I feel like Relebogile would be great as a therapist coz she’s great at probing. As a tv host she’s limited coz she can’t make certain comments but she has the potential to help people get healed emotionally by getting them to be honest with themselves
Yoh Relebogile maintaining coolness and neutral here and still trying to dig out info from a defensive person is commendable 👌 , I respect her for that
True shame and she doesn't loose her cool easily, I sensed some arrogance at some point from the guest. And I feel she's trying so hard to seem happy about her life and who she is now🤦♀️
This lady is being so hostile! It’s like she’s used to being judged so she puts up walls & becomes defensive. I’ve seen this behavior a lot from the lgbtqi community & that’s because of the way they’ve been treated. Relebogile is Gracious, warm & accommodating as usual. Personally I love different people because that is bravery to me ❤️.
Yeah its actually quite sad, and as a result I feel like she didn't really open up or took us to that place where we actually got to know the 'real' her if that makes sense. I feel like this could have been such a beautiful interview for us to actually get into her state of mind as to what led to her changing her looks. She's trying so hard to be strong and unbothered about things that under normal circumstances would be regarded as painful experiences by most people. On the other hand I kind of understand how difficult it is to really open up and risk being seen as weak or have people use your vulnerability against you. Lasty she made this interview so difficult and thank goodness Relebogile was so gracious and patient, she really didn't open up which is confusing to me as to why she agreed to come to the show if she's not willing to 'UNPACK'. Anyways I wish her all the best in life❤
She didn't want to share her vulnerability as a "perfect person" so she was just defensive! She put out her defense tools-the aggression, denial, and arrogance! Which are showing like hostility towards Relebogile!
@@JustRSADNA yes! Didn’t open up at all and Relebogile is so open minded and accepting I hope she learns something while watching this back that she can open up and let people in especially if you’re trying to be a public brand
Feels like she probably went through something in her past that she hasn't faced yet, now she uses this doll/I don't care/I'm a legend facade to musk her reality and feelings
My thoughts exactly , she seems to be struggling with some inner demons so she has adopted this "I don't care attitude " which is so sad because it's clear as day light to everyone that she is not well
Greeting from NYC. I don’t know how I go here, I guess it’s the RUclips algorithm, but this video was fascinating. The human mind and and psychological trauma is real. Great interview, I love the skill of just letting someone just talk and reveal themselves. It’s apparent that this woman is broken and using a gregarious personality to hide low self esteem. Great interview!!
@@nosim7440 but i have come to discover that if you have a void in you no amount of money or material possessions can fill that void…shame, I wish at some point in her life something will push her towards healing🙏🏾💖
With all the pain i see in Ennie, i have actually learned something from her. She reinvented herself despite all that she has been through. This woman has a beautiful heart underneath all this facade, this is just a coping mechanism.
I wish she was honest about the root of her mindset today. She wasn't born like this. Seems like her childhood traumas are manifesting in many detrimental ways.
This lady is not happy and whatever ordeal she went through runs way deeper that she thinks. She’s so insecure and defensive that a simple innocent question is interpreted as an attack on her character. Empty empty soul😞😞😞.
This Woman is not okay and she probably doesn't realize that. She might be doing all these surgeries to keep sane but what she needs is therapy, she needs to find her true self and also heal.
Beyonce "pretty hurts" with all the perfection you see in the mirror, are you happy with yourself?We focus so much on the physical beauty,but yet it's our souls that need SURGERY 😭😭
Lebo: " so what do you consider yourself"? Respondent: "I am a legend" Lebogile: " Don't you wish to send your father some good wishes"? Respondent: " I don't do that, I am a Legend". 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So much grace, remaining composed while interacting with a raging narcissist who thought her sense of self was threatened but this is unpacked- a show that unpacks issues!
She might sound lost to us but she is true to herself and I admire the fact that she is a business woman . I'm glad she doesn't put her husband first because that's the mistake that most women do an end up broken .
She is trying so hard to forget the old version of her. It must have been so hard for Relebogile to be interviewing someone with no home training and a very reactive personality....I really commend Relebogile's level of emotional intelligence👏👏👏👏
@@boniswalekhuleni9267 Heheeee. Such a response to such a simple question? There are professionals to help you to unpack your emotional baggage and your very reactive personality dear 😂🤣
I kinda subscribe to that actually, parents nowadays are regressing because they think they are raising kids to speak their minds when actually they are raising little terrors and monsters. Kids these days are a product of parents who think indulging their kids is good parenting. Kids should be seen yes and not heard, but that's not to oppress them, just teach them to respect authority, their parents etc. They are spoilt, rude, demanding, disrespectful etc so yes kids should know their place. Period.
@@banyana6515 Especially at a young age. Because after age 7 the child already have a system in place the moment a child start to gain their independence in thinking the teaching style has to change. There is a problem when a parent teach a 12 Year old like a 5 Year old. As parents there is so much for us to learn how to teach. I'm not speaking about 15/16 Year old they should be in their way of testing life as a parent you should be done with them because it on 2 or 3 years away from their doing decisions of their own. In a new Province away from you, what kind of friends is she or he gonna choose if she or he was away from home. Parents underestimate time. Parents unstable relationship life also contribute a lot. It time for us to remove berries of marriage let us encourage marriage, mybe it can solve this absent parents we condone today.
@banyana6515 I disagree. Children seen and not heard is definitely toxic and has resulted in a lot of problems in society and I'm sure some pathological disorders too. Giving children a voice doesn't mean they must trample all over you as a parent and do as they wish. One must find creative ways to strike a balance but if you insist on children respecting people simply because of their authority then we create problems and open them up to abuse from some adults who may have not so obvious mental issues, like narcissism.
Some of us are so oblivious to some of the things you bring to light on this show, I don’t relate at all to lo sisi but I’m glad we get to learn that there are people who are so far removed from who we are, but they are still normal and can get the platform to talk about their perspective. Thank you sis Rele
I lost it when she gaslighted Relebogile, I mean Relebogile was trying to reflect back to her what she had said in order to clarify her statement. She turned the table around and denied everything immediately instead of saying I meant like......!
