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Why did he unblock me from social media after three months no contact? He discarded me. I made him think it's his idea. I'm scared he's trying to come back and I've already healed myself and want to continue moving on.
Sometimes men ignore you to control you.....hoping you will chase him....a guy did that to me but it backfired.....he didn't know I listen to Stephan....bye clown ✌... ...lol
I'm nearly 40, a random woman, in her 70s gave me the best way way of looking at things... She said," sweetheart, does the egg chase the sperm?" No, it sits in it's feminine glory, and attracts." All the sperm are racing to the egg. Not vise versa""... As I sat in the Walmart bathroom, balling my eyes out....she turned to leave and said... "Find u a man that wrecks your lipstick,,NOT your mascara...."... That 1 min encounter with an older wise woman, changed my life forever.... I swear to this day, creator sent her
He is ignoring you because he doesn't want to deal with the mess he caused. Pretending you no longer exist means the problems he caused are irrelevant..so he doesnt have to take any responsibility
Exactly...and men understand this much better than anyone, because the minute they feel their physical needs are being ignored, they're looking elsewhere. And QUICK, too.
@@enmodelife Yes indeed. It’s just so unfortunate and I am a talker I’m like let’s get to the bottom of it so we can move on in peace I’m such an emotional person and so sensitive and I feel like we as women and just all of us men and women we’re emotional beings and we can feel and get a sense of when something isn’t right and to live each day knowing we’re not giving our best and being our best selves it’s absolutely unacceptable. I mean that’s a key goal in life most importantly for our own self to elevate to our highest potential and frequency and happiness. I’ve had to hold so many things in my childhood because I had nowhere safe to turn to and I think that’s why I’m a person who really desires to communicate now because it fast forward to now I see it didn’t do me any good holding it in but I was younger and the things I went through very traumatic and overwhelming and when I try to talk about it with certain people family wise it didn’t help like I hoped. So it’s like with my family and friends and where relationships are involved I go about things in a certain manner to create and show a safe haven for communication and understanding because it’s all about delivery but don’t ignore me 😂 when I’m giving what I’m supposed to give.
When a guy ignores you he knows he’s ignoring you. It’s not being done by mistake. Remember…You get treated how you allow. If you’re having to wonder then that’s your answer.
Yeah. I finally had the courage to just walk alone then let my feelings continue to be ignored. He even told me from day one, he justed wanted to be friends, but he continued to court me like a man would if he was I interested. I excepted the facts and just decided "no more". Grateful for this video. 🙏
@@amy.rufino literally same😭 it was naivety on my prt to continue for as long as I did, but I def learned from that. Trying to have me as his emotional gf but didn’t wanna commit. Sorry, can’t have one and not the other buddy
When I was dating prior to getting married, I would get ignored or they just wouldn't reach out. I looked at it as a blessing. I let the men weed themselves out. I also had to ignore and block a few along the way. Know your worth and set boundaries. Don't hesitate to keep it moving. Who you choose as a life partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. Don't take it lightly. ❤
When a man ignores you. Don't give any energy into analyzing it. Move on. No man is worth that energy. Alway's put GOD first. God will ALWAY'S give you what you need. Not what you want. GOD is the ONLY man that will love you. And he will never leave you or keep you guessing!!!!!! 🙏💖❤🙏
I love God I rely on him for support and God loves us all . But we need “men” in our lives not a spiritual “God” per se! Put God where he is appropriately supposed to be in your life. Prayer is good. Fix yourself. Get healthy (eating correctly & fitness) attitude changes, become agreeable and confident…not cocky! We need love ❤️
Even though I understand why a man might have to ignore a woman sometimes. I don’t think it’s ever the right thing to do, because it could eventually blow up in your face. Communication is always key in any relationship - that’s why it’s called a relationship. It’s like being in a “ship” with someone, and there’s always going to be ups and downs. But you have to find a way to constantly “relate” to them - not ignore them! It’s a relationship - not ignoreship! Lol I know… Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
While the men are ignoring you ladies get closer to God. God will never ignore you. Thank God he's ignoring you. If you is in a relationship with the wrong man he will keep ignoring you.
I really feel like there are no reason why a man should ignore a woman. He is thinking I don’t care if I lose this girl. I do not value her time, effort or worth. Let him go.
@@redfather5342 well duh! but it doesn't justify ignoring someone if you're dating or in a relationship with them. the point is communication is key or know your worth and walk.
“They will ignore you until they need you.” Truth! If a man doesn’t make a point to communicate, there is no relationship possible because a common friend would show you more respect. Even the truly busy men can find 1 minute free to send you a text to let you know that they’re not blowing you off, etc. I have seen the difference between a man who is actually busy and a man who’s simply playing games. Never let a man disrespect your feelings. You should only have to tell him how you feel about him being “flaky” one to two times max! If he’s not receptive to change or willing to simply be respectful of you and your feelings, he’s no damn good. I have a 24-hour rule. People do get busy, etc., so I allow a guy 24 hours to respond. If he can go 24 hours without responding to you, you are NOT a priority in his life. Period. Unless he was in some tragic boating accident, etc., he simply doesn’t want to talk to you. Another sign of a bad guy is one that’s “too busy” to reply to you but he’s not too busy for social media and/or his other friends or other women. Let him go and consider it a blessing that he’s showing you his true ugly colors now before you marry the wrong guy!
Thank you for the heads up, I will Sir, I will Stephan. This is a very good & interesting topic for women. Yall, please take this seriously. Stephan Speaks the bold, unapologetic truth. I have been IN MANY previous relationships WITH men of this type of trait. I am an honest & stronger women, and I now, just having a clearer understanding of how some men can be, which will mentally damage the way women's mental state trying to move on to the next one. The most important... THERE ARE MANY GOOD HONEST MEN OUT THERE THAT ARE VERY RECEPTIVE TO A WOMAN WHO IS SHOWING FEELINGS TO THEIR MEN!! Do not give up!!! Also, please do not listen to your hater jealous friends. Trust you heart!!!🥰 One ♥️💚♥️💯
Yeah, but as Stephan is saying. Many of them is emotionally immature. And maybe on that 1st go around, he needs for the christian in u to approach him & say can we talk? And u state your concern(frustration) & LET HIM TALK. For the other disrespectful ones ~ return the fava! And keep it pushing.
@@charlenealexander2607, Please don't be desperate or needy It brings disrespect from males! Notice, I'm saying males not men!! Go on about your business, ok?
They come back...they ALWAYS come back after ignoring/devaluation. When they come back it is called hoovering. Please don't think they won't ever come back. They stalk on all SM and internet searches, they will drive past your home, work, families and friends houses. They can get pretty frightening and creepy...leave things at your place or move things...sometimes even break in to leave stuff or move things. One Narc went so far as to find out when his ex was not home/away for an extended period. She thought she had moved and he wouldn't bother her anymore. Well he found her...and planted daffodils all over her yard/gardens when she was away. When she returned and the seasons had passed and it was spring, time for daffodils to grow and bloom, she noticed all the daffodils growing where they hadn't been before. They were everywhere. He paid someone to plant them. And it wasn't a romantic gesture. It was a reminder of him. Daffodils are named Narcissus in Latin. They will stalk you. There are many things they will do. Usually ignoring you is their most common way of punishing. When they're ignoring you, they place you on the shelf like an appliance or plaything, and ignore you while they seek someone new. Eventually when the other person gets placed on the shelf, they will take down an old appliance or plaything and the cycle begins again. Rarely do they go away forever. It could be 20 years later and they will come back like nothing ever happened.
Most of the time there is no issue, he’s just trying to manipulate you into thinking there is an issue so you will feel insecure or he’s with someone else.
Silent treatment triggers my borderline personality disorder. I dont get why some people cant be honest about how they feel instead of ignoring someone. I dont want or need a disrespectful man.
When they don’t see you for over a month, don’t call, don’t text. When you text or call them they don’t respond. They are probably seeing someone else but just not telling you. Then you get a call out the blue, and they start talking like everything is fine. No explanation about what’s been going on. Leave his ass alone. Find someone else to date. Run ladies.
Heartbreaking now last chat with him nicely on the 20th of September morning,from that day no text but he's online Friday the 30th he send a message hello, there how are you i didn't answer. Iam tired of his behaviour it's been 3yrs now dating and he does this every time, now i think time up now for me to close the door. I tried to talk with him about it he said you judge me.
When a man ignores a woman, whatever his intentions are, he destabilizes any trust she may have for him. She may not acknowledge it, but it is there. Instead of ignoring, try telling her what is up. She will have more respect and may even be happy to give you space and time. The same is true the other way around.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Oh thank you! I so much appreciate what you do here - it keeps me grounded in truth and reality in all my relationships and validates my feelings as well. God Bless you 😌
Some Men aren't even willing to talk about anything making matters worse. I'm a Direct person and i can't stand a person who can't simply COMMUNICATE like an ADULT. It's not to argue it's to get an understanding of what is going on and what happened. STAY SAFE EVERYONE. GOD BLESS.
I still have very deep feelings for someone but he will not communicate. When I try he shuts down. I think it might be a age differences and he was hurt in the pass. Smh
@@cynthiaholcomb8142 OMG. You too? He might be related to the guy i was dealing with for 7 long boring months 🤣 🤣. I'm Older than him by a few years but i felt like i was dealing with a Grown Boy and not a Grown Man especially one who don't and won't COMMUNICATE. So though i decided to just walk away i still have feelings for him but he just isn't on my Level by any means. Any woman who walk away from a Man like that or if a Man walked away from a Woman like that good for all of us because some people will Literally drive you crazy if you let them. STAY SAFE EVERYONE. GOD BLESS.
