Meeting a Filipina in Dumaguete: A Cautionary Tale of the Dark Side
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- Опубликовано: 24 май 2024
- Meeting a Filipina in Dumaguete: A Cautionary Tale of the Dark Side@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234
In this video, we delve into a true story about dating in Dumaguete and why it can be a complete nightmare. From awkward encounters to misleading profiles, we explore the challenges of finding love in this city. If you're curious about the dating scene in Dumaguete, this video is a must-watch!
Stay tuned to hear all about the pitfalls and struggles of trying to find a meaningful connection in this romantic but complicated city.
I don't know why anyone listens to this dude. I know I am done with him
And thats ok he aint for everyone, you dont have to watch, plenty of others to watch
We are all happy you made that announcement.
There's nothing worse than someone disliking a channel and just not watching without an announcement.
I often walk into a restaurant and tell the staff I don't care for this type of food and let them all know I won't be eating there. Then I stomp my feet and tell everyone I am preparing to leave in a huff. Sometimes I have to wait until a few people get off break so they can see me stomp out.
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Or sometimes I go to the Mall and announce. I refuse to shop in a particular store because I have no use for the products they sell. I like to search for the stores that sell stuff I don't like and go tell them all about it. I sometimes flail my arms along with feet stomping to dramatize my point (I learned that from a 4 year old throwing a tantrum in a grocery store).
A word of advice. You'll be taken more seriously if you jump up and down and whine.
Good luck to you on your next ' I'm leaving ' announcement. 👍
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Was I a little too over the top??
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Nope
First arrived in Dumaguete Oct 2022 right after the pandemic. Went on Tinder. First date was a nightmare. Went home to UK after 3 weeks. Got chatting to one of the other girls I liked on Tinder. Returned Jan 21st 2023 to meet her, clicked instantly had the best month of my life there. Returned again in June 2023 and married my now wife at the public wedding which the mayor conducted which was awesome. Flew home after a month. Returned in November 2023 for another month had another awesome time. Returned again in April 2024 spent a month there and brought my wife back to the UK this time and here we are loving our lives. we are both very happily planning our lives here in the UK and may retire in Dumaguete in a decade or 2.
Yes there were a million hurdles and one of Paul’s earlier videos about his wedding and the frustrations he faced getting it to happen I can completely concur with.
Thank you Dumaguete ❤
Congrats from a fellow brit…although I’m different I live in the phil’s. Getting married next year…been together years by then. Ps. Not in Duma though.
@@Eric-qm5xwcheers buddy, and best wishes for your upcoming wedding 🎉
I visited Dumaguete briefly at the end of a 2 month trip around the Philippines, 2 years ago just after the pandemic ended.
I found that the girls were indifferent compared to Cebu, Davao, Gensan, and Bantayan. On my second visit to Dumaguete last year, I brought my gf whom I met online and had spent the previous month with on Bohol. I found that to be a much better experience and really enjoyed the town. I would recommend that anyone who likes what Dumaguete has to offer, but cant find a gf, simply go somewhere else to find a girl and after spending a month together in her hometown getting to know her, bring her to Dumaguete. Good luck, and remember what goes round comes round so treat people with dignity and respect and remember you're an ambassador for the country you came from.
I have lived in the philippines over 6 years now and things went back to the way it was before the pandemic in my area. There are actually very few foreigners in this area but it is pretty modern here with great restaurants just like in Duma. The big difference here is that we have an excellent hospital and all major surgeries and medical is available here. It is a quiet hidden gem. Whenever I do see a new foreign face here I get slightly irritated because I don't want it getting ruined like the area you live in. One other big difference is that most foreigner here keep to themselves. You don't see them meeting up at one of the local coffee shops and for the most part you don't see foreigners approaching each other here. I have been approached by other foreigners 3 or 4 times in over 6 years. I like it like that. I watched your and a few other bloggers videos before moving/retiring here and made a good choice to avoid Duma. I know others like it there but I like the quiet of the area I am in.
That's why I had a bf at 26. No mature men available in my place until I finally met one.
Mature men are more calm, wise, dependable, settled, less inclined to hop from one woman to another. Unlike younger ones.