Wow, 🥺 Relebogile ❤️❤️ You are a really great interviewer! This woman is so hurt, she is so broken to a point where she can only be defensive to communicate anything! You handled this like a therapist trying to unpack with such grace and empathy. While she is stuck in denial about her past, she self hates, very grandiose, she is pre-occupied with a fantasy of unlimited " plastic beauty", an overbearing sense of not needing understanding from others, and a lot of arrogance on top of it all !! Not to judge her, I noted all these behaviors during the interview! I love that she is unapologetically herself, but I hope she seeks therapy after this session. From her behavior, she probably won't because she is consumed with being a "LEGEND". Keep up the good work Relebogile, this is a great show!
@@goitsemangmokone3541 I agree with you, from what we are observing in this snippet we can say that she is putting up a facade. Her tone of voice, however, reeks of a lot of damage far from the perfectionism she claims to have, but maybe trying to align with the ''perfect facade" she is putting on.
The wisdom that kept you ausi Lebo in control of your emotions is amazing. As for this woman, the brokenness is so plain. I pray she oneday have the courage to face the elephant in her room
"I never knew what love is until I became a mother" I'm not gonna judge this woman because I totally I understand where's she's coming from, she never got the love she deserves from her parents , she's full of anger just that she's protecting herself. I think she needs healing
I don't think she even got it from her husband hence she chooses to forget when she got married cause I'm sure it's not good memories but she got the "perfect life" she never had
Shes ignorant doesnt want to be questioned because everything reminds her of her trauma and pain. Shes hurting she feels chained, all the surgery is trying to cover who she really is because he wants to be someone else. I applaud aus’Relebogile so keeping the conversation as calm as possible because the lady just wants to attack.
This lady needs a good therapist, this personality she has is just protecting her, its not her. I just hope she deals with it head on before her child shuts her out
She needs to take care of her inner child first there is a lot of insecurities and fear am picking up for her defensive answers even to the most genuine questions
The older I grow the more I realize that people are weird. there are all kinds of flavors and that's okay. As long as she's not hurting nobody. Pop off sis. One thing I've learned from this is that she knows what she wants and she's not afraid of getting it.
You can tell she is a lovely sweet person that has had a difficult past which made her build walls like most of us,I warmed up to her towards the end of the interview...I hope She does well in life
Relebogile you're brilliant at what you do. You are able to interveiw any kind of person...I'm just wondering why this lady agreed to be interviewed. She is defensive and lacks openess.
On a serious note though, this lady needs to heal her inner-child. There are so many layers of trauma, shame and resentment that she needs to heal from. She herself said she didn’t know what love is before the birth of her child. Can I also mention (own opinion) that communication is a bit of an issue here, I don’t think she comprehends whats being asked and in instances were she does comprehend… it’s articulating the answers. Relebogile, You are legendary Ausi waka. ❤️
Oh lord she is so insufferable...firstly she did say "you black people" and then denied it. She was so focused on making you look bad simply because she felt guilty for what she said. Absolutely cringey
@@thonkhaPatricia I totally agree with you. She didn't have an easy life growing up and she made it out-on her own terms and I applaud her for that🙏🏼. It doesn't seem like she's healed though, but I pray she'll make it out of that hole.❤
Hence she got married in order to have the "stability" and the " belonging" she never had. A mentality that a man loves you when he spends on you, I'm sure her marriage is loveless she ddnt really have much good to say about her husband she doesn't even "remember" or rather chooses to forget when she got married
Human beings are so interesting! When we try really really hard to mask pain and trauma, we tend to do outrageous things and believe that people buy it. (Almost like how a really insecure person is always telling people how confident they are). It never works, and when you continuously try to drive the narrative about yourself - it's because you don't believe it. She keeps saying she is a legend, she keeps wanting to be 'special'. -It's because she doesn't actually believe she is. I think we can all learn from this. There is so much trauma that she is physically wearing. Literally. Also, shoutout to Relebogile for scooping to her level. I saw that "I'm your friend/ not here to attack you" strategy. Although her walls are way up there and she is hard to get through. Rele did her best!
I loved every minute of this! It's easier to be nice than brave. She's living her best life. Who are we to judge? The interview had it all, thanks to Relebogile's skill as an interviewer. Well done!
@@Moments83 maybe you caught her on a bad day, she's a friend of mine what I will say is she's not a malicious person. We all have our days but she's always approachable from what I know. I see a lot of judgment on these posts and it's like maybe the behaviour you are seeing her display is a by product of living in a judgmental world. Also a lot of people calling her broken and in need of healing and praying for her blah blah blah, in some way are we all not broken in our own ways and in desperate need of healing, some people just hide it better. So maybe let's reserve our prayers for ourselves. Idk my 2 cents, adios ✌
Thank you for saying this, too many holier than thou peeps here, who's not broken after all? We all are, give the lady a rest. Is she defensive? Yes she is but it's clear why, so why judge her? It looks like through it all she did her best.
I don't understand why this lady agreed to be interviewed. She was extremely evasive if not actually obstructive. She seems lovely but I don't think she was ready to give an honest account for why she is "plastic" and why she loves it. This was so frustrating to watch😣
She's so rude, arrogant, defensive, disrespectful and too dismissive. Yoh nna ontenne shame. She gave Rele a tough time for no reason or whatsoever... Sadikwe😑😑.
There's so much sadness and rage within this lady. She's blocking her past like it never happened. She's so defensive and rebellious. I feel her hurt, I wish her some healing. This was the most uncomfortable conversation Lebo has had so far. I felt uncomfortable too watching this.
I disagree. Marriage is not prostitution. It is a cultural institution that some believe in. And lobola is also a cultural thing for certain communities. I married my husband out of love. And after 3 years we all going strong. And i am a professional whose parents did certainly not pimped me.
