How To Get Him HOOKED In The Early Stages Of DATING...

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  • @MeetStephanSpeaks
    @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +130

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    • @snoodyposh8teenwheelingtv493
      @snoodyposh8teenwheelingtv493 2 года назад +3

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    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +3

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    • @snoodyposh8teenwheelingtv493
      @snoodyposh8teenwheelingtv493 2 года назад +2

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks Thanks!

    • @brendabrown7203
      @brendabrown7203 2 года назад +4

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks you have really open my eyes and I'm so confused about me and how to say NO stop being a people pleaser don't want to hurt people and I'm so unhappy and this is the story of my life and I'm going on 65i and I buy friends and family

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +2

      @@brendabrown7203 I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

  • @sandragreen5146
    @sandragreen5146 2 года назад +1670

    Giving the same energy that you're getting is the key and if you don't like that energy then move on it can be hard but that's when you need to choose yourself over the fantasy.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +32

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

    • @sandragreen5146
      @sandragreen5146 2 года назад +6

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks you more than welcome ❤️

    • @musicmaker1311
      @musicmaker1311 2 года назад +53

      JUST did this!!! For the first time, I am actually matching a man’s energy

    • @SheppardOfHermes
      @SheppardOfHermes 2 года назад +8

      Amen to that

    • @mstiff6234
      @mstiff6234 2 года назад +4

      Facts !!!

  • @emilyn7572
    @emilyn7572 2 года назад +565

    Dont's:-
    1. Give him money or gifts, paying for the date.
    2. Have sex with him
    3.Cooking, and playing housewife
    Do's:-
    1.Be genuine, be yourself
    2.Express desire, give compliments, show interest too.
    3.Be open, Honest and Transparent, tell the truth. Dont operate on assumptions. MEN ARENT MIND READERS!!!
    4.Positive Energy. Positice, loving,calm tone. Soft & feminine.
    5. Tap into your feminine energy

    • @ecaldwell9
      @ecaldwell9 2 года назад +12

      Thx U Emily!!!

    • @maggiehaines2203
      @maggiehaines2203 Год назад +21

      Don't Invest For Years Expecting Change Givers Give Takers Take ❤️

    • @louisa3928
      @louisa3928 Год назад +3

      Thank u 💛

    • @robbinjefferson7470
      @robbinjefferson7470 Год назад +3

      Thank you 😊

    • @Violinbutterfly14
      @Violinbutterfly14 Год назад +32

      Girl...thank you. I keep falling asleep before I can get to the end. I need less commentary, more direct points.

  • @80sprincess52
    @80sprincess52 2 года назад +73

    I'm about to go on my 3rd date with a guy whose been so fun, sweet and engaging. He hasn't tried to grope me up, kiss me, fondle me or spoken to me in appropriately to me over text which has made me see him in a greater light. Just nice compliments about how good I look. He's paid on every date that we've been on and as a thank you I thought to make him cupcakes which he says he's looking forward to, instead of falling into the pattern I used fall into when I used to listen to 'dating gurus' by sleeping with him to 'prove' I like him (big mistake 🙄) I thought giving him something home made and thoughtful would make him see how much I've appreciated the time we've been spending together. Just want him to feel appreciated and to see that his effort is reciprocated ❤️

    • @asha4189
      @asha4189 Год назад +8

      This is so sweet! I’m sure he enjoyed your delicious cupcakes. Thanks for sharing this too 💗

    • @SkylarBlueOfficial
      @SkylarBlueOfficial 8 месяцев назад +5

      How is going?Are y'all together now??

    • @GoldenAthena311
      @GoldenAthena311 8 месяцев назад +1

      That’s super sweet, guys will love ur cupcake for sure ❤

    • @malinmattsson103
      @malinmattsson103 2 месяца назад

      Dating gurus tell you to sleep with guys to prove you like them? Cray crsy lol

  • @kourtney101
    @kourtney101 2 года назад +547

    Here's the #1 way to get him hooked: know that you cannot control him. Like, be okay w/ that. It's gospel!; also, respect him: If you're tuned in to what he likes-aesthetically, emotionally, in faith, finance and femininity, yet, ALWAYS be the real you.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +9

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback ❤

    • @tifawt3736
      @tifawt3736 Год назад +15

      Not all men deserve respect and won’t know what to do with it. They dishonour & disrespect women regardless!

  • @steph_steph876
    @steph_steph876 2 года назад +115

    "Start how you want things to continue"👏👏👏

  • @Creating2413
    @Creating2413 2 года назад +49

    A good way to find out where you stand is asking if you can put him down as an emergency contact. My man said yes, put me down as your boyfriend and then asked me if I was planning on spending the rest of my life with him.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +4

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

    • @quett2014
      @quett2014 2 месяца назад +1

      That was beautiful ❤🙏🏾

  • @josaunders4858
    @josaunders4858 Год назад +33

    I love my age being in my early 50's
    It wasn't until I turned 50 & who I needed to be.. I had been married for almost 18 yrs when I realized we were no longer compatible.
    I felt more masculine due to marriage as my husband rarely commented on how I dressed as a feminine woman.
    I do appreciate & love myself more as a feminine woman!!?
    I do notice other men noticing me by looks by both men & women & receiving compliments from women... I love being me!!!
    Never sell yourself or your worth for anything..!!
    Be your genuine self!!!
    Love & light your Australian 🇦🇺sis

