I just wanted you to know how much you have helped me in my healing process. My D day was last August 14...He is remorseful and doing everything to help me no matter what it is...Listening to you talk about the how the person that cheated feels about things has really been a Godsend in my recovery..I just wanted to thank you and your wife for being so open and honest. I know it can’t be easy..,but just know you have helped so many...so again. Thank you
Oh my gosh I cannot thank you enough for this message. It has driven me to the brink of insanity how carefully I can say something that is weighing on my heart but somehow each and every time he can twist it into this malicious attacking thing (no matter how hard I tried to weigh things out and presenting issue in a decent careful way). I very much realize I have been so far from perfect but your message could not be more perfect and well spoken. I can't thank you enough - I found peace in the knowledge rather than letting it drive me entirely insane. You cannot begin to imagine the impact this one video alone has had on me.
Everything you said is spot on. I literally just had a blow up argument with my spouse about his infidelity and he said he only cheated because I changed. Despite this being his third time cheating, (4th lie), he still blames me because I wasn’t changing back to be what he needed and wanted me to be. Not even thinking about or caring about the fact that he wasn’t what I needed him to be, he was what I wanted, I chose him anyway.
Thank you, Samuel. That is why I go back and watch these videos over & over again, because I’m not in the same place I was when I first watched them. I glean more gold nuggets from them now than I did when I was barely past D-day. Thank you Affair Recovery for this very helpful resource.
I am soooooo thankful for you, your strength, love for God and our savior and for the love of others to help by doing what you do! God sent you to me threw these videos when I needed something and was getting nothing at the time. I was all alone and feeling like I was nothing and nowhere needed. Just a waste of space. My night and shining armor ripped my heart out abandoned me and I was so lost and confused as to what happened I just wanted to die! Sometimes still do! But you have helped me so much and I am very thankful! Thank you Samuel!
does my heart good to hear that, but i'm just trying to help. if i help then awesome, but i'm grateful for the chance to encourage you and support you.
Brendan Leaman Do you ever ask your unfaithful to watch videos? I find it virtually impossible to raise the subject, let alone watch/read information! I’m utterly messed-up though....
Kevin Kobylinski I’ve heard again & again that any form our couples counselling is an utter waste of time unless the affair partner is long-gone & the unfaithful is ready to focus on healing.
@@suzimonkey345 i wouldn't say that....there are many who come to our ems weekend who are still involved with their affair partner and have pretty significant heart and life changes. it also depends on what you mean by marriage counseling. that's a pretty ambiguous term. there is hope and there is a way even if involved with the affair partner.
Im 9 months through the process of recovery so far we go to counceling once a week church on Sundays we are a family of faith i love God so much. im the betrayed my husband is so awesome in his recovery hes made me feel safe as much as he can ive even asked him to please forgive himself as. I also forgave him we communicate often hes patient. im the problem! Im working so hard to try to save this relationship friendship marriage i keep letting my pain obstruct my heart.i love him. he tells me everyday how much he adores and loves me yet i cant over come the thoughts of him with her.im resentfull but i don't always make it known he doesnt deserve to be beraded everyday.i just dont trust him i feel horrible about that BECAUSE HE HAs GONE BEYOND TO MAKE ME FEEL SAFE.I CAN SEE THE CHANGE IN HIM im just wondering why there's not a whole change in me.
I still want my True 💘 I still want my True Husband He has made a mistake and I want him to come to me in his own ID his own face the one that he came to me before I am still Madly In 💘 with him and really want to work things out.
I just wanted you to know how much you have helped me in my healing process. My D day was last August 14...He is remorseful and doing everything to help me no matter what it is...Listening to you talk about the how the person that cheated feels about things has really been a Godsend in my recovery..I just wanted to thank you and your wife for being so open and honest. I know it can’t be easy..,but just know you have helped so many...so again. Thank you
Did you guys make it? How are things going?
