MedCircle our teen son is an introvert. He is an only child. I would identify myself as an extrovert with high social anxiety/fear. He is teaching me that not everything needs to be said, respect his need for space, quiet time. I am on the BPD spectrum. I am most comfortable in chaos. He has taught me being quiet is ok & safe. Your just “quiet.” He is an exceptional student.
I hate when people think there is something wrong with introverts. We just love our own company and are comfortable with ourselves. We just don't open ourselves up to everyone, we choose our company well.
H A Damn straight! That is such a crock of shit that they are “better.” Wtf? Idc what society thinks. Society is lost in the narc Matrix anyways, just fake and miserable and guzzling that narc kool-aid still like there’s no tomorrow and a shitload of people are extremely ignorant about all of this. People in psych/self help groups like this ought not be flirting with that idea tho imo. They ought to know better. I just DARE anyone to ask me that stupid ass question to my face tho. I will NOT hesitate to put a hurt on some feelings. JS. Why not tho? Shall we just sit back and be “nice” and never rebuke anyone coming at us with this idiotic bs? And bcuz they will not hesitate to be obtuse and hurt our feelings either. Again. JS. Introvert does not automatically mean “weak” or “meek” and that idiots get to get away with saying stupid bs like this to us. No. I will gladly tell them to F off if they do. Oh well, I guess they can just get their rude awakening about that when they come to me talking or implying stupid shit like that.
My sister asked what an introvert means and she answered, "Introverts are those shy people." I was like, "NOOOOO!" Introverts aren't necessarily shy. It's not that we are afraid of other people, or that we are too self-conscious. We just don't want to deal with other people. We are not shy people.
I'm a bit of an introvert. Social events are a pain. I don't mind time on my own. I hate fake and obnoxious people. I see them straight away for what they are and find it hard to be in their company. When asked my opinion I give it eventhough I know its going to offend somebody .
I’m so much of an introvert that I get offended when people DO invite me to do stuff. 😂 I am NOT socially anxious at all. I do NOT get nervous around others. I just happen to love peace and quiet and I truly do thrive in solitude. Introverts are IMO emotionally stronger than extroverts because we do not need anyone to feel fulfilled and happy.
Heh heh, I mean, you're not wrong, sweets 😉 I prefer my own company about 95% of the time and when I DO want to be around people, it's with like-minded individuals and/or people that I WANT to spend my time and energy on. Quality over quantity for sure. And don't even start me on the dreaded 'small talk' scenario, be it verbally or in text form! 🤐
When my friends ask me why I'm not speaking while discussing some important matter, I usually say that I'm listening to them and creating and altering my own perspective. hearing what others have to say, how they see and approach the problem is educational and useful when you back up your idea/perspective. The other, wicked side of quiet observing is that if you're good enough, you can turn what they say against them, use it as your advantage and maybe successfully shut them up
Yes prefer observations rather than rambling or shy. But not completely silent. There are those people also whom how much you try to talk end up tight lipped or silent as if someone has asked them to dance on the table. They have problem. I am an introvert but I can manage to talk normally when needed.
I'm an introvert and I often have had people say that I shouldn't isolate myself. I appreciate their concern, but they don't understand that I'm very happy with my own company. They also don't understand that after being with people, being on my own helps me refresh and refuel.
Dr. Ramani said that intro/extro-version is a spectrum but many people in society believe that introverts are "lacking" and perhaps suffering from a disorder... This made me think, maybe extroverts have a disorder! A mild form of narcissism ... or somewhere on the narcissistic spectrum because of their desire/need for external confirmation/interaction? Anybody know more or am I just crazy?
As a child I was bullied for being an introvert and for not being “fun” I was always asked if something was wrong because I wasn’t talking. Later in life people would think of me as a snob because I wasn’t super friendly or talkative
Same back in middle school, spent most of my time away from the other kids and I’m the library. I had too much imagination and needed a lot of space by myself to let my creativity flow.
It happens right at the start of anyone, anything, and mostly anywhere else. That's where it is anxiously available. Social connections. It's called intro... let it be the anxiety. But avoid negative consequences.
I'm definitely a introvert, eventhough I do well in social environments. I just find it emotionally draining to be around lots of people. People have a tendency to have the the wrong notions about us. We aren't socially awkward all the time, we just enjoy our own company more.
I'm the least loneliest person I know. I've spent 10 days without social interaction and was completely at peace an able to entertain myself in that time.
Yup. People will test you and when you stand up for yourself they act offended because you weren't the pushover they expected. Happens at my job from time to time. I'm quiet but I'm still a man lol.
Definitely an introvert. I used to think something was wrong with me. At parties, I was always the first of my friends to want to go home. I used to sneak out of events so that no one noticed that I left. Only recently did I learn to accept and embrace my introversion. Now I LOVE it!
A lot of attention-seeking/loud/gossip-y/superficially-extraverted behaviour (which contemporary Western/capitalistic-bureaucratic society rewards) from an unbiased lens falls under the banner of A.D.H.D. (in the child and adult alike), narcissistic, poorly-adapted hyperthymia that even lithium can’t check and all manner of borderline-narcissistic ironic co-dependency complexes but we live in a society (at least outside the confines of Japan/the Far East and certain innermost secluded corners of Africa) that rewards those behaviours (some of which are really quite toxic) and absolutely loves to label the quieter, more reserved folk with labels that may not actually apply to them (autism this, Asperger’s that, social anxiety that may or may not be present, avoidant personality disorder, depressive schizoidia - which, again, may or may not be present, etc.). We don’t value people who want to be alone at a fundamental level so the forced glad-handing at parties (lest people think there’s something wrong with you because ‘they have to tell you to make the move and initiate contact with the D.J. and every other stranger in sight when you’re fine observing and quietly-enjoying with a can of two of cider) is inevitable. It’s a shame because both broad ends of the continuum have their advantages (as well as their flaws) but we like to pathologise and label one more than the other in these parts. It’s a form of insidious (however-intentioned) gaslighting, really. Being told that there’s something inherently wrong with you just because you’re a quiet, observant intellectual who enjoys your own company and don’t need constant vis-a-vis stimulation from others (especially when it’s misinterpreted by teachers and what/who-not as being antisocial, isolated and having no social skills) fucks with your head for a very, very long time and that’s the problem introverts have more than the fact that they’re good with their own company. It’s other people around them that make them feel like they have a problem. By default they’re just fine unless they’re not (and that’s by no means exclusive because just about any personality type could experience a mental health/psychosocial malady characterised by unhealthy withdrawal).
Yup. I have a friend who lives about an hour away, and she often invites me to her place to spend the weekend. I love her to pieces, but honestly, spending an entire weekend with someone after a week of work (which means I have to saddle up my dog, bring him, and spend the weekend keeping an eye on him), and then schlepping BACK home only to have to turn around and start another work week the next day, is far from relaxing or fun. I prefer to just go for a day, or better yet, have her come visit me.
