1) she compliments your clothes 2) the look 3) she’s nervous around you 4) she asks you to teach her something 5) she reschedules 6) personal space 7) she remembers small details 8) she says “we”
Nice summary - Alex! Great tips - by Courtney! I know that if you’re a dude, you’re probably thinking - wouldn’t it be a lot easier if she just came out, and say something? And you’re right, it would make life a lot easier. But you, and I already know that’s not how a woman’s mind work! Most women will never be that direct with you. She’ll always leave you clues, or give you signals that she likes you. It’s up to you - the dude to pick on her signals… and make a move, or else she’ll give up, and just move on to the next guy who’s not as clueless! Cheers! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
But remember guys, sometimes women can do all of this and even outright compliment your body. But when you move in she downright say she's not interested.
@@flower_7890 I agree. It's definitely better to know for sure and move on with your life than not take the chance and wonder for weeks, months, maybe years, whether you've missed THE shot
I used to be horrible at taking hints or subtle ones when a girl was interested in me but over the years I've learned to listen better pay attention to detail and now watching her videos I've gotten way better thank you Courtney for doing what you do men like me are grateful for what you do
Guys, not caring if she likes me or not anymore has improved my success when going out with women. I don't look for signs anymore, if I want to talk or ask a girl out I do it because I want to. That's the only reason, it doesn't matter if she likes me or not. You'll find out soon enough.
There is some smarts to this. While it can be useful to pick up on signs (valuable intelligence after all) do NOT make the mistake of seeing these as PERMISSION to approach. That's a really bad mindset as it puts all the power into her hands plus your ability to spot the signs in the first place. A confident and decisive man doesn't need signs and he definitely doesn't need permission. He sees an attractive woman and approaches decisively. This can be very attractive for the woman as it shows a strong mental frame for the guy.
@@jleano609 Social intelligence is still important. If we're not connecting it's important to know that and not overstay my welcome. But signs aren't an initial decision if I'm going to ask someone out or not anymore.
-She grabs your wallet. -She asks if you have any pre existing medical conditions. -She glances at your income tax statement. -She gives you the same look she gives the ATM. -She asks if your a doctor.
I was so naïve and shy in my teens and early 20's that I totally misread some of these signs, especially the look. I never considered myself good looking, but to my great surprise, many girls did. It was a huge boost to my ego and self confidence when I had a girl approach me - I never met her before in my life - and told me I had beautiful eyes. That compliment by a total stranger started me to rethink how others see me in a positive way. By the way Courtney, I think you look pretty in pink.
I would add insecure to the first sentence. This video was honestly like a slap in the face. I don't mean it in a bad way, I mean a slap in the face as in "would you mind slapping me in the face? I'm groggy".
Some men can do this no problem but not by directly saying that to a woman.... They're commonly known as PUA's (Pick Up Artists) and they use all sorts of crazy psychological tricks to make women attracted to them.
Remembering small details go a long way! I told a girl once about me serving in the military and she recommended me a book she was reading. We actually talked a bit about it and she said the first chapter reminded her of me!
Once had an incredibly attractive woman give me almost all the hints you listed when I was in college. I had very little success at dating and my self confidence was so low that I figured she couldn't possibly be romantically interested in me, so I didn't try to date her. Moral of the story is to not be afraid to try. The worst that can happen is she says no, and that gives you the same result as if you didn't try anything at all. Additionally, my body language and hints when I was dating my wife were so bad that she was like "I don't know if he likes me or not, but he keeps asking me out, so I guess he does." haha! I'm glad she stuck it out :)
If you lack confidence, two things: strike up conversations with any and every woman, without seeking a home run. Second, after some initial moves, ask any girl out...note, this is just for the experience; don't invest yourself in it, just be cool, and self assured, cause you ain't serious so nothing matters. Be polite and kind, of course, but this is just a trial run, so no sweat.
No. There are a LOT of other much worse things that can happen TODAY. No is the worst in 1985. In 2024, no is the least of your worries. She could scream, blast you with pepper spray, kick you, yell until some white knight or security guard arrives to beat you up, call the cops or more. Getting kicked out of school is easily possible. These days, before following up with ANY come on from any woman, ask yourself "is this woman worth a night in jail?"
Courtney, Your show is consistently completely excellent. All I am looking for is a half of a sentence I can use for life and you provide that. This is what you were born to do.
@@CourtneyRyan hey what;s your opinion for flirty, very outgoing women with personal space and touching? Thats true and I'd often notice and go with that to mean a woman is attracted to you. As sociable women may be talkative but usually don't go close unless they are attracted to a person. But some ppl can be "touchy" and some are close talkers. There's a cute girl in my kickball league, she subs in and is not on the team. She's very out going and she'd get really close when talking to me, and taps my shoulder, but I noticed she at times would stand close to the other guy players too when talking to them and well one other guy tapped his shoulder playfully. Well the first game I she played on my team. The second time, she played on my team, she was mostly talking with me and and tho she sometimes talked close to another guy, she didn't talk close other then briefly. But the second time seeing her on team, she was talking close to me most of the time and if I said something to her, like a few feet away, she'd walk up closer to me and we'd talk. She'd basically shoulder to shoulder with me, sometimes brushing against my shoulder when talking, leaning over to talk and our shoulders brushed sometimes. Is that a sign that despite her having talked closer to guys at times too, she kind of focuses away and more to me?
@@miamiman24 Hot, move into availability mode, set course, remain on alert, and ask her to coffee after the game...or with a group, see how she performs...invite her to watch a similar game with other teams playing...shows interest, but you are not yet on auto-pilot.
Watching your videos helped me gain confidence, and with that confidence, I met someone who likes me for who I am. So, thank you and keep doing videos so others can get more help too.
As someone who I think might be on the lower end of the autism spectrum and struggles with picking up on social cues, this is really useful and not all of them are obvious to me. The complementing clothes, rescheduling and asking to teach something are all really interesting ones.
The rescheduling one is a huge. I used to think “you gotta chase her. She wants to be chased.” After much trial and error, I cannot recommend this approach lol 😅
I literally can never tell when "she" likes me. I haven't been able to tell for at least 20 years. I've had people come up to me and be like, "yeah, so when are you two going on a date?" and I'm like me and who? That's literally the first and only hint they give, telling other people to come up and give a hint. This is a very well spirited video, but I think the understatement part was actually an understatement lmao, like saying they can be difficult to read is an understatement is also understated. It's literally impossible, if they don't want you to know, you won't know, period.
I've gotten few of these subtle signs. But I've also learned that even then these don't guarantee that they'll lead to anything even if i make a move on these signs
Yeah, despite the signs it's probably not good to jump to conclusions so soon. Women are VERY complicated creatures, despite some saying that they are not.
I recommend you watch Coach Cory Wayne's channel. He is a master of the art of dating and relationships. If possible, and even better, buy his book and read it 10-15 times.
I think one thing to keep in mind is there are plenty of times you might have a crush on someone, but can also clearly tell that you are NOT on their radar. I don’t claim to be a master dater, but I’ve had times where this happened to me - I was bummed out, but emotionally moved on and just decided to be myself and be friends. Then as we got to know each other, I started seeing signs from her and we started dating. I don’t recommend trying to friendzone yourself, but I find that being myself rather than chasing something that isn’t there helped and I felt less stressed about the whole thing.
Thanks for including the "she wants you to teach her something," as this is one I never thought of. I really appreciate the short video interludes you used to illustrate your points about the look, the little details and the physical space tips. Nice inclusions!
@@CourtneyRyan so why not in addition to telling men what signs to look for, also telling women the benefits of being direct when choosing a man? Is it not egotistical for a woman to select a man then force that man to follow breadcrumbs to appease her?
@@Mgtowhonesty Im sorry to tell you, thats just how the cookie crumbles. Even these self proclaimed „strong independend women“ usually wait until the guy approaches them. Its annoying, but i guess us men just have to work for our stuff🤷♂️
@@clashlabs8580 because men choose to permit women to be lazy. men are taught not to expect much and provide everything so the women dont do much and expect it.
Let me tell y’all something: I ain’t got times for hints nor do I even pickup on hints. Sometimes I know they’re hints but I don’t acknowledge them because I’ve been hurt by women who’ve shown some of these signs to me then find out they were using me by leading me on or guilt tripping me. Since then, I’ve have severe trust issues with women and I don’t fall for hints anymore. I keep to myself and consider it their loss, not mine. It’s not worth taking the chance IMO unless u get that gut feeling or she actually approaches u first and “shoots her shot”. But in both cases, these are very rare occasions.
Well, the best (high quality) women will never approach a man, no matter how good the man is. Why? Because a woman approaching a man means that she's insecure that she might lose that man to another woman, which is a sign of desperation. That's why she approaches him, in hopes that she can get him before another woman does. It is not the norm for a woman to approach a man. I realized this back then. I thought that I could make women approach me by just being the best of me. Two girls approached, but they were quite mediocre. One had 5 exes at the age of like 17 (not body count, her body count is still 0) with only 2-4 month period each, and the other had a little disturbing amount of masculinity.
