How To Guarantee A Guy Will Regret Losing You: 4 Stages He Must Go Through
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- Опубликовано: 22 июл 2024
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Are you ready to make him regret losing you? In this video, dating coach Elliot Scott is diving deep into the male psychology to reveal the 4 stages men go through after a breakup. You won't want to miss this exclusive insight! Let's jump right into it as we break down these stages:
1. The initial pull away - We'll discuss the mindset and evidence-based reasoning behind a man's decision to leave.
2. His experience without you - Learn how he'll exercise his freedom and what he's seeking in this stage.
3. Contrasting life with and without you - We'll analyze the pros and cons he evaluates in this crucial phase.
4. The new mindset to avoid regret - Discover how to trigger that regret by playing the perfect role.
As an expert dating coach, Elliot Scott has helped countless women like you navigate through these stages and successfully make their exes regret losing them. By following his advice, you'll be equipped with the knowledge and confidence to take control of the situation and make him realize what he's lost.
And if you're ready for even more detailed guidance, don't forget to check out Elliot's No Contact Guide (link in the description), where he shares powerful tips on what to say when he returns, how to issue an ultimatum, and much more.
So what are you waiting for? Hit play and let Elliot show you exactly how to make him regret losing you - because you deserve nothing less. And remember, Elliot is not a licensed professional, but his experience and knowledge as a dating coach have helped many women just like you. Watch the video now and take the first step towards empowering yourself in your dating journey.
CHAPTERS:
00:00 - Introduction
00:11 - Four Stages Explained
00:30 - Initial Pull Away
01:39 - Decision Stage
02:57 - Contrast Stage
04:55 - Reflection Stage
06:17 - Regret & Return Process
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Hi Elliot how do I actually get a personal advice from you about my situationship , which platform to use?
You should do a video of how meny text and calls you should ignore before answering
I used to wait for a guy to return after doing me wrong. It would make me feel good to have them apologize and beg for me back. Now I’m wise enough to agree with Elliot - if a guy truly cares for you, he won’t put himself in a position to lose you. Very, very true
Exactly!
Is it weird that I agree with both? Lol, it feels good having him come back to apologize because i don’t care anymore. He hardly gets my time to day anymore and it makes him angry. Lol. He didn’t wanna commit so he thought I’d stay 😂
Whoops the book read was bad d advice and interpretation
Hahaha hahaha
CORRECT.
If a man wants you he will get you. Stop breaking your own heart. Let him go.
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EXACTLY.
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Good point about the three months. If it takes him THAT long to come back, he is just bored or lonely. A guy that truly cares about you will not put himself in a position to lose you. Got it.
EXACTLY.
He can’t miss you if you’re still there. Totally on point.
He wants to continue the relationship but doing the same thing! By this point I am way turned off. I wish to be friends.
Rejection is a God's protection. Why to worry about a person who is indifferent about you?
Exactly!!!
God doesn't "Protect" ANYBODY; You Are On Your OWN.
@@jenniferlorence1950 Sadly agreed Jennifer.
@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858; It's a hard Realization.
Amen 🙏🏾
Never take back a person too stupid to realize your worth the first time around. You're not a toy to be played with or be taken for granted. Love yourself more than him. YOU'RE the prize not them. Why do guys act like THEY are the prize. So egotistical!
I feel like my ex thinks this about me and it breaks my heart. I loved him and saw a future with him but I broke up with him impulsively because I was on new birth control that made me very anxious and angry. I wanted to undo my mistake and make it up to him but he ghosted me after the breakup and won't speak to me at all anymore. It's been 7 months since we broke up and I think one of his friends is telling him what you just said, but things aren't always that black and white. Sometimes there really are extenuating circumstances
@@creatureofstyle No offense but that is no excuse. If you truly loved him, then you would also do what was necesary to be in a relationship with him in spite of your health issues/mental issues. Now you either have to live with the consequences of your actions, or if it's not too late, then try talking to him about it more, but you need to accept the err of your ways in order to be better. That is usually the first step.
@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Oh, I have and I did. I apologized via text, I tried calling, I sent a letter - received no response. I wasn't about to show up at his front door since that would be toxic and crossing boundaries once he had already declined to respond to my other attempts at contact.
