BPD and Catastrophizing - Irrational Thinking
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- Опубликовано: 24 июл 2024
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It is very common for people with BPD, or those along the BPD spectrum, to catastrophize their view of self, others, their future, and especially their personality disorder. In this video we are going to discuss this very thing and some techniques to help you.
Research shows that individuals with BPD choose less distraction and reappraisal strategies (adaptive methods of emotional and behavioral control), and are more likely to engage in rumination, catastrophizing, and self-blame in daily life. But it doesn’t have to be this way (see below for citations).
Tips for managing catastrophizing:
How do you manage it/control it? Tips for lessening/controlling catastrophizing:
1. Distract yourself from the perceived catastrophe - easier said than done but important. Do some deep breathing, exercise, video games, engage in something to occupy your mind so you’re not focused on the catastrophe.
2. If it is something you must do, recognize this and tell yourself and visualize yourself engaging appropriately in the situation and managing the situation effectively. You must see the success in your mind’s eye to make it real!
3. Recognize that catastrophizing is self-defeating, unlikely, and irrational. Bring some truth to it and resist letting it be a runaway train in your brain. Recognize what it is and do not blame yourself for engaging in it. Berating yourself never helps…
4. Use positive affirmations about you and the situation. You can handle it, you’ve handled other situations in the past and you can handle this. Tell yourself, “I can do this, and I’ll take it as it comes”. Avoid drugs and alcohol. Take a moment and ask yourself, do you catastrophize most when under the influence? A lot of folks do, but recognize this. Make a sober message on your phone telling you this. You can watch this when your inebriated or high to help bring some reality to your thinking. Sobriety is best, especially when managing PD Sx and learning techniques.
5. Bring reality into it. Recognize that the worst case scenario is rare and that there is a higher probability of a better outcome than the catastrophe. Ask yourself “what are some less-negative options?”
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:
The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: goo.gl/LQEgy1
Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): goo.gl/BLRkFy
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children: goo.gl/sZYhym
The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: goo.gl/ZAVe9v
Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).
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Citations:
Glenn, C. R., & Klonsky, E. D. (2009). Emotion dysregulation as a core feature of borderline personality disorder. Journal of personality disorders, 23(1), 20-28.
Mun, C. J., Karoly, P., Ruehlman, L., & Kim, H. (2016). Borderline personality features and pain severity: Exploring the mediational role of depression and catastrophizing. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 35(5), 386-400.
This man needs a hell of a lot more views. This is the most professional and knowledgeable psychologist I have ever seen. I am educated upon psychology myself and I am thankful to have found your thoughts and analysis that goes beyond what I have seen so far.
Right this guy is incredible. His videos have been more helpful than any therapy session in my entire life
@@SerialHustler wow that puts it into perspective!
Absolutely!
I am right there w you. This guy uses examples and simplicity, he talks to everyone- on all levels.. this is extremely helpful because he starts w the symptoms- then follows all the way through until suggested solutions- in 15 minutes, he manages to be encouraging and educational- exceeding most clinicians I have seen
What a blessing
When you're freaking out, ask yourself always whether you've eaten. Lower blood sugar can cause a lot of anxiety and irritability. Taking care of yourself and your body could help reduce possible influences.
great advice I have noticed in me that thirst manifests as depression and paranoia HALT!
Thanks
when i get hungry. i explode
Yes, there is a mind to gut connection big time. Symptoms can improve with probiotics also!
Zoe Guzman I so needed to see this comment. Thank you
I do this all the time too. I love how Dr Fox is so optimistic about us recovering.
Hes truly a clinician to be deeply appreciated.
💯
He is awesome 👏🏾
Yesssss he says it with so much loveee thankful for hom
His workbooks are so empathic and understanding.
Being able to listen to someone talk about BPD issues makes me able to relate and recognize what's actually happening to me.
In therapy I feel like I'm just talking, I never know if I'm talking about the right things and dont feel I get a response as to what it is and what's happening to me.
Does anyone else feel this way?
