Hello I have a very serious question for you .... This may not be the platform for this question I know this , but this situation is what has changed my life ... How do I finally confront one of my older brothers about sexual abuse I just want to heal but I need to take care of this I'm 51 years old how do I come to him with this ? Can you please please help me
If a man doesn't communicate clearly - run, don't walk to the nearest exit. They have unresolved issues, and they have zero to do with you. Bye boy...heal yourself. I ain't your mama, therapist, or booty call.
If he ignores you, you’re just not on his radar. The earlier we accept that, the better. Their loss, really. Even if they’re hurt, they should communicate that. We’re not mind readers. And women shouldn’t have to be the one reaching out 100% of the time. A man who really cares about the relationship won’t let his woman slip away. I have listened, given “space,” opened every line of communication possible and nothing. It’s like out of sight, out of mind. Women have feelings too and it feels shi**y being the one reaching out All. The. Time. Most of us weren’t raised that way.
I agree with you 💯. I was in this situation, and it took the man 2 weeks to respond to me after sending another message to say I messaged him. I blocked him from my Facebook after this. I was definitely not raised to chase a man and be disrespected.
Yes I agree. Men shouldn't ignore you for any reason, especially if you know and he knows you have done nothing but be there for him. Every blue moon some men tend to just drop off bc they wanna do what they wanna do and then come back when it doesn't work out for him. The sooner, the better is best said...LET HIM GO! I'm not into that too emotional men stuff. Kinda suspect to me. 😢
@GoodKarma.Sharon He said you messaged him, but he was quiet for 2 weeks? I don't get that. A guy would say he wants to get to know me, yet the convo is dried. How can we get to know each other better if you are responding? Then wait for me to text first like no. We all don't like texting I get that but make an effort another like a phone call, a lunch talk etc
@@angiesnipes7443 Please don’t diminish who you are for someone else! Guys generally do like a confident woman that challenges them. Don’t believe the made up bs that it’s “your” fault in the s*x department-what a copout on his part. Communication is the basis for Everything. Keep shining and being who you GENUINELY are!!! 🌹
IF YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE {MAN or WOMAN} PLEASE STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE WHO ARE SANE AND WISH TO REMAIN SANE IN THE BRAIN!!! It’s an exhausting and draining experience. It’s almost 2024 and there are way too many resources and tools nowadays to adjust these issues. GOD, therapy, and self work!
I really don't care what he is thinking when I know I've just being myself. He can go and make someone else unhappy. Life is hard as it is to complicate it with trying to read minds and understand other people's expectations. Emotional immaturity will always turn to playing games. I'm way over that.
Men ignore for so many reasons. The reasons can be as vast as the number of men, or women, for that matter, who choose to ignore. It has been my relationship experience that not talking is easier than being accountable for their short comings. Engaging in conversations that are uncomfortable or result in negative exposure is really difficult for some people. They are more comfortable with losing a relationship than dealing with the embarrassment of negative exposure.
I believe this happens more often than we care to admit. So many men aren’t where they want to be in life and are embarrassed of their shortcomings. This is so true!💯
That’s the biggest turn off to me, I’ll never tolerate such behaviour even if he’s the best guy i ever met.. i forgave his ghosting once because he had valid reasons and handled confrontation well. Then later He ignored me for three months now, again. i have to move on 💔 and choose the guy who can’t ignore me and consistently showing up. Boy bye ✌🏻
Sometimes we have to remember if the guy has made it pretty clear that he didn’t want something serious. Sometimes we reel back in with eachother, start getting attached again, then he remembers he doesn’t want to lead you back on so he pulls back again so it becomes a repeated cycle and we feel hurt
Narcissists do this to manipulate. Educate yourself on all forms of narcissism, in particular, covert narcissism. If your love interest fits that description, run. The silent treatment is barely scratching the surface of what's really going on with him. It can't end well. Ever.
OMG yes! It's ok if I do it but if you do it, it's not ok! I don't get that mentality at all! The lack of self-awareness is baffling and I can't deal with that type of ignorance anymore
I'm just as we speak going through this . I was Matched up ( through mutual friends ) with a guy & he's the one who reached out to me . (we've been chatting for 12 days so far) & at first he seemed into me & I thought the conversation was going great . We'd text back and forth & whenever he'd asked me as question I'd reply ( within 1-2 hr time mark. Just to not seem too desperate) and then he'd ghost me and not continue the conversation. & then the only time I ghosted him was 2 days because I was sick (& I explained that to him ) & he seemed cool about it. & so we continued the conversations . Then he'd text me back, I'd reply & he's ghost me for 1-2 days without explanation (not that I need any ofc) & then just these part few days, he stopped texting me . (I didn't want to take the initiative because I thought " why is it always me? & whenever I do, I don't hear from him ) & as much as it hurts me because I was staring to feel like this guy was genuinely interested in me . I said to myself " asi como lego, se fue . De la nada que llega, de la nada que se vava " In English: Just as it came, it left. "From nothing that comes, from nothing that goes" If he didn't put in the effort like I tried to, why should I?? and I just stopped talking to him overall. From rejection comes redirection. 😌
The only lesson it teaches is that they’re unreliable and someone who KNOWS they’re hurting you and doesn’t care, doesn’t deserve your love. Find a safe person-one who communicates and doesn’t hurt you purposely. Those people-men & women-are game players and “ain’t nobody got time for THAT.” 😊
Ikr...I just want to sit pretty, polish my nails 💅🏾, and look good whenever I do prance around. 👠 I'm not trying to get my feathers ruffled. 😊 #PeaceOfMind #StressFree
I have communicated my concerns then he ignored me. Then, I stopped. Few days later he reached out. Ignored him and he still reached out. After a week being quiet I finally speak up and let him know that if we are going to continue talking he can’t just ignore me. He agreed. Few weeks out our conversations flows organically. I have found out more issues including dealing with the ex. wife drama. And I noticed he only wants to talk about himself hence signs of narcissistic behavior. And just because I didn’t hangout with him one time he took offense of it by not responding. After days of not hearing from him I have decided I'm cutting him off in any possible way of communications including social media. it hurts. but Im walking away…no more excuses. Im not tolerating cycle of disrespect.
