This actually happened to me. I was in a really bad headspace that time and was a little bit annoying and never really took into consideration about how my best friend felt. A few days later she told me that i was annoying and ghosted me. She found new friends but i couldnt move on after all i was in a really bad headspace and she was the one i found most comfort to be with. Then i found a text from her saying if we wanted to hang out later because her new friends were being a-holes and only used her for her artistic talent. I said yes and we then made up. Still hurts me to this day to find out that my bestfriend was getting tired+annoyed of me but luckily that situation never happened again and we are still really close.
I hate when people see or hear me cry and I just completely stop talking because I sound like a fourteen year old going through puberty cus of how much my voice cracks
I have been saying this. The same way we are encouraged to have open and honest communication with our partners and to put effort into those relationships, we should be encouraged to do the same with friendships
In my case, I tried to talk to her and tried to communicate but she just ends the conversation. Like she doesn’t want to talk anymore and its sad. I feel like i can’t do anything else
I think the girl that was crying valued her friendship so much and that’s kinda rare. I hope the best for her whether that’s reconnecting with her friend or not.
@@klyzer5725 well it can't be help since she really sincere love her best friend so much (probably similiar with my situation back then) Sorry for my bad english i hope you get what i'm trying to say :"
I could feel her pain bcz my bestfriend started ignoring me for our another common friend..she starting prioritising her more....and that's how we ended up being strangers...that hurts alot.....and when I tried to talk to her she said that we both are equally important to her but how can two people hold some positions at one place???? And now the girl that used to be our common friend is my kinda enemy now...she is always badmouthing me and spreading rumours...bcz she wanted my bff to be hers.....ughhhh....it's just sooo hurtful
I relate to her, thinking about my best friend who I have not seen in one year, and last spoke to 10 months ago over the text... I get really damn emotional because I really, really miss her.
I miss my "best friend" i moved schools like 4 years ago and i got her insta last year (she only texted me a lil bit..) but she stopped texting me, she didn't even say she missed me while i did. She would always post about all her friends having fun together. It hurts. But i guess that's just life, I'll try my best to forget about her.
Can We get to 1,000 subscribers without videos ? I lost my bff moving and entering 6th grade I thought we would be friends again but we stopped talking and I miss her a lot
@@pen2cool4u it happens to me all the time that is why I don't upload on my account anymore (this account) because all of my friends feel like a stranger to me
The worst part comes when you realize that the other person feel distracted or bored while talking to you even though it's the same person whom you used to talk to randomly. It hurts to witness them as past tense... little little fun moments, affection, care, limitless phone calls, bickerings, hanging out & the list go on.
Michael V no u don’t want to have that. I have already been through it many times, it hurts, bad it’s like losing apart of your life. You should be grateful this hasn’t happened to you before, because you’ll regret the day you said you want it.
Me too, this video hurt so much to watch. I recently had to cut off my ex best friend because she got abusive and then ghosted me because of a boy. In the time she wasn’t talking to me I thought back on our friendship and I realized she really was treating me in toxic ways. I’d spend nights crying because of her. Yes I’m glad she’s out of my life but after I left her life she sent me a text saying I was awful for leaving. Thinking about her and how our friendship went down is really hard for me to think about and in this video I’d mention her and calling her would be the hardest thing to do.
“Your call has been forwarded to an automated voice messaging system.” My heart broke for both Alyssa and I. The amount of times I’ve heard that ringtone when trying to call my best friend is insane. It’s so bad I hear it in my head whenever I simply read the words of it. I am so sorry Alyssa, and you are so brave for leaving the voicemail. I wouldn’t. I know I just wouldn’t have the voice cords for it. I am not the crying type, but simply thinking about how our friendship has gone bad, and how if I try to reach out to her right now nothing will change makes me want to throw up. I started crying the moment you started talking about her because I recognize every voice crack, every sentence, every emotion you have felt. I feel it every time I remember her. I just wish things didn’t turn out the way they did.
Ezekiel Turrecha sometimes the truth is, people don’t deserve you or your time. Especially when they hurt you and don’t truly care. You are worth more.
Madu Mahawaduge Was just about to comment the same thing. When your significant other is your best friend, and you lose them, that pain is .. a lot to deal with
"Your call has been forwarded to an automated voice messaging system." Idk but i genuinely feel that Alyssa's friend did not pick up the call intentionally. That hurt.
I feel like thats not exactly true i mean most of them cared to call them that's enough just to think about somebody and they were all emotional showing they truly loved these people.
Tell me about it. My friend traded me for someone who bullied me, they would threaten me for no reason. But, I got the help I needed and I feel much more confident in myself. I am moving so I am glad I won’t have to go to high school with them. People that that do not deserve your friendship. Don’t let them take advantage of you. There is ALOT more to this story so please don’t judge. What I have learned from this experience is that YOU NEED TO stick up for yourself!!! It is WORTH it! YOU are worth it!!! I hope someone who needs this information sees it. Don’t give up!!!
@@mickeysofine6386 thank you tbh i have very few friends but I'd rather keep it that way cause those few you can really get close to , build a bond and trust ,there aren't many people that you can trust :)
Friend dumped after 18 years and I was always there supporting her LMAO!!! Got back with her ex and let all her male friends go to build trust, which is another way of saying he's a jealous mofo. The worst part is I even supported her relationship and hoped they are together a long time and was there when she was dumped hard....LMFAO!!!!! she blocked now breh, wished her well and said I always hope you're happy but you blocked now and to never contact me again.
It feels like years when you go from being best friends with someone, and being the person that knows them best and vise versa, and the they just drop out of your life. Every day without them feels like a week. 😔
Grace Colker Totally! I’m not disagreeing, but I still think it’s not long enough to be referred to as “long lost friends”, though I can’t think of an alternative that isn’t super lengthy
Same,I Have Talked toMy Best friend for 2-3 years And for another one it has been 4-5 years,All three of us Would fool around togeather until the Second one moved away and then a few years later!I Moved away :c
It's really upsetting but if she doesn't even have the time to call back or make sure she is okay after 8 months, than they are probably aren't the best person to be with especially for support. But that doesn't mean they are not fun to hang out with. But I pay my respects for another friend lost. F.
this just proves how important it is to communicate with the people we love, it’s how we keep our relationships going (family, platonic, friendships, romantic)
has to be a two way street though, it happens a lot in relationships. There is someone who cares and someone who neglects. You shouldn't be the one caring if they neglect you.
It’s really painful when someone cuts you off even if it’s for whatever situation they’re going through. She has every right to feel the way she did. I’d be detached too.
I can relate to that crying girl. I never saw friendships as fleeting circumstances. I've learned the hard way that people will drop you for the smallest reasons. I wish I had a friend like that girl. She's rare.
Zachary Paradagomez i think i het her comment its mean like a person used to promise that they will always be there for u but at the end they re the one who leave first
@@998576999 it's not exactly begging its just a chance to clear the air and find out why what happened did happen it's a great chance to fix the relationship even if they arent best friends again
this is what's happening to me, my online best friend after 2 years of friendship, after we met in real life (i made 400km to meet her) just started ignoring me.... she blocked me on every social media and she's ignoring my messages, it's been 2,5 months now and i'm starting to accept the situation, even tho it hurts A LOT.
PLEASE do not ditch your friendship when you are in a relationship. Even if its having lunch with them every 4 months. Amazing friendships is harder to find than romantic relationship.
Had friends who put our friendship to the side once they got a girl. Nearly 10 years later, he tries to reconnect to "catch up." Nah, screw that. Trying to reconnect now that your circle of friends is declining is an insult. You don't need people like that
Imagine having a friend for 10 years only to find out that so called friend just used you and ended the relationship over an ego problem because I respected myself and stood my ground.
Oh I don't need to imagine that because I'd well believe it!! 😄😄 As tragic as it is.... And we vent about our friendships, but unfortunately that's never going to get them back.
exactly the same happened to me after 11 years of friendship and so called “being a family” - wrote her a letter after an argument and never ever heard something again. that was three years ago now.
@@aliciaw8147 omg... My best friend dumped me back in April... I messaged him a few times but he says there's "no point" in talking. I'm finding it extremely difficult to deal with not talking, not messaging, not hanging out with him after being friends for 10 years... I'm also in my 30s now so I don't see myself making new best friends at this stage, and anyway it's just not the same.
It's sad when you lose friendship with someone you see regularly.. like me...when live school was still a thing. It's like so awkward when you come across them.. you don't really want to talk to them anymore even though just a year before they were one of the few people you could talk to. We aren't enemies we're just.... painfully indifferent to eachother. But I'm glad he got his new friends and so did I.
Happened to me I had this gang of friends I introduced all of them to each other....and now I am the loneliest kid who well lost all her friends it sucks.a lot.
