How do our brains handle grief? | Mary-Frances O'Connor | TEDxUArizona

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @sr2291
    @sr2291 Год назад +128

    Grief isnt only the physical loss of a loved one. It is loss of anything that was meaningful.

  • @anncostello5894
    @anncostello5894 3 месяца назад +11

    Walking in two worlds.... Not knowing what it will be like to be in the WORLD without your loved One. How profound thank you so much for your talk. I'm 65 and dealt with grief many times. It does get easier but grief never leaves. Just the pain is easier and less intense. ❤❤❤

  • @GriefInspiredCatherineMcNulty
    @GriefInspiredCatherineMcNulty 8 дней назад +1

    Our connection to the people we love deeply will never die and thanks to your research, we understand why this is. Increased Connection = Increased Love = Massive Grief. It makes complete sense. Keep talking and sharing your grief. It makes the world a better place. Grief = learning

  • @reggierico
    @reggierico Год назад +245

    Grief is love with nowhere to go...

  • @rowenveratome
    @rowenveratome Год назад +49

    I love how she described the paradox of walking in both the world of expectation and the world of sensory experience at once. It makes sense to connect that to grief.

  • @kathrynmonaco-douglas9003
    @kathrynmonaco-douglas9003 8 месяцев назад +5

    I have lost my spouse and a child. I facilitate bereavement support groups for close to two decades. Widowednotalone ( no profit)
    I read your book and it gives much needed answers for what’s happening in the brain. Which helps us to understand why emotionally it never completely leaves us. We move forward but we always feel attached. It also is spiritually that two become one. Ty for all your studies to help try to understand.

  • @magnolia8046
    @magnolia8046 Год назад +27

    Mary-Frances O’Conner- your theory on grief and loss has brought me so much peace and understanding as to what I’ve been going through. Thank you so much for all your hard work and sharing this information. You are such a gift.

  • @IdreesSarkani
    @IdreesSarkani Год назад +22

    Theme of the conversation. Attachment is the root of all types of grief.

  • @tammyicious
    @tammyicious Год назад +19

    You have helped me immensely with my grieving. I lost my husband on 9/1/23 after he had heart surgery and never recovered and he died two weeks after the surgery, still in the hospital. This video was so helpful that I will come back and refer to it often. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. 🙏

    • @jflo4032
      @jflo4032 Год назад +2

      My
      Dad died unexpectedly 8/31/23 im so heartbroken im so hurting and sad i feel down and depressed. Grief is awful

    • @j-book3937
      @j-book3937 Год назад +2

      Similar here. My wife of 38 years died in an accident on 8/30/2023. Totally unexpected and has upended my entire existence. It feels as half of me has been ripped away and tears the blood from the wound. Grief just sucks but the way out is clearly the way through. This talk (and book) are helpful in putting the process in perspective and trying to continue on.

    • @tammyicious
      @tammyicious Год назад

      @@jflo4032 , so sorry for your loss. 🙏

    • @tammyicious
      @tammyicious Год назад

      @@j-book3937 , sorry for your loss. Grief is love with no where to go. 🙏

    • @cottontailexpressllc6521
      @cottontailexpressllc6521 7 месяцев назад +1

      Hello, I just lost my husband after surgery as well. It’s painful.

  • @katalinbohdan9122
    @katalinbohdan9122 5 месяцев назад +22

    My future husband has been killed by Russian troops 12 days ago. I can't come to terms with losing him, especially the way he went. Being shot dead. 3 days after i said to him "See you soon. Im afraid to be without you".
    Every day is a fight to stay alive. I'm still searching for him, looking for him, wherever I go

    • @pepik39
      @pepik39 4 месяца назад +2

      😢💕

    • @nn9617
      @nn9617 2 месяца назад +1

      ❤❤❤

    • @Yolanda88
      @Yolanda88 2 месяца назад +2

      So sorry for your loss, unimaginable the amount of pain you are going through. May life bring you peace and joy again in the future. May strength and patience become your best friend right now.

  • @Arieslove176
    @Arieslove176 Месяц назад +1

    This was one of the best things I have ever watched on grief. Thank you @Mary-Francis

  • @BFRIZZLE909
    @BFRIZZLE909 8 месяцев назад +6

    I'm losing my closest friend to cancer, I'm lost I ache. It's hard yet I know I'll find peace in keeping her proud of me.

