Cultural Clash: Is My Filipina Wife Westernized?
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- Опубликовано: 12 июн 2024
- Cultural Clash: Is My Filipina Wife Westernized?@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234Let's Explore What Happens to Some Women When They are Exposed to the Western Culture and Way of Life. Will it Improve Them, or Simply Destroy What Could Have Been a Great Relationship?
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I admire Pauls ability to tell a story, very little editing, just turn on camera and go. That's his gift.
Totally agree, it’s great stories to listen to, really is.
I noticed that too. He's a great storyteller.
Yes. It is because he was a car salesman for his career.
if you listen closely you can tell the very few spots where its edited , but yes he is good
Don’t you see why there’s no need for editing ? The man is just reading a script, it’s all pre written. It’s all propaganda, the man sold out.
Remember it's a two way thing, you're more Filipino now, just as she is more American. Win-Win.
Paul I think that since you and baby Mae have been together you have shown her a whole new world. That kind of gratitude is the glue that makes solid, healthy relationships stick together for life, regardless of where you live. Thanks for sharing.
A woman with gratitude? You're kidding, right?
My wife of 38 years (40 years spent in the U.K.) is still truly Filipina at heart….she can tell the rights from the wrongs from a western’s viewpoint but her sweet, loyal and loving way of life never changed. Very lucky to have her as my wife, my companion and best friend!
My wife in America fights it, but I can see the West creeping in... She still holds onto her Filipina heart, but I see how it's changed her some... It's only been a year here... Especially the materialistic stuff...
@@jamesloerzel4377 I think some amount of change is kind of inevitable but it is an individual thing..
I married a Colombian and we had a long distance relationship for 2 years until I was able to obtain Permanent Residence Visas for her and her two sons. During those two years she would come to the US for a month and go home for two months. One year after I brought her and sons to the US she filed for divorce and went to Florida to be with her sister. Yes she did it for the visas. I wish I had gone to Colombia. I was retired and could have lived there for several years before applying for the visas. She probably would have left me before getting the visas. I saw red flags during the process and it was my fault I didn’t withdraw the visas applications. I own my mistake. I will be much more cautious in the future
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I saw red flags soon as u said her 2 sons. Hope u recover well brother
That’s sad. I pray you will find the right woman😊
You've got yourself a gem Pauly but you already know that!💎
I am taking mine to Canada because that is where I bought a decent home and I already told her if you don't like it there, we can move because it's just a house. I am willing to live wherever we can survive comfortably. Plus, if you treat her with dignity, respect and kindness she won't have a reason to look elsewhere.
Good morning, Pauley - yeah, that 'Caution, woman driver' sticker would not fly here in North America😅
I agree with you, I do not think Baby Mae has been Americanized but she has become a more modern woman😊
Have a good day, guys💃
As someone who has taken my wife from Dumaguete to the west I can thoroughly recommend it, not only is she seeing things she would never have seen before but we as a couple are going places and doing things that simply are not possible in the Phils. Also long term, I think it’s the best legacy you can leave your wife for her to be able to live and work in the West can transform the lives of the whole family. In fact we are bringing her sister to the West also and her sisters husband. This could change the family’s prospects for generations to come.
I brought my Filipina wife to America, 19+ years later, still humble, respectful, and all about family. (62 & 41, yrs, old).
@@donwebb6776 that’s great and I totally agree with you, they are incredibly humble.
The guys who say don’t do it are so wrong in my opinion.
Just look at things like healthcare comparisons, salary comparisons and then add to that you will not have to be the only one paying out all the time, in the west there is a real chance of proper teamwork.
But you know what I like most of all? By bringing them to the West you get to leave the Philippines in full vacation mode everytime you visit. And that is way more fun.
When I married my wife I knew immediately the most importimportant thing I needed to do was to get her a permanent visa to my country, get her out of there and let her decide for herself and she loves it.
Our first anniversary is in 1 week and here we are in the west living a great life with the option to go back to the Philippines whenever we wish. It’s win win.
All the best 👍
Yup, agree with everything you wrote. I lived with my wife and stepson in Tacloban after marrying my wife in 2018. I brought them to the States in 2022. It's been great, great for them, great for me.
