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October 2020 i was seeing a very hardcore Christian guy that my close friend introduced me to, keep in mind i was very hesitant on giving a new guy a chance because i’ve been hurt in the past by confusing guys who weren’t ready to commit to me prior before to meeting this Christian religious immature boy. My friend at the time kept convincing me to take a chance on him and even promised me that he wasn’t going to hurt me but he did at the end. Long story short i took my friend’s word for it and i took a chance on her guy friend. Obviously me and this new guy i was seeing were pretty great in the beginning but a month or two later he told me he was waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him since he was hurt in the past and wants to find his wife. I was started to lose hope relationship wise. I was a new Christian and still am but i was kinda caught off guard with the guy waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him. I was honest with him and told him how come he doesn’t make his own personal choice since God gives us that free choice. He still was persistent on doing the sign bullshit thing. I left it alone for awhile and had low expectations from that and tried to keep things as a friendship. Well months went by I was building resentment towards my guy and in January 2021, he basically said he had big good news to say which really wasn’t tbh, basically he said that he wanted to postpone dating for a year. At that point i clearly felt more discouraged and frusterated with him more and more as time went on. I even told him i was upset about it and again he was persistent on waiting on God (i shouldn’t have ignored the red flags). Just recently which was two weeks ago, i asked him if we could hangout one-on-one as FRIENDS to get to know eachother better since we’ve all hungout in groups, we should also hangout one-on-one to see where our friendship grows into. He didn’t think it was a good idea because he didn’t want our feelings to be more invested than we already are, i told him that we needed to separate our feelings versus a friendship to get to know eachother as people and as friends since we’ve only hungout in groups. He still didn’t think it was a good idea and says he will ask God when and where we could hangout. At that point i was fed up with him, and said if that’s how he feels then i guess do it. At that point i vented to our mutual friend and asked her how come she introduced me to this complicated guy because relationship and friendship wise it was all too much. I basically needed space from both of them but mostly him and my friend took my words to heart and didn’t wanna be friends anymore after that. That guy i was seeing ended up telling me i wasn’t the “one” for him and that God gave him 6 signs that prove i wasn’t the “one”. Keep in mind that this guy was so immature and caused me nothing but pain and stress within these 6 months for nothing. One of his signs from God was complete bullcrap, he then says there’s this chinese lady (keep in mind that he doesn’t know this lady personally) but someone from our church knows this lady, my guy asked God if this chinese lady is still single by december 2020, then that was the first sign that means I wasn’t the “one” for him. All these consistent stupid excuses one after another, i even asked him why did you even pursue me in the first place and clearly it showed you weren’t ready. I knew in my gut feeling that he was too much for me and he wasn’t my type to begin with either but i cared about him and took a real chance on someone. I bet you that nobody would’ve waited as much as i did for a guy to be this complicated and immature. I understand God is a big part of our lives but this guy took it to the extreme. Relationship wise, i kept my expectations low as he was showing his true colors, friendship wise i couldn’t believe that he felt the need to ask God when and where we could hangout when i sincerely want to at least be his friend. He did some other shit i didn’t like and it costed me and my friend’s friendship to end. Me and my friend never had issues or fought prior to her introducing me to this immature religious freak. I knew in my gut that was the main thing i was afraid of, taking a chance on her guy friend and what if things went wrong and could destroy my friendship which it did. But it comes to show how people show their true colors. I never went off on this religious dude i was seeing, he went off on me a few times, showed so many red flags, clearly wasn’t ready for anything serious, he would call me twice a day and text me everyday too, my friend always being put in the middle because she introduced me to him, my friend did shady shit too like whenever i would vent to her about stuff or about the guy... she would send him my personal messages that was only for her to read. I felt betrayed, depressed, angry and irritated all in one by those two. They would play the victim card also. I haven’t gone back to church since that situation a few weeks ago. I know im not perfect and i’ve made mistakes but it was no where close to them doing me dirty at the end especially mostly the guy i dated. Even after all of that i went to bible study a week ago to return my ex friend’s mask that she left in my car awhile back ago, i wanted to be a good person despite them doing me wrong. I think that will be my last bible study session for me to go to since now i don’t feel comfortable going back again. I know i should worship God despite what happened but in all honesty, i would rather preach alone than to go somewhere where i feel uncomfortable seeing my “ex” and my ex friend. That guy truly lost me because no girl probably would’ve wasted that much time and bullshit on someone that is too radical and always asking for God on every little thing to the extreme. Keep in mind, I’m a Christian, I believe in signs but when i received signs from God (which i have received signs from God personally) i never once asked God to send me a sign on a specific deadline or anything. You can’t force God for your own benefits. God gives us what He can give us, and again He also gives us a free choice in our lives. There’s a fine line between being reasonable and being too radical. I learned a valuable lesson from all this bullshit from guys and im still healing from this. Honestly i don’t know if i’ll ever want to date again since its alot harder for me to give a new person a chance if the opportunity ever presented itself again. How do i fully heal from this? I’m still hurting that this has happened to me
Keep him I know the feeling because I'm in love with a man who I met on my job it was love at first sight one of my judge knew him judge is dead now this man showd me so much respect he doesn't have children only because of his career answer prayer didn't want small children grown I could accept but no small children
@@luissmall9142 I didn’t keep him because he was too complicated and ruined alot of things for me including my friendship with our mutual friend. I went to bible study yesterday and i could feel the regret in his eyes when he said “its good to see you again” and i said “yeah” and gave him the cold shoulder
Good morning , my serious question is when seeking confirmation from God that the guy is the right one, how do I know what his confirmation is? Is it tied to what you said about feeling like the man maintains and makes me feel closer to God? Are there any other signs of confirmation God may show ?
1. attraction 2. great communication 3. share the same values 4. feeling vulnerable with him 5. draws you closer to God 6. will be able to lead you with love 7. deep and genuine connection
After 25 years of marriage, 6 years divorced, I am now dating a truly kind, caring, interesting, funny, fun, smart man. At 65 I consider myself so blessed and happy to have found my special someone when I wasn't looking. We cook together, take dance classes, travel, socialize, do so much together and share the same values. Don't give up, people!
‘Some men will be lessons, and some men will just be a waste of your time. And one man will be the man that God has for you.’ Brilliant!!!!! Thanks Stephan
Why does there have to be so many issues and then the one gets it right, why doesn't the rest of them get it right the first time, that seems like the waste of time! I don't get it! I'm still confused!
7 Clues ❤️🔥 He is attracted to you ❤️🔥 You will be able to talk to him ❤️🔥 You will share the same values ❤️🔥 You will feel vulnerable with him ❤️🔥 He will draw you near to God and not away from Him ❤️🔥 He will be able to lead you with love ❤️🔥 You will experience a deep and a genuine connection with this man that God has for you Love and Blessings 🥰🙏
I also believe you can be in a current relationship that is toxic and God will put someone new in your path as a sign that it’s time to move on. He makes no mistakes.
What if you're married, is that a mistake? I'm trying to save my marriage because it's a gift from God. My husband says he loves me but is not in love with me, that the spark is gone and he wants to move out instead of working on our marriage. No cheating yet but he's looking, he plays songs about being with other women and partying. We both work 12 hour days and he says we've grown apart so he's ready to go instead of making time for me. 11 years and boom. We were getting ready to go on vacation now he's taking that time to move
@@marthamasden7573 I normally don’t give marital advice but after reading your comment, I will say this, he already has one foot out the door. Don’t stop the other one. When they stay, but they done already left, they get mean. God is sending you a message but your not hearing him. Be still and listen. You can’t make him fall in with love you, but you must continue loving yourself and reclaim your peace. Blessings to you.
@@queens3696 you will know soon enough. If he enhances your life, brings you joy, inspires you listens to you and treats you like you are very important in his life, he's the one.
My biggest fear is to spend so many years and time with the wrong one before you find the right one. That’s the worst because you will wish you spent those years and time with that right one.
October 2020 i was seeing a very hardcore Christian guy that my close friend introduced me to, keep in mind i was very hesitant on giving a new guy a chance because i’ve been hurt in the past by confusing guys who weren’t ready to commit to me prior before to meeting this Christian religious immature boy. My friend at the time kept convincing me to take a chance on him and even promised me that he wasn’t going to hurt me but he did at the end. Long story short i took my friend’s word for it and i took a chance on her guy friend. Obviously me and this new guy i was seeing were pretty great in the beginning but a month or two later he told me he was waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him since he was hurt in the past and wants to find his wife. I was started to lose hope relationship wise. I was a new Christian and still am but i was kinda caught off guard with the guy waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him. I was honest with him and told him how come he doesn’t make his own personal choice since God gives us that free choice. He still was persistent on doing the sign bullshit thing. I left it alone for awhile and had low expectations from that and tried to keep things as a friendship. Well months went by I was building resentment towards my guy and in January 2021, he basically said he had big good news to say which really wasn’t tbh, basically he said that he wanted to postpone dating for a year. At that point i clearly felt more discouraged and frusterated with him more and more as time went on. I even told him i was upset about it and again he was persistent on waiting on God (i shouldn’t have ignored the red flags). Just recently which was two weeks ago, i asked him if we could hangout one-on-one as FRIENDS to get to know eachother better since we’ve all hungout in groups, we should also hangout one-on-one to see where our friendship grows into. He didn’t think it was a good idea because he didn’t want our feelings to be more invested than we already are, i told him that we needed to separate our feelings versus a friendship to get to know eachother as people and as friends since we’ve only hungout in groups. He still didn’t think it was a good idea and says he will ask God when and where we could hangout. At that point i was fed up with him, and said if that’s how he feels then i guess do it. At that point i vented to our mutual friend and asked her how come she introduced me to this complicated guy because relationship and friendship wise it was all too much. I basically needed space from both of them but mostly him and my friend took my words to heart and didn’t wanna be friends anymore after that. That guy i was seeing ended up telling me i wasn’t the “one” for him and that God gave him 6 signs that prove i wasn’t the “one”. Keep in mind that this guy was so immature and caused me nothing but pain and stress within these 6 months for nothing. One of his signs from God was complete bullcrap, he then says there’s this chinese lady (keep in mind that he doesn’t know this lady personally) but someone from our church knows this lady, my guy asked God if this chinese lady is still single by december 2020, then that was the first sign that means I wasn’t the “one” for him. All these consistent stupid excuses one after another, i even asked him why did you even pursue me in the first place and clearly it showed you weren’t ready. I knew in my gut feeling that he was too much for me and he wasn’t my type to begin with either but i cared about him and took a real chance on someone. I bet you that nobody would’ve waited as much as i did for a guy to be this complicated and immature. I understand God is a big part of our lives but this guy took it to the extreme. Relationship wise, i kept my expectations low as he was showing his true colors, friendship wise i couldn’t believe that he felt the need to ask God when and where we could hangout when i sincerely want to at least be his friend. He did some other shit i didn’t like and it costed me and my friend’s friendship to end. Me and my friend never had issues or fought prior to her introducing me to this immature religious freak. I knew in my gut that was the main thing i was afraid of, taking a chance on her guy friend and what if things went wrong and could destroy my friendship which it did. But it comes to show how people show their true colors. I never went off on this religious dude i was seeing, he went off on me a few times, showed so many red flags, clearly wasn’t ready for anything serious, he would call me twice a day and text me everyday too, my friend always being put in the middle because she introduced me to him, my friend did shady shit too like whenever i would vent to her about stuff or about the guy... she would send him my personal messages that was only for her to read. I felt betrayed, depressed, angry and irritated all in one by those two. They would play the victim card also. I haven’t gone back to church since that situation a few weeks ago. I know im not perfect and i’ve made mistakes but it was no where close to them doing me dirty at the end especially mostly the guy i dated. Even after all of that i went to bible study a week ago to return my ex friend’s mask that she left in my car awhile back ago, i wanted to be a good person despite them doing me wrong. I think that will be my last bible study session for me to go to since now i don’t feel comfortable going back again. I know i should worship God despite what happened but in all honesty, i would rather preach alone than to go somewhere where i feel uncomfortable seeing my “ex” and my ex friend. That guy truly lost me because no girl probably would’ve wasted that much time and bullshit on someone that is too radical and always asking for God on every little thing to the extreme. Keep in mind, I’m a Christian, I believe in signs but when i received signs from God (which i have received signs from God personally) i never once asked God to send me a sign on a specific deadline or anything. You can’t force God for your own benefits. God gives us what He can give us, and again He also gives us a free choice in our lives. There’s a fine line between being reasonable and being too radical. I learned a valuable lesson from all this bullshit from guys and im still healing from this. Honestly i don’t know if i’ll ever want to date again since its alot harder for me to give a new person a chance if the opportunity ever presented itself again
@@melanie.vallejo I am so sorry you went through this, because I can totally relate to this experience. Your friend and your guy were using you for their own sordid satisfaction. They were probably in a relationship and used you as the third wheel. It happened to me and I spoke my mind and walked away. It was the only way. Please learn to love yourself in the way God loves you. Keep up with your Bible study and ignore these two jokers. God bless you.
