I’m 58. I haven t been asked out in years. My daughter passed away 4 years ago, and I had to heal and grow. I got asked out a couple of days ago. I’m ready to open my heart to love. I appreciate your videos.
I'm also 58. Hadn't dated in about the same length of time as you. And, I've recently found a truly good, genuine, loving man. Sharing with you just to let you know that you're not alone and your love is out there for you.
I wish I saw this video when you first posted it. I did all of the 5 things you listed and have completely sabotaged my relationship. Now I’m begging for another chance. 😢I pray that God softens his heart and restore our relationship.
“Not showing appreciation” I feel is important on both sides. Because if I don’t receive a compliment from my man when I show up dressed beautifully, then the next time I’m dressing basic. Compliments are positive reinforcement. I give them freely and also appreciate them when given. 🙂
My fears of abandonment kept me from being honest about how I felt in regards to a family issue and it led to feeling resentment towards him. I speak up now, and usually start with “you didn’t do anything wrong, this is how I feel”. Communication is key❤
So I used to do this but I stopped cause my man felt like I was constantly making things about me and neglecting his feelings. Saying “I feel” too much so be careful with that one. I learned that from my counselor and my man said I need to tell that counselor they’re wrong.
Stephen, please let me know about this, can a married man truly love another woman besides his wife? Let me know, I will be grateful 🙏, thanks for opening up our minds always, am glad I found your channel, I have learnt a lot from your teachings
#5 ..... yeh that happened to me. I ran away from his love out of fear. And yes he was a good man who could have loved me deeply but I was scared. I had to heal and do inner work .... plus life happened. Six years later I felt God asking me to humble myself and reach out to him and apologize (I am one of those people you felt those situations are coming back around). I am ready this time. I was genuinely surprised he welcomed me back with open arms. We're taking it slow, getting to know each other again. Most importantly I am praying and turning to God in this situation. Sometimes I feel like you are talking directly to me Stephan. Thank you for your advice and your videos ❤
Perfect love from the practioner does cast out all fear, but if the recipient does not have or appreciate your perfect love, your genuine love looks like game.
This message came right on time. The enemy is attacking my relationship but my man reintroduced me to the church and now I think I pray over us more than he probably does lol. In love, our partners become mirrors of our light and our darkness. The darkness usually makes one run but I urge you to instead stand there and find a way through it - together. We sit and we talk through things even when it’s hard, especially when it’s hard. My man takes notes and he will come back with his thoughts at a later date. Acknowledge your partners attentiveness and efforts. Give grace and give space for understanding. Fear is the devil. God ordained your union so trust him! Trust yourself for choosing your partner and your partner for choosing you. Thank you Stephan! You were preaching those last few minutes! #ItsHittingMySpirit
Love Almighty God first Love yourself after The love that connects you Connects to your brain Blank out all negetivity Forget the past Embrace the moment God,s intended love Its like a flag flown high ,lift it higher lovebirds Thanks Steph This was awesomely SWEET
#5 So true! I'm finally living in my truth and have found a man who totally encompasses who I desire as a partner to be able to do so. He's beyond amazing and I found myself full of fear and doubt. Wanting to run! Thinking I'm crazy - who'd want to run from an absolutely gem of a man??! I've worked through that fear and am now embracing and enjoying the other side of it. Thank you, as always, for your powerful and helpful insights, Stephan!
I'm a little shy and nervous about being receptive to his love for me. It stems from not knowing what love feels like from another human. Lately I've been smiling and crying at the same time because I know it will be the best feeling ever. No physical gift or gifts can compare to the love a man shows, expresses his love with words and touch.🔥
I made these mistakes and unknowingly hurt the man who gave me a second chance to love and be loved. After watching this session, I had to go apologize and ask for forgiveness for questioning, doudting his love. Thank you Steve and Thank you Lord for always without failure saving me.
Beautiful message! Stephan💚 I found myself doing the last one. #5 acting out of fear. I Definitely seek spiritual guidance and stop taking advices from "broken people". I also got rid of all social media. And focus on God, my kids, and soon to be husband 🥰🥰🥰..
When the love is real your brain works overtime to convince your feelings that they are making a huge mistake and it’s all fantasy and your imagining things 😊
This video brought tears to my eyes. I felt every word from my core because I fell into a depression on the inside for months after my recent breakup this year. My heart was broken into pieces; I struggled to gather them together because I was tired of not feeling good enough for anyone anymore. I call myself "Trail and Error" when it comes to relationships. All of my x factors got it right the next time around; married with children and living their best lives. There's no resentment or animosity on my behalf, just in my head a lot on if there is someone only for me or if I am meant to be single forever. I admit to my mistakes due to fear, anxiety, and past occupancies that he grew tired and searched for what he needed.
Hey, honestly you’re on the right path! God sends us the information we’re ready for, when we’re able to hear it. Please… Don’t judge yourself for what you couldn’t fully grasp at that point in your journey. If they moved on & found their One, that means there’s One who will find you too! I believe this man Stephan gives us some real wisdom here. Prayer & more prayer… sometimes I think that’s the only thing that can really heal a broken heart. Speaking from experience. Xoxo
@@McKenzie.flagstaffaz Thank you for your kind words!! It means a lot and I am still in my process of healing. Working on myself, living life and loving on my son every second. I thank God for growth!!
I'm 37. It took me 7yrs to finally trust my man. I broke up with him over 10x out of fear yet he always kept coming back. That man loves me. I've finally stopped breaking up with him and decided to learn how to trust again and not fear being hurt from past trauma and childhood experiences
😢 Everyone we come into contact with mirror things about us we need to work on. With that being said twin flames which are rare have a love and bond so strong that it does scare the other person (the runner). Just trust if this is the case they will return.