Most people don't really become more wise as they get older. From what I've seen, the dumb people from high school remained dumb and the smart ones remained smart.
It's been stated that there are approx 4500 expats in the Dumaguete area.
If each one of those guys dates 3,5,10, or 20 Filipinas, the dating pool will become depleted of quality prospects.
Im sure that many of those expats are players and users. Now you have many jaded and disinterested Filipinas.
Well, I’ll be 70 in June. I’m retired military, married to an American girl. We live in bayou country Louisiana. House is paid for (no mortgage. No bills to speak of other than the light bill, water bill, groceries, property tax etc. we live in a very quiet neighborhood. Wife and I both been to Europe and Southeast Asia ( Bangkok) and southwest asia ( Saudi Arabia, Iraq and Kuwait. Been thru all the ups and downs in life and we are content with our lives but we see in the news all the time things that are very disturbing. Hoping and praying that people will wake up and start behaving like fortunate Americans that we are.
There's quite a bit of feminism that has leaked into the Philippines as well. I watched a filipina vlogger interview a couple of Filipinas. They said they didn't need a man, they can make it on their own. That sounds like American feminists.
Beginning of the end brothers
I stay long term at Mexico and the Philippines. We need to change our mind set. Re: a mature long term relationship. When you we are ready, we can still find traditional Pilipinas, around the Provinces.
Mahal Ko Pilipinas. Maraming Salamat Po.
My Tagalog is getting better.
It's not a feminist thing to not want a guy it's just they don't need one for support. You mention American but you know in Japan and South Korea is no different. Many women love being single and refuse to date a less attractive guy. The old school approach is dieing out fast everywhere.
"Feminism" Try Economics ..
@George-ux6zz Thats probably due to the ease of access to the internet now as compared to before.
Informative and thank you!
Paul, you are a diamond in a bucket of marbles over there and on here. Great video 😊
Great video, however, there is one dynamic that you left out. It is all attributed to social media. In my humble opinion, in these modern times, this is the exterminator of traditional values. It allows women to have access to millions of men around the globe. The countless hours of admiration given to the Filipina. The extreme attention they receive in the comments either by videos or live streams is overwhelming. Constantly hearing, “You are so beautiful” or “I am in love with you” or “give me your cash app so I can send you money”. The heart and kiss emojis from almost every man in the chat. Of course, they are going to ignore the men who are there in person. All women love attention. It causes them to over evaluate themselves. The problems of the West has now made it to the Philippines. And it's going to get worse.
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100% spot on! Any decent looking girl can make a ton of money chatting guys online.
@@garyzies3486Agree with the first post..although a decent girl ain’t gonna make money from chatting guys etc.
The dopey guys throwing those compliments to every relatively attractive woman online cause the overinflated ego of these women. Most of these women don't want you & won't ever date you, so plese stop the slobbering on them!
Its no different than a man's favorite secret fishing hole. Once the word gets out that the fish are biting it suddenly gets over-fished and the pond either gets re-stocked with fish or its time to find a new "secret" fishing hole. Believe the Conde Nest article years ago which voted Dumaguete as one of the top places to retire initiated the ex-pat migration to the area. Same thing happened in San Miguel Allende, Mexico which had also been listed by them as one of the top places to retire years earlier. I visited San Miguel Allende last year and found the level of gentrification intolerable. The locals were understandably sullen about losing the ability to live there any longer due to the economic affluence. Sadly when locals move away they take their culture/contributions to the area with them causing the original "vibe" to deteriorate. The Eagles said it best; "call a place paradise and then kiss it goodbye".
Great video with great information, thank you.
Good evening Paul, good to see you back
Paul, I love Baby Mae,🫶🏻
She just has to sit there and smile and it’s game over!🥰🇬🇧
Thanks, Paul, for the video, its honest and without a doubt an eye opener
Agree. So many rough mannered AFAMs disillusioned nice Filipina girls , so they do not get easily into a relationship. Then I go to another island , meet a girl, get into relationship, after a year get married. Little as you may know, the ex friend from Dumaguete hits a FB message saying " . . If I only knew you were different than the bunch i have met before in Duma...".