These videos help me so much. Thank you
Battydragon yes. I’ve had several therapists recently and have felt I was never getting the realization/‘click’/epiphany I need to change. Lots of talking, venting, explaining. About to start a new therapist now too!
And I DO catch myself doing this. I was just doing this tonight on the way home, with such a really negative and limited mental bandwidth “I’m never gonna move to a new city” or “Nobody is going to want to love me or want me”.
There’s a lot of ‘impossibles’ when I’m really stuck in this groove and it just makes me more angrier at myself and the world.
Yes! I'm just finding out about bpd and I can relate to this in my therapy appointments.
Same
YES! God Blessed All Of Us!💞🌷💪🙏
Slow responses to texts or messages kill me inside. This video is a mirror 😩
K Norway you wouldn’t like me then, I hate speaking on the phone or texting. My friends know this though and don’t expect it much from me.
@@tracik1277 nah i need to work on my rejection sensitivity 😒
K Norway 🌹
Yeah
Ditto... Drives me to actual suicide ideation
The no immediate response to someone with BPD will cause one to go immediately into worst case scenario. This has destroyed a few of my relationships. You also feel like they are doing it just for the purpose of hurting you.
Childhood trauma will do that to you and having a mom with BPD and a drinking narcissistic father. I was always in fight/flight/freeze as a child. And depression as far back as kindergarten 😪
The story of my life.... literally.
Yup
Absolutely, can relate 100%.
@@ritaknak1741 I think there are a lot of us who had similar experiences. I read the comments of others and feel the same way, “that happened to me.” I hope you’re on a path to good mental health and happiness. It’s been a journey for me. Sending you good wishes.
Oh wow those are like my parents too! Well my mom is mainly a codependent but does have bpd traits. But my dad is the alcoholic narcissist!! My condolences friend 🙏
When I was younger I would literally vomit before going to a party or getting severely anxious before going to a concert or event. Even when I was with friends, it was hard to regulate my emotions, even though I really did want to have fun and have experiences! So...now I’m older and all my life I have pushed myself, which has paid off. Now if I could just over come ruminating thoughts, texting anxiety, will anyone ever love me issues...I’d be great! Lol!! You just have to re direct mind constantly, and hope you learn some new patterns! My best wishes to all, who also suffer from BPD!
Thanks, Dr. Fox. I’ve watched nearly all of your videos on BPD. I was diagnosed many years ago but don’t have the insurance or financial means for help with it. This video is a very different topic than you have previously discussed (that I know of at least) and it’s a major piece of the puzzle that I was struggling to find answers for. I catastophize nearly all day everyday. I thought it was just anxiety but I believe now that this may not always be caused by my anxiety but in fact it likely is what’s causing a lot of my anxiety. I will definitely try to use the advice you have given to at least slow down the rate that I catastrophize.
Your videos are the therapy and guidance that I need now that I can’t afford to get the actual therapies and help that I need. You’re making a huge impact, Dr. Fox and I greatly appreciate the time you take to make these videos. You help me find hope, when not long ago, I didn’t think I would ever find hope. Thank you.
Even if you could afford help its so difficult to find anyone who works with ppl with bpd. I havnt been able to find anyone. I have no money either. I see therapists & they dont get it. I already feel like an alien. Its like Im speaking a language noone understands .If only there were more like Dr Fox around
You can but the DBT books and look up Marsha Linehan
I can convince myself of a great deal more since covid and news about anything can spin me out for...ever. Got a crochet hobby and found your channel and am not catastrophizing about anything today. Its real, I see it. Do you think covid has been actively involved in difficulty for BPD?
Destiny, I hope you feel better now a couple years since you wrote your comment. A lot of notable people have bpd and by the way may have been misdignosed with bipolar. The person that comes to mind is Dusty Springfield. (Lots of youtube videos and couple of documentaries.) She pulled herself out of years of cocaine and alcohol and made a world class "comeback" with the Pet Shop Boys in the 80's Her life story ended up on Broadway before the pandemic .She is in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. Also received the Order of the British Empire (OBE) from the queen in her native England. Several biographies have been written. A real musical genius. Best wishes.
