I thought that when a man is not pursuing you he clearly not interested in you! Isn’t that what y’all be saying? What do we believe now? I have one like this, but I am confused since he never makes a move now I moving on😢
Im just feeling like men who "are too scared to show or share their feelings" are not safe for a relationship. These types of men tend to be emotionally unavailable once we (the women) actually show vulnerability in a situation. I have a whole new appreciation for the man who can voice his feelings or passions about me. This indicates to me that he's secure in himself and his energy matches the situation. No disrespect, but "Ronnie" seemed to arrive too late to the party and he should've stated his feelings before a whole engagement scenario concerning "Mary". This would also prevent the waste of time between both parties. Just my thoughts.
EXACTLY- I HAVE TO AGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAID. THE MAN THAT CAN VERBALIZE HIS LOVE AND PASSIONS FOR THE WOMAN HE LOVES IS A HUGE PLUS. I HAVE TO AGREE WITH YOU, THE MAN WHO CANT, I'D HAVE TO DEFINITELY QUESTION.
@@h8h215Let another man shows interest you best believe he will take notice... hopefully he will wake up...if he genuinely doesn't want another man in the way.
Yeah, but what if you were my landlady (live in, 46), and I'm 27. My place of living would be in jeopardy by telling you, assuming that you decide things aren't mutual and you're upset by the environmental change now. Also, to add another layer of complexity to the situation... What if I was already planning on moving in 8 months (you know this), and all it would take for me to not move (and disappoint my best friend that I'll be moving in with) is for you to reciprocate those feelings. Some things might be best unsaid...
I agree, Its sad if the girl will lead it's not how it should be, or else the girl will always be the one to lead not the guy. Or I just want a man that lead not the other way around, it sounds weak for me
Omg have you told her yet?? Please do I’m very invested in your story lol. If you’re moving anyway, an awkward few months won’t mean much and this could be the difference between being with someone you love and not. Please tell her if I was her I’d want to know!! Legally I don’t think she can kick you out just for catching feelings lol.
I will never ever be vulnerable with a man. Unless he makes me feel safe enough to do so. I hold my emotions close to my vest. Every guy isn't worthy to know your story. In my opionion. Have a blessed Monday ya'll❤
Yes I agree. Completely regret being vulnerable with a man too early on. I thought he was safer because I used to refuse to open up to past men but I’m realizing some guys just put up a front or if he knows he’ll never pursue you for his own reasons..
@@AP-lw4rwshe’s learning something new about men which is one step closer to understanding. Now my question to you is why you saw the negative in something she highlighted and simply just said 100
It’s true ,sometimes men are afraid of showing emotions and being vulnerable because of being hurt in the past or they’re afraid they might fall too hard , as women we must show them they can trust us and be themselves ♥️ u can’t ever fake the vibe and if the connection is there , he won’t let you go.
I actually don’t believe in anything anymore.. people are so fake and pretend they like you just to get what they need from you.. but yeah I don’t believe anything anymore
The one thing that I am learning in my 52 years, is the fact that I don't need a man in my life to be happy....... I have God and I have Jesus...... that's all I need! Since I have been single the last few years, I have had more peace in my life than I ever did with anyone I was with, in any relationship.
This is NOT my problem. I'm not waiting around for a guy who cannot make up his mind. Too bad and vice versa. The biggest battle you have to win is the one within yourself.
1. He acts and treats you differently than others 2. He gets jealous when your around other men 3. He remembers all of the little things 4. Always there for you 5. Never talks about other women
A closed mouth doesn’t get fed!! A lot of men are afraid of rejection and would rather allow another man to pursue a woman he wants to be with or settle for someone he knows is easy. The whole time he still thinking about the other woman. OR they follow what the culture says and still not happy because they are not being led by God about their love life and ignore the unction of the Holy Spirit. Then, when the woman chooses herself, gets into a relationship, or married he is upset 🤷♀️ The man is not taking into consideration how his actions are affecting the woman and how she may feel; confused, hurt, betrayed,upset,feeling like he is wasting her time, or frustrated because he brings no clarity or peace. How can a woman feel safe if you don’t even know how to effectively communicate or initiate? Other men have no problem with doing it, which can be tempting for her to be with another man.
Usually women like men who approach them. But these guys are often the players who aren't afraid of rejection because they will move to the next one. But the shy men will be invisible for those women and not "man" enough. Which is ridiculous, because that's these men are the really great ones... I married such a man and I'm really happy ❤
Everything you said is true. As a woman and a queen its not my job to resolve mens problems. I leave the man to persue me otherwise he isnt ready. My partner is my equal and best friend not my son.
It's true... once you're intimate with a man it's hard to go back to being friends... so you must choose wisely... That said if a man doesn't make a move on a woman... there's always one who will... so waiting isn't always wise... the dating game really is that competitive
I mean I'm not a mindreader and no longer here to play "wait and see if" .... what I've learned is that if a man wants you he will make it known if he doesn't give any signs and hides it you as a woman will start losing our sleep wondering " does he love me" or what did he mean? please Ladies don't give yourself headaches and move on 🚶♀🤷♀ anyways ... thank you for the advices Stefan
I appreciated a man who could be upfront and state their interest whether they knew if I would be interested or not. The confidence is sexy! Not to mention who wants to start a relationship with a man that's scared to speak or express themselves, it does not get any better, trust me.
The older you get the less willing you are to not be clear on your role in a man's life. If he's acting like my friend I'm definitely not assuming anything extra
Quick reminder that it’s also okay to be wrong. It’s better to get it off of your chest and move past it than it is to live with it for years never knowing and potentially have regrets when they end up with someone else. It’s a relief to know, one way or the other!❤
Hi, to me, it's means a lot when, a man has the guts to walk up to a woman and just tell her, how he feels I think that is strong and very attractive, I Like the REAL GUTS of a MAN!!!
Moral of the story: Whether youre the one getting married or the one you love is getting married, take the risk and let the person know before that decision becomes final.
Which proves that most men and women can't just be friends. Like he said if you're in each others presence often and there's an attraction, someone is catching feelings. Would like to see a detailed video on this topic. Thank for the tips!🙏🏽❤️
Sometimes you just have to take that risk. If it's a person not worth losing, you put the embarrassment aside & soldier on. You have to. Otherwise, you may lose out on the best thing of your life. Over being worried about rejection. That's so crazy to me, but then i'm from a different generation. 👌🏾👌🏾💪🏾😉
Right! It’s better to know than to wonder forever about whether he or she is the one. At least you know either way and you can move forward with Peace.
They would rather settle with somebody they dont really love and watch you the rest of their lives and regret... Because the fear of hurting their ego so big, this men are a joke and they don't even know it....
@@kochanamama7231Girrrrlllll, it is really crazy out here these days. I cannot believe how much dating has changed, but i'd rather be single than to deal with the madness of it all lol 😁
They simply need to do inner work on themselves. Face those shadows. Ignoring those shadows create fears that weigh on their confidence to move forward.
So true! I dated a guy who remembered every thing about me and he did everything for me and not just monetary. We dated for about 4 months…and then he began to push away and later he admitted to me he was afraid🤷🏽♀️I said to myself thank God he was honest. No telling what kinda emotional rollercoaster he would have took me on.