You hit the nail on its head Paul ❤🎉
Keep up the great honest reporting
Hi Paul, Mrs. Paul and readers. Retired American 68 y.o. here from California vis-a vis Wisconsin. Been in beautiful Valencia West of Duma for two years now. Yes, somewhat frustrating for the single guy. Although not celibate I have not yet met my "match". I do see some pretty candidates frequently while driving or walking around but it's not easy to meet and the best ones are usually already taken -- but that is the case in most of the 25 countries I've visited. There are always other islands or Thailand, Vietnam, Indonesia if one is inclined to travel which I do. Dating sites are hit and miss. Yes, it was better before the pandemic. Yes, some of the expats are gruff and some of that is understandable given that Filipinos do not control their barking dogs or music volume. There are Filipino laws against this but they are largely ignored. The disorganization, long lines and bad roads you just have to put up with. Maybe my attitude and dating prospects will improve when I move to the shoreline of Bacong South of Dumaguete soon. Time will tell. It's still better than what's happening in USA and most of the Western world.
It's good your talking to ladies and trying
Sooner or later you will find
Hi guys this comment is from one of your crazy people. I wish there was a lot more people out there like both of you because both of you I believe have high morals and will do the right thing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and videos and talent have a great day
I 100% agree! Great couple.
Good video Paul. Alot of info and insight. Good understanding of the situation.
When I got out of college I kept telling my dad I needed to go to this big city or that big city to make it. What he told me has stuck with me all these years. Son if you're going to make it you'll make it anywhere. It's the same with meeting the right person in your life!
Thank you for your honesty
Thanks Paul, sounds like good advice and I your channel with all of the informative videos that you and Mae provide. One day.........................................
Hi Paul & Baby Mae, nice to see you two.
You are a great story teller and living the good life. I spent the past 4 months in the Philippines. While not making it to Dumaguete I did spend time on Bantayan Island. Lovely people. I helped a friend buy a fishing boat (not my money but from a kind sponsor from Oz) and did some glassing and fixing of fishing nets just to pass the time. Squid adobo is a must amongst the locals to offset the copius amounts of Red Horse and sweet breads.
I did venture into Angeles and Subic Bay. Both are dated and cost gouging. Subic Bay establishments are so old and vacant of guests! Angelese is full of Koreans pushing prices through the roof.
Further north, in San Juan, seems to be the hotspot now for tourist development. Not the place to find a long-term lover, but a great spot to invest and cash in on the middle-class from Manila.
Love that shirt. Jumping jacks comes to mind. 🎉
I was in Dumaguete last year and Paul has hit the nail on the head. I was on 3 dating sites every night sending bunch of messages to the girls( local girls) and I was not getting any response, except the working girls. Dumaguete is not a place to meet good girls for whatever the reason. That changes when I moved to other towns.
Good video 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
There are women everywhere. Good,bad,fake: all types. I'm married to a Filipina and we live in Texas. After I moved her to Texas she found the local Filipina community: turns out there are many already here in NE Texas. Lots of good,lots of Americanized bad. All types.
Yes, Im in Texas an your right, There is a very large community in the North of Dallas area.
@amossnowdaharleyman9179 Am from Florida and if I had known there were so many Filipinas abroad overseas, would have went to Canada to meet a girl instead of flying to the Philippines...do not get a wink of sleep on those 27 hour flights (rolls eyes). Have been married to my pinay now for 12 years (pats self on the back)lol
@@jsully4064 Dallas to Seoul, layover of 6 hours? then Seoul to Cebu.Reverse to come back. Been there done that.
@@jsully4064 This December will be 12 years for wife and I.
@@amossnowdaharleyman9179 Can't sleep on those hard seats, benches in Seoul, either
First crazy person reporting in!
Are you a wild and crazy guy? Steve Martin quote...
Nice Paul
I believe that I would have about the same luck finding a significant other regardless of where I landed. My reasons being that I am in no particular hurry (if it happens, it happens), and I will never look for my love in a bar.