  • @KimCruzes
    @KimCruzes 9 месяцев назад +5

    I'm from Panama Brazil and the USA, I've dated boys from all around the globe just looking for The One. This advice is appropriate for All nationalities!!!!! Seek one who respects you and is honest and be yourself and just let the flow be positive and loving, understanding and caring. I'm finally seeing the man of my dreams that never made a move in the twenty years since highschool when we first were gym partners. He's... Everything I've always longed for in a man. Considerate, thoughtful,, complimentary,, devoted, loving... Thank you for all the advice over the months. Great work!!! ❤

  • @Mrs_Tug_n_tow
    @Mrs_Tug_n_tow 2 года назад +95

    I literally lost my dad when I was 19, my god brother and my step dad. My brother is the only male left in my life and he’s the guy you run from in every sense of the word😅 what I’m trying to say is it means a lot to me that I can get this perspective and advice from you. Thank you.

  • @SDC8686
    @SDC8686 Год назад +31

    I offer to pay half of a meal on first date and determine if he's traditional, which is my kind of dating material. If he accepts, automatic friend- zone lol I know it's not a great test, but hey I might have just gained a good friend 😂

    • @colettespencer3357
      @colettespencer3357 11 месяцев назад +3

      I do the same. If a guy accepts the offer...thats not my guy.

    • @Becky_Cal
      @Becky_Cal 20 дней назад

      I do the same. Aside from showing if he’s a gentleman it speaks to his spirit of generosity, in all aspects of life including intimacy. There’s nothing (in my view) more off-putting than a cheap and selfish man. 😊

  • @ericajanellelifecoaching
    @ericajanellelifecoaching 2 года назад +393

    I’m loving this message! This was so important. I feel like so much of us are afraid to just be ourselves because we are afraid of getting hurt. We must use our intuition to know when someone is worthy of us letting our guard down and walking in our feminine energy! I agree completely with the things “not to do” as well! These tips are so important!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +9

      Thank you for sharing, it is always important to listen to your intuition ❤

    • @DouglasNollPeacemaker
      @DouglasNollPeacemaker 2 года назад +1

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    • @vickeycarr9992
      @vickeycarr9992 Год назад +1

      I definitely agree with you 😊

  • @chefnic4763
    @chefnic4763 2 года назад +129

    If you give too much too soon, he will fall in love with your hand not your heart. Good luck ladies ❤️

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +3

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

    • @fabpersonalgrowth
      @fabpersonalgrowth 2 года назад +3

      Great advice

    • @susanhamilton8288
      @susanhamilton8288 Год назад +1

      No not in all cases everybody story is different..i met my son father and when we got together for the first time..we made chemistry...and we had the relationship quite long..we stay together for 2 years before my son came...but long distance work has pull us away...

    • @YaneliRomero-w9u
      @YaneliRomero-w9u 9 месяцев назад +2

      Learned this the hard way 😅

  • @juliewade8140
    @juliewade8140 2 года назад +136

    Yes, I agree to be your genuine self. The expression, “I just want someone to love me for me”. My response is, “let me see you and not your representative”. My naïveté in the past was to believe people, to think people still operate by their word is their bond. Well, folks lie, not all, but a lot do. So yes, Stephen, transparency is one of the keys. I have girlfriends who are afraid to say what’s on their minds. My response to them is, “you are giving him your body, time and energy, there is nothing you can’t say to him or ask him”. It is a sad sight. Anyway, I forgot what I was saying. Great points!!!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @juliewade8140
      @juliewade8140 2 года назад

      Happy Valentines Day, Stephan!!!

  • @KimoSpice
    @KimoSpice 2 года назад +168

    Dating is one scary thing because you just never know

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +65

      Try changing your focus from dating to learning and you will start to see positive results in your dating experiences!

    • @TS-fj2lo
      @TS-fj2lo 2 года назад +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks Wow! Thank You!

    • @user-mb9jx5tx9y
      @user-mb9jx5tx9y Год назад +6

      Love is risky altogether but sometimes it’s worth it

  • @georgialouisew4152
    @georgialouisew4152 2 года назад +128

    The first 10 Minutes were on point. I’m a gift giver. I love giving gifts to people (men or women) especially for special occasions.

    • @83ttaylor
      @83ttaylor 2 года назад +3

      Me too🥴

    • @jackpotwinner1260
      @jackpotwinner1260 2 года назад +13

      I don’t give undeserving men gifts but I also give gifts 🎁

    • @georgialouisew4152
      @georgialouisew4152 2 года назад +1

      @@jackpotwinner1260 that is me as well.

    • @empress9857
      @empress9857 2 года назад +3

      I’m more of gifting Thru buying something they like or paying for the experience
      My only exception my first and I recently been in touch she always been giving we not seeking a relationship I’m getting our battle of the band tickets because I want too

    • @tthomson1308
      @tthomson1308 Год назад +1

      He is 75 and a widower and has committed to me but feels he is too old to marry again. He is loving,pours into me , cares for me when I am ill or injured and shows his deep affection and love every time we are together. I told him I want to be married. We are at an impasse.