  • @alinavsn
    @alinavsn 7 месяцев назад +3

    You deserve to be with someone that would do everything it takes to keep you. Period.

  • @lynbeck2359
    @lynbeck2359 Год назад +16

    I’ve lost a long time partner of 20 years (2020) & my precious two Shihtzu 2020&2022 heartbreaking 💔 grief is hard particularly during COVID isolation.
    Good talk to help understand our brains 🧠

  • @doglover1918
    @doglover1918 9 месяцев назад +7

    Her book, The Grieving Brain, is well worth reading.

  • @LucyLane07
    @LucyLane07 Год назад +51

    Ive never understood why i have been prescribed antidepressants because i am grieving. I feel loss of loved ones deeply. Even losing my pets . To me, its a natural process and one needs to go through the stages. The latest loss is my son's fiancee. She died of covid at 27yrs old and it was senseless and shocking. My grief extends to my sons loss of the love of his life.

    • @sr2291
      @sr2291 Год назад

      Doctors believe that drugs solve everything. They probably diagnosed you with depression? Sorry about your family member who died. Covid has been a nightmare for a lot of us.

    • @Humbledone.
      @Humbledone. Год назад +3

      I'm so sorry for your loss.
      I feel loss deeply too. Ivferl everything deeply. It's exhausting. Sending you love ❤

    • @dangnikkixxxily
      @dangnikkixxxily Год назад +4

      I just recently lost the love of my life after 8 years of being together. I feel your son's pain, it hurts...

  • @215juliusgirl
    @215juliusgirl Год назад +10

    The whole thing of that space where someone should be, I grieve others that way, some for 25 years, but I also keep on grieving myself, who I was before chronic illness, when I had energy and was able to work and have friends, family, future, hope. Having to match my present reality with the reality I knew before, to know how old I am and that I don’t remember anything since my 20s and I’m 42. I won’t remember writing this. I miss me. Yes, I miss my fiance who had cancer, my last serious boyfriend who killed himself, so many old friends, so many family members. But every day when I wake up, I have to remember that I’m not her anymore. I’m this.

    • @tinatingson8564
      @tinatingson8564 10 месяцев назад +1

      I hear you, I hope things are better these days. You still have the immediate present.

  • @musiqkidchristian
    @musiqkidchristian Год назад +47

    The stolen dining room table analogy is absolutely genius. The phantom pain of missing what once was.

  • @RandyR
    @RandyR Год назад +38

    Watched my dad die, during April 2013. A major first for me. My brother died on Sept 2 2021. Saw my mom, at hospice, the day before she died on 7/2/2022. Has given me more firsts than anytime before. Nothing can really prepare you for this. Have also lost 4 local friends. Does get a little easier over time. But the pain never totally leaves. I had wished a million times that I could wake up and all this would not be for real. It is. I picture it as an emotionally roller coaster. I have had a dream that I was calling my mom. Then I shook myself and realized i can't😣

    • @Humbledone.
      @Humbledone. Год назад +2

      I'm so sorry ❤

    • @RandyR
      @RandyR Год назад +2

      @@Humbledone.Thanks. Has been a huge challenge in my recovery from drugs and alcohol. No I didn't blow it. Was the seed to my starting my RUclips channel,in Jan 2015. First video was a tribute to my dad. I cared more than I thought

    • @souhaylasouhayla9026
      @souhaylasouhayla9026 Год назад +1

      im so sorry 😢

    • @reflectionOfLyf
      @reflectionOfLyf Год назад +1

      All I can say is that you are not alone.

    • @teenagegarnet
      @teenagegarnet Месяц назад

      🫂

  • @wellbodisalone
    @wellbodisalone Год назад +11

    Grief is something that we all have to go through at some point in our lives. However, you must seek for help if you think it's getting out of your hands. You're not alone.

  • @veraaxoo
    @veraaxoo 4 месяца назад +1

    at first i had my guard up listening, because im under 30 and have 10+ friends die, but, she explained it very well, and also scientifically. it's a hard thing to do to sum up so fast.

  • @ME-bs6qh
    @ME-bs6qh Год назад +23

    Grief is hard. I lost my partner June 2. Grief is love. 😢

    • @Missusri
      @Missusri 7 месяцев назад +3

      I tell you what, grief is like crying, sobbing 24/7 because you want to find someone and you are not able to find....