She honestly would most likely be someone introduced to me by a friend, or the person who sees me at a restaurant that I frequent, or quite possibly the lady who sits next to me in the pew at church. In the end, if love finds me, I will embrace it with great care, and if it doesn’t… I am generally a very happy person and will definitely be okay. 🙂👍🏻
I couldn’t agree more.😊
Paul, the look Mae gave you when you said "I had a lot of female friends here." It was priceless!! LMAO She smiled too, but it wasn't one of those fun, happy smiles. ;)
2nd crazy person reporting in!
Shit, I thought I was the second. I am third then, haha.
I live in Dumaguete, and I agree with Paul, but I believe the #1 reason for this change is social media. Filipinas are finding mass attention from all over the world using TikTik and Instagram. This attention has changed their attitudes / they can easily choose a guy for in person, as an LDR, or to make money through online sex or scams.
Is it possible to find a good girl...yeh, but it's so different than in 2016 when I first came here.
Or 2011 when I first got there.
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Things are changing rapidly all over the Philippines. Most girls have access to smart phone + internet. With that, they find unlimited ways to monetize their assets. No need to look for anyone in person if there are millions of guys around the globe eager to throw money on them.
Bingo! The pandemic forced those looking for support to learn how to find it online, via LDR, sex show or scamming. These easy money schemes remained after the pandemic passed.
Paul you need more videos like this
Men 65 years and over are retiring in the Philippines thinking college students are waiting for them.
They are if he is interested in being a Sugar Daddy.
Brilliant to the both of you, Mrs Mae is golden mate, It is wonderful to have a local wife whom tells you her honest opinion not only with the foreigners but also for her local people
The thing is these guys that are looking for a significant other they need to shop around. There more places to look than Dumaguete. I think it is awesome that you and Baby Mae are happy with your home base of Dumaguete but in the same token I love it when you guys go to different places and take us along. Happy Trails to you and Baby Mae. LOVE FROM IOWA! 😊 ❤❤❤
Hi again beautiful couple watching from uk.
Im in malaybalay now, and the novelty you spoke of is still here. Great city without much exposure to foreigners.
Scottie Boy likes Malaybalay also
@@patrickclark9156 I actually interviewed him on my channel when he was in town to visit.
Advertise it and things will change quickly ;-).
@@garyzies3486 true statement. I've already had several foriegners come to visit and 1 move here since I started making videos about it...
@patrickclark9156 that's actually what brought me out here. I interviewed him about it on my channel and even more foriegners are coming...
Hi mate, i watched all your videos in regards of John, im glad he is back on his feet and doing well, you guys are amazing, God Bless You All.
All you ‘youtubers’ posting on Dumaguete have fouled your nest! Blame yourselves for the negative changes to your NOW popular place to visit and live. I am living in paradise in the tropics, 5 minutes from 5 beautiful beaches, for $1400. ( total expenses) a month. I want for nothing. I am one of 9 Americans in a 15 mile radius of my home. I will not disclose my location because I don’t want anyone else moving here. Love your videos!
Wise man! DO NOT ADVERTISE or things will change quickly!
So why do you watch vloggers in another area ?
I guess it's fair to say all you trolls , look to say only negative views , so I'm glad I'm not living in your area around a toxic foreigner, please don't visit or move to Duma.
We don't want your type here
GREAT VIDEO YOU GUYS
I know where you are. 5 beaches 5 minutes way for about 1400 gave it away.
Hi Paul, I was just there, didn't mind the place. I'm 49, fit healthy guy. I spent 3 weeks in Philippines, 6 days I Dumaguete, I got some attention, more than Australia. If I was I town long enough I would have a partner. The dating in the country was average. But once again, better than home. Filipina aren't throwing themselves at you. I do think they have become cautious, but I had alot of fun interacting in Cebu, they are approachable, so I like the culture, and will be moving over.
Amazing, I've been thinking the same thing. I think the cell phone changed people's lives in so many ways. Also the Pandemic caused many business ventures to go bust.
Probably the biggest dating scene problem is that the women are going where the jobs and money are. It's not Dumaguete, but places like Cebu City and the Call Centers.
Nightlife in Dumaguete is almost DOA. The 21 up group is moving out of Dumaguete looking for work. The under 21 are still living at home and going to school. The hot spot is Cebu City if you can get use to traffic everyday.
