Thank you again Relebogile and team for inviting me and Lebo to share our stories. Thank you for this show, I have been interviewed many times but this was different, it was real, authentic and you spoke to us from a sense of such empathy. Wishing all of you so much success and growth. Your show is changing lives.
I stumbled upon your page on insta and I love your mommy content on socials. To hear your story has just made me see how much of a strong woman you really are. Love and light to you❤
Yho this for me is so sensitive.. The way that I cried and feeling the same pain again that I felt when I had mine 18 years ago... I didn't know I am still hiding on to this pain. My body just went through that pain again and it's so uncomfortable.. People who rapes put us through a lot.. I am thanking God that he blessed me with 2 beautiful children and a husband.
This has made me appreciate my high school principal even more. She took such good care of pregnant learners. From counseling them, informing the parents, ensuring they didn't miss assignment dates and exams. Some if us judged and felt like they got better treatment whereas they have disgraced the school but as I am now an adult I understand why she was so understanding and cared about them. I'm not saying teenage pregnancy is right but we see it all the time. Watching Lebos story made me realize what other students go through. In our school you would get in trouble for making any student feel uncomfortable no matter what the circumstance.
Termination is not easy, I hope more women understand that they don't owe anyone keeping a pregnancy and stories of it might be your last is nonsense. Let's take away the shame of termination. And starve the illegal market and save lives of women.
Something to ponder on as we all watch this video. We are very good lawyers for our own mistakes, and very good judges for the mistakes of others. Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone. Dont judge people because they sin differently from you. That's all.
Thank you to the ladies who shared their stories with us. It takes a lot of courage to share a story around abortion. It's so traumatic and to anyone who sees this. It is your body and your choice. Do what is right for you. No one has any right to impose any beliefs or their views on you.
My take from this is that let people have safe abortions. Pregnancy on its own is a risk. So why not allow someone who wants an abortion the freedom to do so safely?
Lebo and Gaopalelwe were so transparent and honest. I was brought to tears hearing Lebo’s story. No girl or woman should ever have to through that. I love that Gaopalelwe said abortion is not a moral issue, it’s a medical issue. Information is there now, thanks to technology. Safe places like Marie Stopes. I wish something could be done about these illegal establishments💔
What a deep topic, I am not in support of abortions unless you have been sexually assaulted or raped. But I learned a lot from this episode, I also think its important that we teach young girls about safe sex, contraceptives and emergency contraceptives. Very informative episode.
Now my daughter is 19yrs always talk to her hore please talk to me with everything be open to me cz I always have flashbacks of that child in the bucket nd mother helpless on the floor, thank you ladies for sharing ur stories I'm going to give my daughter a chance to listen too.
Wow I hope you shared that story with her. My 19 year old self would be very grateful if my mom not only told me to be open but shared her experiences to backup her statements cause as children we are very curious we want to know why we shouldn’t, we want to try things out.
Let's not judge we are not God and we all sinned one way or another..no sin is better than the other... thanks beautiful ladies for sharing your story sure it will help alot of woman out there
Its hard, what simply is the truth feels like judgement to you because the truth hurts really. It's not always judgement, sometimes it's people that honestly care and love you telling you the truth, but we are humans we will always pick what we want and from the truth someone gives us we choose to pick judgement and not truth, Love has lost value, it should lie to protect your feelings instead if helping you to realise your mistake and heal. We all have sinned, the more reason we have to be our brothers keeper and be truthful as we help them walk to their healing and ours else we are harming them more...
Both episodes were mind opening and informative, I always pray not to judge but to try and put myself in a position so I can understand the situation more better
Tbh whether we like it or not , Abortion will happen . If we keep judging people for doing legal abortions , that will just persuade them to have illegal ones. Easy as that.
At the rate that the youth is having sex and unprotected at it, is really scary. The number of unwanted pregnancies and later abused children is also something so scary. I had my legal abortion at a South African Hospital, I was cleaned and given counseling the morning after I spent the night in excruciating pain only to find out I am still pregnant. My baby is a beautiful and healthy 8 year old now...I guess it was not meant to be. I wish information about this was correctly shared and a follow up process was easier.
Lord help us. I think as women we get soo messed up when we find out we are pregnant. We dont give our selves time to think. Fear take hold of us. And at the end we suffer the consiquenses. Having a baby is not that bad. God always provides. But we panic I dont know why.
