I am shocked at the lack of empathy and open hatred expressed by so many in our current society. It brings me to tears as this hatred causes fear and despondency. It becomes so difficult to raise one’s energy to embrace love, understanding and compassion. Being the resistance to open vileness can take on many forms, but I know resistance is necessary. Helping to create and grow community connections is resistance. We are in this together.
I’m so glad you shared this wisdom! It’s been a very hard time navigating this with people and not be disgusted with them. Even my own sweet Zen Buddhist husband! Something finally broke through today with he and I after trying to understand how to handle mostly my anger and disgust people bs his less vocal and perhaps wider ability to stay kind. I also revisited my own writing from 2020 where I wrote about everything exactly as it played out so far and it has helped me enormously to see how strong I was in accepting the darker parts of humanity at different points in my life. Even hugging a racist gang member who was desperate to be heard and my genuine listening softened him to tears. Anyway, I really, really appreciate your sharing!!!
Thank you. Transcending difficult emotional responses to the suffering of others is paramount in these great times of transtion for humans and our beloved planetary shared existence. Dominance is never the path.
Thank you very much, Rick, and thank Forrest very much as well. I've been listening to both of your videos. It's really a pity that I can't join your sessions live because of time difference. I so badly wanted to attend your live attachment coaching session. Thank you so much for your session on disgust. Mine is a very personal story, totally unrelated to what's going on in the States. I feel so sad (sorrow, just as you've said) seeing myself feeling such a strong disgust toward the person whom I once loved so deeply. I longed for his love so badly and I'm still longing for the love that I've never got. I've tried literally everything to salvage the relationship. I've invested everything. I've given it all. I've dragged him to couple therapy. I knew it's a hard case from the beginning because neither of us has angry muscle. I grew up numbed, feeling nothing. It's just so sad and disorienting that the first time I actually am able to feel, and feel the emotion called disgust, was toward the person I longed for so badly. I know in my brain that disgust serves the function to protect me. I know in my brain, from Gottman's study, that if I feel disgusted toward him, this relationship is doomed. But my heart can't still work out what has happened. My heart is still longing for the love I've never got. Thank you very much for your session. I'll try to work out a plan.
Thank you. Thank you so, so very much for mentioning Ga za. That's the reason I'm watching this now. I've been losing my mind over it. I have to hang on to my spiritual beliefs- one foot in the maya, the other knowing that all of earthly life and it's events are divine and the highest reality is that there is only love. And then I look into fb again and feel like shaking people.... and I'm destroyed all over again. 💗
reality must be the cornerstone of any sustainable belief. anything else is too brittle to guide us through reality. Grief is normal, so is anger. trying to get rid of uncomfortable but realistic responses is no different from addiction, and can cause addiction
I preface the following with sincere appreciation for your free teachings, Rick. And I have learned much over the years. That said, I’m deeply disappointed by your soft pedaling of the grotesque behaviors demonstrated by others. Retreating into sadness, will do nothing to defend the righteous and the innocents Against the morally reprehensive and truly disgusting amongst us. My mother was a great clinical psychologist who taught me and others that healthy anger is the great motivator and defender against retreating into sadness. Stand up and be counted!
@@lynnraypardo4033 True. Buddhism is the soft purest offshoot of greater Hinduism and look at Tibet!! They never had an army even. The Rape of Shangri La broke my heart. It writes about the Chinese occupation of Tibet. They strolled through the country leaving a trail of blood behind them. For all our fairness and kindness in Hinduism, our scriptures say if you own kinsman takes liberties with you sock him you know where. Our whole holy book Gita is on this one topic. My spiritual guru said if you can't bite at least hisssss.....but represent your moral values appropriately. No need to attack but defend. Thank God for India's army.
Teaching people to be passive and take care of themselves is one of the things wrong with this country. We need to be much more active than just doing self-care. We are tired of being lied to and we do not deserve this. Other countries are looking much more attractive lately than ever before in my old life. Disgust is a great motivator. Use it for the purpose of positive change.
