Introverts | 4 Types
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- Опубликовано: 24 апр 2022
- In this video, clinical psychologist, Dr Ramani Durvasula, discusses what you need to know about the four different types of Introverts. Not all introversion is the same. The difference between being an introvert vs extrovert are somewhat easy to spot-but the signs of the 4 types of introverts are not as straightforward. The traditional "introvert test" often does not go as far as identifying which of the 4 types of introverts you are!
03:17 1. Social introvert
05:52 2. Thinking introvert
08:24 3. Anxious introvert
09:43 4. Restrained or inhibited introvert
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Sooo glad Dr. Ramani is back again and speaking to more subjects other than her specialty.
Also where is our Kyle....he is not on channel like he was.
I think I have been each of these introverts at points of my life…..I was always described of a shy and quiet as a child..an observer….Definitely the first three speak to me… I have been in supervisory positions where I would have to conduct meetings and speak to groups of employees and I would feel myself trembling inside…I would feel exhausted after the day…
Yes my brother was nicknamed the politician In our family he was such an extrovert….EVERYWHERE we went he knew someone…I went to my own 30 year HS reunion…With the encouragement of my long time friend of course….And Because I was so shy throughout my years in school 🏫….Wearing my name tag….People asked me if I was Party 🎉 🎊🎂🎈Marty’s Sister ….People in my class knew my brother But had no idea who I was….& He was two grades behind me …🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
@@donnapiraino3323 That is so unfair! But isn't there a comfort in Dr. Ramani's words? Not the extraversion-adoring world is on our side, but there is a wise well of wisdom in us. And think about the immense strain your brother must be in when he has a bad day in public and his performance runs badly! Not being the center of attention can have its merits, think of all the time we can invest in social studies on such HS events without being bothered by shallow yays and hellos and wasted small-talk! Nevertheless I decided to skip my own 30yrs HS meeting. I feel more like day dreaming 😉. I was there for the 20th and felt drained afterwards. Too many people, too much masking.
I have to admit that I didn’t struggle with the isolation many felt during Quarantine.
Me either. Lol. It was “another day” for me.
I loved being at home and having my day to myself lol.
Heck, I enjoyed it!
I loved it I wouldn’t mind another one lol I wish the country shut down for one month a year lol that would be amazing
I definitely enjoyed not having to deal with social pressures during quarantine. But at the same time it kind of set me back, it was hard for me to get back out there.
I love being alone, I don't get any value from shallow superficial conversations.
That is exactly how I feel!
Same 😊
I'm an introvert because I am shy. I interact with people only because I had to. Now that I am retired, I like to be away from people. My wife is an extrovert and I thought that she would change me, but I was wrong. She does keep me from being a hermit, so that's good. I am 91 years old.
Shyness by itself is *not* introversion.
I started out not wanting to get close to people, shuttering if I had to do public speaking.
Now I work at a job that requires to take phone calls (do much better than my less competent extroverted coworkers), I can speak to every random people, score freaking 21 out if 50 of anxiety introversion score.
Except my restraint and social introversion scores are over 45 out of 50. You will NEVER see me throwing myself in parties, but if there are important things to raise, I WILL speak up. If emergencies arise, I WILL take charge if nobody else are present or capable to.
However, you CAN be shy *and* introverted.
@@fuyuukifukada7491 lucky man; a good wife and a long life. 🎉
My husband is an extrovert and you give me hope. He’s so extroverted that I assumed one day he’d dump me due to me being introverted. But you have been with your wife…who knows how long…so that lets me know it can be done with one introverted and one extroverted. He’s a Gemini btw if anyone believes in that…you know what I’m talking about…social butterfly.
Extroverts recharge by being with other people and introverts recharge by being by themselves. I'm an introvert and when I heard this, it was life-changing. It explained so much.
Right!!.😊
It was exactly the same for myself. Iv never understood why iv wanted to go to different outings but at the last minute talk myself out of it. And so much more that I never understood. Thank you
Tooooo true, love my quiet home, love my quiet time, keeps me balanced. 🌺🌺🐢
I love being an introvert; however, people especially in the workplace have discriminated against me and treated me awfully. The feeling of being constantly misunderstood and mistreated left me depressed and burned out.
😢😢yup all my life!! I never fit in I was always harassed blamed and ended up fired ,left out of things and called weird, crazy, ect it’s been painful to say the least
Same. It’s discrimination, though, and exclusion is wrong.
nice to know I'm not the only one...
They thought you were rejecting them by keeping to yourself which hurt their self-absorbed egos. They can't grasp the idea that not everyone finds them interesting.
Exactly! I’m older and it is still a struggle everyday with any work place. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
Western society treats introversion as a disability or negative personality trait. In most of the world it’s seen as a positive and accepted to be an introvert. My parents made me feel like a freak for being introverted, so did my teachers.
Yup I was told I was hiding, weird, miserable and should not be around people.. wtf!!! I have a great personality and I’m certainly not miserable to people! I don’t put up with bullying so I guess that makes me an outsider
My parents are both introverted as am I, and I think they never got to the place where they could be truly be OK with it. So they projected their self-shame onto their introverted kids. It's quite sad.
I live in India... If you're an introvert life is very difficult here! The vibe here is that you have to be loud and forceful to get your message across, you have to be constantly active, you have to be interesting, it's exhausting to be around this chaos all the time.
True introversion actually is a sign of childhood trauma/abuse/neglect. It’s pretty rare for someone to be naturally introverted, and even the most naturally introverted people typically want to be surrounded by a few people they love, even if they do need more alone time than the average person. We are a social species. Introversion to the degree of being a hermit would not be conducive to the propagation of humanity. That degree, or type, of introversion, is nurture, not nature. I say this as a natural introvert, with very little to no childhood trauma history.
Without introverts, there is no art to spare extroverts from dying of the truth.
I work with children and observe a lot. The introverted child is like finding gold I love it when they feel comfortable with me. The pearls they drop are amazing.
I'm very much an introvert. I always found the term "shyness" as something others projected on to me because they never bothered to talk to me or get to know me.
I'm a social introvert. I don't even like having neighbors next door, but I don't want to live in the forest completely alone. I want someone close enough that if my house catches on fire they can call the fire department. But I don't want them coming over to talk to me either. 😂
Im introvent, im not shy, people drain me and I need alot of space.
I used to get annoyed when my family would constantly label me as shy. My sister was always super loud and demanded 24/7 attention so I never bothered expressing myself to the family.
@@digby_dooright hahaha I feel you on this. My neighbors rang my doorbell to introduce themselves yesterday. We stood outside for 15 minutes with them asking me really personal questions. I tried to wrap the convo up a few times but they kept chatting. I will now avoid them every time I see them outside.