I had the craziest best friend you'd ever meet. He was off his rocker and so full of life he was almost childlike but in a charming way, he was the Bravest dude I ever personally knew. And will likely ever know. Rest in Peace Alex ❤️
I hope this brings you some sort of happiness and peace but your best friend is definitely looking after you and always with you! I’m sorry for your loss.
Angelina Johnson it sucks because you always wanna text them or call them but can’t cuz you haven’t talked in ages and you miss your best memories. It just sucks
I wrote a song about toxic friendships and the feelings you go through when you get let down by a close friend. it’s called friend and my name is Jolina if you want to hear it on Spotify (or wherever you listen to music). maybe the song can help you heal the way it helped me. YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Definitely. Currently living that situation now. I have reached out to make amends and find out what went wrong but all I get is a deafening silence. It hurts to have a former best friend not want to be a part of your life anymore 😢
I’ve reached out and reconnected with a few long lost friends, but it never works out in the long run. Its undeniable that reaching out to basic strangers that you used to know in hope of friendship is a sad thing to do and they will definitely look down on you for it. My advice is to keep marching on there in you’re past for a reason and I refuse to be rejected by the same person multiple times it’s soul destroying and we must protect our hearts at all cost.
I cannot agree with you enough. I’ve had to reach out to one friend multiple times, never them. The worst is when you have heart to heart talks with them and you can pick up on that they value someone else more than you and that for that person they do reach out, but never you.
Advice to you is keep on moving forward and don’t look back. These nothing there anymore! Love yourself because you’re a great person and a loyal friend. It’s okay to make mistakes but never let them bring you down. Be happy with a smile and start a new chapter in your life. Not everyone deserves to be in your life!
@@ariqfajar5708 ya I agree bcz I am someone who won’t talk to unless talk to because I get scared and nervous I don’t text till text to bcz I think I’m annoying
Something like that is rather complicated for me. While I definitely admit I envy whoever is able to bring them such happiness, I also can't dismiss the fact that I'm truly happy that they at least are able to be so happy with someone.
It hurts me now that me and my best had been best friends for like 7-8 years the fact that im always the one ignored when she's with her new best friend her new best if is my "best friend" too Idk why but her new best friend totally hates me for doing nothing to her at all tho I was the one who begged everyone to let her in our friend group since she was new and all lonely I always feel like crying on why I did that I seriously felt betrayed and ignored the and like the new one also framed me tho I wasn't even related to a lot of situations and on the my best friend didn't ever ask me "Hey are you okay?? Hope your feeling good" or something like that when I wasn't well and was going through harsh times and on that we had vacations that time which was totally free tho I don't blame her for that but like when she wasn't doing okay I actually missed one of my very important match just to check on her Im like literally crying rn like why, when I was with her for 7-8 years now can't believe it sorry if I said too much
This made me emotional because I was finally able to talk to one of my dearest friends over the phone this week who I had not heard from for 8 months. We talked for over 2 hours and it was the most healing beautiful thing. Don’t give up on those important, special people in your life. Try to reach out, you may be surprised what can happen.
When she reached out, what did you want to hear her say? I'm asking because I pushed my dear friend away and haven't spoken to her in 6 months. I went into a deep depression and just lost interest in everything, including the people I loved. I'm in a better place right now and I want to reach out, but I have no idea what to say. I don't know how to even initiate the text to call her. & I'm so nervous she is going to reject me (though I wouldn't blame her). How did your friend reach out to you and what words did you want to hear from her?
@@MrTrollo2 I did that and she doesn't want to respond to my messages asking what's happening and asking her to catch up and her ignoring it. I don't know what I did at all and I don't understand it. It hurts so much.
Nancy Wang but for 8 months he let her believe that she was his second choice. not once in that span of time did he call or reach out to reassure that she could always call or rely on him... that’s all im sayin
Well yeah because it sucks to lose a friend. Maybe she did have something going on where she couldnt answer or she didnt recognize the number. Who knows? It's the worst feeling in the world seeing the person who was soposed to be there gone. So I can see why people hate that and feel bad.
Yeah, but unless the friendship was a problem, it's better to let someone help u, than to push everyone away. If the friend was toxic or somthing I would totally get it, but otherwise, it's punishing yourself
im in a similar situation right now and i dont know how i should tell the guy why i ghosted him so suddenly. i feel like it was really selfish of me to not let him know why i ghosted him. it started from me needing space and then got too anxious to message again because ive convinced myself that it was for our own good ; so that we wont get hurt anymore, but that backfired into me missing him, getting anxious when he messages me bc idk what to do, then i just ignore it. its hard to handle social anxiety, depression, people, and school all at the same time.
Aesthetic Flowers yes i also feel the same about wanting to sleep the days away. -i hope everything went/goes well for u. good thing u plucked up the courage to contact her :D
bebo debo well thats the problem men especially, because of the way society works, men often are afraid to share their thoughts/emotions because some will see them as weak. I feel like with my generation its getting better, but its still tough. Also mental health in general is so important in todays society, but nobody seems to talk about it, when there are so many people struggling.
@@xnisha_2581 im in the same situation as you, i had to stop talking to him cause i had to focus on my mental health first and the whole friendship was just unhealthy. Yeah i miss him, but i dont regret my choice. I hope that you are doing good rn
As someone who has moved around a lot, backpacked across over 50 countries, and met more people than I can remember, I am a self proclaimed expert in surface-level friendships. You can meet amazing people, you can meet people who "get you" and everything just clicks. However, no friendship will ever be better than the best friend you lost in high school or just after college. It just won't because as we age our experiences harden us and they take away our innocence, our capability to feel as intense. That is something that dawned upon me just like 6 months ago. It sucks but if I am to be honest with myself I don't think I am capable of having a best friend any longer.
I feel like I am incapable of having any friends. Usually, the people I connect with the most only are around for a couple weeks or months and move away or I move away. As I have gotten older I now keep to myself to avoid the pain.
@@kiana9941 I know the feeling and it sucks because relationships with other people make my day brighter and what makes life worth living. But I see myself growing more and more detached from people, unable to connect beyond any surface-level interaction. As another comment said, it's more networking than friendship. I don't know if it's social media, the internet, or a fact of growing up but the reality is that most of the time I feel alone and I just fill my life with sporadic social interactions that don't really amount to anything. And it's not just other people's fault. It's my fault as well.
The worst feeling is: When they start to hang out with the wrong group of people and you can slowly but surely see them change as a person for the worse over time. And there is nothing you can do to change it. And the next thing you know, 1 year passes and they are completely a different person. Same Woah lots of likes
Omg this happened to me but the best thing for me and him was just to go our separate ways it kinda felt like 7 years of being loyal to him was wasted down the drain...
Yess literally the same thing happened to me. She was becoming such a bad person and when I got upset about it my mom told me that's its because of her parents divorce that she was becoming a bad person and talking about people badly.
The worst feeling is when your best friend just stops talking to you with no explanation. Nothing happened between the two of you. You just stop communicating until theirs nothing left but feelings of sadness and guilt as though you did something wrong.
Same thing, and it really hurts when you two study at same school and every time when you see that they are having fun with others, treating you like a stranger, you just can't understand why, and you just start blame yourself and also you cannot make other friends because you are afraid that they also leave you or start thinking that no one wants to be friends with you
funny that’s exactly what happened to me i met her in 6th grade and we were inseparable throughout middle school you would always see us together and since I’ve never had a best friend like that i thought i finally found the right person until we reached high school she stopped talking to me, we lost communication and has treated me like a stranger she still does and i always had this guilty feeling that it was my fault
My friend had mental problems and ghosted me. I've sent her a voicemail a few days ago and she responded, saying "I'm just not someone who can be a friend." I don't know what to feel. When I talked to her, my life felt like it was healing in super speed; her humour, remarks, strange and resilient mind was so addicting I don't know how to accept her abandoning me. I still love her a lot. Thought we were together for the ride. To make matters worse she was my only friend. I can't search for anyone else.. without thinking it's her replacement.
I can relate to that so much. It just came out of nowhere. And to make things even worse, she became friends with almost everyone in our common circle of friends (my only circle by the way).Two years and it still hurts. The worst part? I never got an explanation besides that her "conveniences and life style have changed" + I had an additional reason to leave those friends behind.
Welp I had quite the similar friend Her relationship first distanced us bit by it then she did it herself and never told me why. Whenever I asked her she said she is going through stuff mentally and can't do this even tho she talked to other people hehe..
I’m so terribly sad and terrified to go to highschool without my friend we will be splitting up and she is the only one who gets me, and I love her so much
Its hard. i used to have a freind senc kindergarten to middle school he changed during middle school and didint rlly treat me the best idk he just becam my best freind to the worst it sucks...