Ya this is my vibe also. These girls really messed up the game bad and expect us to be mind readers for their mediocre holes which she already gave to 40 other guys
@@ShadowbannedAccount I get where u are coming from but honestly they should be approaching too. It’s sad that women think that by approaching men first is coming off as desperate when it’s not because they barely do it anyway. Men approach so many more women that it doesn’t make sense as to how this isn’t desperate. When it comes to dating, women are always in denial and delusional. This is why they don’t approach us and why we are also slowly not approaching them anymore. Us men are tired of putting forth all the effort in dating and a relationship because women are lazy daters and sometimes in a relationship. That’s why it’s always one-sided and little to no effort from a woman.
One off the best signs is that she's avelable. When they like you,they will be there. Is simple as that. When girls were into me they moved mountains to be with me. Nothing is to hard.
Speaking as someone with autism and Ad/HD (disorders that can both interfere with such social signals quite badly), I find it sad to reflect on how many of these little “protocols” can go wrong for someone like me. In fact, they already have, many times. For example, not only do people with autism often dislike or mishandle eye contact, but some of us, like myself, often dislike being touched, or even approached too closely. I myself only learned this when. Female friend in college touched me to calm me down during a meltdown….and I flinched, even though she was gorgeous.
I also have mild autism and I know EXACTLY what you mean. Some people at the college I go to also have learning challenges, and this makes signals even harder to notice and understand. It’s just something that everyone has to work on, regardless of if they have a learning challenge or not.
@@blurrcs15 I'm in the same boat, and I think it isn't so much understanding signals and noticing them as it is figuring out how to act on them and making the concerted effort to do so. That's a whole 'nuther thing.
Same. Girls have no ability to connect with guys with autism/adhd. A few have gotten so frustrated with me that they blurt out exactly what they wanted and complain that I made them have to chase me. They express a lot of resentment toward me because they didn't understand I need things straight forward and clear. I've also seen them take my lack of response as an insult or a sign of indifference to them. I have real trouble making friends and developing close relationships.
I have experienced all of these 'signs', (in a number of cases all of the above with the same person,) and STILL got friend zoned every single time. So much so that I am convinced that women who do these things are nothing but sociopaths.
Another very funny sign is when they are very clear about their status being single. "I am going to meet a friend, BUT ITS NOT MY BOYFRIEND! Just a friend. I don't HAVE a boyfriend!" Happened to me once... couldn't stop smirking because it was so obvious.
I had a time when I was in college a woman liked me. When the semester started she sat a distance from me and a few weeks passed by she sat closer to me and started talking to me.
I want to thank you for putting this up. This is fantastic information, and it came out at an almost perfect time - someone I know through work (we don't work together) has been giving me some of these signs the past few times we've seen each other, and we were supposed to get together for drinks tonight but she woke up feeling ill. She texted me her apologies, and immediately offered to reschedule, which - because of this video - I immediately jumped on.
WOW, Young lady! I am watching your videos for the first time today, NO CAP?! I was impressed? But NOW? I AM BLOWN AWAY! Why?! Becases after l went over the first a second time? And watching THIS video? YOU MENTIONED NARCISSIST? Real Talk. There are alot of nice ladies out on You Tube...
Oh and I’ll add a story about her wanting you to teach her something. One time a girl asked me to teach her about basketball when I told her I found a good pickup group to hoop with. After like 15 minutes of demonstrating how to shoot a jumper and some ball handling skills, I was like “she’s dressed a little too cute for this” lol total fail by me but I ended up saving the day 😎
Then you are misinterpreting the signs my friend. And this is coming from an introvert. What I would do is ask a close friend to confirm what you see (if one is with you) or ask a friend for some honest feedback about the vibes you give off. Some people just have a skewed perception and a good friend would share the truth in love if invited to.
@@joer8273 It might just be his Approach is really bad. @Blame you need to keep it really light/fun/casual or you can easily spook her. Eg "Hey there... (small talk) ...Fancy getting a drink?" (micro-pause to check her expression isn't rampant disgust) "I know a nice pub/coffee place near here..." that sort of thing. NB your frame should always be *"I'm interested in finding out if I like you"* - then it's up to her.
Be careful if she’s making plans too fast. I got lovebombed recently and the girl lost interest in me after a few weeks. Make sure that whatever plans they are, that they make sense with the pace you both are setting.
I also got love bombed. It'll put you on a high and then she withdraws her attention and you're in the dumps. It's a Canon event. Next time I'm just straight up asking what someone's intentions are when they approach me.
I do not have much experience in dating and am only beginning to do so. So these videos are a great help! I think another sign I noticed is when the girl is intentional in finding ways to engage with you, like by sharing something on Instagram or sending text messages about things. Another may be how she mirrors your body language in a certain way (subconsciously or not), it may not mean she poses just as you do, but that she reacts to how you are interacting with her as she is engaged.
that ''mirroring'' actually something a narcissist would do, they like to mirror you in the hope that you'll get to ''like'' them. as time goes on, they will mirror and take over your personality and identity!
These are all good points. Some of which I've admittedly overlooked. Sometimes dismissing them as teasing me, playing me or just being nice. After learning a lot to be more content snd happy in life. I'm more willing to take chances.. There really is no failure as a man if you put yourself out there in a respectable manner. The only failure is not trying at all.
Summer Time!!!!!! and you are lovely Courtney ❤️❤️❤️ some women been loving my clothes saying I like your shirt one lady that works at the gym I go to said that she likes my straw hat two times I’ve smiled I told her thanks 😊
I found Courtney's channel just a few days ago and I instantly like her videos. I must say I agree to what she said here. I'm a girl too so I understand her points very well. Also, I wanna say she has a very nice voice. I'll keep watching her videos. Go girl! :)
Every time a girl I've been attracted to gives me "the look" or closes the distance between us, all rationale goes out the window and your emotions kick in. You feel butterflies in your stomach, your heart starts racing, and your body goes into fight or flight mode. It's such an intimidating feeling.
I do learn from you and now know some of the signs I've missed in the past. You seem more genuine than any other woman I've seen on the subject. You're doing a good job in helping others. I'll be perusing some of your other videos soon. 😊
Im 53 and have never had any trouble with meeting women so i can honestly say these are all accurate indicators. And from my 53 years of experience I'll give all the young men here a solid word of advice. Don't waste your time pursuing women until you have your life completely together. Your own home , good job with a future, and all the hobbies and toys you want. Focus on you until your late 30s and dont pursue a serious relationship. And when you do finally decide to have a very solid prenup and separate finances
All that does is set women up to not be able to just compliment men without sparking pursuit. This in turn leads to men never hearing nice things from women and makes depressed men. Its a garbage hint and its a garbage strat
So I have an interesting dilemma. She checks pretty much all the boxes for interest in person (positive body language, gets a bit clumsy around me, lets me into her personal space, remembers our conversations, and finds opportunities to touch me gently). She also started by asking me to teach her something. But she practically never replies to texts, and I am a conflict of interest to her work.
I looked online and found, "I just flirt because it's fun. Unless I'm really turned off by a person, I'll flirt with whoever, no interest necessary." That would explain a lot. If both parties are playing it as a game, that's fine. But one person might be looking for more than fake interest, in which case it's lying and wasting their emotional time.
first of all I don't chase, I don't flirt, I'm serious about finding a relationship to the point where it's almost business like for me, I have extreme OCD and one minor character trait or flaw that I don't like, will bother me non-stop, it's hard for me to deal with the incompetence of others
Thanks for adding the scenes. Very helpful. I get annoyed when a youtuber simply describes subtleties without showing a video. example. Yes I said video, not visual. Pictures dont cut it.
Nervous laugh girls do too. If you catch her staring at you, she looks down the away. She follows you around in the gym. She approaches you with her eyes wide open I've had all of those happen to me.
The personal space thing can be true, but the thing is: I know a lot of girls who are not romantically attracted to me but still get into my personal space and touch me. I think I am just really really kind ;)
Hello Courtney. I'm still bad at taking these hints from women. Normally I would hear from other people that this girl likes me, that girl likes me and so on but watching your videos has made me realize a lot of things regarding girls and for that I appreciate it
Courtney I think you are an honest and genuine person but, let me tell you something I know from experience, without sounding too arrogant. becoming good in life, at anything, involves striving to improve and is generally a very long process. When it comes to seduction, realizing this means before asking yourself what your expectations are (because banally beyond beauty there are so many other factors that count as a whole), having your own shit-together (also depending on your age. ), your height (it is useless to delude yourself into being able to attract models if you are short), your cultural level, the country you come from compared to the one you live in (I'm sorry to say this but if you are an immigrant it is very different from living in own country, and also there are countries in which certain mentalities of approach are not contemplated). So why don't you give a clearer overview perhaps to all those men who believe they can have some kind of results but statistically unlikely for them? it does not require a particular effort, just point out that seduction for some men requires a much greater amount of effort than that of others and, above all, do not delude people who possibly have amputated arms that they can become good with women. Good luck with your channel.
