Love how you are giving advice based around God's principles. God give instructions in the Bible how women and men are to treat one another in a relationship(marriage) because the goal should always be to date with a purpose..which is marriage to ensure you are obedient to God's laws..because let's be honest you can't expect God to bless a union between any man and woman if they choose to engage in a union without following God's laws(example: engaging in dating while also fornicating without true repentance). God states his people perish from a lack of knowledge..and some women and men allow the perspective of the "world" to define their definition of how to treat their partner. The Bible states the man is head and the stronger vessel and a man who submit himself to God should not have any issues with a woman of God submitting to him! This is the order that God speaks of in the Bible.
"The issue is not about submission, it's about trusting a man to lead" YES! If you show me you can't be a provider and protector... My spirit will NOT allow me to be submissive to that individual, even if I want to. If the man is a natural provider, it flows with ease.
I don´t need my man to "take care of me" or "take the lead"! I am not a child, I am a grown woman who can take care of herself, I have overcome many, many struggles totally by myself throughout my life so far. My man is supportive by being by my side, loving me as I am. He has never made the impression or said that he wanted "to take the lead" in our relationship, and that does not make him weak in any way. And if he did, he wouldn't be a partner to me. He is he, I am I and we love each other for it, eye to eye and in mutual respect. And that is exactly what makes it a loving relationship!
@@flippingholder Of course each relationship is an individual one and different from the next. But whatever makes you say that "the rule" is what is described here as submission vs. leading? I strongly doubt that, what that means and describes is simply the antiquated societal model called patriarchy.
As a woman who does not mind being submissive, i choose to be single because being submissive to the wrong man has deeply wounded me! I am now afraid to be that vulnerable again
Hi there. I totally understand. But fear keeps us away from progression. A greater love in your case. Take some time to really work on your healing, through counseling. And after that start dating with a new perspective. Don't give the past the honor to keep you from the blessing. You're are a very strong woman. Applause 👏
The key is… IF the man is emotionally available and ready to allow you into his world, then these attributes are necessary. I’ve done all of these things because they are part of who I am as a woman. It’s what draws men in, however, only a quality man can accept and embrace them. ❤
2 Corinthians 6:14 “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”
I honestly believe women have these traits built in, however the lack of genuine men has resulted in the woman having to be the man in her own life. It is therefore difficult for her to release & relax unfortunately....a man will have to prove himself consistently
Absolutely agree. That genuine man needs to also be reliable, smart, capable. I don't see how else I could trust my life with a man if I feel I'd take better decisions than him most of the time, or if I do a lot more than him.
I was told on a job interview that my aura was coming through the screen. I got hired on the spot. Women be yourself and keep your energy positive- don’t try to change yourself so other people can accept you.
I love a woman who is sweet,kind,loving,and knows the live of Christ.Has a repentant spirit.Open to knowledge of Scripture.Someone who wants to grow.Only a humble heart can do that.
When you're with a good man that you're crazy about, it's effortless to be submissive to him. And that goes for even the strongest and most independent of women...
If you want to define it in this way, then he surrenders to me too. Then we do not need "a woman to surrender" to "a man who takes the lead", (which is what is being said in the above post), but both need to surrender to each other equally.
Words of Wisdom: WATCH YOUR THOUGHTS, THEY BECOME WORDS, WATCH YOUR WORDS, THEY BECOME YOUR ACTION, WATCH YOUR ACTIONS, THEY BECOME YOUR HABITS, WATCH YOUR HABITS, THEY BECOME YOUR CHARACTER, WATCH YOUR CHARACTER, FOR IT BECOMES YOUR DESTINY.
📝1.Be Expressive- communicate how you feel and want. 2.Willing to show(express) desire- accommodating / men want to feel wanted and desired.. 3.Being open minded and not judgmental. 4.Being submissive 5.Being Grateful and Appreciative down to earth (freeflowing, happy, laid back) and not entitled , / appreciate the choices a person makes to do right by you, No one owes you .. Welcome and celebrate the nice things. 6. Knowing and loving self- Being Secure 7.emotional intelligent,. In tune (aware) with emotions to control it.
@@aleayh OMG ! seriously !!! I can't STAND when people talk sooooo much during videos.. I'm like just get to the muthaf!@#%^ point already DAMN !!!!! I be trying to skip skip skip uuggghhhhh !!! So glad u pointed this out !
It took years of revising myself to be able to sit in my feminine energy. Honestly everything in my life got so much better and so much easier. What I really had to master was my tone, my speaking rhythm and the words I speak. Additionally I learned to listen to understand. In my relationship I am grateful for every single thing my man does for me and I tell him all the time. Once I understood that him taking my car for an oil change and wash to buying me flowers all the time (flowers are one of my very most favorite things) was him showing me he loves me. He does it in a million tiny ways. I always want to be an asset to him.
One thing that makes me feel feminine that wasn't listed here is a tidy home when my home is clean and organized, it makes feel more feminine.it also makes my home more inviting.
Yes indeed! I love making my home feel and look like a royal palace in my own way with warmth and inviting love in. I’m very particular about who I let walk through the door though. 💕💕
Indeed, my home is a core element/layer to my self-being. Clean, organized, and inviting. Positive energy flows. I love my feminized nurturing, sensuality, compassion, I know and feel empowered. If a man does not recognize my value and worth as a female, right away I know.
If you are having trouble submitting, you are probably NOT with the right man. You will naturally submit to the right man and he will be bringing masculine energy. I've been made a believer!!
Yes, 1 million times! “When a woman feels comfortable and safe in a relationship, it’s easier for her to open up … whether it be sexually or in other ways … “ Yes.
So true what you’re saying, I had a man that said I talk too much… But all I wanted to do was expressing myself in my heart So I realise he wasn’t the one for me but now I’m in a relationship where we talk for hours and he tells me he loves talking to me, You see the difference🤷🏾♀️ I thank God for him for his presence in my life he is a dream come true…
U hit the nail on the head. I was in a marriage for 16 years that blocked my feminine energy. I decided after that to work on myself and slowly release the masculine and embrace the feminine parts of me.
Yes most women have been placed in that masculine whether from the beginning or somewhere in between when they hit whatever issue they have smh....then they call us masculine and we don't even want to be but we have to especially when we have children we have no choice but to get it done 🤷🏽♀️ I hated it point blank period, I just started to pretend like my feelings weren't hurt acting like I wanted to be that strong smh....
We are ALL Ying&Yang. We ALL posse masculine and feminine energy, Light and Dark energy,..etc. No one “gets” rid of ANYTHING that is YOU. Learning how to BALANCE ourselves, being AWARE, having DISCERNMENT and understanding when to use or Whats. I see many comments when it comes to submissiveness, abt women being “more” feminine, “more” small & quiet, less emotional. The idea that women need to lose, let go, or step out of their masculinity is ridiculous. I also don’t like how men(this guy included) will equate being disagreeable w/old hurt or unhealed wounds. It’s never that she may have a legit reason or that it’s possible he IS CONTROLLING. They never suggest to look out for signs
This is one reason why I asked for a divorce. Of course he's refusing to give it to me but refuses to show any concern or care for me still, it's been 9 months of separation and I am just so ready for my true divine Masculine to show up.
OMG, when he said "Submit to be free" that hit me to the core. That is so right! I always said that I wanted to step back and let him lead and I will be free! Now I'm my husband's responsibility and I'm happy to submit and know I'm safe!💙
I'm so happy I finally understand this! It comes so natural to submit to the right man. I think a lot of women, including myself, struggle with the idea of submission because toxic men try to dominate us. There are women and men who believe submission means that you should be broken down when it couldn't be further from the truth. Thank you Jesus that I finally have the peace and joy that comes with being able to trust a man leading me who's led by God.
I had to develop my masculine side to protect myself from being hurt. Feminity sometimes is taken as weakness... I'll try to learn something from this video... Thanks, Stephan!
I struggled with the same. I recently realized it, I am working on it, doing things I truly enjoy is one, and letting go of “resisting the moment”, those times of disagreement.
I’m in an 18 year marriage. When I was 30 I asked my aunt who’s been married for 40 years what’s the secret to a long successful marriage. She told me straight up that you have to learn how to submit. At the time I was appalled! I had too much pride and considered myself somewhat of a feminist. I am 40 now and I understand this with so much clarity now.