Blessings!💞💪🙏
I do this all the time and I never even realized it was a specific symptom. If my boyfriend leaves and doesn't answer me for a while, I get ridiculously worried and tend to assume he must've died. I used to cry every single day before work and freak out thinking "I can't handle this today and I'm going to do something stupid or wrong and I'm gonna lose my job, maybe I just shouldn't go". I don't usually feel like I can do anything on my own without feeling like I'm going to mess it up or be perceived as stupid or unstable. The fight, flight, or freeze thing is so real for me. I try very hard to calm myself when I feel this way, but often times I'll either lash out at who I'm closest to at the time(started with my parents as a teenager and now it's usually my boyfriend or my best friend) that used to be how I'd handle it most of the time but trying to recognize and deal with that one has been really hard for me. Now when I feel it coming I'll often just shut down or dissociate bc dealing with it seems so hard at the time and at least I'm not lashing out at a person I love.
I've found recognizing my symptoms and watching these videos specifically have helped me so much, but it's still really hard, even if I could get the therapy I'm sure it would still be so hard. I have loving and supportive people in my life and not pushing them away or trying as hard as I can to not treat them poorly has actually been the most uplifting part of this journey to recovery. ACCEPTING love from people instead of assuming they have some ulterior motive or it's eventually going to turn to shit anyway. I haven't made the feelings completely subside but I can recognize that it's my disorder talking and if I want to get better I need to let people love me. It feels like a big step even though I know there's so much more to learn.
Thank you Dr. Fox for being one of the only mental health professionals on RUclips who actually delves into the disorder and explains it in understandable terms. You've helped me so much and continue to with every new video, thank you!!
Amazing thankyou for sharing i too will LET people love me 💖🌻🙏🌺💓
Good luck to you, I feel you and hope and pray you can break thru
As a FP of a BPD, I can relate that the smallest slights from others that may have nothing to do with her, she will interpret as a total catastrophe aimed at destroying her specifically
Yes ! My boyfriend is like that
I catastrophised yesterday when my long distance boyfriend stopped watching s show we put on together from afar to have a shower and didn't tell me. I thought 'he can't love me or care about me. I care too much, I have to pull back or punish him.' Now I see it more clearly and think so what? He didn't communicate effectively and so I misunderstood him - that's the shade of grey.
Ohhh yes i recognise that pattern....oh yes i too pull back feel the urge to punish them, n secretly feel that's the only way I can withhold thier love, that's the only way I can keep it coming
Good for you for noticing it and stopping it!!! I wish I was there too! But soon!!!! Anything that helped you? Or just taking a broader look and finding the gray?
I would immediately feel like I did something wrong of he didn't want to talk to me or I was boring him. I do this anytime someone I like even as a friend doesn't text me right away
If you love your boyfriend, why do you feel the need to punish (hurt) him? Genuinely want to understand.
@silvershadow7655 I am not sure if my answer is correct, but I have a loved one that does this to me at times. I think it may have to do with the "splitting" seeing me as all good or all bad. The fear of abandonment emotion is so painful he lashes out. I am trying to set boundries because I am tired of being disrespected during his punishment rage splitting. He had a horrible childhood and I understand his pain and want to be supportive but not reinforce this behavior. I am learning so much through this wonderful doctor. I love his encouraging people with BPD.
What has helped me most for catastrophizing is visualizing ALL possible outcomes. Being rational and immediately arguing with myself by challenging that catastrophy. Yeah, the worst could happen, but the best is just as possible, so why should I worry. What will be will be. It's becoming more and more automatic with time too! I'll add the positive reminders about myself after doing the rationalizing. Thank you for this video, it's helped me after a rough day.