This is spot on. There's someone who I feel a connection with and it gets very tense when we talk. There's something in the air. I remember every little detail she's ever told me. Even stuff that hasn't been mentioned for months. I'm quiet friendly with women but this one stands out, it hits differently. Make a video for signs from women!
woww, going through same, totaly similar, please can you discribe little which signs do you nothest most, that will help me a lot, thanks. I also remember almost everything, detail, life things, laugh, etc. we are both believers
I say go for it! When I was 17, I met the man who I believe is my soulmate. We used to drift together and drift apart because we were so young. We were in college. We were close friends, but I was waiting for him to tell me or ask me to be his girlfriend. When we were 22 he asked me to marry him. I said no, because he was Muslim, (he’s black but Sunni or Shi-it’s, not Nation of Islam). And I’m Christian, I loved him dearly then but I thought of we had children, they’d be confused. So I said no. He didn’t pursue me, because he always had women after me. (& honestly, men were always in my face) neither one of us understood how rare it is to find that type of love and make that connection. I married someone else, he married someone in his religion but not legally married. Now fast forward, we reached out to each other 4 years ago before my husband passed away and reconnected ( he lives in another state). He told me how when he saw me 17 years ago, his heart was kinda crushed because I acted like I didn’t want to speak to him and he was so happy to see me & all these feelings rushed up within him. He said he realized that nothing has changed for him so then about a year later my husband passed away (in 2020). So I was dealing with this other dude ( I didn’t know that my soulmate had never legally married the other women he was with, he was polygamous) Those 3 left him, but he still has one that he married in 1999. (Not legally) Oh yeah, back in 1992, (when we were 22) he told me he’d never marry any other woman legally than me! & apparently he meant that because he never did. So now fast forward I’m 53, he’s 54 (he just had a birthday, mine didn’t come yet). And we reached out to each other again. Well I reached out to him. He said Well I guess we’ll always love each other more than we love our spouses! I almost missed that in our texts. He also told me he still has very strong feelings for me. When he asked me to marry him back then in 92, he wasn’t talking about a polygamous relationship. Now he believes in it. But he isn’t actively participating in it. My point is: it is 31 almost 32 years later (since age 22) and our feelings have NOT changed!! We have loved each other since we were 18 years old! (I was just getting to know him at 17) so in 35 years it’s the same. He’s one of only 3 men that I have dated/married that I have complete respect for. I remember almost everything he used to tell me way back then!! He was shocked that I remembered all of that! He remembered so much about me. I think you should pursue her, even if she isn’t giving you vibes or if you are unsure. I think it is important to TELL HER how you feel, if you get pushback, you don’t give up!! You try again for at least a year or 2!! My husband waited on me until I was 28 years old. Oh yeah I didn’t marry him at first and my husband said: “you won’t marry me, because you’re in love with that other guy “! I was like who? & he said his name, I was so young and dumb I didn’t even know I was in love with him!! It took me 10 years to get over him, where I didn’t feel like there was a hole missing from my heart! Or a piece missing from my heart. I don’t know if we’ll get together but technically he isn’t married & she’s into polyginy, so supposedly she won’t care. I don’t know if she’ll care of it’s me, because years ago, he told me that she said he could speak to all of his old girlfriends except that girl Kim!! Life is far too short to move on without trying to be with the one you want. My husband got me because he was persistent and I was happy. But I know that my man is the true love of my life. No matter what ends up happening, so I think I’m going to try to get to know him better! I think you owe that to yourself and it’s better to do it now, hopefully before either of you begin dating others!! I wish you well. If she says no, ask her to just go on a date with you! Continue doing that to see if anything changes!!!
I have to say I met a man that did some of these things. I knew he liked me so it’s not such a surprise to me when Stephan said these things. He got very jealous when I would be around other men and talked to other men. It drove that man crazy. And then he eventually began talking to me about other women he was about to date. He went so far as to bring all his “girlfriends” to the church we went to and he is STILL doing this. Very sad he feels this is a healthy way to behave but just goes to show that he isn’t the right one for me. He is obviously very immature and has some very deep seated wounds and trauma. Glad God blocked me getting with that man. He would have been a huge headache I don’t need in my life. Best of luck to him in his life. Just happy he isn’t my problem.
Thanks Stephan for thee clarity……. I just told my bestie how much I’m falling in love with him N looks like we about to roll into the most passionate relationship of our life!!!!! This guy been doing all things beautiful for me, his provided the covering n protection I been looking for all my life!!!! I love him. GOD bless our union!!!! Amen 🙏🏼
This was my best friend and my relationship. He hit all the points. He wouldn’t say flat out let’s date so I didn’t 😂 wouldn’t end up like the others in the comments. Had to end the friendship when he got married. He would call/ text me daily to discuss decisions everything. He said “I was the one person he can count on in life” told his wife I was his bff before marriage and he didn’t see a problem with it now. bro that has to be your wife. Definitely was hard because the feelings were deep with him, but I respect the person he chose to marry. 😅
@@racheloshaksmusic i’m not the type of person to make the first move so if he didn’t explicitly say what is intentions are, I wasn’t gonna put myself out there 😅
@@crystal2229 oh wow. That’s crazy though that he said that to you as a married man. If he liked you so much he definitely should’ve pursued you a little more where you could see and feel that he liked you too and then go from there. Right now you deserve man that loves you and wants to commit to you and so that requires healing and letting go of this friendship with this man. You deserve more. He made his choice, let him enjoy his choice. I’m sure you’ve already moved on, but just encouraging you because it sounds like he doesn’t want to let you go but it’s too late cause he’s married.
I guess no ones hiding feels for me.... Great vid Stephan!!! Well the good thing my heart isnt aching from hurt or attached to anyone who doesnt deserve me...... Glad to be emotionally free from dispare, resentment, shame, guilt, embarrassment etc etc. Best way to be!!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I had a best friend, Jeremy. I caught on years later that he absolutely adored me. I knew that he had insecurities. Still, I suggested starting a romantic relationship instead of continuing a platonic. He wasn't "ready". I had to end the friendship.
MAYBE TRUE & IF THATS THE CASE, HE SHOULD JUST MARRY HIS FRIEND INSTEAD OF FRONTING LIKE ITS A PLATONUC FRIENDSHIP (SMH) NOBODY'S STUPID- I AM.JUST SO OVER DAMN GAMES.
@@LOVELYLADYLATRECE I don't believe he was playing games. He told me the truth. We could've tried to continue our friendship but I didn't want it after accepting his truth.
Yeah ❤ If he isn’t ready, we’re moving on, all best wishes and shut doors. No sneaking in at the backdoor when you allready in a new situation. You had your chance, too bad you couldnt open your mouth and say something 🤷🏼♀️
I can understand being scared. But the “best friend” situation is unacceptable. If y’all pushed away y’all feelings that much and that long that he was able to go and marry someone else, keep pushing those feelings right where they were being pushed to begin with! IMO…🙄🤦🏾♀️😒
A man having deep feelings for you is irrelevant if he doesn't know how to manage those feelings. People have all kinds of trauma that gets in the way. Watch what people do, not what they say. That being said, if someone can't talk about their feelings, just leave it and move on. It's not worth the troubles down the road.
These talks let me step out of reality for a few minutes and think of love. Quickly after, I revert back to reality with such disinterest in the ideal of love.
