How To End Toxic Relationships And Friendships For Good | EP. 5 [Get Your Life Together]
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Are you enjoying this series?
Do you have any interesting topics you want me to share my thoughts on?
Some interesting topics to share...
- How you are intentionally building the life you want (professionally, personally,etc.) And what habits you are using to get there
- Managing finances as a minimalist
I think your tips are spot on, but it'd be helpful to have anecdotes showing how you've applied those tips- in whatever way you're comfortable with, of course.
Great video topics Aliyah! I am definitely on my debt free journey as well and I will for sure share everything that I am learning! Keep growing on your journey!
Your budgeting tips and expense saving tips.
@@PauletteNicole I will definitely talk money and budgeting. I am also on a debt free journey so I'm excited to share that experience!
Just found your videos. Love your poetry and your clear way of saying things that are difficult to speak about .Thanks🤗
Omg. About toxic friends and creating boundaries. Long story short, in my late teens and early 20s, I never completely blocked a toxic person I once knew. Just made new friends and I tried to minimize how often I would hang out w/ tht toxic friend. From time to time, I'd introduce the toxic friend to my new friends. Eventually and more insidiously, I would continue to get burnt. Tht toxic friend managed to turn all of those new friends and families against me, plus more! Today, in my 30s, I'm still picking myself up from the shock and the painful trauma. I lost all of those new friends, potential opportunities and I've been living a pretty much a solo lifestyle!.....My advice: don't play w/fire. Get rid of those demons immediately and completely. And NEVER introduce them to your future! They will insist to destroy tht too!!They dnt change, they just get more and more comfortable and sick! Thts what they are created to do...Please take this as a warning!!
When people tell you who they are believe them. Best of luck moving forward!
Yolanda Estrada : I so agree Yolanda!
@@Yolduranduran thanks😔🥂⚘
Same exact thing happened to me. You are describing my experience word for word. I had an old friend from high school. How could I justify the way she treated my new friends. I couldn't. My new friends lost interest and respect for me when I introduced them to her. I permanently lost friendships and opportunities. She is particularly nasty to men in my life. She is jealous and wants me to stay single like her. I came to the realization that I can not introduce her to anyone in my future . If someone is important to me they can't ever meet. I can't do that to someone I care about. It is my responsibility to make sure that never happens again. If I could go back in time I would have cut this person off permanently decades ago. It is difficult because of the long history and we know some of the same people. My goal is to stay away from her as much as humanly possible. I will not invite her to my wedding. I will not let her meet my husband. She will be furious. She will troll me online and slander me. The good news is that when I meet people like this, I don't let them in. I cut them off immediately. The only problem is this old friend from back in high school. What a nightmare. I am a good person. I don't deserve this.
@@trianafoxwood7525 Omg!!!😳😢... I can't agree more...!!! I used to get really afraid tht she would get involved w/guys I liked or were dating. The joke was on me for not listening to my gut. She made it her part time job to do exactly tht..... !!!
And if you ever question your self worth it's cuz your hearing voices of the evil they spoke over you when u knew them!
You are perfect just the way u r....!
Research malignant narcissistic disorder. Thts what it was w/them.
I wish u well!! ❤
That's the main reason I let so many relationships go. I only surrounded myself with equal minded people now. And it feels wonderful
What I’m working towards 💙
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It's also great that you talked about values. I have My values down down but i hardly look at them. I need to do that.
@@shaydagoddess620 i need your instagram
My main goal is to realize I can’t trust everyone I know
My divorce will be finalized May 11th. I am excited to no longer be tethered to a human who disrespected me. Nothing has been easy about this but I’m excited to finally feel strong and independent.
I'm super excited for you as well Teaspoon04! I'm happy that you now have an opportunity to do something for yourself. Keep growing and always stay true to you!
Teaspoon04 good luck to you and kudos on your perspective, it will serve you well in trying times!
Good luck 😉 you will feel like you have been born again make the most of your future and never look back, I am divorced after 25 years of toxicity it feels fantastic
I decluttered the hubby along with everything else that was not serving me or taking space and items that I no longer needed in my life...GOOD FOR YOU....GOOD FOR US...
LIVING LIGHT IS PRICELESS 💜
Stay independent dr....be you❤️ .....
I just ended a toxic relationship this morning. Feels good. I'm healing from all the years of negativity and only going to surround myself with honest and equal minded people now.
Hope you are doing well
A lot of people are afraid of change, they become so complacent with what was that they miss out on what could be. Moving past bad energy, miserable people is a must even if it means being alone for awhile.
