I’m starting my internship in a few months and I’m terrified of grief counseling. I freeze up when ppl cry or talk about a deceased loved one. This helped me a lot!
I’m at 21 months. My stages have been all over the place. I’ve always felt my purpose has been done. And ppl avoid me. My husband said no 1 else could have tolerated me during this time. Made me feel worse. In these days it was passing in a half a day or sometimes 3 days.,then a good day or 2. Then a trigger and the drowning suffocating process starts all over again. Hold on it will pass and it does. But the walls are closing in. I’m hoping in the summer I can get better. No1 reads these comments but it still feels good that I kinda said it. I don’t say it to a person
I read your comment and I want you to know that you should not feel bad about being moody or even angry it’s part of the process. You will get better in time.
Many thanks. This was very helpful without the complexity. For those in grief, often much isn't needed, just space to work through the emotions and someone willing to afford them that courageous place
My stages have been inconsistent. My mission has always felt complete to me. People shun me. Nobody else could have tolerated me during this period, according to my husband. It made me feel even worse. It was passing in a half-day or three days back then, then a good day or two. The drowning suffocating process is then restarted by a trigger. Hold on, it'll pass, and it will. However, the walls are closing in. I'm trying to improve during the summer. Nobody reads these comments, but it feels wonderful to have said something. I wouldn't say that to someone I had to see my therapist about.
Can you give me an example of how a person can emote. What do you mean by a person emoting? Do you mean they are putting a little bit of an act in order to receive more attention or a dramatic act? I'm learning psychology on my own through RUclips that's why I ask. Since COVID I've had many people suffering from depression and the crimes here in NYC has many people stressed out so I decided to educate myself in counseling to better communicate support and care. Today I have a young man who lost a love one.
I had to compartmentalize what was happening because I couldn't handle all the things that happened to him & remain sane. I couldn't handle that he was trapped in a fire AND his body was literally hacked to pieces while Tower 1 was collapsing on them. He was burned and hacked apart & I've never been able to handle the why? Why did the happen to anyone, much less a perweqln who was good and honest and decent & fa, whos3 worswrt crime was that he strayed across the path of 19 maniacs?
I defy anyone on god's earth to talk or try to talk to me about getting over the death of my daughter and son a few yrs ago yr half apart no one can help me words are cheap that's me my life has gone over gone with the wind my cross to bear only relive for me when I take my last breath x
Brenda, I don't know you personally, but I can feel the emotions in your comment. The anger and sadness that comes from losing someone that is very close to you. No one can tell you to "get over it" or "move on" regardless of how much time has passed. The truth is that grief is not something we move on from. Rather we move with. Its about adapting to life with the loss, and finding ways to connect with your loved ones, in a spiritual way. This takes time, and effort, and is never easy. I am sorry for your loss, and I hope that you can find the comfort and support that can help you. I apologize if I overstepped. Have a blessed day.
@@YurH3roX7 u haven't overstepped I have up most respect for ur comments pity there wasn't more people like u in the world love and respect from England a small town called Coventry can I ask where are u are x
@@brendadrumm9708 I am glad that I did not overstep. Thank you for your words. And thank you for sharing a little of your story, and more importantly of the emotions that you are experiencing. I know I don't know you, but nonetheless I want to tell you that your feelings are valid. I have not experienced what you have gone through, but I can imagine the pain the pain that it must be causing you, and through your first comment I was able to sense the hurt and frustration that you are experiencing. If I can help, even just by listening know that there is someone. I have never been to England. And I hope that you and your loved ones are safe over there! I am from New York.
@@brendadrumm9708 Brenda, we never truly stop grieving. When we've loved someone deeply--almost to the point where they were a part of us--we will always miss them. This will never cease. But I hope and pray that you are able to live a life that can honor the life your son and daughter would've wanted to live if they were still here on earth. Every day, live your life in their honor.
What happens if your grief became complicated because you were essentially "watching" him be murdered? What do you do with the raging anger, esp in light of the fact that one of the people who's GUILTY of helping murder him was FREED from Guantanamo based on a f'n political stunt? "#MohammedouSalahiisGuiltyandFree #MohammedouSalahi will be guilty forever #September11FamilyandFriends
I’m so sorry. I don’t know many people who could share the complexity of emotions you must have. I’ll be praying you find the help you deserve. I am hearing the song, “God Only Knows” in my mind.
I’m starting my internship in a few months and I’m terrified of grief counseling. I freeze up when ppl cry or talk about a deceased loved one. This helped me a lot!