@@zvakicauwu Thats so relatable for me right now,me and my best friend talk very often about her problems with her girlfriend and it annoys me that she doesen't want anything else to talk about.
Yeah it was a total cop out. He basically said: I’m not going to contact you and I’m not going to try,so you can contact me if you want to do all the work.
I felt the saddest for the guy who didn’t want to call. I feel like that would also be me. It wasn’t rude or anything, it was probably more of just knowing that relationship is over or something much deeper.
Janis Quesadilla it's like resisting going across an old wooden bridge with whispers of ancient gold on the other side. You're tempted by the fortune (reconnection with friends) but cautious of the dilapidated wood and rope (time that has passed and changing of their lives without you).
I can relate to this so much. I always think about contacting my long lost friend until I think, they let me go so easily, that I just started feeling like I was always a bother. And, I’m so scared to say something, then finding out that they don’t need me anymore, and doing just fine without me. like I never even existed to them, or all the memories we had just disappeared. I regret even mentioning how I felt because right after that they let me go just like that. Even if I had to hide how unwanted I felt, I would still talk to them if I could. Literally meant the world to me, it’s been so long but I still can’t get over it. I just feel so much guilt and regret, for not having the one I wanted the most in my life anymore. I would blame everything on myself just to get them back, I feel like I would do anything. At this point I don’t even care about my feelings, I wouldn’t even speak about my feelings if I knew that would cause us to drift. Now I have this gap in my heart that I can’t fill.
sym is annoyed Aw, I’m sorry to hear. I hope things get better, I mean people are irreplaceable but you can find value in someone else for a whole different reason that made you close with your old friends. Also, I’m really grateful for you taking the time to read and reply, it was more of me venting because I had no one else to go to. Anyways, I hope you find that special friend you need. Take care of yourself and your health. ♥︎
i can tell the friendship meant a GREAT DEAL to alyssa. i’m also like that with my friends. recently my friend and i stopped talking and it’s been so hard mourning someone who’s very much alive. hopefully alyssa is doing alright wherever she is
Sadly, we all go through that. You just have to realize, that despite the pain of losing your friend, it made you a stronger and probably also a better person. We shouldn't hang out with people who bring out the worst in us.
same for him 😔 i think we’re both definitely doing better off without each other tho but there are some days i do miss him and think about our good times 🥺
Couldn’t it be because they were caught off guard and didn’t know what to say? I mean if I was the one reached out to I don’t know what I would say or do and probably freeze up a little.
I feel for Alyssa. At first she seemed like she was trying her best to act like the happiest person there but just lost it by the end. I hope everything's good with her and everybody else. ❤️
I recently had a former best friend reach out to me after 3 years of not being in touch. I had no idea that she still cared about me. I had previously mourned the loss of that friendship, but she told me that she'd always consider me to be her friend and care about me. Sometimes someone just needs to have the courage to reach out.
No, you’re wrong. Best friends hurt more. Seeing your friend grow up to be someone you didn’t exspect or someone you didn’t want is much much more painful then a breakup. I knew a girl named Kelly who was my best friend is grade school and then she changed to a girl who looked and acted like she was mean the mean girls movie. Losing a friend is like losing part of you.
The worst thing about friends is when you were friends for such a long time then all of a sudden everything changed and you guys don’t talk to each other anymore and you go from BFFS to strangers in such a short amount of time that you don’t even get to say goodbye and it just ends of with one last glance at each other until you don’t even look at each for a second in the hallway
I had the same experience. We've been friends since childhood ( I was six, she was five years old) We had so much fun together, but then her family moved to England. She came back to Kazakhstan two years ago, but we don't talk as much as before (like we had one meeting and that's it). The last message she sended me was the wish for my 15th birthday. Still love her :(
I had a friend named Declan in grade 5 and he was a shorter kid and he had Tourette syndrome. He was so kind and funny and I loved him so much (as a friend). He didn't have many friends so he really wanted to exchange numbers so we could text and call eachother. He gave me his number multiple times and every time I lost the paper he would write it on. I remember once having it and writing it down in one of my sketch books. He had to leave and I can't find him at the school I go to now (middle school). Last week I remembered him and started crying because I didn't know if he was doing okay or not. I found the sketch book I had wrote his number in and opened it to the last page to find "My Friends Numbers" written at the top and nothing below it. I was in tears that night and I hope he is not getting bullied for his conditions. I feel almost broken because of this and I hate myself for being so clumsy and forgetful.
@@zucc5330 Why don't you hit him up. And tell him you hope he is okay. Especially in times like these. My (ex)bestfriend send me a message not too long ago and it felt really good to hear from her. Even though we aren't friends anymore.
I Purple You search for them on social media. I did it and found someone like that, but I’m scared to death to try to dm them or whatever, because I’m sure they’ve forgotten who I am.
I had a childhood best friend. We’d known each other since we were 4. We would hold hands when we crossed the street and walk to the bus together. When we started growing up, he went to all my soccer games and I went to all his basketball games. We used to spend hours lying in the hammock in his back yard, just talking because being with each other was all we needed. I loved him, and he loved me too. We talked about everything, then one day he became a stranger. I never figured out what happened, or why he stopped talking to me but life goes on. Even now years later I’ll stumble along a photograph, or a board game we used to play and remember him. I wonder how he’s doing, and if he’s happier now then he was before. I hope he has found people to love him like I have.
it could be that he had/has mental health issues. My childhood best friend stopped reciprocating in our friendship for seemingly no reason in my mind. Turned out she had a rough home life and an abusive relationship with her boyfriend. I had no idea. She had depression and anxiety, and that was why she stopped talking to me. Anyways, if you want to, you should try reaching out if you have a way...I decided to reach out one day because I had nothing to lose, and it was so worth it. My childhood friend and I are close again, and we both missed each other.
I haven't talked to my best friend for over 2 years and I don't even know what happened we just stopped talking there was never a talk about why and how does anyone have any advice?
4:39 That must've hurt more. I'm afraid Alyssa's long lost friend would just listen to that voicemail, shrug and forget about it. I really, really hope I'm wrong.
Friendships are the most important to me, I’m autistic and tend to get attached to people easy. I’ve had bad friends but I love them so much still, even though I’ve managed to distance myself from them I miss them so much, but I know they will hurt me if I go back again.
I am autistic too!! I had such a nice friend for the past six years. She really understood me and communicating with her was easier than with anyone else. I felt safest with her and I could unmask easiest when I was with her. Last year, our friendship really reached a new heights. I thought this it, we are sisters. I am not alone anymore. But now we haven’t really hung out since my birthday in October. I tried so much to get in touch with her, I did my very best to not stress out. To keep my cool and do not force my friendship upon her, but I think it’s really over. She has new friends. She has a new boyfriend. She has a very nice job. I’m very happy for her but I am so sad that I cannot be part of it anymore. I don’t understand why, I truly don’t understand. I wish I could just understand. It’s like there’s a hole in my heart.
I am autistic and I have lost a friend because mostly I am bad at social rules, emotions understanding and regulations….and also due to lack of communication
The girl who left a voice mail honestly broke my heart. 😭
Same I'm now crying😢😭
Yep... :/
Abby Ik I’m actually about to cry
Heart cancer does that too.
Hearing that hurt me😭😞😞😞😞
One of the worst feelings in the world is when it feels like you annoy the person you love the most.
Brooklyn Hanninton and one of the best feelings is when your best friend says that you never annoy them no matter what.
It just feels very sad. Their gestures and body language tells that they're annoyed. 😭 It feels horrible then.
@@AbdulHadi-ke5qc tru
Or your bf or gf or family.
This actually happened to me. I was in a really bad headspace that time and was a little bit annoying and never really took into consideration about how my best friend felt. A few days later she told me that i was annoying and ghosted me. She found new friends but i couldnt move on after all i was in a really bad headspace and she was the one i found most comfort to be with. Then i found a text from her saying if we wanted to hang out later because her new friends were being a-holes and only used her for her artistic talent. I said yes and we then made up. Still hurts me to this day to find out that my bestfriend was getting tired+annoyed of me but luckily that situation never happened again and we are still really close.
it honestly really hurts to hear the crack in someone’s voice when they’re about to cry
I think its probably the only reason I actually cried
Ikr 🥺🥺
alyssa :(
I hate when people see or hear me cry and I just completely stop talking because I sound like a fourteen year old going through puberty cus of how much my voice cracks
@Keksmo that's really sweet of you, I'm okay though!! I hope you manage to help some people who need it!! 💌💓
Our society prioritizes romantic relationships so heavily above friendships, I think it's actually tragic.
