Pet loss grief; the pain explained | Sarah Hoggan DVM | TEDxTemecula
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- Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024
- The grief of losing a pet is crushing; and yet it is too often minimized. This talk explains why the pain of pet loss is different and why it is valid. Dr. Hoggan has been an emergency veterinarian for over 20 years. Many people meet her on the worst day of their life; when their pet is injured, when no else is available, and when it is time to say goodbye. Her career of dealing with critically injured pets, and their frantic families, gives her a compassionate perspective that only comes with experience and helping many animals to have a soft goodbye. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
In my 40 years of life, I’ve never felt such pain and sadness as I did (and do) when I lost my dog, Oscar. His tombstone says, “The Love of My Life” and he took a huge part of my heart with him when he left. I’ll never be the person I was before Oscar. Losing him changed me forever. It’s been 9 years and not one day has gone by that I haven’t thought of him. Not one day.
I just lost my cat of 17 years yesterday. She was my best friend and with her I never felt lonely. I don’t know what to do and I hope that I don’t ever forget the memories of her and all we did.
I came to this video today after loosing my dog Oscar today and the first comment I see is from someone who lost their dog Oscar❤️
@paddyferguson98 That is weird same here, the first comment I read was about a dog named oscar and then your comment. I lost my dog Oscar in October 😔. I am sorry for your loss.
@@christsomp I lost him yesterday and it is so surreal not having him around the house. My heart is so sore but I know it was the right thing putting him to sleep. Hope time was a great healer for you! Gone but really never forgotten!
@paddyferguson98 I know that the pain is excruciating in the first days or weeks. As time goes by, you feel a different kind of pain a deeper feeling of emptiness but your logic starts working as well and you begin to accept it as you try to remember all the valuable moments you have spent with your pet and the joy they brought to your life, not just the pain at the end. It's not easy but we have to accept it. That is the only way to remember a loyal friend and companion. With joy not sorrow. Very correctly put, gone but not forgotten.
Sending love to everyone who came here because they lost their beloved friend 🕊️
Thank you. Had to put Honey, my cat, down yesterday. I don't know how to stop crying. I'm in so much pain.
Totally understand, my cat was put to rest this evening and it hurts like no other.
I understand. I lost my little angel of 20 years in Aug 7. A small Yorkie. She picked me 20 years ago as her human. Now I realize she was an angel sent to me by God. And he called her home
I'm devastated by grief. I'm a 70 yr old man and never experienced pain like this . I'm grateful for the time she was in my life. Hopefully we'll be together when I pass. I'm sure she'll be waiting for me
@@Ocean_breezes God keep her little soul. I hope to see Honey too one day. wishing you strength and peace.
@@victoriamccool7152 I'm so sorry 💔
We lost our family dog yesterday and I can’t breathe. Big hugs to everyone who lost a best furry friend. ❤
How're you now 2 weeks later? Please tell me it gets easier, lost my baby on Saturday and found her lifeless in my garden, that image is burnet into my brain and I can't seem to shift it, never felt pain like it. Sorry for your loss too. ❤️
Big hugs to you as well! We lost our Michael Bear due to heart failure a week ago. I’m still having moments crying over my pup, he definitely took a piece of our hearts.
@@jacksanderson660 I’m so sorry for your loss. My pup passed a week ago and it feels just like the first time I experienced the loss of one of my other dog 6 years ago. I look back and remember it does get better…in time. It’s not that it gets easier, but a little bit of the pain subsides each day and look at that point of reference for hope. Sending so much love your way! ❤
My dog passed this morning in my husband's arms while getting ready for his vet appointment. We are devastated and heartbroken. My heart goes out to all of you who are missing your pets.
@user-by3me4vr5j
I know your pain, mine died in my arms last night … my earth is shattered and daily routines are unbearable without him.. I hope your days become lighter and brighter and you remember all the amazing times you had with your baby😇
I lost my best friend 2 weeks ago. Life seems pointless now. He taught me more about being a human then any human ever did.
He was everything to me. I never hurt like this before.
If you were lucky enough to know a great one, they never really leave. They stay with you as long as you live. Harnessed to your heart, giving their all. always
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I lost my best friend to GDV a week ago. Prior to this I've lost family and friends but losing my dog has hit so much harder. Nobody really seems to care either since he was "just a pet". But he was so much more to me, and the fact that he didn't get to live the full life that he deserved tears me up. I miss him so bad.
I hope you get through this. One day at a time right?
Someone stole my Cairn Terrier on March 14, 2024, and I've reached the end of my posters...offering either one or both of my cars or $1,000 cash by 10/1. I've set my expiration date as 10/2. The loneliness and lack of closure have filled me with despair, my bewilderment with the thief has made me angry with humanity, that Jesus just stood by and did nothing has caused me to lose my faith, and i am a Jeeus freak, my faith was the strongest thing about me.
I'm broken without her and without Jesus, life is pointless and I don't want to live anymore.
It sounds like he was your soul mate dog. My husband had one too, they were inseparable.I know you’re hurting deeply and can only say you were lucky to have each other. We have let two more lost puppy souls into our lives and I know our Lucky would be happy we did.
I just lost my baby two days ago. I feel like I can’t breathe. I can’t stop sobbing. He was my best friend, my shadow, a brother to my kids. I miss him so badly I want to wake up and realize it was just a bad dream. I hope you’re feeling better and I hope I’ll feel better soon too.
Losing a pet is like losing a child, best friend and family member, all rolled into one. 😢💔😭
EXACTLY!
Agree, because they are like children, (as in innocent) they can't speak for themselves
There love for us is so unconditional...so pure..and they never told us their discomfort and their feelings until its too late for them... You feel a sense of guiltiness for not being able to save them..
@@aks_krm118yes exactly 😭
With a heavy heart, we had to say goodbye to our Marcus yesterday. 17 years of unconditional love, he was family to us. I feel extreme sadness in my heart. Grief is deep. A part of me died with him. 💔 I can't believe I will never hug him again and feel his love 🥺😢😪Thank you for this video
Every time I lose a pet, I say “Never again, it hurts too much”! A few weeks go by and another pet finds me and I’m alive again! The cycle continues. I don’t think I can go through life without a pet. They complete me.
If you have love to give, you have to give it…
I believe my former animal companions, babies have sent me the ones I have now. They know the grief and loss we go through. They don't want us to be alone and sad. They know we need a furbaby. The furbabies also need us.
I said the same thing. I had two female cats. Snuggles was the mom and I had one of her kittens which we named Monte. Monte became I'll at 15yrs and passed away at home. Four days later I lost my mom. One month after my mom's passing, I had to make the hurtful decision to put Snuggles down due to kidney disease. After all that loss, I said I can never get another fur baby. My vet was telling me about a female cat she knew that needed a home due to the owner's girlfriend not liking the cat.
I wanted nothing to do with it.
I went home and cried about all my losses.
The void of my mom and also not having little furry loves running around the house made me nuts.
I had started looking at rescue centers and found a female cat around almost a year old that was found homeless and was rescued. I fell in love and put an application in for her.
I also reached out to my vet about the cat that needed a home, she was a beautiful long haired princess who was also 1yrs old.
Needless the say, those two beauties allowed me to become their mom and also to the fact that they saved me.
I know my Snuggles and Monte would be proud and happy that I continued to add to the family.
After one year with my two new loves, I adopted a male cat. My three loves are my world.
Thank you for letting me share my story.
I absolutely agree. I say the same thing. Sometimes I want to get another before my lovey passes but then I think it will take away from 100 percent time for her and it might make her feel bad so I've said no. I will have to get another.
Me too
Who else is sobbing?
Me
@@christinekraeger2151 I feel your pain.... I'm sending positive living vibes xoxoxo. They are waiting for us. It's not the end of the road.
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not me, I'm just chopping onions here.
I lost my dog today. I can not explain how painful it is. I miss him so bad.
❤ sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry. It’s the most difficult thing. Can you share your doggos name and some happy memories?
So very sorry for your loss💔💔💔
I’m so sorry for your loss, I know how painful that is 😢
I’m so very sorry. I understand completely. Please remember all the happy memories and the gift of a happy, blessed life you gave your special friend. The Lord bless you and help you with your grief 🙏♥️
The love of an animal is like no other.
facts
You are so right.
They give us so much and ask for so little in return
Agreed!
“ Of all the creatures that walk the face of the earth,
Dogs have chosen us, And us alone, to share their lives with.
May we prove worthy of such a gift.”
~~~ Anonymous ~~~
"Your pet is better than you at forgiveness". This is 100 percent true.
I LOVED hearing that. Honestly THAT was comforting to hear.
I am a 65 years old single male. My only families are two cats. One of them passed away yesterday and I was devastated. She is only 7 years old and I feel like losing a daughter. It is so hard to move on my life now. I think people reading this understand what I am talking about.
I’m so sorry
I understand I'm grieving late and my pet hamster I didn't greive for him when he died like I grieved for my other hamsters I have 2 left I feel you.
i do x
I'm so very sorry. I hope you're doing better now ❤
I'm so sorry for your sadness. You all truly loved your pets so it's really hard when they die. I miss mine too, so much. It's why I looked for a video like this to help me.