She sounds like she's under the influence of drugs or something. She keeps on saying she's a legend and keeps on laughing whenever she's been asked a deep question, something is not right with her.
I think she's trying to act strong and it's not working out. She's an empty soul. Her mom was kidnapped so that is also a great impact to who she is now
A small moment that’s just made me respect sis Relebogile even more 🙆🏾♀️ “So you don’t want to call [your dad]?” “For what?” “To, I don’t know, have a relationship with him, connect with him.” “No.” “To say ‘Happy Father’s Day’?” “For what?” “Because, you know, that’s what some people do.” I think ordinarily, a person would have said something callous like, “That’s what people NORMALLY do,” or “That’s what MOST people do.” I just really appreciate that even in such a small moment, sis Relebogile tries to create a space that is truly welcoming, not one where guests are viewed as a deviation to “the norm”. I think that’s what makes her interviews so powerful for me - how she treats people’s stories as completely valid (unpatronisingly), but also without being afraid to ask necessary difficult questions that allow the story to be told with its true depth and complexity.
She is different and she thinks different.... And to someone else it might not make sense bcs we were programed to live our lives a certain way.... I respect her for that..and to those who keep on saying she is escaping from her past.. If ur past memories hurt u why should u revisit them, why would u want tp revisit something that causes so much pain to u... Sometimes we deny ourselves the opportunity to be happy by being stuck in the past... And there is nothing wrong with leaving painful memories behind..
In her case "leaving the past in the past" has left her trying to put bandages on cracks her whole life. She's literally built a wall around herself, a wall so high that even someone as warm and welcoming as ausi Rele wasn't able to get through just to have an open conversation with her.
this is a result of unhealed trauma, having a nonchalant way of life but choosing to tag yourself as assertive screams of tons of hurt that is covered. s/o to Rele for being able to sit through what seems to be many uncomfortable conversations.
This is sad (at least for me). Well...when I look at her I see someone who is still living her life trying to prove something to someone. It's like a teenager trying to find her own identity. I feel like she didn't have a normal (good) childhood, where she didn't receive love and attention. May she return back to herself. Sis Lebo you handled the interview like a pro.
This episode is better when you watch it the second time round. It removes the initial shock and you almost hear here better. First time I watched it I was very confused but second time around I think I got a better understanding of who she is. She might be very misunderstood. She might have pain and unresolved issues, but who doesn't? So watch it with a pinch of salt.
@@lebohangsekese5565 whatever thing she went through and she can't let go. it could be the pain, anger, indenial, whatever it is she needs to be free from.
It’s the ‘duh’ for me. 😂😂🤣🤣 Relebogile, how many times did you laugh after shooting this, while editing and after it aired? Your tummy still hurts probably. 😂😂
This lady is dancing to the tune of her own music I love her honesty. She went through the most but is not basking in her sorrows crying about the spilled milk. Sis is going on with life, in her own terms
I love her, she has obviously gone through some challenges and she is living her truth nonetheless, we don't have to like nor accept it, because it is after all her life. Celebrities we admire do surgeries all the time and we are cool with it.
Kinda makes sense though😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂our society and "culture" has just made it more dignified and acceptable. Seeing that clip on someone's status is the reason I came here to watch. It was quite interesting.
When the interview ended at 33mins and no part 2, I was like thank God. If this is Legendary, then I don’t want it. I genuinely pray for her healing and that she sees her brokenness sooner than later.
Unpacked has officially become one of my favorite shows to watch. Relebogile you are gifted in this work. May your gift continue to open more doors for you 💛🕯️🙏🏾. As for your guests, may you continue to hold them with such grace and warmth. May they each take what they need from this space when they reflect on their unpacked stories. Ps: you and your team are doing amazing with this show. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love this woman. She probably isn't connected to who she really is and a lot of us aren't but she is present. She shows up. I hope she eventually finds help.
I love the fact that the "Legend" expressed herself freely. At times one needs someone to vent out to. Thank you Relebogile for an amazing interview.🙏❤
After witnessing how Relebogile handled this interview it further proves to me how i could never do this work. Its a craft i tell you. My emotions would have never allowed me to recover like that stru🤞. I guess thats why people like Relebogile have longevity in the industry! Been listening to you even before your 702 morning show! You are consistent with the quality.
I have been watching quite a lot of your shows and there has been clear unpacking of people's story. I am sorry that I am not really connecting with her story besides that she is her own legend and seemingly does not associate herself with what commonly is known of common societal issues. My heart was unsettled a bit when she asked what is the reason to call her father. In my own words, she is vague and I suspect that she is really not happy about herself. She just wanted to be different and her difference displays some inhuman tendencies. Truly a very difficult conversation Relebogile has ever had.
I feel like Relebogile would be great as a therapist coz she’s great at probing. As a tv host she’s limited coz she can’t make certain comments but she has the potential to help people get healed emotionally by getting them to be honest with themselves
I second that cc, she is really good
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Well said👏
Her interviewing skills are on another level👌👌
Well said Lorraine.
The only legend I see here is Rele for handling this interview so professionally.
Yoh Relebogile maintaining coolness and neutral here and still trying to dig out info from a defensive person is commendable 👌 , I respect her for that
Love how Relebogile is handling the interview, I think I would have walked out
This is someone who’s very angry she’s filled with rage I can relate🥺
Sis, she is amazing
Right! They chose the perfect person for this,Lebo is the right person for this show 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I respect Relebogile on this one hahahahahahahahahahaha
My take away from this episode: I must be a better mother so that I don't traumatise my daughter with my actions and make her build such high walls.
This has got to be the most challenging conversation that sesi Relebogile has had on Unpacked, keep doing the good work☺️
This lady has lots of hidden information. She is in her fantasy world and off the reality issues.