Thanks Lebo for this topic. And thank you ladies for being vulnerable to us by sharing your stories! Thank you for being the voice for the voiceless! God bless you all!
I was really triggered with what happened with her first abortion 😢I'm not really supportive of their decisions but I feel it's very important for one to get the right type of help. No one should ever go through such trauma
I just think it is very important to be have open communication with your kids and be open minded. It 2021 now it's not 80 or 90 for safety and protection of life let be open minded about abortion. I might not want or see myself in that situation but maybe one day your love one might be in the same situation you can be help that person to save her life. Even if your 16 yrs old is pregnant and want to keep the child let support as mother. First let start educating our kids even about abortion because when they are faced with these situations they talk to their friends than their mothers. Let be open minded South Africa. I don't have kids but one thing I learned through growing up I would have loved to be informed about things I went through as a woman e.g periods, body changing, that's when is it okay for me to date, what to expect and even when I have a committed what to do prevent so many decease and given support to use contraceptive and even knowing about infertility that I'm going through right now instead of going through all by myself. We need to change mind-set so that we can be better mothers. What you wish you talk with your mother but you can't because you know you will judge don't do it in your child life. Let stop instilling fear to innocent kids, yeeey having periods is not a curse , let just open our minds so you don't bury your child because your stigma.
How do hospitals allow illegal services to be advertised on their property. I was referred from a clinic to an illegal clinic 😣 and I lost one of my Fallopian tubes.
It doesnt matter what any of us thinks is right. What matters is what God says is right which is y we should consult him when we r scared or not sure what to do. Do not be wise in your own eyes fear God and shun evil. You r not ur own, u have been bought with the precious blood of Jesus so glorify God with ur body. Let us stop advocating for abortions and start advocating for truth. Children r blessings from God.where we r not sure lets get on our knees and give it time and the Lord will let us know.
@@Gao_Phala owning one's truth is very difficult especially in our 'society' while we don't understand the implications of not owning one's truth: depression, shame, PTSD, not being open to love so I'm bloody proud of you. ❤️
Abortion is not a form of contraception. You need deliverance. Use valued contraception. Stop advocating abortion that can be mentally and physically damaging. 🙏🏾🦋🙏🏾🦋🙏🏾🦋🙏🏾🦋🙏🏾🦋
Hmmm... I had my baby when I was 19 and I was not ready... The trauma and shame yooh I wanted to terminate so badly. I think emotionally I would have been able to carry the "shame". The emotions a woman goes through shouldn't go through it alone.
I know this is an unpopular opinion but why would a woman keep getting pregnant (not from rape) yet she's not ready for children? And you keep going for abortions? Why not use contraceptives until ready to have one? First time was understandable, but the following 2 times? Nah!!
To a certain extend I agree , even with rape there are measures you can take to protect yourself to avoid more tragedies. It’s a matter of being informed, and we can not blame our families for not informing us enough about such issues . I feel like you should make it your responsibility to educate yourself on certain matters . One thing I can advice ladies is to not be naive , you had sex ? Take a pregnancy test . Whether there are signs or not .You got raped? Reach out and get assistance, there are people who are more than willing to assist you without judging you . Just be informed.
Rape victims it's really understandable but in a relationship why not use contraceptives, they are free. Some people threshold of pain is enjoyable, I really don't understand the level of addiction to abortion the lady in studio.
Where did I say I do not believe in contraceptives? Are they 100% safe. What kids? a feotus is not a kid and men walk away from children who are born every single day.
@@Gao_Phala you were abused, that's so sad, no human deserves that, my apologies. And whatever decision you make is really entirely yours, but life does begin at conception, whether a foetus or not, that's life, the argument is not about the state of life but one's decision to deal with the result. I hope you're better now
Mr ManQ... you can’t tell me you watched the entire episode and still have that mentality around this issue. I’m disappointed! Please take me out of my misery and tell me you only saw that part and decided to come and drop this comment 🥺
@@Gao_Phala le gone ke eng banna bone are not using contraceptives. It's always women that are held accountable for pregnancy as if they had sex with themselves...Big up for you for speaking your mind and telling your story, most of those that are quick to judge for me it's usually projection
Thank you again Relebogile and team for inviting me and Lebo to share our stories. Thank you for this show, I have been interviewed many times but this was different, it was real, authentic and you spoke to us from a sense of such empathy. Wishing all of you so much success and growth. Your show is changing lives.