I agree with most of what you said. However, the height thing, is a myth. If it were true, I would have owned the dating scene. I am 6-2, 6-3 maybe and not bad looking at all. I don't think being tall helped anything. In fact, looking back, I can see so many instances (life in general) where being tall and muscular and broad shouldered held me back in some areas because people would get intimidated. I am quite user friendly, but I have a very stern look on my face most of the time. I am just in my own world and if women have an issue, that is on them. However, I do think that you are onto something in your last couple of sentences. I think a lot of people just are not very compassionate. They want easy, quick, low effort shit. If people are so petty that they ignore a person that has been physically damaged, mentally damaged, all that, it is a SEVERE indictment of those people. While it is easy to say, they aren't worth our time, it still hurts. Sometimes I just want to tell all of humanity to fuck off! I hate cruelty and bad humans. I can only say that there are genuinely decent people out there. They are just harder to find because a lot more "not decent" people seem to be alive today. But they are there.
Firstly, love you and Teddy, Also i'm pretty guilty of this, many a time I haven't realised I was being hit on until weeks later, unless I get a message the next day saying something akin to "Would have been nice to stay at yours" 🤦🏼♂️
@@Speedgamer2015 Yep saw exactly this on some other similar thread. Some gym chick, accusing some guy of perving, when he literally just glanced at her from across the room. This is where we are going 🙄
@@lockyp204 the one video where she was undressing herself in the front of the gym? I swear she was trying to set him up. It’s sad that this is what men have to deal with these days…
If we are nervous ourself we will not notice if she is nervous herself. Its like being panic mode/ symphatic state of the nervous system. Step one is not to be nervous ourselfs/ to be relaxed. Then we can observe better i think. But its hard when you have the tendency to overthink things. We think about how to maximize the chances, align the stars, find the perfect moment, our possible future together, make her like us and not make anything that would make her dislike us. Basically we put her on a pedestal, like an angel.
I feel that two grown adults shouldn't be playing childish games! Two mature adults should be able to actually approach and tell the other what's on their minds. Without condescending judgement...Speak your mind with the proper filter. Being open & honest is ALWAYS the BEST POLICY!
I just wish to say that as a guy who dated post divorce when I was in my mid- to late-50's, seeing the, uh, more "senior" couple on your video is great! These tips are good, whether a guy is 28 or 58! And I will say that on my first date with my now wife, she invited me into her "personal space" by touching my arm, sitting so close that we were shoulder-to-shoulder, and actually initiating our first kiss at the end of the date. We celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary this month (May 2023), and are just as happy about each other as we were on that first date.
What really really jumped out at me after watching this girls videos why men miss these signs 🪧 from women is because men are extremely straight forward! When men tell a story we want the story about 5 minutes max with just the facts who what where when and why ! When women tell a story or explain something it’s over an hour or sometimes more ‼️ someone correct me if I’m wrong ???? As men when we talk to other men we are extremely straight forward! So now when we interact with a woman when she says things we think 💭 that’s what she really saying teach me how u work out 💪! Thank u for opening up my eyes more girl ! A lot of what u said I didn’t know 💯
Courtney, can you do a video on how you know if your date went well? Point out some changes in behavior and how she acts differently after your date. What are good signs, what are signs she lost interest. Should she be acting differently? That is one I've been dealing with lately. The time is takes her to respond to your texts changes, etc. It can be helpful. Thanks.
Assuming you texted her right after the date (while still feeling the date energy) to say something nice, she should get back to you next day to say something nice. Then you propose next date and ask what days she's free this week. If she gives you 1+ options she is interested. :)
@@simontmn I've had bizarre experiences with misleading women. I went out with a woman who said she was interested. Told me to text her later on that night. She even scheduled a day and time for her mom to babysit so we can go out the following week, which never ended up taking place since she ghosted me.
@@simontmn Texting right after the date..... "Hope you got home tonight? I had a great time, thanks!". That's all. No asking for a date. And heaven forbid - never make a date ON a date - UNLESS SHE ASKS. So yes, send the goodnight text and then NOTHING for 5-7 days after. If she doesn't re-connect in the meantime you've then got one last Hail Mary call (not text) to ask for the date - after that YOU'RE OUT.
@@jleano609 "Texting right after the date..... "Hope you got home tonight? I had a great time, thanks!" That sort of thing. I find sooner the better, like on the train home after the date (I'm in London). I just dug up a random end-of-date same evening comment, after a date at the Tate Modern gallery: >>Feeling slightly dazed now 😄! mmm... xx
I recently reconnected with an old female friend from high school and she kept asking me all kinds of questions like am I religious and do I go to church. The she invited me to her church said we should go next Sunday if you are free. Of course I said yes, but fast forward to today she cancelled but said she was getting an early start to her little vacation from work which is completely fine. I can tell this girl likes me, we have been talking every single day even a couple times on the phone super late at night to the point where she falls asleep on me lol
Met someone once - showed all these signs and more - I asked her for lunch sometime - oh sorry, I have a boyfriend. See how they are. Too much work - too many games.
Saw a show once. This woman was in college and sure that her lab partner would ask her out. She kept dropping hints and giving signals he never picked up on. Her friends suggested he was gay or just not attracted to her. Eventually, she asks both questions. Nope, not gay and definitely attracted to her. He says "I really don't think you'd be interested." She encourages him to "take his shot." He does. She says no. Just wanted the ego boost.
i think i'm on to a winner .The girl at work said this morning that WE can go places i laughed and you said it .she said what I said WE .¯\_(ツ)_/¯ then she laughed and alright don't read to much into it ill keep you updated and she keeps touching me asking if i workout .ill keep you informed Courtney ¯\_(ツ)_/¯♥
I had a different encounter, a long time friend of 30+ years saw me one morning having coffee and approached me to say "I had been on her heart and mind and that she has always been very found of myself and my dear sweet late wife she said she didn't know how to contact me and prayed our paths would cross ( we used to attend the same church) we exchanged numbers and went out for coffee the next week. She told me , i didn't know it butvshe was grieving my my loss with me. She said she had no time or interest in general dating as she lives with and cares for her family. She said she thought why should I date when I can be with and do things with someone I already love. She wants to do things with me as time and opportunities present themselves instead of dating. I told her how glad I was that she reconnected w me . I said I hope this isn't the last time we get together and she planned 3 separate events w me right then and there. She is aware that I have feelings for her and has said she again she doesn't have time to date, not " I only like you as a friend or I don't feel that way about you. She invited me to join some of her family in a resent outdoor event, we hit it off immediately. I tried to pay her back some parking money, and she said ' no Next time you can pay for all of dinner. I invited her to dinner out and she couldn't make it , but wanted a rain check i said the invite is open whenever it works for her and to just let me know. She said I will. I'm falling for her and am willing to see how this plays out . Her brother told me she had mentioned me a couple of times. , sorry for the extra long commentary, I didn't know how to sumerize any better. We are both in our 60s so a bit more direct then most. Courtney, I would greatly appreciate your thoughts and advice if at all possible. Thank you, Lord bless.
My advice would be to kiss her already! :) After some appropriate touching/closeness to build intimacy, of course. BTW I'm 49 and got back into dating two months ago, met a wonderful woman a month ago, last night she said "I love you" :) :)
going back to the small details thing it also works the other way too. if a guy remembers little details from a woman it shows he was listening and showed an interest which goes a long way.
@Courtney Ryan great stuff but I'm not sure I agree with the personal space one. Simply because I've had lots of girls that I'm clearly just friends with give me hugs. One girl I recently met did say she liked my name and as I was leaving she touched my shoulder. But she did have a ring on her finger but I couldn't tell if it was an engagement ring or not (didn't have the typical diamond on the top). I'm not good at all at picking up on girls so this video definitely helps!
Yeah, young girls do this all the time. They want to be friends with everybody, or at least those they are not actively unattracted too. Those guys are invisible so if she's hugging you you MAY have a chance.
I noticed on Sunday somebody had left 49 replies in a row to a reply you had left on the comment harassing you, saying that you give terrible dating advice even though these are all meant for self-improvement and self-awareness. I don't know if me reporting some of those comments did anything but my goodness does that guy need an adult to swing a belt
@@marcmays48 it was so bizarre because I went later Sunday night walking through the comments at some of the conversations I was in and others that had taken place and this dude with type 1 word and then go and type another word and he just kept doing this replying to her handle and then later replied to another guy trying to again say she gives terrible dating advice and I had to let him know that harassment is a No-No and that this isn't dating advice this is self-improvement and even this video is self-awareness
Context matters. She may have been into you, but was no longer feeling it. Also, women are driven by natural biological cycles. If you asked her again in a week or two, you may have gotten a completely different response. 😉
Sometimes it happens that the "signs" are not really signs. Women are VERY complicated creatures and despite what people say about signs it's never a guarantee. Sometimes, like you, you just have to decide if you want to go for it and sometimes, like you again, it's not the case. Oh well.