I personally like the vibe of Dumaguete, but I'm over 65. Davao & Iloilo look like good trending places.
The vibe after the Pandemic caused prices to rise sharply after two years of crazy rules.
Paul your opinion is very accurate. People change, policies change. Life keeps moving forward. Arriving Dumaguete this Sunday 😂
I definitely agree the younger generation find Dumaguette very bland too
Dumaguete is a college town. College/university girls aren't looking for foreigers. You can see this at Tiki Club. Very few goreigners there, but hundreds of university and college girls go there on the weekend nights. Why Not os the opposite in clientele. Yes, only the lady boys are chasing the foreigners indude and outside. Financially independent ladies date with other lsdies, co-workers. They buy their own food and drink. You are right, use the datkng sites and travel to Mindanao, Leyte snd Samar, evem Metro Manila. Find your love and bring her to Dumaguete. Many of the foreigners I met in Valencia had wives or gfs who are from another island or province. However, there are a group of dingle moms who come from the mountain barangays, Bayawan, Siaton looking for old men who can be good providers.
In 2005 to 2009 I had a Yahoo 360 blog with about 85,000 regular readers. I wrote a couple stories about Not being that Ugly-American when traveling. It was because in my world travels as a business guy I would see how some US, UK, and EU guys would talk to and act superior to Filipinos, Thai etc and it drove me nuts. I think some of this is catching up with how people like or avoid some from the West. There was a Vlog on "Earn Lucky Girl" in Thailand and she was blunt: too many foreigners coming without any money to support themselves. Mostly backpackers and younger to the 40's but same idea. I thought it would be common sense, but when you go to another country and meet the people there. It is their country so respect their culture, their way of life and don't try to impose what you were escaping back home. Happy Trails
Western "Superiority" Ain't New (look at the past 800 yrs) ..
I agree. Duma is a great place to live but there are still beautiful traditional Filipinas there that are still looking for that special man. You just have to honest, humble and genuine when you meet someone. Don’t be afraid to say hi and introduce yourself.
For us Gen Z and Millennials we can get that anywhere in world using online apps, AI, and other various. The dating pool is changing quickly I know Filipinas are catching on.
Paul, coming from Japan. I love Dumaguete. I been there twice. Great place. I can't wait to return.
Dude, the shine has worn off Duma. If you are friends with local Filipino's they resent the foreigners. They will still smile and be friendly to your face only. They have told me personally. One said his children can't afford to buy land now because of the foreigners paying high prices for land only to squeeze out the locals. Talk to a local Filipino dude.
I'm going to be in Dumaguete in a week and a half. I'm spending a month in the Philippines and chose Duma as my base of operations. I've lived in South Korea for 3 years in the past and loved it but don't like the cold so much. That's why I've been in Arizona for the past decade.
I'm only 42 but am scouting out the Philippines as a place to retire to. After this trip, I'm planning to come back next spring to stay for a year before I make a final decision.
It's nice to see someone acknowledging something that I think is obvious but few people talk about. The pandemic changed things, everywhere. Young people now in their early twenties had their lives come to a halt while they were still developing living skills. After 2 to 3 years of classrooms on Zoom, they're busting out. Lockdowns effected everybody. But they were part of college aged kids' development. It's not unusual to see change everywhere after a global plague.
Another gem to enjoy the musings of the old dog and the foxy chick
Any man of any age in good health with money, a home, assets and resources will always be able to attract a woman anywhere in the world. It’s just nature and nothing nobody can do about it. Men and women are different. Everybody with commonsense that lives in reality know it’s true. 👍🏻
Many of these issues will resolve themselves once the next recession hits.
You can try to talk me out of it but I’m still coming! 😂
Hey old dog! I’m finally here. Three weeks in and it’s totally amazing! Okay , so when it comes to meeting some women here and in Dumaguete or Valencia, I find that my new friends are the ones to introduce you to friends or relatives. I hope to meet you soon and share some great stories. Your faithful follower, Brian .
Would be a pleasure meeting you
Hopefully Tom Toms Monday morning depending on the rain, as I only have a motorcycle 🏍️
@outandaboutBGknows I have an appointment Monday morning, possibly Tuesday
When I lived one month in Dumaguete dating in Dumaguete felt like I was waiting for a bus that wasn't coming and I couldn't arrange a coffee date with you Paul. This was two summers ago.