My family used the fact that I'm an introvert to torture me. They constantly forced me into situations where I was socially drained and exhausted. I am finally setting boundaries.
When talking to a friend I mentioned my being an introvert. She said, “Oh honey, no, you’re not!” Like introversion is a disease you don’t want! Or a flaw. I’m very much an introvert. I had to laugh!
Yea I havta say this coronavirus thing, has done wonders for me, this 6 ft distants thing and having a plastic glass shield in front of me I get to be both social and in my own space at the same time
Sometimes I make plans when I'm in a 5min extroverted mood but then I end up cancelling by saying "I have other plans/something came up" but what I actually mean is I have plans with myself but you wouldn't get it so I'll just say I have other plans because explaining to an extrovert that you need time alone is like talking to a wall😩
I am a thinking introvert, and I love it. I feel strong emotionally, and I can function socially when I need to. "Low reward sensitivity" is so true. I always say I am easy to please, but it's just contentment with the quieter things.
When I was working at this retail store, with this girl, when this couple came in. The guy started chit chatting, and he said "you (other girl) are the talker, and you (me) the quiet one who observes everything"... And he was 100% right!! I'm an introvert, I don't like small talk. People assume I'm just shy, but I'm really not that shy.
I am an outgoing introvert. I can be very outgoing in social situations, but I definitely need a lot of alone time to recharge my batteries. I also value one on one time with friends because I like to connect deeply with a person.
I'm an introvert. It's a beautiful thing, but growing up, I've been around the wrong people. People who always remarked that I was "too quiet" or say that I needed t, o be "more sociable" or "more gregarious" and to them, I give them one big giant eye roll and both middle fingers. Lol. Introverts are the coolest and when we DO speak, we speak from intelligence and wisdom.
This thing about speaking from intelligence and wisdom is so important. Small talk is a waste of energy and a form of noise pollution, in my opinion. I appreciate talking to people who have something to say and/or when I have something to say. Otherwise, silence is golden.
The most meaningful description I ever heard was where we get our energy. Extraverts get it being around other people. Introverts from being by themselves.
I feel like being alone, I provide myself with many more productive, fulfilling and rich experiences. Not to say I avoid people because they hold me back, but I like to observe. If im put in a social situation, I have no issue interacting and having conversations, but I learn more from being alone or observing other people go about their life. Forming friendships is more of a burden (e.g. doing favours for others, having to check on them to maintain your relationships etc...) than a benefit for me as I’m naturally independent and get along my life without needing other people (I’ve been like this since I was little).
Growing up I thought me being an introvert was abnormal, I use to crave fitting in. Now I embrace my aloneness. As social worker working in an emotionally charged setting and In this generation infested with narcissism and energy vampires I celebrate the peace and comfort of silence.
growing up i thought me being an extrovert was normal until i moved and hate msyelf for being labeled annoying and obnoxious just because im an extroveert
If people are telling you that there’s something abnormal about you just because you’re not loud like them that’ll drive an inferiority complex and anxiety but that’s their fault. Nothing to do with you. I know it’s hard de-internalising people’s gasligh-y misperceptions about you but you’ll be able to ooze out and breathe once you let go of at least some of that baggage. People who make you feel abnormal for being the way you are just don’t vibe/understand you and that’s their problem.
Yes, settling is a Thing! With good book, dog, fairy lights and cup of tea! And when there is raining or snowing outside....... Hell yes!!! Heaven just opened ❄❄❄🌟🌟🌟
@Pink and Black Girl That's funny because I moved to Ireland few years ago. Yes, we have plenty of rain in autumn+winter but summers are changing. NOt good for me, they are becoming too sunny and warm. Yuck.
Introvert. I used to work at job that had me dealing with large numbers of people all day long. It was nice to go home and be alone. I would limit weekend interactions with others to just 1 or 2. Large social gatherings get on my nerves quickly.
I went from a 200 person high-school to thousands of students on a university campus. Everyday I wanted to run home and nap. Even now as a senior about to graduate, I still feel the need to go home during the day to take a nap 🤣😫
Yup. I have a friend who frequently invites me up to her place for the weekend... and I dread these invites. I can come up for the day, but I have to have the other day to recharge. Spending the whole weekend, and then having to turn around and go back to work to face another week... awful.
I have the same thing with my extremely extroverted friend. Always with the invites. Its not that I dont wanna spend time with him, in fact, we have some of the best times together but after getting asked three days in a row im running out of excuses
For those interested in reading up more on the subject, I would recommend Susan Cain's "Quiet - The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking". I read it and handed it over to some family members, and after they finally got around to do a bit of reading, I feel much better understood, and it's much easier now to turn down invitations etc. without feeling guilty about it.
I already knew in kindergarden I'm an introvert, but I never looked at it as a weakness. You are who you are, that's all you have to be! Dr. Ramani is so lovely 💚
I'm an introvert. I would love to listen to a conversation like this but with extraverts this time. It would be interesting to see the world from their point of view.
Ranja Anita Wårheim it took me 50 years to come and accept that I’m an introvert and yes I agree with you 100% I have never felt better, have a blessed life dear ❤️
i truely acepted my self 2018 be ouse i lear t who i am but now i know who iam iam introverted girl also iam kind person and honest my personality is infp and i can socialize like extrovert in a honest way ...i dont need extravert any thing i proud my self and my life
Im speechless and im overwhelmed with appreciation for other introverts. I never knew someone could "see me" like fr i was bullied for being myself so i forced myself into a chameleon to alleviate feeling and being seen as "different". This was so inspiring and it feels great to be recognized...finally. Talk about a boost in self-esteem and confidence... Thank you MedCircle💜💜😁😍
I've been an introvert all my life and was brought up to think introversion was a fault. I had to learn on my own that it's not a fault, in fact, the quiet listener learns more than the chatterbox.
I had a co-worker who laid out introversion/extraversion in a way that seems so true to me: for introverts, interacting with other people *costs* energy; extroverts *gain* energy from interacting with other people. Thus, there can be outgoing introverts (me), or shy extroverts.
When she went on to explain about “low reward sensitivity” it made so much sense to me, it literally described me. I never really could put it into words as to why I didn’t want to do certain things others around my age were into and trying. Very interesting! You’ve got my subscription!
I'm definitely an introvert. I would rather be home all day, every day if I could. I never understood it until I got older. Thanks MedCircle for being a place that helps me understand my self better. I never feel alone here.
We'll hasn't that dream of yours come true now, everyone is at home all day, everyday, lol. Although this pandemic has been terrible and so many bad things have happened, I feel so much better staying at home than going outside.