Wow…. thank you so much for this… simply replacing the outcome with a positive one hasn’t helped me much, but your idea is already changing the game for me 😍
What if I distract too much? I find myself constantly listening to something or watching a video on RUclips to distract myself from thinking in general. I catastrophize so much it caused me to drop out of school and it affects me every day at work
This is me, too. Distracting myself and disassociating have become my only certified coping mechanisms, and as a result I have become completely disengaged in my life. I was "fine" with that until it started interfering with my ability to work or even want to work. Have you found anything to pull you back yet?
A new day helps me. And dr fox. And folks care u don't know helps me think better about my bpd.
Im exactly the same, take care everyone🙏🏼
Me too, I haven’t been able to get to sleep without the tv on in years... cannot shut out my thoughts in silence
ugh
same here
i get everything done, but ALWAYS w headphones on.
i have my headphones on ALL day. the silver lining is that i've listened to some very good content on podcasts, interesting books and good music.
I needed this today, I procrastinated for 5 hours today as I attempted to write my first lab report at university. I managed to produce 1 sentence in that time due to catastrophising and berating myself like a self grown terrorist in my own mind to the point that I ended up disabling myself from producing more than that 1 sentence. I left feeling despondent and useless, but I’m going to stick at it even if it kills me. I’m attempting to study psychology, I believe in it and most of all I need it. Tomorrow I’m going to try again and this time I will attempt to use the skills and suggestions you’ve outlined in this video. Thanks for sharing this advice ⭐️
Thank you! Can you do a video on bpd and the feeling of emptiness/boredom and also one on fear of intimacy? Thanks:)
Haley Bean yes!!
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Great video, Dr. Daniel! Please make a video about how bpd loved ones should coping when they isolate themselves and starting to ignoring you for no reason.
Yes, like I'm stable and he isn't and I think he's breaking up with me right this second, holy fuck, 4 years, my baby daddy, idk what to do and noone is awake
Please do a video on this my boyfriend is doing just this and I’m trying to be supportive and understanding. So he doesn’t feel shamed.
You’re a great person for putting in the work. I know it’s not easy as someone w/BPD who has bad troubled relationships. 🧡 to you.
This hit home. All your videos do. I’ve struggled with my borderline for years and feel so thankful I found you.
I was diagnosed with BPD . Hearing and reading about BPD felt like a punch to the gut. I had so much emotions about this personality disorder.
Same. I felt like they gave me a death sentence, like I was a maladaptive human. It hurt me so much 💔
I do this a lot with potential relationships. I automatically think and feel that the guy wants nothing to do with me or that I'm not worry enough and he's either being nice and not saying it or he's a narc and is using me. Its really A struggle especially when things are going good and he gets quiet on me or he gets busy with his own life stuff and I start thinking I did something wrong, I screwed up, and I start going back over everything i said when we last spoke and I analyze and dissect trying to figure out where I messed up. And when I can't find anything obvious, I tart scenarios and dialogue in my head about what or why this happened. I've learned to start questioning those but I still struggle because they seem to be stronger then my rational positive talk. (My angel and demon arguments lol) Even when I have someone who knows me and know the way I am who is there to talk me down when I start, I still struggle getting out of my head about it. Definitely find myself splitting at some point along the way. Thank you for giving me some ideas to try and slow it down and hopefully eventually stop it in its tracks. ❤
I just want to share how much I get from your videos. You sound non-judgmental and really seem to get what we are going through. They really help me and I have referred your videos out many times. Thank you so much!!!
Sir, you’re the closest thing to therapy I’m able to have at this moment, through a very difficult time. Thank you so so so so much.
Same here. I guess for most of us, "therapy" is a lonely process, and we have to be both our therapist and our patient😅
I have lost trust in psychiatrists and other mental health's specialists anyway.
So this format is ideal, and Dr Fox is very gentle with bpd people.
I run away from everyone and everything....which causes me to create the catastrophe for myself. I manufacture and orchestrate the abandonment I dread so much. Painful life.
+Marissa Forte learn strategies to break the cycle. It’s possible.
I have ptsd and I have problems with thinking this way too. Fight or flight reactions. Thank you for bringing light to this matter.