Animals don't lie or betray you nor do they abandon you
Well, they do abandon you. But they sure don’t want to. If their love for you could keep them going, they would live forever. ❤
Preach
They do abandon us, my cat has just passed away, abandoning me.
My wife and I lost our beloved hamster to cancer a few days ago. I feel so messed up inside, but I don’t feel like I can tell anyone (besides my wife, of course) because I’m a 30 year old man, and I’m not supposed to be this destroyed by the death of a hamster. The truth is, she brought me so much joy, and I loved her so deeply. I feel so broken and empty without her. It’s been exhausting to go to work every day and pretend I’m fine, but i immediately burst into tears when I get in the car and cry most of the evening every day. I haven’t told people because I don’t want anyone to criticize my pain or tell me it’s not a big deal because she was “just a hamster.”
I’m just hurting so badly, and this seems like a safe place to say it. Thanks for your time.
I'm very sorry for your loss. Hug. ❤
You loved that little baby and I’m sure the love was given back to you unconditionally.
Pay no mind to those that say it was just a hamster!
They obviously have no idea what love is…..
May God heal your broken heart ❤
Love ❤
My cat has to be euthanized in a days time and I understand the fear of judgement,I get all sorts of cold comments like
" She's old" it's not like she not had a life" to get another pet"
People can be very unsympathetic with animals but just remember if you have loved an animal you would never dismiss the love for any animal big or small.
It's love 💕
Sorry for your loss
I'm very sorry for your loss. I just lost my bun last week and feel the same way. People already downplay the pain of pet loss, but it's even worse when it's any other animal than a cat or dog. Just know there are those who understand fully. The pain is gut-wrenching. May they rest in paradise 💞🥲
Any loss of any pet a creature great or small is life changing so true💔🐾🐹 and it takes a long time for grief to stop hurting my rescue hamster didn't make it two years ago I never forget her cuteness ❤❤🐹💔
It's been 10 days and my brain hasn't adjusted, it sees her out of the corner of my eye, hears her footsteps, wants to grab her lead. The absence of her joy is just so damn hard.
"The absence of her joy is just so damn hard." - YES!
@elsie2 - And yes, again!
It's been a day since I lost my dog Chocnut. This is the worst pain I've ever felt, and I lost family members before. I miss my dog so so so much. I feel so guilty for letting him down. I didn't protect him and save him as well as I should've
I can very much relate to this.
“ Of all the creatures that walk the face of the earth,
Dogs have chosen us, And us alone, to share their lives with.
May we prove worthy of such a gift.”
~~~ Anonymous ~~~
I just feel so so sick inside 14 yrs my best friend..now what? I want the grief to stop but the waves of grief are real...Lilly my sweet sweet girl...I miss you
Hope you are better, friend. So sorry for your loss 🙏🏻
Now what is right… where to go from here, I do not know.
I feel your despair over Lilly !!! God Bless Heal and protect you!! I lost my Pooh girl yesterday after 15 years!! Christmas day!! So I am here looking for comfort and hoping to give some!! ❤🙏
I feel this so much. I lost my dog lily aswell to a car accident a few years ago. She was only two years old and it still affects me today so much
@@kellyhunt5888 lost my sweet cat Peanut on Christmas. I’m devastated and filled with so much regret. Not knowing exactly what her diagnosis was and the sudden need to make a decision on putting her down, I’m feeling so much pain. You’re not alone ❤
"Friends we allow into our company, pets we allow into our solitude" - Robert Brault
That is a beautiful quote.
*Brault
Beautiful quote 🎶
@@hunkerdown corrected :)
We need to normalize grieving a pet. Not only is that love very real, but it changes your entire life. Your day to day routine. Constant reminder of your loss
What is crazy is the normalization of how people surrender their pets to shelters. Particularly the abandonment of seniors.
😢
@@adrianpena677I’m sorry for your loss, I feel the same way about my dog. Especially in summer when we would go for walks together in the sun 🥲
@@adrianpena677 it gets easier but there’s never a day goes by where you don’t think about them. 🥲
I am struggling . July 15 2024 I had to leave my Bubbles go. I am heartbroken. I not the same person anymore. I love her so much I just want to hold her again.
I have never cried so much as I did when my last cat died. It was definitely harder than any human I've lost. Absolute agony.
I am so sorry for your loss, which I am now suffering myself to the extent of finding it difficult to breath when sobbing so hard. Thank you so much for voicing that the loss of a pet can be worse than the loss of a human relative and friend. My brother and I have said independently that losing our respective pets has been worse than we we lost either of our parents. I suspect that non-pet owners would be bemused if not disgusted at such a statement, but it is undeniable fact.
Because they were innocent and never stopped loving us. I too cried more for each pet than any human.
I feel your pain. I lost my cat who was everything to me three months ago. All I wanted to do was go with him. I cry every day. I don’t know when it gets better. It’s good to know there are others who feel as bad.
I love you all, I lost my 12 yo Cat yesterday. She was ate up with cancer and looked perfectly fine, until she didn’t. Happened in the course of 24 hrs. I wish you all peace and solace in your love for your Furry Family. ❤
I feel you. My cat died at home less than a week ago. I had to leave inmediately for work. I dont want to go home. Ive been holding everything inside. My sweet Caspian. This really hurts, something broke inside me.
“In my own life, when I reached out for a hand… I found a paw.” So beautifully said. Thank you!
I lost my beloved Husky two weeks ago. It's been heart-breaking, and I miss her so much. I hope she has already found peace at the Rainbow Bridge.
Just wanted to add to the voices of all those who have lost pets recently. My sweet, stubborn, loving, opinionated dog passed away last week, and I've been so broken. I've never had a connection with another animal like I did with my dog. I could tell what he was thinking just from a look. He was so fiercely protective of me and wanted to spend every moment by my side. And the feeling was 100 percent mutual. He was the one I turned to for comfort after the deaths of both my parents. I just can't believe I'll have to spend the rest of my life never seeing him again. I love and miss him terribly. Sending hugs to all those missing their beloved pets.
He knew you loved him so much. I know by your comment. I loved mine the same.
Tears here too. Recent loss of my Sweetie Boy. Yes, to all you said.
Thanks the same here 🐶😭😭 I knew you loved him so much and he loved you too
I'm so deeply sorry
You and Oscar will be reunited in Heaven! God Bless, my 13 yo female Pit-bull named Princess is dying right now on my floor in front of me..❤
When I lost my lab of 14 years I had an ex friend tell me “it’s just a dog”. That is one of the main reasons he’s an ex friend. Dogs are one of the greatest companions you can have. Very difficult when they pass.
I am so sorry someone said that to you. I believe the love of a dog is more pure than the love we receive from most humans. “Just” a dog… that person has no idea.
Someone who says that, unfortunately may not understand what companionship, unconditional love or even friendship really is. I had to say goodbye to my little man Jimmy 6 months ago. He was my best bud for 12 years and went through and helped me through some dark hard times. It was sudden and I had to say farewell 2 weeks after my birthday, I still miss him every day but somehow I feel he's still with me and always will be...I always referred to him as the Abu to my Aladdin and always will...I miss you so much Jimmy 🐶 💚
I love how you said ‘ex’ friend- because no one should ever tell you it is ‘just a’ anything. It is so so devastating losing a pet and grief is the price of love. Our pets are family. I’m so sorry for your loss 🥹❤️
I almost don’t even wanna tell people cause if I heard that I might wanna punch them in face , lost my baby girl a day ago and am super defensive about her
@@xavierc1249 I wouldn’t want to hit someone and be known for that but at least I know my ex friend wasn’t really a friend. Took a long time to come to that realization. I hope your able to hold on to the good memories after losing your buddy. I have another lab now who is 10 now and I cherish her everyday. Our buddies bring us so much joy and happiness. Take care and remember the good times.
I never expected that the loss of my dogs would be more painful than the loss of parents. My parents were people who were independent and lived their own lives the way they saw fit. They made their own decisions and had their own lives and walked their own paths. My dogs relied on me, it was my responsibility to make decisions about their lives on their behalf. Their love is unconditional. They spent their lives loving me. I did the very best I could every day to provide the best world for them.
I completely relate to your comment. I lost my beautiful dog 10 days ago. The emptiness is in bearable. I don't want to come back into the house because he is not there to greet me. But the guilt I also felt for feeling I was grieving more for him than I did my mother who I lost 2 years ago.
We just lost our beloved cat George 2 days ago. Everything is so empty now, I can imagine a world without him.
He comforted me last year when my mother died, he felt my pain and was just sitting patiently on my lab.
I so feel your pain and for me this feels much worse compared to last year when my mom died.
I so understand. I experienced the same thing. 💕
@helenastanton7055 lost our beautiful girl yesterday. I never post like this...but the loss and the feeling that part of me is missing is not yet bearable. At least other people understand the pain.
100%. I loved my parents so very much, but I expected that my folks would pass on, but for some crazy reason, one thinks a pet will live forever. A loss of a pet is devastating.
People who have never loved an animal truly will never understand the profound love a human and an animal share. It is not just a bond, it is a connection.