I turned to alcohol because of my introversion! The need to feel accepted and more social turned me into an alcoholic! Im currently and finally understanding this and now seeking help! This was very enlightening😊❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@exhortnedify1415 Me too, but now I can take it or leave it. At age 25 I dried out and would go years without booze, with occasional binges that would make me very sick. I also forced myself teach music (800-825 students every 6 days), hold big concerts, and play in a band. Interestingly, I had undiagnosed Lyme Disease for presumably decades. Thankfully, my job gave me great health insurance.
I am an introvert. I came from a family of extroverts, I was always told that I was weird and made to feel different. I spent years trying to fit in...….that only led to depression..... No one seems to get us and that is OKAY!
Maybe way more than being extrovert? Perhaps emotional abuse? Just know when there are red flags raised will help you to know your self-worth eventually.
I love to fade into the background and people watch. I compare how they ACT to what they SAY. If the two don't match, I want nothing to do with them. Spiritual discernment.
I'm an introvert and have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorders. I'd much rather be by myself. It's draining leaving the house and being around people.
I am exactly the same way. I have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder but I genuinely really enjoy being by myself. I get exhausted after approximately 30 minutes of being around people. Anxiety or not, I would rather be at home studying or doing crafts, reading a book, drawing, being with my dogs etc. I love my alone time.
Being an introvert everyone gets surprised when you do an amazing job at whatever you’re working on just because you’re not out there sayin everything you’re doing or how you’re doing it.
I’m an introvert. I was raised in a family of extroverts.... I think they all saw me as weird, and treated me that way. Now I understand that I was just very different from them. Now that I understand myself better I love being an introvert!
Introvert and love it! I do whatever I want, when I want and don't need someone else to go with me. I also feel like introverts have deeper conversations and extroverts are too arrogant sometimes...
I am an introvert who always felt that i needed to push myself. The fact is that I always felt I needed a nap after being around people. I have no social anxiety...I could give a rip. I just like one on one and small quiet groups and I dislike meaningless small talk. In fact I can't stand investing energy into things that yield too little. The most freedom I have ever known is being alone. I am never lonely.
As an introvert, I am rarely sad, and I never feel lonely. I love my chaos-FREE life as a globe hopping introvert. Extroverts are too needy for me, and I spend as little time with them as possible.
I'm an introvert, and over time have come to accept that and understand myself. I've learned how to get through certain situations which take a lot of my energy, then to restore with quiet and my self cares:)
Oh I love when extroverts say to me that I need to be a better communicator even though I try to work on that on a regular basis. In reality what their saying to me is I need to be more extroverted because you being you is a problem for us. Best response to them is "So what I am hearing is, stop observing, stop listening, stop thinking deeply about what other people say, and stop putting my own input in after that process is complete. How is that suppose to make me a better communicator?"
As an introvert, the lockdown has seriously opened my eyes in that I know I want to focus on finding a full time job that is a 100% remote. When you are made to feel excluded from the department/group, why would you want to go back to the way things were.
I think social media is actually an introverts outlet to be “out there” to the world from the comforts of your own quiet space. You’ll find more introverts in selfies than in group photos
Being introvert in my opinion is having peace in your life ppl out there making loads of unnecessary drama and we introverts can't waste time on that we are productive ฅ'ω'ฅ
The part about introverts being a good listener struck a cord. I told one of my best friends in my 20s that I like and have friends who are talkers. I liked to sit and listen to other people. As an introvert, that's enjoyable for me and other people appreciate it. I'm not silent and I do hold up my end of a conversation, but I love to hear about what other people has to say.
Love this channel, thank you. And yes I'm an introvert, fool a lot of people who think I'm an extrovert. I'm an introvert with good social skills and much prefer to be around other introverts.
This made me feel good about being an introvert. Ever since I was a little kid I always preferred to play by myself. I had friends, played outside and what not, but I didn't need them to be entertained. Now as an adult I have a small group of friends who understand that I don't want to go out to bars or parties, that I'd much rather spend time just the few of us, talking or whatever. I even spent 8 hours today by myself at a Starbucks just writing and I had a lovely time.
I'm an introvert and one of my strengths are I'm more prepared because I study and put more into my lessons or presentations. I can so "NO" easily and avoid substance abuse. When things get wild I can walk out with ease.
There is one thing, though, where being an introvert can cause depression and anxiety. My daughters are no longer close to me as they once were before they grew up and left home. My preference to be alone is misunderstood. They don’t like me anymore. I’m fairly certain they love me, though. So that’s comforting. What they don’t like I now realize is they don’t like my personality style. I’m an artist. Everyday I spend hours painting. I’m alone. After painting I go swimming at an indoor pool. Again, I’m alone. I have a diagnosis of depression since my early teens. Being an introvert has brought joy and sorrow into my life.
An interesting fact about life and everything else on this Planet, is that "everything" has it's pros and cons. And as introverts we don't escape this reality. Many people, including myself, once this "fact" is accepted and embraced daily, or even throughout the day, find a beautiful release of stress. The cons are there, everywhere, in everyone. Accept them and smile. Simply put in the time to minimize them. This skill is doable for many introverts, unlike for many extroverts. Connecting with an artist/painter or fellow swimmer, someone or some-two(at the most,lol) who has similar interests could be helpful. And when children grow up, the close bond is not always going to be the same. That's natural. However, it is the beautiful foundation from the past that helps with any connection in the now and the future. May you obtain balance and harmony
Im an introvert. But the one time I might go out that year... I could very well be the one dancing on the table. It's been known to happen lol. I can be very social, but it's exhausting and takes me months to recover 🤷🏻♀️🤣
My ex-wife and her family did the same to me. They got offended by me needing boundaries when I got drained by lots of social interaction because of my job.
Thank you I am a Sr. Pastor and I biblically counsel people, I am a Ambivert and watching your teachings have greatly helped me in my sessions . Thank you .
I am a 71 year old woman who has become an introvert over the years. I may have been one all along, but was very people-oriented in my career. I so appreciate Dr. Ramani’s videos that have helped me understand myself. I have wondered if my loving being alone is selfish or depression. I am understanding more through your help that I am a thinking introvert. I experience great joy in learning…and always have, but now have more time to explore subjects beyond the specifics of my teaching career. Thank you for making these videos, and those of other subjects available! There are people in my family with various personality disorders and I am so grateful for to you for helping me understand them, as well as myself, better.
I am an introvert and am okay with that - especially later in life as I discovered what a true introvert is. I have met so many introverts that are so intelligent, hard workers and enjoyable to be with one on one.
I am an introvert. I enjoy it. I know I am more connected to what is really going on around me and I get to choose what I find fills my life with value! I love the creativity and intellectual side of being an introvert. I feel my life has more meaning and I have more influence in the world around me.
If she doesn’t believes you, that is their problem. I had a friend who used to state this about me. I am not sure what fortunate or unfortunate, but she stopped being my friend. She is not my friend anymore.