Really enjoyed this video Stephan. Hitting deep truths right there!!! Most men are so afraid of being hurt so they hide behind the mask and end up settling the the wrong person. And it's funny how I'm noticing the rise in divorces and break ups and some if not most are caused by these factors. People aren't being honest with themselves and their true feelings. It's so sad. You even feel like you're walking on eggshells in these streets because people are hiding behind hurt and one really needs to tread carefully 😅😂🤣🙌🏿🔥💯
Your perfectly correct, most marriages has crush as a result of settling with the wrong person,getting scared of being hurt or hiding behind the mask is never an option
Yours is not a dilemma. He’s said it point blank that he’s not interested. That’s what having no feelings for you means. He’s open to being your friend and being there in that capacity. Don’t confuse yourself please 🙏🏾
"he treats you differently by treating you extra friendly" Sometimes it is just the opposite where he treats you noticeably deleted in the presence of others, or tries to imbarrass you in the presence of others, or try to shame you. Address all sides of this issue.
I had a friend that was in a similar situation as “Annette’s”. However Annette did shoot her shot and got rejected bc her friend told her he didn’t want anything from her. She was totally blindsided since she thought the feelings were mutual but apparently he was secretly dating and got involved with someone else. She gracefully bowed out and moved on with her life.
I just had to end a relationship with a man I've loved for over 15 yrs. We've tried so many times to be in a relationship but everytime we get close he runs & I feel used. We're friends too. Idk if he actually deep down cares for me & gets scared or he's something different. I will never know. Hardest decicision of my life! 😢
I am in this situation now. Coming up on year 7. Only man I’ve ever had a real deep connection with. He has a lot of previous trauma but I’m about to the same place you are because this is causing me trauma.
Most likely a narcissist. It's rampant today. Been there. So many videos out there to help. You are probably trauma bonded. No contact only way to go; very very hard to do but you can. Hang in there!
Woww that was a big bom you dropped right there (7:55 min)...Most married people are married with a placeholder iow they are not truly in love with their wife/husband....I always intuitively knew this, but you have the guts to say it out loud. I hope this wakes people up....to prevent them from ending up this way that is a recipe for sadness....
He should come out, with Everything! So that I know and fully understand him CRYSTAL CLEAR other than that, I Will NEVER know and he cannot blame me, for not understanding him. Let's be REAL...Life is REAL.
Definitely agree with you. I need to know ur feelings so I know how to move with you... Sometimes men dk how to show love. Patience and prayer is the key if u really love him. Honestly I went to therapy after my friend told me something. I struggled with communication and just yesterday I told him how I really felt about him...now the ball is in his court..
I.need to.know.how you.feel so.i know how to move.on with you if.you.cant be crystal clear on your feelings I will.never know and he cannot.blame me for not understanding him let's be real
You just fully articulated my situation of hiding behind a rock/man to avoid being vulnerable. On a path toward healing.💫 Your candor and assessments are spectacular sir. 💥
Well first all shouldn't be haveing no sexual intercorse with nobody and tell married.with GOD.. Other then that a relationship will never work it get toxic and disgusting.
You are so right. I've loved listening to you. I have in no way been looking for a man. But, God set me up to meet the love of my life and my partner and I both see it clearly. I met this man who is on the spectrum of Aspergers. I was applying the typical man's responses to him. I realized early on (after about 20 hours of conversation) that something was a little off. He was responding positively in some ways and not others. I started listening to Asperger's videos about men in love. By intermixing both videos of info....I've realized we are both head over hills in love and now understand how to expect, respect, and enjoy each other to the fullest. In looking at all the people I know, several are definitely on the spectrum a little or a lot without the partner realizing it. I just wanted people to give that a consideration. It sounded like Ronnie might have been that way a little bit too in your first story. Soooo many people now Are on the spectrum. My partner and I have been single for 17 years....oh, did I mention, we are both 80 yrs old and have lived next door to each other for 7 years and never spoke? Thank you God for introducing us in a most miraculous way....that's another story.
I agree, I don’t chase, I can be chocking around with people, a man needs to make that initial effort to share, what is on his mind, It can be done in a very tactful way with finesse.
In hindsight, he was doing all these things. And when he said he loved me I was shocked because these signs are subtle. There weren’t major obvious signs. This was a good lesson.
The Kingdom spouse comes with trails and warfare too honey. You must know hoe to effectively wage war to defend it and not be quick to give up. Victory belongs to Jesus ❤
Sometimes both people have been hurt so badly....they operate in so much fear that they won't be honest. Many things will stop a man from saying his true feelings!! 7:12. ON POINT❗❗❗
While everything you're saying is true Stephan. Unfortunately we live in a time where it's too common for men to purposely hide their feelings and interests in a woman because they're more interested in preserving their image of not wanting to look desperate, thirsty or like a fool if a woman doesn't reciprocate. Many also do this because they believe it gives them the upper hand in the connection and they desire once again to remain in control so that they hope to avoid getting hurt or used again. This usually results in them sabotaging the connection. I decided to not take seriously any guy that isn't brave enough/willing to risk being vulnerable to fully express his feelings and interest in me. At least give me a real hint. 😂 To me it is selfish and cruel for a guy to withhold showing interest, feelings, affection, compliments, etc all so he can give himself the advantage of potentially not getting hurt. Guys like this usually end up hurting a woman this way and they know it. But it's like they feel it's them or you they're willing to sacrifice... and for what in the end when the connection flops? It's insanity. I really wish guys would heal and seek therapy first before putting themselves back out there if they've been hurt. There's a lot of this going on these days. Redpill even encourages it. Then guys will complain that they can't find love. 😅 I actually am experiencing the beginning of your example story. Praying to God we don't miss our 2nd chance. We did before years ago only for us both to have settled and married other people and now find ourselves back in contact both being divorced. Life is funny. 😅
This is accurate. You voice out my mind. A man who is not emotionally available should not look for a relationship. They show zero commitment and make good women miserable.
A man that hide his feeling for you as a woman is not Love. But a man that tell you that he won't you is Love❤ and also telling your parents that he in love with you to your parents is Love❤.
I was in love with my male best friend. I missed the opportunity to tell him it's been 20 years now of his untimely passing. I still wonder what could've been.
*Identifying the signs when a man has deep feelings but is hiding them can be a game-changer in relationships. From subtle behaviors to his actions, these indicators provide a deeper understanding of his emotions. Excited to apply this knowledge and nurture meaningful connections!* 😊💑
I’m dating a guy that’s pulled back . We’ve been on like 6 dates and was talking every other day for hours. He’s a widower. He said sometimes feel bad in how much he likes me . However I have to let him process his feelings. All I can do is support him . The gag is .. I like him too 😢ugh
I’m a widow and this man is still grieving over his wife.. he hasn’t given himself permission to really let go yet.. tell him to go to a grief share class.. I believe he likes you very much and as he gets over his wife he’ll be able to come around
After healing from my past and evolving into the new me I’ve attracted a person who’s on the same frequency as me and your advice is coming in clutch thank you so much! ✨ I never grew up around masculine men. So he’s a huge prize to me but I don’t want to mess this up and I’ve been able to realize this with your help 🫶🏽 his friends even ask him when we’re all out “dude why you acting like that all caked up” 😆
In the case with Mary she showed interest. He showed up for her in every way except to let Mary know he was interested in her to pursue a relationship. Mary did what she was supposed to do....move on. Then all of a sudden he's interested. He's a grown man and that was being selfish.
