Because of the trials and tribulations and good and bad relationships, I have finally found love and it feels sooooo good and due to listening to you and your advice i won my King and he won his Queen and today we Celebrate our 1 month Anniversary. This is the first guy i have ever been able to open myself up to openly without second guessing myself. We both are truly truly happy. So thank you soo much for your guidance your words and reasoning has changed my whole outlook and now i am able to love and be loved
Women know deep down inside when something is off. If you ask the right questions, you will get the right answers. We should not ignore, what spirit is saying, and the emotions that our body feels. All of these are tell-tale signs that something is not right. We need to learn to trust this more. Thank you for your guidance. ❣
Agreement 💯 WAKE UP WOMAN OF COLOR RISE! RISE! RISE! STOP flying with the birds of the common buzzard and spread your wings and fly with the wisest birds EAGLES!
I definitely know the military life. It is to bad some of us get advice then it means nothing until you live it. You have to live with experience to understand your choices because every situation is different. Education is important, but with no experience means nothing. Thank you for sharing.
ATTENTION QUEENS Remember I AM NOT WHAT happen to me. I AM I AM WHAT I CHOOSE to become. Life is about choice and the effects. It's essential to make room in our busy lives to set time aside to just BE STILL and TRUST GOD'S LOVE. HE GOT YOU! GRACE is an unmerited, abounding provision of the unrestrained operation of God's Infinite Love, in other words, nothing can hinder that love.
Some manipulators have mastered the art of deceit. It’s not always the lovey dovey texts. Can be all day check in texts, wanting to talk ALL the time, mirroring what you like so that it appears you’ve found your perfect match. Psychological manipulation...It’s literally nuts out there!
The overt narcissist I was with only love bombed me for a couple of days. Fast forward 6 years and I had a very nice man love bomb me but he was recently divorced (1 year out) and I think he needed his ego stroked but he wasn't narcissistic at all but definitely was a fearful avoidant after the 2 month mark. I told him we needed to slow it down, and I wanted to take a few weeks off, but I think by that time, he had lost interest in me. I'm glad it happened sooner rather than later. He couldn't handle his feelings and getting serious. A lot of these recently divorced men just become serial daters.
I’m healing from a narcissistic person right now. That love bombing is soooo addictive and gets you caught into a cycle. I have been back and forth with him for years. Unfortunately I found out I have been going through a trauma bond. The cycle is rough but I’m in recovery and getting better every day. ☺️
wow, thank you so much for posting this. I've seen someone speak about it, but didn't watch the entire video and i never really looked into it. But -->> Trauma bonds are emotional bonds with an individual that arise from a recurring, cyclical pattern of abuse perpetuated by intermittent reinforcement through rewards and punishments. The process of forming trauma bonds is referred to as trauma bonding or traumatic bonding.... Very interesting. I know what I'll be reading tonight. THANK YOU
Me too. It's difficult to get out because they assess how to affect you - what your triggers are. They know how to cause confusion and longing in you. For instance, if you crave validation of your feelings or apologies, they will withhold that, so you are chasing them. I realised this ...allowing that person to decide if you are nice, forgiven or in the right, is giving away all of your power to feel whole / not whole. You know who you are and you don't need someone else to validate that. You don't need more evidence that they were mean. They were mean.
I left an 11 year relation when I met my soulmate. We met in a game this is so different it was like we knew we found each other we moved fast and everything feels so easy with him we are engaged I never had a love like this deep level of connection spiritually physically and mentally it was or organic on how we met and how we started falling in love. We see ourselves in each other and bring out the best in each other. Best decision of my life. My past relationships only prepared me for this real one and I’m grateful. God had put us together in such a mind blowing way that it’s wild. So unreal that we had this conversation that it had to been god that put us together.
You are super right. I am Jamaican who lives in Jamaica and trust 🇯🇲 men are kings of love bombing and users. I was telling someone today that I need to start traveling outside Jamaica because my soul mate is not in Jamaica. Met a guy a month ago started telling me he loved me by the second day and started asking me for money on the 4th day. 🙄
So I'm discovering I experienced a man like this a couple of years ago. I didn't know it had a label. I just knew it was overwhelming , overbearing and one-sided. Only because I believe I'm very healthy spiritually and mentally was I able to recognize it quickly and get out. I handled it gingerly but quickly. So glad I did. 😊
I was love bombed by a con artist master manipulator. I was absolutely flummoxed. I can look back now & realized I let this happen because I was lonely from my divorce. Found him too good to be true. Ladies, do not ignore your intuition, set boundaries & enforce them, have no fear. Stephan, thank you for these videos. They help remind us women of our self worth. 😊
I never knew what love bombing was until I met a guy last month who did this. He was such a charming and good-looking man. I kept saying it was too good to be true, and then he ghosted me.
This happened to me last year and you’re 💯 correct about the connection. I didn’t understand why I was so DRAWN to him. I just wanted to be around him. There was always a sense of peace and security in his presence. It scared me at first because I didn’t know what to make of it. I didn’t understand what was going on or if what I was feeling was real. Of course he picked up on my fears and insecurities and stopped pursuing me altogether. Since then, we have both been more open and honest with each other. We’ve been working on our healing since then and I’m leaving it in Gods hands for when HE says it’s time. I’m cautious about who I talk to about the situation because the majority DO NOT UNDERSTAND it and give horrible advice based on their own limited and negative personal experiences. I’m leaning on God’s guidance now and let me tell you, I can already see MAJOR progress!!!❤️
Lilyana, yes, my experience also! When we first met in person, we both (as we discussed later) always felt connected, like we 'knew each other forever!' We feel safe and peaceful together and there ARE people who don't understand or agree.
@@jenniferransomart Thank you for replying!!! I’m glad I’m not alone in this. The wait is so hard at times but building my relationship with God has helped tremendously. I will pray for you both. May God bless you!!❤️🙏🏼
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. Reading your books has helped me understand the situation and lean on God for guidance. I’m continuing to read your daily affirmations book knowing that in time, Gods time, everything will come to be as He wants it to be. God bless you!!🙏🏼🙏🏼
This was excellent! I will admit I have been Love Bombed twice but once they started asking for money, I gave them a piece of my mind and deleted them.
Oh dear. I just got out of a love-bombing situation. I met him on-line and he wanted to meet me that very day. I told him that women are taught that this is dangerous. All he did was argue, saying that he was a good man and that I was throwing away a good relationship. I deleted him but forgot to block him. He shows up in my feed again and he convinced me to meet him. Within 3 days he was professing his undying love, wanting to have sex, and monopolizing my time. I live alone and have many responsibilities to take care of. My home, yard, pets, bills, etc. I told him that I couldn’t possibly be available to him every single day! What does he do? He shows up uninvited! Oh hell no!! A week in to it, he says that he is leaving his house to his grown kids and moving in with me. (The hell you aren’t!!). When I tried to end things he tries his old tactic of saying that I am throwing away a good man. Folks, I was right the first time. I recognized his controlling behavior and deleted him before I even met him. Listen to your instincts! God gave women “women’s intuition” for a reason!
From a retired immigration attorney: it’s legal temporary resident status and then a removal of conditions after two years of marriage. There is a 3 year wait for citizenship application after the date the temporary Resident card is issued. And yes, you are right. This happens all of the time. Your video is spot on! Thank you.
This actually happened to me just before I started college. I was neighbors with a family of Argentinian immigrants who asked my mother if I or one of my younger siblings could marry their eldest son, who was still in Argentina at the time, so that he could gain citizenship. The parents even offered to pay us. 😳
when I was living in Colorado I was presented with doing this twice it was a young man in his 20s and the lady that worked with me at the airport tried to hook this up she said they were gonna pay me 2000 to marry him I was already 40 she said he's not gonna want sex just the marriage then another friend from Africa told me to charge them 5000 I said no! I'm not doing this it felt illegal
This is precisely why I'm watching this. I'm trying to distinguish love bombing from a genuine, rare connection due to past disappointments. Thank you for this video! I determined it is a genuine connection :)
If it’s not MUTUAL attraction and intensity, then it’s most likely love-bombing. Great point. This goes for all relationships, even with overbearing/narcissistic mother-in-laws who love bomb you into feeling a part of the family right off the bat without knowing you and pushing your relationship towards marriage ASAP (yeah, I’m triggered lol).