Thank you for this video. It's confirmation for my daughter. She went through heart break, cheating,etc with her ex. Now she is in a relationship with this guy who is different from other guys she talked to. Everything you talked about she has experienced with him she almost cried cause she went to God about it. Your videos are a blessing. Thank you 💯💯
It's amazing how I was just going through this talking to my potential. . .he says to me "don't ever question my love for you" we do talk to get rid of my fear {as I was typing this, you mentioned fear} he is so patient; the best thing about what he and I have, he so encouraging and he takes his time with me. And we put God first in it. I'm grateful I came across this. He is too good to be true. {Yes I believe I found him}
I was casually enjoying this video until the last five minutes when I literally cried bc it resonates so much with my current situation. I’m in an unhealthy marriage but circumstances have placed me in a position to where the person who I thought I would marry is back in my world. God is working overtime to help guide me but the confusion I feel right now is real 🙏🏾
Nothing but the truth. I came from a relationship with a covert narcissist. And before that I was in a decade-long relationship with a man who consistently abandoned me in the span of 4-5 years before finally leaving and I gave up bringing him back to me. So I came with a LOT of relationship trauma and abandonment issues. I was used to nothing but lies. After being single for 2 years, I had no plans of being in a relationship again. And then I met someone. After a a few months, my traumas came to the surface and I experienced trigger after trigger... I learned what it meant to have been diagnosed with PTSD a couple years back. This new man was so patient and kind throughout it all. Understanding. Gentle. You know what eventually broke him? Me constantly questioning if he loved me or not. And he said exactly all the things mentioned in this video... that he felt like he had been going out of his way to show me how much he cared for me and how much he loved me but that he felt like it was all for nothing when I STILL didn't believe it. He felt like nothing he could do would ever be enough. So why should he keep trying? What more could he possibly do? Well, I knew I had a wonderful man. I knew that he had all the qualities I wanted but didn't think existed in one person before meeting him. He was it. So I listened. It wasn't easy, and I almost lost him... but the love was always there, and so we kept moving forward. I stopped questioning his love and his intentions. I trusted. I let him show me. And boy did he show me. All the little things that were bothering me before (mostly connected to past fears) that would lead me to question him pretty much disappeared. Because now he could see that whatever he was putting into me was working. And I calmed down. I have become so much more secure. I realize that I could never control what happens... it's pointless to doubt or to live in fear because it's not like I could stop it anyway. What if it was never going to happen? Don't manifest it. Just let it be. Because maybe - just maybe - everything is fine. I've never felt more peace and security because I stopped questioning and living in my past traumas.
Amen, Stephan 🙌🏿🤎 This session ministers to all of us on our various journeys. Don't run from love. The peace that comes from real love is inviting and healing. Be blessed, always! 🙏🏿
As a Muslim women, not letting outside influence contaminate us is literally a motto I live by when it comes to religious leaders when we go to them for advice cos they’re coming from a humanistic experience and that usually taints their religious advice be it good or bad. I think anyone from any religion should go directly to God for advice. Wow I am gobsmacked cos I’ve never heard someone say this before as I do till this video. Thank you for that
I would start by seeking your religion more only because muhammad wasn’t a just man (according to the Hadith) and Allah deceived the “Christians” (according to the Quran). Can you blame your religious leaders if they don’t live up righteously ?
You are talking to me and the love of my life. You describe the events that has us apart as we speak. I know he loves me but the lack of action to do anything about it that I know of has me sitting in Gods lap. Emotionally it's hard on me because I am so invested. Im not trying to hurt him. How many more times do I have to tell him? He wont let me show him. He wont communicate with me. I've tried and tried. I dont know what else to do. God got it. I can only wait. Trust me, can't nobody tell me anyrhing. God is my counselor. I love him and i will always love him, together or not, he has my heart forever. Thank you for this video.
I am so guilty of questioning his love and he said ‘ I feel I’m not good enough.’ I don’t want him to feel that way. I told him what made me feel I was not loved and he has done everything I wanted that has bothered me before. It’s hard to feel neglected over time and your spouse doesn’t do those little things that nurture the relationship. You have kids and both have demanding jobs. There are so many stressors and your relationship goes on the back burner. As women age, we feel less attractive and we just get a lot less and it’s hard especially here in the USA where we are so image driven. This video has given me the most peace.
Communication and Understanding in Relationships: 💔 When a man deeply loves you, it can be discouraging and hurtful for him to hear that you don't believe he loves you, especially when he is making efforts and showing love in various ways. 💔 When a man deeply loves you, questioning his love can make him feel inadequate and like his efforts are not good enough. 💔 The wrong man will not be affected by your actions, while the man who deeply loves you will be hurt and discouraged. 💔 Being open and transparent with your partner is crucial in a relationship, especially when experiencing real love, as it can bring out vulnerabilities and insecurities. 🤔 "You're not keeping it real with him. So now, he gets triggered. He starts to get scared. What's going on? Does she not love me? Is she not really into me? Is she seeing another man?" 💑 By expressing your fears and concerns to a man who loves you, he is more likely to be patient, and understanding, and reassure you, creating a stronger bond. 💑 Building a deep connection in a relationship requires more than just spending time together, it involves asking deep questions, being vulnerable, and truly getting to know each other. 💔 "A lot of people are giving you advice from the wrong place, the wrong source with the wrong intention." 💬 The best way to understand someone's intentions and feelings is by directly communicating with them, rather than speculating or seeking advice from others. Appreciation and Validation in Relationships: 💑 Not showing appreciation to a man who deeply loves you can demotivate him and make him question the point of his efforts. 🙌 Continuously showing appreciation to your partner is crucial, even beyond the initial stages of dating or marriage.
Gosh Stephan I needed to hear this today!! I am struggling to accept the love of a good man, and I overthink and question everything because I am scared of being hurt again. I do not want to drive him away and your advice will help me greatly to finally accept and have the love I deserve.
Where were you a decade ago? 😢 All has been received and actively working on over the last couple of years with all of the people in my life, so that I'm ready when its time. ❤ God bless you and the ministry He's given you!! 🙏🏼
Stephan, your words were meant for me & came @ exactly the right time. I will trust God who brought this man into my life & I will not fear this love being offered to me. God bless you. ❤️
All of your point are very valid!! But your last point on not running away hit me hard..this is so true. The way how you presented that point is useful to a lot of people! Accepting love is difficult!! ❤ thank you
I've also learned that he doesn't see me as attractive as his exes. It still didn't make me feel insecure. I know my value. It was the fact he refused to protect me from his mother.