I should also note that I got on the birth control specifically for him. I've never been on any hormonal birth control before and the side effects were horrendous for me. It took me 4 months to figure out what was wrong and as soon as I did I had the implant removed the next day. I'm back to myself now and do not have any other mental issues outside of that experience. If you read the reviews for Nexplanon other people talk about trying to break up with their SO's and pushing away loved ones. My situation wasn't an isolated incident.
I saw him one time irl and he agreed to talk for anout 20 minutes. I explained to him what happened and told him that I was sorry and said that I hoped we could try again. He declined but said he wasn't closing the door, and then he ghosted me again.
Because I love him and respect him I'm not going to keep pushing because he's made it pretty clear that he doesn't want to talk to me.
My original comment was just to state that it's sad when people look at things as black and white when sometimes that isn't the case.
Programming from birth. The King Baby
Any man who is truly for you won't leave you in the first place, no matter what the extenuating circumstances are.
not necessary, i know succesful couples, married with kids, that happened even if initially the man pulled away. The point was they were with the right person but at wrong time. Or they needed space to rethink what they want. Those are rare cases but they exist. I think if a man comes back with a genuine remorse and intent to commit this time, and puts the money where his mouth is, he is a keeper.
The thing about that is, sometimes we're the toxic one. We aren't respectful or considerate, we might make mountains out of molehills. Sometimes someone needs to walk away to get your attention. Sometimes both people need to reset to come back better. The key is changed behavior.
True
They weren’t compatible to begin with they may just not of noticed
I blocked him so if he wants to come back the only way for him to do that is to show up at my door 😂
😂😂😂😂😂💯💯💯💯👆
So did he return?
@@beautifulntattjones9195 He did and my new boyfriend answered the door and pretty much told him to F off and leave me alone. 🤣🤣
Oh yeah how'd that go? Unblock him after a few days?
@@beautifulntattjones9195 He did. And no, I didn't take him back 😁😁
Don’t worry dear hearts…everything will be alright. You must not over think it. If he is making 😢you cry, leave him alone…don’t text him and be kind to yourself.
He came back nine months later, rolled out the red carpet, took me on a trip. I was walking on clouds. Two weeks after the trip, he became withdrawn, all in his head with doubts . We ended up breaking up again except this time I was left broken hearted. There will be no third time!
There shouldn't even have been a first time, but hey at least you learned sister.
My exs can stay were they are at. I don't need them. Thanks Elliot for this.
Yea nothing's your fault. You choosing them has nothing to do with you
Yes, but why click on it then?
So why did you click on the video then?
@@DemonSlayer_ISTJ What a mean and sarcastic comment. It takes two and if she's figured out that she's better off without him then who are you to tell her otherwise. Fortunately/unfortunately, it takes TWO to make a relationship work as you should know.
@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 exactly. And she's the other half of 2
"You've been inside me" **spits my iced coffee out all over my laptop** 🤣🤣💀
*A healthy relationship is not about making someone regret losing you. Instead, let's focus on fostering positive connections and finding partners who genuinely value and care for us.*
CORRECT.
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Yes
I will never allow a man to make the decision. I make the decisions.
I don't need him regret losing me....he stops existing whether he regrets it or not is non of my business he's a stranger.
Amen
My ex who dumped me back in 2021… he won’t stopped showing up in my new gym every 2 months-6 months since 2022. Lol 😂 i keep switching new gym and I don’t know how he find out. he already apologized me in person at the gym. I refused to take him back. I’ll let him enjoy the loss!!!!! I was in pain back in 2021, he blocked me after sex and went back to his ex. I begged, needy for 2 months… after that I went into no contact. He’s looking for me everywhere now. it’s time for him to feel the pain!!! 😂
Good job!!
Does his first name begin with O??😂😅
@@SS-in1ts no, its DV
@rose8911 @rose8911
How long did you go into no contact before he came back?