    • @KathButler-us8jb
      @KathButler-us8jb 5 месяцев назад +1

      ❤️❤️

  • @wndgrm
    @wndgrm 8 месяцев назад

    hi michelle - you are so powerful sharing these vulnerable moments in life. i hope that you and Kaeden continue to be blessed and have the right people on speed dial. i hope too that for the rest of us who stumble here, we all get the support we truly need, find the right people and give our loved ones the love that they deserve. happy easter as well❤

  • @no.1belleandsebastianfan
    @no.1belleandsebastianfan Год назад +20

    I have only had a taste of grief. We rehomed the cat I grew up with. He used to comfort me when I cried, and sleep in my bed at night. I loved him.
    I felt the loss so deeply my Dad thought it was ridiculous. I would dream of him, see him out of the corner of my eye, and cry myself to sleep.
    It’s been a few years. I still love him.

    • @sunshine9122
      @sunshine9122 5 месяцев назад +1

      I'm so sorry your dear kitty was taken from you. I wish the two of you could be reunited.

  • @oxford17
    @oxford17 16 дней назад +1

    When my husband of 17 years abandoned me for an affair partner, it felt as if part of my body had been severed. Literally. I had a sensation of being scooped out from my chin to my pelvis. Overtime, that hollowness filled in little by little. But I still, 12 years later, often feel homesick.

  • @Doggieworld3Show
    @Doggieworld3Show Год назад +17

    Grief is fine. Facing reality, you can remember love and use those memories, those experiences, to realize that you have a purpose to breathe

    • @ajeenatv
      @ajeenatv 2 месяца назад

      Absolutely correct 💯

  • @Jade_902
    @Jade_902 Месяц назад +1

    We were never meant to be apart from our spouse, or other loved ones. Original sin caused death. I could never be functioning through all of my losses (husband, father, two dogs, two aunts, etc. in a 3 year time frame) without the help of God. The loss of my husband since I’ve known since I was 16, is unbearable. My mind, the first 9 months… was nothing but mush. Also, not having any family support, not having other family members to share memories with, spending all holidays alone has been horrific. I couldn’t even utter the words, death, widow, etc. Our martial bond was so strong. And I never expected him to die so young. Also, this happened a year after the pandemic. There were no support groups meeting, no one to talk to.

  • @aliciaanderson1614
    @aliciaanderson1614 Год назад +1

    Thank you so very much!❤

  • @dianalynn301
    @dianalynn301 Год назад +2

    Thank you so much!!

  • @brendabrown1982
    @brendabrown1982 6 месяцев назад +23

    Different when it's your child. You can't find that same kind of bond with another child you meet like a partner or spouse.

    • @TK-dj7ff
      @TK-dj7ff 4 месяца назад +6

      It doesn't work that way. And there is no need or reason to minimize each other's losses. There's enough room for everyone's losses instead of minimizing them and competing with each other all the time about who has it the worst.

    • @FranPeterson-je5hl
      @FranPeterson-je5hl 3 месяца назад +2

      the loss of a child is horrific. Some may feel the same for the loss of a spouse. Grief is just a difficult thing to mold into one way of being.

    • @sarahdjinn593
      @sarahdjinn593 2 месяца назад +1

      @@TK-dj7ff I agree about comparison. But maybe Brenda was just pointing out the difference. And what makes losing a child uniquely challenging to recover from. Not that the overall grief is necessarily greater.

    • @Jade_902
      @Jade_902 Месяц назад

      That’s a bunch of BS to even compare deaths! Your child grows up. Husband and wives stay together and form a bond that they become ONE. My husband could NEVER be replaced! Just like your child could never be replaced. What is wrong with you? @brendabrown1982

    • @Jade_902
      @Jade_902 Месяц назад +1

      @brendabrown1982 You have no idea.

  • @davegball
    @davegball 8 дней назад

    The greater the love the greater the grief.

  • @TartempionLampion
    @TartempionLampion Месяц назад +3

    Grieve doesn't "last so long", it never ends.

  • @funnytv-1631
    @funnytv-1631 Год назад +4

    Grief is so worrying

  • @lolahernandez6871
    @lolahernandez6871 Год назад +14

    Lets not forget grief is not just the loss of someone or a pet . It can be loss of an ideology or a dream.❤❤

    • @anavigil7603
      @anavigil7603 Год назад +1

      Even a move to a different city or state can be devastating - for me it was many moves as a child in the 60s and 70s.