I hear ya - Elyon RG! And speaking of Love Bombing… If you feel someone is behaving with you in a way - you think they shouldn’t really be - especially when you’re just getting to know each other, then you have to do something! You cannot put up with it, if you let it keep happening, there’s no telling what they’ll do next, it’ll only escalate! That’s why it’s so important to set boundaries early on in the relationship - basically, behaviors you’ll tolerate, and behaviors, you definitely won’t put up with! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
For me it was the Citizenship 😭😭 . Duuuude was talking about marriage and me sharing his last name with him within 2months of dating😭. I’m glad I prayed about because God revealed nikka was cheating. Same time he sent 1000 roses 🌹 is the same time he was at a function with another woman. 😭🙏
Forwarding this to my girls! It’s hard to see over sensitivity and loving differences. Love and relate to the heavy heart, thing. After years in dysfunctional marriage, now divorced and trying to find right perspectives is profoundly difficult because after all a trigger is a trigger. How does one delineate? Love your videos. Godly men are a beautiful gift to this world. I’ll add to feel discounted during or immediately after love Bombing is key to functional vs. Dysfunctional. Sloooow Dooown, enjoy and keep eyes wide open. Don’t be delusional, don’t sell yourself on an illusion or a mirage of what could be. Listen to your gut, kinda thing!
I just went through this recently. It really hurts and I'm still healing from it but I'm thankful you are discussing this now so other women can understand what this is and how to avoid it. God bless.
Thank you so much, Stephan, for your great wisdom and advice. We should never deceive ourselves into thinking a man wants a romantic relationship with us just because he comes on strong with sweet words of love/flattery. I have had service people and contractors do the same thing. They just want to butter us up to get our money. As in all things, don't believe anything you hear from people. Everyone has an agenda. Trust God, ask for His guidance, then WAIT on Him to work in our lives. Impulsive decisions that we make based on our own desires can get us into real trouble that can take years to get out of! When in doubt, do nothing, seek God.
I met a man who love bombed me. He was always complimenting me and talking about how attractive I am. It made me feel uncomfortable. He is nice so I didn’t have a problem going out and having dinner and drinks but he was quick to tell me he loved me. I didn’t like the speed he was moving and pulled back. He called and texted until I agreed to go out with him once again to give him another chance. I agreed and he kept saying he got his “baby” back. I asked him not to call me that and couldn’t wait to get home. A week later he called and said his grandmother passed. I gave my condolences and he immediately said he wanted, no, NEEDED to see me. I had been in a car accident two days before and he didn’t know so I told him and said I am staying home. He said he understood, but called me two days later asking me to come over again! He didn’t even ask how I was doing or even if my car was drivable!! I told him I wasn’t going anywhere and he pulled the pity card. I feel pretty down and the person I want to be with doesn’t want to be with me. I told him I was IN PAIN and got off the phone and blocked his number fast AF!!!!!! 🤦🏾♀️
I think I’m currently going through a love bomb😭 he told me he’s “dating to marry me” after a week or 2 Of texting already calling me hun and then saying “my girl” “my girlfriend” I told him he needs to ask me to be his girlfriend I’m not going to assume shit. Month later he asked and I said yes. Now with that happening he said he wants me to pick out a place to eat as our first date I said the Cheesecake Factory. We’ll see what happens 👀 I currently let him text first and currently write down all the things he saying to see if it matches up with his actions. and I let him know that him and my dad will have a discussion before we leave to eat. my dad will definitely get him shaking in his boots 😭😆
I'm experimenting the man in the military right now. I realize now I was manipulated into a relationship for his benefit... Your books have been a huge help
"Love Bombing" is a new term. The pouring on excess non-existent words of love and/or moving quickly is age old. But everyone got to see it when internet chatting began. You had guys from different states, overseas from the US proclaiming false love within a couple of messages. Then dropping off just as quickly when this proclamation of false love was questioned. Listen, a woman should absolutely trust her instincts, her inner gut feeling. She can absolutely tell when a man is eager for her vs when he's just after something from her and thinks proclaiming untrue love will get it. Some teenage girls fell for this, but not cause they trusted or believed the guy, but because she ignored her own gut feeling (instincts). Besides trusting her instincts, a man's true intent is revealed through his actions. When a man is eager for you, it's very, very different from a man pouring on all these supposed affections don't don't really exist.
Wow, I honestly did not know there was a term to describe this! After listening to your information, Stephan, I realize that I was love-bombed several times. In all 3 situations, the men came on VERY STRONG, started talking about love after about 3-4 times of just talking on the phone or texting. I thought it was weird, but said let's see what happens. After about a week or so, in each situation, they started asking for money to "help" with some "urgent" problem. Needless to say, I stopped communicating with them. Thank you so much for all the great information you give us Stephan!
Girl yes! These lakes try to get you to fall in love with them or say you love them then they burden you with some issue and guilt trip you because you said you loved them. Soon as a man that ain’t my husband asks me for money HE’s DROPPED. In an instant. Can’t stand those leeches.
I recently got it of a really toxic relationship and ended up being homeless with my kids for a few months. then, through a friend, a friendly vet took us in. I was super wary of him and afraid of what might happen living with a single man. But the longer I'm here and have gotten to know him, the stronger connection we've gotten, though it was really not intended to happen, we have an unusual connection neither of us have had with anyone. We keep it pure because he doesn't want me to ever think he's like one of those terrible men I've been with in the past. But I really think he's a real one, especially after watching your videos, Stephan. ❤
Stephan, your content is just but the best thing that has happened to me this year. Being a single lady, trusting God for a spouse, and getting to learn all these stuff gives me a reason to be proud of the person I am becoming. You are so realistic, thoughtful and you put out your points with ease and love. From the time I came to know about your work, I have never stopped listening to what you are teaching. I would say you are truly a blessing to this generation.
Seeing red flags AND feeling something within that wasn’t right.. I just experienced this with a “love bomber”. I tried to connect with him but my intuitions were in overdrive. I just never felt right about him. This video definitely helped me realize I made the right decision!
There is so much deception in the world and you gave phenomenal guidance on some of the things women commonly fall prey to with regards to this topic. I wholeheartedly hope this guidance reaches far & wide to stop people becoming more victims of this 🙏❤️
I watched this because I am the unhealed woman who God has brought the man to me. Yes it is a lot when it happens but I have never felt a love connection like this ever before and it is truly amazing. It is scary and you think it's love bombing especially when your last ex was a narcissist. I have prayed about this and watch many videos and it's true some men really believe that they need to do a lot to pursue a woman that they really like. We have been together two months going on three. It's not easy but it's worth the work. God will let you know. It's amazing when it's real you can't deny it.
Started dating this guy and he called me "babe" on the first date. Thats a lil fast to me when i dont know him, and he doesn't know me yet. I really like him, but there's some red flags already that makes me believe he's a love bomber.
Throughout the Bible, God goes HARD against deception! I got scammed online with the false pic and the story. Even while giving money gradually, I was doubtful. After 2 months, I finally severed the tie with that deceiver. My emotions were played on strong, I was very hurt by the lies, but I've long ago healed, learned lessons and moved forward.
Omg bro you really captured the sentiment in this vidoe. It's 200% the truth. I have 2 more to add 😆 . Feel free to jump in... 7. Mr Nomad - this man appears as the perfect man and then one day with no notice or a fight just disappear leaving you in confusion and worried that something bad happened to him. With this guy, it might take real investigation to figure out that you are one of several women in different states or cities. I guess a red flag will be inconsistencies in stories about their life before you. 8. Mr. Ready - this guy just want to settle to protect his image or there is something greater to gain for just getting married. Red flags - believes strong in gender roles, ready to marry yesterday. his love bombing will tailor to exactly what you tell him you want or generalized on what he thinks "woman" like. This guy will probably never know what your middle name is...