True shame and she doesn't loose her cool easily, I sensed some arrogance at some point from the guest. And I feel she's trying so hard to seem happy about her life and who she is now🤦♀️
Mommy's kidnapping issues and father's issues as well
😂😂😂
This lady is being so hostile! It’s like she’s used to being judged so she puts up walls & becomes defensive. I’ve seen this behavior a lot from the lgbtqi community & that’s because of the way they’ve been treated. Relebogile is Gracious, warm & accommodating as usual. Personally I love different people because that is bravery to me ❤️.
Yeah its actually quite sad, and as a result I feel like she didn't really open up or took us to that place where we actually got to know the 'real' her if that makes sense.
I feel like this could have been such a beautiful interview for us to actually get into her state of mind as to what led to her changing her looks.
She's trying so hard to be strong and unbothered about things that under normal circumstances would be regarded as painful experiences by most people.
On the other hand I kind of understand how difficult it is to really open up and risk being seen as weak or have people use your vulnerability against you.
Lasty she made this interview so difficult and thank goodness Relebogile was so gracious and patient, she really didn't open up which is confusing to me as to why she agreed to come to the show if she's not willing to 'UNPACK'.
Anyways I wish her all the best in life❤
She didn't want to share her vulnerability as a "perfect person" so she was just defensive! She put out her defense tools-the aggression, denial, and arrogance! Which are showing like hostility towards Relebogile!
@@thelazysnapper exactly I feel like I walked away knowing nothing about her at all and it’s a shame because she’s so interesting
@@JustRSADNA yes! Didn’t open up at all and Relebogile is so open minded and accepting I hope she learns something while watching this back that she can open up and let people in especially if you’re trying to be a public brand
@@nonkuanimated3328 Relebogile handled it so well I'm in awe🙌as for the lady I don't even know where to begin.May she find peace🙏
I feel like this woman has so many hidden stories and also she's not happy with herself. It was quite a challenging discussion/conversation
Yeah of course she does hey but she is true to herself
Almost every response is tinted with a sense of defensiveness. I agree with you.
Relebogile is the most patient interviewer I have ever seen. I mean her tone is apprehensive I'd have lost it already
Only God will fill up a void inside her
you are so right , seems she liessssssssssss too
One thing you can't miss is the anger she has. I really pray she finds healing
She is pissed!
This is bigger than anger issues, it is narcissistic personality disorder!
Exactly my thoughts shes forever ready to attack any question. She sounds very empty and lonely inside!
O ikwatetse
She have too much anger shm. Is even hard for Relebohile to get through her yoh! 😕
It's difficult to watch this interview, this lady is so broken it's heartbreaking to watch.
It really is,it is actually sad to watch 😭
I agree, I honestly feel that she is confused...!
Feels like she probably went through something in her past that she hasn't faced yet, now she uses this doll/I don't care/I'm a legend facade to musk her reality and feelings
My thoughts exactly , she seems to be struggling with some inner demons so she has adopted this "I don't care attitude " which is so sad because it's clear as day light to everyone that she is not well
Ohhhh nkosiyam.shem shes so broken.shame
I could never have a conversation with someone like this 😩 well done Relebogile! You are SO good at this
Greeting from NYC. I don’t know how I go here, I guess it’s the RUclips algorithm, but this video was fascinating. The human mind and and psychological trauma is real. Great interview, I love the skill of just letting someone just talk and reveal themselves. It’s apparent that this woman is broken and using a gregarious personality to hide low self esteem. Great interview!!
Exactly the words I was looking for 💯
@@leboselepe7910 thanks 🙏 🙂
Exactly
… I really wonder where you see low self esteem in this woman.
Something about her breaks my heart...I hope she is loved
I dont think that marriage is loving, but she has the home that she never had she "belongs" and she "matters" to someone
@@nosim7440 but i have come to discover that if you have a void in you no amount of money or material possessions can fill that void…shame, I wish at some point in her life something will push her towards healing🙏🏾💖
I'm more so impressed with how Relebogile handled the interview. Quite professional, despite how today's guest was.
i feel they were not getting each other. or she did not really understand Lebo's angle of questioning
Relebogile is the best I must say🙌She's amazing handled it well I'm in awe
@@MrsMax2009 The guest had a wall up! Also defensive
I had to come to the comments because lm like hawu answer the questions 🙄🙄🙄🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Bra, she was a lot…the repetitive ‘duh’ got me. Mad defensive and a little rude to be honest.
With all the pain i see in Ennie, i have actually learned something from her. She reinvented herself despite all that she has been through. This woman has a beautiful heart underneath all this facade, this is just a coping mechanism.
your perspective is so legendary , stay kind
Yeah true
I wish she was honest about the root of her mindset today. She wasn't born like this. Seems like her childhood traumas are manifesting in many detrimental ways.
Words were over crowding my speech. Thank you for laying it out sis.
It's definitely more deeper than what she's telling!!
Esh well put. I've watched this 4 times I didn't know how to put it. You're right
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Well said
This lady is not happy and whatever ordeal she went through runs way deeper that she thinks. She’s so insecure and defensive that a simple innocent question is interpreted as an attack on her character. Empty empty soul😞😞😞.
Empty soul , I agree
You are so right
You said to so well and coherently, which is the opposite of what this lady is
She needs emotional healing
This Woman is not okay and she probably doesn't realize that. She might be doing all these surgeries to keep sane but what she needs is therapy, she needs to find her true self and also heal.
Beyonce "pretty hurts" with all the perfection you see in the mirror, are you happy with yourself?We focus so much on the physical beauty,but yet it's our souls that need SURGERY 😭😭
What an exhausting interview…. I’m exhausted just watching….good job Relebogile
Me too🤣🤣
very exhausting
Bruh l thought l was the only one 😂
I`m watching it now only. I`m halfway and the exhaution has me too. Eish!
This woman is actually funny and quite a character. I guess we deal with our traumas differently. Big up to the legend ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾😂😂😂
Lebo: " so what do you consider yourself"?