Oh my gosh I cannot thank you enough for this message. It has driven me to the brink of insanity how carefully I can say something that is weighing on my heart but somehow each and every time he can twist it into this malicious attacking thing (no matter how hard I tried to weigh things out and presenting issue in a decent careful way). I very much realize I have been so far from perfect but your message could not be more perfect and well spoken. I can't thank you enough - I found peace in the knowledge rather than letting it drive me entirely insane. You cannot begin to imagine the impact this one video alone has had on me.
I'm so grateful that the video helped you. thank you so much for your kind words. it means a ton.
These videos have been lifesaving. Without. A. Doubt.
Everything you said is spot on. I literally just had a blow up argument with my spouse about his infidelity and he said he only cheated because I changed. Despite this being his third time cheating, (4th lie), he still blames me because I wasn’t changing back to be what he needed and wanted me to be. Not even thinking about or caring about the fact that he wasn’t what I needed him to be, he was what I wanted, I chose him anyway.
You're not alone
Thank you, Samuel. That is why I go back and watch these videos over & over again, because I’m not in the same place I was when I first watched them. I glean more gold nuggets from them now than I did when I was barely past D-day. Thank you Affair Recovery for this very helpful resource.
That was beautiful, Samuel. Thank you for sharing that you lost it in the car dealership. Now I don't feel so crazy when I lose it!
I am soooooo thankful for you, your strength, love for God and our savior and for the love of others to help by doing what you do! God sent you to me threw these videos when I needed something and was getting nothing at the time. I was all alone and feeling like I was nothing and nowhere needed. Just a waste of space. My night and shining armor ripped my heart out abandoned me and I was so lost and confused as to what happened I just wanted to die! Sometimes still do! But you have helped me so much and I am very thankful! Thank you Samuel!
i'm so glad I could help and be a support to you. thank you for the incredibly kind words and encouragement Julie. means so much.
God bless you Samuel!
You’re a lifesaver!
does my heart good to hear that, but i'm just trying to help. if i help then awesome, but i'm grateful for the chance to encourage you and support you.
I love the your response is your responsibility. That is so perfect!!
thank you .. that means alot to hear i'm not a crazy person that i trying to for give her
it's a tough walk, but you're being courageous
I miss Samuel. I hope he come back soon.
Failure is an event not a person
It’s saving us $. Thank you Samuel. 😂😂
I wish my unfaithful spouse heard this message!!
Brendan Leaman Do you ever ask your unfaithful to watch videos? I find it virtually impossible to raise the subject, let alone watch/read information! I’m utterly messed-up though....
Same. But he hates this stuff. He will never go to counseling neither.
Should i seek individual counseling before i think about couple's counseling?
it won't hurt if it's by an expert that's for sure. it is usually very beneficial my friend.
Kevin Kobylinski I’ve heard again & again that any form our couples counselling is an utter waste of time unless the affair partner is long-gone & the unfaithful is ready to focus on healing.
@@suzimonkey345 i wouldn't say that....there are many who come to our ems weekend who are still involved with their affair partner and have pretty significant heart and life changes. it also depends on what you mean by marriage counseling. that's a pretty ambiguous term. there is hope and there is a way even if involved with the affair partner.
Im 9 months through the process of recovery so far we go to counceling once a week church on Sundays we are a family of faith i love God so much. im the betrayed my husband is so awesome in his recovery hes made me feel safe as much as he can ive even asked him to please forgive himself as. I also forgave him we communicate often hes patient. im the problem! Im working so hard to try to save this relationship friendship marriage i keep letting my pain obstruct my heart.i love him. he tells me everyday how much he adores and loves me yet i cant over come the thoughts of him with her.im resentfull but i don't always make it known he doesnt deserve to be beraded everyday.i just dont trust him i feel horrible about that BECAUSE HE HAs GONE BEYOND TO MAKE ME FEEL SAFE.I CAN SEE THE CHANGE IN HIM im just wondering why there's not a whole change in me.
You're lucky
I still want my True 💘 I still want my True Husband He has made a mistake and I want him to come to me in his own ID his own face the one that he came to me before I am still Madly In 💘 with him and really want to work things out.