@@charlesclawson3445 You are probably a empath. You absorb their energy and need to time to release it.
"You're so quiet" was one of the first things I've always heard people (adults and children) say about me when I was a child, as if it were something negative. I grew up thinking there was something wrong with me and getting bullied just seemed to confirm it. Allowing myself to just "be me" changed a lot for the better.
I never got the "You're so quiet" comments despite being painfully shy. I think maybe it's one of the many differences between American and British culture (I'm assuming you're American 😏). Here in the UK almost nobody says anything and I kinda wish they would so I'd at least have the opportunity to say something even if I can't bring myself to actually do it. Being ignored makes it soo much easier to avoid and sink into rumination.
It's nice that you've been able to be yourself
That phrase is heart wrenching to hear… I grew up with being told to “talk more”, “don’t be so shy”, and many other phrases. I agree with your sentiment that “just being me” is key.
Oh yes, those lines sound very familiar. I'm sorry you had to experience it too. It took me a long time to come to terms with it, but that's one of the benefits of getting older. :)
Hi from Germany where we like to measure and compare everything by certain standards, haha! 🙄 It took me a long time to rethink the bad experiences, but that's the good part about adulthood. Don't feel bad about being shy! There's nothing wrong with it, unless you feel that it's affecting your life in negative ways. In that case you can always take baby steps! :)
I heard that a lot, too. And yes, it was always with a negative connotation, usually with the implied notion that I was "stuck up."
I am introverted, in varying degrees of the types described here. I think I was mostly an "anxious" introvert - because I was always afraid of saying the wrong things and being ostracized because of it. I was definitely poorly socialized as a child and never had many friends growing up (and still don't) because I always ruminate on the embarrassing or inappropriate types of things I said when in conversations or social settings.
I was surprised at myself at how relieved I felt when I had "permission" to stay home all the time during the pandemic. It really was nice and it was also fascinating to watch "regular folks" struggle so much due to the "isolation". It was kind of like the whole world got "softer" in a way. It was quieter due to the reduced air flights and cars, even the trains slowed their endless supply line march. People that you did see outside getting mail or at the grocery were fewer so it felt like everything and everywhere was a little roomier and calmer. It was just nice. I actually miss the sequester part...obviously not the pandemic part...lol.
I definitely know how you felt! You put my feelings into words so nicely. 😊
ya know... It was an introvert's heaven! I love the pandemic because I spent so much time alone and didn't feel guilty about it.
@@moonmissy True that!! lol
Exactly!!
I'm struggling to go back normal. I enjoy this hermit lifestyle too much.
I am a combo of social/thinking introvert. I love love love my own space and time. I ended a 31year marriage to a narcissist and I am very excited at life by myself. I am not scared to be by myself, it’s freeing and peaceful.
Good for you!!
i believe there is definitely an attraction pattern between this type of person and narcissists
OMG! I was with a narcissist for only a year and still have flashbacks. How did you survive 31 years?! You're amazing! 🧡
Sorry about that
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I'm a teacher, so people are surprised when I say I'm an introvert. To me, while I'm teaching, I have my armor on; I have my "teaching face," and it's that part of me that interacts with my students. It's not the full me. I've heard of entertainers who are quite introverted, so their public face and the one they show to those who know them are quite different. I think it's important for introverts to have their armor. In Japan, they understand that everyone has a "tatemae" (face you show the world) and a "honne" (inner self). Here in the US, you're thought of as being inauthentic if you have a public and private face, but everyone has them. You protect parts of yourself. There's nothing wrong with that.
I totally agree with your observations. I consider myself an introvert in that it takes a lot of mental energy for me to be “social”. I love people and I can be very gregarious and talkative. I love to “people-watch” and learn things through observation. But, after a lot of social activity, I need quiet time to process and absorb things, and get my battery recharged. It’s fun to be with friends and family, but I can get “all peopled out” after a full day of interaction, no matter how much I love the people I’m with. My quiet time restores my focus and energy stores. I deeply value time I can take from my day for reflection, so I definitely relate. Thanks for sharing these things in this video. I feel validated 👍🏻😊
Your description of yourself describes exactly how i am as an introvert.
@ Barb, I could have written each and every word myself. Ty so much for articulating. DR. Damani...I feel liberated and understood for the first time!
Me too…
And then extroverts will tend to think that u are bored of them or take it more personally that u don't want to hang out, when really u just need to recharge
That’s how I am, exactly
I am a lifelong introvert. My oldest sister labeled me "retarded" when I was a kid because I didn't talk very much, but my mom reassured her that I was ok, just quiet. I'm grateful to both of my parents for letting me be me. They left me alone, and I turned out just fine.
Lol...one of my sisters tells everyone that I'm autistic to explain my introverted behavior. I haven't spoken to her in 2 years...
@@joshpatrick8809 Same. I cut off my sister and best friend. That’s disrespectful.
My sibling told me that she was introverted so I couldn't need more space than her.
Turns out I think she's a social introvert (and a vulnerable narcisisst), I'm a mostly thinking introvert.
But she refused to see any justifications for my differences and just wanted to justify not letting me out of her zone of control.
I expect respect from family and long time friends and aquaintenances just like I do everyone else. I DONT let bad behavior and words go by when coming from family and persons I've known for a long time. If they think they are entitled to say crappy things to me,or exhibit less than kind behavior,then they learn I won't connect with them. Same measuring stick.
@@temi4116 same here
Oh wow! I am "A Thinking Introvert"! I am never lonely and can always entertain myself with my own mind, research, analytics. I didn't realize there were different types of introverts. Thank you Doctor Ramani.
At 68 a trusted therapist indicated that I’m introverted. It’s been a revelation! I feel guilty and “less than” for not having life long friends, for spending most of my time by myself, for dreading group activities and feeling exhausted after them. I’ve been regarding these behaviors as character defects and it’s a relief to know it’s just the way I am.
1) Social Introvert •enjoys a curated social group, social w/ depth
2) Thinking Introvert •healthiest
Introspective, people watchers, ponderists
3) Anxious Introverts •afraid of scrutiny but wants to be social, looks back on interactions, misses good social opportunities
4) Restrained Inhibited Introverts •reticent, restrained, wise words
Thank you so much
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@@JesusLovesBest and "An unlived life is not worth examining." - A Fellow Introvert
If there’s a 5th category that has traits from the other 4 mixed together, that would definitely be me
I think I’m a mix of 1/2.