Respondent: "I am a legend"
Lebogile: " Don't you wish to send your father some good wishes"?
Respondent: " I don't do that, I am a Legend".
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
bathong legend! sounds like someone with unresolved internal issues.
Aman to that
You sound like one of them
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@@lockupyourdaughters and you look like them
Lo ubheme nyaope straight 😂😂😂😂
Relebogile you are like a phycologist. You are able to tell or pick up things that are said. Like attention to details I like you so much
Thank you Dima! 💕
Thank you, thank you, thank you Dima 🙌. I, too, suspected go re bo psychologist bo gona mo. 😆
She is a good listener and very accurate. I love her❤
She is so professional
Her healing will finally begin after watching herself on this show...I trust 🙏
I hope so 🙏🏾. She needs it.
Dear I dont think she will ever get it she is mentally not okay....let's just pray she heals
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she doesnt see anything wrong with her self
Only if she wants to see her brokenness for what it is. If she still believes she's this "legend" and she's "fine" then it won't come
Honestly I am so attached to Unpacked because of the way Relebogile carries the interviiews with grace 💯♥️😭 Thank you soo much ma'am👑❤💯♥️😭
Thank you for this great feedback
So much grace, remaining composed while interacting with a raging narcissist who thought her sense of self was threatened but this is unpacked- a show that unpacks issues!
She might sound lost to us but she is true to herself and I admire the fact that she is a business woman . I'm glad she doesn't put her husband first because that's the mistake that most women do an end up broken .
Last statement, right 👍
I love your comment. She choice to be who she wants to be and I love that.
She just unleashed defence mode unprovoked 😭😭😭😭
My thought exactly..
At. Every. Point.
Axacly!
It's because she hates being black
She is trying so hard to forget the old version of her. It must have been so hard for Relebogile to be interviewing someone with no home training and a very reactive personality....I really commend Relebogile's level of emotional intelligence👏👏👏👏
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Home training ke eng? I mean what box do you force human beings into?
Absolutely.
@@portiaphiri2682 manners when speaking to people I mean you don't just respond to people in such a reckless and disrectful manner....
@@boniswalekhuleni9267 Heheeee. Such a response to such a simple question? There are professionals to help you to unpack your emotional baggage and your very reactive personality dear 😂🤣
She raises a very good point about how we are raised. Children been seen and not heard-toxic parenting
I kinda subscribe to that actually, parents nowadays are regressing because they think they are raising kids to speak their minds when actually they are raising little terrors and monsters. Kids these days are a product of parents who think indulging their kids is good parenting. Kids should be seen yes and not heard, but that's not to oppress them, just teach them to respect authority, their parents etc. They are spoilt, rude, demanding, disrespectful etc so yes kids should know their place. Period.
@@banyana6515 Especially at a young age. Because after age 7 the child already have a system in place the moment a child start to gain their independence in thinking the teaching style has to change. There is a problem when a parent teach a 12 Year old like a 5 Year old. As parents there is so much for us to learn how to teach. I'm not speaking about 15/16 Year old they should be in their way of testing life as a parent you should be done with them because it on 2 or 3 years away from their doing decisions of their own. In a new Province away from you, what kind of friends is she or he gonna choose if she or he was away from home. Parents underestimate time. Parents unstable relationship life also contribute a lot. It time for us to remove berries of marriage let us encourage marriage, mybe it can solve this absent parents we condone today.
Yeah, I agreed with her on that one
@banyana6515 I disagree. Children seen and not heard is definitely toxic and has resulted in a lot of problems in society and I'm sure some pathological disorders too. Giving children a voice doesn't mean they must trample all over you as a parent and do as they wish. One must find creative ways to strike a balance but if you insist on children respecting people simply because of their authority then we create problems and open them up to abuse from some adults who may have not so obvious mental issues, like narcissism.
So true... wrong is wrong... no matter who its done by.... she is right about the abuse part
Some of us are so oblivious to some of the things you bring to light on this show, I don’t relate at all to lo sisi but I’m glad we get to learn that there are people who are so far removed from who we are, but they are still normal and can get the platform to talk about their perspective. Thank you sis Rele
Thank you for tuning in with such a refreshingly open mind 💕
My takeaway from this episode is be a legend period 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I like Manny there by your profile picture 🥰
😂 🚶🏾♀️
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Ooooh Manny 😍😍
She’s a legend 😂😂🤣😅
Yoh! Sesi Relebogile handled this interview like a pro she is. This lady was mad rude to her, unnecessarily.
I lost it when she gaslighted Relebogile, I mean Relebogile was trying to reflect back to her what she had said in order to clarify her statement. She turned the table around and denied everything immediately instead of saying I meant like......!
Very rude
The number of “duh”s that were served 🤕
@@stahface those "duh's" sent me😂😂Yooh aa
@@lingelihlelalu5826 😂😂😂 hei!
Wow, 🥺 Relebogile ❤️❤️ You are a really great interviewer! This woman is so hurt, she is so broken to a point where she can only be defensive to communicate anything! You handled this like a therapist trying to unpack with such grace and empathy. While she is stuck in denial about her past, she self hates, very grandiose, she is pre-occupied with a fantasy of unlimited " plastic beauty", an overbearing sense of not needing understanding from others, and a lot of arrogance on top of it all !! Not to judge her, I noted all these behaviors during the interview! I love that she is unapologetically herself, but I hope she seeks therapy after this session. From her behavior, she probably won't because she is consumed with being a "LEGEND". Keep up the good work Relebogile, this is a great show!
I think she has a facade up in order to protect herself instead of trying to heal from the hurt😥
Thank you ❤️❤️
@@goitsemangmokone3541 I agree with you, from what we are observing in this snippet we can say that she is putting up a facade. Her tone of voice, however, reeks of a lot of damage far from the perfectionism she claims to have, but maybe trying to align with the ''perfect facade" she is putting on.
