When Someone You Love Dies,There Is No Such Thing as Moving On | Kelley Lynn | TEDxAdelphiUniversity

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  • @Priyankas.Paradise
    @Priyankas.Paradise 4 года назад +10939

    The truth is- you will NEVERRRRR everrr know how it feels until it happens to you .

    • @sadkidan4120
      @sadkidan4120 3 года назад +121

      اوسامة محمد you got this man, you dont have to move on but give it time. and never forget about her she lives on inside you

    • @isahumarfarouqabdulkarim1978
      @isahumarfarouqabdulkarim1978 3 года назад +60

      @@sadkidan4120 very wise words brother, this was very comforting even for me.

    • @JLO-py5nn
      @JLO-py5nn 3 года назад +27

      Agree

    • @brendadrumm9708
      @brendadrumm9708 3 года назад +15

      Spot on x

    • @NV-dk3jz
      @NV-dk3jz 3 года назад +25

      This is so correct 😔

  • @graceg5999
    @graceg5999 3 года назад +2693

    “You can’t move on from love. Love is the only thing that never dies”

    • @rev.fr.ejikembaka1303
      @rev.fr.ejikembaka1303 3 года назад +6

      Today, as you go out, you shall be blessed. You shall return with great fortunes. Your coming in shall be fulfilling. Morning will work for your good. My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day. message me on WhatsApp +2349157547182 I have a surprise for you God bless

    • @that_one_guy6243
      @that_one_guy6243 3 года назад +5

      Smart.

    • @that_one_guy6243
      @that_one_guy6243 3 года назад +4

      @@rev.fr.ejikembaka1303 Amen

    • @pollacksharman0147
      @pollacksharman0147 3 года назад +2

      Hello how're you doing hope you're safe due to the covid 19 pandemic?

    • @eunoiamccrearytheone
      @eunoiamccrearytheone 2 года назад +11

      This is true and I've seen only damaged ppl think love is loyalty and loyalty means love when it's two completely different things.

  • @reyr.7439
    @reyr.7439 2 года назад +940

    You can move on from a breakup and find someone better, but you can never move on from a death of a loved one. They can never be replaced.

    • @Ksweet2015
      @Ksweet2015 Год назад +9

      Amen Preach, I'm listening.

    • @Ikayo76
      @Ikayo76 Год назад +3

      Facts

    • @aneeshdhiman
      @aneeshdhiman Год назад +2

      What’s a better solution?

    • @susancuzelis5128
      @susancuzelis5128 Год назад

      Absolutely true.

    • @Gurl-5150
      @Gurl-5150 Год назад +1

      Please don't ever presume to invalidate someone's pain. You could not POSSIBLY know how much something hurts a different person unless you are in their skin.

  • @cuisinonswithfajar1174
    @cuisinonswithfajar1174 Год назад +427

    There is no process of grief, every process has an end, but grief is for life and is there to stay. You don't move on from grief you move forward with it. Somedays you are doing good, but somedays even in the middle of your daily life chores the thought of the person you lost hits you and you start missing the person, you miss the person so much that it's physically painful.

    • @rocker76m88
      @rocker76m88 Год назад +29

      I still cry for my mother 8 years after her death. The grief never goes away. You just learn to cope.

    • @parthnanda2277
      @parthnanda2277 Год назад +1

      true'

    • @subhasishdeshmukh1415
      @subhasishdeshmukh1415 Год назад +1

      So true

    • @mandykiser524
      @mandykiser524 Год назад +7

      I lost the love of my love lately...
      it's very painful
      no matter how hard you are moving on, the pain will never go away...

    • @silvameaferam5441
      @silvameaferam5441 Год назад +6

      A woman who lost her child told me more than 30 years after it happened. You never get over it, you just deal with it differently.

  • @fluermor..
    @fluermor.. 6 лет назад +2237

    My mama passed away 3 weeks ago, one moment she was having a nap next door half an hour or so later I told my daughter to go kiss her goodnight as usual, but by that time my mama was already gone. There is no pain that could ever described this. If you still have your Mama cherish them, there is no one on this earth like your mama. Without them your world is completely changed forever. Rest in peace my queen 💗

    • @portalsofmadnes
      @portalsofmadnes 5 лет назад +11

      :(

    • @kimmie3082
      @kimmie3082 5 лет назад +42

      JANINE, I AM SENDING YOU A BIG HUG. I'M SO SO SORRY FOR THE PASSING OF YOUR MAMA. I SHALL KEEP YOU IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS HONEY. I WILL ASK OUR LORD TO SEND EXTRA ANGELS TO CARRY YOU DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND THE PAIN YOU ARE IN. I LOST MY DADDY/PAPEE . HE STAYED TO SPEND MY BIRTHDAY WITH ME FOR THE LAST TIME AND PASSED THE NEXT DAY. I TOO, CALL MY MOTHER MAMA. SHE IS MY BESTEST LOVING FRIEND AND HONESTLY I FEAR THE DAY JESUS COMES DOWN AND LOOKS AT HER AND TAKES HER BREATH AWAY. I HAD AN AWAKENING ONE DAY DOING BUSINESS IN REGARDS TO DADDY/PAPEE. THIS YOUNG LADY SAID TO ME, YOU'RE VERY LUCKY...IVE NEVER BEEN A DADDY'S GIRL...IM LUCKY IF I SEE HIM ON HOLIDAYS. I FELT SO SAD FOR HER BUT I REALIZED GOD LOANED ME THE BEST. THAT REALLY MADE ME REALIZE I HAD BEEN BLESSED, AS YOU HAVE BEEN. IT HURTS SO BAD BECAUSE THEY GAVE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS. CONTACT ME IF YOU'D LIKE. SENT WITH LOVE AND HUGS 💜

    • @nainaarora1885
      @nainaarora1885 5 лет назад +63

      My mom passed away 5 years ago and I still am clueless how to deal with it

    • @kimmie3082
      @kimmie3082 5 лет назад +32

      @@nainaarora1885 HONEY THE HEARTACHE NEVER GOES AWAY EVER...U JUST LEARN TO LIVE DIFFERENTLY I'M TOLD BY MANY. I'M TRULY SORRY HONEY. IT'S BECAUSE SHE GAVE YOU UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ALL YOUR LIFE 💕 I STILL CRY ....AND MISS DADDY EVERYDAY. I WAS A DADDY'S GIRL BIG TIME. HE WAS SUCH A BEAUTIFUL MAN. YOU AND I WERE BLESSED. GOD BLESS YOU..MAY HE SURRPUND YOU WITH ANGELS TO CARRY YOU. REMEMBER SHE IS WITH YOU ALWAYS. WE WILL NEVER DEAL WITH IT...SO WE REMEMBER OUR PARENTS LOVE AND MEMORIES.....AND KEEP THEM ALIVE. HUGS AND LOVE 💔

    • @rennegordon5356
      @rennegordon5356 5 лет назад +28

      My Auntie Bonnie who was everything to me passed I'm her sleep, 3 years later I'm still so lost without her the pain never goes away I cry everyday, I can't move on without her. I'm so sorry for your loss I know your pain, if anything I want you to know that your not alone love..

  • @arunimasood6468
    @arunimasood6468 3 года назад +705

    the pain is like something inside of you has died , but the sad part is you have to live.

    • @jacquelinestewart3820
      @jacquelinestewart3820 3 года назад +14

      So well said 💔💔💔

    • @ggarcia3237
      @ggarcia3237 3 года назад +2

      Don't be such a dummy you can move on and you will

    • @philsublett8499
      @philsublett8499 3 года назад +4

      Exactly, and its so hard 😪

    • @410sac
      @410sac 3 года назад +12

      I feel the same way. We have no choice. We HAVE to go on and live because others love us. My mom died of covid February 2021. I understand and accept that God, in His sovereignty, allowed this to happen, but I can't find joy in being here. All the positive things are of no eternal value and the negative hurts so it seems to me that it's better to be with the Lord and my mother. I won't hurt myself because I love my family but I would much rather be with my mom. I have also found that my pain is my connection to my mother. Memories, are just that ...memories. The only thing that is a REAL experience is the pain I feel of losing her. I am hanging on to that pain because that is all I have that is truly a connection to her. I would gladly trade that pain for a nightly dream of her.. the kind that feel SO REAL. The kind where you could feel the pressure of her touch! But I have only had one of those. Of if I had "unusual" experiences where I just KNOW that it's her. As of now, my pain is my comfort and I will never "move on".

    • @rev.fr.ejikembaka1303
      @rev.fr.ejikembaka1303 3 года назад +4

      My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day.

  • @cakeyguy2
    @cakeyguy2 4 года назад +743

    I’d rather forget people that belittle me for grieving rather than forget about my mother❤️

    • @brendadrumm9708
      @brendadrumm9708 4 года назад +9

      F them they have to experience loss my heart goes to you my story is too long lost a daughter and son yr half apart adults my life ended the days they left me xx

    • @backfromthedarkalive
      @backfromthedarkalive 4 года назад +3

      it bloody hurts they dont have a clue.. its heartless really..

    • @makingmathsfunfor10th20
      @makingmathsfunfor10th20 4 года назад +1

      @@brendadrumm9708 😢

    • @italianplastick4031
      @italianplastick4031 4 года назад +1

      1000000% me too

    • @nspector
      @nspector 3 года назад

      Amen, cakey C.

  • @annatiernan1474
    @annatiernan1474 Год назад +305

    My best friend died 6 weeks ago, and I am completely devastated. We were best friends for 44 years. The grief washes over me in waves, I think this will haunt me forever. My heart breaks for everyone else who has felt this pain.

    • @AmanRaj-bf9yv
      @AmanRaj-bf9yv Год назад +9

      My Best friend died 13 days back, i never realised i was so emotionally attached to him, dont know how i came over here searching for answers, something has died inside, i am not able to get over it, dont know if i would get over it or not

    • @annatiernan1474
      @annatiernan1474 Год назад +4

      @@AmanRaj-bf9yv I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I had some good advice for you but I don't. People keep telling me as time goes by it gets better but for me it's the opposite, the more time goes by the more I miss him. It really hurts. I wish I knew the answer to healing. I wish you peace.

    • @mimibgrowhiskingdom
      @mimibgrowhiskingdom Год назад +8

      Talking about your loved one and being able to sit in your grief is healthy. No one ever knows how long it will take to be able to deal with the loss of a loved one. There are so many stages of grief and they can come in your heart at any moment. For me, what we do with our grief honors our loved one that has passed on. I heal when I get to hold people up as they loose loved ones. Sitting with people in their grief is humbling and full of the people for whom I’ve lost. Extending my love for others, gives the ones that have passed on their legacy even when they are not here anymore. They now live through me. Blessings to all of you.

    • @lindacollins4945
      @lindacollins4945 Год назад +6

      I understand my best friend, sister, one of the greatest loves of my life passed almost 6 months ago. We were besties for 49 years. Introduced her to her husband, We were two peas in a pod always together. I pray, I cry, I talk to her. Some days are better than others. I tell her everything to this day. Love never fades.

    • @annatiernan1474
      @annatiernan1474 Год назад +3

      @Linda Collins I talk to my friend too, I thought maybe I was weird or something, but I find it helps me feel close to him. It's all I have left. I am so sorry for your loss, may memories of your loved one bring you comfort.