@@monicanath4859 Thank you, that means alot... I’m just still really hurt and healing from everything. I tried to mend my friendship with my ex friend but unfortunately she was rude to me about it and told me that she didn’t wanna be friends anymore so I told her in an honest calm manner and put her in her place for being rude to me basically saying she’s still gonna be friends with my ex. I never said she shouldn’t be friends with him but I said in the nicest way possible that if I was in her shoes I wouldn’t be friends with a complicated guy like that nor would I let someone cause me more problems. It still hurts me that she mistook my words and sent me rude messages about it and when I tried to mend the friendship willingly so, she said she doesn’t trust me only because of me saying the truth about her and miswording my words when I needed space and that was the only mistake I made compared to the millions of mistakes she’s made and its ironic that she says she doesn’t trust me over that. I was willing to give her a second chance despite her sharing my personal messages to my ex, and other mistakes she’s made and yet I was willing to start over with her because I didn’t think this whole thing was worth throwing away a friendship over what she said and did and what I said and did. That’s why I become more and more cold towards people because I expect this alot from where I live which is San Diego, I dealt with alot of noticeably fake people. The real genuine people I have is my small few circle of friends but overall I dealt with 95% of fake people like every ex friend I had would have more loyalty towards the other person even if I knew them longer, and that person always doing me dirty. I sorta expected this from anyone tbh but it still hurts every time because I care alot for people but I’m very cautious with people. I had a similar situation in high school that my ex bestfriend that I knew for 7 years, would tolerate her friend (who happened to be bullying me, and my ex bestfriend knew him for 4 years at the time) and would have more loyalty to him because of “similar background stories” the typical “our parents died when we were little” you know how it goes stories but yet I knew her the longest and she always had loyalty towards my bully more than me. I’ve dealt with so many situations like this and every time I come out more disappointed but not shocked since I’m use it. That’s why as much as anyone says I’m their “bestfriend” realistically when push comes to shove, when life problems start to hit, when friendships are being tested by a big issue... they show they weren’t really true bestfriends. That’s why my own motto has always been that I have close friends but I’ve never said that I considered anyone as my “bestfriend” even if they consider me to be theirs. I just learned alot from my experiences from fake people. Its funny because somehow I end up attracting genuine and fake people come to me even when I mind my own business. At my college (before post quarantine), I always minded my own business but people would suddenly come to me about their problems even without knowing me and even people come to me with their jokes and know I can handle it well and will laugh with them because my energy gives out loving nice energy. My crush even apologized to me one time because he knew I was going through stuff and he would say “I’m sorry for being mean to you” and I know he meant it well and its because he has a different sense of humor that others don’t understand him much as I do and he likes to playfully tease me alot as a joke of course. Even after he apologized, he still teases me because he knows I can take it and won’t take it to heart which I don’t mind haha. I know I’m not perfect and I admit I make mistakes but even there’s been a few people who tell me I’m very mature for my age and that they see I’m a genuine person for the most part I keep it real with everyone
I am a Muslim woman and have firm belief in the Stephan’s message . This is everything my faith teaches us. You are 💯 accurate . Gods guidance and plan is what matters . You can’t find happiness without it . Love listening to you ! 😊
1. You're attracted to him ans.> my face 2. He is willing to communicate with you ans.> he keeps on stalking, and in the other hands, I also keep on searching, discovering his value he hold, and his personality. 3. 2 of you share the same value ans.> love people, minimalist, love studying 4. You will feel vulnerable with him ans.> i feel, but won't let him know. 5. He encourages your spiritual life ans.> yes. he is 80's idol my first visual and first love. 6. He's who you can depend on ans.> sure. he love people in every kind of levels. everyone can depend on him. he is not only idol, he is artist, leadership, and business man. 7. You experience a deep connection with this man ans.> i know it.
The man I met was so easy to talk to, I was more attracted to, we were both interested in character and faith from day one. It was so easy to talk to him and I knew I had to give the relationship a try but I didn't have to do anything because this man pursued me and so gently. It has been a beautiful 2 year journey. I am amazed at how easy everything has been. I have been able to be myself completely for the first time ever. Yes! I can open up and be healthy with him and be completely honest and he is interested in taking care of me! No one has ever done this! Its like What's going on? 😅
After 23 years of little up and too many down, I divorced a man who lead for his own selfish desires. Then God aligned me with the man that He has for me. All 7 clues are checked out. It's truly is amazing to be with a person who understand each other and share the same value and yes I am at peace. Thank you for sharing your talent.
@ Helen Tren: wow I'm so happy for you! I was just thinking is it too late to leave the toxic relationship after 23 years? But what about my daughters, they're teenagers and young adult!
@@tanimamannan9628 Hi, it's suck when it comes to toxic family members. Love and take care of yourself. Leave everything else to God. He knows what to do with toxic people in our lives.
You are definitely not all over the place. Your statement, “He might be the right person just the wrong time. He hasn’t got to that point yet and truth is you still have things you need to work on...” I felt that in every level. Thank you!
I believe I've met him. We have been talking on the phone for 5 months and we will meet physically this meeting. I pray being in each other's company is magical!!
Never make excuses for reasons why he is not available or communicating. The right man will value everything about me when the time is right. Thank you Stephan.
What if none of the guys want to commit and get into a relationship? Ultimately, men DON'T want to commit and especially get married! Men can't handle being faithful in exclusive relationships/marriages!
@@charrasmith908 When you date that should be the topic of conversation so you know if they are serious. Also, watch actions as how they take time and treat you. Some men say they want marriage and it's you but don't act on it directly as we would want. They either aren't ready or are playing games.
I experienced 14:44 after meeting a good friend face to face after knowing him for 9 months and now we are engaged. I felt that it was too good to be true but so far, he’s been consistent and now I’m back in church. Glory to God🙏🏽
after meeting my guy friend I experience these spiritual signs & all these signs. 18:49 & 14:44 this is me with my guy friend :0 literally but here’s the thing It was my gut that told me to say yes to him to even join in my board game. My fears was saying no. Im so grateful I listened to God. cause that was God’s voice. No he actually is the first guy that I’ve met that didn’t cancel on me the first time for absolutely no reasonable reason & making excuses. I think I actually went back to God and got closer to God. 24:02 truths. Thank you in the name of The Father Song and The Holy Spirit.
When you can trust a man that he can lead and you can lean on him. That can give you peace. Don't you want that? I really felt that one. Its all about healing first. Thank you. I receive that in my spirit.
Everytime l see him he just makes me smile. And l know he was behind the scene always protecting me and making sure l was properly cared for. I never had a man do that before. Its so nice. And money isn't everything, communication and really loving the Lord is more important
Amen! Communicate is KEY! You MUST be able to talk to your partner about ANYTHING! Which really boils down to TRUST! You HAVE TO Trust each other completely, to be ABLE to communicate effectively!
@@chetnagautam9410 I HOPE you aren't with him any longer! My Man and I have been together 5 years, and have never even had an argument. He KEEPS me laughing! Never been happier! We ALL DESERVE to be BLISSFULLY HAPPY!!! I would rather be alone, than be with anyone "less than" I deserve. There is someone BETTER out there for you, and it IS true, you find it when you aren't even looking! I Pray YOU find your Happily Ever After! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
“The lack of communication is an example of the wrong man for you not the typical man” so so so good! So we don’t have to make excuses for it! He will be willing! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 🔥
I agree but it's individual for you, you can feel it, you both work at making it better, you can discuss things if you have a different idea, but you can't change a man or a woman if they don't want to, open honest communication, which I had to learn due to my bad partner decision it was me,self growth important allowing to be guided in his vision
Just got out of an 11 year relationship & plan on being a single mom for awhile to grow my relationship with God & to actually get to know who I am without my child’s father. (Met him at 13 & I am 25 now). I have felt so much peace since going into this walk with Jesus. (Waiting until Marriage). Feels amazing ❤ I watch these videos to educate myself later in life & will come back whenever I need that reminder. Thank you so much. Stay blessed 🙏🏽
Good morning. Some of these points are in his book "The Man God has for you" so far a great read! I encourage you all to get it (and support his business). I was not paid to share this information I just read the book and believe that God has blessed him with a gift. Blessings to you all (including myself) believing God for the man he has for you! ❤ Thank you Mr. Stephan for helping us!
Yes it is Aisha. I bought two of them to bless my lil sister. It was a really good read. I took the book on a girls weekend getaway to Cambridge md and when I say it actually made me feel even more comfortable with waiting and trusting God that he has not forgotten about me. Finished the book in two days and I prayed. The holy spirit said to prepare.
Just met a man who ticks all these clues but I can’t be in a relationship with him just yet as I just broke up with my ex boyfriend of 4 year. I want to heal first. Thank you very much this was helpful, God bless. 🙏🏾
A man will ghost a woman quicker than he will commit he will run from even good women I learned that men do not care to have a good woman that does not impress a man because they date for the wrong purpose and not for God's purpose for us dating
It's one year since I've been out of a 10 year relationship a man that was a lesson I've healed and still healing but I've rekindle with the one I was suppose to be with. I've always known e was the one but I was so scared the relationship was intense and I was inexperience because it was my first relationship. Now I'm older work on my self-esteem and self work and now I'm happier than I've ever been. Sure to say he has tick all the boxes. Thank you Jesus for letting me have my second chance.
Stephan - you are the only person/man who I've listened to who actually makes sense on these topics. You're honest and true to yourself, and it comes through your content. I appreciate your content because it's not just simply dating advice you offer, but self insight. And most of all and arguably most importantly, you crack me up!! I appreciate you so much!! Thank you.
When God has the right person for you there will be a spiritual connection that draw you to each other as well as a deep intimacy to get closer to God. It is something that you will just know and recognize because it has already been predestined.
@@hawaiigirl8089 My comment is from my own personal experience and that spiritual connection drew me closer to God. It is a connection that I know only God ordained. Yet our gracious God gives us free will to choose. Thank you for your viewpoint. Blessings & peace to you Karen. 🙏 ❤
I met man who made me seek God more through the way he treated me initially and how he used to communicate. It was perfect. And then one day he flipped and changed. I believe God used him to save me from depression because he found me in a dark place. I had lost my business and was feeling Lost.
I’m an almost healed woman in this relationship so far 😂 I feel the honesty and genuineness radiating from this man and it has quickly opened me to be very feminine and vulnerable. I love it and it can be overwhelmingly scary at the same time bc of past trauma! I stressed questioning soulmates vs love bombing bc of how quickly love is building between us. Thankfully, this gentleman is a soft place to land and he welcomes the conversations he knows I have to work through. He makes me feel emotionally safe and I haven’t felt like that in decades. God gave me the word for joyful spontaneity and I know that’s for Him, but I can’t help but feel it’s also this relationship. I was ridiculed for my relationship with God in my past marriage with a false believer and it was DEVASTATING. I am the most scared about combining my romantic relationship with my spiritual one. My man is a believer and tells me I am everything he asked God for & I know he is genuine but I can’t help but fear he is not.
Good for you! By being up front like that (and I tell men the same thing), it saves us a lot of unnecessary cow manure and time! Why should we give ourselves to men we don't even know? My question to them is "Who are you?" It takes time to find that out and until I do, that's not even an option! I may not even like you, he make not like me but of course, men don't have to like us to have sex with us. 🤦🏾♀️ So, a lot of men don't care who they mix spirits with, sounds like you and I do...Blessings 🤗❤
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Why does my spouse always keeps me in the dark with her family and friends ? Because I feel I'm not good enough, I feel she's embarrassed of me.
I’m experiencing all of these signs, but it’s the wrong time. We became best friends, and though we’ve never been physical, or even kissed. I’ve never been more in love. I prayed to God “God, if he is one for me let him come to church with me.” this is something I asked after I started dating to weed out the wrong man. I asked him, and we went to church together. After that, we had deep talks about God. I truly feel he’s the one, even as he’s getting ready to move 3 hours away, and working on getting sober again. It showed me I need to be patient. I’ve never been patient, but with him I’m learning how to be. When I confessed my feelings, he confessed back, but asked for time and for me to be strictly his friend for the time being, as he works on his sobriety. I trust in God’s promise that he’s going to heal him from that, and bring him back when we’re both ready. ❤
@Cary Sontag You have to pray And wait for God to speak to u, when that happens, you will have the connection that it's the right time...you Will have that feeling .
Although God created marriage, women seem to be the only ones that desire it and even want to talk about it while men never bring up committment or getting married! Men are the runners and women are the ones who want to do right by God by wanting a sacred union, while men only interested in cheating, flirting, and being non- committal
I don't even know how I didnt run. I stayed and drew closer to God and felt good inside my heart and soul. Once we moved in together I was able to talk to him about God, about prayer and I wasnt forcing him, it was very natural and spiritual.