@@Tania-rg7jp agreed
true i prefer friendships
But if she wants to be only friends I'm going to go for a romantic relationship instead it's going to get more of my attention
YES THIS
I have been saying this. The same way we are encouraged to have open and honest communication with our partners and to put effort into those relationships, we should be encouraged to do the same with friendships
The worst feeling is having to apologize for something that wasn't your fault to people who didn't even care
That's what I'm feeling rn sis 🙇🏽♂️💕☹
True
That is exactly what I am going through right now, but slowly I start to move on with my life 😅🙃
Then don't apologize, what's the problem.
@@zatonozato Lmfao
Lack of communication is the downfall of every relationship
leslie cabanas couldn’t agree more
you are going to make me cry
Or neglecting (your parents) for your friends or your "true love" (even though they'll cheat on you by liking an Instagram post).
@@smileyx9407 I really couldn't
In my case, I tried to talk to her and tried to communicate but she just ends the conversation. Like she doesn’t want to talk anymore and its sad. I feel like i can’t do anything else
Seeing your best friends slowly turn in to strangers hurts the most.
depends on your opinion
No seeing your best friend become your torturer hurts more.
@hyeboi that's subjective
True
Aka middle school and high school😬
I think the girl that was crying valued her friendship so much and that’s kinda rare. I hope the best for her whether that’s reconnecting with her friend or not.
I can feel her pain and it’s people like us that get hurt most
it's not healthy
@@klyzer5725 well it can't be help since she really sincere love her best friend so much (probably similiar with my situation back then)
Sorry for my bad english i hope you get what i'm trying to say :"
Nah. Not kinda rare. /
I could feel her pain bcz my bestfriend started ignoring me for our another common friend..she starting prioritising her more....and that's how we ended up being strangers...that hurts alot.....and when I tried to talk to her she said that we both are equally important to her but how can two people hold some positions at one place???? And now the girl that used to be our common friend is my kinda enemy now...she is always badmouthing me and spreading rumours...bcz she wanted my bff to be hers.....ughhhh....it's just sooo hurtful
hearing someone's voice cracking and about to cry on a phone call is the worst feeling ever.
Especially when it's a voicemail
Yeah
T
It's even worse when the other person doesn't care
Mhm
Alyssa is so emotional. You can tell how hurt she is.
I relate to her, thinking about my best friend who I have not seen in one year, and last spoke to 10 months ago over the text... I get really damn emotional because I really, really miss her.
i wanna give her a hug
I miss my "best friend" i moved schools like 4 years ago and i got her insta last year (she only texted me a lil bit..) but she stopped texting me, she didn't even say she missed me while i did. She would always post about all her friends having fun together. It hurts. But i guess that's just life, I'll try my best to forget about her.
Can We get to 1,000 subscribers without videos ? I lost my bff moving and entering 6th grade I thought we would be friends again but we stopped talking and I miss her a lot
Yeah, I connected with her so much and it just made me want to cry every time I heard her voice in this video. You could hear the pain in her voice.
The worst part is when your best friend becomes a stranger to you
Iam a stranger to my BF now, I tried my best to talk to her but she is always ignoring me and now I have no friends
@@pen2cool4u it happens to me all the time that is why I don't upload on my account anymore (this account) because all of my friends feel like a stranger to me
Yeah, it does but you are enough- and you are loved and you will find a friend that cares deeply for you
If you guys ever need a friend I’m here for you-
Ong yes
The worst part comes when you realize that the other person feel distracted or bored while talking to you even though it's the same person whom you used to talk to randomly. It hurts to witness them as past tense... little little fun moments, affection, care, limitless phone calls, bickerings, hanging out & the list go on.
Is there anything to do to change this?
@@ViralclipcentralVCC accepting the fact we will all unify into ONE, and we'll remain FOREVER
Yea I miss my friend and when I try to talk to them they seem bored blan and distracted miss them.
This!!! exactly:')
When I talk to my friend who I live two hours away from she never talks to me at all. If I could show you my texts to her you would see.
I’m not gonna lie. I wished someone missed me like that
I´m with ya bro. Feels sad to not have someone to miss you this way
It’s ok. The fact that your like “I’m not gonna lie” at least we know your not saying this for attention and I respect that
Im with you
red x17 I’m sure at least one person misses you
Michael V no u don’t want to have that. I have already been through it many times, it hurts, bad it’s like losing apart of your life. You should be grateful this hasn’t happened to you before, because you’ll regret the day you said you want it.
The worst part is when you go separate ways but you still can’t let go.
A friend moved 2 years ago and I remembered crying so much the same day she left. And I did move on, but I still can't let go
I don't know how to move on i realy want to it hurts :(
@Cynthia Same, my friend also moved about 2 years ago 🥺 and I had a dream about her last week 😭
its worse if you dont have them in your contact list and you dont know where they went
True 😭🥺 i’ve searched for them everywhere :(
The girl who left the voicemail. I hope she’s okay. I can relate to her so much. I’m crying.
Me too, this video hurt so much to watch. I recently had to cut off my ex best friend because she got abusive and then ghosted me because of a boy. In the time she wasn’t talking to me I thought back on our friendship and I realized she really was treating me in toxic ways. I’d spend nights crying because of her. Yes I’m glad she’s out of my life but after I left her life she sent me a text saying I was awful for leaving. Thinking about her and how our friendship went down is really hard for me to think about and in this video I’d mention her and calling her would be the hardest thing to do.
I have a best friend and she lost her best friend so I always feel so useless because I can’t really help her get over him. 😔
Eye infections can also cause teary eyes.
@@finch9782 I can relate because my friend was toxic too I cut her off and felt bad about it and I'm still upset about it..
ME TOO
“Your call has been forwarded to an automated voice messaging system.”
My heart broke for both Alyssa and I. The amount of times I’ve heard that ringtone when trying to call my best friend is insane. It’s so bad I hear it in my head whenever I simply read the words of it. I am so sorry Alyssa, and you are so brave for leaving the voicemail. I wouldn’t. I know I just wouldn’t have the voice cords for it. I am not the crying type, but simply thinking about how our friendship has gone bad, and how if I try to reach out to her right now nothing will change makes me want to throw up. I started crying the moment you started talking about her because I recognize every voice crack, every sentence, every emotion you have felt. I feel it every time I remember her.
I just wish things didn’t turn out the way they did.
😭😭😭😭😭😭
Relatable tbh
hope everything is going well. praying for you
I had the exact same experience as you and when I heard Alyssa I was also tearing up
❤️❤️
The worst part is when you know it’s too late and it will never be the same
Samantha tbh my old friend moved schools and we stopped talking and I text her a year later and we just say hi and bye.
Sometimes it shouldn’t be the same, people aren’t always meant to stay in your life.
Ezekiel Turrecha sometimes the truth is, people don’t deserve you or your time. Especially when they hurt you and don’t truly care. You are worth more.
MAE...
yep... it is
you think losing a boyfriend is bad, try losing your best friend.
bellyache that’s so deep but that’s life
they can be equally devastating
Madu Mahawaduge Was just about to comment the same thing. When your significant other is your best friend, and you lose them, that pain is .. a lot to deal with
My boyfriend is my bestfriend. So if we break up I'll probably die lol
Madu Mahawaduge Yeah, it honestly is impossible to get through. And most people just dont get how miserable it is so that doesnt help
"Your call has been forwarded to an automated voice messaging system."
Idk but i genuinely feel that Alyssa's friend did not pick up the call intentionally. That hurt.
Would have been amazing if she picked up the phone at the last second and apologized for the pain she caused to Alyssa.
Idk but ied
Whenever I’m in a RUclips video where someone has the same name as me, I feel really weird lol
If I did one of these and my best friend answered I would start crying ..my friend meant a lot to me 💗
@@cindymarson9053 you should call her!
As a person that lost her best friend I'd like to say,
"I wish our friendship was like those ones in movies".
well put.
"I wish you came to me, instead of listen to gossip... like in the movies" would be mine.
Same
I feel like Alissa was the only one who truly loved her friend. That kind of loss hurts so much more.
Fallen Eternal honestly
I feel like thats not exactly true i mean most of them cared to call them that's enough just to think about somebody and they were all emotional showing they truly loved these people.
Tell me about it. My friend traded me for someone who bullied me, they would threaten me for no reason. But, I got the help I needed and I feel much more confident in myself.
I am moving so I am glad I won’t have to go to high school with them. People that that do not deserve your friendship. Don’t let them take advantage of you.
There is ALOT more to this story so please don’t judge.
What I have learned from this experience is that YOU NEED TO stick up for yourself!!! It is WORTH it! YOU are worth it!!! I hope someone who needs this information sees it. Don’t give up!!!