I hate parties. I feel like I have to fake being someone who is gregarious and open for all the extroverts out there. But, I'm observing everything and end up going off alone after the party, then I analyze everybody I've just been with or met. I love people watching and I can go anywhere alone. Bad thing is, I seem to attract more attention, good and bad, when I sit quietly by myself. My favorite pastime is walking my dog and enjoying fresh air, having a purpose, and just doing something that brings out my loving side. People mistake being alone with loneliness. But, being alone and independent is a happy time for me.
You and me both. You just described me perfectly. Kudos to you Arlene. Good job being yourself. And not living up to other peoples interpretations and expectations of you.
Me too.
There is a big difference in being alone and lonely. I live alone and go by myself to a lot of activities. I eat alone in restaurants. I felt funny at first but it's fine now. I travel alone. If I waited for someone to go with me, I'd never go.
I refuse to go to parties, unless I have a job to do. I actually enjoy working at parties and I enjoy watching other people partying. I also enjoy loud music and a hectic environment, but I want to be in my own cocoon. I do enjoy the company of small groups (up to four people), but then I like it to be a bit more quiet. After that, I'd like to be alone.
The last time I gave a birthday party was more than 20 years ago, and the last time I went to a birthday party was just as long ago. I really don't like these sort of event. I also avoid any work related events. I never have drinks with my colleagues after work, but I do go out for lunch with one or two of my colleagues.
I agree with this. Sometimes I do feel guilty for wanting some alone time away from the spouse and kids to do nothing special but my own thing.
“We introverts as sort of curators or sommeliers who are very careful about who or what we bring into our lives” wow! Well said!!
I'm a Thinking Introvert for sure. One great way of explaining it, let's say you have a family dinner, everyone is talking discussing subjects but you're often quiet thinking about the subjects they talk about. When you then give your opinion you've already thought a long time about the subject and often when you then speak it often comes out as the most ''smart'' or well thought out. Often people talk before thinking, Thinking introverts do the complete opposite.
Me too. But growing up, in some way my opinion was not encouraged so I just stayed inside my head for so long. So sad😢
Exactly. That's why sometimes I can't response to jokes spontaneously. My brain has to process it, and craft the response before I can speak 😞. I can't be responsive as extroverted people. Some people talk then they realize what they said after.
And sometimes, other people cannot accept what an introvert says because many non-thinking extroverts do not have the background to understand or the desire to even think.
1. the Social Introvert 3:16
2. the Thinking Introvert 5:52
3. the Anxious Introvert 8:25
4. the Restrained/Inhibited Introvert 9:42
@J: Thanks!
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I think I am a combination of all of these.
Thank you!
@@jadea.2694. Yep.
As a social introvert, people who haven’t known me for a long time never believe that I’m actually introverted because I can be so outgoing and cheerful. It’s definitely frustrating when new people expect me to be like that ALL the time though, like I need my solitude!!! I love my alone time, but the balance is hard to find so I usually just end up unhealthily isolating myself because I feel bad for not wanting to talk or make plans which makes keeping in touch with a lot of people difficult. Fortunately I do have a few that understand that I’m hard to reach but it’s not personal. I also prefer being actually present in person than texting, social media or phone conversations.
I'm exactly the same way! We DO exist! 😃
How are you in my head right now? 😁
I'm the same way. I also know - usually - when I need alone time and schedule it. I add to my calendar 'shopping with mom', 'weekend with mom' or 'dinner with mom' or something like that. No one argues when I check my calendar and say, oh I'd love to but I'm visiting mom then. Find some reasonable excuse you can use with those who want an explanation. But understand, you ARE NOT REQUIRED to explain how you spend your time with anyone other than to a judge after a subpeona.
@@MsBettyRubble thank you ☺️
Omg this is me!
Being judged might suck, but what I'm always nervous about it being misunderstood or not valued.
Look up Albert Ellis. It doesn't matter whether other people value you - what matters is that you value yourself.
Im a 61 bw & i have often felt unappreciated by bm in close situationships. I have became an introvert over the past 6 months & dont choose to be around large groups of people i dont know. I am al HSP so i need to be alone every day of my life to maintain my good mental and physical health
Narcissistic extroverts love bullying introverts by denying them privacy, while pretending it’s all about
“helping you come out of your shell”.
Any interaction with them is oversharing.
Introverts can turn inward enough to be self aware, often don’t require as much external validation because their internal compass is enough, and can observe people enough to have at least cognitive empathy. Not very many introverted narcissists as far as I can tell. It’s good to be an introvert!
It's funny that you should say this about introverts not being narcissists because I follow another youtube channel on narcissism and they were pretty adamant that there were many introverted narcissists. I just thought that it was an odd thing for the youtube channel to do since introverts don't need to be around people as much as extroverts, so therefore don't have the need to seek out validation all the time. I would like to see Dr Ramani's take on this. I felt like the other channel mixed up introversion, shyness and social anxiety with the lack of empathy that narcs have.
@@craftyhobbit7623 many-an introvert (especially if they’re introverted feelers whose feeling-tone’s taken on a selfish pattern, coupled with bossy extroverted thinking) can be quite the narcissist. INTJs are probably up there with the more toxic/unhealthy Se-dom. variants when it comes to things like that. But ultimately the more introverted a cognitive function is the less intrusive/obnoxious/annoying it is to other people, because it’s self-contained. When those tendencies are getting help from an outgoing function (extroverted thinking) it ends just as badly as would be the case with a straight-up ENTJ Karen-narcissist but more often than not it’s internalised into a more hypochondriacal, self-loathing, depressive picture. I’d rather have the latter at my wedding or a barbecue motif than a typically-outgoing, charismatic one who wins sheep over with malignant gossip at every turn.
I’d say intuitives and empaths (who can be introverted or extroverted in any sense, socially or in an MBTI sense) are the least naturally-narcissistic. People high in extroverted sensing (coupled with certain types of introverted feeling) are more inherently-narcissistic and you can see elements of it in so many walks of life (and I’m not saying that to assume psychological eminence in the third-eye sense all-round because I only know what I know, and that’s far from everything). Many ‘extraverted behaviours that are annoying to introverts’ (insisting on making small talk with random people every time you see them, headphones in or not, generally feeling entitled to someone’s vis-a-vis social energy when you’re not extremely close to them, feeling entitled to make lots of noise at all hours but daring to flip at an unassuming housemate for closing a door gently because of a specific kind of introverted hypersensitivity that lies dormant in them and comes out at the most random moments of the night) stem from narcissistic entitlement. Not all or even the majority of extroverted-sensing dominants are like that but when that kind of behaviour isn’t getting help from extroverted feeling (which is all about maintaining harmony and comfort between and for the people around you), that’s often how it starts. That’s why people like that get so weird whenever terms like ‘introversion’ are used. Quirks and ‘hypersensitivity’ are only okay so long as they’re theirs.