The moment you take a step away from
everyone in your life, it becomes clear what’s what and who’s who. Someone I had met through a childhood friend turned out to be a fake friend and a weirdo, was constantly calling/FaceTiming me, following all of my friends on Twitter that he didn’t even know lol. People can be creepy, watch out they can be family members as well. Keep healthy boundaries!
Speaking of family members, I didn't realize one of my sisters was jealous of me and my BFF ( now husband). She was mean, made comments and turned other family members against me by speaking ill of me. All the while, I didn't say a word against her cause I am not like that. Well, she brainwashed them, but I blame them for listening to ugliness, and I no longer associated with such petty, mean spirited people. Sometimes, it's your family you have to cut ties with.
This.
My husband and I did this with a few family members that brought us nothing but negativity, and it has been like a weight lifted, we have not looked back.
I’m happy that you made that change for yourselves and your life! Keep growing on your journey together!
I just sent a text and blocked a friend I had for a year. I learned how to stand up for myself via this relationship and once I learned that lesson it was time to let him go. I already feel a mental weight lifted off me
I just did this today i sent her a long message of how I’m feeling and then decided to block her. Too many chances plus I’m pregnant the friendship was causing me too much stress and i haven’t felt so relieved
I ended a toxic friendship recently and it has been refreshing. My friend started hanging out with a mutual acquaintance who happened to be a Narcissist and she out of nowhere started acting different towards me. She was telling lies, Acting jealous, Envious, Insecure and overall catty towards me. She even questioned me on why I bought a new car and tried to make it seem like I did something wrong by buying a new car. I always felt like I had to dim my light to accommodate her insecurities.
Cancel out social media. I lost so much productive time and sleep because of it. My friends know my number if they need to get a hold of me.
I hate FB, I feel the same way, if my friends want to reach me they have my contact info.
I have never had social media. When people ask "what is your insta?!" When I respond that I don't have one, they look at me like I'm an alien. Love it 🤣
From someone who got out from a relationship with a narcissist .....I started decluttering every object that was connected with that individual, and by chance I reached this new path of minimalism that bring me peace.
Currently letting go of a friendship with my BFF of 31 years. It hurts.
Ikr...
Same. It hurts like hell beacuse that person in reality have the slightest clue why or they do know why but too prideful to take accountability and try to repair the relationship. If you decided to part ways that means the damage done was irreversible.
Thank you! I had to end a platonic friendship today that was weighing me down. I am grateful I drew a difficult boundary before this person became toxic. Listen to the red flags.
Know that you are DESERVING to stand up for yourself.
I’m really enjoying what you have to say. You are very positive. And your smile is stunning😀
During this lockdown I've moved away from so many people. I need new friends but I'm also so happy to be away from them. U feel so much better.
The idea of ending toxic friendships is a tricky one because there's usually a degree of genuine love there as well as genuinely kind moments between you. I also try to see what I did wrong, but even if there is good, sometimes you just know it's time. I'm lucky I've got a little bit of time to work it out so thank you for the video :)
Ending toxic relationships is not easy. I have ended many but recently ended a relationship that was not toxic but was what u are talking about. It is painful but I am determined to keep moving forward ....... U helped me a lot
I needed to hear this.. your words helped me accept my decision to cut ties with extremely toxic ppl in my life and i was actually feeling guilty...but I'm not no more. Thank you
Yes, they play on your guilt and also shame. I'm glad you don't feel guilty anymore..👍👌☺
I feel guilty too perhaps that why i end up on this video. Hope i could find the peace too
hru now
honestly same this toxic girl went on my insta without consent and read my messages of me venting. im acc kinda glad she did tho cuz now she knows i rlllly hated her and how toxic she is. rn im building up my confidence when walking past her showing her that i dont need her anymore and its rlly hard but i want to change
Thank you very much. The "equally yoked' comment is really helpful. I was wasting my time with users, narcissists, and losers for too many years. I will now be thinking of friendships in terms of mutual supoort towards being the best we can be in interests and in mutual respect. For me, it's been coming down to values. I ended two friendships I had for over ten years each due to value clashes. One turned inot an alt-right wacko and the other just never had my back and would do things against me in weird ways.. This past year I shed a lot of dead weight. Once I got rid of one connection that never felt right, it was easier to them get rid of others. I just cleaned house. It made me feel like a jerk, but I am a lot more productive without the negative distractions.
I’ve realised that most of my friends were toxic and decided to quit. It was so painful. But then I found many good friends on Voicely, so now I can say that it was even worth it. You deserve better!