@@mickeysofine6386 thank you tbh i have very few friends but I'd rather keep it that way cause those few you can really get close to , build a bond and trust ,there aren't many people that you can trust :)
@@mickeysofine6386 aww sorry. Same thing kinda happened to me in the past and I'm still kinda friends with her. It sucks 😞
RUclips recommendations seems to be pulling my deepest and darkest feelings out of their caves
4MBER omg same
this is the most relatable thing I've seen this year
Some people grow up in caves.
damn..same.. 😫
Yep I think they are reading my mind
The girl who was sent to voice message, her voice and everything just really broke my heart
Same, I really wish we got updates
Yeah it was really sad
" *Friendship isn't about whom you have known the longest* "
" *It's about who came and never left you alone when you needed someone the most* " 💓
That means I never had real friends, even if don't have friends.
@@vuedanto8576 mee too but its ok uk karma is a b*tch
Friend dumped after 18 years and I was always there supporting her LMAO!!! Got back with her ex and let all her male friends go to build trust, which is another way of saying he's a jealous mofo. The worst part is I even supported her relationship and hoped they are together a long time and was there when she was dumped hard....LMFAO!!!!! she blocked now breh, wished her well and said I always hope you're happy but you blocked now and to never contact me again.
@@siddhibajpai9595I don’t karma is a b****
Indeedr❤mr❤r
I expected “long lost friends” to be like YEARS
It feels like years when you go from being best friends with someone, and being the person that knows them best and vise versa, and the they just drop out of your life. Every day without them feels like a week. 😔
Grace Colker Totally! I’m not disagreeing, but I still think it’s not long enough to be referred to as “long lost friends”, though I can’t think of an alternative that isn’t super lengthy
months without talking to your best friend does feel like years though
Nicolaus Volentius i know right
Same,I Have Talked toMy Best friend for 2-3 years And for another one it has been 4-5 years,All three of us Would fool around togeather until the Second one moved away and then a few years later!I Moved away :c
The girl who left the voicemail for her friend. I truly hope her friend called her back
I want to know as well like a part 2
I know her, the sapposably best friend never called. She was heart broken
@@robertohernandez-os3hm really?
@@robertohernandez-os3hm oh noo
It's really upsetting but if she doesn't even have the time to call back or make sure she is okay after 8 months, than they are probably aren't the best person to be with especially for support. But that doesn't mean they are not fun to hang out with. But I pay my respects for another friend lost. F.
i should be studying for finals instead of crying over a stranger's friendships
sarah good luck with ur tests I’m assuming ur college student
Fahima thanks!! yeah
Omg same
sarah sammmmme😂
sarah relatable
this just proves how important it is to communicate with the people we love, it’s how we keep our relationships going (family, platonic, friendships, romantic)
has to be a two way street though, it happens a lot in relationships. There is someone who cares and someone who neglects. You shouldn't be the one caring if they neglect you.
But i I feel like the people that were on the phone weren’t truly interested. There were more like “yeah alright I guess” and they moved on
why do i feel like the comment section is even more emotional than the actual video
i thought i was the only one-
same
Yess😭😭😭😭
I feel it too tho~ i better read the comment and their words really deeper than what i have thought!
😭😂😂😌
The guy in the blue shirt tried talking to a best friend that seemed so detached. She didn’t even sound happy or excited to hear from him.
L.Pasteur I felt very sad for him. She hardly showed anything and no emotions :(
Omgg, I know right. She whatsoever portrayed no kind of emotion.
This is exactly my situation since 1 year
it was probably really awkward lmao💀😳
It’s really painful when someone cuts you off even if it’s for whatever situation they’re going through. She has every right to feel the way she did. I’d be detached too.
"I asked God to protect me from my enemies....
And then I started losing friends.."
Where is that quote from
@@Silvia.Araujo I just saw it on pinterest 💀
JESUS loves you. JESUS is your king. GOD made you wonderful and beautiful in his image. JESUS CHRIST died for your sins..
They wouldn’t be your friends then, better off without them, always other people to meet
@@Tom-nj5ie that's the point lmao
I can relate to that crying girl. I never saw friendships as fleeting circumstances. I've learned the hard way that people will drop you for the smallest reasons. I wish I had a friend like that girl. She's rare.
"you can always call, ill be there" also them "your call has been forwarded to an automatic voicemail system"
Zachary Paradagomez i think i het her comment its mean like a person used to promise that they will always be there for u but at the end they re the one who leave first
Sadly my boyfriend..
What does 'forwarded to an automatic voicemail system ' mean??
@@farhanatasnim8948 They dont answer the call or declined immediately
whoever's reading this remember God loves you so much
Alyssa is precious. Protect her. Never let her get hurt again.
Sadly she will probably get hurt again hopefully she can overcome all her obstacles
Sadly the nicest people end up getting hurt the most
@@blaze2x569 hello fellow demon slayer fan who watches these
your always gonna get hurt in life you cant really prevent that from happening @Adelly bean
@@blaze2x569 This happens...
"Could you call them?
Everyone: "yes I can"
that one guy: "probably not."
The only guy I can relate to
Absolute madlad
When I read this comment this scene was played on the video
I wouldn't either, people don't deserve to beg them to be friends again
@@998576999 it's not exactly begging its just a chance to clear the air and find out why what happened did happen it's a great chance to fix the relationship even if they arent best friends again
As someone who lost childhood friends due depression, I totally get it.
Its _hurts_
I lost mine the same way. I wish I could be normal
We'll go through this together, comrades.
Me too the same problems
Same 😔
The saddest thing in the world is the crack in someone’s voice when they’re about to cry.
tHe 7 dEaDLY sInS yep
Leaves from the vine
@@donnacorbett4364 "sIr mAlIoDiS"
Fr tho! That hit hard
sur mal lío das,w-w-What are u doing
it’s absolutely the worst feeling when ur bestfriend suddenly ignores u. like u never existed.
It happened to me :(
this is what's happening to me, my online best friend after 2 years of friendship, after we met in real life (i made 400km to meet her) just started ignoring me.... she blocked me on every social media and she's ignoring my messages, it's been 2,5 months now and i'm starting to accept the situation, even tho it hurts A LOT.
Happening to me as we speak :(
@@Casper_and_Max yeah same I didn’t have anyone else and he didn’t even care about me like no one cared
my bestfriend got a boyfriend. ya nice for her. i dont like him. but ya, as long as she's happy. im fine.
we need to protect alyssa at all costs
yes.
Yeah, and I really wanna hug her, because she just seemed so broken..
Yes
@@rsq_2100 literally my thoughts
thanks 😏
PLEASE do not ditch your friendship when you are in a relationship. Even if its having lunch with them every 4 months. Amazing friendships is harder to find than romantic relationship.
Exactly
Had friends who put our friendship to the side once they got a girl. Nearly 10 years later, he tries to reconnect to "catch up." Nah, screw that. Trying to reconnect now that your circle of friends is declining is an insult. You don't need people like that
*"Not friends, not enemies... just strangers with some memories."* ❤
word
felt that
Dablack Panda that was beautiful
Period
That hit different
“And suddenly, they were strangers again....”
Man that's tragic
Yo XD rude
-they-
The second your best friend becomes a person who you don’t even recognize it’s literally the worst feeling in the world.
Becca’s life yes it really is😞
Becca’s life I moved on,..
it is..
yes, it is.
Tf it is
Imagine having a friend for 10 years only to find out that so called friend just used you and ended the relationship over an ego problem because I respected myself and stood my ground.
Friens r not as gd as u think.
who needs enemies when u have friends
Oh I don't need to imagine that because I'd well believe it!! 😄😄 As tragic as it is....
And we vent about our friendships, but unfortunately that's never going to get them back.
exactly the same happened to me after 11 years of friendship and so called “being a family” - wrote her a letter after an argument and never ever heard something again. that was three years ago now.
@@aliciaw8147 omg... My best friend dumped me back in April... I messaged him a few times but he says there's "no point" in talking. I'm finding it extremely difficult to deal with not talking, not messaging, not hanging out with him after being friends for 10 years... I'm also in my 30s now so I don't see myself making new best friends at this stage, and anyway it's just not the same.
the worst thing is when the person u made memories with becomes a memory
Sweet and true comment, but that pfp is cursed
the end in friendship
It's sad when you lose friendship with someone you see regularly.. like me...when live school was still a thing. It's like so awkward when you come across them.. you don't really want to talk to them anymore even though just a year before they were one of the few people you could talk to. We aren't enemies we're just.... painfully indifferent to eachother. But I'm glad he got his new friends and so did I.
Yes Dorita.
@@ratemate458 same thing happened to me except with every friend I had and I didnt make any friends after
the worst feeling is when you introduce your two friends to each other and they both ditch you and become best friends.
OMG FELT THAT
That's really...the saddest feeling ever
The worst worst worst
asdfghjk i have no words to describe this
Happened to me I had this gang of friends I introduced all of them to each other....and now I am the loneliest kid who well lost all her friends it sucks.a lot.
alissa is too pure for the world. no one deserves her
døreen x wu what???!