@@relebogilemabotja215 You are so good at this Sesi, you remained composed!
The wisdom that kept you ausi Lebo in control of your emotions is amazing. As for this woman, the brokenness is so plain. I pray she oneday have the courage to face the elephant in her room
"I never knew what love is until I became a mother" I'm not gonna judge this woman because I totally I understand where's she's coming from, she never got the love she deserves from her parents , she's full of anger just that she's protecting herself. I think she needs healing
I don't think she even got it from her husband hence she chooses to forget when she got married cause I'm sure it's not good memories but she got the "perfect life" she never had
True
This woman seems to have a lot of pain.
Not only pain but serious confusion and she seem to be emotionless.
Something died in her and she was left carrying the word LEGEND 😂😂
@@normakay9244 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 Sis Legend needs to heal
@@normakay9244 😂😂😂😂😂
@@bonganimiza6253the only emotion is anger....loads of it...it's so sad may she find healing 🙈
It's the host asking all the relevant questions for me👌🏾
Yoh. This was hectic. So proud of Lebo for remaining so calm. I applaud her shem!!!
Shes ignorant doesnt want to be questioned because everything reminds her of her trauma and pain. Shes hurting she feels chained, all the surgery is trying to cover who she really is because he wants to be someone else. I applaud aus’Relebogile so keeping the conversation as calm as possible because the lady just wants to attack.
This woman managed to articulate RAGE and FURY without even realising
True,
I am very sad for this lady. I pray for healing in every area of her life, in the name of Jesus. Lord have mercy.
yes, shes very angry
This lady needs a good therapist, this personality she has is just protecting her, its not her. I just hope she deals with it head on before her child shuts her out
She needs to take care of her inner child first there is a lot of insecurities and fear am picking up for her defensive answers even to the most genuine questions
And she is very rude
The older I grow the more I realize that people are weird. there are all kinds of flavors and that's okay. As long as she's not hurting nobody. Pop off sis. One thing I've learned from this is that she knows what she wants and she's not afraid of getting it.
You can tell she is a lovely sweet person that has had a difficult past which made her build walls like most of us,I warmed up to her towards the end of the interview...I hope She does well in life
Relebogile you're brilliant at what you do. You are able to interveiw any kind of person...I'm just wondering why this lady agreed to be interviewed. She is defensive and lacks openess.
Am wondering too ey🤔
Thank you! We just wanted to provide a safe space for her to unpack her truth. So I hope we were able to do that.
@@relebogilemabotja215 Absolutely👌🏾
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 she’s brutally honest and it takes a lot of guts to be that way.. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
On a serious note though, this lady needs to heal her inner-child. There are so many layers of trauma, shame and resentment that she needs to heal from. She herself said she didn’t know what love is before the birth of her child.
Can I also mention (own opinion) that communication is a bit of an issue here, I don’t think she comprehends whats being asked and in instances were she does comprehend… it’s articulating the answers.
Relebogile, You are legendary Ausi waka. ❤️
Oh lord she is so insufferable...firstly she did say "you black people" and then denied it. She was so focused on making you look bad simply because she felt guilty for what she said. Absolutely cringey
She basically gaslighted Relebogile, yhuuu I cringed!
I applaud you sis relebogile because the interviewee was just so hostile and you handled the whole interview professionally
I was cringing the whole time like the level of patience Relebogile has *claps once* soze kube ndimi shame
The answer to the question "where did you grow up" sum up everything and made me understand why inner healing is needed. #UnpackedWithRelebogile
To Y'all I'm legend.🤫 ,#UnpackedWithRelebogile
@@thonkhaPatricia What an inflated sense of self "I am a legend"
Finally got to this comment! Wanted to say something similar....that moving from one place to another really messed her up🤞🏼
@@pennyndlovu7296 and it seems like she made decisions about her life from a bleeding heart ,because the world wasn't loving to her and her mother..
@@thonkhaPatricia I totally agree with you. She didn't have an easy life growing up and she made it out-on her own terms and I applaud her for that🙏🏼. It doesn't seem like she's healed though, but I pray she'll make it out of that hole.❤
I think this lady is hurt on behalf of her mother as well and what she's been through just that she's being strong about it
Hence she got married in order to have the "stability" and the " belonging" she never had. A mentality that a man loves you when he spends on you, I'm sure her marriage is loveless she ddnt really have much good to say about her husband she doesn't even "remember" or rather chooses to forget when she got married
She's not strong,, she's weak & empty
Human beings are so interesting! When we try really really hard to mask pain and trauma, we tend to do outrageous things and believe that people buy it. (Almost like how a really insecure person is always telling people how confident they are). It never works, and when you continuously try to drive the narrative about yourself - it's because you don't believe it. She keeps saying she is a legend, she keeps wanting to be 'special'. -It's because she doesn't actually believe she is. I think we can all learn from this. There is so much trauma that she is physically wearing. Literally. Also, shoutout to Relebogile for scooping to her level. I saw that "I'm your friend/ not here to attack you" strategy. Although her walls are way up there and she is hard to get through. Rele did her best!
Good analysis. pure facts.
I loved every minute of this! It's easier to be nice than brave.
She's living her best life. Who are we to judge?
The interview had it all, thanks to Relebogile's skill as an interviewer.
Well done!
She’s not somebody I could dislike.. she is interesting
Not until you meet her physically… she is mean. But i guess it all depends on what grounds/ mood one meets a person
@@Moments83 maybe you caught her on a bad day, she's a friend of mine what I will say is she's not a malicious person. We all have our days but she's always approachable from what I know. I see a lot of judgment on these posts and it's like maybe the behaviour you are seeing her display is a by product of living in a judgmental world. Also a lot of people calling her broken and in need of healing and praying for her blah blah blah, in some way are we all not broken in our own ways and in desperate need of healing, some people just hide it better. So maybe let's reserve our prayers for ourselves. Idk my 2 cents, adios ✌
Thank you for saying this, too many holier than thou peeps here, who's not broken after all? We all are, give the lady a rest. Is she defensive? Yes she is but it's clear why, so why judge her? It looks like through it all she did her best.