  • @kyrabrawanduncut1997
    @kyrabrawanduncut1997 2 года назад +160

    I say this all the time I’m so ready to walk in my feminine energy. It’s so hard though when you have to sustain that masculine role to have a self sustaining life without a partner. I pray I can continue to walk in my femininity along with not being take advantage of. I may need to go ahead and get that book. This was great content! Thank you ! 🥰

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +4

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

    • @childofgod7455
      @childofgod7455 2 года назад

      Are you single?

    • @phyfoster-Auntie_
      @phyfoster-Auntie_ 2 года назад +5

      Men will like for us to be feminine and soft, but strong at the same time. Men sometimes get non feminine Energy confused with a good work ethic. Women have to do like of responsibilities like a man, but not lose their feminine energy. Men do say they love the feminine energy

    • @souldancersbyjennifer
      @souldancersbyjennifer Год назад +9

      Yes exactly. Working hard brings out masculine energy. But we gotta work to stay independent when single. That's such a huge challenge!

    • @Reb-0811
      @Reb-0811 Год назад +1

      Totally agree. If you're older, it's a trick to not appear compentant and apparently "intimidating" - just the act of living a single independent life - whether you want to be single or independent or not - brings skills, capabilities, and abilities. And when you're on a job especially in a male-dominated environment you find you need to appear logical and detached to just get sufficient respect at work so you can do your job competently. It's tough - a conundrum.

  • @goddessoflight74
    @goddessoflight74 2 года назад +98

    Connected to everything, and attached to not a thing. True love brings a freedom that is not centered around co-dependency, while still being supportive of each other, and that is what makes for a beautiful union. God bless you.❣

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +2

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback, and may God bless you as well 🙏

  • @cadillacdeville5828
    @cadillacdeville5828 2 года назад +191

    I don't engage in intimacy to that extent unless it's a serious commitment, but run into a alot a men who expect because we are dating. It shows to me, you are either in it for 1 thing (I'll survive 🤣 not doing it ) or use to women doing it. To each their own, but it's frustrating to encounter when a woman knows she won't waiver on it and a man thinks it's outdated or dumb.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +18

      It isn't an easy situation but, the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

    • @tprucha
      @tprucha 2 года назад +27

      Sex and intimacy are two separate things.

    • @misselle1430
      @misselle1430 2 года назад +10

      You don't have to do nothing if you don't want to. Just be upfront and direct early on and really listen to him so one can know when to bail.

    • @laundrybasket2689
      @laundrybasket2689 2 года назад

      @@tprucha Not necessarily. Many of us see sex and intimacy as 2 parts that make it a whole.

    • @BreakingTheGrid_OnYou
      @BreakingTheGrid_OnYou 2 года назад +8

      I've been in both ends. If I don't give it up too soon, they get bored. If i do, they eventually get bored lol i give up

  • @Vulture-88
    @Vulture-88 2 года назад +38

    I'm 58, mother of 6, grandmother of 9, been divorced twice.... After years I'm now out dating and your advice is apropos across the span from young to older.... Thank you so much, so very much.... From Northern Minnesota 🙋🏼‍♀️🌽🐄

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

  • @LadyCharity
    @LadyCharity 2 года назад +85

    I will say that if a man is asking me out, my expectation is he will pay. I do believe women must be prepared to cover themselves just in case. However, it didn't work for me to pay when I invited a guy out I was dating/getting to know. He actually assumed I was not interested because I paid so it didn't work for me. I have had more success allowing the guy to pay and I would never give a guy money unless we are married (that is different). Submission (as a wife) is for husbands, not men you are just getting to know.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +3

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

    • @skinnyguy7773
      @skinnyguy7773 2 года назад

      It works the same exact way when men pay for dates. The vvoman just eats the free food and ghosts these beta males afterwards. Any man who needs to pay for love is usually creepy/unattractive. Real men do not pay.

    • @ebonyeverything2751
      @ebonyeverything2751 2 года назад +1

      Yes, at the end of the date I offer to pay in full or for myself if I'm not interested or didn't feel a connection.

  • @angelaabron3080
    @angelaabron3080 2 года назад +41

    “Start how you would want to continue.” I like that. Much love ❤️

  • @annekajordan6952
    @annekajordan6952 2 года назад +142

    I ❤️ this video. In my opinion another thing a woman should never do is to keep pursuing the man when he is showing no interest, I say this because some women genuinely think that overly pursuing him would get him to see her value & believes that if she pursues him hard enough, that will eventually get him hooked. Stephan this video is so on point 👌, thank you 🙏

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +6

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

  • @JuliaButler1
    @JuliaButler1 2 года назад +80

    A lot of men think that a “creative date” is his house. SMH no! This is not a date lol

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

    • @noinfoherebro
      @noinfoherebro 2 года назад +1

      Because women use men for free meals. Therefore men are learning not to invest. That's why men decide to do things such as house dates. Thank other women for creating this environment.