    • @user-vn9sh6hv8r
      @user-vn9sh6hv8r 10 месяцев назад +4

      Yes, but until you lose someone you really love you will never know how much harder and deeper the pain of grief is than that. I would lose many dreams and ideologies if it meant having my brother back. Grief over a loved one is not something that you can imagine until it happens to you. To compare it to a losing a dream is... well, just not in the same realm.

    • @lolahernandez6871
      @lolahernandez6871 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@user-vn9sh6hv8r I'm very aware of that, I've had many clo losses all through my life. I wasn't comparing grief, I just mentioned it can be a shattered dream or an ideology. ❤️❤️

  • @kapzvara5732
    @kapzvara5732 Год назад +2

    Great talk and like the idea of talking about grief.

  • @wingedinfinity6715
    @wingedinfinity6715 Год назад +8

    With all that "knowledge" (worldly), but no real answers, .... because everything is Spiritual, and one will only be able to truly KNOW the answers through connection with Spirit, The Spirit of God. May she learn this sooner rather than later. 💞🙏💞

    • @Lindawhitelaw-rm5bq
      @Lindawhitelaw-rm5bq Год назад +4

      We all have our own journey.

    • @TartempionLampion
      @TartempionLampion Месяц назад

      You don't really care about grieving people obviously. Just another snake oil salesperson disrespecting every moral value.

    • @wingedinfinity6715
      @wingedinfinity6715 Месяц назад

      @@Lindawhitelaw-rm5bq AND ... ?

  • @bukurie6861
    @bukurie6861 Год назад +7

    To be strong and to challenge grief in every step to our life❤❤❤❤❤👩‍❤️‍👨😍💕💔👁🤾‍♂️🤹‍♂️🧘‍♂️🤽‍♀️⛷️🏌‍♂️🧗‍♀️💃👨‍🦯💆🥷🧑‍🔬🫶👍

  • @dalujasnathi
    @dalujasnathi Год назад +4

    Love from india 🔰

  • @nehalnagib3783
    @nehalnagib3783 Год назад

    After my near death ... Grief handling would never bother any more ....

  • @Ashraful_RIJBI
    @Ashraful_RIJBI Год назад +2

    awesome ❤❤

  • @lantion20
    @lantion20 Год назад +2

    I grieved for someone recently but not because we had some kind of close bond. We didn't personally know each other but he may or may not have known me and i know him, it was parasocial. Maybe im overthinking this but my grief over them was because of a heroism, at least in my book, that i deeply resonated with. Idk if that's been studied in neuroscience.
    I can't explain further on the context tho

  • @TheVirgoan1
    @TheVirgoan1 Год назад +5

    My daughter and grandson were tbined at hwy speed. Spencer passed away 10 days later, severe brain trauma, he was 6. Never once did I not know he wasn't here. I knew from the moment he died in my arms.

    • @LucyLane07
      @LucyLane07 Год назад +2

      I'm so sorry you are going through this pain.

  • @GGoAwayy
    @GGoAwayy Год назад +11

    I wonder how much the grief process factors into breaking up with someone you loved as well. A long grieving period feels like its similar in a way to a long process of getting over an ex.

    • @lisa.globetrotter
      @lisa.globetrotter Год назад +4

      And not only are you grieving from the ending of a relationship, but also feeling the rejection and the fact that they chose to leave on top of that grief.

    • @30revolacul03
      @30revolacul03 10 месяцев назад

      ​You can also grieve hard even if you are the one who walked away.​@@lisa.globetrotter

  • @switchpathbyamypreston5428
    @switchpathbyamypreston5428 Год назад +13

    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE UNDERSTAND GRIEF IS NOT ONLY RELATED TO LOSS THROUGH DEATH!!!! I get so tired of this assumption!!!

  • @advicecat8432
    @advicecat8432 Год назад +2

    i was literally doing 2:01 this afternoon, outside.r. the talk of periphal nerves corresponds to a project i have due in three days... destiny? did you send this to me?