I lost my dog hours ago. Half of my existence he was there. He witness my childhood. I am grieving, i am hurt and i blame myself to this time. I miss him so much. I cry whenever i see his spot. Rest in peace my boy. Thank you for the 14years you have shared with me. I will never forget you. :(((
Hi Sherwin... Here is what I wrote on another comment... Hope it helps...
As so many of you have recently lost a dear pet, I want to share my experience from years back that may bring comfort to you in your time of grief...
On September 28th, 1993, I lost my mini-dach, Mitzi, under traumatizing circumstances... I was devastated and heartbroken, re-living, re-guessing
every decision and event that led up to her traumatic end. At that time, there was no RUclips where people could share their grief, but I did find some comfort in reading and re-reading books from the library on pet loss... I also received some warm and comforting letters and cards -- the old fashioned, handwritten kind that mean so very much. Well, Mitzi died on a Tuesday, and I kept count of every Tuesday that passed for at least 19 weeks...The pain lessened with time, though the missing was especially hard with each birthday, May 22nd, and each death anniversary, September 28th.
Well, in the days, weeks and months that followed her passing, my mother and I had several powerful experiences in which we felt Mitzi's presence... Then, there were no "visits" for years. Well, on the eve of my mother's 80th birthday in 2006,
I "felt" Mitzi trying to push herself up into my bed. She felt more real than real. I could feel the furry scruff at the back of her neck, the warmth of the blood coursing through her body, her pushing against my hand trying to get up. Wow!...
Then in May 2022 -- almost 29 years since her demise and about two weeks after my dear mother passed -- I again "felt" her warm little body, more real than real, cradled in my arms. I looked down and she disappeared... It was her way of letting me know that Mom and her were finally reunited.... This September will mark a full 30 years since she passed, and I take comfort in knowing that when my time comes, we'll be together again... Take care, all
I just lost my boy on Tuesday, my world has ended. Had him for 14 years until I was 21. My boy my baby my soul I can’t breath from this loss it’s unbearable.
@@paigeycakey5061 I lost my cat on Tuesday too, my sympathies to you...
@@paigeycakey5061 SO very sorry for your loss. You grew up with your wonderful fur companion and now must feel such a sad void at losing him... As hard as it is, know that you will get through this period of profound grief.
***Please read what I wrote a few entries above yours... Please also consider something like a Bach Flower Remedy or some other natural remedy to take the edge off your anguish. Try to breathe deeply through the tears (I know!) and take good care!
@@TVY2013 thankyou for your beautiful comment and rest in peace to your beautiful baby. Me and my mum have been in bits since Tuesday, the pain is soul crushing. You have moments of slight peace and then a wave of overwhelming sadness that hits so terribly. I read her your beautiful comment, we both sat in the living room close, and right after I read your comment my mum had a experience like a message even, a message from our boy. Someone, something told my mum out of nowhere with thoughts in her head of ‘ it’s okay mum ‘ ‘ I’m okay I’m safe and you did the right thing ‘. She’s in shock and overwhelmed, we just held each other, We’ve both sobbed since and he chose that perfect moment just now to tell us he’s always here. We still have his towel laid out and his toys, his towel on my mums bed. We still say it’s bed time to him and speak to him like he’s still there. 14 years. Our poor boy, one day we will all be reunited with our babies. I’m so excited to see him run to me again. I’m so excited for you too, she’s always with you also. They always are, I now know.
I lost my Yorkie son 2 days ago and it’s a pain I’ve never felt. I have no partner, no human children, he was my everything. I’m just laying here crying and unsure of how to go on. This Ted talk was so helpful. Blessings and healings to everyone who is going through this right now 😞
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Thank you for posting this Sydney and I wish great blessings and healings to you, too.
I lost my kitty girl 11 days ago. I am also socially isolated but am also in the 5th comorbidity - she was my platonic significant other - so I am having an extremely hard time processing this loss. I don't know who I am without her. Reading what you wrote helped me feel a little bit better.
I lost my dog yesterday my heart is filled with grief
I’m so sorry. I recently lost my my dog after 16 years. You are right, the pain is so profound. This happened 2 weeks ago and I don’t even know what to do myself. My thoughts go out to you and anyone reading this that suffers a pain so deep it goes right through one side of your soul and out the other end, leaving a huge hole in the process. I wish you and everyone else only the best.
I'm praying for you and am sending love ,I just had to put my cat down Tuesday....my heart hurts so much 😭
I'm watching this 4 hours after holding my 15.5 year old pup for the last time. Bless these vets that are able to let our beloved family members pass on with dignity and compassion.
I had my 15 year old cat euthanized just over 28 hours ago - finding this is a godsend. Wishing you peace, and with time, a degree of healing.
Sorry for your loss
Just lost my 18 year old dog yesterday man. Hurts so much. But I know he’s in a better place ❤
Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤️and they leave us, to show, how strong we truly are🙏🏼🌈
lost my 10 year old dog today. put her down about 2.5 hours ago as i'm writing this (3:30 P.M EST 10/13/2023) i'm so distraught but it's great people in the comments with similar experiences can come together. much love bro. i wish my dog lived that long.@@drcocter4638
Losing a pet is utterly horrible and the anticipatory grief that goes with knowing they are sliding downwards is just as bad
This. 😔
I’m going through this now. And I was feeling deep grief crying over my cat when he was still alive. I had to put him down this morning as he got very weak and suffered. Hardest decision I’ve made in my life😢
@@AlinaDolmatovawe are in this situation right now. Just found out on Monday that our precious cat Ben has a large tumour. He’s been our world for 3 years. This is like torture, as we know he’s starting to fade, but still has some lively and affectionate moments. We owe him so much. He’s been the best friend we could’ve wished for, and our comfort is knowing he has had the best 3 years of care, companionship and love. He’ll always be remembered so fondly as the best cat in the world 🐈⬛
Our lab suffered a massive stroke out of nowhere and died in my husbands arms, he was wagging his tail and running around happily and then fell over abruptly and started seizing. He was gone in less than a minute. I cried so hard that I burst a blood vessel in my eye. The pain was so intense I didn’t think I would make it out alive.
:-(
our dog died 2 days ago the exact same way you describe. He was happy, wagging his tail and suddenly he collapsed and went completely flaccid. I can't understand this, I'm broken.
When I lost my baby, there was a moment when I thought I was going to die too. I was so brokenhearted that my heart literally ached that I couldn't breathe.
My husky passed away very similarly last Wednesday. I’m completely broken and have no idea how to move on.
@@kstoural1973Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤and they leave us, to show how strong we truly are🌈
I just lost my Buddy 4 hours ago. I’ve lost my mother, my brother, best friend, and ex gf, all within a 10 year period, and yet I have NEVER felt grief as visceral as losing him. I had to make the decision to euthanize him as I knew it was time. He wasn’t eating, couldn’t stand, couldn’t walk, didn’t want to play - he’d just lay there all day. Buddy battled Addison disease and deteriorating hips as per his German Shepherd/Husky mix breed for too long. When the vet came in, he looked at me and told me “I think you know, as well as he does, that it’s time”. I nodded. I picked up the pen and signed the consent form. My pups final 5 minutes was him cradled into my arms, and he passed with my head buried onto his chest. This is a grief like I’ve never felt. I got my Buddy a year after my mothers death as a way to cope, and he’s been by my side - attached at the hip - for EVERY loss I’ve had since. I have no one to turn to, and no one to share my grief with, so here I am. I’ve never considered grief counseling, but this is the first time I plan to reach out to a support group and/or hotline.
Unexpectedly, I lost my beloved cat just five days ago, and it's so very, very painful. I share your immense grief and wish you ultimate peace, my friend. Greetings and best wishes from England.
I understand you so much. I lost my 3 cat babies in 10 days a week ago. I am so devastated makes me wanna go after them 😭 they were so youn the smalesst one my baby was only 5 months old😢
I feel your pain and have been there
I’m so sorry for your loss. I understand. Three weeks ago today I had to put my beloved cat, Tuffy, to sleep. She was almost 15 years old and had lung cancer. I found her beside the road when she was only 4 weeks old. I am devastated. 🐾💔🐈⬛
Reading this makes me feel so seen after losing my sweet girl of only 2 years old. Thank you for sharing it really helps 🫶
I just turned 60 and the worst pain I have ever experienced is when I lost my 10 year old Great Dane. It has been over a year and I have cried every day since. I have lost family members and friends, I have grieved the death of a marriage but I am struggling with the loss of my dog like I have never struggled before. Thank you for the validation.
Pass it one day at a time.I promise it will feel better but you will always miss your buddy.
@George I’m so sorry 💔😭
Sorry for your loss. If your best friend was there for alot of your major transition in life, it hurts even more because they really truly focus on you and only you, unless you have their favourite treat or eating your best dish in front of them. I was raised Buddhist but I'm not religious and consider myself agnostic. But I do take comfort in the cultural traditions and customs my family practices with a mix of ancestor worship, they are still with you and still wants food presents offered to them on special dates. They may reincarnate and come back into your life or wait for you on the other side. I don't believe it but I take comfort in practicing the rituals that takes place when a family member dies. I lit an incense for him the night he died and put out some food and fresh water. When I go to pick up his urn, I will be guiding him back home with me to rest. I take comfort in this. Not sure if this sounds silly to you, but whatever can help you take some comfort in, I hope you find it. I know the pain and mine is raw as it's only been 3 days.