You know I used to look at things differently. When I no longer spoke to a man or man a man doesn't talk to me. I used to look at myself and think why didn't he want to talk to me or what's wrong with me. As long as you know that you are being the best version of you and you're working on being your high self spiritually, don't feel there is a lost if someone walks out of your life. Be thankful be rejoiceful because the person that god does have for you will come along and as long as you keep other men around in your life that shouldn't be there you're blocking that blessing for the one that's right for you.. I know he speaks about this all the time but work on yourself to attract the man you want. People that come into your life and leave, it's not loss,Instead it's a blessing .some were meant to be there for 5 minutes a year 10 years a month but you learn something from everybody just like you learned something from every situation. KEEP REACHING THE BEST VERSION Of YOU THAT YOU CAN. It's never-ending work as long as we're alive. But God will put that man into your life at the right time as long as you are trying to be who you're supposed to be
Carey, Wow.. I'm sobbing just reading this from you. I do believe my Heavenly Father used you to minister exactly where I'm at. Thank you so so very much for your courage to post your response to this amazing speaker. Blessings and Shalom❤️
October 2020 i was seeing a very hardcore Christian guy that my close friend introduced me to, keep in mind i was very hesitant on giving a new guy a chance because i’ve been hurt in the past by confusing guys who weren’t ready to commit to me prior before to meeting this Christian religious immature boy. My friend at the time kept convincing me to take a chance on him and even promised me that he wasn’t going to hurt me but he did at the end. Long story short i took my friend’s word for it and i took a chance on her guy friend. Obviously me and this new guy i was seeing were pretty great in the beginning but a month or two later he told me he was waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him since he was hurt in the past and wants to find his wife. I was started to lose hope relationship wise. I was a new Christian and still am but i was kinda caught off guard with the guy waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him. I was honest with him and told him how come he doesn’t make his own personal choice since God gives us that free choice. He still was persistent on doing the sign bullshit thing. I left it alone for awhile and had low expectations from that and tried to keep things as a friendship. Well months went by I was building resentment towards my guy and in January 2021, he basically said he had big good news to say which really wasn’t tbh, basically he said that he wanted to postpone dating for a year. At that point i clearly felt more discouraged and frusterated with him more and more as time went on. I even told him i was upset about it and again he was persistent on waiting on God (i shouldn’t have ignored the red flags). Just recently which was two weeks ago, i asked him if we could hangout one-on-one as FRIENDS to get to know eachother better since we’ve all hungout in groups, we should also hangout one-on-one to see where our friendship grows into. He didn’t think it was a good idea because he didn’t want our feelings to be more invested than we already are, i told him that we needed to separate our feelings versus a friendship to get to know eachother as people and as friends since we’ve only hungout in groups. He still didn’t think it was a good idea and says he will ask God when and where we could hangout. At that point i was fed up with him, and said if that’s how he feels then i guess do it. At that point i vented to our mutual friend and asked her how come she introduced me to this complicated guy because relationship and friendship wise it was all too much. I basically needed space from both of them but mostly him and my friend took my words to heart and didn’t wanna be friends anymore after that. That guy i was seeing ended up telling me i wasn’t the “one” for him and that God gave him 6 signs that prove i wasn’t the “one”. Keep in mind that this guy was so immature and caused me nothing but pain and stress within these 6 months for nothing. One of his signs from God was complete bullcrap, he then says there’s this chinese lady (keep in mind that he doesn’t know this lady personally) but someone from our church knows this lady, my guy asked God if this chinese lady is still single by december 2020, then that was the first sign that means I wasn’t the “one” for him. All these consistent stupid excuses one after another, i even asked him why did you even pursue me in the first place and clearly it showed you weren’t ready. I knew in my gut feeling that he was too much for me and he wasn’t my type to begin with either but i cared about him and took a real chance on someone. I bet you that nobody would’ve waited as much as i did for a guy to be this complicated and immature. I understand God is a big part of our lives but this guy took it to the extreme. Relationship wise, i kept my expectations low as he was showing his true colors, friendship wise i couldn’t believe that he felt the need to ask God when and where we could hangout when i sincerely want to at least be his friend. He did some other shit i didn’t like and it costed me and my friend’s friendship to end. Me and my friend never had issues or fought prior to her introducing me to this immature religious freak. I knew in my gut that was the main thing i was afraid of, taking a chance on her guy friend and what if things went wrong and could destroy my friendship which it did. But it comes to show how people show their true colors. I never went off on this religious dude i was seeing, he went off on me a few times, showed so many red flags, clearly wasn’t ready for anything serious, he would call me twice a day and text me everyday too, my friend always being put in the middle because she introduced me to him, my friend did shady shit too like whenever i would vent to her about stuff or about the guy... she would send him my personal messages that was only for her to read. I felt betrayed, depressed, angry and irritated all in one by those two. They would play the victim card also. I haven’t gone back to church since that situation a few weeks ago. I know im not perfect and i’ve made mistakes but it was no where close to them doing me dirty at the end especially mostly the guy i dated. Even after all of that i went to bible study a week ago to return my ex friend’s mask that she left in my car awhile back ago, i wanted to be a good person despite them doing me wrong. I think that will be my last bible study session for me to go to since now i don’t feel comfortable going back again. I know i should worship God despite what happened but in all honesty, i would rather preach alone than to go somewhere where i feel uncomfortable seeing my “ex” and my ex friend. That guy truly lost me because no girl probably would’ve wasted that much time and bullshit on someone that is too radical and always asking for God on every little thing to the extreme. Keep in mind, I’m a Christian, I believe in signs but when i received signs from God (which i have received signs from God personally) i never once asked God to send me a sign on a specific deadline or anything. You can’t force God for your own benefits. God gives us what He can give us, and again He also gives us a free choice in our lives. There’s a fine line between being reasonable and being too radical. I learned a valuable lesson from all this bullshit from guys and im still healing from this. Honestly i don’t know if i’ll ever want to date again since its alot harder for me to give a new person a chance if the opportunity ever presented itself again
Love this ❤️ Yes, attraction is more than just looks and sometimes you find yourself attracted to someone who is not your usual type. I’ve experienced this. I’ve also come across someone who pulled out all my repressed fears and insecurities and it did feel like I was losing myself. It was the scariest thing I’ve ever experienced. It felt like I was literally dying. I have so much more healing to do before I can embrace the right man. I’ve been praying to God every day for guidance.
After meeting a guy who clearly wasn’t the one I was fed up so I went on a deep spiritual journey I asked God to let the next man who comes into my life be my husband and sure enough I believe he found me through social media too. I am 🙏🏾 and asking God to guide me also we Also talk about our spiritual journey as well.
he’s my right person wrong time, everything you stated in the right person wrong time is true and in this video everything is true. we can’t leave eachother alone, he lead me closer to God, i thought something was wrong with me because i’ve never been attracted to a guy till him, i never had communication till him, we share all of the same values, we both want a Godly relationship, we both want the same amount of kids, we’re both waiting till marriage, i feel so vulnerable around this man it’s insane. and i prayed to God for patience and maybe this is His was of giving me patience but i hate waiting and it’s scary not knowing if it is him but everything aligns.
You’ll feel like you’re losing yourself. But really you’re coming into yourself. You’re true feminine self. Wow. I thought I was losing my mind!! I’ve been on my own for so long, I forgot what it was to be soft and unguarded. Turns out I’m not crazy…. I’m just in love with the most amazing man I’ve ever been with. He checks all the boxes. Thank you. ❤
I made the mistake of giving men a chance without being attracted to him thinking eventually love will develop. Unfortunately, I was wrong & I broke it off because I didn’t want to continue leading him on knowing it wasn’t going anywhere #Lessonlearned
I hear u. I met a similar situation but I'm like u I told him that there were no feelings I had for him. No intimacy no connection no nothing. I only wanted to be friends with absolutely no benefits
Every since I’ve run into your channel Stephan, I’ve been growing emotionally. I’ve done a lot more reflection internally and that speaks volumes to the woman I endeavor to become. I love you and you’re truly blessed, don’t stop teaching.
I liked how you explained the word attraction from a different perspective. You’re right it’s not always about how the person looks, but how that person treats you. I’ve never been one to focus on looks, I alway look at the character of the person. I also want someone who I can talk to, and be open with! I look forward to receiving the man God has for me! All of these clues are great tips! Thanks Stephan! 😊😊!
#6 hit me hard. I'm in a relationship with a person who is inability to take lead, be assertive, make decisions, have vision, have a plan. I constantly feel like he was waiting on me to get him the green light instead of him making the first move. Thinking back 🤔 I had to approach him about him asking me on our first date. I spent so much time thinking of what he can do to make a life for himself and him not making the effort to grow. Mental and emotional drained me.
Ypu had doubts but still pursued him ... infact mistake 1 was actually pursuing him instead of him you... just by doing that you immediately turned yourself into the masculine character that you really shouldn't be ... never believe the fake news about it's okay for a woman to pursue a man ... it's not feasible in the end... she loses out....but now that you are actually together I guess it's got to be a matter of having a serious talk n you deciding if it's worth it. I think you know the answer ...
This sounds exactly like what my daughter is going through. I don't feel the man is right for her and I am afraid he will break her. She is new to dating and this guy is a real piece of work.
I love your approach of speaking about a godly relationship in a time that people don't always honor God in their relationship. God bless and keep you in His care. Your service to us is heaven sent.
A True Christian Man Will Want To Wait Till Marriage For Intimacy. I met men who state they are Christian But they don't want to wait or They Don't understand why wait?? I have to be Honest With them and tell them in love why ?? I will not accept no man from pulling me away from GOD . I Am Waiting on GOD FOR I Believe THE RIGHT CHRISTIAN MAN IS OUT THERE FOR ME. 😊 Tell It Stephen!!!
October 2020 i was seeing a very hardcore Christian guy that my close friend introduced me to, keep in mind i was very hesitant on giving a new guy a chance because i’ve been hurt in the past by confusing guys who weren’t ready to commit to me prior before to meeting this Christian religious immature boy. My friend at the time kept convincing me to take a chance on him and even promised me that he wasn’t going to hurt me but he did at the end. Long story short i took my friend’s word for it and i took a chance on her guy friend. Obviously me and this new guy i was seeing were pretty great in the beginning but a month or two later he told me he was waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him since he was hurt in the past and wants to find his wife. I was started to lose hope relationship wise. I was a new Christian and still am but i was kinda caught off guard with the guy waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him. I was honest with him and told him how come he doesn’t make his own personal choice since God gives us that free choice. He still was persistent on doing the sign bullshit thing. I left it alone for awhile and had low expectations from that and tried to keep things as a friendship. Well months went by I was building resentment towards my guy and in January 2021, he basically said he had big good news to say which really wasn’t tbh, basically he said that he wanted to postpone dating for a year. At that point i clearly felt more discouraged and frusterated with him more and more as time went on. I even told him i was upset about it and again he was persistent on waiting on God (i shouldn’t have ignored the red flags). Just recently which was two weeks ago, i asked him if we could hangout one-on-one as FRIENDS to get to know eachother better since we’ve all hungout in groups, we should also hangout one-on-one to see where our friendship grows into. He didn’t think it was a good idea because he didn’t want our feelings to be more invested than we already are, i told him that we needed to separate our feelings versus a friendship to get to know eachother as people and as friends since we’ve only hungout in groups. He still didn’t think it was a good idea and says he will ask God when and where we could hangout. At that point i was fed up with him, and said if that’s how he feels then i guess do it. At that point i vented to our mutual friend and asked her how come she introduced me to this complicated guy because relationship and friendship wise it was all too much. I basically needed space from both of them but mostly him and my friend took my words to heart and didn’t wanna be friends anymore after that. That guy i was seeing ended up telling me i wasn’t the “one” for him and that God gave him 6 signs that prove i wasn’t the “one”. Keep in mind that this guy was so immature and caused me nothing but pain and stress within these 6 months for nothing. One of his signs from God was complete bullcrap, he then says there’s this chinese lady (keep in mind that he doesn’t know this lady personally) but someone from our church knows this lady, my guy asked God if this chinese lady is still single by december 2020, then that was the first sign that means I wasn’t the “one” for him. All these consistent stupid excuses one after another, i even asked him why did you even pursue me in the first place and clearly it showed you weren’t ready. I knew in my gut feeling that he was too much for me and he wasn’t my type to begin with either but i cared about him and took a real chance on someone. I bet you that nobody would’ve waited as much as i did for a guy to be this complicated and immature. I understand God is a big part of our lives but this guy took it to the extreme. Relationship wise, i kept my expectations low as he was showing his true colors, friendship wise i couldn’t believe that he felt the need to ask God when and where we could hangout when i sincerely want to at least be his friend. He did some other shit i didn’t like and it costed me and my friend’s friendship to end. Me and my friend never had issues or fought prior to her introducing me to this immature religious freak. I knew in my gut that was the main thing i was afraid of, taking a chance on her guy friend and what if things went wrong and could destroy my friendship which it did. But it comes to show how people show their true colors. I never went off on this religious dude i was seeing, he went off on me a few times, showed so many red flags, clearly wasn’t ready for anything serious, he would call me twice a day and text me everyday too, my friend always being put in the middle because she introduced me to him, my friend did shady shit too like whenever i would vent to her about stuff or about the guy... she would send him my personal messages that was only for her to read. I felt betrayed, depressed, angry and irritated all in one by those two. They would play the victim card also. I haven’t gone back to church since that situation a few weeks ago. I know im not perfect and i’ve made mistakes but it was no where close to them doing me dirty at the end especially mostly the guy i dated. Even after all of that i went to bible study a week ago to return my ex friend’s mask that she left in my car awhile back ago, i wanted to be a good person despite them doing me wrong. I think that will be my last bible study session for me to go to since now i don’t feel comfortable going back again. I know i should worship God despite what happened but in all honesty, i would rather preach alone than to go somewhere where i feel uncomfortable seeing my “ex” and my ex friend. That guy truly lost me because no girl probably would’ve wasted that much time and bullshit on someone that is too radical and always asking for God on every little thing to the extreme. Keep in mind, I’m a Christian, I believe in signs but when i received signs from God (which i have received signs from God personally) i never once asked God to send me a sign on a specific deadline or anything. You can’t force God for your own benefits. God gives us what He can give us, and again He also gives us a free choice in our lives. There’s a fine line between being reasonable and being too radical. I learned a valuable lesson from all this bullshit from guys and im still healing from this. Honestly i don’t know if i’ll ever want to date again since its alot harder for me to give a new person a chance if the opportunity ever presented itself again
@@melanie.vallejo try not to be upset w/folk who choose to acknowledge GOD in all their ways. You 2 were just on different levels is all. Doesn’t make either of you “right” or “wrong”, simply different. There are a TON of reasons filk are on various levels ESPECIALLY when it comes to relationship with the FATHER. And PLEASE don’t stop going to church because “they’re there”. You’re only cheating yourself. Besides, there’s someone in EVERY church you’d rather be away from, but to do so you will church hop all of your days. Pray for & work towards your healing.