Most men don’t and that’s the sad part about it. Definitely don’t waste your time even if you’ve already invested. Take the loss and charge it to the game.
If a man ignores you..., he's not into you. He doesn't care about your feelings. Dump him. The End. Women shouldn't need so many videos and coaches about how to get, date, keep a "man". If he's that complicated, he doesn't deserve a relationship until he gets mental health treatment and/or grows up.
Women this is a real teaching here. Brother Stephan says”if a man is ignoring you is because he is showing you he is not serious about you and point blank disrespectful” this is the hard truth it doesn’t matter the circumstances of what led to him ignoring you. It’s not a good thing and start preparing to detach from this man😢😢😢😢😢it’s a black white truth
God, I appreciate this man so much. Legitimately I have gotten so much farther with my guy due to Stephan’s coaching. I don’t have any healthy men in my life that I can turn to when I need guidance, and Stephan provides all the help I could possibly need. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Happy Holidays everyone!
Men really need to get their ish together and STOP PLAYING THESE SCHOOL BOY GAMES!! If you're really not interested, SAY SO!! Otherwise, Grow up, learn to listen, not react, to what is being said to you. Accept accountability WHEN YOU ARE WRONG and be open to learning how to allow yourself to open up and be vulnerable to the woman you love.
I completely agree with you. Some people are so childish it's embarrassing. They can bring you down into the pettiness with them or you can walk away with class . You have a choice. These people are so low level.
@@tanyaflanders2196 Also requires you woman to own up and be responsible as well. Y'all think men are childish and we think woman are childish, but who's ready to be accountable for their behavior?
After months of watching nothing but videos like this on ever platform I can firmly announce, I’ve given up on society, and patiently wait until god flushes this world down the toilet. Everything is garbage.
Very accurate! If someone keeps leaving you it’s because you’re not creating a nurturing loving space for them or they are incapable of providing one for you. Either way, best thing for both parties would be to leave it alone! Focus on your life!
I disagree. I know for myself, I provided all types if love, care, nurture,catering my God everything!!! While listening to his growing up stories, it actually was, he was emotionally destroyed. His daddy had kids all over the U.S. of A. His mother baked desserts like Matha Stewart and took it all. She was a mean lady. Somehow, he was the youngest and can barely read, which it normally be the older siblings who can't read for having to take care of yhe family. He was following what he grew up seeing. It had nothing to do with me. He really thought, saying, "I love you made u believe it. That's a pure narcissist perriiaatt!
@@xxcellence7172 I 100% believe you are able to provide all of those positive feedback to your personal relationship. But it’s important for you to have that space where you can be that and I know it’ll only make your job harder when he is not emotionally physically even financially available. Space = availability
You can be loving kind & caring & the person will still go cold Simply bc out of love care & kindness you tell them the TRUTH ppl lie to themselves and want others to do the same or they go 👻
This videos on point- most people shut down when they’re being attacked or they’re being ignored. If a man’s ignoring you rethink what you’ve done and see things from his pov- if he has the problem it will eventually be clear but if you’re the one causing it that’ll be clear too. I shut down and ignore when I know someone’s gaslighting me or just plain not being truthful.. and of course when they have outrageous ridiculous behavior
? I know exactly what you’re saying regarding the ridiculous behavior ugh I get it .its all because of there own guilt and believe me they’ll make you feel you’ve done something wrong and it can be as little as you saying 1 word to trigger it lol it’s so childish I understand how you feel love . May God bless us all and praying 🙏 for you, and everyone. Wishing everyone A Merry Christmas 🎄 ❤️🥰🙏Right on. Much love 💕
Yeah I’m the same way smh my be bpd or something. Ik one of the symptoms are extreme emotions good and bad. Once something happens that trigger me it’s so hard to not just drop it. I pride myself on at least I won’t string a women alone. Once the situation doesn’t serve me I dip.
I recommend checking out Jayson Gaddis's work, The Relationship School Podcast. He has done tons of videos on how to navigate conflict in "high stakes relationships". And published a book 2 years ago called "Getting to Zero" - which is about how to navigate and work through conflict and disagreements. Definitely very insightful.
They will ignore you until they need you! Then they start stalking when you forget them! They ignore you from the beginning! Why from the beginning????
If a man ignores you it means he has another woman or women whom he wants a relationships..he has so many options around him..he is not fragile 'coz he knows what he's doing.
There should never be confrontations, there should be communications. If you don’t want to communicate because you think it is going to be a confrontation then you don’t want to resolve the issue or you don’t want your real self to come out.
He’s done things that has caused me to shut down. So I speak on it, then he feels I coming at him crazy. I’m never disrespectful in my approach. So we both shut down because I’m not entertaining emotionally disconnected men. I’m okay with it.
Definitely reached out to check on him from a “PURE PLACE” always have…neva “took” anything always gave…always made it clear, i “DONT WANT” anything other than “LOVE” bcz thats all i have to “GIVE”….
Good book, He's Lying Sis. I just finished the book and am on 40 prayers for my future husband. I have read, The Man God has for you, God where is my Boaz?, Finding Love after heartbreak Volume 1, and How to get a Man to Cherish You. Good reads and good information. I would recommend all of these books. Thank you for sharing your experience.