Stephan, I really do believe it was a gift from God that I happened upon your content. I’ve been binging watching all your videos for about a week now, and I feel so much clarity about recent experiences. KEEP UP the good work! You’re helping a lot of us ❤
So I was gonna pass this video? And then I heard my Holy Spirit say press on it! I’m in a dating period right now and there’s someone that I really like and for the first time in a long time we are both doing the work. I can see it it’s been two months we haven’t touched each other and that’s a beautiful thing. It’s not a press, we’re really trying to get to know each other. I love what you said about go to God I am not going to my friends I am not asking. I am not telling I’m just experiencing it! When I feel something that I don’t like I address it and like you said he definitely did something about it. This is a great video! Oh I’m going to share this with a friend of mine. She shares with me about her relationship experiences and it make me hate the other person. I asked her not to share but sometimes people can’t help it? I learned early from my sister that everyone don’t need to be in your business including family members. (Not talking domestic violence)
Guilty, I'm so guilty. And I've been guilty for all my life!😢. Yet, I have a very good man and he does everything right.Truely.I believe ❤ I believe him. I pray he believes me when I say I do LOVE YOU, Forever.😊❤
THE LORD speaks through you and you are on fire. GOD uses you to get the word, truth out. Keep up the great work, serving THE LORD OUR GOD. THANK JESUS! PRAISE AMIGHTY YAHWEH.🔥
Speaking from a male perspective, I can attest to the fact that these are spot on. All these things really matter and are HUGE to a guy, even if they seem insignificant.
I do agree with what your saying. I feel it’s best to talk to almost no one or no one. Listening to our own hearts and intuition as well as asking God☀️🙏🌈💕
I wish I had these problems, ha. No man loves me or is making an effort. I have definitely felt overwhelmed, scared, vulnerable, and highly-sensitive when I felt I was falling in love.
@@xiameevang9131 reframe the way you see it it’s a blessing to be able to see you actually have love someone even if sometimes you get hurt, you can survive the heart heal and love again there’s billions of people on the planet
Thanks for this video stephan Personally Watching this video I learned from it because I did the exact thing you are talking about My boyfriend of three years Will do anything to make me happy Few days ago he forgot to do something and I got mad and told him that he didn't love me When I said all he said to me was he didn't know what to do anymore When he said that to me I felt so bad I knew he was really hurt I apologize and I promised not to do that anymore cuz I know he loves deeply and he will do anything to make me happy Watching your videos taught me how to better communicate with my man I am working a lot lately so I haven't been watching your videos lately Gonna get back to watching soon I loves watching your videos Thanks Stephan for helping us communicate better with our men
Yes I feel that last comment. When two ppl are ordained to be together the enemy will pull put all stops to prevent the union. Which makes God's presence all the more important to keep you fuled with the armor of God to fight against the devil. Fear is an agent of the devil. We must constantly pursue God's word, pray without ceasing. Your future literally depends on it. Yes your talking to me.
Damn! I really needed this 6 days ago. My bf broke up with me for the exact reasons you mention at the 2 min mark…fear = reaction, creates new fear and again = reaction. His reaction was break it off via text and immediately went no contact. I’m heartbroken 💔 I’ve never loved someone like I loved him. The relationship was still new and I felt like by breaking all communication he didn’t give us the opportunity to communicate with each other and work together to understand each other. Thank you for all the videos Stephen. I am devastated…but working to release him in love and trust in God. Asking someone to pray for both of us please. 🙏🏼🫶🏻 Edit to add - by the time I got to the end of this, I was greatly encouraged (although very sad and remorseful) because I acknowledge my shortcomings and how my ‘LOVE’ for him became a challenge for him. I did all the right (well wrong) things to turn a good situation from confusion into complete CHAOS! I especially loved you’re very last thought about the devil doesn’t come for the relationship when the love isn’t present. Truth! 🤦🏼♀️
My focus has been my daughters they were under 5 yrs old I was nurturing them helping them health after sudden death of Dad. Now they r junior college and freshman in college. Now it’s about me now.
"Yes, I'll fix that. Yes, you're right. You know, you know what, I hear you, I got you. I'll work on that." I would damn near fall over if I heard that! 🎉
I hope i can have another chance to experience love now knowing how to recognize the mistakes i have made in the past. I experienced a love like no other but i didnt handle situations correctly because i listened to someone who gave me wrong advice. We parted ways and it tore my heart out and i have not been able to move forward because of the love i still have for this man. The man i loved has passed away and i wasnt able to connect with him to tell him this. I am grateful for the 8 heavenly years we had together. I now know true love does exist. Dont make the same mistake i did and miss out on the beauty of truly loving someone as long as you can.
This is exactly where I'm at. All you said has happened. My god this love is truly overwhelming ❤️. It's not easy to open my heart to him. But I'm trying my best.
Thanks for the suggestion. I’ll add it to my list of requested videos! In the meantime, you might like this video 👉 ruclips.net/video/5nmt6OapuO0/видео.html
Yes, and during the long distance the only things we can depend on are each other's words.... How do we know they truly love if it's just words and no real actions because distance?
Very good video. We make the mistake that finding love is the destination. Its just the beginning and it requires self reflection, humility, courage and vulnerability. Definitely worth it and its what life is all about...
Stephen I was your assigned Facebook marketing pro two years ago lol and I remember you telling me you did coaching and relationship/dating advice ( I was newly divorced and left A very physically emotionally abusive relationship) and I joked to you oh I need this help lol and you laughed. I remember having a good interaction with you now here I am always seeing your videos pop up helping me heal. Funny how things work. Best of wishes to you! ❤
I understand what you are saying! I recently divorced my husband who is a narcissist, he habitually lied , I saw him with other women and denied it. Hellbent, will deny to the end, never let me see his phone had gps trackers in my vehicles, on my phone mentally abused, had cameras inside and out of the house, and still blames me, he done smear tactics lying bout me to family and friends!