@@mookbear2001 Actually he was wrong, i know you’re trying to help but you don’t also know how many mistakes and issues he has caused me besides the ones i mentioned. There was times he went off on me and i never once went off on him for the things he did towards me. Never in my life did i ever went off on him, i’ve been nothing but nice and patient but all he did was make mistakes, piss me off, went off on me a few times, friendzoned me, lost my friendship over his stupidity, etc. It’s very hard for me to even want to go back to my church because of them doing me wrong. I lost a friend over this situation and i am deeply hurt. Of course they’re not deeply affected by it like i have, of course he gets to continue his friendship with her, of course she was rude to me at times. I simply have been trying to be strong but i am losing faith in God. I know you mean well with what you said but it’s been super hard on me to even consider going back, at least i tried going back to bible study a few times but now im really considering just not going anymore after this. I had a tiny bit of hope that at least me and my ex friend could patch things up and restart our friendship but she doesn’t want that. I feel like i gained nothing and i keep asking God why did this situation happen to me? why did i let my friend convince me to take a chance on her guy friend? why did i lose her at the end for absolutely nothing? I just lost my hope
I haven’t met a man who can do #6 for me yet. I mean I had an ex who tried to, but he was leading me down the wrong path of destruction... 😕 I yearn for a man who can lead me with love & that I can respect. A man that I don’t have to carry on my back & be overwhelmed & burdened by... 😢 I’ve been completely single & celibate for nearly 3 years & been working on my healing & strengthening my Walk with God as His Daughter in Christ 💜🙏🏾
Oh my goodness. After some hard lessons in love I realized the same: I need to get into a relationship with someone I can trust to lead and respect their values or else my masculine side will try to take over and that'll leave me drained. Now I'm working on designing my life and working on my faith and myself. 💕
Hey, have you met the right person yet? Have you been running into guys that doesn't want to commit, but only interested in Friends with benefits just casual dating sex
Yes, you are so correct. Attraction is the key in a relationship, because personally, I have used it a lot and it works excellently. I have finally found the guy for me. I analyzed everything, from his looks to his conversation and future plans, to see if I can tolerate him. I am attracted to him, his voice, his looks, and everything about him. We pray together and tell each other just about everything that needs to be said. He never forgets to say "I love you", "How was your day?", "How are you feeling today?" and "Do you need anything?". Our plans are on point and we even dream the same. It's amazing and I'm grateful. I pray that another brother and sister get the same or better connection.
Stephan you just confirmed EVERYTHING I have been feeling! I am been praying for him waiting form him and I’m so glad I have waited! He is just the best man in the whole world! I look forward to our illustrious and legacy-born future! Thank you Stephan!!
Stephan, all of these points are on point!!! I remember meeting a guy shortly after my ex husband and I split (the first time). The connection we had, the way he made me feel, the way he respected me and drew me closer to God... it was everything I'd ever wanted. It scared the heebie geebies out of me! 😆 On the flip side, a side of me that I didn't know existed emerged and I was instantly open to him leading. Unfortunately, it didn't take off bc I was not ready. But when God brings that (type of man, love, relationship) around again I'm going to be ready for it! I can't wait!
Divorce is not legal in most Asian countries...how could it be fair for us women who wanted to split from marriage especially that traditional Christianity is the faith we usually practice "In sickness and it health, for better or for worse 'till death do us part"🥲
@@rosemarierodriguez3147 What are you even talking about? Most Asian countries also aren't majority-Christian, so whatever point you thought you were making is still moot. And if you've read the Bible as thoroughly as you claim, you'd know that those wedding vows aren't even in them. They're from golden age Europe.
I’m so glad I stumbled up on this video. I was married 20 years and had not one of these fully with my ex. It was a lesson. A long drawn out lesson because of my unwillingness to adhere to the many signs. I ultimately sacrificed my happiness for my children because I wanted to model before them a two parent family. However what they saw were two parents not happy. Within the course of him being my lesson I learned who I was and what I wanted and the Divorce was a sheer blessing because God was able to send to me not only the desires of my heart but the man of my dreams. One I can say without hesitation, I’m finishing this life with. Amazing!
I love how you always tie your messages back to God’s plan 💛💛💛 very important!!! ... I also feel like this is what separates you from other dating coaches. Keep doing what you do 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I have learned a lot from your videos; mostly just how mentally, psychologically, spiritually fucked up a lot of women are. Most suffer from " any man is better than no man" syndrome. They are leading themselves into emotional abyss because they have no empathy for themselves, no self esteem. GOD is teaching me patience. My husband of 25years died 2015, and I haven't been on one date!! Why? Because I refuse to "settle" for less than what I deserve. I'm 68years young, I know all the tactics, and I REFUSE to play games. I choose to work on my relationship with GOD, which is more important than a stressful person to add toxicity to my calm, peaceful life. If it's to be, GOD will bless me with right man. I say: trust GOD, stay POSITIVE, and HE will do it unless HE feels I should be single. HE knows......✝️👍💜
I keep watching these because I think you should never stop learning about healthy relationships. The part that got me was about communication. I really did think that men were just bad at it. When my current boyfriend said. “Talk to me. You seem unhappy about something. Tell me.” It was so genuine. I didn’t even know he could tell. And I was so used holding my feelings in and trying to figure out a good time and place to try to talk. And here this man could see what I was feeling and asked me to please talk to him. It was like...oh my gosh.,,it’s not that men need a bunch of passes for “being men,” I was just with the wrong man before. It honestly changes your life when you experience a guy that *truly* cares. You’ll never accept bs again.
I got so much to say!! Lol. I reconnected with a man I knew from college! We dated briefly then, but ended up going different paths! When we reconnected I knew my spirit had met its match! I almost messed up though because I wanted him to voice and "feel" what I was "feeling" right away! He did, but he was more patient, intentional and reserved...which is what was needed! Time gave us an opportunity to get to know our 2022 versions vs. 1982!! We talk about everything!! He shows me who he is/what he does to determine if we fit! I listened to this video early in our relationship and just listened again, and I'm like wow! I already knew he was the one, but this is further confirmation!! #4...vulnerability? I was just expressing that to him the other day! I am 59, feeling like a little girl! Lol. I am over the moon happy! This man is definitely the man for me! So much to this story...like he was living in N.C. and I in FL at the time we reconnected and within days practically, he was reassigned to FL... So much.. and sorry I went on and on, but I feel so so blessed...after years of preparing myself and healing! God is good!! We definitely have a deep genuine connection!! 《Sighs》😁 Btw...we will be getting married this year!!🥂🎉
Just for clarification, I had been married for 20 years and divorced for 10...no current relationship; and he had been married for 10 years, divorced for 18 and no current relationship!
I have only recently started following you, Stephan and, after my husband left me 6 years ago, (a 30 year marriage) it finally hit me…God brought you to my life, I have absolutely no doubt! I have made mistakes in trying to find a new relationship to no avail..however, your advice has taught me that I need to recognize my worth!!! A work in progress 🙏🏻 Thank you! Praising Him and thanking you for your wisdom your common sense, your truthfulness! Lord have mercy! Grateful in PA
I believe people connect in the spirit before they connect in the physical. This bond should be an unbreakable bond with both partners coming together to serve God and putting him first in their relationship and everything else. A relationship like this a blessing from God.
Thank you, Stephan! I am patiently waiting and praying for the man or platonic male friendships God has for me. Leaning and walking by faith. That’s it.
This video is so beneficial… I literally am looking at my relationship and comparing it to the signs you listed. It really resonates with me and literally could be used a guideline for understanding if you are with the person meant for you. Wow! I’m literally taking notes like I’m in class because I am! Thanks for this amazing video!
I say this with respect and love, I am attracted to your mindset and your prospective is refreshing. Its easy, as a women to follow, accept and understand you. You're direct message and kindhearted delivery is acknowledged. Its amazing to see you in your purpose. I've almost watch all your videos and purchased your books. Thank you for being consistent and honest. I will continue to admire and watch you grow. 🤗🤗🤗
You have to be evenly yoked it says in the bible. So if you're not, you have to wait until the other gets with you evenly. It's all IN THE HEART. Both hearts have to be in sync.
Thank you for embracing your calling by being led to help those of us that are broken and on the path to finding our true selves again. Our relationships will never be successful until we have become whole within ourselves ❤
all 7 signs checked out. I mean all. That connection you talk of was from the very first we started texting...It was confirmed from the very first phone conversation. It's a little complicated as he has mental issues that cause him to shut down and shut everyone out and life for him is hard right now. And all of this was confirmed when we first met as well. Conversation flowed, we just couldnt stop...that connection feels so tight. its more than physical, but mental and spiritual. Thank God he knows and loves Jesus too. But that being said, as you say, maybe its right man wrong timing. I feel I have issues i need to work on and his life is not in a place for a relationship right now either with some of the challenges he has. and by that i dont mean another relationship, but more along the lines of life and work. So I pray for him and I ask God to take over the reins as I am not a good navigator.
1:07 That connection is a piece of God. Nobody can come in between two people who have the connection and put in the effort. Their relationship is like no one else’s. That relationship can last through all the tests of time. That connection is the glue that keeps them together.❤
AMEN! AMEN! AMEN! All true, especially number 7! The connection must be there and it must be Jesus Christ, AMEN! Thank you Stefan for always speaking Love and Truth! May God continue to use and bless you mightily, AMEN.
I feel like crying everyday. But every time I watch your videos, you speak to this feeling that I have inside myself that I’m scared to make this decision but I know it’s the right one. I watched the video about not settling for a man that’s not right for you. I really felt everything you said in that one. Wow, it’s like the exact words as I feel. Continue to be a vessel for Him 👏🏽
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October 2020 i was seeing a very hardcore Christian guy that my close friend introduced me to, keep in mind i was very hesitant on giving a new guy a chance because i’ve been hurt in the past by confusing guys who weren’t ready to commit to me prior before to meeting this Christian religious immature boy. My friend at the time kept convincing me to take a chance on him and even promised me that he wasn’t going to hurt me but he did at the end. Long story short i took my friend’s word for it and i took a chance on her guy friend. Obviously me and this new guy i was seeing were pretty great in the beginning but a month or two later he told me he was waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him since he was hurt in the past and wants to find his wife. I was started to lose hope relationship wise. I was a new Christian and still am but i was kinda caught off guard with the guy waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him. I was honest with him and told him how come he doesn’t make his own personal choice since God gives us that free choice. He still was persistent on doing the sign bullshit thing. I left it alone for awhile and had low expectations from that and tried to keep things as a friendship. Well months went by I was building resentment towards my guy and in January 2021, he basically said he had big good news to say which really wasn’t tbh, basically he said that he wanted to postpone dating for a year. At that point i clearly felt more discouraged and frusterated with him more and more as time went on. I even told him i was upset about it and again he was persistent on waiting on God (i shouldn’t have ignored the red flags). Just recently which was two weeks ago, i asked him if we could hangout one-on-one as FRIENDS to get to know eachother better since we’ve all hungout in groups, we should also hangout one-on-one to see where our friendship grows into. He didn’t think it was a good idea because he didn’t want our feelings to be more invested than we already are, i told him that we needed to separate our feelings versus a friendship to get to know eachother as people and as friends since we’ve only hungout in groups. He still didn’t think it was a good idea and says he will ask God when and where we could hangout. At that point i was fed up with him, and said if that’s how he feels then i guess do it. At that point i vented to our mutual friend and asked her how come she introduced me to this complicated guy because relationship and friendship wise it was all too much. I basically needed space from both of them but mostly him and my friend took my words to heart and didn’t wanna be friends anymore after that. That guy i was seeing ended up telling me i wasn’t the “one” for him and that God gave him 6 signs that prove i wasn’t the “one”. Keep in mind that this guy was so immature and caused me nothing but pain and stress within these 6 months for nothing. One of his signs from God was complete bullcrap, he then says there’s this chinese lady (keep in mind that he doesn’t know this lady personally) but someone from our church knows this lady, my guy asked God if this chinese lady is still single by december 2020, then that was the first sign that means I wasn’t the “one” for him. All these consistent stupid excuses one after another, i even asked him why did you even pursue me in the first place and clearly it showed you weren’t ready. I knew in my gut feeling that he was too much for me and he wasn’t my type to begin with either but i cared about him and took a real chance on someone. I bet you that nobody would’ve waited as much as i did for a guy to be this complicated and immature. I understand God is a big part of our lives but this guy took it to the extreme. Relationship wise, i kept my expectations low as he was showing his true colors, friendship wise i couldn’t believe that he felt the need to ask God when and where we could hangout when i sincerely want to at least be his friend. He did some other shit i didn’t like and it costed me and my friend’s friendship to end. Me and my friend never had issues or fought prior to her introducing me to this immature religious freak. I knew in my gut that was the main thing i was afraid of, taking a chance on her guy friend and what if things went wrong and could destroy my friendship which it did. But it comes to show how people show their true colors. I never went off on this religious dude i was seeing, he went off on me a few times, showed so many red flags, clearly wasn’t ready for anything serious, he would call me twice a day and text me everyday too, my friend always being put in the middle because she introduced me to him, my friend did shady shit too like whenever i would vent to her about stuff or about the guy... she would send him my personal messages that was only for her to read. I felt betrayed, depressed, angry and irritated all in one by those two. They would play the victim card also. I haven’t gone back to church since that situation a few weeks ago. I know im not perfect and i’ve made mistakes but it was no where close to them doing me dirty at the end especially mostly the guy i dated. Even after all of that i went to bible study a week ago to return my ex friend’s mask that she left in my car awhile back ago, i wanted to be a good person despite them doing me wrong. I think that will be my last bible study session for me to go to since now i don’t feel comfortable going back again. I know i should worship God despite what happened but in all honesty, i would rather preach alone than to go somewhere where i feel uncomfortable seeing my “ex” and my ex friend. That guy truly lost me because no girl probably would’ve wasted that much time and bullshit on someone that is too radical and always asking for God on every little thing to the extreme. Keep in mind, I’m a Christian, I believe in signs but when i received signs from God (which i have received signs from God personally) i never once asked God to send me a sign on a specific deadline or anything. You can’t force God for your own benefits. God gives us what He can give us, and again He also gives us a free choice in our lives. There’s a fine line between being reasonable and being too radical. I learned a valuable lesson from all this bullshit from guys and im still healing from this. Honestly i don’t know if i’ll ever want to date again since its alot harder for me to give a new person a chance if the opportunity ever presented itself again. How do i fully heal from this? I’m still hurting that this has happened to me
Keep him I know the feeling because I'm in love with a man who I met on my job it was love at first sight one of my judge knew him judge is dead now this man showd me so much respect he doesn't have children only because of his career answer prayer didn't want small children grown I could accept but no small children
@@luissmall9142 I didn’t keep him because he was too complicated and ruined alot of things for me including my friendship with our mutual friend. I went to bible study yesterday and i could feel the regret in his eyes when he said “its good to see you again” and i said “yeah” and gave him the cold shoulder
You are beautifUl!
