A guy proposed to me in 4 months-in public. Little old 20 something year old me, felt pressured and said yes, to save him the public embarrassment. Part of me wanted to say no and take it slower…A year in and we moved in together and this man flipped like a switch. The man who once had me on a pedestal, suddenly started devaluing and chipping at my self esteem. I let that relationship go on way longer than I should have. Love Bombing is real and they may be playing their representative until they lock you down. Be careful, take it slow.
In my experience a man moving too fast has always been extreme love bombing. Sure sometimes there is a very *small* percentage where it may be genuine. That is not the dating climate we women live in now. Don't panic, but take the time to use discernment. You will not truly know who someone is at their core in a few months sometimes not even 1-2 years.
Agreed, he showed a narrative for a week then started taking it away, it was almost instantly and was criticizing how I ate, how fast I ate and when I ate or how much I ate. I am an active person, I burn calories, I eat. Eventually my independence was being taken away and he had called me pathetic and useless so yes I agree 110% on this.
I’m going through this right now and feel so blessed to find this video. It’s only been a few weeks and we’ve exchanged I love you’s and are setting plans for the future but one of the main things that has helped me discern whether this is a love bomb or not is the feelings are mutual and we’re both just as astounded with how fast things are going. Communication with this man is top tier! He doesn’t pressure me, he constantly reassures me, he’s made his intentions crystal clear. I do have concerns of course but I’ve prayed about them and my feelings continue to grow so I’m just going to enjoy this and take it a day at a time.
It's rare, but possible for it to be positive. I have a client that had just gotten out of a bad Marriage. New guy heard she was free, they went on a date and got married after 3 months. It was the 3rd Marriage for both of them. They've been happily married for 18 years now. ❤
That part about "I argue it's not love bombing if the feeling is mutual" made me almost want to cry. My ex truly love bombed me and I 100% believe hes a narcissist or just narcissistic. I don't use that loosely either. I also was always unsure of my ex, and my friends always said "I don't know, I don't think you're really into him..." but it doesn't feel the same with the guy im with now, we have deep and honest conversations about our feelings/needs, and when I tell him something bothers me he validates it and listens to me. My ex never did that. That part really reassured me, so thank you.
I just went out on a first date with this guy .. he was talking about marriage .. went out during the week had already asked me out friday and sunday .. but he asked to see me the day after the date .i told him i wasnt comfortable having him at my home.. he said he never said anything about coming to my home and asked to meet in a parking lot because he just wanted to see me..but he said we could facetime if i didnt' want to do that. we facetimed that night and i never heard from him after that. I don't know if it's because he lost interest or because i held strong in my boundaries but i'm glad i'm not thinking too deep into it.
Now i can admit I had some reservations seeing that he did time in jail and has two kids while i don't have any. But I didn't want to just disqualify him based off of that. I did plan to give it a shot but he's gone
Good you didn’t meet up with him in a parking lot or give him access to where you live. A man you just me shouldn’t be able to get access to you back to back. You have a life and he should too. Space it out!
You need to step back, ask yourself why you feel that way, maybe you're looking for your needs to be met by him, you meet your needs. Slow down, if you're that stress, quit relationship.
Do you feel like he is stalling? Step back and assess your actions towards him, making sure you're not being clingy... not saying you are but just make sure you're not doing that and pls don't chase him... guys will back off when women do this. 1. Bc he doesn't know how to communicate w/o hurting your feelings (if you are doing the above) - he wants you to slow down and that's it or 2. He is stalling bc he see you have caught feelings and he is not trying to be on that kind of level with you and therefore trying to get you to chase him(time waster :🏃🏾♀️)
23:11 hit me so hard! Just that he married me! And used a child we talked about we didn't want to lock me down.. 10 yrs of trying to be a good wife and mom! These men are out here so put together and lying, not just men , even women. I thank God for this pain cos it has drawn me very close to him and i encourage you never to learn on your own understanding. The beautiful thing is that i don't look like what I have gone through and it is by God's grace. The world will be a better place if we could just say the truth. Thank God i found your channel❤
You mentioned the scenario of a man trying to impregnate a woman to lock her into his life. There is also the scenario of a man giving a woman a venereal disease with the thought of locking her into his life and making her undesirable to other men. I believe that protection should be used ALWAYS until you move out of the dating phase or later.
More than that, I would recommend that you both get tested for STDs before becoming intimate. Even protection doesn't prevent everything you can catch...