  • @24737296
    @24737296 5 лет назад +1118

    Love is the only thing that never dies

    • @factsuncensored8168
      @factsuncensored8168 4 года назад +12

      Jennifer Hernandez
      Nothing ever dies. All that is, is Love

    • @zenodelledonne5914
      @zenodelledonne5914 4 года назад +2

      I feel that

    • @pissoff8961
      @pissoff8961 4 года назад +6

      When she said that, it really hit home.
      It hurts so bad.. 💔😓

    • @jtaylor138
      @jtaylor138 4 года назад

      Right on

    • @chefgy
      @chefgy 4 года назад

      Agree ❤

  • @luccilooo
    @luccilooo 4 года назад +873

    Missing my mom. Lost her a year ago. I’m with everyone who is grieving.

    • @mirianansotegi9590
      @mirianansotegi9590 4 года назад +11

      Lost my mom a year ago too. Miss her so very much. 🐾🙏

    • @luccilooo
      @luccilooo 4 года назад +4

      Mirian Ansotegi we will get by. Praying for better days. Stay safe and well Mirian.

    • @matchuxo541
      @matchuxo541 4 года назад +5

      @@mirianansotegi9590 Thank you. Your words truly mean a lot. I felt as through I was only one who had lost my mom. Everyone says I should just move on..but it really isn't possible when you lose someone so close to your ❤️

    • @brittanymendoza-tigilau9649
      @brittanymendoza-tigilau9649 4 года назад +6

      I lost my mom too, back in Sept 2018. I still feel so heartbroken and miss her so much! I try my best to cope with it but I can’t imagine my life without her..
      I’m praying for you and sending you love! 💜

    • @aliceminnie9437
      @aliceminnie9437 4 года назад +2

      Thank you. Lost my Grandfather. He was everything to me. I can't bear this. I miss him sooo much. I'm with you too.

  • @Lucidity05
    @Lucidity05 3 года назад +6813

    The saddest part of life is when the person who gave you the best memories becomes a memory.

    • @Southerngirl612
      @Southerngirl612 3 года назад +93

      Wow, very powerful comment.

    • @busk8159
      @busk8159 3 года назад +20

      Copied comment

    • @taiyaray9735
      @taiyaray9735 3 года назад +18

      Your so right 😪

    • @zoeg.5694
      @zoeg.5694 3 года назад +79

      When your shared memories together and now they're just yours

    • @jasonwatts4322
      @jasonwatts4322 3 года назад +80

      Not a better way to put feelings to word . I just found my wife dead on april 21 and she was my world she gave me The best times of my life. She was only 38 and we have 2 girls 9 and 10 and all we have are memories that im terrified that they will fade

  • @triz00
    @triz00 Год назад +149

    I lost my mom today, on march 15th. She passed away due to liver cancer. She was only 56 years old and i am 22. I was her only child. It’s been really hard, but this video has helped me a lot, thank you so much ❤

    • @NB-se8ge
      @NB-se8ge Год назад +10

      As an only child please know you aren't alone. I think we tend to think we are so alone. I dont even know you but I am here. Take your grief 1 minute at a time. Sending all my love.

    • @SarahLynnLee
      @SarahLynnLee Год назад +3

      I am so sorry, that is so difficult. I am sending you love and prayers.

    • @shanesaysshalom921
      @shanesaysshalom921 Год назад +2

      I am truly so so sorry for your loss ❤

    • @rachelallison5840
      @rachelallison5840 Год назад +2

      So sorry ❤ please vent if you need to

    • @BriaBarrows
      @BriaBarrows Год назад +2

      I hope you are ok at times. I cannot imagine the pain. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @LoveFlatfootin1
    @LoveFlatfootin1 6 лет назад +672

    Sometimes a hug is better than anything someone might say.

    • @kelleyfunnylady
      @kelleyfunnylady 6 лет назад +39

      absolutely. or sitting in silence with someone.

    • @jenniferd2305
      @jenniferd2305 5 лет назад +8

      So true.

    • @peanutbutterpancakes7
      @peanutbutterpancakes7 5 лет назад +12

      Yes 100% I've found that most people actually make it worse with their words to me.

    • @kurtsiecolferites2160
      @kurtsiecolferites2160 5 лет назад +12

      I find that, too. To just be held while you cry can be SO comforting and is often more comforting than words.

    • @robin-ky3rk
      @robin-ky3rk 5 лет назад +12

      can I have a hug? :(

  • @FabyJazmin
    @FabyJazmin 4 года назад +581

    The pain of losing your mother can be so overwhelming I feel like I can't breathe some days it truly feels like a nightmare. It's only been 2 weeks I miss her every second of everyday but I know she would want me to get up everyday and live so I do it for her. I love you so much mommy I really miss you.

    • @Stronger2gether
      @Stronger2gether 4 года назад +8

      I hear you. Sorry for your lost a d pain. Send you a hug❤🌹

    • @fatoumfatoumeh
      @fatoumfatoumeh 4 года назад +36

      I feel you, my mom passed away 5 days ago, and I watched her die in the hospital. I feel like I am stuck in a nightmare. It hurts so bad.

    • @FabyJazmin
      @FabyJazmin 4 года назад +8

      @@fatoumfatoumeh sorry for your loss.

    • @fatoumfatoumeh
      @fatoumfatoumeh 4 года назад +9

      @@FabyJazmin Sorry for yours too. I hope it gets better for us.

    • @byronsamuels6939
      @byronsamuels6939 3 года назад +15

      I know how u feel i deal with day in and day out- tomorrow it will be a year that my mom died, and the pain still hurts

  • @you_r_my-world2288
    @you_r_my-world2288 7 лет назад +952

    "Love is the only thing that never dies"
    "There is no such thing as moving on"
    So true

    • @jdvandeventer
      @jdvandeventer 6 лет назад +13

      I Lost my Dad on 03 May.
      I don't want to move on. I want to keep his memory alive.
      Wbo is this Lady , would like to read her blog.

    • @DiptiRai7
      @DiptiRai7 5 лет назад +4

      NeverLetGo KojnKuv yes

    • @kimmie3082
      @kimmie3082 5 лет назад +13

      @@jdvandeventer AMEN. THE CRUELEST WORDS A PERSON COULD SAY TO US IS "MOVE ON OR GET OVER IT"! THE LOVE AND MEMORIES KEEPS THEM ALIVE...AMEN❤

    • @mairimacleod1704
      @mairimacleod1704 5 лет назад +4

      NeverLetGo KojnKuv will

    • @saini3101
      @saini3101 5 лет назад +2

      Yes

  • @angelinebickerton4736
    @angelinebickerton4736 4 года назад +494

    i hate it when people are so insensitive to grieving people, grieving is guttering and exhausting. I have empathy for all of you who are going through a tough time, hang in there everyone. xx

    • @NoCluYT
      @NoCluYT 4 года назад +12

      People tend to act like that because they've either gone through it multiple times, or they've never experienced it.

    • @angelinebickerton4736
      @angelinebickerton4736 4 года назад +2

      @@NoCluYT true

    • @anneosullivan5160
      @anneosullivan5160 3 года назад +5

      Exactly. My son died 7 wks ago

    • @alvaroakatico9188
      @alvaroakatico9188 3 года назад +3

      @@anneosullivan5160 It really doesn’t matter if I don’t know of you, or your beloved son. What matters is that, we as humans feel a bond somehow with other people that are mourning. Why is that? Well, because millions of us have experience what you’re experiencing right now.
      I want to offer my condolences to you and your family, and it comes from my heart.

    • @colinjamieson7225
      @colinjamieson7225 3 года назад

      My sincere condolence. It's Colin. I'm from Boxford, US. I noticed from your comment that you must be a positive personality. Nice meeting you here. May I have the chance to know the Angel behind this beautiful face?

  • @Mr.G_Rattlesnake
    @Mr.G_Rattlesnake 3 года назад +246

    I'm native American. Where I come, from it's completely backwards from what's taught in mainstream culture. When the baby is born we grieve that baby and everything that baby will go through, throughout its life, all the hardships and pain. When that baby grows old and dies, we rejoice and remember all the good times. Sure there are sad moments but the ones that count, are the happy moments and successful moments.

    • @janh7147
      @janh7147 3 года назад +33

      Mr. G., Your description of grieving at a baby's birth and rejoicing at the end of this life makes a lot of sense. There is so much suffering here. Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🌿🌅🌃

    • @janeyd5280
      @janeyd5280 3 года назад +9

      Apparently when I was born many moons ago, my grandmother commented that we are born into a cruel world.

    • @lmullen9478
      @lmullen9478 3 года назад +10

      Wow...that is incredible; it makes so much sense! Of course Native Americans would think that way...they have deep reverence for all of nature and the life cycle living things go through. Beautiful!

    • @rev.fr.ejikembaka1303
      @rev.fr.ejikembaka1303 3 года назад +2

      My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day.

    • @thelinneafoundation3857
      @thelinneafoundation3857 3 года назад +1

      That is a beautiful tradition. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @chrisanderson263
    @chrisanderson263 4 года назад +844

    My husband died 10 years ago. I still share funny stories about him. That's how he stays alive.

    • @amyzhang2082
      @amyzhang2082 4 года назад +19

      My boyfriend was the only one who I could share the funny stories with, Now the loneliness is even stronger whenever I see one. Im sorry for your loss.

    • @anamariaguadayol2335
      @anamariaguadayol2335 4 года назад +7

      Me too. My husband died six years ago.

    • @karenmichael8637
      @karenmichael8637 3 года назад +1

      @@amyzhang2082 JCPenney

    • @karenmichael8637
      @karenmichael8637 3 года назад

      @@amyzhang2082
      Flabby

    • @melissawhite9871
      @melissawhite9871 3 года назад +5

      Also helps me to think of good moments me and my son had even though we battled

  • @sunshinewithin435
    @sunshinewithin435 6 месяцев назад +25

    My mother died in my arms 3 days ago and my heart feels very sad 😭 I crave my mother's presence to a huge extent😔She was a huge part of my life for many years. I miss her a lot. I feel a wave of loss and grief. I want to call out to her, hear her voice, share something with her and I can’t. She is gone. All I am left is with a very empty, heavy, sad heart😞😩😭

    • @lookingupwithwonder
      @lookingupwithwonder 2 месяца назад +2

      I really relate to this. My mum died 7 days ago. I sobbed for a few days but the pain has been sitting in my chest today. I hope you are ok. Xx

    • @tessofgielinor7148
      @tessofgielinor7148 Месяц назад

      💕

    • @tessofgielinor7148
      @tessofgielinor7148 Месяц назад

      ​@@lookingupwithwonder💕

    • @lauriemtz8616
      @lauriemtz8616 Месяц назад +1

      I’m so very sorry for your loss. ❤

  • @ThatOneYoutuber
    @ThatOneYoutuber 4 года назад +860

    Words can’t even explain the pain I’m going through right now 😔 ❤️🕊

    • @rhondamendoza2062
      @rhondamendoza2062 4 года назад +27

      I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending LOVE.❤️❤️❤️

    • @SuperColito23
      @SuperColito23 4 года назад +18

      I may not know you personally but you are still in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and live your life in a way that would make ur loved one proud:)

    • @brendadrumm9708
      @brendadrumm9708 4 года назад +5

      They never will it's a journey with no ending x

    • @minniendabokutya7860
      @minniendabokutya7860 4 года назад +7

      Love and light

    • @sherriandavis8713
      @sherriandavis8713 4 года назад +9

      I lost my daughter father and its killings me right now

  • @iracilovely9447
    @iracilovely9447 3 года назад +226

    You never get over it. You just learn to live in pain. To survive for the living loved ones who need you. To cry when you need to. To pray for them as much as you pray for yourself. There is no forgetting, stitching, or moving on from the pain.
    There is no lesson, just pain.
    However you do learn to appreciate the precious people still with you.
    Their love will carry you through.