  • @lotemnagar6821
    @lotemnagar6821 Год назад +1

    So true

  • @neerjabhasindev8740
    @neerjabhasindev8740 Год назад +9

    The talk was informative from a biological perspective and how one can build new meaningful bonds.
    However Mary, you have overlooked one overwhelming un natural loss...that of a child and how a new bond can never be built in lieu of that.
    I am a grieving mother and i can assure you that , " it felt good then" and " if feels good now " can NEVER happen

    • @Humbledone.
      @Humbledone. Год назад +2

      I pray for peace for you . I'm so sorry ❤

    • @neerjabhasindev8740
      @neerjabhasindev8740 Год назад

      @@Humbledone. 🙏

    • @kensurridge9631
      @kensurridge9631 11 месяцев назад +2

      Absolutely. Losing a child never heals. You can only learn to survive.

    • @neerjabhasindev8740
      @neerjabhasindev8740 11 месяцев назад

      🙏

    • @30revolacul03
      @30revolacul03 10 месяцев назад

      Unnatural? Unfortunately, it was very natural to lose a child (or children) before modern era.

  • @drkarenbukharibukhari9931
    @drkarenbukharibukhari9931 7 месяцев назад +2

    I still face the grief of my abortion and losing my belated father Syed fayyaz

  • @alanmott-smith9358
    @alanmott-smith9358 Год назад +3

    I miss my Lori Ann.

  • @armandocastillorodriguez1731
    @armandocastillorodriguez1731 Год назад +3

    Felicidades a todos los aficionados del equipo de tigres por haber ganado la liga MX clausura 2023

  • @debbie-eg9ht
    @debbie-eg9ht Год назад +5

    I found my 36 yr old dead! Didn’t wake up!!!’ So time for me is still….

    • @sr2291
      @sr2291 Год назад +6

      I have no words except don't let anyone else tell you not to feel what you are feeling and take as much time as you need.

    • @debbie-eg9ht
      @debbie-eg9ht Год назад +2

      @@sr2291 it has really effected me! I have to take as long as I need. It has only been since March! I hope I can get thru the grief quickly! So far no luck.

    • @sr2291
      @sr2291 Год назад +6

      @Debbie It was a total shock to your system. I hope you have people to talk to and who are willing to listen. I think there are support groups out there like meet-up groups if that helps. I know they are not for everyone. Years ago, my dad died suddenly. I was in another state, but out of the blue, I received a letter from my stepmother who said. Dear ______. Your father passed away Friday night. Don't bother coming here. We buried him on Saturday. Signed stepmother. My mind and body went into total shock.

    • @LucyLane07
      @LucyLane07 Год назад +2

      I'm so sorry for your painful loss. The words are nothing compared to how one feels.

    • @Humbledone.
      @Humbledone. Год назад +3

      ​@S R what!!! I'm so sorry how devastating ❤

  • @spookyspooky2159
    @spookyspooky2159 Год назад +1

    i inhale my breath without inhaling it and that to, deliberately which causes pain to my lower lungs and I do it more often and I'm afraid that If i do it continuously then I'll die... what should i do?

    • @darlenesmith6693
      @darlenesmith6693 10 месяцев назад +1

      I'm having panic attacks because of losing my Precious Mom on August 5th 2022 17 days shy of her 94th birthday with dementia and conjestive heart failure what a terrible life .... and if that isn't enough our precious Dad passed away on January 14th from covid from the stinking hospital and we tried to protect him nobody could go visit Dad unless you were a care giver it opened up all channels and he passed away with stage four cancer and we didn't no about it . What a way to die so I suffer panic attacks more now than ever and it feels like I'm getting knives in my back very painfull and I almost jump out of my lift chair . I tried to hold my breath like you did and that is very hard on the lungs so don't do that . What I do is I take a deep breath in count to ten and let it out and keep doing it until you feel better. Hopefully I've helped you out . I'm going to ask you have you had a traumatic experience in your life if you have it could be panic attacks or anxiety attacks sometimes things get very stressful and I told my husband I was a very happy girl until I got married and I'm 75yrs old and I have a wonderful son who takes care of me because I'm loaded with three kinds of arthritis and i spent 17yrs in bed and I'm not going anywhere.... and I also have acid reflux .

  • @timcasebeer4808
    @timcasebeer4808 Месяц назад

    My partner of 34 years abandoned me 6 months ago for a man she’d dated before we met. They’re now engaged. My grief is every bit as complicated as that of someone who lost their partner to death. I survive through medication, professional help and the support of family and friends. The date I had tattooed on my left arm commemorates a day my life changed forever. I got it in hope that my relationship with the ink imbedded under my skin evolves over time towards experiences of growth, acceptance and forgiveness.

