +3

    The quality of the picture in this is better than seemingly most movies we watch these days. Koodos for the incredible first ever movie/podcast release. This is phenomenal!!

    • @dumfriesspearhead7398
      @dumfriesspearhead7398 6 месяцев назад

      Is this the first? I've seen similar on another podcast at least two years ago.

  • @minasimonejy
    @minasimonejy 6 месяцев назад +1

    My wish is that formal education would evolve to include topics and discussions such as the ones shared on this episode. It was the perfect balance of intellectual, emotional and spiritual wisdom to spark curiosity and give us hope that we are not broken as a species. Understanding ourselves is key to compassion…and we so desperately need it at the moment.
    Thank you gentlemen for your beautiful display of modern manhood.

  • @jpmendestv
    @jpmendestv 6 месяцев назад +3

    One of the best podcasts I've ever watched! Very helpfull to understand our mind! Thanks!

  • @theandrewheuss
    @theandrewheuss 6 месяцев назад +1

    Two of my favorite RUclipsrs collaborating! Looking forward to watching/listening.
    Thanks to both y'all for doing what you do.

  • @barto7490
    @barto7490 6 месяцев назад +12

    Thanks for the guidance Dr. K
    Very Respectfully,
    - Jon

  • @changemylife0
    @changemylife0 6 месяцев назад +1

    I could listen to Dr K talking for hours non-stop. So inspirable. Love the content Chris

  • @gaylemaree
    @gaylemaree 6 месяцев назад +3

    The set/screens are visually GORGEOUS. Dr K is the perfect guest - and when coupled with your brilliant questions, unbeatable. Modern Wisdom indeed 💚

  • @MindsThoughts
    @MindsThoughts 6 месяцев назад +1

    one of the most informative and most valuable conversations to be had in the modern era. Already this is in my top 5 podcasts of 2024, possibly 2020's in general as everything is so spot on, on the current human condition especially when it relates to attention. Hopefully more and more people realize what's going on around us by looking up from their phone and choosing courage over running away from their problems. I'm currently trying to do my part in all of this by creating videos that helps young adults navigate this same thing. Thank you Dr.K and thank you Chris, odd are that y'all wont see this comment, but it cannot be state enough how important this conversation is and how important it will be in the coming years.

  • @THETRUTHOFTHEDAY
    @THETRUTHOFTHEDAY 6 месяцев назад +5

    It takes more than just genius to revolutionize the world; it takes a trait that only leaders possess to bring something new to life. I'm telling you with certainty that the entire podcast space will tap into this in the nearest future, all thanks to you for this contribution.
    See you soon my future friend.

  • @a9mission439
    @a9mission439 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thankyou for the stones of insightful dialog and topics yall both break... I'm truly blessed being sparked with these seeds. Love From Tanzania, didn't start here though, it's a habit and can't lie i see me progressing integrated vertically. 💚Stay blessed Radicals..

  • @immarudamu4508
    @immarudamu4508 6 месяцев назад +24

    My Favorite podcaster meets favorite therapist! Cant wait to watch this 10 times!

  • @FilmBooth
    @FilmBooth 6 месяцев назад +1

    This set up is incredible! Really going so much further than anyone else

  • @EcomCarl
    @EcomCarl 6 месяцев назад +3

    it raises an essential point about the dual-edged sword of technology. It's crucial to find a balance where technology serves as a tool to enhance productivity and connection, rather than a crutch that dulls our emotional intelligence and motivation. 🧠

  • @smookyonthebeat
    @smookyonthebeat 6 месяцев назад +1

    easily the best conversation this podcast’s ever seen. Dr K is a Planetary Treasure. Great chemistry between the two aswell.

  • @OrdnanceTV
    @OrdnanceTV 6 месяцев назад +4

    Ultimate dream job: traveling on-set production team member for this podcast. Piterally hands-on development of the best podcast going while getting all the best info from the brightest minds straight from their mouths.

  • @miltonmonster
    @miltonmonster 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much, Chris and Doctor K! The part about moving goalposts and dissolving the ego was very helpful, really appreciate this...!

  • @benn125m
    @benn125m 6 месяцев назад +5

    Are we entering an era where podcasts will be watched and enjoyed in cinemas ? The highest tier of quality conversations.🎉
    Congratulations on the success of your hard work!

  • @TheAuthorNook
    @TheAuthorNook 6 месяцев назад +2

    Crazy. Absolutely mad. I love it so much. Keep it up, Chris.

  • @ivanmlinarevic1826
    @ivanmlinarevic1826 6 месяцев назад +36

    Fellow 21:9 aspect ratio enjoyers, please press the like button to show Chris his efforts into providing an A+ viewing experience aren't going unnoticed.

  • @daltonjobe747
    @daltonjobe747 6 месяцев назад +1

    Modern Wisdom Cinema is BEAUTIFUL! This production is so artfully crafted, I can't believe it. And Dr. K is a GREAT guest choice too.

  • @mrroboto18
    @mrroboto18 6 месяцев назад +6

    Taking podcasts to a level I didn't even know they could go - this is fantastic

  • @no1djkamilo
    @no1djkamilo 6 месяцев назад +2

    This was one of the best podcasts ever! The cross over between these two. Love it! So many important and timely topics teased and discussed. Lots of wisdom nuggets. Will have to relisten for sure.

  • @lisav6583
    @lisav6583 6 месяцев назад +4

    I listened once but I need to hear this again. It had way too many gems for my brain to handle the first time around. Thank you both!

  • @renjithomas8088
    @renjithomas8088 6 месяцев назад +1

    The last twenty minutes were exceptionally good. I’ve listened to the last portion 3x now

  • @mydream881
    @mydream881 6 месяцев назад +3

    Finally the whole video is here! I want him to talk a lot more about sanskrit and spiritual practices! 😊

    • @N22883
      @N22883 6 месяцев назад +1

      Check out the HealthyGamer Members' channel for that! Also check out the Spirituality playlist that's on my RUclips channel if you're interested

    • @mydream881
      @mydream881 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@N22883 thank u I found some real good old videos from him on your channel 🙏

  • @davidweston2463
    @davidweston2463 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for an amazing podcast. Chris you an incredible interviewer and truth seeker. Thank you for introducing me to Dr K. Your discussion about your emotional state and the pressure that RUclipsrs have encouraged me, a 76 year old man with lots of life scars, to say, "you are making for a better world". I benefit for the great guests you have on. 2 million deserves a celebration.

  • @leonsshare
    @leonsshare 6 месяцев назад +5

    I understand why we're studying the effects of social media on children and teens directly, but more needs to be said about the effects of having parents who are addicted to these apps and online "clout".
    For the first time, we'll have a cohort of new adults (turning 18) who will have had their very first moments on earth documented in a Facebook status update (and almost every significant moment thereafter). Imagine how different that person's relationship with social media, the internet and the notion of privacy is compared to an 80/90s kids like the majority of this audience.
    Started listening to this one on Spotify and look forward to finishing in this cool studio jungle setting.