I stumbled upon your page on insta and I love your mommy content on socials. To hear your story has just made me see how much of a strong woman you really are. Love and light to you❤
@@nwabisanomgca Thank you so much sis. This really means a lot to me. I appreciate
Arrest me and send me to jail
@@user-jp3yq8my4i please leave
She's the best and non-judgmental...
Yho this for me is so sensitive.. The way that I cried and feeling the same pain again that I felt when I had mine 18 years ago... I didn't know I am still hiding on to this pain. My body just went through that pain again and it's so uncomfortable.. People who rapes put us through a lot..
I am thanking God that he blessed me with 2 beautiful children and a husband.
I’m sorry that happened to you
This has made me appreciate my high school principal even more. She took such good care of pregnant learners. From counseling them, informing the parents, ensuring they didn't miss assignment dates and exams. Some if us judged and felt like they got better treatment whereas they have disgraced the school but as I am now an adult I understand why she was so understanding and cared about them. I'm not saying teenage pregnancy is right but we see it all the time. Watching Lebos story made me realize what other students go through. In our school you would get in trouble for making any student feel uncomfortable no matter what the circumstance.
Termination is not easy, I hope more women understand that they don't owe anyone keeping a pregnancy and stories of it might be your last is nonsense.
Let's take away the shame of termination. And starve the illegal market and save lives of women.
Something to ponder on as we all watch this video.
We are very good lawyers for our own mistakes, and very good judges for the mistakes of others.
Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone.
Dont judge people because they sin differently from you.
That's all.
Abortion kills a human being.
I love that all the questions Relebogile asks are not judgemental for me it qualifies her as the Greatest interviewer I have ever come across
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She is the GOAT
Rele always ask relevant questions.
Thank you to the ladies who shared their stories with us. It takes a lot of courage to share a story around abortion.
It's so traumatic and to anyone who sees this.
It is your body and your choice. Do what is right for you. No one has any right to impose any beliefs or their views on you.
Very true
I think schools need to educate young girls about abortion In schools,and distigmatize the process.
My take from this is that let people have safe abortions. Pregnancy on its own is a risk. So why not allow someone who wants an abortion the freedom to do so safely?
I always vote for the protection of individual rights, freedom and choices. This has to be one of the most difficult decisions anyone can make.
Abortion kills a human being.
Lebo and Gaopalelwe were so transparent and honest. I was brought to tears hearing Lebo’s story. No girl or woman should ever have to through that. I love that Gaopalelwe said abortion is not a moral issue, it’s a medical issue. Information is there now, thanks to technology. Safe places like Marie Stopes. I wish something could be done about these illegal establishments💔
Abortion kills a human being.
I wish the ladies heal and dont blame themselves for what they did in survival mode
What a deep topic, I am not in support of abortions unless you have been sexually assaulted or raped. But I learned a lot from this episode, I also think its important that we teach young girls about safe sex, contraceptives and emergency contraceptives. Very informative episode.
Everyone has the right to choose what they do with THEIR body. It's not for you to "support" it.
Young girls and boys
@@Yassmiinn. It's not their body that is killed during an abortion. It is the baby's body
The thing is whether or not Maria supports abortion, people will still have them if they want to because it's their decision to make.
To us who like before watching the video 🥂🥂🥂we love you and your work Ausi Relebogile ❤️❤️❤️
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Rele, can't get tired of giving praise to your hosting skills, but gift... You are amazing ❤️
Now my daughter is 19yrs always talk to her hore please talk to me with everything be open to me cz I always have flashbacks of that child in the bucket nd mother helpless on the floor, thank you ladies for sharing ur stories I'm going to give my daughter a chance to listen too.
You are honestly a great mom. ❤️❤️❤️
Wow I hope you shared that story with her. My 19 year old self would be very grateful if my mom not only told me to be open but shared her experiences to backup her statements cause as children we are very curious we want to know why we shouldn’t, we want to try things out.
Let's not judge we are not God and we all sinned one way or another..no sin is better than the other... thanks beautiful ladies for sharing your story sure it will help alot of woman out there
However one of the 7 deadly sins that God hates is the shedding of innocent blood
Its hard, what simply is the truth feels like judgement to you because the truth hurts really.
It's not always judgement, sometimes it's people that honestly care and love you telling you the truth, but we are humans we will always pick what we want and from the truth someone gives us we choose to pick judgement and not truth,
Love has lost value, it should lie to protect your feelings instead if helping you to realise your mistake and heal.