Thank you Mark its so refreshing to see and hear practical demo
I’m at 21 months. My stages have been all over the place. I’ve always felt my purpose has been done. And ppl avoid me. My husband said no 1 else could have tolerated me during this time. Made me feel worse. In these days it was passing in a half a day or sometimes 3 days.,then a good day or 2. Then a trigger and the drowning suffocating process starts all over again. Hold on it will pass and it does. But the walls are closing in. I’m hoping in the summer I can get better. No1 reads these comments but it still feels good that I kinda said it. I don’t say it to a person
it would probably feel like a stab in the heart to hear that from someone who is supposed to care about you, sounds painful
I read your comment and I want you to know that you should not feel bad about being moody or even angry it’s part of the process. You will get better in time.
@@ceegeebrowne3469 thank you friend ❤️
Awesome. I confess I used this protocol on myself, and it helped a lot. Thanks for that
Many thanks. This was very helpful without the complexity. For those in grief, often much isn't needed, just space to work through the emotions and someone willing to afford them that courageous place
My stages have been inconsistent. My mission has always felt complete to me. People shun me. Nobody else could have tolerated me during this period, according to my husband. It made me feel even worse. It was passing in a half-day or three days back then, then a good day or two. The drowning suffocating process is then restarted by a trigger. Hold on, it'll pass, and it will. However, the walls are closing in. I'm trying to improve during the summer. Nobody reads these comments, but it feels wonderful to have said something. I wouldn't say that to someone I had to see my therapist about.
I read this comment! Love it
Lost my husband Feb 2021. This was very helpful to me in many ways. Thanks.
I have listened to this many times now I understand my husband said to me you must let me go you have to.
Can you give me an example of how a person can emote. What do you mean by a person emoting? Do you mean they are putting a little bit of an act in order to receive more attention or a dramatic act? I'm learning psychology on my own through RUclips that's why I ask. Since COVID I've had many people suffering from depression and the crimes here in NYC has many people stressed out so I decided to educate myself in counseling to better communicate support and care. Today I have a young man who lost a love one.
Extremely helpful. thank you
Thanks for sharing 🌻
You can grieve someone who's still alive, such as a parent. And it's even worse than if they're dead
By all means be honest and speak up, help others to express themselves
I had to compartmentalize what was happening because I couldn't handle all the things that happened to him & remain sane. I couldn't handle that he was trapped in a fire AND his body was literally hacked to pieces while Tower 1 was collapsing on them. He was burned and hacked apart & I've never been able to handle the why? Why did the happen to anyone, much less a perweqln who was good and honest and decent & fa, whos3 worswrt crime was that he strayed across the path of 19 maniacs?
Hello
I defy anyone on god's earth to talk or try to talk to me about getting over the death of my daughter and son a few yrs ago yr half apart no one can help me words are cheap that's me my life has gone over gone with the wind my cross to bear only relive for me when I take my last breath x
Brenda, I don't know you personally, but I can feel the emotions in your comment. The anger and sadness that comes from losing someone that is very close to you. No one can tell you to "get over it" or "move on" regardless of how much time has passed. The truth is that grief is not something we move on from. Rather we move with. Its about adapting to life with the loss, and finding ways to connect with your loved ones, in a spiritual way. This takes time, and effort, and is never easy. I am sorry for your loss, and I hope that you can find the comfort and support that can help you. I apologize if I overstepped. Have a blessed day.
@@YurH3roX7 u haven't overstepped I have up most respect for ur comments pity there wasn't more people like u in the world love and respect from England a small town called Coventry can I ask where are u are x
@@brendadrumm9708 I am glad that I did not overstep. Thank you for your words. And thank you for sharing a little of your story, and more importantly of the emotions that you are experiencing. I know I don't know you, but nonetheless I want to tell you that your feelings are valid. I have not experienced what you have gone through, but I can imagine the pain the pain that it must be causing you, and through your first comment I was able to sense the hurt and frustration that you are experiencing. If I can help, even just by listening know that there is someone. I have never been to England. And I hope that you and your loved ones are safe over there! I am from New York.
@@brendadrumm9708 Brenda, we never truly stop grieving. When we've loved someone deeply--almost to the point where they were a part of us--we will always miss them. This will never cease. But I hope and pray that you are able to live a life that can honor the life your son and daughter would've wanted to live if they were still here on earth. Every day, live your life in their honor.
Brenda you are not alone, no one have the right to tell you to get over you great loss.
Why don't you just get Hannibal lector to narrate this people are grieving!?
What happens if your grief became complicated because you were essentially "watching" him be murdered?
What do you do with the raging anger, esp in light of the fact that one of the people who's GUILTY of helping murder him was FREED from Guantanamo based on a f'n political stunt? "#MohammedouSalahiisGuiltyandFree #MohammedouSalahi will be guilty forever #September11FamilyandFriends
I wish your question would have been answered because this is important when things get complicated.
This sounds like PTSD too, try watching Mark videos for PTSD. I found them very useful and hopefully will help you too.
I’m so sorry. I don’t know many people who could share the complexity of emotions you must have.
I’ll be praying you find the help you deserve.
I am hearing the song, “God Only Knows” in my mind.