Wow ... I've enjoyed and taken as genuine, knowledgeable, all of your videos I've seen, but this one is SO hitting home in every single word. You have a way with putting things in a relatable, non judgemental way and making complete sense of it. You're so right and make it absorb so well that I'm asking how I've never realized any of these things. Pretty awesome, thank you so much for putting this out there.
Stephan my late husband always gave me expensive flowers every month, I loved it but always thought it was luxurious and expensive, he has been gone a long time now and I’m not sure I’ll find someone like that again. I appreciate what I had. U r great! Good advice keep up your talks. Love it!
This hits many areas for me and I felt like I was the only one acting like “a total mess” in these situations; but reading all these comments in the comment section, makes me have faith that good things will happen to good people too🥰 Oh how Satan loves to screw us over with our limitations and take pleasure in seeing us hurt, only to further hurt the person we care about most. It’s so important to put God first and tell Him what you’re feeling and ask Him to give you the grace to just breathe it out in that moment of chaos, to avoid erupting like a blazing volcano! I wish I heard this message earlier but you get the message when you least expect it!I hope everyone here feels loved and is able to share it wholeheartedly♥️
Stephan you are absolutely spiritually gifted! It’s so much truth in most of your messages I resonate with this one so much. I needed it years ago but praise God it’s coming back around 🙏🏾❤️ thank you for sharing your gifts with the world.
🤙🏽 thank you Stephan, I'm in a new relationship with someone and needed to hear this. He came home early before new year's so we could be together and surprised me. I'm still getting used to how good he's treating me.💜🤙🏽
Wooohhhhooo, that last point!!!! 😳 I had thought I had healed then started talking to a guy and everything you said was on point, getting triggered left n right, fears!!! 😬 LOVE your videos!!!
I just recently needed an unhealthy relationship. Videos like this one encourages me to not entertain men who are not for me. Thank you for your guidance and advice.
Honestly Stephan.. I watch all your videos lookin for answers on if he was the one/if it is me.. and I still am questioning 😩💔 but this one hit home 🙏🏼 I miss him. I’m just waitin on the universe to gimme a good man, and imma heal while it happens ❤️🫶🏼 Thank you for what you do, sir
There is a man in my life that I feel God is showing me that he is my husband. Please pray for me sis. I think he has a lot of past hurt to get over to truly embrace our relationship.
I was married 10 years and Widow 16 years. A lot of concerns about how to start over. You have helped me a lot. Will reach out to you before this year is over.
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I'm really thankful you let out what Holy Spirit was letting you to speak at the end cause those 1 min pep talk was very important to me!
K what if u validate all the good things he does. But the things that iv Asked to do or not do specifically, purposely get dissmissed
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I’m 58. I haven t been asked out in years. My daughter passed away 4 years ago, and I had to heal and grow. I got asked out a couple of days ago. I’m ready to open my heart to love. I appreciate your videos.
You got this 😊. Live and love fully it’s one of the sweetest part of our human experience.
You got this Christine! Welcome back
So sorry to hear this, lady; may your daughter enjoy peace and love in God’s glorious Kingdom. ❤️✝️❤️
I'm also 58. Hadn't dated in about the same length of time as you. And, I've recently found a truly good, genuine, loving man. Sharing with you just to let you know that you're not alone and your love is out there for you.
Sorry you had to go through this. I wish you good luck with men. Sure with Stephan we have all the knowledge we need.
I wish I saw this video when you first posted it. I did all of the 5 things you listed and have completely sabotaged my relationship. Now I’m begging for another chance. 😢I pray that God softens his heart and restore our relationship.
Girl you sound like me I almost want to beg
Any today?
@@wendyfromtheblock6743update?
@@TheCeciDYes, right here 😅
“Not showing appreciation” I feel is important on both sides. Because if I don’t receive a compliment from my man when I show up dressed beautifully, then the next time I’m dressing basic. Compliments are positive reinforcement. I give them freely and also appreciate them when given. 🙂
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks …and I certainly appreciate what you teach & remind us Stephan. ❤️ Here to learn.🙋🏽♀️
“Do not question his love?” - This hit close to home. Thank-you, sir!
Same
My fears of abandonment kept me from being honest about how I felt in regards to a family issue and it led to feeling resentment towards him. I speak up now, and usually start with “you didn’t do anything wrong, this is how I feel”. Communication is key❤
That part
Thank you for sharing, communication is definitely key!
So I used to do this but I stopped cause my man felt like I was constantly making things about me and neglecting his feelings. Saying “I feel” too much so be careful with that one. I learned that from my counselor and my man said I need to tell that counselor they’re wrong.
Stephen, please let me know about this, can a married man truly love another woman besides his wife? Let me know, I will be grateful 🙏, thanks for opening up our minds always, am glad I found your channel, I have learnt a lot from your teachings
Aaadrinebusing..please love yourself enough to not partake in another woman's husband.He married her and you definitely deserve your own love❤
I’m 58 years old widow it’s been 16 years. Ready to open my heart to love again.
True Love is a beautiful thing. I pray those with genuine intentions find it .
To all of the hopeless romantics…Keep the faith‼️
I pray that real love finds you. You deserve it💓😌
Same to you 🎉
#5 ..... yeh that happened to me. I ran away from his love out of fear. And yes he was a good man who could have loved me deeply but I was scared. I had to heal and do inner work .... plus life happened. Six years later I felt God asking me to humble myself and reach out to him and apologize (I am one of those people you felt those situations are coming back around). I am ready this time. I was genuinely surprised he welcomed me back with open arms. We're taking it slow, getting to know each other again. Most importantly I am praying and turning to God in this situation. Sometimes I feel like you are talking directly to me Stephan. Thank you for your advice and your videos ❤
Awe, that’s lovely. I wish you well❤
"Perfect love, casteth out fear." 💕
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Perfect love from the practioner does cast out all fear, but if the recipient does not have or appreciate your perfect love, your genuine love looks like game.