I had a good chuckle when you said some people say to "punish" the girl that cancels. In my head I just hear 'PUNISH HER!" in that mortal kombat voice, LOL!
girl at my job has been very touchy since i met her and gets very close to me to talk to me. Thing is, I have literally met her boyfriend. I think in her case, she is just very touchy and flirty/friendly and doesnt realize it
Once men understand that a woman's default state is "strategic ambiguity", women are actually rather easy to read IME - in this case she is likely on some level thinking you might be more fun than the bf, ie monkey-branching.
Not sure it qualifies as polite, but on more than one occasion, when I’ve encountered a woman who tries to push herself onto me, close to me, or won’t stop talking/flirting with me; open palm one handed gentle but firm push on her clavicles(far enough away from her breasts to be safe from what could be considered assault) literally stopping her from moving forward while saying either 1. We are friends I don’t have any other feelings for you or 2. I don’t know you get the fuck away from me
Some advice to the more outgoing crowd out there. Be more direct. There are people like me who just do not understand all these “signs”, no matter how many vids or blogs we watch or read. It just isn’t going to happen. But you outgoing people just “get it” naturally so if you see people at a social event just being there awkwardly, go and talk to us directly because we can carry conversations, we’re just not good at starting them or interpreting social cues.
*YOU’VE* never touched a guy you weren’t interested in. But *SOME* women touch guys not because they’re interested, but because they’re just touchy - True or False?
A man likes you when he tries to do things for you. But from my experience talking to people, is that different people express their love differently. Some will reassure you, some will try to fix whatever it is you're worried about. I believe that men, true to themselves men in today's society and climate, care when a woman cares. They keep it moving if she's not interested, they are not inherently valued as a person, generally speaking this type of experience would create a closed off individual. "The only thing that can cure survival mentality is love." Remember it was the beauty who tamed the beast. I personally believe that job is up to ourselves, "loving ourselves," but our own experience can show that this is only true up until a point. I read in a book (let's not talk about the title) that a man truly wants to be loved and accepted, and if he says otherwise, he just doesn't know himself enough/can't accept those sides of him. A sign that he likes you is that he cares enough to let go of the fact that the world teaches him not to. Let me ask you, in a world where we're supposed to be equals, why would the only ones who have to earn their keep ever be open to a world that doesn't accept them? I don't know how women work as well as men since I am a man, but maybe that's why there IS so much nuance, maybe it's the fact of people are messed up/broken? Many branches go out, but they all go to the same place, how could it ever work any other way?
I brought that up when Courtney was talking about rescheduling that if the woman calls you, that is a much better sign and it doesn't seem as if she was trying to take control of your frame
@@LatimusChadimus I've done this. A co-worker introduced to him. She, him, and I had lunch during our lunch hour. She knew him from a previous job which wasn't too far where we work now. She and I took a selfie on her phone and she put it as a wallpaper and he saw us. He said he thought I was pretty and wanted to meet me. He seemed a bit shy at lunch. We got each others numbers. It was like two weeks passed by and he didn't call me. So I called him on a Friday night asked him what he likes to do for fun. He didn't get the hint and I called him on Saturday night and he finally got the hint and we went on a date that Saturday night.
She’s not a touchy person but the past few weeks she’s been touching my arms, my back, even my chest. Obviously I noticed this change. We get along really well. She sometimes calls me late at night to talk. So you’re probably thinking “dude are you stupid?? She’s totally into you” yep…thought the same thing. Then during one of our late night talks she basically said she’s not into me. I don’t understand women…
5:28 although there is the chance she could be trying to take over the frame. If she has the good manners to call you instead of texting you, I would say that is a better sign regarding rescheduling
1) she compliments your clothes
2) the look
3) she’s nervous around you
4) she asks you to teach her something
5) she reschedules
6) personal space
7) she remembers small details
8) she says “we”
Alex to the rescue 💪
Thanks broski
Appreciated 💯
Nice summary - Alex! Great tips - by Courtney!
I know that if you’re a dude, you’re probably thinking - wouldn’t it be a lot easier if she just came out, and say something?
And you’re right, it would make life a lot easier. But you, and I already know that’s not how a woman’s mind work! Most women will never be that direct with you.
She’ll always leave you clues, or give you signals that she likes you. It’s up to you - the dude to pick on her signals…
and make a move, or else she’ll give up, and just move on to the next guy who’s not as clueless! Cheers!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@alifer canimper the only sign that truly matters
Signs a guy is interested in you:
1. He says he’s interested in you
2. His bulge gets bigger.
😂😂😂😂
Even more so with an autistic person
Hahaha yess
He says he’s interested in you = Girl loses attraction and walks away.
The "look" step 2 (for men): casually look behind you to make sure there's not a better looking guy behind you.
You're better off assuming that she's looking at you
@@ellisjackson3355 Probably the best here is some jokey faux-humble check, that can turn into a real humble check if her Chad is right there!
@@simontmn yeah but if she is looking at you, then you just want to look (and be) confident and walk right over to her if you want to talk to her
Ahaha
@@ellisjackson3355 You are right that maxxes chance of success, with risk of embarrassment. That would be the Alpha move.
But remember guys, sometimes women can do all of this and even outright compliment your body.
But when you move in she downright say she's not interested.
So what? At least you know it's time to move on... the sooner the better, ask her out to find out 😜
@@flower_7890 Lol smart ass, it was an advice to the dudes seeing the video, that a girl can give all these signs and not be interested
@@flower_7890 I agree. It's definitely better to know for sure and move on with your life than not take the chance and wonder for weeks, months, maybe years, whether you've missed THE shot
@@doublevision2943 and that's the mindset of a real man, manly man who's not afraid to take a risk 😏💪
@@flower_7890 your point is irrelevant to his point.
The point being, there's no way to actually know if a woman's into you without just asking.
I used to be horrible at taking hints or subtle ones when a girl was interested in me but over the years I've learned to listen better pay attention to detail and now watching her videos I've gotten way better thank you Courtney for doing what you do men like me are grateful for what you do
That's awesome!
Your chances of being arrested are 3 % less
@@alainbellemare2168 what you mean by that
@@aaronsaiz2498 interpretation is the equivalent of reading , it s a product of your imagination
Reading mind
Guys, not caring if she likes me or not anymore has improved my success when going out with women. I don't look for signs anymore, if I want to talk or ask a girl out I do it because I want to. That's the only reason, it doesn't matter if she likes me or not. You'll find out soon enough.
There is some smarts to this. While it can be useful to pick up on signs (valuable intelligence after all) do NOT make the mistake of seeing these as PERMISSION to approach. That's a really bad mindset as it puts all the power into her hands plus your ability to spot the signs in the first place. A confident and decisive man doesn't need signs and he definitely doesn't need permission. He sees an attractive woman and approaches decisively. This can be very attractive for the woman as it shows a strong mental frame for the guy.
@@jleano609 Social intelligence is still important. If we're not connecting it's important to know that and not overstay my welcome. But signs aren't an initial decision if I'm going to ask someone out or not anymore.
@@john-atallah 100% - Strong Mindset
100% bro. she can be the one paying attention 😂❤
I agree not caring is the best way.
-She grabs your wallet.
-She asks if you have any pre existing medical conditions.
-She glances at your income tax statement.
-She gives you the same look she gives the ATM.
-She asks if your a doctor.
LOL
If your name is Johnny Sins you'll tick all those boxes then
She hopes you know the difference between your and you’re…
@@mrbejam bad Mr Bejam! LOL
@@simontmn 😆 couldn’t help it.
I was so naïve and shy in my teens and early 20's that I totally misread some of these signs, especially the look. I never considered myself good looking, but to my great surprise, many girls did. It was a huge boost to my ego and self confidence when I had a girl approach me - I never met her before in my life - and told me I had beautiful eyes. That compliment by a total stranger started me to rethink how others see me in a positive way.
By the way Courtney, I think you look pretty in pink.
Thanks for sharing your experience!
Same for me. A woman came to me and told me I had beautiful blue eyes then asked me to dance.
You are lucky in this regard, probably if I had an experience like yours I will feel the same way.
I would add insecure to the first sentence. This video was honestly like a slap in the face. I don't mean it in a bad way, I mean a slap in the face as in "would you mind slapping me in the face? I'm groggy".
@@Illlium Oh sure, you bet I was insecure back then. I've come a long way since then!
Another way to notice: *_"She always finds a way to be close to you, whatever the setup"_*
Great advice!
Imagine how easy life would be if we as humans were just very forward and said how we feel straight away
Humans do this, theyre called men. Its women that need to actually act like mature adults and do the same
That is what adult men are doing. ;)
@@Mgtowhonesty
Yeah, you're right. Women really need to grow a pair.