It depends on the person, are they fast moving with others, is it just you. That could mean he's not really into you. Fast moving men usually have something to hide, they're hoping you won't discover the truth until its too later. I speak from experience.
I solved that problem, I tell every man before I dated, bedroom policy. Some walk, some try me, I was serious. Why waste my time and their time if that's the goal, I think that's being fair. 🙂👱♀️😷
I think what scares me about love bombing is that (even if the feelings are mutual), he is not authentically in love. The faster he loves, the faster his feelings will fade away. I heard this quote somewhere , and I want to see your opinion on it “men tend to love faster, but women tend to love harder”. It really stuck with me because it made me think about whether or not his love is true.
Because you care more about looks and aesthetics so you’d rather deal with problems that come with that. It’s not rocket science people just don’t like being honest with themselves. Yes, you can be shallow especially in dating that goes for both men and women
Stephan this video brought out a few key points about "iF A MAN IS MOVING TOO FAST". There is something to be said about individuals that are ready to commit quickly. However, relationships are so different these days. It seemed more simple when you're young a lot less bull to sort through it seems for men and women. I believe true love exist, the question is does it exist for everyone? As you always say, when we take the time to heal and do the work it will be natural attraction.
I was dating a guy that wanted to move quickly and I didn't at first but later on I was just one of his toys and I stop seeing him 8mos ago I played the game for almost two years I needed more than a male whore. Happy being alone...
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
😂😂😂 honestly its so funny how after hearing my voice, he's already preaching love the next day, and when i asked what he loves about me, he goes...I will tell you when we meet in person. He was trying to convince himself, not me to come and pass night at his place and talking marriage as if I mentioned I was desperate😂😂 I totally ignored him and he stopped being hasty and hardly ever chat. Mtcheeeew 😂 Thanks for this piece Stephan❤
I think you should come out with a relationship card game , where you get deep and ask the real questions to have a healthy relationship for couples or potential couples to buy
Never experienced this type. If he's moving at light speed, I'd use my INTUITION first, then second I'd run AWAY from him at same speed he's using to try to entrap me!!!!
What come fast does not last.What last come slow.If someone want us only for pleasure thats a big red flag.Healthy relationship promote healthy self esteem.I learned that I don't want someone who is rude, arrogant,shy,weak.I know they did not do their healing. Immature people project their insecurities on others and it's issue for a woman who needs healing as well.First Heal Yourself to know what you want and you don't want then you manifest the right one.
I don’t agree with, if you have mutual feelings for the other person, it’s not love bombing. When someone is love bombing you and makes you excited about the new relationship, it feels real to that person. It’s only later on in the relationship when they are usually “stuck” their mask comes off. That’s when you realize all the deception and lies.
Yahuah's blessings 2 u and I totally agree with everything ur saying in this video. The part when the man gets the woman pregnant on purpose so he can have access 2 a woman's life-yes that part because it happened 2 me 5 years ago. Since I don't want anything 2 do with him, he don't want anything 2 do with his son and the sad part about it-he lives right down the street from us. My son don't even know him because no bond has been established between them. He have other children and is active in their lives, just not my son I have with him.
I believe that building a strong friendship is important before getting into a relationship but some men rush and move too fast because they don't wanna lose the woman. Some men feel like if they dont take their shot another man will step up and take her....or sometimes some men might be clingy but at times thats not the case. My guy friend moved fast and pampered a woman because he really liked her. She had just got out of a relationship and just used him for attention. She led him on by telling him she wanted more than a friendship with him but in reality she was still dating and talking to alot of different men....to me thats wrong even if they were not official. They use to work at this company together but they didn't hang out until they were both no longer with the company. The business closed down....maybe she saw him rushing as a weakness because she cut him off. I honestly think he had feelings for that woman for a long time but he couldn't mix professional life with personal life so he waited... They both went their separate ways of course. My friend was genuine man but that girl was out there talking to everybody smh.
“ some men rush and move too fast because they don't wanna lose the woman” this was my guy (he fell hard for girls in the past and they would talk to other guys, leading him on, same as the girl your friend talked to). I am the same way with “rushing” it may appears to others but I know what I want and I’m intentional. We have known each other for a few weeks and we discussed marriage already. After three months, we decided to plan a wedding. We both pampered each other and I know he’s the right one because it is mutual efforts and also, his families are so very kind. I’ve always poured into others so much, it’s so nice to know someone finally reciprocates equally. We are getting marriage at the end of this year. :) everything has been consistent and peaceful since the moment I first spoke with him. Please know it works out! Wishing your friend the best!