This message came right on time. The enemy is attacking my relationship but my man reintroduced me to the church and now I think I pray over us more than he probably does lol. In love, our partners become mirrors of our light and our darkness. The darkness usually makes one run but I urge you to instead stand there and find a way through it - together. We sit and we talk through things even when it’s hard, especially when it’s hard. My man takes notes and he will come back with his thoughts at a later date. Acknowledge your partners attentiveness and efforts. Give grace and give space for understanding. Fear is the devil. God ordained your union so trust him! Trust yourself for choosing your partner and your partner for choosing you. Thank you Stephan! You were preaching those last few minutes! #ItsHittingMySpirit
Thank you for sharing this ... I needed this
I’m saving your response. It hit home. Thank you!!
Tarot???
Let that tarot go
Recently went thru something similar. We didn't make it thru. I grew closer to God and I'm not sure what he's doing now.
The ending gave me chillsss!! that was God speaking through you 👑
🙏❤️🙂
Same ❤
Love Almighty God first
Love yourself after
The love that connects you
Connects to your brain
Blank out all negetivity
Forget the past
Embrace the moment
God,s intended love
Its like a flag flown high ,lift it higher lovebirds
Thanks Steph
This was awesomely SWEET
The woman who is married to you or going to get married to you is honestly blessed ❤
#5 So true! I'm finally living in my truth and have found a man who totally encompasses who I desire as a partner to be able to do so. He's beyond amazing and I found myself full of fear and doubt. Wanting to run! Thinking I'm crazy - who'd want to run from an absolutely gem of a man??! I've worked through that fear and am now embracing and enjoying the other side of it. Thank you, as always, for your powerful and helpful insights, Stephan!
Glad I could help 🙏
I'm in the exact same boat.
Exactly was happening rn❤
You're so talented Stephan. You have the insights of an angel. Let's pray whoever wants true love, finds, and keeps it.
Amen 🙏
I'm a little shy and nervous about being receptive to his love for me. It stems from not knowing what love feels like from another human. Lately I've been smiling and crying at the same time because I know it will be the best feeling ever. No physical gift or gifts can compare to the love a man shows, expresses his love with words and touch.🔥
I made these mistakes and unknowingly hurt the man who gave me a second chance to love and be loved. After watching this session, I had to go apologize and ask for forgiveness for questioning, doudting his love. Thank you Steve and Thank you Lord for always without failure saving me.
@softballs345, that’s amazing!! Hope everything works out 🎉
How did it work out?
@33:48 You was speaking with HOLY SPIRIT in you. Such GODLY WISDOM.
Beautiful message! Stephan💚 I found myself doing the last one. #5 acting out of fear. I Definitely seek spiritual guidance and stop taking advices from "broken people". I also got rid of all social media. And focus on God, my kids, and soon to be husband 🥰🥰🥰..
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Yes getting rid of social media mainly FB was a huge help to start healing and focusing on the right priorities and people in my life.
@@abc27011 I agree 💯💯💯❤️
When the love is real your brain works overtime to convince your feelings that they are making a huge mistake and it’s all fantasy and your imagining things 😊
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Your welcome , your message resonates because you deliver it with passion and truth ❤️
Woow
This video brought tears to my eyes. I felt every word from my core because I fell into a depression on the inside for months after my recent breakup this year. My heart was broken into pieces; I struggled to gather them together because I was tired of not feeling good enough for anyone anymore. I call myself "Trail and Error" when it comes to relationships. All of my x factors got it right the next time around; married with children and living their best lives. There's no resentment or animosity on my behalf, just in my head a lot on if there is someone only for me or if I am meant to be single forever. I admit to my mistakes due to fear, anxiety, and past occupancies that he grew tired and searched for what he needed.
Hey, honestly you’re on the right path! God sends us the information we’re ready for, when we’re able to hear it. Please… Don’t judge yourself for what you couldn’t fully grasp at that point in your journey. If they moved on & found their One, that means there’s One who will find you too! I believe this man Stephan gives us some real wisdom here. Prayer & more prayer… sometimes I think that’s the only thing that can really heal a broken heart. Speaking from experience. Xoxo
@@McKenzie.flagstaffaz Thank you for your kind words!! It means a lot and I am still in my process of healing. Working on myself, living life and loving on my son every second. I thank God for growth!!
I'm 37. It took me 7yrs to finally trust my man. I broke up with him over 10x out of fear yet he always kept coming back. That man loves me. I've finally stopped breaking up with him and decided to learn how to trust again and not fear being hurt from past trauma and childhood experiences
Open, honest communication with transparency, from both sides equally, is the key
I'm experiencing love right now at the moment but we are not together and it is really hard. It's absolute heartbreak 💔
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I’m in the exact situation
Me too. It’s been a long time. Long story.
Me too. Waiting for him to get divorced.
😢 Everyone we come into contact with mirror things about us we need to work on. With that being said twin flames which are rare have a love and bond so strong that it does scare the other person (the runner). Just trust if this is the case they will return.
Thank you for this video. It's confirmation for my daughter. She went through heart break, cheating,etc with her ex. Now she is in a relationship with this guy who is different from other guys she talked to. Everything you talked about she has experienced with him she almost cried cause she went to God about it. Your videos are a blessing. Thank you 💯💯
My pleasure ❤️
It's amazing how I was just going through this talking to my potential. . .he says to me "don't ever question my love for you" we do talk to get rid of my fear {as I was typing this, you mentioned fear} he is so patient; the best thing about what he and I have, he so encouraging and he takes his time with me. And we put God first in it. I'm grateful I came across this. He is too good to be true. {Yes I believe I found him}
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you're welcome. . .better than a year ago when I was dealing with someone who meant me no good. Thank you.
Avoid these 6 things: Do Not cut off your phone, keep Stephan's videos playing in heavy rotation forever!!!