You have to remember that you are worthy to be loved rightly. If he’s not treating you right, you deserve better. Have the conversation, talk about how you feel. Understand what you both need. And always remember you’re special 💜
Even though I understand why a man might have to ignore a woman sometimes. I don’t think it’s ever the right thing to do, because it could eventually blow up in your face. Communication is always key in any relationship - that’s why it’s called a relationship. It’s like being in a “ship” with someone, and there’s always going to be ups and downs. But you have to find a way to constantly “relate” to them - not ignore them! It’s a relationship - not ignoreship! Lol I know… Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@Queenester1984 someone that's INTERESTED IN YOU, WOULD TAKE THE ⏰⌛2 RELATE/or DISCUSS "THEIR FEELINGS," SOONER OR LATER! Just DON'T push the "small stuff on a 🚹 !" TRUE 💘 💘 💘 ALWAYS WINS! 😌😂🌞
What if he has faced it head on and the woman refuses to see his point of view and apologise? Leading to him walking away and ignoring her. Is he still a narcissist or is he using his common sense by not wasting time on the woman?
To a certain extent, such toxic behaviour is abusive. If you find yourself feeling insecure and acting out of character that man is too damn toxic not only for you but probably for other women. Ladies walk away from men like this because they are simply emotionally manipulative and self-centered.
Narcissist is what you might be dealing with. Walk away and block. Reason I say block is Narcissist types try to come back. Give them no road back to you 😉
I just have to add what about when you needed him an like that he was no where. If it's true an ment to be it will be .If he does things that are not nice. Get out it will get worse . Don't let him back . Unless you want your heart broke again. It's a two way street but if he is not around.Its a dead end.
Mine shows me much attitude,,whatever itell him ,,iannoy him,l,, he becomes very annoyed and haxso much attitudes and mind u he provides me with nothing ,,
Ignoring is dismissive. It makes someone feel disrespected. There are ways to handle situations. Ignoring someone makes things worse. Communication is needed to understand what is going on and address the issue. Ignoring will send a strong message, a hurtful one.
When I was still dating, Once a man ignored me, I lost respect and no longer desired communication. They are the ones I block led from my life, then they call me a month later from someone else’s phone 🤣🤣🤣
And you don't want him. That Don't wantcha part can be tough. In my mind someone or something that rejects me. Should of never knew me. Like why did this type of person even come into my playing field. There are men that will knowingly have a likeness or interest in a woman then pull a discard move to be cruel because they don't want to get rejected themselves.
Going through this right now. Started dating a man that I’ve known for decades. I tried to hold him accountable for his bad behavior (lack of effort, inconsistency, etc.) and he started ignoring me. I’m DONE. Actively ignoring someone is a choice and him choosing not to communicate with me was the push I needed to let go. We could’ve easily talked it out and kept moving forward but he lost a good one ☝🏾
My husband tells me no man is ever so busy that he cannot take time to speak with you! You must keep the door open for COMMUNICATIONS. Happy wife HAPPY LIFE!
Tell my husband that 🙄 He stonewalls me and can do this for weeks. Besides he’s always uptight, frustrated and angry. I can’t tolerate it anymore because it is emotionally abusive and draining
I just made the decision to let a man go after dealing with mind games and him ignoring me and not caring about how I feel. Took a lot but I dont care anymore.
I'm going through this situation right now I know I have to let him go but it so so hard. He reals me back in once he sees I'm disconnected but I know I have to just cut the cord...no looking back
@@Shayshayboston1 girl I've been there so I get it. It's so hard to detach from a person whom you know is not good for you. I know it's better said then done but I would just break it off and let him know you deserve better because you do deserve better. In the long run you will find the right man for you who will love you in every way possible. You are beautiful! Dont take anything less! This coming year be prepared to level up and drop him!
Wow, dating has changed over the years. It appears that it has shifted to ghosting, ignoring, and no communication, a total disregard for others’ feelings. Who wants to put up with that? I never knew men to be so sensitive and in their feelings as well. I use to believe that men were emotionally strong and not afraid to speak their minds. The game playing is child’s play. I guess that’s why there are relationship coaches to help sift through this mess, lol. If he ignores, say goodbye.
Exactly. More often than not, it's the norm to date this way and it seems that it's "okay" to do it like this! I am so disillusioned with the whole 21st century dating process!
I'm an older woman and I'm tired of coddling men who have "issues" They get on dating sites and say they want a friendship but they are either hung up on an ex wife or a deceased wife. I'm an empathic person so apparently I gravitate towards the hurting and vulnerable people, but I'm learning to weed them out now after a week. If a man is not "ready" to know what he wants and to know that I can bring a lot to his life, then I'm not pouring into his life anymore either. I'm NOT his counselor or place holder!
@@MB-xv7er false. there’s plenty of good men too who value women & their companionship beyond their sexual peak years 🙄 you’re obvy not one of em. stop perpetuating that bs idea that women have limited options with age or that men are brainless walking pee-pee pleasers only. ladies you don’t want to be with someone who only sees you as a trophy, find someone who wants peace and to spend their time & conversation, interests & company with you bc they see you as a human being!
It's not the woman's fault. Sometimes they start dating someone else and don't know how to date 2 women at one time. So, they move onto the other person. Keeping you on hold, and then they come back, when they get tired of that new person.. They don't feel they have to explain themselves. Ignoring is disrespectful, all is going fine and they just stop communicating with you. It has happened to me twice. I never want closure, the closure was when you ghosted me. Good bye dude. Lol.
Currently going through the same thing. Everything will be fine then he suddenly disappears for a while. He gets bored or grows tired of the new girl and comes back. It's exhausting and mentally draining. Sometime they will just suck up your good energy. I call them the energy vampire. Some guys or ppl in general know you have such a beautiful spirit and kindness to you so they come around when they are feeling low. Then once they get all your energy and feel like they no longer need you they leave. Leaving you feeling mentally, emotionally and physically drained.
Once a man ignores me I'm done with him, I'm not going to play games with anybody, I understand if we had a fight & we are not talking for a moment, life is too short.
I feel you. This happened to me recently and it makes me so angry that people do this. It is one of the most hurtful things that someone can do to another person.
Sometimes...they Will Ignore the Mom too if He's Toxic or Fake Disrespectful or lies...I Find Most Men Who do those kind of things Without Good or at least Respectful or Mature Clear Communication Are Usually Doublestandard, Controlling, Hiding Things or Not Very Vulnerable Or just Transparent..Don't make Good Healthy Relationships..u R Asking for Trouble and Heartaches, Women should Give men Same respect
Because our mothers love us unconditionally and other women love us for our money, energy, time, attention or how we make them feel. Not unconditionally.
When a man ignores you, it’s selfish and inconsiderate of what they put you through without communication, reasons should be expressed, whether good or bad , talk about it , everyone is entitled to reasons, don’t just ignore.💯‼️
Ignoring to me basically says, he’s not trying. He doesn’t care. He’s selfish. I got ignored right after my son died. When I needed him most. Later on he let me know..lol..he tried to slide me into the friend zone. He just showed me who he is! So I turned cold. Was not his friend and now he’s petty and gaslit me. I will never allow someone to ignore me again. If you ignore me, your unsure about me. Ladies, don’t waste your time! Leave! Someone else will give you the attention you deserve.
Sometimes people who you think will be there for you in difficult times ignore us and we feel so hurt but at least you know there is no loyalty or good character. Sorry about your loss! Stay strong! When my mom died I realized who really cares for me because some people disaapreared. Now i dont need them in my life. God bless!🙏🌈💙
Finally, someone acknowledges that being ignored is STRESSFUL! Thank you Stephan. Everyone is trying to say to keep cool or just carry on which we TRY to do. But of course at the back of your mind, it’s a nagging thought WHY…
Yessss the nagging thought be like “why is he ignoring me?” Especially when nothing has happened just out the blue ignoring ! It’s disrespectful and sickkkkk!
It is and yes it happened to me before but I realized men also do this if they know they have no more lies left you are going to fall for so he may as well walk away... It hurts but I rather they do and instead of using us.
@@PrettiRissaIt hurts and it’s frustrating but it does happen to the best of everyone. Not everyone is honourable enough to talk to someone when walking away because some people are just simply cowards.
I just had a guy I was interested in ignore me for two weeks..i understand life happens but his excuse was “I knew I was going to be busy for the week of Halloween and I didn’t want to be slow responding to you and the week after that I was busy for work” so he got upset when he reached out and I didn’t make time for him. He then tells me “there is no other woman” I said I never brought that up and I never said it was lol but thank you got giving yourself away. I told him I was texted you and you didn’t respond for TWO weeks so I stopped texting so keep that same every you had for those weeks! Ladies pay attention to the signs and believe who they are when they show you 💕
I am a guy and got ghosted but I made my choice by deleting her number and blocking it. I will not take her back after her actions. If he blocks you or ghost move on, the damage is already done.
Nah. His silence already says a lot. If he cared to continue to have you around, he would have the respect to at least say he needs "time" to work on some things etc...If not, then he never valued the relationship and let him keep it movin...
If he is ignoring you jus know he is tired of you and most probably dont want you again please dont confuse yourself get another man there are plenty out there to love you n treat you better .
Just went through this experience ( he shut down) . It was very painful but I did not chase him. It actually gave me time to really re-evaluate ME! Space can give you clarity. This video gives excellent advice!! Thank you SS !!
I'm going through the same thing. I agree it is very painful and such a confusing situation 😩.I'm so glad that I came across this channel. I find these videos to be so helpful. Hearing the man's pov explains a lot. 🙌🏾 Glad you were to move forward. You got this ❤️.
Where you able to move forward? He shut down too and it really has me doing the same, re-evaluating me, which was an eye opener. He is an amazing guy. I’m hoping we can work through this.
@@KAAT2239 we got past it. I still feel I mess up quiet often. I’m still trying to get over past trauma, overcome our differences and grow together. 😮💨
Going suddenly silent on someone, to me, is a sign of immaturity point blank. Because if they were mature enough, they would at least have the decency to tell someone what's going on or whatever the issue is, even if they may end up hurt when it's all said and done. But at least there was communication. This video hit home and it is quite personal to me currently. But it's nothing for me to cry over b'se it's not a relationship. Well..sorta kinda. But it’s all in God’s time. I respect a man who communicates how he feels, rather than just hold it in then resolve to ghosting😕 #majorturnoff #superdisappointing
I feel everything that you wrote. I am currently being ignored and possibly ghosted by a guy that I was dating since June and it hurts. I would’ve really appreciated him coming out and telling me how he felt, especially if he didn’t want to continue dating me.