My heart hurts for you 💔😔
The best thing u could do for yourself is rescue another pet! It feels wrong at first but ur heart WILL begin to heal as u save this new little animal life and ur pet that passed away would want u to be happy.
Just lost my 9 1/2 year old Border Collie Heeler several days ago to an unknown cause. I am sick and devastated. I've lost others who were old. This was different. I love you my baby, forever. You come back home, buddy. ❤
I had to say goodbye to my cat yesterday. He was 16.5 years old, I found him when he was just one month old. He has not left my side all these years, and I have loved him more than I have ever loved anyone.
It's so hard today waking up alone to a house when he is not there anymore. My love has nowhere to go, and I feel so empty. I don't know how to live a life without him, I keep remembering all our moments together and thinking I'll just find him sleeping on my bed.
He was the love of my life. A piece of me died yesterday.
You said it better than I could have. It feels like I’m dying.
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s a feeling unlike anything else.
My cat passed last night and I feel the same. I am broken
I'm very sorry about your baby. Really I am. That breaks my heart
@@sineadbales2801I'm sorry for your baby. That's awful 😔. Just take comfort that you did all you can to make them happy.
My dog passed away yesterday. It hurts so much but I will always keep him in my heart❤️
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Sorry for your loss 😢🙏
Omg, I am so very sorry, Christina. Just know that you will come out of this grief a much better person, but you just have to allow yourself to 'feel' the pain and let it wash over you, in order to rise above it. I went through this a little over a year ago, and it was crippling, but in time, your heart will heal and the pain will lessen. Trust me! Just hang in there and know you are supposed to feel the pain and grief. It's perfectly normal. 💔💔💕💕
My husband and I lost our two outdoor cats one day apart over the week of the 14th. Sending you lots of hugs.
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I put my 13 year old dog Luke down today. I’ve never felt pain like this in my life. Thank you for making this video. It was helpful. I’m a grown man sleeping Luke’s vest in my bed tonight. I miss my buddy.
I’m so so sorry 😢 I had to put my best friend to sleep August 6 2022 and I my heart has been broken ever since. He was my happiness and sunshine and losing him has changed my life in every way. I know the devastating pain you are feeling. Not everyone in our lives understand but I do and so do many in these comments… I’m sorry you lost your best friend 😔
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I am sorry for your loss. It's so painful.
I’m very sad for you. I lost my beautiful boy Rob the dog seven years ago and I still feel very sad.
I too had 13 years with my SOUL mate, my beloved dog....5 days ago....Seems I’ve lost everything because I lost her. I’ve never loved or been loved like with her...she taught me everything and kept me alive. Asking her to help me to move forward. Best to all of you sharing this grief 💔❤️💔I miss those eyes 🌈
I lost my beloved 13 year old Dollar (GSD) yesterday, August 31, 2024. He was a very important part of my life and will always be. I raised him like my son and people who are close to me know what he meant to me. I hope he is in a better place now and I will meet him on the other side. ❤
I'm a Veterinary Social Worker, and this was a beautiful video to share. I wish more folks understood and validated the pain and grief that folks go through when their beloved companions pass away. I tear up every day at my job, because I empathize with the families who are experiencing one of (if not the) worst day of their lives. If you are a pet owner on here and you've lost your baby, WE SEE YOU. WE HEAR YOU. YOUR GRIEF IS VALID. ❤
VETERINARY SOCIAL WORKERS ARE A THING?!?!?! How does one get into that field? What kinds of services do you provide? And how does someone get a veterinary social worker?
Thank you and GOD bless you! My baby girl Rottie will take her final ride in her truck with mom next week. I AM A MESS!! I will not let her hurt. Also Dr. you are exceptional, thank you!
Emily god bless you xx
God Bless you. Thanks for your amazing words.
Emily Carveth......Thank you for validating all of us in our immense grief. I lost both of my 16 year old girls (dogs) in 2020 and I'm still in so much pain and I keep their ashes right next to me on their pillow on my bed. They will be buried with me when my time comes. I've never in my life felt this kind of pain and wouldn't wish it on no one and we had a very strong bond and I needed them more than they needed me. That's why I won't get another one as I just can't go thru this kind of pain again. I was blessed to be loved by these girls and I'm so grateful I had them to love and learn from in my life. I still have crying spells yearning for them and missing them so much! They were one of the best things that ever happened to me and I have never been the same without them. Thank you so much for understanding us . 😭
I don’t think anyone who has lost a beloved pet can get through this video without crying. This video was been extremely informative. Thank you.
No argument there
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Yep. Already crying. I miss my girls so much.
Very true.
I put my 14 yo pitbull to sleep two weeks ago. My 12 yo lab died this morning.
Sending hugs to all those who've lost their pets. I had to put my dog down yesterday, and the pain is breaking me. This talk helped a bit. This woman is amazing.
I’m so sorry. Mine left 2 days ago & it hurts. I don’t know how to be ok without my Roscoe.
I had to put down my 7 year old, 120lb, German Shepherd, Roman, on Jan 11, 2024 and I have NEVER cried and hurt as much as I did that day. Everyone told me to be with him until the very end, and I did, but wow, I never felt so horrible watching him go. Even tho he was VERY SICK and there was no getting better. I think of him daily and I miss him pushing himself into me for lovings. I often smell him near me and it brings me some comfort but not much. 😢😢😢😢
@jen-a-purr Im sorry. It's so hard. Hang in there.
Had to put my little baby down today. The pain is unreal. 18 years of love and happiness, no one will take that away from me.
Lost my 16 year old girl today, had the vet and nurse round and l held her while she passed. Heartbroken doesn't come close, hugs to everyone that's lost a fur baby 😢❤
After losing my dog Rover yesterday... Hearing this really helps a lot❤May we all find healing and be blessed.
I really needed to hear this...I'm 50, no kids, single and lost my cat last month... I am so brokenhearted 💔 and cried through all of this. Thanks for sharing
There is a path. Don’t give up hoping that you will have that same love again someday. Please embrace hope.
I hope you find peace and happiness. I'm sure your angel also wishes for the same 💐🧡
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So sorry for your loss. The pain of losing a beloved pet is like no other. Sending you a big hug x
So sorry for your loss . It’s totally
heartbreaking.x
I am completely broken this afternoon. I needed a source of validation for this heaviness and out of control grief after my best friend passed away. His joy, his love was my own. My home is no longer a home. I will never be the same. I'm so grateful for this talk. 🙏 All these comments, I know, I am not alone in this.
I completely understand, and no, you're not alone. I'm so sorry.
I feel the same way about my apt. I used to buy him something every time I went out, which I don't do anymore. Coming back is awful. I stand there with my keys in my hand and just lean my head against the outside of the door bc I know he's not on the other side. I'm so sorry for all of us.
We just put our beloved girl down 2 days ago. I told my husband this very thing. It just doesn't seem like a home anymore.
Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤️and they leave us, to show how strong we truly are🙏🏼🌈
The part about your home no longer being a home realty hit me hard. I lost my girl several months ago and our home where we were both so happy is almost unbearable sometimes now. It's a really difficult feeling and comes with the added complication of guilt that it shouldn't feel that way given it was our happy home with so many wonderful memories.
My dog of 19 years passed in my arms naturally yesterday of old age. He was never sick. He’s helped me through cancer, divorce and a breakdown. He stood by me as I rebuilt our life’s. He held me together. Less than 3 months ago I suddenly lost my sister.
I’m overwhelmed and watching this I’m a mess but I understand. I’m trying not to be “ too emotional” in front of everyone but I just feel so sad. On my own I can’t keep it down.
I am so very sorry🌷
My heart goes out to you ❤️ ❤❤ your boy sounds like he had a long amazing life with you...I had 13 years and now I’m alone too ❤️❤️❤️
I just had to put my 19 year old dog down two days ago and I’m on RUclips watching this video trying to find any port in this storm. Like yours, mine had no health problems -his body simply was done and he stopped eating and drinking. It was very peaceful and he never suffered, so i have to be thankful for that. but he’s all I’ve ever known. He was my first dog, the love of my life, and my child since i don’t have kids. This loss is also the first time I’ve ever lost someone i am so close to, and it was the one I’m closest to. I am beside myself with grief. You are not alone in your pain. 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss. I just lost my beloved cat and had to hold her as she took her last breaths. It broke my heart to pieces. She made me so happy and helped my through my tough times. It was one of the hardest things I had ever done was having to say goodbye and let her go. I think she felt my love and warmth for her as she passed away. I'm very upset and it is going to be hard, but I'm going to cherish her memories forever. We will reunite again someday.
Fiona words fall so short
I know my Grace took her last breath April 25 so mine is so very fresh. Actually I can think of my Jacob and he has been gone 18yrs and I cannot believe it and yes STILL cry
Prayers and hugs to you hun!
Lost my basset hound Lulu this week and I didn’t get to be present to say goodbye but I have a picture from our last moment it hasn’t been easy I haven’t cried this much in a long time. My condolences to all the fellow pet owners that came here for comfort. May all our pets be playing and eating treats waiting for our arrival
I lived with my cat Sybil for almost 20 years, she passed away 3 years ago and I still randomly burst into tears when I think about her.