I love this channel so much! Everytime I click on a video I learn so much, I feel like I'm in class learning how my own brain works and how to deal with it haha
That is very kind of you to say. I'm so glad they're helpful :)
I have been catastrophising my entire life.
Was diagnosed 10 years ago but didn't accept or research to realise this is actually me!!!
The BPD 'label' wasn't something I was willing to own but recently, it has freed me.
Thankyou so much! 🙂🙏
Have ordered your workbook, I reside in South Australia so may take a while to arrive but excited all the same.
My son needs for me to make changes.
I want to learn to love who I am also.
I'm a good Mum and person but catastrophe me doesn't agree 😂
I endeavour to watch an episode of your channel each night when I'm starting to internally unravel.
You've honestly changed my life and I thankyou grately 🙂
This is the issue I have the most difficulty in. Thank you for the insightful video and tools, Dr. Fox! I always appreciate all the vids you upload immensely, especially the BPD ones. My negativity is a way of survival and you're right, it's a hard way to live. It's so heartbreaking to think anyone has to live like this, so I don't know how I can let myself live like this at all. Trying to be better one step at a time.
Soft hugs to everyone here in turmoil. I hope we all make it through.
Awww soft hugs for u tooo 💯💖🙏🌻💓🌺
I don’t have bpd but I do have PTSD and I definitely resort to catastrophizing when I know I have to face the source of original trauma (medical negligence). If I assume the worst (when I have to interact with healthcare system) then anything other outcome is a positive situation. After being hurt repeatedly I keep my expectations super low.
Absolutely spot on as usual Dr Fox. I have to say your knowledge of our crippling condition is second to none, your videos are doing SO much good, particularly as most of us either cannot afford or access good treatment, you really are making a huge difference. Thankyou 🙏🙏🙏
So true thankyou doc thankyou so much 💓🌺🙏🌻💖💯
Well said!
Thank you so much for all of your videos... you really understand people with BPD, all you are saying is truth... It's like you're in my head...This is very helpful.
I've always said that I prefer to set myself up for the worst, because if it happens, I'll be prepared, and if it turns out that it's not so bad, it will positively surprise me ... And I convince myself that this way I avoid disappointments. Only it doesn't work like that ... I torment myself with bad thoughts and fears and I don't know how to change it because I can't think about anything else if I'm worried about something. I try to do different things to distract myself, to not to think about the worst, but when I'm stressed, my thoughts overwhelm me.
For me as a man with bpd, financial stress, heated arguments with my wife are both very strong triggers of catastrophizing
Dr Daniel, you are a godsend. I was diagnosed with CPTSD , ADHD and BPD at age of 40. I was always different, so angry, frustrated from minute I woke up until I laid down being unable to sleep. I'd run and still do, worst case scenario in my head whether it's past, present, or future. Your videos are very helpful yet easy to understand. Keep on educating us, you have a gift. Thank you so much for doing these videos. I'm just starting to understand and getting to know myself after all these years. Trauma after trauma, we become different, our brain rewires and it's unfortunate. Unlearning old behavior is germane to our future. I'm a masterpiece in progress. Blessings Doctor Daniel.
"Trauma after trauma, we become different, our brain rewires and it's unfortunate. Unlearning old behavior is germane to our future. I'm a masterpiece in progress."
This is brilliantly beautiful and accurate, writing this down. Thank you
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Fascinating and informative. Thanks for providing strategies to manage and ease tendency to catastrophize (is that a word?).
My tendency is to play out worst case scenario in my mind. Whether it is facing job loss, severe financial difficulties (current situation), bad relationships, inability to reach out to others, seeking help.
My mind will ruminate around different versions of worst case scenario, for example financial ruin or bankruptcy. And conclude either that no one else cares, or that I’m powerless to change the course of events.
This feeling of helplessness, inability to find a way forward, is rooted in self doubt, feelings of inadequacy, low self esteem, and lack of self determination.