She must be protected at all cost :
No one deserves her but she deserves everything
;-; likes are on 888 I can't do it
Bob Ross:
I had the craziest best friend you'd ever meet. He was off his rocker and so full of life he was almost childlike but in a charming way, he was the Bravest dude I ever personally knew. And will likely ever know. Rest in Peace Alex ❤️
I've lost all my friends.
@@vuedanto8576 sometimes I feel that way in a strange way...
@@vuedanto8576 same tbh
Im so sorry. My brothers friend died last month also. I had grown up with him,so i get it . again, im so sorry.
I hope this brings you some sort of happiness and peace but your best friend is definitely looking after you and always with you! I’m sorry for your loss.
When Alyssa said “hey” I heard her pain.
We all had that one specific friendship in our minds while watching this video
Yup):
Yeah ):
Yessir
I have 2: my best friend I lost to cancer and my friend who simply walked away
I don’t realllly. I’ve always had the same friends cause there is only 23 girls in my grade and we all have tight groups
The worst feeling for me is knowing you’re drifting from your best friend and you can’t do anything about it ;(
Tell me about it my homie is moving 113 miles away.
EXACTLY what’s happening to me
Angelina Johnson it sucks because you always wanna text them or call them but can’t cuz you haven’t talked in ages and you miss your best memories. It just sucks
Zakk ITS NOT THE Same, even if they’re far away, it won’t be the same anymore and it can drift you apart anyways.
That's how me and my best friend are right now and seeing this video just hurt A LOT so I hope we put the pieces together again one day 😔
I watched this years ago when i have no idea losing a friendship would be that hurt, now I'm back and i understand the pain
I wrote a song about toxic friendships and the feelings you go through when you get let down by a close friend.
it’s called friend and my name is Jolina if you want to hear it on Spotify (or wherever you listen to music).
maybe the song can help you heal the way it helped me.
YOU DESERVE BETTER.
The girl whos friend didn't answer her words hit too close to home..
Definitely. Currently living that situation now. I have reached out to make amends and find out what went wrong but all I get is a deafening silence. It hurts to have a former best friend not want to be a part of your life anymore 😢
Ikr
I literally cried the first 2seconds of the video
Same
Message: don’t cut of your friends because of a boyfriend/girlfriend
I’d have to disagree
Marie Tupou why?
It really depends on the circumstance
Marie Tupou
It depends
You're probably not in a relationship:)
"A true friend is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else believes the smile on your face."
i got no true friends
@@upper9170 i can be your true friend
MDLeeEnIxx v a true friend sees the plan in your eyes when everyone thinks your incident 😂❤️😊
Omg yes
Yeah... that’s no one, well it used to but not anymore 💔🥺😖
I’ve reached out and reconnected with a few long lost friends, but it never works out in the long run. Its undeniable that reaching out to basic strangers that you used to know in hope of friendship is a sad thing to do and they will definitely look down on you for it. My advice is to keep marching on there in you’re past for a reason and I refuse to be rejected by the same person multiple times it’s soul destroying and we must protect our hearts at all cost.
I cannot agree with you enough. I’ve had to reach out to one friend multiple times, never them. The worst is when you have heart to heart talks with them and you can pick up on that they value someone else more than you and that for that person they do reach out, but never you.
Advice to you is keep on moving forward and don’t look back.
These nothing there anymore!
Love yourself because you’re a great person and a loyal friend.
It’s okay to make mistakes but never let them bring you down.
Be happy with a smile and start a new chapter in your life.
Not everyone deserves to be in your life!
Exactly! It is OK to move on from each other. That is a part of growth.
all these friendships have the one person trying to reach out and the people on the other line dont even care :(
or maybe both of them were care but they're too shy to reach out
@@ariqfajar5708 yep
@@ariqfajar5708 ya I agree bcz I am someone who won’t talk to unless talk to because I get scared and nervous I don’t text till text to bcz I think I’m annoying
@@louisenorrie5330 that's what I think sometimes
yes. exactly.
One of the worst feelings:
Seeing your "Best Friend" having the time of their life with someone new
Edit: Thank you for all the likes ❤
Something like that is rather complicated for me. While I definitely admit I envy whoever is able to bring them such happiness, I also can't dismiss the fact that I'm truly happy that they at least are able to be so happy with someone.
JubbyDubby I completely get what your saying my best friend has a new best friend and it hurts she’s gone but I’m happy she looks so happy.
my best friend is doing that in-front of me during school, it hurts so much. she doesn’t even look at me anymore.. 😭
It hurts me now that me and my best had been best friends for like 7-8 years the fact that im always the one ignored when she's with her new best friend her new best if is my "best friend" too Idk why but her new best friend totally hates me for doing nothing to her at all tho I was the one who begged everyone to let her in our friend group since she was new and all lonely I always feel like crying on why I did that I seriously felt betrayed and ignored the and like the new one also framed me tho I wasn't even related to a lot of situations and on the my best friend didn't ever ask me "Hey are you okay?? Hope your feeling good" or something like that when I wasn't well and was going through harsh times and on that we had vacations that time which was totally free tho I don't blame her for that but like when she wasn't doing okay I actually missed one of my very important match just to check on her Im like literally crying rn like why, when I was with her for 7-8 years now can't believe it sorry if I said too much
@@mich497 yeah...I feel it too
I felt so bad for the girl who’s friend didn’t pick up 🥺🥺
It actually sounded like she declined.
That's not a friend
@@carlostobar4654 true true
@@jovialminer8583 ohhhh okay well that makes me feel even qorse 🤣
@@carlostobar4654 you have no idea what happened between them
This made me emotional because I was finally able to talk to one of my dearest friends over the phone this week who I had not heard from for 8 months. We talked for over 2 hours and it was the most healing beautiful thing. Don’t give up on those important, special people in your life. Try to reach out, you may be surprised what can happen.
When she reached out, what did you want to hear her say? I'm asking because I pushed my dear friend away and haven't spoken to her in 6 months. I went into a deep depression and just lost interest in everything, including the people I loved. I'm in a better place right now and I want to reach out, but I have no idea what to say. I don't know how to even initiate the text to call her. & I'm so nervous she is going to reject me (though I wouldn't blame her). How did your friend reach out to you and what words did you want to hear from her?
@@pb4ugo19 just tell her what was going on, if she's a friend she won't be mad
@@MrTrollo2 I did that and she doesn't want to respond to my messages asking what's happening and asking her to catch up and her ignoring it. I don't know what I did at all and I don't understand it. It hurts so much.
@@dontletdonghaedrive let it go. just let it go
It’s seems like 8 months is the tipping point for a lot of these people 🤔
losing a best friend is the worst kind of heart break.
It's not tho
Agreed 😔
No what about when you make your mom sad and find out a couple hours later
@@aidanbarsano5684 depends on the person
So true
kennedy’s friend was my least favourite part of this. “no i never said that.” “you’ll call me when YOU have time” no sis the phone works both ways...
tay - YESS BIH TOTALLY AGREE I WAS LIKE WHAT AN ASS 😑😑😑
I thought he was nice LOL, cos he's respecting that she won't be free/want to pick up the calls if he just calls, so he's giving her the control.
Nancy Wang but for 8 months he let her believe that she was his second choice. not once in that span of time did he call or reach out to reassure that she could always call or rely on him... that’s all im sayin
@@tay-8757 No, for 8 months she THOUGHT she couldn't talk to him. SHE made the assumption and stopped talking to him. Did you even pay attention?
Bikers Suckass don’t get so riled up, i was just stating how i viewed the situation as a third party
Alyssa's long lost friend : _Doesn't answer_
*_[EVERBODY DISLIKED THAT]_*
I'm sorry to be that one person, but....
EverYbody
Well yeah because it sucks to lose a friend. Maybe she did have something going on where she couldnt answer or she didnt recognize the number. Who knows? It's the worst feeling in the world seeing the person who was soposed to be there gone. So I can see why people hate that and feel bad.
i cant be the only one who thought Alyssa was annoying as fuck
@@yado7550 bruh...
@@Silvia.Araujo bruh
"They're not friends, they're not enemies, they're strangers with memories."
- Pringles Cat
the dude wasn’t selfish at all
self-care is the best care and his mental state was more important than a relationship
trust
Yeah, but unless the friendship was a problem, it's better to let someone help u, than to push everyone away. If the friend was toxic or somthing I would totally get it, but otherwise, it's punishing yourself
im in a similar situation right now and i dont know how i should tell the guy why i ghosted him so suddenly. i feel like it was really selfish of me to not let him know why i ghosted him. it started from me needing space and then got too anxious to message again because ive convinced myself that it was for our own good ; so that we wont get hurt anymore, but that backfired into me missing him, getting anxious when he messages me bc idk what to do, then i just ignore it. its hard to handle social anxiety, depression, people, and school all at the same time.