I knew a man who witheld flirting with me when I would to him and he shut me down. Tried to have it all his way, dismissed my needs and feelings. Then later said everyone wants to feel desired. I felt I was kissing his ass yet he started being rude and couldn’t ever understand me. Can’t stand manipulation and control or repression. That goes against everything I stand for. Thanks again for the videos. You look great
I agree with everything you said. I love when a man tells me he loves me over and over. Especially when it’s mutual and we both are feeling the same way. I’m dating a Cameroonian man 🇨🇲 and no he didn’t need citizenship he was born in USA 🇺🇸 his dad is African and mom is American I just had to throw that out there lol but he is always attentive to me and telling me he loves me. He LOVE BOMB me after dating 3 months and it didn’t bother me bc it was mutual and I felt the same way. So you are right if both people are not feeling the same way as quickly then it can seem like you are being love bomb that way to some people. Blessings to everyone!!!😊
One more that has to added to the list… the single father. I had a phone conversation with one guy that I met through Tinder who was honest and admitted point-blank period he was looking not just for a woman for himself but also for a mother for his child. Be aware ladies.
i was in a toxic abusive relationship and it started off with love bombing and ended up staying with him for 3 years now. I’ve reporting him and am going to be going thru a whole trial because he’s abused me and his previous ex i found out, I cannot leave this man unreported for him to eventually abuse some other girl without anything on his record. As i’m going thru this whole legal thing i met someone as sweet as can be. Takes me out, pays for everything for me, asks me if i ate for the day, but on the first date he asked me to be his gf. I was unsure if i should be cautious with that, like maybe this is just a man who knows what he wants or he’s just love bombing me. Because of my previous toxic relationship it makes me question my judgement and if this is too much of a good thing. He’s aware of my legal battle with my ex that is something i wanted to be honest about with him. Hes brought up sex at me a little bit but i’ve said no and said i’m not ready. He’s said it’s been 2 years since he’s been intimidate with a woman and of course he wants to be with me but he said i enjoy your company and i already waited 2 years so i can wait for you lol. we’ve had 4 dates so far and for our next date out he’s taking me out to buy a few dresses just a few cheap ones from primark. Like i been so happy but at the same time i’m like idk. Ugh why do even what it feels like to be green flags might come off as red flags ? so annoying lmaoooo. but he told me and right off the bat he’s dating for marriage he’s at the age where he wants to get married and so am i so i hope all goes well.
I wound up really hating him. And I told him a few times. He just laughed. I became very very depressed. I gave him too much time but I got out of it. Haven't seen him In 18 months!! Don't miss anything!!
Mr. Online and overseas, yes it is true , it does happen. It makes me so happy you spoke on this Stephan! Not easy to admit I have been scammed, especially when it first happened. When we are running around hurt and not focusing on healing, this can happen so easily. I always used to think women who did this were just foolish and wanted to be fooled. I am telling you women this happens so fast and when you are unhealed it is very hard to get away from.
I received this once . I told him to be careful because if I was a women that was scorn or women of no means and no heart, I would take complete advantage of this opportunity. I also told him never let everything out the bag without evaluating whats on the inside he was very gullible like a lost puppy in some ways. He was relationship material but not a man of God potential.I figured him out in a few weeks saw that he needed to heal long story he was coming from a broken engagement. He scared the mess out of me with his vision for me in him didn't even know me. I wasn't desperate for love or marriage especially that quickly. Needless to say .I felt he didn't heal from his past relationship he was just lonely and rebounding. So I sent him on his way needless to say everything he said was lies. My intuition never fails me.
Before I meet my husband & got married I was dating a guy I thought maybe it was from the Lord just because I hadn’t dated in a long time.. so I gave him a chance he was alright looking not that looks matters but he was nice to me & no he wasn’t giving me tones of gifts etc… to make this story short! One day I invited him to my church & my pastor came up to me & told me you know that I love you right? I said yeah & tells me I want to talk to you about your friend meaning my boyfriend .. he asked me do you really see him as your boyfriend?.. I said no.. I had to be honest with myself I didn’t like him at all like I thought I did.. few things why he kept thinking he was a Christian when he was a Mormon there’s only one Bible not 2 books & second I was put in his life to help understand who God is & not to date him .. so thats that I learn my lesson there he only lasted 3 months with me y’all .
You are an example of good judgement, using free will, being sober minded, the value of humor, and speaking right down where the rubber meets the road in Christianity. Thank you. Refreshing! Sound! I'm a 64 year old white female single for 22 years living alone celibate and I can totally relate to you ( isn't the body of Christ cool?). I've been dating a man I met online for 2 months who's really into me. I NEVER thought I'd meet a man like him. I'm stunned but grounded and think it VERY well could be from God. He's so specifically what I've prayed for and more. Will you pray about this please? If it is the real deal it would definitely be a miracle and would point to Christ, which would be an honor!!
Thank you, yes I turn down every online love bomber I meet online but I did go on with one. When he asked me for money I blocked him. I asked myself why did I give this guy a chance but I turned all the others down, well if his pictures was really him he looked real good, was my age, and had 2 beautiful daughters and I wanted to meet his daughters. But thank you Stephan for covering all areas of relationships especially the green card situation (s). God bless you my Brother !
I dealt with a very sneaky hobosexual a few years ago. Sneaky because he was also constantly gaslighting me. (Yes thanks to him I learned a few terms, haha, and got better at recognizing them as time/my single status went on.) When I would ask him about his 'place' and when he plans on staying there vs. at my place he would gaslight me so badly that I felt GUILTY for asking about it. It was very frustrating. I am very generous and kind but he was definitely working me (as my friends pointed out often) ... after an embarrassingly long time of this I finally had the fight of fights with him that ended his, um, temporary residency. But I think had I known about this term/situation sooner I would have recognized it for what it was - someone using me.
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90 day fiancé is absolutely ripe with bad relationships between people from overseas working for citizenships. Military brat and X military spouse here, a lot of times marriage is also often rushed because often orders are only for 4 years at each post. So they feel like they have to jump in so the other person can come with. There are benefits both ways you get extra pay for each dependent you get BHA (Base Housing Allowance) to help you with rent because you can’t have a family in the barracks. The dependents get health, dental, and vision benefits. You can get special loans or preferential treatment when applying for school grants and loans. Military members get preyed upon because of all of this. I am sure that there are those out there who use it to reel people in as well.
Threatening suicide is a type of love bombing. They threaten suicide to try to keep you trapped. You are not responsible for whether they are well or not. Think about that❤️🙏🏼
Yep! Going through a painful divorce right now. He love bombed me and was very loving and attentive up until he got his GC. From there on everything went downhill. I was no longer “desirable” to him. I was only a vessel to get what he wanted. He discarded me (after being married for almost 5 yrs) like I was nothing. He already had another woman in his life before he even announced he wanted a divorce. Biggest regret of my life when I said “I Do” to him! 💔
Exact same thing happened to me. He actually manipulated me into leaving him. We were together 6 years, I'm so heartbroken so I understand you. 💔 God is a God of Love but also a God of Justice. He will deal with them.
Broooooo, you are sooo right. People Please so back and listen to the first few minutes of this vidoe before the list began. 100x need be so you dont learn this the hard way like me. Thanks for all you do.
He’s right!!! Love bombing is serious from an abusive manipulator as they take you through cycles of abuse. Now, it also mustn’t be confused (which is difficult if you’ve experienced it from a narcissist). It is a normal part of love so try not to mix the two. Allow people to show you the truth
Truly! you serve the peoples. So thankful that my spirit is not broken and led me out of a dangerous place. Thank you for always speaking of prayer. I know for sure it works.
Great tips! And speaking of Love Bombing… If you feel someone is behaving with you in a way - you think they shouldn’t really be - especially when you’re just getting to know each other, then you have to do something! You cannot put up with it, if you let it keep happening, there’s no telling what they’ll do next, it’ll only escalate! That’s why it’s so important to set boundaries early on in the relationship - basically, behaviors you’ll tolerate, and behaviors, you definitely won’t put up with! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Amen Carlos, I could not agree more. I am currently working on the very issues you mentioned! Thanks for putting those facts in black and white, print.
“Love bombing”should include honesty, a willingness to learn about your values, and caring enough to recognize if you are truly compatible or can find a way to navigate through different opinions so everyone is happy and fulfilled. This means the person loves themself enough to make sure their choice is healthy. It means they have enough interest and respect along with a willingness to have a successful outcome. It means they value you and the relationship enough to put the time in and not be selfish. It means the relationship matters and you are not taking a backseat to everything else in his/her life. It is listening without getting defensive. It is part of the learning about each other process. It also shows a maturity and understanding that we are all different with specific ideas and thoughts for our futures. how little you know about them is how little they know about you and diving in headfirst too fast can be dangerous. Enjoy the fun but don’t automatically get attached to a relationship outcome. Stay attached to the outcome that serves your highest good and don’t ignore the red flags! That is loving. Without that the other stuff is just a bomb - that eventually explodes. Also he is right about taking advice. It is never good practice to discuss your romantic concerns w friends or family. Consult a therapist because once you figure it out friends and family have already passed judgment based on your story (or theirs) even if you later realize you contributed or came to a wrong conclusion. A relationship should stay between 2. Or 2 and a therapist. 🙏
I have been love bomb. Believe me it is not fun especially if you never met the person face to face. When I pointed out I wasn't comfortable or ready to say "I Love You" I literally had this thrown ito my face "are you telling me you don't care or love me?" It got to the point where I was done. I quickly realized it was not real. I am much more aware of how men write their words in a text..