You are right now that and now I see who he really is and now that it has come to light and I have walked away and put myself first. He understood and was told I hope you find a nice guy one day cause you’re a great person. All I said was thank you
I've been watching and learning from you for nearly 3 years. I have learned so much about myself and healthy relationship dynamics by applying your methods and spiritual viewpoints. I just recently started watching Stephan Speaks for Men, so I can be on the same page as my future husband. The most fascinating thing I am realizing is that men and women are basically looking for the same things when it comes to long term partnership. I find it amusing and eye opening that many of the things you teach us (women), are the same concepts you teach to men! Though men and women are different in the way we approach life, when it comes down to the basics of love and wants and needs, we are similar. I apply that in my thinking now. Stephan, you are a gift🙏🏾
Congratulations for your work. I have been attacked by several narcissistic, frenemies who hated my beauty, confidence, independence, artistical talents, success and I had to grow, evolve and free myself of them , learning why I could not see the manipulation, passive agressive tatics. I began studying about toxic relationship, child traumas, the abusive patterns I was submitted as a child, raised to be good, submissive, perfect as classic dancer etc. I am still healing but working hard to break these terrible patterns. Thanks for the message.
They’re players. End of story. Alls it takes is one time going through this, maybe twice to solidify that, yes, you are being played and toyed with. Then after that, never again!
It is very important to take accountability for how you may be approaching the man about his actions/behavior, as someone who never learned how to properly communicate I had to reevaluate how aggressive I come off sometimes when I’m addressing concerns and instead of coming off like I’m attacking them for it or trying to argue, I realized that was never necessary to do and I can find better ways to address these things in a more kind tone where they won’t feel like they have to be defensive and can actually listen to what I’m saying. I’ve seen a big difference in changing this behavior. Your videos help so much with understanding these topics in different perspectives, it’s not always black and white, there can be a gray area that may linger in circumstances and you make sure to address that.
If a man is ignoring you especially when you know you use to communicate often he's either giving is attention to someone else or he's got a problem he don't wish to share with you hence he goes into the ignoring mode, bad idea never leave yiur woman unattended 🤔💕
I believe that some of these men have a fearful avoidance attachment style. So the best thing is to examine what you are willing to deal with. However communication is a make or break in any partnership. You can not form any kind of connection.
Thank you for this. I never been to therapy or counseling but OMG. I wish you did one on one. I definitely need help on why I'm drawn to this dude when I don't have feelings and he ignores me when he in his feelings. It's a weird situation that I normally don't entertain. 😢
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If you're already in a relationship and the ignorance continues thats a problem. If starting a new relationship let the man have some time to absorb the situation. Let him contact you.
Been in a situationship with a man for almost a year now. And when I address where is this going with him, our communication on the matter wasn’t the healthiest. He leaves me feeling confused with his responses and he devalues my feelings all the time; where I always feel like I’m not getting a clear response. Last thing he said to me on the phone was “you love going to bed tight”. I said “I don’t.” He said “You do and you will. Goodnight” and now it’s been a week since he’s been ignoring me. He has my bike, jewelry, clothes and other belongings. If he’s done with me, why not give it back ? I emailed him and told him that he has until new years before I get the authorities involved for theft of Stolen personal property.
My goodness Not a nice situation to be in ,hudge red flag If you are a believer pray and ask God for guidance You will get over him I pray u find the right person who deserves your time love and energy Best of luck God bless you
Iam going through this process right now with this man playing with my heart is like he is leading me on and then another time he is gone cold and it hurts he is around me at my home he does things for me he treat me .ike a man should treat a woman but he is so uptight on the other end is like he is afraid of relationships so he leaves me in a place where iam believes he is not interested in me the way I think he is
It makes me think that he have other options when he don't gaf about how he treats me. Cause it once was almost a DEAL BREAKER. Because it's not healthy for my mental. However, I'm learning to put him in thought that he will loose me. So it's best that he don't do it.
A simple open communication goes a long way..Either you are interested in a person or you are not.If you are, tell them, if you are not, tell them.Why waste so much precious time and energy???We all are wounded in some way or the other and we need to work on ourselves.Hearts are fragile on both ends, let's not forget that❤
Suffering was my religion for far too long. Some weird sense of honor/duty/nobility with it. Felt like I was in integrity by suffering, and I would not let it go. Became a sort of identity, even. BECAUSE... When we are repressed, we don’t trust ourselves and we look for rules on what to do, how to act, and how to behave...
Not my issue, but listening to your sensible opinions adds to the Holiday Season and a Merry Christmas. The season is a good time to put anything disturbing off. A new year and better times bring with it. Please God.
This guy really playing in my face he hot cold it crazy I just be in my head the whole time. I be trying to keep cool and act like I don’t care because I’m not chasing nobody I’m cool on that but I’m also confused. But I should see it for what it is
I've learned to stop trying to decode what men mean when they do stuff like this. Ultimately, is that the way you want to be loved? We have to make our decisions more about what is best for ourselves and not them. If your not being loved the way you resonate with then what are you getting out of it? I don't care what he says, its all about what he does and moreso about what YOU want. Let that 🥷 go! Free your space. The right man won't have you feeling confused about a single thing that confusion nonsense way to stressful and don't be worth the headace. The right man will be VERY clear and you will know.
it’s passive aggressive, but it works: if they ignore you, ignore them 10x worse. If you try to address the issue, all they hear is “nag, nag, nag” .. so you have to play a mind game.
ohh, so he does NOT enjoy the cookie from his own dough!!??! But he likes to give it to you!!! Fkcc him to the curb, for real..he is playing mental games, is a red red flag!!!! Brenda, I am a woman like you and I have been soo foolish, up even recently , but it makes me mad and sad to see another woman suffering from bullhit-ery from shameless men like this! In his text message, the way he wrote it, to me - he is actually straight up admitting, that he has been ignoring you ON PURPOSE!! I mean, is not easy to ignore someone accidentally, because ignoring somebody takes more mental effort than acknowledging! So he made a decision to ignore you , prolly to see if you are the type to run after him and become a doormat, then he sees you are not doing it and he cannot control himself and texts you this pissy little message to kind of ''sting'' you and provoke you to engage with him, to make you start justifying yourself!!! RED FLAG ALERT! Look, if he plays this bs game in the beginning of relationship, when people typically do try to leave a good impression on others, like if he does this shit now, later on, it will get worse, I can promise you this !!This is a shit test.. thankfully there are a couple of billion other men on this planet, so what do you lose by closing up doors and windows of your life so he got no access to you anymore ! choice is yours, but as someone who has seen this shit situation before- many times - and myself also ''tasted'' it - cut him off with no explanation, asi said, close those doors, do not let him provoke you with bs texts and calls, even if he sends flowers - ghost and NEVER look back! Guard your peace, sis ! Have a wonderful and healthy this New 2024!