I just hate that people keep asking me the same thing. "Are you okay?" "Is there something wrong?" Just bec i'm all by myself of i'm in the corner of the room.
Yes! It's like I'm fine I'm just observing. I remember one of my friends mom came up to me and kept saying "Jackie you're so beautiful and smart you don't need to be so shy. Why don't you talk to people more? You have so much to offer!" Blah blah blah. I was already having a really bad day and that sent me. I ended up crying and had to leave ugh so embarrassing.
@@jacquelinegunstone6147 they always assume there's something wrong when we're totally fine. They don't even think it's possible there are people who prefer not interacting much.
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MedCircle our teen son is an introvert. He is an only child. I would identify myself as an extrovert with high social anxiety/fear. He is teaching me that not everything needs to be said, respect his need for space, quiet time. I am on the BPD spectrum. I am most comfortable in chaos. He has taught me being quiet is ok & safe. Your just “quiet.” He is an exceptional student.
I'm an introvert, and very content being one.
I hate when people think there is something wrong with introverts. We just love our own company and are comfortable with ourselves. We just don't open ourselves up to everyone, we choose our company well.
H A Damn straight! That is such a crock of shit that they are “better.” Wtf? Idc what society thinks. Society is lost in the narc Matrix anyways, just fake and miserable and guzzling that narc kool-aid still like there’s no tomorrow and a shitload of people are extremely ignorant about all of this. People in psych/self help groups like this ought not be flirting with that idea tho imo. They ought to know better. I just DARE anyone to ask me that stupid ass question to my face tho. I will NOT hesitate to put a hurt on some feelings. JS. Why not tho? Shall we just sit back and be “nice” and never rebuke anyone coming at us with this idiotic bs? And bcuz they will not hesitate to be obtuse and hurt our feelings either. Again. JS. Introvert does not automatically mean “weak” or “meek” and that idiots get to get away with saying stupid bs like this to us. No. I will gladly tell them to F off if they do. Oh well, I guess they can just get their rude awakening about that when they come to me talking or implying stupid shit like that.
sick narcissists; most people wont admit they're extroverts
Well said!! @H A
Amen. Well spoken.
Extroverts seek drama love gossip. Introverts dont care about unwanted drama and fake shitty people.
Introverts Unite! separately-in our own homes
Lol love this !!!
Haha!
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As an introvert, my heart has always filled with dread whenever a teacher/boss/trainer says, "Okay, now we're going to break into groups..." NOOOOO!
Me to.
You and l were separated at birth! So right.
Right ugh
lollllll. The accuracy of this comment is what makes it funny.
“Icebreaker time” 💀
honestly, as an introvert I love the lockdown. I don't have to come up with excuses to skip parties.
I know, right????
Awesomeness galore. Lockdown was not that bad because of it.
Me too
Nailed it!!!
Truth. Good excuse to turn down invitations.
Yes! Couldn’t agree more! Lol! 😂
My sister asked what an introvert means and she answered, "Introverts are those shy people."
I was like, "NOOOOO!" Introverts aren't necessarily shy. It's not that we are afraid of other people, or that we are too self-conscious. We just don't want to deal with other people. We are not shy people.
I'm a bit of an introvert. Social events are a pain. I don't mind time on my own. I hate fake and obnoxious people. I see them straight away for what they are and find it hard to be in their company. When asked my opinion I give it eventhough I know its going to offend somebody .
@@stilllearning588 this is ME, 100% and I would dare say what the average introvert is attempting to avoid...
We DON'T DO SHALLOW....🙄😐🤨
YES!! So true. That's me.
I’m an introvert and enjoy it. My inner world is rich.
Be comfortable in one's own skin.
the jack thank you 😊
1000% Introvert is deeper and has more going on inside.
Ditto.
Me too
Raise your hand if you're an introvert!🖐
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I am definitely an introvert ✋🏽
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I love spending time alone. I feel comfortable in quiet places and small groups. Too many loud people gets annoying.
I swear
the most sick, conceited, selfish and pathological people are introverts or at least claim to be. red flag for me.
I agree!! @Caitlin Bilancia
my 5 year old has expressed this exact problem with her kindergarten class. "they are too loud". :(
I cannot stand the loudness.
I’m so much of an introvert that I get offended when people DO invite me to do stuff. 😂 I am NOT socially anxious at all. I do NOT get nervous around others. I just happen to love peace and quiet and I truly do thrive in solitude. Introverts are IMO emotionally stronger than extroverts because we do not need anyone to feel fulfilled and happy.
We don’t need others’ energy
Love it! Love it! Love it!
Amen
Plus we have better imagination.
Heh heh, I mean, you're not wrong, sweets 😉 I prefer my own company about 95% of the time and when I DO want to be around people, it's with like-minded individuals and/or people that I WANT to spend my time and energy on. Quality over quantity for sure.
And don't even start me on the dreaded 'small talk' scenario, be it verbally or in text form! 🤐
I’m an introvert and enjoy thinking about situations deeply rather than just blabbing them out to the world.
Wow… same. My thoughts come out worse than what’s actually in my mind lol
I know exactly what you are talking about.
I am an introvert who can act as an extrovert, which confuses people when I retreat.
Exactly😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
@Pink and Black Girl haha, yup
Pink and Black Girl The office party and other like-events are excruciating.
Would you happen to also be a gemini? That statement reminds me of someone I know..
Me too...
"They don't invite the introvert because they aren't the life of the party." Newsflash, we introverts don't want to be invited to the party.
Same here, I don't even care in the slightest when my friends are having a party and I'm not invited
“Sorry I’m late but I didn’t want to come!” 🤣
I want to be invited, but not go at the same time. Am I the only one?
"we don't want to be invited to the party"😂😂😂😂😂😂🙌
Yes, I am a introvert. Don't need all the public attention of people that misread me anyway. Narcissist seem to be on stage 24/7.
Introvert - Also known as the quiet one... Not quiet just observant of others behavior.
Me being a introvert taught me how to be a good judge of character, and I listen before I conversate..
When my friends ask me why I'm not speaking while discussing some important matter, I usually say that I'm listening to them and creating and altering my own perspective. hearing what others have to say, how they see and approach the problem is educational and useful when you back up your idea/perspective.
The other, wicked side of quiet observing is that if you're good enough, you can turn what they say against them, use it as your advantage and maybe successfully shut them up
Dude. Yessss. Thats why i always win 5$ of a bet. Becuz ik whats gonna happen next i any drama. Now its so easy to read ppl.
Yes prefer observations rather than rambling or shy. But not completely silent. There are those people also whom how much you try to talk end up tight lipped or silent as if someone has asked them to dance on the table. They have problem. I am an introvert but I can manage to talk normally when needed.
Or thinking about something completely different.