I just broke up with this friendship last year. This girl who I used to work with was so competitive I kind of distanced myself when I quit the job. She reconnected with me after a few years and I felt may b she needed a second chance and then we got along spiritually with spiritual talks but the moment I told her I got a job she would ask me every second day where I worked and what my job was. I had 2 finally cut her off as I knew she was toxic and not happy for me.
I just... wish I had a friend... like myself... a person who keeps forgiving someone no matter what they do... or says sorry for something that the other person did wrong....
I'm here ! I even say sorry when I open doors for people. I avoid you if you are owing me $$. I cry when I hit a deer. I wait for squirrel to make up its mind whether it's crossing the road.
@@eka-eteololade710 🥺 wow... i’ve never met someone just like me....
Love yourself
@@fullmoon5971
What is the definition of a toxic relationship?
I have ended friendships with people who were using me, people who are in different life stages as me, people who only remember me when they need something, and people who are constantly negative.
I also can not relate to intolerant, extremist types.
Sounds like you got it covered! Also in my case people who disrespected me (touched me when we had agreed that wasn't going to happen), and continual severe passive aggressive comments and trying to upset me.
I'm in the process of letting go of someone who is controlling, text or call me when it is convenient for them, give negative vibes or their anger is coming from another relationship, holding on baggage that shouldn't be there. I had to let a friend go & I ain't hurt but I'm hurt that I am no longer part of his life and there is a reason why things happen. God removes them out of life because we have something better in the future ❤️
Great topic Ron. I just ditch
toxic people out of my life
and drop them like a hat. End
of story and get on with my
life. Sometimes in life it is
better to be alone but not lonely.
But to join clubs or activities to
meet new folk but tread very carefully and not to just jump
into frienships immediately.
Good friendships need to develop
slowly to last for years.
You’re absolutely right! I have a very similar approach when it comes to separating myself from toxic people! Drop it, move on and enjoy your life. Just like you said, but this method doesn’t necessarily work for everyone. I also agree with everything else you said. Joining clubs and other activities that interest you and add value is key as well.
I love what you said at the end as well... good friendships need to develop! You’re so right! Thanks for sharing!
We are always living in DENIAL. that's why we over look these TOXIC PEOPLE
Thanks Ron for keeping it simple & straight forward. M currently on detox of all kinds of cluttered relationships
This is so relevant to me. I'm trying my best to be the best me that I can. I want to have good relationships and not waste time with people out of obligation.
Because you know someone for years doesn't mean are your friends! I've got no more Five closed friends, they the ones they are always there when you need a friend to talk to.
Just like with things, be careful who you bring home!
im 14 years of age and i've had this friend that i've known for about 5 years. At the start we were best friends but as we moved to hgh school(middle school for USA)he started being mean to me more and kept making me do things i didnt want to. He stole my other friends, making my friends fight againts me and more. So i hope i can move on from my old best mate
Ron, another video suggestion: signs that show YOU are being a toxic friend or family member. Although with good intentions at first, we may be trying to influence others by sharing our beliefs and lifestyle in a wrong way sometimes, or even trying to change someone to adapt people to what we think is right. I behaved this way in the past with my best friend (which I regret) and now we have been drifted apart for 8 years (he has his part of guilt as well). I would love to know your thoughts about such perspective.
Awesome topic Sandra. Thanks for suggesting this! I will give it some thought
Sometimes we give the benefit of the doubt
Great idea💡
When I tried speaking to a toxic friend again, I was heartbroken to see that nothing had changed. He said he self reflected on our relationship and asked other friends if he was a bully (which I had called him), and when they said no he took it as Bible. I realized how immature his mindset was and how different we were. To me, it doesn't matter what other people feel about you. If someone said you hurt them, if someone said you upset them, you should listen to THEM. I apologized for my part because although I feel hurt, it's clear that I hurt him. His feelings are valid too. But he hasn't apologized for his part in making me feel bad... I think the "for good" in my situation is just a total cut of contact. People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. I've made peace with him as a season.
Thank you for this! I just ended a friendship I had for 9 years with a best friend who was a habitual liar and it took me so much emotional strength to confront her and end it.
Yes I am enjoying this series. I have recently ended two toxic friendships. Both very close girlfriends and how it hurt. So many times I have seen an article they may have been interested in or seen some clothing or cosmetics that they would have loved and I find I miss them. It hurts when you have been friends for twenty plus years. But perhaps there is the clue. I have changed and they have not. Your series causes me to think and evaluate my life. I guess that is your objective. Thank you Ron for doing your hard yards, your thinking and changing your life. Take care and love deeply. Susie Perth Australia ❤️
This series is definitely one that will make you think. I’m glad to hear that you’re enjoying it Susie and it’s challenging and helping you. Keep growing and learning on your journey!