Good morning , my serious question is when seeking confirmation from God that the guy is the right one, how do I know what his confirmation is? Is it tied to what you said about feeling like the man maintains and makes me feel closer to God? Are there any other signs of confirmation God may show ?
1. attraction
2. great communication
3. share the same values
4. feeling vulnerable with him
5. draws you closer to God
6. will be able to lead you with love
7. deep and genuine connection
Thank you!
If he is sent from God you will know
Thank youuu
Thanks a lot
You saved me 30 minutes. Thank you 🙏🏿
After 25 years of marriage, 6 years divorced, I am now dating a truly kind, caring, interesting, funny, fun, smart man. At 65 I consider myself so blessed and happy to have found my special someone when I wasn't looking. We cook together, take dance classes, travel, socialize, do so much together and share the same values. Don't give up, people!
Beautiful x
Never give up. What a nice example...
So happy for you.
Do you have the first one on Stephan's list? Attraction??
So happy u were able to find the one 😊
‘Some men will be lessons, and some men will just be a waste of your time. And one man will be the man that God has for you.’ Brilliant!!!!! Thanks Stephan
"Brilliant." Well said.
Amen.❤️
Great quote
I am so confused.
Why does there have to be so many issues and then the one gets it right, why doesn't the rest of them get it right the first time, that seems like the waste of time! I don't get it! I'm still confused!
"the man god made for you may not come in the package you expected but will have everything you need."
Aw beautiful🙏🏻
This is so true! ❤️💯
🌷🙏🏽
Exactly that❤️
But why ?
“What God has for you is ALWAYS better than what you want” Yes, Lord! Bring it!
Amen
Thats a great comment
AMEN
Hallelujah, Amen 😊
Amen pray
7 Clues
❤️🔥 He is attracted to you
❤️🔥 You will be able to talk to him
❤️🔥 You will share the same values
❤️🔥 You will feel vulnerable with him
❤️🔥 He will draw you near to God and not away
from Him
❤️🔥 He will be able to lead you with love
❤️🔥 You will experience a deep and a genuine
connection with this man that God has for
you
Love and Blessings 🥰🙏
Thanks, love. On behalf of everyone... we appreciate it. 😊
Love how you always mention God’s plan and prioritize a godly relationship 🙏🏽
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Amen
I love that too about him. 🙏
Hey Sharon, glad we watch the same content 😊
I also believe you can be in a current relationship that is toxic and God will put someone new in your path as a sign that it’s time to move on. He makes no mistakes.
You're absolutely right God does not make mistakes!
What if you're married, is that a mistake? I'm trying to save my marriage because it's a gift from God. My husband says he loves me but is not in love with me, that the spark is gone and he wants to move out instead of working on our marriage. No cheating yet but he's looking, he plays songs about being with other women and partying. We both work 12 hour days and he says we've grown apart so he's ready to go instead of making time for me. 11 years and boom. We were getting ready to go on vacation now he's taking that time to move
@@marthamasden7573 I normally don’t give marital advice but after reading your comment, I will say this, he already has one foot out the door. Don’t stop the other one. When they stay, but they done already left, they get mean. God is sending you a message but your not hearing him. Be still and listen. You can’t make him fall in with love you, but you must continue loving yourself and reclaim your peace. Blessings to you.
Been desiring to get married to the right person n still rn in dating but I want to know if he's the one cuz sighs
@@queens3696 you will know soon enough. If he enhances your life, brings you joy, inspires you listens to you and treats you like you are very important in his life, he's the one.
A man who loves you will expand you, lead, and provide.💯
Absolutely!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks ❤️
My late husband was that man. I miss him dearly.
@@kathyford9930My late husband also like that
💯❤
My biggest fear is to spend so many years and time with the wrong one before you find the right one. That’s the worst because you will wish you spent those years and time with that right one.
Your 7 clues stated in this video were so on point... especially Clue#5, He will draw you closer to God and not further away from Him. Hallelujah!!!
Amen 🙏
October 2020 i was seeing a very hardcore Christian guy that my close friend introduced me to, keep in mind i was very hesitant on giving a new guy a chance because i’ve been hurt in the past by confusing guys who weren’t ready to commit to me prior before to meeting this Christian religious immature boy. My friend at the time kept convincing me to take a chance on him and even promised me that he wasn’t going to hurt me but he did at the end. Long story short i took my friend’s word for it and i took a chance on her guy friend. Obviously me and this new guy i was seeing were pretty great in the beginning but a month or two later he told me he was waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him since he was hurt in the past and wants to find his wife. I was started to lose hope relationship wise. I was a new Christian and still am but i was kinda caught off guard with the guy waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him. I was honest with him and told him how come he doesn’t make his own personal choice since God gives us that free choice. He still was persistent on doing the sign bullshit thing. I left it alone for awhile and had low expectations from that and tried to keep things as a friendship. Well months went by I was building resentment towards my guy and in January 2021, he basically said he had big good news to say which really wasn’t tbh, basically he said that he wanted to postpone dating for a year. At that point i clearly felt more discouraged and frusterated with him more and more as time went on. I even told him i was upset about it and again he was persistent on waiting on God (i shouldn’t have ignored the red flags). Just recently which was two weeks ago, i asked him if we could hangout one-on-one as FRIENDS to get to know eachother better since we’ve all hungout in groups, we should also hangout one-on-one to see where our friendship grows into. He didn’t think it was a good idea because he didn’t want our feelings to be more invested than we already are, i told him that we needed to separate our feelings versus a friendship to get to know eachother as people and as friends since we’ve only hungout in groups. He still didn’t think it was a good idea and says he will ask God when and where we could hangout. At that point i was fed up with him, and said if that’s how he feels then i guess do it. At that point i vented to our mutual friend and asked her how come she introduced me to this complicated guy because relationship and friendship wise it was all too much. I basically needed space from both of them but mostly him and my friend took my words to heart and didn’t wanna be friends anymore after that. That guy i was seeing ended up telling me i wasn’t the “one” for him and that God gave him 6 signs that prove i wasn’t the “one”. Keep in mind that this guy was so immature and caused me nothing but pain and stress within these 6 months for nothing. One of his signs from God was complete bullcrap, he then says there’s this chinese lady (keep in mind that he doesn’t know this lady personally) but someone from our church knows this lady, my guy asked God if this chinese lady is still single by december 2020, then that was the first sign that means I wasn’t the “one” for him. All these consistent stupid excuses one after another, i even asked him why did you even pursue me in the first place and clearly it showed you weren’t ready. I knew in my gut feeling that he was too much for me and he wasn’t my type to begin with either but i cared about him and took a real chance on someone. I bet you that nobody would’ve waited as much as i did for a guy to be this complicated and immature. I understand God is a big part of our lives but this guy took it to the extreme. Relationship wise, i kept my expectations low as he was showing his true colors, friendship wise i couldn’t believe that he felt the need to ask God when and where we could hangout when i sincerely want to at least be his friend. He did some other shit i didn’t like and it costed me and my friend’s friendship to end. Me and my friend never had issues or fought prior to her introducing me to this immature religious freak. I knew in my gut that was the main thing i was afraid of, taking a chance on her guy friend and what if things went wrong and could destroy my friendship which it did. But it comes to show how people show their true colors. I never went off on this religious dude i was seeing, he went off on me a few times, showed so many red flags, clearly wasn’t ready for anything serious, he would call me twice a day and text me everyday too, my friend always being put in the middle because she introduced me to him, my friend did shady shit too like whenever i would vent to her about stuff or about the guy... she would send him my personal messages that was only for her to read. I felt betrayed, depressed, angry and irritated all in one by those two. They would play the victim card also. I haven’t gone back to church since that situation a few weeks ago. I know im not perfect and i’ve made mistakes but it was no where close to them doing me dirty at the end especially mostly the guy i dated. Even after all of that i went to bible study a week ago to return my ex friend’s mask that she left in my car awhile back ago, i wanted to be a good person despite them doing me wrong. I think that will be my last bible study session for me to go to since now i don’t feel comfortable going back again. I know i should worship God despite what happened but in all honesty, i would rather preach alone than to go somewhere where i feel uncomfortable seeing my “ex” and my ex friend. That guy truly lost me because no girl probably would’ve wasted that much time and bullshit on someone that is too radical and always asking for God on every little thing to the extreme. Keep in mind, I’m a Christian, I believe in signs but when i received signs from God (which i have received signs from God personally) i never once asked God to send me a sign on a specific deadline or anything. You can’t force God for your own benefits. God gives us what He can give us, and again He also gives us a free choice in our lives. There’s a fine line between being reasonable and being too radical. I learned a valuable lesson from all this bullshit from guys and im still healing from this. Honestly i don’t know if i’ll ever want to date again since its alot harder for me to give a new person a chance if the opportunity ever presented itself again
Truth 🙏🏾
@@melanie.vallejo I am so sorry you went through this, because I can totally relate to this experience. Your friend and your guy were using you for their own sordid satisfaction. They were probably in a relationship and used you as the third wheel. It happened to me and I spoke my mind and walked away. It was the only way. Please learn to love yourself in the way God loves you. Keep up with your Bible study and ignore these two jokers. God bless you.
@@monicanath4859 Thank you, that means alot... I’m just still really hurt and healing from everything. I tried to mend my friendship with my ex friend but unfortunately she was rude to me about it and told me that she didn’t wanna be friends anymore so I told her in an honest calm manner and put her in her place for being rude to me basically saying she’s still gonna be friends with my ex. I never said she shouldn’t be friends with him but I said in the nicest way possible that if I was in her shoes I wouldn’t be friends with a complicated guy like that nor would I let someone cause me more problems. It still hurts me that she mistook my words and sent me rude messages about it and when I tried to mend the friendship willingly so, she said she doesn’t trust me only because of me saying the truth about her and miswording my words when I needed space and that was the only mistake I made compared to the millions of mistakes she’s made and its ironic that she says she doesn’t trust me over that. I was willing to give her a second chance despite her sharing my personal messages to my ex, and other mistakes she’s made and yet I was willing to start over with her because I didn’t think this whole thing was worth throwing away a friendship over what she said and did and what I said and did. That’s why I become more and more cold towards people because I expect this alot from where I live which is San Diego, I dealt with alot of noticeably fake people. The real genuine people I have is my small few circle of friends but overall I dealt with 95% of fake people like every ex friend I had would have more loyalty towards the other person even if I knew them longer, and that person always doing me dirty. I sorta expected this from anyone tbh but it still hurts every time because I care alot for people but I’m very cautious with people. I had a similar situation in high school that my ex bestfriend that I knew for 7 years, would tolerate her friend (who happened to be bullying me, and my ex bestfriend knew him for 4 years at the time) and would have more loyalty to him because of “similar background stories” the typical “our parents died when we were little” you know how it goes stories but yet I knew her the longest and she always had loyalty towards my bully more than me. I’ve dealt with so many situations like this and every time I come out more disappointed but not shocked since I’m use it. That’s why as much as anyone says I’m their “bestfriend” realistically when push comes to shove, when life problems start to hit, when friendships are being tested by a big issue... they show they weren’t really true bestfriends. That’s why my own motto has always been that I have close friends but I’ve never said that I considered anyone as my “bestfriend” even if they consider me to be theirs. I just learned alot from my experiences from fake people. Its funny because somehow I end up attracting genuine and fake people come to me even when I mind my own business. At my college (before post quarantine), I always minded my own business but people would suddenly come to me about their problems even without knowing me and even people come to me with their jokes and know I can handle it well and will laugh with them because my energy gives out loving nice energy. My crush even apologized to me one time because he knew I was going through stuff and he would say “I’m sorry for being mean to you” and I know he meant it well and its because he has a different sense of humor that others don’t understand him much as I do and he likes to playfully tease me alot as a joke of course. Even after he apologized, he still teases me because he knows I can take it and won’t take it to heart which I don’t mind haha. I know I’m not perfect and I admit I make mistakes but even there’s been a few people who tell me I’m very mature for my age and that they see I’m a genuine person for the most part I keep it real with everyone
Waiting patiently for the man GOD has for me I don't want it if it's not sent by GOD💯
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
I'm here waiting on you hun 😘😏
@@vibsking21 Aww how sweet you just made my day love😘 we could be a match made in heaven
Yeah really ok sit and wait for him....lol
Lol yep ikr
💫HE will give you not only the right man but foremost that you both will give HIM glory🔥💯
You're absolutely right!
Amen 👏
Amen!! 🙏😇
✨AMEN!!!🙏🏾
Amen
I am a Muslim woman and have firm belief in the Stephan’s message . This is everything my faith teaches us. You are 💯 accurate . Gods guidance and plan is what matters . You can’t find happiness without it . Love listening to you ! 😊
Me too:) hope you find the one
Me three 😊. Stephan speaks the truth
Me four
You are being taught lies from.a.false religion.
Me five ❤
1. You're attracted to him
ans.> my face
2. He is willing to communicate with you
ans.> he keeps on stalking, and in the other hands, I also keep on searching, discovering his value he hold, and his personality.
3. 2 of you share the same value
ans.> love people, minimalist, love studying
4. You will feel vulnerable with him
ans.> i feel, but won't let him know.