I wish I had seen this video 4 years ago. At least I would have understood better that hurting situation. Yes, lack of respect and clarity ruins any relationship. Rmn 8.28. Now I just pray that if there is a second chance, it can be in the right way :/. Thank you for your videos @Stephan it is amazing how you analize and deeply understand all those situations that you explain is. Thank you.🎉
TY Stephan. Your tutorial’s brings me truths as when I have gone to church or get into the word and know its god speaking through it or someone directly to me. So I know god has gifted you for what you preach.
Yes, love the idea of expressing that you need time to process things before responding. Especially because some people do need that time to consciously reflect on the situation so they can respond from a place of understanding rather than emotion. lol I’m some people. 😂
See lol😂why does the man’s behavior remind me of the movie “Two can play that game”. People just need to be honest and communicate when they can or throw an ad lib or something keeping everything copacetic 😂
He only gets in touch because he needs your help, ignore him back. 😂😂 I know for a fact I always treated him well. So he isn’t upset with me, he uses people, it’s about him not me. I know where i stand and he knows where he stands.
Going through this now.. he ended things over his inability to communicate. 2nd time. Im going through heartache. Blocked me on everything. So now im done.. never settle for someone who does this. Its immature and damaging. Ffs hes 55 years old.. leave me the hell alone!!!!!
I don’t care who it is, you have to take responsibility for your actions and should one decide this not truly where either desire to truly be , then get the stepping, time out for bull Schitt period, life is to precious for dung!!!
We were cool for 2 weeks getting to know each other and 1 sudden day he never texted back or called , yet went on to being active on his social platforms, I gave it 3 days and deleted his contacts we move I don't get time to push a grown man to talk
Make it make sense. Either u want her or u dont.. just how hes going to be able communicate his feelings to a woman he really loves when hes emotionally unavailable? Its not that hard when u of age. im a woman and i know when im not interest in a man. Ill let him know that im not. If i just want sex then ill tell him that but its not that hard to communicate hes just being a coward and dont want to man up. If a woman is consistently texting him, being there for him, and encouraging him to do better what else is there for her to do?
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Hello I have a very serious question for you .... This may not be the platform for this question I know this , but this situation is what has changed my life ... How do I finally confront one of my older brothers about sexual abuse I just want to heal but I need to take care of this I'm 51 years old how do I come to him with this ? Can you please please help me
If a man doesn't communicate clearly - run, don't walk to the nearest exit. They have unresolved issues, and they have zero to do with you. Bye boy...heal yourself. I ain't your mama, therapist, or booty call.
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
SO TRUE!!!
Exactly❤️🙏🏽
This!! ❤
If he ignores you, you’re just not on his radar. The earlier we accept that, the better. Their loss, really. Even if they’re hurt, they should communicate that. We’re not mind readers. And women shouldn’t have to be the one reaching out 100% of the time. A man who really cares about the relationship won’t let his woman slip away. I have listened, given “space,” opened every line of communication possible and nothing. It’s like out of sight, out of mind. Women have feelings too and it feels shi**y being the one reaching out All. The. Time. Most of us weren’t raised that way.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
I agree with you 💯. I was in this situation, and it took the man 2 weeks to respond to me after sending another message to say I messaged him. I blocked him from my Facebook after this. I was definitely not raised to chase a man and be disrespected.
Yes I agree. Men shouldn't ignore you for any reason, especially if you know and he knows you have done nothing but be there for him. Every blue moon some men tend to just drop off bc they wanna do what they wanna do and then come back when it doesn't work out for him. The sooner, the better is best said...LET HIM GO! I'm not into that too emotional men stuff. Kinda suspect to me. 😢
@GoodKarma.Sharon He said you messaged him, but he was quiet for 2 weeks? I don't get that. A guy would say he wants to get to know me, yet the convo is dried. How can we get to know each other better if you are responding? Then wait for me to text first like no. We all don't like texting I get that but make an effort another like a phone call, a lunch talk etc
@@angiesnipes7443 Please don’t diminish who you are for someone else! Guys generally do like a confident woman that challenges them. Don’t believe the made up bs that it’s “your” fault in the s*x department-what a copout on his part. Communication is the basis for Everything. Keep shining and being who you GENUINELY are!!! 🌹
All I’m saying if a man ignores me for days. I’m letting him go immediately. That is an absolute hell no.
Except you don't, and you won't.
well, what came before
Simple!
IF YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE {MAN or WOMAN} PLEASE STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE WHO ARE SANE AND WISH TO REMAIN SANE IN THE BRAIN!!! It’s an exhausting and draining experience. It’s almost 2024 and there are way too many resources and tools nowadays to adjust these issues. GOD, therapy, and self work!
It's possible to be emotionally over available too.
Great messages.....yes damaged ppl damage healed ppl.😊
Agree
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Truth
I really don't care what he is thinking when I know I've just being myself. He can go and make someone else unhappy. Life is hard as it is to complicate it with trying to read minds and understand other people's expectations. Emotional immaturity will always turn to playing games. I'm way over that.
Totally agree how many people we have to be mothers to
Me too.