I'm an introvert and I often have had people say that I shouldn't isolate myself. I appreciate their concern, but they don't understand that I'm very happy with my own company. They also don't understand that after being with people, being on my own helps me refresh and refuel.
I can't stand extroverts. Why can't they just leave us alone?
My sister, who is an extrovert, said that I don't like people. I love peace in my life.
Dr. Ramani said that intro/extro-version is a spectrum but many people in society believe that introverts are "lacking" and perhaps suffering from a disorder...
This made me think, maybe extroverts have a disorder! A mild form of narcissism ... or somewhere on the narcissistic spectrum because of their desire/need for external confirmation/interaction? Anybody know more or am I just crazy?
@@veronicamcneal59 that's interesting, as some friends of mine say I hate people.
tell those extroverts that they should isolate themselves
As a child I was bullied for being an introvert and for not being “fun” I was always asked if something was wrong because I wasn’t talking. Later in life people would think of me as a snob because I wasn’t super friendly or talkative
I had the same experiences.
Same back in middle school, spent most of my time away from the other kids and I’m the library. I had too much imagination and needed a lot of space by myself to let my creativity flow.
I appreciate quiet people. Makes me feel better cause im not talkitive myself
I can relate. I knew I was different from other socially but I am and was fine with being me.
Me, too.
I hate it when other people jump to conclusions like that!
Introvert. When I'm in a social situation, I have a good time but I'm thinking about when I can be home alone again.
You hit the nail on the head! Me, too.
Then you're an Ambivert I guess?
Are talking to me
Yes! I hate when I'm at a social event and I feel like I can't leave when I want to it's frustrating!
It happens right at the start of anyone, anything, and mostly anywhere else. That's where it is anxiously available. Social connections. It's called intro... let it be the anxiety. But avoid negative consequences.
I'm definitely a introvert, eventhough I do well in social environments. I just find it emotionally draining to be around lots of people. People have a tendency to have the the wrong notions about us. We aren't socially awkward all the time, we just enjoy our own company more.
you should try the Myer Briggs test, it will tell you the type of introvert you are. There's many types :)
Completely Agree!!!!!!!!!!
Same. I’m so shy but I always do well in social environments when I need to. I was actually elected “most friendly” in high school. How weird lol.
Agreed. People think because i prefer not to waste my life on dumb social situations like clubs.
@@ha8236 I actually tried it a few times and printed out my results. 😉
People treat introverts like we're scared, insecure, and lonely people. Far from that!
So true 🙄
I'm the least loneliest person I know. I've spent 10 days without social interaction and was completely at peace an able to entertain myself in that time.
The one that cracks me up is "shy".
Yup. People will test you and when you stand up for yourself they act offended because you weren't the pushover they expected. Happens at my job from time to time. I'm quiet but I'm still a man lol.
@@kuunami This is so true, I love the look of shock on their face when I dont let them walk all over me.
Definitely an introvert. I used to think something was wrong with me. At parties, I was always the first of my friends to want to go home. I used to sneak out of events so that no one noticed that I left. Only recently did I learn to accept and embrace my introversion. Now I LOVE it!
A lot of attention-seeking/loud/gossip-y/superficially-extraverted behaviour (which contemporary Western/capitalistic-bureaucratic society rewards) from an unbiased lens falls under the banner of A.D.H.D. (in the child and adult alike), narcissistic, poorly-adapted hyperthymia that even lithium can’t check and all manner of borderline-narcissistic ironic co-dependency complexes but we live in a society (at least outside the confines of Japan/the Far East and certain innermost secluded corners of Africa) that rewards those behaviours (some of which are really quite toxic) and absolutely loves to label the quieter, more reserved folk with labels that may not actually apply to them (autism this, Asperger’s that, social anxiety that may or may not be present, avoidant personality disorder, depressive schizoidia - which, again, may or may not be present, etc.). We don’t value people who want to be alone at a fundamental level so the forced glad-handing at parties (lest people think there’s something wrong with you because ‘they have to tell you to make the move and initiate contact with the D.J. and every other stranger in sight when you’re fine observing and quietly-enjoying with a can of two of cider) is inevitable. It’s a shame because both broad ends of the continuum have their advantages (as well as their flaws) but we like to pathologise and label one more than the other in these parts. It’s a form of insidious (however-intentioned) gaslighting, really. Being told that there’s something inherently wrong with you just because you’re a quiet, observant intellectual who enjoys your own company and don’t need constant vis-a-vis stimulation from others (especially when it’s misinterpreted by teachers and what/who-not as being antisocial, isolated and having no social skills) fucks with your head for a very, very long time and that’s the problem introverts have more than the fact that they’re good with their own company. It’s other people around them that make them feel like they have a problem. By default they’re just fine unless they’re not (and that’s by no means exclusive because just about any personality type could experience a mental health/psychosocial malady characterised by unhealthy withdrawal).
I am an introvert and I am my favorite person to hangout with; I love my own company - AND I love having deep, healthy friendships.
Introvert . I get drained by large crowds, also enjoy my time alone.
Cecilia reinheimer INFJ
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I'm an introvert and a highly sensitive person (HSP).
Yup. I have a friend who lives about an hour away, and she often invites me to her place to spend the weekend. I love her to pieces, but honestly, spending an entire weekend with someone after a week of work (which means I have to saddle up my dog, bring him, and spend the weekend keeping an eye on him), and then schlepping BACK home only to have to turn around and start another work week the next day, is far from relaxing or fun. I prefer to just go for a day, or better yet, have her come visit me.
@@Mariana-vc6sv no, you’re not alone!
I think that adorable doggo is an introvert.
dogs are attention seeking parasites so you could be right
A true rarity among doggos
He's just a paid actor.
I had the same thought 😅
My family used the fact that I'm an introvert to torture me. They constantly forced me into situations where I was socially drained and exhausted. I am finally setting boundaries.
Good for you,I'm happy to hear this.
Same, it's insane 😥
Same here 😔😔😔
Make money, get self power, own your choices
@@jima5139 I agree with you SO MUCH on this. Money, power, autonomy, distance.
I love to “settle in!” In my jammies, under a blanket with a great book and a cup of tea!!! Heaven!!!📘
Yes, especially when it is raining.
@@ThankyouLord25 and the windows are open and in the distance is the soft rumble of thunder . . . .
I agree with you 💯👍👌!!!!
When talking to a friend I mentioned my being an introvert. She said, “Oh honey, no, you’re not!” Like introversion is a disease you don’t want! Or a flaw. I’m very much an introvert. I had to laugh!
I must say handling the coronavirus makes me appreciate all the more being an introvert!!
Yea I havta say this coronavirus thing, has done wonders for me, this 6 ft distants thing and having a plastic glass shield in front of me I get to be both social and in my own space at the same time
We've been training for this our whole lives! ;)
2020 was the best year of my life so far..