I'm going to say something here that will make some viewers unhappy. I've known a lot of Western guys with Filipina significant others, both in the Philippines and here in the States. A percentage of these guys have serious personal issues, whether that means they're alcoholics, abusing drugs, they're very bitter about previous relationship failures, they have a gambling addiction, they have bad anger issues, they're chronic depressives, they're control freaks, they're rabid misogynists, they're paranoid, they are mentally ill (but functional), they're criminals or have a criminal past, etc.
In short, these are men who any woman of any age of any background from any country would be happy to be rid of after a few years. And a Pinay is not going to look at it any differently. If you're one of these guys and bring a Pinay to a country where she can get divorced, well, that's what's going to happen. Because even though you went to the Philippines to escape, to get a fresh start with a beautiful FIlipina, but you're trying to make that fresh start with the same old you. And the same old messed-up you is going to make that sweet Filipina crazy, just like you made those other women completely crazy - the previous women in your life, that is.
So, for those guys, yeah, don't take your Filipina to the West. She (like any other woman) is going to head for the exit door on your marriage when she gets to a country where she can get divorced. Just keep her in the Philippines, where you have all the money, all the control, and divorce is illegal.
For a normal, or even relatively normal guy, though, bringing her to your home country is a damn fine option. I recommend it.
Paul is a logical thinker and it reveals in his storytelling. It captivates my attention from start to finish. Amazing!!
Really enjoyed this ones
I really appreciate it how mae has been doing well in self improvement and learning new things to modernized lifestyle with you Paul. Thank you. Her way of learning from you in doing things paper work etc makes her wiser in life. And shes keeping a humble life. May you both continue to be blessed in life.
I appreciate that
Can she dress up more appropriately
It all depends on personality. Mae is shy, she needs the security you provide, not just financial but the love and support and guidance you give her. Mae isn't going anywhere. She's with you for life Paul.
wow you really know baby mae , good comment Dr Phil
I would love to have one of those Caution, Lady driver signs? Could I buy one? 😂
Modernized. I think that’s a good word for your Filipina.
Getting closer to the 100K mark! Keep the good content coming.
Very good, Paul!
Great video, thank you.
Glad you liked it!
Good topics today Paul
Very well said and accurate my friend.
Thank you Paul for being a major guiding truth teller.
Just because a woman may change some when exposed to western culture doesn't have to be a bad thing. She may well gain self confidence and an improved opinion of her own value, which I think is just fine as long as she maintains the values which made her attractive in the first place.
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If you have a good province girl they just grow up and become mature having an American husband. 🇺🇸🗽
Thanks!
You bet! thank you !
Totally agreed Paul!
Almost at 100k subscribers!!! I think you had around 60k when I started following you, your videos are the only ones I see all the way through 😁😁😄
Thank you so much!!
Youre.a.lucky man.God bless you.both.
I met my Filipina wife in the US about 3 years ago. She has lived in the US for about 12 years, along with two of her four adult children.
I don’t know if being from Sinait Ilocos Sur counts as being from the ‘Province’, but she grew up working hard both on her father’s farmland and in her mother’s kitchen, and with quite traditional values. She keeps our house spotless (including sweeping outdoors), and she loves to cook for me. She still has no interest in learning to drive, but I think it’s accurate to say that she’s modernized.
She’s sponsoring her two adult children who are in the Philippines to get US visas (which is taking a crazy long time), and she provides quite a lot of assistance to family back in Sinait (she’s considered the ‘bread-winner’, whatever that is), so she still works full-time.
She’s always grateful for modest gifts I give her, but frequently it’s her who pays when we go out to eat.
Bottom line - she’s one of the sweetest, good-hearted people I’ve ever known, and she reminds me a little of how people describe province girls.
I look forward to moving back to Luzon with her in x # of years, once the immigration process completes (and we’ll shuttle back and forth from the Ilocos area to Oahu).
Paul, I love your podcasts - one of the crazy people! You’re by far my favorite source of Filipino culture information, and I hope to meet you in person some day.