I'm and introvert but image a lot of narcissistist are also introverts but default as loner types. For one thing I think its exhausts them to try to impress and get validation when there so low on empathy, and therefore no likely to want to be around others since they don't care about them. They likely have a hard time cultivating relationships because people realize how shallow the relationships are. I think people often also confuse NPD and avoidant attachment which could confuse the introverted/extroverted correlation on this, but I would be interested to see if there's research on this.
@@samanthas8340 not if they have Fe or an Fi that’s directed towards moralistic musings (often deep affection for and care for animals). It’s when Fi is linked to Te that you’re in trouble (*cough* INTJ *cough*) but even then it’s not a given:
Beauty and the Boat. Love your comment. Totally agree!
I’m definitely a social introvert. But I’m realizing ppl don’t understand why I get so depleted “randomly”. When it’s not really random, I’m just in need of alone time away from every sentient being around me. So I have to create boundaries ❤️
I’m a mom of 2 and I’m married but every night after dinner I have to go upstairs and read quietly. I realize I was that way when I was a teen living with my parents. Always off alone in my room at night. Never snuck out to go hang out with friends because I just wasn’t into that. I preferred “me time”
What I noticed is that many extraverts get offended when I try to set boundaries. I just say like "well, this is not something I am willing to join you for", or "right now I need some time alone". I don't see how that can be rude (to be fair I couldn't care less how they feel about that. I respect the boundaries they, and others, set to me, so Im sure as hell will have my boundaries respected!)
As a 70 year old introvert who has always been surrounded by extroverts, I can testify that a lot of energy is spent trying to convince introverts that they have a mental issue. I had a narcissist for a mom, so I really got whammed. But as a thinking introvert, I have always spent a lot of time watching people and figuring what makes them tick. When I was in high school, I finally realized that I was OK the way I am. I realized that I had never hurt anyone, that I had friends and that it was fine if everyone didn't like me. I have 5 kids and only 1 is an introvert and most of my grandchildren are extroverts. My husband is also an extrovert. They all understand that mom needs her space and respect that. And I let them all run around like crazy things and happily wave goodbye as they go off to interact with dozens of other people. 😁
I love that image - happily waving people goodbye as they go off to interact with dozens of others. That's me as the first guest to leave the party! Two or three hours is the max I can enjoy social interaction without glazing over and needing to go and recharge my batteries.
Your four types of introvert are defined by a mixture of criteria. Social and thinking introverts are defined by 'styles'. Anxious and reticent introverts are defined by 'pathology'. The two criteria may be expected to clash often enough. Better to recognize four 'styles', or four 'pathologies'. That way the criteria can't clash. Now we ask, are there four 'styles' of introvert? Are there four 'pathologies'? Are you interested here in 'styles', or else, in 'pathologies'? Or both respectively?
Older introverts seem to be very wise , secure, and confident.
I have been very introverted my entire life. When I was younger I would use alcohol and drugs to get over the anxiety of being around people I didn't know very well. I always felt awkward and different. After many chapters in my life I am now 49 and very comfortable with my weirdness and I value my space I can be totally comfortable alone and in my own thoughts or around my very small but trusted circle. And happy happy happy.
this is the level of self-acceptance i am aspiring for 🖤🖤🖤
as an an introvert, I can speak out loud for hours to an empty room. as long as there is no one to interrupt or judge, my mouth and brain just keep speaking. that is why youtube is gold for introverts.
Extraverts need an audience that they can see and feel.
introverts are thought stopped by anyone they see and feel. that is why the internet works for introverts.
I agree that RUclips is amazing for introverts. To me, it’s always great having someone telling you things, but you don’t have to talk back and make an effort to keep the conversation going. It‘s not exhausting, you can pause anytime to reflect on things or research them, choose another video, take a break or put your phone away. It can be deeper than small talk and you can learn a lot about the topics you care about.
There is something about yt. I learn a lot and I like the choices I can make. I have my favourites and also enjoy not being talked back and distracted, being able to listen to vids again and again. I gave myself a treat and booked premium yt for a few months but I think it is getting too expensive for me at the moment so I have to put up with commerce. That sucks sometimes.
@@melinaburkhardt421 for sure on yt you can learn alot without anyone to distruct with their attention.
I know, I often practice telling stories about significant life events in my room alone and I sound so good, clever, confident funny and engaging. But if I'm new in a group of people ... Just making eye contact with people can side rail me or if I feel my conversational style is markedly different I can't pull it off like I did when I was by myself. Definitely something I'd like to improve on, but I also give myself some slack because I know I'm a Highly sensitive and pick up very easily how others are thinking/feeling.
Haha, I like that phrase... "Thought Stopped", I've never heard that before.
@@aynilaa yes indeed
I realized only this year (at age 60!) that I am an introvert. I'm completely at ease in social situations, and when I have spent time teaching, or with friends, I tend to have that social high often equated with extroversion. Going to an event where I don't know anyone is both draining and, frankly, boring. I'm an information seeker, so if I don't have someone to connect with and talk to about things that are of mutual interest, I can't wait to leave, but as long as I connect with one or two other people, I'm fine for hours. I spend a lot of time inside my head. I had no trouble moving overseas (twice) by myself (I started going to movies alone when I was nine.) While I'm always happy to go places with other people and share an experience, I don't deprive myself of an experience just because no one else wants to go. There aren't enough hours in a day to have to myself.
I’m actually the thinking introvert. I love to engage in a lot of thinking, reading a lot of philosophy, psychology and write excerpts about the ideas I have. I’m very introspective and don’t mind watching people for afar. I don’t mind going to the odd social, as long as they are very far and in between.
I think you mean 'few and far between' :)
I'm an introvert and my mom is a pathological extrovert (she's so friggen extroverted that I'm convinced it's a disorder, lol) and she could never understand that difference between us. She just couldn't wrap her brain around the idea that I just want to be left alone to be in my head. We don't really like each other.
I could have written this! My mom was very extroverted and made me feel like there was something wrong with me because I was so quiet. I don't think we liked each other much either.
Don't know either of you, but it appears that your mother had/has an inability to understand different personality types. I also know that the lack of understanding can also be cultural, where some ethnic cultures (even if they are now in America) can assume that if you are quite or an introvert, that you are not intelligent. This could not be further from the truth.