Submission, it's possible..if I feel safe, loved and appreciated.. the problem isn't always women not being submissive it is men taking advantage of that submissiveness.. that's part of why being the right man for that woman is so important
@@kimmieztreasure yes 💯 agree! We (men and women) shouldn’t give that privilege to anyone that isn’t deserving of it. Being submissive when it’s needed is out of showing love and respect. Not out of fear. ❤️
"too much pride and considered myself somewhat of a feminist"- as if being a feminist was some kind of flaw, how ridiculous! If being a feminist is a hindrance to a happy and longterm relationship with a man, then that is definitely a very weird and dodgy man! And real men are feminists, too, did you know? ;) Because feminism means believing in equality between the sexes. And why "too much pride"? Why should you not have pride in yourself, as a woman/wife?!
@@annieamydavies5190 this style dynamic isn’t for everyone. Period. Just like with pretty much everything in life. If whatever you’re doing works for your relationship then why waste your time on a thread and a video that doesn’t serve you? Just keep it moving. Let people who are seeking other options to help them figure life out by offering some insight on what has worked for them/others. 😊✌🏼
This’s true. My brother been married to his wife for 20yrs, and it was because of how much she showed him that she wanted him. He had so many options, but she stood out because of that. They got married in their 20s and they’re truly soulmates.
Showing each other appreciation in a relationship is key. That way each person feels valued and as a result able to be both vulnerable and bring their best self to the relationship.
I am a strong female and can and have made it on my own. I agree with this information. I crave a healthy relationship with a strong man that is capable of leading so I can gladly step aside, submit and follow his lead. 💯
The subject of submission or trusting a man "being VULNERABLE" to lead is not that of dating, this is for committed relationships. For a women to be fully submissive/vulnerable to a man is not something that is entrusted to a man that you're "dating". Women submit to a man who has a "mission" to be in a committed relationship with her as her husband, provider, protector and father of their children.
I love Stephan’s advice. He never generalizes and understands there’s differences. It’s always about being true to yourself and others. There’s no games or drama with any of his advice
I feel the exact same way. My mother was also a wife to my father, and knew her many extraordinary traits was the importance of maintaining a tidy clean home and she first instilled that through maintaining the significance of the simple act of making our beds up every morning because it would start our day off with a positive mindset. She was 100 percent right!! May she rest in peace 🙏🏾
Being submissive can even make him be submissive as well, because he's not seeing you as threatening so he can be more open and soft with you as well when you show submissiveness to him.
Your articulation! Your examples! Your explanations! Your elaboration! Your vice versas! Your passion! Your consistent and informative content makes me feel prepared for this exam called relationship 😂 Thank You Stephan 😄 we appreciate you!
Being submissive to the right man who is not going to abuse her being submissive is a beautiful thing. After 15 years of being single, I believe God has blessed me with the man He has for me. God and your videos have confirmed this. 🙏
Hello Stephan, great content. A lot of women have an issue with submission. But you are not to submit to just any man, only the man who loves you to your core and has your best interest at heart. He loves you past your outer appearance (but remember you have to love yourself first doing your best to take care of you - mind, body and spirit), but he loves the very essence of you. When you love yourself in healthy way, you are not afraid to walk in your femininity because you know that this too is part of your strength. So reign Queens don't be afraid!
Sometimes our communication isn’t very feminine.. so the way we communicate and express our feelings is important! I have an amazing man I can see being my life partner and I made so many mistakes because of my own trauma! Im learning to love correctly so I can stay in this beautiful love that I have 🥺🙌🏽❤️
I just realized I have always had these traits, even more now than before. I’ve been single my whole life. I realized I was pursuing the wrong guys so I stopped and started to focus on myself and my personal relationship with God. When he mentioned that the problem isn’t expressing yourself it’s about who you express yourself to, it hit home. I realized that the guys I pursued didn’t care about the feminine energy I possessed. None of them took me seriously. They turned out to be a different person than what they initially portrayed.
Thank you Stephan for your insight and educating us. I feel for myself as a women I lost the feminine part of myself along the way. Trauma, hurt, isolation, feeling alone, abandoned. Thank you for giving us this masculine understanding in a way that we can receive it. It takes a while, for me at least, to undo all the layers that had stored up, that I didn’t even know were there, to receive a message like this, but I’m grateful to God that He continues to work on me and has opened me up to receive this, to better myself and my relationship. 🙏🏽
I just love this man! I’ve been following him for years. He have woke me to so many red flags, and saved me a few toxic relationships. Now guys can’t get anything past me lol
You are 100% correct that submission has a level of freedom and safety attached to it. I have absolutely no problem with submitting to my man as he submits to Christ. The key point that you made that many miss is the fact that the man has to make a woman feel safe and secure. A woman who is safe with her man has no problem trusting him to lead as he is led by Christ. Men have to ensure they are making feel safe and also to never abuse this gift of submission.
Spirit of Discernment there is two Spirit in this world, the Spirit of Truth and the Spirit of Error you will know the difference between them by the fruits of the tree. Let them that has spirit ears hear and understand what the Spirit has said. In Jesus' name Amen.
Amen, sister. As he submits to Christ everything he will ask of a woman will benefit, helps and heals the woman and the relationship. We do not have any problem submitting to that.
It’s also how you express yourself ladies. You can be very expressive but it can come out in anger, resentment, hurt and frustration. It’s good to process our feelings before we communicate so that the other person.
I agree! And speaking about it in person not a text is best way to approach it. Calm collected and not putting blame and judgment. I'm guilty of being a bad communicator or masculine when I'd speak up. Just sharing tips that help me too
I was raised by a woman with little or none feminine energy and I have learned that at least this man I don't care if I have to provide because I can and the conflict between having feminine energy and masculine energy within me has caused many problems so if you have most masculine energy within yourself being a woman who is able and willing to provide and be there for your man then there should be no problem with that just do it. I want to provide and protect this man because he makes me happy and he loves me so I will do it and no one will tell me that I can't because I'm a woman.
i applaud you standing in yourself confidently!! just make sure he’s spoiling you and caring about you right back💗you deserve to rest in your femininity sometimes
Absolutely agreed we also have to let them do what they need to do so they don’t lose the feeling of being a man.. I too have masculine energy but I have feminine also. And all it does makes them lazy so when I ask for small things it’s a big thing for them. That’s because I always make it happen to make him happy. We can’t forget our happiness..
This is Golden. I know there’s parts of me that need healing… I used to be so loving and feminine. Don’t get me wrong I still am but I know I hold back and it all comes from not being/feeling confident in myself. This was what I needed to hear!
I am an affectionate woman physically and verbally but low energy guys make me less expressive. I get bored easily if there is less communication or low emotional connection. Thank you for this video, I am going to practise what you mentioned and be more tolerant.
I am the same way but when I asked God to show me how to love him them things changed and now we are the best of friends or his assignment in my life is up and I’m able to embrace healthy and emotional available men!
@@angelsmile9789 ,I am glad you can relate . That makes me feel better and not think I am weird . I need to pray too because I find it difficult to connect to people with low vibes.
@@juusgee6658 I can identify with how you are wired. You are in touch with yourself and wise! It’s not tolerance you need it’s someone that will match your energy. I just got out of a situation like this. I needed to read your testimony to be able to pinpoint what was happening in mine! He’s good that way! 🙏🏽 God heal our men.. we need them!
Im not competing with other females for a man. I want a man who sees me and know how he wants to get to know me and pursue me.. I'm a high quality woman, and i want a king who is looking for real love, partnership, commitment, loyalty, purpose, growth, and destiny with his queen. No games, competing, shallowness, and pretense. No outlandish standards, just being human, open, and honest...doing the work together to build up love and empire together. I am the choice, not an option.
OMG! THANK YOU for talking about the submission part! I've always gotten frustrated with how people don't understand God's intention with submission. Men weren't given POWER, they were given a divine RESPONSIBILITY!