Different strokes
For different folks
If a man ignores a woman
Hudge red flag
He,s flat out not interested
Recognise this ,move on
Not sure, he's came back before
My ex husband did this. Ignored everything I said or text then was upset when I filed for divorce. Audacity was at an all time high
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Men ignore for so many reasons. The reasons can be as vast as the number of men, or women, for that matter, who choose to ignore. It has been my relationship experience that not talking is easier than being accountable for their short comings. Engaging in conversations that are uncomfortable or result in negative exposure is really difficult for some people. They are more comfortable with losing a relationship than dealing with the embarrassment of negative exposure.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
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As unfortunate as this is.. it's so true
I believe this happens more often than we care to admit. So many men aren’t where they want to be in life and are embarrassed of their shortcomings. This is so true!💯
They just need to be a man and say they are not or no longer interested and then move on.
Exactly, instead of being a coward.
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Exactly 💯
Yup exactly 💯
True dear
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absolutely correct!
Hallelujah, Amen
Amen.
Amen 🙏☺️
Amen🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
That’s the biggest turn off to me, I’ll never tolerate such behaviour even if he’s the best guy i ever met.. i forgave his ghosting once because he had valid reasons and handled confrontation well. Then later He ignored me for three months now, again. i have to move on 💔 and choose the guy who can’t ignore me and consistently showing up. Boy bye ✌🏻
Sometimes we have to remember if the guy has made it pretty clear that he didn’t want something serious. Sometimes we reel back in with eachother, start getting attached again, then he remembers he doesn’t want to lead you back on so he pulls back again so it becomes a repeated cycle and we feel hurt
Thiiiiissssss🙌🏾💯🙌🏾💯yup! Wow!
Narcissists do this to manipulate. Educate yourself on all forms of narcissism, in particular, covert narcissism. If your love interest fits that description, run. The silent treatment is barely scratching the surface of what's really going on with him. It can't end well. Ever.
You always speak to exactly what is going on in my life. When you ignore them right back then they wonder why.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
OMG yes! It's ok if I do it but if you do it, it's not ok! I don't get that mentality at all! The lack of self-awareness is baffling and I can't deal with that type of ignorance anymore
How long did you ignore your's?
I'm just as we speak going through this .
I was Matched up ( through mutual friends ) with a guy & he's the one who reached out to me . (we've been chatting for 12 days so far) & at first he seemed into me & I thought the conversation was going great . We'd text back and forth & whenever he'd asked me as question
I'd reply ( within 1-2 hr time mark. Just to not seem too desperate) and then he'd ghost me and not continue the conversation. & then the only time I ghosted him was 2 days because I was sick (& I explained that to him ) & he seemed cool about it. & so we continued the conversations . Then he'd text me back, I'd reply & he's ghost me for 1-2 days without explanation (not that I need any ofc) & then just these part few days, he stopped texting me . (I didn't want to take the initiative because I thought " why is it always me? & whenever I do, I don't hear from him ) & as much as it hurts me because I was staring to feel like this guy was genuinely interested in me . I said to myself " asi como lego, se fue . De la nada que llega, de la nada que se vava "
In English: Just as it came, it left. "From nothing that comes, from nothing that goes"
If he didn't put in the effort like I tried to, why should I??
and I just stopped talking to him overall.
From rejection comes redirection. 😌
Good!! He ghosted me a month ago after getting back together. I should have never given him a second chance!!
Dont push yourself. People will love those they love, pray.
Sometimes they ignore you to teach you a lesson, especially if they know it hurts you.
Men are very vindictive
It's mental and emotional abuse and manipulation
The only lesson it teaches is that they’re unreliable and someone who KNOWS they’re hurting you and doesn’t care, doesn’t deserve your love. Find a safe person-one who communicates and doesn’t hurt you purposely. Those people-men & women-are game players and “ain’t nobody got time for THAT.” 😊
When he ignores you, he’s just not that into you. Move on. If he attempts to get you back, be careful and choose wisely.
I'm so turned off about a relationship right now. Ugh I'm good right now
🙏 ❤️
I agree
Ikr...I just want to sit pretty, polish my nails 💅🏾, and look good whenever I do prance around. 👠 I'm not trying to get my feathers ruffled. 😊 #PeaceOfMind #StressFree
Same here. Waste of energy and effort. Pointless.
Exactly! All I do is dress and rest cause love don't live here anymore- Poetic Justice
I have communicated my concerns then he ignored me. Then, I stopped. Few days later he reached out. Ignored him and he still reached out. After a week being quiet I finally speak up and let him know that if we are going to continue talking he can’t just ignore me. He agreed. Few weeks out our conversations flows organically. I have found out more issues including dealing with the ex. wife drama. And I noticed he only wants to talk about himself hence signs of narcissistic behavior. And just because I didn’t hangout with him one time he took offense of it by not responding. After days of not hearing from him I have decided I'm cutting him off in any possible way of communications including social media. it hurts. but Im walking away…no more excuses. Im not tolerating cycle of disrespect.
These are BS games. I just want to say grow the hell up. Don't play games or mess with someone's heart ❤😢
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Most men don’t and that’s the sad part about it. Definitely don’t waste your time even if you’ve already invested. Take the loss and charge it to the game.
Exactly
Sooo 💯 right. Just grow up already and tell the woman what's bothering you.
If a man ignores you..., he's not into you. He doesn't care about your feelings. Dump him. The End.
Women shouldn't need so many videos and coaches about how to get, date, keep a "man". If he's that complicated, he doesn't deserve a relationship until he gets mental health treatment and/or grows up.
Amen
Women this is a real teaching here. Brother Stephan says”if a man is ignoring you is because he is showing you he is not serious about you and point blank disrespectful” this is the hard truth it doesn’t matter the circumstances of what led to him ignoring you. It’s not a good thing and start preparing to detach from this man😢😢😢😢😢it’s a black white truth
He's came back before but not this time. I'm Done
God, I appreciate this man so much. Legitimately I have gotten so much farther with my guy due to Stephan’s coaching.
I don’t have any healthy men in my life that I can turn to when I need guidance, and Stephan provides all the help I could possibly need. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Happy Holidays everyone!