*facepalm*
go to Germany
Some men can do this no problem but not by directly saying that to a woman.... They're commonly known as PUA's (Pick Up Artists) and they use all sorts of crazy psychological tricks to make women attracted to them.
Remembering small details go a long way! I told a girl once about me serving in the military and she recommended me a book she was reading. We actually talked a bit about it and she said the first chapter reminded her of me!
🙌🏼❤️ love it! And thank you for your service Tommy!
@@CourtneyRyan it's been a pleasure!
Lol at the username
That's great!
A little corny, but I guess it works.
Once had an incredibly attractive woman give me almost all the hints you listed when I was in college. I had very little success at dating and my self confidence was so low that I figured she couldn't possibly be romantically interested in me, so I didn't try to date her. Moral of the story is to not be afraid to try. The worst that can happen is she says no, and that gives you the same result as if you didn't try anything at all. Additionally, my body language and hints when I was dating my wife were so bad that she was like "I don't know if he likes me or not, but he keeps asking me out, so I guess he does." haha! I'm glad she stuck it out :)
If you lack confidence, two things: strike up conversations with any and every woman, without seeking a home run. Second, after some initial moves, ask any girl out...note, this is just for the experience; don't invest yourself in it, just be cool, and self assured, cause you ain't serious so nothing matters. Be polite and kind, of course, but this is just a trial run, so no sweat.
@@dagwould Good advice to get over your fears. Practice makes perfect.
No. There are a LOT of other much worse things that can happen TODAY. No is the worst in 1985.
In 2024, no is the least of your worries.
She could scream, blast you with pepper spray, kick you, yell until some white knight or security guard arrives to beat you up, call the cops or more. Getting kicked out of school is easily possible.
These days, before following up with ANY come on from any woman, ask yourself "is this woman worth a night in jail?"
Courtney, Your show is consistently completely excellent. All I am looking for is a half of a sentence I can use for life and you provide that. This is what you were born to do.
You are so kind 🥹 thank you Keith!
@@CourtneyRyan hey what;s your opinion for flirty, very outgoing women with personal space and touching? Thats true and I'd often notice and go with that to mean a woman is attracted to you. As sociable women may be talkative but usually don't go close unless they are attracted to a person. But some ppl can be "touchy" and some are close talkers. There's a cute girl in my kickball league, she subs in and is not on the team. She's very out going and she'd get really close when talking to me, and taps my shoulder, but I noticed she at times would stand close to the other guy players too when talking to them and well one other guy tapped his shoulder playfully.
Well the first game I she played on my team. The second time, she played on my team, she was mostly talking with me and and tho she sometimes talked close to another guy, she didn't talk close other then briefly. But the second time seeing her on team, she was talking close to me most of the time and if I said something to her, like a few feet away, she'd walk up closer to me and we'd talk. She'd basically shoulder to shoulder with me, sometimes brushing against my shoulder when talking, leaning over to talk and our shoulders brushed sometimes. Is that a sign that despite her having talked closer to guys at times too, she kind of focuses away and more to me?
@@miamiman24 Hot, move into availability mode, set course, remain on alert, and ask her to coffee after the game...or with a group, see how she performs...invite her to watch a similar game with other teams playing...shows interest, but you are not yet on auto-pilot.
I don't waste my time chasing women, I just focus on myself and the things I like to do.
Then WTF are you doing watching this video?? 😂😂😂😂
Its amazing how much time and money guys waste on this stuff. Pick up artists made millions in the 1980s and 90s telling guys how to get women.
Watching your videos helped me gain confidence, and with that confidence, I met someone who likes me for who I am. So, thank you and keep doing videos so others can get more help too.
As someone who I think might be on the lower end of the autism spectrum and struggles with picking up on social cues, this is really useful and not all of them are obvious to me. The complementing clothes, rescheduling and asking to teach something are all really interesting ones.
The rescheduling one is a huge. I used to think “you gotta chase her. She wants to be chased.”
After much trial and error, I cannot recommend this approach lol 😅
Agreed about rescheduling 🙌
Re chasing, I find: "Fancy meeting up this week? What days are you free?" works great.
I am horrible and taking hints I have autism and dating is hard! Love this video! Thanks Courtney!
I hope this helps! 🤍 thanks for being here!
I’m the oldest of four. She’s the big sis I wish I had for this kind of advice
I’m the oldest of four. She’s the big sis I wish I had for this kind of advice
Hey, man, I understand. Look at my comment above. I hope it helps you out.
I literally can never tell when "she" likes me. I haven't been able to tell for at least 20 years. I've had people come up to me and be like, "yeah, so when are you two going on a date?" and I'm like me and who? That's literally the first and only hint they give, telling other people to come up and give a hint. This is a very well spirited video, but I think the understatement part was actually an understatement lmao, like saying they can be difficult to read is an understatement is also understated. It's literally impossible, if they don't want you to know, you won't know, period.
I've gotten few of these subtle signs. But I've also learned that even then these don't guarantee that they'll lead to anything even if i make a move on these signs
Yeah, despite the signs it's probably not good to jump to conclusions so soon. Women are VERY complicated creatures, despite some saying that they are not.
I think that’s just the game of love, you won’t score every time you shoot but that doesn’t make you stop shooting.
@@thefox47545 it's not that I misread the sign and jumped to a conclusion too soon. I've just had women change their minds about me way too often
This will be interesting, I’ve never been quick to pick up on the subtle signs.
I recommend you watch Coach Cory Wayne's channel. He is a master of the art of dating and relationships. If possible, and even better, buy his book and read it 10-15 times.
I think one thing to keep in mind is there are plenty of times you might have a crush on someone, but can also clearly tell that you are NOT on their radar. I don’t claim to be a master dater, but I’ve had times where this happened to me - I was bummed out, but emotionally moved on and just decided to be myself and be friends. Then as we got to know each other, I started seeing signs from her and we started dating.
I don’t recommend trying to friendzone yourself, but I find that being myself rather than chasing something that isn’t there helped and I felt less stressed about the whole thing.
Thanks for including the "she wants you to teach her something," as this is one I never thought of.
I really appreciate the short video interludes you used to illustrate your points about the look, the little details and the physical space tips. Nice inclusions!
Thanks for being here! 🤍
@@CourtneyRyan so why not in addition to telling men what signs to look for, also telling women the benefits of being direct when choosing a man? Is it not egotistical for a woman to select a man then force that man to follow breadcrumbs to appease her?
@@Mgtowhonesty Im sorry to tell you, thats just how the cookie crumbles. Even these self proclaimed „strong independend women“ usually wait until the guy approaches them. Its annoying, but i guess us men just have to work for our stuff🤷♂️
@@clashlabs8580 because men choose to permit women to be lazy. men are taught not to expect much and provide everything so the women dont do much and expect it.
This fine woman not only gives valuable advice, but you can tell she is a true sweetheart, and sincere person. What a catch!
How do you know this?
Let me tell y’all something: I ain’t got times for hints nor do I even pickup on hints. Sometimes I know they’re hints but I don’t acknowledge them because I’ve been hurt by women who’ve shown some of these signs to me then find out they were using me by leading me on or guilt tripping me. Since then, I’ve have severe trust issues with women and I don’t fall for hints anymore. I keep to myself and consider it their loss, not mine. It’s not worth taking the chance IMO unless u get that gut feeling or she actually approaches u first and “shoots her shot”. But in both cases, these are very rare occasions.
My mans said he ain't got time for the bs lol I feel that
Well, the best (high quality) women will never approach a man, no matter how good the man is. Why? Because a woman approaching a man means that she's insecure that she might lose that man to another woman, which is a sign of desperation. That's why she approaches him, in hopes that she can get him before another woman does. It is not the norm for a woman to approach a man.
I realized this back then. I thought that I could make women approach me by just being the best of me. Two girls approached, but they were quite mediocre. One had 5 exes at the age of like 17 (not body count, her body count is still 0) with only 2-4 month period each, and the other had a little disturbing amount of masculinity.
Ya this is my vibe also. These girls really messed up the game bad and expect us to be mind readers for their mediocre holes which she already gave to 40 other guys
@@ShadowbannedAccount I get where u are coming from but honestly they should be approaching too. It’s sad that women think that by approaching men first is coming off as desperate when it’s not because they barely do it anyway. Men approach so many more women that it doesn’t make sense as to how this isn’t desperate. When it comes to dating, women are always in denial and delusional. This is why they don’t approach us and why we are also slowly not approaching them anymore. Us men are tired of putting forth all the effort in dating and a relationship because women are lazy daters and sometimes in a relationship. That’s why it’s always one-sided and little to no effort from a woman.
@@ShadowbannedAccount But to your credit. What you said was really interesting.
One off the best signs is that she's avelable. When they like you,they will be there. Is simple as that. When girls were into me they moved mountains to be with me. Nothing is to hard.