It was too often nights in WHYNOT and I think Dumaguete is ok if you are permanently retired in Dumaguete. I only get to spend six months in the Philippines.
enjoyed this video today you 2 look very happy as a couple
Hey hey hey guys 👋🏻 !
confirm same increase in general affluence in Bacolod over the last 10 years - a lot of growth in larger lots, homes, apartments, vehicles.
I agree with you Paul, I enjoyed Dumaguete when I was there. Agreed nice place to live, not date. I perfer Thailand and you have covered that topic too. Wonder if you will feel the same about Dumaguete in 5 more years. Nothing stays the same and changes bound to happen in Duma. Smiles.
Mae is a wonderful lady. Yes, Mae paul is right.
Things change
Hi Paul, I absolutely agree with you about Dumaguete. I was there for the month of January this year, 2024. I have rarely felt so belittled and disrespected in my life. From the menacing, armed bank guards to my rude front-desk hotel clerk, the flippant baristas in coffee shops to the people walking on the Rizal board walk who refused to make eye contact and practically sneered at me the foreign guy. I felt like the only time people were half-way nice, or even just decent to me was when a potential tip or gratuity was involved.
After a month there and after I left I came to the same conclusion that you do; some, perhaps many of my American predecessors had been rude, obnoxious *ssholes lording it over the natives (not unlike Joseph Conrad's Lord Jim perhaps?)
I remember one afternoon I was in a coffee shop and this wreck of an older American white guy came in with his Filippina partner quietly at first. But the moment they took a table and sat down this guy started berating and excoriating his partner seemingly to make a public scene to humiliate her. The woman got up and left. I don't recall if she ever came back.
Perhaps multiply or extrapolate that out by thousands and it's easy to see why Americans are often despised.
Why do the worst sort of "slime-balls" (I want to say *ssholes but I'm trying to not be rude) gravitate to places like the Philippines? Maybe the same bad, obnoxious, entitled attitude that kept them single at home is what drives them to places like the Philippines seeking companionship?
By the way your wife is delightfully sweet and charming. You are fortunate to have found her. And you are a very articulate intelligent guy who, unlike a lot of vloggers, has meaningfully intelligent information for your viewers.
Best regards, Tom
Was in bogarts bar in February and can confirm the level of bad behavior from foreigners of a certain country i shall not name but far out numbered the rest from other countries, were terrible in their manner! Talk about a sense of (im not sure of which) inflated ego because of their money went further being in the Philippines or just a sense of entitlement but FFS was hard to listen to. I went back the next afternoon after for a well earned beer and the same crowed was there and there were a few of them!, never went back. If they were expats and not travelers and they were a large demographic of Dumaguete Expats then that place is definitely not for me unfortunately. Yes i could avoid them, but you end up running into the disrespectful loud mouths at every turn!
Most obnoxious people I met in Philippines recently were foreigners, I did meet nice filipinas everywhere, even in Dumaguete, but I was around hotel alot and they observed my quiet and respectful nature over time.
Baby Mae is very funny sometimes - her expressions. I think Cebu City metro area has a lot more interesting single ladies than Dumaguete. It's just a much bigger city and more cosmopolitan. I have been to both places, though not since 2019. Silliman University is a plus for the Dumaguete City area though. There are quite a few obnoxious foreigners in the Philippines, Thailand etc.
Hello from California 😊
After a year living here in "Valencia" I have to concur with all you just said. (concur(?)with you. Did I spelled it right?🤣✌️if I may add, Once the "Filipina" females get over the financial advantage and the foreigner's "personalities" "Krash" in a mayor way, then they realized it is not always "peachy".
Hi Baby Mae!!!
I would think the dynamics are changing for the whole of the Philippines. Just look at the number of well-known RUclipsrs who have gotten into legal or financial trouble in just the last few months. Makes no sense to me to jump ship from the states with the odds of life endangering problems becoming the norm rather than the oddity. Granted, I decided against it long ago, but I can't imagine I'm the only one still watching who sees this trend worsening.