Every man I've been with has wanted to move super fast. I never really had feelings for them but I went forward anyways. I just started dating a guy 2 weeks ago and he, again, wants things to move super fast. All my friends/family are giving me the "slow down, syd.... this could be love bombing" etc. It's discouraging because for the first time I actually really like this guy too and now I'm getting in my head like "I should end it now" "it's gonna be toxic like the last times". I really truly feel like this guy is just a lover boy. I've had girlfriends like this and they're not toxic, they're still with the guys.. they just fall fast and hard. I'm trying to have a level head about things, because knowing this is the first time I have feelings, I have a way harder fall if things go south.
I've seen men that loved when a woman chased them, it fed their ego, they loss interest over time. Another woman chased them, dumped the first one. He'll be a chronic dumper I call that type
My mum and dad were married within 6 months of meeting and lived happily ever after until dad passed. How I got it so wrong with such a great example is beyond me lol...
Fast and furious movements ?? Stephan God has to interviene in order for it to be a success You both can have an entire face to face dialogue But moving to fast in my opinion its a big gamble The race is not for the swift or the strong But for those who can endure to the end
Hi i just experienced this, he's talking marriage but thank God I was no fool..his idea of love is that he must be allowed to touch me n must have sex before marriage..he was very pushy n being forceful from the beginning.. this is not my type of guy/idea of relationship. When I tried to talk to him he does not understand anything at all. I could not express myself , how i feel. If he asked for a kiss and he gets it he's holding on to u so forceful for more..it was causing me more stress n frustration..he was not willing to wait to do anything at all.i told him let's take time n build he would say yes but he would do the opposite..thank God i promised to honour him with my body and he says i am picky when i express myself..i think he had a different agenda..I would be here waiting on him because we had plans to go out and he would not communicate if he gets hold up at work n he gets upset when i asked him why he couldn't say something..i was being real careful . He doesn't know how to talk to a lady either..i was trying to b calm n try talk to him in a calm loving manner. Sit n hold his hands n talk to him but Lord Jesus....
Thank you..we were only like 2 months but i broke it off..I know my worth n what I am all about and no man who doesn't respect my values is worth my time..God first.
Yea a guy at work just broke things off with me after 10 days because I was moving too slowly.. he had been on holiday for 7 of those days 😂😂 and hadn’t even had a date yet.
Sooo glad you did this video topic.. I now know the difference of PB and SD.. I HAD to pull back buddy was asking me out every day, calling everyday, not making plans, calling last minute like at 5pm to go out at 6 or7. I work I told him I dont do last minute, a woman needs time to get ready & I need things planned out, please be considerate. He even tried to pull that I need to compromise.. Umm NO like trust thats earned too. After a month of me PB and him hearing different iterations of NO over n over again he realized I wasn't jumping at his becking call. He planned out a nice 2 part dinner/concert date, during my low key vetting at dinner he stated he was used to women being immediately available said I was different n intriguing not like any other woman he dated... in my mind I was like yeah yeah u gone respect me and this process.. if not kick rocks.. im not wasting time being rushed into anything.. period!
This love bombing happen to me. An old high school mate. According to him he was burned before, 3 times. He says he didn’t want to lose everything, again. We live in different states, now. He didn’t realize this,at first. His wife now, had kicked him out. Then she got severely sick. Still is,according to him. At that time, she wanted him to come back. He says he does everything. Due to her illnesses. He is now diabetic, arthritic knees, and ED. I ask him who’s name is on the house. He said, both. But he kept pushing me to move back to our home state. Which I was already thinking about, before I connected to him. Within 2 months he was getting anxious, it seemed. He insinuated I was moving to slow. This hit me hard. It seemed to me, he just needed a place to live. We are both 70 yrs. We communicated on messenger. His communications became sporadic. But it was him to always initiate the conversation. I just replied with a smile or one word. Then I just unfriended him. It’s been 2 Wks.
Definitely what I experience with a guy who only been with just 3 years but long distance relationship only cause the 2nd year he told me that he wants to get married and have more children even though his other kids are grown but something was off about him when he keeps questioning me about I'm i ready to have his baby or not and if I'm really going to get married to him and be his wife it's seems like more control type when he keeps bringing the same things to me and get annoyed when I tell him I'm not going to rush to get married or have kids by him cause i no a fact that it's going to get out of control soon in life 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
This is what am passing through now,i met a man we have been together for a month ,and he is already requesting for intimacy and am not ready for this,it makes me question myself wheather am really safe or he is only intrested in sex
NO MEANS NO!! And do not be afraid to say it.. firmly! IF he leave , stop calling, dry conversations, stop taking u out/coming over or make u feel bad or use those lilboy statements like.. U have needs right, a man has needs, we grown right, what you scared of, blah blah. RUN 🏃♂️ Forest RUN..