  • @mo0729.
    @mo0729. 2 года назад +11

    Last 4 dates, on which I asked what I could contribute, out of mutual respect. The man . . .
    (1) Had us split bill; he undertipped waiter and I tipped waiter subtlety - in cash - on way out of restaurant.
    (2) Had us split bill
    (3) Had us split bill
    (4) Told me “I was raised better than to expect or ask a woman to pay.”
    (3) was in graduate school but (4) was the most impressive because of that statement alone.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️

  • @msprettybee45
    @msprettybee45 2 года назад +55

    This is really good. I'm trying to learn to be more soft and less masculine. I was raised by my grandfather who never showed emotion. And now I'm struggling with being a feminine. I'm learning a lot here.

  • @queenlouu508
    @queenlouu508 2 года назад +110

    I love the part about setting expectations early on🔥. Only show what you want to maintain long term💯Sometimes when you start one way in the beginning and stop later on, it can be confusing and disappointing to your partner and cause them to hold internal grudges. Always great content 🥂

  • @sparklypink5488
    @sparklypink5488 2 года назад +72

    Your words motivated me, I was single for many yrs and since I bumped into your video's, im finally realizing what we were both doing wrong, ( I wanted change & you inspired me) .... Thank you!!!

  • @splitraven7060
    @splitraven7060 2 года назад +20

    The only time I did gifts for my man was 6 weeks into dating for Father’s Day. Sadly he doesn’t have much of a relationship with his son. My daughter and I wanted him to feel loved and appreciated. We also have running jokes which we also gifted to him. All three of us deep belly laughing for awhile. He laughed so hard 🤣
    He reciprocated and treated my daughter and I to manis and pedis this past weekend. 😊

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +2

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

  • @adinfinitum3864
    @adinfinitum3864 2 года назад +41

    You’re the best big brother to have. God bless you, Stephan 🤲🏼🙏🏼

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +5

      Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌 and may God bless you as well 🙏

  • @theposhfamily876
    @theposhfamily876 2 года назад +79

    Yesss love this!! Happy Valentines Day, ladies!!!!You are worthy of Love!! Don’t settle

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @renee167
      @renee167 2 года назад +1

      Agreed thanks!

  • @selfretired3025
    @selfretired3025 2 года назад +60

    The energy part is so true. It's awesome being truly happy and at peace. ♡

  • @TheeMillz11
    @TheeMillz11 3 месяца назад +2

    Listening to this made me realize how much I’ve grown in dating/relationships.

  • @bettywinn8296
    @bettywinn8296 2 года назад +51

    I am so glad you brought up "negativity" in women. Due to my last relationships, I am guarded and didn't realize this was a "form" of negativity. I have someone new interested in me and I just felt like I was being "cautious." So, I get it. I am taking it slow but this is something I never thought of. Thank you.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +7

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

    • @RobinLMaze
      @RobinLMaze 2 года назад +4

      Thank you for the comment. Not negativity but caution.... I thank you for your thoughts. I understand completely.

  • @ccronk04
    @ccronk04 2 года назад +29

    I did the gift thing once with a guy who I hadn’t known long. His birthday came up but he didn’t want to accept it. It was his favorite champagne but his response told me it was a NO! First & last time ever doing that.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @skinnyguy7773
      @skinnyguy7773 2 года назад +4

      The best gift a vvoman can offer is for her to be able to support herself financially. Getting a bottle of champagne early on is bit too much/creepy.

  • @renee167
    @renee167 2 года назад +285

    Great advice Stephan! I agree that it is wise not to start off giving money or gifts during the getting to know you stages. I also appreciate the first date tips! I’ve never officially been on one, and so I definitely need to know how to proceed at the end. Of course I’ll come prepared to pay for my own meal, however I will pause and see what he’s going to do first. Thanks again and also Happy V-Day to all of the single women and men like myself! Remember that GOD has someone very special just for us!!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +10

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

    • @juliaguillen8986
      @juliaguillen8986 2 года назад +6

      Greart advice sir blessings

    • @juliaguillen8986
      @juliaguillen8986 2 года назад +4

      Thanks for sharing

    • @renee167
      @renee167 2 года назад +2

      You’re welcome!

    • @DouglasNollPeacemaker
      @DouglasNollPeacemaker 2 года назад

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  • @NYCAppl3
    @NYCAppl3 2 года назад +26

    Man, I definitely did some of these don't. I grew up under the impression that you have to know how to "keep house". I remember hearing the women in my family say things to us like "How are you going to keep a man if you don't know how to cook and clean?" The impression that I got was these are the skills I need to have in order to get and keep one. Nothing about marriage or connection or healing or commitment or any of the topics you've been teaching on. I have learned a lot from you and I'm truly grateful. Thank you so much for all that you do ❤

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +2

      I'm happy my work has been helpful to you, be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

  • @MissSaraJan3
    @MissSaraJan3 2 года назад +11

    Agree! We both are into space etc. &our dates were night time picnics on the middle of a field, star gazing.. talkn, good music etc for the first could months. He’d be a gentleman... But it made it where there was no pressure. Just getting to know each other 🥰

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад

      Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

  • @Glynis-vh4vz
    @Glynis-vh4vz Год назад +3

    My man of 20 some years and I are getting married, thanks to your vids! I love your vids. and books. They've been a God-send!

  • @tinybrit3225
    @tinybrit3225 Год назад +9

    I know someone who did all three of the don’ts. She always went out of her way for him, he barely had to put in any effort at all. she slept with him on the first date, played housewife, cooked and cleaned for him. They dated for 2 years and now they’re married with a baby on the way. Sometimes I think it’s just luck and if you’re conventionally physically attractive enough. He was also a player type before and now he completely changed for her.