Time is running out to jump ship. System traps and binds so the earlier an escape, the less tied in you will be. Wait too long and you won't be able to. Not about going somewhere, it's about getting out.
You're only trapped if you let yourself be. I've always got options.
I heartily agree with your assessment of Dumaguete, even being here just 2 weeks. In past years, even a decade or more ago, if I ventured away from Central Luzon, heading into the provinces in the Visayas or Mindanao... I truly felt like a novelty or a spectacle to most Filipinos. Now fast forward to my return in February 2024 & I can state this for the record: In the 3 months I have been in the Philippines, I have only heard ONE vocal comment from a youngster here shouting out, "Hey, Joe!". In 2007-2012, I should attest to your viewers that this phrase was one of the most annoying things I was forced to accept and tolerate from curious Filipinos. I would hear that phrase numerous times a day as I would venture out into the streets. For the previous 2 1/2 months of this year I was in Angeles City. By comparison to Dumaguete in Angeles felt more like I was just a part of the local landscape. Here in Dumaguete, where the locals are much more friendly and do smile back when you make eye contact, I feel a welcome sense of acceptance here. My girlfriend lives in Metro Manila, but as the end of the school year approaches, she has her heart set on joining me in Dumaguete with her son of 9, who I literally watched grow-up from infancy. Like a freshly minted coin soon becomes dull and faded, I honestly feel a comfort in realizing the luster of being a foreigner has faded for me here. Dumaguete seems to have much of what appeals to both my needs and sensibilities as I re-enter the Filipino culture after years of being away. Guys, if you are coming to Dumaguete to meet girls and you do not already have a relationship with a local girl in Negros Oriental, I would suggest you head to other places to find wide-eyed Filipinas who will be mesmerized by your shiny, new appearance! Dumaguete has more of a family/social atmosphere. Apparently the party HERE is a ferry ride away over on Siquijor Island. If you are hellbent on feeling like that shiny coin, then you might consider delving deep into the provinces of the Bicol Region, or Samar, Leyte and much of Mindanao. If you come to the Philippines, I wish you great success if your goal is to begin a new life here.
Hey thanks for the novel
Brilliant discussion of the “Hey Joe!” experience. As an xpat 24 years in Mindanao, (but 6 months in the USA each year), I agree with all you say. Oh, and married happily to “My Morena Girl” all that time.
I like your name. Wish I'd thought of it.@@GroundZeroFightClub
Hey Paul, the moral is when I vet to the philippines. I need you and Baby Mae to screen them for me. Hope I get the chance to meet you both when I come. Appreciate you both
My wife and recently visited Dumaguete, we were there only 4 days and we only visited Dumaguete proper and I didn't care for it. I attribute this to watching so many RUclips videos, its like I wasnt seeing anything new, maybe its that way with dating
1st!!! Thanks for sharing.
Paul is putting on his best Barney Fife. Gee Andy I don't know why? Except he sold the hell out of this place for the past 7yrs.
I like the guy and enjoy his videos! but I wouldn’t if I lived there. He just didn’t realize he was unintentionally ruining the culture of his Shangi-La by attracting unwanted attention to Dumaghete.
I remember people used to say that Dumaguete was great for dating, because it is a college town. Nowadays I guess the younger women aren't as into the large age gaps anymore.
Why not go for ladies your own age?
too much baggage and guys don't want a car with a lot of miles.
@@AaronOlafson like the guy in the video? He sure looks like he has a ton of miles on him.
No young women have ever been into large age gaps.
Let's get real guys, if you're a gray hair old dude finding barely legal young women in Third World countries, you're not "dating" anyone. You're a John. Just own it.
@@at3nielDamn… you’re a special kind of hateful.
This is a complicated topic and one that certainly doesn’t bode well for you, me, or the others in Duma and the surrounding area. You danced around it with several things that you said. Too many ex-pats have come, and of those too many have behaved poorly, but the last and most significant aspect is that there has become a flood of RUclips vloggers. Don’t take it personally, Paul! People like me are enabling you by leaving comments, so I am part of the problem too. Over exposure to a once sleepy area on a global platform and BOOM! It's caused every curious round-eye to come and find out what’s happening. In all it is not as bad as I am painting it. But it does mean that Duma has changed and unfortunately it can’t revert back. I just hope that it doesn’t become as bad as Angeles. IRT Siquijor, perhaps Sairgao will draw some of the beatniks away. So where is the best place to go? If I knew, I certainly wouldn’t put it on the Internet. Here ended my lesson. ☮️🇺🇸🇵🇭
I live in pattaya Thailand😊
And 100% the pandemic has changed it totally .