I have to admit I rejoiced when they promote stay-at-home policy. The corona finally hit me when I realized I hate socializing through social media
me too
Hmmm, “introverts are great leaders...” Why? because we listen to people & can appreciate them & encourage them😁
And we listen to ideas, and can recognize when someone else has a good one because we're not focused on "me, me, me."
And we could see the future in our leadership
@@northofyou33 Yes!! 100%
Sometimes I make plans when I'm in a 5min extroverted mood but then I end up cancelling by saying "I have other plans/something came up" but what I actually mean is I have plans with myself but you wouldn't get it so I'll just say I have other plans because explaining to an extrovert that you need time alone is like talking to a wall😩
They think alone time means you think you're better than everybody,thats how stupid they are.
I feel exactly the same way!
I can so relate!
So damned well said, I agree completely.
Omg I do this all the time
I am a thinking introvert, and I love it. I feel strong emotionally, and I can function socially when I need to. "Low reward sensitivity" is so true. I always say I am easy to please, but it's just contentment with the quieter things.
When I was working at this retail store, with this girl, when this couple came in. The guy started chit chatting, and he said "you (other girl) are the talker, and you (me) the quiet one who observes everything"... And he was 100% right!! I'm an introvert, I don't like small talk. People assume I'm just shy, but I'm really not that shy.
I don’t do chit chat in my Nicki Minaj voice!
I am an outgoing introvert. I can be very outgoing in social situations, but I definitely need a lot of alone time to recharge my batteries. I also value one on one time with friends because I like to connect deeply with a person.
This is my style of introversion as well!! Perfectly articulated!!
Are you an INFJ personality?
@@imaninfjer6763 not the OP, but I am most def an INFJ personality. :)
Exactly. Being out in the world: working, socialising etc is exahauting.
You're an ambivert
I'm an introvert. It's a beautiful thing, but growing up, I've been around the wrong people. People who always remarked that I was "too quiet" or say that I needed t, o be "more sociable" or "more gregarious" and to them, I give them one big giant eye roll and both middle fingers. Lol. Introverts are the coolest and when we DO speak, we speak from intelligence and wisdom.
There are other personality domains complimenting introversion which makes people wise. According to certain personality tests.
This thing about speaking from intelligence and wisdom is so important. Small talk is a waste of energy and a form of noise pollution, in my opinion. I appreciate talking to people who have something to say and/or when I have something to say. Otherwise, silence is golden.
I can relate
Lol. There is no such thing as being “too quiet”. One can only “talk too much”.
The most meaningful description I ever heard was where we get our energy. Extraverts get it being around other people. Introverts from being by themselves.
Yes -- it's how a person recharges her/his "batteries."
@@IndianaJoe0321 Exactly!!!!
Exactly!!
"They laugh at me because I'm different. I laugh at them because they are all the same." Author Unknown
nice`
super author !~
Sweet
I think its kurt Cobain the author
@@gabrieldiku1960 Thank you.
I feel like being alone, I provide myself with many more productive, fulfilling and rich experiences. Not to say I avoid people because they hold me back, but I like to observe. If im put in a social situation, I have no issue interacting and having conversations, but I learn more from being alone or observing other people go about their life. Forming friendships is more of a burden (e.g. doing favours for others, having to check on them to maintain your relationships etc...) than a benefit for me as I’m naturally independent and get along my life without needing other people (I’ve been like this since I was little).
I totally resonate with this ✨🙏🏻✨
Growing up I thought me being an introvert was abnormal, I use to crave fitting in. Now I embrace my aloneness. As social worker working in an emotionally charged setting and In this generation infested with narcissism and energy vampires I celebrate the peace and comfort of silence.
growing up i thought me being an extrovert was normal until i moved and hate msyelf for being labeled annoying and obnoxious just because im an extroveert
If people are telling you that there’s something abnormal about you just because you’re not loud like them that’ll drive an inferiority complex and anxiety but that’s their fault. Nothing to do with you. I know it’s hard de-internalising people’s gasligh-y misperceptions about you but you’ll be able to ooze out and breathe once you let go of at least some of that baggage. People who make you feel abnormal for being the way you are just don’t vibe/understand you and that’s their problem.
Yes, settling is a Thing! With good book, dog, fairy lights and cup of tea! And when there is raining or snowing outside....... Hell yes!!! Heaven just opened ❄❄❄🌟🌟🌟
@Pink and Black Girl That's funny because I moved to Ireland few years ago. Yes, we have plenty of rain in autumn+winter but summers are changing. NOt good for me, they are becoming too sunny and warm. Yuck.
@Pink and Black Girl Unfortunately that's true. Not happy about it either.
@@bellahnemetona5924 We have plenty of rainy days here in the Pacific Northwest.
@@sandyg3772 I will remember that. Thanks for info. But what about spiders? I suppose you have plenty of them too. They are my phobia.
Oh my god yes! It gives me a tranquil feeling.. Serenity and peace. Likd finishing a good book with no interruptions
Introvert. I used to work at job that had me dealing with large numbers of people all day long. It was nice to go home and be alone. I would limit weekend interactions with others to just 1 or 2. Large social gatherings get on my nerves quickly.
Natasha Mudford same here with limiting myself with people. And gatherings also get on my nerves even before going to them lol
I went from a 200 person high-school to thousands of students on a university campus. Everyday I wanted to run home and nap. Even now as a senior about to graduate, I still feel the need to go home during the day to take a nap 🤣😫
Yup. I have a friend who frequently invites me up to her place for the weekend... and I dread these invites. I can come up for the day, but I have to have the other day to recharge. Spending the whole weekend, and then having to turn around and go back to work to face another week... awful.
I have the same thing with my extremely extroverted friend. Always with the invites. Its not that I dont wanna spend time with him, in fact, we have some of the best times together but after getting asked three days in a row im running out of excuses
@@capitonymical my bestfriend is also an extrovert. We have the same life haha
For those interested in reading up more on the subject, I would recommend Susan Cain's "Quiet - The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking". I read it and handed it over to some family members, and after they finally got around to do a bit of reading, I feel much better understood, and it's much easier now to turn down invitations etc. without feeling guilty about it.
I already knew in kindergarden I'm an introvert, but I never looked at it as a weakness. You are who you are, that's all you have to be! Dr. Ramani is so lovely 💚
I'm an introvert. I would love to listen to a conversation like this but with extraverts this time. It would be interesting to see the world from their point of view.
... and loud I imagine lol
loud =/= extrovert. you must be thick in the skull. the introversion extroversion distinction is insignificant
@@shannonfontana5107 LOL! God, yes. All 'they' do is talk and posture and go on and on without managing to say anything of substance. ARGH!!!!! ;)
And hearing that type of statement is getting repetitive. Like introverts, extroverts aren't necessarily loud. I agree with Virces.
Actually love this lady she’s so knowledgeable
Agreed.