    • @blotski
      @blotski 3 года назад +16

      I'm with you. You never 'get over' the grief. You just learn to adjust to life with that ever present ache in your heart.

    • @gramking3222
      @gramking3222 3 года назад +4

      @@blotski well said.

    • @Bunny69Bee
      @Bunny69Bee 3 года назад

      Pray ? Excuse me dear God but you did not obviously grant my prayers.

  • @jaydub7386
    @jaydub7386 9 месяцев назад +42

    A comment I read on another video about death was,
    “Grief is love with nowhere to go.”
    I lost my partner of 20 years two years ago.
    I stopped talking to my friends about him after a friend told me it had been two years and that I should be over it.

    • @nelshiro
      @nelshiro 8 месяцев назад +6

      So sad how people can be so insensitive! So sorry for your loss.

    • @super_girl3357
      @super_girl3357 8 месяцев назад +3

      I’m so sorry! Grief has no time. Some days we are better some days it hits us hard. I’m so sorry for your loss and your not alone.

  • @groover124
    @groover124 2 года назад +523

    My daughter at 31 died of cancer on 6/2/22. She was an only child. It is the hardest I ever had to deal with. The pain is unique to each person. There is nothing anyone can say to make me feel better. Lynn gave a wonderful talk.

    • @kevinbyus5669
      @kevinbyus5669 2 года назад +24

      I lost my 20 year old baby girl to Covid at doc hands it be a year Oct 18 seems like yesterday

    • @bonnierobinson8684
      @bonnierobinson8684 2 года назад +8

      What was her name?

    • @maddieb2763
      @maddieb2763 Год назад +16

      I agree. Nothing can be said, nothing will make you feel better. I wish people would stop saying 'you'll get over it, it's life, bla bla bla'. They could just shut up. Sometimes it's better not to say anything at all.

    • @kimberly1593
      @kimberly1593 Год назад +8

      I pray that you have found some comfort in all of your pain. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Sending you a tight hug!

    • @groover124
      @groover124 Год назад +7

      @@bonnierobinson8684 Mallory

  • @talusignhey5131
    @talusignhey5131 3 года назад +310

    Everyday since my hubby died, I always talk to him like he's just beside me. I still talk to him about everything like I did when he was still alive.

    • @teresapren3266
      @teresapren3266 3 года назад +25

      i am so sorry,people that die never go away ,they walk beside us everyday,this is a very healthy thing to do ,you have not forgotten..

    • @robinr5561
      @robinr5561 3 года назад +18

      My husband passed away six weeks ago and I do the exact same thing.

    • @Ayra654
      @Ayra654 2 года назад +6

      @@robinr5561 I’m so sorry I hope you are able to handle your emotions throughout this.

    • @robinr5561
      @robinr5561 2 года назад +2

      @@Ayra654 Thank you.

    • @fernandomaron87
      @fernandomaron87 2 года назад +5

      @@robinr5561 Be strong! You're a fighter. All my respect and best wishes

  • @Cher1111
    @Cher1111 Год назад +49

    I’m from Saudi Arabia I lost my father 5 years ago everyone avoid talking about him including my friends and even my own family..
    Sometimes I wanna talk but I can’t find anyone open to talk with me.. they think talking about him is not worth it and he’s gone..
    Whenever I feel pain and sadness I watch this video over and over again to comfort me..
    Thank you so much.
    I wish I had better friends.

    • @pambain9415
      @pambain9415 Год назад +5

      I will listen to you and be the friend who supports your deep love for your dad.

    • @bperez9066
      @bperez9066 Год назад +3

      I’m sorry you feel that way! I lost my father 23 yrs ago and still think and talk about him daily! Don’t listen to your people. You keep talking about your dad because he was here and he mattered! Love him always.

  • @Bratbutangel
    @Bratbutangel 2 года назад +252

    Losing my mom was detrimental to me. 20 years with her was just not long enough. I miss her with every fiber of my being, everyday. It will never go away. I will never be over it. I’m almost 25 and it still feels like I’m lost and stuck in that day. People don’t understand. It is so lonely. A piece of me died with her that day.

    • @clockworkhuman333
      @clockworkhuman333 Год назад +17

      Same. My mother died when I was 23. I sometimes blame myself. If only I know she'll die too soon.
      I'd trade everything just to see her again. Just one hug. I miss her voice. I miss everything. I'm not who I was before. I'm still half dead.

    • @dafnealmarazacosta3720
      @dafnealmarazacosta3720 Год назад +9

      I know right? My mom died when I was 19 almost 20. Now I am 30 and still hits very hard when I remember her. I still cry every time 😞

    • @Bratbutangel
      @Bratbutangel Год назад +18

      A mothers love never dies and when a mother passes a daughter never fully recovers. A piece of us is missing forever and you never get too old for a mothers love. I still cry for her all the time.

    • @em6577
      @em6577 Год назад +3

      Am sorry. I totally understand. It changes you for sure. How can 1 ever get over losing the person that gave us life and loved us unconditionally. Take care and be kind to yourself💕

    • @anushreeshukla242
      @anushreeshukla242 Год назад +2

      I'm so sorry :( I lost my mom a year ago and I feel the same. A part of me died with her. Yet she's alive in me, in my memories and in my love for her. We can never move on from this loss.

  • @kade6518
    @kade6518 4 года назад +144

    When people say move on or get over it, it is their way of saying they don't understand and they will never understand until they lost their own loved ones

    • @alaskagamer6351
      @alaskagamer6351 3 года назад +5

      Correct

    • @radhikakhanna3503
      @radhikakhanna3503 3 года назад +5

      True

    • @EliGR8
      @EliGR8 3 года назад +8

      There are others who as soon as you talk about your loved one, they say: hmm, my mother died way longer ago and look at me, i'm still alive... as if losing a loved one was a matter of racing who's stronger or not...

    • @nimisha68
      @nimisha68 3 года назад +5

      Soo truee❤️❤️❤️
      They say that its been soo long.
      They never understand

    • @catherinewilkinson5270
      @catherinewilkinson5270 3 года назад

      Yep no thier fault though its society n proffesinals to they say to you how long has it been n u tell them they look at u can almost hear them say pull your self togeter that was 3yrs ago my son 2018 n my daughter 2010 im trying to live so is my remaining son hes doing well im concerned hes going for couselling now he might b dissapointed you gt 6 appointments 6 hrs basically couselling bah

  • @beautyandbrains1695
    @beautyandbrains1695 4 года назад +108

    You never get over it...you learn to live with it.

    • @20sandi12
      @20sandi12 3 года назад +8

      I still haven't learned how.

    • @jacquelinestewart3820
      @jacquelinestewart3820 3 года назад +6

      There’s just something’s some people, can’t adjust to, or accept or live with, and I’m one of them, it’s like a living nightmare, you wake up every morning, and that is the first thing that comes in to you’re head, they’re gone 😱

  • @Bella-gj6wc
    @Bella-gj6wc Год назад +30

    When I lost my wonderful husband, I learned many things. The most important one? You need to make room in yourself ~ your brain or your heart, or both, for your new, and constantly evolving grief. I’ve tried locking grief up, because it’s so bothersome. It appears at the worst times, when you least expect it, and is like a stubborn child it WILL have its say. In the beginning, you wonder how to control this monster, because after all you have a life to finish living. I controlled it by giving it 30 minutes a day. I choose the time, and I timed its allotment. When 30 minutes was up, so was grief’s hold on my day. Gradually, like a satisfied child, the grief quieted, and went into dormancy. It will rise up, during a drive, and music coming on the radio, at movies, filled with emotion, and with memories; but I’d be lying if I told you it ever disappears, because it doesn’t. It’s like a wound with a scab, it’ll get smaller over time, but it will leave a scar to remind you it was there. We each find our way through those dark days, and gradually you begin to live again. My husband gave me the very best gift. A life with nothing left unsaid, and with no regrets. He always told me “we are not promised tomorrow, so we have to live for today”. Good luck to all going through it. You are not alone, as many have been there before you. ❤️

  • @alwaysamy4
    @alwaysamy4 5 лет назад +426

    I needed to hear this. Having a very bad day of grief. Rest In Peace to my son Nicolas 2/19/94 - 8/1/2011

    • @ArkWolf22
      @ArkWolf22 5 лет назад +15

      I'm sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace.

    • @cherrypie7437
      @cherrypie7437 5 лет назад +3

      rip💐 ☹ I was born in 94 too

    • @FBAi5444
      @FBAi5444 5 лет назад +18

      So sorry for you loss. Lost my son too. My only child Mayowa. Life hurts so much

    • @TET2005
      @TET2005 5 лет назад +2

      Sorry for your great loss... take care.

    • @xmariax3186
      @xmariax3186 5 лет назад

      Amy im so sorry

  • @spydersmom1
    @spydersmom1 2 года назад +174

    Dear Everyone in the comments.
    If I could hug all of you I would. If I could sit with you and listen to your memories of your loved ones, I would. If I could have met the one you speak of, I would have been blessed to have even known them. We all should treat each other in such a way we would have wanted others to treat the one we so long to speak with again. Every person that walks by us is loved dearly by someone and they will be missed dearly by someone one day. Let’s all honor the ones we love with honoring each other❤️🙏

    • @carla6497
      @carla6497 Год назад +3

      Beautiful words. Thankyou.

    • @em6577
      @em6577 Год назад +2

      Bless you. That's lovely💕

    • @sadgirl0112
      @sadgirl0112 Год назад +2

      I would love to sit with you and tell you everything 😭😭

    • @lisahall1989
      @lisahall1989 Год назад +1

      Perftly said. 💕

    • @michaelmcknight8419
      @michaelmcknight8419 Год назад

      Well said

  • @Teapot-Dave
    @Teapot-Dave 2 года назад +111

    The pain of grief never goes away, you just learn how to live with it.

    • @tripleboseke3722
      @tripleboseke3722 Год назад +4

      Exactly

    • @tripleboseke3722
      @tripleboseke3722 Год назад +4

      Am married to a widower and I can say it's not an easy expense, his late wife memories never dies and I have to leave with that reality.

  • @roncatton7101
    @roncatton7101 Год назад +46

    When you truly love someone who's life has been taken away from you in your life you don't want to forget them in any way. The fact is if you really loved them up until that moment they were taken away from you, then you will always love them till the day you pass yourself. Yes, we have to carry on as best we can with our own lives, but when you have had that love in your life, it never goes away, it will always remain with you.

  • @bhumphries1360
    @bhumphries1360 3 года назад +314

    My brother died today. And a huge part of my heart went with him. I refuse to ever forget or move on. I'm frightened I will forget his voice. My heart just hurts so much right now.