@@Kimmica20 ❤ Be encouraged God will bring you through just like how he brought me though. My fiance cheated on me with a women attending the same church. I had my wedding dress and everything, but I had to call of the wedding. God brought me through He will help you as well. It's about 9 months now! God Bless you! Dating comes with risk and the Bible Tells us to guard our Hearts.
@@kaym5015 Thank you for your words of encouragement. It has been so helpful seeing comments like yours sharing your experience. That helps me to see if you are able to get through your tough times, then so can I. Thank you again. God Bless you too!
I'm going through this right now with my fiancé. He's on the other side of the world and communication is just a struggle on his part. He keeps saying sorry all the time and I keep accepting his apologies. Everything you've said here has happened. He knows I'm always there whatever time he calls, text or video chat but yet, he's not as available like I am. No effort shown at all. We've talked about it many times but it keeps happening on his side. It's stressing me so much. I feel ignored & disrespected. He doesn't care that I stays awake all night worrying about him. Today, I decided to help myself and relieve me from this stress by blocking every way he can reach me. I'm going to try my best to be strong and just try to move on. It hurts me very much but I've learned self love, self respect. I know what's my worth and what I deserve. I need to be with someone who's on the same level of energy like me. Thanks for your videos. It keeps me going- after a painful breakup in the past.
The person I was with started ignoring me since September, I've suffered like never...I was getting ill....because when I stopped communicating with him too, he would send texts with sad 😔 😟 emoji...and then like nothing happened....and he would go back to silence, then I finally had the courage to block him....he contacted me from another phne asking why he was blocked....and again after days without a word he texted interested in se. Gave up completely, I need to be strong
This is unacceptable, communication is needed. If a man is ignoring you it’s for a reason, who has time for gaslighting,mind games? It’s very unhealthy and definitely a turn off. Know your worth, do not stress over it. Do not let anyone make you feel like it’s ok to accept that, address the real issue. If no changes are made going forward simply block & delete. It will be his loss not yours, set your boundaries! #YouAreWorthy👑
Ignoring someone is flat out childish PERIOD! It's simply unnecessary to ignore someone, if you're not interested then say so. In today society it's too much game playing, to where it's turns you off from trying to date.
I think it is best to let it be , leave him alone, if you notice a pattern in the dodging questions/facing music, ignoring game. Hold your head up, smile, block and keep it moving...may not be easy but you have to first love yourself! I am doing my best to keep this in mind everyday
It's like you can never LOVE yourself enough!. But believe it or not these be the main types of men that's always on datings apps and they need to be downloading a therapy app instead with they non-interpersonal skills having ass!
That's true I'm going through that now he's definitely dodging questions because I picking up on his patterns already. This is pointless if I can be honest with you from jump why can't you . 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
@starfish713 "but believe it or not these be the ones on the dating app" very true. I met one off BLK. Straight covert narc. He shut me down, invalidated me, and then eventually ghosted me. He says "I apologize" that was day after v day all after he love bombed the heck out of me. I'm a little hurt but since I didn't get my feelings in it, I'm ok but it still hurts. He'd say how pretty and beautiful I was, questioned why I wanted to be with HIM etc...left me confused but I'm making it through. Been binge watching Stephan, Tony, and that guy Lee who's a diagnosed narcissist to gain clarity.
If a man ignores me, it means or he doesn’t a real feeling for me, his feelings for me has changed or he wanted to move on. In this case, I let him go. Never pursue a man, if he really loves you, you don’t need to do all these things. Communication is very important in relationship.
I’m a woman and I use to do this to both my husbands. I’m not proud of it. It was my way of saying I’m mad, so leave me alone. It was very immature. One spouse told me it was a form of torture. The other threatened divorce if I ever did it again(now he does it to me). I learned this behavior from my dad(my dad a secret mental disorder). He spontaneously did this to my mom til the day she died, 40 years of marriage. It’s a very immature and evil behavior.
The guy I am dating... He is ignoring me. GONE! Because I had enough of his mixed signals and shut him down. I was at the "breaking point" with him. I am better off, because I am seeking a REAL MAN with a REAL COMMITMENT.
So why are you writing this or even watch this vidéo ? Because you feel something, you wanted him to insist but he didnt... You cant said you you was the breaking point and also said that he is ignoring you... 🙄🙄
I had a gym crush for months and one day finally worked up the courage to say hi.. we would make small talk here and their and say hi to each other some days.. time went by and he started being distant and ignoring me. One day I saw him talking to other girls and realized he would only say hi to me when those girls weren’t around and ignore me when they were around. That’s when I had to decide to ignore him back and not entertain him anymore. I’m worth much more than that.
A man/woman ignoring you is God's protection and/or way of showing you he/she is not the One. I'm blocked for calling a Narcissist out. At first, I was nice about holding him accountable. He came back a month after us both splitting, saying everything but "I'm sorry" and had the audacity to declare love (manipulate) & to try to change the cause of our conflict (gaslight). All I needed him to say was, 'I'm sorry' & I would've forgiven him. I know he knew he was wrong but he wouldn't say sorry to me, which set me off. No one is perfect. Bottom line, I don't think he's capable of saying sorry to any woman b/c that would make him a Beta-male. Despite our great chemistry, I can't be with him b/c I think he's toxic. I've been in a relationship with a "man" before who could do no wrong, take no accountability and it destroyed my confidence & self-esteem. So seeing that this time around made me 🏃🏾♀️ & harshly (disrespectfully) call him out on his BS because I knew it would be permanently closing the door on that chapter. Its truly a shame we couldn't be friends and I sometimes miss him, but I can't trust him. I sonetimes wonder what we could've been, if it weren't for his pride/ego/ Red Pill ways.
I went through something similar and all I wanted him to do was recognize that he hurt my feelings. I told him even if he wasn't sorry for what he did, at least apologize for hurting my feelings. He kept saying he wouldn't apologize because he didn't do anything wrong. I told him to go and have a good life, I was done. Then I deleted and blocked him.
"Men don't have feelings." "Men are supposed to be rigid but at the same time, be in tuned with a woman's every feeling and need." Stephan has two points. He made two points but unfortunately, this is the only lady I've seen so far make mention of the FIRST point he made. Why are most persons focusing only on the negative? Can't you be supportive of your man, or A man, as you'd expect him to be supportive of you? Where did the unionised sense that a relationship is to have go? When did things become so one-sided, to the woman's favour?
We as women after a breakup we usually get therapy, go to church, or listen to healthy videos like Stephan. Men leave one relationship to another w/o getting therapy. Their “D” leads them to repeat the same bad behavior with the next one, the next one and the next one. I just left a relationship where he was a mamas boy at 67-years-old, controlling, demanding, never apologized, emotionally aggressive! A mess! I hope he fixes his traumas for his next lady!
Even though I understand why a man might have to ignore a woman sometimes. I don’t think it’s ever the right thing to do, because it could eventually blow up in your face. Communication is always key in any relationship - that’s why it’s called a relationship. It’s like being in a “ship” with someone, and there’s always going to be ups and downs. But you have to find a way to constantly “relate” to them - not ignore them! It’s a relationship - not ignoreship! Lol I know… Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
We (women) don’t always see this as a good sign, it’s not good in what we consider good. As far as him revealing his true intentions it’s great let him go. Don’t be bitter because he is hurting. But be cool that is getting himself out the way. You deserve better
How about, he's cheating and doesn't want to deal with you, trying to "shake you off him" emotionally , and may also be breaking you down, so you get disappointed, discouraged and leave. Now, he's free to move on with the person already on hand. I see no need for an adult to " shut down, when he's very much verbal- all he has to do is, have a conversation with you, telling you what the problem is so you can " fix things" or harmonize things with him and set the relationship back on its right foot and keep it going. A man who ignores you when he wants to and "pops" up later when he needs you, is in that relationship selfishly, for himself. He only pops up now, because, he wants something from you. After which, he will start to ignore you again. Just kick such a one to the curb, and keep it moving. Cause, you will be wasting your time by staying. His behavior will always be a circle which will lead to your constant heartbreak, worry, frustration, confusion and pain. You deserve better. That man needs to grow up and learn to talk things over to maintain a relationship.
Spot on abt the men just looking for sex. They don't txt you back very soon. They are slow to respond and sometimes take a day or 2. Don't waste your time on them. Move on and delete them.
When a man ignores you and you are both already in an invested relationship where you two have built a consistent healthy communication and pretty much are clear that you like each other, that ignoring is because he's hurt about something. But when a man ignores you and he hasn't even built the healthy foundation of consistent communication and has given you clear signs that he likes you, if the ignoring is happening in the beginning, - then it's him distancing himself because he actually doesn't want you to be too into him because he is not trying to bring you to any kind of progressive level. You have to match the 'time' invested with the behavior
He constantly ignores my phone calls and texts. Then when I do it ...he explodes. I've talked to him about it. He will do better and then it goes right back to the same thing. I refuse to continue like this in 2022. Life is too big of a blessing. Thanks for the great video Stephan
@Vanessa Louis I appreciate your response but being that you and I have never met and you have the audacity to make a response like this addressed to me let's me know that you are not the person that I would take any advice from especially relationship advice.
When someone ignores me, I clearly receive the message that I don't matter to them unless or until they want something from me. At that point, I'm like if I mean nothing to you, then you can mean nothing to me as well. If someone is purposely trying to trigger me, I don't deal with children, so goodbye. It's just like if someone tries to make me jealous, not only does it not work, but at that point, I'm disgusted and lose all respect for that person. I've also learned not to let the history stop me. For example, I've had friendships where I knew someone for years and they betrayed me. Let's say you've had someone in your life for 15 years. Yeah, it's time wasted -- 15 years down the drain, and it truly does suck, but that's better than 15 years and one day, one week, or one month, and definitely better than more years wasted chasing something that's either gone or never was. I won't allow myself to chase or beg someone -- it's degrading to one's own self. Like if someone asks for time and space, my attitude is I hope you're calculating velocity because I'm not hovering in a holding pattern while you try to discern whether or not there are greener pastures or put me on a shelf to collect dust until you're decide that you're bored enough that I'm worthy of your acknowledgement of my existence. You'll return to find me no longer there.