  • @kissy1102
    @kissy1102 2 года назад +20

    I tried holding out but I was on an almost two year drought! And the physical attraction was so strong. I didn’t think about the consequence. And it has sort of attached us but I have no regrets! I’m trying to be logical about things but I do feel like it’s complicated things🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +2

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

    • @ebonyeverything2751
      @ebonyeverything2751 2 года назад

      Giiiiiirl lol, no judgment! But for future reference u may have to masturb@te before those dates just to get rid of the urge. Or even wearing granny panties on the date to make SURE u don't allow yourself to go there if you've decided to wait... but I understand. I just hope u guys can make the best of the situation.

    • @XtinaDaGr8
      @XtinaDaGr8 Год назад +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaksif I’ve done a few of the Don’ts on the list, is all lost?

  • @karijaye52
    @karijaye52 2 года назад +12

    Being myself is the only way...Periodt! Once it's the right man, the genuine self shines brighter because he will see it. Playing the games will turn the good man away

  • @Braveheart0803
    @Braveheart0803 7 месяцев назад +2

    I remember this guy I’m dating on our first date. He asked permission if he can hug me. Then second date ask again permission if he can kiss me. Soft kiss. 😊

  • @shaprinash8916
    @shaprinash8916 2 года назад +15

    I could not agree more Stephan , and I so appreciate you for pointing that out about doing things early on in the relationship that if things don’t go your way you’re going to be upset about. Which is why I have refrain from doing anything that I know I’m gonna be upset about before thinking about the future. Great case in point is there’s no need for you to be acting like a housewife if he hasn’t made that commitment to you and put a ring on it.

  • @Creating2413
    @Creating2413 2 года назад +9

    This is so good. I was so fortunate because I really didn't understand what I was doing about setting the stage financially. Thank God my man helped me out. He did a better job showing me that we could do the 50-50 for now but he was prepared to handle a greater share of finances later on once we were living together. I ended up moving to another city so we could live together and he took over the finances so I could find a job that was fulfilling without feeling rushed.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +2

      Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

  • @ultimatesportsmedicine4395
    @ultimatesportsmedicine4395 2 года назад +29

    (woman here) Thank you so much for your this , I truly value your opinions and advice! At such young age I just gave a guy whatever they wanted ( usually sex) because I battled with my insecurities and didn't feel good enough. Now at 30, after learning the hard way, not being taken serious enough and not having enough dating and relationship experience I find it really hard to get back out there and try to do it the right way. I would deprive myself of sex and dating after failed relationships or sitautionships and would go months/years without talking to a guy or having sexual relations.Which has made it very difficult to get back out there and get comfortable with meeting new guys and pursuing relationships. I've been working on myself a lot and am now putting myself out there via online dating. I look forward to this new journey and am so glad I found your platform. You just helped me feel more confident on my journey! Thank you :)

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +7

      I pray that you receive a partner who is truly best for you, a partner God has for you 🙏

  • @ConstantinaThakur
    @ConstantinaThakur Месяц назад

    my guy is head over heels with me. words for affirmation, spoils me, spends time with me, calls and texts me and always respects my boundaries. First date i said no to the ride home and he had a very expensive car, most women would want to go for it and he respected it. I haven’t done anything and he’s head over heels. Idk if it’s too good to be true 😅. He treats me like a princess 🥰. It’s been 3 dates but he treats me better than anyone i’ve ever been with.

  • @marilamar821
    @marilamar821 Год назад +3

    I’m seeing this guy and I genuinely always offer to pay for my meals and this is what he told me that just really won my heart, “I know you can pay, but I want to pay- not a big deal” we also have an agreement that if I ask him out, I can pay for my meal✨

  • @cynthiabarker-moore5893
    @cynthiabarker-moore5893 2 года назад +18

    Most people are scared to commit in the early stages of a relationship because they start thinking that they're gonna be missing something while they engaged in a relationship.
    People are way too scared to get hooked into a relationship too early because they're scared of being hooked with a person they don't really know.
    I have had a guy to ask for money before we could even have the first date.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @ms.presilsportraits7323
      @ms.presilsportraits7323 5 месяцев назад

      Most men I meet lately scared of relationships (in the 30s) I need to date unattractive fat guys. Its hard

  • @Innocent.beautysalon
    @Innocent.beautysalon 2 года назад +47

    Stephan! I want to thank you million for the great advices! Your mind and thoughts are very different. When other coaches say that "go in no contact, show them that they made a mistake, make them fear losing you" you keep going with your words and you tell us that always can be an exception! I'm finding myself in a relationship with the "exception". Bless you for the healthy mindset

  • @reeseyanceyms.rayiamwhoiam100
    @reeseyanceyms.rayiamwhoiam100 2 года назад +18

    Again Stephan you have given us the real deal! Thank you so much! Ladies let’s just be ourselves and allow the God of our own understanding to guide us to the remarkable love and relationship that we are so deserving of to give and to have. Let’s Stop being afraid of how God has made us and that is a Proverbs 31 woman. If you are confused then just read it and embrace it for yourself. I know I have and it is awesome. Excited to see what’s next for me!! Keep it 💯

  • @mamacocolilo105
    @mamacocolilo105 2 года назад +46

    This man gives the best advice

  • @whitehorse7830
    @whitehorse7830 2 года назад +7

    Love is when.you heal from.the end side outside you become beautiful on the outside you become positive energy at a good pace

  • @tijuanasshimmeringcreation6380
    @tijuanasshimmeringcreation6380 2 года назад +11

    I'm a little perplexed...when I compliment my husband which is often, his response is either "Uh-huh" or "ok" and more so often he will pretend he didn't hear me...never thank you. I feel my compliment is being discounted and unappreciated. I do appreciate your advice!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +10

      Try to talk to him about it. I wonder if he feels your words are empty because he doesn’t feel that energy from you.