    • @chrislyn1868
      @chrislyn1868 3 года назад +23

      I just lost my sister a few days ago from cardiac arrest. She had severe asthma. She was only 25 and left behind 2 beautiful girls. Her birthday is next month. This is the most unthinkable pain, and I know exactly how you’re feeling. I wish I could tell you something to take the pain away, but the only thing keeping me sane is I know they’re in a much better place than this.

    • @genevieveharris4692
      @genevieveharris4692 3 года назад +22

      My brother has been gone for 10 years. I still remember his voice. I remember the way he smelled. I’m so deeply sorry. Hugs to you.

    • @veroniquendambo3242
      @veroniquendambo3242 3 года назад +15

      Losing one's sibbling is so psychologically painful that I wouldn't even wish such a traumatising experience to my worst foe. In a place where I come from, we usually say that the surviving sibbling loses part of him/her. My eldest sister died 7 years ago and our mother followed 4 years later. Everyone in the family seems to have moved on except me, and they can't comprehend why I have not been able to forget about them? But how come one's descendants can just wipe their ascendants out of their memories so fast? I'm wondering what this world has come to? My condolences to you and the entire family, and may your brother R.I.P.

    • @bridgesart
      @bridgesart 3 года назад +8

      So sorry. Prayers for your strength and calm. I lost my brother in ‘91. He was my best friend. It took forever to get to where I could talk about it. Time makes it to where we can manage our grief better, but the hole in your heart stays. Peace be with you.

    • @RemainedAnonymous
      @RemainedAnonymous 3 года назад +4

      I know I'm late but my condolences and I hope you find your peace one day for both of you

  • @mannchar
    @mannchar 5 лет назад +324

    I lost my beloved father to cancer in 2017. I love and miss him every single day. This pain is indescribable. I will never be the same.

    • @Wolfy83
      @Wolfy83 5 лет назад +7

      I am in the same boat as you.

    • @flaviomorofurian5271
      @flaviomorofurian5271 5 лет назад +10

      My Daddy died almost 3 weeks ago, after 3 months in the Hospital. I feel like dead inside

    • @jabaridockery2465
      @jabaridockery2465 5 лет назад +2

      😔🙏

    • @klossmobile
      @klossmobile 5 лет назад +9

      So sorry for your pain. I lost my Dad and best friend to a completely sudden death two months ago. My heart is broken into pieces. It's going to be a long hard road of pain unfortunately. Hope you're holding up!

    • @sarenkeang7977
      @sarenkeang7977 5 лет назад +4

      Exactly how I feel too. I lost my dad in a road accident. It's been 4 years, but I'm still living with utmost pain. :( Sorry about your loss.

  • @nomcebo_nothile
    @nomcebo_nothile 3 года назад +573

    So crazy that I'm watching this after crying less than 3 hours ago. I was (and still am) in a lot of pain. I miss my parents so much and I still can't understand why they had to leave me. The fear, the pain and emptiness are just unbearable.

    • @daryasavchenko6288
      @daryasavchenko6288 3 года назад +20

      sending some love your way, they dont leave you as long as they are in your ❤️

    • @nomcebo_nothile
      @nomcebo_nothile 3 года назад +12

      @@daryasavchenko6288 Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️

    • @personal3766
      @personal3766 3 года назад +12

      Nothile, I am truly sorry for your pain & loss. I pray you find peace and healing💛🙏🏻. Please know however that your parents are not lost to you, they are merely in a different form-but they will be your guardians until you all meet again. Trust this and talk to them everyday. Please search Carolyn Molnar videos. They brought me a lot oc comfort.

    • @caramelfrappuccino234
      @caramelfrappuccino234 3 года назад +11

      I know. Going through the same way. I want to go home but I cant. Home is gone.

    • @laineyh6518
      @laineyh6518 3 года назад +13

      I have just lost my mum and miss her even though I’m 60 I feel so sad seeing my dad without her and the house feels empty

  • @annak6412
    @annak6412 2 года назад +53

    I recently lost my dad in a tragic death. I literally feel emptiness, I still tell myself he is still here. This is the hardest part in life. I still feel lost.

    • @singwithshwe9967
      @singwithshwe9967 Год назад +2

      I feel you and l lost my brother 4 days ago
      Be strong girl 😢

    • @sharanvirdi90
      @sharanvirdi90 Год назад +2

      I also lost my father recently in a tragic death, I'm completely lost without my father now, I don't know what to do

    • @gwendolynnemichelle8823
      @gwendolynnemichelle8823 Год назад +1

      I lost my dad 10/26/22 ! I feel the same way I am so lost my dad was my everything

    • @sharanvirdi90
      @sharanvirdi90 Год назад

      @@gwendolynnemichelle8823 I've never lost anyone so close to me before, I'm also sorry to hear, people say it gets better but it's not gotten better yet, although they are not suffering no more I guess

    • @sharanvirdi90
      @sharanvirdi90 Год назад

      @Jessica J it's hard to find faith at a time like this

  • @jonettheonly
    @jonettheonly 3 года назад +283

    I'm here to find comfort from my grief. I put down my cat, Harmony, on Friday, now it's Monday. He was just a cat, some might say, but he was my baby and losing him is the worst pain I've ever felt. This video helps a lot, even if it's about losing humans. To many people, pets are just as precious as any relative or loved one.

    • @JayP-kd5rc
      @JayP-kd5rc 3 года назад +42

      Pets become family. I understand how you are feeling. I grieve over my pets passing also. God bless.

    • @hoopajoop
      @hoopajoop 3 года назад +26

      I'm also here grieving for my cat who passed away yesterday. He was everything to me and the pain is unbearable. You're not alone. Our loved ones, person or pet, will always be with us.

    • @enchantingempressoflight
      @enchantingempressoflight 3 года назад +20

      So very sorry for your loss, ジョネーJonét 😥💔😥 It's almost been 6 weeks since my beautiful orange tabby Biscuit had to be euthanized (he would've been in so much pain & agony if he lived longer)💔😭. The pain you and I feel -- and the pain MILLIONS of people feel after their beloved pet dies -- is something inexplicable (at least to me) and so emotionally painful. Basically, it's like a nightmare that you NEVER wake up from...

    • @chrisz8585
      @chrisz8585 3 года назад +2

      More so.

    • @sarahcosta4882
      @sarahcosta4882 3 года назад +11

      You hurt all the same when you love a human or an animal. I've been there.

  • @chelsisimm
    @chelsisimm 3 года назад +161

    My boyfriend of 7 years passed away a week ago & ive never experienced pain like this...all I want is for him to show me signs & I promise it would make me feel a little better.

    • @Lena-yj4il
      @Lena-yj4il 3 года назад +5

      It does hurt but only You have to go through. Words of others can bring a relief for a moment but than you are again with your loss...so sad. I know this kind of feelings very much so ....Regards across the ocean.

    • @mckennalewis3690
      @mckennalewis3690 3 года назад +7

      My boyfriend of 7 years took his life 6 days ago. I’m struggling and I don’t want to keep feeling this way. Has time helped you?

    • @rocksiirose4536
      @rocksiirose4536 3 года назад +16

      Yes, my Husband of 8 years passed away. I came home from work and yelled I miss you!! And boom! A sound came from my bedroom closet and a box that was securely on the shelf fell and out fell two of his hats.. I felt his love all around me....❤

    • @suzannta2827
      @suzannta2827 3 года назад +6

      He did give you a sign, sitting beside you in bed in the first 2-3 days after he passed away. Maybe you were asleep and missed it. They do come back and give you a "I'm still here honey for always" The day my Mom died, she sat on the corner of my bed. Maybe we get scared when that happens to us, because I ran out of her house to get my uncle and she never came back again. This is a true story. *.*

    • @suzannta2827
      @suzannta2827 3 года назад +3

      @@mckennalewis3690 Yes, time will help you. Now this depends on how much you loved him, One thing for sure is if you find love again that will take your pain away, It's not that you have to go look for a new Love, It will just happen as if your boyfriend sent him to ease your awful pain. *.*

  • @elijahsoto9134
    @elijahsoto9134 3 месяца назад +4

    Recently lost my other half and it’s been very lonely, glad I heard this speech. I will forever remember her and tell her story..❤

  • @scdcanis
    @scdcanis 6 лет назад +508

    I lost my mother today
    This helped me heal, even for a little bit.
    Thank you.

    • @kelleyfunnylady
      @kelleyfunnylady 6 лет назад +24

      Im so sorry for that trmendous loss of your mom. Keep sharing her story, and know that love never dies.

    • @TheAnnylicous
      @TheAnnylicous 5 лет назад +6

      SCD Gaming hope you are doing good

    • @marcfisher8853
      @marcfisher8853 5 лет назад +11

      I lost my son last week. Things like this are a great help for me, too. My sympathies for your loss.

    • @tangytablets5150
      @tangytablets5150 5 лет назад +3

      I hope you never forget her and that she's looking over you even in death somewhere.

    • @jessicawyatt1412
      @jessicawyatt1412 5 лет назад +3

      I know how heartbreaking that is . I lost mine when I was 10 and think of her everyday still. I hope you are doing okay . I know you don’t know me but you are loved ❤️

  • @LouisianaGirly
    @LouisianaGirly Год назад +18

    My father died 5 years ago on fathers day, and as that day approaches the pain arises further and further. My heart aches constantly. Grief is a wound that never heals, and every now and then the wound peels open and bleeds once again... My heart goes out to everyone that has lost someone important to them whether they be human or animal. Every loss hurts.

    • @stopchildabuse7932
      @stopchildabuse7932 9 месяцев назад

      I am very very sorry for your loss, I completely understand I lost my husband a month ago and now I also lost my job. I would do anything in this world to hug my husband again. Sending you a big big hug we are together on this journey

  • @petitec
    @petitec 4 года назад +445

    My dad died yesterday
    There is so much I want to tell him
    But he doesn’t answer when I call 😞

    • @huskyfinn9215
      @huskyfinn9215 4 года назад +21

      I know how you feel😔 I lost my dad almost three weeks ago and I think him everyday😭

    • @Queenaku3267
      @Queenaku3267 4 года назад +11

      I am sorry for your loss.I lost my boyfriend 2 days ago. I’m with you

    • @petitec
      @petitec 4 года назад +11

      Wow
      Oh no sorry
      My first two days I couldn’t even eat.
      I was torn up
      But don’t be afraid to cry

    • @Queenaku3267
      @Queenaku3267 4 года назад +5

      Petite C I haven’t eaten I’ve been trying to drink as much water as I can.Thank you so much

    • @Queenaku3267
      @Queenaku3267 4 года назад +5

      Petite C I’m torn and devastated

  • @petergarrison
    @petergarrison 5 лет назад +109

    My dad passed when i was 16.Its not about "moving on" its about Moving Forward!!

    • @smyliebynature
      @smyliebynature 4 года назад +5

      Exactly! My mom died when I was 16. I'm sorry for your loss.

    • @neelamsrivastava1369
      @neelamsrivastava1369 4 года назад +1

      Always love ur beloved spiritually.

  • @TWILLIE639
    @TWILLIE639 Год назад +55

    After losing my husband to suicide and soon thereafter losing my son to overdose, I found it unbearable that people always asked the manner of their deaths. It’s been so uncomfortable I can’t even take a job. My support system is very small due to former friends walking away.