Help my boyfriend wants to see me almost everyday, problem is then I can never get him to go home...it's starting to bug me. He's a sweet guy and I like him but his eagerness to be all up in my space, and all over me is making me question who he is a person and what void he's trying to fill. I thought it was about me now I'm thinking it's his insecurities and social akwardness...plus he just got divorced. She hurt him big time. I on the other hand am very outgoing and social so that may be why he is so clingy to me. Id like to see where this can go but I don't know how to get it through to him without being a bitch. I've tried a few times to tell him after 10pm I want him to go home. My son said he isn't too brite. The lack of space is starting to make me want to run...any advice?
Can you do a video on what it means when his friends don’t like you? Or ignore you or just aren’t friendly. My boyfriend introduced me to his friends about a month ago but treats me like I’m insignificant when he’s around them.
Hey Stephen, I’m looking for advice on my current situation. My girlfriend lived in SC and I lived in MO, I moved out there for about a week and a half and I was truly upset with myself soon as I got there. I felt like I wasn’t enough for her and I got in my head about it. I ended up leaving and went back to Missouri to try to fix myself, I felt like a bum compared to her and I felt like she deserved better. Now I’m in a boat where I’m either gonna pursue my career but I don’t wanna lose her any advice would be appreciated I’d love to chat back and forth on this bc I have a lot to say but don’t know anything that’s like my situation
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️ Get your copy of "Love After Heartbreak" here 👉 www.loveafterheartbreak.com. This book will lead you to find peace and happiness in your life.
New subscribers here. Im chatting this man and his moving to fast about marriage and having kids lol we didnt even meet and he showing his kid to me by video and feel very uncomfortable . So i pull back what do u think? Thanks in advance
A guy proposed to me in 4 months-in public. Little old 20 something year old me, felt pressured and said yes, to save him the public embarrassment. Part of me wanted to say no and take it slower…A year in and we moved in together and this man flipped like a switch. The man who once had me on a pedestal, suddenly started devaluing and chipping at my self esteem. I let that relationship go on way longer than I should have. Love Bombing is real and they may be playing their representative until they lock you down. Be careful, take it slow.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
People who move too fast scare me away. I’m not with the unicorns and bunnies… I need time to discern that spirit
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Yes
Yeah, giving you no time to even speak to God about it. Just want to cloud your thoughts with sweet nothings 😂😂😂
@@JustinaOnugbo Facts! 💯
Amen 🙏
In my experience a man moving too fast has always been extreme love bombing. Sure sometimes there is a very *small* percentage where it may be genuine. That is not the dating climate we women live in now. Don't panic, but take the time to use discernment. You will not truly know who someone is at their core in a few months sometimes not even 1-2 years.
True.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Agreed, he showed a narrative for a week then started taking it away, it was almost instantly and was criticizing how I ate, how fast I ate and when I ate or how much I ate. I am an active person, I burn calories, I eat. Eventually my independence was being taken away and he had called me pathetic and useless so yes I agree 110% on this.
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Maybe you didn’t like him the way you thought you did
I’m going through this right now and feel so blessed to find this video. It’s only been a few weeks and we’ve exchanged I love you’s and are setting plans for the future but one of the main things that has helped me discern whether this is a love bomb or not is the feelings are mutual and we’re both just as astounded with how fast things are going. Communication with this man is top tier! He doesn’t pressure me, he constantly reassures me, he’s made his intentions crystal clear. I do have concerns of course but I’ve prayed about them and my feelings continue to grow so I’m just going to enjoy this and take it a day at a time.
It's rare, but possible for it to be positive. I have a client that had just gotten out of a bad Marriage. New guy heard she was free, they went on a date and got married after 3 months. It was the 3rd Marriage for both of them. They've been happily married for 18 years now. ❤
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Oh my world
Moving to fast a problem
Moving to slow a player
Where the hell are the inbetweens ???
Father help us!!!!