This is true....I have been attracting some awesome men and great opportunities because I am carrying myself well with a grateful spirit and a healthy dose of confidence.✔
submission is for both men and women. Most women including myself have issues with submitting to weak men( have no sense of direction or make decisions) There’s no way women should submit to an abusive or narcissistic male either. We want men who have a real relationship with God first knowing and understanding that submission works both ways. Trust and submission work together
I’ve been trapped into my masculine energy for many years, .To be vulnerable isn’t a weakness . Set healthy boundaries with it It’s usually fear that keeps us trapped in the masculine energy .. we just have to allow and submit the the universe to bring us what we need to help is become the best versions of ourselves, just allow and don’t fear being let down because you know full well that you are able to cope on your own if needed , every connection shows us something about ourselves ❤️🙏
Words of Wisdom: A submission is a place of stance in a healthy relationship with God, Man, and a Woman this stance allows things to flow as God designed an extraordinary relationship to operate. Thank you, Stephan
Communication is vitally important before sexual involvement. One has to feel comfortable with one's own body and sexuality to be free to love and enjoy each other...lol. The body is the temple of the Divine. We're both submissive to each other, and submissive to God. It is the most liberating and powerful feeling. God bless you Stephan! Your coaching skills are awesome!🙏🏿
It’s important to note that a lot of these are not gonna happen if the man you are with is not emotionally safe or able to have serious/difficult conversations
Sounds like you gained mental strength which is not a masculine only trait. You can be extremely feminine and be mentally strong. It's all feminine and it's all beautiful.
I been with my husband for 28 years and married for 20. In the beginning we laughed, talked and I done everything I thought I knew to be a good woman to a man. I did things I saw my grandparents/ and aunts do. I kept ( keep) a clean house, I’ve been respectful, cooked, etc but I started changing after he cheated on me and yes I stayed and tried to forgive but after losing the trust things never been the same cause I couldn’t love him and show him that same love as before and we’re still together but things are very shaky. In my mind I don’t want to start over with someone new and I love him but he doesn’t want to talk about important things like how I feel about certain things, he gets mad about things that normal people wouldn’t get mad about and at this point I’m a step away from leaving cause I can’t communicate with him without an argument
He’s a narcissist. And you’re feeding into it. I have been there. It is so hard to leave someone you still feel love for. You’re the only one who knows when it’s time to leave. I wish you all the best and I’m so sorry for how awful your being treated by a hard hearted man.
Being subbmissve: i understand and except it. I used to be a cnc machinist and I've learned that exact size doesn't not fit into an exact size, meaning a 2 inch pipe will not fit in a 2 inch pipe, one has to be either bigger or small to work; I use this in excepting male and female companionships and not taking it as a weaker sex.
Stephan, thank you so much for taking the time to educate us. You are creating generational wealth in relationships, you're keeping families together, you are causing children to grow up in two parent homes. You are worth more than you know. I'm going to support you monthly. I'm purchasing some of your products right now. Again Thank you
Yes, #3!!! I get kick-back from women about this, but men who truly want a good relationship with a good woman, understand, respect and will even reciprocate the submissiveness!!! It does allow us as women, to walk more in our femininity. I’m so glad that you addressed this!!!!
In regards to submission I have always emphasized the importance of understanding the difference in submission and Subjection 💁🏼♀️ Basically one is giving in; permission... The later is a force of action
Omg thank you so much 💕💕 as a widowed mother of a son , I have been compensating trying to be both mom and dad and I’ve been so clued into my masculin a lot of my feminine has gone to the way side , I so appreciate all your videos about polarity and masculinity and femininity. I’ve started tuneing into my feminine and i’m feeling so amazing and remind me of how I was when my husband fell in love with me , how I used to be . I never of course realized that at the time when we fell in love I was just being me in my feminine state
You're spot on about submission; it comes very naturally to feminine women when in the presence of masculine men. The problem is that very few men today are actually masculine (in the UK, at any rate).
A woman can express her desire towards a man, however the man might not be the right man so does not know how to accept the woman for who she is. Happened to me where I showed him so much desire and he left me frustrated as he struggled to communicate and express desire towards me. I had to end the relationship, for my state of mind. he was too rigid for me. Love this video Stephan, you always speak to me.
Stephan, can you do more videos for men to understand their role in relationships? There are a lot of healthy women, myself included, who are looking for healthy kings who are not afraid to be God-fearing, masculine, loving, fearless and strong men.
Very good idea. It's a lot of us single women out here but the dating pool is just ehh ugh... I agree with you and thank you for suggesting this to him.
I have so much masculine energy from my mom , I had so much masculine energy in my relationship, I got dumped. I’m now learning to walk in my feminine energy slowly. I don’t want to be hard and tough
Oh my Lord! I am this woman. I have no problems with telling a man the truth, giving him his manhood allowing his lead, I submit and Love really hard. I know what I bring to the table❤
Man I am SO glad that I already do all of these things. I normally get anxiety thinking I’m talking to much because I express myself so well. Knowing it doesn’t bother the right man makes me feel a thousand times better
Same, l do express myself too, lve got anxiety that lm too much, or my expressing pushing them away. All because of past experiences with men, first one being my father. Theres a man l'm growing in friendship with that loves our conversations and my expressions, l also find it easy to share my feelings with him. He doesnt try to rescue or fix me, he stays present & caring. Im taking my time getting to know men, and feeling, sensing & intuiting my way through. Ive been celibate for quite a few years as l can only be with someone who is taking responsibility for their shadow work & is spiritually inclined. 💖
I've been married 20 years and I believe alot of that has to do with me being a submissive personality. I actually gravitate to dominant strong men.. When I encounter dominant men who are able to lead, submitting to him is as easy for me as breathing. Keep in mind, I'm not like this with every man but when I encounter one, it gives me a level of freedom unlike anything I've experienced.
Exchange of power is a beautiful thing! You re very lucky to find someone compatible enough and aware enough to reach this with… i feel like its so hard to find that in today’s society 😔 😢
Emotionally intelligent? That’s a good one! I’ve learned over the years to not feed into anyone’s negativity because it does me no good! That’s why my relationship work with my fiancé. I look at positive things and attributes in him and I’ve known him to be an outstanding man! God thank you! You blessed US! 💙💙
I'm the conservative girl in example number two, really hard for me to express desire because I'm uncomfortable appearing "thirsty" or putting myself out there when his desire for me might not be the same. This video was very good and showed me a mirror of myself as to why I am single. I fail at sustaining almost all of these consistently, I have so very much healing to do...
Stephan, I 100% confirm what you said about expressing your desire towards a man. I met someone in a work environment which will have us working together for only a few months. I knew he was interested the first time we met. Every time I saw him I could tell he was really happy to see me but I did not really let myself think about it too much. One day I saw him outside of work. It was brief but he gave me the sweetest compliment. I wrote a note to him - just something simple- just to say how much I appreciated how kind he always was. That moved things forward so quickly. He was so happy I had done that and I am as well because I needed him to know I was digging him too.
I agree with you Stephan. Basically what he’s saying is to not build souls ties with men who don’t plan to commit to you and only you and make you feel secure. If you commit to your equally yoke partner, submission is easy and everything flows as it should. Even the misunderstandings get sorted like adults should. I am naturally submissive but not always when it comes to intimacy. That’s too predictable and no fun. I love it when my man lets me take control so I can show his body some TLC, and touch him in all the places that gives him butterflies too. My man has to feel like he makes me feel because it’s an us thing not just a how I feel thing.
I have learned a lot about controlling my emotions at a certain extent...this channel has taught me a lot about relationships...and so on and how men and women can compliment each other in a healthy relationship!
I really needed to hear this right now because I continue to struggle with using my feminine energy but I’m getting better. Thank you very much for your great advise 😊🙏🏽
I’m grateful for this video. During my marriage in my 20s… I did none of these tips and I see exactly why my marriage did not flourish. Now as a emotionally healthy young woman I am listening and understand more how to love a man. And most importantly love myself. Thank you for this video
I’ve blocked him and I thought that was a lesson enough to not play with me bc I don’t fear being alone but I enjoy it. He shouldn’t treat me less than
I keep a lot of the thoughts I have about a man being sexy or me wanting him in whatever way inside my head. I’m open sexually and I tend to feel like I show my desire through sex, but without words. This is a good reminder to be thinking about using my words and paying attention to the way he’s going to be able to hear me “say” I desire him.