5. He encourages your spiritual life
ans.> yes. he is 80's idol my first visual and first love.
6. He's who you can depend on
ans.> sure. he love people in every kind of levels.
everyone can depend on him. he is not only idol, he is artist, leadership, and business man.
7. You experience a deep connection with this man
ans.> i know it.
What comes easy,won't last long,and what lasts long,won't come easy!
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
Bittersweet 💖
We may think we know what’s best for us, but God knows better!
You're absolutely right!
In all thy way acknowledge him and he shall direct your path”
A man suppose to protect you from chaos of other things towards you involving your relationship 💯
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
AMEN
The man I met was so easy to talk to, I was more attracted to, we were both interested in character and faith from day one. It was so easy to talk to him and I knew I had to give the relationship a try but I didn't have to do anything because this man pursued me and so gently. It has been a beautiful 2 year journey. I am amazed at how easy everything has been. I have been able to be myself completely for the first time ever. Yes! I can open up and be healthy with him and be completely honest and he is interested in taking care of me! No one has ever done this! Its like What's going on? 😅
I feel you😅
Someone will come into our life for a reason,a lesson and a purpose. People come and go but the right one will always stay.
You're absolutely right!
Its sooo true!
In my case, the right one is back in my life after 30 years separation.
After 23 years of little up and too many down, I divorced a man who lead for his own selfish desires. Then God aligned me with the man that He has for me. All 7 clues are checked out. It's truly is amazing to be with a person who understand each other and share the same value and yes I am at peace. Thank you for sharing your talent.
I pray that you heal all you have been through.
@ Helen Tren: wow I'm so happy for you! I was just thinking is it too late to leave the toxic relationship after 23 years?
But what about my daughters, they're teenagers and young adult!
@@tanimamannan9628 Leave is never too late! You are still alive! There is hope and don't ever lose faith.
@@tanimamannan9628 Hi, it's suck when it comes to toxic family members. Love and take care of yourself. Leave everything else to God. He knows what to do with toxic people in our lives.
@@tanimamannan9628 I left a toxic and abusive relationship after 2o years my 2 teens encouraged me to move on.
You are definitely not all over the place. Your statement, “He might be the right person just the wrong time. He hasn’t got to that point yet and truth is you still have things you need to work on...” I felt that in every level. Thank you!
My pleasure ❤
Yes 🙌🏽
Absolutely 💯 💯
I believe I've met him. We have been talking on the phone for 5 months and we will meet physically this meeting. I pray being in each other's company is magical!!
@@lizsharon2534 how did it go?
Never make excuses for reasons why he is not available or communicating. The right man will value everything about me when the time is right. Thank you Stephan.
What if none of the guys want to commit and get into a relationship? Ultimately, men DON'T want to commit and especially get married! Men can't handle being faithful in exclusive relationships/marriages!
I absolutely agree with you!
@@charrasmith908 When you date that should be the topic of conversation so you know if they are serious. Also, watch actions as how they take time and treat you. Some men say they want marriage and it's you but don't act on it directly as we would want. They either aren't ready or are playing games.
I experienced 14:44 after meeting a good friend face to face after knowing him for 9 months and now we are engaged. I felt that it was too good to be true but so far, he’s been consistent and now I’m back in church. Glory to God🙏🏽
God bless you! I really hope it is all that you need in this life & the next! From a muslim sister 💖
@@zact4289 Thank you so much!
after meeting my guy friend I experience these spiritual signs & all these signs. 18:49 & 14:44 this is me with my guy friend :0 literally but here’s the thing It was my gut that told me to say yes to him to even join in my board game. My fears was saying no. Im so grateful I listened to God. cause that was God’s voice. No he actually is the first guy that I’ve met that didn’t cancel on me the first time for absolutely no reasonable reason & making excuses. I think I actually went back to God and got closer to God. 24:02 truths. Thank you in the name of The Father Song and The Holy Spirit.
‘the quality of the relationship suffers when there is no attraction..’.. SO true. 😐😬
💯 Yes!
When you can trust a man that he can lead and you can lean on him. That can give you peace. Don't you want that? I really felt that one. Its all about healing first. Thank you. I receive that in my spirit.
Jesus, you have blessed this man.. Keep blessing him. Everything he has stated has hit.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response, and may God bless you as well 🙏
💯💯💯
Agree! He is a blessing to us all! 🙏
Wow! This was AMAZING!
Just bought the book The Man God has for You....Super excited ❤
Omg you are so right he is such a blessing🙏💯👍
I am crying right now 😭
God is really preparing me and still molding me, i hope that one day we will be together... I feel that I already found him...
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks oh my! thank you so much!
Everytime l see him he just makes me smile. And l know he was behind the scene always protecting me and making sure l was properly cared for. I never had a man do that before. Its so nice. And money isn't everything, communication and really loving the Lord is more important
Amen! Communicate is KEY! You MUST be able to talk to your partner about ANYTHING!
Which really boils down to TRUST! You HAVE TO Trust each other completely, to be ABLE to communicate effectively!
You are absolutely right communication is definitely key, thank you for sharing I 🙏
N everytime I try to communicate it led to horrible arguements. I didn't see the sign earlier
@@chetnagautam9410 I HOPE you aren't with him any longer! My Man and I have been together 5 years, and have never even had an argument. He KEEPS me laughing! Never been happier!
We ALL DESERVE to be BLISSFULLY HAPPY!!! I would rather be alone, than be with anyone "less than" I deserve.
There is someone BETTER out there for you, and it IS true, you find it when you aren't even looking!
I Pray YOU find your Happily Ever After! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@connie martin Oh my God! You mean it's possible to have such a blissful relationship without a single quarrel! I'm so happy for you dear.
Trust is everything, once you I’ve that everything flows ❤
“The lack of communication is an example of the wrong man for you not the typical man” so so so good! So we don’t have to make excuses for it! He will be willing! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 🔥
I agree but it's individual for you, you can feel it, you both work at making it better, you can discuss things if you have a different idea, but you can't change a man or a woman if they don't want to, open honest communication, which I had to learn due to my bad partner decision it was me,self growth important allowing to be guided in his vision
Just got out of an 11 year relationship & plan on being a single mom for awhile to grow my relationship with God & to actually get to know who I am without my child’s father. (Met him at 13 & I am 25 now). I have felt so much peace since going into this walk with Jesus. (Waiting until Marriage). Feels amazing ❤ I watch these videos to educate myself later in life & will come back whenever I need that reminder. Thank you so much. Stay blessed 🙏🏽
Update: I’m still single & loving every bit ❤ it gets hard, but I pray ALOT and keep it pushin.
5. He draws you Closer to God. Is a key point for me in a relationship💥💯💥. 6. He leads in love. is GREAT!
AWESOME VIDEO!
“Let the lack of communication be a sign of the wrong man… not a typical man“ - Stephan … great point !👏🏽👏🏽
The man for you might not come in the package you expected but he will have everything you need I really like that thank you 🥰❤️
Good morning. Some of these points are in his book "The Man God has for you" so far a great read! I encourage you all to get it (and support his business). I was not paid to share this information I just read the book and believe that God has blessed him with a gift. Blessings to you all (including myself) believing God for the man he has for you! ❤ Thank you Mr. Stephan for helping us!
Thank you for sharing 🙌 I appreciate your feedback ❤ be blessed and I pray that you find the man God has for you 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks And I pray that God gives you the woman He has for you.
I agree!!! I have six of his books and they are amazing
That is the samething I was saying while listening to this. It is a must read book!
Yes it is Aisha. I bought two of them to bless my lil sister. It was a really good read. I took the book on a girls weekend getaway to Cambridge md and when I say it actually made me feel even more comfortable with waiting and trusting God that he has not forgotten about me. Finished the book in two days and I prayed. The holy spirit said to prepare.
Just met a man who ticks all these clues but I can’t be in a relationship with him just yet as I just broke up with my ex boyfriend of 4 year. I want to heal first. Thank you very much this was helpful, God bless. 🙏🏾
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback. Healing is definitely key!
I am in the same exact situation. Im still healing from my 3 1/2 year relationship however I met this amazing man who has given me faith
A man will ghost a woman quicker than he will commit he will run from even good women I learned that men do not care to have a good woman that does not impress a man because they date for the wrong purpose and not for God's purpose for us dating
It's one year since I've been out of a 10 year relationship a man that was a lesson I've healed and still healing but I've rekindle with the one I was suppose to be with. I've always known e was the one but I was so scared the relationship was intense and I was inexperience because it was my first relationship. Now I'm older work on my self-esteem and self work and now I'm happier than I've ever been. Sure to say he has tick all the boxes. Thank you Jesus for letting me have my second chance.
Stephan - you are the only person/man who I've listened to who actually makes sense on these topics. You're honest and true to yourself, and it comes through your content. I appreciate your content because it's not just simply dating advice you offer, but self insight. And most of all and arguably most importantly, you crack me up!! I appreciate you so much!! Thank you.
When God has the right person for you there will be a spiritual connection that draw you to each other as well as a deep intimacy to get closer to God. It is something that you will just know and recognize because it has already been predestined.
Amen..evenly yoked, in all things, is very important, first and foremost, pertaining to the things of God,
You are generalizing to wide public that have many ideas as to Godly confirmation! leave this to Stephan okay
@@hawaiigirl8089 My comment is from my own personal experience and that spiritual connection drew me closer to God. It is a connection that I know only God ordained. Yet our gracious God gives us free will to choose. Thank you for your viewpoint. Blessings & peace to you Karen. 🙏 ❤
Yes, God leads me to recognise that he is the one for me, but sadly, he doesn’t feel so.
I met man who made me seek God more through the way he treated me initially and how he used to communicate. It was perfect. And then one day he flipped and changed. I believe God used him to save me from depression because he found me in a dark place. I had lost my business and was feeling Lost.
I’m an almost healed woman in this relationship so far 😂 I feel the honesty and genuineness radiating from this man and it has quickly opened me to be very feminine and vulnerable. I love it and it can be overwhelmingly scary at the same time bc of past trauma! I stressed questioning soulmates vs love bombing bc of how quickly love is building between us. Thankfully, this gentleman is a soft place to land and he welcomes the conversations he knows I have to work through. He makes me feel emotionally safe and I haven’t felt like that in decades.
God gave me the word for joyful spontaneity and I know that’s for Him, but I can’t help but feel it’s also this relationship. I was ridiculed for my relationship with God in my past marriage with a false believer and it was DEVASTATING. I am the most scared about combining my romantic relationship with my spiritual one. My man is a believer and tells me I am everything he asked God for & I know he is genuine but I can’t help but fear he is not.
I eventually told this guy i was celibate, its been two weeks.. he never texted me back 🤣
His loss! You sound like a great catch. 😊
Girl do what you got to do...weed them fools out!
Thank God 🙏🏾 he saved your time, a headache, possibly from a std and more 😂
God's rejection = your protection 🤗
Good for you! By being up front like that (and I tell men the same thing), it saves us a lot of unnecessary cow manure and time! Why should we give ourselves to men we don't even know? My question to them is "Who are you?" It takes time to find that out and until I do, that's not even an option! I may not even like you, he make not like me but of course, men don't have to like us to have sex with us. 🤦🏾♀️
So, a lot of men don't care who they mix spirits with, sounds like you and I do...Blessings 🤗❤
I am from India sir. I saw this post in instagram.GOD spoke to me through you sir.
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks Why does my spouse always keeps me in the dark with her family and friends ? Because I feel I'm not good enough, I feel she's embarrassed of me.
THE PART I LOVE THE MOST IS ,HE WILL DRAW YOU CLOSER TO GOD AND NOT FURTHER AWAY FROM HIM, INFACT THIS IS THE BEST.
❤ 🙂 Thank you, I appreciate your feedback!
@@MeetStephanSpeakshi
I’m blessed
I met a man who pulled me back to God
Thank you Stephen for sharing and advices
You give me more confidence
God bless you
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
I’m experiencing all of these signs, but it’s the wrong time. We became best friends, and though we’ve never been physical, or even kissed. I’ve never been more in love. I prayed to God “God, if he is one for me let him come to church with me.” this is something I asked after I started dating to weed out the wrong man. I asked him, and we went to church together. After that, we had deep talks about God. I truly feel he’s the one, even as he’s getting ready to move 3 hours away, and working on getting sober again. It showed me I need to be patient. I’ve never been patient, but with him I’m learning how to be. When I confessed my feelings, he confessed back, but asked for time and for me to be strictly his friend for the time being, as he works on his sobriety. I trust in God’s promise that he’s going to heal him from that, and bring him back when we’re both ready. ❤
Happy Sunday y'all,trusting God for the man he has for me.. working on myself, faithful and I believe God timing is the best
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@Cary Sontag You have to pray And wait for God to speak to u, when that happens, you will have the connection that it's the right time...you Will have that feeling .
@Cary Sontag dude is on the wrong site. The troll site is at the home button, hit it.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks jjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjj
Amen
Your not all over the place 💕✨ those who are supposed to receive this message needed every bit of what you said ! Thank you King ✨
My pleasure ❤
Yes i definatley needed to hear this
Although God created marriage, women seem to be the only ones that desire it and even want to talk about it while men never bring up committment or getting married! Men are the runners and women are the ones who want to do right by God by wanting a sacred union, while men only interested in cheating, flirting, and being non- committal
Just bought the book...i recently started dating a guy with all these traits...I just keep praying on it
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Yessss exactly, you'll feel this inner peace 🕊️
Most definitely!
I don't even know how I didnt run. I stayed and drew closer to God and felt good inside my heart and soul. Once we moved in together I was able to talk to him about God, about prayer and I wasnt forcing him, it was very natural and spiritual.