A 35 year (now ex) friend is an extrovert, however, she has no filter and blurts out comments or incinuations knee jerk without thinking what she is saying, and most of the time, will not apologize for anything she says.
With respect to your situation, I was a super shy introvert child early on and I discovered much much later that I was raised in a narcissistic household (Father & 1 yr older sister, but mother was unloving, indifferent, and had to have been intentionally a tag-team with my sister against me). Obviously, the narc family members must have thought I was not intelligent for not responding, but I feel that actually "saved" me as I observed (and thought they were all crazy, save my 4 yr younger brother who I felt was a "victim"), but didn't respond. Didn't make it easier as narcs do the same thing over and over, the verbal or whatever attacks just became predictable for me. To deal with the (what I thought was just dysfunction at the time), I developed my artistic self and honed a bunch of hobbies (drawing, metalsmith & sewing) including reading. We do what we need to survive. It appears that you have survived and thrived.
Totally get you
I'm a fan of crime shows and usually, when they describe the victim, they say: 'oh, she was a wonderful person, bubbly and vivacious, she lit up the room with her presence'. And in time this description induces the idea that only vivacious extroverts are beautiful people. And that they are living their lives at the maximum.
Same. It's as if you must possess these traits in order to be worthy and valuable. If I left this planet, they would just say “she was smart and shy” that's it😂🥲
I could never be described as bubbly. When I first started work I was criticised for being ‘too quiet’ - sorry, I can’t be something I’m not, you’ll never see me dancing on the table. Not being a super friendly extrovert has always seemed to have been seen as a negative. I would never even try, I’d have burned out in minutes. I’m still of the opinion that going out is a waste of a good night in.
Prob just Liquor & Coke makes loudmouths
And they also describe the terrorists as disturbed lone wolves.
Bubbly people get on my nerves.
I'm a thinking introvert/INTJ. I don't mind my own company and love reading, thinking deeply about things/meaning of life/multiple universes etc... yet people either think I'm aloof/snobby or shy and misunderstand me - when instead, I'm just very selective who I talk with or open up to.
Thank you for clarifying introversion and for supporting us. It's not a struggle. I love it.
Thank you for this. I'm black and American and introverted and it's always been difficult operating within certain expectations that people have of you. I lived in east Asia for a few years and it was nice being in a culture that doesn't value extroversion on its face. I had to read Susan Cain's book "Quiet' in order to understand this dynamic and realize that nothing is inherently wrong with either style, but the issues tend to arise with values that any given culture assigns to them.
As a black female American myself, I know exactly what you’re talking about when it comes to other people’s perceived expectations of you. As if individual personalities don’t exist among people within a certain demographic.
Btw - I often go by PlutoRising on other platforms. I just thought our similarities are kind of cool.
I’m black too. And tired of people comparing me to the loud outspoken black women. They think somethings wrong with me. We are not all loud. It sucks because the quiet or introverted non blacks at my job people say nothing about them. And my supervisor she can’t wait to call me out on it. I got a feeling I’m going to cuss them all out one day. And what does my personality have to do with the job. We clean.
To Uranus rising....btw..I have Uranus rising also...Ive been reading Susan Cain's book, "Quiet", and I thought of her book as Dr. Romani mentioned some points and was glad to be validated as an introvert once again.
@@Shon9tilR Yes, the supervisor needs to get a grip. She needs to dump her preconceived stereotyping. Sounds like she needs to experience being around a lot more people of many kinds. She can do that by putting herself in those situations purposely . (Hey supervisor... open up, and change your thinking, dump your style of categorizing people. Your reward will be to become more free doing so!)
being a person of colour and introverted is difficult because everyone is encouraged to be loud and outspoken so people see you as snobbish when youre actually shy or prefer to be quiet
I consider myself to be an introvert and I think that people often assume that I am a snob because I am comfortable being alone and do not come across as someone who needs companionship since I do not actively pursue new relationships.
When my employer changed my position to remote work during the pandemic, I could have danced in the streets because I was so happy. I am still working remotely and would love the arrangement to become permanent.
Not being a total needy creature often gets one the label of "arrogant/snob/antisocial", eh? =\
Im so happy for your remote work! Im working my way to have it too. Nothing would please me more!
For the first time in my life I've heard an adequate description of my introversion and now I realize I'm the 'thinking introvert'. I contemplate everything and also get loss down the rabbit hole with research on everything from disease to crime. I've been like that since I was a child. I also need to seriously reboot my engines after a long day at work. Being social is exhausting. I rather be alone. None of my extroverted relatives can understand. Thank you for this informative video. I will be watching more on this series.
This video was so helpful. I am a social introvert and didn’t know that there was a label for it. I’ve been so confused because I thought if you wanted to be around people, you were an extrovert and if you didn’t, you were an introvert. Point blank. That’s it. I didn’t realize there were different types and I thought I was an introvert but I like to be around the people I love so I was so confused. This helped me understand myself so much better. I do think I’m a mix between social introvert and anxious introvert because I get so anxious even when I am around the people I love. Socializing is exhausting but I love it. But I also love my alone time. Thank you for making these videos.
Yeah, I like to think of introversion as energy-based and shyness as fear-based. If I don't feel like engaging with people I ask myself "am I scared (of the unknown, of judgement)" or "am I just not in the mood?" Helps to distinguish which mood I'm in because sometimes I don't know.
That’s a good way of explaining it. When I was little I was terribly shy and terrified of people. Now I’m more reserved and observe people and decide if they are someone I want in my immediate circle. Needless to say I have a small circle of friends.
Sometimes they can correlate with eachother. I think the shyness or any fear can come from instinctively knowing we are different and don't fit in. All the typicals can look around and see the majority of people are like them so there's no fear of whether they'll be accepted. But an "A typical" is automatically going to sense they are in the minority. Plus, many of us are highly sensitive and creative, and often Creatives instinctively protect their creative self by not trying to conform for fear that they will lose their authentic self (which is very important to many). I think the subject of introversion can be complex.
I like that simple self questioning, Jerline.Just a quick check in to learn about self.
Never mind, none of us do! Love who you are! How do you know others aren't the same just hiding it! How many star names dread going onto the stage etc but hide it, I've heard of quite a few!
@@tlc6756 There's more of us around than you think! Read most famous people's lives and you find that many of them are, they just bury it a lot of the time.
I really love being an introvert! Glad to finally hear some good news about introversion :) we are not defective just a natural part of our personality.
Yes thank you 😊
As an introvert who has been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder, I really appreciated and could relate to how you described the "anxious introvert". This whole video was incredibly well thought out and explained, thank you for taking the time to do this!