Beautifullly put....thank you for sharing your wisdom
I do this also. How are you now?
thank you Dr.Fox you are an angel.
I really struggle with this. It’s like 90% of my thoughts. Thanks for this helpful video!! I knew I was doing this but couldn’t put my finger on what it was exactly
Me too
I think this is one of your BEST videos . You hit the nail on the head -beating life to the punch to make it worse than it is ...
You are a wonderful clinician, educator, and human being and are making a tremendous difference in the world. Your compassionate, hopeful attitude towards people with BPD is genuinely lifesaving.
It really is impressive how very well you understand the nuances of the way these individuals think, believe, behave and perceive the world around them; that's not meant to be flattery either. I suspect it has taken you years of research and many therapeutic relationships with people who suffer from BPD to gather the body of knowledge and understanding you have.
It really is so very generous of you to share this so freely on RUclips, as this is one population that really needs a clinician who genuinely understands how they think, feel and believe. Thank you for being that kind of clinician; there seem to be so few of you in existence.
Thank you for understanding, explaining and believing in us Dr. Fox. I have never felt so understood and hopeful. I carry a lot of shame from my way of thinking, secretly knowing how deeply needy and empty I am has been embarrassing. I was diagnosed at 15 but never fully understood or addressed it. I'm 28 now and your videos have helped me accept and open up to my S/O about my diagnosis after two years of being together. I had him watch your videos too and we are both blown away by how much sense this makes. Thank you for helping me face this head on and wrap my mind around it. Every video just resonates with something deep within me. I feel like I can fight this way of thinking.
I’ve been doing this for years without realising it was a symptom of a personality disorder. I was diagnosed with BPD a week ago and it’s been a whirlwind of a week watching all the videos on RUclips covering the condition. I always think the worst and have done so for as long as I can remember. Someone leaves; yeah I’ll never see them again now. Someone’s late; what’s happened to them? I’ve even gone as far as checking the traffic reports to make sure they haven’t been in an accident. Someone at work says something about me at work; I automatically think everyone is in on it. I just thought I was being dramatic...
This is me. I’ve been thinking like that my whole life: someone is late - they must have died in a car crash. I never realized this is a symptom of bpd.
In my relationship with my BPD ex, catastrophizing the ordinary was the the norm
I like the topic word placed above you. Pls continue w it.
Could you speak on blaming others and anger as a distraction from dealing w difficult uncomfortable situations?
I truly enjoy your videos. It’s the unlearning that makes everything so difficult.
You're so awesome, Dr. Fox. You're so informative on BPD, and so much of your stuff is so spot on and actually helps. I've been in the process of trying to unlearn certain thought and behavior patterns and am trying to be more mindful with how I think, feel, and react.
It definitely takes time, especially the more severe things are, like you said, but you have to start somewhere. Everything is progress, even if it is gradual.
Just thanks for everything you do to try to help those of us with BPD and realizing many with it went through some serious things in their lives. It honestly helps to try to remember that to not completely beat myself up, which I do a lot for so many things and my episodes, etc.
It definitely makes it hard when people around don't understand and demonize and shame things, too. I know accountability matters, too, but I think at certain points it can sort of push someone backwards and hinder them (especially if it isn't done in an appropriate manner). I think people usually need to be at a certain stage to take on certain things like that, especially in different areas.
I think you can really help lead different people in that direction, though, and towards the right path. Keep doing what you do. ❤
I relate to so many of the videos that you make, but I think I related to this one the most! A lot of my friends and family have pointed out to be in the past that I have this bad habit of just sitting and mulling over the bad things that have happened instead of trying to move forward and find some way of coping. I'm always being urged to find something to do or else I'll just sit and kind of steep in those emotions. The texting example you gave really hit close to home. Another really big one for me can be just ordinary, every day events. Sometimes, I just wake up and feel like, if I go to work, I'm going to have the worst day ever. Something awful will happen and it's really hard just to get going with my day! Thank you so much for making the videos you do and showing us that our struggles aren't unique only to us!