I feel this in my soul.
Same about my dog.
So may hugs to you ❤
im sure you loved her too much and im sure your Sybil feel it completly. and i agree with @JK-pt3pt you will reunite with Sybil like i will reunite with my Çingen the cat
@JK-pt3pt i pray for your cat's well being
I completely understand. I had my Rosie just short of her 20th birthday. She was born in my living room & was my first baby.
Me too, for my Charlie girl
my precious rescue kitty.🐈❤️
It’s been over 20 years. I still tear up thinking about the pain of losing my dog. I haven’t had another pet since.
thats a long time .....there is soooo much joy to be had with another dog...it wouldnt replace your long lost companion just like no two children in a family are the same, you can do it again by rescuing a dog in desparate need of a home. i think you may find that it just might save you both.
I will never have another animal
After having to put down my girl. I grew up with animals and have always had them- but Nina was my child. I have nothing left of my shattered heart to give to another animal that I would have to part with at some future date.
@@K9_NINAI understand your pain. I just put my baby down not even 48 hours ago. 16 years 7 months and 14 days I got to love him. This pain is unbearable. I have other pets. I have had other pets. But nothing compares the love and relationship that we had. Our bond was special. I think I was with him more than my own daughter once she became a teenager. We did everything together. He was my second child. I will never love another the way I love him. I don't know how I'm going to get through this.
Updated: Its been a month since I lost him. I still mourn him daily. I go to his favorite spots and walking routes. I think about him all the time. Whenever I'm riding in my car I randomly cry. I'm so used to him being beside me in the passenger seat. It's 2 in the morning and I'm up crying about my baby. I miss him so much. 😭
@@cgogetitI put my dog of 10 years down on Monday. I am broken 💔 and grieve with you 🥺
@@SandyHart-jt6sz will never have another dog, I just can't. But I see your point
I began to weep almost immediately into this discussion. My little girl passed seven years ago. I am still grieving. I have another dog now, and I do love him, but no other dog or person can take her place. I just hope one day once I pass, we will be reunited. It is all I want in the world. Sarah knows what she is talking about. I wish everyone understood what Sarah understands about losing a beloved animal. Thank you, Sarah. Thank you very much indeed.
Truly when we pass we will be reunited with them. I have a new acceptance of death with girl gone.. when the grime reaper shows up for me I’m going to embrace him and say let’s go!
@@wavecutter69 With the way the world is going, and being alone now without my girl especially, the end cannot come soon enough for me. I am already a senior anyway. I hope I do not live so long that I can no longer care for myself. To me, death is preferable than going to some state run facility for the aged and infirm.
I think the same. I want to be surrounded by all the pets I had. I am also a pet nanny, and I've lost my furry clients too, and I want to just be frolicking in a flower-filled field with a beautiful pond with my sweet animals... it has to be that way in heaven. Otherwise, I'm gonna have to have a talk with God!
@@user-lz6dm5lk9y you aren’t alone.. you have all us kindred spirits who have felt the same loss. It truly was a blessing to have them in our lives. And very humbling to realize how many wonderful people there are out there. I pray that I may have the strength to pick myself up and give it the best until the grim reaper shows up. To try and make this planet a little bit better than the way I came into it. And die knowing that I truly tried.
@@wavecutter69 beautifully put ❤
I've lost my 13-year old baby 15 days ago and I have never felt more helpless, sad and devastated in my 38 years of life. Never before has the absence of anything been this painful and my longing for him grows more and more every day. The 10 years I spent with him were the best years of my life, but the pain I felt in the last two weeks when he was sick is indescribable. I look forward to the day I will meet him again under the rainbow. Please find me again my baby, I love you so much, you are love of my life 💜
Just lost my girl today. Can’t believe I’m writing this. Hardest day of my life
Going through that too 😔😖
I'm sorry. It will get better. I've been there many times.
God love you, I feel your pain I had to do the same 4 months ago, Im still devastated
I hope you’re doing better
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My cat is dying in my lap, she's been my companion for the last 18 years. I'am devastated to put her to sleep, thank you for your words
Bless your heart...it's so painful.
I put my dog down 12 days ago.I had him 12 years.He was almost 14.His health was deteriorating and I couldn't let him suffer.I love him more than anyone or anything
It's horrific and it's painful but I felt peaceful after having done that with our 17-year-old cat ZANE GRAY after giving shots twice a day for five of the last years of his life. We cried but afterward you feel some peace knowing they aren't suffering anymore. Hugs I know that pain.
So sorry. Many blessings to you at this difficult time ♥️
im so sorry 🙏🏻💗💗
Although these comments are all very sad,somehow I can't stop reading them. I guess that's because we all have something in common here. Love to all of you( and myself!). We need it more than ever now❤
Lots of Love. 🫂
Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤️and they leave us, to show, how strong we truly are🙏🏼🌈
Yes. It's good to find people who understand us.
❤ everyone hurts and it's not easy when you don't see that little face looking back. Love is beautiful and sadly it's very painful. But it's better to have loved...I'm thankful knowing I had such an amazing best friend.
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With the love and strength he showed me today, and always...I will honor him and keep his spirit alive. My heart has his spirit and wisdom. I can't let that fade. Peace and Love!
❤ I know that sadness too. Many do. I know it feels like you are alone. And in a way you are. You feel alone even with people. If they have not experienced this type of grief.
My baby Luna got put to sleep today. She was my world. She rescued and saved me, now she’s gone…. My soul is crushed. I haven’t stopped crying and I’ve never felt this pain in my entire existence. Thank you for the video ❤
Wow is painful.
I had to put my kitty to sleep yesterday too. My soul is crushed. I’m not going to be ok for a long long time.
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My baby is also called Luna, I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs
I lost my own Luna around the same time as you. I hope you’ve been feeling better since. ❤
I lost my pet dog yesterday... I am 38 years old but crying like a baby alone... I feel like being betrayed by my pet for leaving me alone...there is no one waiting for me right in the front door while wagging his tail to greet me that he is happy that u r home...oh god this is so hard and i have never ever experienced such pain and grief.. 😭😭
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How are you feeling?
I'm 39 and have lost a parent and losing my boy last week has me feeling pain i didn't know possible.
I hope its getting easier for you.
Hope you are doing well now
I cried more when my dog died in 2010 than I ever cried for any human loss. I loved her more than any human.
When this presenter said, "did you rescue your pet, or did your pet rescue you?" I started sobbing. My dog Joplin rescued me. And she was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Me too I miss him more than family members
Praying for your comfort. That phrase for me also was heart wrenching. Many people never recognize that they are the most forgiving and is always by our side regardless🙏
My dog rescued me. He rescued me. I was alone for years,he kept my heart pure.
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same here, my cat rescued me from depression ten years ago when he was a kitten and got him at the shelter. he was the best cat ever. sweet and never hissed. had to put my baby down this sunday and i am a wreck. im physically ill. lost weight because of this depression. i agree i dont cry much for human loss much. but my pet does. i dont get it, but that confirms why our pets will go to paradise when they pass and wait for us when its our time.
My little dog passed away just last night. It was such a sudden and traumatic death. From the moment we put her in the car to rush to the hospital I started breaking down. I haven’t stopped crying since last night, everything reminds me of my sweet girl. The house feels beyond empty. I know there’s nothing we could have done to save her and the cause wasn’t our fault but I keep on thinking to our last moments, seeing if I could’ve done anything differently. I just hope she wasn’t in pain and that she is in doggy heaven now. I miss our Honey so much.
I just lost my 8 year old girl last night, and i sympathize with you also. i can't even comprehend the turmoil of my emotions till this day. around 5AM, my mother woke me up suddenly to let me know that my girl is no longer with me, as she passed away so suddenly and unexpectedly, she was still fine and very energetic as she eats the food. After she slept, she no longer moves, in a position in which she slept peacefully, I've cried so much that all i can feel from her body is stiffness and can no longer breathe, I know im talking and writing alot and i apologize for expressing so much emotion buts it's really hard to move on with something that you've felt attach with for 8 years. The sudden changes of the atmosphere of the house especially the silence is what hurts the most, I've tried to accept it but i can still heard the scratches of my door and the whimper/bark whenever i arrive at the house, it just hurt so much that the memory still lingers. After we bury her every now and then i always visit her grave and still grieve on the fact that she's no longer with me. It may take years for me to recuperate on stabilizing my emotions again. We will forever miss our dogs, and i hope to get to see her again up in heaven. (Sorry for expressing so much on this comment section of yours, i just want to vent it all out as i am shock and disbelief also that my dog is no longer with me. I also apologize if ever i said something wrong.)
I'm sorry for the death of your little dog. They come into your heart so easily and leave a gap that isn't easily filled. Please be gentle with yourself. Cry when you have to.
I did too 12/29 perhaps because they are so special.. so perfect.. so wonderful and most of all so unconditional the loss hurts beyond all else❤
i just lost my best friend recently too
Keep crying it out friend. It’s okay to grieve and grieve hard. Please consider holding ceremony with your dogs ashes. It heals the family. It really does!