Aesthetic Flowers yes i also feel the same about wanting to sleep the days away. -i hope everything went/goes well for u. good thing u plucked up the courage to contact her :D
bebo debo well thats the problem men especially, because of the way society works, men often are afraid to share their thoughts/emotions because some will see them as weak. I feel like with my generation its getting better, but its still tough. Also mental health in general is so important in todays society, but nobody seems to talk about it, when there are so many people struggling.
@@xnisha_2581 im in the same situation as you, i had to stop talking to him cause i had to focus on my mental health first and the whole friendship was just unhealthy. Yeah i miss him, but i dont regret my choice. I hope that you are doing good rn
You know what really hurts...
When you call someone your best friend but they call you a friend
You know what hurts more they only call you bro or broski
@@Lite_Me_Up isn't that good tho? What are the better terms?
@@soumikd794 well she calls everyone that...... but, other people I never met in person she calls bestie.
Yea Ik and I'm asking cos I tend to use that word a lot even to my close friends. So I wanna know what better terms there are
@@soumikd794 idk I'm socially awkward so I don't have a lot of friends.......
"People change, even satan used to be an angel" - NF
Damn, this is real
Wow..... very true.
NF deserves to be recognised.
aqua bitxh everyone knows who NF is because of let you down
LionTamerTV who are you talking about? What’s NF?
As someone who has moved around a lot, backpacked across over 50 countries, and met more people than I can remember, I am a self proclaimed expert in surface-level friendships. You can meet amazing people, you can meet people who "get you" and everything just clicks. However, no friendship will ever be better than the best friend you lost in high school or just after college. It just won't because as we age our experiences harden us and they take away our innocence, our capability to feel as intense.
That is something that dawned upon me just like 6 months ago. It sucks but if I am to be honest with myself I don't think I am capable of having a best friend any longer.
I move around a lot too and I truly agree with u.
I agree with you. I too feel i cannot connect with anyone without purpose nowadays, its more networking less friendship.
I feel like I am incapable of having any friends. Usually, the people I connect with the most only are around for a couple weeks or months and move away or I move away. As I have gotten older I now keep to myself to avoid the pain.
@@kiana9941 I know the feeling and it sucks because relationships with other people make my day brighter and what makes life worth living. But I see myself growing more and more detached from people, unable to connect beyond any surface-level interaction. As another comment said, it's more networking than friendship.
I don't know if it's social media, the internet, or a fact of growing up but the reality is that most of the time I feel alone and I just fill my life with sporadic social interactions that don't really amount to anything. And it's not just other people's fault. It's my fault as well.
I kind of agree. My highschool friends were the best and beside one, I lost connection with everyone else. Now its so superficial.
The worst feeling is:
When they start to hang out with the wrong group of people and you can slowly but surely see them change as a person for the worse over time. And there is nothing you can do to change it. And the next thing you know, 1 year passes and they are completely a different person. Same
Woah lots of likes
You just described everything
exactly what happened to me, just that it's only been a few months and she's completely different now
I see that in my best friend ... idk what to do
Omg this happened to me but the best thing for me and him was just to go our separate ways it kinda felt like 7 years of being loyal to him was wasted down the drain...
Yess literally the same thing happened to me. She was becoming such a bad person and when I got upset about it my mom told me that's its because of her parents divorce that she was becoming a bad person and talking about people badly.
The worst feeling is when your best friend just stops talking to you with no explanation. Nothing happened between the two of you. You just stop communicating until theirs nothing left but feelings of sadness and guilt as though you did something wrong.
@@sandrasandy2175 I would say try talking to her before you lose all communication.
Same thing, and it really hurts when you two study at same school and every time when you see that they are having fun with others, treating you like a stranger, you just can't understand why, and you just start blame yourself and also you cannot make other friends because you are afraid that they also leave you or start thinking that no one wants to be friends with you
@@ving7515 Oh wow....I feel terrible rn. Are you okay? Because you WILL find somebody, everybody does.
funny that’s exactly what happened to me i met her in 6th grade and we were inseparable throughout middle school you would always see us together and since I’ve never had a best friend like that i thought i finally found the right person until we reached high school she stopped talking to me, we lost communication and has treated me like a stranger she still does and i always had this guilty feeling that it was my fault
I experienced this. She keeps in contact with her other friends, but not me.
I volunteer to be alyssa’s best friend
Gabby Emery Me too
Retweet she deserves it
Gabby Emery same she seems so pure.
same
Me aswell
My friend had mental problems and ghosted me. I've sent her a voicemail a few days ago and she responded, saying "I'm just not someone who can be a friend."
I don't know what to feel.
When I talked to her, my life felt like it was healing in super speed; her humour, remarks, strange and resilient mind was so addicting I don't know how to accept her abandoning me.
I still love her a lot.
Thought we were together for the ride.
To make matters worse she was my only friend.
I can't search for anyone else.. without thinking it's her replacement.
My former best friend did the same thing. Hurts less with time
I can relate to that so much. It just came out of nowhere. And to make things even worse, she became friends with almost everyone in our common circle of friends (my only circle by the way).Two years and it still hurts. The worst part? I never got an explanation besides that her "conveniences and life style have changed" + I had an additional reason to leave those friends behind.
Welp I had quite the similar friend
Her relationship first distanced us bit by it then she did it herself and never told me why.
Whenever I asked her she said she is going through stuff mentally and can't do this even tho she talked to other people hehe..
I’m so terribly sad and terrified to go to highschool without my friend we will be splitting up and she is the only one who gets me, and I love her so much
just happened to me yesterday
I feel so bad for Alissa, like that is so hard to almost lose a friend.
Hopefully Alissa called again and they picked up! 😌😔
Its hard. i used to have a freind senc kindergarten to middle school he changed during middle school and didint rlly treat me the best idk he just becam my best freind to the worst it sucks...
I lost like 12 friends in a week
Ëkñøōr* Pùñïā yeah, I lost two in middle school and never recovered.
People say that 8 months isn’t a long time to leave a friend
8 months feels like 8 years when you leave your BEST FRIEND
Golden trio ⚡📒🍔
Agreed :(
Totally true
Yea
I haven't spoke to my best friend in 5 years lol
The worst feeling is..
When you have a best friend and they get a boyfriend and leave you because they have someone new now.
and they talk to you only when they need something :(
@@zvakicauwu Thats so relatable for me right now,me and my best friend talk very often about her problems with her girlfriend and it annoys me that she doesen't want anything else to talk about.
so my best friend threw me into the darkness after 14 years. it means I thought that she is my best friend bt she's never think that way.
it's all happened when she found her new friends & boyfriend
or you try to keep them and they leave you anyway and only ask when they need something or their bf isn’t available
I feel so bad for Alyssa and my heart breaks for her because I know what that feels like keep strong and hopefully her friend will call her back
I personally volunteer myself to be Alissa’s best friend
Devin Devin me too. I feel bad for her too.
Me too;(
Because she’s hot, smh.
My name is Devan, just you know spelled differently.
cla173t Thornton hey me too!
“You can always call me” he said, but he ain’t ever call her.
cuz he was scared
He seemed so mean to her like I would just forget about him.
Yea Ik he didn’t wanna talk to her and you can tell
Righttt
Yeah it was a total cop out. He basically said: I’m not going to contact you and I’m not going to try,so you can contact me if you want to do all the work.
I felt the saddest for the guy who didn’t want to call. I feel like that would also be me. It wasn’t rude or anything, it was probably more of just knowing that relationship is over or something much deeper.
Janis Quesadilla it's like resisting going across an old wooden bridge with whispers of ancient gold on the other side. You're tempted by the fortune (reconnection with friends) but cautious of the dilapidated wood and rope (time that has passed and changing of their lives without you).
BlackShogun 27
SPEECH 100
👏👏👏👏
I can relate to this so much. I always think about contacting my long lost friend until I think, they let me go so easily, that I just started feeling like I was always a bother. And, I’m so scared to say something, then finding out that they don’t need me anymore, and doing just fine without me. like I never even existed to them, or all the memories we had just disappeared. I regret even mentioning how I felt because right after that they let me go just like that. Even if I had to hide how unwanted I felt, I would still talk to them if I could. Literally meant the world to me, it’s been so long but I still can’t get over it. I just feel so much guilt and regret, for not having the one I wanted the most in my life anymore. I would blame everything on myself just to get them back, I feel like I would do anything. At this point I don’t even care about my feelings, I wouldn’t even speak about my feelings if I knew that would cause us to drift. Now I have this gap in my heart that I can’t fill.