    • @itsme-lv3kv
      @itsme-lv3kv Год назад +8

      Same. DM me if you ever need n understanding human. I do. My husband choose his "leaving" too x

    • @Tpfp9999
      @Tpfp9999 Год назад +6

      I’m so sorry this happened to you, but we are a community here and we are your support system you might not know me personally but I’m sending all the love I can to you. If you need someone to talk to im here for you! Please dm me❤️

    • @TWILLIE639
      @TWILLIE639 Год назад +5

      @@Tpfp9999 thank you so much. If I can get through holidays I’m doing pretty good and I always get through it - there’s no other option. I keep myself busy as I can. I appreciate your kindness.

    • @lisahall1989
      @lisahall1989 Год назад +3

      I'm so sorry for your loss. Only God can truly give us the strength to carry us through. Please get involved with a grief share group through a Bible based church. I recently started, and watching the videos really help. You are in my prayers.
      (Proverbs 3:5-6)
      Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.
      The Lord is my firm foundation.💕

    • @anuaravind1
      @anuaravind1 Год назад +1

      Hi, sorry for your loss. Its very difficult . Lost my daughter 17yrs old to suicide 2 months back. Everyday feels too difficult to pass. Mindlessly keeping myself occupied too doesnt help. Hoping that she will be in a better place is my only solace

  • @gordcallow6050
    @gordcallow6050 2 года назад +248

    After losing my wife of 47 years in 2020, I will never “ move on”. All the examples you have talked about have happened to me. I visit her grave often and still share my love and thoughts with her.. She passed at home with me and her daughters holding her hands. Thank you for your insights.

    • @CindyWarren2004
      @CindyWarren2004 2 года назад +14

      As someone who's been the victim of being forced to move on I just wanna let you know that I support you. The love you have for her is something to be proud of. It's admirable, it's beautiful and I hope you can be proud of it too. Good luck

    • @gordcallow6050
      @gordcallow6050 2 года назад +1

      @@CindyWarren2004 Thank you .

    • @DippyHippie
      @DippyHippie 2 года назад

      Where did she “pass” to?

    • @gordcallow6050
      @gordcallow6050 2 года назад +3

      @@DippyHippie isn’t that the question for us all.

    • @zoe-gordon
      @zoe-gordon 2 года назад +3

      “I may leave this plane of existence sooner rather than later, but the love isn’t going anywhere.” this quote hit me in ways that “sorry for your loss” hasn’t ever done. i hope this helps you too ❤️

  • @ilovemypetish
    @ilovemypetish 6 лет назад +287

    My Dad passed away today. He had a massive heart attack. He had a lot of medical problems and was wheelchair bound. Even so I didn't think something like this would happen. Just yesterday I remember him laughing and playing with the dog. It's so surreal and it feels like a dream. I cried so much, I no longer have any tears to cry. It hurts but at the same time, I feel numb. I can't understand it. And I'm worried about my Mom. They had been married 27 years. She may act tough but I'm afraid she'll break under the immense pressure. I can't lose another parent.

    • @kelleyfunnylady
      @kelleyfunnylady 6 лет назад +26

      Im so sorry to hear this. I hope my talk helped you in some small tiny way, keep him alive everyday and help your mom to do the same. She will need you, and you, her. lean on each other, feel free to reach out to me anytime.

    • @miaka8743
      @miaka8743 5 лет назад +8

      same as yours. This is exactly what I am feeling right now. It's never easy to cope with a loss of a love one specially our Father.

    • @christinemoccia477
      @christinemoccia477 5 лет назад +8

      I'm so sorry for your loss. Be there for her. She's being strong for you and you can draw strength from her. be there for each other. Love and cherish every moment you have with her. I lost my Dad 3 years ago, my brother 4 years ago and my beautiful daughter 4 months ago. Be strong, pray, cry, be angry. But always be there for each other. God bless you.

    • @hhjkkbejkmn3318
      @hhjkkbejkmn3318 5 лет назад +5

      Heartbreaking. I hope you're both doing alright, this made me so sad. My condolences & prayers to your family.

    • @KaylaJohnson1995
      @KaylaJohnson1995 5 лет назад +2

      I'm sorry for your loss

  • @samanthak9078
    @samanthak9078 5 лет назад +171

    My mother's funeral was today, I lost my Dad two years ago. This helped a lot. I am very open about my grief and struggles, it's how I cope. It can feel very isolating because it feels like you're the only one who feels that way, but knowing I'm not the only one is so powerful, it certainly helps.

    • @jaylac6391
      @jaylac6391 4 года назад +4

      With my sister being killed, I feel all alone. I understand about feeling isolated. However, there are people in my life that has been reaching out.. very few. But when I need someone to talk to, I have a few friends I can call.

  • @camillec.4518
    @camillec.4518 2 года назад +335

    I lost my husband of 26yrs on 2/9/22. The pain and emptiness I feel is indescribable. I appreciate this TED TALK, because I'll never move-on.😔

    • @MsAimm
      @MsAimm 2 года назад +9

      I’m really sorry for your loss 🥺
      My grandma passed away last year and I hope all of us get through those tough times 🙏🏼💛
      Many thanks to the amazing speaker 🙏🏼💛💛

    • @susancuzelis5128
      @susancuzelis5128 2 года назад +19

      I feel the same. I lost my husband to Covid, we were about to celebrate our 50th Anniversary, I had to cancel our trip. It’s been 7 months and I feel like I died myself and will never have joy again. No one understands this pain only other people who have loved so deeply and lost their love one. You have my deepest sympathy.

    • @jyotsnaomahony4731
      @jyotsnaomahony4731 2 года назад +7

      your life will paint more memories around your memories together - you will never forget.

    • @imeldafe1803
      @imeldafe1803 2 года назад +3

      You will never move on the memories are there you are alive just live with all the bygones

    • @Kat-zc9vm
      @Kat-zc9vm 2 года назад +3

      I know this pain too
      Lost mine 3 days after Xmas December 28th 2021
      You're right.
      Move on? What are they saying?
      "Hurry and be yourself again or be fake because I can't cope with your grief/ loss"
      Ignorance.
      I love this gals Ted talk.
      A refreshing new view

  • @agatha1812
    @agatha1812 4 года назад +459

    I've lost my boyfriend almost 4 months ago to leukemia.. I don't know how i'll ever marry someone else because I will never stop loving him the most ❤️💔 also people telling me to move on makes me so angry lol

    • @JoelManrique
      @JoelManrique 4 года назад +28

      Take all the time you need ..there's no such thing as moving ON but from what I've learned from the death of my four-year old daughter is that there is moving WITH GRIEF. Your bf will always be a part of you... I am dedicating my RUclips channel to remember my sweet beloved daughter and to make awareness that grief and depression is something not to be taken lightly.

    • @agatha1812
      @agatha1812 4 года назад +7

      @@JoelManrique thank you Joel. I'm very sorry for your loss.

    • @itzjackie8606
      @itzjackie8606 4 года назад +5

      Me too 🥺

    • @agatha1812
      @agatha1812 4 года назад +6

      @@itzjackie8606 its the worst pain imaginable..

    • @maxlynx3911
      @maxlynx3911 4 года назад +2

      😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @jeremywu1238
    @jeremywu1238 4 года назад +58

    The following quote from Brother Bear 2 is one of my all time favourites, "Once you love someone, they stay in your heart forever."

  • @saratarek2571
    @saratarek2571 5 лет назад +146

    I’m speechless..
    I lost my mother 4 months ago,and many of our close friends and family have told me to “move on” everytime we met..I too stopped meeting them and have isolated myself..I don’t and won’t ever understand how you can forget someone you loved so truly and deepy and get on with life..no..that’s not the way..
    Thankyou for these amazing words,I hope people who don’t understand the loss of losing a loved one can be more mindful and considerate...this couldn’t have been said better ❤️
    miss you mama 💔

    • @tamitami479
      @tamitami479 4 года назад +1

      cant hold my tear as i can feel the pain

    • @joeestes8114
      @joeestes8114 4 года назад +1

      God bless you! You never get over loosing a loved one, you just go on and miss them.I still have my mom and dad and I love so much n yell them every time we speak. I think our memories of our loved ones stays alive because we think and talk about them. God bless

    • @AZTLANSOLDIER13
      @AZTLANSOLDIER13 4 года назад +1

      I'm sorry people responded to you like that. That sucks. My dad just died and I'm afraid people will "move on" faster than me.

    • @iamangela171
      @iamangela171 4 года назад +1

      Sending Condolences!🙏
      I lost my Mom..2 years ago, losing a Mother is so difficult it leaves a hole in your heart! 💔😥💔🙏

  • @lisalynnn
    @lisalynnn 3 года назад +42

    My husband died on January 30th. Our youngest daughter asked me why people don't talk to her about her father. My oldest daughter told her it's because people are scared of us. No one knows what to do with us. Children are able to express feelings much better than adults.

    • @colinjamieson7225
      @colinjamieson7225 3 года назад

      My sincere condolence. It's Colin. I'm from Boxford, US. I noticed from your comment that you must be a positive personality. Nice meeting you here. May I have the chance to know the Angel behind this beautiful face?

    • @markdavis1066
      @markdavis1066 3 года назад

      I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
      I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! It'd be nice if you just say Hi, here is my number +7866326441 or rather you send me your gmail address so i could reach out on you.

    • @checkmate6019
      @checkmate6019 3 года назад +4

      @@colinjamieson7225 Colin,this is a RUclips comment section where people are talking about their losses.Not the time

  • @elainekent6821
    @elainekent6821 3 года назад +283

    When Someone Dies, there is No Such Thing as Moving On

    • @sdumolunga8732
      @sdumolunga8732 3 года назад +1

      Exactly

    • @finesseg5259
      @finesseg5259 3 года назад +2

      You never ever get over it...it just gets a little easier to cope with in time...

    • @aliciajames3510
      @aliciajames3510 3 года назад

      @@finesseg5259 Yes, I agree. In 2013 I lost my Father and my Grandfather 3 months apart of each other. As heart breaking as it was and still is, it does get easier coping. I love talking about them to family and friends. 🙏🙏

    • @colleenjeffries3334
      @colleenjeffries3334 3 года назад

      I understand perfectly!

    • @minedavaz1019
      @minedavaz1019 3 года назад

      Yup you said that right

  • @rina-vh1rz
    @rina-vh1rz Год назад +7

    My twin sister died last November 2022 . That was unexpected she's sick but not terminally ill. She's even working as a regular employee. Her death was so sudden. Unexpected. She was the Joy of our family. She's my best friend. She's the only person in this world who knows me the best. And now that she's gone , I felt like a part of me also died . Felt like I cant never be happy the same way I was before. Up until this moment , I still longing . her voice, her smile everything . I just miss every single moment with her. I miss her so bad

  • @liladavis514
    @liladavis514 2 года назад +160

    This made me cry in such a good way. I miss my mom every day, and thank you so much for giving me permission to miss her and not feel apologetic about it.

  • @pamcoffman7388
    @pamcoffman7388 7 лет назад +337

    Thank you. I lost my husband on 12/28/14 and my daughter on 5/31/17. My daughter was the only one who would talk to me about her Dad, and now I have no one to talk to about her death. And everyone says they will call you, but no one calls or contacts me.