Interesting video!!! I’ve recently experienced this love bombing in my DM and was taken back by how fast and deep these guys get and they don’t even know who I am. The flip side of this is my feelings for a guy that I cannot explain. I’m drawn to him in a way that’s scary and my friends are looking at me with side eyes ( like girl get it together, that’s not real, your crazy for feeling that way, etc.) which is making me question my feelings. However what I do know is that this has never happened to me before and it’s getting strong instead of weak…. God help me is what I’ve been praying, so thanks for your video, it has shed some light I think!
If they r telling u they love u after only a week or two, run! This happened to me and when I said "No, it's not gonna work" to the guy he came back with pics of 4 other ladies and rubbed my face in it. "These r mine," were his exact words!. I felt bad for the other girls and wished I could warn them. 😢
Thank you for talking about sex trafficking too Verrrrry helpful video. So much garbage out there it’s dangerous. Real love is just hard to find especially when you’re mature open minded and spiritual.. ugh I love being single though lol
“WOW”…. All these terms and phrases, but that is the big problem with Social Media, you have to create a big impact fast, Hence things like TikTok, everything is in these 30sec sound/ video bites. Thankyou for saying That God is genuine, and no ulterior motive, I just wish we all would really look at and quietly reflect on the DEFINITION OF LOVE ❤️ as described in 1 Corinthians of the Bible. I appreciate you doing this video, Thankyou Stephan. Blessings
I fully agree: the Mr or Ms. he/she needs a citizenship never work in the long run ... According to my observations, it always ends with divorce ... problem: when children arise from this relationship ...
I just signed up for your channel, I appreciate every detail you discuss because I've been through many rough obstacles in life including losing my parents and brother so young, I've been going to therapy since 2018 because it took me years to understand how I wasn't processing my unresolved truama and grief in my teen and 20s. I've gained a better understanding of relationships and working toward healing. So blessed I submitted my heart to God years ago. Today I have a stable job I enjoy, my Aunt and Uncle along with cousins who look out for me, and many other blessings. I'm a 38 year old female that is still single and been in many toxic relationships. I realized after that experience that I have to work on myself. Thanks again and I look forward to learning more 🙏💖
Welcome aboard and don't forget to click on the notification bell to be notified whenever I release a new video. Healing is definitely key and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through ❤ 🙏
Another description of what happened to me. I met him four months my husband died. My husband was sick most of my marriage. Felt so good to be feel like a woman. Meeting a man who would care from me. Turned out to manipulate me
Chile my soon to be exhusband reeled me in and spit me out after we got married! Actually he was doing that before we got married just in different ways. Anyways this has taught me a valuable lesson to never ignore red flags
Yes.. its been like that with my boyfriend. Super intense and fast at the beginning. I am super slow at processing because of past experience so I haven't been the best at responding but it was not a manipulati e technique. Can be confusing sometimes especially if a strong connection makes you pop out insecurities super fast etc. And it's like an explosion of fears and love all at once. But yes it does happen !
Thank you for your teaching I signed up for your coaching! I Can’t wait to move myself into the right direction of receiving the man God has for me, although I am happy to say I have been taking Great steps to work on myself and work on my healing 😌
You are such a blessing; Stephan, and I am thankful I found your channel. Thank you for discussing naivite and how women are in their first relationship. That was certainly me, but I also believe that someone doesn't know what they don't know. It can start out with little things and isolating you from family by stacking it up like your family is taking advantage of you. Older men are not necessarily more mature and don't be so chill about things. For example; it may creep in like "I really like your hair like that" and you think that is so sweet....then it's this is the length your hair needs to be....or you look beautiful in this color and before you know it he is picking your clothes. I just feel like if a woman is inexperienced they are more likely to take these things well at first because they are believing the best of the guy. Maybe some guys do mean well in that, but isolating you and setting a stage where you are focused solely o. him and only him in your life is a big red flag. Thanks for the reminders also; camera man. 😂❤
This just came in at the right time, I needed this video, I have been in this relationship for some MTHS now,love bombing initially and now, still asking for thousands of £'s as a loan because he knows my kind of job (red flag). Nahhhh...I am ending this, he is leaving. Many thanks from🇬🇧
The other guy I dated was completely opposite he was secretive and very quiet to quiet. Missing time not consistent. I thank he was broken based on his communication behavior.
I was seriously love bombed. It was overwhelming but since I never had love from family I thought wow finally someone cares for me. Maybe I am worthy of love. Well I married a narcissist that was physically abusive. Figures .... what was I thinking. Its not meant for me to be loved. Im 43 and all I attract are users and manipulators. I finally got divorced. Ill just stay alone. I understand now.
You really don't know how much this just helped me.... made me cry. Thank you so much for clarity now I can stop over analyzing the love I'm experiencing
The first 7 minutes is 100% true. I also need you to do that video on women dating down. Why women do it, how to notice if you are, and how to date your worth. Please and thank you!
Stephan,this is a tricky topic. While love bombing can see innocuous or even feel good at first, it can become a problem if its used as a manipulation tool which can be deeply harmful to the person experiencing it.
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Because of the trials and tribulations and good and bad relationships, I have finally found love and it feels sooooo good and due to listening to you and your advice i won my King and he won his Queen and today we Celebrate our 1 month Anniversary. This is the first guy i have ever been able to open myself up to openly without second guessing myself. We both are truly truly happy. So thank you soo much for your guidance your words and reasoning has changed my whole outlook and now i am able to love and be loved
Women know deep down inside when something is off. If you ask the right questions, you will get the right answers. We should not ignore, what spirit is saying, and the emotions that our body feels. All of these are tell-tale signs that something is not right. We need to learn to trust this more. Thank you for your guidance. ❣
Agreement 💯 WAKE UP WOMAN OF COLOR RISE! RISE! RISE! STOP flying with the birds of the common buzzard and spread your wings and fly with the wisest birds EAGLES!
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I definitely know the military life. It is to bad some of us get advice then it means nothing until you live it. You have to live with experience to understand your choices because every situation is different. Education is important, but with no experience means nothing. Thank you for sharing.
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I AM WHAT I CHOOSE to become. Life is about choice and the effects. It's essential to make room in our busy lives to set time aside to just BE STILL and TRUST GOD'S LOVE. HE GOT YOU! GRACE is an unmerited, abounding provision of the unrestrained operation of God's Infinite Love, in other words, nothing can hinder that love.
So true! The Lord has given us clear instincts. Some of us pay attention to the red flags n others are in denial. At the end, it’s your choice.
Also be aware of “Mr. needs a rebound” to boost his confidence after he got dumped.
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Some manipulators have mastered the art of deceit. It’s not always the lovey dovey texts. Can be all day check in texts, wanting to talk ALL the time, mirroring what you like so that it appears you’ve found your perfect match. Psychological manipulation...It’s literally nuts out there!
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Facts!!!!!
It felt practical, as in, he cared about my day to day life. Then on day sixty. Poof, he’s gone, who cares about my day after that!
The overt narcissist I was with only love bombed me for a couple of days. Fast forward 6 years and I had a very nice man love bomb me but he was recently divorced (1 year out) and I think he needed his ego stroked but he wasn't narcissistic at all but definitely was a fearful avoidant after the 2 month mark. I told him we needed to slow it down, and I wanted to take a few weeks off, but I think by that time, he had lost interest in me. I'm glad it happened sooner rather than later. He couldn't handle his feelings and getting serious. A lot of these recently divorced men just become serial daters.