This is excellent ! Gives me hope ! Thank you Dr Fox
I come back to this video all the time. I can’t explain how grateful I am for these videos. Thank you, Dr. Fox, for your work.
Love this background, Dr. Fox! And another very helpful, reassuring and practical advice video. Things are going really well for me and your work on RUclips introduced me to a lot of these improvements. I use the phrase “slow your roll” all the time to help myself. I am combining your workbook with weekly therapy (for now.) Thank you for continued support on RUclips!
Thank you SO much for this information, it is incredibly helpful for someone loving another with BPD.
You 100% deserve more recognition for this information that you've presented so well for the public, for free. Again, thank you!
These videos are one of the kindest and most generous offerings I’ve ever received. Thanks so much, Dr Fox.
Wow I feel understood by your videos. It's like somebody finally gets me without judging and its comforting.
Dr Fox, I seriously cannot thank you enough. I have watched many of your videos and they have all been very helpful, supportive and motivating. You have brought me hope where none existed.
+Apollo Ace 🦊👍
Such a helpful video! You help us so much. Thank you for caring about us and not judging us harshly.
I've watched many of your videos I've been diagnosed with BPD and I have to say nine times out of ten you hit the nail on the head
I experienced some catastrophizing today, such as feeling that I will never be able to feel as happy as I was when I was a child. It’s difficult to rationalize when those really dark feelings appear, but I will try your strategies. Your videos actually make for great distractions so thanks for that!
Thank you. As a person with BPD, I catastrophise a lot. I can see now just how much I do it & how it causes my maladaptive behaviours such as smoking and self-harming to increase as a way of 'calming' myself. I'm not there yet, but I hope to be one of the 80% who go into remission. I'm determined to beat BPD & live the life I deserve.
I’m having a bad breakdown this week and it’s the second time I watch this video, you articulate all my feelings and this is really helpful 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thanks for your work and service to others Dr Fox. You're terrific!
Dr Fox you have been my go to person for year’s and the reason I’ve got a diagnosis of BPD traits after years of just being diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety and depression. I literally plan for the worst and then anything is a bonus but right now it’s leaving me suicidal. And nobody understands how I feel. Then I watch your video and the release I feel is painful but I have a little hope again. Thank you.......you are my life saver. X
Thank you so much Dr. Daniel for posting all these videos. I am struggling a lot with BPD and have been my entire life. Rite now i do not have the money to do therapy, and i also have not found a psychologist that truly understands BPD and the strategies that are needed for recovery. These videos are making a huge difference in my life and helping me so much. Finally someone who really understand!!!!! Thank you for all that you do and the time you take to change others lives. AMAZING!
It has been very nice seeing an example of building mastery by watching your growth in confidence & making videos. This one was on point for my life right now thank you. ♡
I'm happy and grateful to be here.
I love your videos. And I love the moon on the fence!!! Thank you for helping so many people💕💕💕
I really needed that. It's hard for me to realize that's what I am doing at the time because it is so automatic. Great reminder. Thank you!
Dr. Fox, thank you for all these videos. I love learning this knowledge you are sharing.
thank you for another helpful video! i always get use from your tips and your videos have really helped me to slow down my reactions. :) thank you for providing a validating & supportive space
Your videos give me so much hope that BPD can be managed. You give helpful, insightful, and digestible information. The scenarios you present are really remarkable in the way they clarify a very complex subject. I appreciate the positive and compassionate position you take. It's very refreshing and uplifting. Thank you for that:)
Thank you as always for sharing such useful information. I realized that catastrophizing is my default setting. I am always doing it day to day, and it is so exhausting. It has made me so over cautious and I take things so seriously that it takes life out of my life! Now that I know it I will change that. Love you Dr Fox. God bless you 🤗
Thank you for this video. I have been doing this my whole life and it really messed things up for me so far and held me back from amazing opportunities. This video is so helpful.
you’re the most calming man I’ve ever heard
I do not know what I would have done if I didn't stumble across your channel, Dr. Fox. Thank you for all of the information and positivity!