I pray for healing to Dwell in her soul forever.
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I don't understand why this lady agreed to be interviewed. She was extremely evasive if not actually obstructive. She seems lovely but I don't think she was ready to give an honest account for why she is "plastic" and why she loves it. This was so frustrating to watch😣
She agreed, just to get some narcissistic supply i.e "the attention"
I'm so frustrated hey and I'm not even done watching😭😩
😭😭😭😩I swear
She's so rude, arrogant, defensive, disrespectful and too dismissive. Yoh nna ontenne shame. She gave Rele a tough time for no reason or whatsoever... Sadikwe😑😑.
My heart goes out to this lady...❤❤
I felt uncomfortable on behalf Relebogile. I pray this lady finds healing..🙏🏼 " The Legend"
Am 20 minutes in and this feels more like a therapy session than an interview. A lot of unresolved issues in this woman.
I respect Lebo for being able to keep going because wow! This is a very difficult guest…
There's so much sadness and rage within this lady. She's blocking her past like it never happened. She's so defensive and rebellious. I feel her hurt, I wish her some healing. This was the most uncomfortable conversation Lebo has had so far. I felt uncomfortable too watching this.
I once read somewhere that an oppressive and narcissistic childhood sometimes manifests itself as self hatred and rebellion.
Imagine telling your child "you're born to die"is it not traumatic to a child,so the chain of trauma will carry on with her son???
Relebogile's EQ is of an incredibly high standard! Hope the lady finds peace of mind🙏🏿
Shot for every time she says “I’m a legend” 😂🙈
I actually died there, the forced arrogance is wack
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You'll have babalazi😂😂😂😂😂
I shouted shut up and heal!
@@JustRSADNA 😂🤭
I actually warmed up to the interview. She gets really sweet and friendly towards the end.
Yees
This is the lady who went to “come dine with me SA” and added pink food colouring to chicken feet and heads, RIGHT?
Love her💕😂
Been thinking where I have seen her, thank you 😍
Really? I didn't realize... Ha ha ha!
@@siya_restorer Yes! Did you watch it?😂
@@ncumisajuliwe6874 they need to repeat that episode 😂😂
&pink Pap.... Love her 😍😂
I’ve just realized that you’re an outstanding presenter! 😊
Wow, thank you!
You indeed are, the best at what you do.
I disagree. Marriage is not prostitution. It is a cultural institution that some believe in. And lobola is also a cultural thing for certain communities. I married my husband out of love. And after 3 years we all going strong. And i am a professional whose parents did certainly not pimped me.
This is the lady who was on Come Dine with me South Africa, she had EVERYTHING pink... She even served her guests pink pap and pink chicken feet 😭😭
I remember that episode
😱😱😱what?!
Yeah she is the one I watch the episode too
I ddnt watch this one😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yeah now that you say i remember her😐
She sounds like she's under the influence of drugs or something. She keeps on saying she's a legend and keeps on laughing whenever she's been asked a deep question, something is not right with her.
I think she's trying to act strong and it's not working out. She's an empty soul.
Her mom was kidnapped so that is also a great impact to who she is now
It’s a coping mechanism
She's not okay
A small moment that’s just made me respect sis Relebogile even more 🙆🏾♀️
“So you don’t want to call [your dad]?”
“For what?”
“To, I don’t know, have a relationship with him, connect with him.”
“No.”
“To say ‘Happy Father’s Day’?”
“For what?”
“Because, you know, that’s what some people do.”
I think ordinarily, a person would have said something callous like, “That’s what people NORMALLY do,” or “That’s what MOST people do.” I just really appreciate that even in such a small moment, sis Relebogile tries to create a space that is truly welcoming, not one where guests are viewed as a deviation to “the norm”. I think that’s what makes her interviews so powerful for me - how she treats people’s stories as completely valid (unpatronisingly), but also without being afraid to ask necessary difficult questions that allow the story to be told with its true depth and complexity.
She is different and she thinks different.... And to someone else it might not make sense bcs we were programed to live our lives a certain way....
I respect her for that..and to those who keep on saying she is escaping from her past..
If ur past memories hurt u why should u revisit them, why would u want tp revisit something that causes so much pain to u... Sometimes we deny ourselves the opportunity to be happy by being stuck in the past... And there is nothing wrong with leaving painful memories behind..
In her case "leaving the past in the past" has left her trying to put bandages on cracks her whole life. She's literally built a wall around herself, a wall so high that even someone as warm and welcoming as ausi Rele wasn't able to get through just to have an open conversation with her.
I like how she strives on living in the moment, right or wrong for others...she is doing her♥️
She is not hurting anyone, which I love so much, most broken people break others.
Straight forward, living her life.. I love her. The way she talks about her son and mom, it's deep love... Shes truly Legendary!!
I’ve been binge watching these episodes for a straight 24 hours now. This is amazing!
I love her! I think people only see hurt but I think her healing made her so brave and honest. Most people expected pretensions sentimental answers.
this is a result of unhealed trauma, having a nonchalant way of life but choosing to tag yourself as assertive screams of tons of hurt that is covered. s/o to Rele for being able to sit through what seems to be many uncomfortable conversations.
I disagree. been assertive is a sign of been healed, lacking boundaries is a sign of not been healed and psychology supports that
Couldn't agree more.She talks about being a doormat in the past and not caring about it.She hasn't healed.
This is sad (at least for me). Well...when I look at her I see someone who is still living her life trying to prove something to someone. It's like a teenager trying to find her own identity. I feel like she didn't have a normal (good) childhood, where she didn't receive love and attention. May she return back to herself.
Sis Lebo you handled the interview like a pro.