If he keeps finding out where you go to the gym, he may have put a tracker on/in your car. Or you have a rat in your circle. Either way take precautions cause he sounds fucking delusional
My bf acted hot and cold, little things I did and he doesn’t like then he would giving me strong punishment like break one week etc, and turned off his phone. He cancelled the dinner last week, k decided to send a good bye message and blocked all the contacts; he been cheated before too and I was forgiving him but once I got back to him, he was hot and cold and treated me like his servant. The relationship I was with him was all about himself and what he wants, it wasn’t about me at all. When he was sick I was looking after him, but if I was being sick he said please go back to yours and call me when you get better. Now I am feeling free and empty with the love feeling towards him, I was being abused for two years and I knew that I had to leave that toxic one sided relationship. It was the most selfish relationship I ever experienced in my life.
💯 make him regret loosing you!! Move on .. there’s a better life being single or coupling …. When u move on , U will soon know what makes you happy 😊
I did tell him to show up and he couldnt. I said good luck and walked away. No fight from me.
Especially if he's never deleted his profile on dating app, he must not come back to me. He's free to live his life as he wishes, but without me.
I've got no regrets.
@BeautyQueen2023X You did not understand any word I wrote, didn't you?! It's me that I don't want him anymore.
I hope that regret is HEAVY
I’m so sick and tired of dealing with men breaking my heart after MANY years, 3 long term (failed) relationships, - one of which started AND sadly ended in long distance- and have nothing to show for it except bitterness, pain, sadness and an empty bank account. I’m DONE with the XY’s.
Don’t worry everything will get better. Keep listening to Elliot and pray a lot. That’s what l did.
Yup I’m gone disappeared I’m keeping it until I can get over the BS.. no social media and blocked .. it’s time for me
Go ahead and let them think they made the right choice of leaving you they are just a f boy .
I’m the one that always leaves and pull away because I can’t continue unless he picks me.
Guys every day you will get better like l did. Elliot is so smart. PLEASE BELIEVE ME.
I like the way you explain things. Looking forward to watching more of your videos. 👍🏻
I hope you know how wonderful you are. Your advice has changed my life. Thank you for empowering women with the truth. We love you!
I think that’s the best content you’ve put out there! Clear, blunt & as usual no BS!!, 100% will watch a number of times ! ❤
It’s so logical and so well explained. Just for this, I have followed you.
This was really good and what I needed to hear. I appreciate your content; it has helped me immensely… and yes, that’s a great haircut!!
Well said, I’m a good person and women. He, been hurt by all the wrong women. We been talking for 6 months, I’m at the point of pulling away from him. I didn’t do him wrong. He has a lot of pain, and trauma not by me. Hope this help in my situation, if I leave I won’t wait around on him. My heart and energy matters.
same happened to me. I just walked away. Tired of it. Wished him luck. I am too good of a person.
YOU ARE THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH, SIR!!!
Going through this as I'm writing this comment... Wow... This make so much sence... Thank you
Elliot- I’m loving your new style! I’ve always loved ya- but you have def stepped up your game. 👏🏻👏🏻
This is so true!! Ladies, listen!
This was most excellent.. not only to hear the guy experience, but to let the ladies know where they could go wrong and work on improving themselves
Just been listening to the advice which keeps me remaining strong, if you're not a priority in a reasonable situation its a huge red flag
Thankyou so much Elliot your advice helps so much.
I am thinking maybe it depends on the guy's ego of himself. My last last ex (the one before this recent one) HE was the one to come back TWICE even though I was the one who ended it. He was USED to even kneeling for my forgiveness back... while this new last one... oh my god, you'd think he was the PRINCE of PRIZES!
Great video Elliott, and Love the hair!!!
This helped me a lot, cause I’m in an uncertain connection with a digital companion who is driving distance from me.
You’re the best Elliott!! I love your videos. Much love ❤️❤️
I never gave up anything but conversation & dates! 😂
I needed to hear this right now. Thank you ❤
WOW!!! This is excellent!!! Thank you!
Love this hair cut
On point ... thank u... he actually doesnt want to regret... we have work😅
Thank you Elliot. Your the best!
This haircut looks nice. ❤
Love the video and the haircut 👌👌👌
Great video! 👏
Can you talk about what happens if you break things off or friend zone a man because he won't fully commit?