    • @jennasittler3142
      @jennasittler3142 2 года назад +1

      This was happening with my bf at first. His ex wife never complimented him , it made him feel awkward receiving a compliment so he would say “no I am not xyz good thing” . Recently now he stands taller and confidently says “thank you!“. It is really cool to see

  • @ritalowe8171
    @ritalowe8171 2 года назад +3

    Oh man , I am crying. It feels so good to hear from you advice how to meet a man's desires and let him feel good around me. Thank you so much !!!🙌

  • @mekaelaknodt1123
    @mekaelaknodt1123 2 года назад +7

    It always feels good for both involved when there are signs that you both are interested in each other. Unfortunately, social media and the internet have almost completely replaced personal interactions; thanks mainly due to the pandemic. Those closest to me know that I don't like or believe in using the internet to communicate with them or find THE ONE that I am meant to be with. Most of them have no problems respecting my wishes regarding this. The ones who did, I no longer talk to. If someone is really that interested in me, then they shouldn't have any problems respecting my wishes regarding this and if he does, then he is not THE ONE meant for me

  • @apositivesoul987
    @apositivesoul987 Год назад +8

    Loved this segment. You not only touch on the heart of these issues, but give the tools we need to approach a better mind set when dealing with relationships. Ty for remaining neutral in your advice and giving the perspective point of views from both sides and how they can be perceived. I do believe when we are ready to seek real relationships, we should start with those who are liked minded. It’s a great starting point. Ty for delivering this to us in a manner light humor with genuine respect. I enjoyed this, I laughed with you, every-time because your vibe is contagious. Ty Sir.✨🙏🏽✨

  • @creativeopinions8250
    @creativeopinions8250 2 года назад +9

    I went on a date with this really awesome man and after he paid for dinner I invited him for drinks! I could tell he really liked that. He invited me on more dates and I always suggested beach picnic dates, explore small town dates ...I'm pretty feminine and always show that side and for our picnic dates I always had a surprise, like fruits or sangria, wine... He told me the other day how all those things surprised him soo much ....I'm sure he's hooked...it looks like he is

    • @dianaschoen4485
      @dianaschoen4485 2 года назад +2

      Ive done the same thing.😊

    • @creativeopinions8250
      @creativeopinions8250 2 года назад +1

      @@dianaschoen4485 its cute and fun right? are you guys with bf/gf titles now?

    • @dianaschoen4485
      @dianaschoen4485 2 года назад +1

      No. My bf and I just broke up after 6 yrs(4 living together). Im in the process of closing on a new place

    • @creativeopinions8250
      @creativeopinions8250 2 года назад +1

      @@dianaschoen4485 oh, sorry to hear that. I hope the best for you and your new place!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад

      Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

  • @angelsonia6310
    @angelsonia6310 11 месяцев назад

    I started following you 2 years ago. Right now, I watch your video almost everyday. You have really been helpful to me. I'm believing God for the right man even as I'm in my late 30's. God bless you Stephane

  • @TyReaLiTy
    @TyReaLiTy 2 года назад +22

    ❣️Key point, focus on developing a genuine secure foundation with communication mutually.💯

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing communication is definitely key!

  • @styledmomentsbywendyjessic7375
    @styledmomentsbywendyjessic7375 2 года назад +24

    Another great video!!! Positive information keeps on coming. You’re knocking these topics out the box. ❤️🙏🏾

  • @cynthiawalcott7356
    @cynthiawalcott7356 2 года назад +6

    So true, when a man makes all of plans to want to be with you and to take ownership of building the relationship and setting goals of have you in their future.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +2

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

  • @pudgie011
    @pudgie011 Год назад +8

    How did dating become so difficult all these different ways to look for in a person!! At this point I just want to be single and have fun with my friends. I'm newly separated from a 15 year relationship and took a year for me to get over the man I'm just working on me!! Doing all that I want to do and don't have to answer to nobody!!

    • @Iamyl4
      @Iamyl4 Год назад

      That nice but a lot of us are ready to start dating. Can we be alone? Yes but God designed man and woman to work together. The problem is dating it’s the heart

  • @refilwemametja7492
    @refilwemametja7492 2 года назад +24

    Can't even spent a single day without listening to you man, like wow you nailed it 💯🔥

  • @Winnyfruits
    @Winnyfruits 2 года назад +16

    I'm definitely a giver and this video is an eye opener.