Ignoring me is a clear sign and a weak move but i get it cause there's always more to it. I think it's how we perceive the individual individually. Every situation is different
Men make it harder than it has to be… that's Real Talk!!! People need compliant/ complimentary love languages. "ignoring' your partner is Never, ever okay. Take it easy & focus on progress 💙
I don’t think men realize how their inability to be open and communicate is really hurtful. I would text someone back even if I weren’t that into him. I’ll be honest and move on. The damage men do is immeasurable.
No excuse for a man to shut down and not communicate…use your words!! I’ve learned to give what’s given to me!! I will admit I’m mindful of my tone when I’m talking… the biggest key is what you said interest!!!
No. The power of walking away is the ONLY power you have over a woman who is being disrespectful. Not like you can throw her into the ropes and choke slam to get her to act right.
Depends on the situation. If she has rejected him, he has taken it as reality, is deeply hurt, respects her answer, and goes no contact to protect himself and do what he has to, to move on. This is a mature way to respond. We don't keep putting our hand on a hot stove. He cares deeply, but if the feelings arent reciprocal, he is simply guarding his heart. Being friends just won't work. This is just an example of a healthy ignoring you behavior given the circumstances
Even though I understand why a man might have to ignore a woman sometimes. I don’t think it’s ever the right thing to do, because it could eventually blow up in your face. Communication is always key in any relationship - that’s why it’s called a relationship. It’s like being in a “ship” with someone, and there’s always going to be ups and downs. But you have to find a way to constantly “relate” to them - not ignore them! It’s a relationship - not ignoreship! Lol I know… Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I Enjoyed the video, I was in a situationship I ended it after I call him out face to face on his behavior. He got lock jaw. He didn't mean me any good..I am older but I am not street smart. My decerment did kick in. He was a wolf in sheep clothing. 🐑
Great Video 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼REJECTION IS PROTECTION. Non consistency is disrespectful. I’m not a dog, no man will not train me for his own personal use. Clearly I would not date a grown selfish boy playing games and don’t know how to have a healthy relationship. It’s very hurtful. That’s dysfunctional.
A man I have talked to for a few months recently began becoming more distant. When I brought it up, he essentially said that he felt he was initiating most of the time and he didn't like the fact that I still had an active dating profile. We never actually had the talk about becoming official so how was I to assume we were? When I texted him asking if we can have a phone conversation about things he hasn't responded. Ignored my last two messages. I just want to communicate about this like adults, meanwhile, he's gone silent. It's so frustrating especially since I know a conversation would have clarified both issues. This video came at the right time for me.
Ignoring someone is not a bad thing if someone has wronged you, and you're trying to move on. It's a problem when you ignore someone as a form of manipulation. That's when it becomes childish.
Do men have more meaningful conversations with their homeboys and just tolerate conversation with their wife or girlfriend? It’s seems some men can talk to their boys all day but when at home with their women they make it seem as if we women talk too much
homeboys listen, alot of women do not. why tell a woman a situation when she will judge or throw it back in your face. women indirectly judge their boyfriends/ husbands all the time. he knows if he tells her she will throw it in his face. it same as when woman dont like to be honest about their past. the person they are dealing with hasnt shown the ability to handle it properly..
@@zero1188 true or homeboys support their boy when he's in the wrong & enable him to stay stagnant. I find that these homeboys are always there to smoke, drink, hang out, play games, but when life gets really tough, they're nowhere to be found. That's what I take issue with: grown boys with these types of homeboys, who continue to put friends before their girlfriend/parents/immediate family.
My friend ignored me because i text him and tell him why is he not responding to my text so he said he was watching something here on tv. So i text him and said that his wife is wearing the pant cause he cannot talk nor text when she is home. He blocked me it is a year now.
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Why did he unblock me from social media after three months no contact? He discarded me. I made him think it's his idea. I'm scared he's trying to come back and I've already healed myself and want to continue moving on.
This was so on point and real..I have learned not to continue to accept this disrespect...
Thank you
Much needed thanks
Your video was on time well put together. nice!
Sometimes men ignore you to control you.....hoping you will chase him....a guy did that to me but it backfired.....he didn't know I listen to Stephan....bye clown ✌... ...lol
I'm happy this has been helpful to you!
Hahaha love this
lol
Facts same lol no more chasing
Me too I listen to our mentor Stephans🙏🙏🙏🌹🌹
I'm nearly 40, a random woman, in her 70s gave me the best way way of looking at things... She said," sweetheart, does the egg chase the sperm?" No, it sits in it's feminine glory, and attracts." All the sperm are racing to the egg. Not vise versa""... As I sat in the Walmart bathroom, balling my eyes out....she turned to leave and said... "Find u a man that wrecks your lipstick,,NOT your mascara...."... That 1 min encounter with an older wise woman, changed my life forever.... I swear to this day, creator sent her
Love this
She's absolutely right and wise.
I love our elders ❤❤❤
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He is ignoring you because he doesn't want to deal with the mess he caused. Pretending you no longer exist means the problems he caused are irrelevant..so he doesnt have to take any responsibility
Yes
Yes yes and yes!!
This, too! I heard a psychologist say that a lot of times, they feel guilty about doing wrong, so they just ignore you.
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Yep. Right on
Rejection is divine protection. Please remember this ladies. God knows best. Leave him alone!
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Thank you for your concise and helpful observation. 🌹
Incorrect its not always the case. Sometimes its how much are you willing to fight for the one you love.
Amen 🙏
AMEN
Ignoring someone is THE most disrespectful thing you can do in a relationship. Lack of communication breeds all other negative issues
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You are so right. It’s absolutely petty and rude and downright disrespectful. The cycle must be broken.
Yes
Exactly...and men understand this much better than anyone, because the minute they feel their physical needs are being ignored, they're looking elsewhere. And QUICK, too.
@@enmodelife Yes indeed. It’s just so unfortunate and I am a talker I’m like let’s get to the bottom of it so we can move on in peace I’m such an emotional person and so sensitive and I feel like we as women and just all of us men and women we’re emotional beings and we can feel and get a sense of when something isn’t right and to live each day knowing we’re not giving our best and being our best selves it’s absolutely unacceptable. I mean that’s a key goal in life most importantly for our own self to elevate to our highest potential and frequency and happiness. I’ve had to hold so many things in my childhood because I had nowhere safe to turn to and I think that’s why I’m a person who really desires to communicate now because it fast forward to now I see it didn’t do me any good holding it in but I was younger and the things I went through very traumatic and overwhelming and when I try to talk about it with certain people family wise it didn’t help like I hoped. So it’s like with my family and friends and where relationships are involved I go about things in a certain manner to create and show a safe haven for communication and understanding because it’s all about delivery but don’t ignore me 😂 when I’m giving what I’m supposed to give.
When a guy ignores you he knows he’s ignoring you. It’s not being done by mistake.
Remember…You get treated how you allow. If you’re having to wonder then that’s your answer.
Exactly.
Yeah. I finally had the courage to just walk alone then let my feelings continue to be ignored. He even told me from day one, he justed wanted to be friends, but he continued to court me like a man would if he was I interested. I excepted the facts and just decided "no more". Grateful for this video. 🙏
I felt like if I had to come here and watch this video then that's my answer 😢
Absolutely
@@amy.rufino literally same😭 it was naivety on my prt to continue for as long as I did, but I def learned from that. Trying to have me as his emotional gf but didn’t wanna commit. Sorry, can’t have one and not the other buddy
When a man becomes emotionally unavailable it’s time to let him go.
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@Keisha - Yes it is!
Couldn't have been said any better 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
100% just let him go today. I’m done.
@@maraviasmith3093 I bet Chu feel much better nw that u let 'em go?. I say one man's rejection,is definitely god's protection... 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
When I was dating prior to getting married, I would get ignored or they just wouldn't reach out. I looked at it as a blessing. I let the men weed themselves out. I also had to ignore and block a few along the way. Know your worth and set boundaries. Don't hesitate to keep it moving. Who you choose as a life partner is one of the most important decisions of your life. Don't take it lightly. ❤
Exactly. Chose your hell wisely.
Aaaaaamen!!!!
Wow that’s very powerful thanks for sharing.
Thank you Just Nic
@@prunelle9051 😂😂😂😂😂good point!
If he’s ignoring you leave, he doesn’t like you that much. 🙏🏻
Easy said than done
That’s how I see it!!🤷🏻♀️
Men are so disappointing wish I didn’t miss having them in my life..
Facts❤
When a man ignores you. Don't give any energy into analyzing it. Move on. No man is worth that energy. Alway's put GOD first. God will ALWAY'S give you what you need. Not what you want. GOD is the ONLY man that will love you. And he will never leave you or keep you guessing!!!!!! 🙏💖❤🙏
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That part 💛
Amen too that🙌💪🙏💙🤝🤜🤘🤞💯😍💅
I love God I rely on him for support and God loves us all . But we need “men” in our lives not a spiritual “God” per se! Put God where he is appropriately supposed to be in your life. Prayer is good. Fix yourself. Get healthy (eating correctly & fitness) attitude changes, become agreeable and confident…not cocky! We need love ❤️
Well I love what you said and that real and true talk
When he ignores you, let him go. He needs to leave women alone and get therapy. Life is too valuable to be played with like you're a toy. #run
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Even though I understand why a man might have to ignore a woman sometimes.
I don’t think it’s ever the right thing to do, because it could eventually blow up in your face.
Communication is always key in any relationship - that’s why it’s called a relationship.
It’s like being in a “ship” with someone, and there’s always going to be ups and downs.
But you have to find a way to constantly “relate” to them - not ignore them!
It’s a relationship - not ignoreship! Lol I know…
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Girlll exactly!!
Mine was ignoring me turns out he was entertaining someone else
Funny we are the ones who end up in therapy bc of the trauma but they are the ones who need it.
While the men are ignoring you ladies get closer to God. God will never ignore you. Thank God he's ignoring you. If you is in a relationship with the wrong man he will keep ignoring you.
I really feel like there are no reason why a man should ignore a woman. He is thinking I don’t care if I lose this girl. I do not value her time, effort or worth. Let him go.