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
That part about "I argue it's not love bombing if the feeling is mutual" made me almost want to cry. My ex truly love bombed me and I 100% believe hes a narcissist or just narcissistic. I don't use that loosely either. I also was always unsure of my ex, and my friends always said "I don't know, I don't think you're really into him..." but it doesn't feel the same with the guy im with now, we have deep and honest conversations about our feelings/needs, and when I tell him something bothers me he validates it and listens to me. My ex never did that. That part really reassured me, so thank you.
I just went out on a first date with this guy .. he was talking about marriage .. went out during the week had already asked me out friday and sunday .. but he asked to see me the day after the date .i told him i wasnt comfortable having him at my home.. he said he never said anything about coming to my home and asked to meet in a parking lot because he just wanted to see me..but he said we could facetime if i didnt' want to do that. we facetimed that night and i never heard from him after that. I don't know if it's because he lost interest or because i held strong in my boundaries but i'm glad i'm not thinking too deep into it.
Now i can admit I had some reservations seeing that he did time in jail and has two kids while i don't have any. But I didn't want to just disqualify him based off of that. I did plan to give it a shot but he's gone
Rejection is God’s protection. You probably dodged a bullet.
@@akilahj2252yeah let him go. Most men who rush like that are just trying to make you feel a false sense of familiarity to get sex.
Next!
Good you didn’t meet up with him in a parking lot or give him access to where you live. A man you just me shouldn’t be able to get access to you back to back. You have a life and he should too. Space it out!
The only ones that move fast are Narcisst's Love Bomb Devalue Discard
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I feel so stressed out already from someone that's moving too slowly
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks awwwww 😃 thanks
You need to step back, ask yourself why you feel that way, maybe you're looking for your needs to be met by him, you meet your needs. Slow down, if you're that stress, quit relationship.
But how slow is too slow?
Do you feel like he is stalling? Step back and assess your actions towards him, making sure you're not being clingy... not saying you are but just make sure you're not doing that and pls don't chase him... guys will back off when women do this. 1. Bc he doesn't know how to communicate w/o hurting your feelings (if you are doing the above) - he wants you to slow down and that's it or 2. He is stalling bc he see you have caught feelings and he is not trying to be on that kind of level with you and therefore trying to get you to chase him(time waster :🏃🏾♀️)
23:11 hit me so hard! Just that he married me! And used a child we talked about we didn't want to lock me down.. 10 yrs of trying to be a good wife and mom! These men are out here so put together and lying, not just men , even women. I thank God for this pain cos it has drawn me very close to him and i encourage you never to learn on your own understanding. The beautiful thing is that i don't look like what I have gone through and it is by God's grace. The world will be a better place if we could just say the truth. Thank God i found your channel❤
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
You mentioned the scenario of a man trying to impregnate a woman to lock her into his life. There is also the scenario of a man giving a woman a venereal disease with the thought of locking her into his life and making her undesirable to other men. I believe that protection should be used ALWAYS until you move out of the dating phase or later.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
More than that, I would recommend that you both get tested for STDs before becoming intimate. Even protection doesn't prevent everything you can catch...
It depends on the person, are they fast moving with others, is it just you. That could mean he's not really into you. Fast moving men usually have something to hide, they're hoping you won't discover the truth until its too later. I speak from experience.
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No, they just want to know that you will not friendzone them
That's always an issue. The man immediately ask how I feel about the bed situation. Always in a tacky way.
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I solved that problem, I tell every man before I dated, bedroom policy. Some walk, some try me, I was serious. Why waste my time and their time if that's the goal, I think that's being fair. 🙂👱♀️😷
@@MsHope-g3x May I ask what your policy is? I'm having a hard time with this.
I appreciate you so much Stephan, you always have such a neutral and nuanced perspective IMO. Thats severely lacking in our society these days!
this video came at the right time. God spoke through you. I needed this thank you🙏🏼
My pleasure ❤️
I think what scares me about love bombing is that (even if the feelings are mutual), he is not authentically in love. The faster he loves, the faster his feelings will fade away. I heard this quote somewhere , and I want to see your opinion on it “men tend to love faster, but women tend to love harder”. It really stuck with me because it made me think about whether or not his love is true.
😢 why is it usually the ones we dont want that seems to "KNOW" from the start that we're "The One"
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It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
#YESSSSS!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 LIKE WHY'D IT HAD 2 BE U!!! 🤦♀️😭😮💨
@@DivineDivinations85 🤣🤣🤣
THIS THE COMMENT I WAS LOOKING FOR... LIKE HIM ACTING LIKE THAT TURNED ME ALL THE WAY OFF
Because you care more about looks and aesthetics so you’d rather deal with problems that come with that. It’s not rocket science people just don’t like being honest with themselves. Yes, you can be shallow especially in dating that goes for both men and women
"Slowing down is okay. Pulling back is not."