  • @elizabethgarcia7982
    @elizabethgarcia7982 2 года назад +6

    Man oh man! This is a piece of art! Making him feel I like him/need him and give him compliments without coming across as needy and weak

  • @kimannsimmons7469
    @kimannsimmons7469 2 года назад +33

    Stephan you definitely hit the nail on the head with these gems AGAIN!!! 🌸
    Love each one you send us. Your video clips are like enjoying dessert but for the mind!!! 🌸
    Thank you for giving us food for thought ~ U R an endless treat!

  • @cadillacdeville5828
    @cadillacdeville5828 2 года назад +16

    Good afternoon and thank-you. I just cut am individual off due to his inconsistency within the pass week. I think being the best version of yourself is highly important. Gifts and so forth, I completely agree.

  • @antoniaphillip5276
    @antoniaphillip5276 Год назад +3

    I love your advice, I'm separated and about to divorce after 43 years. I'm used to doing for my husband. It's very difficult trying to act differently from being a wife , cooking, and all the stuff I'm used to.

  • @mslissa5793
    @mslissa5793 2 года назад +13

    On the point about being genuine, I've come to learn that if you don't give all you feel ready to give emotionally, then you could look back in regret.
    The guy I'm seeing now, does so much to show me he wants me through actions and when we talk about the future. I feel if I was to hold back, he would close up or walk away.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад

      I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but you need to focus on doing what is truly best 🙏

  • @mishakhooks
    @mishakhooks 2 года назад +12

    I am a much better person because of your podcasts!

  • @fosterjanine5112
    @fosterjanine5112 2 года назад +18

    Don't fight for his attention just be stay true to yourself and things will flow naturally unless he is MR RIGHT ( RIGHT ONE).

  • @emilythompson8070
    @emilythompson8070 9 месяцев назад +7

    Damn your housewife point... I'm always cooking for the guy I like. It's sometimes turned into me being used and it's not just the cooking example but I cant help it, I like to look after the person I have feelings for and I just hope one day the right guy will appriciate it and not abuse it 😅

  • @angelinasamson6996
    @angelinasamson6996 2 года назад +4

    I don’t believe that any situationship is a waste of time , be aware and we can teach ourselves from every encounter we have

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤ 🙏

    • @angelinasamson6996
      @angelinasamson6996 2 года назад

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks You’re welcome , I just feel that if we teach people that every encounter we have with the opposite sex is actually teaching us a mirror reflection of ourselves . Then some people would be much happier going into a potential relationship with a positive mindset of being fully aware that even if it doesn’t last , then they’ve been taught some aspects of there ego that they can focus on healing . I’ve managed to learn a lot about myself from the men I’ve attracted in the past ❤️

    • @angelinasamson6996
      @angelinasamson6996 2 года назад

      Personally from my own perspective it also removes some of the deep unconscious fear of getting into a potential relationship

  • @indabackyardwithzoemachunga
    @indabackyardwithzoemachunga 2 года назад +7

    Thank you @Stephentalks. You talk sense. Blessings and more. I feel empowered , this is where I get my daily of surviving the dating world as a female who grew up without her father,I didn't get fathered, didn't have the best role models, this is heaven. We die here. Shout out from Jos,Nigeria .

  • @aliciachristen1682
    @aliciachristen1682 2 года назад +16

    1st and foremost, thank you for keeping it 💯‼️ and truly allowing GOD to order your steps, you are such a blessing 🙌🏾 and the greatest blessing is to BE ONE!! I so appreciate you.

  • @julanre3160
    @julanre3160 2 года назад +16

    That was really good Stephan.
    You are informative and entertaining with the humorous neuances you incorporate into your video.
    Thank you for the insights.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

    • @DouglasNollPeacemaker
      @DouglasNollPeacemaker 2 года назад

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  • @verdellbardon8984
    @verdellbardon8984 2 года назад +3

    Yeah Stephan I Agree With U 💯 % Treat People The Way U Want Too Be Treated IN The Relationship As A Couple And Be Real’Loyal’Faithful’Truthful’And Honest’Than We Won’t Have No Problems With Each Other U Will Get The Same Energy U Give Back Too U Just Be Humble And Kind Too Each Other And Keep God🙏 In The Head Of Your Life At All Times Amen 🙏 And Hallelujah 🙏

  • @faithn8598
    @faithn8598 2 года назад +7

    16:36 very good analogy “If I am getting extra paycheck and benefits and then I am not just going to work”

  • @aliciachristen1682
    @aliciachristen1682 2 года назад +5

    NOT for the faint or FAKE at heart, ALL that are truly looking for REAL....AND BEING THE RIGHT ONE rather than looking for the right one, Stephan ALWAYS KEEPS IT 💯 ‼️ so much common sense when you're seeking a healthy, thriving, DIVINE relationship. More than LISTEN, APPLY!!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

    • @aliciachristen1682
      @aliciachristen1682 2 года назад +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks My apology, typed quick (without my glasses lol) just noticed stupid auto correct made it Stephanie 😔💪🏽

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      @Alicia Christen No problem 🙂

  • @ShayCheDemure
    @ShayCheDemure 7 месяцев назад

    This is such good informative advice, I really appreciate this, a lot of the positive parts of this video I possess, some I will apply in the future… Thank You!🙏🏾❤️

  • @zenzithomas1621
    @zenzithomas1621 2 года назад +7

    This is like self care and relationship manna 🙏🏾 .