This is such a beautiful video. I definitely appreciate this 🔥🔥 I am a divine feminine energy coach and I always like coach this from the perception of releasing the need to be in control and of society’s standards because we are so much encouraged to be “strong independent woman” therefore it’s odd for woman to submit. Especially when majority of children are raised by single mothers who were heavily in their masculine energy to survive. It’s a vicious cycle. Until woman make the conscious decision to fully embrace all areas of divine feminine energy we will continue to attract men who are not in their divine masculine energy.
Well received and much needed. For me this also taps into expectations of a person. We do expect people to know certain things but you have enlightened us on how and why men think much differently than we do. You are always on point, we need the encouragement.
I believe a man or woman should in loving and passionate way find out what each other's wants. Give space and pray for each other, we need it so necessary. This world is full of negativity, peace should be our goal, have understanding.
Our women's bible study explains it as women respecting the man and the man loving the woman. Men crave respect and women crave love. Rather than calling it submission, we call it respect, which often means stepping back, remaining silent for a moment, considering the situation, and giving him the chance to see how, as a woman, you are willing to not be immediately confrontive, but to take a moment to reflect, rather than negatively react. This gives the man a chance to see that you are respecting him, not challenging him, and allows him the space to love you, and to see how you are allowing him to think, and consider his own stance, and to perhaps approach you with love and gratefulness.
@ 8min that's something I've learned over the last few years, I used to think that be taking out my time, replying when you text, spending time when I'm busy.. All that was me showing you that I liked you. But the message was rarely received. These days it seems like an actual conversation is needed, I feel like you have to literally come out and say, "I'm feeling you, I like you and I'm wonderin if the feeling is mutual so I can stay aware of where I stand".. something along those lines - anyone else feel the same?
Cause I'm not drama and I DO SEE men go for the crazy one, it's always mind boggling.. but perhaps good communication could show your level of desire? Like.. I'll have a presense, but I'm not going to drama out all the time.. throwing fits like a five year old. That's always been confusing, so interesting you touched on that.
This all is so true. I literally do all of these things & my man & me have a very healthy relationship. We are so in love and appreciate one another & we let each other know that all the time. Best relationship we both ever been in. He’s my soulmate for sure!!! God made him just for me… I had to heal to attract this type of love & so did he so women/men please heal first and everything will fall into place & you won’t doubt a thing….💯🤞🏾💘💍
I don’t usually comment on these type of discussions but I was asked to leave a comment. These traits are beneficial in a healthy committed relationship that involves one Man and One Woman only not to a man that puts you on a list of options . For me, submission is trusting the man to lead but it includes your opinion too not control over you. Additionally, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may think that male or female is ugly but someone else may think you are ugly too. That person may have other beautiful qualities that don’t involve superficial features. Furthermore, cheating will never be the root cause of the issues in a relationship. I have cheated and I have been cheated on.
I do think that cheating is a red flag in and of itself. Some people just are not monogamous. They think that being faithful for 10 years out of a 15 year marriage is "basically monogamous," since they were faithful for 10 full years. Whereas others think that either a person is faithful 100% of the time (monomgamous), or he's not. Cheating is not always a symptom of something else in the relationship; cheaters are often serial cheaters in multiple relationships. No matter what the other person did, it did not make you cheat. Cheating is a choice.
Being submissive made me wealthy…… im about that life… y’all ladies better learn this it’s very powerful. It gives a man much peace. He will reward you in thousands of way one way is he will treat you like absolute Royalty
I agree but only if the man appreciates and adores it. I know a lady who is still submissive to the man but the man takes her for granted for it. Recently the guy gave her a knock on the head because she didn't look at the side mirror while reversing the car. Mind you this lady has been driving for over 10yrs with no accident. For the first time, she responded by knocking him back. Submitting as a woman is good but when received by a good man, it's heaven, like yours.
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It takes not only to be aware, but also to be able to handle your emotions while being inside a whole turmoil of them. Oof, hard as heck when you're a very sensitive and emotional person, stressed and with PMS😂. Got to be always willing to think things through and never make a decision while being hot headed. This was a good video👌🏼
Thank you, thank you, thank you for these reminders. On dates I'm positive & outgoing, am feminine, dress in colors, & submissive because I'm confident, give compliments (men like it when you tell them they look great or open the door or smell good or give some knowledge to help you). As I'm working on my femininity also working (not waiting on him) on my kingdom as a Queen so when my King comes. You're videos are helpful & what matters is applying them (practice). 😊
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I Thank God for all your inside point that helps alot of women God Bless you
Love how you are giving advice based around God's principles. God give instructions in the Bible how women and men are to treat one another in a relationship(marriage) because the goal should always be to date with a purpose..which is marriage to ensure you are obedient to God's laws..because let's be honest you can't expect God to bless a union between any man and woman if they choose to engage in a union without following God's laws(example: engaging in dating while also fornicating without true repentance). God states his people perish from a lack of knowledge..and some women and men allow the perspective of the "world" to define their definition of how to treat their partner. The Bible states the man is head and the stronger vessel and a man who submit himself to God should not have any issues with a woman of God submitting to him! This is the order that God speaks of in the Bible.
Women need to hear a man's point of view as it pertains to relationships
@@loisminnis1321 Absolutely!
There's power in submission. I wish more women understood that. However it only works with a man that makes you feel secure in that way.
Most definitely!
Agreed 👏🏾
That's the truth
Exactly 💯
‘Yes’ it is. Submission is that divine grace of an authentic ‘woman’
"The issue is not about submission, it's about trusting a man to lead" YES! If you show me you can't be a provider and protector... My spirit will NOT allow me to be submissive to that individual, even if I want to. If the man is a natural provider, it flows with ease.
Exactly 💯
Well said !
Spot on
Exactly! Even many men who think they follow God CLEARLY DO NOT! By their fruits ye shall know them, for sure.
Due to hypergamy why wouldn't you let him lead?
Submission is about trusting him to take the lead and take care of you. Don't submit to weak men, they'll lead you astray.
Men who take care of his needs, not you taking care of him....that's a Good piont, any woman would submit to a man who cares.
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I don´t need my man to "take care of me" or "take the lead"! I am not a child, I am a grown woman who can take care of herself, I have overcome many, many struggles totally by myself throughout my life so far. My man is supportive by being by my side, loving me as I am. He has never made the impression or said that he wanted "to take the lead" in our relationship, and that does not make him weak in any way. And if he did, he wouldn't be a partner to me. He is he, I am I and we love each other for it, eye to eye and in mutual respect. And that is exactly what makes it a loving relationship!
@@annieamydavies5190 there is an exception to every rule. If that works for you guys it works, but it doesn't work for everyone.
@@flippingholder Of course each relationship is an individual one and different from the next. But whatever makes you say that "the rule" is what is described here as submission vs. leading? I strongly doubt that, what that means and describes is simply the antiquated societal model called patriarchy.
So true "do not submit to a man that is not submitted to God" big big point Stephan🙏🙏
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤
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@Camille Absolutely true! Best friend and I just had this conversation today. Submission is coming under the vision that God gave him!!
Amen
@Camille.Sutton..yes!!!
As a woman who does not mind being submissive, i choose to be single because being submissive to the wrong man has deeply wounded me! I am now afraid to be that vulnerable again
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
I’m with you it really feels so bad!
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Hi there. I totally understand. But fear keeps us away from progression. A greater love in your case. Take some time to really work on your healing, through counseling. And after that start dating with a new perspective.
Don't give the past the honor to keep you from the blessing.
You're are a very strong woman. Applause 👏
Yes!!!
The key is… IF the man is emotionally available and ready to allow you into his world, then these attributes are necessary. I’ve done all of these things because they are part of who I am as a woman. It’s what draws men in, however, only a quality man can accept and embrace them. ❤
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
How did you do that?
That's it!!!
mic drop🗣... turn off the comments because no others are needed🤷♀
That's what I'm sayin.!
Whatever you want in your partner, make sure it exists in you. Relationship goals ♥️
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
I’m loyal AF, so triggered when she texts kisses to another man…”guy mate”
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2 Corinthians 6:14
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”
@@humanengineer812 did you tell her? If you have and she still does it, it's time to move on. Healthy relationships have healthy boundaries.