Speaking as someone with autism and Ad/HD (disorders that can both interfere with such social signals quite badly), I find it sad to reflect on how many of these little “protocols” can go wrong for someone like me. In fact, they already have, many times.
For example, not only do people with autism often dislike or mishandle eye contact, but some of us, like myself, often dislike being touched, or even approached too closely. I myself only learned this when. Female friend in college touched me to calm me down during a meltdown….and I flinched, even though she was gorgeous.
I also have mild autism and I know EXACTLY what you mean. Some people at the college I go to also have learning challenges, and this makes signals even harder to notice and understand. It’s just something that everyone has to work on, regardless of if they have a learning challenge or not.
How has it affected your dating life? Because sadly it's not unusual and not unheard of for autistic men to remain lifelong bachelors
@@blurrcs15 I'm in the same boat, and I think it isn't so much understanding signals and noticing them as it is figuring out how to act on them and making the concerted effort to do so. That's a whole 'nuther thing.
Same. Girls have no ability to connect with guys with autism/adhd. A few have gotten so frustrated with me that they blurt out exactly what they wanted and complain that I made them have to chase me. They express a lot of resentment toward me because they didn't understand I need things straight forward and clear. I've also seen them take my lack of response as an insult or a sign of indifference to them. I have real trouble making friends and developing close relationships.
We are doomed from birth in the relationship department. man, it is literally autism, what do you expect?
I have experienced all of these 'signs', (in a number of cases all of the above with the same person,) and STILL got friend zoned every single time. So much so that I am convinced that women who do these things are nothing but sociopaths.
Another very funny sign is when they are very clear about their status being single. "I am going to meet a friend, BUT ITS NOT MY BOYFRIEND! Just a friend. I don't HAVE a boyfriend!" Happened to me once... couldn't stop smirking because it was so obvious.
And they get angry if you don't react to it.
I had a time when I was in college a woman liked me. When the semester started she sat a distance from me and a few weeks passed by she sat closer to me and started talking to me.
🙌
2 years..
“She walked near to me on the way to the next class. It’s getting pretty serious”. 😂
I want to thank you for putting this up. This is fantastic information, and it came out at an almost perfect time - someone I know through work (we don't work together) has been giving me some of these signs the past few times we've seen each other, and we were supposed to get together for drinks tonight but she woke up feeling ill. She texted me her apologies, and immediately offered to reschedule, which - because of this video - I immediately jumped on.
WOW, Young lady! I am watching your videos for the first time today, NO CAP?! I was impressed? But NOW? I AM BLOWN AWAY! Why?! Becases after l went over the first a second time? And watching THIS video? YOU MENTIONED NARCISSIST? Real Talk. There are alot of nice ladies out on You Tube...
Oh and I’ll add a story about her wanting you to teach her something.
One time a girl asked me to teach her about basketball when I told her I found a good pickup group to hoop with. After like 15 minutes of demonstrating how to shoot a jumper and some ball handling skills, I was like “she’s dressed a little too cute for this” lol total fail by me but I ended up saving the day 😎
Love this story!
Lmaaaoooo nice job!!
I have had a Girl display most of these signs towards me, only to me reject when I made a move. It hurts.
Then you are misinterpreting the signs my friend. And this is coming from an introvert. What I would do is ask a close friend to confirm what you see (if one is with you) or ask a friend for some honest feedback about the vibes you give off.
Some people just have a skewed perception and a good friend would share the truth in love if invited to.
@@joer8273 It might just be his Approach is really bad. @Blame you need to keep it really light/fun/casual or you can easily spook her. Eg "Hey there... (small talk) ...Fancy getting a drink?" (micro-pause to check her expression isn't rampant disgust) "I know a nice pub/coffee place near here..." that sort of thing. NB your frame should always be *"I'm interested in finding out if I like you"* - then it's up to her.
Be careful if she’s making plans too fast. I got lovebombed recently and the girl lost interest in me after a few weeks. Make sure that whatever plans they are, that they make sense with the pace you both are setting.
That sounds like the narcissist version Courtney mentioned
I also got love bombed. It'll put you on a high and then she withdraws her attention and you're in the dumps. It's a Canon event. Next time I'm just straight up asking what someone's intentions are when they approach me.
@@braydenbledsoe3252she’s BPD or NPD if she’s like that.
I do not have much experience in dating and am only beginning to do so. So these videos are a great help!
I think another sign I noticed is when the girl is intentional in finding ways to engage with you, like by sharing something on Instagram or sending text messages about things. Another may be how she mirrors your body language in a certain way (subconsciously or not), it may not mean she poses just as you do, but that she reacts to how you are interacting with her as she is engaged.
that ''mirroring'' actually something a narcissist would do, they like to mirror you in the hope that you'll get to ''like'' them.
as time goes on, they will mirror and take over your personality and identity!
These are all good points. Some of which I've admittedly overlooked. Sometimes dismissing them as teasing me, playing me or just being nice. After learning a lot to be more content snd happy in life. I'm more willing to take chances.. There really is no failure as a man if you put yourself out there in a respectable manner. The only failure is not trying at all.
Summer Time!!!!!! and you are lovely Courtney ❤️❤️❤️ some women been loving my clothes saying I like your shirt one lady that works at the gym I go to said that she likes my straw hat two times I’ve smiled I told her thanks 😊
🔥🔥
@@Introvertedalpha thank you and I go to Walmart to get my shirts
simping doesnt reward bro ,women dont give a fuck about your kindness too.
focus energy where interest is mutual
@@mast3r346 where did I said I was simping huh settle down with that
@@mast3r346 I don’t need advice from people like you you don’t know me so back off
I found Courtney's channel just a few days ago and I instantly like her videos. I must say I agree to what she said here. I'm a girl too so I understand her points very well. Also, I wanna say she has a very nice voice. I'll keep watching her videos. Go girl! :)
Thank you so much! You’re so sweet and I’m glad you’re here 🫶🏼
You know what is better than subtlety? Being open. I wish that people would just openly communicate instead of giving hints and signs.
Every time a girl I've been attracted to gives me "the look" or closes the distance between us, all rationale goes out the window and your emotions kick in. You feel butterflies in your stomach, your heart starts racing, and your body goes into fight or flight mode. It's such an intimidating feeling.
That's sexual tension. Learn to enjoy and build it. Sit in it without getting weird about it.
@@karl2405 That is so true. And I can assure you that the girl have the exact same experience. ;)
Embrace that sexual tension and project it out towards her with your mind. There are energetic field aspects of this. If you feel that then act on it.
Are you 14 or something 😂
It is that or you've never actually dated a woman before because this "feeling" wears off quite quickly 😆
I do learn from you and now know some of the signs I've missed in the past. You seem more genuine than any other woman I've seen on the subject. You're doing a good job in helping others. I'll be perusing some of your other videos soon. 😊
She always sits next to you at church service so when it comes to greeting your fellow 'members' she's always in your line of vision 😇
Im 53 and have never had any trouble with meeting women so i can honestly say these are all accurate indicators. And from my 53 years of experience I'll give all the young men here a solid word of advice.
Don't waste your time pursuing women until you have your life completely together. Your own home , good job with a future, and all the hobbies and toys you want. Focus on you until your late 30s and dont pursue a serious relationship. And when you do finally decide to have a very solid prenup and separate finances
Thank you. Solid advice.
No thanks, she doesnt deserve any of that from me. Mgtow is a far better life choice than settling on which woman to fund for life
God bless you, sir.
@Red Lobster Skull if youre single, youre already doing far better than your committed peers. Dont give in and despair, dating offers you nothing
@Red Lobster Skull youre a smart man
Great video! She did not mention that there are d teases that give these signs not because they are interested, but for validation.
I like the tip that she likes you when she compliments your clothes. Thanks for these insights, Courtney!
bro you simping hard
All that does is set women up to not be able to just compliment men without sparking pursuit. This in turn leads to men never hearing nice things from women and makes depressed men. Its a garbage hint and its a garbage strat
Asking you to do something , this is very true, it shows her interest without being so outgoing !
I had all these signs from a girl ended with rejection 🤡Stay focus you all big brothers👊
A lady that is out here helping Men. I love it! ✌🏾
So I have an interesting dilemma. She checks pretty much all the boxes for interest in person (positive body language, gets a bit clumsy around me, lets me into her personal space, remembers our conversations, and finds opportunities to touch me gently). She also started by asking me to teach her something. But she practically never replies to texts, and I am a conflict of interest to her work.
I’m going threw this.
Same here
I looked online and found, "I just flirt because it's fun. Unless I'm really turned off by a person, I'll flirt with whoever, no interest necessary." That would explain a lot. If both parties are playing it as a game, that's fine. But one person might be looking for more than fake interest, in which case it's lying and wasting their emotional time.
first of all I don't chase, I don't flirt, I'm serious about finding a relationship to the point where it's almost business like for me, I have extreme OCD and one minor character trait or flaw that I don't like, will bother me non-stop, it's hard for me to deal with the incompetence of others
You're the best, Courtney! Thank you for being so consistently interesting, insightful, and helpful!