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @4FlavorsOfMeCreoleMami
    @4FlavorsOfMeCreoleMami 2 года назад +21

    Thank you for this video I am a caterer by default I do too much and its never Balanced its time to set healthier boundaries moving forward

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

    • @quin8463
      @quin8463 2 года назад +1

      I agree

    • @chantemckeithan372
      @chantemckeithan372 Год назад

      Yes me too!! I'm just a hopeless romantic person, and I just love to love and show love. I've noticed that I can pour too much of myself, and feel depleted. So now I have to balance myself so I don't feel drained.

  • @helgabebout1545
    @helgabebout1545 2 года назад +7

    Stephen I like your videos; thank you. I am speaking in generality here because young people having a hard time finding a guy who can think from their neck upward. How about the woman over 50 and 60 yrs.?? Guys in that age range are still thinking between their legs, but alot of them can not perform anymore or just a short period of time. Also, their kids are grown the wife died or he is divorced, now he becomes greedy of what can the older woman bring to the table. A lot of them have become narcissist; looking for a nurse, cook, house cleaner, and any other conveniences she can bring into the relationship. A lot of guys are short on menhood which is very sad.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад

      I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

  • @shaym.m361
    @shaym.m361 2 года назад +11

    Thank you so much Stephan, you're an awesome coach! May God bless you always.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that and may God bless you as well 🙏

  • @007amy-n1b
    @007amy-n1b 2 года назад +6

    The money situation is so true i dated a guy where after 3 weeks we were talking about kids and marriage,i remember he went from paying everything without a thought, till after an argument change our feelings towards each other about a week before we broke up he didn't even offer to pay for a soda and i thought it was so strange but our relationship ended a couple days after.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад

      I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

    • @007amy-n1b
      @007amy-n1b 2 года назад +2

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks don't worry,it was a long time ago, my pastor while ending a preaching told me God wanted to heal my heart,i was healed instantly after he prayed for me, I knew better to go out the person, i think woman need to go back to the old ways of dating where guys had have a job and visit you at your parents house so woman don't get hurt and end up baby mommas.

  • @kaboomroom33
    @kaboomroom33 2 года назад +8

    You must have heard my request, because I was just saying I needed a video on this topic. Now here it is! Thanks Stephan!! 💖

  • @sacampbr1
    @sacampbr1 2 года назад +17

    Interesting insights that I wholeheartedly agree with. I really really love the way you breakdown these tops and how you give the “do’s and don’t”. Thank you!!!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад

      Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!

    • @DouglasNollPeacemaker
      @DouglasNollPeacemaker 2 года назад

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  • @simplymarilyn5295
    @simplymarilyn5295 2 года назад +2

    Stephan when you speak, I listen! You are a Master coach & believe me because I've heard many! Many blessings to you, friend♡

  • @shericawilkinson833
    @shericawilkinson833 2 года назад +11

    Always excited to watch your videos ❤

  • @leonaldn
    @leonaldn 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you for your guidance Stephan, it's much appreciated 🙏🏽

  • @paulettestokes1727
    @paulettestokes1727 2 года назад +7

    Great genuine simple easy to understand advice, Thank you

  • @collettemaddox1779
    @collettemaddox1779 Год назад

    I’m learning so much about dating I haven’t dated in 43 years and love listening to u

  • @virginiamarie2811
    @virginiamarie2811 2 года назад +5

    I just want to thank you for your wisdom king! I've been in a number of situationships and I did make my share of choices but I also know I put all of me in them (no money tho) but I'm also a special needs mother and I have had the same energy in my friendships but I know love is just a petal of the lotus of my life and I know when someone's trying me but I did hold on to some people that I should have never grabbed (choices based on my temporary emotions). Now I love hearing you confirm what I'm willing to accept. Thank you so much, sending good vibes!!! ❤️❤️❤️ 👑👑👑

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @dinahdisque
    @dinahdisque Год назад

    I started to offer/share/pay date after 7 months of dating and my man still didn’t want me to pay but I insisted at this time because I felt that we already built a strong foundation. I want him to feel I am a team player and not for a free ride. I asked him later on what was his perception about me contributing with our dates and he told me that it wasn’t necessary but there was a place for it. He said that my action, it shows sincerity.

  • @rosbirodas1
    @rosbirodas1 2 года назад +13

    Once again, thank you so much for being so honest in your videos. I am learning a lot from you. Blessings to you always. XOXO

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 года назад +1

      ❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

  • @susanlindsay7970
    @susanlindsay7970 Год назад +1

    You are talking about being transparent. Many people don't think of or realize the importance of receiving and reacting to that transparency with understanding and not judgment. If you react adversely, you will stop the transparency immediately.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

  • @merlion6613
    @merlion6613 Год назад +5

    Rule number one is so true. I have given so much money to losers. I felt guilty not to give it to them because I was always the more successful party who was able to do so. None of them was serious about me, and vice versa. I need to learn how to stop feeling guilty by saying no.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Год назад

      🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.

  • @doty-doe1875
    @doty-doe1875 Год назад +1

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  • @TheAttractionTriggers
    @TheAttractionTriggers Год назад +3

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