I honestly believe women have these traits built in, however the lack of genuine men has resulted in the woman having to be the man in her own life. It is therefore difficult for her to release & relax unfortunately....a man will have to prove himself consistently
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Absolutely agree. That genuine man needs to also be reliable, smart, capable. I don't see how else I could trust my life with a man if I feel I'd take better decisions than him most of the time, or if I do a lot more than him.
💯 exactly
That’s real talk Queen!!!🙏🏽❤️🖤💚
That is why healing our trauma is so important before getting into relationships.
I was told on a job interview that my aura was coming through the screen. I got hired on the spot. Women be yourself and keep your energy positive- don’t try to change yourself so other people can accept you.
I love this❤
I'll remember this!
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I love a woman who is sweet,kind,loving,and knows the live of Christ.Has a repentant spirit.Open to knowledge of Scripture.Someone who wants to grow.Only a humble heart can do that.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤
Amen to that!
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So true. There is no grace in a ‘woman’ trying to put forth masculinity through a feminine spirit.
Amen.may God give me a teachable and repentant spirit
When you're with a good man that you're crazy about, it's effortless to be submissive to him. And that goes for even the strongest and most independent of women...
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Facts 💯💯
True
Yes yes...
completely agreed, i’m very strict and hard cut at work but when i’m with my boyfriend he can say anything it’ll be fine with me
To me "submissive" means to surrender to a loving man I trust, love each other and makes me feel respected, cherished and safe.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
If you want to define it in this way, then he surrenders to me too. Then we do not need "a woman to surrender" to "a man who takes the lead", (which is what is being said in the above post), but both need to surrender to each other equally.
@@annieamydavies5190 Okay, Karen.
@@fructosecornsyrup5759 You're very welcome. Do have any convincing arguments of your own, or is it just going to be the "Karen" remark? 😉🤗
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My all time favorite saying.
You couldn't have said it better
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📝1.Be Expressive- communicate how you feel and want.
2.Willing to show(express) desire- accommodating / men want to feel wanted and desired..
3.Being open minded and not judgmental.
4.Being submissive
5.Being Grateful and Appreciative down to earth (freeflowing, happy, laid back) and not entitled , / appreciate the choices a person makes to do right by you, No one owes you .. Welcome and celebrate the nice things.
6. Knowing and loving self- Being Secure
7.emotional intelligent,. In tune (aware) with emotions to control it.
Thanks because this guy talk too much .
@@aleayh OMG ! seriously !!! I can't STAND when people talk sooooo much during videos.. I'm like just get to the muthaf!@#%^ point already DAMN !!!!! I be trying to skip skip skip uuggghhhhh !!! So glad u pointed this out !
@@mzt7002 I skimmed through all of his videos they all like 30 to 35 minutes to an hour or two long just to make one or two points that’s too much 🙄
Love you for this! Thanks
@@aleayh lol. I know..I go straight to the comments. Length is money on RUclips though
It took years of revising myself to be able to sit in my feminine energy. Honestly everything in my life got so much better and so much easier. What I really had to master was my tone, my speaking rhythm and the words I speak. Additionally I learned to listen to understand. In my relationship I am grateful for every single thing my man does for me and I tell him all the time. Once I understood that him taking my car for an oil change and wash to buying me flowers all the time (flowers are one of my very most favorite things) was him showing me he loves me. He does it in a million tiny ways. I always want to be an asset to him.
Wowwww
One thing that makes me feel feminine that wasn't listed here is a tidy home when my home is clean and organized, it makes feel more feminine.it also makes my home more inviting.
Sandra Green, same here. I think I have a little OCD😂😂.
Yes indeed! I love making my home feel and look like a royal palace in my own way with warmth and inviting love in. I’m very particular about who I let walk through the door though. 💕💕
People love being in my house till they'd not wanna leave and I didn't even own a TV lol and am a minimalist as well. But I like a cozy open space.
Same for me!
Indeed, my home is a core element/layer to my self-being. Clean, organized, and inviting. Positive energy flows. I love my feminized nurturing, sensuality, compassion, I know and feel empowered. If a man does not recognize my value and worth as a female, right away I know.
If you are having trouble submitting, you are probably NOT with the right man. You will naturally submit to the right man and he will be bringing masculine energy. I've been made a believer!!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
This comment is EVERYTHING!
Facts!
We are not taking about submitting in a sexual way now 🙄
LOVE IT!!
Yes, 1 million times! “When a woman feels comfortable and safe in a relationship, it’s easier for her to open up … whether it be sexually or in other ways … “ Yes.
You're absolutely right!
Absolutely ❤
True
So true what you’re saying, I had a man that said I talk too much… But all I wanted to do was expressing myself in my heart So I realise he wasn’t the one for me but now I’m in a relationship where we talk for hours and he tells me he loves talking to me, You see the difference🤷🏾♀️ I thank God for him for his presence in my life he is a dream come true…
U hit the nail on the head. I was in a marriage for 16 years that blocked my feminine energy. I decided after that to work on myself and slowly release the masculine and embrace the feminine parts of me.
Yes most women have been placed in that masculine whether from the beginning or somewhere in between when they hit whatever issue they have smh....then they call us masculine and we don't even want to be but we have to especially when we have children we have no choice but to get it done 🤷🏽♀️ I hated it point blank period, I just started to pretend like my feelings weren't hurt acting like I wanted to be that strong smh....
@@lala5061 I get it.
We are ALL Ying&Yang. We ALL posse masculine and feminine energy, Light and Dark energy,..etc.
No one “gets” rid of ANYTHING that is YOU.
Learning how to BALANCE ourselves, being AWARE, having DISCERNMENT and understanding when to use or Whats.
I see many comments when it comes to submissiveness, abt women being “more” feminine, “more” small & quiet, less emotional.
The idea that women need to lose, let go, or step out of their masculinity is ridiculous.
I also don’t like how men(this guy included) will equate being disagreeable w/old hurt or unhealed wounds.
It’s never that she may have a legit reason or that it’s possible he IS CONTROLLING. They never suggest to look out for signs
This is one reason why I asked for a divorce.
Of course he's refusing to give it to me but refuses to show any concern or care for me still, it's been 9 months of separation and I am just so ready for my true divine Masculine to show up.
@@a.mom4life Updates?
OMG, when he said "Submit to be free" that hit me to the core. That is so right! I always said that I wanted to step back and let him lead and I will be free! Now I'm my husband's responsibility and I'm happy to submit and know I'm safe!💙
I'm so happy I finally understand this! It comes so natural to submit to the right man. I think a lot of women, including myself, struggle with the idea of submission because toxic men try to dominate us. There are women and men who believe submission means that you should be broken down when it couldn't be further from the truth. Thank you Jesus that I finally have the peace and joy that comes with being able to trust a man leading me who's led by God.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Amen! Lord bring me a Godly man, that knows how to lead! 🙏💗
@@palmirafoley4261 I stand in agreement with you in the mighty name of Jesus Amen 🙏🏽🙌🏽💯
@@Noratheskindoc Thank you, sister! 🙏💗
So very happy for you! A man and woman placed together, of God is a gift.🙏🙂❤
I had to develop my masculine side to protect myself from being hurt. Feminity sometimes is taken as weakness... I'll try to learn something from this video... Thanks, Stephan!
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but you need to focus on doing what is truly best 🙏
I have the same issue. I am getting better.
I struggled with the same. I recently realized it, I am working on it, doing things I truly enjoy is one, and letting go of “resisting the moment”, those times of disagreement.
We have to put our masculine side out cuz we never know when we are going to meet a rapist.
Caroline, Stephan is absolutely correct in this video. Unfortunately, You’re confusing femininity with intellect/intuition. They’re not the same!
I’m in an 18 year marriage.