I’m healing from a narcissistic person right now. That love bombing is soooo addictive and gets you caught into a cycle. I have been back and forth with him for years. Unfortunately I found out I have been going through a trauma bond. The cycle is rough but I’m in recovery and getting better every day. ☺️
wow, thank you so much for posting this. I've seen someone speak about it, but didn't watch the entire video and i never really looked into it. But -->> Trauma bonds are emotional bonds with an individual that arise from a recurring, cyclical pattern of abuse perpetuated by intermittent reinforcement through rewards and punishments. The process of forming trauma bonds is referred to as trauma bonding or traumatic bonding.... Very interesting. I know what I'll be reading tonight. THANK YOU
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
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Me too. It's difficult to get out because they assess how to affect you - what your triggers are. They know how to cause confusion and longing in you. For instance, if you crave validation of your feelings or apologies, they will withhold that, so you are chasing them. I realised this ...allowing that person to decide if you are nice, forgiven or in the right, is giving away all of your power to feel whole / not whole. You know who you are and you don't need someone else to validate that. You don't need more evidence that they were mean. They were mean.
My current situation and sometimes these videos confuse me cus i cant tell if ita love and im not listening or narcissim
Gosh, you can't win for losing.
I give up on dating.
It's to much, to scary.
I'm better off alone!!!
I felt the same way, I'm not giving up let God and you spirit leads you. May God bless you Queen🙏🏾
I left an 11 year relation when I met my soulmate. We met in a game this is so different it was like we knew we found each other we moved fast and everything feels so easy with him we are engaged I never had a love like this deep level of connection spiritually physically and mentally it was or organic on how we met and how we started falling in love. We see ourselves in each other and bring out the best in each other. Best decision of my life. My past relationships only prepared me for this real one and I’m grateful. God had put us together in such a mind blowing way that it’s wild. So unreal that we had this conversation that it had to been god that put us together.
You are super right. I am Jamaican who lives in Jamaica and trust 🇯🇲 men are kings of love bombing and users. I was telling someone today that I need to start traveling outside Jamaica because my soul mate is not in Jamaica. Met a guy a month ago started telling me he loved me by the second day and started asking me for money on the 4th day. 🙄
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Run!
Don’t give them your money
Lord. He didnt have No damn shame.
So I'm discovering I experienced a man like this a couple of years ago. I didn't know it had a label. I just knew it was overwhelming , overbearing and one-sided. Only because I believe I'm very healthy spiritually and mentally was I able to recognize it quickly and get out. I handled it gingerly but quickly. So glad I did. 😊
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
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I was love bombed by a con artist master manipulator. I was absolutely flummoxed. I can look back now & realized I let this happen because I was lonely from my divorce. Found him too good to be true. Ladies, do not ignore your intuition, set boundaries & enforce them, have no fear. Stephan, thank you for these videos. They help remind us women of our self worth. 😊
I never knew what love bombing was until I met a guy last month who did this. He was such a charming and good-looking man. I kept saying it was too good to be true, and then he ghosted me.
This happened to me last year and you’re 💯 correct about the connection. I didn’t understand why I was so DRAWN to him. I just wanted to be around him. There was always a sense of peace and security in his presence. It scared me at first because I didn’t know what to make of it. I didn’t understand what was going on or if what I was feeling was real. Of course he picked up on my fears and insecurities and stopped pursuing me altogether. Since then, we have both been more open and honest with each other. We’ve been working on our healing since then and I’m leaving it in Gods hands for when HE says it’s time. I’m cautious about who I talk to about the situation because the majority DO NOT UNDERSTAND it and give horrible advice based on their own limited and negative personal experiences. I’m leaning on God’s guidance now and let me tell you, I can already see MAJOR progress!!!❤️
Lilyana, yes, my experience also! When we first met in person, we both (as we discussed later) always felt connected, like we 'knew each other forever!' We feel safe and peaceful together and there ARE people who don't understand or agree.
Thank you for sharing, it isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@jenniferransomart Thank you for replying!!! I’m glad I’m not alone in this. The wait is so hard at times but building my relationship with God has helped tremendously. I will pray for you both. May God bless you!!❤️🙏🏼
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. Reading your books has helped me understand the situation and lean on God for guidance. I’m continuing to read your daily affirmations book knowing that in time, Gods time, everything will come to be as He wants it to be. God bless you!!🙏🏼🙏🏼
OMG you hit the nail. I upgraded his resume by dating down and he did not appreciate me whatsoever! .I learned a hard lesson from this!
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I’m a West Indian Born AND raised…..That comment about Jamaican men is DEFINITELY true 🤣
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
This was excellent! I will admit I have been Love Bombed twice but once they started asking for money, I gave them a piece of my mind and deleted them.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
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Agree…if they start asking for $$ and you say no…they’ll leave….
Oh dear. I just got out of a love-bombing situation. I met him on-line and he wanted to meet me that very day. I told him that women are taught that this is dangerous. All he did was argue, saying that he was a good man and that I was throwing away a good relationship. I deleted him but forgot to block him. He shows up in my feed again and he convinced me to meet him. Within 3 days he was professing his undying love, wanting to have sex, and monopolizing my time. I live alone and have many responsibilities to take care of. My home, yard, pets, bills, etc. I told him that I couldn’t possibly be available to him every single day! What does he do? He shows up uninvited! Oh hell no!! A week in to it, he says that he is leaving his house to his grown kids and moving in with me. (The hell you aren’t!!). When I tried to end things he tries his old tactic of saying that I am throwing away a good man. Folks, I was right the first time. I recognized his controlling behavior and deleted him before I even met him. Listen to your instincts! God gave women “women’s intuition” for a reason!
From a retired immigration attorney: it’s legal temporary resident status and then a removal of conditions after two years of marriage. There is a 3 year wait for citizenship application after the date the temporary Resident card is issued. And yes, you are right. This happens all of the time.
Your video is spot on! Thank you.
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For every country?
This actually happened to me just before I started college. I was neighbors with a family of Argentinian immigrants who asked my mother if I or one of my younger siblings could marry their eldest son, who was still in Argentina at the time, so that he could gain citizenship. The parents even offered to pay us. 😳
when I was living in Colorado I was presented with doing this twice it was a young man in his 20s and the lady that worked with me at the airport tried to hook this up she said they were gonna pay me 2000 to marry him I was already 40 she said he's not gonna want sex just the marriage then another friend from Africa told me to charge them 5000 I said no! I'm not doing this it felt illegal
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This is precisely why I'm watching this. I'm trying to distinguish love bombing from a genuine, rare connection due to past disappointments. Thank you for this video! I determined it is a genuine connection :)
If it’s not MUTUAL attraction and intensity, then it’s most likely love-bombing. Great point.
This goes for all relationships, even with overbearing/narcissistic mother-in-laws who love bomb you into feeling a part of the family right off the bat without knowing you and pushing your relationship towards marriage ASAP (yeah, I’m triggered lol).
You're absolutely right!
I hear ya - Elyon RG! And speaking of Love Bombing…
If you feel someone is behaving with you in a way - you think they shouldn’t really be - especially when you’re just getting to know each other, then you have to do something!
You cannot put up with it, if you let it keep happening, there’s no telling what they’ll do next, it’ll only escalate!
That’s why it’s so important to set boundaries early on in the relationship - basically, behaviors you’ll tolerate, and behaviors, you definitely won’t put up with!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
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For me it was the Citizenship 😭😭 . Duuuude was talking about marriage and me sharing his last name with him within 2months of dating😭. I’m glad I prayed about because God revealed nikka was cheating. Same time he sent 1000 roses 🌹 is the same time he was at a function with another woman. 😭🙏
Forwarding this to my girls! It’s hard to see over sensitivity and loving differences. Love and relate to the heavy heart, thing. After years in dysfunctional marriage, now divorced and trying to find right perspectives is profoundly difficult because after all a trigger is a trigger. How does one delineate? Love your videos. Godly men are a beautiful gift to this world. I’ll add to feel discounted during or immediately after love Bombing is key to functional vs. Dysfunctional. Sloooow Dooown, enjoy and keep eyes wide open. Don’t be delusional, don’t sell yourself on an illusion or a mirage of what could be. Listen to your gut, kinda thing!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I just went through this recently. It really hurts and I'm still healing from it but I'm thankful you are discussing this now so other women can understand what this is and how to avoid it. God bless.
Glad I could help 🙏
Thank you so much, Stephan, for your great wisdom and advice.
We should never deceive ourselves into thinking a man wants a romantic relationship with us just because he comes on strong with sweet words of love/flattery. I have had service people and contractors do the same thing. They just want to butter us up to get our money. As in all things, don't believe anything you hear from people. Everyone has an agenda. Trust God, ask for His guidance, then WAIT on Him to work in our lives. Impulsive decisions that we make based on our own desires can get us into real trouble that can take years to get out of! When in doubt, do nothing, seek God.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace seeking God's guidance.