Stephan you are honestly the best coach out there, This video came just in time... sometimes we give up on people too soon.. Thank you for such an amazing video
I hear you Stephan. Ronnie acting masculine. He maybe shy or whatever. Mary has been trained to believe what is a lie, she is looking for an alpha male who will not stay. I have learned my lesson and understand now!
Thank you, Stephan. I appreciate your wisdom on this matter. I can relate this to a somewhat particular situation. Time tells everything, but then again, we don't want to waste that time either. Its good to hear from you again.
I remember when a man was interested in meeting me, he sent me a beautiful bouquet of flowers @ work. As we got to know each other; he mentioned how scared he was with the idea of pursuing me. The bouquet of flowers still works nowadays,!!!!!!
Some are afraid of rejection or don't know how to communicate and create connection. - As a woman, I have lost a friend because I told him that I liked him. (he did send also mixed signals).
Same me, its so hard these days, I met a man brother in Christ an we become friends truly, love to talk , and suddenly he sends mixed signals,or''hidden'' signals, and provocate me slightly, he is single I am not, very scary he s a good person, never had a friend like that so compassionate,but i+m afraid I must end that , I love him like a brother in faith
I have to share this with you. My friend I have known for 15 years. He was my attorney for 11 years. One night we had a business meeting as we have had many over the years. This night he wanted to tell me about what was going on with him. We went back to my house and he put his arms around me, I was shocked. Well we are still dating after 15 months. I needed to share this with you. You are terrific thank you.
It has to catch you up because you're evaluating and working out superficially whether it's defined or not. My friends say I'm that one who stand offish in those areas. I'm not standoffish. I reserve certain parts for my love a friendship doesn't get.
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Or he is ignoring you and he isn’t doing the usual things he used to do before you got there means he was blown away by your beauty and got infatuated by you or got a crush on you or even fell in love with you and so he stayed away red flag means he loves you so much he can’t face you because everyone will be able to tell right away that’s what happened to me
Me and my best friend went through this and we have talked it through like adults. Now we are strictly best friends and safe to know that's the scenario. Yes I have used him as a shield to hide from other men in the past but that is because of my own issues. Working on those and moving forward to receive my blessings.
Thank you for sharing this! I have a friend like this and while I hope it's more, I'll just enjoy our friendship. He is 20 years my junior and I'm not his typical type so ...but I don't have to courage to raise the issue with him as you did.
Stephan, you choose the perfect topic.why are men late in talking about their feeling when the woman has already state clearly how she feels. and after some time they now start to express a bit how they are feeling.
8:59 yep a love story gone wrong because people are too scared and life is too fast! This is sad beyond belief. 9:09 aaaaaaaand this is why MEN need HEALING and why love is so damn hard! I mean, isn’t it more painful to hide your emotions over expressing it???? Even if you get rejected, at least you have CLOSURE and can mentally focus and move on to healing. Hiding blocks the healing!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😢😢😢
Wow, you were so on point. Realized after seeing your video that an old friend had feelings for me. Our friendship ended but reflecting back after seeing your video, all the signs were there. Oh well, life goes on. If it were meant to be, I truly believe God would have turned things around. I learned some things along the way during our friendship so I'm thankful for that.
Not always the case. He really has feelings for me deeply. He hides it by being LESS caring even though it is a struggle for him to maintain this. Recently pushed me away and rejected me by saying he’s seeing a lesser woman. Done here.
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I think you revealed her real name here.......
I thought that when a man is not pursuing you he clearly not interested in you! Isn’t that what y’all be saying? What do we believe now? I have one like this, but I am confused since he never makes a move now I moving on😢
Can you make a follow up video on tips how to approach this situation? Or why is he hiding it, 2 topics right
Are you a Gemini?
Should get on the subject about sexual favors and the guy only wants to be friends
Im just feeling like men who "are too scared to show or share their feelings" are not safe for a relationship. These types of men tend to be emotionally unavailable once we (the women) actually show vulnerability in a situation. I have a whole new appreciation for the man who can voice his feelings or passions about me. This indicates to me that he's secure in himself and his energy matches the situation. No disrespect, but "Ronnie" seemed to arrive too late to the party and he should've stated his feelings before a whole engagement scenario concerning "Mary". This would also prevent the waste of time between both parties. Just my thoughts.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
EXACTLY- I HAVE TO AGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAID. THE MAN THAT CAN VERBALIZE HIS LOVE AND PASSIONS FOR THE WOMAN HE LOVES IS A HUGE PLUS. I HAVE TO AGREE WITH YOU, THE MAN WHO CANT, I'D HAVE TO DEFINITELY QUESTION.
EXACTLY!
I like this comment...😀
I agree!
If a man is hiding his feelings and won’t open up he has no business dating he needs to heal and than be ready to be open for love
He might just want to sleep around
@@h8h215this is it!! And the sad part is he loses a good woman all for new sex partners
@@h8h215Let another man shows interest you best believe he will take notice... hopefully he will wake up...if he genuinely doesn't want another man in the way.
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The man needs to be the man. Point blank PERIOD. I'm old school. The man does the pursuing in my humble opinion❤💪🏾
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Thisss
Yeah, but what if you were my landlady (live in, 46), and I'm 27. My place of living would be in jeopardy by telling you, assuming that you decide things aren't mutual and you're upset by the environmental change now.
Also, to add another layer of complexity to the situation... What if I was already planning on moving in 8 months (you know this), and all it would take for me to not move (and disappoint my best friend that I'll be moving in with) is for you to reciprocate those feelings.
Some things might be best unsaid...
I agree, Its sad if the girl will lead it's not how it should be, or else the girl will always be the one to lead not the guy. Or I just want a man that lead not the other way around, it sounds weak for me
Omg have you told her yet?? Please do I’m very invested in your story lol. If you’re moving anyway, an awkward few months won’t mean much and this could be the difference between being with someone you love and not. Please tell her if I was her I’d want to know!! Legally I don’t think she can kick you out just for catching feelings lol.
If he’s hiding feelings, all due respect, please keep them hidden ❤
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@@userk251yup - if he can’t tell me how he feels and declare himself, then he’s not the person for me.
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😂😂😂 that part
I will never ever be vulnerable with a man. Unless he makes me feel safe enough to do so. I hold my emotions close to my vest. Every guy isn't worthy to know your story. In my opionion. Have a blessed Monday ya'll❤
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Yes I agree. Completely regret being vulnerable with a man too early on. I thought he was safer because I used to refuse to open up to past men but I’m realizing some guys just put up a front or if he knows he’ll never pursue you for his own reasons..
❤Your comment about, “It’s easier for a man to chase lust than it is to chase love” … 💯
Most definitely!
You're very right my dear
@@AP-lw4rwshe’s learning something new about men which is one step closer to understanding. Now my question to you is why you saw the negative in something she highlighted and simply just said 100
Checkmate. @@pilarpatrick
That right there
💯 Vulnerability comes with maturity.
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Facts
It’s true ,sometimes men are afraid of showing emotions and being vulnerable because of being hurt in the past or they’re afraid they might fall too hard , as women we must show them they can trust us and be themselves ♥️ u can’t ever fake the vibe and if the connection is there , he won’t let you go.