I’m suicidal as I lost all my relationships due to getting sucked into a cult. I don’t want to live anymore. I abandoned all my family and lost everyone 😢😢😢😢
I doubt any fanatical voter is listening to these kind words...😂....or getting any of it. Eckharts talks on collective unconsciousness.....but sorrow is a good replacement and truth eventually prevails as history shows. I rarely feel disgust anymore. Very rarely. Feel a lot of pity. Humans over evolved and juggling seven emotions is not easy...other animals don't have so many emotions....except my cat....I swear she's disgusted with me on many levels ...😅😅
It is not easily gotten. If you are not in the frame to "get" it, it will be way out there..and your mind might create the insult to try to feel better. He rises way above, beyond, the way people normally think. He does talk about neuroscience, the evolution of neurobiology, in other talks. If Buddhism isn't your thing (it can grow on you 😊) then this might not resonate. I took me years to get it...and when I did it was like a floodlight on so many other things in my life, my mind. I hope that for you too...
I’m suicidal as I lost all my relationships due to getting sucked into a cult. I don’t want to live anymore. I abandoned all my family and lost everyone 😢😢😢😢
I just watched this, 10 days past the election, and I found it extremely helpful. Thank you.
I am shocked at the lack of empathy and open hatred expressed by so many in our current society. It brings me to tears as this hatred causes fear and despondency. It becomes so difficult to raise one’s energy to embrace love, understanding and compassion. Being the resistance to open vileness can take on many forms, but I know resistance is necessary. Helping to create and grow community connections is resistance. We are in this together.
When you said under the disgust is care, that was what I needed to hear. I was not recognizing that part. Thanks, Rick. You're a treasure.
I’m so glad you shared this wisdom! It’s been a very hard time navigating this with people and not be disgusted with them. Even my own sweet Zen Buddhist husband! Something finally broke through today with he and I after trying to understand how to handle mostly my anger and disgust people bs his less vocal and perhaps wider ability to stay kind. I also revisited my own writing from 2020 where I wrote about everything exactly as it played out so far and it has helped me enormously to see how strong I was in accepting the darker parts of humanity at different points in my life. Even hugging a racist gang member who was desperate to be heard and my genuine listening softened him to tears.
Anyway, I really, really appreciate your sharing!!!
Thank you. Transcending difficult emotional responses to the suffering of others is paramount in these great times of transtion for humans and our beloved planetary shared existence. Dominance is never the path.
Thank you very much, Rick, and thank Forrest very much as well. I've been listening to both of your videos. It's really a pity that I can't join your sessions live because of time difference. I so badly wanted to attend your live attachment coaching session.
Thank you so much for your session on disgust. Mine is a very personal story, totally unrelated to what's going on in the States.
I feel so sad (sorrow, just as you've said) seeing myself feeling such a strong disgust toward the person whom I once loved so deeply. I longed for his love so badly and I'm still longing for the love that I've never got. I've tried literally everything to salvage the relationship. I've invested everything. I've given it all. I've dragged him to couple therapy. I knew it's a hard case from the beginning because neither of us has angry muscle. I grew up numbed, feeling nothing. It's just so sad and disorienting that the first time I actually am able to feel, and feel the emotion called disgust, was toward the person I longed for so badly. I know in my brain that disgust serves the function to protect me. I know in my brain, from Gottman's study, that if I feel disgusted toward him, this relationship is doomed. But my heart can't still work out what has happened. My heart is still longing for the love I've never got.
Thank you very much for your session. I'll try to work out a plan.
Thank you for this safe space!
It’s election night and I’m so grateful to find you speaking on this topic.
Thank you. Thank you so, so very much for mentioning
Ga za. That's the reason I'm watching this now. I've been losing my mind over it.