The way we were brought up really has a big impact later in life ,she sounds like she has been hurt a great deal...
Why is she denying that she did say you black people don't get it?....14:46
This lady goes through a lot. Heal mtase heal.
This episode is better when you watch it the second time round. It removes the initial shock and you almost hear here better.
First time I watched it I was very confused but second time around I think I got a better understanding of who she is. She might be very misunderstood. She might have pain and unresolved issues, but who doesn't? So watch it with a pinch of salt.
Relebogile is so pretty and beautiful, beautiful in all forms and the way she handled this interview is everything 😍😍
She’s broken 😞 it’s sad 😢
She really is.
Especially about the dad maybe he molested her
🕯 For Her to find Healing & Deliverance 🕯
deliverance from what
@@lebohangsekese5565 whatever thing she went through and she can't let go. it could be the pain, anger, indenial, whatever it is she needs to be free from.
It’s the ‘duh’ for me. 😂😂🤣🤣
Relebogile, how many times did you laugh after shooting this, while editing and after it aired? Your tummy still hurts probably. 😂😂
It took me out 😬😬
😂😂😂I literally laughed
Duh 🤣 she obviously had a gas 😂🤣
This lady is dancing to the tune of her own music I love her honesty. She went through the most but is not basking in her sorrows crying about the spilled milk. Sis is going on with life, in her own terms
I love her, she has obviously gone through some challenges and she is living her truth nonetheless, we don't have to like nor accept it, because it is after all her life. Celebrities we admire do surgeries all the time and we are cool with it.
"Your parents are pimps; your husband is a client"... I can't breathe
Kinda makes sense though😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂our society and "culture" has just made it more dignified and acceptable. Seeing that clip on someone's status is the reason I came here to watch. It was quite interesting.
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😂😂😂Imagine
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& She's Right In A Sense. This Backward Tradition Is Just Exploitation.
When the interview ended at 33mins and no part 2, I was like thank God. If this is Legendary, then I don’t want it. I genuinely pray for her healing and that she sees her brokenness sooner than later.
Shuuuu hayi the vibes though.. Im literally on the edge of my couch cause I keep feeling like an argument will erupt
She’s so defensive 🥲
Yea this lady is hurting, a lot and she’s not ready to deal with it but Relebogile is subtly tryna show her her wounds
Lorraine I agree, but I also admire her attitude sometimes after going through a lot the best thing to do is just do you.
Unpacked has officially become one of my favorite shows to watch. Relebogile you are gifted in this work. May your gift continue to open more doors for you 💛🕯️🙏🏾. As for your guests, may you continue to hold them with such grace and warmth. May they each take what they need from this space when they reflect on their unpacked stories. Ps: you and your team are doing amazing with this show. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you!
I'm so thankful I found this channel, I have a feeling that I will still learn so much more
Glad you could find it. Please subscribe and select the bell icon so that you can get notifications of new episodes 😊
I love this woman. She probably isn't connected to who she really is and a lot of us aren't but she is present. She shows up. I hope she eventually finds help.
She literally said “you black people” then denied it and put it on Lebo. This episode was special 😂
I even had to rewind. She said it
Yep, she said it 🙈
LOL! "you're on your own" if that's what you heard 😂
you're on your own😂😂😂
She denied her own words😱.
I love the fact that the "Legend" expressed herself freely. At times one needs someone to vent out to. Thank you Relebogile for an amazing interview.🙏❤
This lady's personality deserves the real housewives, or love and hip hop.
She was on Come dine with me SA show on 174, she cooked them pink pap, pink walky talkies, pink everything... I was😲I recorded the episode 🤣twas lit👌
@@tr7824 😂😂😂😂😂 I remember the guests were scared as hell. It was my first time seeing her
@@andisiwengendi8500 that's scary😂
@@andisiwengendi8500
Yooooh!
Oh now i remember her even the house was so pinky😂😂
After witnessing how Relebogile handled this interview it further proves to me how i could never do this work. Its a craft i tell you. My emotions would have never allowed me to recover like that stru🤞. I guess thats why people like Relebogile have longevity in the industry! Been listening to you even before your 702 morning show! You are consistent with the quality.
Wow I want to have the same emotional intelligence as Relebogile. Wow this lady 🙆🏽♀️
I have been watching quite a lot of your shows and there has been clear unpacking of people's story. I am sorry that I am not really connecting with her story besides that she is her own legend and seemingly does not associate herself with what commonly is known of common societal issues.
My heart was unsettled a bit when she asked what is the reason to call her father. In my own words, she is vague and I suspect that she is really not happy about herself. She just wanted to be different and her difference displays some inhuman tendencies. Truly a very difficult conversation Relebogile has ever had.
Thank you Bongani
Ja I usually learn alot from the episodes, but this one aai
She reminds me of Brenda fassie, she's in her own world
Also yohhh you were so calm even when she was being rude or misunderstood you 🙌🙌…..
Cringe fest I tell you..😩😩😩
@@lukhanyosotyingwa1680 every two minute *cringe…yoh hai
@@BontleSibuyi I felt angry , confused and sorry for her..😩
@@lukhanyosotyingwa1680 but then she handled it like a queen
@@BontleSibuyi like a true G.
Relebogile is soooo mature and patient! 🥺❤️ She handled this interview professionally!
I sense so much anger in her.
@Vanessa she is angry very angry bathong.
So angry.
But it must stem from her journey
Eeeh, legend
I like the spark and vibrancy when she spoke about her business. 💞
Guys look deeper in this, she's actually a lovely human being who has been through a lot... Please don't judge her.... ❤️❤️🤗
Yoo Angie. That's so true
I actually enjoyed her very much. I think people take things too seriously sometimes.
Yho I pray she finds peace and healing within herself. This is heartbreaking. Sending love and light
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I love this show ❤️❤️❤️ And that lady is living out loud and proud ❤️❤️I love her and wish her well