Thanks for adding the scenes. Very helpful. I get annoyed when a youtuber simply describes subtleties without showing a video. example. Yes I said video, not visual. Pictures dont cut it.
Nervous laugh girls do too. If you catch her staring at you, she looks down the away. She follows you around in the gym. She approaches you with her eyes wide open I've had all of those happen to me.
You must be pretty Chad, right? :)
@@simontmn No need to confirm. Actions speak
Thank you for the advice I’m a little more confident in asking my crush out now
The personal space thing can be true, but the thing is: I know a lot of girls who are not romantically attracted to me but still get into my personal space and touch me. I think I am just really really kind ;)
Hello Courtney. I'm still bad at taking these hints from women. Normally I would hear from other people that this girl likes me, that girl likes me and so on but watching your videos has made me realize a lot of things regarding girls and for that I appreciate it
Courtney I think you are an honest and genuine person but, let me tell you something I know from experience, without sounding too arrogant. becoming good in life, at anything, involves striving to improve and is generally a very long process. When it comes to seduction, realizing this means before asking yourself what your expectations are (because banally beyond beauty there are so many other factors that count as a whole), having your own shit-together (also depending on your age. ), your height (it is useless to delude yourself into being able to attract models if you are short), your cultural level, the country you come from compared to the one you live in (I'm sorry to say this but if you are an immigrant it is very different from living in own country, and also there are countries in which certain mentalities of approach are not contemplated). So why don't you give a clearer overview perhaps to all those men who believe they can have some kind of results but statistically unlikely for them? it does not require a particular effort, just point out that seduction for some men requires a much greater amount of effort than that of others and, above all, do not delude people who possibly have amputated arms that they can become good with women. Good luck with your channel.
I agree with most of what you said. However, the height thing, is a myth. If it were true, I would have owned the dating scene. I am 6-2, 6-3 maybe and not bad looking at all. I don't think being tall helped anything. In fact, looking back, I can see so many instances (life in general) where being tall and muscular and broad shouldered held me back in some areas because people would get intimidated. I am quite user friendly, but I have a very stern look on my face most of the time. I am just in my own world and if women have an issue, that is on them. However, I do think that you are onto something in your last couple of sentences. I think a lot of people just are not very compassionate. They want easy, quick, low effort shit. If people are so petty that they ignore a person that has been physically damaged, mentally damaged, all that, it is a SEVERE indictment of those people. While it is easy to say, they aren't worth our time, it still hurts. Sometimes I just want to tell all of humanity to fuck off! I hate cruelty and bad humans. I can only say that there are genuinely decent people out there. They are just harder to find because a lot more "not decent" people seem to be alive today. But they are there.
Apparently women like men who use paragraphs so maybe that’s where you guys are going wrong.
Firstly, love you and Teddy,
Also i'm pretty guilty of this, many a time I haven't realised I was being hit on until weeks later, unless I get a message the next day saying something akin to "Would have been nice to stay at yours" 🤦🏼♂️
She gives such great advice and I really enjoy watching her videos.
Have a wonderful day ahead of yourself Courtney because you deserve to treat yourself after working extremely hard
It’s quite humorous how what is considered as ok for females, could possibly get you in to trouble as a male with the wrong kind of female
The double standard is real. And real frustrating. But it is what it is. Stay safe.
Oh yeah, just glancing at a woman who you’re attracted to makes you a “pervert” these days smh
@@Speedgamer2015 Yep saw exactly this on some other similar thread. Some gym chick, accusing some guy of perving, when he literally just glanced at her from across the room. This is where we are going 🙄
@@lockyp204 the one video where she was undressing herself in the front of the gym? I swear she was trying to set him up. It’s sad that this is what men have to deal with these days…
@@Speedgamer2015 Yep that one. Set up for sure 👍 Made a clown of herself. Got banned from the gym apparently
If we are nervous ourself we will not notice if she is nervous herself. Its like being panic mode/ symphatic state of the nervous system.
Step one is not to be nervous ourselfs/ to be relaxed. Then we can observe better i think. But its hard when you have the tendency to overthink things. We think about how to maximize the chances, align the stars, find the perfect moment, our possible future together, make her like us and not make anything that would make her dislike us. Basically we put her on a pedestal, like an angel.
You just get that total, " She is lit like a Christmas tree when she meets you each time! Like you can feel her passion straight off the bat!"
🔥
Stoke that fire!
I’m too old inexperienced. I hope you find happiness and love. Don’t be me and keep fighting the good fight!💪
I was so bad with hints growing up. If she never came up to me and flat out told me that she likes me.
Then I would never know.
Thanks for these, actually kind of blind to those signs! Will try to remember...
Courtney great video you are always Point your advice is always so helpful
I feel that two grown adults shouldn't be playing childish games! Two mature adults should be able to actually approach and tell the other what's on their minds. Without condescending judgement...Speak your mind with the proper filter. Being open & honest is ALWAYS the BEST POLICY!
I just wish to say that as a guy who dated post divorce when I was in my mid- to late-50's, seeing the, uh, more "senior" couple on your video is great! These tips are good, whether a guy is 28 or 58! And I will say that on my first date with my now wife, she invited me into her "personal space" by touching my arm, sitting so close that we were shoulder-to-shoulder, and actually initiating our first kiss at the end of the date. We celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary this month (May 2023), and are just as happy about each other as we were on that first date.
Hi Courtney, I love your video content. I've learned so much from them and that its free. Keep up the great work!
What really really jumped out at me after watching this girls videos why men miss these signs 🪧 from women is because men are extremely straight forward! When men tell a story we want the story about 5 minutes max with just the facts who what where when and why ! When women tell a story or explain something it’s over an hour or sometimes more ‼️ someone correct me if I’m wrong ???? As men when we talk to other men we are extremely straight forward! So now when we interact with a woman when she says things we think 💭 that’s what she really saying teach me how u work out 💪! Thank u for opening up my eyes more girl ! A lot of what u said I didn’t know 💯
Courtney, can you do a video on how you know if your date went well? Point out some changes in behavior and how she acts differently after your date. What are good signs, what are signs she lost interest. Should she be acting differently? That is one I've been dealing with lately. The time is takes her to respond to your texts changes, etc. It can be helpful. Thanks.
Assuming you texted her right after the date (while still feeling the date energy) to say something nice, she should get back to you next day to say something nice. Then you propose next date and ask what days she's free this week. If she gives you 1+ options she is interested. :)
@@simontmn I've had bizarre experiences with misleading women. I went out with a woman who said she was interested. Told me to text her later on that night. She even scheduled a day and time for her mom to babysit so we can go out the following week, which never ended up taking place since she ghosted me.
@@aaronharlow2137 I guess she changed her mind, may have had a 'better offer'. Or she had some kind of emotional/psych crisis, this is pretty common.
@@simontmn Texting right after the date..... "Hope you got home tonight? I had a great time, thanks!". That's all. No asking for a date. And heaven forbid - never make a date ON a date - UNLESS SHE ASKS. So yes, send the goodnight text and then NOTHING for 5-7 days after. If she doesn't re-connect in the meantime you've then got one last Hail Mary call (not text) to ask for the date - after that YOU'RE OUT.
@@jleano609 "Texting right after the date..... "Hope you got home tonight? I had a great time, thanks!" That sort of thing. I find sooner the better, like on the train home after the date (I'm in London). I just dug up a random end-of-date same evening comment, after a date at the Tate Modern gallery: >>Feeling slightly dazed now 😄! mmm... xx
I recently reconnected with an old female friend from high school and she kept asking me all kinds of questions like am I religious and do I go to church. The she invited me to her church said we should go next Sunday if you are free. Of course I said yes, but fast forward to today she cancelled but said she was getting an early start to her little vacation from work which is completely fine. I can tell this girl likes me, we have been talking every single day even a couple times on the phone super late at night to the point where she falls asleep on me lol
Met someone once - showed all these signs and more - I asked her for lunch sometime - oh sorry, I have a boyfriend. See how they are. Too much work - too many games.
Saw a show once. This woman was in college and sure that her lab partner would ask her out.
She kept dropping hints and giving signals he never picked up on. Her friends suggested he was gay or just not attracted to her.
Eventually, she asks both questions. Nope, not gay and definitely attracted to her.
He says "I really don't think you'd be interested."
She encourages him to "take his shot." He does. She says no.