When I was 30 I asked my aunt who’s been married for 40 years what’s the secret to a long successful marriage. She told me straight up that you have to learn how to submit. At the time I was appalled! I had too much pride and considered myself somewhat of a feminist. I am 40 now and I understand this with so much clarity now.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Submission, it's possible..if I feel safe, loved and appreciated.. the problem isn't always women not being submissive it is men taking advantage of that submissiveness.. that's part of why being the right man for that woman is so important
@@kimmieztreasure yes 💯 agree! We (men and women) shouldn’t give that privilege to anyone that isn’t deserving of it. Being submissive when it’s needed is out of showing love and respect. Not out of fear. ❤️
"too much pride and considered myself somewhat of a feminist"- as if being a feminist was some kind of flaw, how ridiculous! If being a feminist is a hindrance to a happy and longterm relationship with a man, then that is definitely a very weird and dodgy man! And real men are feminists, too, did you know? ;) Because feminism means believing in equality between the sexes.
And why "too much pride"? Why should you not have pride in yourself, as a woman/wife?!
@@annieamydavies5190 this style dynamic isn’t for everyone. Period. Just like with pretty much everything in life.
If whatever you’re doing works for your relationship then why waste your time on a thread and a video that doesn’t serve you?
Just keep it moving. Let people who are seeking other options to help them figure life out by offering some insight on what has worked for them/others. 😊✌🏼
Femininity is NOT weakness, Femininity IS QUEEN.
Emotional intelligence is really important. Not just in male/female relationships, in all relationships.
This’s true. My brother been married to his wife for 20yrs, and it was because of how much she showed him that she wanted him. He had so many options, but she stood out because of that. They got married in their 20s and they’re truly soulmates.
He's one of the few men giving women good advice without putting them down or attacking them. I can appreciate that.
Showing each other appreciation in a relationship is key. That way each person feels valued and as a result able to be both vulnerable and bring their best self to the relationship.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
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I agree 100%. My current relationship is off to a great start with exactly what you stated. Thank you for your inspirational words.
Exactly you also have to know and understand what is gratifying to your mate.
Okay. You sound like Wesley Snipes.
I am a strong female and can and have made it on my own. I agree with this information. I crave a healthy relationship with a strong man that is capable of leading so I can gladly step aside, submit and follow his lead. 💯
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
The subject of submission or trusting a man "being VULNERABLE" to lead is not that of dating, this is for committed relationships. For a women to be fully submissive/vulnerable to a man is not something that is entrusted to a man that you're "dating". Women submit to a man who has a "mission" to be in a committed relationship with her as her husband, provider, protector and father of their children.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Very well stated Alexandra.
Exactly. I agree 100%. I wouldn’t be vulnerable to a man i started dating. I just met him. There needs to be trust
Exactly. And that man needs to treat you right. The moment he mistreats you, trust goes out the window and, with it, submission as well.
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I love Stephan’s advice. He never generalizes and understands there’s differences. It’s always about being true to yourself and others. There’s no games or drama with any of his advice
❤ 🙂 thank you!
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Not flirting, but I must admit, I love his laugh as well!😆
everything he says is generalization he can not speak for ALL men.
I feel the exact same way. My mother was also a wife to my father, and knew her many extraordinary traits was the importance of maintaining a tidy clean home and she first instilled that through maintaining the significance of the simple act of making our beds up every morning because it would start our day off with a positive mindset. She was 100 percent right!! May she rest in peace 🙏🏾
Being submissive can even make him be submissive as well, because he's not seeing you as threatening so he can be more open and soft with you as well when you show submissiveness to him.
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Perhaps we should just call it being vulnerable?
Being appreciative & grateful is SUCH a beautiful quality!!! Women & Men who show each other those qualities will always thrive together.
Your articulation! Your examples! Your explanations! Your elaboration! Your vice versas! Your passion! Your consistent and informative content makes me feel prepared for this exam called relationship 😂 Thank You Stephan 😄 we appreciate you!
Glad I could help!
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I know right, I always fill up my journal with all the wonderful insights from this gentleman. When that relationship comes, I’ll be ready 🤓🙃😊🥰🙏🏾
Okkaaayyy!! That's what I've said. The next one will be husband and our marriage will flourish, Brevard if this knowledge.
There's a fine line in expressing desire vs being easy and accommodating.
Being submissive to the right man who is not going to abuse her being submissive is a beautiful thing. After 15 years of being single, I believe God has blessed me with the man He has for me. God and your videos have confirmed this. 🙏
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Hello Stephan, great content. A lot of women have an issue with submission. But you are not to submit to just any man, only the man who loves you to your core and has your best interest at heart. He loves you past your outer appearance (but remember you have to love yourself first doing your best to take care of you - mind, body and spirit), but he loves the very essence of you. When you love yourself in healthy way, you are not afraid to walk in your femininity because you know that this too is part of your strength. So reign Queens don't be afraid!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤
Sometimes our communication isn’t very feminine.. so the way we communicate and express our feelings is important! I have an amazing man I can see being my life partner and I made so many mistakes because of my own trauma! Im learning to love correctly so I can stay in this beautiful love that I have 🥺🙌🏽❤️
I just realized I have always had these traits, even more now than before. I’ve been single my whole life. I realized I was pursuing the wrong guys so I stopped and started to focus on myself and my personal relationship with God. When he mentioned that the problem isn’t expressing yourself it’s about who you express yourself to, it hit home. I realized that the guys I pursued didn’t care about the feminine energy I possessed. None of them took me seriously. They turned out to be a different person than what they initially portrayed.
Thank you Stephan for your insight and educating us. I feel for myself as a women I lost the feminine part of myself along the way. Trauma, hurt, isolation, feeling alone, abandoned. Thank you for giving us this masculine understanding in a way that we can receive it. It takes a while, for me at least, to undo all the layers that had stored up, that I didn’t even know were there, to receive a message like this, but I’m grateful to God that He continues to work on me and has opened me up to receive this, to better myself and my relationship. 🙏🏽
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
I just love this man! I’ve been following him for years. He have woke me to so many red flags, and saved me a few toxic relationships. Now guys can’t get anything past me lol
You are 100% correct that submission has a level of freedom and safety attached to it. I have absolutely no problem with submitting to my man as he submits to Christ. The key point that you made that many miss is the fact that the man has to make a woman feel safe and secure. A woman who is safe with her man has no problem trusting him to lead as he is led by Christ. Men have to ensure they are making feel safe and also to never abuse this gift of submission.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
So true sister agreed 👍
Spirit of Discernment there is two Spirit in this world, the Spirit of Truth and the Spirit of Error you will know the difference between them by the fruits of the tree. Let them that has spirit ears hear and understand what the Spirit has said. In Jesus' name Amen.
Amen, sister. As he submits to Christ everything he will ask of a woman will benefit, helps and heals the woman and the relationship. We do not have any problem submitting to that.
@@mariathompson8828 Amen I agree 💯 percent. The submission has a Proper Divine Order. Jesus Man Woman, Be blessed in God's Love and Peace. Amen
It’s also how you express yourself ladies. You can be very expressive but it can come out in anger, resentment, hurt and frustration. It’s good to process our feelings before we communicate so that the other person.
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This is what I have to work on
Very true , it how you speak with a Man sometimes . Your Tone
I agree! And speaking about it in person not a text is best way to approach it. Calm collected and not putting blame and judgment. I'm guilty of being a bad communicator or masculine when I'd speak up. Just sharing tips that help me too
@@daishaharper6885oh I definitely need to 😔
I was raised by a woman with little or none feminine energy and I have learned that at least this man I don't care if I have to provide because I can and the conflict between having feminine energy and masculine energy within me has caused many problems so if you have most masculine energy within yourself being a woman who is able and willing to provide and be there for your man then there should be no problem with that just do it. I want to provide and protect this man because he makes me happy and he loves me so I will do it and no one will tell me that I can't because I'm a woman.
i applaud you standing in yourself confidently!! just make sure he’s spoiling you and caring about you right back💗you deserve to rest in your femininity sometimes
Absolutely agreed we also have to let them do what they need to do so they don’t lose the feeling of being a man.. I too have masculine energy but I have feminine also. And all it does makes them lazy so when I ask for small things it’s a big thing for them. That’s because I always make it happen to make him happy. We can’t forget our happiness..
This is Golden. I know there’s parts of me that need healing… I used to be so loving and feminine. Don’t get me wrong I still am but I know I hold back and it all comes from not being/feeling confident in myself. This was what I needed to hear!
I am an affectionate woman physically and verbally but low energy guys make me less expressive. I get bored easily if there is less communication or low emotional connection. Thank you for this video, I am going to practise what you mentioned and be more tolerant.