I met a man who love bombed me. He was always complimenting me and talking about how attractive I am. It made me feel uncomfortable. He is nice so I didn’t have a problem going out and having dinner and drinks but he was quick to tell me he loved me. I didn’t like the speed he was moving and pulled back. He called and texted until I agreed to go out with him once again to give him another chance. I agreed and he kept saying he got his “baby” back. I asked him not to call me that and couldn’t wait to get home. A week later he called and said his grandmother passed. I gave my condolences and he immediately said he wanted, no, NEEDED to see me. I had been in a car accident two days before and he didn’t know so I told him and said I am staying home. He said he understood, but called me two days later asking me to come over again! He didn’t even ask how I was doing or even if my car was drivable!! I told him I wasn’t going anywhere and he pulled the pity card. I feel pretty down and the person I want to be with doesn’t want to be with me. I told him I was IN PAIN and got off the phone and blocked his number fast AF!!!!!! 🤦🏾♀️
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I think I’m currently going through a love bomb😭 he told me he’s “dating to marry me” after a week or 2 Of texting already calling me hun and then saying “my girl” “my girlfriend” I told him he needs to ask me to be his girlfriend I’m not going to assume shit. Month later he asked and I said yes. Now with that happening he said he wants me to pick out a place to eat as our first date I said the Cheesecake Factory. We’ll see what happens 👀 I currently let him text first and currently write down all the things he saying to see if it matches up with his actions. and I let him know that him and my dad will have a discussion before we leave to eat. my dad will definitely get him shaking in his boots 😭😆
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
Queendom Braids Be safe. Tons of narcs trying to settle down too quickly. Out here in NY, they’re everywhere... lurking.
@@queendombraids1829 you're doing right you have to vet him
I'm experimenting the man in the military right now. I realize now I was manipulated into a relationship for his benefit... Your books have been a huge help
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
"Love Bombing" is a new term. The pouring on excess non-existent words of love and/or moving quickly is age old. But everyone got to see it when internet chatting began. You had guys from different states, overseas from the US proclaiming false love within a couple of messages. Then dropping off just as quickly when this proclamation of false love was questioned. Listen, a woman should absolutely trust her instincts, her inner gut feeling. She can absolutely tell when a man is eager for her vs when he's just after something from her and thinks proclaiming untrue love will get it. Some teenage girls fell for this, but not cause they trusted or believed the guy, but because she ignored her own gut feeling (instincts). Besides trusting her instincts, a man's true intent is revealed through his actions. When a man is eager for you, it's very, very different from a man pouring on all these supposed affections don't don't really exist.
Wow, I honestly did not know there was a term to describe this! After listening to your information, Stephan, I realize that I was love-bombed several times. In all 3 situations, the men came on VERY STRONG, started talking about love after about 3-4 times of just talking on the phone or texting. I thought it was weird, but said let's see what happens. After about a week or so, in each situation, they started asking for money to "help" with some "urgent" problem. Needless to say, I stopped communicating with them.
Thank you so much for all the great information you give us Stephan!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Girl yes! These lakes try to get you to fall in love with them or say you love them then they burden you with some issue and guilt trip you because you said you loved them. Soon as a man that ain’t my husband asks me for money HE’s DROPPED. In an instant. Can’t stand those leeches.
I recently got it of a really toxic relationship and ended up being homeless with my kids for a few months. then, through a friend, a friendly vet took us in. I was super wary of him and afraid of what might happen living with a single man. But the longer I'm here and have gotten to know him, the stronger connection we've gotten, though it was really not intended to happen, we have an unusual connection neither of us have had with anyone. We keep it pure because he doesn't want me to ever think he's like one of those terrible men I've been with in the past. But I really think he's a real one, especially after watching your videos, Stephan. ❤
Yes!!!! I will warn anyone, please do not fall for the love bomb and ignore the red flags!!!! I did and it was the biggest mistake of my life.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Stephan, your content is just but the best thing that has happened to me this year. Being a single lady, trusting God for a spouse, and getting to learn all these stuff gives me a reason to be proud of the person I am becoming. You are so realistic, thoughtful and you put out your points with ease and love. From the time I came to know about your work, I have never stopped listening to what you are teaching. I would say you are truly a blessing to this generation.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Seeing red flags AND feeling something within that wasn’t right.. I just experienced this with a “love bomber”. I tried to connect with him but my intuitions were in overdrive. I just never felt right about him. This video definitely helped me realize I made the right decision!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you.
There is so much deception in the world and you gave phenomenal guidance on some of the things women commonly fall prey to with regards to this topic. I wholeheartedly hope this guidance reaches far & wide to stop people becoming more victims of this 🙏❤️
I'm happy you find this to be helpful, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏
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I watched this because I am the unhealed woman who God has brought the man to me. Yes it is a lot when it happens but I have never felt a love connection like this ever before and it is truly amazing. It is scary and you think it's love bombing especially when your last ex was a narcissist. I have prayed about this and watch many videos and it's true some men really believe that they need to do a lot to pursue a woman that they really like. We have been together two months going on three. It's not easy but it's worth the work. God will let you know. It's amazing when it's real you can't deny it.
Started dating this guy and he called me "babe" on the first date. Thats a lil fast to me when i dont know him, and he doesn't know me yet. I really like him, but there's some red flags already that makes me believe he's a love bomber.
Throughout the Bible, God goes HARD against deception! I got scammed online with the false pic and the story. Even while giving money gradually, I was doubtful. After 2 months, I finally severed the tie with that deceiver. My emotions were played on strong, I was very hurt by the lies, but I've long ago healed, learned lessons and moved forward.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Omg bro you really captured the sentiment in this vidoe. It's 200% the truth. I have 2 more to add 😆 . Feel free to jump in...
7. Mr Nomad - this man appears as the perfect man and then one day with no notice or a fight just disappear leaving you in confusion and worried that something bad happened to him. With this guy, it might take real investigation to figure out that you are one of several women in different states or cities. I guess a red flag will be inconsistencies in stories about their life before you.
8. Mr. Ready - this guy just want to settle to protect his image or there is something greater to gain for just getting married. Red flags - believes strong in gender roles, ready to marry yesterday. his love bombing will tailor to exactly what you tell him you want or generalized on what he thinks "woman" like. This guy will probably never know what your middle name is...
I knew a man who witheld flirting with me when I would to him and he shut me down. Tried to have it all his way, dismissed my needs and feelings. Then later said everyone wants to feel desired. I felt I was kissing his ass yet he started being rude and couldn’t ever understand me.
Can’t stand manipulation and control or repression. That goes against everything I stand for.
Thanks again for the videos. You look great
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I agree with everything you said. I love when a man tells me he loves me over and over. Especially when it’s mutual and we both are feeling the same way. I’m dating a Cameroonian man 🇨🇲 and no he didn’t need citizenship he was born in USA 🇺🇸 his dad is African and mom is American I just had to throw that out there lol but he is always attentive to me and telling me he loves me. He LOVE BOMB me after dating 3 months and it didn’t bother me bc it was mutual and I felt the same way. So you are right if both people are not feeling the same way as quickly then it can seem like you are being love bomb that way to some people. Blessings to everyone!!!😊
This confirms I was love bombed for sure! Wow. So discouraging.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
One more that has to added to the list… the single father. I had a phone conversation with one guy that I met through Tinder who was honest and admitted point-blank period he was looking not just for a woman for himself but also for a mother for his child. Be aware ladies.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
i was in a toxic abusive relationship and it started off with love bombing and ended up staying with him for 3 years now. I’ve reporting him and am going to be going thru a whole trial because he’s abused me and his previous ex i found out, I cannot leave this man unreported for him to eventually abuse some other girl without anything on his record. As i’m going thru this whole legal thing i met someone as sweet as can be. Takes me out, pays for everything for me, asks me if i ate for the day, but on the first date he asked me to be his gf. I was unsure if i should be cautious with that, like maybe this is just a man who knows what he wants or he’s just love bombing me. Because of my previous toxic relationship it makes me question my judgement and if this is too much of a good thing. He’s aware of my legal battle with my ex that is something i wanted to be honest about with him. Hes brought up sex at me a little bit but i’ve said no and said i’m not ready. He’s said it’s been 2 years since he’s been intimidate with a woman and of course he wants to be with me but he said i enjoy your company and i already waited 2 years so i can wait for you lol. we’ve had 4 dates so far and for our next date out he’s taking me out to buy a few dresses just a few cheap ones from primark. Like i been so happy but at the same time i’m like idk. Ugh why do even what it feels like to be green flags might come off as red flags ? so annoying lmaoooo. but he told me and right off the bat he’s dating for marriage he’s at the age where he wants to get married and so am i so i hope all goes well.