Thank you so much for this. I left my ex narcissist boyfriend 18 months ago and recently had a run in with him and again got hurt again merely because I did the no contact rule wrong. I have now reinforced the no contact rule and am now going to be really vigilant about this type of thing. Your series has come at the right time as I am using it to reset, declutter and reinforce only amazing values. I have also realised one of my very best friends is a covert narcissist to I have had to fall back on that relationship too. I actually feel like this such a great way to start my new life :)
Thank you so much for not allowing me to feel guilty for letting go toxic friendships and relationships. I'm learning some people are more comfortable with your dysfunction, than your growth and success; and some people prefer to surround you, instead of support you.
This video has helped me so much! I’ve been looking for advice on how to detox from toxic relationships for some time and this has opened my eyes wide open. Thanks a lot man!
I just discovered your channel today and your videos are very inspiring. I love your positivity and personality.
I am on the path to relocate across the country and I believe we don’t have to stay where we are. Your gut may be telling you that you’re not happy where you are and sometimes all you need is a change of scenery.
This is perfect for me. I’ve been in denial and I’m tired of living like this. Your a good teacher too.
I love this channel so much it really feels like going to the psicologist
😂. He is so good. I have just seen 3 videos but its really good.
I take friendships very seriously like if they are family. I am lucky to have amazing friends who are incredibly loving but I got some toxic ones sometimes and I can tell you that the good side of cuting those toxic friends, healing and moving on from it, its that its always a time for something better to come.
I did experienced that!
Usually they represented a shadow that you had to work on.
Once you heal from them you healed that shadow too.
And something way better comes, sometimes a real better friend, sometimes just a brighter stage in your life.
Thank you so much for bringing the awareness of "being equally yoked." Perfect! God bless you Ronald in love and light!
I needed this message. This advice is great!
So young and wise I had my sixteen year old subscribe to your channel. There's so much toxicity on social media it's refreshing to see someone young, motivated, articulate and positive with sound advice. Blessings on you may God continue to increase your territory and bless you indeed.
The wisdom and delivery my brother....a true sign of a balanced man!
Love from South Africa!
I am totally going through that! I'm allowing the injury to scab.
I loved this video omg, LOVE IT ❤️ very very helpful thank you a lot. I consider my self a master in getting rid of toxic relationships, and everything you said is correct, I have done everything my self and my life has changed for better. It’s amazing to be surrounded of only good people around you thank makes you grow on life and be a better person.
God bless you 🙏🏻😍
That was so helpful I took notes lol. Will be keeping them as a reminder ❤
Ty!
BTW Ron, I love this series. Thank you. You help me to think though these issues.
I’m really really happy that you’re enjoying this series thebarky1988. I really want this series to be different and I’m glad it’s helping you through different situations in life!
Thank you! These are the words I needed to hear
So glad I found your chanel today. I’m going through this with a few of my friends. I liked, commented, and now i’m a subscriber.
Welcome to the community Dani. Happy you found me and are enjoying my content!
Thank you Ron. Your style is very kind. Many of us have experienced serious losses...people homes, jobs. Possible causes of "clutter". Therapy is obviously needed, but your practical advice is a great starting point. Much gratitude.
Great, timely message for me!! I love this series and your take on the issues. Thanks!
Thank you Susan! I’m glad that you’re enjoying it and I hope you continue to grow on your journey!
thank you for this Ronald, this was very helpful. gonna let go of a toxic friendship. and this time, I am NEVER going back.
Enjoying this segment a lot Ronald! Continue inspiring people! 👍
Literally had to get over one today, like you said we werent growing in the right direction and were really good friends. I honestly blame the label of bestfriend and what comes with being bestfriends. We both werent on the same level of a bond which wasnt good for us. I do blame myself as i was the one who was on the lower level of the bond. I do agree with everything thing you said in this, thank you.
You cover such a wide swath of life. It’s great how you weave it all together. What a breath of fresh air. Thank you. I guess currently I’m doing a little bit of all of this, so thank you.
I’d be interested in hearing your thoughts on your creative habits process and financial habits and processes.
Thank you ron, i needed to set some boundaries between me and them and this video helped me realize that if I hadn’t set the boundaries I wouldn’t be true to myself at all, thank you for making this video.