Btw, totally agree with your perspective on this video!
You have such a good attitude man love the vids
The only time you have to worry about a Filipina becoming Westernized is if you bring them back to the West... My wife has been here only a year, and she fights it, but the West corrupts...
Hello form Mobile, Alabama. Good on Baby Mae's attitude and outlook. Great on you two being together. Wish only the best for you both. Keep up the good work.
Thanks so much
My fiancé (wife next month😮) grew up in the province but has spent most of her life in city of a million people. She's province to the core! In my opinion, the Philippines is the most westernized country of SEA. Occupied so long by Spain, not so long by us but long enough to speak English and have a government structure that more or less mirrors our own.
100% Paul. I have been Married 10 years and the essence of my wife is the same even though she had more experiences in life now. By the way my wife and I live in Australia and never had an issue as we go from strength to strength. You speak so much sense in this video. Great Job! 👍👍
My filpina wife been with me 8 yrs here in Philippines..and never been to the U.S. she's not westernized , at all . Just more open minded , informed and wiser for the married to an American experience...I attribute this non westernization of her to , remaining in her home country...at least partially so ....agree with you Paul ,
My wife , same as yours has had plenty of opportunity to better deal me , without ever going to the U.S...if she wanted to .m
Hope you and your wife & family are doing well. Best wishes in the future and enjoy life together.
Great vid Paul, i hope you soon achieve 100K subs so we can see the placard on the wall, good luck
I appreciate your words; I went to marriage counseling with a Filipino pastor in America who has a little congregation of half a dozen couples with American men married to Filipinas. He told me not to bring her to American; he had two couples where the Filipinas became Americanized and divorced the husband. So, considering the odds of one chance in three or higher, I’m not sure I want to take the risk. With no-fault divorce, it only takes one party to get itchy feet
Keep them in Phillippines no need to take them to the US anyway.
So close to 100k subs yay!!! 🎉🎉🎉
soon golden chains hanging around Paul's neck, lol
Paul l love your videos and l love you and Mae.
You have a Gem my friend!! You're a blessed man!!🙏👍
I appreciate that
From an international relations perspective, it's possible to look beyond individuals and see how relationships between countries, through various "actors" (expats, tourists, businesspeople, diplomats), lead to cultural exchange and assimilation. This kind of syncretism (blending of cultures) is predictable and historically evident when people interact, adopting religions, technologies, or ideas from other regions.
Being married 3 times and seeing a councilor that has degrees hanging on the wall from a college. When woman/men do not get what they need and deserve from their spouse emotionally. They will look else where to get that emotional need met. Could be many things sex, relationships, looks from men, gambling, shopping, alcohol, and other drugs. My question to you is. Why is it does Mae feel the need to go out in public wearing skimpy clothes if in Thailand or at home? She will be getting from other men looks and reactions. Usually goes back to childhood not getting enough attention from her Dad. Once in adulthood will keep feeling or reliving that trauma. To fill that lacking emotional need will wear skimpy clothes, have sex with other men/women, emotional affairs and and marry older men. We all have baggage. But what separates the men from the boys is getting help counciling. Not trying to making anyone mad just look at it from another aspect.
Paul I have been married to Filipinas twice for a combined 20 years. I have known hundreds mabe thousands of Filipina American couples. I would like to say that you got one of the good ones.
Thanks so much 👍
My girlfriend and I are both subscribers now. Me for over 4 years, her for like a month. We enjoy your excellent content. Agree that Baby Mae is a bit more expressive in he swim wear then either of us. But also agree that there is noting wrong with her choice as she and you are happy together. I'm conservative, I'd never wear a spedo swim suit and she is comfortable with a little more coverage. We are 68 and 55 for ages. Last, we are both very interested in following your house build from both of your perspectives!!!! Also hope to meet both of you in my two month visit starting late August. Researching tickets to Cebu on or after about the 10th.
Evening paul
amen
My wife is Thai, but your description of May, I can 100 percent apply to my wife.
She is strong and loving, and no matter what, always by my side.
One thing,that is very important in my mind, for westerners.
Do your homework !!!