    • @kelleyfunnylady
      @kelleyfunnylady 7 лет назад +47

      Pam, I am so sorry that you have had so much loss, and nowhere to release all that grief. They say that grief is simply "love, with nowhere to go" , which is 100% true, which is why it never leaves us and why we have the need to speak of them forever - because we love them. You can tell me about your husband and your daughter anytime. I will always listen. Here, or PM me on Facebook at Kelley Lynn. Sending you love today.

    • @ummu8686
      @ummu8686 6 лет назад +12

      You have God with you. I know it's very hard but you must try to live your life.

    • @heavenoo4999
      @heavenoo4999 6 лет назад +11

      Pam Coffman it's hard ..but No choice ....Take care of urself..some time words are not enough to heal that pain .....I lost Love of my life.. . honestly feels like I am empty from inside... ..just waiting and wishing for my own time when I will Reunit with him....

    • @name3626
      @name3626 6 лет назад +9

      You can talk to me. I lost my mom 02/03/18. I hope you’re okay.

    • @jdvandeventer
      @jdvandeventer 6 лет назад +11

      Pam Coffman I think I know how you feel. I lost my Dad a month ago. And I am scared of forgetting about him, his wonderful sense of humor. His caring. The Love he gave to Everyone

  • @Alexander-jy6te
    @Alexander-jy6te 5 лет назад +122

    I had to stop right after the first quote. "Nobody ever told me that grief felt so much like fear." - I screamed because I finally heard someone say out loud what I couldn't put to words! This is EXACTLY how I feel every time grief comes up again. I lost my mother to a heart-attack out of nowhere 4 months ago, and I feel like the grief is getting worse with time. Not because I didnt grief when she died, but because I felt numb. Just numbness. And now the numbness finally started to wear off, and grief comes up. The crying was something I expected, sure, but the fear was unexpected. Sometimes it even feels like im close to a panic attack. Normal day to day things, which I dealt with smoothly in the past, suddenly become huge issues which seem impossible to solve. Now I finally know this is not me loosing my mind, but actually just a normal part of grief. Thank you for this amazing talk! It resonated a lot with me. And I will definitely check out "A grief observed"!

    • @latoyafennen4853
      @latoyafennen4853 4 года назад +1

      I did the exact same thing. As she continued I was like yes yes yes! That is exactly why I’m here.

    • @reneet5858
      @reneet5858 4 года назад

      Oh heck yes, the first months were a breeze compared to the last 6 months!

    • @alaskagamer6351
      @alaskagamer6351 3 года назад

      Let yourself feel every feeling whether its sadness, anger, joy (at the happy memories) they're all valid. Take your time to heal. Nothing will ever be the same EVER but we can only take it one day at a time and control what we can and let go of what we can't

  • @lebasi0408
    @lebasi0408 5 лет назад +90

    I lost my beautiful momma today, we witnessed her gasp her last breath. This helped mend a tiny piece of my shattered heart. Thank you ❤

    • @smyliebynature
      @smyliebynature 4 года назад +8

      I'm sorry for your loss. The death of a mother is really hard. My mom died as well. Praying for your strength during this time.

  • @chrisdoden132
    @chrisdoden132 4 года назад +78

    Finally. Someone who knows exactly how I feel. My husband of 38 years passed away 3 months ago. He was 74. “Well at least you had so many years together”. Who says that to a person who has just lost the love of their life. The person was a stranger thank god and not a friend. Today is Fathers Day and I can’t stop crying for the father of his children who didn’t get “so many years together”.

    • @azeemrasheed110
      @azeemrasheed110 4 года назад +1

      I lost my dad 3 days ago. I'm here to find some peace. I feel your pain. I understand what u r going through. Hang in there, we are all together in this phase. God bless u.

    • @chrisdoden132
      @chrisdoden132 4 года назад +1

      Azeem Rasheed Thank you Azeem. I hope you find that peace you’re looking for during this difficult time.

    • @ruthvanhorne1680
      @ruthvanhorne1680 3 года назад +1

      That's what people say to me because we were married for almost 60 years.......it sure as heck doesn't help.

    • @woof8693
      @woof8693 3 года назад +2

      my dad died almost a week ago and i’m only 14. i don’t know what to do i need help i had so much more time left with him

    • @chrisdoden132
      @chrisdoden132 3 года назад +2

      @@woof8693 I am so sorry you have to suffer this pain but especially at your age. The teenage years are hard enough to go through as it is but to suffer this loss is unimaginable. I’m sure there must be grief support groups for someone your age. I hope you seek one out. It actually helps more to talk with people in your own age group. They understand a little bit more the feelings you’re having. My thoughts are with you during this very difficult time.

  • @VetraFX
    @VetraFX 3 года назад +160

    If anyone who has lost a loved one is reading this, please take care and be strong. I know it’s easy saying it but please try. I’ve seen so many sad heartbreaking comments and everyone here seems to have lost someone very precious to them.
    I know how it feels because I lost my step dad to covid last year.💙

    • @wallyworld7665
      @wallyworld7665 3 года назад +4

      Thank you so much I needed to read that

    • @vickysollid9435
      @vickysollid9435 3 года назад

      p

    • @catherinesyme901
      @catherinesyme901 3 года назад +2

      ❤️🙏

    • @VetraFX
      @VetraFX 3 года назад +1

      @@wallyworld7665 Now worries, anytime pal. How you holding up now?

    • @karengilbert9016
      @karengilbert9016 3 года назад +6

      I did CPR on my dad 85 He didn’t want to be back in this world .He was very depressed because of my mum she forgetting all the time .l had a feeling inside that something was going to happen.He was a strong man . Bless him Ron Gilbert.🌹life is very hurtful .l send my love to you all for your loss 💕

  • @mauiswift6391
    @mauiswift6391 Год назад +19

    I lost my grandmother yesterday who was almost 97. I was very close to her and I knew it would be a difficult loss and when the time came I am devastated. It hurts more than imagined. I have however felt this pain before, it returns once again. It is the unfortunate side effect of true love.

    • @luisgregoryhinojosa
      @luisgregoryhinojosa Год назад +1

      I feel with you Mauiswift. Such a close loving togetherness, nothing else can replace that. I guess it’s the gift we get as human beings. I just lost my dad Nov 2 2022. It’s all new hurt I’ve never experienced in my life. Everyday been slowly hard to adjust along with tears throughout the day. When I think of him.

    • @mauiswift6391
      @mauiswift6391 Год назад

      @@luisgregoryhinojosa 🙏🏻

  • @emilytarter7014
    @emilytarter7014 3 года назад +56

    lost my grandma to als. The last time i said goodbye. “Nana please dont leave me”
    The last thing she could do she used on me, squeezing my hand before she passed.
    I love u more than the world and i miss u so much, im becoming a doctor to help others with als, trying so hard to make u proud nana ❤️🤧

    • @colinjamieson7225
      @colinjamieson7225 3 года назад

      My sincere condolence. It's Colin. I'm from Boxford, US. I noticed from your comment that you must be a positive personality. Nice meeting you here. May I have the chance to know the Angel behind this beautiful face?

  • @pritidajgaye8161
    @pritidajgaye8161 2 года назад +251

    Recently I lost my father and I am 19, this is something I really need very badly, thank you so much to the Beautiful lady❤️ Stay blessed 🙏

    • @laeticiaflorent3475
      @laeticiaflorent3475 2 года назад +9

      Hi Priti i've lost my mum when i was 18 nearly 19. My mum was fighting against cancer.i understand your pain and may be your anger to this world. As i didn't cry a lot at my mum funeral, people expected that i didn't need help. I wish a was dead too. Sometime the only thing left for us in this world is hope, faith

    • @ms.whitefolks1223
      @ms.whitefolks1223 2 года назад +3

      I'm sorry you did not have more time with your mother

    • @soofu
      @soofu 2 года назад +2

      @@laeticiaflorent3475 I am very sorry for your losses a friend of mine lost his mother 2 weeks before his 20th birthday, she died this month and I'm trying my best to be as supportive and comforting and understanding to a situation I have no true understanding of. Sending you a soft hug

    • @derydominic1162
      @derydominic1162 2 года назад +7

      i lost my dad this month i ask myself all the time why didn't death skip my dad so he can enjoy the fruit of his labour before going he has laboured alot to give me and my brothers the life and comfort we have now and i always had plans to make him a proud and happy father. i've found it hard to deal with his loss and my thoughts are all scattered and i don't know who to talk to. to all those who have lost a love one may you find comfort and may the pain end soon.

    • @Simon-xi8tb
      @Simon-xi8tb 2 года назад +1

      my mother died yesterday.

  • @dawnpiper5883
    @dawnpiper5883 10 месяцев назад +7

    My darling ten year old Grandson was tragically killed three months ago, I cry every day but I am still talking about him still recalling all the wonderful memories but people are as you say nearly embarrassed and no longer ask how I am just say time will heal the other day I was asked if I wanted a Christmas hat to wear at work , I was mortified, I will never get over his death but I will learn to live with it somehow as will my son who is going through a hundred times the pain I am I hope all of you suffering finds your own peace and your own way through it all

  • @cyndeelliott3202
    @cyndeelliott3202 2 года назад +30

    grief depression is like someone took your heart right out of your body

  • @cambelss
    @cambelss 2 года назад +48

    My dog passed away one month ago. There's no words to explain the pain I have inside me. I don't want to forget nothing about him, I'm really scared. He was my best friend, I don't want to do nothing, I just want him. Sending love to all of you who are living through this horrible moment

    • @lavaymyles8302
      @lavaymyles8302 2 года назад +3

      💜

    • @karolinrappjohansson8692
      @karolinrappjohansson8692 Год назад +6

      I feel your pain,i lost my beloved cat after 12 years together,30 juni 2022.The sorrow i feel is so big,i have difficulties to go up in the mornings after he died,i just want to Sleep all the time,dont know whats wrong with me.

    • @susanah0202
      @susanah0202 Год назад +6

      @@karolinrappjohansson8692 feel you, loving our animal friends as our closest family members, I cried everyday, I'm not open to talk to people about my feelings cuz for them was just a cat, nobody understand :( so I am only embrassing my memories with her, her toys, her pictures... Miss Valentina so much, a hug from the distance sister 🙏🫂

    • @karolinrappjohansson8692
      @karolinrappjohansson8692 Год назад +3

      @@susanah0202 thank you so much,s big hug back to you ❤️❤️❤️

    • @claudiagaray1974
      @claudiagaray1974 Год назад +5

      It’s been 7months for me that my dog passed. It still hurts and I’m one of those that stay silent about it now. But they’re always in our heart.

  • @AngelaSmith-tz7wr
    @AngelaSmith-tz7wr 2 года назад +105

    My husband passed away at the young age of 37. I was almost 44. It’s been almost 8 years ago and people still have a hard time when I talk about him, people who knew him well. It drives me crazy! I love to share stories and laugh about the good times. I’ve come to the realization that I think people think if they acknowledge it, it makes it possible that it could happen to them, so they put it out of their mind. No one wants to be in my shoes. It was great to hear the speaker’s point of view and I think it’s great! Thank you!

    • @rh5524
      @rh5524 2 года назад

      So true 🌹

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 2 года назад

      I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
      I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +1 (786 322 3959..
      or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you....