He’s my favorite. Anyone that specializes in and singles out PDs has my utmost respect.
Hello, thankyou for this and all of your videos. Buying your book when I get paid i can’t wait to start reading. You make my thought process feel real and normal and able to change.
Yep. I have always, ALWAYS expected the worst and hoped for the best so I wasn't let down. I never realized how that impacted my life negatively. My bf tells me I'm so negative I would answer back that I'm just being realistic. But I never realized that this was something that people with bpd did. Thank you for making this video and making me aware of this.
Dr. Fox thanks so much for your time and effort for your videos!!! You have no idea how much you have helped me...you should have so many more subscribers. 🙏🙏💕🥰
Your videos have helped me understand my condition better than the 13 consecutive years of therapist/therapy. Thank you so much!
I am so grateful because I found your channel and now I can benefit of your experience with this giant problem I am facing. I had a terrible period of more than 6 months after losing my favorite person. Now I am trying to stand up and you are being so helpful.
I’m glad it’s helping and stand tall!
This helped me and calmed me, thanks! I love the sun and trees in the background, and the birds in the soundtrack, that works very well with the calming effect of the video.
He brings us hope and understanding . Bless you Dr. Fox.
thank you so much for your videos, you are saving so many people from eternal distress
Thank you for being positive when talking about BPD makes me feel not so hopeless. I'm so grateful that I found your page.
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
I’m so thankful I’ve found your videos. You are very understanding and don’t condemn those with this disorder. You have helped me understand myself more than I ever have through therapy or just being medicated by some psychs. Thank you so much for all of your videos
I’m so glad you find the videos helpful. Be well
Dr. Fox! You are my favorite therapist for BPD on RUclips! It's like you know me in person! Thank you so much again for such a helpful video!
I needed this video badly. Thank you Dr. Fox for enlightening me on how to deal with my everday catastrophizing which leads me to substance abuse at times. I hope to use these tools.
I’m trying so hard not to cry. This is so true
You are keeping me alive Dr Fox👏
YES!
I used catastrophizing today to manipulate my daughter...who was trying to control/ torture me, to give me what I want SOONER.
Not later.
I was not excessive.
It is definitely a SKILL.
Projecting my worries out there to my daughter IF I don't get what she has.
I love your videos thank you for being a light we all need as people with BPD watching
Hey just want to let you know I think your a great Dr. And a great teacher of what you do it helps me alot I know so thank you for that
What an encouraging Video! Thank you so much.
Legit, just catching it the moment it starts derails the feelings for me. Harder said than done, but when I see my mind wandering into catastrophe (ie: predicting bad outcomes with scant evidence) I tell myself "Ok wait youre catastrophizing" and it derails my emotions quite a significant amount. Awareness is key :)
Yep! That's me...these episodes don't last too long anymore now...thank you Dr Fox
Thank you so much for making this video!
You are the therapist everyone with a personality disorder needs. Thank you for your help!
Thanks for saying that. Be well.
Dr Fox I don’t know how Else i can thank you… you truly opened my eyes. Knowledge really is power.
It’s comforting having this dude here
Thank you for this. Keep em coming.
I'm always in a constant state of suspense, you know when you're watching a horror movie and music starts. Yeah a thousand different scenarios play in my head so I rather just stay at home. This sucks . Thank you for what you do
Thank you, Dr Fox! All the examples you mentioned: never going to find a solid and meaningful relationship, going to be without job and homeless, mom & dad were right, in ambiguity we conjure thoughts that other people are negatively talking about us behind their back, if the worst does not happen then pleasantly surprised thus persistent anxiety that exhausts and require alleviation... incredibly accurate to the exact letter on thoughts I'm undergoing currently. This video means so much to navigate those difficulties. Wish I knew these when I was younger, so that its easier to change, but really glad that there is such a treasure trove of information such as your video
Thank you for your videos
Dr. Fox
they are helpful in many ways :)
+Bam Bam 🦊👍