Your point at around 14:00 I think is the best take away for me. Where people push that message that something is wrong with you if you are introverted. I have always been quiet and reserved and preferred to think and watch but people always forced me to do more and it honestly felt like it was ripping me from myself.
That “time to myself to recharge” is even more important for me, an introvert with auditory processing disorder (APD). I get mentally exhausted listening to people and need that rest to recharge my energy and comprehension
I can RELATE
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As an introvert who was raised to be a “Southern lady” being “social” was not optional. The older I get, the less inclined I am to attend social events other than with fairly small groups of family or close friends. Your videos are helping me to relax into that style.
To Susan, Sure enough! As I age, Im more myself.
Just be your wonderful self!
I am 76 and have only just realised after listening to you that I am a social introvert. In my working life and among friends I am quite happy to enjoy and lead the group and be the extrovert. But, I need time alone and cannot tolerate long hours with others chatting aimlessly. Recently my husband and I went on a group holiday and it was very intensive with long hours chatting among the group. It drove me crazy as there was no time to myself. My husband is also a social introvert and we get along well as we both give each other space. Having visitors to our home for a few days is challenging as we don’t have our own space. Thank you for your explanation. It sums me up perfectly.
I love your videos in general, but I have to say your videos regarding introversion are my favorites; the ones I go to over and over again for reassurance. My personality style is all four of the ones you talked about. They bounce around each other in different ways from day to day, depending on what’s going on in my environment, which brings me to another point- I fit your description of the highly sensitive person. Thank-You for everything you bring to RUclips. I’m delighted to know you’re an introvert !
I believe I’m an introvert and I believe society has always labeled me as shy, anti social or stuck up. But I know the real definition of anti social. But society uses the word in the word context
This is exactly where I'm at now. Thank you so much for validating me. Recently realised that society criticizes introverts and that's why I was forever frustrated. I just want people to let me be and not comment on how much time I spend at home and that I should meet more people. I've cried so many times about this in therapy. I ended up feeling like there's something wrong with me. When in fact, I'm just introverted and it's okay.
Feel you soooo much. ❤️
My biggest agony is pleasing others/trying to be there for people but I can't because I'm drained.
In my early 20s I used to force myself to go to parties 2-4x a week, "because that's what makes normal people happy", and almost always leave the party too early according to my friends, and feeling empty and sad.
The moment I decided to stop forcing myself on doings thing I was "supposed to enjoy", my life, mood, and self-esteem hiked big time.
Agreed. I'm an introvert. Exactly what you're stated. I go to parties but I don't like to shake everybody's hands or like to baha baha to much. I do like to sit in the corner and not expose myself in the center of attention. Sit and observe. My circle of people I communicate with are only my closest family only. I have a hard time trusting people from my pass experienced. I don't like people asking me personal questions and afraid they might ask to much questions.
Thank you so much Dr Rhamani, as an introvert I can finally feel at ease and enjoy just being myself instead of being conformed in an already deformed society. Just wanted to point out that the insights and knowledge that you offer is so helpful and uplifting to the collective. Thank you for being the voice of truth❤️
I loved the isolation of the lockdown, obviously not the rest of the negatives of the pandemic, but I loved having no pressure to visit anyone or have people over to visit me. So many people now are wanting to catch up and socialise, whereas I’m happy to carry on enjoying my own company. My husband is an extrovert and hated the lockdown
Yes, I welcomed the isolation as well. And the since, 6 feet spacing. People who must be less than 6 feet away from me bother my vibration. There are exceptions however that I am ok with. I expect that others respect boundaries and dont enter others needed space. Ideally people pay attention to others preferences. With some people though, 6 feet distance is about 5 feet too much away from others. Ha. They like people close to them and even touching them. They should stick around others that like that style.
I did not miss going into the office at all during the pandemic. I held up quite well psychologically working at home and interacting on the phone.
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I enjoyed my own company ❤
Marti Olsen Laney (she wrote The Introvert Advantage and The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child) helped me to come to terms with and accept my introversion. One huge lightbulb moment for me was when she explained that introverts use a longer brain process to respond while extroverts have a shorter brain pathway and therefore respond more quickly. But while introverts respond more slowly, our responses are deeper and more considered. Extroverts blurt out the first things in their head. Excuse this very layman's interpretation of her scholarly work
This allowed me to get over my feelings of inadequacy in the workplace when I couldn't think of things to say at meetings. I realised that this is simply how my brain operates and, thereafter, I would just approach the relevant colleague/manager after the meeting if I had any relevant suggestions or thoughts
Thank you, I was just looking in the comments to find the name of the mentioned author and the paper as it seems a very interesting material. If I may add, I think it's great you found an answer / an explanation that helped you view your way - introversion - through a different lens.
That's awesome. Thank you for that, I'm going to get that book.
Awesome book. I picked it up in a bookstore at the age of 44 and read it cover to cover right there! I always thought I was anti-social, but the book validated SO many things for me throughout my life. From that point on I often shared with people that I was an introvert. NOW, thanks to Dr R, I can add that I'm a "thinking" and "social" introvert.
Well ut definitely doesn't feel like I respond longer, too quick for my taste ( But I am definitely social type
Thank you so much dr Ramani. It feels so good to hear your words of validation which so many of us have never heard. Some rarely experienced being appreciated and accepted for who we really were. We are all beautiful and strong when we get to know and love ourselves for who we truly are.
I’m an introvert and a social one. But when I find myself in a unfamiliar social situation, I become one of the other 3 types of introversion depending on what is happening or the kind of environment I’m in and the people who I’m in contact with. I may become anxious or watchful, or I may not say anything at all until asked. As a young person, this was more stressful for me, but as a 63 year old person I’m more confident and care less about what others think of me. And I’ve always been told there was something wrong with me and not the extroverts out there❤.
I get really peed off when I think about my childhood in the late 50s/60s when an introvert was made to feel like someone with a problem. Even in my working years I'd have people pass comments like "you're quiet aren't you?" as if that was perfectly acceptable yet I'm sure there'd have been a riot if I'd turned round and said "and you're a noisy gobshite aren't you?"
I’m a proud introvert and people can’t imagine me to be one ;)) I call myself a thinker and an introvert. I feel completely drained after a dinner with a group people from work but not with a group of old friends. I love my alone times and constantly researching different things.
People can't imagine you to be one? What do you mean?
@@danix3638 They can’t imagine me as an introvert.
@@light-yi2me why? Because you have social skills and not hidden in a corner in a dim room with a book and a black yellow eyed devious cat in your lap, occasionally cackling while throwing stones at innocent neighborhood children (who think you are an evil witch) walking home
This is so me… everything you said.