You know I used to look at things differently. When I no longer spoke to a man or man a man doesn't talk to me. I used to look at myself and think why didn't he want to talk to me or what's wrong with me. As long as you know that you are being the best version of you and you're working on being your high self spiritually, don't feel there is a lost if someone walks out of your life. Be thankful be rejoiceful because the person that god does have for you will come along and as long as you keep other men around in your life that shouldn't be there you're blocking that blessing for the one that's right for you.. I know he speaks about this all the time but work on yourself to attract the man you want. People that come into your life and leave, it's not loss,Instead it's a blessing .some were meant to be there for 5 minutes a year 10 years a month but you learn something from everybody just like you learned something from every situation.
KEEP REACHING THE BEST VERSION Of YOU THAT YOU CAN.
It's never-ending work as long as we're alive. But God will put that man into your life at the right time as long as you are trying to be who you're supposed to be
You're absolutely right we keep learning every day, keep reaching the best version of you that you can 🙌 thank you for sharing!
Carey,
Wow.. I'm sobbing just reading this from you. I do believe my Heavenly Father used you to minister exactly where I'm at.
Thank you so so very much for your courage to post your response to this amazing speaker.
Blessings and Shalom❤️
October 2020 i was seeing a very hardcore Christian guy that my close friend introduced me to, keep in mind i was very hesitant on giving a new guy a chance because i’ve been hurt in the past by confusing guys who weren’t ready to commit to me prior before to meeting this Christian religious immature boy. My friend at the time kept convincing me to take a chance on him and even promised me that he wasn’t going to hurt me but he did at the end. Long story short i took my friend’s word for it and i took a chance on her guy friend. Obviously me and this new guy i was seeing were pretty great in the beginning but a month or two later he told me he was waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him since he was hurt in the past and wants to find his wife. I was started to lose hope relationship wise. I was a new Christian and still am but i was kinda caught off guard with the guy waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him. I was honest with him and told him how come he doesn’t make his own personal choice since God gives us that free choice. He still was persistent on doing the sign bullshit thing. I left it alone for awhile and had low expectations from that and tried to keep things as a friendship. Well months went by I was building resentment towards my guy and in January 2021, he basically said he had big good news to say which really wasn’t tbh, basically he said that he wanted to postpone dating for a year. At that point i clearly felt more discouraged and frusterated with him more and more as time went on. I even told him i was upset about it and again he was persistent on waiting on God (i shouldn’t have ignored the red flags). Just recently which was two weeks ago, i asked him if we could hangout one-on-one as FRIENDS to get to know eachother better since we’ve all hungout in groups, we should also hangout one-on-one to see where our friendship grows into. He didn’t think it was a good idea because he didn’t want our feelings to be more invested than we already are, i told him that we needed to separate our feelings versus a friendship to get to know eachother as people and as friends since we’ve only hungout in groups. He still didn’t think it was a good idea and says he will ask God when and where we could hangout. At that point i was fed up with him, and said if that’s how he feels then i guess do it. At that point i vented to our mutual friend and asked her how come she introduced me to this complicated guy because relationship and friendship wise it was all too much. I basically needed space from both of them but mostly him and my friend took my words to heart and didn’t wanna be friends anymore after that. That guy i was seeing ended up telling me i wasn’t the “one” for him and that God gave him 6 signs that prove i wasn’t the “one”. Keep in mind that this guy was so immature and caused me nothing but pain and stress within these 6 months for nothing. One of his signs from God was complete bullcrap, he then says there’s this chinese lady (keep in mind that he doesn’t know this lady personally) but someone from our church knows this lady, my guy asked God if this chinese lady is still single by december 2020, then that was the first sign that means I wasn’t the “one” for him. All these consistent stupid excuses one after another, i even asked him why did you even pursue me in the first place and clearly it showed you weren’t ready. I knew in my gut feeling that he was too much for me and he wasn’t my type to begin with either but i cared about him and took a real chance on someone. I bet you that nobody would’ve waited as much as i did for a guy to be this complicated and immature. I understand God is a big part of our lives but this guy took it to the extreme. Relationship wise, i kept my expectations low as he was showing his true colors, friendship wise i couldn’t believe that he felt the need to ask God when and where we could hangout when i sincerely want to at least be his friend. He did some other shit i didn’t like and it costed me and my friend’s friendship to end. Me and my friend never had issues or fought prior to her introducing me to this immature religious freak. I knew in my gut that was the main thing i was afraid of, taking a chance on her guy friend and what if things went wrong and could destroy my friendship which it did. But it comes to show how people show their true colors. I never went off on this religious dude i was seeing, he went off on me a few times, showed so many red flags, clearly wasn’t ready for anything serious, he would call me twice a day and text me everyday too, my friend always being put in the middle because she introduced me to him, my friend did shady shit too like whenever i would vent to her about stuff or about the guy... she would send him my personal messages that was only for her to read. I felt betrayed, depressed, angry and irritated all in one by those two. They would play the victim card also. I haven’t gone back to church since that situation a few weeks ago. I know im not perfect and i’ve made mistakes but it was no where close to them doing me dirty at the end especially mostly the guy i dated. Even after all of that i went to bible study a week ago to return my ex friend’s mask that she left in my car awhile back ago, i wanted to be a good person despite them doing me wrong. I think that will be my last bible study session for me to go to since now i don’t feel comfortable going back again. I know i should worship God despite what happened but in all honesty, i would rather preach alone than to go somewhere where i feel uncomfortable seeing my “ex” and my ex friend. That guy truly lost me because no girl probably would’ve wasted that much time and bullshit on someone that is too radical and always asking for God on every little thing to the extreme. Keep in mind, I’m a Christian, I believe in signs but when i received signs from God (which i have received signs from God personally) i never once asked God to send me a sign on a specific deadline or anything. You can’t force God for your own benefits. God gives us what He can give us, and again He also gives us a free choice in our lives. There’s a fine line between being reasonable and being too radical. I learned a valuable lesson from all this bullshit from guys and im still healing from this. Honestly i don’t know if i’ll ever want to date again since its alot harder for me to give a new person a chance if the opportunity ever presented itself again
I'm screenshoting this!❤💯
Love this ❤️ Yes, attraction is more than just looks and sometimes you find yourself attracted to someone who is not your usual type. I’ve experienced this. I’ve also come across someone who pulled out all my repressed fears and insecurities and it did feel like I was losing myself. It was the scariest thing I’ve ever experienced. It felt like I was literally dying. I have so much more healing to do before I can embrace the right man. I’ve been praying to God every day for guidance.
After meeting a guy who clearly wasn’t the one I was fed up so I went on a deep spiritual journey I asked God to let the next man who comes into my life be my husband and sure enough I believe he found me through social media too. I am 🙏🏾 and asking God to guide me also we Also talk about our spiritual journey as well.
he’s my right person wrong time, everything you stated in the right person wrong time is true and in this video everything is true. we can’t leave eachother alone, he lead me closer to God, i thought something was wrong with me because i’ve never been attracted to a guy till him, i never had communication till him, we share all of the same values, we both want a Godly relationship, we both want the same amount of kids, we’re both waiting till marriage, i feel so vulnerable around this man it’s insane. and i prayed to God for patience and maybe this is His was of giving me patience but i hate waiting and it’s scary not knowing if it is him but everything aligns.
You’ll feel like you’re losing yourself. But really you’re coming into yourself. You’re true feminine self. Wow. I thought I was losing my mind!! I’ve been on my own for so long, I forgot what it was to be soft and unguarded. Turns out I’m not crazy…. I’m just in love with the most amazing man I’ve ever been with. He checks all the boxes. Thank you. ❤
My pleasure ❤️
I made the mistake of giving men a chance without being attracted to him thinking eventually love will develop. Unfortunately, I was wrong & I broke it off because I didn’t want to continue leading him on knowing it wasn’t going anywhere #Lessonlearned
I hear u. I met a similar situation but I'm like u I told him that there were no feelings I had for him. No intimacy no connection no nothing. I only wanted to be friends with absolutely no benefits
I married one 😩🙄😒
@@msdecemberloveangel8236 LMBO
@@maryrice5873what’s that like?
YOU BETTER PREACH!!!!! A man of God will draw you closer to God.
Most definitely!
God gives you the desires of your heart , trust in the process and focus on elevating putting God first in everything
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
So well said…
God bless you
So glad you started with #1. This has been a fear I carry, that I will have to sacrifice attraction in order to get everything else that matters
Every since I’ve run into your channel Stephan, I’ve been growing emotionally. I’ve done a lot more reflection internally and that speaks volumes to the woman I endeavor to become.
I love you and you’re truly blessed, don’t stop teaching.
I think I finally found him! Thank you lord! 😁🤗 Thank you Stephan❤️ God bless you!
You are so welcome, thank you for sharing, and may God bless you!
I liked how you explained the word attraction from a different perspective. You’re right it’s not always about how the person looks, but how that person treats you. I’ve never been one to focus on looks, I alway look at the character of the person. I also want someone who I can talk to, and be open with! I look forward to receiving the man God has for me! All of these clues are great tips! Thanks Stephan! 😊😊!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
#6 hit me hard. I'm in a relationship with a person who is inability to take lead, be assertive, make decisions, have vision, have a plan. I constantly feel like he was waiting on me to get him the green light instead of him making the first move. Thinking back 🤔 I had to approach him about him asking me on our first date. I spent so much time thinking of what he can do to make a life for himself and him not making the effort to grow. Mental and emotional drained me.
Ypu had doubts but still pursued him ... infact mistake 1 was actually pursuing him instead of him you... just by doing that you immediately turned yourself into the masculine character that you really shouldn't be ... never believe the fake news about it's okay for a woman to pursue a man ... it's not feasible in the end... she loses out....but now that you are actually together I guess it's got to be a matter of having a serious talk n you deciding if it's worth it. I think you know the answer ...
This sounds exactly like what my daughter is going through. I don't feel the man is right for her and I am afraid he will break her. She is new to dating and this guy is a real piece of work.
I'm currently going through this. He's not able to make life decisions for himself and I feel draaaained 😢
I love that I can be completely myself around him ❤️🥺 completely safe and even when I’m down he makes sure I’m up
I love your approach of speaking about a godly relationship in a time that people don't always honor God in their relationship. God bless and keep you in His care. Your service to us is heaven sent.
A True Christian Man Will Want To Wait Till Marriage For Intimacy. I met men who state they are Christian But they don't want to wait or They Don't understand why wait?? I have to be Honest With them and tell them in love why ?? I will not accept no man from pulling me away from GOD . I Am Waiting on GOD FOR I Believe THE RIGHT CHRISTIAN MAN IS OUT THERE FOR ME. 😊 Tell It Stephen!!!
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
October 2020 i was seeing a very hardcore Christian guy that my close friend introduced me to, keep in mind i was very hesitant on giving a new guy a chance because i’ve been hurt in the past by confusing guys who weren’t ready to commit to me prior before to meeting this Christian religious immature boy. My friend at the time kept convincing me to take a chance on him and even promised me that he wasn’t going to hurt me but he did at the end. Long story short i took my friend’s word for it and i took a chance on her guy friend. Obviously me and this new guy i was seeing were pretty great in the beginning but a month or two later he told me he was waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him since he was hurt in the past and wants to find his wife. I was started to lose hope relationship wise. I was a new Christian and still am but i was kinda caught off guard with the guy waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him. I was honest with him and told him how come he doesn’t make his own personal choice since God gives us that free choice. He still was persistent on doing the sign bullshit thing. I left it alone for awhile and had low expectations from that and tried to keep things as a friendship. Well months went by I was building resentment towards my guy and in January 2021, he basically said he had big good news to say which really wasn’t tbh, basically he said that he wanted to postpone dating for a year. At that point i clearly felt more discouraged and frusterated with him more and more as time went on. I even told him i was upset about it and again he was persistent on waiting on God (i shouldn’t have ignored the red flags). Just recently which was two weeks ago, i asked him if we could hangout one-on-one as FRIENDS to get to know eachother better since we’ve all hungout in groups, we should also hangout one-on-one to see where our friendship grows into. He didn’t think it was a good idea because he didn’t want our feelings to be more invested than we already are, i told him that we needed to separate our feelings versus a friendship to get to know eachother as people and as friends since we’ve only hungout in groups. He still didn’t think it was a good idea and says he will ask God when and where we could hangout. At that point i was fed up with him, and said if that’s how he feels then i guess do it. At that point i vented to our mutual friend and asked her how come she introduced me to this complicated guy because relationship and friendship wise it was all too much. I basically needed space from both of them but mostly him and my friend took my words to heart and didn’t wanna be friends anymore after that. That guy i was seeing ended up telling me i wasn’t the “one” for him and that God gave him 6 signs that prove i wasn’t the “one”. Keep in mind that this guy was so immature and caused me nothing but pain and stress within these 6 months for nothing. One of his signs from God was complete bullcrap, he then says there’s this chinese lady (keep in mind that he doesn’t know this lady personally) but someone from our church knows this lady, my guy asked God if this chinese lady is still single by december 2020, then that was the first sign that means I wasn’t the “one” for him. All these consistent stupid excuses one after another, i even asked him why did you even pursue me in the first place and clearly it showed you weren’t ready. I knew in my gut feeling that he was too much for me and he wasn’t my type to begin with either but i cared about him and took a real chance on someone. I bet you that nobody would’ve waited as much as i did for a guy to be this complicated and immature. I understand God is a big part of our lives but this guy took it to the extreme. Relationship wise, i kept my expectations low as he was showing his true colors, friendship wise i couldn’t believe that he felt the need to ask God when and where we could hangout when i sincerely want to at least be his friend. He did some other shit i didn’t like and it costed me and my friend’s friendship to end. Me and my friend never had issues or fought prior to her introducing me to this immature religious freak. I knew in my gut that was the main thing i was afraid of, taking a chance on her guy friend and what if things went wrong and could destroy my friendship which it did. But it comes to show how people show their true colors. I never went off on this religious dude i was seeing, he went off on me a few times, showed so many red flags, clearly wasn’t ready for anything serious, he would call me twice a day and text me everyday too, my friend always being put in the middle because she introduced me to him, my friend did shady shit too like whenever i would vent to her about stuff or about the guy... she would send him my personal messages that was only for her to read. I felt betrayed, depressed, angry and irritated all in one by those two. They would play the victim card also. I haven’t gone back to church since that situation a few weeks ago. I know im not perfect and i’ve made mistakes but it was no where close to them doing me dirty at the end especially mostly the guy i dated. Even after all of that i went to bible study a week ago to return my ex friend’s mask that she left in my car awhile back ago, i wanted to be a good person despite them doing me wrong. I think that will be my last bible study session for me to go to since now i don’t feel comfortable going back again. I know i should worship God despite what happened but in all honesty, i would rather preach alone than to go somewhere where i feel uncomfortable seeing my “ex” and my ex friend. That guy truly lost me because no girl probably would’ve wasted that much time and bullshit on someone that is too radical and always asking for God on every little thing to the extreme. Keep in mind, I’m a Christian, I believe in signs but when i received signs from God (which i have received signs from God personally) i never once asked God to send me a sign on a specific deadline or anything. You can’t force God for your own benefits. God gives us what He can give us, and again He also gives us a free choice in our lives. There’s a fine line between being reasonable and being too radical. I learned a valuable lesson from all this bullshit from guys and im still healing from this. Honestly i don’t know if i’ll ever want to date again since its alot harder for me to give a new person a chance if the opportunity ever presented itself again
@@melanie.vallejo try not to be upset w/folk who choose to acknowledge GOD in all their ways. You 2 were just on different levels is all. Doesn’t make either of you “right” or “wrong”, simply different. There are a TON of reasons filk are on various levels ESPECIALLY when it comes to relationship with the FATHER.