“animals are so much better at forgiveness than humans.”
i was in japan for a week while my cat had grown weaker and weaker, and i had to put him down the morning after i returned last week. i’ve been beating myself up over me not being there with him for his last week, and this really helped a lot. hugs for everyone who lost a piece of them. ❤️🐾
Same here. I was away for a bit over a week, and came back to find my dog lethargic and unable to breathe well. We lost her last week. I still can't forgive myself for not being with her that whole time.
I put my cat down two days ago. I knew it was going to hurt, but nothing could have prepared me for this kind of heartache. I'm functioning through life, but I take time to cry when I need to. I miss her to the very depths of my soul.
What an amazing person you are to give so much love and a great home to your Kitty. She was so fortunate to have had you. Thank you for loving her. My condolences on your loss. *hugs* I'll give my 2 girls extra treats and hugs in you and your cats honor.
I'm so sorry for your loss😢
January 13th, my 18-year-old orange tabby had to be euthanized because of liver disease. I held him, told him over and over that I loved him.
I had such a deep connection with him that now I feel so lost without him. I am afraid I will never get over his passing away.
He was my little love.😭💔
@Indigomoonchild I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers tonight. The pain while enormous right now will become more manageable with time. Give thanks and gratitude that you were able to experience such a love and friendship from your sweet kitty.
@cbebop5 Thank you so much for your comforting words. God Bless you too.🙏💕
Thank you all for your thoughtful and refreshing words. You're all beautiful souls, and I pray for nothing but blessing in your lives.
she was my everything. I have no family no husband no kids. My cat was my everything
me too! she was my world!
She was your soul pet. Dont' worry, someday, you'll reunite when the time will come and continue your journey as she would have wished. Take care xoxo
Going through this now again with my cat 💕
@@irishgirl1753 Take care
I hope you will accept another cat or dog or child in your life again.
There are other animals and children who need you. No these new pets won’t replace the one you lost but I hope you will know that you are helping some other animal live a great life here on earth.
And one day your other pets will meet you over the rainbow bridge. You will have so many friends there.
First, to all the folks commenting on here about their recent pet losses, I'm so sorry and wish I could hug each one of you. This talk is excellent, possibly one of the best I listened too. I'm a mental health therapist and frequently search for talks relevant to what a particular client is going through. This one I save for all my folks that are grieving the loss of their fur friend. Don't let anyone tell you it's "just" an animal, EVER. Love, friendship, safety, acceptance, companionship.... those NECESSARY ingredients ingredients for life are not dictated only to certain species. In fact, dare I say, sometimes animals know how to provide those things so much better than humans. So be free to love your pets fiercely folks - and remember, your grief for them is just that fierce love persevering. Don't let anyone tell you to limit it.
Thank you crying 11 03 23 was so hard
I know I’m commenting 2 months later but I just wanted to say thank you for your comment, I needed to hear that. I just lost my fur baby suddenly at the age of 3 I’m heartbroken. I’m also receiving a lot of “it is just an animal” comments, so your words helped!
Thank you for those words
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My baby is gone. She died three days ago. We were together for 11 years. It is five in the morning and I’ve been up all night trying to figure out how I will ever, ever love anyone the way I loved her.
I lost my girl 2 days ago I'm so heartbroken I hear your pain 😢 it's bitter sweet 😢
Having my boy euthenized in my arms after 15.5 years was the most traumatic thing I have ever experienced. Its only been a month and i still think i can hear him in my room. I really hope our dogs are in heaven. The day i had to take my boy in to be euthenized, i asked God for a sign and path. Shortly after , my boy Buster, dimentia and arthritic ridden, layed in my lap as if to say.."its ok mom, its ok" i will never ever forget that. R.I.P Buster, goodest of the good boys ❤
Yes, you CAN hear him in your room...They do visit us, often when we least expect it, like when Mitzi re-visited me -- more real than real -- two weeks after my mother died in May 2022... This was 29 years after Mitzi's passing... Take care!
Same with my 15 year old Pomeranian. Had to let her Rest In Peace even though she still seems full of energy, but did seem sad towards the end. The Doctor said she had kidney disease. Would only love a couple months. Couldn’t let her suffer two more months. Made the unthinkable decision😢 that afternoon. I’m crying now and it’s only been two weeks. I’m feeling down and I definitely lost a part of me when I had to let Sofia go.
If I can remember what happened on earth, I will ask Lord to revive my dog. I pray everyday. I'm sorry for your loss.
Omg l sitting here crying my eyes out l had to make that decision 18 months ago ,my life hasn't been the same .I fell unwell 2 days later bad stomach problems and lm still having them l feel so guilty xx
@@patbeacher5451 Pat, I don't know the specifics of your pet loss, but I do know that I felt guilt when I had to suddenly put down my mini-dachshund Mitzi under traumatizing circumstances. I played and replayed the details over and over in my mind... Gradually, I came to terms with Mitzi's loss -- in part because I had moving "visits" from her -- including one in May 2022 almost 29 years after she died. My mother died early in the month and the day after her service, I literally felt myself cradling Mitzi's warm body before she "evaporated." It was her way of saying Mom and her were reunited at last...
***I'm sure your beloved pet is in a beautiful place. Rest assured you will see her/him when your time comes... Take care!
My family had to suddenly put my 11yo cat to sleep 4 days ago. The grief is like nothing I've ever experienced, worse than for any person I've lost in my life. I love my boy more than anybody else in the world. He's the love of my life. It's a physical and emotional grief more powerful than I can explain. I'm sharing sympathy with anybody going through the same devastation. I'm glad this speaker could put it into words
Boy... do I feel your words. And your emotions.
@@plutoplatters Im with you guys. my dog had his first seizure yesterday, and I cant stop thinking about him. he's recovered now but I'm so worried about what the vet is going to say. i cannot get my mind off of it. i don't know how to get back to my normal self.
Just lost my precious boy yesterday afternoon. The pain im feeling is almost unbearable, I just feel like im not existing in this world anymore.
@@louismccomack9524 hey. idk your life situation but focusing on other things and having gratitude has really helped me get my mind off of my dog. i recommend listening to the mind pump podcast on youtube, and pursuing fitness... i dont know what id do without fitness.
@@louismccomack9524 I lost my furbaby on Tuesday he was my bestie and it was so unexpected. I’m sorry you feel like I do x
My dog died just under 2 months ago. She deteriorated so quickly and it was hard to comprehend what the vets were saying about her grave condition. She had been running around the field and play fighting just a few days earlier. She went too soon and unexpectedly. She was my sister and meant the world to me. My family got her when I was young and she helped me through so many difficult times. The grief comes in waves. It was unbearable for the first few weeks. I’ve been relatively ok for the last couple of weeks and it just hit me again this evening. I don’t even know what triggered it today but it feels like a tsunami of emotions. I’m not sure time can truly heal such pain but I hope that one day I will be able to look at a photo of her that brings a smile before a tear.
went through a similar situation at a similar time, you aren't alone. identical situation to my 3 year old collie. I'm broken, and somehow hoping that it feels easier.
Literally going through the same thing 😞
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Hello, I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my beloved dog this week. The pain is immeasurable, my heart stings, breathing is difficult, I'm reminded of her by almost all objects in the house. And I am a visual person and break down when I imagine her last moments at the vet, or the image of her turning to ash. Do you by any chance have any advice, tips or helpful words?
Stay strong joe
I've lost Bob two days ago even just writing his name makes me cry. I didnt even get to say goodbye. I miss him so much. My heart hurts❤️🩹 thank you for the wonderful 13 years, I will love you forever🕊️
That's because he didn't leave he just changed forms until he goes into another body. Spirit is eternal 🕯️ talk to him and he will hear you 🕯️🤍🙏🏻
"When those eyes go away" Full on bawling now 😢
My life hasn't been the same.
It's been 4 years
I will never get over it.
P😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 same here
5 yrs n i still cry
5 years for me after losing my soul dog. I begrudgingly opened what was left of my heart to a puppy about a year into grieving. Then Covid hit. That puppy saved me. He has truly been my emotional supporter. As an extreme introvert, my relationship with my dog is the purest relationship in my life. I catch myself sobbing sometimes when I look at him and think, how will I ever say goodbye to this boy.
@E Huff I went 16 months without my Rosie.
My husband could see I was getting worse with the grief.
He then found me our little Bonnie.
I too think of loosing her as she is coming up to 3 in July
I can relate to you totally x
Trigger unhealthy living for me
I even consume my alergen just because taste good
I recently lost my best buddy of 17yrs. The loss is so big and I knew it was going to hurt but not as bad as it has. The house is quiet and life too still. I still hear his tippy taps. He will forever be in my heart 💔
I just lost my baby as well. We had her 15 years. The sadness is unbearable.
@@jackieallen8444 sorry for your loss. It is 🥺 I miss him every day as I’m sure you miss your baby too. Sending hugs.
@@loydap1775I lost my dog 2 days ago. She's just 5 yrs old. It hurt so bad like I don't know what to do. I can't even finish work
Losing my 9 yr old fur baby unexpectedly was the worst loss more than losing family members. We had a soul contract. He was my emotional support animal. He was there for so many life events.