Thank you for covering this subject. I'm an introvert, a lot of people seem to think introverts are anti-social which of course is not true. I think I might fall into the last category of introverts. 😊
This makes me feel so much better!! Thanks for explaining and making my personality feel valid and not ashamed!
What a delightful new series!!! I, like my Dad am a thinking introvert and like yourself as an intense observer of people also feel the need for solitude after a period of socializing. I love talking to people but am unwilling to be someone's instant new best friend, and yes, my circle of friends has been with me forever. As a writer/academic/researcher this works out great for me. I also find that taking the time to know someone well is a healthy way to develop empathic skills which has stood me in good stead. So thanks Papa!! And you Dr. Ramani of course!
Thinking Introvert here...been this way all my life since childhood. I love painting, reading, writing and oh yes, people watching. I have 2 close friends and you'll never find me in large groups. I'm so glad you cleared up the misconception that Introverts can't be gregarious and social. We can and we do when necessary, but we have our limits and we enjoy alone time. My employer likes to have happy hours quite often. I feel obligated to at least show up, but I almost always have that feeling of "being alone in a crowded room". I usually observe and chat a bit. But after a few hours, I need to leave to restore my energy. Thinking, observing, and self-reflection is what I thrive on. I can't do that with 20 loud people all around me at a happy hour setting.
sooo me!
I will be controversial and claim extraverts are much weaker mentally than introverts as they NEED lots of attention from other people while introverts can just deal with no one and few people very easily
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This reminds me something I keep telling people: I wish I could clone myself, so one could go and do stuff, while the other (maybe the other 2 or 3) would just analyze everything that happened in my life (in the life of the one who is doing stuff, most likely).
Thank you for differentiating between shyness and introversion. The two are often mistaken for one another. There are lots of us who are introverted, but not shy.
Love what you said about introverts and being in the public eye. I’m an introvert and I LOVE public speaking! I’m also very friendly when I’m out and about, and not even a little shy. But I get exhausted by a full day of socializing and am energized by alone time.
Yes! As an introvert myself, I approve of your descriptions. Thank you for explaining the differences.
Thank you so much for this video! As a social introvert, others often think I'm an extrovert. Which leads to lots of misunderstandings when I say no to events or go home early from a party because I'm tired. Most people do not know that it is possible to be a social introvert.
Absolutely agree with this all...I have varying degrees of all these facets of introversion and have felt often the pressure of our culture of the opposite!
This is absolutely the most on-point explanation of the types of introversion I have ever had access to. Thank you.
This was so good for me to watch. It helped lay things out in a different way. Thank you so much for this video. I'm interested in the other videos you mentioned.
Definitely think I'm the thinking introvert. In some ways, I can, as some say, put on the extrovert suit when I'm out in public, but then when I come home I hide. I can be outgoing with the right people, and I loved what you said about people-watching! It's fun to sit there doing my own thing just letting the world go on around me.
This is great - a natural complement to all your videos on narcissism. Would be great to see you do the same sort of deep dive on introversion. Especially since our society so heavily selects for qualities associated with extroversion... and narcissism. One example: the disadvantages faced by introverts in the job market/workplace.
I always got fired or ended up quitting jobs because I was mistreated
That struggle is definitely real. I follow some autistic writers on Twitter. There’s a lot of “here’s what neurotypical people expect at work” and stuff about masking that has really helped me understand how hard it is for people who aren’t extroverted to thrive in our society.
I'm definitely a social thinking introvert. Thank you for clarifying all of this for me.
I, too, am a social-thinking introvert. People usually believe I am an extrovert because I don't have a shy bone in my body, and I am a good public speaker in front of crowds. I like sharing knowledge and experience, but when it comes to actually enjoying myself, I like being alone with my thoughts. Does this ring true with you as well?
Me too! I sent this video to my hubby because he didn’t believe I’m an introvert. But I am!
@@arlenerivera6631 Yes! My profession requires me to regularly speak and teach publicly, and interact with people. I enjoy laughing and talking with folk, and I will strike up a convo with almost anyone. But I need my recharging time, thinking time and solitude. It’s essential for me.
This video and the comment section is the most informative most important thing in my life, I never thought I’ll see so many people that I have so much in common in one place. I love you all my introverts family. ✌🏽
The best way i can explain it as one myself:
-i love social connection, but after a day or 2 of constant social connection i prefer to go home do some stuff for myself and be alone.
-being alone doesnt bother me
Never heard it explained like this to me before. really makes me feel better that it's okay to just sit back and listen sometimes instead of feeling like I constantly need to have a response to keep the momentum going in every single conversation people come up to me to talk about 🖤
This is very informative. I didn't realize all these subcategories. I can finally say I'm not just an introvert. I'm a thinking introvert. I can sit for hours just thinking. And yes, not in a bad way. I find peace and calm thru them.
How wonderful to hear this. I'm probably a combination of all 4 introverted types. Yes, we do get stigmatized in this country, but like you said, we're often known for having wisdom/deep thought/gifts that intelligent people can recognize. Thank you!
Very true. It took many years for me to discover and accept that being introverted is who I am. It's hard when family members and society are sending you the message that something is wrong with you because you don't think and act the way they do. It's good to hear that we are unique and talented in our own ways. This video was super helpful and validating 👍
Wooooow! I actually see aspects in myself all four kinds of introverts and can relate with most of the examples used here. Thank you for the last part of the video about giving myself permission to be authentic and being okay with just being my introverted self - however that chooses to manifest itself.
It’s so refreshing hearing about the different types of introverts. I believe I’m a mix of thinking introvert and restrained. I now wish I could go back to graduate school and do my thesis on introversion. So interesting!
The energy and power of this channel...Dr. Ramani is brilliant...so dedicated. I absolutely adore her expertise and knowledge. Thank you for sharing it with us.
you are the best, Dr. Ramani! thank you! sending love to all xx
I am an introvert and am so glad to see this video. I have been often aggressively told I'm shy (especially by those who do not know me). It's sad to see how little people realize the difference between shy and introvert, so glad that you've elaborated on all the other qualities about the personality. Thank you for sharing this with us!!
Definitely a social introvert. I like talking to people, being friendly, having interesting conversations etc, but it's definitely got to be in a small group or 1:1. Big groups and lots of people are exhausting, but if I have a person or two in the group it's a lot of fun. Like going to a concert. I love that I can be by myself or with friends and not have to interact with all the people.
I'm a teacher and I even find this to be true in a work context. I adore working in a small group or 1:1 (which is what I do,) but I find it so exhausting when I have 30ish kids to interact with.