    • @MasterApoc81
      @MasterApoc81 2 года назад +5

      My wife died at 34yrold last year and I can relate to what your saying. It helps me have happiness to talk bout her and relive stories of her

    • @ImranKhan-tj3dr
      @ImranKhan-tj3dr 2 года назад

      Hi ❤❤🌷🌷

    • @KZ-vj6km
      @KZ-vj6km 2 года назад

      No-one wants to be in your shoes? A part of life is that we lose those we love and it is very painful, you are not in unusual shoes, it happens to us all at some point, so how can they wish not to be in your shoes.

  • @kathytruong8188
    @kathytruong8188 8 месяцев назад +6

    This is beautiful…I’m in deep grief over my dad’s recent death on Christmas eve. It hurts more than I can bear but watching this eased my heart. Especially the part about Love never dies. Thank you 😭💔

  • @sherrypippen3185
    @sherrypippen3185 5 лет назад +184

    My precious son died on February 18, 2019. When I wake up, my heart breaks realizing it’s true.

    • @dr.zahrarefaei843
      @dr.zahrarefaei843 5 лет назад +3

      Hi dear how old he was also i lost my son how u deal with it what u think of life after dead

    • @peggyhunter9499
      @peggyhunter9499 4 года назад +5

      Loss my daughter it's true pain is something else when it's your child it's so hard I cannot get over her it hurt so much.

    • @LeenaBusan1980
      @LeenaBusan1980 4 года назад +2

      Sherry Pippen I’m so sorry

    • @inherewithus
      @inherewithus 4 года назад +10

      I believe grief is like a byproduct of love, it’s proof that love happened and goes on. I know you can’t stop your grief, and that’s ok, feel it and don’t attempt to resist it for it honors the love you shared with your son. I strongly believe one day we will all be reunited one way or another. Blessings.

    • @kingdase2963
      @kingdase2963 4 года назад +2

      @Sherry Pippen your beloved son died on my late mother birthday. I'm so sorry 💔 for your loss

  • @steveo.574
    @steveo.574 3 года назад +64

    12 years ago today, so much has happened. And so much has changed. Most of my friends still have their mothers and fathers. They don't know what it's like to go from seeing someone everyday, to not at all.

    • @srijonighosh697
      @srijonighosh697 2 года назад +2

      OMG I AM SO SORRY TOHEAR THAT I KNOW HOW IT FEELS I LOST MY DAD TOO AND I AM 17 I SEE MY CLASSMATES TALK ABOUT THEIR FATHERS BUT I DONT HAVE ONE NOW BUT I GIVE MYSELF CONDOLENCE SAYING HE IS THE REASON WHY I EXIST AND UNTIL MY EXISTENCE IS THERE HIS IS THERE TOO AMD NOW HE IS AN ANGEL BLESSING ME FROM HEAVEN AND YOUR PARENTS ARE ALSP WITH YOU I KNOW I AM JUST A STRANGER BUT SENDING ALL GOOD VIBES AND TONNES OF LOVE FROM ME TO YOU I KNOW THIS PAIN WILL NEVER BE HEALED BUT I AM WITH YOU AND ALL THOSE PEOPLE WHO LOST THEIR FATHER/MOTHER/PARENTS/BROTHER OR SIBLINGS ARE WITH YOU PLS BE STRONG THEY ARE WITH YOU💞💞💞💕💕💕💕

  • @nativon926
    @nativon926 Год назад +7

    My best friend died a year ago after the holidays. I've been having a hard time without her. I haven't spoken the words out loud, that she has passed. My world is so small. I miss her so much but watching this video makes me feel a little less alone. Thank you so much, everyone.

  • @arisaris3484
    @arisaris3484 5 лет назад +50

    Excellent talk!!! The best statement I have ever heard, "Tell me more about your love one", giving the grieving survivor permission to express their grief and a caring ear to listen.

  • @dustinmcclure2338
    @dustinmcclure2338 2 года назад +52

    My father passed yesterday at only 50. I'm in my mid 20s and I am so lost right now. These videos are bringing the tears for me

    • @mahdibashiri_
      @mahdibashiri_ 2 года назад +1

      U feelin any better ? Cause I just lost mom a few days ago...

    • @loganhouse6984
      @loganhouse6984 Год назад

      @@mahdibashiri_ live a beautiful life in her honor ❤️❤️❤️ I love you

    • @anastasiadawson5079
      @anastasiadawson5079 Год назад +1

      so relatable, my dad passed away on january 16th at 51 years old, i’m only 21 and i will never have my dad with me for the rest of my life… this is heartbreaking

    • @alexilinn1
      @alexilinn1 Год назад

      My man, dont give up on life. He would loved to see you being happy.

    • @margaretvan4909
      @margaretvan4909 Год назад

      I hope you're feeling a little better. 50 is way too young and especially if you're a dad. But think of what he gave you and as time passes you will feel all his gifts for you manifest themselves as you gain more substance in yourself. I know this because I lost my husband recently this spring.

  • @geletmote
    @geletmote Год назад +8

    Absolutely 100% agree, people who say move on to you especially family members is such an insensitive thing to say, they have no idea.

  • @fbfleming
    @fbfleming 7 лет назад +289

    What a great message! We all need to keep telling the stories of our loved ones, moving forward and through. People will die, but love does not.

    • @beverleyblakeney898
      @beverleyblakeney898 6 лет назад +2

      Thank you ...as happened to you...I have just lost my beloved .

    • @smileyladyT
      @smileyladyT 6 лет назад +3

      Yes, forever in our hearts never forgotten!

    • @markpalavos3742
      @markpalavos3742 5 лет назад

      @@smileyladyT Hey are in another dimension with God.

  • @Jay23487
    @Jay23487 2 года назад +71

    This is the exact mindset I want to share to people who always says "move on" as if its nothing. THIS IS HOW I FEEL "They don't really understand don't they?".

    • @KZ-vj6km
      @KZ-vj6km 2 года назад

      Why are you so dependent on what other people think, your grief and your love are yours nobody can take them from you. I have to say I've never in my entire life come across anybody who would say 'move on', I just wouldn't be drawn to anyone who would say it. But in many ways grief is a private thing because nobody can truly understand your individual inner torment, and your sense of grieving and well being is not dependent on what others say or think is it?

  • @TREmusic
    @TREmusic Год назад +8

    I lost my dad a month ago, and honestly these comments of 'got to move on' is the toughest to hear, this pain of losing your parent is very painful and the shared memory flashes in front of my eyes everytime. Can't imagine the years I'd have to live in this pain till I meet him again. To everyone going through this, sending hugs. 🙏🏼

    • @NOSARIERE1234
      @NOSARIERE1234 Год назад +1

      I lost my dad this month November 2022 the pain in my heart still remains I love he so much
      .it break my heart he no more crying rip daddy you are always in my heart every day

  • @ginnyr8946
    @ginnyr8946 3 года назад +28

    No such thing as moving on when you really love someone! Love is forever in your heart and soul! ♥️

  • @joy7900
    @joy7900 3 года назад +304

    My mom died because of cancer 😭 I can't move on, it hurts really hurts 😭 miss my mom so much

    • @guymichel8533
      @guymichel8533 3 года назад +18

      Same here Joy. The pain is unbearable that my chest hurts. I want my mom back and really can’t move on...at this time.

    • @chethanapere
      @chethanapere 3 года назад +6

      I'm so sorry for your loss 💔

    • @jynmwai5683
      @jynmwai5683 3 года назад +9

      Hug's dear💓💓💓 my mum also died of that miserable disease and sometimes my heart gets into peace to know she is resting because the pain she was going through was too much😭😭💔

    • @mhigzdeblois8982
      @mhigzdeblois8982 3 года назад +3

      I lost my partner with the same disease and she just left us on the 1st of April 2021 and I'm still missing her

    • @nosisamaphisa3740
      @nosisamaphisa3740 3 года назад +5

      I lost my mom a week ago because of cancer. Its not easy at all😭😭😭😭

  • @markcolasuonno2415
    @markcolasuonno2415 3 года назад +80

    Part of myself died , with him . An emptiness that I can’t describe .

    • @thepriestess5969
      @thepriestess5969 3 года назад +3

      I relate so much, you're not alone. Your feelings are true and valid.

    • @rev.fr.ejikembaka1303
      @rev.fr.ejikembaka1303 3 года назад

      Today, as you go out, you shall be blessed. You shall return with great fortunes. Your coming in shall be fulfilling. Morning will work for your good. My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day. message me on WhatsApp +2349157547182 I have a surprise for you God bless

    • @lakishachilds8161
      @lakishachilds8161 2 года назад +2

      I feel the same way.

  • @sheila6246
    @sheila6246 Год назад +18

    Thankyou for a great video. I would like to say, that I cannot ever be rid of the love I feel for my Mum who died last year. I look at her photo on the wall and say good morning to her every day. Regardless who we lose in our life, I personally feel that they are always with us everyday while we remember them in our hearts and minds. The silly people who say "move on ", have no idea what true love feels like and the feelings we have when that person we love dies. Yes, it might get easier with time, but they are never forgotten and our love is always with them .

    • @kelleyfunnylady
      @kelleyfunnylady Год назад

      you re so right. I hope my talk helped a little bit. Keep on remembering and sharing their story.

    • @mrssofious
      @mrssofious Год назад

      Time doesn't heal the pain....at least for me

  • @tarah_j
    @tarah_j 2 года назад +30

    my older sister died suddenly a month ago, only 33 years old and now I spend every single day paralyzed by fear because I know I have to go through this pain multiple times in my life when my parents, pets, and other siblings die and sometimes it makes me hope I go first. This is a pain no one understands until they experience it themselves.

    • @emmakate2376
      @emmakate2376 Год назад

      🤍 sending love to you i also lost my 16 year old sister due to a guy who blacked out on Viagra and she got hit by a car and died instantly with her 11 year old boyfriends sister. losing a loved one is so painful i’m 15 and lost her in a mental hospital but i don’t want to make this about me i just want you to know you aren’t alone and dealing with a lose of a loved one suddenly is so painful and your pain and grief is valid i’m wishing you healing and love i’m so unbelievably sorry for you

  • @garysmith4174
    @garysmith4174 3 года назад +20

    Life is unfair and cruel. I lost my mom 4 months ago and now everyday has turned into struggle to live without her.

    • @tiagobjesus
      @tiagobjesus 2 года назад +1

      :( I can only imagine Gary, no words will help, but a huge hug from Portugal.

  • @doobadoobee751
    @doobadoobee751 Год назад +11

    The worst part about losing someone is when you realize that you barely knew them. Like imagine finding out the amazing things someone went through only AFTER they pass away.

  • @catsbythefire
    @catsbythefire 2 года назад +37

    I lost my Mom on Remembrance Day, 15 months after my Dad died. That was 24/25 years ago, I am still grieving to this day 😢 I will never get over their deaths, but I talk about them a lot, because I loved them so much, and need to keep their memories alive, for me.

  • @bonniefarrell9854
    @bonniefarrell9854 3 года назад +77

    It's been 30 years since I lost my husband, my soul mate! I still miss him and will never be able to stop talking about him or loving him!

    • @markdavis1066
      @markdavis1066 3 года назад +2

      I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
      I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! It'd be nice if you just say Hi, here is my number +7866326441 or rather you send me your gmail address so i could reach out on you.