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I totally agree with you here 100%
Very much agreed✨
I actually don’t believe in anything anymore.. people are so fake and pretend they like you just to get what they need from you.. but yeah I don’t believe anything anymore
Yessss!!! so true 💯
A man that wants you. Shows you.
And be ready because some of what they show you can be ALOT
The one thing that I am learning in my 52 years, is the fact that I don't need a man in my life to be happy....... I have God and I have Jesus...... that's all I need!
Since I have been single the last few years, I have had more peace in my life than I ever did with anyone I was with, in any relationship.
I need a man. Sorry, but everything else, including money, without a good man to enjoy life with just spells lonely.
This is NOT my problem. I'm not waiting around for a guy who cannot make up his mind. Too bad and vice versa. The biggest battle you have to win is the one within yourself.
Hello 👋👋 0:50
Nobody has time and life is too short to sit around waiting for a man who is too scared to be upfront with what he wants.
@@TheLakergirl0717 True🎯
@@TheLakergirl0717This. It’s too short. You have to be bold & share your feelings.
I've wasted 4 years on a person that can only talk about the weather and not us. Boy bye
1. He acts and treats you differently than others
2. He gets jealous when your around other men
3. He remembers all of the little things
4. Always there for you
5. Never talks about other women
Thank You!!💜
FR!! Thanks so much for this.
All except the last one are present in my situation.
@@abella11 , that’s the only way you will manifest him . For real.
Wow! This is spot on the actions of the man who’s pursuing me! Oh my!🫣😅
A closed mouth doesn’t get fed!! A lot of men are afraid of rejection and would rather allow another man to pursue a woman he wants to be with or settle for someone he knows is easy. The whole time he still thinking about the other woman. OR they follow what the culture says and still not happy because they are not being led by God about their love life and ignore the unction of the Holy Spirit. Then, when the woman chooses herself, gets into a relationship, or married he is upset 🤷♀️
The man is not taking into consideration how his actions are affecting the woman and how she may feel; confused, hurt, betrayed,upset,feeling like he is wasting her time, or frustrated because he brings no clarity or peace. How can a woman feel safe if you don’t even know how to effectively communicate or initiate? Other men have no problem with doing it, which can be tempting for her to be with another man.
Usually women like men who approach them. But these guys are often the players who aren't afraid of rejection because they will move to the next one. But the shy men will be invisible for those women and not "man" enough. Which is ridiculous, because that's these men are the really great ones... I married such a man and I'm really happy ❤
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I wish someone had told me this 35 years ago.
I’m in my mid 20s and learning this to be true.
If you like, could you tell me how you approached him?
Everything you said is true. As a woman and a queen its not my job to resolve mens problems. I leave the man to persue me otherwise he isnt ready. My partner is my equal and best friend not my son.
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Amen sister!
This made me realize that I was more interested in him, than he was in me 😢
It's true... once you're intimate with a man it's hard to go back to being friends... so you must choose wisely...
That said if a man doesn't make a move on a woman... there's always one who will... so waiting isn't always wise... the dating game really is that competitive
I mean I'm not a mindreader and no longer here to play "wait and see if" .... what I've learned is that if a man wants you he will make it known if he doesn't give any signs and hides it you as a woman will start losing our sleep wondering " does he love me" or what did he mean? please Ladies don't give yourself headaches and move on 🚶♀🤷♀
anyways ... thank you for the advices Stefan
I appreciated a man who could be upfront and state their interest whether they knew if I would be interested or not. The confidence is sexy! Not to mention who wants to start a relationship with a man that's scared to speak or express themselves, it does not get any better, trust me.
The older you get the less willing you are to not be clear on your role in a man's life. If he's acting like my friend I'm definitely not assuming anything extra
No time for ambiguity Stephen! He needs to say it out ALOUD! Women don't have time for vagueness! Be open guys because she'll just move on!
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When I was in a relationship with a narcissist he was better to other women than he was with me.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Felt that
Was he a diagnosed narcissist?
Dismissive avoidant attachment can appear like a narcissist.
How do you define "better"? a lot of children clean up at their friends home when their own home is dirty
Yeah like complimenting women full heartedly but barely ever complimenting you at all.
And gaslighting if you point it out haha
Quick reminder that it’s also okay to be wrong. It’s better to get it off of your chest and move past it than it is to live with it for years never knowing and potentially have regrets when they end up with someone else. It’s a relief to know, one way or the other!❤
I wish I had the courage... or that he did. My situation has gotten just ridiculous.
Yes your right, it's better to get it off chest and move past it.regrets it's really heart broken.
@@LauraB0421how did it work out??
@@missceebrownin We are still in limbo. Crazy situation. Thank you for asking though. 🙄
Hi, to me, it's means a lot when, a man has the guts to walk up to a woman and just tell her, how he feels I think that is strong and very attractive, I Like the REAL GUTS of a MAN!!!
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Are you able to incourage or give a green light to a man?
Thank you for the reminder to always pray about the man. I tend to get excited and forget to put me and them before the Lord.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I'm praying. Either this is not my guy and I'm delusional, or this is just going to take a looonnnggg time. 🙏
He needs to be praying for himself.
Moral of the story: Whether youre the one getting married or the one you love is getting married, take the risk and let the person know before that decision becomes final.
Which proves that most men and women can't just be friends. Like he said if you're in each others presence often and there's an attraction, someone is catching feelings. Would like to see a detailed video on this topic. Thank for the tips!🙏🏽❤️
That's if there is an ATTRACTION.
Sometimes you just have to take that risk. If it's a person not worth losing, you put the embarrassment aside & soldier on. You have to. Otherwise, you may lose out on the best thing of your life. Over being worried about rejection. That's so crazy to me, but then i'm from a different generation. 👌🏾👌🏾💪🏾😉
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Right! It’s better to know than to wonder forever about whether he or she is the one. At least you know either way and you can move forward with Peace.
I agree!!!! Never give up on something that what you want! I never did and I am happy !! It’s paying off
They would rather settle with somebody they dont really love and watch you the rest of their lives and regret... Because the fear of hurting their ego so big, this men are a joke and they don't even know it....
@@kochanamama7231Girrrrlllll, it is really crazy out here these days. I cannot believe how much dating has changed, but i'd rather be single than to deal with the madness of it all lol 😁
SO TRUE, YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO REACT IF HIS FEELINGS IS NOT CLEAR.
They simply need to do inner work on themselves. Face those shadows. Ignoring those shadows create fears that weigh on their confidence to move forward.
So true! I dated a guy who remembered every thing about me and he did everything for me and not just monetary. We dated for about 4 months…and then he began to push away and later he admitted to me he was afraid🤷🏽♀️I said to myself thank God he was honest. No telling what kinda emotional rollercoaster he would have took me on.
Scared? I'm sorry, don't believe that. It's manipulation to keep you trying prove yourself to be safe.
Nobody got time to play guessing games on how a person feels for someone.
Be open and upfront so there's no confusion.