I’m a super introvert. I like being alone or with a specific few, one on one. I watch everyone and analyze them before I interact (my husband says I see right through people and I don’t like to waste my time/energy). I’m not anxious or shy at all. I’ll go to a party if I have to, I just throughly don’t enjoy it. Interacting on a surface level gives me 0 satisfaction relationally. It also drains me completely. Like takes me days to recover from emotional exhaustion. I don’t worry about people, or what i “should be doing”. If I don’t like it I leave lol I don’t care what people think. I’m not anxious about interaction, I simply just don’t like to waste the energy I saved up…but I’ll talk if I’m comfortable but people will sometimes interpret that as being extroverted. I’m very much happy being in my own space and doing my own thing, or things with people I’m super close to.
This was soo good!! Esp the part where u recognize that society only sees the extroverts!! And thank u for encouraging owning the introvert self!
I have really enjoyed MedCircle and really needed these videos. I’m an Introvert and My husband passed away 18 months ago. He had chronic back pain for several years, so we didn’t get out a lot. I have three friends that live in my area. I think they thought I stayed home a lot because of my husband and maybe I let them believe that. Now that my husband is gone they think I stay home and isolated because I’m depressed. Sure, I’m dealing with depression after losing my husband of 30 years. But, I am also an introvert, so I feel like dealing with friends can be exhausting, because they call to check on me all the time. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful, but I’m so exhausted trying to prove that I’m ok. Your video on introvert or depression really helped as I sent it to one friend in the group, so she could understand and tell the others. A circle of friends can be difficult when you are the only introvert in the bunch. And I’m the only one that has lost a husband. Thank you for all you do. I really appreciate you!
Thank you for this, I relate a little to all these types of introversion and have always love my introversion despite being told all the typical tropes of “you’re so quite”, “don’t be so shy” and “you need to talk more”. Although I never saw anything wrong with my introversion it definitely felt as if I should based on the feedback and at times it did get to me. I just have to remind myself that our society just prefers extroversion and that there is nothing wrong with either.
The lockdowns really highlighted my introversion as my life didn’t change much. It was kinda weird not relating to everyone’s need to be “outside” cuz to me nature was always open.
this makes sense to me. I was always told that I was shy. a label I didn't like. i was then confronted at a party by a barmaid that thought I was arrogant. I told her I say nothing because I believe no one wants to hear it, i have no opion.
I definitely can identify with all of these!! Thank you for posting such amazing content. This is the validation that society does not give. When it comes to my own introversion, it really depends on the situation or where I am at in life. I have needed time alone for as long as I can remember.
However, I have been painfully shy with my anxiety and hold back when I desperately want to socialize. But not for too long or I'm exhausted. 🤦♀️
Throughout my life, many people have assumed that I am dumb or that I'm a mean person. I can't even count how many times someone has looked genuinely shocked when I have something valuable or intelligent to say. Or even when I am giggling at their jokes and smiling on the sidelines. Now, as an adult, I've learned to exercise my inner "extrovert" muscles and just be myself at work. This is an exhausting and rewarding experience. I'm learning to love myself and not shame my introversion. It's making me a better communicator. I have to say what I need and explain my boundaries in order to be okay. It's definitely not graceful or easy, but watching content like this has given me tools and validation I need for lasting change. Thanks again Dr. Ramani ❤
Thank you for sharing this Dr Ramani.. I am an introvert, thank you for highlighting the issues we may face.. 🙏 ✨ x
Thank you for this video. I'm an introvert who i believe has traits from more than one type of introvert description that you talked about in this video. The validation that comes from this video feels good. So often in my life extroverted individuals have tried to make me feel as if i'm abnormal for my quietness, need for quiet, alone down time,etc. Fortunately, i'm very comfortable with my introversion and how i live my life. Once again, thank you for this video, all your videos, and helpful information and advice. Be well.
I always knew I was an introvert, and now I feel like I’m all stages of introvert. I am impressed and shocked of how accurate you described me. The closest anyone has gotten, only 1 thing you didn’t mentioned. We are very loyal to our friends and expect out friends to be loyal to us. What I mean about loyalty is the reasoning to the friendship. There are people that just want to use you and we will drop them quickly. I’m the kind of ride or die kind of friend but if you’re not like that then we don’t need to be friends. This is why our friendship list is very small. Hate to burst people’s bubble, but we are completely fine with that. We don’t need friends, we would like to have them but only if their loyal. I’ve tried to look past it and for years people have used me, for money or for rides or just when they need a friend. Like someone they really need to talk to, but when it’s the other way around they are a NO show. So I have changed my ways and I’m sticking to it cause I’m way more happier now 😌.
Wow, all these comments are so relatable. It’s difficult to be understood as an introvert sometimes 🤍 great vid.
Love this!💕 We should accept ourselves and each other and every person has their own awesome part to play in the band. 🎷🎸🎹🎶
Thank you for this video🙏. I feel I have to constantly explain myself and my introversion.
I appreciate this so much. I've always known how I felt, but you explained it perfectly. You're an amazing person. Thank you. ❤️
Oh thank you doc! So I can be open, agreable and introvert at the same time! You are the only One Who really helps me understand myself. I struggled during quarantine, but Just because I needed space in the nature. When I had it I was so Happy being alone the all time in the trees and flowers. Now I get It. Thanks a lot you are the best
This was so interesting and I totally relate to different elements of each introvert.. whenever I'm around people for more than a few hrs I'm exhausted and just want to be alone. This can even include my husband and kids. I was always the kid reading, usually didn't have a ton of friends. Whenever I'm in a social setting, I do feel closed off and can't ever fully open up and will put on a mask. People always told me I'm shy as a child too. I do tend to be ponderous and love to ask questions about the world around me such as nature, people, behaviors. Thank you for this video, I needed to hear that being introverted is OKAY. Society has always made me feel that I was "weird, too quiet."
I like this video. I've always considered myself an introvert all my life, and I'm not ashamed it. For most part, it's how I stay out of trouble, lol. I had no idea of various types. I can say I identify with being a social introvert and a little of the thinking type.
Dr Ramani thank you so much. In this video I recognized myself. I've always been a homebody and much prefer it to being out and about. I live alone and am not lonely. When I was young and as a kid people would tell me I had to get out more, be more social. If I'm going to do that then it's going to be my family or small group of half a dozen and not more than a dozen people. I am also bipolar 2 high functioning so when being social is too much I leave. I rely on others for rides so if I can't leave I distract myself with something but feel a lot of relief when I'm finally home. I finally feel like it's okay to be who I am.