We all have sinned, the more reason we have to be our brothers keeper and be truthful as we help them walk to their healing and ours else we are harming them more...
Both episodes were mind opening and informative, I always pray not to judge but to try and put myself in a position so I can understand the situation more better
Tbh whether we like it or not , Abortion will happen . If we keep judging people for doing legal abortions , that will just persuade them to have illegal ones. Easy as that.
@@user-jp3yq8my4i You get pregnant and keep yours, no ones stopping you....
Abortion kills a human being every single time.
I've learned so much on this channel 🙏 thank you Rele and special thanks to the guests for sharing their stories and educating us 🙏
At the rate that the youth is having sex and unprotected at it, is really scary. The number of unwanted pregnancies and later abused children is also something so scary.
I had my legal abortion at a South African Hospital, I was cleaned and given counseling the morning after I spent the night in excruciating pain only to find out I am still pregnant. My baby is a beautiful and healthy 8 year old now...I guess it was not meant to be.
I wish information about this was correctly shared and a follow up process was easier.
Wow, reading such stories gives me so much hope. Thank you for sharing your turth. I see you, I am with you
Not to sound so insensitive babe and im sorry if i sound like i am but did you bleed whilst they kept you in the hospital??
@@nomsazwane3505 yes, I did and a lot... there were clots and yellowish bloody fluids. I bled all night long and was cleaned the next morning
Lord help us. I think as women we get soo messed up when we find out we are pregnant. We dont give our selves time to think. Fear take hold of us. And at the end we suffer the consiquenses. Having a baby is not that bad. God always provides. But we panic I dont know why.
Thanks Lebo for this topic. And thank you ladies for being vulnerable to us by sharing your stories! Thank you for being the voice for the voiceless! God bless you all!
I was really triggered with what happened with her first abortion 😢I'm not really supportive of their decisions but I feel it's very important for one to get the right type of help. No one should ever go through such trauma
I just think it is very important to be have open communication with your kids and be open minded. It 2021 now it's not 80 or 90 for safety and protection of life let be open minded about abortion. I might not want or see myself in that situation but maybe one day your love one might be in the same situation you can be help that person to save her life. Even if your 16 yrs old is pregnant and want to keep the child let support as mother. First let start educating our kids even about abortion because when they are faced with these situations they talk to their friends than their mothers. Let be open minded South Africa. I don't have kids but one thing I learned through growing up I would have loved to be informed about things I went through as a woman e.g periods, body changing, that's when is it okay for me to date, what to expect and even when I have a committed what to do prevent so many decease and given support to use contraceptive and even knowing about infertility that I'm going through right now instead of going through all by myself. We need to change mind-set so that we can be better mothers. What you wish you talk with your mother but you can't because you know you will judge don't do it in your child life. Let stop instilling fear to innocent kids, yeeey having periods is not a curse , let just open our minds so you don't bury your child because your stigma.
How do hospitals allow illegal services to be advertised on their property.
I was referred from a clinic to an illegal clinic 😣 and I lost one of my Fallopian tubes.
Yoh this is sad sisi. I'm sorry
@@NthabisengLetsatsi Thank you. One step at a time
Love and Light sis🥺🤍
Why didn't you take pills?
I am here for Gao. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you my friend
Who is that?
5 weeks pregnancy shouldn't even be surgical. Meant to be pills and almost painless
I also want to use pills,can you tell me please where to get them and how much they cost
@@messiahkendrick8803 Go to your nearest clinic or hospital, private or public and they'll help you.
Thank you for part 2 ❤️🙏🏾
It doesnt matter what any of us thinks is right. What matters is what God says is right which is y we should consult him when we r scared or not sure what to do. Do not be wise in your own eyes fear God and shun evil. You r not ur own, u have been bought with the precious blood of Jesus so glorify God with ur body. Let us stop advocating for abortions and start advocating for truth. Children r blessings from God.where we r not sure lets get on our knees and give it time and the Lord will let us know.
Love you Gao ❤️you are so brave.
Thank you Boni. Love you too
@@Gao_Phala owning one's truth is very difficult especially in our 'society' while we don't understand the implications of not owning one's truth: depression, shame, PTSD, not being open to love so I'm bloody proud of you. ❤️
@@Bonisilexaba Thank you sis, this means a lot to me.