Stephan this video brought out a few key points about "iF A MAN IS MOVING TOO FAST". There is something to be said about individuals that are ready to commit quickly. However, relationships are so different these days. It seemed more simple when you're young a lot less bull to sort through it seems for men and women. I believe true love exist, the question is does it exist for everyone? As you always say, when we take the time to heal and do the work it will be natural attraction.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I was dating a guy that wanted to move quickly and I didn't at first but later on I was just one of his toys and I stop seeing him 8mos ago I played the game for almost two years I needed more than a male whore. Happy being alone...
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
In a word : ENTRAPMENT!!!!!!
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Master advise..🙏🏿 but it best to trust yourself and confront the creator keep calm answers come more than expected...
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😂😂😂 honestly its so funny how after hearing my voice, he's already preaching love the next day, and when i asked what he loves about me, he goes...I will tell you when we meet in person.
He was trying to convince himself, not me to come and pass night at his place and talking marriage as if I mentioned I was desperate😂😂 I totally ignored him and he stopped being hasty and hardly ever chat. Mtcheeeew 😂
Thanks for this piece Stephan❤
Glad I could help 🙏
I think you should come out with a relationship card game , where you get deep and ask the real questions to have a healthy relationship for couples or potential couples to buy
Never experienced this type. If he's moving at light speed, I'd use my INTUITION first, then second I'd run AWAY from him at same speed he's using to try to entrap me!!!!
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I am dealing with this right now, thank you for the video!❤
Glad I could help 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks yes, you always help me!
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@@tundun8365 i prefer to see how it goes and dealing with this wisely respecting my time, let's see how it goes. Thank u for ur feedback anyhow 😘
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Yes! run don't walk!😅💫💯✨️💥
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What come fast does not last.What last come slow.If someone want us only for pleasure thats a big red flag.Healthy relationship promote healthy self esteem.I learned that I don't want someone who is rude, arrogant,shy,weak.I know they did not do their healing.
Immature people project their insecurities on others and it's issue for a woman who needs healing as well.First Heal Yourself to know what you want and you don't want then you manifest the right one.
Suggestion : make a video for when he's moving too slow 😅😂
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Do these men exist? 😂
@@bnb0510 I'm dating one. 😅 Maybe I should count my blessings.
@@bnb0510Yes, they do; my ex is such a man & I eventually had to jump ship or continuously get sucked in his loop.
@@ElleNeNe for sure! Although I guess it really does depend on how slow things are progressing because if it’s at a snails pace then I understand… 🐌
I don’t agree with, if you have mutual feelings for the other person, it’s not love bombing.
When someone is love bombing you and makes you excited about the new relationship, it feels real to that person. It’s only later on in the relationship when they are usually “stuck” their mask comes off. That’s when you realize all the deception and lies.
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Yahuah's blessings 2 u and I totally agree with everything ur saying in this video. The part when the man gets the woman pregnant on purpose so he can have access 2 a woman's life-yes that part because it happened 2 me 5 years ago. Since I don't want anything 2 do with him, he don't want anything 2 do with his son and the sad part about it-he lives right down the street from us. My son don't even know him because no bond has been established between them. He have other children and is active in their lives, just not my son I have with him.
A man said to me I love u very much on his 3rd call .I told we r adults and that he sounds odd.he stopped calling.Thank god.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Mr Speaks can you break down dating versus getting to know someone or is it the same 🤔
Great suggestion! I will add this to my list to get it done ❤
I believe that building a strong friendship is important before getting into a relationship but some men rush and move too fast because they don't wanna lose the woman. Some men feel like if they dont take their shot another man will step up and take her....or sometimes some men might be clingy but at times thats not the case. My guy friend moved fast and pampered a woman because he really liked her. She had just got out of a relationship and just used him for attention. She led him on by telling him she wanted more than a friendship with him but in reality she was still dating and talking to alot of different men....to me thats wrong even if they were not official. They use to work at this company together but they didn't hang out until they were both no longer with the company. The business closed down....maybe she saw him rushing as a weakness because she cut him off. I honestly think he had feelings for that woman for a long time but he couldn't mix professional life with personal life so he waited... They both went their separate ways of course. My friend was genuine man but that girl was out there talking to everybody smh.