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@@tanitshkatanjusha 😂😂😂
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks Steph thanks 🙏 for your heart 💜💜💜💜
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I was casually enjoying this video until the last five minutes when I literally cried bc it resonates so much with my current situation. I’m in an unhealthy marriage but circumstances have placed me in a position to where the person who I thought I would marry is back in my world. God is working overtime to help guide me but the confusion I feel right now is real 🙏🏾
True I was watching another video that confirmed yours....."If a man really loves you, he will go to the speed of you."❤️
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Outside influences break up 💔 many relationships especially if its not coming from a geniuine place
Most definitely!
Nothing but the truth. I came from a relationship with a covert narcissist. And before that I was in a decade-long relationship with a man who consistently abandoned me in the span of 4-5 years before finally leaving and I gave up bringing him back to me. So I came with a LOT of relationship trauma and abandonment issues. I was used to nothing but lies. After being single for 2 years, I had no plans of being in a relationship again. And then I met someone. After a a few months, my traumas came to the surface and I experienced trigger after trigger... I learned what it meant to have been diagnosed with PTSD a couple years back. This new man was so patient and kind throughout it all. Understanding. Gentle. You know what eventually broke him? Me constantly questioning if he loved me or not. And he said exactly all the things mentioned in this video... that he felt like he had been going out of his way to show me how much he cared for me and how much he loved me but that he felt like it was all for nothing when I STILL didn't believe it. He felt like nothing he could do would ever be enough. So why should he keep trying? What more could he possibly do?
Well, I knew I had a wonderful man. I knew that he had all the qualities I wanted but didn't think existed in one person before meeting him. He was it. So I listened. It wasn't easy, and I almost lost him... but the love was always there, and so we kept moving forward. I stopped questioning his love and his intentions. I trusted. I let him show me. And boy did he show me. All the little things that were bothering me before (mostly connected to past fears) that would lead me to question him pretty much disappeared. Because now he could see that whatever he was putting into me was working. And I calmed down. I have become so much more secure. I realize that I could never control what happens... it's pointless to doubt or to live in fear because it's not like I could stop it anyway. What if it was never going to happen? Don't manifest it. Just let it be. Because maybe - just maybe - everything is fine. I've never felt more peace and security because I stopped questioning and living in my past traumas.
Amen, Stephan 🙌🏿🤎 This session ministers to all of us on our various journeys. Don't run from love. The peace that comes from real love is inviting and healing. Be blessed, always! 🙏🏿
As a Muslim women, not letting outside influence contaminate us is literally a motto I live by when it comes to religious leaders when we go to them for advice cos they’re coming from a humanistic experience and that usually taints their religious advice be it good or bad. I think anyone from any religion should go directly to God for advice. Wow I am gobsmacked cos I’ve never heard someone say this before as I do till this video. Thank you for that
Bible says "their is safety in a multitude of counselors."
I would start by seeking your religion more only because muhammad wasn’t a just man (according to the Hadith) and Allah deceived the “Christians” (according to the Quran). Can you blame your religious leaders if they don’t live up righteously ?
100% agree with you
You are talking to me and the love of my life. You describe the events that has us apart as we speak. I know he loves me but the lack of action to do anything about it that I know of has me sitting in Gods lap. Emotionally it's hard on me because I am so invested. Im not trying to hurt him. How many more times do I have to tell him? He wont let me show him. He wont communicate with me. I've tried and tried. I dont know what else to do. God got it. I can only wait. Trust me, can't nobody tell me anyrhing. God is my counselor. I love him and i will always love him, together or not, he has my heart forever. Thank you for this video.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
I am making every one of these mistakes 😞 and my situation IS a second time around . This was for me, from beginning to end . Thank you
I am so guilty of questioning his love and he said ‘ I feel I’m not good enough.’ I don’t want him to feel that way. I told him what made me feel I was not loved and he has done everything I wanted that has bothered me before. It’s hard to feel neglected over time and your spouse doesn’t do those little things that nurture the relationship. You have kids and both have demanding jobs. There are so many stressors and your relationship goes on the back burner. As women age, we feel less attractive and we just get a lot less and it’s hard especially here in the USA where we are so image driven.
This video has given me the most peace.
Communication and Understanding in Relationships:
💔 When a man deeply loves you, it can be discouraging and hurtful for him to hear that you don't believe he loves you, especially when he is making efforts and showing love in various ways.
💔 When a man deeply loves you, questioning his love can make him feel inadequate and like his efforts are not good enough.
💔 The wrong man will not be affected by your actions, while the man who deeply loves you will be hurt and discouraged.
💔 Being open and transparent with your partner is crucial in a relationship, especially when experiencing real love, as it can bring out vulnerabilities and insecurities.
🤔 "You're not keeping it real with him. So now, he gets triggered. He starts to get scared. What's going on? Does she not love me? Is she not really into me? Is she seeing another man?"
💑 By expressing your fears and concerns to a man who loves you, he is more likely to be patient, and understanding, and reassure you, creating a stronger bond.
💑 Building a deep connection in a relationship requires more than just spending time together, it involves asking deep questions, being vulnerable, and truly getting to know each other.
💔 "A lot of people are giving you advice from the wrong place, the wrong source with the wrong intention."
💬 The best way to understand someone's intentions and feelings is by directly communicating with them, rather than speculating or seeking advice from others.
Appreciation and Validation in Relationships:
💑 Not showing appreciation to a man who deeply loves you can demotivate him and make him question the point of his efforts.
🙌 Continuously showing appreciation to your partner is crucial, even beyond the initial stages of dating or marriage.
Gosh Stephan I needed to hear this today!! I am struggling to accept the love of a good man, and I overthink and question everything because I am scared of being hurt again. I do not want to drive him away and your advice will help me greatly to finally accept and have the love I deserve.