Exactly
This part
I appreciate your grounded observation.
Not every guy is gonna want you remember that
@@redfather5342 well duh! but it doesn't justify ignoring someone if you're dating or in a relationship with them. the point is communication is key or know your worth and walk.
“They will ignore you until they need you.” Truth! If a man doesn’t make a point to communicate, there is no relationship possible because a common friend would show you more respect. Even the truly busy men can find 1 minute free to send you a text to let you know that they’re not blowing you off, etc. I have seen the difference between a man who is actually busy and a man who’s simply playing games. Never let a man disrespect your feelings. You should only have to tell him how you feel about him being “flaky” one to two times max! If he’s not receptive to change or willing to simply be respectful of you and your feelings, he’s no damn good. I have a 24-hour rule. People do get busy, etc., so I allow a guy 24 hours to respond. If he can go 24 hours without responding to you, you are NOT a priority in his life. Period. Unless he was in some tragic boating accident, etc., he simply doesn’t want to talk to you. Another sign of a bad guy is one that’s “too busy” to reply to you but he’s not too busy for social media and/or his other friends or other women.
Let him go and consider it a blessing that he’s showing you his true ugly colors now before you marry the wrong guy!
I felt this so hard. Made me tear up. Thank you 💙 💯
I'm hurt 😞 in relationships I'm happy to hear this. He ignores me because he is a cheat..
My current situation
What drives me crazy is when I noticed the pattern.
Thank you for the heads up, I will Sir, I will Stephan. This is a very good & interesting topic for women. Yall, please take this seriously. Stephan Speaks the bold, unapologetic truth. I have been IN MANY previous relationships WITH men of this type of trait. I am an honest & stronger women, and I now, just having a clearer understanding of how some men can be, which will mentally damage the way women's mental state trying to move on to the next one. The most important...
THERE ARE MANY GOOD HONEST MEN OUT THERE THAT ARE VERY RECEPTIVE TO A WOMAN WHO IS SHOWING FEELINGS TO THEIR MEN!! Do not give up!!! Also, please do not listen to your hater jealous friends. Trust you heart!!!🥰
One ♥️💚♥️💯
As a female I don't make a move until he makes it first 💯 !!!! Never run after a man.
Yep I do the same thing..he move first
I was raised not to ever chase after a man when he is doing the wrong doing.
Hell no
Yeah, but as Stephan is saying. Many of them is emotionally immature. And maybe on that 1st go around, he needs for the christian in u to approach him & say can we talk? And u state your concern(frustration) & LET HIM TALK. For the other disrespectful ones ~ return the fava! And keep it pushing.
True 👍🏾
Ignoring someone intentionally is a huge red flag and I'm definitely not here for it...EVER😅😅
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Right.....ignore me forever 😂✌
How is it a red flag
Yessssss. Would love to hear about that shit.
@@charlenealexander2607,
Please don't be desperate or needy
It brings disrespect from males! Notice, I'm saying males not men!! Go on about your business, ok?
A narccist will punish you with ignoring you. Also if you hurt their ego or hurt them emotionally they can ignore you for life.
Thank you for sharing I appreciate hearing from you ❤
The Mr Bigs of society are incapable of loving themselves so how can they love any woman?
They come back...they ALWAYS come back after ignoring/devaluation. When they come back it is called hoovering. Please don't think they won't ever come back. They stalk on all SM and internet searches, they will drive past your home, work, families and friends houses. They can get pretty frightening and creepy...leave things at your place or move things...sometimes even break in to leave stuff or move things. One Narc went so far as to find out when his ex was not home/away for an extended period. She thought she had moved and he wouldn't bother her anymore. Well he found her...and planted daffodils all over her yard/gardens when she was away. When she returned and the seasons had passed and it was spring, time for daffodils to grow and bloom, she noticed all the daffodils growing where they hadn't been before. They were everywhere. He paid someone to plant them. And it wasn't a romantic gesture. It was a reminder of him. Daffodils are named Narcissus in Latin. They will stalk you. There are many things they will do. Usually ignoring you is their most common way of punishing. When they're ignoring you, they place you on the shelf like an appliance or plaything, and ignore you while they seek someone new. Eventually when the other person gets placed on the shelf, they will take down an old appliance or plaything and the cycle begins again. Rarely do they go away forever. It could be 20 years later and they will come back like nothing ever happened.
You are so right. There ego is big. Girls be careful! They can’t handle rejection
Sooooooo true👍
Being ignored Is the most hurtful disrespect thing a man can do for real. Just say what the issue is so we can move on . SMH 🤦🏽♀️
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I agree one million percent❤
I completely agree
That's all 💯💯💯
Most of the time there is no issue, he’s just trying to manipulate you into thinking there is an issue so you will feel insecure or he’s with someone else.
There’s absolutely no reason to ignore someone. I used to give men the benefit of the doubt but no. Once you ignore me I just leave.
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Is anyone actually going to notice
I just did that cause I’m tired of this! It’s hard but better than hurt myself!
This is how you handle it. He ignores you then you ignore him right back.
Right 👍🏾
Exactly that's what I'm doing now and I don't have no Shane in it either! Glad somebody sees it
Exactly, or u move on
Yep I did the same thing back to let him know how it feels to be ignored
And move on asap
There’s that saying, “No response IS a response.”
Yessir!!
"DON'T DO WHAT YOU DON'T WANT DONE TO YOU " 💯
💯 Yes!
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If only people would truly live by this rule! Life would be so much easier!!
@@queenbee297 Rightttttt....!!!!
My life motto for real!
This is also a tactic a narcissist will use to punish you for “bad behavior”.
Yes!!!
One reason a man ignores a woman, he is simply not the one
That's right!!
Wow, plain & simple.
Learned this the hard way....after 12 years of marriage 😞
True👍🏾
If a 10/10 male passes a 3/10 female that likes him, and he ignores her, obviously SHE isn't the one of his!
Silent treatment triggers my borderline personality disorder. I dont get why some people cant be honest about how they feel instead of ignoring someone. I dont want or need a disrespectful man.
Me too bpd
Got that sh** right! 💯
Just diminish their value in your head.. then you wont care what ever they’ll have to say :)
You don’t have to have borderline personality order when you have God
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When they don’t see you for over a month, don’t call, don’t text. When you text or call them they don’t respond. They are probably seeing someone else but just not telling you. Then you get a call out the blue, and they start talking like everything is fine. No explanation about what’s been going on.
Leave his ass alone.
Find someone else to date.
Run ladies.
Agree
Yup!
Exactly because he most definitely is in a relationship or even married ! Stay dangerous ladies !
Heartbreaking now last chat with him nicely on the 20th of September morning,from that day no text but he's online Friday the 30th he send a message hello, there how are you i didn't answer. Iam tired of his behaviour it's been 3yrs now dating and he does this every time, now i think time up now for me to close the door. I tried to talk with him about it he said you judge me.
When a man ignores a woman, whatever his intentions are, he destabilizes any trust she may have for him. She may not acknowledge it, but it is there. Instead of ignoring, try telling her what is up. She will have more respect and may even be happy to give you space and time. The same is true the other way around.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Oh thank you! I so much appreciate what you do here - it keeps me grounded in truth and reality in all my relationships and validates my feelings as well. God Bless you 😌
This 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
very true
Some Men aren't even willing to talk about anything making matters worse. I'm a Direct person and i can't stand a person who can't simply COMMUNICATE like an ADULT. It's not to argue it's to get an understanding of what is going on and what happened. STAY SAFE EVERYONE. GOD BLESS.
That's exactly what I was trying to do so I'm letting it be
I agree communication is very important.
Yes, I agree!
I still have very deep feelings for someone but he will not communicate. When I try he shuts down. I think it might be a age differences and he was hurt in the pass. Smh
@@cynthiaholcomb8142 OMG. You too? He might be related to the guy i was dealing with for 7 long boring months 🤣 🤣. I'm Older than him by a few years but i felt like i was dealing with a Grown Boy and not a Grown Man especially one who don't and won't COMMUNICATE. So though i decided to just walk away i still have feelings for him but he just isn't on my Level by any means. Any woman who walk away from a Man like that or if a Man walked away from a Woman like that good for all of us because some people will Literally drive you crazy if you let them. STAY SAFE EVERYONE. GOD BLESS.
You have to remember that you are worthy to be loved rightly. If he’s not treating you right, you deserve better. Have the conversation, talk about how you feel. Understand what you both need. And always remember you’re special 💜
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
Even though I understand why a man might have to ignore a woman sometimes.
I don’t think it’s ever the right thing to do, because it could eventually blow up in your face.
Communication is always key in any relationship - that’s why it’s called a relationship.
It’s like being in a “ship” with someone, and there’s always going to be ups and downs.
But you have to find a way to constantly “relate” to them - not ignore them!
It’s a relationship - not ignoreship! Lol I know…
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Indeed and very true
But what if he doesn’t want talk about it or want have conversation about it then what
@@Queenester1984 someone that's INTERESTED IN YOU, WOULD TAKE THE ⏰⌛2 RELATE/or DISCUSS "THEIR FEELINGS," SOONER OR LATER! Just DON'T push the "small stuff on a 🚹 !" TRUE 💘 💘 💘 ALWAYS WINS! 😌😂🌞
@@Queenester1984 then it is time to make decisions for yourself. One that includes self love.
Him ignoring because he wants to avoid the issues is a narcissistic thing to do. Walk away. You want someone who is willing to face issues head on.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
What if he has faced it head on and the woman refuses to see his point of view and apologise? Leading to him walking away and ignoring her. Is he still a narcissist or is he using his common sense by not wasting time on the woman?
To a certain extent, such toxic behaviour is abusive. If you find yourself feeling insecure and acting out of character that man is too damn toxic not only for you but probably for other women. Ladies walk away from men like this because they are simply emotionally manipulative and self-centered.
Narcissist is what you might be dealing with. Walk away and block. Reason I say block is Narcissist types try to come back. Give them no road back to you 😉
Exactly!
Well said 🙌💯❣
Learned this lesson hard way. Thought something was wrong with me. Then saw i wasn't like this with normal healthy people.