I wound up really hating him. And I told him a few times. He just laughed. I became very very depressed. I gave him too much time but I got out of it. Haven't seen him In 18 months!! Don't miss anything!!
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I finally understand exactly what you're saying MOG! I can feel the connection between he and I...SO STONGLY! You're will be done God!
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You speaking All Facts on this 1 right here bro. I really hope women are paying attention and taking notice.
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you are absolutely right I hope lots of women see this video
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Yes! There needs to be more awareness.
Mr. Online and overseas, yes it is true , it does happen. It makes me so happy you spoke on this Stephan! Not easy to admit I have been scammed, especially when it first happened. When we are running around hurt and not focusing on healing, this can happen so easily. I always used to think women who did this were just foolish and wanted to be fooled. I am telling you women this happens so fast and when you are unhealed it is very hard to get away from.
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I received this once . I told him to be careful because if I was a women that was scorn or women of no means and no heart, I would take complete advantage of this opportunity. I also told him never let everything out the bag without evaluating whats on the inside he was very gullible like a lost puppy in some ways. He was relationship material but not a man of God potential.I figured him out in a few weeks saw that he needed to heal long story he was coming from a broken engagement. He scared the mess out of me with his vision for me in him didn't even know me. I wasn't desperate for love or marriage especially that quickly. Needless to say .I felt he didn't heal from his past relationship he was just lonely and rebounding. So I sent him on his way needless to say everything he said was lies. My intuition never fails me.
This was good very insightful thank you
Always important to listen to your intuition, thank you for sharing ❤ 🙏
Stephan doesn’t even know it..or know me…but he’s a part of my healing journey…it’s so difficult…thank you ❤️🙏🙋🏼♀️
Am avoiding all of them.period
I'm so glad you mentioned that doesn't matter if single or married of who you listen to because Satan can use both
Before I meet my husband & got married I was dating a guy I thought maybe it was from the Lord just because I hadn’t dated in a long time.. so I gave him a chance he was alright looking not that looks matters but he was nice to me & no he wasn’t giving me tones of gifts etc… to make this story short! One day I invited him to my church & my pastor came up to me & told me you know that I love you right? I said yeah & tells me I want to talk to you about your friend meaning my boyfriend .. he asked me do you really see him as your boyfriend?.. I said no.. I had to be honest with myself I didn’t like him at all like I thought I did.. few things why he kept thinking he was a Christian when he was a Mormon there’s only one Bible not 2 books & second I was put in his life to help understand who God is & not to date him .. so thats that I learn my lesson there he only lasted 3 months with me y’all .
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Pure facts… it swept me off my feet… I almost ran away due to it being too intense…
You are an example of good judgement, using free will, being sober minded, the value of humor, and speaking right down where the rubber meets the road in Christianity. Thank you. Refreshing! Sound! I'm a 64 year old white female single for 22 years living alone celibate and I can totally relate to you ( isn't the body of Christ cool?). I've been dating a man I met online for 2 months who's really into me. I NEVER thought I'd meet a man like him. I'm stunned but grounded and think it VERY well could be from God. He's so specifically what I've prayed for and more. Will you pray about this please? If it is the real deal it would definitely be a miracle and would point to Christ, which would be an honor!!
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Thank you, yes I turn down every online love bomber I meet online but I did go on with one. When he asked me for money I blocked him. I asked myself why did I give this guy a chance but I turned all the others down, well if his pictures was really him he looked real good, was my age, and had 2 beautiful daughters and I wanted to meet his daughters. But thank you Stephan for covering all areas of relationships especially the green card situation (s). God bless you my Brother !
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@brother shaggy Speak English brother Shaggy , so we all can understand or shall I say write English
I was contacted by a guy on TikTok and played along just to see how long it was going to take for him to ask for money! I never fell for his bs!
I dealt with a very sneaky hobosexual a few years ago.
Sneaky because he was also constantly gaslighting me. (Yes thanks to him I learned a few terms, haha, and got better at recognizing them as time/my single status went on.) When I would ask him about his 'place' and when he plans on staying there vs. at my place he would gaslight me so badly that I felt GUILTY for asking about it.
It was very frustrating. I am very generous and kind but he was definitely working me (as my friends pointed out often) ... after an embarrassingly long time of this I finally had the fight of fights with him that ended his, um, temporary residency.
But I think had I known about this term/situation sooner I would have recognized it for what it was - someone using me.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️ my video If A Man Is USING YOU, He Will Say These 7 Things! check it here 👉 ruclips.net/video/sTvxYMuvZ9A/видео.html 👈 and 7 Signs He's USING YOU & WASTING YOUR TIME! | Stephan Speaks here 👉 ruclips.net/video/IttwlOD0wjI/видео.html 👈 will help you know when a man is using you.
90 day fiancé is absolutely ripe with bad relationships between people from overseas working for citizenships.
Military brat and X military spouse here, a lot of times marriage is also often rushed because often orders are only for 4 years at each post. So they feel like they have to jump in so the other person can come with. There are benefits both ways you get extra pay for each dependent you get BHA (Base Housing Allowance) to help you with rent because you can’t have a family in the barracks. The dependents get health, dental, and vision benefits. You can get special loans or preferential treatment when applying for school grants and loans.
Military members get preyed upon because of all of this. I am sure that there are those out there who use it to reel people in as well.
It isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Wow. A timely made video. I'm getting love bombed right now.. thank you man. Sadly I've found out she's suicidal, so I'm treading carefully.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Threatening suicide is a type of love bombing. They threaten suicide to try to keep you trapped. You are not responsible for whether they are well or not. Think about that❤️🙏🏼
Are you sure she’s not just pretending to be suicidal to keep you around?
Run! I was told to run and I didn’t and suffered trauma.. RUN!
For The Ladies Yes, narcs often fake sickness for attention.
These are facts!
Stephen you continuously speak the truth in love! It’s tight, but you are RIGHT!
Yep! Going through a painful divorce right now. He love bombed me and was very loving and attentive up until he got his GC. From there on everything went downhill. I was no longer “desirable” to him. I was only a vessel to get what he wanted. He discarded me (after being married for almost 5 yrs) like I was nothing. He already had another woman in his life before he even announced he wanted a divorce.
Biggest regret of my life when I said “I Do” to him! 💔
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you. I appreciate it. 🙏🏼
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Exact same thing happened to me. He actually manipulated me into leaving him. We were together 6 years, I'm so heartbroken so I understand you. 💔 God is a God of Love but also a God of Justice. He will deal with them.
@@claudiaibanez3983 I am so sorry to hear that. 😔
Broooooo, you are sooo right. People
Please so back and listen to the first few minutes of this vidoe before the list began. 100x need be so you dont learn this the hard way like me.
Thanks for all you do.
No one on here gives better advice than you, Stephan. Thank you for your wisdom ♥️
He’s right!!! Love bombing is serious from an abusive manipulator as they take you through cycles of abuse. Now, it also mustn’t be confused (which is difficult if you’ve experienced it from a narcissist). It is a normal part of love so try not to mix the two. Allow people to show you the truth
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Truly! you serve the peoples. So thankful that my spirit is not broken and led me out of a dangerous place. Thank you for always speaking of prayer. I know for sure it works.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you fro your feedback 🙏
Great tips! And speaking of Love Bombing…
If you feel someone is behaving with you in a way - you think they shouldn’t really be - especially when you’re just getting to know each other, then you have to do something!
You cannot put up with it, if you let it keep happening, there’s no telling what they’ll do next, it’ll only escalate!
That’s why it’s so important to set boundaries early on in the relationship - basically, behaviors you’ll tolerate, and behaviors, you definitely won’t put up with!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
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Amen Carlos, I could not agree more. I am currently working on the very issues you mentioned! Thanks for putting those facts in black and white, print.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks no problem! My pleasure.