And PLEASE don’t stop going to church because “they’re there”. You’re only cheating yourself. Besides, there’s someone in EVERY church you’d rather be away from, but to do so you will church hop all of your days.
Pray for & work towards your healing.
@@mookbear2001 Actually he was wrong, i know you’re trying to help but you don’t also know how many mistakes and issues he has caused me besides the ones i mentioned. There was times he went off on me and i never once went off on him for the things he did towards me. Never in my life did i ever went off on him, i’ve been nothing but nice and patient but all he did was make mistakes, piss me off, went off on me a few times, friendzoned me, lost my friendship over his stupidity, etc. It’s very hard for me to even want to go back to my church because of them doing me wrong. I lost a friend over this situation and i am deeply hurt. Of course they’re not deeply affected by it like i have, of course he gets to continue his friendship with her, of course she was rude to me at times. I simply have been trying to be strong but i am losing faith in God. I know you mean well with what you said but it’s been super hard on me to even consider going back, at least i tried going back to bible study a few times but now im really considering just not going anymore after this. I had a tiny bit of hope that at least me and my ex friend could patch things up and restart our friendship but she doesn’t want that. I feel like i gained nothing and i keep asking God why did this situation happen to me? why did i let my friend convince me to take a chance on her guy friend? why did i lose her at the end for absolutely nothing? I just lost my hope
I haven’t met a man who can do #6 for me yet. I mean I had an ex who tried to, but he was leading me down the wrong path of destruction... 😕 I yearn for a man who can lead me with love & that I can respect. A man that I don’t have to carry on my back & be overwhelmed & burdened by... 😢 I’ve been completely single & celibate for nearly 3 years & been working on my healing & strengthening my Walk with God as His Daughter in Christ 💜🙏🏾
Oh my goodness. After some hard lessons in love I realized the same: I need to get into a relationship with someone I can trust to lead and respect their values or else my masculine side will try to take over and that'll leave me drained. Now I'm working on designing my life and working on my faith and myself. 💕
@@mariar3136 Amen 💜🙏🏾🤗
Don't worry ... because you managed the celibacy part you will find the right man .. when you least expect. Keep doing you
@@misselle1430 Amen, Will do 🙏🏾
Hey, have you met the right person yet? Have you been running into guys that doesn't want to commit, but only interested in Friends with benefits just casual dating sex
I know God led me here! I’m dealing with everything you speak about. Thank you for this affirmation ❤️❤️❤️
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Yes, you are so correct. Attraction is the key in a relationship, because personally, I have used it a lot and it works excellently. I have finally found the guy for me. I analyzed everything, from his looks to his conversation and future plans, to see if I can tolerate him. I am attracted to him, his voice, his looks, and everything about him. We pray together and tell each other just about everything that needs to be said. He never forgets to say "I love you", "How was your day?", "How are you feeling today?" and "Do you need anything?". Our plans are on point and we even dream the same. It's amazing and I'm grateful. I pray that another brother and sister get the same or better connection.
😇 happy for you 💕
Stephan you just confirmed EVERYTHING I have been feeling! I am been praying for him waiting form him and I’m so glad I have waited! He is just the best man in the whole world! I look forward to our illustrious and legacy-born future! Thank you Stephan!!
Stephan, all of these points are on point!!! I remember meeting a guy shortly after my ex husband and I split (the first time). The connection we had, the way he made me feel, the way he respected me and drew me closer to God... it was everything I'd ever wanted. It scared the heebie geebies out of me! 😆 On the flip side, a side of me that I didn't know existed emerged and I was instantly open to him leading. Unfortunately, it didn't take off bc I was not ready. But when God brings that (type of man, love, relationship) around again I'm going to be ready for it! I can't wait!
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Divorce is not legal in most Asian countries...how could it be fair for us women who wanted to split from marriage especially that traditional Christianity is the faith we usually practice "In sickness and it health, for better or for worse 'till death do us part"🥲
@@rosemarierodriguez3147 It's not. It's not fair at all but neither was the ongoing adultery in my marriage. So I bounced. 🤷🏿♀️
@@rosemarierodriguez3147 What are you even talking about? Most Asian countries also aren't majority-Christian, so whatever point you thought you were making is still moot.
And if you've read the Bible as thoroughly as you claim, you'd know that those wedding vows aren't even in them. They're from golden age Europe.
I’m so glad I stumbled up on this video. I was married 20 years and had not one of these fully with my ex. It was a lesson. A long drawn out lesson because of my unwillingness to adhere to the many signs. I ultimately sacrificed my happiness for my children because I wanted to model before them a two parent family. However what they saw were two parents not happy. Within the course of him being my lesson I learned who I was and what I wanted and the Divorce was a sheer blessing because God was able to send to me not only the desires of my heart but the man of my dreams. One I can say without hesitation, I’m finishing this life with. Amazing!
I love how you always tie your messages back to God’s plan 💛💛💛 very important!!! ... I also feel like this is what separates you from other dating coaches.
Keep doing what you do 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Yesssss!! 🙏🏾🙌🏾
I have learned a lot from your videos; mostly just how mentally, psychologically, spiritually fucked up a lot of women are. Most suffer from " any man is better than no man" syndrome. They are leading themselves into emotional abyss because they have no empathy for themselves, no self esteem. GOD is teaching me patience. My husband of 25years died 2015, and I haven't been on one date!! Why? Because I refuse to "settle" for less than what I deserve. I'm 68years young, I know all the tactics, and I REFUSE to play games. I choose to work on my relationship with GOD, which is more important than a stressful person to add toxicity to my calm, peaceful life. If it's to be, GOD will bless me with right man. I say: trust GOD, stay POSITIVE, and HE will do it unless HE feels I should be single. HE knows......✝️👍💜
I keep watching these because I think you should never stop learning about healthy relationships. The part that got me was about communication. I really did think that men were just bad at it. When my current boyfriend said. “Talk to me. You seem unhappy about something. Tell me.” It was so genuine. I didn’t even know he could tell. And I was so used holding my feelings in and trying to figure out a good time and place to try to talk. And here this man could see what I was feeling and asked me to please talk to him. It was like...oh my gosh.,,it’s not that men need a bunch of passes for “being men,” I was just with the wrong man before. It honestly changes your life when you experience a guy that *truly* cares. You’ll never accept bs again.
I am WAY more comfortable with the phrase " him leading with love" than "her needing to be submissive." 😂🤦♀️
I'm with you sis!
grateful to see this at 17 years old 🙏🏻
This is the most comprehensive and non-exhaustive list I have heard so far and I’ve heard a lot of lists. Thank you Stephan!
I got so much to say!! Lol. I reconnected with a man I knew from college! We dated briefly then, but ended up going different paths! When we reconnected I knew my spirit had met its match! I almost messed up though because I wanted him to voice and "feel" what I was "feeling" right away! He did, but he was more patient, intentional and reserved...which is what was needed! Time gave us an opportunity to get to know our 2022 versions vs. 1982!! We talk about everything!! He shows me who he is/what he does to determine if we fit! I listened to this video early in our relationship and just listened again, and I'm like wow! I already knew he was the one, but this is further confirmation!! #4...vulnerability? I was just expressing that to him the other day! I am 59, feeling like a little girl! Lol. I am over the moon happy! This man is definitely the man for me! So much to this story...like he was living in N.C. and I in FL at the time we reconnected and within days practically, he was reassigned to FL... So much..
and sorry I went on and on, but I feel so so blessed...after years of preparing myself and healing! God is good!! We definitely have a deep genuine connection!! 《Sighs》😁 Btw...we will be getting married this year!!🥂🎉
Just for clarification, I had been married for 20 years and divorced for 10...no current relationship; and he had been married for 10 years, divorced for 18 and no current relationship!
I have only recently started following you, Stephan and, after my husband left me 6 years ago, (a 30 year marriage) it finally hit me…God brought you to my life, I have absolutely no doubt!
I have made mistakes in trying to find a new relationship to no avail..however, your advice has taught me that I need to recognize my worth!!!
A work in progress 🙏🏻
Thank you!
Praising Him and thanking you for your wisdom your common sense, your truthfulness!
Lord have mercy!
Grateful in PA
I believe people connect in the spirit before they connect in the physical. This bond should be an unbreakable bond with both partners coming together to serve God and putting him first in their relationship and everything else. A relationship like this a blessing from God.
Standing still Waiting patiently on God is the only way for me 🙋🏽♀️ It's in God's 🤲 who I Trust
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Very good topic!
I pray that I found my soulmate.
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@Dye Dye I share the same feeling.
Thank you, Stephan! I am patiently waiting and praying for the man or platonic male friendships God has for me. Leaning and walking by faith. That’s it.
Thank you for sharing and I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
I wish I had seen this video 10-15 years ago. But it is in God’s time. 🙏🏽
Yes i so much enjoy the reading also. How are you doing JoLindy
Each role has equal importance, whether leading or being led. 💖
Most definitely!
This video is so beneficial… I literally am looking at my relationship and comparing it to the signs you listed. It really resonates with me and literally could be used a guideline for understanding if you are with the person meant for you. Wow! I’m literally taking notes like I’m in class because I am! Thanks for this amazing video!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏
I say this with respect and love, I am attracted to your mindset and your prospective is refreshing. Its easy, as a women to follow, accept and understand you. You're direct message and kindhearted delivery is acknowledged. Its amazing to see you in your purpose. I've almost watch all your videos and purchased your books. Thank you for being consistent and honest. I will continue to admire and watch you grow. 🤗🤗🤗
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Baby ! Im with this sister🙏🙌☺Real recognizes real! GF!🌈🙏😌☺💥He fans the 💥with it right! Jesus. ☝🙌😍I'm waiting🙏
Sometimes God uses other men to teach you the way. I am glad for you.
You really laid this out well. Thank you! I love that you broke this down into healthy woman and unhealed. Beautiful.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
God is the only one who was there for me I'm independent humble thankful for my blessings. My independence is ready to step back and trust
This needs to be taught to young girls before they mature and have to start making these decisions! 💯
You have to be evenly yoked it says in the bible. So if you're not, you have to wait until the other gets with you evenly. It's all IN THE HEART. Both hearts have to be in sync.
Thank you for embracing your calling by being led to help those of us that are broken and on the path to finding our true selves again. Our relationships will never be successful until we have become whole within ourselves ❤
all 7 signs checked out. I mean all. That connection you talk of was from the very first we started texting...It was confirmed from the very first phone conversation. It's a little complicated as he has mental issues that cause him to shut down and shut everyone out and life for him is hard right now. And all of this was confirmed when we first met as well. Conversation flowed, we just couldnt stop...that connection feels so tight. its more than physical, but mental and spiritual. Thank God he knows and loves Jesus too. But that being said, as you say, maybe its right man wrong timing. I feel I have issues i need to work on and his life is not in a place for a relationship right now either with some of the challenges he has. and by that i dont mean another relationship, but more along the lines of life and work. So I pray for him and I ask God to take over the reins as I am not a good navigator.
1:07 That connection is a piece of God. Nobody can come in between two people who have the connection and put in the effort. Their relationship is like no one else’s. That relationship can last through all the tests of time. That connection is the glue that keeps them together.❤
AMEN! AMEN! AMEN! All true, especially number 7! The connection must be there and it must be Jesus Christ, AMEN! Thank you Stefan for always speaking Love and Truth! May God continue to use and bless you mightily, AMEN.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
I feel like crying everyday. But every time I watch your videos, you speak to this feeling that I have inside myself that I’m scared to make this decision but I know it’s the right one. I watched the video about not settling for a man that’s not right for you. I really felt everything you said in that one. Wow, it’s like the exact words as I feel. Continue to be a vessel for Him 👏🏽
I love that the foundation of your work is healing. I appreciate all you do Stephan.
thank you, I appreciate that
You described Twin Flames, when we meet our Divine counterpart we experience a love like no other 🔥🙏🔥