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😂 same here
I am the same way but when I asked God to show me how to love him them things changed and now we are the best of friends or his assignment in my life is up and I’m able to embrace healthy and emotional available men!
@@angelsmile9789 ,I am glad you can relate . That makes me feel better and not think I am weird . I need to pray too because I find it difficult to connect to people with low vibes.
@@juusgee6658 I can identify with how you are wired. You are in touch with yourself and wise! It’s not tolerance you need it’s someone that will match your energy. I just got out of a situation like this. I needed to read your testimony to be able to pinpoint what was happening in mine! He’s good that way! 🙏🏽
God heal our men.. we need them!
So I get it and understand it. But they always think that you want to argue when you try to express yourself
Im not competing with other females for a man. I want a man who sees me and know how he wants to get to know me and pursue me.. I'm a high quality woman, and i want a king who is looking for real love, partnership, commitment, loyalty, purpose, growth, and destiny with his queen. No games, competing, shallowness, and pretense. No outlandish standards, just being human, open, and honest...doing the work together to build up love and empire together. I am the choice, not an option.
Well said, so ask true, No drama
OMG! THANK YOU for talking about the submission part! I've always gotten frustrated with how people don't understand God's intention with submission. Men weren't given POWER, they were given a divine RESPONSIBILITY!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you're so sweet, replying to people. :-)
I absolutely love being feminine and flirty with a man I like. It always work in my favor anyways ❤😂❤❤ Thank you Stephan for all that you do.😍
This is true....I have been attracting some awesome men and great opportunities because I am carrying myself well with a grateful spirit and a healthy dose of confidence.✔
submission is for both men and women. Most women including myself have issues with submitting to weak men( have no sense of direction or make decisions) There’s no way women should submit to an abusive or narcissistic male either. We want men who have a real relationship with God first knowing and understanding that submission works both ways. Trust and submission work together
I’ve been trapped into my masculine energy for many years, .To be vulnerable isn’t a weakness . Set healthy boundaries with it
It’s usually fear that keeps us trapped in the masculine energy .. we just have to allow and submit the the universe to bring us what we need to help is become the best versions of ourselves, just allow and don’t fear being let down because you know full well that you are able to cope on your own if needed , every connection shows us something about ourselves ❤️🙏
Vulnerable- “exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed”dictionary definition
Words of Wisdom: A submission is a place of stance in a healthy relationship with God, Man, and a Woman this stance allows things to flow as God designed an extraordinary relationship to operate. Thank you, Stephan
Communication is vitally important before sexual involvement. One has to feel comfortable with one's own body and sexuality to be free to love and enjoy each other...lol. The body is the temple of the Divine. We're both submissive to each other, and submissive to God. It is the most liberating and powerful feeling. God bless you Stephan! Your coaching skills are awesome!🙏🏿
It’s important to note that a lot of these are not gonna happen if the man you are with is not emotionally safe or able to have serious/difficult conversations
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I am extremely feminine I feel like I had to gain masculinity to avoid of getting hurt 😞 but I understand every man is different. I will try it out.
Sounds like you gained mental strength which is not a masculine only trait. You can be extremely feminine and be mentally strong. It's all feminine and it's all beautiful.
Submission comes automatically when a woman is loved( actions) by the man.
I am submissive but the man I have now has the mindset of a demon my plan is to get rid of him
@@asmrconnections8008 good luck! Been there..it gets better!
So true
I been with my husband for 28 years and married for 20. In the beginning we laughed, talked and I done everything I thought I knew to be a good woman to a man. I did things I saw my grandparents/ and aunts do. I kept ( keep) a clean house, I’ve been respectful, cooked, etc but I started changing after he cheated on me and yes I stayed and tried to forgive but after losing the trust things never been the same cause I couldn’t love him and show him that same love as before and we’re still together but things are very shaky. In my mind I don’t want to start over with someone new and I love him but he doesn’t want to talk about important things like how I feel about certain things, he gets mad about things that normal people wouldn’t get mad about and at this point I’m a step away from leaving cause I can’t communicate with him without an argument
Leave and watch your self esteem grow. Good luck you deserve better.
Why are you wasting your time?? Omg!!!
He’s a narcissist. And you’re feeding into it. I have been there. It is so hard to leave someone you still feel love for. You’re the only one who knows when it’s time to leave. I wish you all the best and I’m so sorry for how awful your being treated by a hard hearted man.
Being subbmissve: i understand and except it. I used to be a cnc machinist and I've learned that exact size doesn't not fit into an exact size, meaning a 2 inch pipe will not fit in a 2 inch pipe, one has to be either bigger or small to work; I use this in excepting male and female companionships and not taking it as a weaker sex.
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Stephan, thank you so much for taking the time to educate us. You are creating generational wealth in relationships, you're keeping families together, you are causing children to grow up in two parent homes. You are worth more than you know. I'm going to support you monthly. I'm purchasing some of your products right now. Again Thank you
Yes, #3!!! I get kick-back from women about this, but men who truly want a good relationship with a good woman, understand, respect and will even reciprocate the submissiveness!!! It does allow us as women, to walk more in our femininity. I’m so glad that you addressed this!!!!
So true if Christian both parties understand to submit to the spirit within them as he says 3 layers , ultimately both submit to God❤
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In regards to submission I have always emphasized the importance of understanding the difference in submission and Subjection 💁🏼♀️
Basically one is giving in; permission...
The later is a force of action
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Omg thank you so much 💕💕 as a widowed mother of a son , I have been compensating trying to be both mom and dad and I’ve been so clued into my masculin a lot of my feminine has gone to the way side , I so appreciate all your videos about polarity and masculinity and femininity. I’ve started tuneing into my feminine and i’m feeling so amazing and remind me of how I was when my husband fell in love with me , how I used to be . I never of course realized that at the time when we fell in love I was just being me in my feminine state
You're spot on about submission; it comes very naturally to feminine women when in the presence of masculine men. The problem is that very few men today are actually masculine (in the UK, at any rate).
A woman can express her desire towards a man, however the man might not be the right man so does not know how to accept the woman for who she is. Happened to me where I showed him so much desire and he left me frustrated as he struggled to communicate and express desire towards me. I had to end the relationship, for my state of mind. he was too rigid for me. Love this video Stephan, you always speak to me.
Stephan, can you do more videos for men to understand their role in relationships? There are a lot of healthy women, myself included, who are looking for healthy kings who are not afraid to be God-fearing, masculine, loving, fearless and strong men.
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
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This is a great video 📹 👏🏿
Very good idea. It's a lot of us single women out here but the dating pool is just ehh ugh... I agree with you and thank you for suggesting this to him.
I have so much masculine energy from my mom , I had so much masculine energy in my relationship, I got dumped. I’m now learning to walk in my feminine energy slowly. I don’t want to be hard and tough
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
What a fantastic message.i know that when i get into my feminine energy, I feel so good and i feel happier.😊
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Oh my Lord! I am this woman. I have no problems with telling a man the truth, giving him his manhood allowing his lead, I submit and Love really hard. I know what I bring to the table❤
Man I am SO glad that I already do all of these things. I normally get anxiety thinking I’m talking to much because I express myself so well. Knowing it doesn’t bother the right man makes me feel a thousand times better
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Same, l do express myself too, lve got anxiety that lm too much, or my expressing pushing them away. All because of past experiences with men, first one being my father.
Theres a man l'm growing in friendship with that loves our conversations and my expressions, l also find it easy to share my feelings with him. He doesnt try to rescue or fix me, he stays present & caring.
Im taking my time getting to know men, and feeling, sensing & intuiting my way through. Ive been celibate for quite a few years as l can only be with someone who is taking responsibility for their shadow work & is spiritually inclined. 💖
I've been married 20 years and I believe alot of that has to do with me being a submissive personality. I actually gravitate to dominant strong men.. When I encounter dominant men who are able to lead, submitting to him is as easy for me as breathing. Keep in mind, I'm not like this with every man but when I encounter one, it gives me a level of freedom unlike anything I've experienced.
I love it when you say "a level of freedom" oh that is so true!