I love when something hits Stephan's spirit; I always think, "OH nooo, who's about to get called out? Me?" 😅
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Where were you a decade ago? 😢 All has been received and actively working on over the last couple of years with all of the people in my life, so that I'm ready when its time. ❤ God bless you and the ministry He's given you!! 🙏🏼
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏
Stephan, your words were meant for me & came @ exactly the right time. I will trust God who brought this man into my life & I will not fear this love being offered to me. God bless you. ❤️
The thing that hits your spirit was the thing that i need to hear from you,cause i pray so much and im with god
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You made me cry😢😢 But the healing kind
And yes the calmness and security is scary. 😢
Wow!! I was doing all these things cause of fear!! Now I am happy with my man. Thanks a lot Stephan😊
I have noticed that when it comes to dating a lot of people think negatively and they question the person’s actions more then we do.
All of your point are very valid!! But your last point on not running away hit me hard..this is so true. The way how you presented that point is useful to a lot of people! Accepting love is difficult!! ❤ thank you
I've also learned that he doesn't see me as attractive as his exes. It still didn't make me feel insecure. I know my value. It was the fact he refused to protect me from his mother.
Thank you, but I'm done. I'm now looking for the man I'm supposed to be with.
Stephan, I really do believe it was a gift from God that I happened upon your content. I’ve been binging watching all your videos for about a week now, and I feel so much clarity about recent experiences. KEEP UP the good work! You’re helping a lot of us ❤
Welcome aboard, and don't forget to subscribe and click on the notification bell to be notified whenever I release a new video ❤ 🙏
I love the way Stephane explains things .. so pure , honest and enjoyable to listen to
So I was gonna pass this video? And then I heard my Holy Spirit say press on it! I’m in a dating period right now and there’s someone that I really like and for the first time in a long time we are both doing the work. I can see it it’s been two months we haven’t touched each other and that’s a beautiful thing. It’s not a press, we’re really trying to get to know each other. I love what you said about go to God I am not going to my friends I am not asking. I am not telling I’m just experiencing it! When I feel something that I don’t like I address it and like you said he definitely did something about it. This is a great video!
Oh I’m going to share this with a friend of mine.
She shares with me about her relationship experiences and it make me hate the other person. I asked her not to share but sometimes people can’t help it?
I learned early from my sister that everyone don’t need to be in your business including family members. (Not talking domestic violence)
Guilty, I'm so guilty. And I've been guilty for all my life!😢. Yet, I have a very good man and he does everything right.Truely.I believe ❤ I believe him. I pray he believes me when I say I do LOVE YOU, Forever.😊❤
THE LORD speaks through you and you are on fire. GOD uses you to get the word, truth out. Keep up the great work, serving THE LORD OUR GOD. THANK JESUS! PRAISE AMIGHTY YAHWEH.🔥
I appreciate that ❤ 🙏
Speaking from a male perspective, I can attest to the fact that these are spot on. All these things really matter and are HUGE to a guy, even if they seem insignificant.
Thank you for your perspective, its always nice to hear from the others’ view
I do agree with what your saying. I feel it’s best to talk to almost no one or no one. Listening to our own hearts and intuition as well as asking God☀️🙏🌈💕
*True love is like ghosts, which everyone talks about and few have seen.*
I wish I had these problems, ha. No man loves me or is making an effort.
I have definitely felt overwhelmed, scared, vulnerable, and highly-sensitive when I felt I was falling in love.
Get working on your God-given purpose and he will find you.
Thank you, Stephan for doing this video! You always bless my heart.
This is why it is important to heal, learning self, and living for GOD.🔥🙏🏽❤️🌟
Healing is definitely key ❤ 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks, Yes, Sir!❤
I’d experience love for the first time last year at the wrong time and it hurt so much.❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥💔💔💔😢😢😢😢
@@xiameevang9131 reframe the way you see it it’s a blessing to be able to see you actually have love someone even if sometimes you get hurt, you can survive the heart heal and love again there’s billions of people on the planet
Open Communication with eachother is VERY Important & it has to be coming from both in The Relationship
Amen, Stephan! I especially appreciate what you said about love vs. fear and going to God. Amen, amen, amen.
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I've been binge watching your videos for days
God continues to bless and guide you Stephan. We love you❤. God created you to be a voice in all nation. Bless you.
Thanks for this video stephan
Personally Watching this video I learned from it because I did the exact thing you are talking about
My boyfriend of three years
Will do anything to make me happy
Few days ago he forgot to do something and I got mad and told him that he didn't love me
When I said all he said to me was he didn't know what to do anymore
When he said that to me I felt so bad I knew he was really hurt
I apologize and I promised not to do that anymore cuz I know he loves deeply and he will do anything to make me happy
Watching your videos taught me how to better communicate with my man
I am working a lot lately so I haven't been watching your videos lately
Gonna get back to watching soon
I loves watching your videos
Thanks Stephan for helping us communicate better with our men
Great talk! Yes, if I have problems I talk to God for help and advice!
❤️ 🙂 thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
Yes I feel that last comment. When two ppl are ordained to be together the enemy will pull put all stops to prevent the union. Which makes God's presence all the more important to keep you fuled with the armor of God to fight against the devil. Fear is an agent of the devil. We must constantly pursue God's word, pray without ceasing. Your future literally depends on it.
Yes your talking to me.
Damn! I really needed this 6 days ago. My bf broke up with me for the exact reasons you mention at the 2 min mark…fear = reaction, creates new fear and again = reaction. His reaction was break it off via text and immediately went no contact. I’m heartbroken 💔 I’ve never loved someone like I loved him. The relationship was still new and I felt like by breaking all communication he didn’t give us the opportunity to communicate with each other and work together to understand each other. Thank you for all the videos Stephen. I am devastated…but working to release him in love and trust in God. Asking someone to pray for both of us please. 🙏🏼🫶🏻
Edit to add - by the time I got to the end of this, I was greatly encouraged (although very sad and remorseful) because I acknowledge my shortcomings and how my ‘LOVE’ for him became a challenge for him. I did all the right (well wrong) things to turn a good situation from confusion into complete CHAOS! I especially loved you’re very last thought about the devil doesn’t come for the relationship when the love isn’t present. Truth! 🤦🏼♀️
It was so helpful. When love rises fear arises
My focus has been my daughters they were under 5 yrs old I was nurturing them helping them health after sudden death of Dad. Now they r junior college and freshman in college. Now it’s about me now.