Praying for my peace of mind now
There was no fight but he just stopped communicating with me. Pulled away completely.
You definitely played games and he caught on.
Men really need to get their ish together and STOP PLAYING THESE SCHOOL BOY GAMES!! If you're really not interested, SAY SO!! Otherwise, Grow up, learn to listen, not react, to what is being said to you. Accept accountability WHEN YOU ARE WRONG and be open to learning how to allow yourself to open up and be vulnerable to the woman you love.
I completely agree with you. Some people are so childish it's embarrassing. They can bring you down into the pettiness with them or you can walk away with class . You have a choice. These people are so low level.
@@tanyaflanders2196 Also requires you woman to own up and be responsible as well. Y'all think men are childish and we think woman are childish, but who's ready to be accountable for their behavior?
@@RamadonPiano I hear you. I don't date females so I don't experience their bad behavior. But I do believe they can be equally as bad.
They don't "tell you" because you can't "take the truth".
After months of watching nothing but videos like this on ever platform I can firmly announce, I’ve given up on society, and patiently wait until god flushes this world down the toilet. Everything is garbage.
😅😂 that was hilarious but don't give up hope just yet girl!
She gave up hope already just as I have. Lol 😂
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It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks your videos have been extremely helpful during my spiritual awakening. Thank you for sharing your gifts with the world.
This topic hits home. Hearing it from your lips confirmed what my gut was feeling. Thank you
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Ignoring you cause he has been hurt an it cause him to shut down. Best thing to do is love them enough to walk away.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Never stop making your amazing videos, you're helping us women so much 🥰♥️
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Very accurate! If someone keeps leaving you it’s because you’re not creating a nurturing loving space for them or they are incapable of providing one for you. Either way, best thing for both parties would be to leave it alone! Focus on your life!
I disagree. I know for myself, I provided all types if love, care, nurture,catering my God everything!!! While listening to his growing up stories, it actually was, he was emotionally destroyed. His daddy had kids all over the U.S. of A. His mother baked desserts like Matha Stewart and took it all. She was a mean lady. Somehow, he was the youngest and can barely read, which it normally be the older siblings who can't read for having to take care of yhe family. He was following what he grew up seeing. It had nothing to do with me. He really thought, saying, "I love you made u believe it. That's a pure narcissist perriiaatt!
@@xxcellence7172 I 100% believe you are able to provide all of those positive feedback to your personal relationship. But it’s important for you to have that space where you can be that and I know it’ll only make your job harder when he is not emotionally physically even financially available. Space = availability
So true
You can be loving kind & caring & the person will still go cold Simply bc out of love care & kindness you tell them the TRUTH ppl lie to themselves and want others to do the same or they go 👻
This videos on point- most people shut down when they’re being attacked or they’re being ignored. If a man’s ignoring you rethink what you’ve done and see things from his pov- if he has the problem it will eventually be clear but if you’re the one causing it that’ll be clear too. I shut down and ignore when I know someone’s gaslighting me or just plain not being truthful.. and of course when they have outrageous ridiculous behavior
However at some point, the core of the problem must be addressed and discussed rationally. This is what mature people do.
What is outrageous ridiculous behavior?
? I know exactly what you’re saying regarding the ridiculous behavior ugh I get it .its all because of there own guilt and believe me they’ll make you feel you’ve done something wrong and it can be as little as you saying 1 word to trigger it lol it’s so childish I understand how you feel love . May God bless us all and praying 🙏 for you, and everyone. Wishing everyone A Merry Christmas 🎄 ❤️🥰🙏Right on. Much love 💕
Yeah I’m the same way smh my be bpd or something. Ik one of the symptoms are extreme emotions good and bad. Once something happens that trigger me it’s so hard to not just drop it. I pride myself on at least I won’t string a women alone. Once the situation doesn’t serve me I dip.
Sometimes it a lifestyle that one person doesn’t want to commit too .
Do a video on how to have healthy conversations during a conflict and get to the core issue.
I recommend checking out Jayson Gaddis's work, The Relationship School Podcast. He has done tons of videos on how to navigate conflict in "high stakes relationships". And published a book 2 years ago called "Getting to Zero" - which is about how to navigate and work through conflict and disagreements. Definitely very insightful.
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
They will ignore you until they need you! Then they start stalking when you forget them! They ignore you from the beginning! Why from the beginning????
If a man ignores you it means he has another woman or women whom he wants a relationships..he has so many options around him..he is not fragile 'coz he knows what he's doing.
There should never be confrontations, there should be communications. If you don’t want to communicate because you think it is going to be a confrontation then you don’t want to resolve the issue or you don’t want your real self to come out.
Very well said. Thank you
My man told me why his ignoring me. And I’ve learned that I have I healed trauma and start to blame him for things I have no proof of
He’s done things that has caused me to shut down. So I speak on it, then he feels I coming at him crazy. I’m never disrespectful in my approach. So we both shut down because I’m not entertaining emotionally disconnected men. I’m okay with it.
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Girl literally going through the same thing. I wish you peace and happiness moving forward with or without him 🙏🏼
Definitely reached out to check on him from a “PURE PLACE” always have…neva “took” anything always gave…always made it clear, i “DONT WANT” anything other than “LOVE” bcz thats all i have to “GIVE”….
Man demands respect, women demands safety, ok and when you give them what they want they demand 3 times more our expectations😊😢🇩🇴🇱🇷
Good book, He's Lying Sis. I just finished the book and am on 40 prayers for my future husband. I have read, The Man God has for you, God where is my Boaz?, Finding Love after heartbreak Volume 1, and How to get a Man to Cherish You. Good reads and good information. I would recommend all of these books. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Blew up my guys phone. So embarrassing. Ima wait several days or more before reaching out. He’s giving me every sign he’s not into me. Ughhhh.