    • @Jade_902
      @Jade_902 Месяц назад +1

      No. Please don’t ever compare death to “divorce”.

  • @minxsimba
    @minxsimba 3 месяца назад

    So looking at your love one when dead u actually go into shock no grief for a year.

  • @newlookkuhu3097
    @newlookkuhu3097 Год назад +1

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @glenbateman5960
    @glenbateman5960 3 месяца назад

    Inadequately.

  • @wisdomseeker3362
    @wisdomseeker3362 Год назад +2

    Strangely enough, she sounds just like 'The Mortician'.

  • @dewanbageradorsho
    @dewanbageradorsho Год назад

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @banhgau9765
    @banhgau9765 Год назад +1

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @dallascumming8750
    @dallascumming8750 Год назад +2

    Person? This is very very narrow. Having said this I hope this field of study gets better than this.

  • @metinoktay3456
    @metinoktay3456 Год назад

    Kılıçdaroğlu sandım, Türkiye siyaseti bitirdin beni bitirdin...

  • @ginabee848
    @ginabee848 Год назад +7

    I didn't relate to her. Just a bunch of nonsense words

  • @roger3858
    @roger3858 Год назад

    More like Francis marry…. Chix with stix

  • @louern123
    @louern123 Год назад +2

    i stopped listening when she said google maps tells you to turn right on a bike path. that’s pretty 2012.

    • @TartempionLampion
      @TartempionLampion Месяц назад

      Happens every day. People die following Google maps indicatoons.

  • @Sushi2735
    @Sushi2735 16 дней назад

    Mary Francis, I pray to God you no one told you looked good In that outfit.????

  • @vasilelungu427
    @vasilelungu427 Год назад +1

    Interesting story, “she lives another 13 years and when she died I had 26”.. sorry, it’s a true story or only for public?

  • @StuWright
    @StuWright 6 месяцев назад

    interestng but could of done without the weak humour moments.

  • @majidhussain412
    @majidhussain412 Год назад +2

    Nonsense explanation
    More of verbosity nvery less of relevant material

  • @marvingayle9427
    @marvingayle9427 Год назад +2

    Good topic but her illustration of walking in the dark bumping into dinning room table lost me. Dinning tables are a luxury for some house fold😂 so many people don't own or can afford one or space to accommodate such furniture 😂😢. Make me wonder who is she trying to relate to. 🤔

  • @Irrelevant101
    @Irrelevant101 Год назад +1

    Actually, that’s not how the human mind works.
    Read a book.

    • @sparklymoona5437
      @sparklymoona5437 Год назад +1

      She doesn’t need to she’s already educated and went to school for this that’s why she’s on Ted talk & also why she has a phd

    • @sparklymoona5437
      @sparklymoona5437 Год назад +1

      So you go read a book

    • @TartempionLampion
      @TartempionLampion Месяц назад

      Yes, you're irrelevant! 😂

  • @aissabriand
    @aissabriand Год назад +1

    1ier lol

  • @XhodanXeus
    @XhodanXeus Год назад

    i think its kinda pointless to grief or feel sad. i mean it happened, nothing is ganna change. all you do is loose time. once you realize that you wont have to grief.

    • @freddwoord
      @freddwoord Год назад +8

      Yeah emotions don’t work like that. You don’t choose to grief the same way you don’t choose to love

    • @P1984-z5i
      @P1984-z5i Год назад +12

      Spoken like a person who never experienced a loss. Sure you have to get on and live your life bit when someone close dies there is that disconnect with the brain that that person should be still here. Whether you like it or not everyone grieves in some form or other. The absence of the person in your life changes everything, you dont necessarily have to feel sad, grief can be confusion as the brain can't process the fact that person and that routine doesn't exist anymore. So grief multi faceted and is unavoidable

    • @Thegirlwhoknowsthings
      @Thegirlwhoknowsthings Год назад +5

      ​@@P1984-z5i or spoken by someone who has suffered great loss and closed themselves off. They grieve by being hardened. I've been on both tracks.

    • @P1984-z5i
      @P1984-z5i Год назад +3

      @@Thegirlwhoknowsthings that is exactly my point everyone grieves in different ways, you can't be robotic or logical about these things