@@selahjourney4460 my deepest condolences 🥺 I try and find comfort that I gave him the best life possible and loved on him so much. Sending you a big hug
I buried my dog of 17 years just a few days ago. My friend and I dug it out ourselves and im thankful to him. I knew she was passing away and she passed away while i was taking a nap. I wish i couldve been there with her while she went. I had her since i was 10 years old and lost her when I am now 27. My love for her will never leave this universe. She was with me through the loss of my parents and child, and other losses. She was amazing and perfect in my eyes
We both had our pets at the age of 10. A childhood pet isn't replaceable and it leaves a hole in your heart..
I lost my yellow lab 3 months ago. I’m 48 and have endured many losses. This is by far the most painful loss of my life. It has devastated the whole family.
Mom misses you so much Daisy. You’ll always be my sweet girl.
She misses you too
I’m so so sorry for your loss, I hope you are in a better place soon with your family. This beautifully described grief, it is deeply real with our pets.
I lost my yellow lab 4 weeks ago and the pain is horrendous, I just want to die and be with her.
Please seek out a pet doula who can perform a ceremony to celebrate your pet. Gather your family and grieve in ceremony in order to heal ❤ It helps so much to do this. Sending hugs and understanding your way!
Hugs to everyone who has lost a beloved pet. I lost the cat on my picture on Thanksgiving day. She was 17 1/2. I spent 2 afternoons in bed after letting her go. I held her in her last moments. I could feel her purring in gratitude. Less than 3 weeks later, my mom passed.
I am so sorry for both your losses and I am sending you love and strength
I lost my cat, Amélie, a week ago. For 13 years, she was my little shadow- she stretched out on the kitchen floor when I cooked, she curled up on the bathroom rug when I showered, she purred me to sleep every night, and woke me up every morning. She looked at me like I hung the moon.
She rescued me. She wouldn’t eat without me, and when I wanted to give up, I kept myself going because I couldn’t leave her.
I’ve never felt a grief this heavy. In a lot of ways, I feel like I let her down.
I still have trouble eating, sleeping, showering- everything reminds me of her. She was my whole world.
I sobbed through this video, but I appreciate it a lot. Thank you for this.
I'm sorry for your loss! I lost my beloved dog this week, I can understand what you are saying. The pain is immeasurable, my heart stings, breathing is difficult, I'm reminded of her by almost all objects in the house. And I am a visual person and break down when I imagine her last moments at the vet, or the image of her turning to ash. Do you by any chance have any advice, tips or helpful words? Life is not the same anymore.
I lost my cat two days and it’s so devasting😔🥺
I lost my baby onyx last night. Best dog ever I’m devastated
I am so blessed to have found this Ted Talk. I couldn’t get out my car to walk inside my home because I could not bare walking in and not being greeted by my baby. In the car crying and hyperventilating. My mom had to pray for me so I could walk into my home. I have a display case with her ashes, photo and memory box with her favorite items and I had a necklace made at Jared to honor her but none of it takes away the emotional pain. Dealing with comorbidity #3. Please pray.
You're not alone...list my kitten yesterday and I feel like dying too. My mom has been praying for me too worried for my health but we can help it. I don't know how to heal. Typing you this with my eyes super swollen and a very heavy headache....
Sitting in my car after work listening to this too. Hugs to you!
My devotion to my GSD, Ziva, is the same. I have all the memorabilia that you have, even the necklace, except I have a tattoo on my left foot….the side on which she walked beside me. Coming home and not seeing her face in the window was gut-wrenching. I know and feel your grief.
My dog passed last year and I still feel it everyday. I feel it in my heart, in my body, everywhere. I wake up and I think about him. I expect to see him everyday still. I hope anyone who has been through this continues on.
its the worst pain ive ever felt, he helped me through my mom’s addiction and my own, god it never gets easier
FN A!
When I was 30, I lost my mum to a cancer we had no idea she had. Just 2 months from diagnosis to her passing. Now I'm 62 and we lost our darling cocker girl 9 weeks ago, to failed kidneys, unexpectedly, within a week. She was 12. The grief I am going through is right up there with losing mum, it's indescribable. But I lived through losing mum and ill get through this, even though at times I just want to give up on life. Godbless everyone xxxx
I’m sorry to read this.. and i don’t mean this in a bad way but i am also kinda glad i read this.. i feel the exact same my baby bud was 8 and i needed to put him down 2months ago sometimes i feel like giving up life i have no idea how to live without him… but i thought i was over reacting so to know i’m not the only one suites my thoughts…
@@lindsay22xx I'm glad I could be of comfort. I'm still grieving so much xxxx
@@carolineelkington407 same mine is 2months and 1 day and i am soooo hurt its indescribable
I am sorry for your loss..
@lindsay22xx you too. Be kind to yourself, ignore anyone who doesn't understand, just do whatever you need to get through these weeks. We are in so much pain because we loved so much. But that love is worth every second. Godbless ❤️ xxx
I lost my pet a few days ago and I am going through the same emotion. I understand your pain
Euthanized my beloved cat 2 days ago. I cried like a baby in the vets office even though I am a 54 year old man. She meant that much to me and the emotion of losing her was that painful
So very sorry to hear this. I know the pain feels unbearable. It helps to know you gave her a wonderful life.
I am very sorry
@@brandonking2679 thank you
This talk gave me and my wife great comfort when we lost our cat in May 2024.
I lost my 16 year old cat on 12/30/22. He was my soulmate. During periods of depressive episodes I told people that if he died I was following. He got me through what were (hopefully) the worst periods of my life. I will never fill the hole he left. I just hope I can learn to live with it.
My 16 year old cat died 2 days ago, and was also with me during the darkest time of my life, he was my best friend...I think I called him that more than his name. I understand what this loss feels like, even though I have 2 other wonderful cats...my house feels empty and silent. My heart is heavy... I wish you all the comfort and peace during this hardest time. I am so very sorry for your loss.
Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤and they leave us, to show how strong we truly are✨🌈
@@amd-137 So sorry for your loss. Your best friend is always with you. Take Care.
So sorry for your loss. Yes your cat would want you to live. Stay Strong
@@Chihuahuauno1 Spot on.
I hugged my fur babies immediately after seeing this.
I'm sorry to those who have lost their pets.
She hit the nail on the head. Losing my pets is the hardest thing I've gone through and will go through. They totally take a piece of your heart with them when they go. Why people abuse them is beyond me. They love unconditionally.
Twelve years I’ve lived with my cat in a small apartment. She was my only child. When the day came to euthanize due to an inoperable tumor (I decided against prolonged treatment and suffering) I paid $600 for a home euthanasia service. They were wonderful people and allowed me to hold my baby as she went to sleep. Two years later I still say gnite to her every night and tell her I’ll see her again someday. It gets easier but It still hurts.
Less than a month ago, I lost both my 14 year old cats within 24 hours. They literally saved my life in 2016 - not figuratively, they literally saved my life. I’m still inconsolable. I’m a crazy cat lady with health issues and part of me wants to give up and not go on. No partner, no kids, happy with my life as it is, but in one 24 hour period, I completely broke. This video was something I really needed to watch, right now. Thank you.
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You aren’t alone. ❤ I hope you stick around for a long time and share your heart with another animal when you’re ready 💕🌈🐾
I'm so sorry for your loss, I'm going through the same thing. I lost my best friend suddenly and tragically yesterday, and I feel like I'll never be happy again. Please know that you aren't alone. As much as it hurts, we must find a will to live.
@@thriftypinklady 💔💔🥺 The first day and weeks are the worst. I hope you find all the support you need to get through this horrible time. It isn't easy at all 🥺
Hold on sweetheart.. It's got to get better eventually... maybe get yourself to the pound and pick up a couple of rescue cats.. those cats will shower you with love for years and years
Yesterday was the worst day of my life. My rescue cat of barely a year and a half passed tragically. I am crushed, and this video gave comfort, insight and validation for the way I am feeling. We need to mourn our pets, because they deserve to be honoured. The kind of love and appreciation they give us is so pure and unconditional.
I lost two babies within a few months of each other. Very hard to understand why something that has given you so much joy for such a short time is suddenly taken from you. I am absolutely devastated and hope I can pull out of this tailspin. God Bless you and I hope your heart heals.
I just lost my rescue cat yesterday. I am beyond devastated. I've never felt pain like this.
The highest honour. Grief is our body’s way of telling us that what we lost was worth it.
That was a wonderful explanation of our reason for heartache after losing our pet. I'll add one more reason. For 15.5 years, I was labrador Mocha's caretaker. Part of every day was spent caring for and analyzing her needs. It was a large part of my day. When she had to go, I came to realize I was also grieving losing part of my identity, namely being Mocha's dad and caretaker. In her eyes, I was a rock star. Now, I don't know what I am.
I think you're still a rock star. Look at what you did for your sweet Mocha. That will always be!
@@yepitsme3336 Being a caregiver is rewarding and bonding. It's one of the hardest parts to let go of.
@@Kaws_One - agreed
You are exactly as she saw you. ❤ I know my heart will soon feel your exact sadness. God will give us the capacity to love again and to be loved!