Real shyt… I learned to just let pple “be”…. Cuz “EYEAM” the PRIZE!!!
You are right now that and now I see who he really is and now that it has come to light and I have walked away and put myself first. He understood and was told I hope you find a nice guy one day cause you’re a great person.
All I said was thank you
I ignore because I can't talk to someone so I find things to keep my mind off things. So I won't try to talk. I am so happy to be alone LOVIN IT!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I've been watching and learning from you for nearly 3 years. I have learned so much about myself and healthy relationship dynamics by applying your methods and spiritual viewpoints. I just recently started watching Stephan Speaks for Men, so I can be on the same page as my future husband. The most fascinating thing I am realizing is that men and women are basically looking for the same things when it comes to long term partnership. I find it amusing and eye opening that many of the things you teach us (women), are the same concepts you teach to men! Though men and women are different in the way we approach life, when it comes down to the basics of love and wants and needs, we are similar. I apply that in my thinking now. Stephan, you are a gift🙏🏾
Congratulations for your work. I have been attacked by several narcissistic, frenemies who hated my beauty, confidence, independence, artistical talents, success and I had to grow, evolve and free myself of them , learning why I could not see the manipulation, passive agressive tatics. I began studying about toxic relationship, child traumas, the abusive patterns I was submitted as a child, raised to be good, submissive, perfect as classic dancer etc. I am still healing but working hard to break these terrible patterns. Thanks for the message.
I hope he's thinking that I'm going ghost, cause that's exactly what's going to happen. 🤷🏾♀️
I'm done with the old and 💯 ready for new.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Me too. i can ignore as well
What lies beneath the minds of the people??..WE never know....I am a communicator....
I was blocked for hours or even a whole day if I started getting emotional and crying. It was constant and tormenting.
They’re players. End of story. Alls it takes is one time going through this, maybe twice to solidify that, yes, you are being played and toyed with. Then after that, never again!
Thank you Stephan, I needed to hear this
Not worth it. One strike and they are out.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
It is very important to take accountability for how you may be approaching the man about his actions/behavior, as someone who never learned how to properly communicate I had to reevaluate how aggressive I come off sometimes when I’m addressing concerns and instead of coming off like I’m attacking them for it or trying to argue, I realized that was never necessary to do and I can find better ways to address these things in a more kind tone where they won’t feel like they have to be defensive and can actually listen to what I’m saying. I’ve seen a big difference in changing this behavior. Your videos help so much with understanding these topics in different perspectives, it’s not always black and white, there can be a gray area that may linger in circumstances and you make sure to address that.
Thanks Stephan for this confirmation
My number one reason
I would never approach a man first
Irrespective of the way I may feel about him
Hi everryone
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If a man is ignoring you especially when you know you use to communicate often he's either giving is attention to someone else or he's got a problem he don't wish to share with you hence he goes into the ignoring mode, bad idea never leave yiur woman unattended 🤔💕
Omg this video helped me understand where I’m at in my relationship rn 😮😅 - THANK YOU
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Open and transparent. That's what I was being. Said something about an ex. Now I'm being ignored due to jealousy.
I believe that some of these men have a fearful avoidance attachment style. So the best thing is to examine what you are willing to deal with. However communication is a make or break in any partnership. You can not form any kind of connection.
Thank you for this. I never been to therapy or counseling but OMG. I wish you did one on one. I definitely need help on why I'm drawn to this dude when I don't have feelings and he ignores me when he in his feelings. It's a weird situation that I normally don't entertain. 😢
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If you're already in a relationship and the ignorance continues thats a problem. If starting a new relationship let the man have some time to absorb the situation. Let him contact you.
Ugh!!!!😑 I hate the shut down after a fight!!! The guy I’m talking to does that and I think I’m at a point where I don’t want to handle it anymore.
Been in a situationship with a man for almost a year now. And when I address where is this going with him, our communication on the matter wasn’t the healthiest. He leaves me feeling confused with his responses and he devalues my feelings all the time; where I always feel like I’m not getting a clear response. Last thing he said to me on the phone was “you love going to bed tight”. I said “I don’t.” He said “You do and you will. Goodnight” and now it’s been a week since he’s been ignoring me. He has my bike, jewelry, clothes and other belongings. If he’s done with me, why not give it back ? I emailed him and told him that he has until new years before I get the authorities involved for theft of Stolen personal property.
My goodness
Not a nice situation to be in ,hudge red flag
If you are a believer pray and ask God for guidance
You will get over him
I pray u find the right person who deserves your time love and energy
Best of luck
God bless you
Iam going through this process right now with this man playing with my heart is like he is leading me on and then another time he is gone cold and it hurts he is around me at my home he does things for me he treat me .ike a man should treat a woman but he is so uptight on the other end is like he is afraid of relationships so he leaves me in a place where iam believes he is not interested in me the way I think he is
Words of wisdom for sure.
Thank you !!! Great video.❤
I appreciate that 🙏
It makes me think that he have other options when he don't gaf about how he treats me. Cause it once was almost a DEAL BREAKER. Because it's not healthy for my mental. However, I'm learning to put him in thought that he will loose me. So it's best that he don't do it.
A simple open communication goes a long way..Either you are interested in a person or you are not.If you are, tell them, if you are not, tell them.Why waste so much precious time and energy???We all are wounded in some way or the other and we need to work on ourselves.Hearts are fragile on both ends, let's not forget that❤
Good point your right.
Great, Information.
Thank You.
👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾👍🏾
My pleasure ❤️
1:23 thank you for saying this part. This is my first time having my feelings truly validated by a man, in a way that didn't blame me at its core.
Suffering was my religion for far too long.
Some weird sense of honor/duty/nobility with it.
Felt like I was in integrity by suffering,
and I would not let it go.
Became a sort of identity, even.
BECAUSE...
When we are repressed,
we don’t trust ourselves
and we look for rules
on what to do,
how to act,
and how to behave...