They will ignore you until they need you. That's so true. Focus on your goals.
I just have to add what about when you needed him an like that he was no where. If it's true an ment to be it will be .If he does things that are not nice. Get out it will get worse . Don't let him back . Unless you want your heart broke again. It's a two way street but if he is not around.Its a dead end.
Mine shows me much attitude,,whatever itell him ,,iannoy him,l,, he becomes very annoyed and haxso much attitudes and mind u he provides me with nothing ,,
Ignoring is dismissive. It makes someone feel disrespected. There are ways to handle situations. Ignoring someone makes things worse. Communication is needed to understand what is going on and address the issue. Ignoring will send a strong message, a hurtful one.
Thank you for sharing, communication is definitely key!
Right 👌🏾
When I was still dating, Once a man ignored me, I lost respect and no longer desired communication. They are the ones I block led from my life, then they call me a month later from someone else’s phone 🤣🤣🤣
@@mathmommy they are so childish
IN A RELATIONSHIP: this is called stonewalling. NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP: He don't want cha
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@Marie Jones How does that change what I wrote ma'am?
That part!
Sounds about right sister. Sad but true (lessons)🤦♀. Thank you🙏
And you don't want him. That Don't wantcha part can be tough. In my mind someone or something that rejects me. Should of never knew me. Like why did this type of person even come into my playing field. There are men that will knowingly have a likeness or interest in a woman then pull a discard move to be cruel because they don't want to get rejected themselves.
Going through this right now. Started dating a man that I’ve known for decades. I tried to hold him accountable for his bad behavior (lack of effort, inconsistency, etc.) and he started ignoring me. I’m DONE. Actively ignoring someone is a choice and him choosing not to communicate with me was the push I needed to let go. We could’ve easily talked it out and kept moving forward but he lost a good one ☝🏾
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@marsheabyars3989 ...💙😪
U did yourself a favour. U need a 💯 all in man. 🥰🥰❣️
@Marshea Byars do it back
HIS LOSS!!!😊
Don't let a man scam you out of your time and space, both are valuable.
My husband tells me no man is ever so busy that he cannot take time to speak with you! You must keep the door open for COMMUNICATIONS. Happy wife HAPPY LIFE!
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Tell my husband that 🙄 He stonewalls me and can do this for weeks. Besides he’s always uptight, frustrated and angry. I can’t tolerate it anymore because it is emotionally abusive and draining
@@audreymarshall1474 Once upon a time my life was just like yours.
Happy Husband makes a Happy Wife also
Audrey Marshall
You chose to marry him lol
I just made the decision to let a man go after dealing with mind games and him ignoring me and not caring about how I feel. Took a lot but I dont care anymore.
I agree with you
I'm going through this situation right now I know I have to let him go but it so so hard. He reals me back in once he sees I'm disconnected but I know I have to just cut the cord...no looking back
@@Shayshayboston1 girl I've been there so I get it. It's so hard to detach from a person whom you know is not good for you. I know it's better said then done but I would just break it off and let him know you deserve better because you do deserve better. In the long run you will find the right man for you who will love you in every way possible. You are beautiful! Dont take anything less! This coming year be prepared to level up and drop him!
@@brieh7447 ❤
Same!!👏🏽
Lack of communication breaks the relationship
Communication is definitely key, thank you for sharing!
I feel that silence is golden and it speaks volumes to me with no words given .
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Yeah....silence is a way of punishing the other person in the relationship.
This was the one
Yes!
Wow, dating has changed over the years. It appears that it has shifted to ghosting, ignoring, and no communication, a total disregard for others’ feelings. Who wants to put up with that? I never knew men to be so sensitive and in their feelings as well. I use to believe that men were emotionally strong and not afraid to speak their minds. The game playing is child’s play. I guess that’s why there are relationship coaches to help sift through this mess, lol. If he ignores, say goodbye.
Agreed
Exactly. More often than not, it's the norm to date this way and it seems that it's "okay" to do it like this! I am so disillusioned with the whole 21st century dating process!
Exactly. I now understand why so many women have stopped dating & decided to be alone. This all sounds so tiring.
There MOM letm cry alone 2 long lol
@@kelleybright3113 😂
I'm an older woman and I'm tired of coddling men who have "issues" They get on dating sites and say they want a friendship but they are either hung up on an ex wife or a deceased wife. I'm an empathic person so apparently I gravitate towards the hurting and vulnerable people, but I'm learning to weed them out now after a week. If a man is not "ready" to know what he wants and to know that I can bring a lot to his life, then I'm not pouring into his life anymore either. I'm NOT his counselor or place holder!
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You’re an older woman. Your options are very limited babes. You’ll have to get used to that
That’s Well Said!!!
@@MB-xv7er false. there’s plenty of good men too who value women & their companionship beyond their sexual peak years 🙄 you’re obvy not one of em. stop perpetuating that bs idea that women have limited options with age or that men are brainless walking pee-pee pleasers only. ladies you don’t want to be with someone who only sees you as a trophy, find someone who wants peace and to spend their time & conversation, interests & company with you bc they see you as a human being!
@@MB-xv7er Better alone than with a whiny man-child.
It's not the woman's fault. Sometimes they start dating someone else and don't know how to date 2 women at one time. So, they move onto the other person. Keeping you on hold, and then they come back, when they get tired of that new person.. They don't feel they have to explain themselves. Ignoring is disrespectful, all is going fine and they just stop communicating with you. It has happened to me twice. I never want closure, the closure was when you ghosted me. Good bye dude. Lol.
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Sounds like a narcissist with his supply to me
thnx fr sharing i had the same thing going on in my life recently, and was wondering wat i did wrong bt i see it clearly nw,,,
You are speaking everything I was going thro. Had to tell him by see you have a good one. No one has time to play kid games we are all grown..
Currently going through the same thing. Everything will be fine then he suddenly disappears for a while. He gets bored or grows tired of the new girl and comes back. It's exhausting and mentally draining. Sometime they will just suck up your good energy. I call them the energy vampire. Some guys or ppl in general know you have such a beautiful spirit and kindness to you so they come around when they are feeling low. Then once they get all your energy and feel like they no longer need you they leave. Leaving you feeling mentally, emotionally and physically drained.
Once a man ignores me I'm done with him, I'm not going to play games with anybody, I understand if we had a fight & we are not talking for a moment, life is too short.
Facts.
Yes so true !!!
They will ignore you UNTIL they need you!!!!
What does he need from you?
Heck a conversation goes a long way....ghosting is an uneccessary evil.
You're absolutely right communication is definitely key!
I completely agree
I feel you. This happened to me recently and it makes me so angry that people do this. It is one of the most hurtful things that someone can do to another person.
You so right!
Ignoring a woman is so disrespectful they wouldn't dare ignore they mom but ignore another woman smh 💬🗨
Sometimes...they Will Ignore the Mom too if He's Toxic or Fake Disrespectful or lies...I Find Most Men Who do those kind of things Without Good or at least Respectful or Mature Clear Communication Are Usually Doublestandard, Controlling, Hiding Things or Not Very Vulnerable Or just Transparent..Don't make Good Healthy Relationships..u R Asking for Trouble and Heartaches, Women should Give men Same respect
Never put a woman on the same pedestal of his mother.
@@Kimmica20 that's disrespectful a man should never go through a womans phone period. He dont pay your bill.
Because our mothers love us unconditionally and other women love us for our money, energy, time, attention or how we make them feel. Not unconditionally.
Amen to that ❤
When a man ignores you, it’s selfish and inconsiderate of what they put you through without communication, reasons should be expressed, whether good or bad , talk about it , everyone is entitled to reasons, don’t just ignore.💯‼️
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Sometimes insecure men do this to create confusion in you …and other times he’s hurt and processing it
Ignoring to me basically says, he’s not trying. He doesn’t care. He’s selfish. I got ignored right after my son died. When I needed him most. Later on he let me know..lol..he tried to slide me into the friend zone. He just showed me who he is! So I turned cold. Was not his friend and now he’s petty and gaslit me. I will never allow someone to ignore me again. If you ignore me, your unsure about me. Ladies, don’t waste your time! Leave! Someone else will give you the attention you deserve.
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Sometimes people who you think will be there for you in difficult times ignore us and we feel so hurt but at least you know there is no loyalty or good character. Sorry about your loss! Stay strong!
When my mom died I realized who really cares for me because some people disaapreared. Now i dont need them in my life. God bless!🙏🌈💙
I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Sending you love and light!❤
Sending love for healing/dealing of the passing of your son.💜💙💚🧡💛 Psalm 23
I’m so sorry... Sending prayers 🥺🙏
Finally, someone acknowledges that being ignored is STRESSFUL! Thank you Stephan. Everyone is trying to say to keep cool or just carry on which we TRY to do. But of course at the back of your mind, it’s a nagging thought WHY…
Yes it can cause anxiety especially when you don't understand why you're being treated this way and don't think it's fixable.
Yessss the nagging thought be like “why is he ignoring me?” Especially when nothing has happened just out the blue ignoring ! It’s disrespectful and sickkkkk!
It is and yes it happened to me before but I realized men also do this if they know they have no more lies left you are going to fall for so he may as well walk away... It hurts but I rather they do and instead of using us.
@@PrettiRissaIt hurts and it’s frustrating but it does happen to the best of everyone. Not everyone is honourable enough to talk to someone when walking away because some people are just simply cowards.
@@PrettiRissa Right????
I believe we are tooo strong minded they love weak minded women or women they has little say so.
I just had a guy I was interested in ignore me for two weeks..i understand life happens but his excuse was “I knew I was going to be busy for the week of Halloween and I didn’t want to be slow responding to you and the week after that I was busy for work” so he got upset when he reached out and I didn’t make time for him. He then tells me “there is no other woman” I said I never brought that up and I never said it was lol but thank you got giving yourself away. I told him I was texted you and you didn’t respond for TWO weeks so I stopped texting so keep that same every you had for those weeks! Ladies pay attention to the signs and believe who they are when they show you 💕
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Cheats
I totaly get what you are saying. The only insecurity i have is that maybe i misinterpit what he is showing, thinking, feeling etc
There’s always another woman😡😡😡
He's' lying. There's a 75% chance there's someone else. Men are terrible at multitasking.