Didn't want the other side of the story
Maybe
sym is annoyed Aw, I’m sorry to hear. I hope things get better, I mean people are irreplaceable but you can find value in someone else for a whole different reason that made you close with your old friends. Also, I’m really grateful for you taking the time to read and reply, it was more of me venting because I had no one else to go to. Anyways, I hope you find that special friend you need. Take care of yourself and your health. ♥︎
i can tell the friendship meant a GREAT DEAL to alyssa. i’m also like that with my friends. recently my friend and i stopped talking and it’s been so hard mourning someone who’s very much alive. hopefully alyssa is doing alright wherever she is
There's a reason why people from your past didn't make it to your future.
Yo, you just gave me goosebumps. I'm gonna steal your qoute😂✌
Yeah sometimes your actions are the reason.
100%
@Reee find people who are low maintenance.
@@halesvitkona9841 Or, get this. Its most likely the other person. Ikr mind blowing.
Worst is, he or she was your only friend.
felt this
ñõ õñė čãrêś
Yesss!!! 😫😭
And I wasn't her or him only friend
@@zahraw4345 ouch
the most horrible sound is the sound of a wilted voice, a crying small voice.
I am your 1k like
@Gopher good job gopher :^)
You literally copied a top comment. No way.
“And what hurts the most is that ppl can go from people you know to people you don’t”
She wasn’t good for me but sometimes I just miss her...
Sadly, we all go through that. You just have to realize, that despite the pain of losing your friend, it made you a stronger and probably also a better person. We shouldn't hang out with people who bring out the worst in us.
Been there bro keep your head up you did what’s right!
I miss her all the time...
Also..heyy Baby Louis❤️
same for him 😔 i think we’re both definitely doing better off without each other tho but there are some days i do miss him and think about our good times 🥺
why do i feel the other she, my friend, might be also relating to this like i am
The friends don’t seem to care tbh.
That's what really hurts - caring so much about someone you used to be close friends with when they don't care about you anymore
@Life, Love, and other things what do you mean
maybe they do but they just couldn't express it properly because the phone call kinda put them on the spot
Couldn’t it be because they were caught off guard and didn’t know what to say? I mean if I was the one reached out to I don’t know what I would say or do and probably freeze up a little.
@@Eeveeteevee yeah I got the impression the two calls showed that people cares or were processing.
I feel for Alyssa. At first she seemed like she was trying her best to act like the happiest person there but just lost it by the end. I hope everything's good with her and everybody else. ❤️
💖
I know 💔
I recently had a former best friend reach out to me after 3 years of not being in touch. I had no idea that she still cared about me. I had previously mourned the loss of that friendship, but she told me that she'd always consider me to be her friend and care about me. Sometimes someone just needs to have the courage to reach out.
People forget that friends can break your heart just like bf and gf can :(
Completely, sometimes they can hurt you much deeper
Never had that happen thankfully
Perhaps even harder
Yeah, and it’s way worse than a breakup...
No, you’re wrong. Best friends hurt more. Seeing your friend grow up to be someone you didn’t exspect or someone you didn’t want is much much more painful then a breakup. I knew a girl named Kelly who was my best friend is grade school and then she changed to a girl who looked and acted like she was mean the mean girls movie. Losing a friend is like losing part of you.
The worst thing about friends is when you were friends for such a long time then all of a sudden everything changed and you guys don’t talk to each other anymore and you go from BFFS to strangers in such a short amount of time that you don’t even get to say goodbye and it just ends of with one last glance at each other until you don’t even look at each for a second in the hallway
I had the same experience. We've been friends since childhood ( I was six, she was five years old) We had so much fun together, but then her family moved to England.
She came back to Kazakhstan two years ago, but we don't talk as much as before (like we had one meeting and that's it). The last message she sended me was the wish for my 15th birthday. Still love her :(
I had a friend named Declan in grade 5 and he was a shorter kid and he had Tourette syndrome. He was so kind and funny and I loved him so much (as a friend). He didn't have many friends so he really wanted to exchange numbers so we could text and call eachother. He gave me his number multiple times and every time I lost the paper he would write it on. I remember once having it and writing it down in one of my sketch books. He had to leave and I can't find him at the school I go to now (middle school). Last week I remembered him and started crying because I didn't know if he was doing okay or not. I found the sketch book I had wrote his number in and opened it to the last page to find "My Friends Numbers" written at the top and nothing below it. I was in tears that night and I hope he is not getting bullied for his conditions. I feel almost broken because of this and I hate myself for being so clumsy and forgetful.
@@zucc5330 Why don't you hit him up. And tell him you hope he is okay. Especially in times like these. My (ex)bestfriend send me a message not too long ago and it felt really good to hear from her. Even though we aren't friends anymore.
I Purple You search for them on social media. I did it and found someone like that, but I’m scared to death to try to dm them or whatever, because I’m sure they’ve forgotten who I am.
Willeke Borst I dont have his number or anything to be able to contact him
*WE NEED AN UPDATE ON WHAT HAPPENED TO THESE FRIENDSHIPS, ESPECIALLY ALYSSA'S*
AGREED!!
IKR!
Agreed
YESS
AGREED
I had a childhood best friend. We’d known each other since we were 4. We would hold hands when we crossed the street and walk to the bus together. When we started growing up, he went to all my soccer games and I went to all his basketball games. We used to spend hours lying in the hammock in his back yard, just talking because being with each other was all we needed. I loved him, and he loved me too. We talked about everything, then one day he became a stranger. I never figured out what happened, or why he stopped talking to me but life goes on. Even now years later I’ll stumble along a photograph, or a board game we used to play and remember him. I wonder how he’s doing, and if he’s happier now then he was before. I hope he has found people to love him like I have.
it could be that he had/has mental health issues. My childhood best friend stopped reciprocating in our friendship for seemingly no reason in my mind. Turned out she had a rough home life and an abusive relationship with her boyfriend. I had no idea. She had depression and anxiety, and that was why she stopped talking to me. Anyways, if you want to, you should try reaching out if you have a way...I decided to reach out one day because I had nothing to lose, and it was so worth it. My childhood friend and I are close again, and we both missed each other.
You should seriously reach out to him
Someone, please tell Alyssa that she's the most beautiful soul I've seen in a while! wow, real.
She's hurting...you can really see that. 😕 I hope she's okay.
Kav604 aw thank you hahah i’m jkjk
That the name of my ex bestfriend and we just stopped
No
Shes hurting😭
Is no one going to talk about the other dude who came to the interview but didn't call their long lost friend? XD
He didn't want to
bugoy na koy koy that would be me too lol
Me
He was afraid the other side of the story would come out!
Who? the guy in the red sweater?
Me: •knows I'm still in emotional distress from losing my friend•
Also me: •chooses to watch this anyways•
KayGee i really hope you doing well ❤️
Same . .
Saaaame
literally me...
KayGee same
"I wanna apologize for being selfish, I thought I needed to push people away to take care of my self " I felt that because it's what I do.
8 months? I’d like to hear a friend from 4 years ago
TributesAndUnique it’s been a year I haven’t seen one friend!
I haven’t talked to a friend in over 4 years I miss her
Fiona Gb What made you stop talking?
9 years for me -_-
I haven't talked to my best friend for over 2 years and I don't even know what happened we just stopped talking there was never a talk about why and how does anyone have any advice?
Unpopular opinion
A best friend break up is worse than an actual one.
A bf/gf is a soulmate AND your best friend
I still cry about my long lost best friend and it's been a year. It still hurts. I saw her one day and this wave of anger and sadness just hit me.
I feel like loosing a best friend actually hurts more for some reason
Unless the person is a best friend as well as partner haha
No unpopular
4:39 That must've hurt more.
I'm afraid Alyssa's long lost friend would just listen to that voicemail, shrug and forget about it. I really, really hope I'm wrong.
i don't see anyone shrugging that off
@@aurboda i do
Let’s hope we’re wrong.
Friendships are the most important to me, I’m autistic and tend to get attached to people easy. I’ve had bad friends but I love them so much still, even though I’ve managed to distance myself from them I miss them so much, but I know they will hurt me if I go back again.
i am in the same situation too :(
@@sono._. stay strong and don’t forget the bad things they’ve done to you
I am autistic too!! I had such a nice friend for the past six years. She really understood me and communicating with her was easier than with anyone else. I felt safest with her and I could unmask easiest when I was with her. Last year, our friendship really reached a new heights. I thought this it, we are sisters. I am not alone anymore. But now we haven’t really hung out since my birthday in October. I tried so much to get in touch with her, I did my very best to not stress out. To keep my cool and do not force my friendship upon her, but I think it’s really over. She has new friends. She has a new boyfriend. She has a very nice job. I’m very happy for her but I am so sad that I cannot be part of it anymore. I don’t understand why, I truly don’t understand. I wish I could just understand. It’s like there’s a hole in my heart.
I am autistic and I have lost a friend because mostly I am bad at social rules, emotions understanding and regulations….and also due to lack of communication