@@joeydlaminivlogs Thank you my love
Thank you rebo for this kind of stories, they help a lot, for me I don't judge anyone course there is a lesson for everything thank you galz
Let me be the first to comment by saying, I love your podcast Relebogile
Thanks again for another thoughtful provoking topic and enlightening too.
This is a really sensitive topic, but glad they unpacked it🙏🏽
This conversation is so important. Thank you. 🙏🏽
If somebody can't raise a child, then giving it for adoption is a good option. Much better than killing.
Abortion is not a form of contraception. You need deliverance.
Use valued contraception.
Stop advocating abortion that can be mentally and physically damaging.
🙏🏾🦋🙏🏾🦋🙏🏾🦋🙏🏾🦋🙏🏾🦋
Hmmm... I had my baby when I was 19 and I was not ready... The trauma and shame yooh I wanted to terminate so badly. I think emotionally I would have been able to carry the "shame". The emotions a woman goes through shouldn't go through it alone.
This episode was much needed.
This story is just so sad.
Yeah ne, people go through the most out there.
What about hiv eish being a woman is hard
Unless you are going to Marie stopes clinic. Most girls attempts to get an abortion is very traumatic.
I know this is an unpopular opinion but why would a woman keep getting pregnant (not from rape) yet she's not ready for children? And you keep going for abortions? Why not use contraceptives until ready to have one? First time was understandable, but the following 2 times? Nah!!
First I think its okay. But 2, 3 and more naaahh fam. You are old enough to take prevention if u dont want a child. Just sayin
Absolutely
Unfortunately women don't choose how many times they get raped in their lifetime.
To a certain extend I agree , even with rape there are measures you can take to protect yourself to avoid more tragedies. It’s a matter of being informed, and we can not blame our families for not informing us enough about such issues . I feel like you should make it your responsibility to educate yourself on certain matters . One thing I can advice ladies is to not be naive , you had sex ? Take a pregnancy test . Whether there are signs or not .You got raped? Reach out and get assistance, there are people who are more than willing to assist you without judging you . Just be informed.
But rape?
Wow👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I am so looking for part 1 of this, can't find it😭😭😭😭
It available. Research
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This is so triggering😭😭😭, had to fast foward where they talk about the way it was done because it just takes me back to that place 8 years ago..
That monster he's out there doing this to other girls.
Gao👏🏽❤
Rape victims it's really understandable but in a relationship why not use contraceptives, they are free. Some people threshold of pain is enjoyable, I really don't understand the level of addiction to abortion the lady in studio.
The lady in studio... I disagree with her on some of her points.
I also agree
That's OK.
I absolutely agree with you.
I personally do not expect everyone to agree with me.
You don't have to agree, it's not your story or your opinion...
Yes we mustn't judge but let's just prevent guys please am not judging them please
TOP is very sensitive hard to talk about
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Think about the voiceless fetus.
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THE EASY WAY OUT. SHAMELESS KILLERS.
Shameless killer.
So Gao doesn't believe in contraceptives but believes in abortion? As for "It's my body", poor men lose their kids.
What men? Because a lot of them run away from the time they're being told about the pregnancy? 🙄
@@ladybee1909 what about those who dont run?
Where did I say I do not believe in contraceptives? Are they 100% safe. What kids? a feotus is not a kid and men walk away from children who are born every single day.
@@Gao_Phala you were abused, that's so sad, no human deserves that, my apologies. And whatever decision you make is really entirely yours, but life does begin at conception, whether a foetus or not, that's life, the argument is not about the state of life but one's decision to deal with the result. I hope you're better now
@Nthabi14 Your opinion does not bother me at all. You can hold it, just don't think I will believe it just because you do. Its a fact in your head.
3 ABORTIONS?????????😒 😞
uManto yena??? You murdered 2 kids
😭So she had 3?but only God can judge, we will never understand her situation
Yes and I do not regret a single one of them.
Mr ManQ... you can’t tell me you watched the entire episode and still have that mentality around this issue. I’m disappointed! Please take me out of my misery and tell me you only saw that part and decided to come and drop this comment 🥺
@@Gao_Phala le gone ke eng banna bone are not using contraceptives. It's always women that are held accountable for pregnancy as if they had sex with themselves...Big up for you for speaking your mind and telling your story, most of those that are quick to judge for me it's usually projection
@@Gao_Phala Do you mind me asking how different the procedure was, when you were older.