I can relate to a lot of things your speaking about 😊 I’ve got my eyes and ears wide open 🙏🏽
Love that. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤
“Love bombing”should include honesty, a willingness to learn about your values, and caring enough to recognize if you are truly compatible or can find a way to navigate through different opinions so everyone is happy and fulfilled. This means the person loves themself enough to make sure their choice is healthy. It means they have enough interest and respect along with a willingness to have a successful outcome. It means they value you and the relationship enough to put the time in and not be selfish. It means the relationship matters and you are not taking a backseat to everything else in his/her life. It is listening without getting defensive. It is part of the learning about each other process. It also shows a maturity and understanding that we are all different with specific ideas and thoughts for our futures. how little you know about them is how little they know about you and diving in headfirst too fast can be dangerous. Enjoy the fun but don’t automatically get attached to a relationship outcome. Stay attached to the outcome that serves your highest good and don’t ignore the red flags! That is loving. Without that the other stuff is just a bomb - that eventually explodes.
Also he is right about taking advice. It is never good practice to discuss your romantic concerns w friends or family. Consult a therapist because once you figure it out friends and family have already passed judgment based on your story (or theirs) even if you later realize you contributed or came to a wrong conclusion. A relationship should stay between 2. Or 2 and a therapist. 🙏
I have been love bomb. Believe me it is not fun especially if you never met the person face to face. When I pointed out I wasn't comfortable or ready to say "I Love You" I literally had this thrown ito my face "are you telling me you don't care or love me?" It got to the point where I was done. I quickly realized it was not real. I am much more aware of how men write their words in a text..
It hurts so bad when you never met them 🥺
Interesting video!!! I’ve recently experienced this love bombing in my DM and was taken back by how fast and deep these guys get and they don’t even know who I am. The flip side of this is my feelings for a guy that I cannot explain. I’m drawn to him in a way that’s scary and my friends are looking at me with side eyes ( like girl get it together, that’s not real, your crazy for feeling that way, etc.) which is making me question my feelings. However what I do know is that this has never happened to me before and it’s getting strong instead of weak…. God help me is what I’ve been praying, so thanks for your video, it has shed some light I think!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏
If they r telling u they love u after only a week or two, run! This happened to me and when I said "No, it's not gonna work" to the guy he came back with pics of 4 other ladies and rubbed my face in it. "These r mine," were his exact words!. I felt bad for the other girls and wished I could warn them. 😢
Thank you for talking about sex trafficking too
Verrrrry helpful video. So much garbage out there it’s dangerous.
Real love is just hard to find especially when you’re mature open minded and spiritual.. ugh
I love being single though lol
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks go to his site…he is not for real…blocking him
“WOW”…. All these terms and phrases, but that is the big problem with Social Media, you have to create a big impact fast, Hence things like TikTok, everything is in these 30sec sound/ video bites. Thankyou for saying That God is genuine, and no ulterior motive, I just wish we all would really look at and quietly reflect on the DEFINITION OF LOVE ❤️ as described in 1 Corinthians of the Bible. I appreciate you doing this video, Thankyou Stephan. Blessings
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching and may God bless you as well 🙏
I went through this in September… VERY SCARY, I thank God I got out! It only lasted a month
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
Thank you for this. I am very cautious about love bombing in comparison to someone’s natural compliments and consideration.
It really helps when we embrace that 🙏
I love how his videos can sometimes make me laugh and cry all at the same time. These videos are truly a blessing to me🥰
I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏
I'm so pleased you also differentiated when there is a true love connection 🙏🏽
Yes, Please talk about women dating down. Thank You!
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Appreciate it bro
OMG. You just told me that I see it clear but don't want to stop cause it's nice to hear all this attention. You got me %100
I fully agree: the Mr or Ms. he/she needs a citizenship never work in the long run ... According to my observations, it always ends with divorce ... problem: when children arise from this relationship ...
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I'm going thru this right now
@@shaniquaellis2065 Sorry, that is realy sad ... wish you all the strength you may need ...
This one gets a Standing Ovation... 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾🙏🏾💝
I just signed up for your channel, I appreciate every detail you discuss because I've been through many rough obstacles in life including losing my parents and brother so young, I've been going to therapy since 2018 because it took me years to understand how I wasn't processing my unresolved truama and grief in my teen and 20s. I've gained a better understanding of relationships and working toward healing. So blessed I submitted my heart to God years ago. Today I have a stable job I enjoy, my Aunt and Uncle along with cousins who look out for me, and many other blessings. I'm a 38 year old female that is still single and been in many toxic relationships. I realized after that experience that I have to work on myself. Thanks again and I look forward to learning more 🙏💖
Welcome aboard and don't forget to click on the notification bell to be notified whenever I release a new video. Healing is definitely key and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through ❤ 🙏
Another description of what happened to me. I met him four months my husband died. My husband was sick most of my marriage. Felt so good to be feel like a woman. Meeting a man who would care from me. Turned out to manipulate me
Chile my soon to be exhusband reeled me in and spit me out after we got married! Actually he was doing that before we got married just in different ways. Anyways this has taught me a valuable lesson to never ignore red flags
Your first statement is sooo true because usually one person musters the courage to act
Absolutely!
Yes.. its been like that with my boyfriend. Super intense and fast at the beginning. I am super slow at processing because of past experience so I haven't been the best at responding but it was not a manipulati e technique. Can be confusing sometimes especially if a strong connection makes you pop out insecurities super fast etc. And it's like an explosion of fears and love all at once. But yes it does happen !
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when you speak , u turn into a friend more than a mentor. u have a nice spiritual touch too💯♥️ it feels pleasant to listen to you
Close family friendship that we have welcomed.
Thank you for your teaching I signed up for your coaching! I Can’t wait to move myself into the right direction of receiving the man God has for me, although I am happy to say I have been taking Great steps to work on myself and work on my healing 😌
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
You are such a blessing; Stephan, and I am thankful I found your channel. Thank you for discussing naivite and how women are in their first relationship. That was certainly me, but I also believe that someone doesn't know what they don't know. It can start out with little things and isolating you from family by stacking it up like your family is taking advantage of you. Older men are not necessarily more mature and don't be so chill about things. For example; it may creep in like "I really like your hair like that" and you think that is so sweet....then it's this is the length your hair needs to be....or you look beautiful in this color and before you know it he is picking your clothes. I just feel like if a woman is inexperienced they are more likely to take these things well at first because they are believing the best of the guy. Maybe some guys do mean well in that, but isolating you and setting a stage where you are focused solely o. him and only him in your life is a big red flag. Thanks for the reminders also; camera man. 😂❤
It took some time and healing but I’ve learned to stop dating down… it hurts. My heart is still open for true love, God willing soon~
Seek Gods advice. When he said “God ain’t broken”…..💯 he is stating straight facts.
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This just came in at the right time, I needed this video, I have been in this relationship for some MTHS now,love bombing initially and now, still asking for thousands of £'s as a loan because he knows my kind of job (red flag). Nahhhh...I am ending this, he is leaving. Many thanks from🇬🇧
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
This has happened to me. He still will ask for money even though I have almost completely cut off all communication. 😕
Omg thank you so much. This is SPOT ON! I needed this.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
The other guy I dated was completely opposite he was secretive and very quiet to quiet. Missing time not consistent. I thank he was broken based on his communication behavior.
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He was married....
I was seriously love bombed. It was overwhelming but since I never had love from family I thought wow finally someone cares for me. Maybe I am worthy of love. Well I married a narcissist that was physically abusive. Figures .... what was I thinking. Its not meant for me to be loved. Im 43 and all I attract are users and manipulators. I finally got divorced. Ill just stay alone. I understand now.
Jesus loves you ! He is waiting for you with open arms. If you want to know more about him let me know.
They do that when you’re their rebound too. It’s a quick way to get you to whatever status he had when they left their relationship.
You really don't know how much this just helped me.... made me cry. Thank you so much for clarity now I can stop over analyzing the love I'm experiencing
The first 7 minutes is 100% true.
I also need you to do that video on women dating down. Why women do it, how to notice if you are, and how to date your worth. Please and thank you!
Stephan,this is a tricky topic. While love bombing can see innocuous or even feel good at first, it can become a problem if its used as a manipulation tool which can be deeply harmful to the person experiencing it.
I'm so glad you took the time to address this. It is very real and in order to make wise decisions we need to see all sides
#7 for me and I shut it downnn fast! This was Awesome Stephan! I thank God for you, Keep them coming and may God continues to bless you🙏🏾💙
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and my God continue to bless you as well 🙏