Exchange of power is a beautiful thing! You re very lucky to find someone compatible enough and aware enough to reach this with… i feel like its so hard to find that in today’s society 😔 😢
Emotionally intelligent? That’s a good one! I’ve learned over the years to not feed into anyone’s negativity because it does me no good! That’s why my relationship work with my fiancé. I look at positive things and attributes in him and I’ve known him to be an outstanding man! God thank you! You blessed US! 💙💙
I'm the conservative girl in example number two, really hard for me to express desire because I'm uncomfortable appearing "thirsty" or putting myself out there when his desire for me might not be the same. This video was very good and showed me a mirror of myself as to why I am single. I fail at sustaining almost all of these consistently, I have so very much healing to do...
I’m the same way. I guess i need to go after what i want huh?
Stephan, I 100% confirm what you said about expressing your desire towards a man. I met someone in a work environment which will have us working together for only a few months. I knew he was interested the first time we met. Every time I saw him I could tell he was really happy to see me but I did not really let myself think about it too much. One day I saw him outside of work. It was brief but he gave me the sweetest compliment. I wrote a note to him - just something simple- just to say how much I appreciated how kind he always was. That moved things forward so quickly. He was so happy I had done that and I am as well because I needed him to know I was digging him too.
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I’m crushing on a coworker also. What did your note say I want to write something
I agree with you Stephan. Basically what he’s saying is to not build souls ties with men who don’t plan to commit to you and only you and make you feel secure.
If you commit to your equally yoke partner, submission is easy and everything flows as it should. Even the misunderstandings get sorted like adults should.
I am naturally submissive but not always when it comes to intimacy. That’s too predictable and no fun. I love it when my man lets me take control so I can show his body some TLC, and touch him in all the places that gives him butterflies too. My man has to feel like he makes me feel because it’s an us thing not just a how I feel thing.
I just subscribed with you because you make a lot of sense. " Men want to feel wanted, desire... be more expressive... " Absolute truth, brother.
If women don’t do this to their men . Not only other women will do this for them but worse , Feminine MEN 👎🏽
Thank you! Because I had great communication with my daddy, I learned how to be open. I've found "The One". We've found each other. 💕
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I love my feminine energy. It is SO POWERFUL and amazing.
I have learned a lot about controlling my emotions at a certain extent...this channel has taught me a lot about relationships...and so on and how men and women can compliment each other in a healthy relationship!
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I really needed to hear this right now because I continue to struggle with using my feminine energy but I’m getting better. Thank you very much for your great advise 😊🙏🏽
I’m grateful for this video. During my marriage in my 20s… I did none of these tips and I see exactly why my marriage did not flourish. Now as a emotionally healthy young woman I am listening and understand more how to love a man. And most importantly love myself.
Thank you for this video
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I’ve blocked him and I thought that was a lesson enough to not play with me bc I don’t fear being alone but I enjoy it. He shouldn’t treat me less than
Amen! You deserve that best 🙏🏾 👏🏾
I keep a lot of the thoughts I have about a man being sexy or me wanting him in whatever way inside my head. I’m open sexually and I tend to feel like I show my desire through sex, but without words. This is a good reminder to be thinking about using my words and paying attention to the way he’s going to be able to hear me “say” I desire him.
Really the key is to be true to yourself. Manipulating yourself to some idea is going to lead to unhappiness for both parties.
This is such a beautiful video. I definitely appreciate this 🔥🔥 I am a divine feminine energy coach and I always like coach this from the perception of releasing the need to be in control and of society’s standards because we are so much encouraged to be “strong independent woman” therefore it’s odd for woman to submit. Especially when majority of children are raised by single mothers who were heavily in their masculine energy to survive. It’s a vicious cycle. Until woman make the conscious decision to fully embrace all areas of divine feminine energy we will continue to attract men who are not in their divine masculine energy.
You're absolutely right. It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Well received and much needed. For me this also taps into expectations of a person. We do expect people to know certain things but you have enlightened us on how and why men think much differently than we do. You are always on point, we need the encouragement.
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Just found your channel, I've been married for 21 years and your videos are helping me make my marriage better. So thank you.
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I believe a man or woman should in loving and passionate way find out what each other's wants. Give space and pray for each other, we need it so necessary. This world is full of negativity, peace should be our goal, have understanding.
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Our women's bible study explains it as women respecting the man and the man loving the woman. Men crave respect and women crave love. Rather than calling it submission, we call it respect, which often means stepping back, remaining silent for a moment, considering the situation, and giving him the chance to see how, as a woman, you are willing to not be immediately confrontive, but to take a moment to reflect, rather than negatively react. This gives the man a chance to see that you are respecting him, not challenging him, and allows him the space to love you, and to see how you are allowing him to think, and consider his own stance, and to perhaps approach you with love and gratefulness.
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@ 8min that's something I've learned over the last few years, I used to think that be taking out my time, replying when you text, spending time when I'm busy.. All that was me showing you that I liked you. But the message was rarely received. These days it seems like an actual conversation is needed, I feel like you have to literally come out and say, "I'm feeling you, I like you and I'm wonderin if the feeling is mutual so I can stay aware of where I stand".. something along those lines - anyone else feel the same?
Cause I'm not drama and I DO SEE men go for the crazy one, it's always mind boggling.. but perhaps good communication could show your level of desire? Like.. I'll have a presense, but I'm not going to drama out all the time.. throwing fits like a five year old. That's always been confusing, so interesting you touched on that.
This all is so true. I literally do all of these things & my man & me have a very healthy relationship. We are so in love and appreciate one another & we let each other know that all the time. Best relationship we both ever been in. He’s my soulmate for sure!!! God made him just for me… I had to heal to attract this type of love & so did he so women/men please heal first and everything will fall into place & you won’t doubt a thing….💯🤞🏾💘💍
Thank you for sharing, healing is definitely key ❤
Are you getting married?
I don’t usually comment on these type of discussions but I was asked to leave a comment. These traits are beneficial in a healthy committed relationship that involves one Man and One Woman only not to a man that puts you on a list of options . For me, submission is trusting the man to lead but it includes your opinion too not control over you. Additionally, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may think that male or female is ugly but someone else may think you are ugly too. That person may have other beautiful qualities that don’t involve superficial features. Furthermore, cheating will never be the root cause of the issues in a relationship. I have cheated and I have been cheated on.
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I do think that cheating is a red flag in and of itself. Some people just are not monogamous. They think that being faithful for 10 years out of a 15 year marriage is "basically monogamous," since they were faithful for 10 full years. Whereas others think that either a person is faithful 100% of the time (monomgamous), or he's not. Cheating is not always a symptom of something else in the relationship; cheaters are often serial cheaters in multiple relationships. No matter what the other person did, it did not make you cheat. Cheating is a choice.
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Being submissive made me wealthy…… im about that life… y’all ladies better learn this it’s very powerful. It gives a man much peace. He will reward you in thousands of way one way is he will treat you like absolute Royalty
I agree but only if the man appreciates and adores it. I know a lady who is still submissive to the man but the man takes her for granted for it. Recently the guy gave her a knock on the head because she didn't look at the side mirror while reversing the car. Mind you this lady has been driving for over 10yrs with no accident. For the first time, she responded by knocking him back. Submitting as a woman is good but when received by a good man, it's heaven, like yours.
Generous men. Never met anyone in my life.... I Always has to be independent, and count only for myself
There are going to be a lot of destitute women out here follow this advice.😂 As soon as you say no or have your own desire you’re out in your ass😬
About 41% of women experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner and reported an intimate partner violence-related impact during their lifetime....👌
@@fifinana1000 ok 💯💁🏽♀️
It takes not only to be aware, but also to be able to handle your emotions while being inside a whole turmoil of them. Oof, hard as heck when you're a very sensitive and emotional person, stressed and with PMS😂. Got to be always willing to think things through and never make a decision while being hot headed. This was a good video👌🏼
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Thank you, thank you, thank you for these reminders. On dates I'm positive & outgoing, am feminine, dress in colors, & submissive because I'm confident, give compliments (men like it when you tell them they look great or open the door or smell good or give some knowledge to help you). As I'm working on my femininity also working (not waiting on him) on my kingdom as a Queen so when my King comes. You're videos are helpful & what matters is applying them (practice). 😊
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Narcissist can’t expect woman to be feminine . Period .