Wow. I receive that. Specially the last part. God used you. So I’ll Wait!!! God bless you
Yeah, I can only imagine that being discouraging, and it will push him away.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
"Yes, I'll fix that. Yes, you're right. You know, you know what, I hear you, I got you. I'll work on that."
I would damn near fall over if I heard that! 🎉
God bless you Stephan for using the wisdom God has given you to bless others. 🙏🏾
I hope i can have another chance to experience love now knowing how to recognize the mistakes i have made in the past. I experienced a love like no other but i didnt handle situations correctly because i listened to someone who gave me wrong advice. We parted ways and it tore my heart out and i have not been able to move forward because of the love i still have for this man.
The man i loved has passed away and i wasnt able to connect with him to tell him this. I am grateful for the 8 heavenly years we had together. I now know true love does exist. Dont make the same mistake i did and miss out on the beauty of truly loving someone as long as you can.
This is exactly where I'm at. All you said has happened. My god this love is truly overwhelming ❤️. It's not easy to open my heart to him. But I'm trying my best.
Can you talk one day about long distance relationships and how to keep it going strong when there's a real connection?
Thanks for the suggestion. I’ll add it to my list of requested videos! In the meantime, you might like this video 👉 ruclips.net/video/5nmt6OapuO0/видео.html
Yes, and during the long distance the only things we can depend on are each other's words.... How do we know they truly love if it's just words and no real actions because distance?
Very good video. We make the mistake that finding love is the destination. Its just the beginning and it requires self reflection, humility, courage and vulnerability. Definitely worth it and its what life is all about...
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Stephen I was your assigned Facebook marketing pro two years ago lol and I remember you telling me you did coaching and relationship/dating advice ( I was newly divorced and left
A very physically emotionally abusive relationship) and I joked to you oh I need this help lol and you laughed. I remember having a good interaction with you now here I am always seeing your videos pop up helping me heal. Funny how things work. Best of wishes to you! ❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much, and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏
I needed to hear this! Perfect timing and the is the 2nd confirmation for me to change my behavior toward the man that’s in my life. Thank you ❤
I’ve never truly experienced true love but with your lessons, I’ll give my best when I meet my mr right
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
Me too..
I did all those things… and we broke up.
Some time later we came back together cuz we love each other a lot and both made mistakes.
I understand what you are saying! I recently divorced my husband who is a narcissist, he habitually lied , I saw him with other women and denied it. Hellbent, will deny to the end, never let me see his phone had gps trackers in my vehicles, on my phone mentally abused, had cameras inside and out of the house, and still blames me, he done smear tactics lying bout me to family and friends!
But we love each other 💗💗💗 and I'm willing to be with him, and his daughter. .
Wow ... I've enjoyed and taken as genuine, knowledgeable, all of your videos I've seen, but this one is SO hitting home in every single word. You have a way with putting things in a relatable, non judgemental way and making complete sense of it. You're so right and make it absorb so well that I'm asking how I've never realized any of these things. Pretty awesome, thank you so much for putting this out there.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
This video is posted at right time. He really love me but I m acting out of fear.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Stephan my late husband always gave me expensive flowers every month, I loved it but always thought it was luxurious and expensive, he has been gone a long time now and I’m not sure I’ll find someone like that again. I appreciate what I had. U r great! Good advice keep up your talks. Love it!
This hits many areas for me and I felt like I was the only one acting like “a total mess” in these situations; but reading all these comments in the comment section, makes me have faith that good things will happen to good people too🥰 Oh how Satan loves to screw us over with our limitations and take pleasure in seeing us hurt, only to further hurt the person we care about most.
It’s so important to put God first and tell Him what you’re feeling and ask Him to give you the grace to just breathe it out in that moment of chaos, to avoid erupting like a blazing volcano! I wish I heard this message earlier but you get the message when you least expect it!I hope everyone here feels loved and is able to share it wholeheartedly♥️
Stephan you are absolutely spiritually gifted! It’s so much truth in most of your messages I resonate with this one so much. I needed it years ago but praise God it’s coming back around 🙏🏾❤️ thank you for sharing your gifts with the world.
I do not have a man since May 2016, but excellent information for folks who are in relationships /dating.
🤙🏽 thank you Stephan, I'm in a new relationship with someone and needed to hear this. He came home early before new year's so we could be together and surprised me. I'm still getting used to how good he's treating me.💜🤙🏽
Wooohhhhooo, that last point!!!! 😳 I had thought I had healed then started talking to a guy and everything you said was on point, getting triggered left n right, fears!!! 😬 LOVE your videos!!!
Thank you to the universe for your advice
I just recently needed an unhealthy relationship. Videos like this one encourages me to not entertain men who are not for me. Thank you for your guidance and advice.
My pleasure ❤️
Wow, you're speaking straight to my spirit. I have screwed up my relationship due to not being ready, and I didn't know how to embrace it
Honestly Stephan.. I watch all your videos lookin for answers on if he was the one/if it is me.. and I still am questioning 😩💔 but this one hit home 🙏🏼
I miss him. I’m just waitin on the universe to gimme a good man, and imma heal while it happens ❤️🫶🏼
Thank you for what you do, sir
I went through it with my husband. I realized he was for me, so I let go and let God.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
There is a man in my life that I feel God is showing me that he is my husband. Please pray for me sis. I think he has a lot of past hurt to get over to truly embrace our relationship.
@@cytinachavis9157 I am praying for you sister.🙏❤
Thank you God for confirmation of my conversation on Sunday evening ❤❤😢😢😢
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2. ALWAYS BE HONEST
Most definitely!
Thank you for this video. God bless you. I see myself in your statements. Wow. I'm so surprised. I need to replay this.
I was married 10 years and Widow 16 years. A lot of concerns about how to start over. You have helped me a lot. Will reach out to you before this year is over.