Ain’t nobody that busy or that forgetful
Absolutely!
Hmmm telling me.
I get so tired of trying to figure people out that i just stay single lol
True👍🏾
I am a guy and got ghosted but I made my choice by deleting her number and blocking it. I will not take her back after her actions. If he blocks you or ghost move on, the damage is already done.
Oh sorry bro, how long was u ghosted before u deleted her #?
Nah. His silence already says a lot. If he cared to continue to have you around, he would have the respect to at least say he needs "time" to work on some things etc...If not, then he never valued the relationship and let him keep it movin...
If he is ignoring you jus know he is tired of you and most probably dont want you again please dont confuse yourself get another man there are plenty out there to love you n treat you better .
Just went through this experience ( he shut down) . It was very painful but I did not chase him. It actually gave me time to really re-evaluate ME! Space can give you clarity. This video gives excellent advice!! Thank you SS !!
I'm going through the same thing. I agree it is very painful and such a confusing situation 😩.I'm so glad that I came across this channel. I find these videos to be so helpful. Hearing the man's pov explains a lot. 🙌🏾 Glad you were to move forward. You got this ❤️.
Where you able to move forward? He shut down too and it really has me doing the same, re-evaluating me, which was an eye opener. He is an amazing guy. I’m hoping we can work through this.
You probably slept with him too soon if you did at all. They are shady like that.
@@jennifertrujillo4387 I moved on without him. We wanted different things. I want to be a wife one day. I hope you make the best decision for you ❤️
@@KAAT2239 we got past it. I still feel I mess up quiet often. I’m still trying to get over past trauma, overcome our differences and grow together. 😮💨
Men Dnt want committed relationships they way Sex partners! I’m tired of that foolishness
Exactly 💯
True af
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You nailed it!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Amen ladies
If, a man ignores me I see it as a blessing. God knows who is the perfect man for me. “Walk on Bye” 🙌🏽
Going suddenly silent on someone, to me, is a sign of immaturity point blank. Because if they were mature enough, they would at least have the decency to tell someone what's going on or whatever the issue is, even if they may end up hurt when it's all said and done. But at least there was communication. This video hit home and it is quite personal to me currently. But it's nothing for me to cry over b'se it's not a relationship. Well..sorta kinda. But it’s all in God’s time. I respect a man who communicates how he feels, rather than just hold it in then resolve to ghosting😕 #majorturnoff #superdisappointing
I feel everything that you wrote. I am currently being ignored and possibly ghosted by a guy that I was dating since June and it hurts. I would’ve really appreciated him coming out and telling me how he felt, especially if he didn’t want to continue dating me.
@@Kimmica20 Wow... I am so sorry you experiencing this.
@@kaym5015 Thank you so much!
@@Kimmica20 ❤ Be encouraged God will bring you through just like how he brought me though. My fiance cheated on me with a women attending the same church. I had my wedding dress and everything, but I had to call of the wedding. God brought me through He will help you as well. It's about 9 months now! God Bless you! Dating comes with risk and the Bible Tells us to guard our Hearts.
@@kaym5015 Thank you for your words of encouragement. It has been so helpful seeing comments like yours sharing your experience. That helps me to see if you are able to get through your tough times, then so can I. Thank you again. God Bless you too!
I'm going through this right now with my fiancé. He's on the other side of the world and communication is just a struggle on his part. He keeps saying sorry all the time and I keep accepting his apologies. Everything you've said here has happened. He knows I'm always there whatever time he calls, text or video chat but yet, he's not as available like I am. No effort shown at all. We've talked about it many times but it keeps happening on his side. It's stressing me so much. I feel ignored & disrespected. He doesn't care that I stays awake all night worrying about him. Today, I decided to help myself and relieve me from this stress by blocking every way he can reach me. I'm going to try my best to be strong and just try to move on. It hurts me very much but I've learned self love, self respect. I know what's my worth and what I deserve. I need to be with someone who's on the same level of energy like me. Thanks for your videos. It keeps me going- after a painful breakup in the past.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Me too has failed to accept the fact though have been ignored
I’m going through it now with nowhere to go if I leave I need out I’m ready so ready!!
The person I was with started ignoring me since September, I've suffered like never...I was getting ill....because when I stopped communicating with him too, he would send texts with sad 😔 😟 emoji...and then like nothing happened....and he would go back to silence, then I finally had the courage to block him....he contacted me from another phne asking why he was blocked....and again after days without a word he texted interested in se. Gave up completely, I need to be strong
This is unacceptable, communication is needed. If a man is ignoring you it’s for a reason, who has time for gaslighting,mind games? It’s very unhealthy and definitely a turn off. Know your worth, do not stress over it. Do not let anyone make you feel like it’s ok to accept that, address the real issue. If no changes are made going forward simply block & delete. It will be his loss not yours, set your boundaries! #YouAreWorthy👑
Ignoring someone is flat out childish PERIOD! It's simply unnecessary to ignore someone, if you're not interested then say so. In today society it's too much game playing, to where it's turns you off from trying to date.
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but you need to focus on doing what is truly best 🙏
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He told me I was low priority so I had to leave to find someone who thinks I'm high priority.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I think it is best to let it be , leave him alone, if you notice a pattern in the dodging questions/facing music, ignoring game. Hold your head up, smile, block and keep it moving...may not be easy but you have to first love yourself! I am doing my best to keep this in mind everyday
It's like you can never LOVE yourself enough!. But believe it or not these be the main types of men that's always on datings apps and they need to be downloading a therapy app instead with they non-interpersonal skills having ass!
@@starfish713 yes I agree! The dating app types are a just a hot mess.
That's true I'm going through that now he's definitely dodging questions because I picking up on his patterns already. This is pointless if I can be honest with you from jump why can't you . 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
@starfish713 "but believe it or not these be the ones on the dating app" very true. I met one off BLK. Straight covert narc. He shut me down, invalidated me, and then eventually ghosted me. He says "I apologize" that was day after v day all after he love bombed the heck out of me. I'm a little hurt but since I didn't get my feelings in it, I'm ok but it still hurts. He'd say how pretty and beautiful I was, questioned why I wanted to be with HIM etc...left me confused but I'm making it through. Been binge watching Stephan, Tony, and that guy Lee who's a diagnosed narcissist to gain clarity.
@@kimberlykingNikki32
I think dating app should be banned.
If a man ignores me, it means or he doesn’t a real feeling for me, his feelings for me has changed or he wanted to move on. In this case, I let him go. Never pursue a man, if he really loves you, you don’t need to do all these things. Communication is very important in relationship.
@@muhammadibrahim6372 why I should call him? I'm OK. I'm not struggling with any relationship
I’m a woman and I use to do this to both my husbands. I’m not proud of it. It was my way of saying I’m mad, so leave me alone.
It was very immature.
One spouse told me it was a form of torture. The other threatened divorce if I ever did it again(now he does it to me).
I learned this behavior from my dad(my dad a secret mental disorder). He spontaneously did this to my mom til the day she died, 40 years of marriage.
It’s a very immature and evil behavior.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I always have this problem in my relationships. I think l trigger this. I will check my behaviour. Thank you for the video
The guy I am dating... He is ignoring me. GONE! Because I had enough of his mixed signals and shut him down. I was at the "breaking point" with him. I am better off, because I am seeking a REAL MAN with a REAL COMMITMENT.
I pray you are able to receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you so much for your kindness. I know there is a man out there somewhere, looking for a woman like me. I will wait..... :)
Funny how a REAL MAN involves anything that benefits YOU. You must have expertise at being a real man. Perhaps you have a Y chromosome too?
So why are you writing this or even watch this vidéo ? Because you feel something, you wanted him to insist but he didnt... You cant said you you was the breaking point and also said that he is ignoring you... 🙄🙄
If someone ignores you they are telling you one of two things . 1. You don’t matter. OR 2. You don’t matter that much. Child, move on…
I had a gym crush for months and one day finally worked up the courage to say hi.. we would make small talk here and their and say hi to each other some days.. time went by and he started being distant and ignoring me. One day I saw him talking to other girls and realized he would only say hi to me when those girls weren’t around and ignore me when they were around. That’s when I had to decide to ignore him back and not entertain him anymore. I’m worth much more than that.
We tell ourselves whatever to make ourselves feel better after rejection from the ones we like.
A man/woman ignoring you is God's protection and/or way of showing you he/she is not the One. I'm blocked for calling a Narcissist out. At first, I was nice about holding him accountable. He came back a month after us both splitting, saying everything but "I'm sorry" and had the audacity to declare love (manipulate) & to try to change the cause of our conflict (gaslight). All I needed him to say was, 'I'm sorry' & I would've forgiven him. I know he knew he was wrong but he wouldn't say sorry to me, which set me off. No one is perfect. Bottom line, I don't think he's capable of saying sorry to any woman b/c that would make him a Beta-male. Despite our great chemistry, I can't be with him b/c I think he's toxic. I've been in a relationship with a "man" before who could do no wrong, take no accountability and it destroyed my confidence & self-esteem. So seeing that this time around made me 🏃🏾♀️ & harshly (disrespectfully) call him out on his BS because I knew it would be permanently closing the door on that chapter. Its truly a shame we couldn't be friends and I sometimes miss him, but I can't trust him. I sonetimes wonder what we could've been, if it weren't for his pride/ego/ Red Pill ways.
Wow this is what i went through … not even an “i apologize”
I went through something similar and all I wanted him to do was recognize that he hurt my feelings. I told him even if he wasn't sorry for what he did, at least apologize for hurting my feelings. He kept saying he wouldn't apologize because he didn't do anything wrong. I told him to go and have a good life, I was done. Then I deleted and blocked him.
Girlfriend running 🏃♀️ was the best thing you could have ever done ✅ Been there done that too, that’s why I need a Soldier!
No time for the BS
@@adriennea8309 Same here. I 🏃♀️
I have just been dumped by a narcissist and this was his attitude exactly
Some men , could be struggling mentally or depressed. Problems with family, stressed out. It could be a number of reasons , why he's ignoring you.