This is spot on. There's someone who I feel a connection with and it gets very tense when we talk. There's something in the air. I remember every little detail she's ever told me. Even stuff that hasn't been mentioned for months. I'm quiet friendly with women but this one stands out, it hits differently. Make a video for signs from women!
woww, going through same, totaly similar, please can you discribe little which signs do you nothest most, that will help me a lot, thanks. I also remember almost everything, detail, life things, laugh, etc. we are both believers
I say go for it! When I was 17, I met the man who I believe is my soulmate. We used to drift together and drift apart because we were so young. We were in college. We were close friends, but I was waiting for him to tell me or ask me to be his girlfriend. When we were 22 he asked me to marry him. I said no, because he was Muslim, (he’s black but Sunni or Shi-it’s, not Nation of Islam). And I’m Christian, I loved him dearly then but I thought of we had children, they’d be confused. So I said no. He didn’t pursue me, because he always had women after me. (& honestly, men were always in my face) neither one of us understood how rare it is to find that type of love and make that connection. I married someone else, he married someone in his religion but not legally married. Now fast forward, we reached out to each other 4 years ago before my husband passed away and reconnected ( he lives in another state). He told me how when he saw me 17 years ago, his heart was kinda crushed because I acted like I didn’t want to speak to him and he was so happy to see me & all these feelings rushed up within him. He said he realized that nothing has changed for him so then about a year later my husband passed away (in 2020). So I was dealing with this other dude ( I didn’t know that my soulmate had never legally married the other women he was with, he was polygamous) Those 3 left him, but he still has one that he married in 1999. (Not legally) Oh yeah, back in 1992, (when we were 22) he told me he’d never marry any other woman legally than me! & apparently he meant that because he never did. So now fast forward I’m 53, he’s 54 (he just had a birthday, mine didn’t come yet). And we reached out to each other again. Well I reached out to him. He said Well I guess we’ll always love each other more than we love our spouses! I almost missed that in our texts. He also told me he still has very strong feelings for me.
When he asked me to marry him back then in 92, he wasn’t talking about a polygamous relationship.
Now he believes in it. But he isn’t actively participating in it.
My point is: it is 31 almost 32 years later (since age 22) and our feelings have NOT changed!! We have loved each other since we were 18 years old! (I was just getting to know him at 17) so in 35 years it’s the same. He’s one of only 3 men that I have dated/married that I have complete respect for.
I remember almost everything he used to tell me way back then!! He was shocked that I remembered all of that! He remembered so much about me.
I think you should pursue her, even if she isn’t giving you vibes or if you are unsure. I think it is important to TELL HER how you feel, if you get pushback, you don’t give up!! You try again for at least a year or 2!!
My husband waited on me until I was 28 years old. Oh yeah I didn’t marry him at first and my husband said: “you won’t marry me, because you’re in love with that other guy “! I was like who? & he said his name, I was so young and dumb I didn’t even know I was in love with him!! It took me 10 years to get over him, where I didn’t feel like there was a hole missing from my heart! Or a piece missing from my heart.
I don’t know if we’ll get together but technically he isn’t married & she’s into polyginy, so supposedly she won’t care. I don’t know if she’ll care of it’s me, because years ago, he told me that she said he could speak to all of his old girlfriends except that girl Kim!!
Life is far too short to move on without trying to be with the one you want. My husband got me because he was persistent and I was happy. But I know that my man is the true love of my life. No matter what ends up happening, so I think I’m going to try to get to know him better!
I think you owe that to yourself and it’s better to do it now, hopefully before either of you begin dating others!!
I wish you well. If she says no, ask her to just go on a date with you! Continue doing that to see if anything changes!!!
Or you can just ask her out and stop playing all the weird games.🙄
Yep, ask her out on a date. Chances are she feels the same.
Wow...am going through same,but indeed the video hit differently
I have to say I met a man that did some of these things. I knew he liked me so it’s not such a surprise to me when Stephan said these things. He got very jealous when I would be around other men and talked to other men. It drove that man crazy. And then he eventually began talking to me about other women he was about to date. He went so far as to bring all his “girlfriends” to the church we went to and he is STILL doing this. Very sad he feels this is a healthy way to behave but just goes to show that he isn’t the right one for me. He is obviously very immature and has some very deep seated wounds and trauma. Glad God blocked me getting with that man. He would have been a huge headache I don’t need in my life. Best of luck to him in his life. Just happy he isn’t my problem.
Big sign he remembers the small things 😊
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Ooh yess
I have a male coworker and I know he wants it badly. But I just brush off the signs because I like our friendship.
Thanks Stephan for thee clarity…….
I just told my bestie how much I’m falling in love with him N looks like we about to roll into the most passionate relationship of our life!!!!! This guy been doing all things beautiful for me, his provided the covering n protection I been looking for all my life!!!! I love him. GOD bless our union!!!! Amen 🙏🏼
Relationships are hard to figure out. I'd rather just focus on my bag and my children. There's less stress and anxiety between those 2 things.
This was my best friend and my relationship. He hit all the points. He wouldn’t say flat out let’s date so I didn’t 😂 wouldn’t end up like the others in the comments. Had to end the friendship when he got married. He would call/ text me daily to discuss decisions
everything. He said “I was the one person he can count on in life” told his wife I was his bff before marriage and he didn’t see a problem with it now. bro that has to be your wife. Definitely was hard because the feelings were deep with him, but I respect the person he chose to marry. 😅
Wow. This breaks my heart. I'm afraid this is happening to me right now.
@@LauraB0421 that definitely sucks! If you are the wife, I definitely would call him out. 😬
Wait why didn’t you express that you were interested in him? Or did you and he was afraid and married another option?
@@racheloshaksmusic i’m not the type of person to make the first move so if he didn’t explicitly say what is intentions are, I wasn’t gonna put myself out there 😅
@@crystal2229 oh wow. That’s crazy though that he said that to you as a married man. If he liked you so much he definitely should’ve pursued you a little more where you could see and feel that he liked you too and then go from there. Right now you deserve man that loves you and wants to commit to you and so that requires healing and letting go of this friendship with this man. You deserve more. He made his choice, let him enjoy his choice. I’m sure you’ve already moved on, but just encouraging you because it sounds like he doesn’t want to let you go but it’s too late cause he’s married.
I guess no ones hiding feels for me.... Great vid Stephan!!! Well the good thing my heart isnt aching from hurt or attached to anyone who doesnt deserve me...... Glad to be emotionally free from dispare, resentment, shame, guilt, embarrassment etc etc. Best way to be!!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
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Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
I had a best friend, Jeremy. I caught on years later that he absolutely adored me. I knew that he had insecurities. Still, I suggested starting a romantic relationship instead of continuing a platonic. He wasn't "ready". I had to end the friendship.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Yes, that happens. These were his own fears.
MAYBE TRUE & IF THATS THE CASE, HE SHOULD JUST MARRY HIS FRIEND INSTEAD OF FRONTING LIKE ITS A PLATONUC FRIENDSHIP (SMH) NOBODY'S STUPID- I AM.JUST SO OVER DAMN GAMES.
@@LOVELYLADYLATRECE I don't believe he was playing games. He told me the truth. We could've tried to continue our friendship but I didn't want it after accepting his truth.
U had to end friendship why
Yeah ❤
If he isn’t ready, we’re moving on, all best wishes and shut doors. No sneaking in at the backdoor when you allready in a new situation.
You had your chance, too bad you couldnt open your mouth and say something 🤷🏼♀️
I love the comment , Best wishes."