Try to educate your self about culture, and way to live I the country you choose.
That will definitely save you a lot of unnecessary problems.
Good morning warmest regards from Texas;FtWorth
All Filipinos are Americanized, the Philippines is completely different than anywhere else in SE Asia.
Yup! Social medianized
Maybe the NcR region up in Manila and Cebu. The rest of the country is still laid back.
That's true. It was a Spanish colony for a few centuries and then an American one for 50 years. The main religion in Luzon and the northern islands is Roman Catholicism. It is a unique blend of Asian, Spanish and American culture.
Kind of silly to assume they are not Westernized. When I went there in the 1990s it stilled seemed a lot like the 1970s but the mobile phone has changed that...for the better. Land lines were out of reach because they were so expensive.
I agree with you nothing wrong being modernized
Great stories Paul and thanks for sharing. This would be a great video for western women to see...this may sound crazy but there's a growing amount of women here in the USA in there 40's and beyond questioning the bill of goods feminists sold them....now very unhappy and longing for something different! Take care!
You landed a good one in Baby Mae. Well-done, and great video. Looking forward to the next one!
I think it depends on several factors. If she really loves you, how strong she is, what filipina friends she in the US, and whether her filipina friends are married, divorced, or single.
If she loves you but has single or divorced filipina friends you could be in trouble. If shes strong enough to resist you will be fine. Single and divorced Filipinas will tempt her and try to convince your filipina to get a youner or richer man. Ive already seen it happen here, several times. If her filipina friends in the US are married, chances are your marriage can last. They wont be pushing her to find a better guy. I know it happens bcuz most of my family is Filipino. 1000 members strong according to my filipina daughter inlaw.
Thanks, Paul. I know exactly what you mean. No power struggles ❤.
Absolutely!
You have a good one Paul. You very lucky. G-d bless you both.
Thank you kindly
Yes Paul she is, like the frog in the pot, not realizing its getting boiled. Its happens. You're still a good person & I enjoy your vids. 👍 you're doing a lot for the community & individuals. From Detroit, MI.
Thanks 👍
I wait for the whole ATM screen to clear too Paul!
Paul, Baby Mae is the best example of a lady that most men would love to call my wife!
Hahaha, when my wife got her license she put 4 of those magnetic stickers on her car warning people about her being on the road.
Hey Paul, you’re onto something with those lady driver bumper stickers. I’ll take a crate of them ASAP.
Baby Mae seems very genuine and sweet. I've watched several of her interviews on her channel and she's always very nice and never condescending. You are very lucky to have her and she's lucky to have you.
Well said
Good Evening Paul And Mae ! I Hope Both Of You Have A Wonderful Night ! 🙂🙂🙂🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯
You too!
Thanks Paul And Mae ! 🙂🙂🙂
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Let me be straight up. You have the most desirable womanl amongst all the other RUclipsrs. She needs to be in your videos and on occasion she needs to be the video. Respect.
Those bumper stickers would sell for sure. 🙂👍🏻
I think so too!
Great video. I brought my Filipina over here after I married her there. She is a mature (older) Filipina. But here, she is with a community of grounded Filipinas that helped her when she got here. But I have seen others go deep into the pool and forget where they came from. And second generation kids are already brainwashed into society. I plan to do the back and forth trips, my wife misses the Philippines and her family. I guess it's all about how the Filipina is raised and her being grounded in reality. And yes, I'm part of the crazy people (ask my psychiatrist at the end of the bar 🤣) and proud of it! Happy Traits to You!
It all comes down to core values and the heart the western influence is here anyway ,media,tictoc FB,etc... went in 7-11 rap music playing loud so my 2cents lol good video it's becoming more of a mix now I think
could not agree more, modernizing is a good thing. we have been married 32 years, my wife learned everything, but I still consider myself her mentor, we go over things here about every day. 32 years ago she didn't drive, no job, therefore no SS benefits later, "what is a check", etc. She worked her 40 quarters, will be eligible for SS later, drives, banks, etc. We bought and sold 5 homes, (flipping) so our house is now paid for, and she helped with each house, sometime hard labor. She has never forgot her morals and principals, I trust her 100%. My opinion 6 months here and 6 months there would probably be a benefit to both of you. Not expensive here for us, at Panera right now, coffee (all drinks) $99 a year, free internet, and a very nice surrounding, I am a vet, we have kind of a large house, my property taxes $676 a year. Health insurance stellar, VA and an HMO. Just my thoughts, good luck to both of you.