I agree!
I’m a introvert ♥️
2019 is the year I have truly accepted that I am an introvert. Now I feel so much better about myself ♥️
Ranja Anita Wårheim it took me 50 years to come and accept that I’m an introvert and yes I agree with you 100% I have never felt better, have a blessed life dear ❤️
i truely acepted my self 2018 be ouse i lear t who i am but now i know who iam iam introverted girl also iam kind person and honest my personality is infp and i can socialize like extrovert in a honest way ...i dont need extravert any thing i proud my self and my life
I accepted in 2017. My life has completely changed
Baby your my introvert
Im speechless and im overwhelmed with appreciation for other introverts. I never knew someone could "see me" like fr i was bullied for being myself so i forced myself into a chameleon to alleviate feeling and being seen as "different". This was so inspiring and it feels great to be recognized...finally.
Talk about a boost in self-esteem and confidence...
Thank you MedCircle💜💜😁😍
I am an introvert. Love it!
As an introvert myself, this is so refreshing to watch and hear. Thank you MedCircle for putting these programs on, this is invaluable information.
“Introversion is your way”
“Social anxiety is in your way”
-Irene H
I've been an introvert all my life and was brought up to think introversion was a fault. I had to learn on my own that it's not a fault, in fact, the quiet listener learns more than the chatterbox.
A big part for me about being an introvert is valuing quality over quantity in every aspect of my life.
Yes 💯! 😀
i'm a huge extrovert. and i find introverts to be so fascinating. they're some of the best people
I had a co-worker who laid out introversion/extraversion in a way that seems so true to me: for introverts, interacting with other people *costs* energy; extroverts *gain* energy from interacting with other people. Thus, there can be outgoing introverts (me), or shy extroverts.
When she went on to explain about “low reward sensitivity” it made so much sense to me, it literally described me. I never really could put it into words as to why I didn’t want to do certain things others around my age were into and trying. Very interesting! You’ve got my subscription!
I noticed that I don't have a strong sense of competition. I'm an introvert who struggles with depression.
I'm definitely an introvert. I would rather be home all day, every day if I could. I never understood it until I got older. Thanks MedCircle for being a place that helps me understand my self better. I never feel alone here.
We'll hasn't that dream of yours come true now, everyone is at home all day, everyday, lol.
Although this pandemic has been terrible and so many bad things have happened, I feel so much better staying at home than going outside.
This "isolation" is a walk in the park for us Introverts.
Be well and be safe........
yes
Is really not a big deal ....
Yes
I love being an introvert, I don't need the input of of others. Give me deep conversations and I am light up.
Whenever I’ve had to attend a party, I would find a place to sit and watch others. I enjoyed watching.
I turned to alcohol because of my introversion! The need to feel accepted and more social turned me into an alcoholic! Im currently and finally understanding this and now seeking help! This was very enlightening😊❤❤❤❤❤❤
It's been a year since you posted this comment.. How is it going with you? I just hope you are back to being yourself!
Wow man thanks that makes sense
Are you sure you're an introvert ? Maybe you're just depressed.
Word me too
@@exhortnedify1415 Me too, but now I can take it or leave it. At age 25 I dried out and would go years without booze, with occasional binges that would make me very sick. I also forced myself teach music (800-825 students every 6 days), hold big concerts, and play in a band. Interestingly, I had undiagnosed Lyme Disease for presumably decades. Thankfully, my job gave me great health insurance.
I am an introvert. I came from a family of extroverts, I was always told that I was weird and made to feel different. I spent years trying to fit in...….that only led to depression..... No one seems to get us and that is OKAY!
Maybe way more than being extrovert? Perhaps emotional abuse? Just know when there are red flags raised will help you to know your self-worth eventually.
Solution: just dgaf
That's not ok...they dont take time to understand our personality type,as a result we feel worthless..
I love to fade into the background and people watch. I compare how they ACT to what they SAY. If the two don't match, I want nothing to do with them. Spiritual discernment.
Mrs. Reeves yep!
That's me 😁
Yes, so do I!
We have similar minds and thoughts, I see, I seem to like you, Hehe
I’m the same way...don’t have time for fake people
are we really not gonna mention the dog? He's getting the best massage in his life ever!!
I have always been quiet and an introvert and feel uncomfortable in groups.
I'm an introvert and have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorders. I'd much rather be by myself. It's draining leaving the house and being around people.
That's me too. I'm riddled with a few questions. Care to connect?
V Some days when I have off work, I rarely leave my bed.
Me too. Depressed and anxious introvert
I am exactly the same way. I have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder but I genuinely really enjoy being by myself. I get exhausted after approximately 30 minutes of being around people. Anxiety or not, I would rather be at home studying or doing crafts, reading a book, drawing, being with my dogs etc. I love my alone time.
Being an introvert everyone gets surprised when you do an amazing job at whatever you’re working on just because you’re not out there sayin everything you’re doing or how you’re doing it.
Rafael Reyes preach
Life story
All of this!
I’m an introvert. I was raised in a family of extroverts.... I think they all saw me as weird, and treated me that way. Now I understand that I was just very different from them. Now that I understand myself better I love being an introvert!
Yesss, proud introvert, but I’ve also lived with depression and social anxiety, therapy has helped so much
Thank you so much, amazing content here!
I am a proud introvert! And I love it :) Our internal world is so rich and colourful then we need little from the external world.
Introvert and love it! I do whatever I want, when I want and don't need someone else to go with me. I also feel like introverts have deeper conversations and extroverts are too arrogant sometimes...
I definitely agree ✔️
I am an introvert who always felt that i needed to push myself. The fact is that I always felt I needed a nap after being around people. I have no social anxiety...I could give a rip. I just like one on one and small quiet groups and I dislike meaningless small talk. In fact I can't stand investing energy into things that yield too little. The most freedom I have ever known is being alone. I am never lonely.
Love your comment and totally relate!! @Lynne Hood
Yes lol I can't stand small talk. It's draining
I love being an introvert. We're definitely misunderstood by most. Dr Ramani nailed it as usual.
As an introvert, I am rarely sad, and I never feel lonely. I love my chaos-FREE life as a globe hopping introvert. Extroverts are too needy for me, and I spend as little time with them as possible.
This talk means so much to me. I am a happy introvert. My 2 Yorkies are my perfect companions
I’m ambivert, but often like spending time alone so I can think about everything.
Exactly. I feel the exact same way. I love the clarity that comes from throughly thinking about all of my thoughts in my mind.
I'm introvert with 2 extroverts best friends. These guys have taught me so much things. I'm really grateful to have them
I'm an introvert, and over time have come to accept that and understand myself. I've learned how to get through certain situations which take a lot of my energy, then to restore with quiet and my self cares:)
Oh I love when extroverts say to me that I need to be a better communicator even though I try to work on that on a regular basis. In reality what their saying to me is I need to be more extroverted because you being you is a problem for us. Best response to them is "So what I am hearing is, stop observing, stop listening, stop thinking deeply about what other people say, and stop putting my own input in after that process is complete. How is that suppose to make me a better communicator?"