Not my issue, but listening to your sensible opinions adds to the Holiday Season and a Merry Christmas. The season is a good time to put anything disturbing off. A new year and better times bring with it. Please God.
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I told a guy i love him and he asked me to stop talking to him and ge didnt want to see me again...i cant really fathom how that is even a mistake
Its not a mistake you told him how you feel he didnt reciprocate.
It was clearly unwanted move on to someone who cares about you
This guy really playing in my face he hot cold it crazy I just be in my head the whole time. I be trying to keep cool and act like I don’t care because I’m not chasing nobody I’m cool on that but I’m also confused. But I should see it for what it is
Run away and stay away. This guy is too immature for you. It's so unattractive!
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Girl.. I’m going through this same exact situation right now. It’s so frustrating smh.
I've learned to stop trying to decode what men mean when they do stuff like this. Ultimately, is that the way you want to be loved? We have to make our decisions more about what is best for ourselves and not them. If your not being loved the way you resonate with then what are you getting out of it? I don't care what he says, its all about what he does and moreso about what YOU want. Let that 🥷 go! Free your space. The right man won't have you feeling confused about a single thing that confusion nonsense way to stressful and don't be worth the headace. The right man will be VERY clear and you will know.
@@dawntanner3144 you definitely right about everything you said.
it’s passive aggressive, but it works: if they ignore you, ignore them 10x worse. If you try to address the issue, all they hear is “nag, nag, nag” .. so you have to play a mind game.
This is a very informative video. Must watch for the ladies.
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Start of new year I started ignoring him! He text me “ who’s ignoring who now”?? WTH I am not chasing anymore!
ohh, so he does NOT enjoy the cookie from his own dough!!??! But he likes to give it to you!!! Fkcc him to the curb, for real..he is playing mental games, is a red red flag!!!! Brenda, I am a woman like you and I have been soo foolish, up even recently , but it makes me mad and sad to see another woman suffering from bullhit-ery from shameless men like this! In his text message, the way he wrote it, to me - he is actually straight up admitting, that he has been ignoring you ON PURPOSE!! I mean, is not easy to ignore someone accidentally, because ignoring somebody takes more mental effort than acknowledging! So he made a decision to ignore you , prolly to see if you are the type to run after him and become a doormat, then he sees you are not doing it and he cannot control himself and texts you this pissy little message to kind of ''sting'' you and provoke you to engage with him, to make you start justifying yourself!!! RED FLAG ALERT! Look, if he plays this bs game in the beginning of relationship, when people typically do try to leave a good impression on others, like if he does this shit now, later on, it will get worse, I can promise you this !!This is a shit test.. thankfully there are a couple of billion other men on this planet, so what do you lose by closing up doors and windows of your life so he got no access to you anymore ! choice is yours, but as someone who has seen this shit situation before- many times - and myself also ''tasted'' it - cut him off with no explanation, asi said, close those doors, do not let him provoke you with bs texts and calls, even if he sends flowers - ghost and NEVER look back! Guard your peace, sis ! Have a wonderful and healthy this New 2024!
Ignore me and you may as well continue it. Cause I’m super str8.
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Awesome message ❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I wish I had seen this video 4 years ago. At least I would have understood better that hurting situation. Yes, lack of respect and clarity ruins any relationship. Rmn 8.28. Now I just pray that if there is a second chance, it can be in the right way :/. Thank you for your videos @Stephan it is amazing how you analize and deeply understand all those situations that you explain is. Thank you.🎉
That's very true 💯
💯 yes!
TY Stephan.
Your tutorial’s brings me truths as when I have gone to church or get into the word and know its god speaking through it or someone directly to me. So I know god has gifted you for what you preach.
you have a wonderful smile truly
Can you stop making so many videos I can relate to I have to catch up!! ❤❤❤
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Good video and thank you!!❤
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Yes, love the idea of expressing that you need time to process things before responding. Especially because some people do need that time to consciously reflect on the situation so they can respond from a place of understanding rather than emotion. lol I’m some people. 😂
See lol😂why does the man’s behavior remind me of the movie “Two can play that game”. People just need to be honest and communicate when they can or throw an ad lib or something keeping everything copacetic 😂
He only gets in touch because he needs your help, ignore him back. 😂😂 I know for a fact I always treated him well. So he isn’t upset with me, he uses people, it’s about him not me. I know where i stand and he knows where he stands.
If there are kids involved its a big challenge indeed.
Going through this now.. he ended things over his inability to communicate. 2nd time. Im going through heartache. Blocked me on everything. So now im done.. never settle for someone who does this. Its immature and damaging. Ffs hes 55 years old.. leave me the hell alone!!!!!
This is what helped destroy our marriage
I guess I never looked at men being fragile 😮
Right, it’s almost like they’re humans with human emotions. Smh
Sorry! Being Ignored = Little or No Interest. Just leave - you're not a baby sitter or a therapist. Too much work!!
I don’t care who it is, you have to take responsibility for your actions and should one decide this not truly where either desire to truly be , then get the stepping, time out for bull Schitt period, life is to precious for dung!!!
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We were cool for 2 weeks getting to know each other and 1 sudden day he never texted back or called , yet went on to being active on his social platforms, I gave it 3 days and deleted his contacts we move I don't get time to push a grown man to talk
Make it make sense. Either u want her or u dont.. just how hes going to be able communicate his feelings to a woman he really loves when hes emotionally unavailable? Its not that hard when u of age. im a woman and i know when im not interest in a man. Ill let him know that im not. If i just want sex then ill tell him that but its not that hard to communicate hes just being a coward and dont want to man up. If a woman is consistently texting him, being there for him, and encouraging him to do better what else is there for her to do?
Woman want emotionally unavailable men. Especially manipulative men.
Made perfect sense.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Thank you Steph👍
My pleasure ❤️
How he forget. You may have treated him a way he did not want to be treated. He told you you invalidated his feelings soooo✌🏾