Social media has exploded and women have found new ways to make money like only fans ect.
Dog, looks like baby mae might have a couple pointers to make 😜🤣🤣🤣 let's hear her side👍
If you are going to try online dating, would recommend that you look in the Cebu area as its a major city with a high density of women. When I first was looking online to meet a girl was looking in Thailand because my brother was living there at the time. Was talking to this girl for awhile and realized she was not the one. There just wasn't a lot of Thai girls online but noticed there was a ton more girls from the Philippines online.
So I set my filters for around the Cebu area (just because Manila was a very old US Navy city and didn't want to catch anything going around there) and chatted with a lot of Filipinas and most of them were scammers to be honest but did meet my wife there and feel its the best thing that ever happened to me. That was almost 15 years ago so know things have changed there.
Great Video, Mae and Paul...Jim....cheers!
RUclips has ruined it I not foreigners.
Your wife is wonderful
Listening but added to.
Lucky guy
I see about a dozen foreigners a year here in my Philippine town so the public here still looks at me with that foreigner stair look .
Where is this town?
If you live there, you can meet people and let them know you are looking and they will find you.
I remember one of your guest on you channel a few years back, and he was saying " don't move here to Dumaguette unless you bring a girlfriend with you from somewhere else". Also, I was saying that you don't want to look for a girl in Duma because you might get the leftover from the foreigner boyfriend before or there are many women scammers working online in Duma area and in the many girly bars in Duma.
oh name all the girly bars your talking about
It’s great to be in the Philippines happy and settled in with a good wife…I’m sure you would agree!
My mother told me
You never know what's coming around the next corner. Just enjoy day to day. If something is ment to be it's going to happen
Christian Filipina is a American based company out of Hawaii and it is very expensive for men and free for women and it is infested with scammers from all over the world but they are not all scammers most are unfortunately do not waste time and money with any LDR on line just travel to the Philippines and check it out for your self if you can put up with the extreme heat and humidity and the pollution.
Ever hear of familiarity breeds contempt? EVERYTHING changes. New York was crappie, and then it got better. Now it's crappie again. That's life. Got to find new frontiers or adapt to what's left.
I wouldn't care to live in Dumaguete myself; but I would live in Valencia or down the highway near Bacong or Dauin. Those seemed more like my type of place. One can drive to Dumaguete to get whatever they need if need be.
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Me thinketh interesting guys., even better when you include Mae in the......conversation!@!?😉
Hey Paul & Mae. Love your videos. Very helpful.
I, my son, and my grandson are moving to the Philippines next year.Gathering info stage. My son will be there in July this year to check out your area. Could you tell me the place most of the expats hang out. He wanted get their opinions.
If you were there also that would be a bonus. I trust your opinions.
Look for a very large, bald, looking at 60 guy from Canada.
Filipina Pea's channel is based in Dumaguete ,, she has a huge following and interviews girls that want to meet Kano's ,,
Been to duma 3times and what I have seen is I don't know who did it to who but both expats and philipinas are completely insane
The corporate world is starting to see the benefits of in office employees once again. Once remote workers are called back in mass, retirees will be the big fish again.
Hi Paul, thanks for the information. What do you think would happen if another pandemic were to occur, would there be a repeat of authoritarian rules, regulations and so forth, or do you think the government learned from the last catastrophe?
I've been hearing the same thing from different people regarding Dumaguete.
Find a place that gives you energy first and then think about dating
I attended a graduation this past Monday in the city I’m at. There were probably 300 plus people in attendance and I was the only foreigner in attendance. I definitely got a lot of stares and people coming up to talk to me. Dumaguete has lost that curiosity towards foreigners. That can be a good thing or bad thing depending on why you’re here.