As an introvert, the lockdown has seriously opened my eyes in that I know I want to focus on finding a full time job that is a 100% remote. When you are made to feel excluded from the department/group, why would you want to go back to the way things were.
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I am an introvert.
I know that it's not really popular in Our society. I can sense that.
But I have finally learned to accept that.
I think social media is actually an introverts outlet to be “out there” to the world from the comforts of your own quiet space. You’ll find more introverts in selfies than in group photos
Wow. I have so many selfies too 😂
Yes introvert, and writer, but I can appear like an extrovert at times. But truly I need time alone, and feel exhausted mentally if I do not get it.
Being introvert in my opinion is having peace in your life ppl out there making loads of unnecessary drama and we introverts can't waste time on that we are productive ฅ'ω'ฅ
The part about introverts being a good listener struck a cord. I told one of my best friends in my 20s that I like and have friends who are talkers. I liked to sit and listen to other people. As an introvert, that's enjoyable for me and other people appreciate it. I'm not silent and I do hold up my end of a conversation, but I love to hear about what other people has to say.
Love this channel, thank you. And yes I'm an introvert, fool a lot of people who think I'm an extrovert. I'm an introvert with good social skills and much prefer to be around other introverts.
You're a ambivert.
@@zendavis3501 been tested numerous times and I'm definitely an introvert.
lol then no one is extrovert. everyone gets tired. stop trying to be something you're not. labels are getting out of hand.
Actually, @@virces6563, extroverts recharge their "batteries" by being around other people. So, extroverts are not "drained" by being around others.
This made me feel good about being an introvert. Ever since I was a little kid I always preferred to play by myself. I had friends, played outside and what not, but I didn't need them to be entertained. Now as an adult I have a small group of friends who understand that I don't want to go out to bars or parties, that I'd much rather spend time just the few of us, talking or whatever. I even spent 8 hours today by myself at a Starbucks just writing and I had a lovely time.
I'm an introvert. I love being by myself. My husband says I could entertain myself for days and never her to talk. It's so true.
I'm an introvert and one of my strengths are I'm more prepared because I study and put more into my lessons or presentations. I can so "NO" easily and avoid substance abuse. When things get wild I can walk out with ease.
There is one thing, though, where being an introvert can cause depression and anxiety. My daughters are no longer close to me as they once were before they grew up and left home. My preference to be alone is misunderstood. They don’t like me anymore. I’m fairly certain they love me, though. So that’s comforting. What they don’t like I now realize is they don’t like my personality style. I’m an artist. Everyday I spend hours painting. I’m alone. After painting I go swimming at an indoor pool. Again, I’m alone. I have a diagnosis of depression since my early teens. Being an introvert has brought joy and sorrow into my life.
An interesting fact about life and everything else on this Planet, is that "everything" has it's pros and cons. And as introverts we don't escape this reality.
Many people, including myself, once this "fact" is accepted and embraced daily, or even throughout the day, find a beautiful release of stress.
The cons are there, everywhere, in everyone. Accept them and smile. Simply put in the time to minimize them. This skill is doable for many introverts, unlike for many extroverts.
Connecting with an artist/painter or fellow swimmer, someone or some-two(at the most,lol) who has similar interests could be helpful.
And when children grow up, the close bond is not always going to be the same. That's natural. However, it is the beautiful foundation from the past that helps with any connection in the now and the future.
May you obtain balance and harmony
Im an introvert. But the one time I might go out that year... I could very well be the one dancing on the table. It's been known to happen lol. I can be very social, but it's exhausting and takes me months to recover 🤷🏻♀️🤣
My teacher was like to me ‘I’m going to try to make you a extrovert’, like um no
My ex-wife and her family did the same to me. They got offended by me needing boundaries when I got drained by lots of social interaction because of my job.
Your ex a extravert needed your superior visual observe skills they can never have
@@jima5139 that's right, she lost that privilege.
I once told someone I was an introvert and they told me I needed to get over the trauma. 😂
I just don’t like to socialize as often as others. 🤷🏻♀️
Exactly people always think we have some kind of trauma were holding on to
sounds like this person has narcissistic traits to say something like that. Ditch them.
@@kidleuk They make me feel like I have an incurable disease. I LOVE being alone.
Thank you I am a Sr. Pastor and I biblically counsel people, I am a Ambivert and watching your teachings have greatly helped me in my sessions . Thank you .
I am a 71 year old woman who has become an introvert over the years. I may have been one all along, but was very people-oriented in my career. I so appreciate Dr. Ramani’s videos that have helped me understand myself. I have wondered if my loving being alone is selfish or depression. I am understanding more through your help that I am a thinking introvert. I experience great joy in learning…and always have, but now have more time to explore subjects beyond the specifics of my teaching career. Thank you for making these videos, and those of other subjects available! There are people in my family with various personality disorders and I am so grateful for to you for helping me understand them, as well as myself, better.
“Settle in” got my like 👍🏼
I think the host is very lucky, he's getting free consultations every time he's interviewing one of his guests..
Yes but I like him. He is very pleasant to watch. Not loud and extra, he is listening and deep into the conversation.
I am an introvert and am okay with that - especially later in life as I discovered what a true introvert is. I have met so many introverts that are so intelligent, hard workers and enjoyable to be with one on one.
I am an introvert. I enjoy it. I know I am more connected to what is really going on around me and I get to choose what I find fills my life with value! I love the creativity and intellectual side of being an introvert. I feel my life has more meaning and I have more influence in the world around me.
I definitely needed this clarification. Also, the dog is beautiful and so well behaved and just wanted that love from you ❤️
Proud introvert 💕 🙋🏻♀️
I'm a kind a introvert my friend find difficult to believe. But honestly, being alone is a healing process. It works in every situation.
If she doesn’t believes you, that is their problem. I had a friend who used to state this about me. I am not sure what fortunate or unfortunate, but she stopped being my friend. She is not my friend anymore.
I’m really good at conversing with groups of people but by God is it emotionally draining.
I just hate that people keep asking me the same thing. "Are you okay?" "Is there something wrong?" Just bec i'm all by myself of i'm in the corner of the room.
Yes! It's like I'm fine I'm just observing. I remember one of my friends mom came up to me and kept saying "Jackie you're so beautiful and smart you don't need to be so shy. Why don't you talk to people more? You have so much to offer!" Blah blah blah. I was already having a really bad day and that sent me. I ended up crying and had to leave ugh so embarrassing.
@@jacquelinegunstone6147 they always assume there's something wrong when we're totally fine. They don't even think it's possible there are people who prefer not interacting much.