My wife who I have a 27 year age gap has been in the US 9 years now. I just retired and we are on our way to the province. 9 years in Seattle ruined the US for her. She likes the simple life. The province is strong.
Paul McGill, the Louis l’Amour of the Philippines See you soon Paul.
You are absolutely right about Baby Mae being modernized versus westernized. She is simply discovered, through your guidance, there is a better life to be lived in the Philippines as compared to the one she grew up in. She is still the same Baby Mae inside that you met the first time. However, she has become confident in herself and willing try learn new things. Over time you have subtly taught her that she can be any person she chooses to be, because you have her back at all times. You have given her opportunities she never of having, Paul. That is a priceless gift you have given her. You have earned her utmost devotion and love she gives you unconditionally. Wow! What an awesome pair you two have become. Advance congrats on your vlogg making it the next level. You and people just naturally go together. ❤
Thanks for sharing and keep up the good work.
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Hey Paul !
As a subscriber of both of your and Baby Mae's channel along with having met you both I concur baby Mae has Not been "Westernized" at all and all one has to do is watch one of her Live streams as they both are just like their video in person. I do believe she has more clothes and dresses nicer in public and her Dancing has improved and gotten so much better since her first videos as the sweet part is that she does it for fun and exercise not to be sexy or sensual and she is more confident because of being married now. Paul isn't just an old dog but a "Lucky Dog" as she truly "Loves Him" as that is my observation and it is such a sweet thing and a tremendous encouragement as just like the rest of us they aren't perfect but they mesh well and are accepting and value the other as evidenced by both always talking about the other in a positive manner on their videos. I am positive that both will be together forever per say as I agree that it is built in to a person as to whether they value and want to be committed to their values, morals and beliefs and with strong Family beliefs and Faith it is ingrained and reinforced in the Philippines. There are couples like Paul & Baby Mae or Greg & Wilma, Monty & Aragel, that i see who have that kind of relationship that is encouraging to those of us who have visited and /or are moving there as a Super Positive example that Love and Good Marriages still exist.
My wife was at the consultant in Cebu. She told me that the women were extremely stuck up. They looked down on her and other's thinking they were hot sh*t. She had a friend who was their at the same time. They talked about the fact that the women were just bitches. I know my wife is on TicTok and some social media but she hands me the phone once a dude texts her. And I go off hard core on em. Without question. Paul your absolutely right women do change but they were also a certain way money just highlights what was already there.
im glad you said what you said about men taking their wives to the states. its all about your relationship. i know im armchair quarterbacking here, but what you said needs to be said. i feel that guys who freak out about that are just horribly insecure about their relationship and their manhood and use the terms "feminism" and "westernized" as a crutch so they dont have to take responsibility for their insecurity. i personally dont see anything wrong with feminism and dont know why so many men that go over there talk about it like the big bad wolf. it just shows how scared and weak they are. not a popular opinion at all around this part of youtube. not trying to stir. just saying. LOL. thanks again.
Paul I have a filipina wife 30 yrs younger then me. Living in Florida for 6 months and never happier. Very similar background to mae with same core values. We are both very lucky guys. Love to meet you next time in the philippines
Personally, I don't think it says as much about WHERE she comes from as it says about WHO she is as a person. But, she's probably also an exception rather than the rule.
Filipinos are very communal people and will acclimate to their surroundings by seeking out other Filipinos to connect with. When you take your Filipina back to your country, and if its a place that has a Filipino community, she will eventually connect with them. Its the other westernized Filipinas that will enlighten her to the possibilities, and if your Filipina has that inkling to move on, it is they who will make it easier for her. Filipinas are very family oriented and will not be happy being away from them for long periods of time. It may even become your fault, and a form of animosity may form, especially if you don't have a plan to return to visit in the future. It's best to retire and move to the philippines and live there to enjoy the benefits of living in the philippines.