My heart is so with you. Losing Penny yesterday has me so completely lost 😢
Listened to this laying on the bed with my cat Smokie pressed against me. He is very old, not sure his age. I adopted him almost 17 years ago, when he was approximately 2. He is the most important someone in my life. Since the vet gave me bad news about his liver i've been crying the last month. I simply cannot bear the thought of losing him. But any day i'm afraid i'll have to put him down. I refuse to force feed him or anything like that. And he pretty much stopped eating days ago. Very thin and weak. All i am doing now is caring for him 24/7. He is still the same old Smokie...friendly and cheerful. I get the sense he is trying to comfort me, while i comfort him. He knows me better than anyone and always made me happier being around him. I know he loves me too. Thank you Dr. Hoggan for this talk. Especially the part about being more broken over losing a pet then losing your mother. I haven't dared tell anyone that, but it's the truth.
❤️🩹🙏🏼Sending you love & strength 🙏🏼❤️🩹 God Bless your Smokie
I lost my cat of 13 years 5 days ago. It hurts and there’s no help. The video put some things into perspective and I’m thankful for that. It still hurts to lose such a dear friend that I adored and he adored me. My house will never be the same. My happiness went when my kitty went.
Lost my cat too, very recently. The pain is so bad.
@@paulflint6254 I’m sorry for your loss. Mine has been gone for a month now and I have waves of sadness. I had two 8 x 10 portraits printed of him and I bought 2 picture frames. I have them on the wall and I find it helps me seeing him during his happier days. He will always be with me and the photos will ensure that I never forget his sweet little face. I’m glad he’s no longer suffering but disappointed that he got sick and died at 13. I was expecting him to live much longer than that where he was always very healthy.
My cat died in 2010 at old age and now (2023) it still feels like yesterday. She's my baby girl to me, always and forever. She died on her own. She was about to turn 16 yrs old. She's a sweetheart. 😊❤❤❤
16 is not that old for a cat, they cat pass over 20, but glad that you took care of her that long :)
did you get a new cat since then?
For those contemplating that hard decision. Our vet and good friend told me, its always better and more compassionate to let them go 1 day too early rather than 1 day too late leaving them suffering
Let them go sooner rather than later. They gave you their love
and devotion for their whole lives-
it is our responsibility to not let them suffer. Help them get out of
that sick little body right away.
Do not wait, do not put it off. AsK
God to give you courage and strength to let them fly away
into His arms. You will be with them again.🙏🏻
I lost my boy today, he’s a little cute chihuahua. It has been 9 wonderful years of my life. I’ll miss you and always, forever love you.
My dog was put down today around 11:40am due to a brain tumor/seizure. I can’t even describe how much I wish I could have him with me forever ❤ if only they can live as long as we do! I’ll miss the sound of his nails tapping on our wooden floors while following me around the house🐾 He would’ve been 18 in October this year…
Lucky to have him till 18
I lost my Dachshund 4 weeks ago. Had a seizure, his first, rushed him to ER. They said possible Brain tumor and doing research he had many of the symptoms. I think he was gone after the seizure since he didn’t react to any stimuli 😢 The worst part is he cried out during the Euthanasia process and after the seizures😭 This sound plays over and over in my mind💔 I just hope he wasn’t in pain🐾🐾 All of our others pets went peacefully and I’m still in shock that Teddy didn’t have that same experience 😭
@@maggie0940 sending many blessings to you❤️! Losing a furry family member is never is easy that’s for sure :(
What a wonderful long life
Thank you 😢 love to anyone suffering the loss of a beloved pet 💔
I just had to put my best friend, my soulmate dog, my heart, my world, my everything down yesterday and I’m never going to be the same. He was everything to me. This video made me bawl the whole time, thinking of him, but gave me some peace. This is the worst pain I’ve ever felt in my life. Rest Easy Ace Michael 1/16/2011-127/2023, until we meet again. 💔😭🐶🐾🌈🙏🏼
I am so sorry ❤️
I'm so very sorry for your loss. He will be waiting for you - tail wagging, at the rainbow bridge.
I am sorry for your loss!!
my childhood dog had to be put down this past Friday. she would have been 15 this year. she was old and didn’t have a very good life. she was tired :(
@@hannahelizabeth8698 do you have the feeling of guilt? I put my dog down today and i feel so guilty even though his heart was not working anymore (very severe heart failure) and lungs full of fluids. He could barely stand, walk or breath but i feel guilt because i was assisting the vets to out him down.
There is a cycle of love and death that shapes the lives of those who choose to travel in the company of animals. It is a cycle unlike any other. To those who have never lived through its turnings and walked its rocky path, our willingness to give our hearts with full knowledge that they will be broken seems incomprehensible. Only we know how small a price we pay for what we receive; our grief, no matter how powerful it may be, is an insufficient measure of the joy we have been given.
Amazing words. Thanks for sharing.
I put my alice to sleep an hour ago and I swear I feel my heart broken my chest hurts so bad I just want her back
I lost my little soul mate when she was 17 years old. It’s been 3 years now and I still cry because I miss her. Thank you for all your words.
I lost my cat Maggie this morning. She was 15 and she gave me so much love and joy. What I wouldn’t give to have her follow me downstairs to her food bowl again, staring up at me, purring so hard she squeaks. It’s like a part of me is missing. Rest in peace, Maggie mouse ❤
I’m sorry … I hope you find peace
Its a unconditinal love that we received from a pet❤
“ Of all the creatures that walk the face of the earth,
Dogs have chosen us, And us alone, to share their lives with.
May we prove worthy of such a gift.”
~~~ Anonymous ~~~
Really needed to hear this, thank you. My 7 year old baby cat died unexpectedly and suddenly 2 days ago. I cant sleep, eat and even shed a tear or two for the feline. I just feel so empty inside and the house is so quiet now. I could relate to a lot that was said here.
UPDATE: ended up starting a new adventure by adopting an adolescent kitty 6 weeks after this comment. Definitely feels nice to spoil a new cute little feline... still miss the original A LOT! but the new kitty is just as awesome ❤
I relate to you so much. My 5 year old pup died suddenly at the hospital completely suddenly and unrelated to the reason he was there in the first place.
It was so sudden and absolutely unexpected. He was finally recovering so well from a critical liver injury and was expected to come back home in a couple days. I felt like i won a million dollars as the preceding 6 days were a complete nightmare. We had no idea if he'd make a turn around especially as he was not eating for 5 days and liver values were extremely high, so jaundice and he wouldn't stop regurgitating. I was told I had to transfer him to another hospital an hour away and feeding tube procedures were going to be discussed as the next step there bc that hospital was more sophisticated with a critical care team - these procedures generally require anesthesia and is inherent with risk of complications like any procedure, animal or human. On top of a injured liver more poking and probing. But it was like a sudden miracle, he began to eat for the doctors and they were so happy. They called saying they are knixxing the feeding tube procedures and I thought I was on cloud 9. He then began to eat at each feeding and brightening up with more energy and life. His livers shot down significantly which was fanastic. The nurse who took care of at night time said she was quite impressed with his bounce back and that he really made a turn around the corner in a positive way ... that he continued to polish of all his meals which is a fantastic sign. She told me to get some rest that evening , i was beyond elated after all this chaos and nightmare and finally in 6 nights i got the best sleep i did until i got woken at 655am to be told that my sweet boy began hacking and choking and they started emergency cpr. He ate his meal and apparently 10min later he began to choke and hack they thought maybe it was something in the back of his throat. They tried to see if they could pull out anything but his throat was so swollen. They threw him on the table, began compressions, administered epinephrine shot, and an emergency tracheotomy with 8 people all hands on deck. For 20min they continued cpr and another extra 20min but it didnt matter he alread flatlined and there was no eye movement to indicate brain activity. And thats it, just like that, after all this insanity and finally so much hope and excitement for his recovery, hes gone forever.
I’m sad mine gone to my house so empty did you get a new pet
@@amitisp8474 thats so sad;( my 8 year old pup passed away yesterday suddenly and had to get cpr, to no avail unfortunately. So I feel your pain. It’s my first full day without her (I’m home for break) since I was 12 years old which is when we got her. The saddest part is the depression my parents are feeling. Seeing them this way makes me even sadder. Certainly does feel like I lost my little sister
hang in there...
The loss of a pet is harder to take than the loss of a human. I lost my dog of 16 years and I still can cry when I think about him and it's been a decade ago
I started listening to this after my cat died, and I could only finish it now a month later. Thank you. It hurts. I know it was the right decision, the only choice, but it still doesn't feel right. He was alive. He should be here with me.
Sending you lots of love. I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my sweet kitty yesterday and I know how you feel 💔
@@monicabarnett9231 lots of love to you as well!💗
I just put my 18 year old cat to sleep 2 weeks ago & the depth of despair & anger is OVERWHELMING..
Just lost my boy I’ve had for 15 years 2/3rd of my life I’ve been with him and now he’s gone
@@dixiewaller1379 im so sorry for your loss❤ it really is overwhelming!
i just lost Smash today. 11 years my bestfriend suddenly died in my arms.. never in my life i felt this sad.. it’s unbearable.. i hold on to the thought that someday he is there waiting for me we will have unlimited fun, treats, and running