    • @SSsmith24
      @SSsmith24 3 года назад +2

      41 yrs for me,,,Same here,,I’m so sorry🌹

    • @kathyporto3705
      @kathyporto3705 2 года назад +1

      I lost my soulmate 6 months ago. I met him when my mother died and he came to help my family when I was a teenager.
      I'm in excruciating pain right now. How do you go on from this.

  • @fairpastelfairy1681
    @fairpastelfairy1681 2 месяца назад +1

    This was incredibly powerful. I came here because I lost my beloved gentle soul of a cat two days ago and the grief hit me like a truck. This was so inspiring. I feel so much more at ease with the fact that it affects me so much. Thank you, truly, for your words. They made a big difference for me.

  • @donparker6679
    @donparker6679 3 года назад +64

    To everyone who lost someone that they loved, I wanna say thank you for not giving up on the departed. As Vision said in WandaVision, “What is grief, if not love enduring?” I couldn’t have put it better myself. I wish everyone futures filled with happiness and love everlasting. Thank you.

  • @certifiedfancy760
    @certifiedfancy760 3 года назад +47

    Lost my 24 year old son three weeks ago..... I’m so sad..... angry.....confused....hurt .... questioning god everyday 😓😓😓I’m not ok and I will never be the same 💔🙏🏽

    • @Sara-bk5lx
      @Sara-bk5lx 3 года назад +5

      Hold on, you are not alone 💚💚

    • @certifiedfancy760
      @certifiedfancy760 3 года назад +1

      @@Sara-bk5lx 🙏🏽thank you

    • @DavidKing-qd3sp
      @DavidKing-qd3sp 3 года назад

      God knows what it is like to lose a Son...but in Christ we are promised eternal life, sorry for your loss

    • @fitnessymas9605
      @fitnessymas9605 3 года назад

      ❤️ be strong

    • @Nrbrelic
      @Nrbrelic 3 года назад +4

      I just lost my son 6 weeks ago... I know what your going through... I know I will never be the same....💔💔💔💔

  • @cashaakridge
    @cashaakridge 3 года назад +20

    Thanks for sharing. My mom died unexpectedly 4 years ago. Worst pain I’ve ever felt. Still grieving till this day 😞😞 I’ve been crying all day today missing my Mom then, stumble across this video which explains exactly how I feel. Now i know I’m not alone.

    • @Lena-yj4il
      @Lena-yj4il 3 года назад +2

      I losted my mama one decade more than you and believe me there is no single day i wont miss her terribly....Yes, 14 yrs and still there is the gap!!!

    • @Lena-yj4il
      @Lena-yj4il 3 года назад

      Of course I am sending you my condolency.

    • @cashaakridge
      @cashaakridge 3 года назад

      @@Lena-yj4il Thank you & Sending my condolences to you as well. 🙏🏽❤️

  • @carleenjohnson9063
    @carleenjohnson9063 9 месяцев назад +4

    My daughter, 43, is dieing from ALS, diagnosed this past June, is already totally wheelchair bound, cannot feed herself and can only eat pureed food. We all are hoping she makes it a few months into the new year. She is my best friend as well as my daughter. If, even once, someone tells me to 'move on', my answer will be brief...move on to what? I miss her voice already, as she is really not capable of forming words anymore. I will never, ever let her be forgotten, not ever. I love you Alexis, always and forever.

    • @amohanjazz
      @amohanjazz 9 месяцев назад +1

      Wishing you and her strength and healing…

    • @carleenjohnson9063
      @carleenjohnson9063 8 месяцев назад

      @@amohanjazz She passed away a week go tomorrow, and I realized, when I was given the news, as her kids and partner wanted to only be the ones with her at the end, that Ive been grieving ever since the news of her illness. Doesnt make it easier really, but knowing she is no longer suffering, is such a relief. I could do nothing for her, no one could to make her feel even just a little better. The one small mercy God gave her was that she was still capable of moving her left hand at the end, and being a lefty, she was able to send a last goodbye. Ill miss her always, remember her always, but I do know that I will see her again one day. Love you AJ, my babygirl

  • @jackjackson721
    @jackjackson721 5 лет назад +44

    Our human lifetimes are but a drop in the ocean of eternity. Loved ones come and go. Our hearts ache when they go. Life has trials, tribulations, pain, loss, suffering. When our life ends and we awake in our real home, from what seemed like a dream we had in the blink of an eye, we'll realize that all those hardships were tests and how our soul handled them was what really mattered. Did we learn and show strength, patience, perseverance, empathy, compassion. And from the good and blessings in life, did we learn and show how to be humble and selfless. In our heavenly home of complete bliss, love, compassion and understanding, we will be our own harshest judge. Not condemning judgement, but a healthy self-reflection that results in a desire to try life again and get it right. So let's get it right this time. Let's show unconditional love to everyone regardless of their beliefs and actions. Practice self-reflection, always learning how to improve yourself to be the best you. Laugh at yourself, it's healthy. Help others without giving it a second thought. Allow others to help you. Talk, even if just with your thoughts, to your loved ones who've gone home before you. Your reunion will be sweeter than you can imagine.

  • @MelindaMysticWitch
    @MelindaMysticWitch 6 лет назад +391

    Absolutely beautiful, almost had me tearing up. Grief is something we need to talk about in order to move through it with courage and grace. People told me for years to get over my friend that died in 2012, but I never could and now thanks to that love and his memory I've been helping others with their grief. It's truly amazing what one can accomplish when they put their hearts into it not their minds.

    • @kelleyfunnylady
      @kelleyfunnylady 6 лет назад +9

      absolutely. thank you for being a promoter for change.

    • @clusterjolly7336
      @clusterjolly7336 6 лет назад +10

      Last Frontier Medium I'm having that grief because my beloved passed away last night :"( everybody is lke.... it's God's plan.. but no one can really understand what on earth i'm going to do without him :'( i missed him soooo much and i knoww deep inside me i'm gonna miss him throughout my life..

    • @nathaliestjohn731
      @nathaliestjohn731 6 лет назад +7

      Am stuck after the loss of my dad and also my daughter feel sick

    • @mamapearl2415
      @mamapearl2415 6 лет назад +1

      Last Frontier Medium.

    • @pauliatalbot833
      @pauliatalbot833 6 лет назад +2

      thanks

  • @pandabear4081
    @pandabear4081 Год назад +64

    I just lost my daughter a month ago. She struggled with drug resistant depression and finally gave up. Most of my friends are kind and sensitive. However, I sense the judgement of her action.
    It hurts me when people think she was weak. She could have ... She should have .... No! They don't know how much pain she had. No one can really understand others' pain. Even people claim they understand.

    • @bengelukkig3738
      @bengelukkig3738 Год назад +6

      But you do understand the situation. That’s something you should be glad about because the only thing that matters is that you yourself do understand. Sorry for your loss. Keep remembering how beautiful it is that she has been a part in your life no matter for how long.

    • @soldier4Jesus2022
      @soldier4Jesus2022 Год назад +4

      My mother passed away December 19th 2022 at 2:47@m
      She suffered and struggled a long life.
      She felt like she didn't belong here anymore,she wanted Jesus!
      This is the Hardest experience I have ever experienced.
      My mother was and is my world.
      Please know just like my mother your mother is not suffering anymore!
      They are finally happy with God and it doesn't matter who thinks different.
      God bless you

    • @kimconway3124
      @kimconway3124 Год назад +2

      I am sorry, I know what it can be like to want out of this thing called life. Your daughter was far from weak, I hope she is at peace now and I wish you the best of luck.

    • @Gurl-5150
      @Gurl-5150 Год назад

      I wish I were there with you because I PROMISE YOU, you would NOT be feeling judgment from anyone that wasn't ready for some free dental work

    • @pandabear4081
      @pandabear4081 Год назад +2

      @@Gurl-5150 Thank you for your kindness ! Healing is a long and lonely journey. I feel my daughter's presence and spirit. It is comforting to know she is at peace.

  • @russrichard7114
    @russrichard7114 3 года назад +91

    I lost my dad and my mom within a year of each other. I miss them dearly and it’s never easy to move on cause they are always on my mind.

    • @nancyadams4358
      @nancyadams4358 2 года назад +2

      Maybe they just want you to know they love you always. Peace to you!

    • @howtodothat5302
      @howtodothat5302 2 года назад +2

      i lost my great grandmother on 22 jan 2022 didn't get the chance to tell her goodbye, saw her in her last 24 hours unable to react or even acknowledge my presence,considering she wanted to talk to me,it hurts it really hurts .

    • @howtodothat5302
      @howtodothat5302 2 года назад +2

      im leaving this digital footprint on the internet today 24 January 2022 (02 35 ) in memory of her death (22 January 2022 ) approx 13 30 ) )and the life she lived , the history she holds and the age at which she left us (93 ). May our love for you never dies.

    • @chukskadibiablg166
      @chukskadibiablg166 2 года назад

      It really hot, I'm sorry dear I lost my mom yesterday, can't even sleep.

    • @QWERTY-gp8fd
      @QWERTY-gp8fd 2 года назад

      @@chukskadibiablg166 u need to move on. grief is bad for ur health.

  • @victoriay.3004
    @victoriay.3004 6 лет назад +49

    Beautiful message. I needed to hear this. I lost my boyfriend six years ago to cancer. I will never move on or forget him .

    • @kelleyfunnylady
      @kelleyfunnylady 6 лет назад

      thank you for watching Vicky, Im so happy it helped some. :)

    • @kimmie3082
      @kimmie3082 5 лет назад +1

      I'M SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS VICKY...THE PAIN NEVER GOES AWAY MY GRIEF THERAPIST TOLD ME THE CRUELEST WORDS PPL CAN SAY IS "GET OVER IT " OR "MOVE ON". YOUR LIFE CHANGES WHEN YOU LOOSE SOMEONE YOU LOVE 💔 THE MORE YOU SHARE MEMORIES..THEY NEVER REALLY DIE BUT LIVE ON IN OUR HEARTS FOREVER 💔💔💔

    • @leilahaddadi3066
      @leilahaddadi3066 5 лет назад +2

      I lost my boyfriend in a car crash less than a month ago. I still can't believe he is gone. I know I love him and will never move on. He still lives inside me

    • @nusratsiddique8855
      @nusratsiddique8855 5 лет назад +1

      @@leilahaddadi3066 Same here

  • @tracynewton3083
    @tracynewton3083 Год назад +5

    It gets harder, they are never coming back , ever. 🙏

  • @casioplayer5815
    @casioplayer5815 2 года назад +43

    Life never goes on when you lose someone you truly loved.

    • @stopchildabuse7932
      @stopchildabuse7932 9 месяцев назад +1

      This is so true people don’t know how this feels until it happens to them. I lost my husband last month I have never ever feel something like this the pain is too much for me.

    • @casioplayer5815
      @casioplayer5815 9 месяцев назад

      My condolences @@stopchildabuse7932

  • @hollyx6371
    @hollyx6371 2 года назад +49

    Absolute chills!! "but he lives on every single day because it's my mission to make damn sure of it."

    • @Oregon197
      @Oregon197 Год назад

      I know that's when I started crying... I lost my husband recently, tragically, shockingly. It is so hard. I was glad to come across this woman and another woman I just listened to on one of these Ted talks that had lost her husband also...