You’re welcome! So glad I could share this with you. Staying true to you is key! Always keep that!
Yes my brother GREAT INFORMATION
Thank you so much for the helpful, encouraging messages. Really needed this 💛
You’re welcome Riley! I’m glad this message resonated with you and is helping you on your journey. Keep growing!
What a beautiful video....I'm a firm believer in scripture affirmatives
Hey Ron! This message is right on time. It felt like you put your whole heart into it. Every point you mentioned was what I needed to hear. I'm gonna take this advice and run with it lol. Thanks 😊.
Thank you Patricia, I posted this a little later than I wanted to but I had to make sure it was right and everything I wanted to share was clear. I’m really happy that you enjoyed it!
I really love your metaphors….the tortoise….now the scab! It really does help me to see it more….thank you because If nothing changes….nothing changes.
Thank you, I needed this 🥺
I wish I could give you a tight hug for making me feel so much better.
I feel better to hear from Ronald. That's my problem, setting boundaries & I finally starting to see why things happen. Part of me know there is something better in the future ☺️ I will continue to listen to this video, keep meditating and do a self-affirmation ❤️ I will continue to stay true, respect myself and never forget that I need love too.
Manipulation & Controlling = Not speaking up for myself when the other is taking control of my decision and not respecting them as if it doesn't go their way.
Thank you for your wise words. You helped me a great deal!
That’s amazing Patti! I’m happy I had an opportunity to share this with you!!
you are killing it! i know i’m a year late! but so grateful to have found you! 🖤
Just subscribed, thank you for this.
I’ve been watching you for a while, and decided you’re pretty awesome. I just subscribed!
xoxo C
No need to apologize if Biblical principles such as equally yoked is spoken in your videos. Love your content and through your platform and influence, the Word of God can be shared and He is glorified.
Ronald Banks you're doing a good service.. Very smart and likeable..
I just found you on RUclips !! Thank you, Thank you for touching my soul all the way in Amsterdam.
I really needed this today... thank you.
You’re welcome Jojo! I’m happy that this topic resonated with you. Keep growing on your journey!
I love this series! Thank you for sharing
Yo this was really good.... thank you
I just wanted to say thank you for making this video. I was contemplating whether I should save this friendship or not and this video helped me decide. I just recently cut that one friend from my life. I've come to a realization that....I was never really her friend to begin with. I was only her therapist and the ears to listen to her. I'm the only one who always listen to her, cheering her on and challenging this friend to be her best self. She very rarely did the same for me, while I am like a tree that keeps giving. She was using me this entire time. It's been mentally and physically draining for a very long time. I couldn't take it anymore, I tried to end things on a good note and this friend lashing out at me, gaslighting and all kind of emotional manipulation--all so she can have control. With no regards to my feeling or struggle, so I finally decide let her go. To let myself go free.
I'm not proud of what I did and I hope I won't have to do that ever again. Part of me feel bad, but in my heart, I know I've made the right call. Especially when I heard she label every former friends as "liars and traitors". Seeing the lack of self reflection and willingness to take accountability reaffirm my decision. Though, I hope she will realize her errors and learn to be better, as I hope she can find a friend who's compatible with her.
I moved on in my own way. Never look back again.
People would say about the price you have to pay for ending a friendship. I don't think enough people is asking "What price you are paying for holding onto it"
Sometimes true strength isn't to hold on but to let go. Thank you again
Great advice! I act on making myself a better person and adding less stress in my life and you have been a major help. Thank you! Getting rid of a toxic relationship can be tough if it's with a family member. My older brother us negative and is mean to people. I still talk to him but I limit how often I talk to him. I would tell him it's good to change. You can show a horse the water
.....but you can make him drink (finishing your last sentence). I’m happy my content is helping you Jeremy! Keep growing on your journey!
This was my first introduction to your RUclips channel, and I greatly enjoyed your contribution!
I would appreciate "tools" on how to GRACEFULLY and HUMANELY DISCONNECT from individuals whom I feel are detrracting from my life. I have recently "ghosted" - for lack of a better term - about half-a-dozen contacts whom I used to text almost daily. I am a volunteer at a veterans hospital, and keeping in touch (on my own time) by text with several veterans was an action but I began with the best of intentions. It benefits them, but was draining me. I also continue to call one of the veterans mothers each evening in a nursing home in Ohio for about 15 minutes. I really don't enjoy it AT ALL because she constantly repeats the same thing, and I began as a kindness to keep in touch... after her son and only child died. He was a veteran whom I'd become close to. I really would like to move forward, but she insists that I am the only bright spot in her day. How can I gracefully move on without just ghosting her?