My Wife, and all of her family, have been to the U.S. and Canada. Many have lived overseas in North America. So it wasn't a culture shock, bringing me into the family. And even though they've visited and lived in the West, they all prefer to live here in the Philippines. 🌴🇵🇭
I wouldn't call them 'westernized' as much as 'modernized'.
Roy is fortunate that his Son is getting 'western education', but his Wife, although 'modernized', is still a Filipina at heart, living in the U.S.
Yes, we talk all the time
Depends at what age she comes to the 🇺🇸 My ex from Lapu Lapu hangs around Flipinas and is still Flipina but very grateful for what I gave her -however my daughters at 19 and 23 are typical girls in 🇺🇸 but more aware of career-financial opportunities than their mom! They have better self esteem-perfect English-studious however they are spoiled but understand how life is so much better in the 🇺🇸 for young people (career opportunities etc)!
Your lucky Paul. You found the perfect girl. Baby Mae
We used to have those stickers in USA. caution lady driver
You should get her a brokerage account, and put in $100 a month in Philippines stocks. Let that grow for her for her future
"It's up to you" Western men nowadays have a hard time coping with this hearing it from a woman's mouth, haha. As if we are not used to be around healthy women anymore. It can feel really akward in the beginning and to rediscover yourself as a man, the way it should be.
I have seen the sticker. 🇺🇸🗽
My chick became "westernied". Now she wears cowgirl hats and cowgirl boots and daisy duke shorts and goes around singing country songs. I approve.
In DFW Texas I see the student driver bumper stickers everywhere, and always it's a foreign person driving. I thought at first it was a joke, but no.
Like and subscribe. Lets hit 100k.
I agree, Mae is not Westernize, however her life has been upgraded. Her life is certainly better off than before and used to a certain way of life now, but I would not say Westernized.
You know when your filipinos become westernized . When the people in her village start calling her madame, lol She's very grounded and doesn't let the meritas get to her. She just smiles and says oh you have an angel tongue ." I consider myself a very lucky man And our journey has just begun. Love you honey ko be home soon
I can tell you why a woman you would take to usa would change and most of the cases I have seen is they meet other philippinas and they corrupt a "good girl" If she gets a job her coworkers can also cause problems. misery loves company and there are plenty of miserable people right now in america.
I watched a filipina vlogger interview 2 Filipinas a few weeks ago. She was asking them about feminism. She finally asked, do you need a man. They both answered, No! We can do anything a man can do, but better. I was shocked hearing that from Filipinas. They sounded exactly like radical feminists in the US. They even mentioned they can get pregnant without a man. The vlogger didn't ask who was going to repave roads, or work on their sewage systems, or dig ditches for 8-12 hours per day, or who will build hollow block houses. So I believe they picked it up on social media bcuz its exactly what you hear from feminists in the US. It took 50 years for this to spread in the US bcuz we didn't have social media. It wont take 50 years in the Philippines due to social media.
Good show. My wife has been here in Michigan since September 3. She comments on bad drivers as woman drivers also. I thought she was making a joke. 😂
Hey I had asked this on an older vid but since this is a newer one I gotta know about the chicken? Is that in reference to the fact that you have a resemblance to my favorite chicken man in the world? The Colonel... Mr. KFC Colonel Sanders? LOL
Well when a couple come together and live in the same house they will influence each other. Hopefully that's a good thing and makes both of them better people. I would say if an expat lives in the Phil's he will be more influenced by the Filipina's culture and if she is with him in the west his culture will be more an influence on her. So It does seem Baby Mae has changed, but I would say for the better. She still holds some traditional Filipino values, but has also been influenced by Paul's western mindset. .
Mine's not becoming westernized , but she often over values the dollar to peso.
I would love to find a woman as you have described in this video.
All crazy, all the time. Don't forget, No symptoms is one of the symptoms.
Curious In your opinion ,what is a reliable used vehicle to purchase in the Philippines
THANKS
The same ones that are reliable in the United States...Hondas and Toyotas.