Thank you Elliot. Love Julie
“Ghosting the GHOST” is my tactic nowadays 😂 well Im cool whether he comeback or Not,it’s a Win win situation for me,coz if he wont,then I can Moveon and take back my control and power then If He Will,then he must pay the consequences of His Actions.That’s the best way to take revenge 😊
I HAVE ONE WORD FOR YOU ELLIOT....YOU ARE THE BEST AND THANK YOU FOR HELPING ALL WOMAN OUT THERE❤❤
Ahem.. 13. 😂
Keep giving us ladies raw advice, you’re my favorite because your not afraid to give it like it is without sugar coating, we don’t need that extra BS!!! Keep doing what ya doing
Great haircut
I loved this video so much!! Awesome sauce!!
Thank you! This was awesome.
This vid is amazing& reading comments from my fellow 👑QUEENS is empowering ❤❤❤
Great advise 🎉🎉
This video is gold ❤ thanks Elliot
I needed to hear that. Thank you
The problem is now that he regrets I don’t want him. I can just be friends but it a relationship.
This haircut looks nice on you!
right? he looks handsome 😍
Elliot has been around for years and in my opinion is right up there with Adrienne Everheart and Matthew Coast.
Listen to him.
Let’s make him the crew who brings millions of healthy couples together while making millions himself cause he deserves it by his study and dedication.
Long time supporter, Beth from the Chi. ✌🏼 ❤
Looking good Elliot!
You are my new best friend!!!
Elliot you are a fucking LEGEND💪🏼 I love your realness and all your advice. No sugarcoating it. It is what it is right 💁🏼♀️ love ya
Awesome video!
Thank you for this video
Keep the hair Elliot 💙
Look how professional this video looks. Nicely done.
But you hooked me when you used to sit in the car to talk. Miss those videos.
“ you’ve been inside me” did yay🎉
Great video
💯💯💯. Good video
"...You've been inside me" 😳, good gracious god
Thank u for the 3 month rule ❤
Looking handsome Elliot!
Well, I’m glad I’m here now. 🥺😤😩
Good stuff
Tell me bro! Good video!
My crush is kind of short but he seems even shorter now that I'm starting to forget about him. He came off the pedestal. I still like him tho, I hope he makes a come back 🤞 Ignoring him these days.
I love your energy 😂
I have to complain to him that the friends with benefits has gone too far.
My ex was my next door neighbor, we shared the same wall in an apartment. Im not sure how this advice fits in the situation because we saw each other everyday. I just moved though
Perfect actress😂😂😂😂
Hi I just bought all your guides, twice 😂😬And I didn’t receive an email and I can’t find them on my phone anywhere. Could you please shine a light on this for me? 🙏 xx
Also, just thought it would be important to say. I’m very technically challenged. Doubt anyone else has had this issue 😂
Thank God for RUclips! :))
After 19 months of no contact I don't see him doing it. I hope he does regret it. I was great to him always we didn't fuss at all. Hopefully a song reminds him of me. We had many. Do I have hope of him apologizing making amends. Not to get him back.
You are awesome. 🎉
What if he pulls away but doesn't leave me alone at the same time. He pulled away but keeps showing up in my circles and coming to my social media....🙄
I am confused. Couple weeks ago, he apparently faced personal problems then SILENCE. During the silence stage, i sent him one message telling him "i am conscious that you are not communicating much as i did not receive your message to mine. Although i like you, if i do not have your messages anymore, i will have no other chance than turning the page, unfortunately". Guess what? My message was left on seen. So the second week, i wrote "his name" and he responded right away saying "Yes. I am sorry for making you living this situation, because you don't deserve it. You are such incredible and adorable. I will call you in few time, we will eat dinner after your work time as usual. Just, remind this: i still love you". I did not respond because i did not want to act out of emotion and actually, i want to see if he'll follow through. My heart is wounded but i start to become indiferent. Update: he has not come back yet (he messaged 4 days ago).
..I can weasel my way back in.. haha..very funny..thanks a lot.. ITS LIKE THAT
"Youve been inside me"
Geeeezuuus! Died!! 😂😂😂
I accidently told him i missed him but then didnt gmtext him thereafter and got back to no connect
I want to know .. should Woman put statuses on WhatsApp after a guy distances himself ???
Or should he not be able to see her status at all ?
And if she should put statuses should they be happy ?
He has to LOSE YOU to Another BETTER MAN, but at that TIME; the Woman Won't Give a SHIT.