I can understand being scared. But the “best friend” situation is unacceptable. If y’all pushed away y’all feelings that much and that long that he was able to go and marry someone else, keep pushing those feelings right where they were being pushed to begin with! IMO…🙄🤦🏾♀️😒
Agree. Why interfere with a marriage? The poor wife. Maybe communication difficulties would have made a romantic relationship fail anyway.
A man having deep feelings for you is irrelevant if he doesn't know how to manage those feelings. People have all kinds of trauma that gets in the way.
Watch what people do, not what they say. That being said, if someone can't talk about their feelings, just leave it and move on. It's not worth the troubles down the road.
These talks let me step out of reality for a few minutes and think of love. Quickly after, I revert back to reality with such disinterest in the ideal of love.
You are right on stephan, its sad when someone hides there feelings. Eventually the truth will come out, life's too short to be un true.
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This is true ✅✅✅🤗
I told him exactly how I felt and wanted to peruse a relationship with him and he said no, 5 months later and continues to do all these things for me.
Really enjoyed this video Stephan. Hitting deep truths right there!!! Most men are so afraid of being hurt so they hide behind the mask and end up settling the the wrong person. And it's funny how I'm noticing the rise in divorces and break ups and some if not most are caused by these factors. People aren't being honest with themselves and their true feelings. It's so sad. You even feel like you're walking on eggshells in these streets because people are hiding behind hurt and one really needs to tread carefully 😅😂🤣🙌🏿🔥💯
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Your perfectly correct, most marriages has crush as a result of settling with the wrong person,getting scared of being hurt or hiding behind the mask is never an option
Rise in divorces is not due to settling. Settling actually keeps dissatisfied people in them.
😂😂😂....Love is a beautiful, rare thing to miss that chance with the right person at the right time..#Spreadsome 💕💕💞
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I have this dilemma in my life and it's SO DARN CONFUSING.
He's so present and listens and everything, but INSISTS he has no feelings.😢
Yours is not a dilemma. He’s said it point blank that he’s not interested. That’s what having no feelings for you means. He’s open to being your friend and being there in that capacity. Don’t confuse yourself please 🙏🏾
@@NomsLootsthat's fine. He gone-zo. Good riddance.
"he treats you differently by treating you extra friendly" Sometimes it is just the opposite where he treats you noticeably deleted in the presence of others, or tries to imbarrass you in the presence of others, or try to shame you. Address all sides of this issue.
I had a friend that was in a similar situation as “Annette’s”. However Annette did shoot her shot and got rejected bc her friend told her he didn’t want anything from her. She was totally blindsided since she thought the feelings were mutual but apparently he was secretly dating and got involved with someone else. She gracefully bowed out and moved on with her life.
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I just had to end a relationship with a man I've loved for over 15 yrs. We've tried so many times to be in a relationship but everytime we get close he runs & I feel used. We're friends too. Idk if he actually deep down cares for me & gets scared or he's something different. I will never know. Hardest decicision of my life! 😢
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
I am in this situation now. Coming up on year 7. Only man I’ve ever had a real deep connection with. He has a lot of previous trauma but I’m about to the same place you are because this is causing me trauma.
Sounds like an avoidant-anxious attachment
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Most likely a narcissist. It's rampant today. Been there. So many videos out there to help. You are probably trauma bonded. No contact only way to go; very very hard to do but you can. Hang in there!
It can be hard to share deep feelings but best to share it with the person than having regrets of not saying how u feel.
This definitely makes me think about how with men in my life because what you are saying is the 100% truth.
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Woww that was a big bom you dropped right there (7:55 min)...Most married people are married with a placeholder iow they are not truly in love with their wife/husband....I always intuitively knew this, but you have the guts to say it out loud. I hope this wakes people up....to prevent them from ending up this way that is a recipe for sadness....
He should come out, with Everything! So that I know and fully understand him CRYSTAL CLEAR other than that, I Will NEVER know and he cannot blame me, for not understanding him. Let's be REAL...Life is REAL.
Indeed, it really helps when men embrace that.
Definitely agree with you. I need to know ur feelings so I know how to move with you... Sometimes men dk how to show love. Patience and prayer is the key if u really love him. Honestly I went to therapy after my friend told me something. I struggled with communication and just yesterday I told him how I really felt about him...now the ball is in his court..
I.need to.know.how you.feel so.i know how to move.on with you if.you.cant be crystal clear on your feelings I will.never know and he cannot.blame me for not understanding him let's be real
God has definitely worked through you today. If you know nothing else, understand that He is with you, Fr.
You just fully articulated my situation of hiding behind a rock/man to avoid being vulnerable. On a path toward healing.💫 Your candor and assessments are spectacular sir. 💥
Who cares, relationships are exhausting even the good ones. Im opting out. ❤
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Well first all shouldn't be haveing no sexual intercorse with nobody and tell married.with GOD.. Other then that a relationship will never work it get toxic and disgusting.
This made me giggle 😂😅
My whole mood daily lol, preach!
You are so right. I've loved listening to you. I have in no way been looking for a man. But, God set me up to meet the love of my life and my partner and I both see it clearly. I met this man who is on the spectrum of Aspergers. I was applying the typical man's responses to him. I realized early on (after about 20 hours of conversation) that something was a little off. He was responding positively in some ways and not others. I started listening to Asperger's videos about men in love. By intermixing both videos of info....I've realized we are both head over hills in love and now understand how to expect, respect, and enjoy each other to the fullest. In looking at all the people I know, several are definitely on the spectrum a little or a lot without the partner realizing it. I just wanted people to give that a consideration. It sounded like Ronnie might have been that way a little bit too in your first story. Soooo many people now Are on the spectrum. My partner and I have been single for 17 years....oh, did I mention, we are both 80 yrs old and have lived next door to each other for 7 years and never spoke? Thank you God for introducing us in a most miraculous way....that's another story.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
This is so beautiful. And your right. If the man/woman has challenges they may not interact like others would normally. That hit me
I agree, I don’t chase, I can be chocking around with people, a man needs to make that initial effort
to share, what is on his mind, It can be done in a very tactful way with finesse.
I’d like to hear more men weigh in on their experiences with this topic…
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In hindsight, he was doing all these things. And when he said he loved me I was shocked because these signs are subtle. There weren’t major obvious signs. This was a good lesson.
Just bring on my kingdom spouse 🙏🏽 please and thank you
I pray that you receive the partner who is truly best for you, the partner God has for you 🙏
Right, all this other stuff is for the birds😒
The Kingdom spouse comes with trails and warfare too honey. You must know hoe to effectively wage war to defend it and not be quick to give up. Victory belongs to Jesus ❤
I love it when you tell detailed stories as an example❤
Sometimes both people have been hurt so badly....they operate in so much fear that they won't be honest. Many things will stop a man from saying his true feelings!!
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While everything you're saying is true Stephan. Unfortunately we live in a time where it's too common for men to purposely hide their feelings and interests in a woman because they're more interested in preserving their image of not wanting to look desperate, thirsty or like a fool if a woman doesn't reciprocate.
Many also do this because they believe it gives them the upper hand in the connection and they desire once again to remain in control so that they hope to avoid getting hurt or used again. This usually results in them sabotaging the connection.
I decided to not take seriously any guy that isn't brave enough/willing to risk being vulnerable to fully express his feelings and interest in me. At least give me a real hint. 😂
To me it is selfish and cruel for a guy to withhold showing interest, feelings, affection, compliments, etc all so he can give himself the advantage of potentially not getting hurt. Guys like this usually end up hurting a woman this way and they know it. But it's like they feel it's them or you they're willing to sacrifice... and for what in the end when the connection flops?