“ some men rush and move too fast because they don't wanna lose the woman” this was my guy (he fell hard for girls in the past and they would talk to other guys, leading him on, same as the girl your friend talked to). I am the same way with “rushing” it may appears to others but I know what I want and I’m intentional. We have known each other for a few weeks and we discussed marriage already. After three months, we decided to plan a wedding. We both pampered each other and I know he’s the right one because it is mutual efforts and also, his families are so very kind. I’ve always poured into others so much, it’s so nice to know someone finally reciprocates equally. We are getting marriage at the end of this year. :) everything has been consistent and peaceful since the moment I first spoke with him. Please know it works out! Wishing your friend the best!
When a man tells you his priority -your left on your own roller coasting adventure.
What is a good resource to use to ask those important questions at different levels in the relationship?
Every man I've been with has wanted to move super fast. I never really had feelings for them but I went forward anyways. I just started dating a guy 2 weeks ago and he, again, wants things to move super fast. All my friends/family are giving me the "slow down, syd.... this could be love bombing" etc. It's discouraging because for the first time I actually really like this guy too and now I'm getting in my head like "I should end it now" "it's gonna be toxic like the last times". I really truly feel like this guy is just a lover boy. I've had girlfriends like this and they're not toxic, they're still with the guys.. they just fall fast and hard. I'm trying to have a level head about things, because knowing this is the first time I have feelings, I have a way harder fall if things go south.
Perfect timing
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I've seen men that loved when a woman chased them, it fed their ego, they loss interest over time. Another woman chased them, dumped the first one. He'll be a chronic dumper I call that type
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
God's talking here 😂 I living this
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What's wrong with moving fast?
As a man I want to know that I will not be left in friendzone after ages of "knowing each other"
My mum and dad were married within 6 months of meeting and lived happily ever after until dad passed. How I got it so wrong with such a great example is beyond me lol...
So right on, thank you!👍🙏💕
My pleasure ❤️
I love the way you teach us. Greetings from🇹🇷
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I,m facing this matter
🙏 I hope you are able to do what is truly best!
Fast and furious movements ??
Stephan God has to interviene in order for it to be a success
You both can have an entire face to face dialogue
But moving to fast in my opinion its a big gamble
The race is not for the swift or the strong
But for those who can endure to the end
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Hi i just experienced this, he's talking marriage but thank God I was no fool..his idea of love is that he must be allowed to touch me n must have sex before marriage..he was very pushy n being forceful from the beginning.. this is not my type of guy/idea of relationship. When I tried to talk to him he does not understand anything at all. I could not express myself , how i feel. If he asked for a kiss and he gets it he's holding on to u so forceful for more..it was causing me more stress n frustration..he was not willing to wait to do anything at all.i told him let's take time n build he would say yes but he would do the opposite..thank God i promised to honour him with my body and he says i am picky when i express myself..i think he had a different agenda..I would be here waiting on him because we had plans to go out and he would not communicate if he gets hold up at work n he gets upset when i asked him why he couldn't say something..i was being real careful . He doesn't know how to talk to a lady either..i was trying to b calm n try talk to him in a calm loving manner. Sit n hold his hands n talk to him but Lord Jesus....
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through!
Thank you..we were only like 2 months but i broke it off..I know my worth n what I am all about and no man who doesn't respect my values is worth my time..God first.
Same he couldn’t wait to have sex before marriage.. Not listening to understand. Very selfish.
Yea a guy at work just broke things off with me after 10 days because I was moving too slowly.. he had been on holiday for 7 of those days 😂😂 and hadn’t even had a date yet.
Are we connected???😂 cause you always drop videos of exactly what I need when I need it 😅
Sooo glad you did this video topic.. I now know the difference of PB and SD.. I HAD to pull back buddy was asking me out every day, calling everyday, not making plans, calling last minute like at 5pm to go out at 6 or7. I work I told him I dont do last minute, a woman needs time to get ready & I need things planned out, please be considerate. He even tried to pull that I need to compromise.. Umm NO like trust thats earned too. After a month of me PB and him hearing different iterations of NO over n over again he realized I wasn't jumping at his becking call. He planned out a nice 2 part dinner/concert date, during my low key vetting at dinner he stated he was used to women being immediately available said I was different n intriguing not like any other woman he dated... in my mind I was like yeah yeah u gone respect me and this process.. if not kick rocks.. im not wasting time being rushed into anything.. period!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
This love bombing happen to me. An old high school mate. According to him he was burned before, 3 times. He says he didn’t want to lose everything, again. We live in different states, now. He didn’t realize this,at first. His wife now, had kicked him out. Then she got severely sick. Still is,according to him. At that time, she wanted him to come back. He says he does everything. Due to her illnesses. He is now diabetic, arthritic knees, and ED. I ask him who’s name is on the house. He said, both. But he kept pushing me to move back to our home state. Which I was already thinking about, before I connected to him. Within 2 months he was getting anxious, it seemed. He insinuated I was moving to slow. This hit me hard. It seemed to me, he just needed a place to live. We are both 70 yrs. We communicated on messenger. His communications became sporadic. But it was him to always initiate the conversation. I just replied with a smile or one word. Then I just unfriended him. It’s been 2 Wks.