First video of yours I'm watching. I already know I'm gonna return to your channel often. It is really pleasant to listen to you. Thank you :)
i really needed that man
I trust you Mr. Banks.
I always enjoy your content. Thank you 💜
The hubby also went out when I decluttered
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Toxic friends are so draining they are always crossing boundaries they just don't have any respect but they can be OK at times but I get tired of their energy
Yes I love your videos they are extremely informative!!!!!
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That natural distance you spoke about doesn't always happen at the necessary speed. I needed out of a toxic friendship and distance was coming naturally but not quick enough. Everyone's situation is different so sometimes you may have to proactively take charge and create the distance yourself. For me, I had to stop going to our youth group to get away from him. That's how toxic the friendship had become. Half of our youth group was a bunch of hypocrites and self righteous people anyway so it was best that I left the youth group anyway. This is the start of my third week away from him and honestly I'm already feeling better about myself. I still find it hard to let go though. I'm still making up excuses as to why I should go back even though I know that environment is bad for my mental health. So really what I'm trying to add here is that you will doubt your decision to end the friendship but you should never listen to those doubts. They are wrong. You made the right decision to get out of that relationship/friendship.
i like this episode especially, really great!
The problem is that sometimes I feel guilty about leaving some people because I dnt wanna hurt them.
I dont do it unless the toxicity is really really unbearable.
Also sometimes I feel people they grow into diferent directions but you still can love each other even you are not in the same moment.
This guy is so great it feels like a good friend immediatly watching the video.
Yeah. That’s why I feel bad because I know that my friend was going through things but wanted to put distance for a long time even before she started going through things. Somehow I got strung back in. I just didn’t want to go back to that same one side dynamic.
Hi! I’m really loving all your videos:) All great topics
Thank you so much Breez! I really appreciate this. I’m happy that you’re enjoying them so much!
Thank you for this video.
I've had a friend since Pre-K and the sighns have been in the friendship for a long time, I just didn't wanna accept that they were real, but she has done the worst now and I have accepted that she is toxic and I have to make sure she can't mess with my brain again, and this video is extremely helpful and smart.
Very good comparison with being equally yoked. Very knowledgeable.
I’m glad you enjoyed this Wendy! Keep growing on your journey!
@@RonaldLBanks I have really struggled with letting stuff go but through the help of people like you, I am getting there. I had so much anxiety getting rid of these nice clothes that I had but once I dropped them off to Goodwill, i had such a sense of peace. I am trying to focus on the people who may not have the opportunity to buy these clothes like I have so I first count my blessings and then am hopefully a blessing to those who receive it. It nearly killed me to put some of my Coach handbags in there but I did it! Many prayers got me through it.
Thank you so much🙏..
Hi! I’m a new subbie and I Love this video, especially the part about being equally yoked. I’m doing a series on Friendship on my channel now and think that all the points you made in your video are so important!
Thank you for your valuable tips👍
Thank you so much!!
I had a tendency of trying to see the best in ppl. And that cost me so much peace. There was a toxic friend I had who knew about my mental health struggles and would take advantage of it. I’d get snapped at in front of others and was belittled. I’d get dirty looks and mean mugged. Then she’d try to act supportive and would play the victim to make me feel bad as to why she did what she did. The circle would go on and on. She disrespected me and tried to play the victim 6 months ago. Gave me the silent Tx. Decided to just block and drop her. There’s some real venom in this world.
Toxic people latch on to people who are easy to take advantage of. In high-school, girls would come to me and act all depressed and suicidal to get me to pity them and invite them over.
@@daylinhesford3116 unfortunately there’s a huge stigma with mental health that will never go away.
For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.❤️🙏👍
First me :) The reasons I cut them off was because they made me feel unheard, unimportant, unappreciated, and miserable. I honestly only stayed friends with her for so long because she was going through things and it didn’t feel right to throw that on her plate too. The thing is that even before her life crisis she was already a bad friend me. There was just no room for me to forgive her and say oh she’s going through an hard time but she’ll come around. Come around to what? To keep treating me like shit?
When she was feeling alright she would dismiss me whenever I tried to talk to her. Made feel stupid over little things. Left me second guessing myself and insulted me. She only wanted me to vent but when I wanted to talk she didn’t have the time. She’s one of those people that makes you feel close because she tells you everything. And you’re like oh she trust me but when it comes your turn she’s nowhere to be found. The