Just wanted the ego boost.
i think i'm on to a winner .The girl at work said this morning that WE can go places i laughed and you said it .she said what I said WE .¯\_(ツ)_/¯ then she laughed and alright don't read to much into it ill keep you updated and she keeps touching me asking if i workout .ill keep you informed Courtney ¯\_(ツ)_/¯♥
I had a different encounter, a long time friend of 30+ years saw me one morning having coffee and approached me to say "I had been on her heart and mind and that she has always been very found of myself and my dear sweet late wife she said she didn't know how to contact me and prayed our paths would cross ( we used to attend the same church) we exchanged numbers and went out for coffee the next week. She told me , i didn't know it butvshe was grieving my my loss with me. She said she had no time or interest in general dating as she lives with and cares for her family. She said she thought why should I date when I can be with and do things with someone I already love. She wants to do things with me as time and opportunities present themselves instead of dating. I told her how glad I was that she reconnected w me . I said I hope this isn't the last time we get together and she planned 3 separate events w me right then and there. She is aware that I have feelings for her and has said she again she doesn't have time to date, not " I only like you as a friend or I don't feel that way about you. She invited me to join some of her family in a resent outdoor event, we hit it off immediately. I tried to pay her back some parking money, and she said ' no Next time you can pay for all of dinner. I invited her to dinner out and she couldn't make it , but wanted a rain check i said the invite is open whenever it works for her and to just let me know. She said I will. I'm falling for her and am willing to see how this plays out . Her brother told me she had mentioned me a couple of times. , sorry for the extra long commentary, I didn't know how to sumerize any better. We are both in our 60s so a bit more direct then most. Courtney, I would greatly appreciate your thoughts and advice if at all possible. Thank you, Lord bless.
My advice would be to kiss her already! :) After some appropriate touching/closeness to build intimacy, of course. BTW I'm 49 and got back into dating two months ago, met a wonderful woman a month ago, last night she said "I love you" :) :)
going back to the small details thing it also works the other way too. if a guy remembers little details from a woman it shows he was listening and showed an interest which goes a long way.
I’ve literally had a girl tell me she has a boyfriend then touch my arm after. Lol
Holding eye contact with you is another great sign.
Number 1 was actually omitted: you make over six figures a year.
@Courtney Ryan great stuff but I'm not sure I agree with the personal space one. Simply because I've had lots of girls that I'm clearly just friends with give me hugs. One girl I recently met did say she liked my name and as I was leaving she touched my shoulder. But she did have a ring on her finger but I couldn't tell if it was an engagement ring or not (didn't have the typical diamond on the top). I'm not good at all at picking up on girls so this video definitely helps!
Yeah, young girls do this all the time. They want to be friends with everybody, or at least those they are not actively unattracted too. Those guys are invisible so if she's hugging you you MAY have a chance.
I noticed on Sunday somebody had left 49 replies in a row to a reply you had left on the comment harassing you, saying that you give terrible dating advice even though these are all meant for self-improvement and self-awareness. I don't know if me reporting some of those comments did anything but my goodness does that guy need an adult to swing a belt
If they had put that much effort into actually going out and dating women... they probably wouldn't have the time to troll Courtney. 🙄 😂
@@marcmays48 it was so bizarre because I went later Sunday night walking through the comments at some of the conversations I was in and others that had taken place and this dude with type 1 word and then go and type another word and he just kept doing this replying to her handle and then later replied to another guy trying to again say she gives terrible dating advice and I had to let him know that harassment is a No-No and that this isn't dating advice this is self-improvement and even this video is self-awareness
Her advice is very good the problem is that it is nearly impossible to find high quality women these days.
@@LatimusChadimus Some people just need to get a life. 😕 That is just weird that he would do that.
@@kjack157 Your best bet is probably overseas. The more traditional, and less Westernized the society, the better. 😉
*A quick glance here, a playful nudge there - it’s all about reading between the lines. When you pick up on these cues, it changes the whole dynamic!*
What if she looked into my eyes regularly, and when I spoke to her, she rejected me?
She didn't like your voice or demeanour? Her "I'm interested" is not "I definitely like you" - women are not men.
Context matters. She may have been into you, but was no longer feeling it. Also, women are driven by natural biological cycles. If you asked her again in a week or two, you may have gotten a completely different response. 😉
You could have easily said something wrong to either make you look soft for to make you look weird or creepy
Sometimes it happens that the "signs" are not really signs. Women are VERY complicated creatures and despite what people say about signs it's never a guarantee. Sometimes, like you, you just have to decide if you want to go for it and sometimes, like you again, it's not the case. Oh well.
I had a good chuckle when you said some people say to "punish" the girl that cancels. In my head I just hear 'PUNISH HER!" in that mortal kombat voice, LOL!
girl at my job has been very touchy since i met her and gets very close to me to talk to me. Thing is, I have literally met her boyfriend. I think in her case, she is just very touchy and flirty/friendly and doesnt realize it
Once men understand that a woman's default state is "strategic ambiguity", women are actually rather easy to read IME - in this case she is likely on some level thinking you might be more fun than the bf, ie monkey-branching.
She’s trying to manipulate you, a server at my old job would touch my shoulder and then ask for food bruh…
@@simontmn lmao thats pretty cringe but it makes sense
@@wyald7240 yeah im not falling for it. I just do my job and leave
Rule no.1 - don't date coworkers. So it doesn't matter what her level of flirtation is.
Thanks for helping and taking the time to make this video ❤
Courtney, could you make a video on how to (politely) turn away women that like you but you are not interested in?
Not sure it qualifies as polite, but on more than one occasion, when I’ve encountered a woman who tries to push herself onto me, close to me, or won’t stop talking/flirting with me; open palm one handed gentle but firm push on her clavicles(far enough away from her breasts to be safe from what could be considered assault) literally stopping her from moving forward while saying either 1. We are friends I don’t have any other feelings for you or 2. I don’t know you get the fuck away from me
Some advice to the more outgoing crowd out there. Be more direct. There are people like me who just do not understand all these “signs”, no matter how many vids or blogs we watch or read. It just isn’t going to happen. But you outgoing people just “get it” naturally so if you see people at a social event just being there awkwardly, go and talk to us directly because we can carry conversations, we’re just not good at starting them or interpreting social cues.
If she wants me she can make a play for me
She can approach me
It's not about her, it's about me
NOT FIRST BUT I CLICKED FOR THE THUMBNAIL AKA PINK TOPPPPPPPPPPP GANG
I had married women do all these to me, what I do?
Hey C . I am a 8/10 and I am not even looking at 6/10s. 3/10s will do it for me. Believe me I am rocking at most angles....
*YOU’VE* never touched a guy you weren’t interested in. But *SOME* women touch guys not because they’re interested, but because they’re just touchy - True or False?
That is true. Some women are just flirty. But there's only one way to find out...
You're better off assuming she's potentially interested, and respond in kind.
1000000% true.
A man likes you when he tries to do things for you. But from my experience talking to people, is that different people express their love differently. Some will reassure you, some will try to fix whatever it is you're worried about. I believe that men, true to themselves men in today's society and climate, care when a woman cares. They keep it moving if she's not interested, they are not inherently valued as a person, generally speaking this type of experience would create a closed off individual. "The only thing that can cure survival mentality is love." Remember it was the beauty who tamed the beast. I personally believe that job is up to ourselves, "loving ourselves," but our own experience can show that this is only true up until a point. I read in a book (let's not talk about the title) that a man truly wants to be loved and accepted, and if he says otherwise, he just doesn't know himself enough/can't accept those sides of him. A sign that he likes you is that he cares enough to let go of the fact that the world teaches him not to.
Let me ask you, in a world where we're supposed to be equals, why would the only ones who have to earn their keep ever be open to a world that doesn't accept them? I don't know how women work as well as men since I am a man, but maybe that's why there IS so much nuance, maybe it's the fact of people are messed up/broken? Many branches go out, but they all go to the same place, how could it ever work any other way?
She calls you on a Friday or Saturday night and asking you what you like to do for fun.
Keyword is calls haha she calls you instead of texting you 👌
I brought that up when Courtney was talking about rescheduling that if the woman calls you, that is a much better sign and it doesn't seem as if she was trying to take control of your frame
@@LatimusChadimus I've done this. A co-worker introduced to him. She, him, and I had lunch during our lunch hour. She knew him from a previous job which wasn't too far where we work now. She and I took a selfie on her phone and she put it as a wallpaper and he saw us. He said he thought I was pretty and wanted to meet me. He seemed a bit shy at lunch. We got each others numbers. It was like two weeks passed by and he didn't call me. So I called him on a Friday night asked him what he likes to do for fun. He didn't get the hint and I called him on Saturday night and he finally got the hint and we went on a date that Saturday night.
She’s not a touchy person but the past few weeks she’s been touching my arms, my back, even my chest. Obviously I noticed this change. We get along really well. She sometimes calls me late at night to talk.
So you’re probably thinking “dude are you stupid?? She’s totally into you” yep…thought the same thing. Then during one of our late night talks she basically said she’s not into me.
I don’t understand women…
I do like it when a girl tells me that I smell great
My gf likes to sniff my armpit! She is a barbarian from southern Siberia, mind you...
Best feeling lol
5:28 although there is the chance she could be trying to take over the frame. If she has the good manners to call you instead of texting you, I would say that is a better sign regarding rescheduling