I have to hang on to my spiritual beliefs- one foot in the maya, the other knowing that all of earthly life and it's events are divine and the highest reality is that there is only love.
And then I look into fb again and feel like shaking people.... and I'm destroyed all over again.
💗
Me too
@@Zar2244 sometimes it helps knowing that there are so many of us, too. 💗
reality must be the cornerstone of any sustainable belief. anything else is too brittle to guide us through reality. Grief is normal, so is anger. trying to get rid of uncomfortable but realistic responses is no different from addiction, and can cause addiction
Sorry, but making an effort to assuage uncomfortable feelings is very normal and absolutely essential for survival.
Don't make it deeper than it is.
@@Lola-AreaCode212 sure. but must be distinguished form dissociation, which is a useful emergency skill but a disastrous way to live
"The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice." Dr. MLK 🙏
I have the same views on what is happening in Gaza, and now Lebanon, beside myself with sadness for these people. Cannot imagine the horror.
Such good timing. Thank you for this.
Huge thank you for your timelines 💛
Thank you for this! Truly. ❤
Very useful. Thank you😊
I preface the following with sincere appreciation for your free teachings, Rick. And I have learned much over the years. That said, I’m deeply disappointed by your soft pedaling of the grotesque behaviors demonstrated by others. Retreating into sadness, will do nothing to defend the righteous and the innocents Against the morally reprehensive and truly disgusting amongst us. My mother was a great clinical psychologist who taught me and others that healthy anger is the great motivator and defender against retreating into sadness. Stand up and be counted!
@@lynnraypardo4033
True. Buddhism is the soft purest offshoot of greater Hinduism and look at Tibet!! They never had an army even. The Rape of Shangri La broke my heart. It writes about the Chinese occupation of Tibet. They strolled through the country leaving a trail of blood behind them. For all our fairness and kindness in Hinduism, our scriptures say if you own kinsman takes liberties with you sock him you know where. Our whole holy book Gita is on this one topic. My spiritual guru said if you can't bite at least hisssss.....but represent your moral values appropriately. No need to attack but defend. Thank God for India's army.
Thank you!!
Teaching people to be passive and take care of themselves is one of the things wrong with this country. We need to be much more active than just doing self-care. We are tired of being lied to and we do not deserve this. Other countries are looking much more attractive lately than ever before in my old life. Disgust is a great motivator. Use it for the purpose of positive change.
So how are you going to resist? Are you going to build your coalition of positive moral individuals? Are you going to retreat?
I’m suicidal as I lost all my relationships due to getting sucked into a cult. I don’t want to live anymore. I abandoned all my family and lost everyone 😢😢😢😢
I doubt any fanatical voter is listening to these kind words...😂....or getting any of it. Eckharts talks on collective unconsciousness.....but sorrow is a good replacement and truth eventually prevails as history shows. I rarely feel disgust anymore. Very rarely. Feel a lot of pity. Humans over evolved and juggling seven emotions is not easy...other animals don't have so many emotions....except my cat....I swear she's disgusted with me on many levels ...😅😅
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I feel disgusted by this guy’s everything.
No one is forcing u to listen. Ur free to change the station. Take care of yourself, no one else can do this for you. You have the power friend.
WtF is this guy talking about? Did he get his doctorate from the same school as Dr. Seuss?
He is Buddhist. If you listen to more of his talks you might understand his message better.
It is not easily gotten. If you are not in the frame to "get" it, it will be way out there..and your mind might create the insult to try to feel better.
He rises way above, beyond, the way people normally think.
He does talk about neuroscience, the evolution of neurobiology, in other talks. If Buddhism isn't your thing (it can grow on you 😊) then this might not resonate.
I took me years to get it...and when I did it was like a floodlight on so many other things in my life, my mind.
I hope that for you too...
I’m suicidal as I lost all my relationships due to getting sucked into a cult. I don’t want to live anymore. I abandoned all my family and lost everyone 😢😢😢😢