Definitely what I experience with a guy who only been with just 3 years but long distance relationship only cause the 2nd year he told me that he wants to get married and have more children even though his other kids are grown but something was off about him when he keeps questioning me about I'm i ready to have his baby or not and if I'm really going to get married to him and be his wife it's seems like more control type when he keeps bringing the same things to me and get annoyed when I tell him I'm not going to rush to get married or have kids by him cause i no a fact that it's going to get out of control soon in life 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Stephan thanks for the info i like it.
My pleasure ❤️
When a man moves to fast he is most likely a NARCISSIST
great video and naming a lot of possible scenarios. Keep it up!
Thank you. I appreciate that 🙏
You are the best!!!! Thank you!! ❤❤
Oh Lord, this came right on time! 😂
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Your laugh makes me laugh!
Same here😂
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
This is a great video.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
This is what am passing through now,i met a man we have been together for a month ,and he is already requesting for intimacy and am not ready for this,it makes me question myself wheather am really safe or he is only intrested in sex
Thanks for these❤
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
NO MEANS NO!! And do not be afraid to say it.. firmly! IF he leave , stop calling, dry conversations, stop taking u out/coming over or make u feel bad or use those lilboy statements like.. U have needs right, a man has needs, we grown right, what you scared of, blah blah. RUN 🏃♂️ Forest RUN..
Help my boyfriend wants to see me almost everyday, problem is then I can never get him to go home...it's starting to bug me. He's a sweet guy and I like him but his eagerness to be all up in my space, and all over me is making me question who he is a person and what void he's trying to fill. I thought it was about me now I'm thinking it's his insecurities and social akwardness...plus he just got divorced. She hurt him big time. I on the other hand am very outgoing and social so that may be why he is so clingy to me. Id like to see where this can go but I don't know how to get it through to him without being a bitch. I've tried a few times to tell him after 10pm I want him to go home. My son said he isn't too brite. The lack of space is starting to make me want to run...any advice?
Scary
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Can you do a video on what it means when his friends don’t like you? Or ignore you or just aren’t friendly. My boyfriend introduced me to his friends about a month ago but treats me like I’m insignificant when he’s around them.
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
It’s probably because he’s saying negative things about you to them when you’re not around
Hey Stephen, I’m looking for advice on my current situation. My girlfriend lived in SC and I lived in MO, I moved out there for about a week and a half and I was truly upset with myself soon as I got there. I felt like I wasn’t enough for her and I got in my head about it. I ended up leaving and went back to Missouri to try to fix myself, I felt like a bum compared to her and I felt like she deserved better. Now I’m in a boat where I’m either gonna pursue my career but I don’t wanna lose her any advice would be appreciated I’d love to chat back and forth on this bc I have a lot to say but don’t know anything that’s like my situation
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️ Get your copy of "Love After Heartbreak" here 👉 www.loveafterheartbreak.com. This book will lead you to find peace and happiness in your life.
New subscribers here. Im chatting this man and his moving to fast about marriage and having kids lol we didnt even meet and he showing his kid to me by video and feel very uncomfortable . So i pull back what do u think? Thanks in advance
Alot of helpful points, I met someone who is wanting sex right away which I don't want until I know him longer.
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THESE NINJAS HOMELESS THAT'S WHY THEY RUSHING😂😂😂
A man isn't the one to move the relationship
WELL P
Where in the Bible is the authority for a woman to divorce her husband?
How about moving to fast such as within a week of knowing him he wanted to get sexually involved with me.
What about an ex, that wants to comeback into your life ? He wasn't abusive, we didnt want the same things at the same time
When a man comes back to you, do these five things 👉
Is this guy still single?
They are trying to get you in bed, period