It's insanity. I really wish guys would heal and seek therapy first before putting themselves back out there if they've been hurt. There's a lot of this going on these days. Redpill even encourages it. Then guys will complain that they can't find love. 😅 I actually am experiencing the beginning of your example story. Praying to God we don't miss our 2nd chance. We did before years ago only for us both to have settled and married other people and now find ourselves back in contact both being divorced. Life is funny. 😅
This is accurate. You voice out my mind. A man who is not emotionally available should not look for a relationship. They show zero commitment and make good women miserable.
I have told a man that I was into him and I felt like the vibe was mutual and that we should get to know each other …. I got crickets
I think we all have been there
🙏 I'm sorry to hear about that, I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best!
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@@xsuzannex correct!
That's why I wouldn't.
A man that hide his feeling for you as a woman is not Love. But a man that tell you that he won't you is Love❤ and also telling your parents that he in love with you to your parents is Love❤.
I was in love with my male best friend. I missed the opportunity to tell him it's been 20 years now of his untimely passing. I still wonder what could've been.
*Identifying the signs when a man has deep feelings but is hiding them can be a game-changer in relationships. From subtle behaviors to his actions, these indicators provide a deeper understanding of his emotions. Excited to apply this knowledge and nurture meaningful connections!* 😊💑
IF HE'S HIDING EMOTIONS, THEN THERE AIN'T NO CONNECTION TO BE HAD!!!
This is extremely important conversation for the sake of humanity, period. Thank you so much for shinning much important light on this
I’m dating a guy that’s pulled back . We’ve been on like 6 dates and was talking every other day for hours. He’s a widower. He said sometimes feel bad in how much he likes me . However I have to let him process his feelings. All I can do is support him .
The gag is .. I like him too 😢ugh
I think my situation is different but I know he likes me too . He doesn’t know how to process it all .
Ooh 27:00
I’m a widow and this man is still grieving over his wife.. he hasn’t given himself permission to really let go yet.. tell him to go to a grief share class..
I believe he likes you very much and as he gets over his wife he’ll be able to come around
🙏 Healing is definitely key and I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best!
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After healing from my past and evolving into the new me I’ve attracted a person who’s on the same frequency as me and your advice is coming in clutch thank you so much! ✨ I never grew up around masculine men. So he’s a huge prize to me but I don’t want to mess this up and I’ve been able to realize this with your help 🫶🏽 his friends even ask him when we’re all out “dude why you acting like that all caked up” 😆
You better speak those facts Mr. Stephan!!❤️❤️❤️
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Those 1.49M subscribers are a total blessing.
In the case with Mary she showed interest. He showed up for her in every way except to let Mary know he was interested in her to pursue a relationship. Mary did what she was supposed to do....move on. Then all of a sudden he's interested. He's a grown man and that was being selfish.
This is so similar to my story...
Except he is NEVER possessive, just a pure & genuine heart😔💖🙏
Stephan you are honestly the best coach out there, This video came just in time... sometimes we give up on people too soon.. Thank you for such an amazing video
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
I hear you Stephan. Ronnie acting masculine. He maybe shy or whatever. Mary has been trained to believe what is a lie, she is looking for an alpha male who will not stay. I have learned my lesson and understand now!
Thank you, Stephan. I appreciate your wisdom on this matter. I can relate this to a somewhat particular situation. Time tells everything, but then again, we don't want to waste that time either. Its good to hear from you again.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
I remember when a man was interested in meeting me, he sent me a beautiful bouquet of flowers @ work. As we got to know each other; he mentioned how scared he was with the idea of pursuing me. The bouquet of flowers still works nowadays,!!!!!!
Some are afraid of rejection or don't know how to communicate and create connection. - As a woman, I have lost a friend because I told him that I liked him. (he did send also mixed signals).
Same me, its so hard these days, I met a man brother in Christ an we become friends truly, love to talk , and suddenly he sends mixed signals,or''hidden'' signals, and provocate me slightly, he is single I am not, very scary he s a good person, never had a friend like that so compassionate,but i+m afraid I must end that , I love him like a brother in faith
I have to share this with you. My friend I have known for 15 years. He was my attorney for 11 years. One night we had a business meeting as we have had many over the years. This night he wanted to tell me about what was going on with him. We went back to my house and he put his arms around me, I was shocked. Well we are still dating after 15 months. I needed to share this with you. You are terrific thank you.
It has to catch you up because you're evaluating and working out superficially whether it's defined or not. My friends say I'm that one who stand offish in those areas. I'm not standoffish. I reserve certain parts for my love a friendship doesn't get.
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I agree, be open and honest, and talk and pray to God, for his feedback. 🙏♥️
I needed this exact advice today. Perfect timing! Thank you 💛
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Interesting information. Praying is great guidance. Thank you Stephan
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace praying.
I wish I had seen this 7yrs ago… now he’s married and I’m still single. He really did have feelings for me. 😢
You spoke “THAT” Stephan 👏👏👏👏 Regarding the actual reality of why most individuals marry. An EXTREME level of a higher Elevation … 2nd Choice… Large % of divorces…Reality Check….
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Or he is ignoring you and he isn’t doing the usual things he used to do before you got there means he was blown away by your beauty and got infatuated by you or got a crush on you or even fell in love with you and so he stayed away red flag means he loves you so much he can’t face you because everyone will be able to tell right away that’s what happened to me
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Wow...good one.
Interesting .....
Me and my best friend went through this and we have talked it through like adults. Now we are strictly best friends and safe to know that's the scenario. Yes I have used him as a shield to hide from other men in the past but that is because of my own issues. Working on those and moving forward to receive my blessings.
Thank you for sharing this! I have a friend like this and while I hope it's more, I'll just enjoy our friendship. He is 20 years my junior and I'm not his typical type so ...but I don't have to courage to raise the issue with him as you did.
Stephan, you choose the perfect topic.why are men late in talking about their feeling when the woman has already state clearly how she feels. and after some time they now start to express a bit how they are feeling.
That’s just plain crazy just be REAL with each other!!Life is way too short to play games.
8:59 yep a love story gone wrong because people are too scared and life is too fast! This is sad beyond belief. 9:09 aaaaaaaand this is why MEN need HEALING and why love is so damn hard! I mean, isn’t it more painful to hide your emotions over expressing it???? Even if you get rejected, at least you have CLOSURE and can mentally focus and move on to healing. Hiding blocks the healing!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😢😢😢
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Why is this so difficult? It is not that deep😒
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I appreciate you doing the work and following the path to help people heal 🙌🏼 #healingisreal
Wow, you were so on point. Realized after seeing your video that an old friend had feelings for me. Our friendship ended but reflecting back after seeing your video, all the signs were there. Oh well, life goes on. If it were meant to be, I truly believe God would have turned things around. I learned some things along the way during our friendship so I'm thankful for that.
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Not always the case. He really has feelings for me deeply. He hides it by being LESS caring even though it is a struggle for him to maintain this. Recently pushed me away and rejected me by saying he’s seeing a lesser woman. Done here.
I literally come on RUclips just to see that you uploaded 😅 thanks for the video Stephan! ❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate that!