Side chick
"Men don't have feelings." "Men are supposed to be rigid but at the same time, be in tuned with a woman's every feeling and need." Stephan has two points. He made two points but unfortunately, this is the only lady I've seen so far make mention of the FIRST point he made. Why are most persons focusing only on the negative? Can't you be supportive of your man, or A man, as you'd expect him to be supportive of you? Where did the unionised sense that a relationship is to have go? When did things become so one-sided, to the woman's favour?
Well he should be man enough to express that and communicate that..
@@akeishaharris Exactly that's why theres suppose to be communication.
You try to give them benefit of doubt you know?
We as women after a breakup we usually get therapy, go to church, or listen to healthy videos like Stephan. Men leave one relationship to another w/o getting therapy. Their “D” leads them to repeat the same bad behavior with the next one, the next one and the next one. I just left a relationship where he was a mamas boy at 67-years-old, controlling, demanding, never apologized, emotionally aggressive! A mess! I hope he fixes his traumas for his next lady!
Bc they need God in their life.
I swear God is using you to help me SO timely…
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks this resonates with me
Even though I understand why a man might have to ignore a woman sometimes.
I don’t think it’s ever the right thing to do, because it could eventually blow up in your face.
Communication is always key in any relationship - that’s why it’s called a relationship.
It’s like being in a “ship” with someone, and there’s always going to be ups and downs.
But you have to find a way to constantly “relate” to them - not ignore them!
It’s a relationship - not ignoreship! Lol I know…
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 makes sense 🤔
@@veky_witdagudhaircolon1671 Thanks! I try. Lol
We (women) don’t always see this as a good sign, it’s not good in what we consider good. As far as him revealing his true intentions it’s great let him go. Don’t be bitter because he is hurting. But be cool that is getting himself out the way.
You deserve better
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When they lead you on and show they want you and are interested is the rude part... then they ignore you out of the blue like you're just a game.
How about, he's cheating and doesn't want to deal with you, trying to "shake you off him" emotionally , and may also be breaking you down, so you get disappointed, discouraged and leave. Now, he's free to move on with the person already on hand.
I see no need for an adult to " shut down, when he's very much verbal- all he has to do is, have a conversation with you, telling you what the problem is so you can " fix things" or harmonize things with him and set the relationship back on its right foot and keep it going.
A man who ignores you when he wants to and "pops" up later when he needs you, is in that relationship selfishly, for
himself. He only pops up now, because, he wants something from you. After which, he will start to ignore you again.
Just kick such a one to the curb, and keep it moving. Cause, you will be wasting your time by staying. His behavior will always be a circle which will lead to your constant heartbreak, worry, frustration, confusion and pain. You deserve better. That man needs to grow up and learn to talk things over to maintain a relationship.
Thank you Queen!! Period! Couldn't have worded that any better 👏🏽❤️❤️
Yes it true
Spot on abt the men just looking for sex. They don't txt you back very soon. They are slow to respond and sometimes take a day or 2. Don't waste your time on them. Move on and delete them.
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When a man ignores you and you are both already in an invested relationship where you two have built a consistent healthy communication and pretty much are clear that you like each other, that ignoring is because he's hurt about something.
But when a man ignores you and he hasn't even built the healthy foundation of consistent communication and has given you clear signs that he likes you, if the ignoring is happening in the beginning, - then it's him distancing himself because he actually doesn't want you to be too into him because he is not trying to bring you to any kind of progressive level.
You have to match the 'time' invested with the behavior
He constantly ignores my phone calls and texts. Then when I do it ...he explodes. I've talked to him about it. He will do better and then it goes right back to the same thing. I refuse to continue like this in 2022. Life is too big of a blessing. Thanks for the great video Stephan
❤ 🙂 thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!
A poison like this is dishonest. Hiding something or someone, consider it a blessing , love yourself & find better.
@Vanessa Louis I appreciate your response but being that you and I have never met and you have the audacity to make a response like this addressed to me let's me know that you are not the person that I would take any advice from especially relationship advice.
Drop and move on. You deserve better treatment than this.
Going silent for days, and then resurfacing....I call this SUBMARINING!! I don't do submarines, so please remain silent...permanently! 💯
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When someone ignores me, I clearly receive the message that I don't matter to them unless or until they want something from me. At that point, I'm like if I mean nothing to you, then you can mean nothing to me as well. If someone is purposely trying to trigger me, I don't deal with children, so goodbye. It's just like if someone tries to make me jealous, not only does it not work, but at that point, I'm disgusted and lose all respect for that person. I've also learned not to let the history stop me. For example, I've had friendships where I knew someone for years and they betrayed me. Let's say you've had someone in your life for 15 years. Yeah, it's time wasted -- 15 years down the drain, and it truly does suck, but that's better than 15 years and one day, one week, or one month, and definitely better than more years wasted chasing something that's either gone or never was. I won't allow myself to chase or beg someone -- it's degrading to one's own self. Like if someone asks for time and space, my attitude is I hope you're calculating velocity because I'm not hovering in a holding pattern while you try to discern whether or not there are greener pastures or put me on a shelf to collect dust until you're decide that you're bored enough that I'm worthy of your acknowledgement of my existence. You'll return to find me no longer there.
This was so on point and perfectly stated. Thanks for sharing
@@jemiamidget1247 Thank you.
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Love this
@@lindsayhartman7135 Thank you.
Ignoring me is a clear sign and a weak move but i get it cause there's always more to it. I think it's how we perceive the individual individually. Every situation is different
Soo many games men play is so draining that it’s better to just stay single in exchange to have inner peace.
Those who ignore = COWARD
Why would one be in a relationship with someone they don't feel safe talking to? This seems toxic to me.
Absolutely!
sure some people act wired at times.. how're you doing?
Men make it harder than it has to be… that's Real Talk!!! People need compliant/ complimentary love languages. "ignoring' your partner is Never, ever okay. Take it easy & focus on progress 💙
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace focusing on progress. Thank you for sharing ❤
@@MeetStephanSpeaks absolutely 🤗
I don’t think men realize how their inability to be open and communicate is really hurtful. I would text someone back even if I weren’t that into him. I’ll be honest and move on. The damage men do is immeasurable.
Men test women to see how far they can go and if you really care about them💯
No excuse for a man to shut down and not communicate…use your words!! I’ve learned to give what’s given to me!! I will admit I’m mindful of my tone when I’m talking… the biggest key is what you said interest!!!
No. The power of walking away is the ONLY power you have over a woman who is being disrespectful. Not like you can throw her into the ropes and choke slam to get her to act right.
Depends on the situation.
If she has rejected him, he has taken it as reality, is deeply hurt, respects her answer, and goes no contact to protect himself and do what he has to, to move on. This is a mature way to respond. We don't keep putting our hand on a hot stove.
He cares deeply, but if the feelings arent reciprocal, he is simply guarding his heart. Being friends just won't work.
This is just an example of a healthy ignoring you behavior given the circumstances
Divine timing is this video.
God bless you Stephan.
You're anointed most highly.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Even though I understand why a man might have to ignore a woman sometimes.
I don’t think it’s ever the right thing to do, because it could eventually blow up in your face.
Communication is always key in any relationship - that’s why it’s called a relationship.
It’s like being in a “ship” with someone, and there’s always going to be ups and downs.
But you have to find a way to constantly “relate” to them - not ignore them!
It’s a relationship - not ignoreship! Lol I know…
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I Enjoyed the video, I was in a situationship
I ended it after I call him out face to face on his behavior. He got lock jaw. He didn't mean me any good..I am older but I am not street smart. My decerment did kick in. He was a wolf in sheep clothing. 🐑
Great Video 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼REJECTION IS PROTECTION.
Non consistency is disrespectful. I’m not a dog, no man will not train me for his own personal use. Clearly I would not date a grown selfish boy playing games and don’t know how to have a healthy relationship. It’s very hurtful. That’s dysfunctional.
“Address the issue in a calm way that will bring you peace” tell the truth with kindness, thank you, this is invaluable advice 💕✨
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
No response is a response ✌🏾
A man I have talked to for a few months recently began becoming more distant. When I brought it up, he essentially said that he felt he was initiating most of the time and he didn't like the fact that I still had an active dating profile. We never actually had the talk about becoming official so how was I to assume we were? When I texted him asking if we can have a phone conversation about things he hasn't responded. Ignored my last two messages. I just want to communicate about this like adults, meanwhile, he's gone silent. It's so frustrating especially since I know a conversation would have clarified both issues. This video came at the right time for me.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing!
@Faye's Food, I had a man ignore me after 2 weeks of dating b/c we hadn't yet kissed. Don't worry. If it's meant to be, it'll work out.
I feel u totally!
@@Cpre1111 Exactly
@@Cpre1111 Thanks for the kind words! What's meant to be will be. Always have believed that.
Ignoring someone is not a bad thing if someone has wronged you, and you're trying to move on.
It's a problem when you ignore someone as a form of manipulation. That's when it becomes childish.
Do men have more meaningful conversations with their homeboys and just tolerate conversation with their wife or girlfriend? It’s seems some men can talk to their boys all day but when at home with their women they make it seem as if we women talk too much
homeboys listen, alot of women do not. why tell a woman a situation when she will judge or throw it back in your face. women indirectly judge their boyfriends/ husbands all the time. he knows if he tells her she will throw it in his face. it same as when woman dont like to be honest about their past. the person they are dealing with hasnt shown the ability to handle it properly..
@@zero1188 true or homeboys support their boy when he's in the wrong & enable him to stay stagnant. I find that these homeboys are always there to smoke, drink, hang out, play games, but when life gets really tough, they're nowhere to be found. That's what I take issue with: grown boys with these types of homeboys, who continue to put friends before their girlfriend/parents/immediate family.
@@Cpre1111 so its always the man's fault got it.
Bam! I agree, I see this ALL the time as well.
My friend ignored me because i text him and tell him why is he not responding to my text so he said he was watching something here on tv. So i text him and said that his wife is wearing the pant cause he cannot talk nor text when she is home. He blocked me it is a year now.